@@lizadoesray ... MAYBE, BUT- If you think about it, as I'd think HE has by now, this man obviously couldn't have kids! I'd think that once that hit him he was tickled purple that he had raised 2 boys who loved him so much- who were such a precious GIFT to HIM- Forget HOW he got that opportunity! I didn't hear the least hint of bitterness in his voice OR his words. I think he's a very wise & decent man.
It really bothers me when people say so and so is her “real” parent when they mean “biological” parent. The one who’s bringing them up is REAL, just not biological. We’ve got to stop using that term.
expatstef but for that person it wasn’t their choice to be raised by particular person. maybe child would have wanted to be with the othepne? if it wasn’t by choice neither is real. but a biological one and adoptive parent. real is what child thinks and feels about them
@@AUGUSTALLEN28 you are right tdd in my eyes .... the guilt of the young woman was most likely a crucible then there is a chance she was forced or impregnated by someone a lot older
Yep! My grandpa isn’t biologically related to me but he’s closer to me by a million times than my other biological grandpa was. I never even think about it. My life would have actually been so much worse if I’d had my biological grandpa instead of him. I can’t even imagine it.
The second man is an awesome dad and he has two wonderful sons. I’m glad he told this story because now everyone who knows them knows what they did. If the boss is married now his wife and other children know.
100% evil What a disgusting human being. I'm assuming that her eldest son hasn't forgiven her? Since they made a point of Ryan's reconciliation with her? Either way, she really doesn't deserve anyone's forgiveness... How could you play with lives like that?! Absolutely sickening to watch
@Grace Munich it is evil to allow a man to raise a child that you know may not be his and not tell him. And to not tell your child the truth of their paternity. Those secrets hurt much more when they come to light when the child is older. What she did was a very wrong and vile thing to her husband and her child.
The mother in the first story did the right thing for herself and her daughter, and I commend her husband for adopting the daughter. And I feel sorry for the mother who, as a 16 year old, understandably did not know the best decisions to make. I am not sure how old the lifeguard was, but he may have been immature. It is interesting that he apparently never got married. Even though he became a minister, maybe he never really grew up. And I will also throw this in. I hope that we never go back to being a society where we hide girls away and force them to have children in secret in order to preserve a family's sense of honor. And I hope we always remain a society where people forgive instead of condemn people for their youthful mistakes. The mother picked a kind and honorable man to be her husband and her daughter's father.
This should be a lesson to everyone.. Secrets NEVER stay “Secret”!!! Nothing good comes from lying, no matter what!! It’s not always easy to tell the truth, but it is always the best thing to do, NO MATTER WHAT!!
We've seen it countless times. Families and lives get ripped apart just because someone "was just waiting for the right time," or "didn't know how to tell". It's very sad because more damage is done when one "waits" and it comes out in unexpected ways. Also, it can't be nice, just not knowing when the "secret" will reveal itself.
Our daughter, who we adopted in her infancy, had some assistance with her bio family search. She reached out to a woman who she thought might be her half-sister. Sure enough DNA verified and our daughter is now very close to her older half-sister and is building relationships with 2 half-brothers. Our family is growing. I can't wait to meet them. I have been building a long distance "BONUS MOM" relationship with the sister. On the other hand, my cousin recently discovered her father was not her birth-father. That is tough to handle when you are past 70 years old. DNA really does open squeaky scary doors.
My daughter bought her dad a dna test for father's day. It came back and he said I don't know who any of these people are. Turns out his bio mom gave him away at birth. His parents weren't related by blood. He was 75 years old when this happened. Talk about a shock
Oh my Lord. How AWFUL! I have told my children NOT to EVER buy me a DNA kit as I wouldn't use it. I advised them, they're all adults, NOT TO also. See I KNOW they're are skeletons in the closet and my dad is 80 now and may pass soon. My mothers been gone for 17 years, cancer, but my grandparents told me of catching my father in an "intimate embrace" when he was with my mother and I don't know definitely if kin were created that I'm not aware of. There's other stuff too but I won't share it. Sometimes it's best to let bygones be bygones. But your poor Pa! And his adoptive parents NEVER said a thing! I have to say I wonder if his birth mother or both biological parents wondered what happened to their son. That would have been the war years when your daughters dad was conceived. Maybe a young woman listened to the vacant promises of a man in uniform who then left her with a "parting gift" Makes me feel sad all round for y'all!
@@ASartori86 the good side is that he found 6 1/2 siblings. Sadly 2 have passed. 2 don't want anything to do with him. But the other 2 just love him. If he would have just found out a few years earlier he could have met his birth mother. She was well into her 90s when she passed
@@ASartori86 it's actually a very interesting and kind of sad story. You are right it was during wwII. My daughter's dad was actually born on D Day June 6 1944. Through the dna and ancestry I was able to find out who his birth parents were. They had both passed away as did the people who raised him. But their were enough people still alive that we were able to build most of his story. His birth parents were married. I guess during the war if you weren't in the war you worked for the war . so both couples not knowing the other ended up in California working at the shipyard in Richmond calif. Both of his bio parents were on their second marriages. His bio mom had 3 children by her first husband. The parents who raised him were unable to have children of their own. The story is and I've never been able to find record of this is that his bio father was in jail or prison the rest if the story has been confirmed. and the bio mom told him that she had had a miscarriage . but that was a lie. She checked into the hospital under the lady who raised him name gave birth and when discharged gave him to that couple . no adoption and the bio father never knew he had a son. His bio parents divorced and she went on to marry several more times and have 2 more children with 2 of those husbands. Many family members on both sides knew the truth. But my ex never knew until last year. We were told by the two 1/2 sisters who were born after he was given away that at each of their births their mom prayed for a boy and was inconsolable when they were born and were girls. So I think yes she thought of him and wanted a boy so badly to make up for giving her sin away. His bio mom passed in 2013. Only a few years ago. He wishes he could have met her.
France recently stopped allowing commercial DNA testing because of this. A year ago I took a DNA test hoping to discover my African roots. I found those out, but I also found out the the dad I've known all my life was not my biological father, and that none of my six siblings were related to me. I go back and forth about my feelings and I wish I has never found out. I have no idea who my biological father is, I didn't have any close matches and have been searching for a year. My mom died when I was 10, my dad died in 2014. He was there when I was born and signed my birth certificate. I am grateful that he apparently never knew. I was a daddy's girl for the 38 years that I had him. While he was my father and I told my siblings that ar 43 I'm too old to start over and they're stuck with me I am still hoping to find out who my biological father is. I feel like I don't know who I am anymore. I had a wonderful stepmother and her family accepted me as one of their own, but not knowing anything about my mother made me feel as if a piece was missing. Knowing my dad and his family made me feel that I was connected. And now I truly feel lost. It was hard for my son also, his cousins are more like his siblings and he also feels the disconnect. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to go through in my life. 8 years ago I was diagnosed with a brain tumor and that was nothing compared to this. Unlike many others I am not angry or bitter about this, just sad. My daddy's ashes are still on my mantel and my son still wears his grandpa's hat and cologne to feel close to him. He was my father. Nothing can erase that. But it hurts to find out the truth
Now you know the biological truth. You are not alone because you are loved by your family whether it was by choice or happenstance. Accept that, thank God for that, and keep loving how you were loved. Love is that unbreakable bond and is stronger than biology. And if you believe in the bible the we are all related one way or another degrees of separation that's all. Best wishes and better health to you.
madree p - The same thing happened to me and I learned the truth at age 58 which was about four years ago. It does make you feel weird and my children don’t understand why I am having a hard time coming to terms with it. I, also, have four half siblings that want nothing to do with me. So, you are not alone.
I'll be like: Mom, dad, I'm about to do an ADN test, is there anything I need to know?... And then stare quietly at them. The first stoy is understandable, not so much the second. Poor dad/children and lady from the first story💔 I'm sending love for all of them💕💕💕
Thanks for sharing that. I agree. I was a frequent sperm donor 40+ years ago (over 6 years, places throughout the country). DNA testing show I could have over 100 biological children. However I don't want to be a parent. Big difference, as you say, so choose to remain anonymous to them.
@Grace Munich true, they may wish to know. I would. But I don't want to know them for they aren't my family. Also, that's a lot of people to suddenly add to my life. Thanks for sharing your thoughts though. 👍🙂
Sperm donors are important too, there lots of laws changing the attitudes towards their identities worldwide, medically it's important, and many children want to find their genetic parents. Sorry the feminist idea of not needed men or children having or knowing their fathers isn't fool proof. In my opinion the science experiment should stop, young men who can't make rational long-term choices are exploited many have admitted to being very young and in need of quick cash, millions of dollars are made off men and women now, children feel the effects that we are just now learning to document and take into account. DNA test are exposing this long shrouded unfair practice. I feel it should stop.
@@RaiRaiBrown with advancement in genetics, yes the policies governing sperm donors should change with it. Times aren't the same back when I was a donor. I still choose to remain anonymous. I donated with that guarantee and will maintain it.
So hard for the daughter in first story. The 2nd story was mind blowing. So grateful the sons still stuck with the dad that raised them. He is thier true dad!
I asked my son if he had committed any crimes before we did our DNA on Ancestry. He assured me he had not. I am exactly who I thought I would be from a DNA perspective, however, I sure am finding out some interesting stories about my ancestors including bigamy, unmarried mothers, living in the poorhouse, times were extremely tough in the late 1800’s and early 1900s.
Ancestry does not share with law enforcement and their testing methods are very different so even if they had your raw data they can't use it. Gedmatch is accessible to law enforcement but you can opt out. I opted in. I've never done anything illegal and while I will always support my child I won't cover for him if he's committed a terrible crime. They're not looking for criminals, they're uploading DNA from unidentified bodies hoping to find out who they are. And if anyone in your family has ever served in the military your DNA is already in the hands of the government
@@madreep hi there, I was just wondering if you could tell me how much it costs to join Ancestry and how much does the DNA testing cost ????? I have been suspicious that my uncle is really my father for many years.
@@lauramata4244 the VA might have destroyed records but the lab at Andover still stores them. They have to for identification purposes. If your head is gone your tags are gone too.
This happened to me when I signed up on Ancestry. I’ve found one brother and met him and he lead me to three other brothers but have not met my biological father. Believe me it’s an unbelievable feeling. I still haven’t rapped my head around all of it yet!!! Wish me luck!!!
Women who intentionally lie about paternity to men ought to be prosecuted to the full extent of the law. Period. It’s a heinous thing to do. It’s life altering to the children and the fathers, and the father’s family. It’s rooted in selfishness. It’s disgusting.
Wow😳 What's done in the dark will come to the light! It would be good if all Fathers have to take a DNA Test before they put their name on the birth certificate so there is no doubt as to who the Father is.
Yeah l don"t know what kind of relationship you have but I have been with the same man for 13 years, No other dicks for me. would have been humiliating a dna test for our 3 children .
Last year i did my own dna ancestry and found alot of things i didnt know. I found White cousins many refuse the results many say they had a feeling about it. It was wonderful i love them they love me
I found out I had a 4th degree African American cousin and sent her a message (polite and inviting) but she never responded back. I wanted to connect but I left her be.
I think that some don't know and others made what they thought was the best choice at the time. My son knows who his father is but I have made other decisions that may or may not have been the best ones for my son. As parents we are responsible for our children and I think that we try to do the best by them. No one could have known years ago that there would be day be commercially available genetic testing that would cause issues when some of us find out secrets that have been kept for so long. I'm not angry with my mom. I have no idea if she suspected that my dad wasn't my biological parent. Both of my parents were heroin addicts and my mother was a prostitute. I'm disappointed to learn the truth but I'm glad that she chose to give me life and a good family who loved me dearly.
I just met my fathers side of the family. I would have never known who my biological father and family are if I hadn't took the Ancestory dna test. Thank God for these home dna testing kits. It helps to bring closure in peoples lives.
I grew up thinking my dad wasn't my bio dad my mother even thought another man named rex who had blue eyes and blonde hair was my bio dad because I was the only one of me and my sisters with light blonde hair and light blue eyes and pale skin, but it turned out my dad was my bio dad.
Totally understand. Same thing happened to me., Did the DNA test, found out at 57 yrs old that the man who raised me is not my biological father. And it explains a lot of arguments between my parents when I was a kid.
Yes, I found out just after turning 40. It explains so much. I think people just know on some level, without really being able to put their finger on what it is exactly that they recognize subconsciously.
I was adopted at birth. I started looking for my birth mother when I turned 18 but the court system did everything they could to put red tape in the way. At 36 I FINALLY found my biological mothers family via the 23 & me DNA test: I found them 7 months after she died of brain cancer. She also believed the wrong man was my father. There is no way my father is the guy she swore to everyone was my father. 0% relation. I may never know who my father is. Red tape kept me from knowing her...even though we had BOTH been trying to be reunited since I turned 18.
I'm really sorry for Anna Marie. Just because her mother was untruthful she never got the chance to meet her biological father. You should not lie about something, that affects another person's life, too. That's a secret that is not yours alone to keep. Children deserve honesty (as gentle and age-appropriate as possible), no matter if we are ashamed or whatever.
I did the DNA test and had really great results. I have 2 half biological sisters in my life now. I am the oldest. We are all related through my Father. We communicate every day.
@@scarrysherry67 . It cost me around $59.00 each. I bought two kits and got another one free from Ancestry.com.. You get a little box with instructions and a little test tube for to put your saliva in. You seal the box they give you. Then you send it back to them. About three weeks later the results come up on Ancestry. Com. It is an awesome experience. Let me know what you find out about you...please.
Breaks my heart that she never got to meet her birth dad 💔 I did ancestry eight years ago. In 2019 a man contacted me as a first cousin. Turns out he was my half brother! My whole life I always felt like I had a brother somewhere. We text almost every day ❤ I finally got my brother and father to talk on the phone. They were both extremely nervous. My father never knew about him. It's sad because a lot of year's have passed. I really hope they can meet in person soon ❤
Omg i cried he loves his sons soo much! I would say that mother should be ashamed of herself, but those boys have the most loving dad. She was maybe trying to make the best decision for those children and I think she did they couldn't be luckier to have a man like that as their father! He's definitely somebody that should be looked up to! God bless you and your family sir you are an outstanding human being!
My friend of over 40 yrs found out she has a brother who's only s few months apart from her. And her parents were married. Turns out her father cheated on her mom. Bet there are thousands these stories
I always tell people that they need to be willing to accept the consequences when they take a DNA test for ancestry reasons. At age 64 I discovered my bio-father and a whole bunch of siblings that had no idea a new brother existed.
Gerry you are a great man. My father raised all girls by himself. At his funeral at 80 years old, my sister spoke about meeting our father. Whispers covered 1/2 of the church. We didn't speak of my sister's father outside the home. I really forget we don't have the same natural father until someone brings it up. You are your son's real dad. Gifts don't raise children.
The right thing to do was tell the truth. Her father who raised her would still be her father, but she could’ve had a relationship with a man who never knew he had a child in the world
The mom was selfish as hell. She wasn't trying to protect her daughter, she was protecting herself. Being a young mother is was no excuse for her decision! Now that daughter has to live with the aftermath of a unrepentant mother. I just hope the daughter forgives the the mother, so this revelation doesn't destroy their relationship.
That was so wrong. She had a right to know the truth. I was in a similar position. My first husband divorced me because I had a girl.. I moved to California and met and married a wonderful man. He was a homicide detective. And he fell in love with my baby. Anyone can father a child but it takes someone really special to be a daddy. We told her about everything. I took her home every summer so she could know her biological father. She didn't like him very well. Today my daughter is 39 and her daddy lives with her and her family. He lost both of his legs to diabetes 2 years ago. And to this day he will always be her dad.
I feel so sorry for Anne Marie's mother. It is still evident she was deeply hurt by her parents when they had sent her away, a pregnant teen, so that she wouldn't be a 'disgrace' to her family, and she has lived with that fear her whole life.
Going up I heard rumors of a half brother but i thought they were just that rumors years later my niece took a DNA test and found I had a half brother. He didn't know that the man who he thought was his dad wasn't.
If anyone who is dealing with DNA surprises, there is a really good support page on fb, called “DNA surprises support group” Very supportive group and lots of people with similar or even the same stories. Never know, maybe you’ll find a sibling that’s been looking for you, happened to a member on there before.
I didn’t find out in this way but a man contacted my mother one day and said he wanted me to do a dna test, I was 21. We did the test and he was my father. He committed suicide 6 months later. My mother was an addict my whole life and told me someone else was my dad. But my bio father had apparently knew about me from the beginning and knew every place I ever lived. He didn’t want to pay for me, so he waited till I was 21.
This has happened in my own family from taking these DNA's. My ex husband just found out he too is not the father from his 1st ex wife. This i am afraid will be destroying a lot of lives.
My dad is adopted and I ALWAYS use the term “biological” father or even call him by his first name because his REAL father and my REAL grandpa is the man that raised my dad with love and who I loved so dearly. You can still learn about where people have come from, but you can also respect who raised and loved that person.
That ex-wife is something else. Had him pay for another mans children. How could she not feel guilt....She not only took away his sons but also his grandchildren....That has to hurt deep....Luckily love doesn’t know us by our blood but by our heArt....
Through Ancestry.com's testing, we found out that 3 of my dad's first cousins were actually half siblings. These were children of my grandmother's brother's wife... to this day, nobody openly talks about it, but now most of the next generation know because you can't hide DNA results. If you're confused as to why something is different than you thought, don't immediately start blaming the DNA testing company... it's almost always something other than a bad DNA test. The sad part is that my dad had a half sister & she would've been the only blood-related aunt that I have on either side of the family, but I never got to know here as she passed away already.
My half sister was my other (full) sister's sister in law for 10 years. No one knew. (They had both married brothers of the same family). My dad had the affair. The truth came out when my half sister's mother was going to die. My 90 year old mom (who was the one cheated on-my dad long since passed on) threw a party for my new sister . She said "Well, it wasn't her fault!".
I'm confused, on her bio fathers tombstone says, "Father and Son", but they said he never knew he had a her and he never got married. So did he have known other children? What 'moms' 'boss' and the mom did is despicable. She screws around for years and lays the responsibilities of raising the useless mans kids gets off scott free. Bio dad is pathetic as is the mom. The betrayed 'real' dad is a real man.
Truth Seeker the second one is... the first baby was 😒 then they said the second 😨 the had to be with him at least 6 years and her boss n close friend.
What I'm interested to know is did the cop know..... all along? I can't imagine keeping these kinds of secrets, but some people don't seem to mind, and would take it to their graves, if they weren't busted in this way.
It sounds like the mom and the "family friend" definitely knew all along. Not surprised that the mom was already the dad's ex-wife! It's one thing to not know for sure and be afraid to find out. It's another thing to actually know for sure for that long.
Moral of the story is, if your teen daughter gets pregnant for any reason, you LOVE HER and help her deal with it and don’t worry about your dumb social status!! Prove you are morally superior by telling the neighbors to stuff it!!
My long lost sister found out about my dad when she was 28. I met her when she was 29; I was 22. We all tried to welcome her, but her fantasy didn't match who we are. She rejected my dad. I hear from her from time to time, but she is only a bio-sister--not family. It's her loss.
The second story broke my heart. That poor man. I'm so mad at his ex wife. Like how can you do that?
Twice too what sick woman
She’s a woman. It’s to be expected
What a bitch
I am devastated for the second man Gerry. Still has two devoted sons though.
Molly Colly Such a cruel thing to do.
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@@lizadoesray ... MAYBE, BUT- If you think about it, as I'd think HE has by now, this man obviously couldn't have kids! I'd think that once that hit him he was tickled purple that he had raised 2 boys who loved him so much- who were such a precious GIFT to HIM-
Forget HOW he got that opportunity!
I didn't hear the least hint of bitterness in his voice OR his words. I think he's a very wise & decent man.
Fuck these hoes man
Poor man 😢
That second story was heartbreaking.
Maurice Dorsey
WHY? His son's love HIM not the sperm donor
Barbara Vick You will never understand.
It really bothers me when people say so and so is her “real” parent when they mean “biological” parent. The one who’s bringing them up is REAL, just not biological. We’ve got to stop using that term.
expatstef unless the father thought it was his biological father and was robbed also
expatstef but for that person it wasn’t their choice to be raised by particular person. maybe child would have wanted to be with the othepne? if it wasn’t by choice neither is real. but a biological one and adoptive parent. real is what child thinks and feels about them
ye fr they can't be real parents
We've got to stop lying to our children, first.
Amen.
I say "father" for my birth father (abusive sociopath).
My Dad is my hero. He married my mom when I was 10.
He is my real Dad.❤
What a nice father. A father every person would love to have.
For the betterment of those two boys, it worked out for the best.
“DNA is truth serum. And the truth WILL come out.” - Gerry. Truer words were never spoken, sir.
MAURY is
These kinds of secrets make no sense. Parents playing games with their childrens lives.
AUGUSTALLEN28 selfish people
The problems was the grandparents that sent their daughter away ....
Society was much different back then .... nowadays nevernind.... north worth arguing about
@@anniesue4456 I don't want to sound cold or anything. I understand it was a different time. Both parties deserve some sympathy and compassion.
@@AUGUSTALLEN28 you are right tdd in my eyes .... the guilt of the young woman was most likely a crucible then there is a chance she was forced or impregnated by someone a lot older
Stop saying *real* father!!!!! The proper and appropriate wording is *biological* father. The real father is the one who raised and loved the child
Mississauga Foodie exactly! that man adopted her treated her as his own. what an ungrateful woman. some kids don’t have a father figure at all.
Yes!!!
Yep! My grandpa isn’t biologically related to me but he’s closer to me by a million times than my other biological grandpa was. I never even think about it. My life would have actually been so much worse if I’d had my biological grandpa instead of him. I can’t even imagine it.
YES!!
Doesn't matter who raised you, your real parents are your biological one.
Honestly... would love to “talk” to the wife of the second story.🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Kia'Mara Williams
she surely needs her damn neck..... nevermind 😒😩
Sue her for EVERY PENNY... just to teach a lesson.
Me too. I got really angry
Kia'Mara Williams Me too.
Kia'Mara Williams you and me both!!
Poor guy, my heart broke for you :( But those boys are 100% your boys and they’re lucky to have you xxx
The second man is an awesome dad and he has two wonderful sons. I’m glad he told this story because now everyone who knows them knows what they did. If the boss is married now his wife and other children know.
What a wife!!...😡🤢🤮
Filthy trash
Skank for sure.
Infidelity is terrible. My heart goes out the second family. Too much!!!!!
His ex wife is evil. Like how long was she having this affair
Nah that woman is evil she knew from the beginning.
She is a demon and i wish her all the worst from the bottom of my heart
100% evil
What a disgusting human being.
I'm assuming that her eldest son hasn't forgiven her? Since they made a point of Ryan's reconciliation with her? Either way, she really doesn't deserve anyone's forgiveness... How could you play with lives like that?! Absolutely sickening to watch
@Grace Munich Go drink your Koolaid 🤦♀️
@Grace Munich it is evil to allow a man to raise a child that you know may not be his and not tell him. And to not tell your child the truth of their paternity. Those secrets hurt much more when they come to light when the child is older. What she did was a very wrong and vile thing to her husband and her child.
The mother in the first story did the right thing for herself and her daughter, and I commend her husband for adopting the daughter.
And I feel sorry for the mother who, as a 16 year old, understandably did not know the best decisions to make. I am not sure how old the lifeguard was, but he may have been immature. It is interesting that he apparently never got married. Even though he became a minister, maybe he never really grew up.
And I will also throw this in. I hope that we never go back to being a society where we hide girls away and force them to have children in secret in order to preserve a family's sense of honor. And I hope we always remain a society where people forgive instead of condemn people for their youthful mistakes. The mother picked a kind and honorable man to be her husband and her daughter's father.
I don't understand why people lie about such matters. Why not tell the truth? Much easier on everyone later. Let the child grow up knowing the truth.
Back then the stigma was bad being unwed mother at a young age.
@@elainep1772 I agree. Also following ethical and moral codes of religions make people feel bad for being human.
@@elainep1772 - Too bad. That stigma belonged to the mother. At an appropriate age, the child deserved to know the truth. Everyone does.
nreynolds75243 Times were very different back then.
@@elainep1772 Lots of these stories are about adult women and men who are married and chose to have affairs.
The ex wife has a lot to explain. The "boss" is trash. Just trash.
They were both trash. It takes 2.
Stop being so judge mental... they're human and screwed up BIG-TIME...🙄
Sandra Nelson You can’t really blame the boss. He didn’t break any wedding vows. The wife did.
Sandra Nelson they're both trash.
@@MoeReeseWins yeah, he didn't break a vow, just a commandment.
This should be a lesson to everyone.. Secrets NEVER stay “Secret”!!! Nothing good comes from lying, no matter what!! It’s not always easy to tell the truth, but it is always the best thing to do, NO MATTER WHAT!!
We've seen it countless times. Families and lives get ripped apart just because someone "was just waiting for the right time," or "didn't know how to tell". It's very sad because more damage is done when one "waits" and it comes out in unexpected ways. Also, it can't be nice, just not knowing when the "secret" will reveal itself.
Our daughter, who we adopted in her infancy, had some assistance with her bio family search. She reached out to a woman who she thought might be her half-sister. Sure enough DNA verified and our daughter is now very close to her older half-sister and is building relationships with 2 half-brothers. Our family is growing. I can't wait to meet them. I have been building a long distance "BONUS MOM" relationship with the sister. On the other hand, my cousin recently discovered her father was not her birth-father. That is tough to handle when you are past 70 years old. DNA really does open squeaky scary doors.
This is why they warn you before you send in the test, that you may find out things you don’t want to know and can’t un-know.
"Love you more than anything Dad"......that choked me up!!!!....
My daughter bought her dad a dna test for father's day. It came back and he said I don't know who any of these people are. Turns out his bio mom gave him away at birth. His parents weren't related by blood. He was 75 years old when this happened. Talk about a shock
Oh my Lord. How AWFUL! I have told my children NOT to EVER buy me a DNA kit as I wouldn't use it. I advised them, they're all adults, NOT TO also. See I KNOW they're are skeletons in the closet and my dad is 80 now and may pass soon. My mothers been gone for 17 years, cancer, but my grandparents told me of catching my father in an "intimate embrace" when he was with my mother and I don't know definitely if kin were created that I'm not aware of. There's other stuff too but I won't share it. Sometimes it's best to let bygones be bygones. But your poor Pa! And his adoptive parents NEVER said a thing! I have to say I wonder if his birth mother or both biological parents wondered what happened to their son. That would have been the war years when your daughters dad was conceived. Maybe a young woman listened to the vacant promises of a man in uniform who then left her with a "parting gift" Makes me feel sad all round for y'all!
@@ASartori86 the good side is that he found 6 1/2 siblings. Sadly 2 have passed. 2 don't want anything to do with him. But the other 2 just love him. If he would have just found out a few years earlier he could have met his birth mother. She was well into her 90s when she passed
@@ASartori86 it's actually a very interesting and kind of sad story. You are right it was during wwII. My daughter's dad was actually born on D Day June 6 1944. Through the dna and ancestry I was able to find out who his birth parents were. They had both passed away as did the people who raised him. But their were enough people still alive that we were able to build most of his story. His birth parents were married. I guess during the war if you weren't in the war you worked for the war . so both couples not knowing the other ended up in California working at the shipyard in Richmond calif. Both of his bio parents were on their second marriages. His bio mom had 3 children by her first husband. The parents who raised him were unable to have children of their own. The story is and I've never been able to find record of this is that his bio father was in jail or prison the rest if the story has been confirmed. and the bio mom told him that she had had a miscarriage . but that was a lie. She checked into the hospital under the lady who raised him name gave birth and when discharged gave him to that couple . no adoption and the bio father never knew he had a son. His bio parents divorced and she went on to marry several more times and have 2 more children with 2 of those husbands. Many family members on both sides knew the truth. But my ex never knew until last year. We were told by the two 1/2 sisters who were born after he was given away that at each of their births their mom prayed for a boy and was inconsolable when they were born and were girls. So I think yes she thought of him and wanted a boy so badly to make up for giving her sin away. His bio mom passed in 2013. Only a few years ago. He wishes he could have met her.
of course his parents weren't related by blood!!!!
France recently stopped allowing commercial DNA testing because of this. A year ago I took a DNA test hoping to discover my African roots. I found those out, but I also found out the the dad I've known all my life was not my biological father, and that none of my six siblings were related to me. I go back and forth about my feelings and I wish I has never found out. I have no idea who my biological father is, I didn't have any close matches and have been searching for a year. My mom died when I was 10, my dad died in 2014. He was there when I was born and signed my birth certificate. I am grateful that he apparently never knew. I was a daddy's girl for the 38 years that I had him. While he was my father and I told my siblings that ar 43 I'm too old to start over and they're stuck with me I am still hoping to find out who my biological father is. I feel like I don't know who I am anymore. I had a wonderful stepmother and her family accepted me as one of their own, but not knowing anything about my mother made me feel as if a piece was missing. Knowing my dad and his family made me feel that I was connected. And now I truly feel lost. It was hard for my son also, his cousins are more like his siblings and he also feels the disconnect. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to go through in my life. 8 years ago I was diagnosed with a brain tumor and that was nothing compared to this. Unlike many others I am not angry or bitter about this, just sad. My daddy's ashes are still on my mantel and my son still wears his grandpa's hat and cologne to feel close to him. He was my father. Nothing can erase that. But it hurts to find out the truth
Now you know the biological truth. You are not alone because you are loved by your family whether it was by choice or happenstance. Accept that, thank God for that, and keep loving how you were loved. Love is that unbreakable bond and is stronger than biology. And if you believe in the bible the we are all related one way or another degrees of separation that's all. Best wishes and better health to you.
madree p - The same thing happened to me and I learned the truth at age 58 which was about four years ago. It does make you feel weird and my children don’t understand why I am having a hard time coming to terms with it. I, also, have four half siblings that want nothing to do with me. So, you are not alone.
Why would a country prevent a free individual from figuring out who they are? That’s scary
Are your siblings half or not related at all?
@@oomma5 not related at all 😭 they were half siblings before I took the test. I was my biological mother's only child.
I'll be like: Mom, dad, I'm about to do an ADN test, is there anything I need to know?... And then stare quietly at them. The first stoy is understandable, not so much the second. Poor dad/children and lady from the first story💔 I'm sending love for all of them💕💕💕
This is the kind of thing that shows extreme disrespect for your partners and your children. A sperm donor is not a parent. A parent sticks around.
Thanks for sharing that. I agree. I was a frequent sperm donor 40+ years ago (over 6 years, places throughout the country). DNA testing show I could have over 100 biological children. However I don't want to be a parent. Big difference, as you say, so choose to remain anonymous to them.
@Grace Munich true, they may wish to know. I would. But I don't want to know them for they aren't my family. Also, that's a lot of people to suddenly add to my life. Thanks for sharing your thoughts though. 👍🙂
Sperm donors are important too, there lots of laws changing the attitudes towards their identities worldwide, medically it's important, and many children want to find their genetic parents. Sorry the feminist idea of not needed men or children having or knowing their fathers isn't fool proof. In my opinion the science experiment should stop, young men who can't make rational long-term choices are exploited many have admitted to being very young and in need of quick cash, millions of dollars are made off men and women now, children feel the effects that we are just now learning to document and take into account. DNA test are exposing this long shrouded unfair practice. I feel it should stop.
@@RaiRaiBrown with advancement in genetics, yes the policies governing sperm donors should change with it. Times aren't the same back when I was a donor.
I still choose to remain anonymous. I donated with that guarantee and will maintain it.
Sí es el padre. Por eso el hijo lo busca. La naturaleza manda, no el juego de la ciencia. ¿Si tu hijo es malo, deja de ser tu hijo?
I know a guy who found out he had a brother.
His dad got a girl pregnant and she never told him and put the baby up for adoption.
Sad how “appearances” mattered more than relationships.
So hard for the daughter in first story. The 2nd story was mind blowing. So grateful the sons still stuck with the dad that raised them. He is thier true dad!
I asked my son if he had committed any crimes before we did our DNA on Ancestry. He assured me he had not. I am exactly who I thought I would be from a DNA perspective, however, I sure am finding out some interesting stories about my ancestors including bigamy, unmarried mothers, living in the poorhouse, times were extremely tough in the late 1800’s and early 1900s.
Ancestry does not share with law enforcement and their testing methods are very different so even if they had your raw data they can't use it. Gedmatch is accessible to law enforcement but you can opt out. I opted in. I've never done anything illegal and while I will always support my child I won't cover for him if he's committed a terrible crime. They're not looking for criminals, they're uploading DNA from unidentified bodies hoping to find out who they are. And if anyone in your family has ever served in the military your DNA is already in the hands of the government
@@madreep hi there, I was just wondering if you could tell me how much it costs to join Ancestry and how much does the DNA testing cost ????? I have been suspicious that my uncle is really my father for many years.
American VA had do destroy the DNA out of medical records several years ago.
@@lauramata4244 the VA might have destroyed records but the lab at Andover still stores them. They have to for identification purposes. If your head is gone your tags are gone too.
@@scarrysherry67 Hazte la prueba.
This happened to me when I signed up on Ancestry. I’ve found one brother and met him and he lead me to three other brothers but have not met my biological father. Believe me it’s an unbelievable feeling.
I still haven’t rapped my head around all of it yet!!!
Wish me luck!!!
Enhorabuena.❤
Women who intentionally lie about paternity to men ought to be prosecuted to the full extent of the law. Period. It’s a heinous thing to do. It’s life altering to the children and the fathers, and the father’s family. It’s rooted in selfishness. It’s disgusting.
Wow😳 What's done in the dark will come to the light! It would be good if all Fathers have to take a DNA Test before they put their name on the birth certificate so there is no doubt as to who the Father is.
That's stupid
Yeah l don"t know what kind of relationship you have but
I have been with the same man for 13 years, No other dicks for me. would have been humiliating a dna test for our 3 children .
Y, la madre. Las que compran óvulos, no son madres.
Liars and cheaters are getting exposed!
Recently my friend found out her dad wasn’t her biological dad. Found him & met him and his wife & kids. It was so sweet
Last year i did my own dna ancestry and found alot of things i didnt know. I found White cousins many refuse the results many say they had a feeling about it. It was wonderful i love them they love me
I found out I had a 4th degree African American cousin and sent her a message (polite and inviting) but she never responded back. I wanted to connect but I left her be.
The second story is so unfortunate. Very sad!
However the outcome was good, because love prevail.
What that is crazy I know he had to be so hurt😑he a good man bless them all.
My dna test showed that my mom had a night out on the town 9-months before I was born. Why would any mom do that to one of her children ?
I think that some don't know and others made what they thought was the best choice at the time. My son knows who his father is but I have made other decisions that may or may not have been the best ones for my son. As parents we are responsible for our children and I think that we try to do the best by them. No one could have known years ago that there would be day be commercially available genetic testing that would cause issues when some of us find out secrets that have been kept for so long. I'm not angry with my mom. I have no idea if she suspected that my dad wasn't my biological parent. Both of my parents were heroin addicts and my mother was a prostitute. I'm disappointed to learn the truth but I'm glad that she chose to give me life and a good family who loved me dearly.
No one is perfect.
Monogamy in unnatural
Oddly enough, AncestryDNA proved my fam is pretty truthful. Accurate even 3 or four generations back, no surprises
Good man that Jerry - what a shock for him!
I just met my fathers side of the family. I would have never known who my biological father and family are if I hadn't took the Ancestory dna test. Thank God for these home dna testing kits. It helps to bring closure in peoples lives.
Hi there, can you tell me how much it costs to join Ancestry and how much does the DNA testing cost ????
@@scarrysherry67 It's usually about $100, but around the holidays the price is cut in half
I grew up thinking my dad wasn't my bio dad my mother even thought another man named rex who had blue eyes and blonde hair was my bio dad because I was the only one of me and my sisters with light blonde hair and light blue eyes and pale skin, but it turned out my dad was my bio dad.
YAY
Totally understand. Same thing happened to me., Did the DNA test, found out at 57 yrs old that the man who raised me is not my biological father. And it explains a lot of arguments between my parents when I was a kid.
Yes, I found out just after turning 40. It explains so much. I think people just know on some level, without really being able to put their finger on what it is exactly that they recognize subconsciously.
I feel so sad for the father in the second story. What an absolute shock that would have been.
Poor Gerry, I know he’s smiling through it... but I can see the pain in his eyes 😢
Yep! I’m the product of an affair my mother had on the father who raised me! My dad knew but he loved me anyway. He’ll always be my hero! 💕
You got lucky. Sounds like a good man. Your mom didn’t deserve him.
I’m glad all the cheaters are getting exposed 👌🏻
There's barely any point when they practically got away with it.
I was adopted at birth. I started looking for my birth mother when I turned 18 but the court system did everything they could to put red tape in the way. At 36 I FINALLY found my biological mothers family via the 23 & me DNA test: I found them 7 months after she died of brain cancer. She also believed the wrong man was my father. There is no way my father is the guy she swore to everyone was my father. 0% relation. I may never know who my father is. Red tape kept me from knowing her...even though we had BOTH been trying to be reunited since I turned 18.
I'm really sorry for Anna Marie. Just because her mother was untruthful she never got the chance to meet her biological father. You should not lie about something, that affects another person's life, too. That's a secret that is not yours alone to keep. Children deserve honesty (as gentle and age-appropriate as possible), no matter if we are ashamed or whatever.
I did the DNA test and had really great results. I have 2 half biological sisters in my life now. I am the oldest. We are all related through my Father. We communicate every day.
Hello, can you tell me how much it costs to join Ancestry and how much does the DNA testing cost ????
@@scarrysherry67 . It cost me around $59.00 each. I bought two kits and got another one free from Ancestry.com.. You get a little box with instructions and a little test tube for to put your saliva in. You seal the box they give you. Then you send it back to them. About three weeks later the results come up on Ancestry. Com. It is an awesome experience. Let me know what you find out about you...please.
Breaks my heart that she never got to meet her birth dad 💔 I did ancestry eight years ago. In 2019 a man contacted me as a first cousin. Turns out he was my half brother! My whole life I always felt like I had a brother somewhere. We text almost every day ❤ I finally got my brother and father to talk on the phone. They were both extremely nervous. My father never knew about him. It's sad because a lot of year's have passed. I really hope they can meet in person soon ❤
Enhorabuena. Tener un hermano es hermoso.🙏
There should be a law that demands DNA testing before a man can sign the birth certificate.
Las que compran óvulos, ¿qué?
Omg i cried he loves his sons soo much! I would say that mother should be ashamed of herself, but those boys have the most loving dad. She was maybe trying to make the best decision for those children and I think she did they couldn't be luckier to have a man like that as their father! He's definitely somebody that should be looked up to! God bless you and your family sir you are an outstanding human being!
My friend of over 40 yrs found out she has a brother who's only s few months apart from her. And her parents were married. Turns out her father cheated on her mom. Bet there are thousands these stories
Yep, happened in our family too.
Strength to you!
So sad that folks are not as honest as they make out to be.
I always tell people that they need to be willing to accept the consequences when they take a DNA test for ancestry reasons. At age 64 I discovered my bio-father and a whole bunch of siblings that had no idea a new brother existed.
side note: in that picture of Jeff, with the little girl (im assuming its his daughter) with the puffs & fluffy dress...she just melted my heart🤍😩🥰
Gerry you are a great man. My father raised all girls by himself. At his funeral at 80 years old, my sister spoke about meeting our father. Whispers covered 1/2 of the church. We didn't speak of my sister's father outside the home. I really forget we don't have the same natural father until someone brings it up. You are your son's real dad. Gifts don't raise children.
When you find out you are the family secret
The right thing to do was tell the truth. Her father who raised her would still be her father, but she could’ve had a relationship with a man who never knew he had a child in the world
So parents & relatives lie - what a surprise -
Imagine if people stop getting cov-19 test and started buying paternity test, another pandemic.
That first story breaks my heart. The poor man died alone never knowing he had a daughter. And the woman lost an opportunity to have two fathers.
The mom was selfish as hell. She wasn't trying to protect her daughter, she was protecting herself. Being a young mother is was no excuse for her decision! Now that daughter has to live with the aftermath of a unrepentant mother. I just hope the daughter forgives the the mother, so this revelation doesn't destroy their relationship.
That was so wrong. She had a right to know the truth. I was in a similar position. My first husband divorced me because I had a girl.. I moved to California and met and married a wonderful man. He was a homicide detective. And he fell in love with my baby. Anyone can father a child but it takes someone really special to be a daddy. We told her about everything. I took her home every summer so she could know her biological father. She didn't like him very well. Today my daughter is 39 and her daddy lives with her and her family. He lost both of his legs to diabetes 2 years ago. And to this day he will always be her dad.
I feel so sorry for Anne Marie's mother. It is still evident she was deeply hurt by her parents when they had sent her away, a pregnant teen, so that she wouldn't be a 'disgrace' to her family, and she has lived with that fear her whole life.
Going up I heard rumors of a half brother but i thought they were just that rumors years later my niece took a DNA test and found I had a half brother. He didn't know that the man who he thought was his dad wasn't.
TheLongjohntim so sad
Secrets make people sick
If anyone who is dealing with DNA surprises, there is a really good support page on fb, called “DNA surprises support group”
Very supportive group and lots of people with similar or even the same stories. Never know, maybe you’ll find a sibling that’s been looking for you, happened to a member on there before.
Here is the link for the group.
facebook.com/groups/1798909400175879/?ref=share
I didn’t find out in this way but a man contacted my mother one day and said he wanted me to do a dna test, I was 21. We did the test and he was my father. He committed suicide 6 months later. My mother was an addict my whole life and told me someone else was my dad. But my bio father had apparently knew about me from the beginning and knew every place I ever lived. He didn’t want to pay for me, so he waited till I was 21.
Always tell the truth. Everything comes out.
I think doing these kinds of test just causes problems. If you are happy, don't do this.
pamela lindsey People need to know the truth , it hurts but then it heals and you are happy again .
The ex-wife in the second story is trifling
This has happened in my own family from taking these DNA's. My ex husband just found out he too is not the father from his 1st ex wife. This i am afraid will be destroying a lot of lives.
This was horribly common and a whole generation horrifically did this to their children
My dad is adopted and I ALWAYS use the term “biological” father or even call him by his first name because his REAL father and my REAL grandpa is the man that raised my dad with love and who I loved so dearly. You can still learn about where people have come from, but you can also respect who raised and loved that person.
Por supuesto que sí. Pero, padres, son los que te da la naturaleza: aunque sean malos.
That ex-wife is something else. Had him pay for another mans children. How could she not feel guilt....She not only took away his sons but also his grandchildren....That has to hurt deep....Luckily love doesn’t know us by our blood but by our heArt....
She always thought he was her dad because he really was her dad in the ways that truly matter.
Momma's baby...daddy's maybe!
Through Ancestry.com's testing, we found out that 3 of my dad's first cousins were actually half siblings. These were children of my grandmother's brother's wife... to this day, nobody openly talks about it, but now most of the next generation know because you can't hide DNA results. If you're confused as to why something is different than you thought, don't immediately start blaming the DNA testing company... it's almost always something other than a bad DNA test. The sad part is that my dad had a half sister & she would've been the only blood-related aunt that I have on either side of the family, but I never got to know here as she passed away already.
My half sister was my other (full) sister's sister in law for 10 years. No one knew. (They had both married brothers of the same family). My dad had the affair. The truth came out when my half sister's mother was going to die. My 90 year old mom (who was the one cheated on-my dad long since passed on) threw a party for my new sister . She said "Well, it wasn't her fault!".
We need the EX wife and the boss interviewed, please and thank you. Thanks in advance!
They will not come on the show they r evil not stupid
I'm confused, on her bio fathers tombstone says, "Father and Son", but they said he never knew he had a her and he never got married. So did he have known other children? What 'moms' 'boss' and the mom did is despicable. She screws around for years and lays the responsibilities of raising the useless mans kids gets off scott free. Bio dad is pathetic as is the mom. The betrayed 'real' dad is a real man.
Padre es ADN. Punto. Igual que hijo.
they did not understand that children are people back then this story happened to me
He should sue his ex-wife for fraud.
It’s not “shocking” truth, it’s just truth.
Truth Seeker the second one is... the first baby was 😒 then they said the second 😨 the had to be with him at least 6 years and her boss n close friend.
I imagine it being a shocking truth to the ones who were in the dark about their entire lives.
The second story the ex wife boss should have to pay back child support to the guy.
"Summer loving, happened so fast, badum... summer loving had me a blast, badum"
I feel sad for the 2nd dad. 😭😭😭
Entire bloodline is dead just like that.
“Careful, Chief. Dig up the past, all you get is dirty.”
-Gideon, Minority Report
Leave it to good ol' Delaware to have some juicy family secrets. We've all got one.
Jamie Yayme Delaware had homes for unmarried young mothers and the babies were a profitable sideline.
Florence Crittenden was one place.
Oh my gosh!! The second one!!
Second story touch me. This man look a to be a great dad. Feel so sorry for the boys and the man. Wish them the best
What I'm interested to know is did the cop know..... all along? I can't imagine keeping these kinds of secrets, but some people don't seem to mind, and would take it to their graves, if they weren't busted in this way.
Don’t judge
It sounds like the mom and the "family friend" definitely knew all along. Not surprised that the mom was already the dad's ex-wife! It's one thing to not know for sure and be afraid to find out. It's another thing to actually know for sure for that long.
Moral of the story is, if your teen daughter gets pregnant for any reason, you LOVE HER and help her deal with it and don’t worry about your dumb social status!! Prove you are morally superior by telling the neighbors to stuff it!!
Wow ,,,some women have no shame
Wait what!! 😡did they contact the police officer who was her Boss....I need more info that’s fucked up
My long lost sister found out about my dad when she was 28. I met her when she was 29; I was 22. We all tried to welcome her, but her fantasy didn't match who we are. She rejected my dad. I hear from her from time to time, but she is only a bio-sister--not family. It's her loss.
Wow! Shocking!!