When I was born, my Birth Mother was told to go on with her life and forget me. Just act like it never happened. It was thought to be the best way for the girls and women giving up their children to look at it. I was lucky, my Birth Mom was waiting for me as were my two younger sisters. Some girls were so emotionally hurt by the process they never mentioned it again and never told their husbands or the children they eventually had. That happened to a friend of mine who found her Birth Mother. The woman met with her once but told her not to do it again because she was still afraid that her husband would not love her.
I was adopted also, but have always felt like a burden on them. I searched my entire life for my birth parents only to find that my mother passed away in ‘99 and there is no father mentioned on birth certificate. I wish I could know the medical history for my children’s sake.
I am not an adoptee, I was raised by my biological parents, and had a decent upbringing. That being said, I think it’s entirely natural for adopted children to want to know about their birth families. The late Florence Fisher’s book “The Search for Anna Fisher” had an influence on me.
So glad you have a wonder adoptive family. We never know the circumstances that may lead to a child being born-rape, incest, abuse. I grew up with a girl who went on a date and was date raped and she was informed by an attorney that if she kept the baby, he could go after visitation and she would have to see him the rest of her life. She gave up the baby to protect herself and the baby. This was in the 1980's.
I was adopted too. I also gave a child up for adoption. I can not imagine anyone saying no to their child over this. Sometimes just even a medical history! I met my birth daughter. I have not met my birth parents. I am fine with that though.
Typical A-mom. Pointing out to adopted daughter that it could hurt OTHER people if birth mother shared with her family that she had given up a child for adoption. All while her adopted daughter is sitting there, crying and hurting because birth mother has rejected her a second time. Typical reaction of anyone who isn't adopted. 😡😡😡
@@monikaw1369 Can't presume to know how adopted people feel, if you were in fact not adopted and grew up surrounded by biological parents and extended family. No secrets about your origins. Also, adoptive parents can be just as imperfect as biological ones, and unfortunately abuse isn't rare.
@@monikaw1369 This is the 21st century. After decades of lies mostly imposed by agencies, many reunited families find that they are able to include and love relatives lost to adoption. Like everything, people are imperfect, and everyone's story unfolds differently.
These are adults, not children. They have a right to know their history, or to not know it. They're capable of making that decision. The state should not withold vital information
how can you suggest taking that away from another human? its not the child's fault. Every time i go to the doctor i am reminded that i have zero family medical history and my children have to live with that too. When they are asked about medical history on their mom's side. They have nothing.
@@tbernstein because my dear friend was R and I would never want her to go through having the reminder and product show up at her door or contact her. I am saying if R let the mother be able to say the records aren't released elswise release the records
Sending prayers to those looking for their birth parents. ❤
When I was born, my Birth Mother was told to go on with her life and forget me. Just act like it never happened. It was thought to be the best way for the girls and women giving up their children to look at it. I was lucky, my Birth Mom was waiting for me as were my two younger sisters. Some girls were so emotionally hurt by the process they never mentioned it again and never told their husbands or the children they eventually had. That happened to a friend of mine who found her Birth Mother. The woman met with her once but told her not to do it again because she was still afraid that her husband would not love her.
I was adopted also, but have always felt like a burden on them. I searched my entire life for my birth parents only to find that my mother passed away in ‘99 and there is no father mentioned on birth certificate. I wish I could know the medical history for my children’s sake.
Have you heard of dna angels? They'll help find your bio family.
I am not an adoptee, I was raised by my biological parents, and had a decent upbringing. That being said, I think it’s entirely natural for adopted children to want to know about their birth families. The late Florence Fisher’s book “The Search for Anna Fisher” had an influence on me.
So glad you have a wonder adoptive family. We never know the circumstances that may lead to a child being born-rape, incest, abuse. I grew up with a girl who went on a date and was date raped and she was informed by an attorney that if she kept the baby, he could go after visitation and she would have to see him the rest of her life. She gave up the baby to protect herself and the baby. This was in the 1980's.
Heartbreaking!
I literally cried. Nice story.
I was adopted too. I also gave a child up for adoption. I can not imagine anyone saying no to their child over this. Sometimes just even a medical history! I met my birth daughter. I have not met my birth parents. I am fine with that though.
Typical A-mom. Pointing out to adopted daughter that it could hurt OTHER people if birth mother shared with her family that she had given up a child for adoption. All while her adopted daughter is sitting there, crying and hurting because birth mother has rejected her a second time. Typical reaction of anyone who isn't adopted. 😡😡😡
Was the contact form recent or at thet ime she was given up/ Situations change. People change. Blessings to all concerned. J Sucb a hard decision.
Curious! I would not want to know I was adopted, just loved by my new parents.
thats not how it works. its a gut feeling, its a not quite fitting in. its not looking like anyone in your family until you have kids.
@@monikaw1369 Can't presume to know how adopted people feel, if you were in fact not adopted and grew up surrounded by biological parents and extended family. No secrets about your origins. Also, adoptive parents can be just as imperfect as biological ones, and unfortunately abuse isn't rare.
How would that affect the family when they find out that their mother gave up a baby? BTW: I have no children,
@@monikaw1369 This is the 21st century. After decades of lies mostly imposed by agencies, many reunited families find that they are able to include and love relatives lost to adoption. Like everything, people are imperfect, and everyone's story unfolds differently.
So sad. Must have been a rape or something really bad. Sad for both of them
Well shoot now I’m crying. Thank you to the parents who chose life and to give up their child for adoption.
Should not be able to get the records if the baby was a result of R
These are adults, not children. They have a right to know their history, or to not know it. They're capable of making that decision. The state should not withold vital information
how can you suggest taking that away from another human? its not the child's fault. Every time i go to the doctor i am reminded that i have zero family medical history and my children have to live with that too. When they are asked about medical history on their mom's side. They have nothing.
@@tbernstein because my dear friend was R and I would never want her to go through having the reminder and product show up at her door or contact her. I am saying if R let the mother be able to say the records aren't released elswise release the records