Umm.....And, the adoptive parents should feel even luckier that the birth mother chose them to love the best child in the world. Quit putting adoptive parents above the birth mother.
Ikr? The fact that they're 'all' being adults and raising this baby is amazing. Alot of ppl don't understand it because they've never had love like this I LOVE IT AND THEM FOR BEING ADULTS AND MAKING SURE THIS CHILD DONT FALL THRU THE CRACKS.....KUDOS TO THEM
A group of incredibly mature human beings who put Abriel's wellbeing first. This is a great family and its a pleasure to watch your journey as a family.
I totally agree the times together, especially him & his dad's antics warm my heart. My daughter whose twins and next baby were still born sent me happyevansafter videos and they make us smile
You guys really do look like you're related! You have similar foreheads and eyes, headshapes and even your chins are the same shape. And Abriel looks like both of you. It's amazing how everything lined up perfectly for this adoption. He is so blessed to have so much love surrounding him. ❤
At first I didn’t know how I felt about this because the birth moms get so much negativity but as an attorney who represents parents who loose their children due to neglect etc. I think this is BEAUTIFUL. God is definitely in this. Birth Mom here seems so comfortable with you and her reasons are her reasons but she has to love her child to want to give him the best life.
I believe it may have been more selfish to have kept him knowing she couldn't support 4 children alone. It's an emotional roller coaster for sure. But he's got an amazing family. And many kids have 2 moms and 2 dad's. When their parents divorce and remarry. And no one seems to bat an eye.
Seeing the way you guys navigate adoption is really incredible. So many adults these days that want to adopt/have adopted don’t understand, or don’t want to understand the trauma that almost every adoptee faces as we grow up. You guys have already built beautiful foundations for Abriel to grow up in and if you continue to navigate parenthood the way you are, you guys are going to give him the best opportunity to know, understand and love the person that he is.
Just remember, every story is different. Some little babies were actually taken OUT of trauma (my baby) and for his safety, must be kept from his birth family. But, we are as honest as we can be, without making him feel bad.
Baby looks like his Mum, his eyes, his lips , smile…..he just has Kayla’s complexion. Mikayla you have blessed your son and another family by this sacrifice. God just uses people to bless others. Love you all
I think that your son is the luckiest little boy in the world to have 3 parents who absolutely love him unconditionally is a great blessing. You all are a wonderful family.
To me this is a brilliant way to raise a child, being open and honest from the start. It’s a basic human right for people to know their lineage, and being open from the get go, allows him to know his family history and never have the longing of never knowing where he stems from. He’s clearly LOVED by all parties and that’s so vital… KEEP BEING AWESOME PARENTS to him 🥰💕
She did enough explaining as well as opening up to us on some things, I honestly believe nobody other than family deserves to know the reasoning for the adoption but let alone not even because it’s your choice to do so, but for people to get mad in the comments bc she didn’t give an answer is honestly dumb. You can’t be mad because someone isn’t answering a really personal question let alone to thousands of strangers.
@@nunyabidness6045Nope, they decide why they put and nobody has the right to complain. If the video was called "the reasons why I gave my child" then ok, complain for false publicity but not for their right to keep some things for themselves.
You guys look like sisters. My aunt adopted her son and raised him in an open adoption situation with his mother. All worked very well. The biological mother is part of our family now. My cousin is now 25 y.o. He is awesome and well bonded to both sides.
I really wanted to know why she gave her son up, only because I’m nosy. Am I mad? No. Do I care? No. What I care about is that Makayla did what was best for her son at the time no matter what the reason or situation was. Makayla you rock!!! It take guts, heart and love to do what you did. I tip my hat off to you. You couldn’t have chosen a better family.🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️
The question of "why" Makayla put Abriel up for adoption is "the elephant in the room". It is implicit in the discussion. Its seems a good set up on the surface, but I do wonder why also.
I was waiting to know also. They definitely made it seem like they were going to answer it also. Teasing for weeks they were gonna answer all the important questions everyone’s been asking…. Then even teased at the end of the first half. But didn’t do it on the second half. Stuff like that I don’t like. Just being fake at that point to get our attention. Most those questions were pretty much common sense. Smh..I’m just disappointed.
@@gabbycarter965 it's your right to question it, just as it's their right to let you keep on wondering. Just because they're on a public platform doesn't mean they are obligated to do anything for you. Are they obligated to tell you when they're menstruating as well? By your logic, yes., Because they're on TH-cam. 🤦🏽♀️
Thank you for choosing life. Abriel was meant to be in this world and what a gift you have given his adoptive parents. What a beautiful act of selflessness.
She has an amazing heart and she’s so strong for doing this it must be very very hard but she puts people before her own self to help them become parents I think it’s the most amazing thing and she deserves all the respect and love in this world. God bless her and her entire family. An angel on earth honestly most selfless person ever. We need more people like you Makaila x
Open adoption is just a bonus family and it's the most humble thing any families can do to share true love with humans that are not blood relatives.....y'all look like sisters have you checked to see if you are relatives somewhere in your blood lines
This dynamic of having both families in his life is such a blessing. I love that you are there for each other and not only want the best for him but you want the best for each other also.
This has made me so happy !! This is how we did things with our adoption.. open adoption.. I adopted her from birth .. my ex and I.. I raised her on my own since she was 10 months old. She will be 21 in November and is now Specialists Hoffman MP.. she Blessed my life so much!!! I’m so happy for y’all and it makes me feel so good to know others think like we do.. she still calls her biological parents Big Mama and Big Daddy… 🥰🥰🥰🥰🙏🏼♥️✝️
I saw you guys on TV! You guys are so wonderful! You ladies seem like BEST FRIENDS! Thanks for showing a positive side of adoption but most of all, showing so much love to that sweet little boy! Blessings & love to you all!❤️
Thank you so much for sharing this. I decided on adoption and have chosen a couple I absolutely LOVE and we care about each other. I’m already getting crap from certain family members who have said nasty and cruel things because they don’t understand modern adoption. I’m so happy to come across your video, this gives me so much hope! 💜
I feel like you guys should be the face of open adoption this is how it should be I know not everyone is comfortable with it but it's simply amazing and I love your relationship ♡♡
It’s as if you two were family in a past life, total sister vibe going on. What a gift. You were all meant to meet. Thank you for sharing your divine journey. It’s beautiful, really.
You all have a TRUE Family Bond, that has Abriel's best at the forefront! Keep staying that way and love each other all around! Makayla your decision to do what you did is between you, God and Abriel, when/if he wants to know. I have truly LOVED watching this Family. God keep blessing you all! 💜
This beautiful boy is so incredibly lucky to have you two for his mommas. I wish all adoptive kids could have this experience 💕 Is wonderful to see two strong women coming together and putting the best interest of their son first. ❤️
As an adult, adopted in 82... I cannot begin to tell you how much I admire the efforts and consideration both families have invested in this child. I was told from a very early age that I came from someone else's tummy... and that she wasn't able to give me the life that she wanted for me.. and that they had chosen me. Despite being told this, I put my adoptive parents through hell as a teenager. I was soooo confused. The fact that they have already considered these years, and discussed the future, is such a wonderful sign that both mothers have nothing but his best interest at heart. He's a very lucky boy... to have such beautiful souls looking after him❤️
You're both amazing mothers and your son is incredibly special and lucky to have two mothers who love him dearly. You can tell he will grow up to be a happy young man. I love how you're being transparent and open with him from a very young age. This is truly amazing 👏
I love watching this family. You guys are helping so many people by sharing this story. Way to show the world how possible it is to co-parent and you all are blessed with extended family.
Love this. I thought she was going to answer why she chose adoption for him, but never did. It’s so nice to see how loved he is and how well you all get along.
Nasia - I have a little feeling why it happened (obviously it is just an assumption) but I will not say anything on this platform beacuase I don't need anyone reporting me.
@@WILMA_ same I have a feeling too. It’s probably too painful to mention. I’m assuming has something to do with the baby’s father not being around. Either way I’m glad she has a healthy relationship with her son. He’s so blessed to have 2 moms who loves him dearly. Gonna be very helpful when he grows up to have that support.
Mikayla is so sweet ❤ She has a big heart. I know she feels guilt in a way for giving Abriel to his adoptive parents but at the same time she feels really good about her decision ❤
I'm just watching this video now. I love that you guys are so open with Abriel. I love that you guys are so open with each other. I love that Ashley tries to understand Mikayla's feelings as best as you can. I have read up on adoption vs surrogacy and a lot of kids say they experience trauma due to adoption because the adoptive parents try to hide who the birth parents are or don't tell them until they are older. It makes me heart happy that you all have such an amazing relationship, you guys are open with him from the start, he clearly was adopted because he was loved not unwanted, and you guys created a whole new family with so much love involved! I actually found you on Instagram randomly and it brought me here to your channel. I absolutely love your family. You both are absolutely beautiful! P.S. I found good and bad things about surrogacy too just didn't add them because your story is about adoption. I want 1 more baby of my own(I have a 4 almost 5 year old) but I wanted to look into becoming a surrogate to help another mama fulfill her dream of also becoming a mama because I think motherhood is a beautiful journey that all the mamas who would be amazing at it should get to go to through! Again l love your family and will always watch you guys!!!
I love the dynamics of their relationship, coming together as one. I love how momma Makayla respects boundaries, I love how Ashley and Steven share Ab with Makayla. I cried tears of joy watching this. This was devine and you all are fulfilling one of your purposes. Sending you all, love, light and unlimited blessings. 🥰🥰🥰
I'm in a similar situation, I've had my son since he was 3 days old,and we all celebrated his birth days together. Not every year but alot. He's now grown, and a great joy in all our lives. It only gets better.
As a birth mother who put her son up for adoption, I have the same feelings as Makayla. I don't regret it, but sure, I always wonder what my (and his) life would be like had I hadn't. G-d Bless you all for the love you have and show each other.
I’m so sorry for the incredibly rude comment caligirl made and thank you for loving your child so much that you made such a hard choice. I applaud your love for your child and thank you for sharing your perspective. 💛
I honestly have so many issues with for profit adoption. I can’t handle the trauma that adoptees and bio parents have to endure…. That being said, you are a good example of what folks should try to do. The bio parent needs to be involved and the child should always be able to learn their heritage and have that bond. I am still very leery of adoption, but I appreciate you openness on this subject. The bio mom seems so happy with the arrangement and you are so open to letting him love her. That’s important. I appreciate you saying how if you make an open adoption, keep it open. The fact it is actually a closed adoption and you kept it open anyway? That’s amazing. I have been very rough on you on other videos… this is such a sensitive subject to me in so many ways. But thanks for posting this and showing how much you are trying to make this a good situation.
So true Katie. I feel your energy in your message and I feel you completely. They did great with this decision. One kid safe at a time or more at a time ☺️🤗
The ending message was perfect. Not everything is everyone's business, and that's for her and Abriel to talk about when the time is right. Love both you lady's and everyone else, Dad too lol much love from MD ❤
I’m new here: It’s amazing how much love this sweet little boy has. Y’all are more mature than most adults that just “co-parent” together. Birth mama is so strong to know that her son would be better off with another family. Adopted mama is so strong to go through the adoption process and not know if the adoption would even go through after his birth. Y’all are so incredibly amazing! P.S. Both mama’s are sooooo beautiful!!!
Wow, this is beautiful. Absolutely incredible adoption process. It got me teared up, your baby is very lucky to have his adopted family AND biological family by his side.
You both are beautiful and amazing!!! What matters most is that Abriel has both families giving him unconditional love while being one family themselves. LOVE it!! That's how adoption should be. Thanks for sharing your story! Blessings!
Usually I agree that people reach when saying people look alike but you both really do. So beautiful. It’s like it was destined plus all the other similarities you had! Loved all the answers 💕
At the beginning you were about to talk about why she chose adoption and it switched to a different topic. Later you just said it's personal. Good way to keep people watching to see if you'd mention it. Anyway, it looks like a unique arrangement you have and Abriel is blessed to have so much support. I wish you all a blessed and happy future. 💜
I think you feel okay when you leave because you feel comfortable and confident. You know Abriel is loved and safe! It’s a great feeling when you say goodbye to your child and you don’t have to worry or be sad.
I love that Makayla's answers are in the best interest of Abriel and that you guys have a friendship inside the adoption so nothing is weird or one of you feel out of place asking things or doing something when it comes to Abriel because at the end of the day he matters the most and his feelings as he grows I love watching all of you and Abe steals my heart all the time he's so cute God bless you guys for being the adults that you are I love seeing it and I'm definitely staying tuned for baby #2
I love this so much, but at the same time hate that people feel the right to invade the bio moms privacy. You could tell a couple of the questions were hard or confusing for her, in which I'm sure her answers can vary depending on the day. It's an emotional rollercoaster and we owe her the respect and privacy. She seems content, without spreading the biggest parts of her personal life with people that are going to judge her. We all have laundry we don't want hanging out on the line. But, good job you two. This little boy is so well loved. 💙
I respect Abriel's birth mom for choosing not to explain to the world why she put him up for adoption. Only Abriel (not even the adoptive family IMO) need to know why. She is a strong woman, I wouldn't have the strength to do it. I just cannot fathom giving away my child to another family to raise even if the odds were stacked against me. Damn, it would kill me.
I have a couple of friends whose moms were raped but ended up having them anyway. In both cases, adoption probably would've been better for the kids. The mothers never had a full emotional connection to either of them. At the same time, I doubt either mother would have wanted to openly explain that they were raped just because a random person asked. (Not saying that is the case here cuz I don't know them but there can be all sort of things going on that could make someone give up a child.)
I agree she doesn’t have to explain why she did it and shouldn’t be judged for doing it. But if she did tell everyone why it could help those who have a similar situation as hers. Either way this dynamic is beautiful and beautiful to watch.
I'm sure it still kills her but she knows it's best. I think it's always harder on the birth mom than people think. My mom had to give a kid up for adoption for a very good reasons before I was born and he had a way better life but it effected her for the rest of her life.
As an adoptee this is so weird to me. I feel like I would've wanted this growing up, because this topic was so taboo and also since I didn't re-connect with my bio mom after being adopted at 4, until 14 years later and she died last year so we never saw each other in person again. But I also feel like this would've confused me so much. I LOVE THIS relationship but oh my the roller coaster of feelings 😅
I feel like there are always going to be ups and downs (just like with anything in life); however, we’re hoping that by keeping our adoption open that he doesn’t have to feel like he was missing a part of himself or that he can’t ask questions! We totally understand and respect your viewpoints and appreciate you taking time to watch our video! ❤️
Yeah. A few of my cousins were raised by their grandmothers while their mothers lived in the same town with other siblings or their partner's kids. It's a lot but I think stability is preferable?
I have seen a lot of adoptees say this, and I'm so curious.. why do you think it would have confused you? I can imagine why it might be confusing to someone in that situation, but I really want to hear from your perspectives why you think it would be, if you don't mind sharing. I would also love to hear from any adoptees who are now adults, who grew up having a relationship with their birth mother about what their experiences were like
This is amazing and so special. I gave my daughter for adoption and we keep in contact thru Facebook but they said that as gets gets older she will know she's adopted, but for now and until she's old enough to WANT to know, I'm a 'family friend' or an aunt. BUT, I will also never physically see her in real life, unless of course she gets older and wants to meet me. Which was not what we agreed on during the adoption process while I was pregnant. They were supposedly open to an open adoption. Until it happened, and things changed. Now it's like a closed adoption that I only get to see pictures of on Facebook. Until she gets older and wants to know, then they say that they'll never keep her from me or the truth. It's all confusing. And of course, I made a permanent decision based on temporary circumstances. But, I couldn't have chosen a better family for her. She is very well off, taken care of, and loved beyond measure. I couldn't ask for anything better.
I honestly love the way you guys basically coparent with your open adoption I think it’s a lot healthier to build the family vibe so he feels loved on both ends at the end of the day he knows you guys are his parents and she’s his birth mom and he’s loved ultimately love is the best medicine to the souls great job guys…..💕
This just shows openness and empathy is the answer to all problems! my friends brother has a birth mom and adoptive mom with an open adoption and hes now 23 and such a well rounded boy whos stoked to have 2 moms and 2 sets of siblings!
You two ladies look alike. You are all great parents. Your husband is a great father. You guys are great. Your son is very blessed to have all of you as his parents. Best wishes to all of you.
I have an open adoption also my son was adopted by my first cousins due to health problems and we still have a very strong and good relationship! It's really great to see some other people having this open and close of an adoption
It’s crazy cause I see a lot of negative comments on you guys other videos sometimes & it’s usually always about race or them criticizing the TikTok’s with Abriel & stuff but whole time the relationship between you all is way deeper than what’s even shown. I love everything about this video & all of you guys other content. Thanks you guys for doing this vid it was hella genuine! 🫶🏾
I did an open adoption with my son. His adoptive parents are so so wonderful and I’m incredibly grateful for them. My opinion on which is better - open vs closed adoption - is determined on a case by case basis. There are many factors that go into making that decision and when an open adoption is chosen, the level of involvement is also going to be different for each family. I think what this family has chosen to do for Abriel is beautiful! The amount of involvement that the birth Mother has is completely different from what I have with my son, but like I said, every situation is different and what works for this family wouldn’t work for mine. I love that this works for them though! Abriel is blessed to have so many family members that love him & support him. ❤
I can imagine their would be some cases that closed is for the best but I think open is some cases like this and yours is the gold standard. It stops any confusion with the child’s development. I think these guys have really sorted this out. I think Kayla would offer the balance to him and the she is chilled enough to say no with love which is super important for him to hear
I love this adoption story.. It’s so much like our adoption story.. I’ve always included the bio mom in all of our sons milestones.. We even take mini trips together.. I live by these words he is mine in a way he’ll never be hers yet he is hers in a way he’ll never be mine but together we’re MOTHERHOOD.. ❤️
I think it's Beautiful that there is such a wonderful relationship among everyone involved in his life!! It's so Awesome to see that everyone puts Abriel's feelings first!
I don’t watch this channel much but I admire Kayla on her selfless ness how sweet of woman she is she really is a beautiful soul and I’ve always thought it takes a special soul to adopt that’s my opinion and she beautiful inside and out and an amazing mother
This is so healthy for the child. Thank you so much for not making this about the parents only but also the child. & Happy you both are open to the mother too ❤️
There can never be too much love for a child. You have an amazing blended family and are a glowing example of an adoption success story! Wish you all love and happiness for the future! GOD BLESS
I love you guys! Thank you for giving a break down when we were not entitled to it, such a beautiful family. It’s so crazy that you both look like sisters 🥰
Btw thank you for this! My partner and I currently struggle with infertility but your videos and content give me so much hope and bring so much joy. To see the possibilities are endless and the love is so unconditional. I look forward to my journey when the day comes.
Mama Kayla, you are such a beautiful woman! The look in your eyes tells such an emotional strong story and you still stand so strong with that beautiful smile on your face. I really do hope you know how you are a huge inspiration out here and have no idea the impact you made on me. I really do wish I can just hug you and have a huge cry session together and then many happy conversations!! You brought happiness to my life and gave me a new meaning. You truly are so remarkable!! The amount of humility you show is beautiful. So so so so many of us can learn from you. Continue to be the beautiful person you are and live your fullest knowing you are the best you! I LOVE YOU MAMA KAYLA!!
The story reminds me of a friend who was adopted by a family member and never learned that she is not her biological mother! Her family kept her other 3 sisters, 2 of whom were older than her and 1 younger. We don't know why until today, but my friend is the most successful of the 3 sisters in her career, and she's helping out the biological family after her mother, who raised her, died, and she discovered that she is her auntie and not her biological mother. Everything happens for a reason, whether we uncover it one day or not!🙏
I honestly said the same thing, that Ab looks like his adoptive Mother, y'all have similar features. It's a blessing that he is so loved by you all ❤️🙏🏽 .
You gals are so amazing. Your dynamic is so special and it's evident just how loving and understanding you are to each other. I wish all adoptions could be like this. God bless your beautiful family! ❤
you two are AMAZING WOMEN.. so glad you put this online so other people can see that this can work .. I am 50 and just found out my mom gave my brother up for adoption.he just found out he is 51.. unfortunately our living parents have dementia so we have no answers.
I give you guys so so so much credit and find it so heart-warming the choices you’ve made to help support abriel and give him the best life you can. You’re both SO incredibly selfless.
Omg I love the ending .. like I have been dying to know but hearing your explanation Makayla I’m like .. ya ofcourse! Makes total sense and respect you even more for it. I know you had the right reasons and am so proud of all of you!! I know it’s a hard journey but you guys are killing it and inspires sooo many ppl in the process !!
From what I've seen on the news for the past few years, adopted or not, as long as babies are loved, safe, happy and cared for, that is what's important ❤️
This was a soul contract already written. You guys are actual twns. And baby boy looks like both mommies. Insane
It is this indeed. A soul contract.❤️
Never heard of a soul contract, but I definitely am interested in learning about it.
@@SheanaOBrien1985 you should look into it. We all have them. ☺️
I am not the only one !💚✊🏾
I resonate with this I was definitely called to watch this for the phenotypes
This child is so blessed to have so many people who love him
This birth mom should feel extremely lucky to have her son raised by such an amazing family.
Umm.....And, the adoptive parents should feel even luckier that the birth mother chose them to love the best child in the world. Quit putting adoptive parents above the birth mother.
Ikr? The fact that they're 'all' being adults and raising this baby is amazing. Alot of ppl don't understand it because they've never had love like this I LOVE IT AND THEM FOR BEING ADULTS AND MAKING SURE THIS CHILD DONT FALL THRU THE CRACKS.....KUDOS TO THEM
I agree with you they take good care of him.
@@jellybellyfun3288 THANK YOU!!!! Ugh!!! I’m sick of it!!
@@jellybellyfun3288 you must’ve had your child taken. Nobody put anyone above the birth mom. Quit projecting your insecurities.
Wow! I now see why Abriel looks like you. You look just like his mom! This adoption was God sent ❤❤🙏🏾
So much alike, wow
😂
They look nothing alike
They sound alike. And have simular smiles.
A group of incredibly mature human beings who put Abriel's wellbeing first. This is a great family and its a pleasure to watch your journey as a family.
I totally agree the times together, especially him & his dad's antics warm my heart. My daughter whose twins and next baby were still born sent me happyevansafter videos and they make us smile
You guys really do look like you're related! You have similar foreheads and eyes, headshapes and even your chins are the same shape. And Abriel looks like both of you. It's amazing how everything lined up perfectly for this adoption. He is so blessed to have so much love surrounding him. ❤
I am chock to see how both moms looking a like is crazy 😂. Maybe they may be related without knowing is not normal how they look a like😂❤.
I just want to say how much I admire Makayla for choosing adoption. It shows how much you love Abe and how selfless you are. ❤️
At first I didn’t know how I felt about this because the birth moms get so much negativity but as an attorney who represents parents who loose their children due to neglect etc. I think this is BEAUTIFUL. God is definitely in this. Birth Mom here seems so comfortable with you and her reasons are her reasons but she has to love her child to want to give him the best life.
ABSOLUTELY, well said
Totally agree!
I believe it may have been more selfish to have kept him knowing she couldn't support 4 children alone. It's an emotional roller coaster for sure. But he's got an amazing family. And many kids have 2 moms and 2 dad's. When their parents divorce and remarry. And no one seems to bat an eye.
Seeing the way you guys navigate adoption is really incredible. So many adults these days that want to adopt/have adopted don’t understand, or don’t want to understand the trauma that almost every adoptee faces as we grow up. You guys have already built beautiful foundations for Abriel to grow up in and if you continue to navigate parenthood the way you are, you guys are going to give him the best opportunity to know, understand and love the person that he is.
Awwww thank you so much, this truly means a lot to us!!
@@happilyevansafterr h
True! there are usually some selfishness going on with adopting parents somehow!!!!
He looks like his birth mom , y’all are awesome and the baby is so lucky ♥️
Just remember, every story is different. Some little babies were actually taken OUT of trauma (my baby) and for his safety, must be kept from his birth family. But, we are as honest as we can be, without making him feel bad.
Baby looks like his Mum, his eyes, his lips , smile…..he just has Kayla’s complexion. Mikayla you have blessed your son and another family by this sacrifice.
God just uses people to bless others. Love you all
It’s mind blowing how similar you guys look. That’s awesome ❤️
@ Tia Soares: I was thinking the same thing. They look like siblings. Really. One just light and the other dark. The face is the same. Wow.
Exactly my thoughts too! Amazing!!
True
That's the first thing that came to my mind!
Hooonnneeeyyy I was saying the same thing......
I think that your son is the luckiest little boy in the world to have 3 parents who absolutely love him unconditionally is a great blessing. You all are a wonderful family.
These 2 women are absolutely AMAZING.
ABSOLUTELY ❤!!!
I know this is an old video but you can feel the love and respect you have for each other. It’s beautiful
Your openness with each other and Abriel is sooo healthy for Abriel. He'll know and feeeeeeel that he is cared for, wanted , and loved.
I got chills when you said that Abrial is Michaela son. I could genuinely feel the warmth and love that you have for her. and vice versa.
I love how you guys interact with each other and being open loving for him
I love that you kept the reason for adoption private. May God always Bless you all!
Exactly that's no one's business we all know that nothing leaves the internet
I mean it's pretty obvious she got pregnant right away so have his sister and she doesn't have custody of her 2 older children
Man I just love this dynamic it's like a sisterhood having both of you is an amazing blessing ❤️
To me this is a brilliant way to raise a child, being open and honest from the start. It’s a basic human right for people to know their lineage, and being open from the get go, allows him to know his family history and never have the longing of never knowing where he stems from. He’s clearly LOVED by all parties and that’s so vital… KEEP BEING AWESOME PARENTS to him 🥰💕
It’s so great to make this adoption really about the child. This is a true unselfish gift of real love
“Everything doesn’t have to be shared!” Amen!!! Everything doesn’t have to be a group chat… totally agree
That is not your part they are living their life
She did enough explaining as well as opening up to us on some things, I honestly believe nobody other than family deserves to know the reasoning for the adoption but let alone not even because it’s your choice to do so, but for people to get mad in the comments bc she didn’t give an answer is honestly dumb. You can’t be mad because someone isn’t answering a really personal question let alone to thousands of strangers.
But they've put their whole life on the internet, so it's only natural for people to wonder.
@@nunyabidness6045 it’s natural for people to wonder but not to be mean and rude about it which is what this person was getting at.
@Darian Leta I definitely agree with you! There's no need for people to be rude and nasty.
@@nunyabidness6045Nope, they decide why they put and nobody has the right to complain. If the video was called "the reasons why I gave my child" then ok, complain for false publicity but not for their right to keep some things for themselves.
Abriel have loving beautiful mothers family also dad love him!God bless u all!Amen
You guys look like sisters. My aunt adopted her son and raised him in an open adoption situation with his mother. All worked very well. The biological mother is part of our family now. My cousin is now 25 y.o. He is awesome and well bonded to both sides.
I really wanted to know why she gave her son up, only because I’m nosy. Am I mad? No. Do I care? No. What I care about is that Makayla did what was best for her son at the time no matter what the reason or situation was.
Makayla you rock!!! It take guts, heart and love to do what you did. I tip my hat off to you. You couldn’t have chosen a better family.🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️
The question of "why" Makayla put Abriel up for adoption is "the elephant in the room". It is implicit in the discussion. Its seems a good set up on the surface, but I do wonder why also.
However, this of course is not the world's business.😊
I was waiting to know also. They definitely made it seem like they were going to answer it also. Teasing for weeks they were gonna answer all the important questions everyone’s been asking…. Then even teased at the end of the first half. But didn’t do it on the second half. Stuff like that I don’t like. Just being fake at that point to get our attention. Most those questions were pretty much common sense. Smh..I’m just disappointed.
@@linmc5074 When you put yourself on public display, such as this, it is.
@@gabbycarter965 it's your right to question it, just as it's their right to let you keep on wondering. Just because they're on a public platform doesn't mean they are obligated to do anything for you. Are they obligated to tell you when they're menstruating as well? By your logic, yes., Because they're on TH-cam. 🤦🏽♀️
I'm so happy to see it's an open adoption, because he has two families much more love and support. ❤
You both are the most incredible mother's to put your son first in every way possible! Abriel is the luckiest little man to have all of you.
Thank you for choosing life. Abriel was meant to be in this world and what a gift you have given his adoptive parents. What a beautiful act of selflessness.
She has an amazing heart and she’s so strong for doing this it must be very very hard but she puts people before her own self to help them become parents I think it’s the most amazing thing and she deserves all the respect and love in this world. God bless her and her entire family. An angel on earth honestly most selfless person ever. We need more people like you Makaila x
Open adoption is just a bonus family and it's the most humble thing any families can do to share true love with humans that are not blood relatives.....y'all look like sisters have you checked to see if you are relatives somewhere in your blood lines
This is probably the most amazing connection I’ve ever seen! I love the openness and this will insure the stability of the child❤️
This dynamic of having both families in his life is such a blessing. I love that you are there for each other and not only want the best for him but you want the best for each other also.
This has made me so happy !! This is how we did things with our adoption.. open adoption.. I adopted her from birth .. my ex and I.. I raised her on my own since she was 10 months old. She will be 21 in November and is now Specialists Hoffman MP..
she Blessed my life so much!!!
I’m so happy for y’all and it makes me feel so good to know others think like we do.. she still calls her biological parents Big Mama and Big Daddy… 🥰🥰🥰🥰🙏🏼♥️✝️
I saw you guys on TV! You guys are so wonderful! You ladies seem like BEST FRIENDS! Thanks for showing a positive side of adoption but most of all, showing so much love to that sweet little boy! Blessings & love to you all!❤️
I love the relationship you have with birth mom! She’s such a strong woman to do what she did! I think Abriel is living his best life!l
Thank you so much for sharing this. I decided on adoption and have chosen a couple I absolutely LOVE and we care about each other. I’m already getting crap from certain family members who have said nasty and cruel things because they don’t understand modern adoption. I’m so happy to come across your video, this gives me so much hope! 💜
I feel like you guys should be the face of open adoption this is how it should be I know not everyone is comfortable with it but it's simply amazing and I love your relationship ♡♡
Some birth parents are addicted to drugs. Open adoption not a good idea in cases like those.
It’s as if you two were family in a past life, total sister vibe going on. What a gift. You were all meant to meet. Thank you for sharing your divine journey. It’s beautiful, really.
I was thinking the same thing.
The more love around him the better. Hats off to his birth mom for being truthful and loving to choose who her son went to was huge act of love.
You all have a TRUE Family Bond, that has Abriel's best at the forefront! Keep staying that way and love each other all around! Makayla your decision to do what you did is between you, God and Abriel, when/if he wants to know. I have truly LOVED watching this Family. God keep blessing you all! 💜
This beautiful boy is so incredibly lucky to have you two for his mommas. I wish all adoptive kids could have this experience 💕
Is wonderful to see two strong women coming together and putting the best interest of their son first. ❤️
As an adult, adopted in 82... I cannot begin to tell you how much I admire the efforts and consideration both families have invested in this child. I was told from a very early age that I came from someone else's tummy... and that she wasn't able to give me the life that she wanted for me.. and that they had chosen me. Despite being told this, I put my adoptive parents through hell as a teenager. I was soooo confused. The fact that they have already considered these years, and discussed the future, is such a wonderful sign that both mothers have nothing but his best interest at heart. He's a very lucky boy... to have such beautiful souls looking after him❤️
You're both amazing mothers and your son is incredibly special and lucky to have two mothers who love him dearly. You can tell he will grow up to be a happy young man. I love how you're being transparent and open with him from a very young age. This is truly amazing 👏
I love watching this family. You guys are helping so many people by sharing this story. Way to show the world how possible it is to co-parent and you all are blessed with extended family.
Love this. I thought she was going to answer why she chose adoption for him, but never did. It’s so nice to see how loved he is and how well you all get along.
She definitely did not answer the question. I even went back through the video bc I thought I missed it 😨
I was looking forward to the answering of that question too. Overall great video though. Love the openness ❤️
She explained why she didn’t answer at the very very end of the video ☺️
Nasia - I have a little feeling why it happened (obviously it is just an assumption) but I will not say anything on this platform beacuase I don't need anyone reporting me.
@@WILMA_ same I have a feeling too. It’s probably too painful to mention. I’m assuming has something to do with the baby’s father not being around. Either way I’m glad she has a healthy relationship with her son. He’s so blessed to have 2 moms who loves him dearly. Gonna be very helpful when he grows up to have that support.
Mikayla is so sweet ❤ She has a big heart. I know she feels guilt in a way for giving Abriel to his adoptive parents but at the same time she feels really good about her decision ❤
I love the relationship you are all fostering and the positive example you are all setting for Abriel. It is amazing to see. ❤️
It really is and so refreshing. Often we see some adoptive couples be selfish towards the biological mother .. This is beautiful ❤😍
I'm just watching this video now. I love that you guys are so open with Abriel. I love that you guys are so open with each other. I love that Ashley tries to understand Mikayla's feelings as best as you can. I have read up on adoption vs surrogacy and a lot of kids say they experience trauma due to adoption because the adoptive parents try to hide who the birth parents are or don't tell them until they are older. It makes me heart happy that you all have such an amazing relationship, you guys are open with him from the start, he clearly was adopted because he was loved not unwanted, and you guys created a whole new family with so much love involved! I actually found you on Instagram randomly and it brought me here to your channel. I absolutely love your family. You both are absolutely beautiful!
P.S. I found good and bad things about surrogacy too just didn't add them because your story is about adoption. I want 1 more baby of my own(I have a 4 almost 5 year old) but I wanted to look into becoming a surrogate to help another mama fulfill her dream of also becoming a mama because I think motherhood is a beautiful journey that all the mamas who would be amazing at it should get to go to through! Again l love your family and will always watch you guys!!!
I love the dynamics of their relationship, coming together as one. I love how momma Makayla respects boundaries, I love how Ashley and Steven share Ab with Makayla. I cried tears of joy watching this. This was devine and you all are fulfilling one of your purposes. Sending you all, love, light and unlimited blessings. 🥰🥰🥰
I'm in a similar situation, I've had my son since he was 3 days old,and we all celebrated his birth days together. Not every year but alot. He's now grown, and a great joy in all our lives. It only gets better.
Why did his bio mommy put him up for adoption?
you ladies are both so awesome. what a great example of woman lifting up women.Mikayla your honesty is so commendable.
As a birth mother who put her son up for adoption, I have the same feelings as Makayla. I don't regret it, but sure, I always wonder what my (and his) life would be like had I hadn't.
G-d Bless you all for the love you have and show each other.
Do you not regret? So you do not love him at all? Why have him when you cannot take care of a kid?
I’m so sorry for the incredibly rude comment caligirl made and thank you for loving your child so much that you made such a hard choice. I applaud your love for your child and thank you for sharing your perspective. 💛
I honestly have so many issues with for profit adoption. I can’t handle the trauma that adoptees and bio parents have to endure…. That being said, you are a good example of what folks should try to do. The bio parent needs to be involved and the child should always be able to learn their heritage and have that bond. I am still very leery of adoption, but I appreciate you openness on this subject. The bio mom seems so happy with the arrangement and you are so open to letting him love her. That’s important.
I appreciate you saying how if you make an open adoption, keep it open. The fact it is actually a closed adoption and you kept it open anyway? That’s amazing.
I have been very rough on you on other videos… this is such a sensitive subject to me in so many ways. But thanks for posting this and showing how much you are trying to make this a good situation.
So true Katie. I feel your energy in your message and I feel you completely. They did great with this decision. One kid safe at a time or more at a time ☺️🤗
The ending message was perfect. Not everything is everyone's business, and that's for her and Abriel to talk about when the time is right. Love both you lady's and everyone else, Dad too lol much love from MD ❤
I really love y’all’s relationship. I’m sure it takes work on both sides but you have created the absolute best environment for him. ❤️
You guys look like sisters just like one is lightef
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It’s amazing how much love this sweet little boy has. Y’all are more mature than most adults that just “co-parent” together. Birth mama is so strong to know that her son would be better off with another family. Adopted mama is so strong to go through the adoption process and not know if the adoption would even go through after his birth. Y’all are so incredibly amazing!
P.S. Both mama’s are sooooo beautiful!!!
They look alike
This was a wonderful video. The love and respect you have for each other is so obvious. Abriel is very fortunate.
Awww thank you so much!
Wow, this is beautiful. Absolutely incredible adoption process. It got me teared up, your baby is very lucky to have his adopted family AND biological family by his side.
You put it perfectly. Not everything is everyone’s business! I love y’all for this. ❤️❤️
You both are beautiful and amazing!!! What matters most is that Abriel has both families giving him unconditional love while being one family themselves. LOVE it!! That's how adoption should be. Thanks for sharing your story! Blessings!
Usually I agree that people reach when saying people look alike but you both really do. So beautiful. It’s like it was destined plus all the other similarities you had! Loved all the answers 💕
Right!!!
That young man is gonna grow up knowing only love, what a blessing.
At the beginning you were about to talk about why she chose adoption and it switched to a different topic. Later you just said it's personal. Good way to keep people watching to see if you'd mention it. Anyway, it looks like a unique arrangement you have and Abriel is blessed to have so much support. I wish you all a blessed and happy future. 💜
PLEASE CONTINUE TO MAKE VIDEOS LIKE THIS!
I think you feel okay when you leave because you feel comfortable and confident. You know Abriel is loved and safe! It’s a great feeling when you say goodbye to your child and you don’t have to worry or be sad.
It’s faith. Crazy how baby looks like adopted mom. You guys are doing such an amazing job ❤❤❤
I love that Makayla's answers are in the best interest of Abriel and that you guys have a friendship inside the adoption so nothing is weird or one of you feel out of place asking things or doing something when it comes to Abriel because at the end of the day he matters the most and his feelings as he grows I love watching all of you and Abe steals my heart all the time he's so cute God bless you guys for being the adults that you are I love seeing it and I'm definitely staying tuned for baby #2
I love this so much, but at the same time hate that people feel the right to invade the bio moms privacy. You could tell a couple of the questions were hard or confusing for her, in which I'm sure her answers can vary depending on the day. It's an emotional rollercoaster and we owe her the respect and privacy. She seems content, without spreading the biggest parts of her personal life with people that are going to judge her. We all have laundry we don't want hanging out on the line. But, good job you two. This little boy is so well loved. 💙
I respect Abriel's birth mom for choosing not to explain to the world why she put him up for adoption. Only Abriel (not even the adoptive family IMO) need to know why. She is a strong woman, I wouldn't have the strength to do it. I just cannot fathom giving away my child to another family to raise even if the odds were stacked against me. Damn, it would kill me.
I have a couple of friends whose moms were raped but ended up having them anyway. In both cases, adoption probably would've been better for the kids. The mothers never had a full emotional connection to either of them. At the same time, I doubt either mother would have wanted to openly explain that they were raped just because a random person asked. (Not saying that is the case here cuz I don't know them but there can be all sort of things going on that could make someone give up a child.)
Aiswear !
I'd feel like dying giving my child out
I agree she doesn’t have to explain why she did it and shouldn’t be judged for doing it. But if she did tell everyone why it could help those who have a similar situation as hers. Either way this dynamic is beautiful and beautiful to watch.
I'm sure it still kills her but she knows it's best. I think it's always harder on the birth mom than people think. My mom had to give a kid up for adoption for a very good reasons before I was born and he had a way better life but it effected her for the rest of her life.
@@indiyyyaaa that would probably be better for a private odoption and you can already get many stories from private adoptions.
Watching this in 2024 cause babygirl is here and she finally got to experience pregnancy
As an adoptee this is so weird to me. I feel like I would've wanted this growing up, because this topic was so taboo and also since I didn't re-connect with my bio mom after being adopted at 4, until 14 years later and she died last year so we never saw each other in person again. But I also feel like this would've confused me so much. I LOVE THIS relationship but oh my the roller coaster of feelings 😅
I feel like there are always going to be ups and downs (just like with anything in life); however, we’re hoping that by keeping our adoption open that he doesn’t have to feel like he was missing a part of himself or that he can’t ask questions! We totally understand and respect your viewpoints and appreciate you taking time to watch our video! ❤️
@@happilyevansafterr thank you for sharing !!! Fills my inner child watching !!
Yeah. A few of my cousins were raised by their grandmothers while their mothers lived in the same town with other siblings or their partner's kids. It's a lot but I think stability is preferable?
@@BearingMySeoul Amen. Stability is Supreme❣
I have seen a lot of adoptees say this, and I'm so curious.. why do you think it would have confused you? I can imagine why it might be confusing to someone in that situation, but I really want to hear from your perspectives why you think it would be, if you don't mind sharing. I would also love to hear from any adoptees who are now adults, who grew up having a relationship with their birth mother about what their experiences were like
This is amazing and so special. I gave my daughter for adoption and we keep in contact thru Facebook but they said that as gets gets older she will know she's adopted, but for now and until she's old enough to WANT to know, I'm a 'family friend' or an aunt. BUT, I will also never physically see her in real life, unless of course she gets older and wants to meet me.
Which was not what we agreed on during the adoption process while I was pregnant. They were supposedly open to an open adoption. Until it happened, and things changed. Now it's like a closed adoption that I only get to see pictures of on Facebook. Until she gets older and wants to know, then they say that they'll never keep her from me or the truth. It's all confusing. And of course, I made a permanent decision based on temporary circumstances. But, I couldn't have chosen a better family for her. She is very well off, taken care of, and loved beyond measure. I couldn't ask for anything better.
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I honestly love the way you guys basically coparent with your open adoption I think it’s a lot healthier to build the family vibe so he feels loved on both ends at the end of the day he knows you guys are his parents and she’s his birth mom and he’s loved ultimately love is the best medicine to the souls great job guys…..💕
This just shows openness and empathy is the answer to all problems! my friends brother has a birth mom and adoptive mom with an open adoption and hes now 23 and such a well rounded boy whos stoked to have 2 moms and 2 sets of siblings!
You guys are both so genuine 😍🥹this is such a beautiful relationship. Abriel is blessed to have such loving mommys ❤️🫶🏽
You two ladies look alike. You are all great parents. Your husband is a great father. You guys are great. Your son is very blessed to have all of you as his parents. Best wishes to all of you.
This was very good to see. I like seeing the friendship between the moms, it’s very refreshing. The relationship is real.
I have an open adoption also my son was adopted by my first cousins due to health problems and we still have a very strong and good relationship! It's really great to see some other people having this open and close of an adoption
It’s crazy cause I see a lot of negative comments on you guys other videos sometimes & it’s usually always about race or them criticizing the TikTok’s with Abriel & stuff but whole time the relationship between you all is way deeper than what’s even shown. I love everything about this video & all of you guys other content. Thanks you guys for doing this vid it was hella genuine! 🫶🏾
It’s the Love that you have for each other that makes you look like one another.
Ariel looks like you just different color it should abriell
I did an open adoption with my son. His adoptive parents are so so wonderful and I’m incredibly grateful for them. My opinion on which is better - open vs closed adoption - is determined on a case by case basis. There are many factors that go into making that decision and when an open adoption is chosen, the level of involvement is also going to be different for each family. I think what this family has chosen to do for Abriel is beautiful! The amount of involvement that the birth Mother has is completely different from what I have with my son, but like I said, every situation is different and what works for this family wouldn’t work for mine. I love that this works for them though! Abriel is blessed to have so many family members that love him & support him. ❤
I can imagine their would be some cases that closed is for the best but I think open is some cases like this and yours is the gold standard. It stops any confusion with the child’s development. I think these guys have really sorted this out. I think Kayla would offer the balance to him and the she is chilled enough to say no with love which is super important for him to hear
@@wakinglife7065she literally said that😂😂😂 you didn't say anything that she didn't😂😂
I love this adoption story.. It’s so much like our adoption story.. I’ve always included the bio mom in all of
our sons milestones.. We even take mini trips together.. I live by these words he is mine in a way he’ll never be hers yet he is hers in a way he’ll never be mine but together we’re MOTHERHOOD.. ❤️
I think it's Beautiful that there is such a wonderful relationship among everyone involved in his life!! It's so Awesome to see that everyone puts Abriel's feelings first!
Some people have just such beautiful hearts. Every single person in this video makes me have so much faith in humanity.
I absolutely love the transparency. I love the bond that you both have. I so excited to see what’s next for you all.
I don’t watch this channel much but I admire Kayla on her selfless ness how sweet of woman she is she really is a beautiful soul and I’ve always thought it takes a special soul to adopt that’s my opinion and she beautiful inside and out and an amazing mother
This is so healthy for the child. Thank you so much for not making this about the parents only but also the child. & Happy you both are open to the mother too ❤️
There can never be too much love for a child. You have an amazing blended family and are a glowing example of an adoption success story! Wish you all love and happiness for the future! GOD BLESS
I love you guys! Thank you for giving a break down when we were not entitled to it, such a beautiful family. It’s so crazy that you both look like sisters 🥰
Btw thank you for this! My partner and I currently struggle with infertility but your videos and content give me so much hope and bring so much joy. To see the possibilities are endless and the love is so unconditional. I look forward to my journey when the day comes.
You say you don,t look a like.
That not so both of you has a resemblance. It just you can,t see it.
Mama Kayla, you are such a beautiful woman! The look in your eyes tells such an emotional strong story and you still stand so strong with that beautiful smile on your face. I really do hope you know how you are a huge inspiration out here and have no idea the impact you made on me. I really do wish I can just hug you and have a huge cry session together and then many happy conversations!! You brought happiness to my life and gave me a new meaning. You truly are so remarkable!! The amount of humility you show is beautiful. So so so so many of us can learn from you. Continue to be the beautiful person you are and live your fullest knowing you are the best you! I LOVE YOU MAMA KAYLA!!
The story reminds me of a friend who was adopted by a family member and never learned that she is not her biological mother! Her family kept her other 3 sisters, 2 of whom were older than her and 1 younger. We don't know why until today, but my friend is the most successful of the 3 sisters in her career, and she's helping out the biological family after her mother, who raised her, died, and she discovered that she is her auntie and not her biological mother. Everything happens for a reason, whether we uncover it one day or not!🙏
I honestly said the same thing, that Ab looks like his adoptive Mother, y'all have similar features. It's a blessing that he is so loved by you all ❤️🙏🏽 .
You gals are so amazing. Your dynamic is so special and it's evident just how loving and understanding you are to each other. I wish all adoptions could be like this. God bless your beautiful family! ❤
you two are AMAZING WOMEN.. so glad you put this online so other people can see that this can work .. I am 50 and just found out my mom gave my brother up for adoption.he just found out he is 51.. unfortunately our living parents have dementia so we have no answers.
I love this dynamic. This will negate that hard conversation when the kid turns 16 . ❤
I give you guys so so so much credit and find it so heart-warming the choices you’ve made to help support abriel and give him the best life you can. You’re both SO incredibly selfless.
I love how responsible and honest you two are!
Omg I love the ending .. like I have been dying to know but hearing your explanation Makayla I’m like .. ya ofcourse! Makes total sense and respect you even more for it. I know you had the right reasons and am so proud of all of you!! I know it’s a hard journey but you guys are killing it and inspires sooo many ppl in the process !!
From what I've seen on the news for the past few years, adopted or not, as long as babies are loved, safe, happy and cared for, that is what's important ❤️
Thank you all so much for sharing!!! What a blessing !!! I met my birth mom when I was 60.