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By the Wes, this is what happens when you marry eight times out of ten, a woman that’s preferably older over the age of 30+ with all due respect. They’re set in their ways (aka won’t compromise or can be molded. Hence the term bride and groom), and they’re definitely not changing for anyone. Thank God, you didn’t have kids!
Hey Wes, You are probably the only youtuber falling into the "passport bro" category, that is respectful, genuine and not affraid to be vunerable. I really hope you'll find your happiness and balance in Poland- thank you for breaking stereotypes!
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I am so sorry that you came across such bad people... It seems that they were predators who saw that you were a lost young man and lured you into a trap, showing you excessive feelings, so that they could later take advantage of you. You were really manipulated in a nasty way. It is a blessing that you have it behind you now! I hope that your stay in Poland will erase the sad moments in you! I am so glad that you like it in Poland!:) All the best!:)
I see your videos, and it really seems like you are lost and still searching. I would suggest starting to put down some roots and build stability. It always seems like you are running from something, but it's really something inside of you. I hope you find peace or whatever it is you're looking for. I think growing some roots somewhere and taking it easy for a couple of years would help you find someone and build an actual life. This doesn't mean you have to stop traveling, but think of it as establishing a headquarters.
Hopefully now your life will just get better and better. It's a rare thing for people in general to see good outcomes of bad situations and self reflect. Seem like a nice chap, all the best 👍
I'm a gringo living in the US and married 10 years to a Colombian woman. You did the right thing leaving Colombia and your church. Some churches can be quite controlling and you were right to walk away. At the same time, however, please don't walk away from Jesus. He alone has the words of eternal life.
I respect you for sharing us your vulnerability on TH-cam. I’m glad you visited Latin America and lived there for a moment. Good that you settled down in Europe. I don’t blame you to leave Colombia. For my safety I’ll just tell you I’m in the country of Caldas and you being in Manizales. Even though Manizales is that safest city in Colombia it still has its cons
A message to young guys who are finding love through rocky paths….love is recognized in the quiet times. You will be with your significant other and in a quiet moment feel…. Feel…hey you know this feels like contentment/partnership
My best advice to folks who are going to Colombia is to never consider having long term engagements with Colombians. That means, no marriage and definitely no business ventures. You will get burned hard.
One thing I can say as a pole, we'd be really glad, if you choose to stay here and fulfil your dreams. You seem like a really genuine person, that's been through a lot, and I respect that you didn't give up on your life.
Woooo, what a crazy ride! I feel I can relate to you, I used to make thoughtless decisions because I felt like I want it, I love this person or I had fun and just want it to continue. It might look like a crazy, spontaneous, fun life from the outside, but I can imagine that from the inside its really heavy... I feel somehow moved with your story and it seems to me that you're looking for love and acceptance in all these pathways you tried. Maybe it will sound super shallow but in the end to find peace it requires to find this love and acceptance in yourself. Then you will stop throwing yourself on people that will sense it and try to harm you. And potential happiness is anywhere, no matter the country (although Poland is at least a bit safer I guess hahahah).
I'm really sorry for what happend in your live i also had a lot of bad expierience in those fields, my family from my mother side was strictly religious, in a toxic way, because of that i had to run away after my father died, because they would simply destroy me mentaly. I believe in God even after so many traumatic events in my life, now i just trying to do what my heart is telling me and not follow any rules made by church. But putting that a side! Welcome in Poland!! (I know i know is a little bit late now🙄), sadly so many things have change for bad lately and i hope you find your place here, but overall Poland is beautiful country, feel free to visit west side of the country as well, here where i live we have wine festival in september:p
I lived in Medellin Colombia for 8 months in 2021. I could'nt wait to get out of that violent sh*t hole. Having traveled to many countries throughout the world I have never felt more unsafe than I did while in Medellin Colombia.
Wait....why did u feel that way? I spent 2 yrs in Colombia due to covid...and had the Greatest time of my life! Every night i had dates and drank every day!
yeah i never felt safe in Colombia at all....not even just from criminals but from the government/cops too! if colombian women were ugly they'd get 0 tourists LOL
Wow. That message from your ex's father was disturbing. So much for following the teachings of "God", right? I swear, some religious people are downright hypocrites. It's amazing how fast you managed to get that divorce completed. I'm glad you got out of there.
Hoy Vi tu vídeo sobre Barranquilla de hace un año y me gustó que hablate bien de mi ciudad, seguido vi los vídeos sobre tu mala experiencia en tu matrimonio, me dsiwnto identificada me pasó algo similar y entiendo por lo que estás pasando, sigue mirando tu interior ya sanando tú corazón ❤️ no dejes de ser tú porque tal como eres Dios te ama y nadie te amará más, así que amate tú mismo, ponte primero, enriquece tu espíritu, ten amistades, disfruta de tu soledad y sé tu mejor compañía, no necesitas tratar de encajar la persona ideal si está de Dios llegará sin buscarla y sin saberlo. TE PIDO DISCULPAS A NOMBRE DE MI COMPATRIOTA NO SUPONVALORARTE Y TE LLEVASTE UNA MALA IMPRESIÓN DE LAS MUJERES DE COLOMBIA, ESPERO QUE SEAS FUERTE Y SUPERES LO QUE PASA Y SEGUIR ADELANTE PORQUE PARA ATRÁS ASUSTA
...sorry to hear the rent story you mentioned....i learned Never tell anyone when your leaving!...why..because they will pull a fast one on you...women as well! As for girls saying their pregnant.....id be rich if i got paid when a girl in Colombia said that! Dont bother with that...they are Alwaysss with another local dude who dont want them and put the blame on the other guy!...the sucker
Here's my 2c for what it's worth: She didn't make unreasonable demands. In your video you state these problems: 1. She didn't want you going to bars/clubs 2. She didn't want you going to other churches 3. She didn't want you talking to other girls 4. She didn't want to leave her role in the Church to give you attention 5. Threats 6. Her and her family didn't want to learn other culture/language My objective take: 1. Who would want their spouse going to bars/clubs? 2. Church is an organization. Comparing it to the corporate world - if you were a leader in an organization would you want your spouse supporting the competitor? Appears to be a slap in the face. 3. Would you want your spouse talking/making friends with the opposite sex at the gym? 4. Is it fair to ask someone to give up their passion for someone else's neediness? 5. I get the threat thing. No need for that. Also, the intrusion isn't cool. 6. Unreasonable to expect this if you're a foreigner living in someone else's country. If you met her in the US it would make more sense. At the end of the day all this was told to you upfront. Perhaps you didn't take them seriously when they set expectations? The one thing that could play heavily in your favor would be her virginity. If she wasn't a virgin the strong religious values argument loses its weight. If she was then her positions carry more weight.
Once Wes said “Being Catholic in Colombia doesn’t mean virgin before marriage “. This is just a day before his marriage. You should watch that video if it is available? It is very complicated story than we can handle if you are an Asian first generation parent in the west . Wes is a very honest person, never hides anything that’s the reason that I have been watching all his videos. Most of the Indian kids lies and pretends that they like their culture and customs. Actually they do this to get financial support for all their life from poor Asian parents who never enjoy their life in the west. They sacrifice all their life for their pretending kids and grandchildren. They believe they do this for higher cost for their children and grandchildren.
So basically, points 1 to 3 go in her favor whereas points 4 to 6 go in his. There's another one he doesn't mention here but that he discussed in a previous video and it is that she didn't like him to smoke weed and to be honest, I agree with her on that one. What he said in his defense is that she used to spend most of her time at work or at church so he ended up bored at home and that's why he used to to smoke and play video games as he was restricted to go out too. I definitely feel that she prioritized her church over her marriage and she wasn't willing to give up things of her life style once she married but that same thing about not giving up parts of the lifestyle once they married also applies to him.
nah it wasn't all told to me upfront. In the beginning it was about how much Jesus accepted me but as soon as I got married, now it's about how the church will control my life. Unreasonable expectations were placed on me when the same expectations didn't apply to other leaders or people that attended the church. It's the hypocrisy that I could not agree with.
@Japan-qt9on Well... yes and no. In a story about prodigal son you see God giving man a freedom and patiently waiting for his return. Father is not forcing his son to behave nicely, is not locking him in a kitchen... Father is kind and gives his son all good things KNOWING that his son will not appreciate it and most likely will loose it . God here is pictured not a controlling father keeping his children under the key, but a loving one that is with all his heart for them. I doubt it was even remotely OK for the girl to CONTROL Wes USING the name of Jesus, USING the bible, USING the church and her family. She was married to Wes and now Wes was a head of the family, not her father. And if not head of the family (we do not like this picture any more) than at least the partner whose thoughts and needs she should respect as much as does cares and respects her own needs.
There’s two sides of the story what were you doing wrong? Marriage is between 2 people you had to be something wrong also don’t paint your ex wife as the only one who messed up
No, Colombian women are really that toxic. But with Intense love bombing in the beginning. You don't have to do anything wrong for a narcissist to discard you eventually.
I explained it more thoroughly in the video I made just about the divorce. We both made mistakes for sure but only one of us crossed the line, so I stand by my decision. I don't think she is a bad person though, nor have I ever said she was on my channel.
I think your ex-wife is a coward. She wouldn't turn against someone belonging to her own community/church even for her husband out of fear of being criticised and to maintain her reputation. She was really submissive to her church as if she had no will power or own opinions and values outside of it. This church looks more like a sect too me than a regular/catholic church.
Well, if you hear the threatening message that the church pastor sent to him in full, you can notice that the pastor refers to Wes' ex wife as his "daughter" and he also points out that he has all the passwords of her social networks so he can access to all of her information so you can imagine the level of conditioning she must have.
I'm absolutely sorry for what happened to you, however, please don't give up on religion. Catholic Church is truly The Way. You've just met bad people...
To be honest with you man, as a Colombian myself and seeing how my fellow Colombians decided to shoot themselves in their feet by voting for Gustavo Petro; it is good that you left Colombia... if it was already insecure back then when you went there, you can imagine how insecure it is now with all the economical recession that this far left wing government has brought in with its bad decisions and the alliances it has made with Venezuela... Also, your ex wife didn't seem to have the character to leave the country so even if things had worked out between you two, I don't think she would have been willing to move countries with you even if Colombia is a sinking ship at the moment.
Bro WTF does Gustavo Petro have to do with anything? Colombia hasn't changed culturally in the past 2 years, it's the same it has been for the last 25 years. As for his marriage, religious people are the worst, always with their double standard... very common in Colombian society.
What's up, Wes, Always remember what happened to you. that's the reason i don't show girls in medellin that i have something with them in my videos. I had to delete like 3 videos with the same girl. She thould me erase my video, and i did.
In my experience, Colombians are only superficially nice, and once you get peak inside of them, you see lack of character and good values among other negative traits.
@@dillavery2696 I feel sorry for guys like you who can not be with the woman of your race, culture, or country and are around the world tasting who is better only because you need to feel in your mother's womb again.
Yeah, seeking help in religion and religious groups/cults is such a bad decision - always. Even if it's an established religion and religious institution, it makes a person less able to be responsible for their lives, because there's this "god" entity who "has your back" and "decides fate", so you can't argue with it. Not to mention that at the end of the day institutionalized religion is always about money and power. The cults and fringe religious groups are of course the worst offenders. A person should be very weary of religious groups and the more fringe and less popular the group, the more vigilant one has to be.
Wes, very nice heart-felt video where you opened up and cleansed your soul. You seem to be a genuinely good man, who has suffered some pain bcos of the circumstances you’ve found yourself in. Only my opinion, but speaking in general terms, Poland may not be the healing medicine you need right now. The people have been hardened by the former communist regime, and if they didn’t live through it, they were raised by parents who did. You may be more compatible with an Asian or Latin American girl bcos of their warmth that is inherent in their culture. This is not designed to take a cheap shot at the Polish people. They are good people, but bcos of their history they are not initially warm and you have to work very hard to gain a friend. Over to you!
@LunaMiel186 communism fell over 30 years ago, times and people have changed. And I would say that the younger generation, Wes' generation, has no problems establishing relationships with foreigners. Besides, it is a very individual matter. Anyway, I hope that no matter where, Wes will finally find peace and love. That's what I wish for you Wes!
I dated a Brazilian chick, she was crazy. Woke feminist, promiscuous, drank, smoke and party all the time, into lgbt crowd, suggested open relationship multiple times, mad tattoo and piercings, very insecure, bad relationship with family and father, bad morals, overall a bad character. Now I'm dating a traditional Vietnamese girl, religious (I'm personally not very religious but doesn't bother me) , believes in marriage for life, family oriented, great cook, gentle and kind personality, a total one 180 from that Latina chick. I would not consider seriously dating a Latina and would not recommend another Asian brother to do so, unless she is 100% committed to you and your asian culture, family, as you are their Latino culture.
Agreed, Latinas are awesome short term partners, but never to be considered for anything that requires long term commitment. There are way better women from other races for that.
U couldn't see the signs because you was new to the culture, there's people like that everywhere. There's good n bad everywhere, u just chose badly, your fault
To start well in Poland, you have to shave off your mustache, because for young people it is quite embarrassing. Unless it is a full beard in the Latin style. Miłego pobytu w PL. Twoje video są cool!
I don't think in his peer group there is such a need, mustache although rare fashion choice over the full beard are quite frequent nowadays, looks f.ex Dawid Podsiadlo
Great video, Wes! I was wondering if you saw David from Life With David when he was in Poland. If I'm not mistaken, I think you two are friends or acquaintances.
I think that you need you need just a little more education and learning in Christianity. It may have allowed you to recognize some warning signs, before you were married both in the church and the woman that you married. The two of you were not on the same page as a couple should be. It is supposed to more about her needs than yours and your leadership and not hers. It sounded like the opposite and the church was not playing the correct, supporting role either. That interference by the church was crazy. Wow, sorry to hear. You’re young and will have another chance.
The death threats sound insane. It's crazy how a community can turn on you because you are an outsider. Dealing with Latin family sounds like a pain in the ass if you girl isn't 100% on your side. I'm glad you are out of that situation Wes.
This was such a good honest video. The only thing I think in the marriage you didn't understand what it meant to be part of a G12 Colombian church. Born again third world Christians are hard core, the church is your life and most of your time is spent with your church brothers and sisters. Maybe they didn't explain it to you properly the expectations. I still miss my church but I had to leave because I couldn't keep denying that I was gay to myself. Unless you were asking your wife for butt sex or something clearly immoral (like to stop going to church) your wife was supposed to submit to you, if she didn't then she was wrong. I hope you maintain your faith though Wes
He could ask, she could say no. Not going to church was not that immoral, either - she should have her own personal relationship with God as well as should He. They could skip that service every now and then and enjoy company of each other with without feeling guilty ... You should have peace in God even being a gay. Your way with God may be different to that of the people who still are in the church you loved, but it does not mean you have no relationship with Him. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus ...
I have subscribed a long time but stopped watching until now. I always felt you're smart and talented but was quick to judge and lacked a since of maturity as I did at your age and many others as well. It seems as often the case when we go through a difficult time, as we all do, we come out broken or stronger. I am happy you took the latter. God Bless you and good luck on the re-launch as I reengage. Thank you!
rofl dude they sacraficed so much to help you and bring you into their culture and you just wanted to club drink smoke weed and flirt with other girls then you play like your the victim, your story disgusts me bro i see right through you
Hey Wes so glad you explained some of things you went through in Colombia. I was wondering why you were bashing Colombia but now I understand you better. Give yourself time don’t rush into anything. Let your 💔 mend first so you can be happy in your next relationship😊. Wishing you the best I will be following along on your adventures.
when God loves someone He puts him in some sort of trials That would enlighten his heart. That he gets more wisdom And start ditching out this life Life is around 70 years. Compared to the hereafter is infinity.. So A few years of trials is not that a big deal compared to infinity God give you 2 eyes And 2 trillions of neurons in your brain Before the creation of earth 18 billion years before that He saw every single emotion in ur heart He knows what s the best for u and for ur future He connected the dots That ur brain couldn't fathom how to connect Islam is a good religion also But people don't understand the deep meaning of the verses
I've gained valuable insights from your stories and wish you all the best in your endeavors. You are an incredibly intelligent individual, though I believe having a supportive partner that you can trust and respected could further enrich your life. I started watching your videos long time ago and i have the same experiences here in the USA as yours; today, i am in a relationship with a Colombian woman, but as i see it she is the opposite than your ex; very respectful and very professional independent woman
@@JAYY_JAYY as someone who has worked all over Asia, yea,l. Naturally beautiful yes, cosmic beauty korea or Japan may win. But Vietnam has mixed blood. So women have breast, not flat. And overall skinny.
What......A RUBISH .....best country in the world 😂😂😂😂 you can get bankrupt because you got ill......education on 17 place in rhe world ......no holidays guaranteed by government.......what a heven....
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By the Wes, this is what happens when you marry eight times out of ten, a woman that’s preferably older over the age of 30+ with all due respect. They’re set in their ways (aka won’t compromise or can be molded. Hence the term bride and groom), and they’re definitely not changing for anyone. Thank God, you didn’t have kids!
I didnt expect a 5k views video to say such an interesting story. have a good time here in Poland
Poland is a very safe country, I hope you enjoy your stay here 😊
Hey Wes,
You are probably the only youtuber falling into the "passport bro" category, that is respectful, genuine and not affraid to be vunerable. I really hope you'll find your happiness and balance in Poland- thank you for breaking stereotypes!
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I am so sorry that you came across such bad people... It seems that they were predators who saw that you were a lost young man and lured you into a trap, showing you excessive feelings, so that they could later take advantage of you. You were really manipulated in a nasty way. It is a blessing that you have it behind you now! I hope that your stay in Poland will erase the sad moments in you! I am so glad that you like it in Poland!:) All the best!:)
have a good time here in Poland
Good people. I love the poles.
I see your videos, and it really seems like you are lost and still searching. I would suggest starting to put down some roots and build stability. It always seems like you are running from something, but it's really something inside of you. I hope you find peace or whatever it is you're looking for. I think growing some roots somewhere and taking it easy for a couple of years would help you find someone and build an actual life. This doesn't mean you have to stop traveling, but think of it as establishing a headquarters.
I agree
Hopefully now your life will just get better and better. It's a rare thing for people in general to see good outcomes of bad situations and self reflect. Seem like a nice chap, all the best 👍
Hey Wes, good to see you always bounce back! You look great and with positive vibes
Wes it's all part of the ride. Hope you can see the silver lining in all the bad things that have happened and are to possibly come. Good luck bud.
Dang...you went THROUGH it! Llife lessons are hard but also very interesting when your're in the thick of things. Onwards and updwards!
Amazing story, thanks for sharing brother. Really insightful and glad to hear you’re doing well
Great story man! Really inspiring 😊 thank you for sharing, good luck with the channel and the next adventures 😊😊😊
I'm a gringo living in the US and married 10 years to a Colombian woman. You did the right thing leaving Colombia and your church. Some churches can be quite controlling and you were right to walk away. At the same time, however, please don't walk away from Jesus. He alone has the words of eternal life.
I respect you for sharing us your vulnerability on TH-cam. I’m glad you visited Latin America and lived there for a moment. Good that you settled down in Europe. I don’t blame you to leave Colombia. For my safety I’ll just tell you I’m in the country of Caldas and you being in Manizales. Even though Manizales is that safest city in Colombia it still has its cons
A message to young guys who are finding love through rocky paths….love is recognized in the quiet times. You will be with your significant other and in a quiet moment feel…. Feel…hey you know this feels like contentment/partnership
That's quite the story. part of the adventure travel creates. glad you came through.
My best advice to folks who are going to Colombia is to never consider having long term engagements with Colombians. That means, no marriage and definitely no business ventures. You will get burned hard.
Not all Colombians are out to get you. There's good and bad everywhere.
@@evanmcclure67-A Colombian would sell own Mothers for a profit
This is true most Colombians do not have morals and will take advantage of you at the first opportunity I would say 90%
Beautiful women there visited There several times. I understand and see your point thx
O dear, what a story. Stay strong and I hope you will drop this god meme somewhere along the way. All the best!
thanks for sharing this story, i understand the feeling coz i have been that situation too.
What a sad story. Horrible experience.
Epic travels, honest and intelligent commentary.
This is an awesome video, bro. You have experienced a lot of things and it can only make you stronger and wiser. God bless you.
Good luck you mate! I hope u will find your persone in Poland
One thing I can say as a pole, we'd be really glad, if you choose to stay here and fulfil your dreams. You seem like a really genuine person, that's been through a lot, and I respect that you didn't give up on your life.
A life full of adventures! Thanks for sharing bro
They may take your money but you will always have the knowledge, experience and insight that you have gained.from the experience .
Wow that's a crazy story!
Enjoy your life!
That probably wasn't your child
Woooo, what a crazy ride! I feel I can relate to you, I used to make thoughtless decisions because I felt like I want it, I love this person or I had fun and just want it to continue. It might look like a crazy, spontaneous, fun life from the outside, but I can imagine that from the inside its really heavy... I feel somehow moved with your story and it seems to me that you're looking for love and acceptance in all these pathways you tried. Maybe it will sound super shallow but in the end to find peace it requires to find this love and acceptance in yourself. Then you will stop throwing yourself on people that will sense it and try to harm you. And potential happiness is anywhere, no matter the country (although Poland is at least a bit safer I guess hahahah).
Currently living in Warsaw for the summer, it sure beats Toronto
I'm really sorry for what happend in your live i also had a lot of bad expierience in those fields, my family from my mother side was strictly religious, in a toxic way, because of that i had to run away after my father died, because they would simply destroy me mentaly. I believe in God even after so many traumatic events in my life, now i just trying to do what my heart is telling me and not follow any rules made by church.
But putting that a side! Welcome in Poland!! (I know i know is a little bit late now🙄), sadly so many things have change for bad lately and i hope you find your place here, but overall Poland is beautiful country, feel free to visit west side of the country as well, here where i live we have wine festival in september:p
Greetings from Tricity in Poland
The kind of music you listen to is diabolicallll
LMAO
I lived in Medellin Colombia for 8 months in 2021. I could'nt wait to get out of that violent sh*t hole. Having traveled to many countries throughout the world I have never felt more unsafe than I did while in Medellin Colombia.
You obviously haven’t been 2 Detroit
Wait....why did u feel that way? I spent 2 yrs in Colombia due to covid...and had the Greatest time of my life! Every night i had dates and drank every day!
yeah i never felt safe in Colombia at all....not even just from criminals but from the government/cops too! if colombian women were ugly they'd get 0 tourists LOL
You're so brave
Wow. That message from your ex's father was disturbing. So much for following the teachings of "God", right? I swear, some religious people are downright hypocrites. It's amazing how fast you managed to get that divorce completed. I'm glad you got out of there.
Jesus loves you brotha ❤️ don’t let people like that ruin what Christ represents, much love
Hoy Vi tu vídeo sobre Barranquilla de hace un año y me gustó que hablate bien de mi ciudad, seguido vi los vídeos sobre tu mala experiencia en tu matrimonio, me dsiwnto identificada me pasó algo similar y entiendo por lo que estás pasando, sigue mirando tu interior ya sanando tú corazón ❤️ no dejes de ser tú porque tal como eres Dios te ama y nadie te amará más, así que amate tú mismo, ponte primero, enriquece tu espíritu, ten amistades, disfruta de tu soledad y sé tu mejor compañía, no necesitas tratar de encajar la persona ideal si está de Dios llegará sin buscarla y sin saberlo.
TE PIDO DISCULPAS A NOMBRE DE MI COMPATRIOTA NO SUPONVALORARTE Y TE LLEVASTE UNA MALA IMPRESIÓN DE LAS MUJERES DE COLOMBIA, ESPERO QUE SEAS FUERTE Y SUPERES LO QUE PASA Y SEGUIR ADELANTE PORQUE PARA ATRÁS ASUSTA
😂🤦🏻♂️ “Before you say it’s my fault” man that’s such a Latin America thing us folks to need to stop that
Where to move if You want to give up your marriage but you already live in Poland though?
Did you use a U.S. lawyer for your Divorce, or a COlombia lawyer?
Colombian lawyer
@@WheresWes How much should I expect to pay
Wow, dude, you went through some traumatic sh*t. Thanks for sharing this private event. Next time, don't get married so fast. Good luck.
Living in Colombia sounds horrible 🤣🤣 I’m staying my ass in the USA 🇺🇸
...sorry to hear the rent story you mentioned....i learned Never tell anyone when your leaving!...why..because they will pull a fast one on you...women as well! As for girls saying their pregnant.....id be rich if i got paid when a girl in Colombia said that! Dont bother with that...they are Alwaysss with another local dude who dont want them and put the blame on the other guy!...the sucker
Here's my 2c for what it's worth:
She didn't make unreasonable demands.
In your video you state these problems:
1. She didn't want you going to bars/clubs
2. She didn't want you going to other churches
3. She didn't want you talking to other girls
4. She didn't want to leave her role in the Church to give you attention
5. Threats
6. Her and her family didn't want to learn other culture/language
My objective take:
1. Who would want their spouse going to bars/clubs?
2. Church is an organization. Comparing it to the corporate world - if you were a leader in an organization would you want your spouse supporting the competitor? Appears to be a slap in the face.
3. Would you want your spouse talking/making friends with the opposite sex at the gym?
4. Is it fair to ask someone to give up their passion for someone else's neediness?
5. I get the threat thing. No need for that. Also, the intrusion isn't cool.
6. Unreasonable to expect this if you're a foreigner living in someone else's country. If you met her in the US it would make more sense.
At the end of the day all this was told to you upfront.
Perhaps you didn't take them seriously when they set expectations?
The one thing that could play heavily in your favor would be her virginity. If she wasn't a virgin the strong religious values argument loses its weight. If she was then her positions carry more weight.
Still not sure what happened seems like problems are easy
Once Wes said “Being Catholic in Colombia doesn’t mean virgin before marriage “. This is just a day before his marriage. You should watch that video if it is available? It is very complicated story than we can handle if you are an Asian first generation parent in the west . Wes is a very honest person, never hides anything that’s the reason that I have been watching all his videos. Most of the Indian kids lies and pretends that they like their culture and customs. Actually they do this to get financial support for all their life from poor Asian parents who never enjoy their life in the west. They sacrifice all their life for their pretending kids and grandchildren. They believe they do this for higher cost for their children and grandchildren.
So basically, points 1 to 3 go in her favor whereas points 4 to 6 go in his.
There's another one he doesn't mention here but that he discussed in a previous video and it is that she didn't like him to smoke weed and to be honest, I agree with her on that one.
What he said in his defense is that she used to spend most of her time at work or at church so he ended up bored at home and that's why he used to to smoke and play video games as he was restricted to go out too.
I definitely feel that she prioritized her church over her marriage and she wasn't willing to give up things of her life style once she married but that same thing about not giving up parts of the lifestyle once they married also applies to him.
nah it wasn't all told to me upfront. In the beginning it was about how much Jesus accepted me but as soon as I got married, now it's about how the church will control my life.
Unreasonable expectations were placed on me when the same expectations didn't apply to other leaders or people that attended the church. It's the hypocrisy that I could not agree with.
@Japan-qt9on Well... yes and no. In a story about prodigal son you see God giving man a freedom and patiently waiting for his return. Father is not forcing his son to behave nicely, is not locking him in a kitchen... Father is kind and gives his son all good things KNOWING that his son will not appreciate it and most likely will loose it . God here is pictured not a controlling father keeping his children under the key, but a loving one that is with all his heart for them.
I doubt it was even remotely OK for the girl to CONTROL Wes USING the name of Jesus, USING the bible, USING the church and her family. She was married to Wes and now Wes was a head of the family, not her father.
And if not head of the family (we do not like this picture any more) than at least the partner whose thoughts and needs she should respect as much as does cares and respects her own needs.
Daaamnn you’re already divorced???… 😬
There’s two sides of the story what were you doing wrong? Marriage is between 2 people you had to be something wrong also don’t paint your ex wife as the only one who messed up
No, Colombian women are really that toxic. But with Intense love bombing in the beginning. You don't have to do anything wrong for a narcissist to discard you eventually.
I explained it more thoroughly in the video I made just about the divorce. We both made mistakes for sure but only one of us crossed the line, so I stand by my decision.
I don't think she is a bad person though, nor have I ever said she was on my channel.
So you’re saying if a couple breaks up both are always at fault? Nah.
But she was a part of the cult so…
From all the Ortographical errors in the man's message you can tell they're only looking for money and they don't care.
You’ll find a great faithful polish woman
Props for being for vulnerable online. I could never
Great Vid. Thanks for sharing your story @whereswes
Watching this video, makes me think of the Peruvian gf , also a nightmare. Be very careful to South American girls , don’t be numbed by their faces
2 mins… man I feel so sorry for straight women
House? you guys rented?
I think your ex-wife is a coward. She wouldn't turn against someone belonging to her own community/church even for her husband out of fear of being criticised and to maintain her reputation. She was really submissive to her church as if she had no will power or own opinions and values outside of it. This church looks more like a sect too me than a regular/catholic church.
Well, if you hear the threatening message that the church pastor sent to him in full, you can notice that the pastor refers to Wes' ex wife as his "daughter" and he also points out that he has all the passwords of her social networks so he can access to all of her information so you can imagine the level of conditioning she must have.
It’s called a narcissis
"smoking weed" HELL YEAH
I'm absolutely sorry for what happened to you, however, please don't give up on religion. Catholic Church is truly The Way. You've just met bad people...
To be honest with you man, as a Colombian myself and seeing how my fellow Colombians decided to shoot themselves in their feet by voting for Gustavo Petro; it is good that you left Colombia... if it was already insecure back then when you went there, you can imagine how insecure it is now with all the economical recession that this far left wing government has brought in with its bad decisions and the alliances it has made with Venezuela...
Also, your ex wife didn't seem to have the character to leave the country so even if things had worked out between you two, I don't think she would have been willing to move countries with you even if Colombia is a sinking ship at the moment.
Bro WTF does Gustavo Petro have to do with anything? Colombia hasn't changed culturally in the past 2 years, it's the same it has been for the last 25 years. As for his marriage, religious people are the worst, always with their double standard... very common in Colombian society.
Consider yourself lucky and it a blessing
Most of us men in United States were married for many years and then destroyed by the court system.
What's up, Wes, Always remember what happened to you. that's the reason i don't show girls in medellin that i have something with them in my videos. I had to delete like 3 videos with the same girl. She thould me erase my video, and i did.
I'd say the Latin people are warmer towards people of other race than Europeans. Too bad ypubleft Colombia. Such a beautiful place.
I dated a Colombian too. Similar to a Bible Belt U.S. Southernor That warmth is all fake. Europeans are generally better people on the inside.
In my experience, Colombians are only superficially nice, and once you get peak inside of them, you see lack of character and good values among other negative traits.
@@dillavery2696 I feel sorry for guys like you who can not be with the woman of your race, culture, or country and are around the world tasting who is better only because you need to feel in your mother's womb again.
Yeah, seeking help in religion and religious groups/cults is such a bad decision - always.
Even if it's an established religion and religious institution, it makes a person less able to be responsible for their lives, because there's this "god" entity who "has your back" and "decides fate", so you can't argue with it. Not to mention that at the end of the day institutionalized religion is always about money and power.
The cults and fringe religious groups are of course the worst offenders.
A person should be very weary of religious groups and the more fringe and less popular the group, the more vigilant one has to be.
Wes, very nice heart-felt video where you opened up and cleansed your soul. You seem to be a genuinely good man, who has suffered some pain bcos of the circumstances you’ve found yourself in. Only my opinion, but speaking in general terms, Poland may not be the healing medicine you need right now. The people have been hardened by the former communist regime, and if they didn’t live through it, they were raised by parents who did. You may be more compatible with an Asian or Latin American girl bcos of their warmth that is inherent in their culture. This is not designed to take a cheap shot at the Polish people. They are good people, but bcos of their history they are not initially warm and you have to work very hard to gain a friend.
Over to you!
@LunaMiel186 communism fell over 30 years ago, times and people have changed. And I would say that the younger generation, Wes' generation, has no problems establishing relationships with foreigners. Besides, it is a very individual matter. Anyway, I hope that no matter where, Wes will finally find peace and love. That's what I wish for you Wes!
A divorce without children is the best " vaccine " a person can have . As a viewer I feel like an unpaid therapist !
But how your ex could change herself sooo hard and quick??
I dated a Brazilian chick, she was crazy. Woke feminist, promiscuous, drank, smoke and party all the time, into lgbt crowd, suggested open relationship multiple times, mad tattoo and piercings, very insecure, bad relationship with family and father, bad morals, overall a bad character. Now I'm dating a traditional Vietnamese girl, religious (I'm personally not very religious but doesn't bother me) , believes in marriage for life, family oriented, great cook, gentle and kind personality, a total one 180 from that Latina chick.
I would not consider seriously dating a Latina and would not recommend another Asian brother to do so, unless she is 100% committed to you and your asian culture, family, as you are their Latino culture.
Agreed, Latinas are awesome short term partners, but never to be considered for anything that requires long term commitment. There are way better women from other races for that.
U couldn't see the signs because you was new to the culture, there's people like that everywhere.
There's good n bad everywhere, u just chose badly, your fault
@@leonsparta8238 Nope.
To start well in Poland, you have to shave off your mustache, because for young people it is quite embarrassing. Unless it is a full beard in the Latin style. Miłego pobytu w PL. Twoje video są cool!
I don't think in his peer group there is such a need, mustache although rare fashion choice over the full beard are quite frequent nowadays, looks f.ex Dawid Podsiadlo
Thanks for sharing your story!
Great video, Wes! I was wondering if you saw David from Life With David when he was in Poland. If I'm not mistaken, I think you two are friends or acquaintances.
Yup we met up I posted it on the community tab
@@WheresWes That's great! I just went and saw the photo.
I had the same question in my mind when I watch both of your videos in Poland.
I think that you need you need just a little more education and learning in Christianity. It may have allowed you to recognize some warning signs, before you were married both in the church and the woman that you married. The two of you were not on the same page as a couple should be. It is supposed to more about her needs than yours and your leadership and not hers. It sounded like the opposite and the church was not playing the correct, supporting role either. That interference by the church was crazy. Wow, sorry to hear. You’re young and will have another chance.
do you have children?
no, thankfully.
The death threats sound insane. It's crazy how a community can turn on you because you are an outsider. Dealing with Latin family sounds like a pain in the ass if you girl isn't 100% on your side. I'm glad you are out of that situation Wes.
Most of them are on the side of their families, and you will always be an outsider to them no matter how much money and resources you blow on them.
7:38 - No Colombian women for me.
This was such a good honest video. The only thing I think in the marriage you didn't understand what it meant to be part of a G12 Colombian church. Born again third world Christians are hard core, the church is your life and most of your time is spent with your church brothers and sisters. Maybe they didn't explain it to you properly the expectations. I still miss my church but I had to leave because I couldn't keep denying that I was gay to myself. Unless you were asking your wife for butt sex or something clearly immoral (like to stop going to church) your wife was supposed to submit to you, if she didn't then she was wrong. I hope you maintain your faith though Wes
He could ask, she could say no. Not going to church was not that immoral, either - she should have her own personal relationship with God as well as should He. They could skip that service every now and then and enjoy company of each other with without feeling guilty ...
You should have peace in God even being a gay. Your way with God may be different to that of the people who still are in the church you loved, but it does not mean you have no relationship with Him. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus ...
I have subscribed a long time but stopped watching until now. I always felt you're smart and talented but was quick to judge and lacked a since of maturity as I did at your age and many others as well. It seems as often the case when we go through a difficult time, as we all do, we come out broken or stronger. I am happy you took the latter. God Bless you and good luck on the re-launch as I reengage. Thank you!
Go to Colombia ! Colombia is the best !
Why would he go to that dangerous country back? He got already burnt there!
No it's not. Lol. There's only so much you can do. After 4 days you will be bored out of your mind
rofl dude they sacraficed so much to help you and bring you into their culture and you just wanted to club drink smoke weed and flirt with other girls then you play like your the victim, your story disgusts me bro i see right through you
so raw and honest. thank you
Hey Wes so glad you explained some of things you went through in Colombia. I was wondering why you were bashing Colombia but now I understand you better. Give yourself time don’t rush into anything. Let your 💔 mend first so you can be happy in your next relationship😊. Wishing you the best I will be following along on your adventures.
That explains a lot...
Thanks!
when God loves someone
He puts him in some sort of trials
That would enlighten his heart.
That he gets more wisdom
And start ditching out this life
Life is around 70 years.
Compared to the hereafter
is infinity..
So
A few years of trials
is not that a big deal compared to infinity
God give you 2 eyes
And 2 trillions of neurons in your brain
Before the creation of earth
18 billion years before that
He saw every single emotion in ur heart
He knows what s the best for u and for ur future
He connected the dots
That ur brain couldn't fathom how to connect
Islam is a good religion also
But people don't understand the deep meaning of the verses
I've gained valuable insights from your stories and wish you all the best in your endeavors. You are an incredibly intelligent individual, though I believe having a supportive partner that you can trust and respected could further enrich your life. I started watching your videos long time ago and i have the same experiences here in the USA as yours; today, i am in a relationship with a Colombian woman, but as i see it she is the opposite than your ex; very respectful and very professional independent woman
I’m moving to Europe in 3 weeks
Europe ia the best mate!
Someone got finessed
Women are good actors
They are the best in the business
Your lucky you didn’t get deleted lol
Columbia 😂
Fr
Sorry i befriend many vietnamese girls over the past decade, married many off. Married one myself, built a house in Nha Trang.
Is it true Vietnamese women are the best in the world ?
@@JAYY_JAYY as someone who has worked all over Asia, yea,l. Naturally beautiful yes, cosmic beauty korea or Japan may win. But Vietnam has mixed blood. So women have breast, not flat. And overall skinny.
Yeah that was my observation too
wow this is nuts, just come back to US listen to family, settle down get married and get stable job
Horrible advice 😂
Why would he give up his freedom to go to an expensive country with high divorce rates?
What......A RUBISH .....best country in the world 😂😂😂😂 you can get bankrupt because you got ill......education on 17 place in rhe world ......no holidays guaranteed by government.......what a heven....
Yeah, life is what happens to us while we are making other plans...
Ayyyyy go to 3city ,,trójmiasto'' and go on :D