Matt The Cat I’m in CA and I agree, although I know CA is particularly immodest lol. As a woman who would dress very immodestly when I was a teenager and college student, I always felt self conscious dressing modestly around women who wore outfits that flaunted their bodies, bc they got a lot of attention and praise for it. So I think even the women that want to be modest feel pressured not to, since even (some) Christian men will react more positively to the woman wearing less. Even though I dress modestly now I still feel a bit jealous at times. I know it’s not right to feel that way though!
I’m a very modest person. My mom literally has to convince me to wear a bathing suit to go swimming. But I know I am not modest because of my values, I am modest because I am self conscious about my body. I am realizing I need to stop working out so that “one day I can be pretty enough to wear that dress” but instead to work out to honour the body that Jesus gave for me
Don't ever let anyone, I repeat, ANYONE tell you your modesty isn't precious or that your sanctity makes you lesser. Protect the jewel, sweet little sisters.
@@BreaktheKarmicWheel Yeah, modesty is a good thing, but it is not good to hide your body completely just because you think it's ugly. This is not good!! You should be comfortable and LOVE your body... And then being modest, because you want to stress your face that reveals the light of God.
Biblically, the Holy Spirit convicts people, not people convicting others. Christ’s conviction leads to true change. As christians, our call is to spread the good news, love of Jesus, not guilt/condemn people and encourage others towards Christ. Sooooo let’s not play the act of the Holy Spirit. The most we can do is love like Christ✌🏽
Tamar but sometimes a person might not be convicted because he/she is desensitized , so you must be deliberate when making choices rather than going by “being convicted”. Because we see so many Christians becoming more secular because of social media & not being convicted because they are used to it. including me!
I love CS Lewis’ thoughts on modesty. He says Chastity is the moral virtue and modesty is a social standard. I’ve had such conflicting opinions given to me on outfits I have worn and I’ve always struggled with this issue (as other people around me have different opinions). And Lewis made me understand it in a different light. A Victorian woman in full dress could be considered unchaste (sexual immoral) and a woman in the pacific islands wearing little could be considered very chaste. Don’t get me wrong, I believe we should reflect God in how we dress, like everything else. But I don’t believe it’s that clear cut. Women’s bodies have been overly sexualised, within the west especially. Focus on God and turn from sin. Sin being here unchastity.
Kerry Ann books.google.com/books?id=JaC0_Yvffr0C&pg=PA83&lpg=PA83&dq=chastity+is+a+virtue+modesty+is+a+social+standard&source=bl&ots=wGbnZM_6QV&sig=ACfU3U0ToO7O1VU6_Mb_QvNSZooPL9TcJA&hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwj2t9mM7fXpAhWWK80KHRsRCAgQ6AEwDHoECAUQAQ#v=onepage&q=chastity%20is%20a%20virtue%20modesty%20is%20a%20social%20standard&f=false
@@kayseacamp Most sinful acts (transgressions), if not all, start as heart issues (iniquities). But one thing GOD has revealed to me is if we have the Fear of the LORD, then a lot of people will instantly stop wearing a lot of clothes seen as normal or a grey area. There's a reason why people, including Christians who haven't gotten a deeper Revelation of GOD yet, wear more revealing clothes outside a service or church gathering, but not during. Truly think to yourself, would GOD approve of my clothing, even if it's just a 'little' peak of my boobs when I bend? GOD said we must lead no one to sin, and when we really start to love everyone as siblings, this Godly Compassion (from The HOLY SPIRIT) for not seeing them waver, get tempted, or fall to sin will really transform our minds. We will start to cover up more, even if it is to the beach because we care for not just people's eyes or opinions, but deeply for their Salvation and souls. Luke 17: 1-4 And HE said to HIS disciples, "Temptations to sin are sure to come, but woe to the one through whom they come! It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were cast into the sea than that he should cause one of these little ones to sin. Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying 'I repent', you must forgive him."
What really breaks my heart is seeing how young girls are posting revealing pictures, under the pretext of body confidence and women liberation, but in reality it just seems it's all for the likes and comments.... Seeing nasty comments from guys on these girls posts really breaks my heart :(
This video helped me a lot to cleanout my closet. I always held on to my sexier clothing because I didn't want to give up that part of my identity. Before I became a christian I wanted to be desired by men. Now I want to be desired by God.🙏🏼🌻😌
me too! i cleaned out 23 of my dresses this morning, but it was hard.. i agree totally with this young lady, that it is the work of the holy spirit to convict, rather than other people pointing it out. i have been in torment about this issue, when i dont think that is how our Lord works..
I feel ya it was exactly the same for me ...I was tired that people called me.tom boys and I wanted deseperatly to be attractive to man...but to attract a man of God, we should be woman of God! And woman of God dressed descently! #TeamModesty
Lovely video. It’s actually really simple. Men and women in Christ have a responsibility to obey the commands, because we love Jesus. As a saved women I should dress modestly and honor my body as a temple of God. As a man I should not look at a woman in lust. Sometimes we want our bread buttered on both sides.. when we say yes to Jesus, we HAVE to start choosing - the sooner the better.
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be completely nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. Most clothing has nothing to do with being sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, bad character does.*
@Gerna Van Rooyen Very well said. As Christians, we have to respect the beauty of our body that God created by covering them up. And God had to ordain marriage to help us deal with our sexual sin. For as long as we are in the view of the public, we cover up our naked body to respect God’s creation. Our nakedness is sacred and it should only be shared with our spouse in a marriage. And having been in the covenant of marriage, it is our duty to exercise discipline and not look at others in lust. The sacred covenant of marriage was created for husband and wife so that they have someone to look at whenever there is that sexual desire in them. God has designed it to be between husband and wife and not with a third party in between.
@@kennethfok *It always seemed odd to me how you could be "respecting" God's creation by hiding it when God created His world to be openly and proudly displayed. That's why He had Adam and Eve shameless about their nudity in the garden. We actually cover ourselves because we're ashamed of His creation and think we're abominable when it's actually the opposite. Furthermore, it seems to me that you have the same mentality as every other Christian being that nudity is sexual when it actually has nothing to do with sexuality. It's only our ignorance that makes it sexual. Showing your body is not a sin, it's a virtue, if you think something is beautiful, you don't hide it, you flaunt it.*
Honestly I get that as Christians most feel like they have to be modest and to some extent I believe that is true but a married man looking at another woman other than his wife in a sexual way is the sin of the married man and not you.
@@LilibethJ That’s true, I agree. At the same time it makes me question what’s in a man or a woman’s heart if they are comfortable with displaying themselves in a sexy way?
Get Your Wig Straight yeah I see what you’re saying but like Kian said it’s really hard especially with this feminist/ free your body type of movement because I agree with that too but we are not to judge anybody because we are not God and everyone will receive their own convictions from God on their own time and journey.
Girl!! Yes!! No one is going to feel convicted to change a behavior until they know Jesus. The more you know and love Jesus the more you will become like Him!
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be completely nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. Most clothing has nothing to do with being sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, bad character does.*
What God considers nakedness is clearly spelled out in the Bible: Exodus 28:42 - And thou shalt make them linen breeches to cover their nakedness; from the loins even unto the thighs they shall reach... so basically if you are showing anything from waist to above the knee you are naked in God’s eyes, so no, it’s not a personal conviction, it’s a law that God expects us to keep, and He is gracious and if we are seeking him He will teach us all these things
niematan solamenteazucaralgunofanculo what I was trying to show is that there are clear laws from God regarding clothing, his laws apply to everybody and while conviction is a work of the Holy Ghost it doesn’t mean that just because we don’t feel convicted we are right in the sight of God... maybe we are not allowing the Holy Spirit to work on us or we are just not saved...
God has done the same thing with me I've become more modest as I continued to get closer to Him and did more research on modesty. I went to extremes with it. It became an idol at one point, I was wearing a head covering for a period of time. I came to realize that the way we dress should be different enough for people to notice but not so different that we isolate ourselves. When choosing clothes now I ask myself these questions: Is it healthy? (can I breath and move around in this comfortably (this includes shoes) Does it fit properly? (will I have to fidget or adjust anything) Can I bend over? (without exposing chest or bum) Do I feel pretty/confident?
As a Christian their should be growth. This includes your wardrobe and how one presents yourself. Ask yourself the question am I glorifying Jesus Christ with this outfit, or am I looking for glory for myself. Our culture worships women and we don’t need to encourage that behavior. God wants us to be holy and He won’t leave us alone in our spiritual growth. If their is no progress in the things of godliness, it’s best to examine your heart and see if you are truly in the faith. Eternity is forever, beauty is for a moment.
wow this was suprisingly refreshing and wise. I'm also sick of people aiming modesty talks at females as if its only a female's responsibility. Females deal with lust too. If a female can look at a shirtless guy at the beach and think, "that's his body. between him and God" and take responsibility for her thoughts, males should try harder too. and I really love how you point out encourage the person to get closer to Christ and that telling a stranger on the internet, they are causing you to sin doesn't make sense.
The big thing here is that men and women's brains are different! Can a girl get turned on by the sight of a guy? Yes. Is it the same/normal as a male? NO. Women like to be "wined and dined", spoiled with gifts, time, and attention. Now, I believe men should always be wearing a shirt, unless swimming or something. They need to keep a level of modesty and decency as well!
That's the sad thing about this faith, people are turning away from God because men have penciled their agenda in and said, "This is what God wants". So it's acceptable for men to go around topless, but not women? And if a man degrades a woman, it's her fault but not his? I don't think that sounds like Jesus. I get sick of people co-opting Christianity and pushing a narrative that exists to benefit them.
I agree with almost everything but I do believe your Christian community church should be pointing out your sins in a loving and truthful way. It helps you be self aware and they can still encourage you to go to Jesus.
thestaceofspade only if they have a real relationship with her. The only way she would ever take seriously chastisement is if it’s coming from someone she knows and respects them.
Not always true. I had a lady comment and shame me that my very modest outfit was "inappropriate" when I was 15 at church. It was honestly traumatizing and I never forgot. I started avoiding church for a while after that.
Emily yes... those types of things are very unfortunate. It’s times like that when we have to realize that just because they are in church doesn’t mean they know how to act like Jesus. And forgive them... which is NOT easy to do. I think forgiving is probably the hardest thing I have ever tried to do😬🤦🏻♀️
its about holding your friends accountBLE BUT NOT POINTING out everything they do, you are suppose to lead by example not be a judgement on their life. its not your job. its GODS!
1 Timothy 2:9, NIV: "I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes," ----- This verse is about how men and women should dress in church/ christian worship/ church gatherings. We have to read in context cause it’s also about men too. During that time in the bible , Paul was talking about men and women who show off their status at church. When we are going to church we shouldn’t be bringing attention to how we are dressed and our appearance. It’s a time to worship God not prom or a banquet. Lol i hope that put someone at ease for what that scripture means. Be filled with the Holy Spirit and use discernment. Love your videos Kian, God Bless !
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, character does.*
Also, God didn’t make nakedness a sin... we did🤷🏻♀️ it’s a heart problem not a body problem. And you don’t have to have it all figured out. You’re figuring it out just the way the Holy Spirit that resides inside of you intends. If he perfected us all at once we would just poof into Heaven😬 we won’t be perfected until we see the face of Jesus
Roberta Mbennah only after they ate of the tree that God told them not to eat of... and therefore sinned. So that sin caused them to feel ashamed... until then they were perfect in Gods sight and naked.
then the Lord God formed the man of dust from the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living creature. And the Lord God planted a garden in Eden, in the east, and there he put the man whom he had formed. And out of the ground the Lord God made to spring up every tree that is pleasant to the sight and good for food. The tree of life was in the midst of the garden, and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. A river flowed out of Eden to water the garden, and there it divided and became four rivers. The name of the first is the Pishon. It is the one that flowed around the whole land of Havilah, where there is gold. And the gold of that land is good; bdellium and onyx stone are there. The name of the second river is the Gihon. It is the one that flowed around the whole land of Cush. And the name of the third river is the Tigris, which flows east of Assyria. And the fourth river is the Euphrates. The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it. And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, “You may surely eat of every tree of the garden, but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.” Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat of the fruit of the trees in the garden, but God said, ‘You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it, lest you die.’” But the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths. Genesis 2:7-3:7
You are such a good example of kindness, love, and understanding. 💛 A quote that helps me with these kinds of issues is: "It is the Holy Spirit's job to convict, God's job to judge, and my job to love.” (Billy Graham)
I think theres nothing wrong with confronting immodesty, IF done in the right way...as in, "i love you friend and maybe you havent thought of this, but modesty is important! For Gods honor, for us to be seen as the godly women we are, and to help our Christian brothers". Doing it in a snipey, hateful way accomplishes nothing. We dont know exactly where each person is coming from, but we can help point them in the right direction. And in the end, its the Holy Spirits job to convict🙌🏻 I think asking ourselves what our motivation is in wearing an outfit, posting in a certain way , is very revealing (pardon the pun lol)- is your motivation, to please God and draw attention to Him, or cause people to focus on and lust after our body, envy you, flaunt what you have, etc?
I agree. It's not all about the women to keep men from sin - it should be a shared respect for one another. I do feel like it's important that you mentioned even the most modest dress can still cause a man to sin - and that is completely on him to work on that. The thing that immediately came to mind is how the world can often shame women for acts of sexual violence because of what they did or did not wear. It can even be like what kind of underwear they wore that no one could see. It's very toxic and damaging to women to have this mentality - and as the church body I think we should be conscious of that too.
“I don’t know, I don’t have all the answers. I don’t know” THIS!!! You have become my favorite TH-camr to watch, listen to, and learn from. You exuberate (is that a word?) humility, humanity, and grace. The way you are so raw and real with your journey and experiences is so important for young women- and older generations as well! God does not expect perfection, but offers grace. Every time I watch your vlogs, that’s the message God reminds me and speaks into my heart. Thank you for being you!
I agree with you, everyone must be held accountable for their actions, this is not a blame game. I would like to add two things. One: that women have been especially targeted by the Christian community to be modest, because women's bodies have been by far sexualized the most. Men's apparel trends have remained the same over thousands of years: loose pants and a top. Men have always basically been modest because that's what our culture portrays and it instead uses women as objects with porn and everything. Two: we as Christians are called to call out sin out of a LOVING heart, so when you said that "the problem is not the sin", I have to disagree because we must guide these lost souls to holiness (and to jesus of course too) and if they dont listen, that's on them. It's important to talk about sin. Hate the sin, not the sinner.
@Lydia Tifuh I agree and disagree. I dont see what so wrong with saying that we must talk and think about sin 🤷♀️ so many of these modern churches only want to make people feel good, sing songs, hold hands, and uplift, which is definitely great, but the church is specifically called to have authority and uphold a certain level of standard in order to prevent its members from sinning. I dont think having authority is wrong, and one of the main ways that we can learn to submit to God and honor his glory is by recognizing where we have gone wrong, which would require addressing our weaknesses that causes us to sin
It's not all society's fault that women's bodies are sexualised. God created the female body to be very appealing to men and it should be revealed in a covenant of marriage. Men finding females bodies attractive is in their nature, so it's not so much society that made our bodies very sexual - they are sexually enticing by nature. I do agree with most of what you said, and women have a part to play in helping men not to sin with their eyes..and thoughts.
Thank you. I get tired of archaic patriarchy and misogyny being aligned with Christianity. Acknowledging societal bullshit does not align with faith. Saying, "Your ankles are obscene and encourage men to sin" is man, not God.
@@daniy8771 the same thing can be said for men though. men’s bodies are very appealing to women yet there is a difference in how society views modesty. it goes both ways.
Me too i recently gave my life to Jesus, and seeing everyone wear what i use to wear, revealing clothings, makes me go back to that lifestyle just to get attention, but i'm definitely struggling with it. But let stay strong in faith.
As a Christian, when I see these videos a lot of times I feel put down. HOWEVER, you were the perfect person to make a video like this because you came across as so humble and kind. I enjoyed hearing about your own struggle because it’s relatable. Thanks for sharing.
I feel like with age and also as a Christian my personal values have evolved. I no longer long to been looked at for my looks, so my clothing reflects that. I want people to look at me and see that I am a smart, caring, daughter of Christ. Not just a beautiful or sexy woman. I still enjoy putting effort into my outfits and appearance, but just to present myself in this way!
"stop trying to convict people, tell them to be closer to Jesus" AMEN!!!! so sorry you experienced that back lash girl! i have it all the time. The christian community likes to play judge, when its Gods love that convicts our heart and changes it NOT PEOPLE. I even was dressing modest in long dresses and head coverings and was made fun of for being "to religious" people truly are hypocrites. lol so i just focus on Jesus. and let him guide me.
Wow! You really explained this so well! I am also Christian, and I can say that I became more modest soon after I began my walk with Jesus. It never really occurred at first that being "revealing" wasn't the way I should go about my life. I would feel a tug to not wear something based on how it looked on me, but never realized the tug was actually from God telling me that trying to be "sexy/hot" for someone to admire me wasn't what I should focus on in my life. I used to wear short shorts, but eventually I learned that not only do they make me feel uncomfortable not just in church but around my family and in school, BUT it made me think differently about who I was. I would think of myself as an object or something of value, when in reality God gives us our value. Thanks for sharing your honest story! this is so important to hear! God bless, and I hope you continue to discover more on your walk with Jesus. :)
I agree fully. In my early 20's I started modeling locally and thought being a model was my identity and all the positive attention I got was uplifting. Almost every photographer offered my more money to shoot nudes and I kindly declined each time. After a couple years when I noticed my photos weren't getting as much attention and other models were becoming more popular, I became more desperate for that attention and acceptance I had before and started showing more skin and getting creative with my look. Thank God I never went full nude, but I came very close. I ended up chopping off all my long brown hair, bleaching it blonde, wearing more makeup and eventually shaving my head because my hair was so damaged. It was an insecure downward spiral. Quitting modeling was the best thing I ever did and getting back to being natural and the way God made me. I'm more confident and closer to God than I have ever been and I thank the Lord for guiding out of a terrible time that could have gotten worse.
Powerful testimony!! It is so tempting because that’s what society glorifies and we want to feel accepted and seen so we do this through our bodies. I’m glad you feel so confident now. It’s also hard when everyone around you is posting those kinds of photos. Seeking God’s approval is so different and I hope I can be better about being modest.
I command all temptation out in Jesus's name! I pray for full healing over your mind and spirit. I pray you grow closer with Jesus and He continues to transform your heart!
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be completely nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. Most clothing has nothing to do with being sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, bad character does.*
I love this! I wish the world was different... I hope my future husband is smart and not falling for all the lust happening on the internet...but there’s a big chance
Pray for your future husband in this way! God knows who he is and will hear your prayers. Your future husband will thank you for doing so when God brings you two together💯
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be completely nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. Most clothing has nothing to do with being sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, bad character does.*
In my experience, the baptism of the Holy Spirit helps us grow in holiness much quicker! Also fills us with power from on high to help transform others through deliverance, miracles, etc.
OMG I relate to this so much, I am currently a sophomore at ASU and my confidence has definitely gone down since being there. Being in an environment with people who dress that revealing and focus so much on looks and makeup, and perfection has made me feel discouraged about my body and how I look. I certainly have felt more pressured to meet some "standard" of how a college girl my age is supposed to dress and look like
Yes college is hard in that aspect... just keep thinking about how awesome it is that we have the honor of being God’s child and how cool it is that we get to please Him by being different from the world. Take pride in your modesty knowing it’s pleasing God. It will take the pressure off looking the part of a “hot college girl”. Make pleasing Him your number one priority and everything becomes so silly and unimportant. Focus on spreading the gospel and making that your mission in life. 😀
I go to ASU too! I feel the same sometimes, but I've learned that if I start focusing on the other people around me who are not fitting that mold, it makes me feel better. It's such a large school that while there are so many people dressing and acting one way, there are still many more who are not! You just have to try and shift your focus!
You’re so right that we need to love people and encourage them to draw close to God rather than tell them to stop sinning. I really struggle with not getting angry at people who dress immodestly because I try to dress modestly and when other girls are showing everything I feel like I’m comparing myself to them and it’s causing temptation for the men in my life which really upsets me! I often feel like attention is being taken away from me and put on them because they’re showing more and trying to get attention. I also feel like when I get married and my husband sees me he will have already seen so many girls practically in their underwear and I’ll be compared to all of them. This is wrong thinking and I know I can’t hold non believers accountable for the convictions I have. If they don’t have Jesus in their life how can I blame them for seeking attention from others. I wish I could simply love them and not get upset at their choices, it’s so hard! I need grace for not having grace.
Love the way you said that calling people out isn’t what changes people, a deepening relationship with Jesus is what changes people. Us as Christians need to get better at supporting people in their walk.
You are a lovely girl. It's so nice to hear your journey to modesty. I've been a Christian since very early childhood. I'm 36, a new mom, and I'm just now starting my modesty journey. The Lord is speaking to my heart and I'm hearing Him. It's a relief to watch this video and not feel alone. Thank you.
I was led to this video by the Holy Spirit.. 🙏🏼❤️ ✨ You are so right about it being a heart transformation. Becoming closer to Jesus completely changed my mind on modesty and it really became not about me anymore but about representing Christ in the best way possible! AMEN! 🙌🏼
This is probably one of the best videos I've heard on modesty from a Christian perspectives! I do feel that as the heart changes so does attire because you have less of a desire of how the world thinks of you. Also I feel as though modesty is a transformation; meaning that seeing it develop over time is greater than just switching from here to now in a spot second.
I have never seen someone approach this topic with such love and no judgement at all. I find most lessons people’s style is to condemn and judge and instead it just opened my mind to look at it at a different perspective without shame. Now I just wanna grow closer to God and ask him to convinct me and tell me the answer. Thank you for this video girl can’t wait to check out your channel! Much love💕
Finally someone taking about the part we can also play in men’s temptation, and that we are not to cause other to fall (Romans 14:13)! Thank you! Also let’s not forget in Galations 6:1 we are actually told to restore our brothers in sisters that may be caught in sin GENTLY, certainly not out of judgement but out of love (1 Corinthians 16:14) Much love to you for talking about this and your faith publicly❤️
Rena S. Thanks for your comment. I have been upset by the Super Bowl halftime show. I could not even watch to the end it was so offensive. I know of 2 other women who had to leave the room. Anyway, i have felt angry that this display was watched even by children. It belonged in a raunchy strip club. I have felt a need to lash out on social media. I need to work through my feelings to arrive at a loving response and not this angry, judgmental one.
dreams of turtles I can totally understand this. Its hard to witness the ways of a fallen world. The good news is we can ask God to help us to be patient, merciful, slow to anger like He is. We certainly can’t do it alone:)
Emphasis on HEART TRANSFORMATION!! Modesty is a journey of the HEART because that's where it starts!! I love when you said: "People telling me to not sin, doesn't make me not sin. Me becoming more like Jesus makes me not sin."
I agree with everything you said Kian. I grew up in a strong Christian home with typical Nigerian parents as such modesty in terms of dressing was my upbringing and it has stayed with me. I honestly feel more comfortable while covered. And beyond this, how I dress is my worship to God. I used to judge people who were not as modest especially Christians. This was until I came across this scripture below and my perspective has changed since. "Welcome with open arms fellow believers who don’t see things the way you do. And don’t jump all over them every time they do or say something you don’t agree with-even when it seems that they are strong on opinions but weak in the faith department. Remember, they have their own history to deal with. Treat them gently." Romans 14:1 MSG Now as a modest fashion blogger, I hope to inspire people to be more modest and know that it's possible to look stylish even while covered up. No judgment, no condemnation, just using the way I dress and my platform for God's glory. Thank you for being real with us. May God give you more grace as you continue on this journey.
I completely understand and love what you are saying. I struggled with modesty for a long time, not only is modesty about how revealing you dress it's about the attention you want from your apparel or outward appearance. I was definitely convicted about my modesty while listening to gabe the street preacher, I focus on scripture once I saw what he was saying is true I was even closer to God. There's definitely a difference between discernment and judgement, as brothers and sister in Christ we must correct each other. Matthew 7:1-5 describes taking the plank out of your eye to help your brothers and sister. Try not to get too offended when people say things, God works in mysterious ways. I always check my Bible for rebuking people..God bless you
Your video just showed while I was looking at another one. I'm not sure why I clicked but I'm glad I did! I'm a 48 yr old woman who has battled with being modest but as you went through wanting attention as well. Growing up my grandmother would always tell me to leave something to the imagination, cover up don't show your body like that rather to value it. You are such an incredible role model for both younger and older women and you have explained things really well! I can definitely see the Lord working in you.
Super late but those ladies came into the club I worked at many years ago with food and letters for us dancers. I wish I could thank them, they planted a seed in my heart that actually helped me leave that industry and return to Jesus.
I like a lot of what you said about modesty. Have you ever heard of Leah Darrow? She is a women's speaker who had a very similar experience like the stripper you were talking about. She was a model before coming to Jesus. Now she is a wife, mother, and women's speaker who shares her testimony.
VERSE touches on this>>>> Galatians (1:10): "Obviously, I'm not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ's servant." That was Paul speaking. Just know that you are a beautiful woman and I am not just saying this because of the topic of this video but your face alone is Beautiful and a gift sent from up above. Social media can really brainwash individuals and many feels the need to change themselves to please others who are trying to please others. God made you special and for that reason those who are in the dark are incapable of seeing the light because they refuse to let God guide them to the light. We are no better than those who are lost but by the grace of God.. We seek him and not the approval from those of this world. I always pray and ask God for guidance because I fall short of many things but then he reminds me... it's okay to be different and stand out like I did.
This is the first time I’ve seen one of your videos (you were on my suggested list) and I am SOOO happy that you were moved to post a video on this! I know so many people who don’t want even want to go to church because they feel that they need to be “fixed” before, but GODDDDD! You explained everything so beautifully. God bless you girl!
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, character does.*
Thank God I found a TH-camr who encouraged the viewer to live life with God❤️ I was battling the same thing right now so much trendy clothing is going on and there's a me trying my very best to avoid this. God bless you ❤️🙏
"people telling me to not sin doesn't make not sin. me becoming more like Jesus makes me not sin" i 100% feel the same way about the topic of modesty... its often approached so wrong and honestly, in weird way. like "dont cause your brothers to stumble" just makes guys look like animals who can't control themselves. the "bad examples" of modesty that people point fingers at are usually people who arent Christians or like you were just starting your walk. It is so unhelpful and honestly, hurtful a lot fo the time. my experience was the same as yours -- i wore scandy stuff for a while and posted pictures after i became a Christian, but God just changed all that by himself and i didn't even really notice it. modesty is also such a fluid topic. i remember being in church growing up and people demonizing leggings... now i think most people would consider them modest. i would say just follow the Holy Spirit and wear stuff that's comfortable to you lol anyway thank you for posting! just found your channel and your honesty is refreshing
You are the only vlogger who has not pissed me off with this topic. I practice modesty and still get harrassed daily. You spoke about dual responsibility which is sorely lacking in this polemic. Hats off. I love your energy. Thanks for making me feel better about this, really ❤
Theres a time for everything. Dont go too much to the left or to the right. The bible also says to rebuke people. As King David was when Nathan rebuked him for the sin he had committed. "Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.” I too have felt judged when confronted about things i am working through. Ive realized that those feelings of being judged and letting people down are, frankly, a personal problem. It does not have much to do with them as you may or may not know their true intentions. If your feelings of being judged and singled out are above you positioning your heart to christ and being the person he wants you to be then you also have a problem. Also, you mentioned how what you are wearing may be triggering to one person and not another. this also applies to how people rebuke. what you thought was mean or rude may have been thought of as loving from the person who wrote it. As you wisely mentioned theres a responsibility on both sides for lust and modesty. There is also a responsibility on both sides when we rebuke. As people can go overboard and be damning and unnecessarily nasty in their rebukes, people can also be weak or prideful and egotistical when receiving them. We are given a great example of this with King David. A man after Gods own heart and we see how he takes a rebuke that could have ruined him. And Nathan a prophet who obeyed God and rebuked the king in front of everyone which took a lot of courage as it may have gotten him killed were the king anyone else. Just some things to keep in mind. Ultimately I agree with your conclusion how focusing on christ(being after Gods own heart) is the way to go but to get there may require a rebuke. maybe not. Only God knows. God your will be done.
"People can also be weak or prideful and egotistical when receiving them." This is very true and the Word encourages us to just be honest, yet tender, and Proverbs 28:23 suggest not trying to sugar coat and flatter either. In the end, people appreciate honest criticism far more than flattery. Proverbs 28:23 NLT
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, character does.*
@@starhunter9085 clothing doesnt influence bad actions? Ok go walk naked down the vegas strip and see what kind of attention you get. Then walk it again dressed modestly. I promise it will be two different experiences. Yes he made us naked. But the same bible that says we were fully nude with no shame also says we're in a fallen world now and modesty is required of us. And clothing has many purposes - looking "sexy" is certainly one of them.
Thanks for the video little sis. I'm 42 years old and struggle with modesty and insecurity. I found your video to be both encouraging and relatable. GOD BLESS!!
I felt the same conviction with tight leggings so I now wear sport shorts with my leggings!! It makes me feel way more comfortable and protected so I hope this helps you a bit 💙 and it really doesn’t look bad (especially if they’re like a pair or just the same color) ☺️
sweetieboo991 that’s what I ended up doing realized maybe leggings weren’t that best but the jacket around my waist covers what needs to be covered so that I can still have the comfyness of leggings while working out but with the covering I felt I needed
We are allowed to judge fellow believers. It’s the Bible. We aren’t supposed to judge the world. However, how we judge is key. How we say what is not right is important. Truth in love
I used to dress to get attention from guys. Not too long ago God put it on my heart that by dressing to accentuate my body I could cause someone to stumble. I have started dressing more modestly
You are amazing!!! 💖 Everything about this is so good. Falling in love with Jesus is the most important thing!! My husband & I are youth pastors and this is something we teach our leaders often. We aren’t here to call out peoples sin, we’re here to point them to Jesus. Obviously there’s a different level of accountability if someone is in leadership, but even still approaching them in grace & Truth. Modesty is such a touchy subject for me because I have had people call me out & shame me sooooo often (esp church people). #pastorskid Keep being you & chasing Jesus! You gained a follower in me today✨
Hi Kian! Thank you for this video. I just wanted to share this, and I would be very grateful if anyone would like to pray for me regarding this. So I grew up in a Christian household, and I’ll never stop wanting to grow my relationship with Christ and become more like him. The thing is i did the same thing you did as well, posted bikini pictures. I didn’t think about it as to bad at first, but after a while I realized that Christians started to unfollow me on Instagram. And recently I’ve been struggling, and I mean really been struggling with so much shame and bitterness about these photos. And I wish I’d known better. I feel like my mind is being completely attacked with shame. Shame because these brothers in Christ felt that they couldn’t follow me anymore, shame that these pictures were on my page for basically everyone to see, and just this constant pressure to not post anything that would seem not very Christian, I guess you could say. I just wish that I can look forward instead of looking back on something that I can’t control. I know I’m forgiven and I haven’t posted anything similar since.. but I don’t know it’s really hard. I would be grateful if you could just pray with me for peace of mind. God bless you everyone ❤️
Don’t feel tied down by shame!!! You’ve moved forward and Jesus does not remember that’s all that matters 💛 i had bikini photos up and took them all down as well and with some other partying photos.
I love you honesty and transparency! Girl I’m so much like you that I love the movement to be body confident because im so insecure and try to find my worth in others, but finding out worth in God. I love this video and your attitude❤️
“People telling me not to sin doesn’t make me not wanna sin, getting closer to Jesus will” YESSSSS YES!!!!!! Couldn’t agree more love. Thank you for being so honest and open about your experience!!!! And thank you for speaking about taking responsibilities for how we present ourselves and putting ourselves in men’ shoes.
Kian, this is SO refreshing to watch! Such a great reminder that these things come naturally as we draw closer to Jesus, and not to focus on sin, but Jesus! Of course!!
sis, you did so good! Inspired me and said exactly what needed to be said! You still managed to make it inspiring and comical while sharing straight truth! I love you and would love meet you one day!❤️
I have to say I LOVE how open and honest you are which is quite rare for Christians... lets be honest. They're afraid of judgment and criticism as you explained in your taken-down bikini video. It really makes me mad. So many people don't give a second chance coming to Christ because of the sheer amount of holier-than-thou attitude some Christians have... Who are you to judge? Are you God? Christ talked about grace, love, and looking at yourself instead of judging. No wonder in the Bible it says "For it is time for judgment to begin at the household of God..." (1 Peter 4:17). I wonder how the world would be like if Christians actually showed this type of grace and love instead of making little clubs to sneer at others.
I’m a size 5/6 and I use to be a 3 for a very long time. And I’ve always HATED wearing a swim suit. I hate it so much. Even till this day. I hate it!!!! I love the beach. But I dread going to places and events that includes water :( and I also hate that people are saying “with your size you shouldn’t be bothered” and it makes me so angry! Like why does that matter? How does that have anything to do with me not wanting to be exposed.
This video is beautiful. You explained everything so elegantly and spoke via scripture. You spoke 100% the truth. Convicting and pointing fingers is something that sadly many Christians are experts in. And it makes others not want to follow Christ. It makes me SAD to know that so many people say "yeah, Jesus is cool, but I can't do the 'Christian thing' because of His followers." LIKE??? THAT SUCKS. That means we are not following Jesus's example. And what many people doesn't understand is that not even CHRIST judges us. When He has every right to do so because He died for us on the cross. Instead, he shows us so much Love hoping and trusting (characteristics of Love found in 1 Corinthians 13:4) that we'll come to Him and reaLLY want to please him through obedience and faith. But I also have a gentle concern/question. My parents have also raised me in the instruction of the Lord and they've always told me to guard my eyes and my ears and my mouth as well as my heart for obvious reasons. I agree it VERY important for us to go out and be fisher of men as Jesus told Simon Peter to do. But there's just something disquieting my spirit about the ministry that is going into strip clubs. Again, I'm not convicting them and it is NOT my place to judge at ALL but as a fellow sister in Christ I'm worried about the territory that they are trudging firstly and then the fact that their eyes are seeing these things and I absolutely cannot ignore the fact that what we look at /does/ affect us. Yes, we may go in the name of Jesus, but from my knowledge, the Lord is Sovereign and Holy and he has no business being in a place like that. It just wouldn't make sense. Even when Jesus was on the cross, the Lord turned His face away because he could not be in the presence of unholiness. Yes, Jesus loves these strippers. He loves all of us regardless of our equality in sin, but I'm afraid for my brothers and sister not guarding their eye gates, or ear gates for that matter :'( but I guess that doesn't matter?? Since the Lord is the only one that knows our hearts? I don't know :'v my spirit is just a little discomforted by the setting and stepping so deep into it. But anyway, thank you so much for this video Kian
Ok, as a dude- it is really difficult sometimes and sometimes it is not difficult- but all the time the Holy Spirit guides me into wisdom which is cool- but lets just say for us dudes.... sometimes it is easier to listen to him than not, and yeah especially when i see something on insta that isnt very modest it used hurt me a lot (in a spiritual sense), but now after getting into the Word so much... I have been great! Limiting the sources where there is even a possibility for non-modest posts tho haha
Great video girl! 🙏🏻 one way God worked on me is when He showed me how much I need to represent Him even the way I dress like are non believers really going to see God in me or are they going to see the world. If it’s the latter, God can change our hearts and mentality to give us conviction in areas of our lives that we need it if we just pray. “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.”- Proverbs 31:25 💕
Omg, I just found your channel through this video and omg I LOVE how HONEST you are. This is what I aspire to do for others as well. Thank you for being vulnerable.
You are such an honorable young woman. I see so many women who are friends of mine posting pics of themselves that show so much of their bodies, and as another woman it causes me to disrespect them. I am not judging, but if you have a boyfriend or husband, doing this just demonstrates that you don’t respect your partner and you don’t respect the husbands/boyfriends of your friends either. We have become such a “self” motivated society, and social media has definitely contributed to this. I am so glad you are sharing this knowledge with women. It is great!
Thank you so much for this video❤️. Really liked your take on conviction through the Holy Spirit; not by man, especially on the topic of modesty. I'm gonna be honest and say that I have been judgemental in the past, but God has been and continues to be working in me, so that I become less legalistic about these things. XOXO
-for when u were talking about the movements and stuff- what came to my mind was that we are called to love one another, so we are to consider other’s struggles and triggers which means to be modest, etc.💗
Thank you Jesus for using Kian. I definitely needed this! Watching this at 1am. It's a CLEAR message. Imma show my mama this video ♥️♥️♥️ THANK YOU AMEN AMEN AMEN
I’ve learned a lot from watching your videos. The way you talk about how processes of conviction have organically evolved for you and can’t be brought about by condemnation from others has really helped me. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing this with so much love & without judgement. I'm grateful this was the first video I watched today that popped up on this topic. Thank you & be blessed always
Thank you for this video. This has been something that’s been on the forefront of my mind as a Christian, teenage girl. It’s hard to take the judgements and harsh comments from older adults, even if I know they have a point. Thank you for speaking straight to my heart in a way that’s easier to receive. Love you! ❤️❤️
“Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised.”
Proverbs 31:30
Luke Sessions
What does this mean?
I don’t get it...
Apple Apple women who obey and follow God are attractive and stand out from regular girls
Amen
@@TheAuburngolf yuck
Matt The Cat I’m in CA and I agree, although I know CA is particularly immodest lol. As a woman who would dress very immodestly when I was a teenager and college student, I always felt self conscious dressing modestly around women who wore outfits that flaunted their bodies, bc they got a lot of attention and praise for it. So I think even the women that want to be modest feel pressured not to, since even (some) Christian men will react more positively to the woman wearing less. Even though I dress modestly now I still feel a bit jealous at times. I know it’s not right to feel that way though!
I’m a very modest person. My mom literally has to convince me to wear a bathing suit to go swimming. But I know I am not modest because of my values, I am modest because I am self conscious about my body. I am realizing I need to stop working out so that “one day I can be pretty enough to wear that dress” but instead to work out to honour the body that Jesus gave for me
Yesssssssssss Amen!!!!!!
❤ its the only truth ❤
Don't ever let anyone, I repeat, ANYONE tell you your modesty isn't precious or that your sanctity makes you lesser. Protect the jewel, sweet little sisters.
wow amen!
@@BreaktheKarmicWheel Yeah, modesty is a good thing, but it is not good to hide your body completely just because you think it's ugly. This is not good!! You should be comfortable and LOVE your body... And then being modest, because you want to stress your face that reveals the light of God.
Biblically, the Holy Spirit convicts people, not people convicting others. Christ’s conviction leads to true change. As christians, our call is to spread the good news, love of Jesus, not guilt/condemn people and encourage others towards Christ. Sooooo let’s not play the act of the Holy Spirit. The most we can do is love like Christ✌🏽
AMEN
Amen.
Tamar but sometimes a person might not be convicted because he/she is desensitized , so you must be deliberate when making choices rather than going by “being convicted”. Because we see so many Christians becoming more secular because of social media & not being convicted because they are used to it. including me!
Yep!
The Holy Spirit uses people also to warn others.
I love CS Lewis’ thoughts on modesty. He says Chastity is the moral virtue and modesty is a social standard. I’ve had such conflicting opinions given to me on outfits I have worn and I’ve always struggled with this issue (as other people around me have different opinions). And Lewis made me understand it in a different light. A Victorian woman in full dress could be considered unchaste (sexual immoral) and a woman in the pacific islands wearing little could be considered very chaste. Don’t get me wrong, I believe we should reflect God in how we dress, like everything else. But I don’t believe it’s that clear cut. Women’s bodies have been overly sexualised, within the west especially. Focus on God and turn from sin. Sin being here unchastity.
Is this in a specific book? If so what is it called?
Kerry Ann books.google.com/books?id=JaC0_Yvffr0C&pg=PA83&lpg=PA83&dq=chastity+is+a+virtue+modesty+is+a+social+standard&source=bl&ots=wGbnZM_6QV&sig=ACfU3U0ToO7O1VU6_Mb_QvNSZooPL9TcJA&hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwj2t9mM7fXpAhWWK80KHRsRCAgQ6AEwDHoECAUQAQ#v=onepage&q=chastity%20is%20a%20virtue%20modesty%20is%20a%20social%20standard&f=false
Exactly!!! My personal view on modesty has always been not in the garments that one chooses to wear but in the intent behind the choice.
Kerry Ann Mere Christianity is one of his books that explains this! 🙌🏼
@@kayseacamp Most sinful acts (transgressions), if not all, start as heart issues (iniquities). But one thing GOD has revealed to me is if we have the Fear of the LORD, then a lot of people will instantly stop wearing a lot of clothes seen as normal or a grey area. There's a reason why people, including Christians who haven't gotten a deeper Revelation of GOD yet, wear more revealing clothes outside a service or church gathering, but not during. Truly think to yourself, would GOD approve of my clothing, even if it's just a 'little' peak of my boobs when I bend?
GOD said we must lead no one to sin, and when we really start to love everyone as siblings, this Godly Compassion (from The HOLY SPIRIT) for not seeing them waver, get tempted, or fall to sin will really transform our minds. We will start to cover up more, even if it is to the beach because we care for not just people's eyes or opinions, but deeply for their Salvation and souls.
Luke 17: 1-4
And HE said to HIS disciples, "Temptations to sin are sure to come, but woe to the one through whom they come!
It would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck and he were cast into the sea than that he should cause one of these little ones to sin.
Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him.
And if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying 'I repent', you must forgive him."
What really breaks my heart is seeing how young girls are posting revealing pictures, under the pretext of body confidence and women liberation, but in reality it just seems it's all for the likes and comments....
Seeing nasty comments from guys on these girls posts really breaks my heart :(
and they are there forever for your future husband and kids to see; which they more than likely will.
Shut up
Yeah these men need to stop obsessing over a woman's body and obsess with Christ
I get the creepy men thing but isn't their body I get it there is a boundary but its still their body
Unfortunately 😪
This video helped me a lot to cleanout my closet. I always held on to my sexier clothing because I didn't want to give up that part of my identity. Before I became a christian I wanted to be desired by men. Now I want to be desired by God.🙏🏼🌻😌
So beautiful 💕 keep it up!🥰
me too! i cleaned out 23 of my dresses this morning, but it was hard.. i agree totally with this young lady, that it is the work of the holy spirit to convict, rather than other people pointing it out. i have been in torment about this issue, when i dont think that is how our Lord works..
amen! I feel the exact same way, I've been holding on to some revealing clothes too. Now is the best time to run into God's open arms
god is a man lmao
I feel ya it was exactly the same for me ...I was tired that people called me.tom boys and I wanted deseperatly to be attractive to man...but to attract a man of God, we should be woman of God! And woman of God dressed descently! #TeamModesty
Lovely video. It’s actually really simple. Men and women in Christ have a responsibility to obey the commands, because we love Jesus. As a saved women I should dress modestly and honor my body as a temple of God. As a man I should not look at a woman in lust. Sometimes we want our bread buttered on both sides.. when we say yes to Jesus, we HAVE to start choosing - the sooner the better.
Amen! And Amen Again!
Love this!! 👏🙌
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be completely nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. Most clothing has nothing to do with being sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, bad character does.*
@Gerna Van Rooyen Very well said. As Christians, we have to respect the beauty of our body that God created by covering them up. And God had to ordain marriage to help us deal with our sexual sin. For as long as we are in the view of the public, we cover up our naked body to respect God’s creation. Our nakedness is sacred and it should only be shared with our spouse in a marriage. And having been in the covenant of marriage, it is our duty to exercise discipline and not look at others in lust. The sacred covenant of marriage was created for husband and wife so that they have someone to look at whenever there is that sexual desire in them. God has designed it to be between husband and wife and not with a third party in between.
@@kennethfok *It always seemed odd to me how you could be "respecting" God's creation by hiding it when God created His world to be openly and proudly displayed. That's why He had Adam and Eve shameless about their nudity in the garden. We actually cover ourselves because we're ashamed of His creation and think we're abominable when it's actually the opposite. Furthermore, it seems to me that you have the same mentality as every other Christian being that nudity is sexual when it actually has nothing to do with sexuality. It's only our ignorance that makes it sexual. Showing your body is not a sin, it's a virtue, if you think something is beautiful, you don't hide it, you flaunt it.*
“Would I be comfortable with their husband’s seeing it”👀 Instantly just deleted at least 5 pics from my Instagram. Thank you🙏🏾
There's difference between beauty and sensuality.
so powerful. I heard that and my eyes got so big and just said to myself that I have some deleting to do
Honestly I get that as Christians most feel like they have to be modest and to some extent I believe that is true but a married man looking at another woman other than his wife in a sexual way is the sin of the married man and not you.
@@LilibethJ That’s true, I agree. At the same time it makes me question what’s in a man or a woman’s heart if they are comfortable with displaying themselves in a sexy way?
Get Your Wig Straight yeah I see what you’re saying but like Kian said it’s really hard especially with this feminist/ free your body type of movement because I agree with that too but we are not to judge anybody because we are not God and everyone will receive their own convictions from God on their own time and journey.
Girl!! Yes!!
No one is going to feel convicted to change a behavior until they know Jesus. The more you know and love Jesus the more you will become like Him!
This comment ❤️❤️
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be completely nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. Most clothing has nothing to do with being sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, bad character does.*
I feel like modesty is also a personal conviction thing. Like some people's conviction is not wearing pants while others is not wearing bikinis
True
What God considers nakedness is clearly spelled out in the Bible: Exodus 28:42 - And thou shalt make them linen breeches to cover their nakedness; from the loins even unto the thighs they shall reach... so basically if you are showing anything from waist to above the knee you are naked in God’s eyes, so no, it’s not a personal conviction, it’s a law that God expects us to keep, and He is gracious and if we are seeking him He will teach us all these things
@@wendymtzc no one is talking about being naked. My conviction is God's commandment to me alone.
niematan solamenteazucaralgunofanculo what I was trying to show is that there are clear laws from God regarding clothing, his laws apply to everybody and while conviction is a work of the Holy Ghost it doesn’t mean that just because we don’t feel convicted we are right in the sight of God... maybe we are not allowing the Holy Spirit to work on us or we are just not saved...
Why are you so butt hurt? Nothing wrong at all with what Wendy has said.
I love how honest and raw and practical this video is.
Same!
God has done the same thing with me I've become more modest as I continued to get closer to Him and did more research on modesty. I went to extremes with it. It became an idol at one point, I was wearing a head covering for a period of time. I came to realize that the way we dress should be different enough for people to notice but not so different that we isolate ourselves. When choosing clothes now I ask myself these questions:
Is it healthy? (can I breath and move around in this comfortably (this includes shoes)
Does it fit properly? (will I have to fidget or adjust anything)
Can I bend over? (without exposing chest or bum)
Do I feel pretty/confident?
So glad you testified to this!!!! I’ve seen so many women push this - Thankyou girl! Amen to it all
As a Christian their should be growth. This includes your wardrobe and how one presents yourself. Ask yourself the question am I glorifying Jesus Christ with this outfit, or am I looking for glory for myself. Our culture worships women and we don’t need to encourage that behavior. God wants us to be holy and He won’t leave us alone in our spiritual growth. If their is no progress in the things of godliness, it’s best to examine your heart and see if you are truly in the faith. Eternity is forever, beauty is for a moment.
Woman at the Well this is good!
@Woman at the Well - well said. We can’t go wrong if what we are doing is all for the glory of God
Amen amen !
Amen and Amen.
True that!! Amen
wow this was suprisingly refreshing and wise. I'm also sick of people aiming modesty talks at females as if its only a female's responsibility. Females deal with lust too. If a female can look at a shirtless guy at the beach and think, "that's his body. between him and God" and take responsibility for her thoughts, males should try harder too. and I really love how you point out encourage the person to get closer to Christ and that telling a stranger on the internet, they are causing you to sin doesn't make sense.
Justice Stanford sounds like a hypocrite wtf? Which bible is she reading?
The big thing here is that men and women's brains are different! Can a girl get turned on by the sight of a guy? Yes. Is it the same/normal as a male? NO.
Women like to be "wined and dined", spoiled with gifts, time, and attention.
Now, I believe men should always be wearing a shirt, unless swimming or something. They need to keep a level of modesty and decency as well!
@@SellyNue THIS IS NOT TRUE. RESEARCH SHOWS THIS IS NOT TRUE. pls stop
@@tinbitberhanu8125 what research? please give me sources.
That's the sad thing about this faith, people are turning away from God because men have penciled their agenda in and said, "This is what God wants". So it's acceptable for men to go around topless, but not women? And if a man degrades a woman, it's her fault but not his? I don't think that sounds like Jesus. I get sick of people co-opting Christianity and pushing a narrative that exists to benefit them.
I agree with almost everything but I do believe your Christian community church should be pointing out your sins in a loving and truthful way. It helps you be self aware and they can still encourage you to go to Jesus.
thestaceofspade only if they have a real relationship with her. The only way she would ever take seriously chastisement is if it’s coming from someone she knows and respects them.
@@IamNOTyourconscious most definitely
Not always true. I had a lady comment and shame me that my very modest outfit was "inappropriate" when I was 15 at church. It was honestly traumatizing and I never forgot. I started avoiding church for a while after that.
Emily yes... those types of things are very unfortunate. It’s times like that when we have to realize that just because they are in church doesn’t mean they know how to act like Jesus. And forgive them... which is NOT easy to do. I think forgiving is probably the hardest thing I have ever tried to do😬🤦🏻♀️
its about holding your friends accountBLE BUT NOT POINTING out everything they do, you are suppose to lead by example not be a judgement on their life. its not your job. its GODS!
1 Timothy 2:9, NIV: "I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes," ----- This verse is about how men and women should dress in church/ christian worship/ church gatherings. We have to read in context cause it’s also about men too. During that time in the bible , Paul was talking about men and women who show off their status at church. When we are going to church we shouldn’t be bringing attention to how we are dressed and our appearance. It’s a time to worship God not prom or a banquet. Lol i hope that put someone at ease for what that scripture means. Be filled with the Holy Spirit and use discernment. Love your videos Kian, God Bless !
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, character does.*
Also, God didn’t make nakedness a sin... we did🤷🏻♀️ it’s a heart problem not a body problem. And you don’t have to have it all figured out. You’re figuring it out just the way the Holy Spirit that resides inside of you intends. If he perfected us all at once we would just poof into Heaven😬 we won’t be perfected until we see the face of Jesus
So good! Thanks for sharing Lori
When Adam and Eve realized they were naked they did feel ashamed...
Roberta Mbennah only after they ate of the tree that God told them not to eat of... and therefore sinned. So that sin caused them to feel ashamed... until then they were perfect in Gods sight and naked.
then the Lord God formed the man of dust from the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living creature. And the Lord God planted a garden in Eden, in the east, and there he put the man whom he had formed. And out of the ground the Lord God made to spring up every tree that is pleasant to the sight and good for food. The tree of life was in the midst of the garden, and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. A river flowed out of Eden to water the garden, and there it divided and became four rivers. The name of the first is the Pishon. It is the one that flowed around the whole land of Havilah, where there is gold. And the gold of that land is good; bdellium and onyx stone are there. The name of the second river is the Gihon. It is the one that flowed around the whole land of Cush. And the name of the third river is the Tigris, which flows east of Assyria. And the fourth river is the Euphrates. The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it. And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, “You may surely eat of every tree of the garden, but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.” Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat of the fruit of the trees in the garden, but God said, ‘You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it, lest you die.’” But the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths.
Genesis 2:7-3:7
EXACTLY! If God made me, then why is any part of me obscene?
You are such a good example of kindness, love, and understanding. 💛 A quote that helps me with these kinds of issues is: "It is the Holy Spirit's job to convict, God's job to judge, and my job to love.” (Billy Graham)
that is so true christians absue others when they say it's their job to point out sin no that's not unconditional love at all
I think theres nothing wrong with confronting immodesty, IF done in the right way...as in, "i love you friend and maybe you havent thought of this, but modesty is important! For Gods honor, for us to be seen as the godly women we are, and to help our Christian brothers". Doing it in a snipey, hateful way accomplishes nothing. We dont know exactly where each person is coming from, but we can help point them in the right direction. And in the end, its the Holy Spirits job to convict🙌🏻
I think asking ourselves what our motivation is in wearing an outfit, posting in a certain way , is very revealing (pardon the pun lol)- is your motivation, to please God and draw attention to Him, or cause people to focus on and lust after our body, envy you, flaunt what you have, etc?
I agree. It's not all about the women to keep men from sin - it should be a shared respect for one another.
I do feel like it's important that you mentioned even the most modest dress can still cause a man to sin - and that is completely on him to work on that. The thing that immediately came to mind is how the world can often shame women for acts of sexual violence because of what they did or did not wear. It can even be like what kind of underwear they wore that no one could see. It's very toxic and damaging to women to have this mentality - and as the church body I think we should be conscious of that too.
“I don’t know, I don’t have all the answers. I don’t know” THIS!!! You have become my favorite TH-camr to watch, listen to, and learn from. You exuberate (is that a word?) humility, humanity, and grace. The way you are so raw and real with your journey and experiences is so important for young women- and older generations as well! God does not expect perfection, but offers grace. Every time I watch your vlogs, that’s the message God reminds me and speaks into my heart.
Thank you for being you!
I agree, she does.
I agree with you, everyone must be held accountable for their actions, this is not a blame game. I would like to add two things. One: that women have been especially targeted by the Christian community to be modest, because women's bodies have been by far sexualized the most. Men's apparel trends have remained the same over thousands of years: loose pants and a top. Men have always basically been modest because that's what our culture portrays and it instead uses women as objects with porn and everything. Two: we as Christians are called to call out sin out of a LOVING heart, so when you said that "the problem is not the sin", I have to disagree because we must guide these lost souls to holiness (and to jesus of course too) and if they dont listen, that's on them. It's important to talk about sin. Hate the sin, not the sinner.
@Lydia Tifuh I agree and disagree. I dont see what so wrong with saying that we must talk and think about sin 🤷♀️ so many of these modern churches only want to make people feel good, sing songs, hold hands, and uplift, which is definitely great, but the church is specifically called to have authority and uphold a certain level of standard in order to prevent its members from sinning. I dont think having authority is wrong, and one of the main ways that we can learn to submit to God and honor his glory is by recognizing where we have gone wrong, which would require addressing our weaknesses that causes us to sin
Well said! ❤️🙏🏼
It's not all society's fault that women's bodies are sexualised. God created the female body to be very appealing to men and it should be revealed in a covenant of marriage. Men finding females bodies attractive is in their nature, so it's not so much society that made our bodies very sexual - they are sexually enticing by nature. I do agree with most of what you said, and women have a part to play in helping men not to sin with their eyes..and thoughts.
Thank you. I get tired of archaic patriarchy and misogyny being aligned with Christianity. Acknowledging societal bullshit does not align with faith. Saying, "Your ankles are obscene and encourage men to sin" is man, not God.
@@daniy8771 the same thing can be said for men though. men’s bodies are very appealing to women yet there is a difference in how society views modesty. it goes both ways.
Modesty is something I’ve definitely been struggling with especially as a teenager in the age of social media. Thank you this video helped a lot.
the internet never forgets.
Me too i recently gave my life to Jesus, and seeing everyone wear what i use to wear, revealing clothings, makes me go back to that lifestyle just to get attention, but i'm definitely struggling with it. But let stay strong in faith.
@@dinolyin1599 yeah, I’m in the same situation.
you can do it.I have given up on immodesty
God bless you all
As a Christian, when I see these videos a lot of times I feel put down. HOWEVER, you were the perfect person to make a video like this because you came across as so humble and kind. I enjoyed hearing about your own struggle because it’s relatable. Thanks for sharing.
It’s easier in winter 😅
I feel like with age and also as a Christian my personal values have evolved. I no longer long to been looked at for my looks, so my clothing reflects that. I want people to look at me and see that I am a smart, caring, daughter of Christ. Not just a beautiful or sexy woman. I still enjoy putting effort into my outfits and appearance, but just to present myself in this way!
Being beautiful or sexy isn't a sin. A you can still look beautiful in modest clothes
"stop trying to convict people, tell them to be closer to Jesus" AMEN!!!! so sorry you experienced that back lash girl! i have it all the time. The christian community likes to play judge, when its Gods love that convicts our heart and changes it NOT PEOPLE. I even was dressing modest in long dresses and head coverings and was made fun of for being "to religious" people truly are hypocrites. lol so i just focus on Jesus. and let him guide me.
Wow! You really explained this so well! I am also Christian, and I can say that I became more modest soon after I began my walk with Jesus. It never really occurred at first that being "revealing" wasn't the way I should go about my life. I would feel a tug to not wear something based on how it looked on me, but never realized the tug was actually from God telling me that trying to be "sexy/hot" for someone to admire me wasn't what I should focus on in my life.
I used to wear short shorts, but eventually I learned that not only do they make me feel uncomfortable not just in church but around my family and in school, BUT it made me think differently about who I was. I would think of myself as an object or something of value, when in reality God gives us our value.
Thanks for sharing your honest story! this is so important to hear! God bless, and I hope you continue to discover more on your walk with Jesus. :)
I agree fully. In my early 20's I started modeling locally and thought being a model was my identity and all the positive attention I got was uplifting. Almost every photographer offered my more money to shoot nudes and I kindly declined each time. After a couple years when I noticed my photos weren't getting as much attention and other models were becoming more popular, I became more desperate for that attention and acceptance I had before and started showing more skin and getting creative with my look. Thank God I never went full nude, but I came very close. I ended up chopping off all my long brown hair, bleaching it blonde, wearing more makeup and eventually shaving my head because my hair was so damaged. It was an insecure downward spiral. Quitting modeling was the best thing I ever did and getting back to being natural and the way God made me. I'm more confident and closer to God than I have ever been and I thank the Lord for guiding out of a terrible time that could have gotten worse.
Powerful testimony!! It is so tempting because that’s what society glorifies and we want to feel accepted and seen so we do this through our bodies. I’m glad you feel so confident now. It’s also hard when everyone around you is posting those kinds of photos. Seeking God’s approval is so different and I hope I can be better about being modest.
Thank you for this. Its a struggle and i hate it. I wish temptation would just go away and never come back.
I command all temptation out in Jesus's name! I pray for full healing over your mind and spirit. I pray you grow closer with Jesus and He continues to transform your heart!
Thanks for the prayer.
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be completely nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. Most clothing has nothing to do with being sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, bad character does.*
I love this! I wish the world was different... I hope my future husband is smart and not falling for all the lust happening on the internet...but there’s a big chance
Pray for your future husband in this way! God knows who he is and will hear your prayers. Your future husband will thank you for doing so when God brings you two together💯
Amen
This right here. I pray my husband doesn’t fall for this at all. It’s sad most men will fall for these things.
I’m a single woman of God who doesn’t have any social media and I pray my future husband doesn’t have any social media either 🙏🏼💙🙌🏼
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be completely nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. Most clothing has nothing to do with being sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, bad character does.*
I do a similar thing! I think “would i be comfortable with my boyfriend or husband seeing another girl dress like i am?”
In my experience, the baptism of the Holy Spirit helps us grow in holiness much quicker! Also fills us with power from on high to help transform others through deliverance, miracles, etc.
Your gentle Christ centered videos are going to bring a lot of resistant hearts to back to God, keep doing what you do. ❤️
The amount of wisdom you have at such a young age is admirable! 🙌🏼
I'm sorry people commented mean comments kian....that was not ok
It's okay! If it didn't happen I wouldn't have gotten all this revelation on how to handle this topic ☺️
OMG I relate to this so much, I am currently a sophomore at ASU and my confidence has definitely gone down since being there. Being in an environment with people who dress that revealing and focus so much on looks and makeup, and perfection has made me feel discouraged about my body and how I look. I certainly have felt more pressured to meet some "standard" of how a college girl my age is supposed to dress and look like
Yes college is hard in that aspect... just keep thinking about how awesome it is that we have the honor of being God’s child and how cool it is that we get to please Him by being different from the world. Take pride in your modesty knowing it’s pleasing God. It will take the pressure off looking the part of a “hot college girl”. Make pleasing Him your number one priority and everything becomes so silly and unimportant. Focus on spreading the gospel and making that your mission in life. 😀
I go to ASU too! I feel the same sometimes, but I've learned that if I start focusing on the other people around me who are not fitting that mold, it makes me feel better. It's such a large school that while there are so many people dressing and acting one way, there are still many more who are not! You just have to try and shift your focus!
Stand firm sister 💖
You’re so right that we need to love people and encourage them to draw close to God rather than tell them to stop sinning. I really struggle with not getting angry at people who dress immodestly because I try to dress modestly and when other girls are showing everything I feel like I’m comparing myself to them and it’s causing temptation for the men in my life which really upsets me! I often feel like attention is being taken away from me and put on them because they’re showing more and trying to get attention. I also feel like when I get married and my husband sees me he will have already seen so many girls practically in their underwear and I’ll be compared to all of them.
This is wrong thinking and I know I can’t hold non believers accountable for the convictions I have. If they don’t have Jesus in their life how can I blame them for seeking attention from others. I wish I could simply love them and not get upset at their choices, it’s so hard! I need grace for not having grace.
Love the way you said that calling people out isn’t what changes people, a deepening relationship with Jesus is what changes people. Us as Christians need to get better at supporting people in their walk.
“Me becoming more like Jesus, makes me not sin”
Girl, that’s really good!
You are so awkwardly authentic, Kyan. I love it!
How is it awkward to be authentic? 🤔
You are a lovely girl. It's so nice to hear your journey to modesty. I've been a Christian since very early childhood. I'm 36, a new mom, and I'm just now starting my modesty journey. The Lord is speaking to my heart and I'm hearing Him. It's a relief to watch this video and not feel alone. Thank you.
I was led to this video by the Holy Spirit.. 🙏🏼❤️ ✨ You are so right about it being a heart transformation. Becoming closer to Jesus completely changed my mind on modesty and it really became not about me anymore but about representing Christ in the best way possible! AMEN! 🙌🏼
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This is probably one of the best videos I've heard on modesty from a Christian perspectives! I do feel that as the heart changes so does attire because you have less of a desire of how the world thinks of you. Also I feel as though modesty is a transformation; meaning that seeing it develop over time is greater than just switching from here to now in a spot second.
agreed ❤️❤️❤️
Kian I love how real and authentic you are! Also your hair looks so cute like this 😊
I have never seen someone approach this topic with such love and no judgement at all. I find most lessons people’s style is to condemn and judge and instead it just opened my mind to look at it at a different perspective without shame. Now I just wanna grow closer to God and ask him to convinct me and tell me the answer. Thank you for this video girl can’t wait to check out your channel! Much love💕
Finally someone taking about the part we can also play in men’s temptation, and that we are not to cause other to fall (Romans 14:13)! Thank you! Also let’s not forget in Galations 6:1 we are actually told to restore our brothers in sisters that may be caught in sin GENTLY, certainly not out of judgement but out of love (1 Corinthians 16:14) Much love to you for talking about this and your faith publicly❤️
Rena S. Truth!
Rena S. Thanks for your comment. I have been upset by the Super Bowl halftime show. I could not even watch to the end it was so offensive. I know of 2 other women who had to leave the room. Anyway, i have felt angry that this display was watched even by children. It belonged in a raunchy strip club. I have felt a need to lash out on social media. I need to work through my feelings to arrive at a loving response and not this angry, judgmental one.
dreams of turtles I can totally understand this. Its hard to witness the ways of a fallen world. The good news is we can ask God to help us to be patient, merciful, slow to anger like He is. We certainly can’t do it alone:)
@@dreamsofturtles1828 You really need to work on your anger man.. Sounds kind of scary and toxic.
@@GirlDo3 really? Doesnt sound scary at all to me. It's a righteous anger.
I hope to see Kian, Sarah Therese, Milena Ciciotti, Mrs. Midwest, Jess Conte, Morgan of Paul and Morgan, Tori Masters, Maya Lee in one videoooooooooo!
Ady Juamy yess love Mrs. Midwest
Ady Juamy I only know Milena, Maya, and Caitlyn but that would be cool nonetheless
Aye thanks for the comment I watch some of these now I got more youtubers to check out
YES!!
Ady Juamy yessss
“I stand between two eternities, I must fall into one or the other”
Emphasis on HEART TRANSFORMATION!! Modesty is a journey of the HEART because that's where it starts!! I love when you said: "People telling me to not sin, doesn't make me not sin. Me becoming more like Jesus makes me not sin."
"It's us coming together to support one another" OMG PREACH! I love the way you put that.
I agree with everything you said Kian. I grew up in a strong Christian home with typical Nigerian parents as such modesty in terms of dressing was my upbringing and it has stayed with me. I honestly feel more comfortable while covered. And beyond this, how I dress is my worship to God. I used to judge people who were not as modest especially Christians. This was until I came across this scripture below and my perspective has changed since.
"Welcome with open arms fellow believers who don’t see things the way you do. And don’t jump all over them every time they do or say something you don’t agree with-even when it seems that they are strong on opinions but weak in the faith department. Remember, they have their own history to deal with. Treat them gently."
Romans 14:1 MSG
Now as a modest fashion blogger, I hope to inspire people to be more modest and know that it's possible to look stylish even while covered up. No judgment, no condemnation, just using the way I dress and my platform for God's glory.
Thank you for being real with us. May God give you more grace as you continue on this journey.
The Message Bible is easily one of the worse translations
You've encouraged me so much to become stronger in my faith 🙏 and empower myself by being modest
I completely understand and love what you are saying. I struggled with modesty for a long time, not only is modesty about how revealing you dress it's about the attention you want from your apparel or outward appearance. I was definitely convicted about my modesty while listening to gabe the street preacher, I focus on scripture once I saw what he was saying is true I was even closer to God. There's definitely a difference between discernment and judgement, as brothers and sister in Christ we must correct each other. Matthew 7:1-5 describes taking the plank out of your eye to help your brothers and sister. Try not to get too offended when people say things, God works in mysterious ways. I always check my Bible for rebuking people..God bless you
Kian I really love how you emphasize that holy desires come directly from our relationship with Jesus💗
Your video just showed while I was looking at another one. I'm not sure why I clicked but I'm glad I did! I'm a 48 yr old woman who has battled with being modest but as you went through wanting attention as well. Growing up my grandmother would always tell me to leave something to the imagination, cover up don't show your body like that rather to value it. You are such an incredible role model for both younger and older women and you have explained things really well! I can definitely see the Lord working in you.
i love the way you are so open and vulnerable about your past. it's really nice to see that Jesus can turn everything around! Bless you babe x
Super late but those ladies came into the club I worked at many years ago with food and letters for us dancers. I wish I could thank them, they planted a seed in my heart that actually helped me leave that industry and return to Jesus.
I like a lot of what you said about modesty. Have you ever heard of Leah Darrow? She is a women's speaker who had a very similar experience like the stripper you were talking about. She was a model before coming to Jesus. Now she is a wife, mother, and women's speaker who shares her testimony.
VERSE touches on this>>>> Galatians (1:10): "Obviously, I'm not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ's servant." That was Paul speaking. Just know that you are a beautiful woman and I am not just saying this because of the topic of this video but your face alone is Beautiful and a gift sent from up above. Social media can really brainwash individuals and many feels the need to change themselves to please others who are trying to please others. God made you special and for that reason those who are in the dark are incapable of seeing the light because they refuse to let God guide them to the light. We are no better than those who are lost but by the grace of God.. We seek him and not the approval from those of this world. I always pray and ask God for guidance because I fall short of many things but then he reminds me... it's okay to be different and stand out like I did.
This is the first time I’ve seen one of your videos (you were on my suggested list) and I am SOOO happy that you were moved to post a video on this! I know so many people who don’t want even want to go to church because they feel that they need to be “fixed” before, but GODDDDD! You explained everything so beautifully. God bless you girl!
Thank you so much for your encouraging words! I am so happy you are here 💛
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, character does.*
Thank God I found a TH-camr who encouraged the viewer to live life with God❤️ I was battling the same thing right now so much trendy clothing is going on and there's a me trying my very best to avoid this. God bless you ❤️🙏
"people telling me to not sin doesn't make not sin. me becoming more like Jesus makes me not sin"
i 100% feel the same way about the topic of modesty... its often approached so wrong and honestly, in weird way. like "dont cause your brothers to stumble" just makes guys look like animals who can't control themselves. the "bad examples" of modesty that people point fingers at are usually people who arent Christians or like you were just starting your walk. It is so unhelpful and honestly, hurtful a lot fo the time. my experience was the same as yours -- i wore scandy stuff for a while and posted pictures after i became a Christian, but God just changed all that by himself and i didn't even really notice it. modesty is also such a fluid topic. i remember being in church growing up and people demonizing leggings... now i think most people would consider them modest. i would say just follow the Holy Spirit and wear stuff that's comfortable to you lol
anyway thank you for posting! just found your channel and your honesty is refreshing
You are the only vlogger who has not pissed me off with this topic. I practice modesty and still get harrassed daily. You spoke about dual responsibility which is sorely lacking in this polemic. Hats off.
I love your energy. Thanks for making me feel better about this, really ❤
Theres a time for everything. Dont go too much to the left or to the right. The bible also says to rebuke people. As King David was when Nathan rebuked him for the sin he had committed. "Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.” I too have felt judged when confronted about things i am working through. Ive realized that those feelings of being judged and letting people down are, frankly, a personal problem. It does not have much to do with them as you may or may not know their true intentions. If your feelings of being judged and singled out are above you positioning your heart to christ and being the person he wants you to be then you also have a problem. Also, you mentioned how what you are wearing may be triggering to one person and not another. this also applies to how people rebuke. what you thought was mean or rude may have been thought of as loving from the person who wrote it. As you wisely mentioned theres a responsibility on both sides for lust and modesty. There is also a responsibility on both sides when we rebuke. As people can go overboard and be damning and unnecessarily nasty in their rebukes, people can also be weak or prideful and egotistical when receiving them. We are given a great example of this with King David. A man after Gods own heart and we see how he takes a rebuke that could have ruined him. And Nathan a prophet who obeyed God and rebuked the king in front of everyone which took a lot of courage as it may have gotten him killed were the king anyone else. Just some things to keep in mind. Ultimately I agree with your conclusion how focusing on christ(being after Gods own heart) is the way to go but to get there may require a rebuke. maybe not. Only God knows. God your will be done.
"People can also be weak or prideful and egotistical when receiving them."
This is very true and the Word encourages us to just be honest, yet tender, and Proverbs 28:23 suggest not trying to sugar coat and flatter either.
In the end, people appreciate honest criticism far more than flattery.
Proverbs 28:23 NLT
YES YES YES 💖💖 🔥🔥🔥🔥
@@TiahnaY very well said!
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn't influence bad actions, character does.*
@@starhunter9085 clothing doesnt influence bad actions? Ok go walk naked down the vegas strip and see what kind of attention you get. Then walk it again dressed modestly. I promise it will be two different experiences. Yes he made us naked. But the same bible that says we were fully nude with no shame also says we're in a fallen world now and modesty is required of us. And clothing has many purposes - looking "sexy" is certainly one of them.
Thanks for the video little sis. I'm 42 years old and struggle with modesty and insecurity. I found your video to be both encouraging and relatable. GOD BLESS!!
I felt the same conviction with tight leggings so I now wear sport shorts with my leggings!! It makes me feel way more comfortable and protected so I hope this helps you a bit 💙 and it really doesn’t look bad (especially if they’re like a pair or just the same color) ☺️
You could also tie a jacket over your leggings
sweetieboo991 that’s what I ended up doing realized maybe leggings weren’t that best but the jacket around my waist covers what needs to be covered so that I can still have the comfyness of leggings while working out but with the covering I felt I needed
Wow that's a really good idea! Thanks for sharing
😂 I just wear long cardigans😭
Still immodest 🤔
We are allowed to judge fellow believers. It’s the Bible. We aren’t supposed to judge the world. However, how we judge is key. How we say what is not right is important. Truth in love
I used to dress to get attention from guys. Not too long ago God put it on my heart that by dressing to accentuate my body I could cause someone to stumble. I have started dressing more modestly
You’re the most honest Christian TH-camr I’ve ever watched and people need this type of realness like wow
God uses grandmas too !! Norm Beattie, Sydney, Australia. Keep your modesty... see also Genesis Chs 2 & 3
You are amazing!!! 💖 Everything about this is so good. Falling in love with Jesus is the most important thing!! My husband & I are youth pastors and this is something we teach our leaders often. We aren’t here to call out peoples sin, we’re here to point them to Jesus.
Obviously there’s a different level of accountability if someone is in leadership, but even still approaching them in grace & Truth. Modesty is such a touchy subject for me because I have had people call me out & shame me sooooo often (esp church people). #pastorskid
Keep being you & chasing Jesus! You gained a follower in me today✨
omg the intro is literally me, love your transparency!
When you brought up Ezekiel 36:26...I was like AMEN, girl. I love that verse so much and I completely agree with how you applied it! ❤️
You did not disappoint with this video! It was hilarious, truth filled, and encouraging!!! Love you Kian!!!
Thanks for approaching this from a perspective of love. Brothers and sisters inspiring each other, we need more of this in the church :)
Hi Kian! Thank you for this video. I just wanted to share this, and I would be very grateful if anyone would like to pray for me regarding this. So I grew up in a Christian household, and I’ll never stop wanting to grow my relationship with Christ and become more like him. The thing is i did the same thing you did as well, posted bikini pictures. I didn’t think about it as to bad at first, but after a while I realized that Christians started to unfollow me on Instagram. And recently I’ve been struggling, and I mean really been struggling with so much shame and bitterness about these photos. And I wish I’d known better. I feel like my mind is being completely attacked with shame. Shame because these brothers in Christ felt that they couldn’t follow me anymore, shame that these pictures were on my page for basically everyone to see, and just this constant pressure to not post anything that would seem not very Christian, I guess you could say. I just wish that I can look forward instead of looking back on something that I can’t control. I know I’m forgiven and I haven’t posted anything similar since.. but I don’t know it’s really hard. I would be grateful if you could just pray with me for peace of mind. God bless you everyone ❤️
Don’t feel tied down by shame!!! You’ve moved forward and Jesus does not remember that’s all that matters 💛 i had bikini photos up and took them all down as well and with some other partying photos.
I love you honesty and transparency! Girl I’m so much like you that I love the movement to be body confident because im so insecure and try to find my worth in others, but finding out worth in God. I love this video and your attitude❤️
“Okay grandma” 🤣🤣 felt that
“People telling me not to sin doesn’t make me not wanna sin, getting closer to Jesus will” YESSSSS YES!!!!!! Couldn’t agree more love. Thank you for being so honest and open about your experience!!!! And thank you for speaking about taking responsibilities for how we present ourselves and putting ourselves in men’ shoes.
Wait I gotta pray ”dear Jesus please help me” mood 😂
Kian, this is SO refreshing to watch! Such a great reminder that these things come naturally as we draw closer to Jesus, and not to focus on sin, but Jesus! Of course!!
sis, you did so good! Inspired me and said exactly what needed to be said! You still managed to make it inspiring and comical while sharing straight truth! I love you and would love meet you one day!❤️
I have to say I LOVE how open and honest you are which is quite rare for Christians... lets be honest. They're afraid of judgment and criticism as you explained in your taken-down bikini video. It really makes me mad. So many people don't give a second chance coming to Christ because of the sheer amount of holier-than-thou attitude some Christians have... Who are you to judge? Are you God? Christ talked about grace, love, and looking at yourself instead of judging. No wonder in the Bible it says "For it is time for judgment to begin at the household of God..." (1 Peter 4:17). I wonder how the world would be like if Christians actually showed this type of grace and love instead of making little clubs to sneer at others.
I’m a size 5/6 and I use to be a 3 for a very long time. And I’ve always HATED wearing a swim suit. I hate it so much. Even till this day. I hate it!!!! I love the beach. But I dread going to places and events that includes water :( and I also hate that people are saying “with your size you shouldn’t be bothered” and it makes me so angry! Like why does that matter? How does that have anything to do with me not wanting to be exposed.
This video is beautiful. You explained everything so elegantly and spoke via scripture. You spoke 100% the truth.
Convicting and pointing fingers is something that sadly many Christians are experts in. And it makes others not want to follow Christ. It makes me SAD to know that so many people say "yeah, Jesus is cool, but I can't do the 'Christian thing' because of His followers." LIKE??? THAT SUCKS. That means we are not following Jesus's example. And what many people doesn't understand is that not even CHRIST judges us. When He has every right to do so because He died for us on the cross. Instead, he shows us so much Love hoping and trusting (characteristics of Love found in 1 Corinthians 13:4) that we'll come to Him and reaLLY want to please him through obedience and faith.
But I also have a gentle concern/question.
My parents have also raised me in the instruction of the Lord and they've always told me to guard my eyes and my ears and my mouth as well as my heart for obvious reasons. I agree it VERY important for us to go out and be fisher of men as Jesus told Simon Peter to do. But there's just something disquieting my spirit about the ministry that is going into strip clubs. Again, I'm not convicting them and it is NOT my place to judge at ALL but as a fellow sister in Christ I'm worried about the territory that they are trudging firstly and then the fact that their eyes are seeing these things and I absolutely cannot ignore the fact that what we look at /does/ affect us. Yes, we may go in the name of Jesus, but from my knowledge, the Lord is Sovereign and Holy and he has no business being in a place like that. It just wouldn't make sense. Even when Jesus was on the cross, the Lord turned His face away because he could not be in the presence of unholiness. Yes, Jesus loves these strippers. He loves all of us regardless of our equality in sin, but I'm afraid for my brothers and sister not guarding their eye gates, or ear gates for that matter :'( but I guess that doesn't matter?? Since the Lord is the only one that knows our hearts? I don't know :'v my spirit is just a little discomforted by the setting and stepping so deep into it.
But anyway, thank you so much for this video Kian
I really needed this!!! I know it's something I can work on for sure, thank you for making this video.
Ok, as a dude- it is really difficult sometimes and sometimes it is not difficult- but all the time the Holy Spirit guides me into wisdom which is cool- but lets just say for us dudes.... sometimes it is easier to listen to him than not, and yeah especially when i see something on insta that isnt very modest it used hurt me a lot (in a spiritual sense), but now after getting into the Word so much... I have been great! Limiting the sources where there is even a possibility for non-modest posts tho haha
Thank you for being honest, therefore inspiring other people to be honest too
Great video girl! 🙏🏻 one way God worked on me is when He showed me how much I need to represent Him even the way I dress like are non believers really going to see God in me or are they going to see the world. If it’s the latter, God can change our hearts and mentality to give us conviction in areas of our lives that we need it if we just pray. “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.”- Proverbs 31:25 💕
Omg, I just found your channel through this video and omg I LOVE how HONEST you are. This is what I aspire to do for others as well. Thank you for being vulnerable.
You are such an honorable young woman. I see so many women who are friends of mine posting pics of themselves that show so much of their bodies, and as another woman it causes me to disrespect them. I am not judging, but if you have a boyfriend or husband, doing this just demonstrates that you don’t respect your partner and you don’t respect the husbands/boyfriends of your friends either. We have become such a “self” motivated society, and social media has definitely contributed to this. I am so glad you are sharing this knowledge with women. It is great!
Thank you so much for this video❤️. Really liked your take on conviction through the Holy Spirit; not by man, especially on the topic of modesty. I'm gonna be honest and say that I have been judgemental in the past, but God has been and continues to be working in me, so that I become less legalistic about these things. XOXO
-for when u were talking about the movements and stuff- what came to my mind was that we are called to love one another, so we are to consider other’s struggles and triggers which means to be modest, etc.💗
Thank you Jesus for using Kian. I definitely needed this! Watching this at 1am. It's a CLEAR message. Imma show my mama this video ♥️♥️♥️ THANK YOU AMEN AMEN AMEN
I’ve learned a lot from watching your videos. The way you talk about how processes of conviction have organically evolved for you and can’t be brought about by condemnation from others has really helped me. Thank you.
I LOVE THE HAIR!!! It's the main reason I clicked while watching another video on modesty! :)
Thank you for sharing this with so much love & without judgement. I'm grateful this was the first video I watched today that popped up on this topic. Thank you & be blessed always
This is so true. It really is a heart transformation. I can attest to this in my own life, albeit on a less extreme scale.
Thank you for this video. This has been something that’s been on the forefront of my mind as a Christian, teenage girl. It’s hard to take the judgements and harsh comments from older adults, even if I know they have a point. Thank you for speaking straight to my heart in a way that’s easier to receive. Love you! ❤️❤️