Don’t try to be mindful | Daron Larson | TEDxColumbus
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 ธ.ค. 2015
- Mindful Awareness Trainer Daron Larson says although mindfulness has been shown to help decrease stress and increase contentment, many who try it give up convinced they’re doing it wrong. Drawing from his daily practice since 2002, he helps people break through common obstacles and devises ways to address attention-related challenges everyone faces. Daron compares mindfulness practice to physical fitness to help distinguish the benefits from the exercises required to experience them. Just as regular exercise can improve your physical well-being, he argues that training your attention can transform the way you navigate the challenges of everyday life.
Daron Larson helps people feel more at home in their lives by encouraging them to habitually notice ordinary experiences in liberating ways. He has been practicing mindfulness daily to disrupt his own default narrative mode since his first silent meditation retreat in October 2002. He teaches mindfulness practice as attention training, using the challenges and benefits of physical fitness to help navigate similar aspects of developing attentional skills.
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"We look at the world once, in childhood. The rest is memory." ~Louise Glück - When he quoted this, I had to pause the video and have a "Oh my God, this is my problem" moment. Wow.
Literally the best Ted talk on mindfulness out there, and I've listened to them all.
It is a superb sentence. I started looking for who said that. Is there any book written by her!!
Well if you want to learn mindfulness meditation practice, try reading Mindfulness in plain English. It's audible version is freely available on TH-cam. Its beautiful book and the best book you will ever come across on mindfulness.
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I don’t understand what this means
I happened to do the same thing one day afternoon, I just try to pretend that I am not a human but a camera trying to record the details of present moment of external environment. A camera doesn’t talk to itself, doesn’t judge, it just observe the world. After I learn about mindfulness, I try to pretend that I am a camera observing both internal and external experience, I try to record the thoughts and feeling of myself without judgement, and I feel more at peace while being able to have regular emotions like a human.
I like your approach. Makes a lot of sense when you are trying to keep yourself out of what you are thinking
Wow this is really wonderful
this is really a good realization
Interesting technique. Will try it out.
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the daily reality of adult life makes me lose sight of what a pleasure it is to be alive
abso-fucking-lutely
Well that's cause it's not a pleasure.
Besides, pleasure is a judgment.
No pleasure, no pain. This is the game of mindfulness.
+ Jesse G ... So true. At some point the human race lost its way.
what a pleasure to be alive and to know that we are coming closer to death with every breath.
is it?
This is realistic. Yes. Life is messy but the way to encounter it by accepting it, and practice mindfulness not just to get rid of messiness of life but to improve life even if it's messy. Great message.
7:30 "Your strategy for living in the present will go a lot better when you accept how frequently the present sucks"
Buddha's "first noble truth"
You are Damn Right about that!!!!!
This is especially true in 2020.
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Corona is not the worst thing that is happening in the world. It is simply the one, we hear most of.
Isn’t it amazing how human beings actually need something called mindfulness to remind them that reality is always here and now? We’re so caught up in the dream of thought and make believe stories of our lives that we need a practice to actually live life as it actually is, right here, right now.
Over the past 5 years after discovering Daron's talk, I've watched it dozens of times and sent the link to dozens of my friends and family. The way he captures the essence of life is both accurate and insightful. And when Daron invites us to be understand what it means to be mindful in our lives - its a gift I'm truly thankful for.
This makes total sense. I knew for a fact that going on a vacation, going to the mountain for a week, or to the sea for a week, gives me so much creativity and relaxation. And the truth is, I thought it just wasn't a possibility in regular busy life. But listening to this, I've realized, when I'm in the nature, i am more in tune with it, with myself, more present physically, more mindful. I don't judge myself, nor the surroundings, i don't plan. I just am. And listening to this I've realized i can simulate the same thing here at home. It's not the same, but as you've said, even if it's just 15mins/24h, it matters. Thank you!
Literally the most practical explanation of mindfulness I've ever heard. Bar none.
I really love this talk. There's an uplifting pessimism in it that speaks to me.The topic is something that I've known for a long time, but sometimes good ideas go over your head until someone puts it in terms you can personally relate to. Thanks Daron.
Or until you do it 100 times.
Totally agree with you.
Mindfulness is a modern day super power that all of us can learn.
+Steve McKinnon although it's not modern day! But yes, superpower definitely, in a way.
technically, a curse would be a judgment and thus the opposite of mindfulness, not that it matters.
tormentography technically, super power is a judgment too....putting things on a pedestal eh?
I'm not sure.
If I can sent and laser beam which instantly freezes you, or could fly anywhere, or lift anything, I don't think those are judgments just like my ability to type isn't a judgement. I could be wrong, but I think these types of "things" would be "nouns" and thus cannot be a sort of judgment.
Also, in our battle to avoid judgment I think it's fruitful to know what it is we are trying to avoid. That is, we ought to know what we mean by "judgment" such that we can train ourselves to avoid this.
But then again, it doesn't really matter.
Just like your judgment of me putting things on a pedestal is not a noun or a super power. Not that it matters, although it's helpful to know what it is we are actually doing when we are being mindful...
whatever!!!!
So I had to pause it at 4:36, and at this point I realize that this guy is a genius. I know that I will definitely finish watching it, watch it again, and share it with others, many others.
One of the clearest and most straightforward explanations of mindfulness and meditation I've heard. Awesome talk.
I think this is one of the most realistic talks I've seen on how mindfulness can be applied, and how it is useful in every day life.
Sorry for bothering you. It's quite hard to understand the video for me. So i wanna ask you, does talking to your self in your mind is bad for you?
Back a few years later for a second watch. Clearly one of the best talks on mindfulness ever. Every year I should watch Shauna Shapiro's TED talk, and this one as well. Brilliant. Thank you again Daron.
One of the best talks about Mindfulnee, more realistic and down to earth I’ve ever heard. Thank you!
I love his talk! He's humorous, charming and what he said reminds me of things that I've forgot - to remember & to practice mindfulness. It's that moment-to-moment practice of pausing & picking a thing to notice, maybe what/how you're seeing or hearing, or feeling in a part of your body, etc. I had done that before & I remember it felt good, but I later failed to keep it as a habit & even lost touch of what to do to practice again when I wanted to. Thank you for reminding me. Once again, lovely talk! Thank you
I honestly love this talk
Most of us constantly thinking about the future and worrying about the stuff that's gonna happen without even realizing that it's just thoughts and a battle on our mind that makes us anxious and trapped
We need to practice paying attention for the things that's happening in the present right now;)
Again it was a great lesson i love it
The Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle is a great deeper guide to this. Love it!
This is great. Pretty much exactly the same as David Foster Wallace's thoughts. This is an excerpt from one of his creative writing classes - "It’s not that students don’t ‘get’ Kafka’s humour but that we’ve taught them to see humour as something you get - the same way we’ve taught them that a self is something you just have. No wonder they cannot appreciate the really central Kafka joke - that the horrific struggle to establish a human self results in a self whose humanity is inseparable from that horrific struggle. That our endless and impossible journey toward home is in fact our home. It’s hard to put into words up at the blackboard, believe me. You can tell them that maybe it’s good they don’t ‘get’ Kafka. You can ask them to imagine his art as a kind of door. To envision us readers coming up and pounding on this door, pounding and pounding, not just wanting admission but needing it, we don’t know what it is but we can feel it, this total desperation to enter, pounding and pushing and kicking, etc. That, finally, the door opens … and it opens outward: we’ve been inside what we wanted all along."
humour you dont get you have it or not.
ruzickaw that’s not what he said at all though. Are you adding your own thoughts?
What an amazing presentation. The man just gave the most descriptive insight into meditation with using the word once!
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Beautiful! Noticing moments is fun, expands time, and can be a simple joy.
We're definitely more present when we are kids. Not always though. Coming from a traumatizing childhood, whenever the present, as a kid, was nerve-wracking I'd simply think about the future as a way to block what was going on around me. So I think it does depend on one's childhood. Lately, I realized that whenever my mind starts thinking about the future frequently it's a good indicator that the present sucks and I need to do something about it.
I agree with you. We’re more present in our childhood, that is if we even had a “childhood” and it was not stripped from us through trauma.
Thank you for casting your gems...
Any moment we habitually "check out" is an opportunity to instead disrupt the narrative of our life and notice the details right in front of us....
what it feels like to notice....
the relaxation in my legs
anything resfull at all that we can savor
Your strategy for living in the present will go better when you accept how frequently the present sucks.
what it feels like to notice....
how slowly the line is moving
what it is like to run late
how cold my body feels
Your timed practice supports practice the rest of the day
Childhood
Set aside our unresolved story problems just a moment ( limit numbing , worrying and unconsciousness)
What a truth! Problems are parts of the life. Just need to know how to see and take care of them. Easier said than done! Just start it! Thank you for your sharing.
i’m LIVING for his charisma
This is a brilliant talk! Both funny and super insightful. I'm a longtime meditator, and this talk contained extremely helpful reminders for me. Well done, Daron--thank you!
Very insightful -really gets to the heart of what mindfulness is all about in a practical way.
Love this! We have 5 basic senses and Daron reminded me to use them. So simple and practical.
Dear Daron, I enjoyed every minute of your talk, thank you!
This talk will never get old, it is Timeless. Really awesome talk!
Thank you for sharing and reminding me of what's it like to be me again.
You rock, buddy
Excelent! His way of presentation and the last sentence give me hope. If I understand what he is saying right, it means that I can stay a real person with likes and dislikes and also become more present.Sadly my experience (with vipassana Meditation) was very different from that. And a lot of long time meditators I´ve seen seem to me, like they have no personality anymore, like they conditioned themselves to be inhuman.So thank you for this.
Wow, this is exactly what I needed to hear today!
Thank you, Daron!
Awesome message! Great job! In the sage words of Kunu - the more you do, the less you do.
What a nice man. And one of the best TED talks I've ever seen.
he's clumsy yet so calm and confident!
My favorite TED talk!! very well done!!!
As Alan Watts said, "This is it". Making what trips so many so simple. Well done & with humour.
Once you seperate your ego from you're true self, you would not have any strong reactions such as embarrassment described. They just don't occur anymore, or only as a gentle feeling you can observe like a bubble and blow it on its way. No aversion or pushing occurs. No judgement
thanks
This guy gets it.
The stairs analogy at the beginning is brilliant! This was an awesome talk.
I do practice paying attention to one sense esp listening very carefully to natural sounds or seeing the scenery when out in the wood. Having practiced for more than a month yet my bad habit of dwelling in my inner narratives started to rise, becoming vulnerable to react certain emotions finally rendering mindfulness practice to go totally in vain. I noticed it is prerequisite to accept any states of mind and feelings, or negative ones. But I found myself engulfed by it many times. I have social anxiety driven by childhood and now I am able to lead a normal life compared to the past however even before anxiety occurs, my brain perceives social situations or events as a threat I had traumatised, making body manifestations like rattling voice, hand and irregular eye movements etc. Mindfulness for some ppl is easier said than done but surely enabling you to take baby steps.
this is wonderful! I loved every sentence and will watch over and over again.
Great, great video. Seriously this blew my mind
Great message behind this. More than just being mindful.
it seems like he talks about a different way to be mindful rather than talking about 'dont try to be mindful'
really good content. helped a lot.
I agree, it's a mindfulness technique he's speaking of.
Daron is the BEST!
Awesome explanation of live wisely In the world
Felt so relaxed through out this video,awesome speech!
7:29 "Your strategy to live in the present will get a lot better when you accept how frequently the present sucks" , lol, this had me.
You are awesome! You're a good speaker, content was great and you delivered it like a home. Run.
Also you're funny and adorable.
❤️ the message i needed... keep on practicing dont give up! ❤️
This is the best speech on Mindfulness 🙏
Simply THANK YOU.
0.000000001 useful insightful and unselfish vidoes on youtube. and this is one of them, thankyou.
this man is an absolute legend!
Perfect. I never liked the term "mindfulness", when what you really seek is freedom from the mind...
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Soo true!! 👌👏
It's totally not about freedom from the mind. I'd describe it more as acceptance but non-identification with the mind and being itself.
Yeah but the freedom of the mind is mindfulness..when the mind is not the boss of you then you have all of your mind for you..so when the mind is empty it is mindfulness..when the mind is empty you rest the mind and you also sharpen in the same time because it doesn’t making all this nonsense which everyone is going through
I didn't hear freedom from mind?
Mindfulness is from Buddhism right? Buddhists also believe mind is outside of us, ie, the universe is mind, the universe is mental. Now see it.
@@coughyfilter1983 It's freedom from the mind in the context of freedom from the constant ruminating, worrying, criticism, mind chatter that takes place in the mind. I think that's what the person meant.
One of the best ted talks
He is right Mindfulness is great tool for checking your self out.
Some people having no serious prblem in life becomes so much stressed and anxious without any reason.and believe me it is a very big problem.
So as I.
Great practical talk! Thank you
The best benefit of mindfulness is the wisdom that there is no permanent self. What mentions is only by product. 😍 🙏 🙏 🙏 👀 👍
Exactly what I thought after this video was not was I really expecting .
It doesn't seems annoying though and I m sure you r not the only one.
I tried to watch this video two years ago and clicked right out because I couldnt understand.
Two years later I realize I picked up some of these habits by accident. Thank you so so much.
The best talk I heard lately !
I´m from Germany and I didn´t get the message of the video until i found out that "mindful" has a much better translation in German. It means something along the lines "pay attention"
I thought that this was going to be AGAINST mindfulness meditation... so I was curious, but, I was wrong.
+Faegir Volva that's the point, to drag you into this
+Nör Aldin Ha! That would be like trying to drag someone into piano lessons or training for a 5K. Better to provide encouragement to people who have ruled it out based on misinterpreting the experience of practicing.
I'm so down, but the title is click-bait. You got me in a good way, but that was a miracle. I'm going to watch this till it sounds like English bc I am that stressed out and potentially disciplined. Not quite yet.
The key is in the word "try". Don't TRY to be mindful, don't aim at the goals and ignore the process. I'm this sense it's not at all misleading :)
I made similar comment. He could use an accurate title to attract those who have tried mindfulness and "it didn't work for them" because they never really learned that it is a way of being with our moment-to-moment experience--5 senses, thoughts, feelings.
Another great TED talk!
Awesome! Thank you so much
Really wonderful, thank you!
This is exactly what it has been feeling i have am doing this ! But i have never been able to explain jt like you have ! Amazing !. That is it the secret. The noticing it is like stepping out of yourself each time or like you said waking up seejng and hearing !
Brilliant, well done Daron.
Mindfulness made me who I used to be and whom I liked. :)
I really enjoyed this talk. taught me a lot.
Mindfulness has been hyped as this miracle cure for every ailment.
I love the analogy with climbing stairs!
So settle, yet so impactful. Got my thinking a lot about the power in one of many ways which an introvert would communicate (and since I just read Quiet - great book btw).
/ Alexander - Wish you all a great day !
Very nice talk. Thank you guys 🙏😊
He's cute. And this talk really meant a lot to me
Great insight! Thanks :)
Very nice. Thank you! and Go Buckeyes!!!
we are naturally intelligent, compasive, concentrated, live the present and share it( where else could we live) experience happiness and suffering in ourselves and in others, fall down and get up. The thing is that we have to find in ourselves the will and courage to get up to think to concentrate to help ourselves and others without being lazy , wanting everything without trouble, accepting and desl with suffering thebest possible , accept process, and not be tempted by an easy ,tips full, quick reward , never happy life.
so good. underrated
Wonderfully explained...
Love !
This was so relatable ✨
This was enlightening 👍👍
I guess this is a very rare video I have pressed like button for
13 years of practice and still human. GG
Beautiful speech.
Thank you!
This is free medicine for my problematic life, just cost little amount of time and data but worth
It.
Mindfulness is really Self on Life Energy in own Body and visualizing it transcend earth Centre and Sun frequently.
Great speech.
I so much agree to you sir 👏🏻thank you
This guy is amazing
Well done, well done!
Wow that was really helpful and interesting
great talk thumbs up