How Celebrities & Influencers Financially Gaslight Us About Beauty
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In this video, Chelsea dives into a topic near and dear to our hearts: how celebrities who "never age" are gaslighting us into thinking that they're not actually just paying for skincare procedures, trainers, and other expensive beauty maintenance.
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As a seamstress I'm so mad that anyone believes they have to lose weight to get into a haute couture wedding dress. LITERALLY THE POINT of couture is to make a dress that custom-fits the client. You shape the dress to fit the body, not shape the body to fit the dress. This should be true of all clothing for everyone, but ESPECIALLY true for a haute couture wedding gown.
Exactly what I was thinking lol. Its your wedding and your rich, the dress is supposed to be CUSTOM made to fit YOU!
Right??? I was very confused. Like is she borrowing a sample? Because if she commissioned the dress, Idk why she needs to do that to herself. There is no point. Maybe she is so used to changing her body to fit the dress she did that as a reflex.
Haute couture culture has always been size-exclusionary. While not the epitome of "haute", last I checked when shopping high end stores like Saks and Nordstrom, they don't carry plus sizes. It's been a while and it wouldn't surprise me if that's changed, but I know that traditionally haute couture has served the rich...who are also, uniformly, thin. "A woman can't be too thin...or too rich." The two go together.
@@msg5352 Real Haute Couture can't be bought in a store, you have to order it. Someone from Chanel or whatever will come to your house and measure you and it will be custom made to measure. But yes, it is for the rich, a jacket from a Chanel costs upwards of 10.000 Dollars. But then I made my own dress, to measure, still cost me 2000 Euros.
@@thirstwithoutborders995: should you really want a frumpy Chanel jacket, you can actually make it yourself. Me, I'd rather do better things with my time.
Celebrity skincare today is like the celebrity perfumes of the 2000’s
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IT MAKES SO MUCH SENSE NOW LMAO TY
OMG yes you’re right! 😆
lmao, everybody and they mamas had perfume lines, what was that all about😭
Just like celebrity makeup lines of the 2010s.
TH-camrs are on a "you're not ugly, you're just poor/not wealthy" streak right now and it is giving me life
Her stuff is gold! 💫
No I swear I have watched three other videos like this in the past one month.
Most of the people are ugly. Some can level up with the surgery. Most unfo not...
@@miriamchalmovianska863 the concept of “ugly” is based on a european beauty standard & comparing common folks to celebrities that have the money and time to always be fit. if you didn’t get that from the video, you didn’t listen.
What a vapid, sickening thing to say
"Looking that way is their full time job." THANK YOU. Looking like Jennifer Lopez is mostly Jennifer Lopez's whole job, and she has an ocean of resources to do it with. She has all the time she needs to exercise with a personal trainer, and doesn't need to preoccupy herself with general housework or cooking (her nutritionist and staff can take care of that). Wildly expensive serums, facials from esteticians, spas, plastic surgeons (no shame but let's be real), and a fleet of professional stylists make it possible. I like olive oil too, but that ain't all that's going on.
Right and if we were making millions of dollars, we would do it too. Especially, if our image was built on being sexy.
Chris Evans said while filming Captain America there was always a rack of weights nearby so between shoots he could lift to have that “pumped” look. He also drank a lot of red wine on set to dehydrate and cause the muscles to pop more. Between the weights, red wine, and living off chicken and broccoli, he looked ripped for the movie. This isn’t something you can maintain long term. Even body builders have an off season.
Yeah, acting IS just a JOB.
By the way, before we hate on them too much, don't forget they get in shape for OUR benefit. Audiences WANT to see these superfit people on their screens.
@@marlonmoncrieffe0728 do we though? I never asked for this, and certainly would still think he would be a believable as a superhero without the roided-out look.
@@emilyb3875 ...Yeah, we DO.
Even BEFORE mass media, we painted and sculpted gorgeous figures of the human form and we've been watching TV and movies with beautiful stars.
WE vote with our remote control and box office ticket purchases and magazine purchases.
So you DID ask for this
@@marlonmoncrieffe0728 Beauty standards have been altered throughout the ages and often served to showcase wealth and the unattainable (for the poor). The poor are thin? The rich are fat! The poor are fat? The rich are thin!
Now that we, the less-than-wealthy, are more connected than ever, don't you think it's time to completely deconstruct those unattainable ideals? Instead of saying 'you want this', which serves to maintain the status quo, you can also reflect on the issue. Because no, I actually don't think any of us, including the people successfully maintaining their appearance in an extreme way, truly want this. It feels like there is no choice. We need to wake up to the idea that there is a choice to opt out of the lie that adhering to beauty-standard = healthy.
@@LM-io1fv The fat-rich thing is another myth.
It is not unattainable to shave excess body hair.
We have problems with celebrity-induced body image issues but women disregarding shaving as 'male oppression' is not one of them.
You were spot on. Are we all really supposed to believe JLO looks like that because of olive oil? And how convenient that now we can all look like her too if we just use her new skin care line...
Not to mention the overwhelming evidence in dermatological research telling us NOT to use olive oil on our skin. Great for the inside of our bodies, but not so much the outside.
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J-Lo looks as she does thanx in Large part to $$. She works hard But Also makes enuff to have the time to work out, have a perfect menu prepared for her, top of the line skin care regime, massages And of course surgery.
Tbh, the moment a celebrity says that part of their routine is a product that they either make or endorse, just ignore everything they have to say about it at all. They have a vested interest in lying to you now. Even if some of it was accurate, you can't trust it coming from them.
It's also the way people fawn over her for looking young (as though that’s THE most important thing EVER!)
“ holding her baby like a bag of turnips” i’m glad somebody is speaking about how she was holding that poor child😭
This makes me think of a study Brené Brown refers to in one of her books. It looked at the money women spent on ‘beauty’ and determined that if all of the women in North America stopped buying all beauty and self care products and services (from shampoo to facelifts) for just ONE WEEK the effect on the US economy would be similar to that of 9/11.
A lot of people have a financial interest in us women feeling ‘less than’ or unattractive.
This comment deserves a million likes.
well the only way you can 'feel less' about yourself or feel unattractive, is if you believe it, so 🤷
@@cheery-hex that is really oversimplifying the human brain and experience. None of us live in a vacuum, void from the implications of cultural expectations.
Stop undermining this issue to feel better than other people.
The whole beauty industry.
Listen to the subliminal messages: "anti-aging," "you deserve it," "you're worth it." They all speak to a scarcity mindset.
I seriously hate that women feel the need "bounce back." My God you were pregnant for 40 weeks!!! Your body may be different forever and that is ok. Honestly makes me so sad. Being pregnant, labor and delivery, and post partum is enough to deal with. We shouldn't be putting pressure on ourselves to look like anything right after giving birth. Love you all.
I'm at the end or my pregnancy and I don't care about how I look. Right now my main priority is my family's health. I also know that after that I will have to deal with comments about my weight and appearance. The only thing I want to recover now is my ability to move.
I Hope I Can stay in that state of mind while post partum.
Love from Paris.
Yep, I have a completely different body shape after 2 babies, I'm never going to be a UK size 10 again (my pre baby size) not because of my weight, but because my hips are too wide. At my slimmest I'm a UK 12-14 now, depending on the brand.
YES. THIS COMMENT IS TRUTH.
@@00Mercredi00 congrats momma! I am confident you will keep that state of mind.
@@debbiejones7269 yes! Your body literally physically changes more than just weight. As we get older and have kiddos our bodies will change and that is 1000% ok.
Two thoughts to reflect on:
It's OK to have a human face. Aging is not a disease or problem that needs to be solved.
If we're solving aging as a problem, it's going to be in medical labratories and re-building talomeres, not lazers and olive oil.
Spot on! Aging is a gift. Not everyone gets to.
Aging is a privilege not afforded to many people, truly a gift
You said it all. It's okay to be HUMAN
Um yea I still get pimples .. but my skin is healthy
Jlo has what I call “hottest girl complex”. It’s simply not enough these days to be HOT, but we now have to pretend that we are magical beings who are so incredibly blessed with rare genetics, that we look the way we do NATURALLY. Because a higher power loves us more than the other girls. Lol
The kardashian family also struggles with this complex
Maybe it’s the way you worded it but I don’t get what you’re saying.
Jup disgusting
Nicely said.
@@DancingDeity basically Jlo (who has had lots of plastic surgery) acts like her look is all natural and she hasn’t had any work done which in her mind makes her superior that she’s “naturally beautiful”
I am 67 years old and over the decades have seen many "celebrities" in real life (I've lived and worked in NYC pretty much my entire life and worked in an industry where I'd often see celebrities). In my opinion, most of them look much better in pictures than they do in person. Even before social media, there must have been heavy duty photo editing.
Also live in NYC. And very rarely recognize celebrities in person. Because they don’t look like they do elsewhere including that they are often much, much thinner in person.
You're both right.
@@emiliabolsas sameee
There has been photo editing about as long as there's been photography, whether by manipulating the processing or physically altering the negative.
@@maryeckel9682 Right you are. Many years ago in college, I remember film students talking about putting panty hose on their lenses to minimize a person's wrinkles.
What's so bleak is that even when celebrities and models are honest about their expensive appearance upkeep, the standard is still set so high. Knowing a certain look isn't realistically attainable doesn't make it any less aspirational
That's such a good point. Especially when you think about things like clothing and cars, where we can easily know exactly how much they cost and how unattainable they are for the average person. Still remains a standard
It may not be less aspirational, but at the least, when a person doesn’t achieve it, they know they didn’t do anything “wrong.”
To be fair, before we hate on them too much, don't forget they get in shape for OUR benefit.
Audiences WANT to see these superfit people on their screens.
Thiiiis
@@marlonmoncrieffe0728 yep, and super youthful as well! I've seen many times on social media teens and young adults writing things like an actress 'has gotten old", not even like 'she is getting old'! (despite her being in her early 30s, and just looking not cheerful and with little makeup on those photos, and perhaps more gaunt, and that's it!) And it's funny how in your 20s it's so hard to imagine that you're not eternal, that this wrinkle free skin isn't going to last forever, you just never think about it. I never did too, but thankfully I never commented how old someone looks. Young people can be really dumb. I've heard that f.e. Cindy Crawford gets regular comments on social media on her looking old, and she obviously looks great for her age, almost 0 wrinkles, it's just her facial features don't look exactly like 20 years ago, which is fine. Perhaps she's had eyelid lift, and it makes her look more gaunt and dehydrated, but totally not 'old'. So yes, I mean there's a lot of problems with the general public's, especially young fans', perception of aging, and it feeds into this whole thing. Not only celebs are to blame for these unrealistic standards.
Just so y'all know, most women don't "bounce back" after delivering a baby. We mostly never return to that size and/or shape. Even when I got back to the pre baby weight (which took nearly a year BTW) my hips, my abs, my body is a fundamentally different shape.
Yes that’s right the hips never go back. My dr. Warned me I thought he was kidding. He’s right
Yup, my cousin became pregnant with her first baby while planning her wedding. She put off the wedding until after the birth & after she recovered / lost weight. She tried her wedding gown on again a year after buying it & it mostly fit, but the biggest change she saw was Her Ribs had expanded (of course, her baby was pushing on them during pregnancy) so the dress had to be let out a bit there. So, yes, the body changes in so many different ways after pregnancy.
It does depend on the person. My baby was small and I had a tiny bump. I got no stretch marks and after birth my stomach was basically flat just no muscle and for lack of a better word "jelly like". I'd say it only took me a few weeks to go back to my normal size 6 (US size 2) dress size. My body looks exactly the same. My mother was the same. I didn't exercise during those weeks obviously because of a newborn and sore. But then if I have a second who knows.
I think women who have kids and go back to healthy weights have beautiful shapes. The hips look so round. Also, it's the gift of life giving and you're doing exactly what your body was made for.
I envy that. I can't have children.
You should try though. Like what’s wrong with trying to be attractive and healthy? I’m not saying you have to look like a model but like if you got fat from a baby why not try to loose weight and look good. Either for yourself or your husband/ wife. Like what’s wrong with taking care of yourselves ? Yes some things may be a lil stretched and that’s ok but like I hate the body positivity notion that we should all just be blimps who put in 0 effort in dieting or health
it's also tricky being a teen at this point in time seeing all these celebrities my age or close to my age (like charli, billie eilish, olivia rodrigo) being so successful AND having flawless skin, hair, expensive clothes, etc. when I'm a teenager working minimum wage and trying to keep up A grades in school in the hopes that I can afford to go to a good uni. of course less wealthy teens aren't going to have perfect skin - they're TEENS, and on top of that have higher levels of stress, less sleep and have to work twice as hard for anything. makes me so mad.
Exactly! This is why you should never make the mistake of comparing yourself with someone who has access to significantly more resources than you, especially as a teenager. It's not a fair comparison at all.
Most teens/young adults aren't living wealthy lives and have access to plastic surgery, the best skincare, personal trainers, dermatologists, the best gym equipment, the best quality make up, the trendiest clothes, and so on. Most teens, as you said, are working, trying to get through school, and they live either regular or less than ideal lives. Most teens look normal but are tricked into thinking they're "ugly" because they compare themselves to someone who has all the resources in the world to keep them from looking what is considered "ugly". Let's also add in the fact that a lot of these celebrities have people take photos or film videos with the best lighting, and then they often add in filters and Photoshop alterations. Who knows if these celebrities look as perfect in person as they do on TV/online/in magazines? If Billie, Charli, and Olivia weren't famous and just lived ordinary teen lives, they'd 100% look like the rest of us regular folk.
I remember reading an interview to Giselle Bundchen in Vogue and she literally said “I think a lot of people get pregnant and decide they can turn into garbage disposals. I was mindful about what I ate, and I gained only 30 pounds.”
To think that Vogue even printed that out tells how much pressure women get from everyone in the industry. This was I think 2008, I was prob 16/17 years old when I read that. Now that I am 29 I can understand why many girls and teenage have ed and its even scarier considering we have social media this days.
Ugh, totally remember this.
When in fact you should eat more because you are growing another being
You should eat more, but healthy. Not cheesecake over dorritos over cucumber over whipped cream. And gain 50kg. Sorry thats not the healthy hapoy pregnancy. The problem is women are starving themselves their whole life and only pregnancy or severe diagnose /sadly/gives them green light to finally be able to eat more than bare minimum. And then they lose themselves and eat EVERYTHING. so gisee was right. But all these models are also brainwashed to not eat almost anything at all to stay 00. Sad world. Extremes and very little normality inbetween
I do agree with making healthier options but I still find the the article problematic, it is judgemental. I also feel that listening to your body is important and that's what has gone out of the window, in pregnancy and otherwise, though the fake food that is mass produced and heavily marketed has played a big role in that. There is a societal issue with food as well as body image
@@sabrinapitt1466 I believe a pregnant woman only needs an average of 500 additional calories per day.
I'm starting to see a shift in negative attitudes towards influencers and celebs. "I live a healthy life style" gets slammed with "All you do is wake up in a 10 million dollar home and work out"
No mention of any plastic surgery either.
But it’s true. Living off of only vegetables is unhealthy and unsustainable. Let alone living off just cheesecake like the bride mentioned in the video did.
Good. Eat the rich. These celebrities are terrible by selling that lie, making working class people feel bad about there appearance, and then selling to them.
Even vitamins are expensive.
~”Skin quality has become the new socially acceptable way to judge one’s appearance as a reflection of how deserving of respect one is” That really struck me. I’d read that dissertation
It's also genetic. I have dark skin, which protects me from a lot of signs of aging associated with sun exposure, and in general clear skin runs in my family. I care for my skin, but everyone in my family looks quite young far into life. Most people think I am a decade younger than I am, no cream is responsible for that. It would insincere for me to pretend it's the result of something I did.
On the other end, I have worn Sunblock all my life to prevent damage because I'm super pale with freckles but already have pigmentation loss on my arms in my 30's just like my mum. 😫
@@kflo8634 That’s sucks! I still do wear sunscreen, because who doesn’t want to w a vampire, though I have been wearing less for non peak sun exposure and sitting by windows because I get very bad Vitamin D deficiencies living in the PNW with dark skin.
yet if you were a celebrity and said that, people would say they wish you would just be honest about procedures. I am still young but have a condition that makes me look young and I know I am going to be asked about it in an invasive and rude way in the future. You literally cannot win.
Sunscreen is possible for that 😉
@@xeareax I don't think looking a decade younger casts aspersions. Looking like a 20 year old when you're 50+ does. I'm 33 and people still think I am in college. It's not that huge of a reach. And I do think we give dark skinned and Asian celebrities a bit more of the benefit of the doubt. It does help a lot and that is why if you aren't wearing sunscreen regularly you mind as well toss out those anti-aging products.
guys, for skincare: remember, the purpose of skin isn't to look good, it is to serve as barrier between your squishy insides and the rest of the world. Support it in doing its job! That means, keep it intact, hydrated, and clean. Having "perfect" blemish free skin =/= healthy. If that is the aesthetic you are looking for, go for it (in a healthy way)! just don't let anyone tell you that you having rough patches, blemishes, scars, stretch marks, or any other number of skin types is "not healthy".
Love this. Thank you!
Such a helpful way to look at this, thank you
I would go a step further than that. We know now how crucial our gut microbiota is to our overall health. Well did you know your skin is also an ecosystem? There are loads of microorganisms living on every one of us all the time. I don't know for sure the full impacts of these creatures on real skin health (aka avoiding skin diseases like eczema) but I will take a precautionary approach: until we understand the medical benefits or harms of the ecosystem that coevolved with us, better not to interfere in it. All this to say I don't even think people should clean skin beyond letting water run over you, unless there is some actual dirt on it (my exception is to wash my hands to avoid spreading viruses/bacteria that would otherwise accumulate on them)
While mostly true, we cannot ignore the fact that certain skin conditions are sign of issues happening internally. For example hyperpigmentation or dry patchy skin on the face is a sign of diabetes or insulin resistance.
I'm not an idiot so I would not believe someone telling me having a scar was "unhealthy" but I understand if someone wouldn't not find me attractive. It doesn't impact me if I'm not someone's sexual preferences. But I do take care of my skin to keep it plump and hydrated.
THANK YOU for raising the idea of "The Cult of Good Skin." I suffered with severe acne for over a decade and I always felt that acne and acne scar acceptance was a "final frontier" of body positivity. It is wild how people think they can make unsolicited comments about my face in the interest of "just worrying about my health"
Totally agree with this, "final frontier" is brilliant wording. Makes me think of how people are still just as judgemental, they just have ideas of what you're "allowed" to comment on. People wouldn't dare to say that I look like I gained weight or something, because they know that's mean, but as a girl with short hair, they won't hesitate to say they don't think I have the face for it (???)
There is no final frontier on body positivity. We will always have new ideas of what makes us attractive and we will always need to challenge them. There’s things about myself that no one acknowledges as a against beauty standards. I’m sorry you have to deal with the acne though. That really sucks.
If you're ready to be honest with yourself I'd suggest to look into psychosomatics. For me, people who struggle with acne are the ones that don't love and accept themselves. Not on surface level 'buy more expensive skincare' or 'acne is natural, so love yourself' but in deep, inner level 'i allow myself be and live'
@@Aristaifly Seriously, people have acne cause they don't love themselves? What a BS statement.
@@smokyeye how is it bs? how do you know what other feel? esp about themselves?
they really be gaslighting, gatekeeping, girlbossing
✨gaslight, gatekeep, girlboss✨
The unholy Trinity of toxic femininity, lol.
Gatekeeping what?
@@claudiaschmidt3708 fame and beauty, I guess
@@LoveAndSnapple Ey! that's my name
Glad to see the Lorry Hill mention. That woman is doing The Lord’s Work.
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I literally posted this exact comment and then immediately saw yours. Lol
@@caseyw.6550 Great minds think alike!
Say it again for the people in the back!!
Say it again for the people in the back!
Watching Korean TV shows for over a decade with all the thin body image standards and good skin glorifying led me to a collection of skincare worth more than a year and an unhappy mindset over my tummy. I NEEDED to hear this rant. Thank you.
Yeah we think we have it bad in America... East Asian beauty standards are on another level.
tummies are sexy tho, actually most dudes ''ideal standard'' is that little tummy and some even like more than a little tummy.
@@LegendNinja41 I know you meant well with your comment, but what men find attractive is irrelevant to how women should feel about their own bodies.
@@purplepoppy07 not necessarily but i know it's deeper than what men find attractive or not.
@Jen L that’s the way it SHOULD be but isn’t currently the case generally speaking.
I'm glad you mentioned the trend of people saying "this is how you age when you're not problematic." I honestly can't tell how much of it is just a joke and how much is something people actually believe, but it's dangerously close to saying that being attractive = being a good person. Like, it feels like a modernized version of old Disney movies, where we can tell the villain is the bad guy because they're always ugly and old and wrinkly lol.
I also discovered recently that most modern celeb paparazzi shots are staged photoshoots and NOT actual candids. I've always known certain "paparazzi shots" were staged, but once I became more aware of it recently I realized it's EVERYWHERE. Example: most of my awareness of Bella Hadid comes from seeing soooooo many paparazzi pics of her on Pinterest, Instagram, etc. Pictures of Bella seemingly out and about, seemingly candid. But after I found some ACTUAL paparazzi pics of her that look more like the paparazzi pics I remember from magazines in the 2010s, etc, I realized just how staged the ones on Pinterest are. In no way am I claiming she's not gorgeous - she still is even in the unflattering paparazzi shots! - but it's really scary how warped our concept of what a human being looks like is becoming. Even the most stunning model in the world is not going to look glowing and flawless and toned from every single angle and every single possible lighting, that's just like....how photography works? It honestly makes me feel so crazy!
It's exactly what it is, it makes me uncomfortable when people say it.
Aging is natural, some people look younger than others their age due to genetics, lifestyle or enhancements. But at the end of the day it's just aesthetics. Associating it with morality is messed up, but it's definitely ingrained in our culture as you said.
Btw calling someone 'unproblematic' is weird in the first place.
That's one of the very reason why I don't follow influencers or celebs on IG but animals and nature pics (and even those are edited).
So fake and that standard on how we age according how we are as human being is so disgusting, like for every bad action you get a wrinkle. Aging is natural. 😰
And, not to mention, Bella Hadid had LOTS of surgery to look the way she does now, so people really shouldn't hinge their perception of their own self on the illusion of celebrities being "born that way".
I do think there is a correlation between holding in a lot of negative emotions and aging. If you are constantly stressed and dealing with stressful people and situations, it's going to eventually show on your face. I've known people who have left stressful, unhealthy work environments, and in only a few months look 1000% better.
So true, I remember when paparazzi photos of Prince Philip coming back from the hospital were shared and suddenly it was okay to make fun of the appearance of a sick, dying elderly man, and paint ageing as "divine justice" for his past wrongdoings.
‘Gaslight’ is the right word. These are already conventionally good looking people, who have had luck (along with talent and hard work) to sustain their fame, who can now maintain their natural good looks with a lot of help from their dermatologists and trainers.
I love your channel Chelsea. Love your analyses.
Exactly or they are the daughter /sister/niece of XYZ. All the celeb kids got their career handed to them on a golden plate.
And their plastic surgeons.
This. Some celebs have entire teams devoted to take care of their health and wellness such as fittness trainers, nutritionists, great doctors, all kinds of specialists, dermatologists, mental health professionals, etc... Most people can't afford to have this level of care.
Even in real life, the wealthier well to-do parts of society start grooming their kids for beauty very young. I worked for a dermatologist office for a few years and you’d be surprised how common it is for mothers to bring in girls as young as 13 for laser hair removal, lip and cheek fillers, coolsculpting. I wish I were kidding how normal this has been amongst middle classes for a long, long time. It’s those of us that don’t grow up with a big beauty culture that end up surprised.
@@Etianen7 🤣🤣🤣
I interviewed a young actress who was/is VERY THIN. We did the interview over lunch. It was in her contract that I had to put what she ordered for lunch in the article.
She ordered a double bacon cheeseburger with onion rings. I wrote down her order. She then began trying to flag down the server when she couldn’t get his attention, she pulled a bottle of some beauty product out of her bag and dumped it over the food. When she saw my face she said “I can’t risk eating it, award season is coming. You can’t write about this” She finally got the server’s attention and had him take away her burger and bring her a raw vegetable plate with unsweetened iced tea. As we were leaving she mentioned meeting her trainer. After a lunch of celery, carrots and cucumbers.
I see stuff about her and she frequently talks how much she loves fast food and how she eats tacos every day but she can’t seem to gain any weight no matter how hard she tries!
So many actresses love to talk about how they eat and eat and just can’t gain weight. Complete and total bullshit.
Once you start looking for it, you see it everywhere. I remember an interview with Selma Blair where the author wrote about how she was shotgunning french fries doused in ranch and how wonderful it was to be with someone who EATS. Cameron Diaz going on about how she eats cheeseburgers at least once a day because it's the only way she can keep weight on. Heidi Klum talking about (even when she was a Victoria Secret Angel) about going to town on muffins, pastries and ice cream. Paris Hilton talking about how she constantly eats fast food while her hip bones jut out of her low rise jeans.
All in an effort to give the impression that they are just naturally thin women who never exercise eats TONS of junk food, but just can't seem to gain any weight.
Total and complete BULLSHIT
@@MrAragon131 lol yeah, isn't it amazing how having an overactive metabolism is a rare condition that most celebrity women seem to have
@@katkatkatkat463 I talked about this once and a woman was offended saying "Some women are just naturally very thin, there's nothing they can do about it" Unless I see DNA that proves ALL Hollywood actresses are secretly sisters I'm not buying it.
By the way, to produce maximum effect it always has to be fast food - cheesburgers, fries, etc. Just ordinary food in ordinary quantities is never "normal" enough.
So true, I stopped subscribing to magazines when I was a teen. I don’t think magazines are bad for everyone, but I wasn’t mentally strong enough to be looking at all these tweaked images and comparing them to myself. I think as human beings its easier to hope a cream will give you the perfect body rather than taking on the task of accepting what you have and appreciating it. I don’t have a flat stomach but I have great legs! Everything in my closet is short😅
Oh my god, I just remember reading some women’s magazines as a teen that would always repeat how Gisele bunchen would ‘always eat burgers and chocolate’ and was just ‘naturally slim’. Even though I’m in my thirties, it’s honestly taken me until very recently to understand how hard some women work to look ‘effortlessly thin’.
Edit: OH and I cannot tell you how many compliments I got when I gave birth and then lost a ton of weight because my postpartum body went on to produce milk for 5 baby’s instead of 1 and I felt so ill. I looked so good! I was so thin! I was also MISERABLE and oh I also gained all the weight back after I stopped nursing so I disappointed everyone belatedly 😂
You told me my story, same to same, I was thin, gained weight during pregnancy, lost it while breastfeeding, gained again after weaning. Just change Gisele with Priyanka Chopra, I have read in my teens that she eats so much chocolate, but still it doesn't make her thighs swell. 🙆♀️
I don't get it... these ppl lying about what the he'll they eat or they actually eat junk like selena gomez always saying she eat chips and ice cream... and finally when someone brought it on interview she barely took bite out of frozen yogurt of same flavor she liked but frozen yogurt being healthier than ice cream... selena still was convulsing over it as if it was poison .... skinny genes are great till they stop working.. its gross that ppl sleep w make up on all time, eat pizza and fries alllllllllll damn time, party and drink till 3am....Gros gross gross.. thank for honesty video girl. I kno lot ppl do this
I know nothing about Giselle's actual habits but the problem isn't models saying they are naturally thin: some are, some women are models without starving themselves and they aren't lying, their bodies are skinny and they eat whatever they want. The problem is those who aren't models or aren't naturally skinny and lie about it, because they themselves are victims of this beauty ideal, and end up giving this impression that most women can be thin if they want to and that being thin is so common. It's not! The female body is naturally and most often curvy, right? That some women are thin and some more fat doesn't mean the average woman is naturally in any of the two extremes. Yet only one extreme gets criticised and shamed, and it's not the thin end of the scale..if you have belly fat, round thighs, arm fat, back fat, fat under your chin, guess what, YOU'RE A VERY NORMAL HUMAN BEING AND YOUR BODY IS THE WAY IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE, WITH BOTH MUSCLE AND POCKETS OF FAT❤️
Check out the Book "They Never Ask About the Women" by a famous music journalist. And she says the magazines REQUIRE them to write about weight and when stars are honest, they tell them they won't accept that. "Well, then just day I eat salmon and chicken," is how they get out of the interview.
Gisele and Priya got nose jobs
Everything stated in this video is so on point. Beyonce told everybody in her Homecoming movie that in order to get "show ready" she didn't eat anything. Noticed she stated that she gave up carbs, meat, fish, sugar, all the things. I was left wondering what she did eat besides the most basic of vegetables and that apple you her snacking on. Also, when Cindi Crawford was launching her skincare line, she stated in the commercial that she first started her skincare journey when she was 18 with Dr. Sebaugh. These folks had access to the best of the best at very young ages. I'm not sure why folks are so desperate to believe the lies.
💯 Brilliant point 👍🏿
Not to mention the fact that, as they said over on the Take, most famous people, apart from being talented, got the breaks they did because they were preternaturally good looking in the first place! The deck is already stacked for them by genetics, even before you all the wealth and time to do all the maintenance.
@kj This was just after she had her twins and was preparing for Coachella. If you watched Homecoming you would see her transformation, especially when you look at her face.
@kj in the past, she was known to do extreme yo-yo dieting to maintain her weight. She’s naturally thick and curvy, and I remember when she initially went solo (during her Work it out phase when she wearing natural texture hair and what i would assume, her more natural bodyweight) she was criticized for her weight and hair. Then she changed her image quite quickly
i was annoyed when she started describing what she had to eat to lose her baby weight right after her twin pregnancy. It made me cringe, especially the way her diet plan was insanely restrictive for a postpartum woman. Considering the amount of pounds she gained and how quickly she dropped the weight in a few months with excessive training and limited calorie intake, there should be a lot of loose skin but no, she's even more snatched than she was in her DC days.
She's had a complete mommy makeover and her fans attribute it to pregnancy when all the sudden she's boasting a Kardashian-like figure with high, rounded hips, rounded butt and small waist. I'm not shaming her or anything just pointing out the obvious. Celebrities lie all the time.
My favorite celebrity never lied about how he maintains his physique. Danny DeVito ♡
Omg but he’s just blessed 😫🤚 we cant ever achieve his standards ‼️💔
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I wasted SO MUCH money on over the counter acne products before I started seeing my current dermatologist. Once she put me on a daily dose of spirnalactone my acne completely cleared up. No amount of fancy products would have fixed my hormonal imbalance.
I think I’ve got to look into a medication like that. My dermatologist has me on a topical clindamycin which seems to work but I think I’ve got a hormonal issue.
@@iburntmytoe3470 spirnalactone isn’t intended to take long term and comes with potential side effects. One positive side effect is it is a diuretic so I lost water weight while on the medication. It’s not a permanent acne fix. I ended up still needing to take low dose accutane later after spirnalactone. Over the counter never worked for me. Battling acne also required medical intervention.
One more person that had horrible hormonal acne here 👋 The problem was with an exceedingly high level of testosterone (I'm a woman). Taking birth control since i was 18 has been the only way to fix it. No cosmetics worked.
I would also add that facetune plays a huge rule in all of this. Not even those women themselves look like their instagram photos.
True, and some celebrities are known for not filming anything unless the lighting is perfect
8:32 "Listen, I love Adele, but that album is just more Adele piano-jams"
OH MY GOD THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SAYING THIS. I was thinking the same thing. Like Adele piano-jam is a genre that deserves to survive for centuries, but she's not breaking new ground and that's ok to acknowledge
She never has tbh.
I thought I was the only one who felt she wasn’t breaking new ground. Love her but… yea 😅
A great comment in a great clip. Chelsea only speaks truth
Yup. My mom struggled with her rosacea for like 5 years. "Treating" it with lotions and hypoallergenic stuff. Then she finally went to a dermatologist who treated it with actual medicine and it was gone within a month!
So on point. Thank you. I’m currently 7 months pregnant and some people have already asked me how I’m gonna “snap back” to my pre-pregnancy weight and size after delivering my child 😳🥲🙄. What the heck?
Congratulations on your pregnancy. I hope you have a healthy baby. Enjoy all those baby snuggles 🥰.
What a bunch of fudge-tards. 🤦♂️
When you become a parent, maybe, just maybe, you have other things on your mind apart from your body or your looks? 😏
Tell them to dislocate their hips while growing another person into existence against their spine + vital organs for 9 months and get back to you when they 'bounce back'
Ignore them! They should feel shame, but people these days have the audacity! UNBELIEVABLE -- Focus on health - you and your little one 💖
Honestly, as a 23 y/o girl I am so ready to one day have a mom's body - they are so beautiful! The only things about pregnancy that scares me are childbirth and the possibility of birthing an ill child.
Exactly why I don't have Instagram, no reason to put more pressure on myself
Same. Also waste of time
My partner and I were just speaking tonight about how something that seems so basic to health--eating good quality protein, fruit, and vegetables, that are as local as possible and as un-pesticided as possible--can often cost ⅓ to ½ more than groceries at a commercial supermarket (where we live). Of course, wholesome food helps you look 'good,' and age less quickly too. Yet even wholesome food is a function of economic privilege, never mind any other interventions or supports.
Food deserts are a very real thing.
I’ve watched a family member go through a large weight loss and I’ve seen how it has affected her daughter (she refuses food, mimics her mother as she is proud about that fact). She is 6 years old. We need to be vigilant, our children will pay the price.
This just reminds me of Kendall Jenner being an ambassador for an acne brand, while getting thousands of dollars worth of facials and lasers at a surgeon's office.
She apparently got something called a Diamond Facial, where you literally have to wear a sheet mask over your face until you heal, as you've essentially peeled off your entire face.
Remember that chick who played Emily in Pretty Little Liars, and her sponsorship with Bioré and that IG-story where she "wiped her eye makeup in one swipe"? If a celeb recommends a product I haven't tried myself first, I'm just going to assume it's shit and a bunch of lies. TH-camrs and their sponsorships back in the day put me off massively with their "these are my absolute favorites" in ONE video, only for the products never to be seen again.
@@catharinasvenkerud2728 I JUST watched that actress’s Vogue beauty routine video earlier today. It was 58 steps and no Biore lmao her names Shay Mitchell if you wanna check it out
@@tareyaeason242 lol can’t trust anything they say
@@catharinasvenkerud2728 Right I did use Visibly Even moisturizer because Gabrielle Union said so and dammit if she wasn't a straight shooter. She's the only one I can trust. LOL
Those Kardashian’s and Jenners are always at epione Beverly Hills getting all those pricey treatments lol
As a teenager/college student with horrible acne, I spent ALL of any money I had on expensive sephora skincare. The only thing that worked was getting older and going off birth control pills. I only use moisturizer now and my skin has never been better. I feel like the entire luxury skincare industry is a massive scam.
Go watch Dr. Dray she’ll tell you what’s what
No sunscreen?
@@hopecraftsalot9782 Nope. I avoid going out in the sun entirely, or if I do, I wear sunglasses and a hat to make sure my entire face is not exposed to direct sunlight. Not everyone's cup of tea but the smell and texture of sunscreen disgusts me.
Luxury skincare industry is a scam
I’m dead! I love this. I literally am underweight because I have colitis and damage from celiacs disease, and I had hyperemesis during every pregnancy and was CONSTANTLY praised for how much self control I had for gaining less than 5-10 lbs each pregnancy and dropping lower after. I literally weigh less than 100 lbs at 5’3 *because I am literally frequently ill* and I get told how amazingly lucky I am instead of getting to witness beautiful strong humans with all sorts of life stories written on their bodies being treated as whole human beings. It’s frustrating as fuck.
Agree. I was very depressed after my father died and couldn't eat and people who knew full well my father had died still asked me what was my secret to losing weight.
@@mascara1777 LMAO, this was too much. Who are these people?😂
@@mascara1777 I'm so terribly sorry you had to go though that 🙏
Wait. I thought I only needed the cream made with the secret melon only grown in France. Now I need JLo olive oil.
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Lol!!!
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😆 LOL I know right
Stop, cause I'm scared there actually is such a trend. If not, then try washing your hair in only the water from a specific stream in a specific village in china. Because that's definitely a real beauty topic.
Being pregnant with my third child, this video made me cry. its literally how I felt after my second baby. I felt horrible I wasn't able to loose weight while taking care of 2 children and household. You are right, it is cruel, very cruel. Your life as a mum is hard on itself, and these days you also worry about your stupid figure. Thank you for your words, they helped me today.
It seems very dangerous to be close to underweight when pregnant and having elective surgery shortly after giving birth. Your body needs some weight to support being _a human host_ and you need to heal after the trauma (from your body's perspective) that is giving birth.
Don't get me started on guys dangerously dehydrating themselves to look that cut on screen 😔
You are 100% correct, but the phrase *human host* horrifies me.
In fact they're also starving their unborn child which will cause stress to the baby's nervous system.
This reminds me of the lie many celebs tell about fertility. Many older celeb moms have had expensive treatments to get pregnant‼️My friends who wait to get pregnant after 40, often struggle with infertility, thinking it’s easy to get pregnant like older celeb moms. 💔
Why would they think it would be easy? Don't they have basic knowledge of biology? They never heard of the famous female "biological clock"? And even if they were copying celebrities in a mindless way, so many celebrity women have gone public with their fertility battles!
Thank you so much for citing me in this video! I emailed you ! Great video !
Thanks so much! Glad you enjoyed it.
Lorry, your videos have helped me so much.
@@BernadetteTeachesMusic I love to see it!! ❤️
I would love it if Lorry and Chelsea could sit down for a long-form discussion on the topic!
Omg!! Love this i hope a future collab 💕✨
The Rock is almost 50 and he looks leaner and more muscular than when he was a pro wrestler in his 20's. There's no way that can be achieved naturally and to pretend otherwise is gaslighting vulnerable young men who will feel like shit because they'll never look like that without ped's no matter how much they train. Same goes for all the Marvel Chrises.
It’s not even just the PED’s. Even without that, most people can’t afford to both eat the way he does and to workout like he does. There’s an ocean of resources required to look like he does, and he probably uses nutritionists, personal trainers, personal chefs, doctors, dermatologists, and who knows what to get juices to the gills the way he appears to be 🤷🏽♂️. But yea just eat right and exercise 😂😂😂
Not many people have hours to train every day either. The Rock looks good but if you know anything about lifting, you'd be forgiven for assuming he's not likely to be natural
Yes testosterone shots 😂
I'm 35 weeks pregnant and lately my pinterest feed is getting inundated by articles about losing the baby weight and post partum exercises, none of which are topics I've searched for, but because I searched for other pregnancy/ baby topics for the past 7-8 months I now get those articles and ads all the time! Its too much pressure. Not only does society expect us to immediately bounce back to a pre-baby physical appearance but also to return to the workforce shortly after having a child since the US has such appalling parental leave policies. Its like great you spent 40 weeks growing a person but now you have 6 weeks to erase all physical evidence of your pregnancy and get back to work while taking care of this incredibly needy person whose whole survival is dependent on you.
I love it how we all survived 2020 and we're still having this conversation.
Im with you. Let it all go.
Love this. Every time I hear an actor cite "Steamed chicken and broccoli" for helping them get super swole (and they all do) I just take it as shorthand for HGH and steroid cycling.
I wish I'd been as astute as you: I've always blamed 'my cursed genetics and lack of discipline '!
I think HGH is probably the biggest factor in all of this.
JLo and I are the exact same age. While she looks very good for her age, my main reaction upon seeing her Super Bowl halftime performance was, “Thank God I’ve built a career so that my salary is not dependent on being able to squeeze my butt into a skintight catsuit.” That’s the trap of building your career upon beauty, because the flashy, more marketable form of beauty comes easily only for the young. I think often about how our society has a responsibility to help define beauty in a way that includes much older people, and what I see marketed by celebrities isn’t it.
Thank you - Jessica Simpson said she lost a ton of weight post Partum by breastfeeding and “chasing the kids around”. Turns out she had a partial tummy tuck, it wasn’t “enough”, so she had a subsequent full tummy tuck and was hospitalized after with an infection. That’s just one example of the gaslighting celebrities subject you to. Newsflash - it is normal to be *horrified* by your post Partum body. It can take a long time to lose the weight, but it’s ok - your body went through a big trauma.
Definitely check out Emily Weis's wedding prep article in Into The Gloss. She spent 30k on preparing her body for her wedding and was only 8/10 happy with her appearance the day of...
They were divorced right away too! :-(
How sad
Spending $30,000 on your beauty treatment for one day is pretty pathetic. That's the problem with the lot of weddings. People think it's all about putting on a pretty front and making everything look shiny and sparkly.
That's crazy!!!
TBH if you think spending a ton of money on perfecting your appearance is going to make you like it anymore, you have another thing coming. I think it healthier to work on liking what you have or were born with and then just grooming to enhance it rather than fighting it. Sadly Ms. Weiss has always given that vibe that she’s not completely happy with her looks, and while that’s ok, if you know anything about personal peace and mental health; no amount of money would’ve given her what she wanted because she’s not exactly at peace with herself (or accepting what she is). I have been reading Into The Gloss for years and from the start. The woman doesn’t have the highest view of herself and while that’s common, it’s worth noting when factoring her excess. For what is worth, Into The Gloss is a fun site. Her makeup line is overrated though.
I have one friend who mentions like once a month that she's going to get liposuction after she has a baby. We're 23 and single, nowhere near looking to have kids. She's already thinking more about the *horror* of having more fat on her body after GROWING A HUMAN than about the hypothetical child she'd be caring for. It's such a sad reflection of what she's absorbed
It's really sad. I have a friend that constantly complains about her body. I and everyone else that knows her think she's gorgeous and has a conventionally damn near perfect figure. But it gets so exhausting listening to her constantly nit pick herself about her insecurities and I really just feel bad for her and wish she wouldn't see herself that way. I of course have plenty of insecurities too, but they don't define me and I would hate to bug people with incessant complaining about things that just don't matter that much at the end of the day.
Let her know that lipo is REALLY painful. Worse than a boob job. Worse than natural childbirth. FYI
Just don’t gain that much weight during pregnancy? Idk
@@victoria.josephine I can't tell if this is sarcasm or not 😭
Well, she'll need to feed the baby, so they will literally suck the fat out from her, in that she is right.
I fought for YEARS with moderate and cystic acne. I tried everything OTC and all it did was irritate my skin and empty my wallet. I finally went to a dermatologist and tried some things that helped but didn’t solve the problem, and then my doc suggested it was time to try isotretininoin (accutane). I had bad skin for 20 ish years and now, at 35 finally have clear skin because to went to a medical professional. When people compliment my skin I am totally honest and tell them what I’ve been through because it is important for people to know that I may “wake up” with good skin now, but that is only after decades of struggling and years of dermatologist appointments to get this face under control.
Just went to a derm finally too (I'm also 35) and it's working. And it's like, oh.
Same here. I struggled for about fifteen years to treat my cystic acne on my own. At age 30 I finally had my first "real" job with health insurance and a good paycheck and I threw in the towel. Went to the dermatologist, got recommended Accutane, took it for five months, and have never had any acne difficulties since. At one point I went to my hairdresser and she was like, "Okay what are you doing? Your skin is glowing!" And I was like, "Well I've been on Accutane for five months." There's no shame in admitting it.
Similar story. I did accutane in my mid 20s, and it helped. I was since left with a ton of acne scarring. I am now (because i can finay afford it) treating it with RF microneedling (cosmetic procedure with a derm) I had one session and the results are great! Im looking forward to my resulta after my 3rd session! If you have acne acarring, ask your derm about solutions. I cannot do lasers
For skin resurfacing because of my skin tone but RF microneedling is safe for all skin types.
Yes to this! I struggled with acne / acne scarring for years. Around 25 I finally got sick of it, and also maybe grew up and stopped feeling like it was something to be so ashamed of, and started talking about it with friends. I then realized that a couple of my close friends who had clear skin actually had worse acne than me (which drove them to see a dermatologist much earlier), and they recommended their dermatologist to me as well as told me about different things they tried and the side effects. Long story short, I went to see the recommended dermatologist, and got actual medication that cleared up my skin within a year - I realized my acne was actually relatively mild (didnn't need accutane) and had I talked about this with my friends earlier, I probably would have fixed the problem years ago. Seriously, we need to nomralize having open conversations about the things that we do to look the way we do - it's up to everyone to judge for themselves whether they think its worth / necessary to do certain things, but knowing what the options are can only be a good thing.
The positive side of acne is the preemptive strike for decades for me. All those things l did to battle acne were collagen inducing and attributes to my younger than my age look. I did nine months of low dose accutane during the pandemic. I was concerned I was missing out on being able to do glyco peels or use topical Retin A or Vit C. My doctor told me that studies done showed taking Vit A orally had anti aging benefits. I’m annoyed I have one pimple after nine months of accutane. Decades later and the fight continues. For me, gluten is a trigger for my acne.
I think what’s the most sad is when they blatantly maliciously lie , that they NEVER had any procedures done.
Wow, posted just in time to divert another mid-thirties mirror sobbing session. You’re a gem, thank you 🙏
Same🙈
Hugs 🤗🤗
Didn’t stop my mid-forties sobbing session. I feel better though.
Love your name!
I had my son 8 months ago via emergency c section. I put a lot of weight while breastfeeding and being in lockdown. My stomach will never be the same- I’m learning to love it- but it’s really hard
Jane Fonda once admitted that the secret behind her looks was being rich.
This is why Monica Bellucci is one of my inspirations with these things!! She's a very natural actress who looks amazing for her age but wears her curves and wrinkles with pride and doesn't shy away from them and aging. She's the reason I even look forward to aging as a woman!
The rise of skincare routine visibility in pop culture correlating with the rise of celeb skincare products has always concerned me. I''m so glad someone with a platform is pointing it out
The celeb influencer thing is a HUGE problem in my industry - I'm a personal trainer. Not only do people come in with super unrealistic ideas of what physical outcomes can be achieved, they're not even especially clear in what the role of the trainer actually is.
Also, if you haven't yet I very, very, high;y recommend the book "Is Gwyneth Paltrow Wrong About Everything?" by Timothy Caulfield if you like this topic. He really tears the celeb/influencer skin care market a new one!
Signing on to deliver your child *early* in order to keep your "pre-baby body" is probably the most selfish thing I've ever heard of in my entire life
Or using a surrogate!
Chelsea: doesn't have an associates degree. Also Chelsea: font of truth, wisdom, and bullshit-cutting. It's an honor to be schooled by you, young lady.
Yo, we need to make people watch Death Becomes Her. It's a commentary on keeping youthful beauty in your later years. And the price you pay to do so. In a very satirical and comedic way.
One of my favorite movies! It still cracks me up!
Love that film
There needs to be a massive DE-PROGRAMMING of beauty-obsessed thoughts in our society at all levels, or this will continue like it always has. Dove has attempted it with its "real beauty" campaign several years ago. Look for the videos titled Dove evolution, Dove onslaught, Dove reverse selfie. They convey the danger of beauty obsession fairly pointedly. There are others I can't recall. One especially moving ad shows a house with all the windows closed, and the caption says: "Mary doesn't want to leave the house because she doesn't like the way she looks."
I wish we’d talk more about how, when one actually achieves their desired look, they aren’t any happier…. And are possibly less happy b/c all that work was sort of for nothing, or maybe b/c increased male attention is not that great. Let’s all just be attractive enough to get the one mate we want, and then half of that just to keep them from leaving, and call it a day?
Dove is still a profit-driven company that lies to you. Their "real beauty" nonsense is clever, but transparent, marketing.
@@camelopardalis84 Totally, they still sell skin-lightening creams in Asia and Africa to women of color, while pretending to be progressive its all a marketing scheme.
@@amarachiisaac9420 I actually watched a few videos by an Asian woman (I don't remember what exactly her heritage is, but I think she looked what could be called "stereotypically Asian") who actually pushes back against the notion that it's - to abbreviate this comment - white supremacy and white beauty standards being imposed on Asian women that causes them to want to bleach their skin. That it's a beauty standard that is inherent to (some) Asian countries.
Personally, I really don't know how to feel about it, and I actually worked in a household where the Thai(?) woman who lived there used such skin-whitening products.
I'm not making any definite statement here. I really don't know what is true and what isn't.
@@camelopardalis84 I was referring to the entire continent of Asia, so I don’t really know what you mean by stereotypically asian, because in South Asian countries like India, Pakistan and Nepal, dark skinned women are pressured to use skin lightening creams in order to increase their chances in marriage because of colorism and the legacy of white supremacy. I also mentioned Africa, so I think you may have misread my comment. Anyways, I’ve heard many south east asian women talk about the struggles with colourism on line, and I was just trying to highlight the fact that Dove is still just a corporate entity and still promotes colourism and white supremacy abroad to make money
Genetically it runs in my family to easily lose weight - bit of exercise, cut out high calorie foods. I have more trouble gaining than losing weight.
I've had heaps of women ask me how to lose weight - I spent my time giving them extensive advice on cutting out high calorie foods and still eat a healthy diet. Almost all of them still eat what I wouldn't, and then say I'm just lucky because of my genetics.
It is harder for some people than others to keep a healthy weight, it's affected by genetics, but also by what you eat & exercise. Each person has to work out what works best for them, and be realistic & know what you're willing to do or not.
The skincare as morality thing is so true. My skincare routine theoretically costs *thousands* a month. I still look like shit. It isn't due to lack of effort.
Thank you for acknowledging the beauty industry pressures put on men. There's a very thin line put on us between "healthy and manly" and "omg he's queer", regardless of sexual orientation and gender expression. A man taking an interest in his appearance is allowed, but only if we do it in a very heteronormative way.
Yes there is a double standard
I prefer men who deviate from the heteronormative. They look more exotic and softer which I find more approachable.
I used to work in the plastic surgery realm and it wasn’t uncommon for women to drop $6,000 on an office skin treatment. If you see a wealthy woman with good skin it’s skincare, Botox, fillers, laser, and microneedling on repeat
Ring a ding ding, we have a winner!! I would say all of this, except voicing it through a megaphone…in a cave, for extra enunciation. Most wealthy women get a facial with lasers at about once a month, with tretinoin every other night and vitamin c serum in the morning every other day. Botox every three months. And fillers if they have a square face shape (honestly these are the only people that regularly get their face filled out as their skin sinks in and hollows out as they age…) but heart shaped face people get fillers for their jaws or chin too. Sunscreen is god. But mental health and controlling stress is the other big one. Prioritize accountability in relationships and you’ll see most women look ten times better overnight.
I'm so glad you brought up the army of domestic employees point as a huge advantage most well off people have. When don't have to worry about cleaning, cooking, cutting the grass, babysitting your kids, etc. yourself of course you're gonna have time to do all sorts of health routines and training to look amazing.
Yes but no. I raised a child by myself and worked full time and stayed in shape. I just did workouts while he was still asleep or after he went to bed. People think you need a gym or a trainer when all is needed is consistency.
The a c i d i t y in her voice when reading the mommy makover article, was so delightfully honest
When I was 23 I decided to lose a ton of weight. Long story short, in less than a year I lost about 150 pounds and was down to about 175 lbs. Everyone always asked my secret and there was none: I watched what I ate, exercised religiously…and I was 23 years old and had stupidly overclocked metabolism because it takes way more calories to move and live as a 330ish pound man than as a 175 pound one. Now as a 38 year old man…there is no way I would have been able to do it: it’s a lot easier as a young person to change that than as a near-middle-aged person. This is the same thing. The same thing….these older celebrities do hardcore / borderline unhealthy regimes and have tons of hired help to help them maintain those looks. I’m now a little heavier (still healthy, but I’m 38 and have my “dad bod”), have rapidly graying hair…and you know what? I’m ok with it. But I’m also a man who’s well aware of the blatant double standard between men and women as we age. I routinely tell my wife she’s still breathtaking and that she doesn’t need to do cosmetic treatments. But she does because she wants to feel that same way about herself. And it ticks me off part of that is because society demands she try to look like she’s 31 when she’s 50 in 17 years.
Oh, this reminds me of an interview with Jennifer Lawrence. She went on about how much she loves cheesesteaks, ranch, and cheeseburgers right before a red carpet debut. It’s not that these celebrities/influencers lead these lifestyles. It’s the fact that these millionaires and billionaires will sit and claim it’s just vitamins and sunscreen that keeps them looking great while simultaneously selling a 40-100 dollar beauty product to the average person when in reality it takes thousands + to maintain that look.
Thank you so much for sharing this video Chelsea. Everything is SO ON POINT. I want to cringe so badly every time I hear JLO being praised on her amazing skin due to her "HEALTHY HABITS" and nobody EVER mentions her facelift, laser treatments etc. I cannot stand how these celebrities promise people that with their skin care line anyone can really get comparable results to them, just like we had access to all that array of treatments and privilege. I wish that at least they were more upfront. Also I cannot understand how the main focus on a mother that just gave birth is to 'bounce back' and even goin to the extreme to get a pre mature birth to avoid weight gain...but what about the health of the child? This is insane to me (personally) . I love watching Lori her channel is great she actually can provide a more informed view on what these celebrities actually got done.
Exactly. Same goes for Kate Middleton. Everyone says that she is just sportive when that women is visibly underweight and her diet/exercise regime is glorified in mass media
It's cool you know how much she weighs to diagnose her as underweight. Did she tell you over a cup of tea?
@@saltycrunch She's 121lb for 5th9. So technically, she's under weight with a bmi of under 18.
Even her face is emaciated. If you look at her old pictures she wasn't THAT skinny. You literally can see the bones on her cheast in some pics.
Her image is extremely unhealthy. And I don't blame her but how tabloids glamorize a visibly underweight woman
@@robertat.8817 I agree that she is underweight but seeing the bones on the chest is not a given of someone being underweight. I'm 178cm tall and 67kgs, so still slender but definitely not underweight, and my bones are still very visible on my chest.
Well, it's no secret (i.e. what happened to Princess Diana and Fergie and her daughters) that the whole Royal Family organization (probably more pressure from the administrators/staff than the actual family members) puts pressure on the family members to be thin and gorgeous. She's got a more slender frame than most women, but I wouldn't be surprised if she is just living up to the standard imposed on her once she started seriously dating Prince William, and cemented the moment she married in.
I mean her mum and sister and brother are all tall and thin. She is not a great example
God bless you Chelsea,
Mentioning celebrity pregnancy before and after is the best thing I hate them for destroying my view of my own body image after giving birth to my kids wondering why I didn't look like them just two weeks post partum . So I stopped watching them for my own sake.
Did you think those celebrities were not using expensive dietitians and trainers-and that's with or without surgeries?
Seriously, this is so sadly believable. I have a very good friend of mine who is extremely thin who "plays" with her food instead of eating it when going out to a restaurant (which is most days), then says, "I'm so full." proceeds to pack it up, take it home, put it in her fridge, and eventually throws it out. Sick. These people have serious mental illnesses. My parents lived through the Great Depression. Live your life and enjoy it. Take nothing for granted.
This is a great subject and needs to be talked about more. I once heard Cher say in an interview that she has had every part of her body "worked on," and that's why she looks the way she does. There was also a health club commercial where she is speaking, and she says, "If it came in a bottle, everyone would have it." As always, critical thinking is important when it comes to health and beauty.
skincare is a sore subject in my family, mind you, we are hispanics LIVING in Central America. My aunts always critizice my acne prone skin (they've been talking BS since I was 11) blaming it on my eating habits, and now at my 28 I spend a lot of money on specialist that got me in to antibiotics (acutane) and BOOM i wasn't dirty or a swine, I was just to poor
“Gweneth Paltrow I hardly the person to lead any sort of backlash” you spoke my mind gurl! Love your video more for this!
The sad reality (as someone in her mid 30s) is that it's virtually impossible for any man to find you attractive unless you're incredibly thin and fit and even then you'll still get the "well she looks amazing for her age," and this is coming from the mouths of men in their late 40s and 50s.
I am 33 now and truly realising that as you age it is a lot harder to stay thin. I saw twiggy who did a recent interview promoting clothes for older woman and she was asked "What she thought about being called twiggy?" She said she didn't strive to be that skinny anymore because when she was modelling she was a teenage girl and that skinny body was only attained because she was a teenage girl, she said after about 22 years old she became less skinny and more curvy like most women but no one had noticed because she had stopped modelling by then. Yet twiggy was the model that started the skinny is beautiful trend but the truth was it was the body of a child.
Every time I think about mentioned celebrities, or any other celebrities, to be honest, I feel deceived. Why can't they be just straightforward about what they REALLY do to be in such shape or to have such a look. For example, they get a plastic surgery and say about it honestly, not covering it up by lies such as: "Well, I lost weight", or "Shape of my nose changed overnight" 😅 I mean, constantly selling us some food supplements/cosmetic products definitely adds up to their wealth but feeding us with their lies... I'm not buying it anymore.
And what makes me really sad: it's happening all over the world. I'm from Russia and celebs here are doing the same thing. Never telling the truth. Never. Which makes people feel incredibly insecure about their bodies.
100%, like the Kylie Jenner lip line. Went from thin small lips to huge plump lips overnight due to her li liner. She looks like she was stung by a bee on some pictures 🙄
@@Lara-tm5nz Kylie is such a great example! Not only her lips, but her entire body has changed overnight. She says that her butt is a result of hard work in the gym (same for her older sisters) but come on! It looks so unnatural. I mean, they think we are stupid peasants who are not educated enough to see her through.
@@JTCanadian Kylie changed her entire ethnicity from average white girl to a POC Bratz Doll Avatar 🙄🙄 she got her butt through hard training? 😅
@@Lara-tm5nz about the butt- I've read it somewhere online and was like "What? Are you kidding?"😅 They used to like posting pictures from the gyms, but their butts are definitely a product of a surgeon.
@@JTCanadian I have seen an analysis from a surgeon somewhere here on YT who analyzed the Kardashian glow up and he stated that bodies naturally don't change like that even with diets and workouts
The funny thing is people don't even have "skincare regimens". They just like to mindlessly purchase and collect products before eventually throwing them out 95 percent unused.
I have skincare regiments 😅 but I don't have a lot of products. Just essential oils and antioxidants to keep my skin safe from pollutants and sun damage. I don't buy brands. I make my own using family recipes.
@@bleachedout805 well I meant most people
"The truth is only just a question of money." Deeply true.
So true on skin. I have rosacea too and what people don't get about the flare ups, is that they not only look bad - like really splotchy, red, acne - but that they actually HURT a whole heck of a lot, like your skin is burning. I tried lots of things for about two or three years before I went to the dermatologist. The first one was lovely and did help, but it was mostly topical stuff so it would work for a while and then flare up again, then I switched to a lovely doctor and he was like, you need antibiotics, long term. And probably will have to take them every spring / summer to prevent flare ups but it changed my life, I can haven't have a flare up in 2 years and it doesn't hurt. Going to an actual dermatologist is the best, much better than expensive over the counter stuff.
I find it ironic that Rupert Everett, one of the very few openly gay leading men in Hollywood's recent history, has foregone all of those procedures, and let himself age naturally. The industry actually mocked him a few years ago, for doing this. But, recently, it seems he has actually gotten more work for refusing all of these procedures. I would say that gay men suffer at least as much from the impossible standards and shaming that straight women do around their bodies, so the fact that he did this is amazing. You should interview him on your channel!
Oh jeez, the body shaming within the gay community is HEINOUS
I've always adored Rupert Everett. One more reason.
The one that annoys me the most is people taking adderall to stay thin. I have adhd and when i went on medication my doctor monitored my weight closely and made it very clear that if i lost any significant amount of weight she would take me off it. I was at a healthy weight and did not want to loose any, but i had to force myself to eat even when I wasn’t hungry so that I COULD STAY ON THIS MEDICATION THAT ALLOWS ME TO FUNCTION NORMALLY. Im not saying i should have just lost a ton of weight unhealthily but its annoying that people who actually need this medication have to jump through a bunch of hoops because people who don’t need it are abusing it.
Having severe acne as a teenager before the skin care boom was hell enough, I feel for all the kids struggling today. At 25, I still have moderate acne despite having tried everything, (genetics and hormones, baby!), but I'm fortunate enough to have emotionally matured enough to reach a level of acceptance about my complexion - I've accepted that there's only so much I can do to help my skin, and that it's okay if my skin isn't clear. If I was a teenager today, that would be another story.
I just have to say Chelsea I love the delivery and writing voice you use for these discussions. A lot of video essayists can take a peppy, over the top yell persona and your more understated, matter of fact style is a great foil to those. It's an assertive confidence with a little bit of shade and it works wonderfully. Thank you for the great content!
13:39, as a doctor, I find this concerning. Elective Caeserean delivery is one thing and it has its own medical indications, but choosing to do it prematurely is a completely different thing. I don't even understand how ethical it is to do so.
Heavyyyyyy topic. I think many people get influenced to get beauty products they straight up don’t need
Society: Shows and nudges women towards unhealthy habits of not eating to obtain an overly skinny body.
Also Society: "Why are woman so week and feeble?"
Such a great video. We don’t talk enough about men’s beauty standards, I never knew it was that problematic until I watched a video about celebrities using steroids. For years I believed that Christian Bale has transformed his body for different roles like it’s normal and easy. I never questioned how he was able to do it.
Ain’t anybody that skinny if they workout; people that workout actually have muscle and you see the difference btwn skinny & a healthy fit body…
Sure but wouldnt it be irresponsible to be like "yea i dont eat..ever"
Why do I feel attacked at the three pieces of pizza/not washing the makeup off at 3am when we’re 19 😂 Also such an interesting point about your appearance correlating to economic status.
One of the reasons I loved "Knives Out". All of the women looked their normal age: Jamie Curtis, Toni Collette, etc. As a 65 year old woman watching that film, I thought how refreshing it was to look at real women who also, btw, were anchoring a blockbuster!
Also re: weight...for the past year I've been working full-time and working on a Master's degree. I started to have low self esteem when I noticed myself gaining a bit of weight...until I realized how unrealistic it is to actually balance a full-time job, a graduate program, AND working out/eating healthy. One of 'em has got to go on the backburner for a while for the sake of my sanity.
“An army of domestic employees.” Bahhahaha. I was dying.