@@tegannottellingnot necessarily. I know its fiction, but Bojack Horseman is a great portrait of how a narcissist can feel nothing but regret for their actions, but use that regret as a weapon both against themselves and others so that they never have to change, but instead choose to live in those dark moments and repeat the same mistakes.
That's exactly how i feel too, I'm currently strugglingg with dealing with how people saw only my mistakes, and not the why i did it and how hard my situation was. i dont really know how to explain and show that im a good person who made bad decisions
I make some mistakes when I was younger, and I really regret doing it. Some people want to use that against me, and make me a bad guy. People are more than their wrong choices.
I'm dealing with the biggest regret in life. Losing someone i had a deep connection, trust and love because i couldn't change those behaviours during the relationship. Now i lost her and it's too late... But it was a lesson, that maybe if i didn't lose her i wouldn't learn, i would end up hurting her even more with my defensiveness. But i can't bare to be that person anymore. My focus now is being as empathetic, loving, and caring as i can be without crossing my boundaries. I'm truly committed with that. At some point it will pay off, and maybe if it doesn't, i'll be able to feel at peace with myself.
A guy who really loved me will be getting married next week to someone else because I lost him due to my emotionally independent behaviour (if not manipulative). I feel very terrible, like i will never find another like him . I'm just in tears regretting, that's what Brought me here. Have you been able to successfully recover from your regret?
@@HealedandWinning Exactly same thing happening to me rn. I self-sabotaged my relationship with someone that loved and cared for me. Now that I’m becoming more aware and working on myself I feel immense regret for my behaviour. He is living his best life now with his new wife. I wish I was in a better place at the time to reciprocate the love he showed me 😔
👏👏👏You’ve done what most people can’t do, admit where they went wrong and admit they aren’t perfect and commit to change for the better. I applaud you and wish you all the best 🙏🏻.
Its comforting to know that so many people are in the same boat. That we are not perfect and we made the best decision for ourselves at the time, but we can all learn and grow. We can't fix the mistakes but we can still become better people.
Same , just at that moment , at that time i just wanted something to take my mind of some things and an outlet for some . I am still very afraid that i could do it again . I don't think i will ever be able to get away from them or forgive myself completely cuz it was just .... But yeah i just wanna say that the only thing we can do is live with them , identify that we were not our conscious self at that time , and if we truly truly feel guilty and wrong about it , just accept it and keep walking ahead. Much power to all , you are doing great! ❤️
Dear person who is reading this, I wish you a life filled with love, joy, hope, and faith. And that’s something you can create. You have the power to feel any emotion you want right now while you read this. If you want your life to change remember that you have the power to do that by making internal shifts. Life is limitless as long as you believe it to be❤️
I definitely would change things I’ve done. Would not erase a lot of things that happened to me but I would erase my blind mistake that hurt another. I unintentionally hurt somebody, I wish I never did. But I did.
I'm a liar. I don't lie to intentionally hurt others, but I've been lying since I was a kid out of shame, cowardice.. & often to spare others' feelings. Now that I'm in my 40's & trying to untangle the mess I've made of my life I don't even know where to begin or if there's anything left worth saving. That's a sad thing to have to admit about yourself. I don't deserve another chance in life, but I'm hoping to get one & not waste it if I do.. Life is really short, my friends. I hope you all are able to respect yourselves & loved ones more than I have mine ❤❤
This my dear friend is the first step to a real change. True repentance that the lord Jesus Christ mentioned in the Bible... Have faith in yourself. One step at a time
I'd really like to know how you're doing now? How have you been dealing this? I feel I am the same, I lie because I feel people might see that I'm small weak and stupid person. I don't do it intentionally, it has just become a part where I exaggerate and also recognising this affects my self worth.
I'm currently in the depth of the low from a bad decision I made that resulted in me really selling myself short, and I was passed over for something i wanted as a result. I know now from this video that the reason why I'm so low is because it has actually triggered stuff from the past. Gonna feel this for as long as I need to, but will move on promptly (tomorrow) and learn from it. Thank you Mel ❤️
Thanks a lot. I made a huge mistake and basically punished myself by doing nothing but crying for 2 hours straight, I really needed this video. I've got 5 more days of school, so I'm just praying everything will be ok eventually :]
i have a terrible habbit of repeating the same mistakes.. its like my brain has no previous memory of things that i have done in the past which led me to where i am right now
I needed to hear this right now, Mel- thank you!!!! I often get triggered after years of working on myself then beat myself up for being triggered. I see that I don’t stay in the spirals or self pity like I use to and that is key. Grateful for the light you shine for us all ❤️🙏❤️
You can always say "Im sorry" to help other people to heal also. Those few words could be very important to the other person, no matter how small they would feel to us. Its not sign of weakness to apology, ever. It release you and another person. I dont think its enough to just think "everyone hurt everyone, hurt people hurt others (and sometimes people hurt others by pure selfishness)"... even if thats True, the understanding it alone is not enough. Its our actions after that matters the end the cycle and heal.
This may be two years old, but wow, this is a message I needed today. I did something last night that was not the best worded (also not the worst thing said/done in a moment of feeling anxious, trapped, triggered). My anxiety is sky high, and I've got it stuck in my this one moment makes me a terrible person. Thank you for the reminder sometimes being triggered can make us act without intention to be mean or hurt people, and that even the best people sometimes do shitty things or make crappy mistakes. Thank you for all you do to sipport and help people ❤
I feel like I’m going crazy I feel like a bad person because sometimes I let my ego be a bitch. But I feel so guilty for hurting other people, and ruining bad connections. But at those moments I was so stuck up in my emotions. I want to apologize to a lot of people but I have ruined it for good I think. I am trying to let go of past mistakes, but I’m debating if I am a good person.
I’m in the same exact boat as you. It seems like a never ending battle to forgive myself for past mistakes and the people and relationships I’ve harmed. Idk if I’m a good person or not either
@@beanzieahow is it now? I’ve apologized and apologized but it seems like I have to apologize for every little thing even things I had no control over. The more I apologize, the more I feel like I haven’t apologized enough or said everything even though I’ve said the most important things. The moment I apologize, my Brain tells me I have to apologize for something else. The cycle is killing
I can not forgive myself for past mistakes . I made bad choices when I was in my early 20s . Lost the only man I ever truly loved , and years later it still haunts me . I have said sorry to everyone I have ever hurt. It’s weird how saying sorry doesn’t feel enough. I know I am a good person, and have a good heart. I feel too deeply and that’s my biggest issue . I can’t turn it off . I want to not care the way I do. Thank you for this ❤
Iam the same I feel very deeply too. We are human and humans make mistakes. You know deep down you are a good person. Like what Mel said, we hurt people when we are not in a good place. I think most people will forgive you. I guess you just have to learn from yr mistake. It's good you said sorry it shows you care about other people and that you may have hurt them. That's all you can do. Try and let things go so you find peace. Be understanding to yourself xx
Hii..me too I don't wanna change anything in the past..it taught me something every time...i m just thankful to God for everything,every breathe, every minute that he has given me...😌😌☺️
This comment is in regards to the Mindset reset series and limiting beliefs. I have emotionally eaten for about 45 years. I have gone to 12 steps programs, read books, been on diets, etc. And still have the problem (like I will eat a whole box of cookies). I realized today that the limiting belief I came up with may be the answer to ending this behavior. My limiting belief is that I can't handle by overwhelming feelings by myself. So, I have gotten a box of cookies to numb or dull the pain. I may not have been able to handle the feelings in the past but I have lots of tools now. Thanks Mel!! 😊
Lately, I am so devastated, I lost money for online scam and I couldn’t forgive myself for that. I have anxiety disorder which made my condition worse. I feel hopeless and keep thinking about my mistake. Even though people around me are being so supportive, I still can’t get over it.
I have same feelings as you, I also lost my savings by money scam. It's my mistake so now I have to accept it, hope you can overcome this regret soon ❤❤❤
I didn't lose money over a scam, but I needed family to bail me out of near eviction, and been yelled at for my decisions, making me feel like I don't deserve anything "extra" and not do things that I enjoy or cost money to do....that I need to constantly work to find better employment, and being terrified of my financial future.
It wasn't by chance that I clicked in this video. You have now convinced me that it's okay to self publish my novel. I needed your ENTIRE message here.
Wow!! Thank you Ms. Mel for this message 😘 self-relationship is really the foundation of all relationships, so do good & be kind to yourself. #selflove #selfcare
Dear, we know this. This is what we call the cliche, I am sorry, but you must understand. People hear this every time. It does not help, what helps is help or guidance for HOW you do it. I undesrtand you mean well, bless you.
you can't self diagnose people based on an opinion they have.. lol... some people just realize we all live life once and we couldn't have done things over even if we wanted to.
@@joeykoo3779People on the internet are so annoying throwing around diagnoses and judging people based on their diagnoses. How are people going to get better with idiots like that?
You can admit you have a mistake and feel guilty and wish it didn’t happen, but you can still not want to take it away because of the lessons they learned from it. You also have to accept it happened or you can’t move on.
I made a dark humor joke to one of my “friends” they than added me to several group chats instantly turning on me instead of correcting me for my wrong doings. When I realized what I did was wrong I blocked them and started to think. But shorty after they added me to a group chat on messenger. They than added a android user so it would be impossible for me to leave. They were more in the wrong than me I feel. I still get texts from unknown numbers every few months shaming me. It’s been 3 years. I changed and I don’t do that anymore.
I'm glad you share your life with people it's helped me alot to realize how messed up my life was until I found you and started listening to your videos. High 5 Mel 🖐😁👍✝️❤❤🌷
There was a time in my life where I couldn’t stop myself from doing wrong things and taking wrong decision. These have lead to some regrets. There also was a time where I couldn’t stop just doing everything perfect. I have come to the realization that good and bad happen and we shouldn’t let ourself be defined by them.
I lost the love of my life. It’s been 40 years. I have good moments, but I will always have a devastatingly huge void in my life. I was just so confused and not ready to have a family. I ran from it. I will always regret that. I never stopped loving him.
I ran away from home at 16.lived on the streets for 2 years but I can’t stop feeling guilty for leaving my 5 siblings and my mom who was a very complicated woman.why can’t I let go of this awful guilt.I was the surrogate mother for most of my childhood.my father died when I was 8 years of ageand left us in a terrible state.my mother had a massive mental breakdown so I took over.but I had to leave to save my own sanity.my siblings are still angry with me and now when I visit I feel like an outsider.am I being weak because I can’t stop the anxiety and guilt I feel. I am now 63 years of age and I can’t let go. This is helpful but I cannot understand why i cannot let go.I also keep being angry at my beautiful partner who has done nothing but support me and has given me total love.
Good show. I appreciate that you bleeped out the offensive language. It really shows respect for your listening audience. Thank you. If you hadn't done that, I would have moved on without watching. I refuse to lower my energy with bad language no matter how good the content. As a person full of regret over stupid mistakes that unintentionally hurt others, I found this show helpful.
Thank you so much Terrie! I want to say this is one of if not the most helpful video I’ve listened to on TH-cam this year. Thanks for your ability to convey my feelings in a way that sounds so normal when intrusive obsessive thoughts over your past mistakes feel abnormal. You don’t hear people discuss this casually. Appreciate your exercise!
Hi Mel, can't thank you enough for this post. I am currently making stupid rash decisions that could impact my health. I'm usually drunk and careless when I behave this way. I'm aware that I need to stop drinking (although I only drink every other weekend). I constantly replay the negative behavior in my mind and feel shame and rregret. I recognise that I need to move forward but seem stuck in this negative cycle of behavior. .😧😩
If you’re watching this and living with the guilt of being a terrible person. Just remember. A terrible person wouldn’t even see fault in themselves. They wouldn’t even be putting the work in to be better now. They wouldn’t even be watching this video. It’s never too late. Like other people have put in the comments, only narcissists have no regrets. Every day is a choice and today we can be better people for the new people in our lives.
My biggest regret of all time would be being a bad sibling to my older brother everything he did I destroyed it I put him in harm's Way because of me and sometimes it just comes back Hurts me so much
This made me cry because I used to believe it and it worked. If you just delude yourself that life will work out it’s easier to go day by day, but then when it doesn’t work out, over and over and over and you just feel awful all day every day the trick doesn’t work anymore. Anyone know what to do when you’re not stressing over the past or the future but life just stinks every day?
She is on point…. Why so many of us follow her teachings is because She IS one of US out in this world…. Who created this teaching working her ass off!!!!
@Bad Witch Diaries Excuse me? That I misunderstood??? Wow, you are truly lacking terribly on your reading comprehension skills, aren’t you? Either that, or you must be hallucinating, I mean, otherwise, what part of me simply saying that the video helped me in a way I didn’t expect sounds like I misunderstood its contents? Then as if that’s not intrusive enough, you barf a whole sermon at me as if I’m asking for your opinion or advice? Why do you do that? Do you realize how void of sense that makes you look when you go around wanting to tell people that they didn’t get the message simply because they say the message helped them differently than what they expected? And just so you know, let me inform you, when you go around giving people unsolicited advice, like you just did, it only says three things about you: #1) you are so centered on what you want to say that you don’t have enough bandwidth to hear and process what others say, #2) you are failing so miserably at putting your own advice into practice that in order to not feel like a fraud, you make yourself feel better by giving to people that advice you can’t put into action yourself, and #3) you must be unconsciously aware that your advice, deep inside, is worthless, otherwise, if you truly considered your advice to be valuable, you wouldn’t be going around giving it away for free; there’s nothing more pathetic than cheap wisdom, especially when it’s so rid with projection…
You're awesome Mel. I love you! Thank you for your authenticity 🙏❤️🙏 I went through something yesterday at work that triggered me big time. After taking time to realize what I did & how I felt...I apologized to the person. Wake up call. Once again 🙏
Your AWESOME Mel Im with you 1000% I got your back I love you your an inspiration and a piviotal person in my life thank you for all you do for people 👍😂👍🖑🖑🖑🖑
I have made a huge mistake that has had massive consequences on my physical health. I cancelled some treatment and now my condition has worsened. I had multiple reasons for doing it, and I was completely overwhelmed and stressed from being so caught up in them. I have rebooked the treatment but I can't stop bashing myself for cancelling the first time because I believe by delaying the treatment I've made my health worse. I don't know if I'll ever forgive myself :(
I really enjoy what Mel shares. I have ordered some of her books; and was a bit disappointed that she has some that are only audiobooks. Can someone reach out to her and let her know that there are many individuals whom are tactile and they need the feel of a book in their hands and to turn the pages for learning and retention? Offering books on only one platform - either just in print or just in audio - can be a barrier to others.
I can't ever get over this. I was in a bad relationship and I had no choice but to end it after 8 years. But what hurts me and haunts me the most even after almost 10 years is that I had to leave my children behind as I didn't graduate highschool at 25, I didn't have support from anyone, I had no jobs, no money, even no paperworks, ID, my own birth certificate even,... And I was forced to leave them with their father's family... And I'm forever in pain for that, I couldn't get out of regrets, I wish I could've done better. Whenever I see someone could go against the odds to keep their children next to them, I can't stop blaming myself. The outcome of my kids are bad because they're growing up in a very bad family, no disciplines, no moralities, no right senses of human beings,...make me blame myself even more. I'm so ashamed of being a mother. I just want to punish myself over and over again. I drag myself everyday with no life in my soul, no happiness in my heart. The day I left them, I was lond dead...
I unintentionally hurt the person i love the most. The reason i was talking to the other guy (his close friend)but not with the purpose of cheating ..i am not a bad girl .i dont know why i did so..how could i do such stupid thing. And now He broke up with me. Niw its third time he broke up with me with a solid reason..but before thst he just broke up without any reason. I accepted my mistake. My friends are saying that they know what i did was wrong...but that guy whom i lost because of my mistake was also not priorities you..he was not in love with you..he was only in love through the words not by the efforts..i don't kniw what just happened.. he insulted me ..he knows i am suffering alot after breakup my mental health is destroyed and this is third time..i feel like i am not able to enjoy my life anymore...i feel lost..
The only regret i am unable to get rid of is that i inflicted some innocent people with the unhealed wounds i was carrying since childhood. I was unaware back then but i made this resolution to not repet any of them in future and no matter how much healing work i have to undergo i will never inflict anyone anymore.
Yep I have regrets from bad decisions that I made because I wasn't in a good place at the time. But I know im a good person.
Yes you are a good person. Do you recognise that you made a mistake. And you have regrets about that. Only a narcissist has no regrets
No, you’re not a good person. You’re just a person.
@@tegannottellingnot necessarily. I know its fiction, but Bojack Horseman is a great portrait of how a narcissist can feel nothing but regret for their actions, but use that regret as a weapon both against themselves and others so that they never have to change, but instead choose to live in those dark moments and repeat the same mistakes.
I feel the same way. I have many regrets about stuff I did and I know I’m a good person but I made it through it all.
That's exactly how i feel too, I'm currently strugglingg with dealing with how people saw only my mistakes, and not the why i did it and how hard my situation was. i dont really know how to explain and show that im a good person who made bad decisions
I make some mistakes when I was younger, and I really regret doing it. Some people want to use that against me, and make me a bad guy. People are more than their wrong choices.
Amen friend. This is me. Life is about second chances, and as long as you learned and have grown from your mistakes, there is true wisdom within it.
@@marshallstrander3922 Yes, so true.🌹
Jesus dropped the charges!
i also dont know how to deal with people percieving me as a bad person when i truly want to change
Yesss I agree
Omg I'd change SO MUCH if I could go back. Regrets are not unnatural or bad. Just don't let them dominate you.
If you don't let your past go, it won't let you live 🤍
It’s so hard.
You should let go of your past but at the same time it is hard to let go
I'm dealing with the biggest regret in life. Losing someone i had a deep connection, trust and love because i couldn't change those behaviours during the relationship. Now i lost her and it's too late...
But it was a lesson, that maybe if i didn't lose her i wouldn't learn, i would end up hurting her even more with my defensiveness.
But i can't bare to be that person anymore.
My focus now is being as empathetic, loving, and caring as i can be without crossing my boundaries.
I'm truly committed with that. At some point it will pay off, and maybe if it doesn't, i'll be able to feel at peace with myself.
A guy who really loved me will be getting married next week to someone else because I lost him due to my emotionally independent behaviour (if not manipulative). I feel very terrible, like i will never find another like him . I'm just in tears regretting, that's what Brought me here. Have you been able to successfully recover from your regret?
Im in the exact same situation and its been a painful road to reconciling my mistakes with myself. I miss her.
@@HealedandWinning Exactly same thing happening to me rn. I self-sabotaged my relationship with someone that loved and cared for me. Now that I’m becoming more aware and working on myself I feel immense regret for my behaviour. He is living his best life now with his new wife. I wish I was in a better place at the time to reciprocate the love he showed me 😔
👏👏👏You’ve done what most people can’t do, admit where they went wrong and admit they aren’t perfect and commit to change for the better. I applaud you and wish you all the best 🙏🏻.
Its comforting to know that so many people are in the same boat. That we are not perfect and we made the best decision for ourselves at the time, but we can all learn and grow. We can't fix the mistakes but we can still become better people.
The worst thing for me is I knew exactly what I was doing idk why I did it I know I’ll never do it again though
same here
same here
Same , just at that moment , at that time i just wanted something to take my mind of some things and an outlet for some . I am still very afraid that i could do it again . I don't think i will ever be able to get away from them or forgive myself completely cuz it was just .... But yeah i just wanna say that the only thing we can do is live with them , identify that we were not our conscious self at that time , and if we truly truly feel guilty and wrong about it , just accept it and keep walking ahead.
Much power to all , you are doing great! ❤️
Yup
yup
Dear person who is reading this, I wish you a life filled with love, joy, hope, and faith. And that’s something you can create. You have the power to feel any emotion you want right now while you read this. If you want your life to change remember that you have the power to do that by making internal shifts. Life is limitless as long as you believe it to be❤️
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Wow thx
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Thank you!❤
I needed this. Thank you.
*"Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts."*
-- Winston S. Churchill
Beautiful quote ❤
I love this thank you❤
I definitely would change things I’ve done. Would not erase a lot of things that happened to me but I would erase my blind mistake that hurt another. I unintentionally hurt somebody, I wish I never did. But I did.
I'm a liar. I don't lie to intentionally hurt others, but I've been lying since I was a kid out of shame, cowardice.. & often to spare others' feelings. Now that I'm in my 40's & trying to untangle the mess I've made of my life I don't even know where to begin or if there's anything left worth saving. That's a sad thing to have to admit about yourself. I don't deserve another chance in life, but I'm hoping to get one & not waste it if I do..
Life is really short, my friends. I hope you all are able to respect yourselves & loved ones more than I have mine ❤❤
This my dear friend is the first step to a real change. True repentance that the lord Jesus Christ mentioned in the Bible... Have faith in yourself. One step at a time
Beautiful ❤
me too. im so glad im not alone
@@samstheman1874 ❤️
I'd really like to know how you're doing now? How have you been dealing this? I feel I am the same, I lie because I feel people might see that I'm small weak and stupid person. I don't do it intentionally, it has just become a part where I exaggerate and also recognising this affects my self worth.
I'm currently in the depth of the low from a bad decision I made that resulted in me really selling myself short, and I was passed over for something i wanted as a result. I know now from this video that the reason why I'm so low is because it has actually triggered stuff from the past. Gonna feel this for as long as I need to, but will move on promptly (tomorrow) and learn from it. Thank you Mel ❤️
I have been told that we do bad things to realise that we shouldn't do them, and then we learn from it, but I still feel bad about it lately.
I think you’re right. I also think it helps us to have compassion on others when they make mistakes, when we realize that we have also made mistakes.
Me too
Thanks a lot. I made a huge mistake and basically punished myself by doing nothing but crying for 2 hours straight, I really needed this video. I've got 5 more days of school, so I'm just praying everything will be ok eventually :]
Everything WILL be okay (:
i have a terrible habbit of repeating the same mistakes.. its like my brain has no previous memory of things that i have done in the past which led me to where i am right now
I needed to hear this right now, Mel- thank you!!!! I often get triggered after years of working on myself then beat myself up for being triggered. I see that I don’t stay in the spirals or self pity like I use to and that is key. Grateful for the light you shine for us all ❤️🙏❤️
You can always say "Im sorry" to help other people to heal also. Those few words could be very important to the other person, no matter how small they would feel to us. Its not sign of weakness to apology, ever.
It release you and another person.
I dont think its enough to just think "everyone hurt everyone, hurt people hurt others (and sometimes people hurt others by pure selfishness)"... even if thats True, the understanding it alone is not enough.
Its our actions after that matters the end the cycle and heal.
This may be two years old, but wow, this is a message I needed today. I did something last night that was not the best worded (also not the worst thing said/done in a moment of feeling anxious, trapped, triggered). My anxiety is sky high, and I've got it stuck in my this one moment makes me a terrible person. Thank you for the reminder sometimes being triggered can make us act without intention to be mean or hurt people, and that even the best people sometimes do shitty things or make crappy mistakes. Thank you for all you do to sipport and help people ❤
I feel like I’m going crazy I feel like a bad person because sometimes I let my ego be a bitch. But I feel so guilty for hurting other people, and ruining bad connections. But at those moments I was so stuck up in my emotions. I want to apologize to a lot of people but I have ruined it for good I think. I am trying to let go of past mistakes, but I’m debating if I am a good person.
I’m in the same exact boat as you. It seems like a never ending battle to forgive myself for past mistakes and the people and relationships I’ve harmed. Idk if I’m a good person or not either
In the same boat except I was lucky enough to get at least 2 people’s forgiveness. But I still haven’t forgiven myself.
@@beanzieahow is it now? I’ve apologized and apologized but it seems like I have to apologize for every little thing even things I had no control over. The more I apologize, the more I feel like I haven’t apologized enough or said everything even though I’ve said the most important things. The moment I apologize, my Brain tells me I have to apologize for something else. The cycle is killing
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Well, I guess I’ll start by telling you what happend. If its too long, just skip to the green heart I put, and read the rest
🙌🏽 loved having you on the podcast Mel, so many amazing insights from you
I can not forgive myself for past mistakes . I made bad choices when I was in my early 20s . Lost the only man I ever truly loved , and years later it still haunts me . I have said sorry to everyone I have ever hurt. It’s weird how saying sorry doesn’t feel enough. I know I am a good person, and have a good heart. I feel too deeply and that’s my biggest issue . I can’t turn it off . I want to not care the way I do. Thank you for this ❤
Iam the same I feel very deeply too. We are human and humans make mistakes. You know deep down you are a good person. Like what Mel said, we hurt people when we are not in a good place. I think most people will forgive you. I guess you just have to learn from yr mistake. It's good you said sorry it shows you care about other people and that you may have hurt them. That's all you can do. Try and let things go so you find peace. Be understanding to yourself xx
Really needed to hear this. Trying not to ruminate on a mistake I made yesterday.
Trying to come to peace with myself for past mistakes... feels like i keep making them though. I just want to be at peace and happy.
You have no idea how much this was needed this morning. No idea.
Forgiveness means giving up hope of a better past .
better past lost doesn't mean you won't have a better future, our present moment defines our future.
Hii..me too I don't wanna change anything in the past..it taught me something every time...i m just thankful to God for everything,every breathe, every minute that he has given me...😌😌☺️
This comment is in regards to the Mindset reset series and limiting beliefs. I have emotionally eaten for about 45 years. I have gone to 12 steps programs, read books, been on diets, etc. And still have the problem (like I will eat a whole box of cookies). I realized today that the limiting belief I came up with may be the answer to ending this behavior. My limiting belief is that I can't handle by overwhelming feelings by myself. So, I have gotten a box of cookies to numb or dull the pain. I may not have been able to handle the feelings in the past but I have lots of tools now. Thanks Mel!! 😊
Me to
Lately, I am so devastated, I lost money for online scam and I couldn’t forgive myself for that. I have anxiety disorder which made my condition worse. I feel hopeless and keep thinking about my mistake. Even though people around me are being so supportive, I still can’t get over it.
I have same feelings as you, I also lost my savings by money scam. It's my mistake so now I have to accept it, hope you can overcome this regret soon ❤❤❤
I didn't lose money over a scam, but I needed family to bail me out of near eviction, and been yelled at for my decisions, making me feel like I don't deserve anything "extra" and not do things that I enjoy or cost money to do....that I need to constantly work to find better employment, and being terrified of my financial future.
I was looking for something like this 3 months and I can't let it go 😢
thank you for saying, " the person who is struggling is the one you are trying to reach" , thank you.
It wasn't by chance that I clicked in this video. You have now convinced me that it's okay to self publish my novel. I needed your ENTIRE message here.
I'm so thankful Mel Robbins is here in my lifetime.
this was refreshing to watch! Sending peace, love and healing to ALL💙
Wow!! Thank you Ms. Mel for this message 😘 self-relationship is really the foundation of all relationships, so do good & be kind to yourself. #selflove #selfcare
You know sometimes we just need to let go of the past especially the most painful moments
Dear, we know this. This is what we call the cliche, I am sorry, but you must understand. People hear this every time. It does not help, what helps is help or guidance for HOW you do it. I undesrtand you mean well, bless you.
It’s hard especially if it’s detrimental to your future
How???😢
Only a narcissist says they have no regrets in life. People who admit that they made mistakes have regrets.
you can't self diagnose people based on an opinion they have.. lol... some people just realize we all live life once and we couldn't have done things over even if we wanted to.
@@joeykoo3779People on the internet are so annoying throwing around diagnoses and judging people based on their diagnoses. How are people going to get better with idiots like that?
You can admit you have a mistake and feel guilty and wish it didn’t happen, but you can still not want to take it away because of the lessons they learned from it. You also have to accept it happened or you can’t move on.
I have regret. It is about my career. I burn bridge for a work that was not what I expected. :( Im in a verg tight situation now. Im hurting :(
i wish i never did that
Truth after truth! Your message is deeply refreshing and appreciated. You are the real deal and so darn smart! I couldn’t agree more.
Mel, you can always put things into perspective where I can understand and relate to. You’re an amazing being.
Amen 🙏🏿
I made a dark humor joke to one of my “friends” they than added me to several group chats instantly turning on me instead of correcting me for my wrong doings. When I realized what I did was wrong I blocked them and started to think. But shorty after they added me to a group chat on messenger. They than added a android user so it would be impossible for me to leave. They were more in the wrong than me I feel. I still get texts from unknown numbers every few months shaming me. It’s been 3 years. I changed and I don’t do that anymore.
Youre the best. While listening to you I open up my mind and I realize a lot of things.
I'm glad you share your life with people it's helped me alot to realize how messed up my life was until I found you and started listening to your videos. High 5 Mel
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There was a time in my life where I couldn’t stop myself from doing wrong things and taking wrong decision. These have lead to some regrets.
There also was a time where I couldn’t stop just doing everything perfect.
I have come to the realization that good and bad happen and we shouldn’t let ourself be defined by them.
I love Mel. I wonder if she has any idea how many people's lives she is changing? Thank you Mel.
I lost the love of my life. It’s been 40 years. I have good moments, but I will always have a devastatingly huge void in my life. I was just so confused and not ready to have a family. I ran from it. I will always regret that. I never stopped loving him.
Me too-30 years ago … 🥺
I ran away from home at 16.lived on the streets for 2 years but I can’t stop feeling guilty for leaving my 5 siblings and my mom who was a very complicated woman.why can’t I let go of this awful guilt.I was the surrogate mother for most of my childhood.my father died when I was 8 years of ageand left us in a terrible state.my mother had a massive mental breakdown so I took over.but I had to leave to save my own sanity.my siblings are still angry with me and now when I visit I feel like an outsider.am I being weak because I can’t stop the anxiety and guilt I feel.
I am now 63 years of age and I can’t let go.
This is helpful but I cannot understand why i cannot let go.I also keep being angry at my beautiful partner who has done nothing but support me and has given me total love.
Good show. I appreciate that you bleeped out the offensive language. It really shows respect for your listening audience. Thank you. If you hadn't done that, I would have moved on without watching. I refuse to lower my energy with bad language no matter how good the content. As a person full of regret over stupid mistakes that unintentionally hurt others, I found this show helpful.
Thank you for this. I needed this after heartbreaking break up.
Thank you so much Terrie! I want to say this is one of if not the most helpful video I’ve listened to on TH-cam this year. Thanks for your ability to convey my feelings in a way that sounds so normal when intrusive obsessive thoughts over your past mistakes feel abnormal. You don’t hear people discuss this casually. Appreciate your exercise!
That’s awesome. The quicker you get out of your head the better.
Hi Mel, can't thank you enough for this post. I am currently making stupid rash decisions that could impact my health. I'm usually drunk and careless when I behave this way. I'm aware that I need to stop drinking (although I only drink every other weekend). I constantly replay the negative behavior in my mind and feel shame and rregret. I recognise that I need to move forward but seem stuck in this negative cycle of behavior. .😧😩
If you’re watching this and living with the guilt of being a terrible person. Just remember. A terrible person wouldn’t even see fault in themselves. They wouldn’t even be putting the work in to be better now. They wouldn’t even be watching this video. It’s never too late. Like other people have put in the comments, only narcissists have no regrets. Every day is a choice and today we can be better people for the new people in our lives.
Very, very, few people are HONEST enough to really say what the real regrets are.
Agree. It’s too painful
the trigger story....i can relate to that too...Mel I agree, holding it in is what causes the anxiety
I’ve done a bad thing recently and hurt someone I love deeply in the process. I am trying very hard to fix everything and I’m so lost.
I have so many regrets! All due to trauma from childhood. I can completely identify with this
My biggest regret of all time would be being a bad sibling to my older brother everything he did I destroyed it I put him in harm's Way because of me and sometimes it just comes back Hurts me so much
This lady is awesome!!! I ❤ Mel
I love how honest Mel is!😁
She’s very brave.
Let go of past mistakes , I'm already set things I want to do and wat I want to help move me forward from all the past trashtakes
Mel, you are wonderful! You have helped me countless times.❤
Totally love Mel. Yes absolutely relatable!!!! "shoulder to shoulder with everybody"
Fantastic! Bravo self published audiobook, as Prince was saying making your own publishing owning your art
This made me cry because I used to believe it and it worked. If you just delude yourself that life will work out it’s easier to go day by day, but then when it doesn’t work out, over and over and over and you just feel awful all day every day the trick doesn’t work anymore. Anyone know what to do when you’re not stressing over the past or the future but life just stinks every day?
Perfect timing. Needed this today. 🙏🏼
She is on point…. Why so many of us follow her teachings is because She IS one of US out in this world…. Who created this teaching working her ass off!!!!
Beautifully written ❤
I agree maybe mistakes that don't have catastrophic impact on things/people but it's the really big mistakes that I don't feel this applies to.
Great, wise and honest truthfull words. Thank you 🙏
I’m not sure that the advice really went with the video’s title, but it was still helpful in other issues I wasn’t expecting to be helped❤️
@Bad Witch Diaries Excuse me? That I misunderstood??? Wow, you are truly lacking terribly on your reading comprehension skills, aren’t you? Either that, or you must be hallucinating, I mean, otherwise, what part of me simply saying that the video helped me in a way I didn’t expect sounds like I misunderstood its contents? Then as if that’s not intrusive enough, you barf a whole sermon at me as if I’m asking for your opinion or advice? Why do you do that? Do you realize how void of sense that makes you look when you go around wanting to tell people that they didn’t get the message simply because they say the message helped them differently than what they expected? And just so you know, let me inform you, when you go around giving people unsolicited advice, like you just did, it only says three things about you: #1) you are so centered on what you want to say that you don’t have enough bandwidth to hear and process what others say, #2) you are failing so miserably at putting your own advice into practice that in order to not feel like a fraud, you make yourself feel better by giving to people that advice you can’t put into action yourself, and #3) you must be unconsciously aware that your advice, deep inside, is worthless, otherwise, if you truly considered your advice to be valuable, you wouldn’t be going around giving it away for free; there’s nothing more pathetic than cheap wisdom, especially when it’s so rid with projection…
Love from India 🇮🇳
💖💖💖Thank you Mel!🌻🌻🌻
You're awesome Mel. I love you!
Thank you for your authenticity 🙏❤️🙏 I went through something yesterday at work that triggered me big time. After taking time to realize what I did & how I felt...I apologized to the person. Wake up call. Once again 🙏
Your AWESOME Mel Im with you 1000% I got your back I love you your an inspiration and a piviotal person in my life thank you for all you do for people
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I have made a huge mistake that has had massive consequences on my physical health. I cancelled some treatment and now my condition has worsened. I had multiple reasons for doing it, and I was completely overwhelmed and stressed from being so caught up in them. I have rebooked the treatment but I can't stop bashing myself for cancelling the first time because I believe by delaying the treatment I've made my health worse. I don't know if I'll ever forgive myself :(
I really enjoy what Mel shares. I have ordered some of her books; and was a bit disappointed that she has some that are only audiobooks. Can someone reach out to her and let her know that there are many individuals whom are tactile and they need the feel of a book in their hands and to turn the pages for learning and retention? Offering books on only one platform - either just in print or just in audio - can be a barrier to others.
Mel I wish I could press that thumbs up a bazillion times❤ Thank you BIG!!
Thank you, Mel, needed to hear this today!
Wow❤. Thank you Both! I needed this today
Big fan! Mel is great! .. and the interviewer is great too and most importantly quite and allows the conversation to breath. Well done 👍🏼
I can't ever get over this. I was in a bad relationship and I had no choice but to end it after 8 years. But what hurts me and haunts me the most even after almost 10 years is that I had to leave my children behind as I didn't graduate highschool at 25, I didn't have support from anyone, I had no jobs, no money, even no paperworks, ID, my own birth certificate even,... And I was forced to leave them with their father's family... And I'm forever in pain for that, I couldn't get out of regrets, I wish I could've done better. Whenever I see someone could go against the odds to keep their children next to them, I can't stop blaming myself. The outcome of my kids are bad because they're growing up in a very bad family, no disciplines, no moralities, no right senses of human beings,...make me blame myself even more. I'm so ashamed of being a mother. I just want to punish myself over and over again. I drag myself everyday with no life in my soul, no happiness in my heart. The day I left them, I was lond dead...
💓 Thank you so much for the day for this message, I really needed to hear it. 😭
Mel, you are my hero ❤️
I unintentionally hurt the person i love the most. The reason i was talking to the other guy (his close friend)but not with the purpose of cheating ..i am not a bad girl .i dont know why i did so..how could i do such stupid thing. And now He broke up with me. Niw its third time he broke up with me with a solid reason..but before thst he just broke up without any reason. I accepted my mistake. My friends are saying that they know what i did was wrong...but that guy whom i lost because of my mistake was also not priorities you..he was not in love with you..he was only in love through the words not by the efforts..i don't kniw what just happened.. he insulted me ..he knows i am suffering alot after breakup my mental health is destroyed and this is third time..i feel like i am not able to enjoy my life anymore...i feel lost..
I really am glad I found your channel. I definitely needed to hear this. Thank You.💕
I love Mel! Actually, love you both! Thank you for another great video!!!
Thank you for sharing, Mel. You are a wonderful person!
1:42 thank you for this
Thanks for sharing from UK
I just love Mel, you’re so authentic!
I love this woman
Well said Mel. I have regrets in my life too. We have so much in common. Love you. Hang in there your awesome.
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Yeah, I would go back for sure.
I needed this Mel .
Thank you 🙏🏻
This is perfect msge for me...i love to listen this godbless
The only regret i am unable to get rid of is that i inflicted some innocent people with the unhealed wounds i was carrying since childhood. I was unaware back then but i made this resolution to not repet any of them in future and no matter how much healing work i have to undergo i will never inflict anyone anymore.
i like you sista! I'm Italian but I take for myself the habit of saying "High five!" everytime I'm doing something absolutely normal but good. Thanks
I 100% would do anything I could to fix my mistake. It was taking antidepressants, a spiral from a great life to total life ruiny
mannnn i really needed this right now. youre the best mel!
I love you Mel you are my mentor 💓
i like her honesty
PTL Mel…thank you for sharing about self publishing; thank you so very much 💯🌹!
Beautiful reminder 💚love from a new youtuber