Always. My Indicator ist the urgence. Nowadays when I really really need to know / solve something RIGHT NOW with this urge which doesnt want to wait any second, I try to completly accept and disregard it for the this moment. later i look back and try to see If it is interessting without the urge. if the urge comes again i postpone it again. if it doesnt feel that urgend anymore I try to figure out if it is really a noteable thing. most of the time it wasn't at all
For a while I thought “oh my god I’m a psychopath” and believed it because my OCD told me that I am one. When I’m not, I don’t want to hurt anyone. I’m always terrified that what if I’m helping my mum make dinner and then I snap and then hurt her with a knife or something. That thought terrifies me. I love my mum, I would never ever want to do that to her. But OCD makes me doubt it of course. It’s terrifying
I always doubt myself even if I KNOW the answer to something I still find myself looking for answers and if I find answers that are different I panic cause it makes me think I was wrong and that my OCD was right and it's scary
Amen amen amen!! I needed this so badly today. I am so focused on the feelings in my stomach multiple times a day every day and it causes me to question what I should be doing, or what “the spirit” is trying to tell me, or if I’m doing something wrong, etc. Thank you so much for this video. 😭I really needed this reminder.
Thanks for addressing this topic! I always heard the advice "trust yourself, trust your gut" but I work everyday to not listen to my OCD fears, so it was really confusing growing up. Another topic that would be great to cover is how to be compassionate with yourself when you are avoiding a check compulsion and the thing you didn't check goes wrong. I don't want it to be a confirmation that I should have checked. Thanks!
Can intrusive thoughts be triggerd by videos u see? Or books everything is almost triggering for me and my intrusive thoughts came back cause of fkn tiktok I keep seeing videos abt my intrusive thought and it makes me relapse. I hate my brain honestly
Perfect video!!! Because my gut is (almost) always telling me to say no, run, give up, don't risk it.. the constant fear of making horrendeus unfixable mistakes, fear of hurting people I care about, them hurting me.. It is like war, neverending war inside our minds and undescribeable guilt, sadness and loneliness all.the.time.
I am really obsessive about being honest it kills my relationship every time but I love these videos because they keep reminding me how to deal with it. So thank you❤
I don't know if you're going to see this comment or not, but in my experience the hard part about trying to overcome isn't the OCD itself, it's the coincidences that come along with it, growing up my thoughts tell me to do compulsive actions to prevent a certain mishap from happening, but when I do stop doing the compulsive actions that certain mishap ends up happening, I remember at one point, being a bit religious, I told God that I would fight my addiction, but when I end up falling into addiction, I keep seeing coincidences and signs related to me not doing the fighting addiction and been seeing mishaps and up to this day I will never know when it will stop.
The gut instinct tells me I am going to act out my intrusive thoughts because it 'feels' like I 'want' to do it. My gut says I am 'interested in it'. Even though every time I do a compulsion I am -almost- sure I don't want to. I am choosing to disregard my OCD. This afternoon I am going to be extremely productive for school.
Hello'bro i'm from somalia nd teenage i have ocd especially Hocd my life is hard i live in nairobi kenya i'm poor please help me i will help others❤😢😢😢😢
The most difficult thing for me with this, is trusting my gut about people. I have a really hard time reading people, but every time I felt that off bad feeling about someone I find out later they’re a bad person (I know people are not all good or bad) but for the sake of explaining I’m using that term. Like they lie, make false reports, gossip, intentionally try to cause harm to others. But then I struggle with the OCD telling me I’m misjudging them or thinking if I’m right about them, all these potential bad things could happen. Then I ruminate over every word and interaction I had with them to see if I did or said something they could use to hurt me. Did I give them too much information? Why can’t I just shut up and not talk to people? I’m a nervous talker and I like to be social and I also like to be comedic, but there’s so much risk with that around ill intentioned or prejudice people, sometimes people who are well intentioned but do bad things to others over their judgement that they know better or are better than everyone else. Things like that.
Gut feeling happens directly after engaging with someone/something new... It doesn't happen after thinking and thinking and thinking and having strong weird feelings..
So whenever I think about this term”gut feeling”..it really sends my intrusive thoughts to my stomach and makes me think that I’am getting the sensation of this feeling for the wrong reason when I’am not and I only get it when I think about the exact term my thoughts say to me”Yes u will have this feeling or ur having this..”and it really makes me think that “am I one of them..””..and I have hocd..
I'm struggling with this one. I have been dxed with Generalized Anxiety for a long time (also ADHD), but recently seriously considering if I have OCD). I think mine may be closer to "Pure O" but I do have impulsive spending tendencies that I'm never sure what's contributing to them... :P Anyway, I've always been confused about when to trust my "gut" and what is my gut. I asked my therapist about this as well. She said if the feeling comes with a lot of anxiety it probably isn't "just your gut," vs. if you just have a feeling but it's not super anxious, it probably is intuition. But I really can't recall a time that I just had some kind of intuition without anxiety along with it. There are a few things recently that I realized I had been "right" about, but at the time I was having feelings that you could easily just call anxiety or OCD ruminating on something. So at the time I told myself I was being too extreme and this wasn't my intuition. But I find that years down the line I am often seeing myself going oh I was right about that thing.... that I was also anxious about, and thinking about a lot. I guess in part because they're things that greatly affected my life. So I guess that's the big question. If I'm having a gut feeling about something.... like say, when you have a negative gut feeling about a person .... if it's something that if I'm right, it would negatively affect my life, how would that gut feeling not be accompanied with anxiety?
What is your opinion on "The Gun Test"? Basically forcing yourself to answer the question "Is this OCD?" whether or not you're certain, and you have to get the answer correct...OR ELSE. A softer version of this would be using a "best guess" to give yourself some uncertain reassurance. Ex: "Even though I'll never know for certain, my best guess is this is OCD and it isn't going to make me sick, regardless of how I feel right now" These both include reassurance, but also force someone to make a decision despite doubt. So I'm curious if you use these strategies to encourage engagement or if you strictly stick to maybe, maybe not. Thanks for all you do!
Can anyone help me? I've been dealing w ocd all my life and I just turned 30 and all of my 20s I feel like my ocd 95% went away, and I feel like my ocd has taken a new turn and just realizing it... I have a terrible time focusing on diff priorities within a day becuz I have to constantly fixate on one thing for days on end and I can't get anything else done becuz I'm so ocd about this certain thing. But I also feel like if I do one of my priorities, then I'll be ocd at that and can't do other things. Idk what to do to balance priorities out and it's frustrating me. It makes life rlly difficult for me. Any advice?
me working as an OR nurse. OCD : did u do the counts correctly.? did u really check that needle count? did u wrote somthing bad in that file ?? did u check it??. 😢😢😢 daily struggle. But have hope ❤
I didnt trust mu gut once, my "actual" gut. I got what I feared, and i feel like it ruined my progress with ocd. I was certain i shoukd NOT do it, but maybe itd help my ocd if i did it. Like you said, this gut feeling didnt cause anxiety, it was trying to help me. I didnt listen.
You have no idea how much your videos helped me. Way more than years and thousands of dollars in therapy. I wish there were better trained doctors like you. Keep going you are awesome!
@@dylanw2100_ Trusting my priest advice I went to another priest from a different rite and he basically motivated me as great as my parish priest did. At this point, being scrupulous is fainting more and more. I barely even thought about the last 3 days until I saw your comment, but anyway, the priest told me “ relax, Jesus said let the worry come to me”, “ you are young, you don’t wanna go on with life being bond by rigid rules and regulations, that’s not what Christ wants”. Also, I finally came to terms with my past, I moved on after countless advices from multiple priest, I stopped my self-pity. Now I simply don’t care, I will do what I can and leave the rest to him, I’m contend with where I end up. But most of scrupulousity came from my past, and those extreme radicals on Reddit. I beat both, now I’m free, thank you Jesus. Imma leat for you my brother in Christ, you will get out of this, it’s not permanent. I only had it be extremely strong in March, it was reduced in April, but lurked around, now in may it’s even less
Today l was listening a person who said as you think it will start to come to you so think good and be positive and l stil stuck here how would you approach this ?
I have noticed i tried to beehave with myownself like i would want to with the fearfull anxiety. That i can't but still i continued maybe this is a method i had a relapses not one but many but thinking to start ERP again
I have ocd voice in my head and self awareness where I notice that I am noticing what I am thinking, anyone else have anything like this self consciousness
got any advice for having trouble concentrating while trying to quit ocd? whenever i slow down my rituals and get on the path of stopping, i start having trouble concentrating and it pulls me back in
Im not sure if you’ll reply but i have a question. What if you have evidence that you are indeed a bad person? Like if you did something terrible in the past and ruiened someone’s life then technically my ocd is right.
First off, can you do something about the thing you did in the past, like apologize or something else? Most likely there's not something relevant to do right now, so you have to accept and take the learning experience with you. Now, what is the best course of action right now? In the present, working towards the future, what do you think you should be doing?
@@instant_mint tysm for taking ur time to reply to me, i’ve been working on it and i already apologized, they did not forgive me they just harrassed me and insulted me and i’m scared they won’t leave me alone and scared that they will come back to harrass me with this mistake but i’ve learnt and i’ve changed im already journaling and taking medication for my ocd. but it keeps telling me to not go after my goals bc they’ll ruin my reputation with this mistake i’ve made almost 2 years ago
@@maya-di3mw Okay you have done what you could it sounds like. Your biggest problem now is either this person is literally harassing you and you should contact the police and get a restraining order. OR if that's not really the case right now, the problem is your rumination and worry. I have this problem myself, with rumination and worry, so I know it's no joke it really feels so important. But I think you need to take a look at your beliefs about worry/rumination, for example "I have to think this over again and again until I can find a solution or conclusion" or "I can't stop worrying about this, I literally have no control of my worry" or "If I don't think about this regularly, something really bad is going to come back to bite me" etc. Because those kinds of beliefs are what drives your dysfunctional coping methods (rumination/worry) and that is what fuels the distress you're experiencing. I myself have just started metacognitive therapy (MCT) and I think it could really help you as well, I recommend it! CBT never really helped me but this is much better. You can google "mct institute" and there should be a British webpage that lists all certified MCT therapists in different countries around the world. You can find some names there to google and get in touch with a therapist if you wanna try it. That's my biggest advice right now because I'm really hopeful about this therapy method
I think you nailed it with respect to what differentiates an obsessive thought from agenuine gut feelings. That being, that the former is infused with an intense feeling of anxiety, whereas the latter is more of a mental advisory, so to speak, with little to no emotional component.
My gut tells me that my existential questioning as part of my individuation wasn't all out of anxiety... Most it was from something deeper and intuitive.
TW: existentialism There's nihilism (meaninglessness), existentialism (create your own meaning/freedom/responsibility), and absurdism. Absurdism is all about *accepting* the uncertainty/meaninglessness of life + sometimes laughing. Acceptance + humor are big parts of recovery from OCD, though getting obsessed with absurdism is another story :)
Thank you so much for this valuable content, it has been incredibly helpful. I have some trouble with the idea of having an "I don't care response" because then I get repetitive with it and it becomes my new compulsion (so the thought keeps coming), so yeah, definitely for me what works is just to do/think nothing, just to tolerate the awful feeling until it's gone. Just wanted to share this 😅 God bless you, thank you so much again, you content has been truly truly truly helpful 🥹
Nathan's video here says to cross the "Im dirty/I'm gross/I"m going to get sick/this is awful and unbearable" thoughts off your list of trustworthy information. Useful gut feelings don't have so much anxiety attached to them. They don't DEMAND things from you. Try rewatching 3:30 - 4:00 on repeat.
Hey I need your advice because OCD is making me crazy. So I'm aware of every movement my body makes, if I cross my arms, if I move them... Its making me go crazy. I fear I'll always control my movements.
My anxiety and ocd act up more when people are being nice to me and when things are going good. I’m experiencing intense panic attacks I feel like I’m dying
A good tip that I use that can help sometimes obviously not with every situation but you have to ask yourself is this a rational thought stemming from something based in reality or rationality like for example if I’m walking and I think that someone’s gonna shoot me if I don’t move to the side and that’s multiple times a day or so but there’s no evidence of that then I ask myself OK am I feeling this because of an actual thought or am I feeling this because of OCD
With my ocd, I twitch my shoulders because of a sensation and if I don’t, I feel more pressure and have thoughts like my family is going to die in horrible ways in another dimension or something. I even have a sensation to open the oven a few times because someone might be dying or trapped like there soul is stuck or something. I say words and it helps relieve a sensation. If I try to ignore it I feel like I’m letting someone get killed in bad ways.
Hey there Nathan! so i don’t really know if i have Ocd or not because whenever i touch something with my right hand, i always have to touch it with my left hand. like im typing this right now, i need to type the right amount of times with all of my fingers. my friends catch me double touching things with my right hand and left hand and they question me, i don’t know what to explain or what to say. if you have any idea if i have it or not you can reply back! Thanks! :D
This video described exactly what is happening to me everytime my ocd will start to attack my thoughts that it seems I can't resist, so what is happen is to abide the intrusive thoughts just to reassuring nothings bad gonna happen for me, to my family and friends, once i reach the peak of certain, if follows relaxation to my mind and then it goes to continue my work, Sometimes this disorder can trigger anytime once a related things suddenly appeared, i want to register in my mind that those thoughts is not real but my mind often continue to react with those thoughts, It's really hard to reprogram your mind instantly but I do believe that God is with Us to overcome this, I really appreciate and huge thanks to this video you created Sir Nat, more powers and God Bless us🙏
Hey! nathan i hope You are fine but I have something to share with you firstly my ocd themes keep on changing and now yesterday I read about alien hand syndrome and I am having ocd of fear of loosing control and my brain thinks that one day I will have this alien hand syndrome
This one (trusting our gut) is SO HARD for me because I've had cancer twice, and I'm told to get 2x yearly check-ups to make sure they don't come back. I know I shouldn't keep getting check-ups because they feed my OCD, but I can't resist just going to get checked anyway each year because my gut (and OCD) says do it. This one might be the last one I tackle but it's still important, so how do we confront something with nonchalance if there's a high chance of recurrence? (Not asking for reassurance. More of how do we have that "maybe, maybe not" perspective? My doctor might actually slap me if I tell them "maybe I'll come in, maybe I won't; let's find out." 😂)
I think if your doctor is telling you to get 2 times a year checkups, you should do that, but if you have thoughts about, say "oh did they really test every possible thing?" or "what if they didn't catch something" or you think about having a 3rd checkup or scheduling other things other than what your doctor recommended - those would be the thoughts to say "eh, maybe something will happen, maybe not" to.
Do you ever question if it's your gut or if it's OCD?
Yes
Have you heard of Apophenia? Would like to hear what you think
@@hac9336 what is apophenia ?
Yes, all of the time!
Always. My Indicator ist the urgence. Nowadays when I really really need to know / solve something RIGHT NOW with this urge which doesnt want to wait any second, I try to completly accept and disregard it for the this moment. later i look back and try to see If it is interessting without the urge. if the urge comes again i postpone it again. if it doesnt feel that urgend anymore I try to figure out if it is really a noteable thing. most of the time it wasn't at all
For a while I thought “oh my god I’m a psychopath” and believed it because my OCD told me that I am one. When I’m not, I don’t want to hurt anyone. I’m always terrified that what if I’m helping my mum make dinner and then I snap and then hurt her with a knife or something. That thought terrifies me. I love my mum, I would never ever want to do that to her. But OCD makes me doubt it of course. It’s terrifying
Feel it bro❤
I always doubt myself even if I KNOW the answer to something I still find myself looking for answers and if I find answers that are different I panic cause it makes me think I was wrong and that my OCD was right and it's scary
@Its_humsheelspores I have a therapist thank you
There is something about you that is ever so soothing and pleasant ❤thank you for all your doing for the OCD community !
You're so kind! Thanks so much for all of your support!
@@ocdandanxiety Thank you!! For everything you do here ☺️✨
Agreed!
100%! His videos are keeping me grounded in reality sometimes. Thank you! :)
Amen amen amen!! I needed this so badly today. I am so focused on the feelings in my stomach multiple times a day every day and it causes me to question what I should be doing, or what “the spirit” is trying to tell me, or if I’m doing something wrong, etc. Thank you so much for this video. 😭I really needed this reminder.
I hate ocd
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Thanks for addressing this topic! I always heard the advice "trust yourself, trust your gut" but I work everyday to not listen to my OCD fears, so it was really confusing growing up. Another topic that would be great to cover is how to be compassionate with yourself when you are avoiding a check compulsion and the thing you didn't check goes wrong. I don't want it to be a confirmation that I should have checked. Thanks!
Can intrusive thoughts be triggerd by videos u see? Or books everything is almost triggering for me and my intrusive thoughts came back cause of fkn tiktok I keep seeing videos abt my intrusive thought and it makes me relapse. I hate my brain honestly
I completely get it
Can these videos be used as compulsion?
Need answer please
@@AMMPOPZHPCD-tv2dj I mean if ur watching these to calm yourself down and have a sense of relief then yes they are😭
same bro I get these thoughts from even watching any show or anime :(
Perfect video!!! Because my gut is (almost) always telling me to say no, run, give up, don't risk it.. the constant fear of making horrendeus unfixable mistakes, fear of hurting people I care about, them hurting me.. It is like war, neverending war inside our minds and undescribeable guilt, sadness and loneliness all.the.time.
I am really obsessive about being honest it kills my relationship every time but I love these videos because they keep reminding me how to deal with it. So thank you❤
I don't know if you're going to see this comment or not, but in my experience the hard part about trying to overcome isn't the OCD itself, it's the coincidences that come along with it, growing up my thoughts tell me to do compulsive actions to prevent a certain mishap from happening, but when I do stop doing the compulsive actions that certain mishap ends up happening, I remember at one point, being a bit religious, I told God that I would fight my addiction, but when I end up falling into addiction, I keep seeing coincidences and signs related to me not doing the fighting addiction and been seeing mishaps and up to this day I will never know when it will stop.
The gut instinct tells me I am going to act out my intrusive thoughts because it 'feels' like I 'want' to do it. My gut says I am 'interested in it'. Even though every time I do a compulsion I am -almost- sure I don't want to. I am choosing to disregard my OCD. This afternoon I am going to be extremely productive for school.
Hello'bro i'm from somalia nd teenage i have ocd especially Hocd my life is hard i live in nairobi kenya i'm poor please help me i will help others❤😢😢😢😢
You are one of the best psychologist in the world. Your videos are so easy to understand and helpful and you understand our problem. Keep it up
The most difficult thing for me with this, is trusting my gut about people. I have a really hard time reading people, but every time I felt that off bad feeling about someone I find out later they’re a bad person (I know people are not all good or bad) but for the sake of explaining I’m using that term. Like they lie, make false reports, gossip, intentionally try to cause harm to others. But then I struggle with the OCD telling me I’m misjudging them or thinking if I’m right about them, all these potential bad things could happen. Then I ruminate over every word and interaction I had with them to see if I did or said something they could use to hurt me. Did I give them too much information? Why can’t I just shut up and not talk to people? I’m a nervous talker and I like to be social and I also like to be comedic, but there’s so much risk with that around ill intentioned or prejudice people, sometimes people who are well intentioned but do bad things to others over their judgement that they know better or are better than everyone else. Things like that.
Gut feeling happens directly after engaging with someone/something new...
It doesn't happen after thinking and thinking and thinking and having strong weird feelings..
So whenever I think about this term”gut feeling”..it really sends my intrusive thoughts to my stomach and makes me think that I’am getting the sensation of this feeling for the wrong reason when I’am not and I only get it when I think about the exact term my thoughts say to me”Yes u will have this feeling or ur having this..”and it really makes me think that “am I one of them..””..and I have hocd..
I thank God i found your channel. You are such a positive vibe
I just recently discovered your channel and you have cleared my doubts about myself
I'm struggling with this one. I have been dxed with Generalized Anxiety for a long time (also ADHD), but recently seriously considering if I have OCD). I think mine may be closer to "Pure O" but I do have impulsive spending tendencies that I'm never sure what's contributing to them... :P Anyway, I've always been confused about when to trust my "gut" and what is my gut. I asked my therapist about this as well. She said if the feeling comes with a lot of anxiety it probably isn't "just your gut," vs. if you just have a feeling but it's not super anxious, it probably is intuition. But I really can't recall a time that I just had some kind of intuition without anxiety along with it. There are a few things recently that I realized I had been "right" about, but at the time I was having feelings that you could easily just call anxiety or OCD ruminating on something. So at the time I told myself I was being too extreme and this wasn't my intuition. But I find that years down the line I am often seeing myself going oh I was right about that thing.... that I was also anxious about, and thinking about a lot. I guess in part because they're things that greatly affected my life. So I guess that's the big question. If I'm having a gut feeling about something.... like say, when you have a negative gut feeling about a person .... if it's something that if I'm right, it would negatively affect my life, how would that gut feeling not be accompanied with anxiety?
What is your opinion on "The Gun Test"? Basically forcing yourself to answer the question "Is this OCD?" whether or not you're certain, and you have to get the answer correct...OR ELSE. A softer version of this would be using a "best guess" to give yourself some uncertain reassurance. Ex: "Even though I'll never know for certain, my best guess is this is OCD and it isn't going to make me sick, regardless of how I feel right now"
These both include reassurance, but also force someone to make a decision despite doubt. So I'm curious if you use these strategies to encourage engagement or if you strictly stick to maybe, maybe not. Thanks for all you do!
Can anyone help me? I've been dealing w ocd all my life and I just turned 30 and all of my 20s I feel like my ocd 95% went away, and I feel like my ocd has taken a new turn and just realizing it... I have a terrible time focusing on diff priorities within a day becuz I have to constantly fixate on one thing for days on end and I can't get anything else done becuz I'm so ocd about this certain thing. But I also feel like if I do one of my priorities, then I'll be ocd at that and can't do other things. Idk what to do to balance priorities out and it's frustrating me. It makes life rlly difficult for me. Any advice?
me working as an OR nurse.
OCD : did u do the counts correctly.?
did u really check that needle count?
did u wrote somthing bad in that file ?? did u check it??.
😢😢😢 daily struggle.
But have hope ❤
I didnt trust mu gut once, my "actual" gut. I got what I feared, and i feel like it ruined my progress with ocd. I was certain i shoukd NOT do it, but maybe itd help my ocd if i did it.
Like you said, this gut feeling didnt cause anxiety, it was trying to help me. I didnt listen.
You have no idea how much your videos helped me. Way more than years and thousands of dollars in therapy. I wish there were better trained doctors like you. Keep going you are awesome!
I relapsed after 14 days of no scrupulosity
What helped you go 14 days :)? I’m dealing with scrupulosity as well
@@dylanw2100_
Trusting my priest advice
I went to another priest from a different rite and he basically motivated me as great as my parish priest did.
At this point, being scrupulous is fainting more and more. I barely even thought about the last 3 days until I saw your comment, but anyway, the priest told me
“ relax, Jesus said let the worry come to me”, “ you are young, you don’t wanna go on with life being bond by rigid rules and regulations, that’s not what Christ wants”. Also, I finally came to terms with my past, I moved on after countless advices from multiple priest, I stopped my self-pity.
Now I simply don’t care, I will do what I can and leave the rest to him, I’m contend with where I end up. But most of scrupulousity came from my past, and those extreme radicals on Reddit. I beat both, now I’m free, thank you Jesus.
Imma leat for you my brother in Christ, you will get out of this, it’s not permanent.
I only had it be extremely strong in March, it was reduced in April, but lurked around, now in may it’s even less
Today l was listening a person who said as you think it will start to come to you so think good and be positive and l stil stuck here how would you approach this ?
I have noticed i tried to beehave with myownself like i would want to with the fearfull anxiety. That i can't but still i continued maybe this is a method i had a relapses not one but many but thinking to start ERP again
@Ann are you twice fan ?
Actually l lost my baby after three days of her birth 😭 everything is going to messup with me 🥺😢
@Ann me too like thier some songs but not a fan
@@nimrahh8836 your baby died ?
I have ocd voice in my head and self awareness where I notice that I am noticing what I am thinking, anyone else have anything like this self consciousness
got any advice for having trouble concentrating while trying to quit ocd? whenever i slow down my rituals and get on the path of stopping, i start having trouble concentrating and it pulls me back in
Mate how do I stop my hands and feet sweating cusa anxiety?
Ocd throws up scenarios over everything. It’s bs
Bless you for trying to enlighten us with ur effort ❤
Im not sure if you’ll reply but i have a question. What if you have evidence that you are indeed a bad person? Like if you did something terrible in the past and ruiened someone’s life then technically my ocd is right.
First off, can you do something about the thing you did in the past, like apologize or something else? Most likely there's not something relevant to do right now, so you have to accept and take the learning experience with you.
Now, what is the best course of action right now? In the present, working towards the future, what do you think you should be doing?
@@instant_mint tysm for taking ur time to reply to me, i’ve been working on it and i already apologized, they did not forgive me they just harrassed me and insulted me and i’m scared they won’t leave me alone and scared that they will come back to harrass me with this mistake but i’ve learnt and i’ve changed im already journaling and taking medication for my ocd. but it keeps telling me to not go after my goals bc they’ll ruin my reputation with this mistake i’ve made almost 2 years ago
@@maya-di3mw Okay you have done what you could it sounds like. Your biggest problem now is either this person is literally harassing you and you should contact the police and get a restraining order. OR if that's not really the case right now, the problem is your rumination and worry. I have this problem myself, with rumination and worry, so I know it's no joke it really feels so important. But I think you need to take a look at your beliefs about worry/rumination, for example "I have to think this over again and again until I can find a solution or conclusion" or "I can't stop worrying about this, I literally have no control of my worry" or "If I don't think about this regularly, something really bad is going to come back to bite me" etc. Because those kinds of beliefs are what drives your dysfunctional coping methods (rumination/worry) and that is what fuels the distress you're experiencing. I myself have just started metacognitive therapy (MCT) and I think it could really help you as well, I recommend it! CBT never really helped me but this is much better. You can google "mct institute" and there should be a British webpage that lists all certified MCT therapists in different countries around the world. You can find some names there to google and get in touch with a therapist if you wanna try it. That's my biggest advice right now because I'm really hopeful about this therapy method
You’re amazing bro!!!
I think you nailed it with respect to what differentiates an obsessive thought from agenuine gut feelings. That being, that the former is infused with an intense feeling of anxiety, whereas the latter is more of a mental advisory, so to speak, with little to no emotional component.
so the conclusion that we do not trust our gut?
Hey...... Thanks Buddy❣️
This is bane of my existence.
Hii Nathan
Please make a video on perspective shift in contamination OCD.
My gut tells me that my existential questioning as part of my individuation wasn't all out of anxiety... Most it was from something deeper and intuitive.
TW: existentialism
There's nihilism (meaninglessness), existentialism (create your own meaning/freedom/responsibility), and absurdism. Absurdism is all about *accepting* the uncertainty/meaninglessness of life + sometimes laughing. Acceptance + humor are big parts of recovery from OCD, though getting obsessed with absurdism is another story :)
Thank you so much for this valuable content, it has been incredibly helpful.
I have some trouble with the idea of having an "I don't care response" because then I get repetitive with it and it becomes my new compulsion (so the thought keeps coming), so yeah, definitely for me what works is just to do/think nothing, just to tolerate the awful feeling until it's gone.
Just wanted to share this 😅 God bless you, thank you so much again, you content has been truly truly truly helpful 🥹
Psychologist diagnosed me with OCD - Psychiatrist didn't.. so confused!
Ive been doing better.
I'd say 50%. But my hands won't stop sweating. Then I have to clean my tablet, headphones etc all the time.
Please help.
Nathan's video here says to cross the "Im dirty/I'm gross/I"m going to get sick/this is awful and unbearable" thoughts off your list of trustworthy information. Useful gut feelings don't have so much anxiety attached to them. They don't DEMAND things from you. Try rewatching 3:30 - 4:00 on repeat.
@@zachyoutube213Im confused? My hands sweat. Sweat gets everywhere?
Thanks for reply.
Hey I need your advice because OCD is making me crazy. So I'm aware of every movement my body makes, if I cross my arms, if I move them... Its making me go crazy. I fear I'll always control my movements.
My anxiety and ocd act up more when people are being nice to me and when things are going good. I’m experiencing intense panic attacks I feel like I’m dying
A good tip that I use that can help sometimes obviously not with every situation but you have to ask yourself is this a rational thought stemming from something based in reality or rationality like for example if I’m walking and I think that someone’s gonna shoot me if I don’t move to the side and that’s multiple times a day or so but there’s no evidence of that then I ask myself OK am I feeling this because of an actual thought or am I feeling this because of OCD
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I have so many obsessions/compulsions that I am always stuck on one, and I don't know what it's like to have normal thoughts =/
With my ocd, I twitch my shoulders because of a sensation and if I don’t, I feel more pressure and have thoughts like my family is going to die in horrible ways in another dimension or something. I even have a sensation to open the oven a few times because someone might be dying or trapped like there soul is stuck or something. I say words and it helps relieve a sensation.
If I try to ignore it I feel like I’m letting someone get killed in bad ways.
I tried to get an appointment with you no luck in Allen..
Hey there Nathan! so i don’t really know if i have Ocd or not because whenever i touch something with my right hand, i always have to touch it with my left hand. like im typing this right now, i need to type the right amount of times with all of my fingers. my friends catch me double touching things with my right hand and left hand and they question me, i don’t know what to explain or what to say. if you have any idea if i have it or not you can reply back!
Thanks! :D
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thanks for your precious time and work to help us deal with the OCD. Hope you have a great time and God bless you❤❤
This video described exactly what is happening to me everytime my ocd will start to attack my thoughts that it seems I can't resist, so what is happen is to abide the intrusive thoughts just to reassuring nothings bad gonna happen for me, to my family and friends, once i reach the peak of certain, if follows relaxation to my mind and then it goes to continue my work, Sometimes this disorder can trigger anytime once a related things suddenly appeared, i want to register in my mind that those thoughts is not real but my mind often continue to react with those thoughts, It's really hard to reprogram your mind instantly but I do believe that God is with Us to overcome this, I really appreciate and huge thanks to this video you created Sir Nat, more powers and God Bless us🙏
Hey! nathan i hope You are fine but I have something to share with you firstly my ocd themes keep on changing and now yesterday I read about alien hand syndrome and I am having ocd of fear of loosing control and my brain thinks that one day I will have this alien hand syndrome
Always brill and so good to see your channel growing x
Thank you Nate once again 🤍
God bless you. Your videos has really helped me a lot
Love it - thank you!
Thank you Nathan,
I'll need this as a reminder from time to time.
Peter
I really appreciate you calling me your friend but I don't really know you, bro.
I’d like to be your friend neighbor…
Thanks so much for this! Love your videos!!
You are a god man thank you so much.
GOD bless you🙏🙏🙏
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Thanks Sir 🙏
This one (trusting our gut) is SO HARD for me because I've had cancer twice, and I'm told to get 2x yearly check-ups to make sure they don't come back.
I know I shouldn't keep getting check-ups because they feed my OCD, but I can't resist just going to get checked anyway each year because my gut (and OCD) says do it.
This one might be the last one I tackle but it's still important, so how do we confront something with nonchalance if there's a high chance of recurrence?
(Not asking for reassurance. More of how do we have that "maybe, maybe not" perspective? My doctor might actually slap me if I tell them "maybe I'll come in, maybe I won't; let's find out." 😂)
I think if your doctor is telling you to get 2 times a year checkups, you should do that, but if you have thoughts about, say "oh did they really test every possible thing?" or "what if they didn't catch something" or you think about having a 3rd checkup or scheduling other things other than what your doctor recommended - those would be the thoughts to say "eh, maybe something will happen, maybe not" to.
....s-so basically I have worms?
How do you know that? Did you have a test done?
@@instant_mint yes, if you reach deep enough you can feel they tickle your fingers.
@@wybuchowyukomendant Whatever that means, I think you should go see a doctor
@@instant_mint No, you just need to inhale deeply over a glass of warm milk and the worms come out through the mouth, it`s that easy!
Its ocd giving you that sensation. But go to the doctor just in case.