Using dating apps as a Christian is so frustrating.. I also have my preferences on the app I use set to Christians only and went on dates with a few guys from it. It only resulted in me getting ghosted when the topic of sex eventually came up and I expressed thats not something I was comfortable doing, especially since I barely knew this person. Aside from that, dating apps do seemed a bit 'forced' and nothing compares to meeting someone in a natural setting and letting a relationship progress from there. Best of luck to you and thanks for making this video it was really insightful!
Online dating means less lust, less male overbearing pride, less men having to bother women who either don't want a man or who already have one. The men on Christian dating apps are for the most part gentlemen looking for a good Christian woman. Good Christian spouses don't grow on trees. If you find one don't reject him, snatch him up quick
I met my husband on Tinder & boy did I not see it coming lol but I’m really glad I gave tinder a chance. On the other hand I had a terrible experience on Christian mingle, so that being said I really think in all dating, app or not to stay true to yourself and listen to your gut & to keep praying to God he is guiding you to your future spouse.
Is true we to pray for everything even if don't know how we gonna meet the one.because we all caring different grace and gift.your spiritual gift in the Lord can save someone.
I wanted to bring some different perspective as a married guy. I usually watch for the other faith content that you put out, but I find it beneficial to get involved with relationship conversations, as our culture has a very messed up way of handling them. With that said, you definitely have a much more mature/healthy perspective then most people, which sets you up for a more healthy future. The fact that you’re patient and can bear not dating like most people is great. The fact that you’re growing with God and now you’re relationship with Him is stronger than with anyone else, you’re at the point you should be at. Not saying you’re at the end goal but you’re in a good place and heading in a good direction, which will give you a clearer mind and discernment for thinking wisely when you do actually find someone! So that’s my encouragement. My advise to ANYONE is to say: no one needs to date to find someone to love. First off God loved us first. We won’t understand love without a good relationship with Him. Second we all have friends and family who we have relationships with who love us and can satisfy our need for a companion (someone there, not in a romantic way). In fact the best way to have a healthy relationship with anyone is to care about them before yourself and to work together with the person cause you care. If you can’t do that, you don’t have love and if you don’t get that from a person you want a romantic relationship with, you might be in for physical and material, mental and emotional pleasure but it will be torture in the mid to long term. The best advice for relationships/finding a future spouse is to be completely (as much as you could possibly be) that the person loves God, loves others, loves you, is humble and you have at least faith and one other thing in common. Cause you once you join with the person you’re stuck with them for life. Better or worse. You’re job becomes loving them, even if you end up with a Hosea sort of situation. I can relate a little with him since for a short time our marriage was starting to go sour. But I kept strong faith, challenged, questioned, straightened out my wife’s thinking and encouraged her and things are back on a great track! Hope the best for your future(s) in regards to relationships!
Women with standards are good, but women who have impossible standards are just plain stuck-up snotrags. Ladies, by all means keep your principles, but don't be a snotrag about it. There are many, many good Christian men out there if you just give them half a chance.
LOVE this video! I have been using dating apps for a year now on and off and I absolutely agree with all the points you made. I stopped because I really want to focus on my growth as a Christian and getting where I want to be fitness and health wise. I want to be more at peace with my self and have a higher level of confidence before I even think about dating someone. I also stopped because as you said I really felt like I was forcing myself out of a season that God put me in. It got to a point where I craved a relationship more than I craved God. And because of that I compromised on some of my deal breakers, such as waiting until marriage. I really appreciate you making this video. It could definitely be something for me to look back on when i’m struggling with my singlenss and considering taking things into my own hands rather than trusting God to bring me someone. I really wish I had a friend like you. Your advice and wisdom is so helpful. And on a side note, I love that you eat plant-based!
i am 100% where you are right now with not feeling inspired to leave my time of singleness. i really feel God is calling me to singleness right now. but i truly feel when you meet him that desire will change. but for now we wait :):)
Kian Tilton, I will advise you that most men on dating apps are looking to trap women into getting them in bed. Its really difficult to find a man who really wants to marry and have kids on a dating app
Now what these men show interest on dating apps and what is their real intentions may not always be true. One has to be careful beforehand than crying later. The same applies to women on dating apps
@@Kian_Wolfgang I'm not trying to be rude and props for being strong in your beliefs, but it is not accurate that a majority on these apps are "waiting for marriage." If you stated that those are the kind of guys you're looking for in your profile, this "majority" is probably lying to you.
@@joannk.2557 To clarify, I didn't say majority of the men on apps were waiting for marriage, I said majority of the ones i came across were. Which were the 4-5 men i had conversations with. And I am very aware to guard my heart and have discernment with everyone. I don't think it is healthy to constantly focus on the negatives and point out reasons to be discouraged or skeptical. I have faith that there are plenty of trustworthy amazing men out there and I'm tired of the world trying to steal that hope.
Dating apps can be so crazy and uncomfortable. However, I have heard of several "wins" from it. My daughter found her husband with one of those apps. So, I know it can work! You really have to know what you're looking for and never settle! Pray! Pray! Pray! and allow God to send the right person and then pray that you will discern it when it happens.
Love this! I live in NYC and everyone has always said dating apps are the way to go and I am someone who wants to meet someone organically and I totally relate to you in the sense that I believe I’m also comfortable in my season of singleness which I never thought would happen either😅 Also I just started the “Relationship Goals” Series from Transformation church, 100% recommend! It’s an older series but everyone has said great things I definitely think you should check it out if you haven’t I’m only on episode 4- but it is so good!
Gidelvia yeah I totally agree with u! I‘m also more into „real life“ dating. Yet, sometimes Tinder can bring some wonders, wont even lie I was dating for 8 months lol. Anyways, I live in Zurich &‘ trust me: everyone looks the same. The maturity Level is just not there. Sometimes its nice to have someone to talk to, besides the city u live.
That’s crazy he was pushing that all on you, even as a Christian! 😱 Big red flag for sure. It definitely sounds like God’s timing is not now for you and you realize that. I’ve tried to step out of certain seasons time and time again and I feel like I hit a “wall” so to speak and can tell that God is not in it. I can sense that’s what dating for you is like currently. When it’s time it will be perfect and effortless and you’ll WANT to invest the time! 💕
Idk why most of us men have these low standards. If the lady doesn’t want sex and you do, then just go find a lady who wants it. No need to spend 2 hours on the phone trying to convince a person of anything, specially sex. It’s just a waste of time.
@@delgadoabdel Uh, I don’t know about you, but majority of people here are Christian and don’t believe in just sleeping around. We want something intentional. I don’t see how it would be considered a high standard to like a woman who is easy to sleep with.
Hey girl! I love your views on this subject! As a Christian girl, it can be really hard to be strong in a world full of sin. Thank you for making this video!! So refreshing (:
At the end I just had a vision of a tall angel that had huge thick wings. He was so bright. And he told me, There's a greater plan for you. Trust in the Lord, dont compromise stay strong.
I know you’re married now, CONNNNGRAAATS, doll! ✨I just wanted to say I appreciate this video so much. As a Christian woman, watching someone else going through the dating app pool makes me feel not so alone 😂😂.
Thanks for sharing this, Kian! I spoke with a friend just last Sunday and she gushed about how she met someone on Hinge, that they’re in the talking stage now ... and that I should also try the app out. I was thinking about it, but I too feel like I would be rushing myself out of this season God has me in now. Your video assured me that there’s no need to jump into things that may be working out for someone else, and that there’s nothing wrong with trusting God’s timing!! I don’t need to be conforming to a worldly custom “just because.” Thanks for being so real and sharing what God has taught you!
okay!!! But how amazing is God. She got the golden retriever, she got a godly man who opens the door for her, get the chair for her at the table (even when they just met), who is silly with her, who help her share Jesus with 50 people in the cruise, who expose her to a new way of sharing Jesus through his boldness evangelizing. I made a list of everything I want in my future husband and I always hear that is not what I want. But guess what, I am certain that God knows me and he will not only give me what I need but also what my heart desires according to his will. This just gave my faith a boost. haha
Wow. I have to say that watching this video after finding your channel after you met your fiancee now is really bone chilling. God knows as always what he had prepared for you. I'm so grateful for your channel and for God leading me to it. God bless you and your future! May it be anointed always with God's favor.
That “AMEN” clap 😅🙏🏾 👏🏾 I can relate to this so much. I’ve been single for 2 and a half years now and I love my life and the space God has to move in it 💕
I just finished a three month subscription on Match and I received hardly no attention, at least from the men that I found remotely attractive, which was a huge disappointment! I'm so glad that it's behind me because I feel burned out!
This is the problem with society now, nobody knows how to talk with people face to face anymore, they would rather judge people on a phone or based on a profile and there is no way you can get a sense of how someone is just going off that. You need face to face interaction that doing through phones can't provide, it does not give you the same kind of connection as if you were right next to the person. It takes a long time to really get to know someone and commitment not everyone is willing to put in. People always say I don't have the time, but I mean at the end of the day if you are being honest with yourself that is an excuse. Just gotta make it a priority if its something you are serious about. I think you are a little bit too picky or stingy when it comes to your list of what you will accept and won't but that's just my opinion. What makes meeting people challenging and exciting is that everyone is different and comes with a unique set of qualities and traits based on what they have been through in their lives and who they are as people. Finding a partner is about accepting those differences in people coming together and loving the person for who they are as I'm sure they will love you back for what makes you unique. At the same time if you want to wait to have sex until marriage a guy you are going to be with has to respect that, so i get it from that point of view. Very rarely are you going to find someone who is exactly the same as you though in terms of how they think and view things. Also I would not spend 2 hours with someone random on a phone, like you might as well go meet them if there is an interest to see what that person is like or if its just an act. Believe it or not its easy to get tired of hearing someone's voice especially if you aren't really that familiar or connected with them yet. Most dudes on dating apps feel like they have to make their profiles as if its a resume so girls can match with them and be called for an interview lol. Dating apps are dumb they should not be taken seriously at the end of the day for both males and females. Its you trying to prove your worth and who you are and that you would be a good fit to somebody you don't know is even worth it lol. Dating should be face to face plain and simple. Being in a relationship is all about sacrifices and compromises for the good of the two of you being together, its about being unselfish. If you are not ready to do these things then its not the right time to date for you that is what it comes down to. Best thing to do in that case well if you have not found anyone yet is to continue doing all the things in your life that inspire you and get you closer to where you want to be, if someone comes along and wants to be a part of that then you can come back to the idea of wanting to date that person. Things should always be natural never try and force anything in life. When girls ignore dudes on these apps, especially ones that mean you no harm. That's what can make them bitter and then start to become assholes who resent women and don't treat them well because they were hurt by so many. So when in doubt if you can its always nice to try and reach out or at least say something, it means a lot to men and is I can say speaking for men greatly appreciated whether you are interested or not right.
@@candacedawn357 Okay that's cool and all but being picky sometimes makes you miss out on great ppl because you are so caught up on your list of what you will accept and won't instead of waiting to see what each person offers before shooting them down without knowing them really. I'm all for deciding what is best for each person I have to decide what is best for me too, however; in my case I wait to see what each person offers before making my decision. Girls and guys sometimes tend to judge a person before they know them because they don't fit their "ideal match" criteria. I guess my point is to give people a chance, get to know them more before writing them off you might be surprised you like them afterwards or not but you never know for sure if you don't give someone a chance to show you what they got. Don't just judge off appearance or an initial encounter I guess would be what I would tell her. Dig deeper people are too fast to say nope not for me to others these days. That's my only issue with ppl being "picky" and sticking to their "preferences" all the time with no exception. Everyone has pros and cons, there is nobody perfect in this world. So if people are waiting for that, it will never come. Sometimes you take the good with the bad if the good in someone outweighs the negative. Which then makes the person worth it at the end of the day no matter what you initially thought of them without really knowing them right.
Thank you for being so transparent. Your video came up in a search for insight into using Christian Mingle &, even though I am much older than you, I found your experience (& boundaries) inspiring ~ I AM ALSO PROUD OF YOU & wish you every happiness!
Thanks for sharing your experience. That is really sad the conversation about sex. But it's a huge wake up call. Good point about it feeling like an interview. Thanks for sharing your point of view. I experienced many of the same things while online dating.
I wouldn't even waste my time. If Sex before Marriage is a No-No and he doesn't share your views, then go immediately and wish him a nice life. Apparently that guy was only interested in getting someone into his bed. Sad.
God will bring the right person in your path just keep pressing for God and start to pray for your future husband and also start to practicing wife qualities
I just feel weird about dating online. It feels as though you are shopping for a spouse. I feel that meeting people in person is much easier, since you get to know the whole person and not just their profile picture/texts. I've also had some somewhat unpleasant experiences on christian dating sites. I'm praying that God will bring the right man in person and I continue to put myself out there and seek first the Kingdom of God!
Amen! Firstly super proud of you as a human and Christian woman! You continue to bless me in every video! So much love and prayers sent your way! I am going to be single for a while as I see it as well because I feel like I may have said this but I need to be who I know God wants me to be for who I want to be with who is following God like minded! I dont know if this made sense but I want to be the person I'm looking for is looking for! If I dont find anyone or should I say if God dont give me that blessing.. then I know I have God and He is enough! Love u Kian
I agree with you. Find a guy who will run with you towards your dreams and want to encourage you in everything. It’s always worth it to wait for the right person to come along.
The minute he shared his views on sex, I would have ended the conversation. That’s a huge Christian standard. When he tried to convince you of his unbiblical opinion, that was another big red flag that I would not have let carry on for even a few seconds. My concern about dating apps (even Christian) is the large number of sexual predators that escape the filters. Be careful, please!
THAT👏🏻JOURNALING👏🏻FLOW👏🏻 where did you get your journal from?? I love how thick it is!!!! ... Also, more importantly, thank you for your thoughts on this. I’ve had the saaaaame experience and heart change with dating apps. Recently I’ve been thinking of using them again (on and off) literally probably out of boredom anyway (needed to repent of that, and to stop seeking men and to seek God and His Word, like you said), and this was a God-given reminder🥰
I went on Tinder and I stayed on it for all about 2 days before deleting my account. Most men seem DTF and not genuine relationships even when I was swiping I heard a small still voice say dont awaken love before it's time. Honestly my heart wasnt it but I did meet a Christian guy and moved over to instagram to talk to him so I could delete Tinder. I feel as though there's to many people on tinder you can match with. I cant devote my time getting to know everyone plus the conversations were just so superficial.
Dating apps are not for everyone, for sure, and takes a huge amount of wisdom and patience. If the guy is in a rush, thats a big red flag. However, i did meet my boyfriend on a dating site after about a week of a free trial😃 but we emailed over a week (he was the only one where we messaged so seamlessly and could sense a connection even at that point; all other guys seemed forced, rushed, prideful etc)then texted, then talked on phone, 2 months before meeting in person at a church event. And it was great!! I wasnt afraid to ask hard questions, and that is key so you dont waste time. I saw from his profile that he valued Christ, and that was only further confirmed. Also, dont be afraid to ask to talk to their pastor if needed! Accountability is also better than a loner who does his own thing. Just give yourself time, learn about the other person, ask questions about the deal breakers, and dont settle for less, just because hes within your reach. Pray pray pray 🙏🏻❤️ and enjoy when youre single, because you have so much freedom to serve God. Better to be single than in a bad relationship or marriage, too. Wait for Gods best!
If as a Christian you must hold firm to your values......I am an older person and I feel the same way....I do not want to have sexual relations unless I am married.....yes, I am old fashioned....and if a man doesn't agree too bad.....I will not give up my values.......
Perfectly stated summary, I have been using dating apps for about 2weeks and even as a male the time mismanagement, cluster of emotions, many options, misleading, no advancement etc is definitely consuming. I would say it’s kind of cool just putting myself out there again in this dating age, but surely proceed with caution and possibly maybe decrease your expectations lol.
I'm definitely in my singleness season! Thank you for sharing your story. You have no idea how relieved and overjoyed I am to here a girl talk about dating in such a way. I might cry lol
My buddy tells me I should try it cause that’s how he met his wife. I don’t see it as an option cause I’m pushing 33. He was in his early 20’s when he did it. It’s okay to be pretty broke at that age lol. I used to be a workaholic to cope with loneliness and now COVID has even taken that from me.
I relate so much! I had an experience this summer with a guy I met on an app, and he was more invested than I was. We would talk on the phone and facetime and we met up once. I just found myself throughout the time feeling bored and just wishing I was back to being completely single and not talking to any guy. That’s when I knew I had to end it, because I just was not excited or looking forward to talking. When I ended it, he took it well but I could tell he still wanted to be friends, but I ultimately just had to cut it off completely. I feel so much more free now and I’m enjoying where God has me!
Someone who opens car doors? Who will dance in the rain?? Who will run around with you (cruise trip running around doing kids crafts)??!! Ug God KNEW! Lol so happy for you Kian
I know exactly how your feeling. I have felt the same way some times. You seem like you would be a great girlfriend/date when your ready and find the right guy. It sounds like GOD might not want you finding guys that way. I'm sure there are a lot of dishonest, disrespectful people on there. Know you are a catch. :-)
I’ve been in a very long season of singleness, five years. God is moving in my life in incredible ways, I know He has a plan for me, I have to wait for His timing. I don’t know if I’ll ever get married or have children, But I do know that as long as I have breath in my body I will praise The Lord and be grateful for all He has done for me and I will trust in His plan. 💯🙌🙌
I did this as well, really hoping to find christian husband and God just helped me see that people who are on dating sites ARE NOT WAITING on gods best as we should! How do we wait and trust but also look? have patience sisters! Be still! Grow and become the person you want to marry, be so focused on God that you only lift your head when you hear HIM say “he’s the one” ❤️❤️
And even if they talk about Jesus dont take their word for it. I married the worse fake Christian narcisist on Christian Mingle and had 3 years of hell .
My perspective as a Christian man... Background: I'm now 41 years old at the time I'm writing this. I have one 13 year old daughter. I've been single for probably close to 12 years and got saved in 2014/2015 (baptized in 2015). So, over that time I dated both as a secular person and as a Christian with much stronger values and completely different approach. I'm located in NorCal (other areas might differ in experiences). Over the years I've tried just about every dating site/app out there. The ones that I used for some length of time and as a Christian have been eharmony, match, Christian mingle, Zoosk, bumble, OKCupid and playing around on fth a bit. I'm currently off all the sites. I just finished one year on eharmony. I had many conversations of varying length. That entire time I only met one woman. She's amazing, intelligent and beautiful. However, she's also hundreds of miles away and between our respective situations and responsibilities it didn't appear to be the right fit. On match a few years ago I met another amazing woman; successful, beautiful and really fun (she really could make me laugh). We dated a few months and there was long term potential there. I wasn't completely available at that time and I take the responsibility for that one ultimately not working out. I just wrapped up bumble after a month. I only had one mutual match and they more or less disappeared. I did think the format of requiring women to make the first move could be advantageous for a man since it might help eliminate getting lost in the noise of messages from all the other men. I did this after finding out a female friend of mine found her fiancee there. I had one date from OKCupid the last time I was there. The questions they have to answer there can help eliminate certain people, ie, I'd look for their response to questions like, "Is it necessary to sleep with someone before marriage?" I avoided all "yes" responses and hoped that those who replied "no' were truthful. These were all from women that checked the "Christian" box. Christian Mingle didn't have many matches. Nothing ever materialized there. Zoosk seems mostly like a hook-up site and a place to get scammed. I might be wrong, but that was my impression. I joined for a month and couldn't stand it after a couple days. fth might be okay. I quit in order to eliminate distractions. Most of these sites have some kind of way to search exclusively for Christians if it's not a trademarked Christian dating site/app. All that said, use discernment, guard your heart and be prepared for the following if you choose to use any of these sites: Prepare to be ghosted. Whatever the reason, whether intentional or just due to someone getting busy and other things taking priority, be prepared to not hear from someone again without an explanation. Be prepared to have a hard time finding someone within a reasonable distance. I've had women contact me from not only hundreds of miles away, but from other states and even countries. Be prepared to deal with "mark the box Christians." These are the ones who tell people they're Christian, but have no fruit in their life to show for it. If they don't explicitly say something about Jesus/God in their profile, pass them up. You're looking for a spouse, not to do some evangelism. Be prepared for denominational conflicts. I've been flat out treated with meanness because I'm more towards the charismatic and practice our shared beliefs somewhat differently. I think that about wraps it up. Whatever you do, keep your eyes on Jesus. I pray that this is helpful for someone and pray that all of you who are single find an amazing spouse with a relationship rooted in The Bible, obedience to God and filled with God's love.
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Eye want my littl navia to now that littl dady thought it was really sweet of you to want littl dady to be happy thank you navia wear ever you ar sweet heart ❤️
Not to mention this Christian woman was convinced by a “Christian” man to have a baby before marriage. And u guessed right he dumped her. He was mean to her visiting there kid and turns out he probably was pretending to be Christian! Crazy right! It’s best to take the longer safe road then the quick trap. I pray the guy does find God tho
You made me realize something about myself I’m just as guilty as that guy because I went on a date this week and asked sensual questions because I had my heart broke 15 years ago and I didn’t want it to happen again specify that I haven’t slept with anyone in 15 years but that’s here nor there struggle with being single most of that time and if I did talk to a girl usually ask those questions and appropriately I guess I always thought that you know being able to please is the most important thing in a relationship but you made me realize the lack of my Ways and I thank you for that thanks for helping me see that I’m part of my problem and then if I want to solution two that problem I have to change we all have to change our way of 🤔 thanks again for reminding me that I need Christ to change my thoughts
I think online apps are better for ppl in late 30s because most likely you’ve lived a lot of life, not up for games, know what you want and less focused on things that don’t matter that much
Hi Kian! I have been watching you since your testimony video and it’s so cool being able to see you grow, teach, and remain faithful to God even when you are going through rough times (like when you were feeling uninspired.) of course I don’t know what Gods will for you is, and I do want to encourage you in letting God allow the man to come to you or start dating when you know for sure he is the one God has for you.... in other words, being patient and trusting God too is hard, but really cool knowing God does see you and know what kind of man you need! :)
my pastor told me god will give you a husband in his timing even without an app. and that just stuck with me and back in the day they didn't have dating apps and people still got married
that was amazing listening to you from a women's point of you. I felt like i experienced what you experienced being on them dating apps. Im in the season of being by myself knowing more about me and what i want.
Your views on sex work well in your teens & 20's, but what if you can't find a marriageable man until late 30's-40's? Become a celibate nun even if you're not Catholic?!
I had the same experience as you! Being on a app, I actually found that I am so content being single right now. Gives me way more time to spend focussing on the Lord and the other plans He has in my life. When He thinks it’s time, He will bring the right one along.
Little did you know that you’ll meet your husband three months later🙌🏾.. thank you for your transparency and vulnerability ❤️
How did she meet her husband! I’m new to the channel!
@@charlenemaeder8027 she has a couple of videos about how they met it's pretty awesome!
@@thetruthwillsetyoufree9209 Quit it lying (ironic considering your TH-cam name).
"someone who dances with me in the rain" - your literal proposal
God is crazy GOOD
Hello... So how are you doing today my friend... I hope you're having a delightful week 😘 I guess so
Using dating apps as a Christian is so frustrating.. I also have my preferences on the app I use set to Christians only and went on dates with a few guys from it. It only resulted in me getting ghosted when the topic of sex eventually came up and I expressed thats not something I was comfortable doing, especially since I barely knew this person. Aside from that, dating apps do seemed a bit 'forced' and nothing compares to meeting someone in a natural setting and letting a relationship progress from there. Best of luck to you and thanks for making this video it was really insightful!
Dating apps can definitely be frustrating! There are some good people out there. Don't give up hope!
I search about a serious relationship . If you are interested send me on WhatsApp maybe we will get in a relationship
Online dating means less lust, less male overbearing pride, less men having to bother women who either don't want a man or who already have one.
The men on Christian dating apps are for the most part gentlemen looking for a good Christian woman. Good Christian spouses don't grow on trees. If you find one don't reject him, snatch him up quick
@Undefined Variety Channel I'm aware of that.
@@eliaslamiri9907 Don't be so desperate!
I met my husband on Tinder & boy did I not see it coming lol but I’m really glad I gave tinder a chance. On the other hand I had a terrible experience on Christian mingle, so that being said I really think in all dating, app or not to stay true to yourself and listen to your gut & to keep praying to God he is guiding you to your future spouse.
Is true we to pray for everything even if don't know how we gonna meet the one.because we all caring different grace and gift.your spiritual gift in the Lord can save someone.
Spoken to sooooo many "Christian" men who are "looking for a relationship" but are clearly just DTF.
Yessss! The struggle is real
Dtf?
@@ellieon 'down to f---'
@@meekmeek8198 Thank you.
Ellie u r true Christian 😂😂
I wanted to bring some different perspective as a married guy. I usually watch for the other faith content that you put out, but I find it beneficial to get involved with relationship conversations, as our culture has a very messed up way of handling them.
With that said, you definitely have a much more mature/healthy perspective then most people, which sets you up for a more healthy future. The fact that you’re patient and can bear not dating like most people is great. The fact that you’re growing with God and now you’re relationship with Him is stronger than with anyone else, you’re at the point you should be at. Not saying you’re at the end goal but you’re in a good place and heading in a good direction, which will give you a clearer mind and discernment for thinking wisely when you do actually find someone! So that’s my encouragement.
My advise to ANYONE is to say: no one needs to date to find someone to love. First off God loved us first. We won’t understand love without a good relationship with Him. Second we all have friends and family who we have relationships with who love us and can satisfy our need for a companion (someone there, not in a romantic way). In fact the best way to have a healthy relationship with anyone is to care about them before yourself and to work together with the person cause you care. If you can’t do that, you don’t have love and if you don’t get that from a person you want a romantic relationship with, you might be in for physical and material, mental and emotional pleasure but it will be torture in the mid to long term. The best advice for relationships/finding a future spouse is to be completely (as much as you could possibly be) that the person loves God, loves others, loves you, is humble and you have at least faith and one other thing in common. Cause you once you join with the person you’re stuck with them for life. Better or worse. You’re job becomes loving them, even if you end up with a Hosea sort of situation. I can relate a little with him since for a short time our marriage was starting to go sour. But I kept strong faith, challenged, questioned, straightened out my wife’s thinking and encouraged her and things are back on a great track! Hope the best for your future(s) in regards to relationships!
Im kinda proud of you girl. A woman with standards 👏🏻👏🏻
Inésita aw thank you 💃🏼🥰
One thing is on cam but she would. It just takes the right guy situation.
Women with standards are good, but women who have impossible standards are just plain stuck-up snotrags.
Ladies, by all means keep your principles, but don't be a snotrag about it. There are many, many good Christian men out there if you just give them half a chance.
LOVE this video! I have been using dating apps for a year now on and off and I absolutely agree with all the points you made. I stopped because I really want to focus on my growth as a Christian and getting where I want to be fitness and health wise. I want to be more at peace with my self and have a higher level of confidence before I even think about dating someone. I also stopped because as you said I really felt like I was forcing myself out of a season that God put me in. It got to a point where I craved a relationship more than I craved God. And because of that I compromised on some of my deal breakers, such as waiting until marriage. I really appreciate you making this video. It could definitely be something for me to look back on when i’m struggling with my singlenss and considering taking things into my own hands rather than trusting God to bring me someone. I really wish I had a friend like you. Your advice and wisdom is so helpful. And on a side note, I love that you eat plant-based!
Hi
Hi Nicole,
Hope are you doing
I'm too looking for a relationship partner..
If you don't mind,let's chat on WhatsApp, kindly drop your contact
Stay by yourself until you're really ready. It's just not online dating, its dating period.
i am 100% where you are right now with not feeling inspired to leave my time of singleness. i really feel God is calling me to singleness right now. but i truly feel when you meet him that desire will change. but for now we wait :):)
Hi Victoria how are you doing
I'm too looking for a relationship partner..
Can you drop your contact
Kian Tilton, I will advise you that most men on dating apps are looking to trap women into getting them in bed. Its really difficult to find a man who really wants to marry and have kids on a dating app
Dexter Fernandes it really depends on the men you’re looking at but majority of the guys I came across were waiting for marriage
Now what these men show interest on dating apps and what is their real intentions may not always be true. One has to be careful beforehand than crying later. The same applies to women on dating apps
@@Kian_Wolfgang I'm not trying to be rude and props for being strong in your beliefs, but it is not accurate that a majority on these apps are "waiting for marriage." If you stated that those are the kind of guys you're looking for in your profile, this "majority" is probably lying to you.
@@joannk.2557 To clarify, I didn't say majority of the men on apps were waiting for marriage, I said majority of the ones i came across were. Which were the 4-5 men i had conversations with. And I am very aware to guard my heart and have discernment with everyone.
I don't think it is healthy to constantly focus on the negatives and point out reasons to be discouraged or skeptical. I have faith that there are plenty of trustworthy amazing men out there and I'm tired of the world trying to steal that hope.
Dexter Fernandes I take offense to that lol. I’ve never cared about sex I just want to be treated the way I’d treat you.
Dating apps can be so crazy and uncomfortable. However, I have heard of several "wins" from it. My daughter found her husband with one of those apps. So, I know it can work! You really have to know what you're looking for and never settle! Pray! Pray! Pray! and allow God to send the right person and then pray that you will discern it when it happens.
Try me
Love this! I live in NYC and everyone has always said dating apps are the way to go and I am someone who wants to meet someone organically and I totally relate to you in the sense that I believe I’m also comfortable in my season of singleness which I never thought would happen either😅
Also I just started the “Relationship Goals” Series from Transformation church, 100% recommend! It’s an older series but everyone has said great things I definitely think you should check it out if you haven’t I’m only on episode 4- but it is so good!
Gidelvia yeah I totally agree with u! I‘m also more into „real life“ dating. Yet, sometimes Tinder can bring some wonders, wont even lie I was dating for 8 months lol. Anyways, I live in Zurich &‘ trust me: everyone looks the same. The maturity Level is just not there. Sometimes its nice to have someone to talk to, besides the city u live.
I'm from NYC too. Any success with dating?
If you are interested in a serious relationship. Talk to me maybe we can have a relationship
Stay strong in our God :)
Can you do the same for friendship apps? I'm curious, how it will go.
Hey dear
That’s crazy he was pushing that all on you, even as a Christian! 😱 Big red flag for sure. It definitely sounds like God’s timing is not now for you and you realize that. I’ve tried to step out of certain seasons time and time again and I feel like I hit a “wall” so to speak and can tell that God is not in it. I can sense that’s what dating for you is like currently. When it’s time it will be perfect and effortless and you’ll WANT to invest the time! 💕
Marissa Alphonse yeah some of the things he said were pretty extreme, I didn’t really go into detail in the video...
I would have exited the moment he mentioned that
Yes, dude they keep you on the phone to manipulate....two hours later *cue spongebob voice
Hi, if you want a real relationship. Send me a message in WhatsApp
@@eliaslamiri9907 hahahahha nice one
HAHAHAHA but srsly though😐 the guy seemed really pushy and overbearing too
Idk why most of us men have these low standards. If the lady doesn’t want sex and you do, then just go find a lady who wants it. No need to spend 2 hours on the phone trying to convince a person of anything, specially sex. It’s just a waste of time.
@@delgadoabdel Uh, I don’t know about you, but majority of people here are Christian and don’t believe in just sleeping around. We want something intentional. I don’t see how it would be considered a high standard to like a woman who is easy to sleep with.
Hey girl! I love your views on this subject! As a Christian girl, it can be really hard to be strong in a world full of sin. Thank you for making this video!! So refreshing (:
Hey dear
Hello... So how are you doing today my friend... I hope you're having a delightful week 😘 I guess so
At the end I just had a vision of a tall angel that had huge thick wings. He was so bright. And he told me, There's a greater plan for you. Trust in the Lord, dont compromise stay strong.
I know you’re married now, CONNNNGRAAATS, doll! ✨I just wanted to say I appreciate this video so much. As a Christian woman, watching someone else going through the dating app pool makes me feel not so alone 😂😂.
Thanks for sharing this, Kian! I spoke with a friend just last Sunday and she gushed about how she met someone on Hinge, that they’re in the talking stage now ... and that I should also try the app out. I was thinking about it, but I too feel like I would be rushing myself out of this season God has me in now. Your video assured me that there’s no need to jump into things that may be working out for someone else, and that there’s nothing wrong with trusting God’s timing!! I don’t need to be conforming to a worldly custom “just because.” Thanks for being so real and sharing what God has taught you!
okay!!! But how amazing is God. She got the golden retriever, she got a godly man who opens the door for her, get the chair for her at the table (even when they just met), who is silly with her, who help her share Jesus with 50 people in the cruise, who expose her to a new way of sharing Jesus through his boldness evangelizing. I made a list of everything I want in my future husband and I always hear that is not what I want. But guess what, I am certain that God knows me and he will not only give me what I need but also what my heart desires according to his will. This just gave my faith a boost. haha
Wow. I have to say that watching this video after finding your channel after you met your fiancee now is really bone chilling. God knows as always what he had prepared for you. I'm so grateful for your channel and for God leading me to it. God bless you and your future! May it be anointed always with God's favor.
Hello... So how are you doing today my friend... I hope you're having a delightful week 😘 I guess so
That “AMEN” clap 😅🙏🏾 👏🏾 I can relate to this so much. I’ve been single for 2 and a half years now and I love my life and the space God has to move in it 💕
I HAD A BAD EXPERIENCE WITH BUMBLE, HINGE, CHRISTIAN MINGLE, TINDER, E.T.C., IDK HOW IT WAS EASY FOR YOU AND GOING WELL FOR YOU.
Hey dear
Where you from Crystal?
I just finished a three month subscription on Match and I received hardly no attention, at least from the men that I found remotely attractive, which was a huge disappointment! I'm so glad that it's behind me because I feel burned out!
This is the problem with society now, nobody knows how to talk with people face to face anymore, they would rather judge people on a phone or based on a profile and there is no way you can get a sense of how someone is just going off that. You need face to face interaction that doing through phones can't provide, it does not give you the same kind of connection as if you were right next to the person. It takes a long time to really get to know someone and commitment not everyone is willing to put in. People always say I don't have the time, but I mean at the end of the day if you are being honest with yourself that is an excuse. Just gotta make it a priority if its something you are serious about. I think you are a little bit too picky or stingy when it comes to your list of what you will accept and won't but that's just my opinion. What makes meeting people challenging and exciting is that everyone is different and comes with a unique set of qualities and traits based on what they have been through in their lives and who they are as people. Finding a partner is about accepting those differences in people coming together and loving the person for who they are as I'm sure they will love you back for what makes you unique. At the same time if you want to wait to have sex until marriage a guy you are going to be with has to respect that, so i get it from that point of view.
Very rarely are you going to find someone who is exactly the same as you though in terms of how they think and view things. Also I would not spend 2 hours with someone random on a phone, like you might as well go meet them if there is an interest to see what that person is like or if its just an act. Believe it or not its easy to get tired of hearing someone's voice especially if you aren't really that familiar or connected with them yet. Most dudes on dating apps feel like they have to make their profiles as if its a resume so girls can match with them and be called for an interview lol. Dating apps are dumb they should not be taken seriously at the end of the day for both males and females. Its you trying to prove your worth and who you are and that you would be a good fit to somebody you don't know is even worth it lol. Dating should be face to face plain and simple.
Being in a relationship is all about sacrifices and compromises for the good of the two of you being together, its about being unselfish. If you are not ready to do these things then its not the right time to date for you that is what it comes down to. Best thing to do in that case well if you have not found anyone yet is to continue doing all the things in your life that inspire you and get you closer to where you want to be, if someone comes along and wants to be a part of that then you can come back to the idea of wanting to date that person. Things should always be natural never try and force anything in life.
When girls ignore dudes on these apps, especially ones that mean you no harm. That's what can make them bitter and then start to become assholes who resent women and don't treat them well because they were hurt by so many. So when in doubt if you can its always nice to try and reach out or at least say something, it means a lot to men and is I can say speaking for men greatly appreciated whether you are interested or not right.
I agree with everything other than you calling her picky. (: She has to decide what's best for her & no one else.
@@candacedawn357 Okay that's cool and all but being picky sometimes makes you miss out on great ppl because you are so caught up on your list of what you will accept and won't instead of waiting to see what each person offers before shooting them down without knowing them really. I'm all for deciding what is best for each person I have to decide what is best for me too, however; in my case I wait to see what each person offers before making my decision. Girls and guys sometimes tend to judge a person before they know them because they don't fit their "ideal match" criteria. I guess my point is to give people a chance, get to know them more before writing them off you might be surprised you like them afterwards or not but you never know for sure if you don't give someone a chance to show you what they got. Don't just judge off appearance or an initial encounter I guess would be what I would tell her. Dig deeper people are too fast to say nope not for me to others these days. That's my only issue with ppl being "picky" and sticking to their "preferences" all the time with no exception. Everyone has pros and cons, there is nobody perfect in this world. So if people are waiting for that, it will never come. Sometimes you take the good with the bad if the good in someone outweighs the negative. Which then makes the person worth it at the end of the day no matter what you initially thought of them without really knowing them right.
I’m a single godly man 👍🏻 and open 👍🏻
I love your freckles !!! 😍❤️
I love how you have a journal!! I’ve been meaning to do that but I forget 😅and you’re totally right. The apps can be a bit unfulfilling
I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHICH STRENGTHENS ME
PHIL 4:13
Thank you for being so transparent. Your video came up in a search for insight into using Christian Mingle &, even though I am much older than you, I found your experience (& boundaries) inspiring ~ I AM ALSO PROUD OF YOU & wish you every happiness!
Hello... So how are you doing today my friend... I hope you're having a delightful week 😘 I guess so
I love how you were clear with your non negotiables and stood by them and communicated honestly with these guys. Thank you for the video!
I believe in dating for marriage Kian and to see where it goes.
Looking back at this video.....wow God is Good
Thanks for sharing your experience. That is really sad the conversation about sex. But it's a huge wake up call.
Good point about it feeling like an interview.
Thanks for sharing your point of view. I experienced many of the same things while online dating.
I wouldn't even waste my time. If Sex before Marriage is a No-No and he doesn't share your views, then go immediately and wish him a nice life. Apparently that guy was only interested in getting someone into his bed. Sad.
If you are interested in a serious relationship I'm here. And try to communicate with each other
Were you in a Christian dating ad ? Lol very familiar
I was on Christian Mingle for a time.
I'm going to delete Bumble, you articulated my feelings. It does leave you feeling less full filled for one.
Update- fast forward 5 months. I am so much happier without online dating. It's very toxic.
@Carly Fournier - they say what they think you want to hear to get a hook up then move on to the new best thing.
I love a woman that’s an open book Kian.
I don’t believe in sex before marriage Kian. I don’t believe in premarital sex.
I believe in sex after marriage Kian.
You’re very beautiful Kian.
I’m exploring to see whose out there.
God will bring the right person in your path just keep pressing for God and start to pray for your future husband and also start to practicing wife qualities
I just feel weird about dating online. It feels as though you are shopping for a spouse. I feel that meeting people in person is much easier, since you get to know the whole person and not just their profile picture/texts. I've also had some somewhat unpleasant experiences on christian dating sites. I'm praying that God will bring the right man in person and I continue to put myself out there and seek first the Kingdom of God!
Amen! Firstly super proud of you as a human and Christian woman! You continue to bless me in every video! So much love and prayers sent your way! I am going to be single for a while as I see it as well because I feel like I may have said this but I need to be who I know God wants me to be for who I want to be with who is following God like minded! I dont know if this made sense but I want to be the person I'm looking for is looking for! If I dont find anyone or should I say if God dont give me that blessing.. then I know I have God and He is enough! Love u Kian
I agree with you. Find a guy who will run with you towards your dreams and want to encourage you in everything. It’s always worth it to wait for the right person to come along.
I am here if you want a serious and real relationship
The minute he shared his views on sex, I would have ended the conversation. That’s a huge Christian standard. When he tried to convince you of his unbiblical opinion, that was another big red flag that I would not have let carry on for even a few seconds.
My concern about dating apps (even Christian) is the large number of sexual predators that escape the filters.
Be careful, please!
I have two dogs Kian.
THAT👏🏻JOURNALING👏🏻FLOW👏🏻 where did you get your journal from?? I love how thick it is!!!! ... Also, more importantly, thank you for your thoughts on this. I’ve had the saaaaame experience and heart change with dating apps. Recently I’ve been thinking of using them again (on and off) literally probably out of boredom anyway (needed to repent of that, and to stop seeking men and to seek God and His Word, like you said), and this was a God-given reminder🥰
I relate to what you wrote in your journal...seeking men not God. :(
Hello... So how are you doing today my friend... I hope you're having a delightful week 😘 I guess so
I went on Tinder and I stayed on it for all about 2 days before deleting my account. Most men seem DTF and not genuine relationships even when I was swiping I heard a small still voice say dont awaken love before it's time. Honestly my heart wasnt it but I did meet a Christian guy and moved over to instagram to talk to him so I could delete Tinder. I feel as though there's to many people on tinder you can match with. I cant devote my time getting to know everyone plus the conversations were just so superficial.
I heard from some Christian friends that hinge is pretty good. My brother met his christian girlfriend on there
I so wish I would have been able to have this video 6 years ago!!!! Keep those standards. 👏🏻 I love it!
Hey dear
You're so cute. Like mannerisms etc and gorgeous obviously 😂💓
Hello... So how are you doing today my friend... I hope you're having a delightful week 😘 I guess so
Dating apps are not for everyone, for sure, and takes a huge amount of wisdom and patience. If the guy is in a rush, thats a big red flag. However, i did meet my boyfriend on a dating site after about a week of a free trial😃 but we emailed over a week (he was the only one where we messaged so seamlessly and could sense a connection even at that point; all other guys seemed forced, rushed, prideful etc)then texted, then talked on phone, 2 months before meeting in person at a church event. And it was great!! I wasnt afraid to ask hard questions, and that is key so you dont waste time. I saw from his profile that he valued Christ, and that was only further confirmed. Also, dont be afraid to ask to talk to their pastor if needed! Accountability is also better than a loner who does his own thing. Just give yourself time, learn about the other person, ask questions about the deal breakers, and dont settle for less, just because hes within your reach. Pray pray pray 🙏🏻❤️ and enjoy when youre single, because you have so much freedom to serve God. Better to be single than in a bad relationship or marriage, too. Wait for Gods best!
Go to sleep Kian.
Hi dear , So what channel did you decide was best? I am so focused on my carreer but will like to invest into time into Dating app
If as a Christian you must hold firm to your values......I am an older person and I feel the same way....I do not want to have sexual relations unless I am married.....yes, I am old fashioned....and if a man doesn't agree too bad.....I will not give up my values.......
Perfectly stated summary, I have been using dating apps for about 2weeks and even as a male the time mismanagement, cluster of emotions, many options, misleading, no advancement etc is definitely consuming. I would say it’s kind of cool just putting myself out there again in this dating age, but surely proceed with caution and possibly maybe decrease your expectations lol.
I'm definitely in my singleness season! Thank you for sharing your story. You have no idea how relieved and overjoyed I am to here a girl talk about dating in such a way. I might cry lol
@Peter best good I guess
@Peter best why do you ask? Do you think you can meet your future wife in TH-cam comments?
My buddy tells me I should try it cause that’s how he met his wife. I don’t see it as an option cause I’m pushing 33. He was in his early 20’s when he did it. It’s okay to be pretty broke at that age lol. I used to be a workaholic to cope with loneliness and now COVID has even taken that from me.
I relate so much! I had an experience this summer with a guy I met on an app, and he was more invested than I was. We would talk on the phone and facetime and we met up once. I just found myself throughout the time feeling bored and just wishing I was back to being completely single and not talking to any guy. That’s when I knew I had to end it, because I just was not excited or looking forward to talking. When I ended it, he took it well but I could tell he still wanted to be friends, but I ultimately just had to cut it off completely. I feel so much more free now and I’m enjoying where God has me!
Some girls, just don't know what they really want...🤷♂️
If you want the real relationship, talk to me
Someone who opens car doors? Who will dance in the rain?? Who will run around with you (cruise trip running around doing kids crafts)??!! Ug God KNEW! Lol so happy for you Kian
I know exactly how your feeling. I have felt the same way some times. You seem like you would be a great girlfriend/date when your ready and find the right guy. It sounds like GOD might not want you finding guys that way. I'm sure there are a lot of dishonest, disrespectful people on there. Know you are a catch. :-)
If you want the real relationship, talk to me
I’ve been in a very long season of singleness, five years. God is moving in my life in incredible ways, I know He has a plan for me, I have to wait for His timing. I don’t know if I’ll ever get married or have children, But I do know that as long as I have breath in my body I will praise The Lord and be grateful for all He has done for me and I will trust in His plan. 💯🙌🙌
If you are interested in a serious relationship. Talk to me
Make sure your not coming out of a place of desperation. ....Loved that Kian
Hello... So how are you doing today my friend... I hope you're having a delightful week 😘 I guess so
I did this as well, really hoping to find christian husband and God just helped me see that people who are on dating sites ARE NOT WAITING on gods best as we should! How do we wait and trust but also look? have patience sisters! Be still! Grow and become the person you want to marry, be so focused on God that you only lift your head when you hear HIM say “he’s the one” ❤️❤️
Hi 😊
Can we dating one day?
I am Christian too.
Make a great love and learn a love from heaven❤
I am from Asia in Cambodia.
ESt to try ZOOM to try and interview people vs the phone
I lik school sports iam athletic I ust to play sports now iam really looking four a new baby mama that wants to hav kids with a specail guy
And even if they talk about Jesus dont take their word for it. I married the worse fake Christian narcisist on Christian Mingle and had 3 years of hell .
My perspective as a Christian man...
Background: I'm now 41 years old at the time I'm writing this. I have one 13 year old daughter. I've been single for probably close to 12 years and got saved in 2014/2015 (baptized in 2015). So, over that time I dated both as a secular person and as a Christian with much stronger values and completely different approach. I'm located in NorCal (other areas might differ in experiences).
Over the years I've tried just about every dating site/app out there. The ones that I used for some length of time and as a Christian have been eharmony, match, Christian mingle, Zoosk, bumble, OKCupid and playing around on fth a bit. I'm currently off all the sites.
I just finished one year on eharmony. I had many conversations of varying length. That entire time I only met one woman. She's amazing, intelligent and beautiful. However, she's also hundreds of miles away and between our respective situations and responsibilities it didn't appear to be the right fit.
On match a few years ago I met another amazing woman; successful, beautiful and really fun (she really could make me laugh). We dated a few months and there was long term potential there. I wasn't completely available at that time and I take the responsibility for that one ultimately not working out.
I just wrapped up bumble after a month. I only had one mutual match and they more or less disappeared. I did think the format of requiring women to make the first move could be advantageous for a man since it might help eliminate getting lost in the noise of messages from all the other men. I did this after finding out a female friend of mine found her fiancee there.
I had one date from OKCupid the last time I was there. The questions they have to answer there can help eliminate certain people, ie, I'd look for their response to questions like, "Is it necessary to sleep with someone before marriage?" I avoided all "yes" responses and hoped that those who replied "no' were truthful. These were all from women that checked the "Christian" box.
Christian Mingle didn't have many matches. Nothing ever materialized there.
Zoosk seems mostly like a hook-up site and a place to get scammed. I might be wrong, but that was my impression. I joined for a month and couldn't stand it after a couple days.
fth might be okay. I quit in order to eliminate distractions.
Most of these sites have some kind of way to search exclusively for Christians if it's not a trademarked Christian dating site/app.
All that said, use discernment, guard your heart and be prepared for the following if you choose to use any of these sites:
Prepare to be ghosted. Whatever the reason, whether intentional or just due to someone getting busy and other things taking priority, be prepared to not hear from someone again without an explanation.
Be prepared to have a hard time finding someone within a reasonable distance. I've had women contact me from not only hundreds of miles away, but from other states and even countries.
Be prepared to deal with "mark the box Christians." These are the ones who tell people they're Christian, but have no fruit in their life to show for it. If they don't explicitly say something about Jesus/God in their profile, pass them up. You're looking for a spouse, not to do some evangelism.
Be prepared for denominational conflicts. I've been flat out treated with meanness because I'm more towards the charismatic and practice our shared beliefs somewhat differently.
I think that about wraps it up. Whatever you do, keep your eyes on Jesus. I pray that this is helpful for someone and pray that all of you who are single find an amazing spouse with a relationship rooted in The Bible, obedience to God and filled with God's love.
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Great video! Google really knows everything about us. I just erased a few dating apps from my phone & this video was in my recommendations.
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Eye want my littl navia to now that littl dady thought it was really sweet of you to want littl dady to be happy thank you navia wear ever you ar sweet heart ❤️
Not to mention this Christian woman was convinced by a “Christian” man to have a baby before marriage. And u guessed right he dumped her. He was mean to her visiting there kid and turns out he probably was pretending to be Christian! Crazy right! It’s best to take the longer safe road then the quick trap. I pray the guy does find God tho
that is how i am feeling right now. its draining and such wasting of time. i feel sad using them. but i am not sure where else to meet people 😅
You made me realize something about myself I’m just as guilty as that guy because I went on a date this week and asked sensual questions because I had my heart broke 15 years ago and I didn’t want it to happen again specify that I haven’t slept with anyone in 15 years but that’s here nor there struggle with being single most of that time and if I did talk to a girl usually ask those questions and appropriately I guess I always thought that you know being able to please is the most important thing in a relationship but you made me realize the lack of my Ways and I thank you for that thanks for helping me see that I’m part of my problem and then if I want to solution two that problem I have to change we all have to change our way of 🤔 thanks again for reminding me that I need Christ to change my thoughts
I think online apps are better for ppl in late 30s because most likely you’ve lived a lot of life, not up for games, know what you want and less focused on things that don’t matter that much
This is exactly where I am right now. Also, you got married in a YEAR! That’s crazy.
Dating apps are full of narcissistic dudes looking for ego strokes lol.
Hello... So how are you doing today my friend... I hope you're having a delightful week 😘 I guess so
I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHICH STRENGTHENS ME
PHIL 4:13
Date app is shit...as a man its very Hard to find someone by the date app
Are you in the upward commercial?
Hi Kian! I have been watching you since your testimony video and it’s so cool being able to see you grow, teach, and remain faithful to God even when you are going through rough times (like when you were feeling uninspired.) of course I don’t know what Gods will for you is, and I do want to encourage you in letting God allow the man to come to you or start dating when you know for sure he is the one God has for you.... in other words, being patient and trusting God too is hard, but really cool knowing God does see you and know what kind of man you need! :)
my pastor told me god will give you a husband in his timing even without an app. and that just stuck with me and back in the day they didn't have dating apps and people still got married
Hello... So how are you doing today my friend... I hope you're having a delightful week 😘 I guess so
So great to hear you speak on how far you've come in your singleness. Goals 🙌
Hello... So how are you doing today my friend... I hope you're having a delightful week 😘 I guess so
"Relying only on a romantic connection has gotten me in trouble" Oh boy how I relate
that was amazing listening to you from a women's point of you. I felt like i experienced what you experienced being on them dating apps. Im in the season of being by myself knowing more about me and what i want.
You should do a video of what you write on your profile and how you pick photos!
Apps are toxic get out there and join a running club etc, join a gym.
Thx for sharing. I get it. Good job.
I love the way you communicate yourself Kian !
I love you and your videos kian I think its courageous how vulnerable you are
Dog pee in bed is a dealbreaker, full stop.
She's looking for looks, money and status.
Your views on sex work well in your teens & 20's, but what if you can't find a marriageable man until late 30's-40's? Become a celibate nun even if you're not Catholic?!
I guarantee you won't find a virgin man by then, unless he is unable to have sex or doesn't have a shaft.
I had the same experience as you! Being on a app, I actually found that I am so content being single right now. Gives me way more time to spend focussing on the Lord and the other plans He has in my life. When He thinks it’s time, He will bring the right one along.
If you are interested in a serious relationship I'm here
Insightful, I appreciate you sharing your experience.