I'm so excited that tomorrow is my birthday because I gave my life to Christ at age 17 on my birthday and got baptized and I made it to age 24. Thank you so much sister Lila.
Where has this advice been all my life?? I have always been turned off by the "leadership training" given in public school and corporate settings. It felt like it was just about being a leader for the sake of being a leader or for pretending to be an important person. When he brings virtue into it, being a leader and working hard so you and those around you can grow in virtue, then it all makes sense! Without virtue, "being a leader" is just vanity.
I think I’m going to have to listen to this interview more than one time. The mix of practical, intellectual, and spiritual information is a lot to take in. Thank you so much for providing this content.
I’m definitely a melancholic. I’ve been telling myself lately “more courage, less pride!” Because I’m always discouraged when thinking I will fall short of what I’m aiming at. Sometimes, timidity is just the other side of pride. My husband is definitely choleric. So we even each other out 🤷🏻♀️
I have heard it said that Christ had all 4 of the temperaments - but the positive traits only, not the negative and we must strive for all the positive virtues in each temperament.
Fantastic interview - thank you, Lila and Mr. Havard! Please consider changing the title (by-line) of the interview, as this is MUCH deeper and more powerful than the title lets on. The pro-life discussion at the beginning about Lejeune...just superb. One of the most engaging interviews I've seen in a while.
Wow-around minute 51 in particular such GOOD advice about how not to judge other temperaments and the mindset that leads to 'they need to be more like me'. Definitely have been guilty of that! Such a beautiful way also to accept both your biology and the grace of working toward holiness that addresses each temperament's particular challenges.
Im a phlegmatic-melancholic. My biggest challenge is to be bold, because I am so aware of all the ways I, and other humans, fall short. And how most things only succeed by the grace of God. And what if I don't know the will of God? Because then I will "fail". Even thou Gods will is always the best, I really struggle with acting on things, when Im not sure if what I do and what God wants is the same. I have to be sure in mu heart, because there was a time before I was aware of God - and I know from that time, that because we fall short in so many ways, we set ourself up for failure because we dont know God, and therefore dont know the truth about who we are and how we are created to act. And those failure teach us, so we are really not afraid of failure: we are afraid of humility. Of realizing that we are not perfect and we dont do things perfect, because we are not perfect. But this also motivate me to pray alot and give thanks alot, and reach out to God in all I do. Because I want his perfection to guide everything. I want his perfection to be the center of every action,because he can provide the perfection that I cant provide without him ❤ His will, not mine❤
I love that your podcasts are something that I needed, but I didn’t know that I needed to hear, until you post them! Can’t wait to listen to this God bless you and your family and your new baby girl❤️
Lila , two days ago was my birthday. I just turned 19 . I’m a young pro lifer and Christian and you are really an inspiration to me and such a beautiful person inside and out; I really love your podcast. I always learn a lot from you and you and the people on here always educate me a lot .
Knowing the temperaments is actually quite useful! As a Choleric-Melancholic who doesn´t struggle much with her sons but has a Sanguine daughter, it helped me to know how to approach her.
Dear editors of this podcast, Please put out a short of the part where he talks about Jerôme discovering the genetic cause of down syndrome and then being told of doctor's ntent to use his discover to kill Down's children in the womb. I think the dramatic impact of that would be huge. Cheers
Oh what a wonderful, overwhelming interview!!! Wow ! Cet homme Monsieur Alexandre est un homme vraiment inspirant, i will share this video with my spiritual director and friends in Quebec that speaks English!!! May God bless him and you miss Rose .🙏❣️❣️
Lila, just want to say you are stunning in your pink Barbie moment 😍 Understanding the temperaments has been so important to my personal growth in relationships and in my spiritual life. This is a great episode!!
Incredible I was going to look for resources on how to parent my melancholic son. He is 9 and I am discouraged when I parent him. Your videos are always exactly what I need. They bless me so much
You may check the book: The Temperament God Gave You: The Classic Key to Knowing Yourself, Getting Along with Others, and Growing Closer to the Lord Book by Art Bennett and Laraine Bennett
WOW. This conversation is actually pretty freeing. Not only in loving others better, but loving myself. I grew up feeling like my temperament (melancholic) was never loved or valued. I think my environment was already trying to drive choleric into me at a young age, through activities and sports etc. I've always been asked "Are you okay?" when I'm not engaging with others/smiling (I have resting sad face, not bitch face). It's taken me this long to realize that I feel ashamed to sit down and write - it feels like I'm not "good enough" - if I'm spending more than like an hour writing or reading. I have to say I am fairly choleric now out of the inner dictator/drill-sergeant in me, but I'm trying to love the melancholic that I am.
I think this theory is most useful for parents, educators in general, including teachers, seeking for the educational approach that best works for their children. The theory is less useful for adults, whose personality's been shaped by their character -- understood as the efforts we employ to control our temperament and impulses -- as well as by their temperament. Ps: It was not surprising to see the comments above came from melancholics, who are very easily attracted to anything that may caress their ego or help them to have a throughout understanding of themselves, from astrology to Hippocrates...
I took a test and I was almost split phelgmatic melancholic, but slightly more phelgmatic. My problem is action, please tell me there are others here in a similar spot and how you overcame
Saint Teresa of Ávila stated that melancholics need to trust in God's grace. Saint Therese of the baby Jesus, who was melancholic, wrote this in her manuscript: "On this night of light the third period of my life began, the most beautiful of all, the most full of the graces of Heaven… In an instant the work I I couldn't do it in 10 years, Jesus did it by being content with my goodwill which I had never lacked (...). so vividly... I felt, in a word, charity entering my heart, the need to forget myself in order to give pleasure and since then I have been happy." The charity that was infused in his heart turned to others; at first, for the souls of sinners; later, for the souls of the priests. And all of this occurred because she trusted in the action of grace and allowed God to carry out a great transformation in her soul. Teresinha did not stop being melancholic, but she ordered the inclinations of this temperament towards the conquest of Heaven, converting her aptitude for recollection into prayer for sinners, like a true apostle.
Yes. Gratitude, charity and hope are some of the most important things to practice daily for melancholics. Be cautious of as well of criticizing spouses and children. We must confirm their ontological goodness regularly. May God bless you!
Really great information and interview. I’d like to learn more about the temperaments. So far, I have a mental block understanding them; but I don’t give up. So far this interview was the most enlightening, so far. Thank you
Would love to hear Alex Havard's thoughts on the claim by leading Exorcist and author Fr. Chad Ripperger, PhD's statement that...regular recitation of the Rosary (Our Lady's Psalter) is a means that Heaven has given us to cultivate ALL of the virtues. His thoughts on St. Louis de Montfort's famous book, The Secret of the Rosary, would also be very interesting. Best & God bless.
I have a choleric temperament, Extroverted Intuitive Thinking Judging "ENTJ" by 4 letter MBTI dichotomies, 8w7 enneagram core, and LIE-ENTj socionics type test results. I'm a Christian from Indonesia. But I love the United States of America. Be Blessed. Shalom!
I took French, Russian, German, and Japanese. All are easy to learn and speak except I never have any confidence speaking or singing in French. I love French 19th century music and at. It’s just a strange language to me.Good video. Thanks.
This reminds me of a book I read, and I think you'd very much like it, Lila. It's called the Enneagram, A Christian Perspective written by Father Richard Rohr. Oh, how'd I'd love it if you could have him on your show!
I'm so excited that tomorrow is my birthday because I gave my life to Christ at age 17 on my birthday and got baptized and I made it to age 24. Thank you so much sister Lila.
Happy birthday and congratulations, Emily! Glad to hear that you have given your life to Jesus 🥳🎂😇
May Allah guide you to Islam and everyone amin. Salams from jubail ❤❤
How wonderful, happy birthday
Amazing! Happy Belated Birthday! You can't go wrong following Jesus Christ! Good to hear!
@@priusa8113May Jesus bless you and guide you to Himself! Salaam from Virginia
Where has this advice been all my life?? I have always been turned off by the "leadership training" given in public school and corporate settings. It felt like it was just about being a leader for the sake of being a leader or for pretending to be an important person. When he brings virtue into it, being a leader and working hard so you and those around you can grow in virtue, then it all makes sense!
Without virtue, "being a leader" is just vanity.
Just a comment about Jerome Lejeune. He is Venerable right now in the Catholic Church. He is one man I admire a lot.
I think I’m going to have to listen to this interview more than one time. The mix of practical, intellectual, and spiritual information is a lot to take in. Thank you so much for providing this content.
I’m definitely a melancholic. I’ve been telling myself lately “more courage, less pride!” Because I’m always discouraged when thinking I will fall short of what I’m aiming at. Sometimes, timidity is just the other side of pride. My husband is definitely choleric. So we even each other out 🤷🏻♀️
I love that - more courage, less pride.
@@LilaRosePodcast Thank you for everything you do! ❤️
I'm tested equal in all . What does that mean?
Lila, I think you just sat down with a Saint in the making! how beautiful and what a gift. I will pray for you both!
I have heard it said that Christ had all 4 of the temperaments - but the positive traits only, not the negative and we must strive for all the positive virtues in each temperament.
Fantastic interview - thank you, Lila and Mr. Havard! Please consider changing the title (by-line) of the interview, as this is MUCH deeper and more powerful than the title lets on. The pro-life discussion at the beginning about Lejeune...just superb. One of the most engaging interviews I've seen in a while.
Wow-around minute 51 in particular such GOOD advice about how not to judge other temperaments and the mindset that leads to 'they need to be more like me'. Definitely have been guilty of that! Such a beautiful way also to accept both your biology and the grace of working toward holiness that addresses each temperament's particular challenges.
I love learning about the four temperaments. Thank you for the video Lila.
Also, congratulations on your new baby girl! 💗
Im a phlegmatic-melancholic. My biggest challenge is to be bold, because I am so aware of all the ways I, and other humans, fall short. And how most things only succeed by the grace of God. And what if I don't know the will of God? Because then I will "fail". Even thou Gods will is always the best, I really struggle with acting on things, when Im not sure if what I do and what God wants is the same. I have to be sure in mu heart, because there was a time before I was aware of God - and I know from that time, that because we fall short in so many ways, we set ourself up for failure because we dont know God, and therefore dont know the truth about who we are and how we are created to act. And those failure teach us, so we are really not afraid of failure: we are afraid of humility. Of realizing that we are not perfect and we dont do things perfect, because we are not perfect. But this also motivate me to pray alot and give thanks alot, and reach out to God in all I do. Because I want his perfection to guide everything. I want his perfection to be the center of every action,because he can provide the perfection that I cant provide without him ❤ His will, not mine❤
Beautifully said ❤
I love that your podcasts are something that I needed, but I didn’t know that I needed to hear, until you post them! Can’t wait to listen to this God bless you and your family and your new baby girl❤️
Lila , two days ago was my birthday. I just turned 19 . I’m a young pro lifer and Christian and you are really an inspiration to me and such a beautiful person inside and out; I really love your podcast. I always learn a lot from you and you and the people on here always educate me a lot .
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! And thank you so much for being here
I‘m a huge fan of Alex Harvard and I can’t believe that you had him on your show! I’m so excited to watch this 🤩
He’s awesome!
Knowing the temperaments is actually quite useful! As a Choleric-Melancholic who doesn´t struggle much with her sons but has a Sanguine daughter, it helped me to know how to approach her.
So glad to hear!
Dear editors of this podcast,
Please put out a short of the part where he talks about Jerôme discovering the genetic cause of down syndrome and then being told of doctor's ntent to use his discover to kill Down's children in the womb. I think the dramatic impact of that would be huge.
Cheers
This was interesting. I need to watch this again. Thank you for having very good videos. I’ve been learning a lot on your podcast.
So glad 🙏
Oh what a wonderful, overwhelming interview!!! Wow ! Cet homme Monsieur Alexandre est un homme vraiment inspirant, i will share this video with my spiritual director and friends in Quebec that speaks English!!! May God bless him and you miss Rose .🙏❣️❣️
Lila, just want to say you are stunning in your pink Barbie moment 😍
Understanding the temperaments has been so important to my personal growth in relationships and in my spiritual life. This is a great episode!!
Aww thank you! And so glad it’s helped you!
Incredible I was going to look for resources on how to parent my melancholic son. He is 9 and I am discouraged when I parent him. Your videos are always exactly what I need. They bless me so much
You may check the book: The Temperament God Gave You: The Classic Key to Knowing Yourself, Getting Along with Others, and Growing Closer to the Lord
Book by Art Bennett and Laraine Bennett
@@bootsestrada7561 I will thank you!
WOW. This conversation is actually pretty freeing. Not only in loving others better, but loving myself.
I grew up feeling like my temperament (melancholic) was never loved or valued.
I think my environment was already trying to drive choleric into me at a young age, through activities and sports etc. I've always been asked "Are you okay?" when I'm not engaging with others/smiling (I have resting sad face, not bitch face). It's taken me this long to realize that I feel ashamed to sit down and write - it feels like I'm not "good enough" - if I'm spending more than like an hour writing or reading. I have to say I am fairly choleric now out of the inner dictator/drill-sergeant in me, but I'm trying to love the melancholic that I am.
Took the test and I am Melancholic Phlegmatic... makes sense. Looks like the virtue to pursue is Courage. Makes sense.
I think this theory is most useful for parents, educators in general, including teachers, seeking for the educational approach that best works for their children. The theory is less useful for adults, whose personality's been shaped by their character -- understood as the efforts we employ to control our temperament and impulses -- as well as by their temperament.
Ps: It was not surprising to see the comments above came from melancholics, who are very easily attracted to anything that may caress their ego or help them to have a throughout understanding of themselves, from astrology to Hippocrates...
I forget which medieval theologian said this but i have read that Christ had all the temperaments or humors in perfect balance
I’ve heard that too. It makes sense!
Been thinking about buying one of his books for a few months now. Finally got it during this podcast! 😊
Thank you both! Amazing interview 🙏
I took a test and I was almost split phelgmatic melancholic, but slightly more phelgmatic. My problem is action, please tell me there are others here in a similar spot and how you overcame
Saint Teresa of Ávila stated that melancholics need to trust in God's grace. Saint Therese of the baby Jesus, who was melancholic, wrote this in her manuscript: "On this night of light the third period of my life began, the most beautiful of all, the most full of the graces of Heaven… In an instant the work I I couldn't do it in 10 years, Jesus did it by being content with my goodwill which I had never lacked (...). so vividly... I felt, in a word, charity entering my heart, the need to forget myself in order to give pleasure and since then I have been happy." The charity that was infused in his heart turned to others; at first, for the souls of sinners; later, for the souls of the priests. And all of this occurred because she trusted in the action of grace and allowed God to carry out a great transformation in her soul. Teresinha did not stop being melancholic, but she ordered the inclinations of this temperament towards the conquest of Heaven, converting her aptitude for recollection into prayer for sinners, like a true apostle.
As a melancholic I feel pride is also one of our challenges bc otherwise we become too self absorbed
Yes. Gratitude, charity and hope are some of the most important things to practice daily for melancholics. Be cautious of as well of criticizing spouses and children. We must confirm their ontological goodness regularly. May God bless you!
Really great information and interview.
I’d like to learn more about the temperaments. So far, I have a mental block understanding them; but I don’t give up. So far this interview was the most enlightening, so far.
Thank you
This helped so much with my career… thank you!
Always a pleasure listen to Alex, learning about how important is to grow in character in order to become Saint.
I just now watched your show! I like this show! I subscribed! God bless you!
Wow. He died on Easter; what an amazing gift for God to give him ❤
Would love to hear Alex Havard's thoughts on the claim by leading Exorcist and author Fr. Chad Ripperger, PhD's statement that...regular recitation of the Rosary (Our Lady's Psalter) is a means that Heaven has given us to cultivate ALL of the virtues. His thoughts on St. Louis de Montfort's famous book, The Secret of the Rosary, would also be very interesting. Best & God bless.
Havard is a treasure! #VirtuousLeadership
Woooooooooow Thank you so much❤amazing
I have a choleric temperament, Extroverted Intuitive Thinking Judging "ENTJ" by 4 letter MBTI dichotomies, 8w7 enneagram core, and LIE-ENTj socionics type test results. I'm a Christian from Indonesia. But I love the United States of America. Be Blessed. Shalom!
I took French, Russian, German, and Japanese. All are easy to learn and speak except I never have any confidence speaking or singing in French. I love French 19th century music and at. It’s just a strange language to me.Good video. Thanks.
Jerome is on his way to being a saint. A great Catholic.
Well his test is correct! I’m phlegmatic melancholic
I am the same but I need to take his test.
Same here!
What a free man!
I would love to come to your podcast show as a guest. How to contact you
My adult child is a phlegmatic. How do you teach someone to dream?
Ok, my test results are sangvin-melancholic as well. How is it impossible? I do feel like 2 people inside of me. I do feel 2 strong pulls on me.
Same.
He needs to be on with JORDAN PETERSON IF he hasn’t already.
This reminds me of a book I read, and I think you'd very much like it, Lila. It's called the Enneagram, A Christian Perspective written by Father Richard Rohr. Oh, how'd I'd love it if you could have him on your show!
You might consider correcting his name in the thumbnail.
Thank you, fixed!
I've read somewhere that Jesus had all 4 temperament's perfectly!
How Tample Grandin learnt how instincts of animals like choleric person
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Abortion is absolute evil. We are in evil days.
I could never allow myself to be put into a box like a temperament, I think we are all all temperaments, depending on life situations.
Psychobabble.
Not necessarily.
Dismissive.