Forgive Them or Risk Becoming Them
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 พ.ย. 2017
- If you refuse to take responsibility and forgive past pain you not only keep the cycle alive indefinitely - BUT risk becoming exactly that which you hate.
But… does it… actually??? Let's find out!
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What doesn't kill you, leaves you with PTSD.
: ) Thank you.
some things don't deserve forgiveness, knowing when to forgive, but accepting things, is harder than just forgiving
@Ali !!!
I can see where you are comming from. But I think even in the worst cases it can still help to see that the person who did something terrible was influenced by all the things he/she experienced throughout their lives.
StigmaShadow so true...
@@Ali-gr1hy Yep
"it takes a whole lot more strength and courage to be sensitive in this world" YES
This is absolutely true! I can tell! Nonetheless, I'll keep holding on to what's right and break the cycle.
"Whatever doesn’t kill you, simply makes you... stranger."
Aaaaaa the joker
They should teach this stuff in school.
Jinsi K what do you mean? I just mean the general idea of forgiving people and the cycles of abuse should be discussed in school.
As long as the main point of schools is for people to know their place in society and not aspire to be who the have the potential to be, I think not.
They absolutely should !
montessori schools do (dont know if every school does it but mine did)
pickle max that's good to hear, my school didn't teach that, they just taught the state's curriculum which was basically just core classes
0:36 "He who fights monsters must see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And when you gaze into the abyss, the abyss gazes back into thee."
Some once told me "What doesn't kill you, makes you stranger."
good vid!
The last part in a movie that I actually enjoyed. Very well done by Heath.
What doesn't kill you makes you the killer, because the victim of the criminal survived, let's say the fictional example of bruce waine who survived that night when his parents died, but then again, something in him snapped and he was able to grow tougher but then again, he wasn't inocent anymore, he paid for his strenght with his inocense if you think about about it, he even said himself In a cutscene from one of the games that he wishes to kill joker ever since he met him, but he thinks that would be too easy, but he wishes he did, and that's the thing I wanted to point out, it depends on the reasoning and willpower and, of course, motivation of the person to define how they'll develop, both batman and the joker developed from those similar trauma events in their lifes, in a very distinct way and that's thanks to their genetic and psichological and, obviously neurological differences, but it is a thing influenced by how they were as people before...what do you think guys? am I right about my analysis on how it works? was my example any good?
You really wrote all that as one single sentence?
I've forgiven the partners that have cheated on me, no problem.
My rapists on the other hand...
I don't want to forgive them. I've not become who I am because of them, i've become who I am despite them.
momeraths the same happened to a love one, everything is gonna be okay, okay?
hugs lady 😍🤗
Cheers guys, you're good eggs.
Dime
heal the pain first then forgiveness is gonna happened automatically 🌼express the anger , vengeance, grief first in a healthy way release them and u r gonna free urself from this ❤🌸u r amazing
What doesn't kill you makes you wish you were dead .
I got a hole in my soul growing deeper and deeper
Adam!!! There's a petition in California to put legalizing mushrooms on the ballot next election day :) isn't that exciting?
www.laweekly.com/news/organizers-of-an-effort-to-legalize-magic-mushrooms-in-california-may-proceed-8827002
^^^ link to one of many articles about it
I'mthewalrus Sadly it will never come close to happening though
Mushrooms are not getting legalized lmao
The discussion coming up is his point, it's great that people start talking about it even though not everyone agrees yet.
Empathy is Communication, Communion, Connection, Relationship with everyone and everything.
Thank you Adam, that was a really nice video.
Love these kind of videos! Spread that love all over the place!
Wise words at the end. Thanks! Have a great day :)
I needed to hear this. Thank you so much for what you do on this channel and on PsychedSubstance. You are truly an inspiration to me!
Hi Adam. Thank you so much for this video, it really helps me a lot in my situation, you have no idea!
I love your content, you're doing a really good job!
- Jesper.
thank you Adam, I learned from this video means a lot to everyone that comes across your videos with the same problems.
I love you man, you're one of the most genuine people and your videos have helped me so much for coping up with my thoughts and feelings altogether. You deserve a lot more exposure. Thank you Adam, for existing.
Everyone needs to see this. Period. Whole world needs to see this. Thank you for making this.
Thanks for having this channel Adam. It’s so important for everyone to share insights they’ve gained from life and psychedelics. It has really helped me gain perspective through my own journey in life
I am so thankful that I found both of your high quality channels, my friend.
i can see geuine understanding and gratefulness in your eyes, face and your voice man...
Fantastic video!!! I have been thinking so much about forgiveness lately and it’s so hard but it’s profound and worth it
Watched this while high. Loved the speach, Adam maked my heart melt with his kindness. 13/10 content
That's the reason why subbed to you. I reall love the way you talk
I got really badly heartbroken and now I think I have trust and connection issues
You're not alone.
You rock, thanks for the awesome thoughts!
Man i loved the video Adam! cheers from Portugal!
I really never thought that people thought the same way i do until i got to youtube and saw you and people like you. Thank you for sharing these things on here it really really helps to know someone else is like me.
What's crazy is I haven't seen one of your videos in months. But this popped up on my suggested videos and it is just what I needed to see. Thank you love. 💗
Been struggling with this concept and its refreshing to hear a realistic take on it
“Embracing sensitivity takes true courage and adopting forgiveness takes true strength”.
I love it!
I’m speechless… that was awesome to hear, thank you :)
Thank you adam! Great Episode!
I love this channel so much, found it this year and it's been my favourite ever since! As someone who is suffering a lot and going through grief, your videos are very grounding. It's a shame how so many people turn their nose up at anything philosophical when it's so universal.
Youre so wise dude, loveit. These are the sorts of things i need to be hearing at the moment
Thanks for the inspiration Adam, had my first acid trip yesterday, I hope I can incorporate all the things I learned about the world and myself into my life and share with others :)
Your videos on life are really helping me. Hands down the best content on TH-cam nowadays
this had divine timing. these are the thoughts ive been having, developing a deeper sense of empathy for others has become my number one struggle lately. i dont want to just be a result of my circumstances, i want to be genuinely loving. this video really helped point me back in the right mental direction. thank you sm, i really enjoy your thoughts. please continue on the empathy topic if you can .
Loved the video dude, perfect message
Enjoyed this piece of advice. Great video!
I love your philosophical videos! Here are some thoughts on this topic:
Many things can be seen as skills instead of just magical forces or fixed personality traits, this applies to relationships, empathy, love and so on. If you practice those skills you will get better, but trying and failing is important to get better at something, so "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" could be translated "trying makes you stronger, even if you fail". And if you grow up in a loving and safe environment you will get more chances at practicing the skills of love and empathy and will probably be better at those skills. Same thing as if you grow up with a guitar you have a much better chance at being a good guitarist than someone who has never even seen a guitar in real life.
Also, at least where I live (Sweden), I feel that socially we look down on people who fail so people get scared of even trying from the fear of failing. Just look at our view of success, we are so good at analyzing what successful people do "right" but we never even mention what they have done and failed at, or what not so successful people do. It's always looking for the easy solutions, the five easy steps to success, and never mentioning the work it takes to get there, and the different starting conditions and journeys through life for different people.
I also recommend you read a few of Erich Fromm's books, they are a great source of inspiration!
You're such a wise person. And I'm glad I know about you.Thank you SO much for what you're doing
Psychedelics have definitely helped me see from more sides than just my own. MOST DEFINITELY. I love you Adam. I've been following you for a long time ❤
Awesome Video Adam! Perfectly fits my recent experience(s) with love, breakups, forgiveness and positivity! You seem to foresee what content your viewers need the most right now hahaha
Adam, We your friends need more videos of you just reflecting on your life Experiences! Its very difficult to not get caught into feeling like your own convictions are somehow phony or worthless, and videos like this are brilliantly reassuring. All the love to you, you great human being.
This was true enlightenment. Listening this and understanding it put myself to tears. Thank you.
Thanks for making this, I'm currently going through a healing process and needed to hear this. I have a bad past of forgiving people then being hurt again due to being TOO empathetic and almost naïve, but I'm now learning to forgive within myself instead now that I'm no longer involved with the people who hurt me. Keep up the great work. 💖✌
Hey Adam! I've been following you for the past two years. I really love and enjoy your videos. I think you do such an important job in today's world. I don't think you know how much you've helped me and how much your videos mean to me. Everytime I feel kinda bumped I get on your channel and you just put a smile on my face, simply by the way you talk and your generally good vibes and attitude.
Thank you Adam, really appreciate your work :)
needed this right now. thank you.
So true and right, Adam. As a child psychotherapist I learned that the root of all bad behaviour is pain. A child or adolescent would behave cruelly, angrily, horribly, and I’d talk to the parents and find out that their lives were fraught with stress and trauma. Get in the grandparents....same deal. Great grandparents probably dead and anyways what’s the point? It’s all pain, buried to a certain extent and vivid in their violent, aggressive, horrible behaviours. I’m so grateful for my career, which drove home this understanding repeatedly. There can be no judgment, no blame.....rapists and violent people have to be caught and put away, to keep us safe. But they need treatment, not punishment. And forgiveness is hard, and requires understanding, which does not come easily to most of us. But it’s the only way forward for us all.
Loved this! Great video.
Wonderfully said Adam!!
Thank you adam for this video, some messages in this life ring true at the direct moment (this one did) and what you said at the end is exactly the problem going on within this world, forgiveness and love, seeing ourselves in others is the only way to move forward with this "shindig" per se... Keep doing what you do Adam no matter what, you are doing is a service to this planet. Peace,love!
Adam I have been a subscriber to your channels from year 1. I stumbled across them in the search for information o psychedelics. I have to say after all this time that you have taught me many things through your videos and not just about drugs. I just wanted to say thank you for being the REALEST youtuber in my subscription list
I'm so happy that i found your videos. Quality content!
Thank you so much for this 💚
This is totally well put. I don't think Nietszche meant that this phrase applies in any way.. but if you understand him at all he argued that people don't have any real value in this world besides God, who most people don't even believe exists anyways, and the only real value we have without God is to become the "overman" or superior human be it physically, intellectually, etc. He believed that the only way to become better than others is through responsibility, discipline, etc. When an addict quits drugs he overcomes addiction and becomes stronger. He SUFFERS the brutal pain of withdrawal. Literally has physical pain induced by addiction, where the brain molds and changes its physiology as a result, is suffered and endured, and when the body begs for its hit making you sweat and cough, you deal with it through discipline. When you can undergo discipline for a long time, you then become stronger.
Adam, thank you so much for this video. I am going through the very harsh and horrible break up right now. Things excalated from her being my soul mate and a true love for two years into hard hatered right now. She brought me so much pain during break up that I could not even imagined (The horrible LSD bad trip that made end up in the hospital felt better). You gave me hope I needed so much and put my thoughts in the right direction. Thank you so much, Adam, your videos are helping people. People like me.
Thank you Adam..!! 😊 Your the best.. keep up the work bro !! You've have actually helped me come out of alot of confusion I was facing from a couple of my bad trips I can say.. n also helped me get a better picture about alot of things.. when I taught I had completely flipped it.. thanks for educating me on so many things No1 warned me about.. dono what I would do wid out you!! If drugs were a subject.. you'd be the professor I'd go to.. Thank you so much!! Not only for the drug education.. but also for reminding the little things we forget in life, example being sensitive n empathetic is good.. and not to shy away.. or hide it cause not everyone thinks like that.. i feel relief everytime I see Ur smile face!! God will surely bless u bro.. all the best !!
I feel like the title is all the info i need. Thank you adam
Oh my god, such pure philosophy of life, this is so enlightening. THANK YOU.
Thanx Adam! A really deep good video...
every person on the planet should see this vid...its like going to church when i watch ur vids...you are wise and speak truths that resonate deep...much love
Adam ... Such a nice person and so much more inspiring than the people making videos on inspiration 😊
You're a beautiful human being!
Damn i just gotta get this of my chest, both your channels are amazing! You are so smart, reflective and educated. I completely share your opinions on the war on drugs, religion, meaning of life and basically everything. You talk about all this in a perfect way, your contentis straight up amazing. I can imagine going to bed without listening to your vids for an solid hour. You manage go inform and entertain like no other channel. I like to think we are very simular people, im only 18 but i can relate to your current point of views and opinions, and your stories from your youth. I have yet to meet a person whos as reflective as you about both drugs and the phiosofical stuff. I also like using and not abusing lsd, and mdma, i think i can grow by using this the propper way. i’ve only done it a couple of times and thanks to your channel i’ve had a safer exsperiance and also saved several friends from badtrips, and generaly informed them on what the drugs offer and all that basic info so they know what to exspect, and also know how, when, where and with who to do them with. Ive done this by informing them like you informed me. I cant quite exspress what your channel means to me but i really love your mindset in general, i wish i could meet you in person but i live in norway so thats a far fetch. Sorry for just going on and on but yeah, i think you should know how great your content is, keep it up man i love your content.. i just cant stress that enought, hope you read this adam. Greedings from your norwegian fan and may i say friend:) keep it up
Man, you have just put into words every single thing that I've been feeling lately. I can't believe how many people are still asleep. They just don't want to wake up and see the world as it actually is. It saddens me deeply. Still, on the other hand, I feel there is a lot more of us out there. We just have to find each other.
Thank u for this video Adam
Hey i hope you are getting better, great vid you make it very simple to understand your subject. Keep it up ! With love from France 🗼
This really resonated with me, love you Adam
my daily dose of mindfulness, thanks adam!
This is a great video. I myself am someone who has in the past hurt someone in similar ways that I was hurt in a relationship because of the pain I was going through. Another part of this conversation is the ability to be able to forgive yourself for your wrongdoings. Sometimes you'll never get that forgiveness from the people you've hurt, so you have to learn how to forgive yourself and move past it to ultimately be a better person. That's what I'm currently struggling with.
Hey Adam! They played an ad before your video! This is the first time that I got excited to see an ad on TH-cam!
Interesting, I feel somehow the freshness and truth of your speech. Thanks.
love this video. never had such perspective on this subject.
I recently had an abuse of not-so-good-acid and i've had some revelations, some of them extremely wholesome and some really heartbreaking and it made decide that it was time to give myself a break even from weed, alcohol and cigarettes. To take my time to ACTUALLY undestand what I've been trough and to practice what i just learnt.
I got caught up in the trap that psychedelics would help me by its on, when all i wanted was a way to escape realitty because i was deeply depressed, and they showed me that i am responsible for what happens to me. I felt love, fear, connection and isolation all at once, like a way more intense nostalgia and i needed that kick in the face to see that i let my egocentrism run my life.
You helped me with your videos to find a place to go when i needed advice and had no one to talk to. You helped me, in a certain way, to put into words what i felt.
My deepest gratitute both for you opening up to us like you do and for being such a good friend. =)
Peace.
The red flannel? Must be a shit album.
Oh wait
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HA LUV IT
That's not the melon you're looking for :P
i dont get it
That is so accurate. Exactly what I needed to hear in these times.
You are terrific! Thank you.
You help me get thru so much shit, once again I appreciate you man.
Awesome video! thanks a lot
Adam! Thanks alot, great content. I watch all your videos, both swim and psychedsubstance. Looking forward to a possible "empathy" video! You look great btw. Keep making videos, you have been an inspiration to me actually. I dont copy you though, I just take the parts that makes sense to me, and I try to implement them into my life as much as possible. Just wanted to let you know that you really help people, and you really make a difference. You, for example, made me realise how important safe drug use is, and how it should be taught in schools. Thanks Adam. :) Greetings from Sweden
The big "problem" is, that "what doesn't kill us makes us stronger" is true and false at the same time. When something "bad" happens we tend to let the ego grow by it. We try to rationalize why this happend to me, we get frustrated and want to let this pain go by projecting it on others. When in reality, we have to accept everything as it is, because our own judgment doesn't change reality as it is. The thing that is making stuff bad, is wanting to get outside of the now.
When we accept everything as it is, especially when we hit rock bottom, nothing will be bad nor good. We get stronger by seeing and accepting our own lack of control. We get strong by seeing and accepting we aren't.
Thank you for this Video. It helped me realize Something Very important.
I want to kiss your brilliant bald head! Your such a cool dude >^^
ItsTheGravyTrain I’m a filthy hippy yeah xD
Pinches furros >:v
Sparky ! Finally A person I think I can relate to XD
thankyou for sharing beautiful messages, this is what we need 🌷⭐️🍒
I really agree with so many things that Adam says, not just in this video but like every one.
Great video. Thank you
this video is quite refreshing. thanks so much for sharing. in my experience, that which hasn't killed me has provided me with greater awareness, resilience and loving strength.. however i did commit to the deep work and rising above the situations so i may learn from them and break the cycles. it reminds me of a poem i wrote.. some of the lines are:
"when i feel lost or trapped inside of myself, i no longer try to find a way out. instead, i go deeper. deeper to the place where anger bows down to forgiveness and desire makes friends with evolution. in there, pain is a strange pair with freedom."
Posted with perfect timing. I really needed this video. Btw I am a big fan 😀
Hey Adam!!! I️ love your channel!!!! I️ wanted to say that I️ have generally gone through a lot of shitty things in my life but I️ am also very empathetic and can genuinely put myself in other peoples shoes and see their pain and perspective but I’ve noticed that that tends to hold me back so much because I️ don’t do things that are better for me because I️ see how it’ll negatively affect other people. For example: I️ live with an aunt right now and her family and it’s become very toxic for me and is bringing me down tremendously and I’m very unhappy here but I️ don’t feel like I️ can leave because I️ put myself in my aunts shoes and I️ see she will be very hurt if I️ leave because she has helped me so much but at this point being here is degenerative to my emotional well-being so I️ am stuck being unhappy so I️ do not hurt someone I️ love on the other hand if I️ were to be selfish and leave and be happier somewhere else I️ would feel guilty for what I’ve done... any tips/advice on being too empathetic?
Thank you Adam. Thank you
Great Video as always. Don´t hesitate to upload Videos that are maybe a little "new", you´re a great content creator have confidence in that, we love you!
i enjoy hearing about your life experiences. sometimes we are fragile, a glass with a crack. one more drop and we fall apart. the ability to heal doesn't mean we forget the pain, but that we use it in a useful way, in the hopes to save people from that pain, and to show the world and our selves that there is still hope. i have learned quite a bit from the videos and experiences. the further we dare to go, the closer to ourselves that we become. its a journey of discovery! and sometimes, to help us move beyond ourselves, we must occasionally dump off some of our baggage. sometimes our journey of discovery begins after we have taught ourselves to let go of the trauma and drama of our lives, and to live instead of surviving. forgiveness is a huge part of this journey, as well as understanding what has changed your path. i struggle with the pain from my past, and some things are difficult, but the end goal of being free of that pain is a powerful strong force for change.
I enjoyed the philosophy in this one. Literally took some notes to mull over later.
I rarely leave a thumbs up for videos. I only do when I LOVE a video, and this is one of them.
i got your message bro, please keep up your work!
Great video! My thoughts that I couldn't put into words
Thank you, Adam. :) :)
Been watchig you for years and just today discovering how helpful this swim page is