Been in 9 years Long Distance, before marriage. Things will get dull on many days, you feel like your partner has lost interest. You won't have topics to talk about. Expectations and feelings were hidden. To tackle these we played some questions games like Lovify. It was a game changer. We never thought a game can add excitement to our relationship. It was a game where we had to guess each others expectations. And, it got us talk and know a lot about each other. Now, whenever we get time, we try to enjoy it. 💞
Exactly wt I’m gng thru right now .. Been 9 yrs in long distance and the guy hardly texts or calls , he says he is super busy all the time , either work or sleeping, I feel so lonely , I wanted to break up but he dosent leave me alone .. I’m so stuck
I agree☺️. Me and my fiance text each day (just to check in with each other) and we call whenever our schedule allows it. No playing games in "creating distance". We live apart from each other - which is hard - and we cannot wait for our marriage and finally live together. I love him and he loves me, I wish everyone would experience a pure love ❤
Even in close distance relationships, conversations get boring and repetitive, life isn't always BURSTING with excitement and things to talk about constantly.
It's only realistic to know that he's got a schedule with his job, & a time difference can be tricky, but everyone gets the same 24 hours in a day. No one works 24/7. Time difference aside, make your partner a priority during their off hours.
I recently reconnected with my high school boyfriend from 45 years ago and it’s been great. We’ve been talking on the phone for almost a year and we met a couple of weeks ago and it went fantastic but I understand about giving each other space. We talk five nights a week and we’re running out of things to say so we choose not to text or contact each other during the day on the nights that we’re going to talk so that we’ll have something to talk about. Excellent advice.
I am in a long distance relationship for 5 months now . He is the one who needs more connection even though we talk every day . I feel overwhelmed , he is needy and insecure and I am starting to be done . I love him so much …
Don't let him go because of this. If you where insecure, would you want him to give or or try and make you secure? I always try and think of how the other person would feel in there shoes.
I have a long distance relationship as long as my man is in God's hands and well-protected I know he couldn't be in no better hands but the best God's hand amen
I made the above mistakes in my younger naive years. I needed guidance. I’ve learned that giving space and not being in contact for a period of time makes it a lot more interesting
What if he likes us being in touch most of the times ? Why then should the space be necessary ? Yet the distance in it self is really a distance enough .
You're right if he wants that much space that means he doesn't love her..I'm in a long distance relationship with my bf and all I want is stay connected with him all the time that's a true love and I never get bored being but idk if he feels bored
Wow!!!! That was incredible! Was saying “Preach!” through your whole video, this hit me in my soul! I’m so on the right track 🙏 Sooooooo much wisdom laid down, from the heart ❤️ Powerful, deeply true stuff Mathew, thank you 🙏
One of the best,wonderful ,brilliant coach in the entire TH-cam, I truly appreciate the way MATHEW explains each and every aspect in detail with examples, that helped me a lot in my LDR relationship , Thanku MATHEW bcs of watching your TH-cam channel, I really transformed myself into a high value woman... And I have starting focussing on my life more than him....
Hi Matthew, your advices really awesome. I'm in a long distance relationship for nearly 7mos now, he's on his way to Thailand today to close the distance. He's from Hawaii I'm originally from the Philippines :)
I'm in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend always has to talk to me everyday and my boyfriend has put up with alot with me in 14 months from the death of my daughter to my niece being diagnosed with cancer 3 lockdown in the UK my cousin and great uncle dying. But we talk about our future like our wedding our house family the lot so usually the men want you too it's not just about woman
@@lovefamily2493 they are not problems between me and my boyfriend they are family issues as if I'm struggling I can go to my boyfriend my mom my sisters brother cousins nieces and nephews to talk to them so I have alot of people I can talk to.
WOW. This is so insightful for me! Also, I love how you put everything. 💖🙏. I will say, seeking only happy feelings is obviously ideal. Of course, neglect is the ugly under belly of it tho, so its more about harmonizing our dreams with reality.
When girls swooned over Frank Sinatra, he sang love songs to all. Did they think he would respond individually ? They fantasized and enjoyed their feelings. If he chose one, ooh la la ! If not, se la vie ! The next song - swoon again. Reality for the dreamers.
These are games. People who want to be with each other or want to talk to each other have no problem with talking all the time. I believe you should do what you want. If they pull away, lewve them. So what. Why would you want to be with someone who you have to play games with?
Thank you so much for this! I have been so clingy lately and I have a feeling it's affecting my relationship. Now I know better to create a healthy space👌
I'm queen I don't chase guys when he pulls out I give him space when he ignores my messages many times and negligence me I block him the most thing I hate about LDR when they stuck in your day and emotionally for short time then they gone this is very bad I'm tired and sick of that hell
Good to know what the side feels about women. I Still think each relationship is a little different but I’ve learned from your talk that these are pretty common aspects of relationships. One thing I don’t like about men is when someone distant says yes to what I say all or almost all the time just to make unrealistic reassurances. I am intrigued by being challenged to think. But Thanks!
We chat a few mins twice a day and a phone call once a week..I think that's minimal and not clingy. Yet be ghosted me after 3 years and he knows I'm meeting him on Dec 16th to spend christmas with him. I'm just letting it be. He asked me to marry him and now I'm just waiting for a text. I'm stronger now. 18 days now. Yes I agree some mistakes have been made. I'll pray for strength
So tell us dear sir🤌🏽. Don't leave us hanging 😵💫😭. Women tend to jump to conclusions, for no reason so a little guidance from your fellow male species would help❤
It is true, what Matthew says will happen when you use his program “the forever woman”. I am still in disbelief at how well these tools have benefited my new love life.
Thank you for your direct and truthful suggestion when dealing with relations. I am in a distant relation and it really put me in ?? What is that guy that I really like think about me. Its a questions that has an unreliable answers. But now I realised that what's more important is what was ..my life like ..before I met him.
I used the NC and it made EVERYTHING BETTER ❤️ We are very connected,and I had to become the UG girl!! I ask 1uestions,I keep the newness alive! And we are BOTH Committed to making it work! This is a different take on things,appreciate the insight Matthew 👍
Hey Matt........ Golly, need to touch up on all your tips, talks and confidence.... Missed your voice, it's so "at home" for me so is nice to see you.... ☺️💜
If you both have lives to make you busy there's no way for you both to get boring bcoz you have something to talk or share to Then initiate the way you want to talk to connect the emotions you have in order to conquer the awkward ,shy feelings specially when you both need to someone to share to bcoz you believe, trust ND respect each other ,focusing on what makes you feel to be excited then we can share your feeling or ask different question
I gave him space and he contacted me once or twice month.....done with him,this is very good video ,but if there is a normal connection and attraction,if you are dealing with a person who is manipulative or seeking options and attention it never works
I am in a distance relationship for about 10month We communicate every day and we pray together But recently we both was on the phone and he said someone's was in my house...😢 Right away I try calling him to see everywhere he refused to answer me Two days now he can't talk to me But I have a good conscious I am not letting anything worry me He don't call me or text me anymore one day ago
What should I do? I’m in a 2 and half hour long distance with a man who is 22 year older than me, We are planning our second date and he’s ok with me booking a hotel for us in my city when I offered which is a big turn off for me, I wanted him to do that without me doing it
What if my LD guy admits to having a fling but didn't tell me for a long time and he still called everyday? Should i end the LDR? Or is it still considered cheating?
My boyfriend does this to me All the time. He is obsessive Texting when we are apart and he does not give me a minute alone. He cause arguments all the time blowing up my phone
He'll get bored soon if he doesn't find the response he wants so don't worry in a year or 2 you'll find yourself alone with barely half an hour of real conversation once or twice a week plus He'll get busy soon with work or university
I'm in a long distance relationship and I'm not a smothering person I like to give him space but when I do he gets upset and thinks there is something wrong?? Is there a happy medium when it comes to men??
But if you go on dates with other guys isn't that hurting the other guy as he might fall for you and you will hurt him when you tell him there's a guy your in love with already!!
I have known a guy from 2 years now we both live in different counties . He texts and voice messages me once a week sometimes every 5 days , shares and send pictures etc . Isn’t it awkward that he doesn’t video call or call ?
Thank you Matthew so much for this, I’ve been in a long-distance situation ship for around seven months now with a very dear old school mate 35 years ago, so far so good! He loves my energy apparently! I’m going to subscribe to your forever woman e-book, cannot wait to read your inspiration and thoughts
The problem that I'm having with this video right is at one point the man say give him some space. Next min he's saying well how much space should you give your man, it's up to u, u don't have to give space at all... sure saying other things are said but really, just stick with give space. Not everyone knows the time of needed space. It could be 1 day, it could be 2, it could be a week. Single guys, are used to being alone. So to have someone constantly check up on them, it could be alright, but the it can be bad. Space, is needed.
I'm so scared,he keeps asking me for nudes and says it will make our relationship strong!😢I don't wanna loose him cuz he has what I want in man,but whenever he asks for nudes I feel disgusted
Oh! forget about him sisy,he is never serious,he might seem a good man because you think he has qualities you want in a man but he is not...he is online to ask nudes from a lot of girls,he can't have any plans with you no matter what.Move on and look for someone who is serious.
What makes you think he has what you want when he is already showing to you who he really is but you are so blind to see it because you lean on your understanding and emotions .🤧🤧
Been in 9 years Long Distance, before marriage. Things will get dull on many days, you feel like your partner has lost interest. You won't have topics to talk about. Expectations and feelings were hidden. To tackle these we played some questions games like Lovify. It was a game changer. We never thought a game can add excitement to our relationship. It was a game where we had to guess each others expectations. And, it got us talk and know a lot about each other. Now, whenever we get time, we try to enjoy it. 💞
How is this game played? I congratulate you btw for your patience and that you got to marry the man you love. I am happy for you!
Exactly wt I’m gng thru right now .. Been 9 yrs in long distance and the guy hardly texts or calls , he says he is super busy all the time , either work or sleeping, I feel so lonely , I wanted to break up but he dosent leave me alone .. I’m so stuck
How do we get into this game?
@@shilpapenmatcha5294You should have a serious conversation with him about what is going on and what can be improved in the relationship
You are amazing 😮!
I wouldn't drag a long-distance relationship for that long - no way!!!
If you both have full lives... long distance isn't boring, as long as you share your experiences throughout the day.
the distance is already more than enough room to breathe
🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂😭
Exactly 😭
yep😭🤣
I agree☺️. Me and my fiance text each day (just to check in with each other) and we call whenever our schedule allows it. No playing games in "creating distance". We live apart from each other - which is hard - and we cannot wait for our marriage and finally live together. I love him and he loves me, I wish everyone would experience a pure love ❤
Is it enough for you... or even for him?
Even in close distance relationships, conversations get boring and repetitive, life isn't always BURSTING with excitement and things to talk about constantly.
It's only realistic to know that he's got a schedule with his job, & a time difference can be tricky, but everyone gets the same 24 hours in a day. No one works 24/7. Time difference aside, make your partner a priority during their off hours.
I recently reconnected with my high school boyfriend from 45 years ago and it’s been great. We’ve been talking on the phone for almost a year and we met a couple of weeks ago and it went fantastic but I understand about giving each other space. We talk five nights a week and we’re running out of things to say so we choose not to text or contact each other during the day on the nights that we’re going to talk so that we’ll have something to talk about. Excellent advice.
Just started a long distance relationship with an amazing man. Thank you Matthew for your great advice. The gratitude attitude is so true😊
I am in a long distance relationship for 5 months now . He is the one who needs more connection even though we talk every day . I feel overwhelmed , he is needy and insecure and I am starting to be done . I love him so much …
Same here..can be very tiring
Don't let him go because of this. If you where insecure, would you want him to give or or try and make you secure? I always try and think of how the other person would feel in there shoes.
I particularly love the last 4min about creating own happiness so that the relationship is an enhancement. Amazing! Thank you 😊
I have a long distance relationship as long as my man is in God's hands and well-protected I know he couldn't be in no better hands but the best God's hand amen
Amen 🙏 ❤
What am I thankful for? Birds, bees, Sunlight, Starry skies and the song in my head! Thank you so much Matthew for saying such powerful things!🙏❣
mine also same always
I made the above mistakes in my younger naive years. I needed guidance. I’ve learned that giving space and not being in contact for a period of time makes it a lot more interesting
What if he likes us being in touch most of the times ? Why then should the space be necessary ? Yet the distance in it self is really a distance enough .
You're right if he wants that much space that means he doesn't love her..I'm in a long distance relationship with my bf and all I want is stay connected with him all the time that's a true love and I never get bored being but idk if he feels bored
Wow!!!! That was incredible! Was saying “Preach!” through your whole video, this hit me in my soul! I’m so on the right track 🙏 Sooooooo much wisdom laid down, from the heart ❤️ Powerful, deeply true stuff Mathew, thank you 🙏
One of the best,wonderful ,brilliant coach in the entire TH-cam,
I truly appreciate the way MATHEW explains each and every aspect in detail with examples, that helped me a lot in my LDR relationship ,
Thanku MATHEW bcs of watching your TH-cam channel, I really transformed myself into a high value woman... And I have starting focussing on my life more than him....
You have save my LDR now..we are now 4 months far away from each but you have really educate me alot. Am so happy.. Thank you so much.
You're welcome! Best of luck to you both.
Hi Matthew, your advices really awesome. I'm in a long distance relationship for nearly 7mos now, he's on his way to Thailand today to close the distance. He's from Hawaii I'm originally from the Philippines :)
I'm in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend always has to talk to me everyday and my boyfriend has put up with alot with me in 14 months from the death of my daughter to my niece being diagnosed with cancer 3 lockdown in the UK my cousin and great uncle dying. But we talk about our future like our wedding our house family the lot so usually the men want you too it's not just about woman
@@lovefamily2493 help me out with what? We don't have any problems so I don't need any help.
@@lovefamily2493 they are not problems between me and my boyfriend they are family issues as if I'm struggling I can go to my boyfriend my mom my sisters brother cousins nieces and nephews to talk to them so I have alot of people I can talk to.
WOW. This is so insightful for me! Also, I love how you put everything. 💖🙏. I will say, seeking only happy feelings is obviously ideal. Of course, neglect is the ugly under belly of it tho, so its more about harmonizing our dreams with reality.
When girls swooned over Frank Sinatra, he sang love songs to all. Did they think he would respond individually ? They fantasized and enjoyed their feelings. If he chose one,
ooh la la ! If not, se la vie ! The next song - swoon again.
Reality for the dreamers.
These are games. People who want to be with each other or want to talk to each other have no problem with talking all the time. I believe you should do what you want. If they pull away, lewve them. So what. Why would you want to be with someone who you have to play games with?
ypu won't scare away a man who's serious about you
Thank you so much for this! I have been so clingy lately and I have a feeling it's affecting my relationship. Now I know better to create a healthy space👌
if he doesnt have the desire to talk to you once a day then he isn't serious about you or the relationship
I learned this all the hard way... I would just like to say that you are spot on!
You are simply the best and so realistic. Thank you. I needed this❤
You are welcome
I'm queen I don't chase guys when he pulls out I give him space when he ignores my messages many times and negligence me I block him the most thing I hate about LDR when they stuck in your day and emotionally for short time then they gone this is very bad I'm tired and sick of that hell
I’m in a long distance. This is so helpful. Thank you Matthew!
Good to know what the side feels about women. I Still think each relationship is a little different but I’ve learned from your talk that these are pretty common aspects of relationships. One thing I don’t like about men is when someone distant says yes to what I say all or almost all the time just to make unrealistic reassurances. I am intrigued by being challenged to think. But Thanks!
We chat a few mins twice a day and a phone call once a week..I think that's minimal and not clingy. Yet be ghosted me after 3 years and he knows I'm meeting him on Dec 16th to spend christmas with him. I'm just letting it be. He asked me to marry him and now I'm just waiting for a text. I'm stronger now. 18 days now. Yes I agree some mistakes have been made. I'll pray for strength
Geez, Good luck…
🙏❤
Exactly
We text when we can, both busy and long time difference))
We don't like small talk 😂
So tell us dear sir🤌🏽. Don't leave us hanging 😵💫😭. Women tend to jump to conclusions, for no reason so a little guidance from your fellow male species would help❤
Thank you for the advice, very interesting
You’re welcome
don't play any of these mind games women, you should be talking once a day and he should initiate the contact
These are really really great advice 🙂 thank you so much Matthew..much love
Glad you enjoyed it!
It is true, what Matthew says will happen when you use his program “the forever woman”. I am still in disbelief at how well these tools have benefited my new love life.
I'm so glad to hear that.
Never ever be clingy and needy
Why not??? 😢
Now i know why he sometimes pull back . Thank you for such wonderful information from a man 🙂
Happy to help, Mariastella
Thank you, I need to hear all of this ❤❤❤
Nice video, very informative. Thanks for sharing and I subscribed.
Thanks for the sub!
Thank you for your direct and truthful suggestion when dealing with relations. I am in a distant relation and it really put me in ?? What is that guy that I really like think about me. Its a questions that has an unreliable answers. But now I realised that what's more important is what was ..my life like ..before I met him.
Awesome, thank you So much! So uplifting and empowering 😊❤️
Thank you for sharing this Video very informative nice advice 💛
You are welcome
Thanks for this message coach😊 I just watched this im gonna put this in practice. Im subscribing too because of this message 😊
Thanks for subbing!
if he doesn't talk to you once a day i guarantee he's talking to other women and you're not his priority
Absolutely true 👍 👌 🙌 💯 👏
DIS AGREE WITH THAT BECAUSE I AM THE ONE DONT LIKE TO TALK HIM IN A DAY I TURN OFF MY WIFI WHEN I OPEN IT MISS CALL LOTS OF LOL
All his words are just .... Mind-blowing
💯
Thank you for the tips
👍
Thanks for sharing this with us, Matt Coast.
My pleasure!
I used the NC and it made EVERYTHING BETTER ❤️ We are very connected,and I had to become the UG girl!! I ask 1uestions,I keep the newness alive! And we are BOTH Committed to making it work! This is a different take on things,appreciate the insight Matthew 👍
NC is no contact?
Thank u so much ...I have learnt something special from here.wooooo🙏
My pleasure 😊
Thank you so much. Your direct and truthful suggestions when Dealing with relation .
My pleasure, Nancy.
You really helped me I needed it.
Hey Matt........ Golly, need to touch up on all your tips, talks and confidence.... Missed your voice, it's so "at home" for me so is nice to see you.... ☺️💜
Bravo....bravo....!!!👏👏👏👏
Thank you Matt💋
👍
Amazing video
Thanks!
If you both have lives to make you busy there's no way for you both to get boring bcoz you have something to talk or share to
Then initiate the way you want to talk to connect the emotions you have in order to conquer the awkward ,shy feelings specially when you both need to someone to share to bcoz you believe, trust ND respect each other ,focusing on what makes you feel to be excited then we can share your feeling or ask different question
I'm in LDR with him....🇮🇩🇺🇸 It's so hard to be through but I'll try to be with him. His jealousy often comes...
I gave him space and he contacted me once or twice month.....done with him,this is very good video ,but if there is a normal connection and attraction,if you are dealing with a person who is manipulative or seeking options and attention it never works
How much space is advisable to be given to him ? Should this be in terms of Hours, Days or Weeks ?
Your advice is incredible i really appreciate it
I appreciate that!
Thanks 🙏 Matthew for this wonderful advice, I think have learnt something because I'm in a long distance relationship.
You're so welcome!
Amazing tips from the point of view of a guy. Thank u. So good
Thank you, your words save me
I'm so glad!
Thank you so much, I really need to hear this.
You are so welcome.
I am in a distance relationship for about 10month
We communicate every day and we pray together
But recently we both was on the phone and he said someone's was in my house...😢
Right away I try calling him to see everywhere he refused to answer me
Two days now he can't talk to me
But I have a good conscious
I am not letting anything worry me
He don't call me or text me anymore one day ago
Connecting or connection in relationship yes that really important in relationship
Thanks mattew
What should I do? I’m in a 2 and half hour long distance with a man who is 22 year older than me, We are planning our second date and he’s ok with me booking a hotel for us in my city when I offered which is a big turn off for me, I wanted him to do that without me doing it
Matthew, you are truly inspiring ❤. Love the way you explain plus all the different perspectives are amazing 👏. Thank you.
I appreciate that!
Thanks so much i love this advise
Always welcome, Precious. Glad you loved it.
What if my LD guy admits to having a fling but didn't tell me for a long time and he still called everyday? Should i end the LDR? Or is it still considered cheating?
Good advice noted:thanks matt
Any time!
My boyfriend does this to me All the time. He is obsessive Texting when we are apart and he does not give me a minute alone. He cause arguments all the time blowing up my phone
He'll get bored soon if he doesn't find the response he wants so don't worry in a year or 2 you'll find yourself alone with barely half an hour of real conversation once or twice a week plus He'll get busy soon with work or university
My ex ended our relationship because they found it too far to travel, now impossibly going into another I don’t mind distance I lead a busy life.
I'm in a long distance relationship and I'm not a smothering person I like to give him space but when I do he gets upset and thinks there is something wrong?? Is there a happy medium when it comes to men??
He loves you
Thank you for the tips 💞💕♥️❤️
Any time!
IF I WILL NOT TALK TO HIM FOR ONE DAY HE WILL WORRIED.. WE ALWAYS KEEP IN TOUCH
But if you go on dates with other guys isn't that hurting the other guy as he might fall for you and you will hurt him when you tell him there's a guy your in love with already!!
Don’t make any connection .find someone who wants to be with you in your town.Not working to anyone.Forget it !
You shouldn't even try to connect all the time with a man you live with. I promise.
Thank you this is a very good advice 🥰😊
You are so welcome!
@@MatthewCoast 🥰🥰🥰
I have known a guy from 2 years now we both live in different counties . He texts and voice messages me once a week sometimes every 5 days , shares and send pictures etc . Isn’t it awkward that he doesn’t video call or call ?
yes if he is your bf he should vedio call everyday
Thank you Matthew so much for this, I’ve been in a long-distance situation ship for around seven months now with a very dear old school mate 35 years ago, so far so good! He loves my energy apparently! I’m going to subscribe to your forever woman e-book, cannot wait to read your inspiration and thoughts
Wonderful! You're welcome, Helen!
Thank you so much for your advice dear
Please sorry,hw many do i have to chat him?
Because me early morning i
Love this 👏🏻
What if he connects to me everyday? Should I ignore him?
Watching from kenya
Thanks for watching
The problem that I'm having with this video right is at one point the man say give him some space. Next min he's saying well how much space should you give your man, it's up to u, u don't have to give space at all... sure saying other things are said but really, just stick with give space. Not everyone knows the time of needed space. It could be 1 day, it could be 2, it could be a week. Single guys, are used to being alone. So to have someone constantly check up on them, it could be alright, but the it can be bad. Space, is needed.
Hey actually I like the way you're teaching
Thanks a lot.
Thanks for ur advice
Always welcome
I'm almost thinking to kill myself that no one truely loves me only lier came into my life😭😭
yes, let's just pretend and not ask any of these crucial questions
In one i don't see anything wrong with a check in even if boring. If you don't talk to me or call im bored
In a 4yr long distance relationship
Gratitude... Thank you 🙏
Your the best ❤️
He don't connect in months is it ok?
No I don't think it's okay unless something bad happened to him
Cool thanks
Any time!
I'm so scared,he keeps asking me for nudes and says it will make our relationship strong!😢I don't wanna loose him cuz he has what I want in man,but whenever he asks for nudes I feel disgusted
Oh! forget about him sisy,he is never serious,he might seem a good man because you think he has qualities you want in a man but he is not...he is online to ask nudes from a lot of girls,he can't have any plans with you no matter what.Move on and look for someone who is serious.
Leave him
Block him immediately
What makes you think he has what you want when he is already showing to you who he really is but you are so blind to see it because you lean on your understanding and emotions .🤧🤧
He's pleasure driven and not PURPOSE driven. Walk away with your dignity now
Nice content I'm attentive the baiting...
Thanks, Halle!
Had LDR blow up. Ex needed big big money. Had me show what turned out to be catfished photos of his son to my daughter on Christmas Day. Then he ran.
What if is him who is constantely looking for me? He feels ignore if I create space.
What about when the guy is connecting with me 2-3 x/day?
Under water basket weaving?..
Lol
Now Matt..i am focusing..
Better late then never...
A awesome day for you..
Thank you😊
You too!
What if he’s the one reaching out? Because my husband would rather sleep and wake up with me on the phone. We even take each other to the toilet 😂😂😂😂