My husband works and provides. I stay at home with the kids. I homeschool, garden, make all our food from scratch and my husband doesn't do housework. He does however do the maintenance of our home. When he comes home its his rest time and spending time with kids and I We are both happy and wouldn't change a thing. Traditional roles are great and fulfilling.
Your husband does the hard work and you're a lazy american. Nothing you do is hard, most men can do what you do blindfolded. Basically you overwork your husband so you can stay home and relax. Lets face it and youre pushing that on society. Real women who care for their family will find a part time or something to take the load off of their husband and be able to provide for their kid their own way, because they are realistic. You guys just play fantasy and expect couple to live off a single income. Of course traditional role is fuffilling to you, " he doesnt have to do the dishes" as if thats a huge sacrifice 😂😂 Grow up, stop playing your sex lives in the open.
@@ThisBraveHeart doesn't it though? I get so much pushback from everywhere that is refreshing to hear that there are others too. I mean I know there are its just nice hearing from others who do the same and actually embrace this lifestyle. I hope you and your family remain blessed
This was the american dream 60s 70s after WWII because economy allowed a single income household, the current neoliberal doesn't. Social problems are extremely linked to economy.
This was wonderful. A breath of fresh air compared to all the nihilistic depravity in other conversations about relationships. You actually give me hope that men & women can function again one day.
America, 80% of Americans live paycheck to paycheck. The average house payment right now is 1300+ and that’s for a house it’s not even brand new. The average household income is about 65,000, there is no way a woman and stay home and not financially assist the man without him getting an enormous amount of stress and being incredibly depressed because all the bills can’t be met. This is the reason both and spend time with the children, both help with the chores, and both should help with the finances is why gender roles have evolved because of the economic inflation that has forced the society to create this. A canna soda used to be five cents we’re not gonna ever go backwards economically, so there’s no way that we can push this idealism of having the Mothers stay home work. America lives for profit and nobody gives a shit about the average Joe.
The reason that happened was because of feminism whereby the wages were slashed in half because double the amount of people started to work. Men and women working led to this issue, not the other was around.
@@FreedomEagle1776And one of the reasons the economy's of countries were able to grow and therefore allow the country to become competitive first world nations is feminism. I'd rather that than raising a family in a nation where there are few opportunities for them to thrive
@@erinjaftha5731 economics over social responsibility is where we’ve gone wrong. The west was already a powerhouse before feminism. Feminism is cancer.
So what happens when your husband gets sick and you’ve got no money coming in or when you get sick and the whole house is a mess and the kids are a mess ( which is the reason why men leave there sick wives so often ) do you not think it would be better for both parents to engage in taking care of the kids and chores and finances so that way if something happens the house still moves smoothly or smoother than it would if parents just had set jobs to do while the other parent gets better do you not think that would be more efficient ? Or do you think women should give up there interests in life and stay home and probably be become depressed as that’s what studies say when a parent becomes a stay at home one that the routine becomes way to familiar everyday and it eventually becomes depressing which I can imagine you don’t do the hobbies you used to because your constantly cleaning up or attending for your family you don’t see people no social interactions even if you do have them it’s way more limited
As a full time working mother of 5, I agree. My situation isn't the ideal. I'm so grateful to have the job that i do. It does allow me to be home a lot and connect with my kids more than many other opportunities. I only am employed because my family needs me to be.
As someone in a successful marriage, “traditional” gender roles aren’t necessarily something to strive for. My wife and I take on many stereotypical gender roles due to natural preferences, but we don’t divide chores based on gender. For example, I’m happy to renovate our kitchen, re-roof our house, or install rain gutters; these are often viewed as “male” activities. There’s no amount of money you could pay my wife to do any of these things. That said, the thought of folding laundry sends me into a spiral, whereas my wife is happy to fold laundry while watching TV. For all the chores that we both don’t like, we divide as evenly as possible. I happen to like doing a lot of “guy stuff” and she has a preference for lots of “girl stuff” but it’s not forced. Splitting up roles in this way ensures minimal suffering and prevents any sort of resentment from forming. I don’t think there’s a one-size-fits-all solution for role assignment. Sit down with your partner, have a conversation about what you like/dislike, and split the burden in a way that makes sense for the two of you. You should absolutely have clearly defined roles, but they don’t need to be “traditional.”
A woman who only fulfills the role of a nurturer might raise happy kids, at best. A woman who is a great nurturer AND provider, who brings more extra $$$ to the table on top of her husband’s AND spends effort on her family, would send her children to Deerfield or Benenden. A mother with a successful career at Wall Street would know just the right people to write her daughter’s reference letter to Harvard. A doctor or engineer mother can prepare her teen to become a finalist at the Intel Science Fair. There are perhaps countless children who could’ve grown up in Ferraris and Chanel’s and private schools, instead of doing drugs at some crappy public school, if their mothers had been given a chance to start a business.
Strict gender roles are not good. Ppl should do what works. Sometimes men become disabled and the wife has to bring the income. If his whole identity is tied up in provider it will be a recipe for disaster. Also not all men are natural leaders. It’s a special skill and can be a personality trait.
@@ricodee3188 you are welcome. There is a nice interview Andrew Schulz and Neal Brennan where Andrew lovingly talks about his parents and how his dad was the nurturer. He has the utmost regard for both of his parents
Yes. It's an ideal. Claiming anything else is always absolutely against dogma is bearing false witness. (Which other certain people are doing right now).
0:59 Pause frame. This look is perfect for a thumbnail. I'm only noting this because a third to half of your thumbnails look forced or with a fake smile, but this is a genuinely pure still frame. (edit) I mean when you say "pa-", but it's a shame. You look so much better in video than in thumbnails.
"BLESSINGS TO YOU LILA! ROSE!!" ... "I AM IN "COMPLETE TOTAL AGREEMENT" WITH ALL THAT YOU HAD SPOKEN, AND I TOO, TRULY HOPE AND PRAY TOO, THAT THERE WILL BE PLENTLY OF MORE WOMEN, WHO WILL BE ABLE TO "EMBRACE & UNDERSTAND COMPLETELY, THE TRUE "MOTHERHOOD CONCEPT" THAT WAS SO BEAUTIFULLY DESIGNED BY GOD HIMSELF, FOR SURE!!!!" ... BLESSINGS, TO YOU, TODAY AND FOR ALWAYS, AND KEEP FIGHTING FOR THE INNOCENT LIFE" OF OUR BEAUTIFUL BABIES, EVERYWHERE, AND MAY THE LORD GOD ABOVE, CONTINUE TO "BLESS YOU" COMPLETELY, WITHIN THE "APPOINTED CALLING" THAT HE HAS PLACED WITHIN YOU, AS WELL!!!" ... BLESSINGS ALWAYS, "YOUR SISTER IN CHRIST", AND NEW YOU TUBE LISTENER, MS. DEBORAH J. STEELE - 10/26/24 & BEYOND" ...
The most super ideal is: both parents (without kids) first work super hard and invest. Then they have kids and both stay home taking care of them. This way both were providers first and then nurturers, plus without the stress of the money...this is the ideal
That's an interesting thought, but I'd disagree. It took me a second to put my finger on why, but here are a few reasons: 1. Separating roles into providing and nurturing allows each spouse to have a role they head allowing each to have a healthy amount of autonomy and ownership. 2. It's good for kids to have an example of what hard work looks like in the outside of the home since they will likely enter the workforce at some point. 3. Kids need varying degrees of independence. If both parents are solely focused on nurturing, it's easier for them to helicopter parent and smother they're kids since they don't have anything "better" to do
@@aisherwasher6959 I would respond like this in that ideal scenario: 1: their role is to love and support the kids unconditionally. No need to separate this role since it should be equal. This is the real ownership that the children need to see and experience. And since they are financially free this is the real autonomy they are teaching to the kids. 2. It is better to show the kids what financial freedom looks like. Remember: hard work doesn't equate to financial independence. 3: They are teaching real independence to the kids. Not depending on the work system is another level of independence. Kids always copy parents. Kids need a lot of attention, they would never be annoyed because of the parents attention, kids have a lot of energy and questions, and that demands a lot of attention. Actually this is an important problem we have: a very dramatic lack of attention to kids.
Nope - Women are natural nurturers. They are better at nurturing children and they actually activate and bond differently to their mother than the father. THE ideal is Mother nurturer in the home, father at work to selflessly provide and sacrifice their time with children to enable the woman to perform her homemaker role.
@@FreedomEagle1776 In mammals, including humans, the amygdala has been found to be involved in the processing of infant-related stimuli, such as recognizing and responding to infant cues, like their cries and facial expressions. This responsiveness is essential for forming a bond between the parent and the infant, as it helps ensure the infant's needs are met. Additionally, the amygdala has been implicated in the regulation of social attachment and bonding behaviors, which are critical for forming and maintaining social relationships. It is believed that the release of oxytocin, a hormone involved in social bonding, modulates amygdala function, leading to increased attention and emotional responsiveness to social stimuli. There are some differences in the way men's and women's amygdalas function in relation to parental care, but it's important to note that these differences are not absolute and can be influenced by individual and cultural factors. Research has shown that there are some gender differences in the brain's response to infant-related stimuli. For instance, some studies have found that women tend to show greater activation in the amygdala and other brain regions involved in empathy, emotion processing, and caregiving when exposed to infant cries compared to men. This suggests that women may be more biologically predisposed to respond to and bond with infants. However, other research has shown that men can exhibit similar levels of brain activation in response to infant cues as women, particularly if they have experience with caregiving or are exposed to situations that promote paternal care. For example, studies have found that fathers who are more involved in caregiving show increased activation in the amygdala and other brain regions associated with empathy and nurturing behavior.
Not the ideal. Where did I just hear about Lance what’s his name who paid a surrogate for him and his man partner to have a baby. Then he complained the baby showed him no affection or snuggling no matter what, but then would snuggle all over Lances mother when she visited. Babies know, they also have natural inclinations.
@@youtubeKathyInteresting but still anecdotal. Studies have consistently shown that children raised by same-sex parents do not differ significantly in terms of emotional, cognitive, and social development compared to those raised by opposite-sex parents. The quality of parenting and the support network available to the child are more important factors in determining child well-being.
Well I disagree, if your wife wants to provide for your family alongside you it's fine but if you or your wife wants to share your time with someone else or worse show interest in someone else then you should be ashamed of yourself, it also depends on what kind of society, family you live in do you live in a rich privileged society where you can't spend a day without driving cars showing off your wealth then cries about being oppressed how mentally ill you are or are you living in a society where you don't even get proper food, fresh water, where you hardly earn 200 dollars per month in such case you have very little choice or else you will not live long so life is not same for everyone,
My husband works and provides. I stay at home with the kids. I homeschool, garden, make all our food from scratch and my husband doesn't do housework. He does however do the maintenance of our home. When he comes home its his rest time and spending time with kids and I We are both happy and wouldn't change a thing. Traditional roles are great and fulfilling.
Your husband does the hard work and you're a lazy american. Nothing you do is hard, most men can do what you do blindfolded.
Basically you overwork your husband so you can stay home and relax. Lets face it and youre pushing that on society. Real women who care for their family will find a part time or something to take the load off of their husband and be able to provide for their kid their own way, because they are realistic.
You guys just play fantasy and expect couple to live off a single income.
Of course traditional role is fuffilling to you, " he doesnt have to do the dishes" as if thats a huge sacrifice 😂😂
Grow up, stop playing your sex lives in the open.
100% agree and we do all the same. Gender roles just work, it removes so much chaos.
@@ThisBraveHeart doesn't it though? I get so much pushback from everywhere that is refreshing to hear that there are others too. I mean I know there are its just nice hearing from others who do the same and actually embrace this lifestyle. I hope you and your family remain blessed
@@LadyMcGinniseach gender having their gender roles is like each train having their own train tracks, zero chances for collision 💥
You ladies are dinosaurs
This was the american dream 60s 70s after WWII because economy allowed a single income household, the current neoliberal doesn't. Social problems are extremely linked to economy.
Yes it the stay-at-home wife was a construct
This was wonderful. A breath of fresh air compared to all the nihilistic depravity in other conversations about relationships.
You actually give me hope that men & women can function again one day.
as equals 🙏
America, 80% of Americans live paycheck to paycheck. The average house payment right now is 1300+ and that’s for a house it’s not even brand new. The average household income is about 65,000, there is no way a woman and stay home and not financially assist the man without him getting an enormous amount of stress and being incredibly depressed because all the bills can’t be met.
This is the reason both and spend time with the children, both help with the chores, and both should help with the finances is why gender roles have evolved because of the economic inflation that has forced the society to create this. A canna soda used to be five cents we’re not gonna ever go backwards economically, so there’s no way that we can push this idealism of having the Mothers stay home work. America lives for profit and nobody gives a shit about the average Joe.
The reason that happened was because of feminism whereby the wages were slashed in half because double the amount of people started to work. Men and women working led to this issue, not the other was around.
@@FreedomEagle1776 so: if all men go and stay home taking care of the kids. The wage slashed would be solved. Right?
@@FreedomEagle1776And one of the reasons the economy's of countries were able to grow and therefore allow the country to become competitive first world nations is feminism. I'd rather that than raising a family in a nation where there are few opportunities for them to thrive
@@viviana3666 men shouldn’t be home raising kids.
@@erinjaftha5731 economics over social responsibility is where we’ve gone wrong. The west was already a powerhouse before feminism. Feminism is cancer.
So what happens when your husband gets sick and you’ve got no money coming in or when you get sick and the whole house is a mess and the kids are a mess ( which is the reason why men leave there sick wives so often ) do you not think it would be better for both parents to engage in taking care of the kids and chores and finances so that way if something happens the house still moves smoothly or smoother than it would if parents just had set jobs to do while the other parent gets better do you not think that would be more efficient ? Or do you think women should give up there interests in life and stay home and probably be become depressed as that’s what studies say when a parent becomes a stay at home one that the routine becomes way to familiar everyday and it eventually becomes depressing which I can imagine you don’t do the hobbies you used to because your constantly cleaning up or attending for your family you don’t see people no social interactions even if you do have them it’s way more limited
Agreed. Share all the responsibilities
As a full time working mother of 5, I agree. My situation isn't the ideal. I'm so grateful to have the job that i do. It does allow me to be home a lot and connect with my kids more than many other opportunities. I only am employed because my family needs me to be.
As someone in a successful marriage, “traditional” gender roles aren’t necessarily something to strive for. My wife and I take on many stereotypical gender roles due to natural preferences, but we don’t divide chores based on gender.
For example, I’m happy to renovate our kitchen, re-roof our house, or install rain gutters; these are often viewed as “male” activities. There’s no amount of money you could pay my wife to do any of these things. That said, the thought of folding laundry sends me into a spiral, whereas my wife is happy to fold laundry while watching TV.
For all the chores that we both don’t like, we divide as evenly as possible. I happen to like doing a lot of “guy stuff” and she has a preference for lots of “girl stuff” but it’s not forced. Splitting up roles in this way ensures minimal suffering and prevents any sort of resentment from forming.
I don’t think there’s a one-size-fits-all solution for role assignment. Sit down with your partner, have a conversation about what you like/dislike, and split the burden in a way that makes sense for the two of you. You should absolutely have clearly defined roles, but they don’t need to be “traditional.”
Well said 🙏🏿
A woman who only fulfills the role of a nurturer might raise happy kids, at best.
A woman who is a great nurturer AND provider, who brings more extra $$$ to the table on top of her husband’s AND spends effort on her family, would send her children to Deerfield or Benenden.
A mother with a successful career at Wall Street would know just the right people to write her daughter’s reference letter to Harvard. A doctor or engineer mother can prepare her teen to become a finalist at the Intel Science Fair.
There are perhaps countless children who could’ve grown up in Ferraris and Chanel’s and private schools, instead of doing drugs at some crappy public school, if their mothers had been given a chance to start a business.
Boom but most don’t forecast the possibilities you just listed they are stuck in just having control.
Strict gender roles are not good. Ppl should do what works. Sometimes men become disabled and the wife has to bring the income. If his whole identity is tied up in provider it will be a recipe for disaster. Also not all men are natural leaders. It’s a special skill and can be a personality trait.
💯
Couldn't say it any better
@@vlo123veronica thanks
I genuinely appreciate this comment. Your analysis was multi-varied and insightful.
@@ricodee3188 you are welcome. There is a nice interview Andrew Schulz and Neal Brennan where Andrew lovingly talks about his parents and how his dad was the nurturer. He has the utmost regard for both of his parents
Yes. It's an ideal. Claiming anything else is always absolutely against dogma is bearing false witness. (Which other certain people are doing right now).
Ideal? Women like her are just being lazy american.
0:59 Pause frame. This look is perfect for a thumbnail. I'm only noting this because a third to half of your thumbnails look forced or with a fake smile, but this is a genuinely pure still frame.
(edit) I mean when you say "pa-", but it's a shame. You look so much better in video than in thumbnails.
Beautiful.
"BLESSINGS TO YOU LILA! ROSE!!" ... "I AM IN "COMPLETE TOTAL AGREEMENT" WITH ALL THAT YOU HAD SPOKEN, AND I TOO, TRULY HOPE AND PRAY TOO, THAT THERE WILL BE PLENTLY OF MORE WOMEN, WHO WILL BE ABLE TO "EMBRACE & UNDERSTAND COMPLETELY, THE TRUE "MOTHERHOOD CONCEPT" THAT WAS SO BEAUTIFULLY DESIGNED BY GOD HIMSELF, FOR SURE!!!!" ... BLESSINGS, TO YOU, TODAY AND FOR ALWAYS, AND KEEP FIGHTING FOR THE INNOCENT LIFE" OF OUR BEAUTIFUL BABIES, EVERYWHERE, AND MAY THE LORD GOD ABOVE, CONTINUE TO "BLESS YOU" COMPLETELY, WITHIN THE "APPOINTED CALLING" THAT HE HAS PLACED WITHIN YOU, AS WELL!!!" ... BLESSINGS ALWAYS, "YOUR SISTER IN CHRIST", AND NEW YOU TUBE LISTENER, MS. DEBORAH J. STEELE - 10/26/24 & BEYOND" ...
Well said!
Being a single catholic man it's hard to find a catholic woman to date.
Find a woman and make her catholic
@@kevinfernandez9999
Why would any woman want to be catholic
momsruletheworld
If you want to have gender roles in YOUR marriage, then do so.
What others do is none of your business
💯
The most super ideal is: both parents (without kids) first work super hard and invest. Then they have kids and both stay home taking care of them. This way both were providers first and then nurturers, plus without the stress of the money...this is the ideal
That's an interesting thought, but I'd disagree. It took me a second to put my finger on why, but here are a few reasons:
1. Separating roles into providing and nurturing allows each spouse to have a role they head allowing each to have a healthy amount of autonomy and ownership.
2. It's good for kids to have an example of what hard work looks like in the outside of the home since they will likely enter the workforce at some point.
3. Kids need varying degrees of independence. If both parents are solely focused on nurturing, it's easier for them to helicopter parent and smother they're kids since they don't have anything "better" to do
@@aisherwasher6959 I would respond like this in that ideal scenario:
1: their role is to love and support the kids unconditionally. No need to separate this role since it should be equal. This is the real ownership that the children need to see and experience. And since they are financially free this is the real autonomy they are teaching to the kids.
2. It is better to show the kids what financial freedom looks like. Remember: hard work doesn't equate to financial independence.
3: They are teaching real independence to the kids. Not depending on the work system is another level of independence. Kids always copy parents. Kids need a lot of attention, they would never be annoyed because of the parents attention, kids have a lot of energy and questions, and that demands a lot of attention. Actually this is an important problem we have: a very dramatic lack of attention to kids.
@beastbombshell3589 the man is providing a lot of care to the kids plus taking care of kids is a ton of work. So problem solved
NOPE! always trying to have your cake and eat it too.
@@ownytony yep this is why this is the best scenario. Having money, freedom and taking care of the kids
Hate to be the language police but it is supposed to be "nuRture" in the thumbnail
So fine😢
niatomalijn
Another ideal is: the man stays home taking care and nurturing the kids while the woman works and provides ❤
Nope - Women are natural nurturers. They are better at nurturing children and they actually activate and bond differently to their mother than the father. THE ideal is Mother nurturer in the home, father at work to selflessly provide and sacrifice their time with children to enable the woman to perform her homemaker role.
@@FreedomEagle1776
In mammals, including humans, the amygdala has been found to be involved in the processing of infant-related stimuli, such as recognizing and responding to infant cues, like their cries and facial expressions. This responsiveness is essential for forming a bond between the parent and the infant, as it helps ensure the infant's needs are met.
Additionally, the amygdala has been implicated in the regulation of social attachment and bonding behaviors, which are critical for forming and maintaining social relationships. It is believed that the release of oxytocin, a hormone involved in social bonding, modulates amygdala function, leading to increased attention and emotional responsiveness to social stimuli.
There are some differences in the way men's and women's amygdalas function in relation to parental care, but it's important to note that these differences are not absolute and can be influenced by individual and cultural factors.
Research has shown that there are some gender differences in the brain's response to infant-related stimuli. For instance, some studies have found that women tend to show greater activation in the amygdala and other brain regions involved in empathy, emotion processing, and caregiving when exposed to infant cries compared to men. This suggests that women may be more biologically predisposed to respond to and bond with infants.
However, other research has shown that men can exhibit similar levels of brain activation in response to infant cues as women, particularly if they have experience with caregiving or are exposed to situations that promote paternal care. For example, studies have found that fathers who are more involved in caregiving show increased activation in the amygdala and other brain regions associated with empathy and nurturing behavior.
Not the ideal. Where did I just hear about Lance what’s his name who paid a surrogate for him and his man partner to have a baby.
Then he complained the baby showed him no affection or snuggling no matter what, but then would snuggle all over Lances mother when she visited. Babies know, they also have natural inclinations.
@@youtubeKathyInteresting but still anecdotal.
Studies have consistently shown that children raised by same-sex parents do not differ significantly in terms of emotional, cognitive, and social development compared to those raised by opposite-sex parents. The quality of parenting and the support network available to the child are more important factors in determining child well-being.
Likely won’t work in the long term.
Well I disagree, if your wife wants to provide for your family alongside you it's fine but if you or your wife wants to share your time with someone else or worse show interest in someone else then you should be ashamed of yourself, it also depends on what kind of society, family you live in do you live in a rich privileged society where you can't spend a day without driving cars showing off your wealth then cries about being oppressed how mentally ill you are or are you living in a society where you don't even get proper food, fresh water, where you hardly earn 200 dollars per month in such case you have very little choice or else you will not live long so life is not same for everyone,