As a recovering alcoholic, I believe that deep down, they know obesity is killing them, but denial is easier than getting real with yourself and doing the work. Same reason alcoholics get annoyed around sober people in recovery. It hurts to have your worst flaws pointed out by someone who has conquered them. But if you can work through that pain, there is self improvement on the otherside.
I don't think you hate fat people, you critique but you are pretty mild and chill, but for an insecure person every single form of critique is harrassment/hate etc
Playing victim is NOT the result of insecurity. It’s the result of someone with a manipulative personality. Not everyone deals with their insecurities through narcissistic tendencies
@@rewdskwid sure. Being insecure is not the issue, how you deal with your insecurity and if you make it other people's problems are. No one is demonizing having insecurities literally every single human has insecurities. But it's a fact that when people react to criticism like a victim and in a toxic manner they are insecure and their insecurities are ruling them. It's kind of funny because you and the other commenter showed that you guys had your insecurities struck by lashing out at the criticism lol. It's like when people say "not all __" whenever anything is brought up like of course no duh it's not everyone. if the shoe doesn't fit don't wear it.
@@rewdskwid associating the ops statement with demonizing insecurities all insecurities and then feeling the need to be like yeah not all is lashing out. You and the savannah M comment
Dang, you've motivated me a lot in my weight loss journey. 70 lbs lost and another 30 lbs to go. That intro for your Vergie Tovar video still haunts my nightmares.
There have been times where I would curl up into a ball on the ground, shaking and crying, because I wanted to eat so bad, but I knew I couldn't because at that point in my life I was over 300 lbs. Despite my shaking and crying over my situation, you know what I ended up doing? I ended up eating something anyways, not only that, but I went on a binging spree, and after I was done I started crying even more. Food had complete control over my life, I truly TRULY felt like there was nothing I could do. I even contemplated taking my own life because I hated my body so much and felt powerless. Food addiction is life destroying. Being obese, is life destroying. You really do feel like theres nothing you can do but keeping gaining weight until you die. Fortunately, That all changed for me when I discovered Kiannas channel. She really was someone I could relate too so much, and she was so motivating. She really made me believe that if she could do it, I could too. All the education, tips, and knowledge helped me lose almost 100 lbs and I'm still going. So, Kianna, I truly owe you my new life, seriously. If I had never discovered her I would never had changed and probably would have been close to 400 lbs by now. I seriously feel like I'm in debt to her. Thank you.
@Lime Angelo OMFG!!! This is the most emotional comment on TH-cam! Like ever! It's amazing how you thank this woman for transforming you! You are an inspiration! I wish health and luck to you! You fucking rock!!! BTW it's Kiana*
As someone who grew up obese and naturally lost weight by cutting back on unhealthy habits; I absolutely hate when people automatically assume any skinny person is “lucky”. It’s an everyday thing. It’s not a fad or a trend; it’s a lifestyle thing. People who use emotions to battle facts are setting us back….
I think there's a small minority of people who naturally have a moderate appetite or who don't enjoy high-calorie foods that much. But it used to be an evolutionary advantage to have a high appetite & to prefer high-calorie foods. So for most people becoming or staying skinny is more or less a fight against their instincts.
Some people definitely have an easier time keeping the weight off, but it is never effortless for any human being So the whole autopilot mentality of “my genetics doomed me with a harder path, so I should just never try” needs to end. And ESPECIALLY needs to be kept away from children who don’t know any better
@@nehalilisays I have a theory I call the snowball effect. I think I crave more food b/c my body is bigger and it wants the higher cals to sustain itself. Which can get worse if I keep eating to sustain or increase the larger size. But if I eat less to lose weight my body craves fewer calories and less food. So it all depends on if I can keep the ball tolling in the weight loss direction. I eat less>> I get smaller>> I crave less.
@@succulentadam5782 me too and honestlthsts why it's so rough when you lose weight then have fat people turn on you because of it like hey I'm sorry I ended up developing GERD I couldn't help it 😔 and even if I could have why should it matter :/
It's Freud and the Oedipal complex man. Something discussed since the ancient Greeks. "No matter what you do, you can't escape your fate." But there is hope that you make peace with it. Like Epicurus said "We cannot choose our external circumstances, but we can always choose how we respond to them."
I find people who have lost weight become the most judgemental kind of SKINNY person. They think cause they did it, it should be simple for anyone else to achieve too, and if they don't they're just lazy. Everyone wants to get skinny then act like the systemic problems that created the obesity epidemic just don't exist anymore
My father used to be morbidly obese, and in the later years of his life, he lost that weight and became very thin. He never stopped viewing himself as an obese person because that was the majority of his life experience. Even though he viewed himself as fat, and did have a lifetime of weight struggles (something that has run on his side of the family), he wasn't shy about critiquing the issues of being overweight. He was a restaurant owner, a very small hallway-sized diner. Once he had a customer tell him that he needed to increase the size of the booths to be more accommodating to morbidly obese customers - he didn't hesitate to tell him the booth wasn't the issue - it was his weight. My father's struggles with obesity led to diabetes, which led to him losing toes, which led to kidney failure, which led to my father dying. The fact that awareness about the dangers of obesity is perceived as "hating fat people" is indicative of their denial about their health status and literally nothing more.
I feel like that's an experience so many people have - when they go through a drastic physical change, one way or another, but their brain doesn't catch up. These days I'm so slim that for the first time in my life I have visible ABS and yet I still absentmindedly adjust my clothes the way I did when I was chubby.
I remember the first time I realized I was ‘fit’. I was seeing a professional bodybuilder, and my insecurities totally fucked it up. I was talking about my weight and he said ‘you literally have the same body type as me’ Like, the fat mentality doesn’t really go away lol
My mom is obese and has diabetes, thyroid, and asthma. She turned fifty last year and every time she gets a little sick I wonder if I'll have to call the ambulance and this might be the last time I see my mom alive. Obesity is no joke honestly.
A lot of fat people like me, secretly didn’t want to be alone in fatness because it’s scary and lonely. We knew the consequences. We didn’t want to face them alone. Once you have an addiction, it’s in your subconscious forever. That’s why we get so outspoken to help others to get better before they got to our point. We hate our old “fatter” selves, that’s where the bluntness comes from.
I remember watching your vergie Tovar earlier this year and after I finish watching your video, I just look at myself in the mirror and decided to lose weight. I used to weight 220 lbs and right now I weight 180 lbs. Keep up the good work Kiana and have a nice day.
Agreed. Especially when it's incredibly fact-based, well researched, and well communicated, while this was 100% for personal growth and not part of professional/academic training. (if I'm remembering correctly...apologies if I'm misremembering) As someone with a professional/academic background in public health with focuses on food/nutrition, health behavior, and health communication/education, I was absolutely shocked (in the best way) to find out Kiana wasn't at the very least pursuing an advanced degree in a related field.
@@katla_phc - remember, facts are the kryptonite of social Justice warriors. They live on feelings and sound bites, seldom of which are backed by any level of research. This whole “fat acceptance” movement is a toxic message. I don’t condone anyone getting treated disrespectfully. That being said, we should not be promoting a message that being obese is acceptable and that society should provide for it. I too come from a public health background during,my days in the Army. I have struggled with my weight all my life. I have to work overtime to keep myself anywhere near a weight that is healthy for my height.
Well sometimes people who have recovered from something (like drug addiction, alcoholism) can detest people who didn’t succeed because they remind you of your own past. So people might have thought of same or Kiana based on small snippets of her if they heard of her elsewhere. Watching full videos should give all different view.
How much self-loathing does one have to have to think that someone talking about weight loss from a psychological perspective means they hate fat people? Especially when the person talking about it has struggled with their weight? I lost 120lbs over the last 14 months and if someone accused me of hating fat people for talking about how I did it, I wouldn’t be able to stop laughing at the ridiculousness of the suggestion.
That's awesome!!! I'm working to lose weight too. 113lbs so far, but I still have 93 to go (I had 206 total to lose). Congrats to you!!! I know from experience how much better you probably feel now
@@croissant2882 That's honestly where it starts, consistency. find things that you like to do, zumba, bike riding, walking in the park, etc. You don't need a gym membership to lose weight. A lot of the time it's being smart about your eating habits. While it's easier to eat out, try cooking your meals at home or prep for the week. that's honestly what helped me the most, was meal prepping. And if you go out to eat, order a la carte and ask the waiter, "can you steam, grill or bake that?" when it comes to your veggies. Consistency is key to become better at anything in life, it's just harder with food since we need it to survive.
And they seem to associate being plus size as a category of people like a certain race/culture or sexuality rather than a physical condition. This extreme idea that society is trying to “genocide fat people” is ridiculous. You don’t have to be fat. I can’t change my race and I can’t change being a heterosexual, but being fat is optional. It doesn’t remove who you are.
@@corpsefoot758 that was my experience too, surprise: girls can also be misogynistic. also, your experience doesnt void years of statistical research, studies, and evidence... but ok.. not sure why you felt like being sassy about it.
@@corpsefoot758 you couldve just replied like a normal person and said your experience was different without doing the whole "but okay.. 🙄" like a bratty teen talking to their parents lol
I've lost 113lbs. We went to an amusement park a few days ago. Every time we were in a line for a ride, I'd have a mini panic attack, wondering if I would fit in the ride, etc. The two friends I was with (whom I now wear the same pants size as) had to constantly reassure me. One of them said "You're no longer allowed an opinion about what your body looks like." I'm still fat (93lbs left to lose) but what you said about "In some ways, I'll always be a fat person" is so true. You never stop thinking like a fat person, I don't think. You never stop wondering "Will I fit? Will it fit me?" It's weird.
I'm currently underweight. Stress related weight loss according to my doctor. I dropped some weight this fall due to stress and more due to a cold. I didn't gain it back so I'm five pounds underweight. I still see myself as fat. I look at this skinny woman in the mirror and have trouble believing it's me. I expected to see rolls of flesh, a double chin, and boobs that go on forever.
Omg I feel this my low point was being too fat to get on a rollercoaster so I lost 140 pounds and went back this year and I still had that voice saying I’m probably still too fat for the ride I wasn’t like thank god 🤣
I feel this so much! I don’t like amusement parks anymore because of this. For the most part, I think, I still fit the rides. (Even if it might be close at times.) I’ve gone on a couple in the last few years despite not being a fan anymore. Gravity was just not on my side after a point and I learned to stay away or never go on roller coasters again. I went on a water slide a year ago and it was an interesting experience. Though, still, despite losing weight, gravity was still not quite my friend yet and I do fear falling off the sides. Gravity has always been a lot for me since I’m short and used to be smaller framed. Very light. Though, back then, the rides were still fun and I felt protected. Despite having some fear, I never thought I’d for real fall off the sides of slides, slip out of rides, or get hurt being slammed against the ride. None of that. It’s so much worse when you’re heavy.
Some people confuse hating being fat and hating fat people. I don't have any reason to hate fat people, like hating any people, but have every reason to hate being fat, like hating to have fatty liver.
Just another instance of science denial. "If it feels good, do it. If it doesn't, deny it." Unfortunately facts don't care about your feelings (see: COVID).
So true, and all the pro fat movement people just wanna brainwash ppl into thinking being fat is normal….so this way more and more people don’t watch out for their weight and become fat. The logic is that if we are all fat, then nobody can judge me because we are all in the same boat. This same shitty logic applies to so many other things in life too.
I'm quite insecure and honestly I wish I was called out more. I wish my friends would tell me "hey girl, you're super unhealthy and depressed, you gotta do something about it before you kill yourself or die of malnutrition" In my own head I'll think "dang I'm in such a bad place right now, I have to fix this so I can move on with my life and be at peace" and then I'll start doubting the fact that I'm actually in a bad situation, maybe I'm just delusional and making it up. And then I realize thinking that way is another sign that I'm in a bad situation, and it keeps going around and around. And I agree, everyone is able to improve themselves. There's a point that once you're healthy, physically, mentally, and you've stopped bad habits you don't need to try as hard, but don't act like you're perfect as no one can be.
They're not just insecure, they have a cult mentality that all outsiders are enemies. They are invested in their identity as victims and a persecuted minority, and if you don't kowtow to their specific demands, usually around their cult-like language, you are shamed as a bully, a bigot, etc. There are several groups like this nowadays. Science doesn't come into it, if they identify as healthy, it's "bigotry" to tell them otherwise.
I started my weight loss journey right before I found your channel. I’m so glad I found it because it has made me believe that I can do this. So far I’m down 50 lbs and I completely believe I can lose the rest of the weight. Please keep doing your behavior changing videos, they are helping people!
I love the videos you make, too many on youtube are from people who have never been fat so your POV is amazing. The "HAES" movement is killing people, period! I remember at my heaviest (around 300 pounds) joining a HAES fourm thinking it would help me find safe ways to work out at such a high weight. Of course, I was told that I needed to just love myself and understand that being that fat was fine and there was nothing I could do about it. I remember feeling crashed, heartbroken because I hated how much just doing anything besides sitting hurt. I was ready to end it all because of this fat activism trash. Thankfully, I got mad instead and got to work. I'm about 190 now, still fat but healthier than I have been ever and still working on it. I'm a runner with almost a dozen half marathons done and a my first full marathon this year. Kiana, never ever stop making videos! We need more people to speak up against the outright lies that "HAES" spew. It could legit save someone's life.
This is what makes me so angry, the fact that this stuff is actually killing people. At the very least it is pushing people closer toward death and celebrating deadly habits. Another TH-camr I watch who creates anti-FA/HAES content, Idle Aim, disappeared for over a week. She finally reappeared last night when she posted a video saying that she'd been in the hospital after suffering a heart attack. She is only 42 years old and has been working on losing weight, went from morbidly obese to just overweight and she STILL ended up having a heart attack. One can only imagine what could've happened if she'd not already been on the path to a healthier life and weight. The heart attack could've happened years earlier and she might not have survived. The fact that this BS is now being splashed all over TV commercials and magazine covers is outrageous and beyond disgusting. It is easy enough to avoid a handful of social media accounts but it is almost impossible to avoid the content if it is staring you in the face every time you stand in line at a store checkout or turn on the TV.
Am sorry but this movement wasn't useless either. This movement tried to remove certain prejudices concerning overweight people, and talked about the hatred that overweight people receive daily. The problem was that some people overlook certain health problems linked to obesity.
It's crazy how some people are when they don't want to face the facts about how their lives really are. Thanks to both your and Michelle McDaniel videos I've been able to stick to losing weight. Your behaviour analysis videos finally got me over my perfection mindset and let me start doing small changes instead of focusing on trying to do it all. So thank you so much for your work.
I weighed 375 lbs before I watched this channel. Now I weigh 271 and I work a job that keeps me mobile and healthy. You don't hate fat people. If anything, you show a great deal of love for them, which is why you made a channel that would inspire and help them.
I feel this, after I lost all my weight I became passionate about weight loss. I've been accused of hating fat people many times. People often confuse advocating for health woth fatphobia and it needs to end.
I was 260. Reached my ideal weight then went back up again then lost the weight again and now trying again. There is no way I would consider myself “healthy” at 260. Even walking was a struggle. (I was 198 recently but went back up at 214) So wish me luck.
Good luck! Ive been fluctuating between 210 190 for about a year now. I’m hopping this year I’ll finally break that and hit my goal of 170. I’ve been struggling a lot with craving tho so it’s not easy lol.
Same here, like exactly the same. I went from 250 --> 190 when I worked at a restaurant and made rule to not eat while I am at work for a year. Had only oat breakfast and a standard dinner. I gained weight back when went back to live with my family who all love to eat. I would say the best way to loose weight is to do things that keep you distracted from food. Think of situations where you effortlessly don't think about food or hunger, and try to pivot your activity in that direction. For me working in public and being out keep me from thinking about food thus the hunger passes quickly. But sitting at home coding with food so close, it inevitably cause me to eat more than I intent thus the weight gain. Its not as bad as it use to be, I do control it somewhat, but will power is not infinite. Best way is to have less temptation is the first place.
@@OnionKing-cm4qh Another thing: if you are lazy, use that laziness to your advantage. If you want cereal, get a small cup or something of it and leave the box out of reach. So if you want more, you can get more. But, you must get up and go get it. Eventually, you will think "nah, I don't want to get up so no, I won't have any more." I started doing this and I went from eating 2500-3000 calories a day to around 1600-2000 a day.
It’s just too bad that some people think Kiana “hates fat people”. They probably have some deep insecurities that prevent them from understanding the content without taking it personally. May they all find peace. Love your content, Kiana ❤️ We love you
I've been watching you, since the very beginning. YOU ARE THE REASON THAT I'VE SHED (NOT LOST BUT SHED) 10Kg. Here a lot of love, support and love from a huge fan. We need your content. Standing right by your side. 🇮🇳❤️
As a teenager my knees used to rip when I would try and stand up 😶 I gave up as a 20 year old and tried to live with the pain. I believed I would always live life obese until my husband helped get me a doctor. Thank goodness for research because now I’ve lost 60 lbs and still going!
I read this recently, and it really applies here: "When your only tool is a hammer, everything looks like a nail. When your only perspective is victimhood, everything looks like criticism." To add, the level of self-absorption from some of these fat activists to think that everyone, at all times, is looking at them and having negative or judgemental thoughts, is simply projection. You'd have to have an inflated ego to think so many people care that much about your appearance, and to attribute every single (factual) comment about the general unhealthiness of being obese made by people you'll never know on the internet as a slight against you personally calls to attention the level of delusion some of these people operate on.
As someone who was an incredibly skinny child/young adult and who is now tipping into the overweight category, I can already feel the difference in my body and how it feels going about some activities. I'm really keen to change this and finding it tough but trying!
When you put yourself on the internet, you’re bound to have critics nitpick everything you say or how you look. You’re amazing for giving us science based information in the most interesting way. Tysm!
Today the first thing my grandfather said was " hello, oh fatty! Dont worry, one day youll be thin huh :)" Im not fat, i have a muscle mass and a normal amount of fat on top so I'm bulky Literally this man has been saying this to my mom and sisters their whole life At this point I just "dont worry you'll be a likeable one day" and walk off
Good for you not letting his negativity get to you, and I’m sorry he’s been doing that to you and your family for so long. He’s clearly got his own issues that he projects onto you guys instead of dealing with them internally. As awful as stuff like this is, I like to look at it as a blessing, in the sense that it’s an opportunity to rise above their BS and strengthen your own mind, and it seems like you’ve done exactly that :)
Too relatable; even after losing weight I still have the brain of that fat schoolkid That’s why I call myself “ex-fat” lmao But these commenters are also kinda brushing up against something real without realizing it: a lot of us fat kids DID in fact grow up “hating fat people”, because all the self-destructive tendencies causing us to gain weight were often guided by our own self-hatred to begin with 😅 For example, back then I didn’t really care how long I had left to live, and so whatever happened to my body started becoming irrelevant to me; my logic went “If I don’t really care whether I reach tomorrow, then I also don’t really care HOW I reach tomorrow”: fat, weak, ridiculed, or worthless, it all meant the same to me because it really meant nothing at all. I didn’t care 🤷♂️ Nowadays I’m trying harder to find more meaning in sticking around, but that doesn’t mean relapses can’t happen. And all that old mental venom is hovering riiight there under your skin
@@coreyeverett5500 Oh don’t fret over me brother, I’ve gotten waaay too lucky in life so far to start complaining at this point 😅 Best of luck on your own journey, and please feel free to write back with any questions or venting you might have :) Plus for anyone who’s wondering, I experimented (unsuccessfully) with full ketogenic diet before realizing that high-fat diet with fasting was the best combination for my overall physical & mental state. I would load up on cheese/butter/eggs/meat/salad, drink plenty of water, not eat anything for the next two or three days, and then top myself up with a nutrient-rich “green shake” (kale/spinach + fruit etc.) at the end of each fasting period before repeating the entire cycle The weight kept sliding off and I never really hit a wall the same way I did under full keto, so I kept going the way I had been. It is also EXTREMELY important to pay attention toward both your Vitamin-D and stress levels, because the presence of the first and the lack of the latter is a massive aid in losing weight significantly and sustainably. My own Vitamin-D levels were crashed and I basically lived through an entire childhood of mental stress, so readjusting both of those (previously neglected) sides of my life was an absolute game-changer Good luck out there, everyone 🤘☺️
I was a fat teen. Not 'fat' by today's standards, but pushing overweight. I was only ten to fifteen pounds overweight. It was so hard to lose that weight. It was so hard to keep the weight off. I always exercised a lot. I didn't know how to eat less and still feel full. I gained the weight back many times. Fortunately, those ten pounds never turned into more than twenty.
I find this channel is one of the most fair and balanced when it comes to fatness, obesity, fat acceptance, etc. You're always honest about the science, you're positive about the ability to change, but without ever making fun of fat people, or making videos that are mean. And I've found most of the other channels I've seen ARE mean. Really mean, in fact. They aren't nuanced, they don't give grace and understanding to fat people, they just mock us. And that's why this is the only channel (that isn't one run by a scientist or doctor) that focuses on health that I watch. Especially as someone who, thanks to being severely disabled, has a harder time losing weight than most. In order for me to lose weight, my calorie limit is much lower than that of a normal adult woman- 800 cal/day. That's because I'm bedbound, I can't do even incidental exercise, and I'm also on a cocktail of meds that have weight gain as a side effect. As it is, my muscles are continuing to atrophy by the day. I've had a measure of success though- I've lost 25kg so far this year. So even someone like me can lose weight. It's just so much harder, and people pushing simplistic "solutions", and especially people who mock fat people are making things worse, they aren't helping. That's actually the thing- that one kernel of fat acceptance that is useful is imperative. You can't make the effort to get healthier when you hate yourself. There has to be kindness, has to be understanding that is really is difficult. That it's a psychological change that is needed. Most others would rather pretend that it's just as simple as "calories in/calories out". But it's not. So I thank you for NOT hating fat people, for always being balanced, and kind, and just following the science. Which includes psychology. People seem to forget that it is also science. It has been the key to me not only beginning to lose weight, but also to give up smoking. I smoked up to 40 a day, and this channel helped me kick that habit. I smoked because I was so hopeless about ever being healthy that I figured, might as well. But even though I won't ever be "healthy" (I'm literally bedbound) I can be the healthiest I can be. I can take control over as much as I can, and given my limited control over my life and body as it is, having that control at all is really important. Sorry, this turned into a ramble. I just wanted to say that I appreciate the accurate, holistic, scientific, yet kind approach. It's certainly made a big difference to my life in particular.
I’ve gained weight due to antidepressants and until this point I was at a normal weight and it is devastating to look different. Things have gotten more challenging like climbing the stairs and it’s overall just annoying. Due to my mental state a diet wouldn’t be a good choice because I need my comfort food to stabilise my mood. I change it with healthier options from time to time but I can’t get away from a burger or a pizza. There are many reasons why someone can’t lose weight at the moment and it’s not always that they’re just lazy and have no willpower. Thank you for making this video
I won’t pretend to know how it feels to be on those medications, but if you can’t cut your comfort foods at this point, have you tried maybe subbing out some ingredients for low-carb/high-fat options, or just eating more healthy fats throughout the day (avocado, virgin olive oil, eggs, grass-fed butter etc.) in general? I don’t have a sweet tooth, but I love starches and my blood-sugar spikes like crazy with them, so rather than cutting my favorite foods I just “streamlined” them into healthier versions: mustard & mayo on burgers instead of ketchup or barbecue sauce, eating mozzarella sticks or peanut butter before having pizza so I don’t just load up on the dough, savory salads throughout the day keeping my snacking under control etc. etc. This is only the stuff that worked for me, though. Hopefully you can find something which works for you! 🤘☺️
That's why I stopped taking psych meds. Sure, I went on two mile walks, did hundreds of situps ate more steamed vegetables, limited myself to one or two meals a day, used plastic wrap as a makeshift waist trainer, but it didn't start melting off until I flushed the meds. I don't care if my life depends on it, I'm never taking medicine again. It was only 20lbs and I wasn't even overweight at my heaviest but I hated it that much.
I am obese facing weight loss surgery. I can tell you fat acceptance is very enabling and very toxic and I appreciate people fighting against the stigma of Health at every size. Obesity is an epidemic that is hurting people.
@@gastounmanar9814 I agree with you that no one should ever be discriminated against because of their weight and that unfortunately that happens all the time. But there are people in the movement who do spread misinfo surrounding the negative health impacts of obesity, and I think that's what people are pointing out
I've always seen the fat acceptance movement as more of a political one. Like I know there are people out there talking about personal feelings/acceptance, but I've always been exposed to the fat acceptance movement as something that's about fat people being treated right by doctors, who will chalk all their problems up to their weight-the same way a lot of doctors will chalk severe conditions like fibromyalgia up to anxiety and stress. And fighting against stigma in places like the workplace-fat people deserve good jobs too. I think it's important that that part of fat acceptance stay strong: as you said, struggling with weight/food addiction/etc is one of the hardest things to do, and I don't believe that people's lives should be made harder because of people judging their weight. The same way I wouldn't judge a smoker who got lung cancer: they're still worthy of medical care, a job, housing, loved ones, etc.
Great video. The conversation of Fatphobia is so frustrating because, it's become almost impossible to explain to people that Food addiction is a very real problem. I also have personal experiences of eating, feeling full, knowing I need to stop, and continuing to eat regardless, feeling horrible, then doing it ALL OVER AGAIN. It's horrible when you feel like the food has control over your mind. And when you've been on a weight loss journey. Being at a healthy weight, It's shocking when I remember how much physical pain and discomfort I always experienced and had even normalized when I was bigger. and I do think it's about behavior and values because there's something truly empowering about getting a handle over one's addictions. Over time I've watched myself become the thing that fat people hate, a person who always seems like they are lecturing other people to lose weight, which sucks cause I truly have empathy for people who still struggle. But once I stopped the internet fad diets and just stuck to a mostly heathy diet, weight management hasn't been a challenge. And when you try to tell people your lived experiences, and spread hope and encouragement, you're just told you hate fat people hahaha. So frustrating
Former obese person who became fit, who is now fat again because of anti depressants I didn’t need- The fat acceptance movement is scary. I resonate deeply with everything you said here. I remember the first time I heard that ‘weight loss is impossible’, it was demoralizing. I genuinely believed it for awhile and sunk further and further into obesity. Then one day I said to myself, ‘ok weight loss might be impossible. But let’s be totally honest with ourself here, am I actively making healthy choices? I could stay this weight my entire life, that’s fine. But how long is that life going to be?’ And so I started making changes. Not all at once, not very extreme. Every day I just made ONE healthier choice than the day before. Within a year I had lost over 100lbs, and kept it off for 6 years until literally this year. Time to rebound! I forgot how awful it feels to carry extra weight. I forgot how frustrating it feels to lose my breath when I climb up a flight of stairs. How exhausting life is when overweight. The crab bucket phenomenon is real, and amplified in the internet age. The direction of the fat acceptance movement is getting very dark very quickly. It’s the denial of science, akin to the anti vax movement, climate change deniers, and flat earthers in my opinion. Thank you for providing a much needed perspective!
i'm in my mid-low 300s rn losing weight and i NEVER got the feeling that you hated fat people. i got the feeling you were sick and tired of fat EXCUSES and honestly seeing all these people whining about how they don't WANT to change really helps motivate me to be everything that they aren't. i've lost 30 pounds so far and my motivation only grows when i see people like the CRFI Lady because i had better never write a medium article about why you shouldn't eat my leftovers
While I haven’t experienced being mocked and mistreated to the level that fat people experience, I did experience comments from strangers and feeling downright disgusting/unattractive for something I couldn’t control: extremely painful hormonal cystic acne. I’m still recovering from this and it was super traumatizing as I still feel (although it’s gotten better as my hormones leveled out) like I can’t look at people in the face or when people look at me it’s for that reason. But I refuse to continue my life with a destroyed self esteem. I’m so sorry that anyone deals with feeling like and I hope they find the confidence to make the change! Make the mental AND physical change!
I don’t know how to convey this properly, but I understand what you mean by this. For me, it’s my natural ability to get addicted to playing MMOs. I backed off, took up other hobbies, and my life has improved tremendously. But, I’ll always be an MMO addict. Hopefully, that helps to explain how I get the sentiment.
I needed this today. I literally just finished writing down all the reasons that push me forward to eat more nutritiously, not only to lose weight but to have better digestion, to improve the state of my skin. Also, I've never been skinny but I've gained weight this last years, by going through something like you did, that helpless cycle, and I've noticed how harder it is to do physical things, summers are awful, going hiking is something I love but now going down makes my knees hurt like crazy. It's not one thing, but many things in my personal experience that are being affected by my weight gain, including my self esteem and confidence. And I loved what you said. I want to be able to choose what I want to eat not what my bad habit is telling me to. Sometimes I know I don't want it but still go for it, and that really does make you feel so bad. I want to be free from this bad habit, that initiated as a way to calm my anxiety. I want to be free and be able to choose to be healthy. I'll save this video on my Playlist and replay it every now and then to have this in my mind. Thank you for video ❤️
Your videos made it click in my head why I intuitively didn't like the FA rhetoric, and unfortunately lost a really good friend because they've fallen down that rabbit hole. While I sympathize with the sociological stigma, I hate the (sometimes intentional) anti-intellectual leap to discount decades of medical and scientific research that shows the dangers of chronic obesity. I did the weight loss thing in all the wrong ways the first time around as a teen and ended up with very disordered eating and even worse body dysmorphia. It's taken years of learning and introspection, but I've been able to sus out those unhelpful thought patterns and embrace body neutrality. I finally got back into the gym and am working with a personal trainer for the accountability and support. Once I made the shift mentally to understand that showing up for myself is a courageous act of self compassion, and that no one else can do that for me, it's been a lot easier to be healthier. And I owe that in part to your videos, so thank you for that.
For this kind of channels I am so grateful to be a translator . I am from Chile and I started to watch your channel with the Tess Holiday video . On that moment I was more into the gym and loosing weight.....but then I gained A LOT of weight. My rock bottom was when my gynecologist told me I was pre diabetic 😱I was very scared of diabetes being a person with albinism and it's consequences to my health, especially my sight , so I decided to make changes in my life little by little . I was 131kg in 2019....now I am 107 kg and still trying to make some changes , but now I know I am in the right path .... hopefully ☺️. Thanks Kiara and please continue to bring us information and motivation for us , the ones who REALLY WANT to change our lives and being ACTIVES, not VICTIMS
I have been working on my overweight and now obesity issue for literal decades, and it seems like the more fervently I pursue that 24.9 BMI, the more I am discovering how much my behaviors are rooted in deeper and deeper layers of my psychology. As soon as I think I've got it figured out, I binge again and fall into self-loathing but, the biggest change I've made since watching your channel, Kiana, is that now even when I relapse, I open new doors of self-discovery and learning. One of the most important things I have learned about life through this so far is that your journey is your own, and it will not look like anyone else's. As much as I wish I could lose 100 lbs in a year, so far, that is proving to be impossible for ME because of how much work I still have to do on my behaviors, and how much healing is required for my deep psychology that will translate to better behaviors that will later translate to easier weight loss because I'm working on what really needs to be worked on. So, if it's not possible right now for me to do what needs to be done to lose 100 lbs by this time next year, should I quit? Hell, no. But it does mean I need to adjust my expectations, and also frequently check in with my values and why I am doing this so that, even if the scale or my body doesn't do what I want it to do, I am still on track. I like what you said about using my sense of integrity to guide me toward my ultimate goals. For me, losing weight is going to be a RESULT of the work I am doing on myself, not the main point. So, that was a long-winded response to your video, Kiana. Love your content. You've been a steady light in a confusing kaleidoscopic journey.
As someone that was called obese at 138 pounds, I have trouble with the concept of losing a hundred pounds. I don't even currently weigh a hundred pounds. It's daunting that you want to lose as much fat as this little old lady weighs.
We truly live in a world where up is down and down is up it seems. Props for speaking out on this it's one of the more insidious addictions running rampant totally unchecked and even in some cases celebrated. Porn is another addiction that is absolutely crushing but many people seem to have no problem with. I was able to go from one extreme diet of only junk food and meat no veggies/fruits (Ate this way for 20 years) to going vegan (No longer vegan now but stuck with it for five years), fix my poor sleep, start working out, gave up alcohol but I can't stop watching porn. I've tried many, many times but it's one of the few things I can't kick and the last bad coping mechanism I feel I have. Thankfully I've never spent a dime on it but I've wasted a lot of time finding things, downloading it, thinking about the next time I'll masturbate off etc. I consider myself pretty disciplined which goes to show how bad this stuff is for you if I was able to totally change my life but can't kick this.
This is an important comment, and I completely want to validate how you feel. You’re very right, and this needs to be addressed, as it does feel life-ruining at times. While I don’t have advice to give, I just want to wish you luck in stopping your addiction. Good for you for admitting it, because that’s already a massive step.
I lost 50 pounds in the last year, but I’ve lost a lot of steam. Hoping to bounce back in August. That being said, even though I’m still technically obese according to my BMI, losing that weight has made me feel more energetic and I now naturally wake up earlier. To people out there: you don’t gotta lose it all and become a size 2! Just losing even 10% of your body weight is enough to see big positive changes.
I was a nicotine addict smoking 2 packs a day. I knew I would turn to food when I quit. Gained 80 lbs in 6 months. Took me 2 years to get it off taking karate classes 3-4 a week and eating right. I’ve kept it off for 22 years. The lie that permanent weight loss is impossible really ticks me off. It’s like saying you can’t stop smoking or drinking. Yes, you can. You will have to use will power, you will have to develop healthy hobbies to keep you occupied. And you will succeed. Lastly as a caregiver with a back that is no longer capable of working in the health care field because I had to move 300+ pound people around I am super annoyed by how selfish these FA cultists are !! You want to be 450 pounds and call it healthy fine... but you’re in charge of wiping your own behind and getting in and out of bed. Great video and NO it’s obvious you LOVE fat people. 🙏🏽
You nailed a lot of things that I dealt with over the past couple years. I actually lost 50 lbs since the pandemic so it allowed me to really focus and pay attention to what I was doing with fewer distractions.
As a fat person with eating disorder and trying to lose weight and have successfully lost 8kgs your videos have made me motivated to keep trying. You have literally saved my life I'll be forever grateful ❤❤❤
The key to losing weight is of course control and consistency but also understanding the reasons why, what to avoid and how to change your habits. Your channel is educational and helpful in that way.
This is so helpful. I just had a small fail after a mountain of victories and I am still able to get up and keep climbing. Continuing to reinforce the behavior change is much easier after a few years and it still helps to find support. Videos like this are a huge crutch for me in a world of obese people whom I love dearly.
Asking this question just means you've never watched her videos in full length and you probably think that reasonably critiquing a group that denies common sense is "hate" then you obviously are too damn sensitive and probably don't have many friends since you think disagreements automatically equate to hating that person which is illogical in every way.
Going from morbid obesity to a more normal weight changed so much of my life. The main thing was energy. I had a preschooler and infant when I lost the weight and I could finally be the mom & wife I wanted to be. It has taken effort to keep it off but I never let it get so out of control that it feels impossible again. I wouldn't go back for anything
I can't believe people can say that with any seriousness. I only stumbled across this channel a week ago and it is so educational and informative. It is in no way hateful. Quite the opposite. You are very balanced and come across as a kind person.
So amazing to have you being a leader in this space Kiana! You present all of your ideas in your videos so clearly. I always come back to you to recenter myself. Thank you for your time!
This isn't super relevant but I wanted to share: I have always struggled with feeling like a fatty, especially as a child I am 5'6" and I weigh 172 pounds. I have struggled for years to try and make myself a nOrMaL bMi. I can't seem to ever get below 155lbs. I joined a boat racing team recently. The boat kept leaning on the side I was sitting on. The coach had moved three people to balance the boat out and nothing worked. He asked how much the muscular man sitting in front of me weighed. Coach seemed frustrated he couldn't get the balance of the boat correct. It was then I thought it would be helpful for me to volunteer how heavy I am (bc it wouldnt have been socially traditional for him to ask) and he seemed genuinely surprised and was able to balance our boat correctly after he knew. He remarked that it's a lot of muscle The fact that it took him switching three people around me before even thinking about moving me made me feel a lot better about my weight Everyone says I wear my weight well and I look very muscular in general I don't know how much I actually may look fat, or how much is in my head But bMi is silly and I do a lot to "stay in shape"
BMI doesn't accurately calculate fat since it's only weight-based. I think measuring your waist and progress pictures may be closer to necessary. I'm 5'8 and around 180lbs myself, but I had abs at 155lbs, so I don't even look that overweight even though I am. Bodies are weird.
Kiana, thanks to your videos I've started seeing a dietician and working on my eating habits, slowly but surely losing weight. Pointing out the psychology behind eating really helps me understand what I'm doing wrong (and, hopefully, right). Of course, there are always going to be those people who don't like being told that what they're doing is wrong. I belive you've covered that in a video of yours. So I guess what I'm trying to get at is this: If you did somehow hate fat people, you would never have had this positive impact.
Saying you hate fat people it's like saying tess holliday has anorexia 😂😂 I watched every single one of your videos and during none of them I never thought for a second that you hate fat people! It was always educational and fun, so keep up the good work girl 👍👍
As someone who was formerly obese and lost around 100lbs in about a year I have very little sympathy for overweight people - why? Honestly while it took time to lose the weight it was easy, wanna know why and how I did it? I eat like a healthy person. That's it. Attacking people for their weight is WRONG and absurd, but defending your weight and saying it's medically ok is just bullshit, plain and simple.
Careful with those generalizations. I want to illustrate something. I was made obese at 6 years old via a godawful babysitter who basically force-fed us. Should I have known at 6 what to do? That weight carries with me even now, my body will forever be altered. There are simply more fat cells, more stretched skin, such that it is that much harder, physiologically, for me to lose weight than for someone who's already at a healthy size to maintain that weight. I agree that defending your weight and saying it's medically okay is bad, but I don't agree with the idea that it's automatically 100% their fault. Good video on this is "Why is it so easy to be thin in Japan?"
@@coreyeverett5500 I don't think Ross said that it's 100% your fault. Genetics, and circumstances do count, like in your case as well, but it doesn't mean that phisically it's impossible for you to lose weight. It means that it's harder, and you have to decide whether you use your medical condition etc as a shield to why you are obese, or you say to yourself, that on the longterm, you want to achieve a healthy bodyweight, and change your lifestyle accordingly. This is a conversation that I had with myself before. I have PCOS, Lypodema, Insulin resistancy, hormonal issues, genetic joins problems etc, so a lot of things that make losing weight harder. I wasn't morbidly obese, but big enough to suffer from my weight. Now I'm 25kg (55lbs) down, with another few to go, and it's slow and hard, but worth every effort.
@@coreyeverett5500 you make it like the fat/scars are permanent. It’s not. Your mindset shows exactly why you might have stayed at the way you are (if you are still overweight). Life sucks, but even so we can only blame everything else so much. Take responsibility.
@@coreyeverett5500 No. Having been obese as a child due to being force-fed does NOT mean you "have more fat cells," and even the number of fat cells present is irrelevant because someone who weighs 250lbs can have the same number of fat cells as someone who weighs 95lbs. Gaining weight does NOT increase the number of fat cells that you have; this number is static and unchanging unless you undergo cryolipolysis or another medical fat-removal treatment. I also highly doubt you actually KNOW the number of fat cells you have and whether it is any different than the average. It's also worth noting that many Asian people who immigrate to the United States experience an increase in weight, and their children (i.e 2nd generation Asian Americans) are significantly MORE likely to be obese- not because their genetics have changed, but because they have adopted American values regarding food in the process of assimilation. This is also due to differences in which foods are more readily available, HOWEVER...most Asian immigrants who have been polled in these obesity studies claim that "finding healthy food is easy" and "they can afford the foods they want."
I don’t understand not having sympathy for fat people when our food is literally made in a lab to be as delicious and addictive as possible. And then sold to us with massive and clever marketing campaigns. Our society works every day to make things easier so we can be more sedentary. Healthy food is expensive - it goes on and on. As a former fat person I have a lot of empathy for fat people.
Thank you for sharing your story. It's important that you don't lose sight of your accomplishments, you've made great strides and unquestionably improved yourself.
I'm so glad you aren't actually bothered by that question being out there. You have always been so thoughtful, kind, and respectful when talking about this very sensitive issue.
You are honestly one of the most responsible and well researched wellness channels out there. You should always be proud of your progress and your channel. Don't let the naysayers get you down.
Change is hard. You don't get to stop when you start. The new age, " self-love" is basically, " you're already as good as you're gonna get, so do nothing." That isn't love or healthy. You can do what you want but don't hide behind words when your ideas get put under fire. Love starts with change, and change is like rain. It begins with a single drop.
When you said “how much have I given up for this” before eating bad food really clicked something in my brain. Thank you so much for making this content, your video me have helped me a lot
so truue. saw kiana at walmart yesterday, she simply walked up to me and called me a fat wench 😭🙁🙁🙁 then she ate everything in my shopping cart and said its for the best, and that shes doing me a favor. unreal!!!
Only 40 seconds in and I’m actually dying at the L.O.A.F Edit: ouch. This was so raw and real. Thank you for talking abt this, and yeah I’m loving the new direction you’re taking your channel. You’re doing god’s work here.
You described that struggle to quit something and feeling as if it’s one long nightmare of failure absolutely perfectly, to the point that it gave me chills. 150 days free from the Juul (nicotine) and 40 pounds down from 195. Thank you for your videos
For what it's worth from an internet stranger.... you are such a lovely person inside and out. Your good intentions are very clear to those with no agenda. Your mission is not only full of integrity but also a righteous in this time of blurring facts with feelings. Continue the great work.
Dear Kiana, I might come from the very opposite direction ( Im struggling with anorexia and a lot of hospitals since 4 years) but I can really relate to the food problems and behaviour change. I'm doing a lot better at the moment and part of what helped me (along therapy) was TH-cam and a variety of videos..I found you because of your test holiday anorexia video, and your content is so interesting. It is in general about behaviour change, so I also benefited a lot from that. Thank you so much🙏
I'm starting my weight loss journey again and the realization that it's all you is the greatest thing once you have it drilled in your brain. Being able to be in control of your situation is the best.
This is the second point in my life I've came across your channel. The first time was during the summer of 2020 when I was in the last leg of my weight loss journey (which began in 2010) when I lost the last 30 lb of my ultimate weight loss goal. In 2010, I was 220 lb (5'4, that's obese) in the summer of 2020, I was 120. I unfortunately gained back that 30 lbs that I lost that summer over the past 2 years when I started working at a minimal waste grocery store (which, ethically, I loved, seeing less go in the dumpster, but then I just realized I WAS the dumpster, since the way they get rid of the waste was to give it to the employees) I'm now working on myself, once again, and here I am, back at your channel. You explain things to me in a way that not only makes sense, but I can also understand, because we share similarities in our past, struggling with binge eating disorder, struggling with losing weight and keeping it off... my mother has also struggled with this her entire life. I see the health effects of doing this for decades. She's had type 2 since the 90s, high blood pressure, is on like 15 medications she takes daily, in addition to $500/month just for insulin... and I love my mom. I don't judge her for doing what she does. But I do wish she would make daily habit changes to eat healthier and be more active. Anyway I think my point is that you are here, on TH-cam, discussing your own past experiences with obesity and ED'S, speaking logically and scientifically, to a group of people who can relate, but potentially don't want to hear what you have to say. There are certain people who you're speaking to directly out of a place of wanting to help them. But in cases of people such as ALR (not to single her out, she just happens to be a prime example of) they know what needs to be done to meet their goals but are forever stuck in a "why me" mentality. And that mentality shapes the world of "body positivity" that IS harmful to the overall wellbeing of people in general. I wish I would have listened to people so many years ago when I was told that eating healthy would help my mental health as well as physical health. I refused to believe that the way I was eating was actually the reason I was depressed and anxious all the time. You keep doing you, girl! Even though a small number think you're fat shaming or fat phobic, you aren't. Some people will just never get it.
There is a new study that proves that food is connected to depression. The many participants that ate a healthy diet in addition to social conseling saw their depression fade. The control group that just had social counseling on top of their regular treatment had no such benefit. I don't have the link.
@@marilynbeth5993 link is unnecessary. I 100% believe that! When I eat clean, I feel awesome! When I don't, over a small amount of time, I lose all my mental faculties. Then my body feels bad. It's hard to get out of that cycle, because eating the bad things feel great right now, but feeling great in the long term is worth cutting the fat, so to speak.
I remember being ten years old and wanting to hide a bunch of pictures of myself and hide from more being taken since I was "The Fat Kid"... I'm battling the negative mental health that came from that so I can no longer be the fat friend as an adult. Thanks for coming at all the fat hate and inequality in body diversity fights in such a positive way and proving what true body positivity is ACTUALLY about.
8:07 really striking moment here for me. It's a point of view I think is really valuable and perspective shifting - when we overeat unhealthy foods, we trade our health for the momentary pleasure of gorging on delicious food. It's up to each of us to decide if that's worth it. Building the restraint to have only one slice (or none) can be tremendously hard at first.
You saying that you were giving up your whole life for food really reasonated with me. It changed the entire dynamic I had with food. I thought I didn't want to give it up until you put that way and I realized I was choosing to give up everything I wanted, to binge. It became so absurd I found the will to stop, it was not worth it after that. Whenever I feel like binging or over eating to deal with stress, I watch your Foodie Beauty and Amberlynn videos and it reminds of how bad I can let it slide. The Amberlynn Reid video was so powerful, there a moment where she sprinkles cheese into soup and I do that and it was really eye opening and it stuck with me. Your videos have helped me so much, the water and fascia videos made me take moving and water more seriously. I love your format and never once have I thought you hate fat people, I see that you are unwilling to compromise with the sadness and pain that obesity causes and you crave the knowledge and understanding of how and why it happens and how to stop it. Since I found your channel I lost 20 lbs in counting, and I want to be healthy and happy again and I thought that my obesity was just something I couldn't escape and that I would never walk without discomfort again. Thank you for sharing everything you found in these videos, it means so much and they are just so well edited and produced ❤️🔥
When you were describing being slave to food and eating non stop even knowing it makes you essentially give up your life... that hit hard. I am fighting this exact thing right now. Thank you for your videos, they are incredibly insightful and balanced. Love listening to them while working out. Keep up the good work!
You're so right! Having been obese, I'm so much happier now! I still need to lose 30 more. I have osteoarthritis and my back hurts so bad when I have extra weight! I feel much more tired as well. I was left untreated too long for low thyroid, but now that's being fixed, and I've lost some, I never want to go back!! Yeah, if people like being fat, that's great for them, but it's so much better to be healthy.
I’m 3 years out from losing 100lbs, size 22 to 8. My brain still can’t compute this and in my mind I’m an obese person. I still expect to fill out a chair, plus size clothes look like my size, I don’t expect a towel to wrap around me, and there are physical things I assume I can’t do. It sticks with you mentally for a long time.
I can't stand all the excuses the FA movement comes up with to never change. I was 280 pounds at my heaviest- and I physically couldn't exercise because I had horrible pain. It ended up being a massive ovarian cyst and I lost so much weight and had no pain again when exercising. If you seriously can't lose weight and are accurately watching the food intake and still aren't losing weight, there is probably something seriously physically wrong with you and you need to go to the doctor
Oh man, speaking of unloading childhood trauma, when I was in 8th grade this girl came up to me after class and loudly proclaimed in front of everyone that she does NOT like me and finds me ugly and that I'm way too fat for her. Totally came out of nowhere. Especially weird because I was NOT into her at all...But after that I was!! ...Just kidding ha ha..
What I've noticed with a lot of nutrition education channels/health conscious channels is that the content creators more often than not used to be overweight/obese! As someone going through her own weight loss to be healthier, I can understand how you feel. You feel great and you want everyone you know to learn the information you've learned! To help them get out of the rut that you felt yourself unable to escape. It's so life-changing so why not share what made you feel better? You have never come across as condescending, just informational and I can get behind that.
As someone who grew up obese and have experienced all the negative social and mental effects of it; you are 100% a positive voice for helping people change their perspectives and fix this issue for themselves in a non judgmental way. You don’t seem bothered by this comment but those of us who have been sisters of LOAF.. we get it, we hear you and need you
Ive been obese for a decent part of my young adult life. It's scary experiencing health issues and feeling hopeless about changing my habits, yet still trying to make changes to feel better and live a healthier life. Thank you for your videos and specifically this one.
"What is it? You're really fat ⚰️💀", Brutal, on a more serious note I think because people aren't as used to opposition; any person who spreads ideas that contradicts their way of life gets labeled as a hater.
Hey Kiana! I just discovered your channel, and the amount of research and effort you put into your videos is amazing. I’ve found them very informative, and interesting to hear the science and psychology behind a lot of this. Have you ever looked into the affect that infrastructure has on our weight as a culture? I would love to hear your insight on that kind of topic as well. Getting into Not Just Bikes (another big TH-camr) recently has been so eye opening to me how much the sheer structure of our society as a whole traps people. We aren’t forced to move in our daily lives anymore, and in fact we are discouraged from being active in a more natural way, and I find the psychology behind that kind of thing fascinating as well, as it really ties into the obesity epidemic all over the world. Being active for the sake of health alone has never been natural to humanity, we always had to be active in order to live, and now that has changed so much. Anyways thanks for all your hard work, keep fighting the good fight! :)
As a recovering alcoholic, I believe that deep down, they know obesity is killing them, but denial is easier than getting real with yourself and doing the work. Same reason alcoholics get annoyed around sober people in recovery. It hurts to have your worst flaws pointed out by someone who has conquered them. But if you can work through that pain, there is self improvement on the otherside.
So well put. I’m hella proud of you bro!
Stay strong fren.
Love this comment
The hardest part is learning to love yourself
As a recovering drug addict AND a current food addict i agree 10000%
I don't think you hate fat people, you critique but you are pretty mild and chill, but
for an insecure person every single form of critique is harrassment/hate etc
Playing victim is NOT the result of insecurity. It’s the result of someone with a manipulative personality. Not everyone deals with their insecurities through narcissistic tendencies
@@savannahm9943 right? Like can we not demonize having insecurities so much? Everyone has them and everyone expresses them differently.
@@rewdskwid sure. Being insecure is not the issue, how you deal with your insecurity and if you make it other people's problems are. No one is demonizing having insecurities literally every single human has insecurities. But it's a fact that when people react to criticism like a victim and in a toxic manner they are insecure and their insecurities are ruling them. It's kind of funny because you and the other commenter showed that you guys had your insecurities struck by lashing out at the criticism lol. It's like when people say "not all __" whenever anything is brought up like of course no duh it's not everyone. if the shoe doesn't fit don't wear it.
@@tristantries9211 not sure how my comment is deemed "lashing out"
@@rewdskwid associating the ops statement with demonizing insecurities all insecurities and then feeling the need to be like yeah not all is lashing out. You and the savannah M comment
These people are complete hypocrites. They say you hate fat people while simultaneously hating on you for not being fat. Love you kiana
100%
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Saying she hates fat people when they hate themselves for not being able to change
How is that hypocrisy tho? They never say that they like skinny people right?
Really well put, completely agree
Dang, you've motivated me a lot in my weight loss journey. 70 lbs lost and another 30 lbs to go. That intro for your Vergie Tovar video still haunts my nightmares.
Congratulations, my dude 🤘☺️
Oh nice all the best
thats amazing congratulations!!!
Congrats! Just out of curiosity since I’m new to the channel, which video is that?
Great job
There have been times where I would curl up into a ball on the ground, shaking and crying, because I wanted to eat so bad, but I knew I couldn't because at that point in my life I was over 300 lbs. Despite my shaking and crying over my situation, you know what I ended up doing? I ended up eating something anyways, not only that, but I went on a binging spree, and after I was done I started crying even more. Food had complete control over my life, I truly TRULY felt like there was nothing I could do. I even contemplated taking my own life because I hated my body so much and felt powerless. Food addiction is life destroying. Being obese, is life destroying. You really do feel like theres nothing you can do but keeping gaining weight until you die. Fortunately, That all changed for me when I discovered Kiannas channel. She really was someone I could relate too so much, and she was so motivating. She really made me believe that if she could do it, I could too. All the education, tips, and knowledge helped me lose almost 100 lbs and I'm still going. So, Kianna, I truly owe you my new life, seriously. If I had never discovered her I would never had changed and probably would have been close to 400 lbs by now. I seriously feel like I'm in debt to her. Thank you.
100lbs! That's incredible. I'm so happy for you finding that healthier mindset.
@@spookshow Thank you!
you will learn how amazing you are, don't worry. The challenges you overcome make the others seems more achievable. Way to go, You
this made me teary.. I feel the same way. shes a true inspiration. you got this!
@Lime Angelo OMFG!!! This is the most emotional comment on TH-cam! Like ever! It's amazing how you thank this woman for transforming you! You are an inspiration! I wish health and luck to you! You fucking rock!!! BTW it's Kiana*
As someone who grew up obese and naturally lost weight by cutting back on unhealthy habits; I absolutely hate when people automatically assume any skinny person is “lucky”. It’s an everyday thing. It’s not a fad or a trend; it’s a lifestyle thing.
People who use emotions to battle facts are setting us back….
I hate that assumption to, it takes so much for me to be the weight I am and I get told I'm just lucky, it's not luck, it's constant work
I think there's a small minority of people who naturally have a moderate appetite or who don't enjoy high-calorie foods that much. But it used to be an evolutionary advantage to have a high appetite & to prefer high-calorie foods. So for most people becoming or staying skinny is more or less a fight against their instincts.
Yes, I'm in the same boat. It's a everyday thing for me, I make the decisions everyday to not do those unhealthy habits.
Some people definitely have an easier time keeping the weight off, but it is never effortless for any human being
So the whole autopilot mentality of “my genetics doomed me with a harder path, so I should just never try” needs to end. And ESPECIALLY needs to be kept away from children who don’t know any better
@@nehalilisays I have a theory I call the snowball effect. I think I crave more food b/c my body is bigger and it wants the higher cals to sustain itself. Which can get worse if I keep eating to sustain or increase the larger size. But if I eat less to lose weight my body craves fewer calories and less food. So it all depends on if I can keep the ball tolling in the weight loss direction. I eat less>> I get smaller>> I crave less.
“And in some ways I’ll never not be a fat person” OOF that hit me hard
And when she says it, it perfectly summed up my life
@@succulentadam5782 me too and honestlthsts why it's so rough when you lose weight then have fat people turn on you because of it like hey I'm sorry I ended up developing GERD I couldn't help it 😔 and even if I could have why should it matter :/
It's Freud and the Oedipal complex man. Something discussed since the ancient Greeks. "No matter what you do, you can't escape your fate." But there is hope that you make peace with it. Like Epicurus said "We cannot choose our external circumstances, but we can always choose how we respond to them."
I find people who have lost weight become the most judgemental kind of SKINNY person. They think cause they did it, it should be simple for anyone else to achieve too, and if they don't they're just lazy. Everyone wants to get skinny then act like the systemic problems that created the obesity epidemic just don't exist anymore
I have to say, I’m glad you pronounced your last name for us, because I’ve been saying it wrong.
exactly what i was thinking when she said it hahaha
IVE STRUGGLED WITH IT FOR MONTHS
Haha yes!!
Same!
Same, I was like omg, I have been saying it wrong this whole time 😭
My father used to be morbidly obese, and in the later years of his life, he lost that weight and became very thin. He never stopped viewing himself as an obese person because that was the majority of his life experience. Even though he viewed himself as fat, and did have a lifetime of weight struggles (something that has run on his side of the family), he wasn't shy about critiquing the issues of being overweight.
He was a restaurant owner, a very small hallway-sized diner. Once he had a customer tell him that he needed to increase the size of the booths to be more accommodating to morbidly obese customers - he didn't hesitate to tell him the booth wasn't the issue - it was his weight.
My father's struggles with obesity led to diabetes, which led to him losing toes, which led to kidney failure, which led to my father dying.
The fact that awareness about the dangers of obesity is perceived as "hating fat people" is indicative of their denial about their health status and literally nothing more.
I feel like that's an experience so many people have - when they go through a drastic physical change, one way or another, but their brain doesn't catch up. These days I'm so slim that for the first time in my life I have visible ABS and yet I still absentmindedly adjust my clothes the way I did when I was chubby.
I remember the first time I realized I was ‘fit’. I was seeing a professional bodybuilder, and my insecurities totally fucked it up. I was talking about my weight and he said ‘you literally have the same body type as me’
Like, the fat mentality doesn’t really go away lol
My mom is obese and has diabetes, thyroid, and asthma. She turned fifty last year and every time she gets a little sick I wonder if I'll have to call the ambulance and this might be the last time I see my mom alive. Obesity is no joke honestly.
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A lot of fat people like me, secretly didn’t want to be alone in fatness because it’s scary and lonely. We knew the consequences. We didn’t want to face them alone. Once you have an addiction, it’s in your subconscious forever. That’s why we get so outspoken to help others to get better before they got to our point. We hate our old “fatter” selves, that’s where the bluntness comes from.
I remember watching your vergie Tovar earlier this year and after I finish watching your video, I just look at myself in the mirror and decided to lose weight. I used to weight 220 lbs and right now I weight 180 lbs. Keep up the good work Kiana and have a nice day.
So awesome!!!
Please periodically come back to this comment with occasional updates!
Congratulations, well done ❤️
you can do it !
Great job. I wish the best for you :)
What a shame that’s the conclusion some people jump to when ur out here making dope educational content for free
Love you Kiana!!!
Agreed. Especially when it's incredibly fact-based, well researched, and well communicated, while this was 100% for personal growth and not part of professional/academic training. (if I'm remembering correctly...apologies if I'm misremembering)
As someone with a professional/academic background in public health with focuses on food/nutrition, health behavior, and health communication/education, I was absolutely shocked (in the best way) to find out Kiana wasn't at the very least pursuing an advanced degree in a related field.
Yes, especially when there are people out there who truly are haters and bullies it's not a fair conclusion.
@@katla_phc - remember, facts are the kryptonite of social Justice warriors. They live on feelings and sound bites, seldom of which are backed by any level of research. This whole “fat acceptance” movement is a toxic message. I don’t condone anyone getting treated disrespectfully. That being said, we should not be promoting a message that being obese is acceptable and that society should provide for it. I too come from a public health background during,my days in the Army. I have struggled with my weight all my life. I have to work overtime to keep myself anywhere near a weight that is healthy for my height.
Well sometimes people who have recovered from something (like drug addiction, alcoholism) can detest people who didn’t succeed because they remind you of your own past.
So people might have thought of same or Kiana based on small snippets of her if they heard of her elsewhere. Watching full videos should give all different view.
How much self-loathing does one have to have to think that someone talking about weight loss from a psychological perspective means they hate fat people? Especially when the person talking about it has struggled with their weight?
I lost 120lbs over the last 14 months and if someone accused me of hating fat people for talking about how I did it, I wouldn’t be able to stop laughing at the ridiculousness of the suggestion.
Congrats !
That's awesome!!! I'm working to lose weight too. 113lbs so far, but I still have 93 to go (I had 206 total to lose). Congrats to you!!! I know from experience how much better you probably feel now
Woah, how did you do that? I want to lose about 60lbs and i struggle so much with being consistent :/
@@croissant2882 That's honestly where it starts, consistency. find things that you like to do, zumba, bike riding, walking in the park, etc. You don't need a gym membership to lose weight. A lot of the time it's being smart about your eating habits. While it's easier to eat out, try cooking your meals at home or prep for the week. that's honestly what helped me the most, was meal prepping. And if you go out to eat, order a la carte and ask the waiter, "can you steam, grill or bake that?" when it comes to your veggies. Consistency is key to become better at anything in life, it's just harder with food since we need it to survive.
And they seem to associate being plus size as a category of people like a certain race/culture or sexuality rather than a physical condition.
This extreme idea that society is trying to “genocide fat people” is ridiculous. You don’t have to be fat. I can’t change my race and I can’t change being a heterosexual, but being fat is optional. It doesn’t remove who you are.
I'm obese and I think you generally treat people with respect and you're very responsible with the way you share information
Generally? Obesity is a disease and is unhealthy.
tch. whatever
"There was a group of slightly older boys at the park..."
Why does every bad childhood memory seem to start with this phrase?
Kids are always animals lol
Back then we had all of the bullying with none of the social awareness. But kids today have to contend with social media 😞
@@corpsefoot758 specifically boys and men too. misogyny plays a ginormous part in it.
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I had much harsher bullying from girls than from boys about my appearance back in elementary school, but okay
@@corpsefoot758 that was my experience too, surprise: girls can also be misogynistic. also, your experience doesnt void years of statistical research, studies, and evidence... but ok.. not sure why you felt like being sassy about it.
@@corpsefoot758 you couldve just replied like a normal person and said your experience was different without doing the whole "but okay.. 🙄" like a bratty teen talking to their parents lol
One of my old bosses said "Integrity is what you do when nobody's looking."
This is what I was always told too.
That's what my husband tells our kids.
I've lost 113lbs. We went to an amusement park a few days ago. Every time we were in a line for a ride, I'd have a mini panic attack, wondering if I would fit in the ride, etc. The two friends I was with (whom I now wear the same pants size as) had to constantly reassure me. One of them said "You're no longer allowed an opinion about what your body looks like." I'm still fat (93lbs left to lose) but what you said about "In some ways, I'll always be a fat person" is so true. You never stop thinking like a fat person, I don't think. You never stop wondering "Will I fit? Will it fit me?" It's weird.
I'm currently underweight. Stress related weight loss according to my doctor. I dropped some weight this fall due to stress and more due to a cold. I didn't gain it back so I'm five pounds underweight. I still see myself as fat. I look at this skinny woman in the mirror and have trouble believing it's me. I expected to see rolls of flesh, a double chin, and boobs that go on forever.
Omg I feel this my low point was being too fat to get on a rollercoaster so I lost 140 pounds and went back this year and I still had that voice saying I’m probably still too fat for the ride I wasn’t like thank god 🤣
i am so proud of both of you ♡
I feel this so much! I don’t like amusement parks anymore because of this. For the most part, I think, I still fit the rides. (Even if it might be close at times.) I’ve gone on a couple in the last few years despite not being a fan anymore. Gravity was just not on my side after a point and I learned to stay away or never go on roller coasters again. I went on a water slide a year ago and it was an interesting experience. Though, still, despite losing weight, gravity was still not quite my friend yet and I do fear falling off the sides.
Gravity has always been a lot for me since I’m short and used to be smaller framed. Very light. Though, back then, the rides were still fun and I felt protected. Despite having some fear, I never thought I’d for real fall off the sides of slides, slip out of rides, or get hurt being slammed against the ride. None of that. It’s so much worse when you’re heavy.
Some people confuse hating being fat and hating fat people. I don't have any reason to hate fat people, like hating any people, but have every reason to hate being fat, like hating to have fatty liver.
Thank you so much for everything you do ❤️
bro donated a dollar 💀💀
@@z4po325 Lmao I didn't have a lot of money at the time. That was my first YT donation ever, but I wanted to show Kiana my support however I could.
@@z4po325 It's a nice thing to do :)
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Simp!
Insecure people don't like being called out for their fallacies. Everyone should be always trying to improve themselves.
Just another instance of science denial. "If it feels good, do it. If it doesn't, deny it." Unfortunately facts don't care about your feelings (see: COVID).
Sadly, there are people who don't want better for themselves and try to drag everyone to their level
So true, and all the pro fat movement people just wanna brainwash ppl into thinking being fat is normal….so this way more and more people don’t watch out for their weight and become fat. The logic is that if we are all fat, then nobody can judge me because we are all in the same boat. This same shitty logic applies to so many other things in life too.
I'm quite insecure and honestly I wish I was called out more. I wish my friends would tell me "hey girl, you're super unhealthy and depressed, you gotta do something about it before you kill yourself or die of malnutrition" In my own head I'll think "dang I'm in such a bad place right now, I have to fix this so I can move on with my life and be at peace" and then I'll start doubting the fact that I'm actually in a bad situation, maybe I'm just delusional and making it up. And then I realize thinking that way is another sign that I'm in a bad situation, and it keeps going around and around. And I agree, everyone is able to improve themselves. There's a point that once you're healthy, physically, mentally, and you've stopped bad habits you don't need to try as hard, but don't act like you're perfect as no one can be.
They're not just insecure, they have a cult mentality that all outsiders are enemies. They are invested in their identity as victims and a persecuted minority, and if you don't kowtow to their specific demands, usually around their cult-like language, you are shamed as a bully, a bigot, etc. There are several groups like this nowadays. Science doesn't come into it, if they identify as healthy, it's "bigotry" to tell them otherwise.
I started my weight loss journey right before I found your channel. I’m so glad I found it because it has made me believe that I can do this. So far I’m down 50 lbs and I completely believe I can lose the rest of the weight. Please keep doing your behavior changing videos, they are helping people!
thank you very much!!! I will! And yes girl! You CAN absolutely do this!!!
Good job
I love the videos you make, too many on youtube are from people who have never been fat so your POV is amazing.
The "HAES" movement is killing people, period! I remember at my heaviest (around 300 pounds) joining a HAES fourm thinking it would help me find safe ways to work out at such a high weight. Of course, I was told that I needed to just love myself and understand that being that fat was fine and there was nothing I could do about it. I remember feeling crashed, heartbroken because I hated how much just doing anything besides sitting hurt. I was ready to end it all because of this fat activism trash.
Thankfully, I got mad instead and got to work. I'm about 190 now, still fat but healthier than I have been ever and still working on it. I'm a runner with almost a dozen half marathons done and a my first full marathon this year. Kiana, never ever stop making videos! We need more people to speak up against the outright lies that "HAES" spew. It could legit save someone's life.
This is what makes me so angry, the fact that this stuff is actually killing people. At the very least it is pushing people closer toward death and celebrating deadly habits.
Another TH-camr I watch who creates anti-FA/HAES content, Idle Aim, disappeared for over a week. She finally reappeared last night when she posted a video saying that she'd been in the hospital after suffering a heart attack. She is only 42 years old and has been working on losing weight, went from morbidly obese to just overweight and she STILL ended up having a heart attack. One can only imagine what could've happened if she'd not already been on the path to a healthier life and weight. The heart attack could've happened years earlier and she might not have survived.
The fact that this BS is now being splashed all over TV commercials and magazine covers is outrageous and beyond disgusting. It is easy enough to avoid a handful of social media accounts but it is almost impossible to avoid the content if it is staring you in the face every time you stand in line at a store checkout or turn on the TV.
Am sorry but this movement wasn't useless either. This movement tried to remove certain prejudices concerning overweight people, and talked about the hatred that overweight people receive daily. The problem was that some people overlook certain health problems linked to obesity.
It's crazy how some people are when they don't want to face the facts about how their lives really are. Thanks to both your and Michelle McDaniel videos I've been able to stick to losing weight. Your behaviour analysis videos finally got me over my perfection mindset and let me start doing small changes instead of focusing on trying to do it all. So thank you so much for your work.
thats so sick! congratulations
@@KianaDocherty Thank you 😊
Please please please collab with Michelle McDaniel sometime!
I weighed 375 lbs before I watched this channel. Now I weigh 271 and I work a job that keeps me mobile and healthy.
You don't hate fat people. If anything, you show a great deal of love for them, which is why you made a channel that would inspire and help them.
I feel this, after I lost all my weight I became passionate about weight loss. I've been accused of hating fat people many times. People often confuse advocating for health woth fatphobia and it needs to end.
I was 260.
Reached my ideal weight then went back up again then lost the weight again and now trying again.
There is no way I would consider myself “healthy” at 260. Even walking was a struggle.
(I was 198 recently but went back up at 214)
So wish me luck.
Good luck! Ive been fluctuating between 210 190 for about a year now. I’m hopping this year I’ll finally break that and hit my goal of 170. I’ve been struggling a lot with craving tho so it’s not easy lol.
You don't need luck, you've got this for sure. 💪
Same here, like exactly the same. I went from 250 --> 190 when I worked at a restaurant and made rule to not eat while I am at work for a year. Had only oat breakfast and a standard dinner.
I gained weight back when went back to live with my family who all love to eat.
I would say the best way to loose weight is to do things that keep you distracted from food.
Think of situations where you effortlessly don't think about food or hunger, and try to pivot your activity in that direction.
For me working in public and being out keep me from thinking about food thus the hunger passes quickly.
But sitting at home coding with food so close, it inevitably cause me to eat more than I intent thus the weight gain.
Its not as bad as it use to be, I do control it somewhat, but will power is not infinite.
Best way is to have less temptation is the first place.
@@OnionKing-cm4qh Another thing: if you are lazy, use that laziness to your advantage. If you want cereal, get a small cup or something of it and leave the box out of reach. So if you want more, you can get more. But, you must get up and go get it. Eventually, you will think "nah, I don't want to get up so no, I won't have any more."
I started doing this and I went from eating 2500-3000 calories a day to around 1600-2000 a day.
It’s just too bad that some people think Kiana “hates fat people”. They probably have some deep insecurities that prevent them from understanding the content without taking it personally. May they all find peace. Love your content, Kiana ❤️ We love you
I've been watching you, since the very beginning. YOU ARE THE REASON THAT I'VE SHED (NOT LOST BUT SHED) 10Kg. Here a lot of love, support and love from a huge fan. We need your content. Standing right by your side. 🇮🇳❤️
awwww this is too sweet. YOU and only you are the reason you lost the weight though. PROUD OF YOU!!
As a teenager my knees used to rip when I would try and stand up 😶 I gave up as a 20 year old and tried to live with the pain. I believed I would always live life obese until my husband helped get me a doctor. Thank goodness for research because now I’ve lost 60 lbs and still going!
I read this recently, and it really applies here: "When your only tool is a hammer, everything looks like a nail. When your only perspective is victimhood, everything looks like criticism."
To add, the level of self-absorption from some of these fat activists to think that everyone, at all times, is looking at them and having negative or judgemental thoughts, is simply projection. You'd have to have an inflated ego to think so many people care that much about your appearance, and to attribute every single (factual) comment about the general unhealthiness of being obese made by people you'll never know on the internet as a slight against you personally calls to attention the level of delusion some of these people operate on.
Ohhhh I love that. Thank you for sharing
Really well said!!
I suppose it's easier to put a lable on someone and dismiss them rather than accept your own reality and work to better your own situations.
My dyslexia turned "lable" into "ladle" and now I have the most ridiculous visual image of fat acceptance activists attacking Kiana with ladles.
@@mommachupacabra hhhhhh that's hilarious 😂
As someone who was an incredibly skinny child/young adult and who is now tipping into the overweight category, I can already feel the difference in my body and how it feels going about some activities. I'm really keen to change this and finding it tough but trying!
A little bit of trying never hurt anyone!
You can do it my friend,You go!
When you put yourself on the internet, you’re bound to have critics nitpick everything you say or how you look. You’re amazing for giving us science based information in the most interesting way. Tysm!
0:03 The caption saying “Keanu Docherty” is what cracked me up 💀
You know you're making an impact when they lash out.
Today the first thing my grandfather said was " hello, oh fatty! Dont worry, one day youll be thin huh :)"
Im not fat, i have a muscle mass and a normal amount of fat on top so I'm bulky
Literally this man has been saying this to my mom and sisters their whole life
At this point I just "dont worry you'll be a likeable one day" and walk off
Yeaaah shit like this is what the body positivity movement is really about, this other crap is just leaches hiding behind the movement.
Good for you not letting his negativity get to you, and I’m sorry he’s been doing that to you and your family for so long. He’s clearly got his own issues that he projects onto you guys instead of dealing with them internally.
As awful as stuff like this is, I like to look at it as a blessing, in the sense that it’s an opportunity to rise above their BS and strengthen your own mind, and it seems like you’ve done exactly that :)
Too relatable; even after losing weight I still have the brain of that fat schoolkid
That’s why I call myself “ex-fat” lmao
But these commenters are also kinda brushing up against something real without realizing it: a lot of us fat kids DID in fact grow up “hating fat people”, because all the self-destructive tendencies causing us to gain weight were often guided by our own self-hatred to begin with 😅
For example, back then I didn’t really care how long I had left to live, and so whatever happened to my body started becoming irrelevant to me; my logic went “If I don’t really care whether I reach tomorrow, then I also don’t really care HOW I reach tomorrow”: fat, weak, ridiculed, or worthless, it all meant the same to me because it really meant nothing at all. I didn’t care 🤷♂️
Nowadays I’m trying harder to find more meaning in sticking around, but that doesn’t mean relapses can’t happen. And all that old mental venom is hovering riiight there under your skin
As someone who's probably 100 pounds overweight at the moment, you are seen, you are loved and you are respected.
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Oh don’t fret over me brother, I’ve gotten waaay too lucky in life so far to start complaining at this point 😅
Best of luck on your own journey, and please feel free to write back with any questions or venting you might have :)
Plus for anyone who’s wondering, I experimented (unsuccessfully) with full ketogenic diet before realizing that high-fat diet with fasting was the best combination for my overall physical & mental state.
I would load up on cheese/butter/eggs/meat/salad, drink plenty of water, not eat anything for the next two or three days, and then top myself up with a nutrient-rich “green shake” (kale/spinach + fruit etc.) at the end of each fasting period before repeating the entire cycle
The weight kept sliding off and I never really hit a wall the same way I did under full keto, so I kept going the way I had been.
It is also EXTREMELY important to pay attention toward both your Vitamin-D and stress levels, because the presence of the first and the lack of the latter is a massive aid in losing weight significantly and sustainably. My own Vitamin-D levels were crashed and I basically lived through an entire childhood of mental stress, so readjusting both of those (previously neglected) sides of my life was an absolute game-changer
Good luck out there, everyone 🤘☺️
I was a fat teen. Not 'fat' by today's standards, but pushing overweight. I was only ten to fifteen pounds overweight. It was so hard to lose that weight. It was so hard to keep the weight off. I always exercised a lot. I didn't know how to eat less and still feel full. I gained the weight back many times. Fortunately, those ten pounds never turned into more than twenty.
I find this channel is one of the most fair and balanced when it comes to fatness, obesity, fat acceptance, etc. You're always honest about the science, you're positive about the ability to change, but without ever making fun of fat people, or making videos that are mean.
And I've found most of the other channels I've seen ARE mean. Really mean, in fact. They aren't nuanced, they don't give grace and understanding to fat people, they just mock us. And that's why this is the only channel (that isn't one run by a scientist or doctor) that focuses on health that I watch.
Especially as someone who, thanks to being severely disabled, has a harder time losing weight than most. In order for me to lose weight, my calorie limit is much lower than that of a normal adult woman- 800 cal/day. That's because I'm bedbound, I can't do even incidental exercise, and I'm also on a cocktail of meds that have weight gain as a side effect. As it is, my muscles are continuing to atrophy by the day. I've had a measure of success though- I've lost 25kg so far this year. So even someone like me can lose weight. It's just so much harder, and people pushing simplistic "solutions", and especially people who mock fat people are making things worse, they aren't helping.
That's actually the thing- that one kernel of fat acceptance that is useful is imperative. You can't make the effort to get healthier when you hate yourself. There has to be kindness, has to be understanding that is really is difficult. That it's a psychological change that is needed. Most others would rather pretend that it's just as simple as "calories in/calories out". But it's not.
So I thank you for NOT hating fat people, for always being balanced, and kind, and just following the science. Which includes psychology. People seem to forget that it is also science. It has been the key to me not only beginning to lose weight, but also to give up smoking. I smoked up to 40 a day, and this channel helped me kick that habit. I smoked because I was so hopeless about ever being healthy that I figured, might as well. But even though I won't ever be "healthy" (I'm literally bedbound) I can be the healthiest I can be. I can take control over as much as I can, and given my limited control over my life and body as it is, having that control at all is really important.
Sorry, this turned into a ramble. I just wanted to say that I appreciate the accurate, holistic, scientific, yet kind approach. It's certainly made a big difference to my life in particular.
You spoke to a lot of people so thank you for this 🙏
I’ve gained weight due to antidepressants and until this point I was at a normal weight and it is devastating to look different. Things have gotten more challenging like climbing the stairs and it’s overall just annoying.
Due to my mental state a diet wouldn’t be a good choice because I need my comfort food to stabilise my mood. I change it with healthier options from time to time but I can’t get away from a burger or a pizza. There are many reasons why someone can’t lose weight at the moment and it’s not always that they’re just lazy and have no willpower.
Thank you for making this video
I won’t pretend to know how it feels to be on those medications, but if you can’t cut your comfort foods at this point, have you tried maybe subbing out some ingredients for low-carb/high-fat options, or just eating more healthy fats throughout the day (avocado, virgin olive oil, eggs, grass-fed butter etc.) in general?
I don’t have a sweet tooth, but I love starches and my blood-sugar spikes like crazy with them, so rather than cutting my favorite foods I just “streamlined” them into healthier versions: mustard & mayo on burgers instead of ketchup or barbecue sauce, eating mozzarella sticks or peanut butter before having pizza so I don’t just load up on the dough, savory salads throughout the day keeping my snacking under control etc. etc.
This is only the stuff that worked for me, though. Hopefully you can find something which works for you! 🤘☺️
That's why I stopped taking psych meds. Sure, I went on two mile walks, did hundreds of situps ate more steamed vegetables, limited myself to one or two meals a day, used plastic wrap as a makeshift waist trainer, but it didn't start melting off until I flushed the meds. I don't care if my life depends on it, I'm never taking medicine again. It was only 20lbs and I wasn't even overweight at my heaviest but I hated it that much.
U can eat burgers and pizza and still love weight. Just dont eat to many calories
I am obese facing weight loss surgery. I can tell you fat acceptance is very enabling and very toxic and I appreciate people fighting against the stigma of Health at every size. Obesity is an epidemic that is hurting people.
I had my WLS in Dec. Best thing I ever did. Wish you the best xx
Best of luck, I'm late here but I hope you are well.
And, social media has done nothing to help this situation. This makes Kiana a hero.
People aren't saying that being obese is good for your health, they just want people to stop hating overweight people.
@@gastounmanar9814 I agree with you that no one should ever be discriminated against because of their weight and that unfortunately that happens all the time. But there are people in the movement who do spread misinfo surrounding the negative health impacts of obesity, and I think that's what people are pointing out
I've always seen the fat acceptance movement as more of a political one. Like I know there are people out there talking about personal feelings/acceptance, but I've always been exposed to the fat acceptance movement as something that's about fat people being treated right by doctors, who will chalk all their problems up to their weight-the same way a lot of doctors will chalk severe conditions like fibromyalgia up to anxiety and stress. And fighting against stigma in places like the workplace-fat people deserve good jobs too. I think it's important that that part of fat acceptance stay strong: as you said, struggling with weight/food addiction/etc is one of the hardest things to do, and I don't believe that people's lives should be made harder because of people judging their weight. The same way I wouldn't judge a smoker who got lung cancer: they're still worthy of medical care, a job, housing, loved ones, etc.
Great video. The conversation of Fatphobia is so frustrating because, it's become almost impossible to explain to people that Food addiction is a very real problem. I also have personal experiences of eating, feeling full, knowing I need to stop, and continuing to eat regardless, feeling horrible, then doing it ALL OVER AGAIN. It's horrible when you feel like the food has control over your mind. And when you've been on a weight loss journey. Being at a healthy weight, It's shocking when I remember how much physical pain and discomfort I always experienced and had even normalized when I was bigger. and I do think it's about behavior and values because there's something truly empowering about getting a handle over one's addictions. Over time I've watched myself become the thing that fat people hate, a person who always seems like they are lecturing other people to lose weight, which sucks cause I truly have empathy for people who still struggle. But once I stopped the internet fad diets and just stuck to a mostly heathy diet, weight management hasn't been a challenge. And when you try to tell people your lived experiences, and spread hope and encouragement, you're just told you hate fat people hahaha. So frustrating
I relate to this comment so much 🖤🖤🖤
Former obese person who became fit, who is now fat again because of anti depressants I didn’t need-
The fat acceptance movement is scary. I resonate deeply with everything you said here. I remember the first time I heard that ‘weight loss is impossible’, it was demoralizing. I genuinely believed it for awhile and sunk further and further into obesity.
Then one day I said to myself, ‘ok weight loss might be impossible. But let’s be totally honest with ourself here, am I actively making healthy choices? I could stay this weight my entire life, that’s fine. But how long is that life going to be?’ And so I started making changes. Not all at once, not very extreme. Every day I just made ONE healthier choice than the day before. Within a year I had lost over 100lbs, and kept it off for 6 years until literally this year. Time to rebound!
I forgot how awful it feels to carry extra weight. I forgot how frustrating it feels to lose my breath when I climb up a flight of stairs. How exhausting life is when overweight.
The crab bucket phenomenon is real, and amplified in the internet age. The direction of the fat acceptance movement is getting very dark very quickly. It’s the denial of science, akin to the anti vax movement, climate change deniers, and flat earthers in my opinion.
Thank you for providing a much needed perspective!
i'm in my mid-low 300s rn losing weight and i NEVER got the feeling that you hated fat people. i got the feeling you were sick and tired of fat EXCUSES and honestly seeing all these people whining about how they don't WANT to change really helps motivate me to be everything that they aren't. i've lost 30 pounds so far and my motivation only grows when i see people like the CRFI Lady because i had better never write a medium article about why you shouldn't eat my leftovers
u got this! thats so major 🫶🫶
you got this!!!! 💪💪 congrats on all your hard work & sounds like you're motivated af
While I haven’t experienced being mocked and mistreated to the level that fat people experience, I did experience comments from strangers and feeling downright disgusting/unattractive for something I couldn’t control: extremely painful hormonal cystic acne. I’m still recovering from this and it was super traumatizing as I still feel (although it’s gotten better as my hormones leveled out) like I can’t look at people in the face or when people look at me it’s for that reason. But I refuse to continue my life with a destroyed self esteem.
I’m so sorry that anyone deals with feeling like and I hope they find the confidence to make the change! Make the mental AND physical change!
World is full of idiots 😕 great that you're getting better 💪
"In some ways I will never not be a fat person" -- as a person who has been struggling with her weight for the past 15 years I FELT THAT.
I don’t know how to convey this properly, but I understand what you mean by this. For me, it’s my natural ability to get addicted to playing MMOs. I backed off, took up other hobbies, and my life has improved tremendously. But, I’ll always be an MMO addict.
Hopefully, that helps to explain how I get the sentiment.
I needed this today. I literally just finished writing down all the reasons that push me forward to eat more nutritiously, not only to lose weight but to have better digestion, to improve the state of my skin. Also, I've never been skinny but I've gained weight this last years, by going through something like you did, that helpless cycle, and I've noticed how harder it is to do physical things, summers are awful, going hiking is something I love but now going down makes my knees hurt like crazy. It's not one thing, but many things in my personal experience that are being affected by my weight gain, including my self esteem and confidence. And I loved what you said. I want to be able to choose what I want to eat not what my bad habit is telling me to. Sometimes I know I don't want it but still go for it, and that really does make you feel so bad. I want to be free from this bad habit, that initiated as a way to calm my anxiety. I want to be free and be able to choose to be healthy.
I'll save this video on my Playlist and replay it every now and then to have this in my mind. Thank you for video ❤️
Your videos made it click in my head why I intuitively didn't like the FA rhetoric, and unfortunately lost a really good friend because they've fallen down that rabbit hole. While I sympathize with the sociological stigma, I hate the (sometimes intentional) anti-intellectual leap to discount decades of medical and scientific research that shows the dangers of chronic obesity.
I did the weight loss thing in all the wrong ways the first time around as a teen and ended up with very disordered eating and even worse body dysmorphia. It's taken years of learning and introspection, but I've been able to sus out those unhelpful thought patterns and embrace body neutrality. I finally got back into the gym and am working with a personal trainer for the accountability and support.
Once I made the shift mentally to understand that showing up for myself is a courageous act of self compassion, and that no one else can do that for me, it's been a lot easier to be healthier. And I owe that in part to your videos, so thank you for that.
so insightful and committed to change!! love seeing people like you in my audience!!
For this kind of channels I am so grateful to be a translator . I am from Chile and I started to watch your channel with the Tess Holiday video . On that moment I was more into the gym and loosing weight.....but then I gained A LOT of weight. My rock bottom was when my gynecologist told me I was pre diabetic 😱I was very scared of diabetes being a person with albinism and it's consequences to my health, especially my sight , so I decided to make changes in my life little by little . I was 131kg in 2019....now I am 107 kg and still trying to make some changes , but now I know I am in the right path .... hopefully ☺️.
Thanks Kiara and please continue to bring us information and motivation for us , the ones who REALLY WANT to change our lives and being ACTIVES, not VICTIMS
In arabs culture we men love fat women so much
I have been working on my overweight and now obesity issue for literal decades, and it seems like the more fervently I pursue that 24.9 BMI, the more I am discovering how much my behaviors are rooted in deeper and deeper layers of my psychology. As soon as I think I've got it figured out, I binge again and fall into self-loathing but, the biggest change I've made since watching your channel, Kiana, is that now even when I relapse, I open new doors of self-discovery and learning. One of the most important things I have learned about life through this so far is that your journey is your own, and it will not look like anyone else's. As much as I wish I could lose 100 lbs in a year, so far, that is proving to be impossible for ME because of how much work I still have to do on my behaviors, and how much healing is required for my deep psychology that will translate to better behaviors that will later translate to easier weight loss because I'm working on what really needs to be worked on. So, if it's not possible right now for me to do what needs to be done to lose 100 lbs by this time next year, should I quit? Hell, no. But it does mean I need to adjust my expectations, and also frequently check in with my values and why I am doing this so that, even if the scale or my body doesn't do what I want it to do, I am still on track. I like what you said about using my sense of integrity to guide me toward my ultimate goals. For me, losing weight is going to be a RESULT of the work I am doing on myself, not the main point.
So, that was a long-winded response to your video, Kiana. Love your content. You've been a steady light in a confusing kaleidoscopic journey.
As someone that was called obese at 138 pounds, I have trouble with the concept of losing a hundred pounds. I don't even currently weigh a hundred pounds. It's daunting that you want to lose as much fat as this little old lady weighs.
Someone doesn't know what "eugenics" is. Get that person a dictionary!
We truly live in a world where up is down and down is up it seems. Props for speaking out on this it's one of the more insidious addictions running rampant totally unchecked and even in some cases celebrated. Porn is another addiction that is absolutely crushing but many people seem to have no problem with. I was able to go from one extreme diet of only junk food and meat no veggies/fruits (Ate this way for 20 years) to going vegan (No longer vegan now but stuck with it for five years), fix my poor sleep, start working out, gave up alcohol but I can't stop watching porn. I've tried many, many times but it's one of the few things I can't kick and the last bad coping mechanism I feel I have. Thankfully I've never spent a dime on it but I've wasted a lot of time finding things, downloading it, thinking about the next time I'll masturbate off etc. I consider myself pretty disciplined which goes to show how bad this stuff is for you if I was able to totally change my life but can't kick this.
This is an important comment, and I completely want to validate how you feel. You’re very right, and this needs to be addressed, as it does feel life-ruining at times. While I don’t have advice to give, I just want to wish you luck in stopping your addiction. Good for you for admitting it, because that’s already a massive step.
Whenever I feel unmotivated about my weight loss, I search for a video of yours. You’re truly my helper ♥️♥️♥️
dawww love that for us!!!
@Kiana Docherty you’re so kind I love you 💝💝 I love this comment
I lost 50 pounds in the last year, but I’ve lost a lot of steam. Hoping to bounce back in August. That being said, even though I’m still technically obese according to my BMI, losing that weight has made me feel more energetic and I now naturally wake up earlier.
To people out there: you don’t gotta lose it all and become a size 2! Just losing even 10% of your body weight is enough to see big positive changes.
wow 50lbs is nuts! congrats and good luck with the rest of your journey!!!
@@KianaDocherty Thanks so much!
I was a nicotine addict smoking 2 packs a day. I knew I would turn to food when I quit. Gained 80 lbs in 6 months. Took me 2 years to get it off taking karate classes 3-4 a week and eating right. I’ve kept it off for 22 years. The lie that permanent weight loss is impossible really ticks me off. It’s like saying you can’t stop smoking or drinking. Yes, you can. You will have to use will power, you will have to develop healthy hobbies to keep you occupied. And you will succeed. Lastly as a caregiver with a back that is no longer capable of working in the health care field because I had to move 300+ pound people around I am super annoyed by how selfish these FA cultists are !! You want to be 450 pounds and call it healthy fine... but you’re in charge of wiping your own behind and getting in and out of bed. Great video and NO it’s obvious you LOVE fat people. 🙏🏽
You nailed a lot of things that I dealt with over the past couple years. I actually lost 50 lbs since the pandemic so it allowed me to really focus and pay attention to what I was doing with fewer distractions.
As a fat person with eating disorder and trying to lose weight and have successfully lost 8kgs your videos have made me motivated to keep trying. You have literally saved my life I'll be forever grateful ❤❤❤
The key to losing weight is of course control and consistency but also understanding the reasons why, what to avoid and how to change your habits. Your channel is educational and helpful in that way.
This is so helpful. I just had a small fail after a mountain of victories and I am still able to get up and keep climbing. Continuing to reinforce the behavior change is much easier after a few years and it still helps to find support. Videos like this are a huge crutch for me in a world of obese people whom I love dearly.
people need to stop coming for my informative queen like this. it is so misplaced
hahaha thank you Madeleine! They're entitled to their opinion... even if they're wrong LOL
Yeah you rock kiana❤
Asking this question just means you've never watched her videos in full length and you probably think that reasonably critiquing a group that denies common sense is "hate" then you obviously are too damn sensitive and probably don't have many friends since you think disagreements automatically equate to hating that person which is illogical in every way.
Going from morbid obesity to a more normal weight changed so much of my life. The main thing was energy. I had a preschooler and infant when I lost the weight and I could finally be the mom & wife I wanted to be. It has taken effort to keep it off but I never let it get so out of control that it feels impossible again. I wouldn't go back for anything
I can't believe people can say that with any seriousness. I only stumbled across this channel a week ago and it is so educational and informative. It is in no way hateful. Quite the opposite. You are very balanced and come across as a kind person.
So amazing to have you being a leader in this space Kiana! You present all of your ideas in your videos so clearly. I always come back to you to recenter myself. Thank you for your time!
awww thank you very much!!!
This isn't super relevant but I wanted to share:
I have always struggled with feeling like a fatty, especially as a child
I am 5'6" and I weigh 172 pounds. I have struggled for years to try and make myself a nOrMaL bMi. I can't seem to ever get below 155lbs.
I joined a boat racing team recently. The boat kept leaning on the side I was sitting on. The coach had moved three people to balance the boat out and nothing worked. He asked how much the muscular man sitting in front of me weighed.
Coach seemed frustrated he couldn't get the balance of the boat correct. It was then I thought it would be helpful for me to volunteer how heavy I am (bc it wouldnt have been socially traditional for him to ask) and he seemed genuinely surprised and was able to balance our boat correctly after he knew.
He remarked that it's a lot of muscle
The fact that it took him switching three people around me before even thinking about moving me made me feel a lot better about my weight
Everyone says I wear my weight well and I look very muscular in general
I don't know how much I actually may look fat, or how much is in my head
But bMi is silly and I do a lot to "stay in shape"
BMI doesn't accurately calculate fat since it's only weight-based. I think measuring your waist and progress pictures may be closer to necessary. I'm 5'8 and around 180lbs myself, but I had abs at 155lbs, so I don't even look that overweight even though I am. Bodies are weird.
Kiana, thanks to your videos I've started seeing a dietician and working on my eating habits, slowly but surely losing weight. Pointing out the psychology behind eating really helps me understand what I'm doing wrong (and, hopefully, right). Of course, there are always going to be those people who don't like being told that what they're doing is wrong. I belive you've covered that in a video of yours.
So I guess what I'm trying to get at is this: If you did somehow hate fat people, you would never have had this positive impact.
Saying you hate fat people it's like saying tess holliday has anorexia 😂😂
I watched every single one of your videos and during none of them I never thought for a second that you hate fat people! It was always educational and fun, so keep up the good work girl 👍👍
hahah thank you!
As someone who was formerly obese and lost around 100lbs in about a year I have very little sympathy for overweight people - why? Honestly while it took time to lose the weight it was easy, wanna know why and how I did it? I eat like a healthy person. That's it. Attacking people for their weight is WRONG and absurd, but defending your weight and saying it's medically ok is just bullshit, plain and simple.
Careful with those generalizations. I want to illustrate something. I was made obese at 6 years old via a godawful babysitter who basically force-fed us. Should I have known at 6 what to do? That weight carries with me even now, my body will forever be altered. There are simply more fat cells, more stretched skin, such that it is that much harder, physiologically, for me to lose weight than for someone who's already at a healthy size to maintain that weight. I agree that defending your weight and saying it's medically okay is bad, but I don't agree with the idea that it's automatically 100% their fault. Good video on this is "Why is it so easy to be thin in Japan?"
@@coreyeverett5500 I don't think Ross said that it's 100% your fault. Genetics, and circumstances do count, like in your case as well, but it doesn't mean that phisically it's impossible for you to lose weight. It means that it's harder, and you have to decide whether you use your medical condition etc as a shield to why you are obese, or you say to yourself, that on the longterm, you want to achieve a healthy bodyweight, and change your lifestyle accordingly.
This is a conversation that I had with myself before. I have PCOS, Lypodema, Insulin resistancy, hormonal issues, genetic joins problems etc, so a lot of things that make losing weight harder. I wasn't morbidly obese, but big enough to suffer from my weight. Now I'm 25kg (55lbs) down, with another few to go, and it's slow and hard, but worth every effort.
@@coreyeverett5500 you make it like the fat/scars are permanent. It’s not. Your mindset shows exactly why you might have stayed at the way you are (if you are still overweight). Life sucks, but even so we can only blame everything else so much. Take responsibility.
@@coreyeverett5500 No. Having been obese as a child due to being force-fed does NOT mean you "have more fat cells," and even the number of fat cells present is irrelevant because someone who weighs 250lbs can have the same number of fat cells as someone who weighs 95lbs.
Gaining weight does NOT increase the number of fat cells that you have; this number is static and unchanging unless you undergo cryolipolysis or another medical fat-removal treatment.
I also highly doubt you actually KNOW the number of fat cells you have and whether it is any different than the average.
It's also worth noting that many Asian people who immigrate to the United States experience an increase in weight, and their children (i.e 2nd generation Asian Americans) are significantly MORE likely to be obese- not because their genetics have changed, but because they have adopted American values regarding food in the process of assimilation. This is also due to differences in which foods are more readily available, HOWEVER...most Asian immigrants who have been polled in these obesity studies claim that "finding healthy food is easy" and "they can afford the foods they want."
I don’t understand not having sympathy for fat people when our food is literally made in a lab to be as delicious and addictive as possible. And then sold to us with massive and clever marketing campaigns. Our society works every day to make things easier so we can be more sedentary. Healthy food is expensive - it goes on and on. As a former fat person I have a lot of empathy for fat people.
Thank you for sharing your story. It's important that you don't lose sight of your accomplishments, you've made great strides and unquestionably improved yourself.
Crazy that anyone asked that question… but shooore?? Thanks for all you do and what you’ve overcome to do it :)
I'm so glad you aren't actually bothered by that question being out there. You have always been so thoughtful, kind, and respectful when talking about this very sensitive issue.
You are honestly one of the most responsible and well researched wellness channels out there. You should always be proud of your progress and your channel. Don't let the naysayers get you down.
Change is hard. You don't get to stop when you start. The new age, " self-love" is basically, " you're already as good as you're gonna get, so do nothing." That isn't love or healthy. You can do what you want but don't hide behind words when your ideas get put under fire. Love starts with change, and change is like rain. It begins with a single drop.
Congrats on your entry to Quora!
Also, damn kids are harsh.
When you said “how much have I given up for this” before eating bad food really clicked something in my brain. Thank you so much for making this content, your video me have helped me a lot
so truue. saw kiana at walmart yesterday, she simply walked up to me and called me a fat wench 😭🙁🙁🙁 then she ate everything in my shopping cart and said its for the best, and that shes doing me a favor. unreal!!!
Only 40 seconds in and I’m actually dying at the L.O.A.F
Edit: ouch. This was so raw and real. Thank you for talking abt this, and yeah I’m loving the new direction you’re taking your channel. You’re doing god’s work here.
You described that struggle to quit something and feeling as if it’s one long nightmare of failure absolutely perfectly, to the point that it gave me chills. 150 days free from the Juul (nicotine) and 40 pounds down from 195. Thank you for your videos
For what it's worth from an internet stranger.... you are such a lovely person inside and out. Your good intentions are very clear to those with no agenda. Your mission is not only full of integrity but also a righteous in this time of blurring facts with feelings. Continue the great work.
Dear Kiana,
I might come from the very opposite direction ( Im struggling with anorexia and a lot of hospitals since 4 years) but I can really relate to the food problems and behaviour change. I'm doing a lot better at the moment and part of what helped me (along therapy) was TH-cam and a variety of videos..I found you because of your test holiday anorexia video, and your content is so interesting. It is in general about behaviour change, so I also benefited a lot from that. Thank you so much🙏
@@Blondieer1 compared to even a year ago I really do :)
I'm starting my weight loss journey again and the realization that it's all you is the greatest thing once you have it drilled in your brain. Being able to be in control of your situation is the best.
This is the second point in my life I've came across your channel. The first time was during the summer of 2020 when I was in the last leg of my weight loss journey (which began in 2010) when I lost the last 30 lb of my ultimate weight loss goal. In 2010, I was 220 lb (5'4, that's obese) in the summer of 2020, I was 120. I unfortunately gained back that 30 lbs that I lost that summer over the past 2 years when I started working at a minimal waste grocery store (which, ethically, I loved, seeing less go in the dumpster, but then I just realized I WAS the dumpster, since the way they get rid of the waste was to give it to the employees)
I'm now working on myself, once again, and here I am, back at your channel.
You explain things to me in a way that not only makes sense, but I can also understand, because we share similarities in our past, struggling with binge eating disorder, struggling with losing weight and keeping it off... my mother has also struggled with this her entire life. I see the health effects of doing this for decades. She's had type 2 since the 90s, high blood pressure, is on like 15 medications she takes daily, in addition to $500/month just for insulin... and I love my mom. I don't judge her for doing what she does. But I do wish she would make daily habit changes to eat healthier and be more active.
Anyway I think my point is that you are here, on TH-cam, discussing your own past experiences with obesity and ED'S, speaking logically and scientifically, to a group of people who can relate, but potentially don't want to hear what you have to say. There are certain people who you're speaking to directly out of a place of wanting to help them. But in cases of people such as ALR (not to single her out, she just happens to be a prime example of) they know what needs to be done to meet their goals but are forever stuck in a "why me" mentality. And that mentality shapes the world of "body positivity" that IS harmful to the overall wellbeing of people in general.
I wish I would have listened to people so many years ago when I was told that eating healthy would help my mental health as well as physical health. I refused to believe that the way I was eating was actually the reason I was depressed and anxious all the time.
You keep doing you, girl! Even though a small number think you're fat shaming or fat phobic, you aren't. Some people will just never get it.
There is a new study that proves that food is connected to depression. The many participants that ate a healthy diet in addition to social conseling saw their depression fade. The control group that just had social counseling on top of their regular treatment had no such benefit. I don't have the link.
@@marilynbeth5993 link is unnecessary. I 100% believe that! When I eat clean, I feel awesome! When I don't, over a small amount of time, I lose all my mental faculties. Then my body feels bad. It's hard to get out of that cycle, because eating the bad things feel great right now, but feeling great in the long term is worth cutting the fat, so to speak.
I remember being ten years old and wanting to hide a bunch of pictures of myself and hide from more being taken since I was "The Fat Kid"... I'm battling the negative mental health that came from that so I can no longer be the fat friend as an adult. Thanks for coming at all the fat hate and inequality in body diversity fights in such a positive way and proving what true body positivity is ACTUALLY about.
8:07 really striking moment here for me. It's a point of view I think is really valuable and perspective shifting - when we overeat unhealthy foods, we trade our health for the momentary pleasure of gorging on delicious food. It's up to each of us to decide if that's worth it. Building the restraint to have only one slice (or none) can be tremendously hard at first.
You saying that you were giving up your whole life for food really reasonated with me. It changed the entire dynamic I had with food. I thought I didn't want to give it up until you put that way and I realized I was choosing to give up everything I wanted, to binge. It became so absurd I found the will to stop, it was not worth it after that. Whenever I feel like binging or over eating to deal with stress, I watch your Foodie Beauty and Amberlynn videos and it reminds of how bad I can let it slide. The Amberlynn Reid video was so powerful, there a moment where she sprinkles cheese into soup and I do that and it was really eye opening and it stuck with me. Your videos have helped me so much, the water and fascia videos made me take moving and water more seriously. I love your format and never once have I thought you hate fat people, I see that you are unwilling to compromise with the sadness and pain that obesity causes and you crave the knowledge and understanding of how and why it happens and how to stop it. Since I found your channel I lost 20 lbs in counting, and I want to be healthy and happy again and I thought that my obesity was just something I couldn't escape and that I would never walk without discomfort again. Thank you for sharing everything you found in these videos, it means so much and they are just so well edited and produced ❤️🔥
When you were describing being slave to food and eating non stop even knowing it makes you essentially give up your life... that hit hard. I am fighting this exact thing right now.
Thank you for your videos, they are incredibly insightful and balanced. Love listening to them while working out. Keep up the good work!
You're so right! Having been obese, I'm so much happier now! I still need to lose 30 more. I have osteoarthritis and my back hurts so bad when I have extra weight! I feel much more tired as well. I was left untreated too long for low thyroid, but now that's being fixed, and I've lost some, I never want to go back!! Yeah, if people like being fat, that's great for them, but it's so much better to be healthy.
I’m 3 years out from losing 100lbs, size 22 to 8. My brain still can’t compute this and in my mind I’m an obese person. I still expect to fill out a chair, plus size clothes look like my size, I don’t expect a towel to wrap around me, and there are physical things I assume I can’t do. It sticks with you mentally for a long time.
I can't stand all the excuses the FA movement comes up with to never change. I was 280 pounds at my heaviest- and I physically couldn't exercise because I had horrible pain. It ended up being a massive ovarian cyst and I lost so much weight and had no pain again when exercising. If you seriously can't lose weight and are accurately watching the food intake and still aren't losing weight, there is probably something seriously physically wrong with you and you need to go to the doctor
I always loved your videos because you made them in a non judgmental way while also pointing out facts
It was interesting hearing how your experiences as an obese person influence your perception of yourself even now
0:56
that “oh what what is it?” with the hair twirl literally made me melt inside
Oh man, speaking of unloading childhood trauma, when I was in 8th grade this girl came up to me after class and loudly proclaimed in front of everyone that she does NOT like me and finds me ugly and that I'm way too fat for her. Totally came out of nowhere. Especially weird because I was NOT into her at all...But after that I was!! ...Just kidding ha ha..
What I've noticed with a lot of nutrition education channels/health conscious channels is that the content creators more often than not used to be overweight/obese! As someone going through her own weight loss to be healthier, I can understand how you feel. You feel great and you want everyone you know to learn the information you've learned! To help them get out of the rut that you felt yourself unable to escape. It's so life-changing so why not share what made you feel better? You have never come across as condescending, just informational and I can get behind that.
I don't get a hateful vibe from you at all in your videos. You are one of the nicer creators on this side of TH-cam.
As someone who grew up obese and have experienced all the negative social and mental effects of it; you are 100% a positive voice for helping people change their perspectives and fix this issue for themselves in a non judgmental way. You don’t seem bothered by this comment but those of us who have been sisters of LOAF.. we get it, we hear you and need you
Ive been obese for a decent part of my young adult life. It's scary experiencing health issues and feeling hopeless about changing my habits, yet still trying to make changes to feel better and live a healthier life. Thank you for your videos and specifically this one.
"What is it? You're really fat ⚰️💀", Brutal, on a more serious note I think because people aren't as used to opposition; any person who spreads ideas that contradicts their way of life gets labeled as a hater.
Thank you for all the interesting videos
Kiana: I want you to get healthy and live longer
Fat Acceptance Activist: Why do you hate me so much?
Hey Kiana! I just discovered your channel, and the amount of research and effort you put into your videos is amazing. I’ve found them very informative, and interesting to hear the science and psychology behind a lot of this.
Have you ever looked into the affect that infrastructure has on our weight as a culture? I would love to hear your insight on that kind of topic as well.
Getting into Not Just Bikes (another big TH-camr) recently has been so eye opening to me how much the sheer structure of our society as a whole traps people. We aren’t forced to move in our daily lives anymore, and in fact we are discouraged from being active in a more natural way, and I find the psychology behind that kind of thing fascinating as well, as it really ties into the obesity epidemic all over the world. Being active for the sake of health alone has never been natural to humanity, we always had to be active in order to live, and now that has changed so much.
Anyways thanks for all your hard work, keep fighting the good fight! :)