An important breakthrough I had in therapy when I explained my alter ego to my therapist is when she said that it is not a mask or a costume that I wear, it is who I really am without my fears, trauma, or struggles. The "you are not Clark Kent, you are actually Superman" moment.
that was exactly what i wanted to ask about under the video, namely if the alter ego is not really a mask and fake and how to stay real and ourselves while using the alter ego
Two of my college friends had "alternate egos". I worked with many people over the years who had "alternate egos", including CEOs. Whatever helps get you through the day, make friends, and have fun, I say go for it!
I have actually done this without knowing, it was awesome but the caveat here is do have a regular getting back to your real self, bcuz it was too hard for me to really get in touch with myself again it took time and a lot of confusion
@@dharavasishth THISSS. But to me it doesn happen anymore, as i want to kinda "absorb" or "fusion" this persona of mine to Myself. I've always dreamed to become like my mum.
Bella hadid has an alter ago her name is Belinda she said the person we see on runway and red carpet is actually Belinda she is very confident and fierce. And I also have one
As an introvert I realized a couple months ago that I create an "extrovert mode" that I activate in big social events like birthday parties, weddings, etc. Since then, I call myself as a "socially functional introvert" haha. Now I relate that "mode" with this alter ego effect concept.
Omg I do this too! It really helps with the social outings or new events where I want to be my 'best self'. I thought it could've been inauthentic, but then I realized with some of my closest or bubbliest of friends, I already exude this energy naturally haha.
This is what "fake it till you make it" means to me. I accidentally created an alter ego years go. I was super shy and quiet. typical headphones on, staring at the ground as I walked. So closed up, I walked right past 1 friend setting another on fire(by accident) and completely missed it. She's fine, by the way. Just some pills on her clothes burnt up. but then around age 20 I started working renaissance faires, as a pirate/privateer. And that requires a lot of interacting with strangers. My group really leaned into the improv/street acting element of it all. So I had to build a character with a history and personality traits. So through years of playing this bold, gregarious rake.(Imagine Porthos The Pirate from 3 musketeers, but less tall tales) I noticed that I would go out more, talk to strangers, have fun in the chaos that is social life. I grew into the shape I had built for myself. I can definitely attest to alter egos.
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To be honest, for myself, I am not sure about adopting an alter ego. I feel like I am tucking away a part of myself. I want to improve my whole self, elevating it to where I want to be. Maybe I execute an alter ego in way. I push myself to do things I don't normally do, but I still consider those actions my own. Anyways, another great video. I personally find your videos infectious. Also, you remind me of my sister. Luckily, I love my sister lol.
Kudos to you, it's definitely better way to do it, but for me Tina's video is kind of groundbreaking. Personally, I don't want to change my whole self. I do like that I'm introvert and introspective, and if I could i would never speak to anyone but my friends and dog, and stayed inside all my life. Unfortunately at work if I want to make projects I'm passionate about I have to interact with other people and be forceful instead of sitting back (exactly like Tina in the clip, Tina, I feel you, girl.) and getting the worst scraps of work. I am actively fighting to stay on top and as much as this behaviour saved me from cuts my company recently made, the emotional toll it takes for me to "be someone else" is too big. I wonder if I adopted this idea into my life, would it be easier to switch and not get the emotional backlash after the day of work is done?
@mald379 I never thought of it that way! For me, there isn't rely a part of myself I want to keep. I like the whole butterfly transformation situation. Reading what you wrote helped me understand. I think this would be a great thing to implement if you do have a part of, or an ego of, what you want to keep. I think that if you have something to settle back into yourself after the day is done, you wouldn't have a problem switching back. For example, Tina might change from her white clothes back to her black clothes and go for a walk. When she comes back, she settles and does regular Tina things
I really understand you, I don't think this is for me either, but maybe we can use this in some places of life where we just don't feel like putting belief in ourselves, for me it's surely my prayers, so I'll hope to maybe build an alter ego for that
Short summary: 00:00 Introduction to the Alter Ego Effect - Understanding what an alter ego is. - Examples of famous alter egos: Beyoncé's Sasha Fierce, Kobe Bryant's Black Mamba. - The power of adopting an alter ego to overcome limitation 02:06 How to Craft Your Own Alter Ego - Identifying the traits of your Ordinary World and the traits you aspire to in an Extraordinary World. - Choosing an inspirational source for your alter ego, which can be a character, animal, or concept. - Naming your alter ego with a name that resonates emotionally and represents the desired traits. - The importance of symbolic meaning in the chosen name. 06:19 Activating Your Alter Ego - The significance of totems or artifacts in activating your alter ego. - Examples of totems, such as clothing, jewelry, or symbolic items. - The psychological impact of wearing specific attire associated with your alter ego. - Martin Luther King's use of glasses as a symbolic item. 10:32 Embracing Your True Self - Recognizing that your alter ego represents the person you want to be and may already be within you. - The possibility of outgrowing your alter ego as you develop and embody desired traits. - A fun anecdote about dressing up as Ken and exploring the concept of identity.
Ultimately it’s you doing everything but your alter ego helps you to blackout unnecessary things your real self would find annoying, hurt or even depressed and break down about. And I’m speaking of a experience, I have created an alter ego years ago and that got me through shit, whenever I felt giving up there was this feeling inside me who just made me get up and get things done for my self. As of now, last night my alter ego’s desperation and hard work got me the first place of my faculty in university and as soon as I saw it I actually didn’t feel anything other then saying “good job girl” to my self. So i have embodied and became what I once thought only my alter ego will do it for me, So to say it again, it’s you who’s doing all of your accomplishments.
aawww it's so sweet story. i also have that "thank you for your hard work in the past, me!" moment several times. reading your comment makes me grateful and remember that :')
Thanks for keeping it post, Tina. 'Alter ego' concept is quite powerful. Rather than comparing myself to others, I compare myself to an alternative 'me' version.
as an artist we sometimes have our own alter egos that we draw out. most of us are pretty introverted so this is a way for us to express ourselves. i never thought of using my artist ego as my alter ego but it would be a huge boost in confidence
Find your current traits Find the opposite traits that you want find an idol that is befitting to get into it Get into it with an activity. Draw write think about it.. Figure it right through the process Name it. It should be a name you're emotionally attached with and the name has to invoke the superpowers you want to have An item that invokes your alter ego
I unconsciously used to practice alter ego,but recently it broke somehow,making my interests change, I didn't knew what happened to me, but now your video makes it clear and made a way for me to overcome this problem.Thanks
Yep... and if you keep pushing it you can have a psychotic break, becasue the other "personalities" are brain regions that act as filters... we would go mad if we saw & heard everything... but breaking down these barriers can lead to just that..... seeing & hearing Shit, that you are not sure is there.
Interestingly enough there is a Tibetan Buddhist technique which is very similar to this where you visualise yourself as embodying a particular deity. Ultimately it’s designed to lead to non-duality so this “alter ego effect” would be similar and useful as a vehicle to eventually reach this state of wholeness and your full potential which lays latent within 😊
Is this the tulpa concept? Actually I think that tulpa were self-crafted and not (nearly?) connected to deities, but that the tulpa activation had the potential to reach high power and thus the tulpa practice was outlawed. Idk though, maybe I embellished this info in my memory/dreams 😅 I believe that Phillip Pullman also based daemons on this concept, and even that the classical era concept of demon/daemon was the same fundamental idea as tulpa too.
It’s more like Devatayoga which is the main basis of Vajrayana and Tantric practices. The term visualisation is misleading as the way they understand it is more like “embody”. Obviously what’s discussed in this video is not exactly the same as devatayoga since that is from the Buddhist context (and Hindu) so has a specific lineage. But it is interesting to see the parallels in the methods.
This is so crazy because when I was around 15-18 I got inspired by the Billy Milligan story and created 3 alter egos. But I had to “kill” them eventually. So, here’s why. One of the alter-egos was strict and determined and I “activated” her when I had to do homework or chores. Because the real me hated doing homework and chores but one of my alter-egos loved that. Another alter-ego was extroverted and carefree, spiritual and even flirty. She was activated around people when I had to be friendly and confident. Cause the real me was shy and melancholic. The third one was bossy and I “activated” her when I had to be assertive and really confident. Each of them had name, surname, date of birth, nationality and specific appearance description. That all made them become “alive”. As you can see, they were pretty useful. So why did I have to “kill” them? Two reasons. First, when I shared the story of my alter-egos with others, they considered me as a crazy person. So I was afraid that would exclude me from the society even more. Second, at times I began to actually believe that there are other peephole in my head that take please and control me. In other words, I started to believe in it a little bit to much. So, after weighing pros and cons, I made a decision. There’s only one me. And I want to me someone else, I can simply “borrow” the traits of that someone that would benefit me. Now, after seeing this video, I’m amazed at how around 10 years ago these alter-egos were created by me as a tool to adapt in the society. I wasn’t going crazy. I was just a teenager who wanted to fit and succeed. So, maybe my dearest alter-egos may come back to life? But wait! There’s no need, I guess. Cause as I observe how I grew and changed over the years, I can see a little bit of every alter-ego in myself. Maybe that’s because they were never other people in my head. It was me all along.
Wow. That was actually very beautifully written. I enjoyed reading your experience. I agree that you probably don't need them anymore because all of those traits are a part of you now.. But it's cool that you were able to use those alter egos when you needed them in the past. I don't know you, but I'm proud of you. Thanks for sharing your experience.
OMG!!! i just know this phenomenon called that. yea, this Keitaro3660 is my alter ego since early 2000. i really has emotional attachment to this name, and this really ME and who i want to be! thanks to make it clear now! but about artifact / activation, hmmm dunno, i don't have anything like that. but is "internet" considered the artefact too? since i instantly become Keitaro if i'm online in internet =)) but this Alter Ego of mine, maybe still stuck as "Online Persona"? since i rarely activate it in offline event and it still a bit hard to use my alter ego in offline event. well maybe that's just my stupid excuse, so i will try it later maybe first time is learn to properly speak in front of camera, as my alter ego thanks for opening my eyes!
It's crazy to see this put like this, ever since i stated teaching i noticed when I'm in my class I'm a completely different person, you have to be firm, confident and articulate, all things i struggled with as well as presenting ideas and put yourself in front of a grupe. I am all those things teaching, im stern, articulate and strong, all things that i always saw myself being as an adult and had to push myself to be in my twenties. We do this without even knowing!!
Unlocking our alter ego can indeed be a game-changer in reaching our full potential. This video provides valuable insights into the 'alter ego effect,' a fascinating concept that can empower us to break through limitations and tap into our hidden abilities. It's a reminder that sometimes, we need to step into a different mindset to unleash our true potential.
I always viewed a suit as my corporate armor. 1 people respond differently when your dressed sharp vs a T, flip flops and cargo shorts. 2 when I was off from my work peeling off those clothes has a relaxing effect to my surprise. Having work clothes vs casual I find an important distinction. There are times that dressing down can be smart say shopping for a deal or wanting to be incognito.
Agree. People respond to me much differently wearing a suit than casually dressed. Also much differently when I present as a male vs presenting as a female.
I love to see how so many people somehow reached the point where they made up alter-egos by themselves, without someone telling them it could be a good method. It must really work! I never tried it though
I had always imagined my best self..the self which is living the complete opposite of my messed up life...and I am currently chasing it by taking small steps. Didn't know there was this specific term for this phenomenon. I am gonna try it❤❤🎉 thank u TRUST THE PROCESS✌️
00:00 💪 Understanding the Alter Ego Concept - What is an alter ego? - Examples of famous alter egos: Beyoncé's Sasha Fierce and Kobe Bryant's Black Mamba. - The power of creating an alter ego to overcome limitations. 05:24 🤔 Crafting Your Alter Ego - Identifying traits in your "Ordinary World." - Finding inspiration for your alter ego (e.g., characters, animals). - Choosing a meaningful name for your alter ego. 08:00 ✨ Activating Your Alter Ego - The psychological impact of clothing and symbols. - Using totems or artifacts to step into your alter ego. - The fluidity of transitioning between your ordinary self and your alter ego.
I am intensely introverted, and have worked my way into a specialization in strategy and risk so that I can manage the number of people contacts I have through any given day. I'm too tall, clumsy, stutter and flush, don't present well, and prefer writing. I am also a guitarist and songwriter and am quite happy getting out on stage to play for 1000 people. I love it. But I don't do it every day.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🔮 Introduction to the Alter Ego Effect - Introduces the concept of the Alter Ego effect as a way to overcome personal limitations. - Mentions the idea of becoming the person you've always wanted to be. 02:06 📚 Understanding the Alter Ego - Explains what an alter ego is and its significance, especially among performers and athletes. - Gives examples of famous individuals, like Beyoncé and Kobe Bryant, who use alter egos. 05:24 🧩 Crafting Your Alter Ego - Describes the steps to create an alter ego, starting with identifying the traits you wish to embody. - Emphasizes the importance of emotional resonance with the alter ego's name. 08:00 🪙 Activating Your Alter Ego - Discusses the use of totems or artifacts to activate your alter ego. - Provides examples of symbolic items, like clothing or jewelry, that can help in the activation process. 10:32 💡 Final Thoughts on the Alter Ego Effect - Highlights the idea that your alter ego represents who you want to be but may already be within you. - Mentions a real-life example of someone embracing their desired traits without the need for an alter ego. Made with HARPA AI
I was writing a super long description of my alter ego in comment but it felt deeply personnal and she is so cool that I don't want to share her. 🙈 But I've created a pinterest board, a youtube sub-account and a spotify playlist tailored to her interest. I've also defined habits, favorite meals and even her signature smell so it helps for invoking her.
Heyy could u please give me detailed information about your pinterest board/spotify playlist? I've been looking forward to make one but idk how to do it tbh
This was incredibly powerful... didn't realize I've been doing this until my 20's and felt very confident in most situations. Then slowly merged my both sides into one to appear the same in all situations ... lost all confidence and very much became insecure.. damn now I know how to fix it. :D
Omagawd thissss… me too. I have merged both sides and then idk what happened which makes me loose my confidence. This alter ego effect could be one factor though, perhaps it’s just part of growing up
Great Video Tina! It inspired these notes->Normal Tobin: reserved, prioritizes flexibility fun comfort, a few key friends, spends money easily, says yes to social events but struggles to expand and nurture social circle, studies reads plays video games for stimulation at random times, unfocused procrastination around career. AlTobin(name in progress): Exercises every day, works on conversation skills meets new people often, calls people he cares about just for fun, wakes early to do important personal work before the day begins, prioritizes expansion courage growth, disciplined about financial goals, schedules time for deliberate japanese study gaming reading, communicates his ideas to the world through writing audio video. Inspiring people: Alain de Botton, Tim Ferriss, Ryan Holiday Totem ideas: the color red, stoic challenge coin
Oh wow, this makes sense. Back when i was working in customer service, we had phone names and mine was Peach. You can define me as calm, collected, distant and mature. But because of that name, i created a persona of being bubbly, approachable, bright, friendly and loves to give and receive hugs 😂 i even dyed my hair in peach and wore bright clothing to match. I loved being Peach ❤ but she had to go once I resigned. 😅
I unknowingly created an alter ego through the course of a self-improvement arc I underwent. It was unbelievable how focused and determined I was. The downside was that I was more emotionally stale with that alter ego and when I went home to my province to catch up with my high school buddies in a ramen shop, I realized that I was like a stranger in my own skin. Then as we went home to my friend's house to play video games, I was slowly able to pull out my normal self and just be me. After that day, I thought about that moment for a month. I suffered a sort of meltdown trying to decide whether I had to be either one personality and eventually decided to stop having my alter ego. I'm relieved I found this video though.. Maybe it isn't a bad thing to have an alter ego or have to decide whether to be either just yourself or your alter identity.
@@williamchamberlain2263 glad you feel the same. The alter ego effect can be amazing but since the majority of people are already dealing with some type of mental disease.
@@gavingranado2146 we have many sides, more than two. We're very different in different situations. You're not the same with your mother and with your girlfriiend. There are two quite different versions of you that would do quite different things in similar situations but around different people. So yeah. It is completely normal and natural. I think you can be whatever you want whenever you want if it helps you, if it's comfortable for you. You don't need to choose you can't choose. You're always gonna be different, we have social roles. Alter ego thing isn't about social roles but I think it's similar to that. I'm a socially awkward person, introverted and quite shy, uncomfortable with new people. But when I meet a person with those traits I become very confident, extraverted, talkative, initiative which is funny. I don't make it a problem and just accept that I'm different in different situations. Reading your comment I remembered how I met my old friend from school after couple of years living in another city completely different life. I met her and we talked and I to my surprise found myself acting as old me that felt very odd to me cause I didn't feel this was me. It's actually quite difficult to stop acting according to your "role". I found it challenging. I also remember loving going summer camps when I was younger. I felt so free and it was the best part of my childhood. I wasn't around new people that didn't know me at all and I could be perceived in a new way. Sorry for the off top I have no friends to talk to
I am someone who loves cozy clothes, just feeling comfortable in my everyday life. But I had this problem, that my baggy clothes made me feel everything but confident, happy or energetic. I was always sleepy. At some point in my life I kinda started uploading more content on instagram and TikTok. I learned how to pose, be confident and be someone completely different to who I was years ago. I think social media is my alter ego. I do not have a name for it or a person that inspires me. but what triggers this ego is when I just simply do my makeup. I think because I am struggling with my skin, it just gives me the feeling of wearing a mask. Like, I can be whoever I want. No one knows this version of myself. I have so many pieces of clothing in my wardrobe but I rarely wear them. I always wear the same stuff at school. But when I wear makeup I start looking for outfit inspirations, I learn how to style my clothes, I learn about new ways to elevate my posts and I feel more confident meeting people. Because I don’t think about what they see in me because I am feeling my best when I am my alter ego. I just started not caring which, honestly, is the best thing you can do in this toxic world we’re living in.
I believe that you can be super and still be yourself at the same time. There is an inner strength of energy from within ourselves we have not fully learned to tap into exploring. Reach deep within find that energy tap into it and access into your true power. Show the world your higher self instead and seek validation from within not from outside. Thanks for your vids!
This is actually such a great hack, I study psychology and there are studies proving it. Nevertheless, when I suggest using thst in therapy, everyone is hating on me for talking down mental health struggles etc😢
I just watched this video for the first time. I really liked it. I think it helped me understand that I have at times worked with an Alt, but that it can be very intentional, and in that way you can mod and shape it the way you can visualize it to be. Thanks for the video, and I would be interested in seeing more like this.
This sounds more like a temporary solution to problems. I wouldn't use this technique for the long term. If you're at point A (example: fear of socialising) and you want to get to point B (no fear of socialising) then instead of trying to split yourself from the part that feels fear, you should confront the reason why you feel fear in the first place. There is a reason. Once you confront the root problem (past experience) and let those negative emotions out and process them (instead of stuffing them down) THEN you will automatically start moving to the point B. When you start perceiving your negative emotions as messages instead of things to be avoided, then life will be much easier.
@@b-doi1211 You can go many ways about this: 1. Ask yourself what part of yourself does not want to be disciplined. What kind of bad things could happen if you had discipline and were successful? Maybe you don’t want to appear like a fortunate, successful person, bc you’re afraid of being used (being afraid that people would take smth away from you; so you sabotage yourself). 2. Ask yourself: What does being undisciplined make me feel? Possible answer: Not good enough. (What’s so bad about that?)-> feeling worthless. (What does that mean?) I‘m alone. (try to remember when in your past & childhood you felt this way when it comes to achieving anything. How did your parents treat you in terms of school achievement? Focus on that feeling, write & cry about it & let your negative emotions out) 3. Ask yourself what will happen if I’m not disciplined? F.e.: "I’m bad" -> rejected -> alone -> unsafe(Maybe you were punished for lack of discipline as a child) There might be multiple traumas/ negative beliefs that result in your lack of discipline. Once you resolve them, you will automatically become more disciplined (If you‘ll still want to be by then)
@@SeyaLaru for me its that i would die without getting my goals accomplished. While my time on earth is not numbered in days it's not infinite either. For me it seems to be difficulties not giving in to temptation/avoiding any sort of pain/discomfort
I think you can still do both tbh. Maybe it is a temporary solution, but that's the point. To get you to live the life you want WHILE you work on your long term internal health. For example, I have gotten to a point in my journalling where I am comfortable with my uncomfortable feelings (at least much faster and less triggered than before.) Although creating the space in your mind where you CAN do things like the alter ego can help me stop limiting myself. Using your alter ego to help you move into action can show you EVIDENCE that you CAN do it even if you need the use of an alter ego. It's through real life evidence where you build confidence and be much more internally stronger as well. So yeah its temporary, but that's the end goal.
damn you seem introspective. this is something i lack and so i struggle with understanding myself. whenever i try to analyze myself this way, i come to a dead end/dont know the answer. it really sucks and i think only another person can help me even though id rather do it myself lol
I am usually soft-spoken and doesn't emote much. More so a few years back. I remember having to play a character in a musical who is mean and furious (fierce). My backstage ritual before that scene was to gesticulate putting on a mask (as if I were a shaman now that I think of it). That allowed me to become more explosive. I also noticed that I tried to get into character by yawning as it allowed me to relax and become less focused/disconnected from the present -- something like an induced trance if you may. I construe that I access/express less 'performed' facets of myself with a Shaman approach. Thank you for sharing with me that what I used to do is not only useful but can help me overcome other hurdles I have in my way❤
Thanks Tina! I was not going to comment but then I thought about what would the " person I wish to become" do in this situation?😃😃 I haven't even thought about my alter ego yet! So in a way I can think about the decisions that my alter ego will make for any situation that I am hesitant about! Also going to read this book! Thanks again!!
this actually so cool bc i just made my alter egos with my therapist this week. the names are Navier and Adriana. We hadn't set out to make them it just happened. but it really works! Ive only used it for less than a week and i feel so much better as a person !
Thank you so much, Tina! ✨ I've never watched you before but today I did and I have to say... your points make a lot of sense. I'm going to name my alter ego - Celestial Brains. I don't know if that makes sense. I've always had a love for astronomy and just universe in general so "celestial" and "brains" because I want to become extremely smart! Celestial Brains is a confident yet, silent girl. Her presence exudes confidence and she is highly intimidating. Her voice is very impacting and she is extremely diplomatic. She does not care about anyone. She is intelligent and her vocabulary is way too good. She is always prepared for everything. She is effortlessly perfect. She is an elegant woman who places great importance for her career and money... She is healthy and she has an unapproachable vibe to herself.
My traits in the ordinary world - Silent, introvert, calm, slow, no aggression, lazy, fat, just ambitious but not a action taker, consume more n more, reserved, ordinary average person, no talents, analytical thinker, used to be smart. Emotional but at the same time powerless. The traits I want in my alter ego - Aggression, risk taker, bold, strong fit and active, speaker, conversationalist, action taker (like how I took action right now to write this), lean and muscular personality, charming, looksmaxxed, with some special skills, not broke, calm and relaxed but knows when to speak, ambitious, fast
I did this last Christmas, only I went in more permanently: I got a tattoo! It is my only tattoo and it constantly reminds me of what I need to be doing instead of all the time I used to waste on video games, netflix, etc. When I know I should be doing something important but don't want to, I look at the tattoo.
I never thought of it this way, but my "alter ego" so to speak is basically my own name shortened to its one-syllable form. Only my closest friends and family call me by my full name, but everyone else only calls me by the shortened version. On reflection, I definitely feel a sense of vulnerability around ppl who call me by my full name, that doesn't exist quite as much otherwise. I think it has the effect of making me less intimidated by social situations (especially ones involving strangers). There's some holes in that "persona" that I could maybe invest some time into fine-tuning tbh, but it's helped a lot with my social anxiety so far
I absolutely loved the two last videos! It's like a new type on your channel. Also made me realize I've always been doing the alter ego technique at uni without being aware haha
This is excellent - thank You Tina. I created a leadership course using cards and I've been wanting to add a section on the power of alter egos since the course focuses on All the Hats We Wear - thanks Tina - keep up the great work.
I have to say this video has really made me feel better and more hopeful. I feel like I've been drowning in the generic, status-quo philosophies such as the likes of "Just be yourself" which I honestly really don't find helpful at all. And I'm sure people have meant well for me, but their words weren't the ones i really wanted to hear, seen as the way I am often doesnt correlate to how i perceive the ideal version of myself to be. To answer your question though, my baseline is definitely more the quiet reserved type although technically I'm extroverted because I get 'my kicks' being around multiple other people (and right now as I'm pretty socially isolated, my situation has become quite the predicament I feel I have to endure.) I've always liked to think of myself as the free-spirited type, even the type of individual who might embark on something completely impromptu on a whim. I also long to play music with other people (I play an instrument). It's quite frustrating really because very little of what I perceive about myself correlates my 'current self' but I guess it boils down to a person's willingness (or lack of) to change.
I'm introvert/shy person who loves to be alone I'm that type of person that going to class just to sleep and draw i can't talk someone easily and i can't recite or present in front of many people i always feel like i can't do anything i have low self esteem i always think that Its too awkward i always think that there's something wrong with me or what I'm doing but i think there's a different type of me because sometimes I'm too excited when there's a presentation and sometimes I'm not shy talking to anyone even on strangers i think i can do anything maybe i just need some space to relax or think because its easy for me to get pressured i really love the feeling that i can do anything without minding what anyone says, I don't think its alter ego effect because I'm still shy on that state but I'm not afraid of anything and i prefer to be thrilled
I thought i was delusional, or too dramaic to have a alter ego, *well before watching this video i didn even know how to name this "action" of mine*. But now ik many sucessful people have one and they are at the top because of it! Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart Tina. Thank you. So what insipired me to create my own alter ego was, well is: My fake scenarios! My actual delusions, yes! My own fantasies of the movies and dramas ive watched and wanted to become a specific character, a brave and challanging person yet kind. A cold but warm from inside persona. An actual intelectual person, as i am deep inside a FUCKING people pleaser, someone FUCKING dependent of others, Someone FUCKING shy. But thanks to this persona of mine, i am able to do my oral presenations, my speeches as i'm a law student. I'm able to debate, and be confident as i know i can make it to the end, because I KNOW I PLANNED MY STORY, i know i planned where Navy *my alter lmao* wants to be and end my story, wich is my graduation. Ps: at one point i thought i kinda developed DID *God forbid* LMAO🤣
i... this actually describes my situation kinda. i also did think i developed DID like last. i too am such a ppl pleaser and i always want to seem approachable and kind and "love to make friends and want to be friends with everyone". But honestly, i just don't like people, i'd rather have 0 friends and sometimes i wish nobody knew me. i honestly feel like two people stuck inside 1 body ;w;
I found it interesting that your alter ego is one that's sociable and can give speeches and always leaves an impression, and that you are an introverted, calm and organized person at the same time. My situation is the exact opposite! I'm very sociable, I can talk to anyone, I'm witty, I express myself the way I want, and so on. But I am like wind, I'm extremely messy and my routine is chaotic and even though I am creative I rarely have the discipline to progress with my artwork, or any work in general. I have always dreamed of being a more reserved, quiet, calm individual, having some time alone with myself and truly enjoying it, and working on art and crafts. People want what they lack, and I think having the best of both worlds is truly the "full potential", but as I am very prone to DPD, I would be very careful with that! There has to be a way for me to find balance so that the alter ego doesn't take over lmao. Lately I have already been feeling that all my progress isn't done by me, but by "her". I think it's a complex topic centered around the self and self esteem, and I appreciate your detailed take on this topic.
Something clicked for me when you described effect of the totem like a lab coat Jews wear a small tallis with fringes as undershirts to remind us of the 613 mitzvos of the extraordinary world, the world of holiness connected to the source of goodness, light, and truth The traits of the ordinary world I have are anxious, confused, aimless. But when I read prayers and chant with the few tunes I know then I feel bold, open, kind, and strong. So my main is Yitzy Kantor representing laughter (yitzhak) and singing (cantor)
I am the "alt-tina" I am extroverted, I talk a lot, and love meeting new people but I am trying to be the "tina" who's organized, responsible, and doesn't procastine which is the opposite of me, I hope using this video I'll become the "tina" when needed 🤞
please stop saying that being an introvert is a bad thing you can be introvert and public speaker or a leader , being introvert means that you feel more happy and regain your energy when you are alone .
Yes i am introvert my circle is small but i am not insecure i love my body and i can talk with alot of people and public speaking and ect i am not shy or shameful of any thing the only thing is i am calmer and i don't let anyone in my circle easily. I think ppl think social anxiety and insecurities= introverted.
Your video essay actually made me realize I have tapped into my alter ego for more than a year now when I created my supposedly dump account dedicated to the things I would never post on my main social media accnt like political memes, music preference, and my poems and short essays. Now I have an online community with the same interests as I have in that account and I actually got to meet them on music gigs. I still keep my main accnt hidden from them and vice versa. Only my sister and my best of besties know abt it. Only two people in my life haha. Surprisingly enough, my name for that is from a literary piece whose character is a corrupt friar priest because the name sound silly for me. Anyway, I like your content!
My alter ego is Aire. She's just so done with all the heaviness that Arielle has had to shoulder throughout her 29 years on this planet, and she just want to be light. ✨💖🌬️
My alter-ego is Travel/Concert Me. So of course I love traveling because I'm not my usual homebody but instead constantly out and about. Meeting people and trying things
Thank you for this video. I have just realized that a role I jokingly take on at work or FOR for other people (when I go with my sister to her many doctors appointments where they often try to just blow her off with whatever prescription instead of thinking and listening) is a role I can take on for myself. I am normally an easygoing introvert, but I am really good at being a very polite and very verbally precise “bulldog”.
Wait... After this video I realized. I too had an alter ego kind of. Growing up I was introverted so I always used to imagine this version of me that was popular, confident, had lots of friends. And you know back in teenage days, how having a guy best friend was like the epitome of popularity. So I always used to imagine this version of me and fast forward to now. I am actually all of these things now. I never gave it a thought but well turns out it does work.
I hadn't realised for a very, very long time that since i was a teeny little kid, that i had an alter ego already that i would use in speeches, events, meeting new people, and being productive when i usually felt like procastinating or whatever.
i don’t wanna lose this but ideally i would like to be more: - assertive - confident - communicative - strong in my own body - energized - emphathtic so far i know that wear jewelery like earrings could help bring it out- i do know i embody these traits but i know that this alter ego affect could amplify to new stakes
This is such a cool way to look at what's always available to us - everything! The fact that we can be whoever we choose to be whenever we want to be! But for most of us, our conscious minds aren't able to accept the possibility of such potential, and so it's probably easier for it to create something that's not "true," because that it can chew on - oh it's not *really* me! But whoa, hello, it IS! As Marianne Williamson rightly said, "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure."
THANK YOU so much! This helped me a lot! I was using this kind of effect/attitude already years ago, but since you were explaining it in detail, it made me feel even better about it. I try to focus on my alter ego from now on more!
My alter ego is Nostalgia. Her name is Nostalgia because I want others to feel like they've met her before, someone who makes them feel safe and okay to be around. She's always existed but instead of embodying her, I've always seen her as someone I will become in the future. I remember I went bowling with some old friends about 2 months ago and I put my name as 'Nostalgia', when the names popped up on the screen one of them proceeded to ask "Who's Nostalgia?" and I proudly said "Me" with a smile :) I never thought of embodying her as this alter ego that shows up as her best self in my everyday world but this video changed my entire perspective. Thanks for showing me that Nostalgia deserves to be seen Tina, you just gained a new supporter!🤎
The idea of craft a alter ego is intriguing to me... I did that in some moments of my life (mainly when managing public speaking in college) but I never thought about it in a structured way and in fact had some fear that could generate somekind of split personality. Maybe I need to give it a try again. Thank You Tina!
my alter ego has always been a fictional character that i created. It started off as a character in a story and then i realised how much i wanted to be her. now i am her
mine would be a person that i met in high school , that person was perfect to me , everything she does everything she said was so pleasing to me , she was funny , confident , hard working and i worshiped her .. i think im gonna use her as my alter ego
When I was in preschool, I was scared of shadows. To overcome my fear I created „Schattia“, she was my own shadow and I created a story, that all humans would hide as a shadow and would use their human form to talk to people. After watching this video I found out that I basically created a alter ego and it helped me overcome my fear of shadows and I used Schattia for a long time. She was the other side of me, my shadow. She was always with me, and when I didn’t know what to do, we would switch our forms. I hope something like this is relatable, cuz it’s hard to explain. But then I created in middle school another 5 alter egos and I found my notes of them, so with watching this video I want to get them back to life and optimise them
I’ve been doing this since I started becoming a performer! Crazy how I thought about this yesterday and how powerful it is and then this video finds me❤
In hypnosis, there is an exercise where the patient is led to begin to imagine their animal self, based on the characteristics the patient is struggling to experience, or only gets to experience very infrequently (those that they are lacking or those they wish they had more of, or those that are lacking in them that are holding them back somehow). I had a patient who was very meek and mild and yes, was pretty much a people pleaser and a door mat. That was how she was raised to believe that women should behave. Under hypnosis, she decided that her animal self was the Mama Bear (she was also a mom, which made this a little easier to embody). Under hypnosis, she named the characteristics she possessed as a Mama Bear: fierce, strong, unflinching, afraid of nothing, showing all of her strength if needed, allowing no one to tell her or treat with anything less than respect. This was essentially her alter ego, conceptualized just in a different way. Her transformation was amazing and almost immediate. Her upbringing convinced her that she could/ should never think of herself in a “Mama Bear” way, but when she was her animal self, that WAS exactly who she was and how she thought of herself. As her psychologist, it still makes me tear up because during one of our last sessions she told me how much this one little, 20 minute hypnosis session had changed her life, the way she looked at herself, the way she treated herself, and ultimately, how other people began to treat her. For a vast majority of people it can be truly life changing. xoxoxo ♥️
There's also third person mode that I always forgot to tap into😂 but basically, you're not you but rather the character that you're controlling with some sort of joysticks😂. So you don't really "live" with your feeling but rather take it as a "feedback" to decide what to do next
This honestly makes some things make more sense to me At home alone i'm addicted to my phone and can never get shit done and i'm highly unstructured and don't really care abt talking to people at all. But the moment i go outside, things just work for me. I'm driven, confident, very socially successful etc. Kinda sucks that this outdoor alter ego is clearly just straight up better than the indoor alone one tho. Would be kinda cool to be able to completely eliminate the bad one
I experienced a weird thing. I struggle with food. I overeat, eat shitty processed food and stuff. But one summer day I went to my hometown, to my grandma and for some reason I wasn't hungry at all. She went through hunger because of the war, she literally ate grass and yeah it was very difficult for her and feeding us, her children was very important for her. And I came to her and refused to eat. I didn't want to. At all. She was mad at me and we got into the argument because of it. It was a drama really. And this is so weird that I didn't want to eat much enough to get into the situation I would not choose to get into and on my everyday life I eat a lot. I came home and my overeating continued.
@@annastasia.1 oof my grandparents are the same (europe gang ig lol). Food has never been a struggle to me. Being hungry is just smn u get kinda used to n i have no problem w that feeling. But ig we all have different things we struggle to stop doing rly
Excellent video, i love how you ellaborated on this subject from your newsletter of the other day as it was really interesting, i'd love to hear more subjects surrounding human psychology and behaviour and how to implement it in ones advantage either personally or in business and product design, keep the good work girl!
As a aspiring performance artist/actor. . .I actually have 2 alter egos. They're both used in different circumstances. I'm already very extroverted and a loud-mouth. But, I did need confidence on camera & acting in different situations... So, how I got into character was creating this alter ego, Demonique. She oozed confidence! It's a fun character to play when I need a confidence boost!
I'm almost 60... mom, married, now retired, kind of getting used to that transition; but when i wear my kick-butt biker boots, I feel strong and... invincible, so I choose them several times a week. If you're buying, make sure they are a big YAAASSS, and stride through your day like a bada$$.
thank you for this advise, i have always suppressed who i really am because of having to be nice at my 9 to 5 customer service job and feeling like my family will judge me for who i want to be. as for the barbie movie, that was wierd, funny, goofy, and chaotic all at the same time. lol
Super Skills: speak in front of 5000+ people and convey an articulate message, masterfully manage a billion $ company, and find peace in any situation. Will work on the alter ego name. Thank you! Keep up the inspiring work!
I started an Alter-Ego named Solonze, to make me more out there, less scared, and more extroverted. I started by opening up Notion and finding a name, then I went on to Pintrest and starting making a board... What Solonze would wear, act like, and goals. Im still working on it, but the hope is to become a more confident, funnier version of myself!
After this video I was thinking about what the object to unlock my alter ego could be... i thought about a lip balm that I have, which colors my lips (and cheeks) through ph reaction, so a quite natural effect. For me that i don't normally wear make up it's a nice compromise, not too far from me, but still spicing things up and easy...like you dressing white instead of black. (I dress all black too lol) So, I put on that lip balm and I was thinking... "what my alter ego name could be?". I look at the lipstick and read the name: "Rockstar". I smile 'cause a big dream of mine is to be... a singer. Very fitting. I don't know if it's the right alter ego for me because I don't want to embody the common rockstar vibes, but the coincidence made me smile ❤ I could be my version of a Rockstar though 😌
As someone who struggles with their gender identity, the idea of this actually hits really close to home. I have this idea in my head for the person I would love to become, but I feel so distant from that person at the same time and I struggle with feeling like I will ever become them. I technically even have a name picked out already for this hypothetical person I wish I was, it's not very different than my own nickname I use online, but it's still distinct in its own way (especially because it actually comes from someone from a story who resonated with me super well)
An important breakthrough I had in therapy when I explained my alter ego to my therapist is when she said that it is not a mask or a costume that I wear, it is who I really am without my fears, trauma, or struggles. The "you are not Clark Kent, you are actually Superman" moment.
Thats very powerful i love that
Thanks for sharing! i really like this thought, cause it's ME, not my mask or uniform for a society
That makes a lot of sense
Wow 🤯 so true, love this. Thank you so much for sharing
that was exactly what i wanted to ask about under the video, namely if the alter ego is not really a mask and fake and how to stay real and ourselves while using the alter ego
Two of my college friends had "alternate egos". I worked with many people over the years who had "alternate egos", including CEOs. Whatever helps get you through the day, make friends, and have fun, I say go for it!
I have actually done this without knowing, it was awesome but the caveat here is do have a regular getting back to your real self, bcuz it was too hard for me to really get in touch with myself again it took time and a lot of confusion
@@dharavasishth THISSS. But to me it doesn happen anymore, as i want to kinda "absorb" or "fusion" this persona of mine to Myself. I've always dreamed to become like my mum.
@@adayabush9412 I've wanted to do that , how do u fuse this version to your real self?
@@dharavasishthif youve been like that it means its alr you doesnt that
Bella hadid has an alter ago her name is Belinda she said the person we see on runway and red carpet is actually Belinda she is very confident and fierce. And I also have one
As an introvert I realized a couple months ago that I create an "extrovert mode" that I activate in big social events like birthday parties, weddings, etc. Since then, I call myself as a "socially functional introvert" haha. Now I relate that "mode" with this alter ego effect concept.
😂 Same girl same.
I thought it was my "performance" mode for events and parties.
I want to try doing this now! 😮😂
Omg I do this too! It really helps with the social outings or new events where I want to be my 'best self'. I thought it could've been inauthentic, but then I realized with some of my closest or bubbliest of friends, I already exude this energy naturally haha.
Same same ........ However I don't want to name it 😂😂
samee, me with my 'outgoing introvert' mode
This is what "fake it till you make it" means to me. I accidentally created an alter ego years go. I was super shy and quiet. typical headphones on, staring at the ground as I walked. So closed up, I walked right past 1 friend setting another on fire(by accident) and completely missed it. She's fine, by the way. Just some pills on her clothes burnt up. but then around age 20 I started working renaissance faires, as a pirate/privateer. And that requires a lot of interacting with strangers. My group really leaned into the improv/street acting element of it all. So I had to build a character with a history and personality traits. So through years of playing this bold, gregarious rake.(Imagine Porthos The Pirate from 3 musketeers, but less tall tales) I noticed that I would go out more, talk to strangers, have fun in the chaos that is social life. I grew into the shape I had built for myself. I can definitely attest to alter egos.
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@@artahikhan7e210 nah that's me. Vinny is a bit less brown and a lot more talented on drums. Lol
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To be honest, for myself, I am not sure about adopting an alter ego. I feel like I am tucking away a part of myself. I want to improve my whole self, elevating it to where I want to be. Maybe I execute an alter ego in way. I push myself to do things I don't normally do, but I still consider those actions my own. Anyways, another great video. I personally find your videos infectious. Also, you remind me of my sister. Luckily, I love my sister lol.
I think the goal is to be like Beyonce and eventually absorb the alter ego into yourself
Kudos to you, it's definitely better way to do it, but for me Tina's video is kind of groundbreaking. Personally, I don't want to change my whole self. I do like that I'm introvert and introspective, and if I could i would never speak to anyone but my friends and dog, and stayed inside all my life. Unfortunately at work if I want to make projects I'm passionate about I have to interact with other people and be forceful instead of sitting back (exactly like Tina in the clip, Tina, I feel you, girl.) and getting the worst scraps of work. I am actively fighting to stay on top and as much as this behaviour saved me from cuts my company recently made, the emotional toll it takes for me to "be someone else" is too big. I wonder if I adopted this idea into my life, would it be easier to switch and not get the emotional backlash after the day of work is done?
@mald379 I never thought of it that way! For me, there isn't rely a part of myself I want to keep. I like the whole butterfly transformation situation.
Reading what you wrote helped me understand. I think this would be a great thing to implement if you do have a part of, or an ego of, what you want to keep.
I think that if you have something to settle back into yourself after the day is done, you wouldn't have a problem switching back.
For example, Tina might change from her white clothes back to her black clothes and go for a walk. When she comes back, she settles and does regular Tina things
I really understand you, I don't think this is for me either, but maybe we can use this in some places of life where we just don't feel like putting belief in ourselves, for me it's surely my prayers, so I'll hope to maybe build an alter ego for that
I think you would be "absorbing " that alt ego self haha
Short summary:
00:00 Introduction to the Alter Ego Effect
- Understanding what an alter ego is.
- Examples of famous alter egos: Beyoncé's Sasha Fierce, Kobe Bryant's Black Mamba.
- The power of adopting an alter ego to overcome limitation
02:06 How to Craft Your Own Alter Ego
- Identifying the traits of your Ordinary World and the traits you aspire to in an Extraordinary World.
- Choosing an inspirational source for your alter ego, which can be a character, animal, or concept.
- Naming your alter ego with a name that resonates emotionally and represents the desired traits.
- The importance of symbolic meaning in the chosen name.
06:19 Activating Your Alter Ego
- The significance of totems or artifacts in activating your alter ego.
- Examples of totems, such as clothing, jewelry, or symbolic items.
- The psychological impact of wearing specific attire associated with your alter ego.
- Martin Luther King's use of glasses as a symbolic item.
10:32 Embracing Your True Self
- Recognizing that your alter ego represents the person you want to be and may already be within you.
- The possibility of outgrowing your alter ego as you develop and embody desired traits.
- A fun anecdote about dressing up as Ken and exploring the concept of identity.
Thank you for the summary. I really appreciate it. 😇
@@b7ooklynn you’re welcome
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Thank you!
Ultimately it’s you doing everything but your alter ego helps you to blackout unnecessary things your real self would find annoying, hurt or even depressed and break down about. And I’m speaking of a experience, I have created an alter ego years ago and that got me through shit, whenever I felt giving up there was this feeling inside me who just made me get up and get things done for my self. As of now, last night my alter ego’s desperation and hard work got me the first place of my faculty in university and as soon as I saw it I actually didn’t feel anything other then saying “good job girl” to my self. So i have embodied and became what I once thought only my alter ego will do it for me, So to say it again, it’s you who’s doing all of your accomplishments.
aawww it's so sweet story.
i also have that "thank you for your hard work in the past, me!" moment several times. reading your comment makes me grateful and remember that :')
Did you gave it a name ?
Thanks for keeping it post, Tina. 'Alter ego' concept is quite powerful. Rather than comparing myself to others, I compare myself to an alternative 'me' version.
That is an actually powerful way to think of this concept.
as an artist we sometimes have our own alter egos that we draw out. most of us are pretty introverted so this is a way for us to express ourselves. i never thought of using my artist ego as my alter ego but it would be a huge boost in confidence
You present the most novel ideas outside of the self-help spheres its always a breath of fresh air
always has been
its the most basic and usual and old "fake it till u make it" come on
@@eugenestein8530 Different concept, which shows you're not paying attention to the video.
Find your current traits
Find the opposite traits that you want
find an idol that is befitting to get into it
Get into it with an activity. Draw write think about it.. Figure it right through the process
Name it. It should be a name you're emotionally attached with and the name has to invoke the superpowers you want to have
An item that invokes your alter ego
TH-cam is my alter ego. Normally I'm very introverted and have a lot of self-doubt but my online presence helps me reassure my skills and talents.
I unconsciously used to practice alter ego,but recently it broke somehow,making my interests change, I didn't knew what happened to me, but now your video makes it clear and made a way for me to overcome this problem.Thanks
Yep... and if you keep pushing it you can have a psychotic break, becasue the other "personalities" are brain regions that act as filters... we would go mad if we saw & heard everything...
but breaking down these barriers can lead to just that..... seeing & hearing Shit, that you are not sure is there.
Interestingly enough there is a Tibetan Buddhist technique which is very similar to this where you visualise yourself as embodying a particular deity. Ultimately it’s designed to lead to non-duality so this “alter ego effect” would be similar and useful as a vehicle to eventually reach this state of wholeness and your full potential which lays latent within 😊
Is this the tulpa concept? Actually I think that tulpa were self-crafted and not (nearly?) connected to deities, but that the tulpa activation had the potential to reach high power and thus the tulpa practice was outlawed. Idk though, maybe I embellished this info in my memory/dreams 😅
I believe that Phillip Pullman also based daemons on this concept, and even that the classical era concept of demon/daemon was the same fundamental idea as tulpa too.
@@FarranLeetulpas aren’t alter agos, they’re separate entities created by your mind and its archetypes :)
Har har Mahadev
It’s more like Devatayoga which is the main basis of Vajrayana and Tantric practices. The term visualisation is misleading as the way they understand it is more like “embody”. Obviously what’s discussed in this video is not exactly the same as devatayoga since that is from the Buddhist context (and Hindu) so has a specific lineage. But it is interesting to see the parallels in the methods.
That was literally me with the goddess Athena as my alter ego.
This is so crazy because when I was around 15-18 I got inspired by the Billy Milligan story and created 3 alter egos. But I had to “kill” them eventually.
So, here’s why. One of the alter-egos was strict and determined and I “activated” her when I had to do homework or chores. Because the real me hated doing homework and chores but one of my alter-egos loved that.
Another alter-ego was extroverted and carefree, spiritual and even flirty. She was activated around people when I had to be friendly and confident. Cause the real me was shy and melancholic.
The third one was bossy and I “activated” her when I had to be assertive and really confident.
Each of them had name, surname, date of birth, nationality and specific appearance description. That all made them become “alive”.
As you can see, they were pretty useful. So why did I have to “kill” them? Two reasons.
First, when I shared the story of my alter-egos with others, they considered me as a crazy person. So I was afraid that would exclude me from the society even more.
Second, at times I began to actually believe that there are other peephole in my head that take please and control me. In other words, I started to believe in it a little bit to much.
So, after weighing pros and cons, I made a decision. There’s only one me. And I want to me someone else, I can simply “borrow” the traits of that someone that would benefit me.
Now, after seeing this video, I’m amazed at how around 10 years ago these alter-egos were created by me as a tool to adapt in the society. I wasn’t going crazy. I was just a teenager who wanted to fit and succeed.
So, maybe my dearest alter-egos may come back to life? But wait! There’s no need, I guess. Cause as I observe how I grew and changed over the years, I can see a little bit of every alter-ego in myself. Maybe that’s because they were never other people in my head. It was me all along.
Wow. That was actually very beautifully written. I enjoyed reading your experience. I agree that you probably don't need them anymore because all of those traits are a part of you now.. But it's cool that you were able to use those alter egos when you needed them in the past. I don't know you, but I'm proud of you. Thanks for sharing your experience.
This made me a bit emotional
This is truely well written
Woah you are such a good writer
OMG!!!
i just know this phenomenon called that.
yea, this Keitaro3660 is my alter ego since early 2000.
i really has emotional attachment to this name, and this really ME and who i want to be!
thanks to make it clear now!
but about artifact / activation, hmmm dunno, i don't have anything like that. but is "internet" considered the artefact too?
since i instantly become Keitaro if i'm online in internet =))
but this Alter Ego of mine, maybe still stuck as "Online Persona"? since i rarely activate it in offline event
and it still a bit hard to use my alter ego in offline event. well maybe that's just my stupid excuse, so i will try it later
maybe first time is learn to properly speak in front of camera, as my alter ego
thanks for opening my eyes!
It's crazy to see this put like this, ever since i stated teaching i noticed when I'm in my class I'm a completely different person, you have to be firm, confident and articulate, all things i struggled with as well as presenting ideas and put yourself in front of a grupe. I am all those things teaching, im stern, articulate and strong, all things that i always saw myself being as an adult and had to push myself to be in my twenties. We do this without even knowing!!
I really respect the hardwork you put into ur videos and I draw great inspiration from you tina
much love ❤️
Unlocking our alter ego can indeed be a game-changer in reaching our full potential. This video provides valuable insights into the 'alter ego effect,' a fascinating concept that can empower us to break through limitations and tap into our hidden abilities. It's a reminder that sometimes, we need to step into a different mindset to unleash our true potential.
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I always viewed a suit as my corporate armor. 1 people respond differently when your dressed sharp vs a T, flip flops and cargo shorts. 2 when I was off from my work peeling off those clothes has a relaxing effect to my surprise. Having work clothes vs casual I find an important distinction. There are times that dressing down can be smart say shopping for a deal or wanting to be incognito.
Agree. People respond to me much differently wearing a suit than casually dressed. Also much differently when I present as a male vs presenting as a female.
I love to see how so many people somehow reached the point where they made up alter-egos by themselves, without someone telling them it could be a good method. It must really work! I never tried it though
I had always imagined my best self..the self which is living the complete opposite of my messed up life...and I am currently chasing it by taking small steps.
Didn't know there was this specific term for this phenomenon. I am gonna try it❤❤🎉 thank u
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00:00 💪 Understanding the Alter Ego Concept
- What is an alter ego?
- Examples of famous alter egos: Beyoncé's Sasha Fierce and Kobe Bryant's Black Mamba.
- The power of creating an alter ego to overcome limitations.
05:24 🤔 Crafting Your Alter Ego
- Identifying traits in your "Ordinary World."
- Finding inspiration for your alter ego (e.g., characters, animals).
- Choosing a meaningful name for your alter ego.
08:00 ✨ Activating Your Alter Ego
- The psychological impact of clothing and symbols.
- Using totems or artifacts to step into your alter ego.
- The fluidity of transitioning between your ordinary self and your alter ego.
I am intensely introverted, and have worked my way into a specialization in strategy and risk so that I can manage the number of people contacts I have through any given day. I'm too tall, clumsy, stutter and flush, don't present well, and prefer writing.
I am also a guitarist and songwriter and am quite happy getting out on stage to play for 1000 people. I love it. But I don't do it every day.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🔮 Introduction to the Alter Ego Effect
- Introduces the concept of the Alter Ego effect as a way to overcome personal limitations.
- Mentions the idea of becoming the person you've always wanted to be.
02:06 📚 Understanding the Alter Ego
- Explains what an alter ego is and its significance, especially among performers and athletes.
- Gives examples of famous individuals, like Beyoncé and Kobe Bryant, who use alter egos.
05:24 🧩 Crafting Your Alter Ego
- Describes the steps to create an alter ego, starting with identifying the traits you wish to embody.
- Emphasizes the importance of emotional resonance with the alter ego's name.
08:00 🪙 Activating Your Alter Ego
- Discusses the use of totems or artifacts to activate your alter ego.
- Provides examples of symbolic items, like clothing or jewelry, that can help in the activation process.
10:32 💡 Final Thoughts on the Alter Ego Effect
- Highlights the idea that your alter ego represents who you want to be but may already be within you.
- Mentions a real-life example of someone embracing their desired traits without the need for an alter ego.
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I was writing a super long description of my alter ego in comment but it felt deeply personnal and she is so cool that I don't want to share her. 🙈
But I've created a pinterest board, a youtube sub-account and a spotify playlist tailored to her interest. I've also defined habits, favorite meals and even her signature smell so it helps for invoking her.
Heyy could u please give me detailed information about your pinterest board/spotify playlist? I've been looking forward to make one but idk how to do it tbh
This was incredibly powerful... didn't realize I've been doing this until my 20's and felt very confident in most situations. Then slowly merged my both sides into one to appear the same in all situations ... lost all confidence and very much became insecure.. damn now I know how to fix it. :D
Omagawd thissss… me too. I have merged both sides and then idk what happened which makes me loose my confidence. This alter ego effect could be one factor though, perhaps it’s just part of growing up
Great Video Tina! It inspired these notes->Normal Tobin: reserved, prioritizes flexibility fun comfort, a few key friends, spends money easily, says yes to social events but struggles to expand and nurture social circle, studies reads plays video games for stimulation at random times, unfocused procrastination around career. AlTobin(name in progress): Exercises every day, works on conversation skills meets new people often, calls people he cares about just for fun, wakes early to do important personal work before the day begins, prioritizes expansion courage growth, disciplined about financial goals, schedules time for deliberate japanese study gaming reading, communicates his ideas to the world through writing audio video. Inspiring people: Alain de Botton, Tim Ferriss, Ryan Holiday Totem ideas: the color red, stoic challenge coin
Well, this concept is pretty new to me. Not gonna lie, I do tend to behave differently under certain circumstances but never thought of alter ego.
Oh wow, this makes sense. Back when i was working in customer service, we had phone names and mine was Peach. You can define me as calm, collected, distant and mature. But because of that name, i created a persona of being bubbly, approachable, bright, friendly and loves to give and receive hugs 😂 i even dyed my hair in peach and wore bright clothing to match. I loved being Peach ❤ but she had to go once I resigned. 😅
I unknowingly created an alter ego through the course of a self-improvement arc I underwent. It was unbelievable how focused and determined I was. The downside was that I was more emotionally stale with that alter ego and when I went home to my province to catch up with my high school buddies in a ramen shop, I realized that I was like a stranger in my own skin. Then as we went home to my friend's house to play video games, I was slowly able to pull out my normal self and just be me. After that day, I thought about that moment for a month. I suffered a sort of meltdown trying to decide whether I had to be either one personality and eventually decided to stop having my alter ego. I'm relieved I found this video though.. Maybe it isn't a bad thing to have an alter ego or have to decide whether to be either just yourself or your alter identity.
That is an excellent question, and maybe a real problem with this approach for many people
@@williamchamberlain2263 glad you feel the same. The alter ego effect can be amazing but since the majority of people are already dealing with some type of mental disease.
@@gavingranado2146 we have many sides, more than two. We're very different in different situations. You're not the same with your mother and with your girlfriiend. There are two quite different versions of you that would do quite different things in similar situations but around different people. So yeah. It is completely normal and natural. I think you can be whatever you want whenever you want if it helps you, if it's comfortable for you. You don't need to choose you can't choose. You're always gonna be different, we have social roles. Alter ego thing isn't about social roles but I think it's similar to that.
I'm a socially awkward person, introverted and quite shy, uncomfortable with new people. But when I meet a person with those traits I become very confident, extraverted, talkative, initiative which is funny. I don't make it a problem and just accept that I'm different in different situations.
Reading your comment I remembered how I met my old friend from school after couple of years living in another city completely different life. I met her and we talked and I to my surprise found myself acting as old me that felt very odd to me cause I didn't feel this was me. It's actually quite difficult to stop acting according to your "role". I found it challenging.
I also remember loving going summer camps when I was younger. I felt so free and it was the best part of my childhood. I wasn't around new people that didn't know me at all and I could be perceived in a new way.
Sorry for the off top I have no friends to talk to
I am someone who loves cozy clothes, just feeling comfortable in my everyday life. But I had this problem, that my baggy clothes made me feel everything but confident, happy or energetic. I was always sleepy. At some point in my life I kinda started uploading more content on instagram and TikTok. I learned how to pose, be confident and be someone completely different to who I was years ago. I think social media is my alter ego. I do not have a name for it or a person that inspires me. but what triggers this ego is when I just simply do my makeup. I think because I am struggling with my skin, it just gives me the feeling of wearing a mask. Like, I can be whoever I want. No one knows this version of myself. I have so many pieces of clothing in my wardrobe but I rarely wear them. I always wear the same stuff at school. But when I wear makeup I start looking for outfit inspirations, I learn how to style my clothes, I learn about new ways to elevate my posts and I feel more confident meeting people. Because I don’t think about what they see in me because I am feeling my best when I am my alter ego. I just started not caring which, honestly, is the best thing you can do in this toxic world we’re living in.
I believe that you can be super and still be yourself at the same time. There is an inner strength of energy from within ourselves we have not fully learned to tap into exploring. Reach deep within find that energy tap into it and access into your true power. Show the world your higher self instead and seek validation from within not from outside.
Thanks for your vids!
This is actually such a great hack, I study psychology and there are studies proving it. Nevertheless, when I suggest using thst in therapy, everyone is hating on me for talking down mental health struggles etc😢
I just watched this video for the first time. I really liked it. I think it helped me understand that I have at times worked with an Alt, but that it can be very intentional, and in that way you can mod and shape it the way you can visualize it to be. Thanks for the video, and I would be interested in seeing more like this.
This sounds more like a temporary solution to problems. I wouldn't use this technique for the long term. If you're at point A (example: fear of socialising) and you want to get to point B (no fear of socialising) then instead of trying to split yourself from the part that feels fear, you should confront the reason why you feel fear in the first place. There is a reason. Once you confront the root problem (past experience) and let those negative emotions out and process them (instead of stuffing them down) THEN you will automatically start moving to the point B. When you start perceiving your negative emotions as messages instead of things to be avoided, then life will be much easier.
What should i do if the problem is lack of discipline
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You can go many ways about this: 1. Ask yourself what part of yourself does not want to be disciplined. What kind of bad things could happen if you had discipline and were successful? Maybe you don’t want to appear like a fortunate, successful person, bc you’re afraid of being used (being afraid that people would take smth away from you; so you sabotage yourself).
2. Ask yourself: What does being undisciplined make me feel? Possible answer: Not good enough. (What’s so bad about that?)-> feeling worthless. (What does that mean?) I‘m alone. (try to remember when in your past & childhood you felt this way when it comes to achieving anything. How did your parents treat you in terms of school achievement? Focus on that feeling, write & cry about it & let your negative emotions out) 3. Ask yourself what will happen if I’m not disciplined? F.e.: "I’m bad" -> rejected -> alone -> unsafe(Maybe you were punished for lack of discipline as a child) There might be multiple traumas/ negative beliefs that result in your lack of discipline. Once you resolve them, you will automatically become more disciplined (If you‘ll still want to be by then)
@@SeyaLaru for me its that i would die without getting my goals accomplished. While my time on earth is not numbered in days it's not infinite either.
For me it seems to be difficulties not giving in to temptation/avoiding any sort of pain/discomfort
I think you can still do both tbh. Maybe it is a temporary solution, but that's the point. To get you to live the life you want WHILE you work on your long term internal health. For example, I have gotten to a point in my journalling where I am comfortable with my uncomfortable feelings (at least much faster and less triggered than before.) Although creating the space in your mind where you CAN do things like the alter ego can help me stop limiting myself. Using your alter ego to help you move into action can show you EVIDENCE that you CAN do it even if you need the use of an alter ego. It's through real life evidence where you build confidence and be much more internally stronger as well. So yeah its temporary, but that's the end goal.
damn you seem introspective. this is something i lack and so i struggle with understanding myself. whenever i try to analyze myself this way, i come to a dead end/dont know the answer. it really sucks and i think only another person can help me even though id rather do it myself lol
I am usually soft-spoken and doesn't emote much. More so a few years back. I remember having to play a character in a musical who is mean and furious (fierce). My backstage ritual before that scene was to gesticulate putting on a mask (as if I were a shaman now that I think of it). That allowed me to become more explosive. I also noticed that I tried to get into character by yawning as it allowed me to relax and become less focused/disconnected from the present -- something like an induced trance if you may. I construe that I access/express less 'performed' facets of myself with a Shaman approach. Thank you for sharing with me that what I used to do is not only useful but can help me overcome other hurdles I have in my way❤
Thanks Tina! I was not going to comment but then I thought about what would the " person I wish to become" do in this situation?😃😃 I haven't even thought about my alter ego yet! So in a way I can think about the decisions that my alter ego will make for any situation that I am hesitant about! Also going to read this book! Thanks again!!
this actually so cool bc i just made my alter egos with my therapist this week. the names are Navier and Adriana. We hadn't set out to make them it just happened. but it really works! Ive only used it for less than a week and i feel so much better as a person !
i think that should be careful, using an alter-ego a lot could make you lost yourself, and at the end make you feel lost or lonely. relly good video
This is probably the best video and concept I’ve seen for boosting self confidence. Very well done
Thank you so much, Tina! ✨
I've never watched you before but today I did and I have to say... your points make a lot of sense. I'm going to name my alter ego - Celestial Brains. I don't know if that makes sense. I've always had a love for astronomy and just universe in general so "celestial" and "brains" because I want to become extremely smart!
Celestial Brains is a confident yet, silent girl. Her presence exudes confidence and she is highly intimidating. Her voice is very impacting and she is extremely diplomatic. She does not care about anyone. She is intelligent and her vocabulary is way too good. She is always prepared for everything. She is effortlessly perfect. She is an elegant woman who places great importance for her career and money... She is healthy and she has an unapproachable vibe to herself.
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My traits in the ordinary world -
Silent, introvert, calm, slow, no aggression, lazy, fat, just ambitious but not a action taker, consume more n more, reserved, ordinary average person, no talents, analytical thinker, used to be smart. Emotional but at the same time powerless.
The traits I want in my alter ego -
Aggression, risk taker, bold, strong fit and active, speaker, conversationalist, action taker (like how I took action right now to write this), lean and muscular personality, charming, looksmaxxed, with some special skills, not broke, calm and relaxed but knows when to speak, ambitious, fast
I did this last Christmas, only I went in more permanently: I got a tattoo! It is my only tattoo and it constantly reminds me of what I need to be doing instead of all the time I used to waste on video games, netflix, etc. When I know I should be doing something important but don't want to, I look at the tattoo.
I never thought of it this way, but my "alter ego" so to speak is basically my own name shortened to its one-syllable form. Only my closest friends and family call me by my full name, but everyone else only calls me by the shortened version.
On reflection, I definitely feel a sense of vulnerability around ppl who call me by my full name, that doesn't exist quite as much otherwise. I think it has the effect of making me less intimidated by social situations (especially ones involving strangers). There's some holes in that "persona" that I could maybe invest some time into fine-tuning tbh, but it's helped a lot with my social anxiety so far
I absolutely loved the two last videos! It's like a new type on your channel. Also made me realize I've always been doing the alter ego technique at uni without being aware haha
This is excellent - thank You Tina. I created a leadership course using cards and I've been wanting to add a section on the power of alter egos since the course focuses on All the Hats We Wear - thanks Tina - keep up the great work.
I don’t have a name yet but I want to embody a great teacher and speaker . Embody wisdom compassion and insight as well as a good listener.
I have to say this video has really made me feel better and more hopeful. I feel like I've been drowning in the generic, status-quo philosophies such as the likes of "Just be yourself" which I honestly really don't find helpful at all. And I'm sure people have meant well for me, but their words weren't the ones i really wanted to hear, seen as the way I am often doesnt correlate to how i perceive the ideal version of myself to be.
To answer your question though, my baseline is definitely more the quiet reserved type although technically I'm extroverted because I get 'my kicks' being around multiple other people (and right now as I'm pretty socially isolated, my situation has become quite the predicament I feel I have to endure.)
I've always liked to think of myself as the free-spirited type, even the type of individual who might embark on something completely impromptu on a whim. I also long to play music with other people (I play an instrument). It's quite frustrating really because very little of what I perceive about myself correlates my 'current self' but I guess it boils down to a person's willingness (or lack of) to change.
I'm introvert/shy person who loves to be alone I'm that type of person that going to class just to sleep and draw i can't talk someone easily and i can't recite or present in front of many people i always feel like i can't do anything i have low self esteem i always think that Its too awkward i always think that there's something wrong with me or what I'm doing but i think there's a different type of me because sometimes I'm too excited when there's a presentation and sometimes I'm not shy talking to anyone even on strangers i think i can do anything maybe i just need some space to relax or think because its easy for me to get pressured i really love the feeling that i can do anything without minding what anyone says, I don't think its alter ego effect because I'm still shy on that state but I'm not afraid of anything and i prefer to be thrilled
I can see so much difference in Tina and Alt-Tina's face 😍 I see so much confidence in Alt-Tina's face 🤌🏻✨️
I thought i was delusional, or too dramaic to have a alter ego, *well before watching this video i didn even know how to name this "action" of mine*. But now ik many sucessful people have one and they are at the top because of it! Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart Tina. Thank you.
So what insipired me to create my own alter ego was, well is: My fake scenarios! My actual delusions, yes! My own fantasies of the movies and dramas ive watched and wanted to become a specific character, a brave and challanging person yet kind. A cold but warm from inside persona. An actual intelectual person, as i am deep inside a FUCKING people pleaser, someone FUCKING dependent of others, Someone FUCKING shy. But thanks to this persona of mine, i am able to do my oral presenations, my speeches as i'm a law student. I'm able to debate, and be confident as i know i can make it to the end, because I KNOW I PLANNED MY STORY, i know i planned where Navy *my alter lmao* wants to be and end my story, wich is my graduation.
Ps: at one point i thought i kinda developed DID *God forbid* LMAO🤣
Why are you being me? Like we are exactly the same but one thing I've just completed my law degree. Keep up with that alter ego.
i... this actually describes my situation kinda. i also did think i developed DID like last. i too am such a ppl pleaser and i always want to seem approachable and kind and "love to make friends and want to be friends with everyone". But honestly, i just don't like people, i'd rather have 0 friends and sometimes i wish nobody knew me. i honestly feel like two people stuck inside 1 body ;w;
I found it interesting that your alter ego is one that's sociable and can give speeches and always leaves an impression, and that you are an introverted, calm and organized person at the same time. My situation is the exact opposite! I'm very sociable, I can talk to anyone, I'm witty, I express myself the way I want, and so on. But I am like wind, I'm extremely messy and my routine is chaotic and even though I am creative I rarely have the discipline to progress with my artwork, or any work in general. I have always dreamed of being a more reserved, quiet, calm individual, having some time alone with myself and truly enjoying it, and working on art and crafts. People want what they lack, and I think having the best of both worlds is truly the "full potential", but as I am very prone to DPD, I would be very careful with that! There has to be a way for me to find balance so that the alter ego doesn't take over lmao. Lately I have already been feeling that all my progress isn't done by me, but by "her". I think it's a complex topic centered around the self and self esteem, and I appreciate your detailed take on this topic.
Something clicked for me when you described effect of the totem like a lab coat
Jews wear a small tallis with fringes as undershirts to remind us of the 613 mitzvos of the extraordinary world, the world of holiness connected to the source of goodness, light, and truth
The traits of the ordinary world I have are anxious, confused, aimless. But when I read prayers and chant with the few tunes I know then I feel bold, open, kind, and strong. So my main is Yitzy Kantor representing laughter (yitzhak) and singing (cantor)
I love this so much I been working on my alter ego for a while and this video gave me a direction
I am the "alt-tina" I am extroverted, I talk a lot, and love meeting new people but I am trying to be the "tina" who's organized, responsible, and doesn't procastine which is the opposite of me, I hope using this video I'll become the "tina" when needed 🤞
Thank you for making this video. I’m going to try this apporach starting tomorrow and will report back this time 2024 ✌️
please stop saying that being an introvert is a bad thing you can be introvert and public speaker or a leader , being introvert means that you feel more happy and regain your energy when you are alone .
Yes i am introvert my circle is small but i am not insecure i love my body and i can talk with alot of people and public speaking and ect i am not shy or shameful of any thing the only thing is i am calmer and i don't let anyone in my circle easily.
I think ppl think social anxiety and insecurities= introverted.
Your video essay actually made me realize I have tapped into my alter ego for more than a year now when I created my supposedly dump account dedicated to the things I would never post on my main social media accnt like political memes, music preference, and my poems and short essays. Now I have an online community with the same interests as I have in that account and I actually got to meet them on music gigs. I still keep my main accnt hidden from them and vice versa. Only my sister and my best of besties know abt it. Only two people in my life haha. Surprisingly enough, my name for that is from a literary piece whose character is a corrupt friar priest because the name sound silly for me. Anyway, I like your content!
My alter ego is Aire. She's just so done with all the heaviness that Arielle has had to shoulder throughout her 29 years on this planet, and she just want to be light. ✨💖🌬️
My alter-ego is Travel/Concert Me. So of course I love traveling because I'm not my usual homebody but instead constantly out and about. Meeting people and trying things
Thank you for this video. I have just realized that a role I jokingly take on at work or FOR for other people (when I go with my sister to her many doctors appointments where they often try to just blow her off with whatever prescription instead of thinking and listening) is a role I can take on for myself. I am normally an easygoing introvert, but I am really good at being a very polite and very verbally precise “bulldog”.
Wait... After this video I realized. I too had an alter ego kind of. Growing up I was introverted so I always used to imagine this version of me that was popular, confident, had lots of friends. And you know back in teenage days, how having a guy best friend was like the epitome of popularity. So I always used to imagine this version of me and fast forward to now. I am actually all of these things now. I never gave it a thought but well turns out it does work.
Need more video on pursuing and mastering data science after bachelors ❤
I hadn't realised for a very, very long time that since i was a teeny little kid, that i had an alter ego already that i would use in speeches, events, meeting new people, and being productive when i usually felt like procastinating or whatever.
i don’t wanna lose this but ideally i would like to be more:
- assertive
- confident
- communicative
- strong in my own body
- energized
- emphathtic
so far i know that wear jewelery like earrings could help bring it out-
i do know i embody these traits but i know that this alter ego affect could amplify to new stakes
also being knowledgeable is also very important here
This is such a cool way to look at what's always available to us - everything! The fact that we can be whoever we choose to be whenever we want to be! But for most of us, our conscious minds aren't able to accept the possibility of such potential, and so it's probably easier for it to create something that's not "true," because that it can chew on - oh it's not *really* me! But whoa, hello, it IS! As Marianne Williamson rightly said, "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure."
THANK YOU so much!
This helped me a lot! I was using this kind of effect/attitude already years ago, but since you were explaining it in detail, it made me feel even better about it. I try to focus on my alter ego from now on more!
My alter ego is Nostalgia. Her name is Nostalgia because I want others to feel like they've met her before, someone who makes them feel safe and okay to be around. She's always existed but instead of embodying her, I've always seen her as someone I will become in the future. I remember I went bowling with some old friends about 2 months ago and I put my name as 'Nostalgia', when the names popped up on the screen one of them proceeded to ask "Who's Nostalgia?" and I proudly said "Me" with a smile :) I never thought of embodying her as this alter ego that shows up as her best self in my everyday world but this video changed my entire perspective. Thanks for showing me that Nostalgia deserves to be seen Tina, you just gained a new supporter!🤎
The idea of craft a alter ego is intriguing to me... I did that in some moments of my life (mainly when managing public speaking in college) but I never thought about it in a structured way and in fact had some fear that could generate somekind of split personality. Maybe I need to give it a try again. Thank You Tina!
Always glad to see Tina 🙏🏽
I'll implement this. You put my shadow thoughts of many years into a crystal clear video.
my alter ego has always been a fictional character that i created. It started off as a character in a story and then i realised how much i wanted to be her. now i am her
Thanks for making this inspiring video! Definitely need to learn to tap into this alter ego to start my channel
mine would be a person that i met in high school , that person was perfect to me , everything she does everything she said was so pleasing to me , she was funny , confident , hard working and i worshiped her .. i think im gonna use her as my alter ego
I’m so glad I came across your video. Thanks! Now… it’s time for me to come up with my alter ego 😎
When I was in preschool, I was scared of shadows. To overcome my fear I created „Schattia“, she was my own shadow and I created a story, that all humans would hide as a shadow and would use their human form to talk to people. After watching this video I found out that I basically created a alter ego and it helped me overcome my fear of shadows and I used Schattia for a long time. She was the other side of me, my shadow. She was always with me, and when I didn’t know what to do, we would switch our forms. I hope something like this is relatable, cuz it’s hard to explain. But then I created in middle school another 5 alter egos and I found my notes of them, so with watching this video I want to get them back to life and optimise them
Can we talk about the thumbnail!? 😍😍 amazing!
why tyty! It took me forever haha because midjourney doesn't seem to know how to make asian faces lol
I became more confident when I wear different types of makeup hehe and when I'm without any makeup I feel myself so simple and shy
I’ve been doing this since I started becoming a performer! Crazy how I thought about this yesterday and how powerful it is and then this video finds me❤
Thanks for summarizing the alter ego effect book. I've been reading through the book but haven't got the time to finish it :D
Finish it just like mortal Kombat
I needed this. Only 'i' can help myself in the end.
In hypnosis, there is an exercise where the patient is led to begin to imagine their animal self, based on the characteristics the patient is struggling to experience, or only gets to experience very infrequently (those that they are lacking or those they wish they had more of, or those that are lacking in them that are holding them back somehow). I had a patient who was very meek and mild and yes, was pretty much a people pleaser and a door mat. That was how she was raised to believe that women should behave. Under hypnosis, she decided that her animal self was the Mama Bear (she was also a mom, which made this a little easier to embody). Under hypnosis, she named the characteristics she possessed as a Mama Bear: fierce, strong, unflinching, afraid of nothing, showing all of her strength if needed, allowing no one to tell her or treat with anything less than respect. This was essentially her alter ego, conceptualized just in a different way.
Her transformation was amazing and almost immediate. Her upbringing convinced her that she could/ should never think of herself in a “Mama Bear” way, but when she was her animal self, that WAS exactly who she was and how she thought of herself. As her psychologist, it still makes me tear up because during one of our last sessions she told me how much this one little, 20 minute hypnosis session had changed her life, the way she looked at herself, the way she treated herself, and ultimately, how other people began to treat her. For a vast majority of people it can be truly life changing.
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There's also third person mode that I always forgot to tap into😂 but basically, you're not you but rather the character that you're controlling with some sort of joysticks😂. So you don't really "live" with your feeling but rather take it as a "feedback" to decide what to do next
This honestly makes some things make more sense to me
At home alone i'm addicted to my phone and can never get shit done and i'm highly unstructured and don't really care abt talking to people at all. But the moment i go outside, things just work for me. I'm driven, confident, very socially successful etc. Kinda sucks that this outdoor alter ego is clearly just straight up better than the indoor alone one tho. Would be kinda cool to be able to completely eliminate the bad one
I experienced a weird thing. I struggle with food. I overeat, eat shitty processed food and stuff. But one summer day I went to my hometown, to my grandma and for some reason I wasn't hungry at all. She went through hunger because of the war, she literally ate grass and yeah it was very difficult for her and feeding us, her children was very important for her. And I came to her and refused to eat. I didn't want to. At all. She was mad at me and we got into the argument because of it. It was a drama really. And this is so weird that I didn't want to eat much enough to get into the situation I would not choose to get into and on my everyday life I eat a lot. I came home and my overeating continued.
@@annastasia.1 oof my grandparents are the same (europe gang ig lol). Food has never been a struggle to me. Being hungry is just smn u get kinda used to n i have no problem w that feeling. But ig we all have different things we struggle to stop doing rly
Excellent video, i love how you ellaborated on this subject from your newsletter of the other day as it was really interesting, i'd love to hear more subjects surrounding human psychology and behaviour and how to implement it in ones advantage either personally or in business and product design, keep the good work girl!
I love the way you talk. Thank you for sharing this great thing. 💙
My alter ego is just me when I’m manic 😭
Thank you for this video! It helped me heaps 🙏❤️
As a aspiring performance artist/actor. . .I actually have 2 alter egos. They're both used in different circumstances. I'm already very extroverted and a loud-mouth. But, I did need confidence on camera & acting in different situations... So, how I got into character was creating this alter ego, Demonique. She oozed confidence! It's a fun character to play when I need a confidence boost!
I'm almost 60... mom, married, now retired, kind of getting used to that transition; but when i wear my kick-butt biker boots, I feel strong and... invincible, so I choose them several times a week. If you're buying, make sure they are a big YAAASSS, and stride through your day like a bada$$.
thank you for this advise, i have always suppressed who i really am because of having to be nice at my 9 to 5 customer service job and feeling like my family will judge me for who i want to be. as for the barbie movie, that was wierd, funny, goofy, and chaotic all at the same time. lol
Super Skills: speak in front of 5000+ people and convey an articulate message, masterfully manage a billion $ company, and find peace in any situation. Will work on the alter ego name. Thank you! Keep up the inspiring work!
I started an Alter-Ego named Solonze, to make me more out there, less scared, and more extroverted. I started by opening up Notion and finding a name, then I went on to Pintrest and starting making a board... What Solonze would wear, act like, and goals. Im still working on it, but the hope is to become a more confident, funnier version of myself!
AYYYE! The A.I. pics came out pretty good! Love the video, this is something I'll be watching a few more times too.
omg it took me foreverrrr but at least it looks asian?
@@TinaHuang1 I prefer the real Tina!
After this video I was thinking about what the object to unlock my alter ego could be... i thought about a lip balm that I have, which colors my lips (and cheeks) through ph reaction, so a quite natural effect. For me that i don't normally wear make up it's a nice compromise, not too far from me, but still spicing things up and easy...like you dressing white instead of black. (I dress all black too lol)
So, I put on that lip balm and I was thinking... "what my alter ego name could be?". I look at the lipstick and read the name: "Rockstar". I smile 'cause a big dream of mine is to be... a singer. Very fitting. I don't know if it's the right alter ego for me because I don't want to embody the common rockstar vibes, but the coincidence made me smile ❤ I could be my version of a Rockstar though 😌
As someone who struggles with their gender identity, the idea of this actually hits really close to home. I have this idea in my head for the person I would love to become, but I feel so distant from that person at the same time and I struggle with feeling like I will ever become them. I technically even have a name picked out already for this hypothetical person I wish I was, it's not very different than my own nickname I use online, but it's still distinct in its own way (especially because it actually comes from someone from a story who resonated with me super well)
Why would you struggle with your gender It's not that hard tbh. Just be you, but don't add nonsense to it.
exactly, people always like to overcomplicate things.@@ZAND4TSU
@@ZAND4TSUMan how about you mind the business that pays you
@@user-dm8vc9rt1e the business that pays me? Dude, how bout you learn to type with more sense?
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Amdire your brevery and ability to speak so open about yourself