Now that I’m 25, I recognize when a man is testing. I truly don’t care about “passing.” I simply stay true to myself, and remain unattached. It’s a lot of mental work to fully embrace being unattached from potential partners, but finalllly I’m able to do it and it’s made dating so much easier.
@Frenchie_at_Heart may I ask you what mindset you create for yourself to stay unattached? It seems I do well at beginning than somehow I start to get attached I don’t act upon it just between me and myself- but maybe men sense that!
*Test 1* : He pulls away Fail: Freak out, chase, get angry, attack him, act passive-aggressive etc. Succeeed: give him some space, invite him to come back to you and make him work to get you back *Test 2* : Pushes your boundaries Fail: allow him to push past your boundaries and walk all over you Succeed: set boundaries and keep to them (e.g. a "soft no" / "not yet" when he's pushing for physical intimacy too soon) *Test 3* : Sets up a date and waits to talk to you on the day Fail: freak out, chase him/ send lots of messages, get angry, cancel at the last min. Succeed: Wait until the day to check in with him: "Are we still on?", if so, calmly turn up to the date. If not, don't go. *Test 4* : Are you on his side? Fail: trying to change him, teaming up against him with others, fighting/ making him look bad in front of family and friends, making fun of him or who he is / his dreams leaving him at parties Suceed: supporting and encouraging him in his dreams and goals, accepting him as he is, talking him up in front of friends and family, being his cheerleader when he needs it *Test 5* : How you act in a situation that challenges you ( new activity you're bad at/ he's good at, an event that is not of interest to you) Fail: freak out, get angry, blame/ attack others/ events outside yourself for being unable to do something, run off Suceed: be calm, patient and relaxed and enjoy the new activity/ experience.
Don’t confuse testing with playing games. They are absolutely not the same thing. Testing is an efficient way to sort the chaff from the wheat, so to speak. Playing games is a quick way to assert that you are the chaff.
@@TheEternalPheonix Testing is playing games. If you need the other person going through mental gymnastics to see if they check specific boxes, you can FO.
@@Yusheesan Testing doesn’t involve the other person going through mental gymnastics. This is the difference I’m talking about. Playing games is making the other person go through mental gymnastics to figure out how to “win”. Testing is for making sure that you’re not making a horrible mistake.
Or, how about this? How about NOT testing each other? How about open, direct communication between 2 adults who use their words instead of childish games? 🤔 It saves time, gets straight to the point, and leaves less room for guessing where the other person is coming from🤷🏿♀️......just a suggestion.
Well perhaps because most of this is instinctual and most people do these sort of “tests” in one way or another. A lot goes without being said and many times you just have to see for yourself because people can explain they are a certain way but totally act in a different way, even if they don’t know it. I’ve done this a lot and it’s taking a good bit of effort to be more self aware and humble with myself
I agree. Who has time for games when time is the most expensive commodity in this life? If you have self-esteem, you wouldn't fall for this trap. Good point.
Most people don't consciously "test" partners, they simply try to gather information...and sometimes their poorer behavior is simply a consequence of lack of interest, bt a proper response will gain their respect an dmake them realize they need to show up better pr you are gone.
Ah....these are not Jedi and Sith.😆 Good luck with that,marry that person. Or at the min make them a life long friend. Those kinda ppl are hard to find(not counting the psychos)
*Understanding the tests men might throw our way allows us to respond with confidence and poise. Let's strive to be the high-value women we truly are, and let our actions speak louder than any test.*
#3 is the only one on this list that actually pisses me off. Maybe I was raised differently, but it's a simple courtesy to reach out and reconfirm no matter who you're meeting. If you're busy, a quick, 'Hi! Looking forward to seeing you later.", is all it takes! I've noticed that most guys will be chatter boxes right up to the day of the date and then go radio silent. I'd prefer someone that makes a small effort to communicate that our plans are locked in (like a mature adult) instead of someone who has already annoyed me with his stupid test or simple lack of courtesy.
As a high value woman I wouldn’t ask him “are we still on”. I think he is the one on charge to ask me that before the date, as supposedly he was the one who has initiated it😂. If he don’t ask me, I would simply not show up. If he ask me why I didn’t show up, I would be like “oh, I am sorry, I didn’t know you are still on. Would you like to settle another one? Just don’t forget to remind me on time this time! It’s your last chance 😂! Follow me for more useful tips!😅
As a Sigma, I need space from the demands and annoyances of the daily grind, and it sometimes includes my wife. She has learned this is no threat to our relationship, but simply my way of recharging my social battery. My solo time is important, whether in the field or garage, and I always come back when refreshed. Only Sigmas understand this.
In short, only positive vibrations is encouraged. It also helps staying busy with life. No one wants to feel like the person they are pursuing does not have a life 😀
but why can’t people just be upfront about what kind of people they are looking for and what relationships they want? Purposely “pulling away” from someone seems manipulative. If you like someone and they start pulling away and you just say nothing makes it seem like the man is trying to see if he can use his silence to put you in you place or manipulate you and I have no time for that (not saying you need to freak out but I feel like addressing the situation in a healthy way is ok). If you like someone just talk to them and if it doesn’t work out it doesn’t work out this stuff is very annoying lol. The minute I sense some kind of game I leave and find someone secure enough to be honest about who they are and who is not afraid of getting to know people
Because what people say about themselves and how they ACTUALLY behave are often very different. Just like guys will say they want something real and then hook up with you and never talk to you again. When everything is going well, you don't know what a person's character is like because it's easy for them to behave confidently and smartly... you learn their character when things aren't going their way and when they have challenges... then you find out how to handle conflict, how they deal with problems, and what their communication style is like under pressure... and you can't learn it any other way.
Most guys who test you test you because they've been burned before. Anyone who has gone on more than one date has probably been burned at some time in their life. Simple solution: when someone pulls away, block them immediately. That will solve the problem for you.
Most men are not looking for a wife. Simple. Just dating. Games is all you get. When you see the games start, drop him if you are looking for more. He is not looking for anything serious but if you are then drop him.
I have a boyfriend I knew for awhile. Never went on date I never chase him he needs his freedom. When he want to see me he knows how to find me. Always be patient He is buying a house for us to be together.
Ladies I am a little older and men, the deeper the feeling, the more they feel off balance. Honestly it freaks them out and they need a little time especially at first to sort it out what it means to him. It’s up to us to gauge the pace of things, not jump into bed fast (at all) and make him work for us.
Absolutely NO TEST AND NO GAMES. What happened to maturity and acting like a grown up. 🧐. I am a high valued woman because I do not play games or make a man a “test” subject and I absolutely do not let them put me in that category/position either!
I'll just tell you... he can test me all he wants, but when he does he is failing MY test for him. I'm not here to pass anyone's tests and play games. Communicate with me like an adult or move along to make space for someone who does. I'm not going to wait for the day of the date to hear from a man. If I haven't heard from him at least by the day before then I am making other plans and assuming there is no date.
Don’t confuse testing with playing games. They are absolutely not the same thing. Testing is an efficient way to sort the chaff from the wheat, so to speak. Playing games is a quick way to assert that you are the chaff.
Planning a date the day of is too last min. The day before is fine. Nothing about being needy. This is simple planning. Simply yes or no - and move on either way. It's not just the guy that can make this decision ladies!
Yes, I sign this, I have a date tomorrow with a dude who is more comfortable to talk in person than online, we connected from time to time in between but not like daily. This is fine with me ☺️
Remember that during times when you need to pull away. Sometimes, life gets busy / we struggle with life in general (depression, the past, etc.) or have family emergencies. If you have zero tolerance for any kind of pulling away, then expect others to treat you the same way.
This video just confirms I think like a man, even tho I was born & still physically am a woman… I use all of these “tests” on men & women when I date. But it would appear I’m oblivious when these “tests” are done to me 😞
I found a great guy he was so good he even convinced my family he was amazing, then when he moved in with me and got on the lease he became lazy didn't want to work and became argumentative and stopped me from seeing friends and family, these awful men trap you and then you are totally stuck
Probably a narcissist. That's why it's good to take your time. They seem to fizz out after about 6 months. Some can go longer, but the mask starts coming off right around the 6 month period for some reason.
i used to date a guy like that. But after about 6 months, i got angry and kicked him out of my life. I didn't block the contact but he knew he happened to step on a landmine so he called me to say sorry but i told him stop contacting me. =_=
Great, sensible spot on advice, Matt I am older (way) lol, but this girl still needs to listen + learn how to project the value I know I have + am worth. . I have already listened 2X's + am internalizing your points, making sure I check the boxes, I need to improve on. . Thanks for these reminders. I know these will be difference makers
Attraction stems from many avenues, mainly from our upbringing and how we were loved growing up. I don't like this accusation of woman being desperate and needy and clingy. Most woman with any self respect will act that way when a guy is "testing" fail the bloidy test and scream them because if ever a guy makes you feel desperate or needy of clingy is because hes making you feel that way. Us woman are intuitive beings and when it doesn't feel right its usually because something isn't right trust your gut. If it feels right you wonte feel desperate or needy or clingy. Word!
Test 1 : He pulls away Fail: Freak out, chase, get angry, attack him, act passive-aggressive etc. Succeeed: give him some space, invite him to come back to you and make him work to get you back...I understand this part and I know it works however I don't fully understand the piece "invite him back" what does that exactly mean?
I have terrible grammar and spelling when texting. that doesn't mean I don't know how to use grammar or spell. It just means typing on the phone is a pain.
Hmmmm. As a high value woman, if a man pulls away, he’s finished. Why? Bc 1- I hate inconsistency and I’m very consistent, to a fault, and I’m into golden rule 2- low testosterone and cowardice behaviour as well as game playings are the last thing I’m interested in. I would never EVER breed w a man who pulls away and plays games, as a woman who can’t stand playing games. High value women or men don’t play games. They just are. They don’t run. They don’t pretend. They don’t act inconsistent or unreliable. Granted, most women out there ( these days) play games and that’s WHY they are NOT high value by standards of most societies. I don’t think you know what high value means. I married my third boyfriend after years of dating ( and after 2 other long term relationships that lasted 4 years ended, no issues, we just went our seperate ways amicably). I’m now married for 15 years. Zero issues. I actually never had relationship issues, and every man I ever dated wanted to get serious w me or marry me. I took my time! I never ever slept w ANYONE without going the long process of getting to know one another. I never played games. I also always paid whatever I could afford, and still do. I’m horrified but what I hear re dating scenes and how BETA men have become and also confused, I do blame women and third wave feminism for a lot of it, but women have lost a lot too. These games don’t help!
We all test. Like it or not. I actually agree with most of what was said. I do question the last one though. It kind of gives him permission to embarrass a female, but your supposed to show him your on his side. Don't embarrass him... that's not a high value man. We are here to grow and support each other. Guide each other through stress and learn new things. A high value man will introduce potential stress, yes. But he will also support her in the learning phase and share the experience, as she will when she introduces new things to him. That is a high value relationship.
I block any man who tries to test me. It’s immature and disrespectful. The first man who tested me, I failed, but he created a toxic environment that made me to not trust him. He acted interested and then pulled away or asked for a date and disappeared for the rest of the day
Most men should have class and character,these are essential to any relationship. They must be hardworking stable,confident and be willing to take care of themselves and you also.
Isn’t “making him work to get back to you” the same as being passive-aggressive?? And Why would a man purposely set up a date and not talk til the day of just to test her? Women don’t want to date men like this BYEEE.
It's only passive-aggressive if you're acting passive-aggressive... otherwise, it's valuing yourself and making sure he values you too. Also, lots of women also don't want to talk to a guy all the time, they have their own lives. And some men want to make sure she's not going to get all crazy on him if she doesn't hear from him for a couple of days... with the social media culture we now have, a lot of people have crazy expectations about how often they want to be in contact with each other. For a lot of people, it's way too much.
@@MatthewCoast For the beginning stages of the relationship, tests should be expected, including time between texts, calls and dates. If someone can't tolerate gaps in time that suggests that they don't have standards and move too quickly. The pulling away test is a critical one for both parties to pass. Once it's passed you can safely get closer to the person without fear of them being "too much".
Raise our value in men eyes 👀! In a relationship both are equal and a woman don’t have do all of theses variety of things to show a man or impress him, so he can fall in love with her! In my opinion love come nature and when two people are in true love ❤️ they can be themselves and they will support each other. For e.g if you hav to do all of these things, is like full-time job and it will lead to a disaster, because the minute you stop cheering him it’s going to be a problem! To all the women please don’t take any nonsense for anyone. Stand on the petals stool…… when a man is truly love you he will never walk out no you; no matter how bad the argument is! The minute when two people start to argue and the man or the woman leave and not clam down and solving the problem, walking is out is not going to do any good, because when man or a woman mostly likely to walking out and get involved with someone else, This is causes more problems!
A guy who will pull away to see what happens, treats boundaries like a dare, and waits for me to follow up on the date HE made? I don’t care who the man is, he’s not getting a second chance after trying any of that. How that kind of man can still call himself high value…smh.
I am with this man. His dream is hurting him and us. It's only thing disapgree with. We've been together a long time. He's obsessed with going to the woods and doing odd things out there. I've never seen anyone else do this. It affects us.
For the first one, why can't he just say I need some space, let's go slower? Same test as silently pulling away but it's more respectful & communicative. The fail & succeed are the same but there is an open respectfulness about it that women appreciate & will value in you.
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Truth is nothing will work if he's not into you.
And... if he's that into you, it'll be hard to fuck it up.
And if he is not into you. Why should you be into him? Stop being a masochist and love yourself first!
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@@fuzakali9083well sometimes you meet someone you really like, even if they don’t reciprocate
Yupp
Now that I’m 25, I recognize when a man is testing. I truly don’t care about “passing.” I simply stay true to myself, and remain unattached. It’s a lot of mental work to fully embrace being unattached from potential partners, but finalllly I’m able to do it and it’s made dating so much easier.
Yeah, as long as you aren't a walking red flag and you continue to grow and develop yourself, I wouldn't get caught up in tests.
@Frenchie_at_Heart may I ask you what mindset you create for yourself to stay unattached? It seems I do well at beginning than somehow I start to get attached I don’t act upon it just between me and myself- but maybe men sense that!
Good woman. It's about having a beautiful relationship with yourself they are a byproduct. Focus on yourself and how you feel, opportunity to overcome
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Amazing, me too❤
*Test 1* : He pulls away
Fail: Freak out, chase, get angry, attack him, act passive-aggressive etc.
Succeeed: give him some space, invite him to come back to you and make him work to get you back
*Test 2* : Pushes your boundaries
Fail: allow him to push past your boundaries and walk all over you
Succeed: set boundaries and keep to them (e.g. a "soft no" / "not yet" when he's pushing for physical intimacy too soon)
*Test 3* : Sets up a date and waits to talk to you on the day
Fail: freak out, chase him/ send lots of messages, get angry, cancel at the last min.
Succeed: Wait until the day to check in with him: "Are we still on?", if so, calmly turn up to the date.
If not, don't go.
*Test 4* : Are you on his side?
Fail: trying to change him, teaming up against him with others, fighting/ making him look bad in front of family and friends, making fun of him or who he is / his dreams leaving him at parties
Suceed: supporting and encouraging him in his dreams and goals, accepting him as he is, talking him up in front of friends and family, being his cheerleader when he needs it
*Test 5* : How you act in a situation that challenges you
( new activity you're bad at/ he's good at, an event that is not of interest to you)
Fail: freak out, get angry, blame/ attack others/ events outside yourself for being unable to do something, run off
Suceed: be calm, patient and relaxed and enjoy the new activity/ experience.
Wow thanks for writing it up😘
Every woman is not same some women keep patience also to get true love instead of physical intimacy
Thank you
It's so crazy how they get to act ridiculous and we have to be perfect
@@peachesandpoets these are good men, not the bad ones you don't want to get Involved with.
If a man is immediately testing you and not able to communicate well, he is not high value, drop him and move on to someone who is a mature adult.
Don’t confuse testing with playing games. They are absolutely not the same thing. Testing is an efficient way to sort the chaff from the wheat, so to speak. Playing games is a quick way to assert that you are the chaff.
Yes
Depends entirely on the context. Some things are just not going to come out in a conversation, and that goes for both.
@@TheEternalPheonix Testing is playing games. If you need the other person going through mental gymnastics to see if they check specific boxes, you can FO.
@@Yusheesan Testing doesn’t involve the other person going through mental gymnastics. This is the difference I’m talking about. Playing games is making the other person go through mental gymnastics to figure out how to “win”. Testing is for making sure that you’re not making a horrible mistake.
The best way to know if she is a high value woman is by getting to know each other. That's grown adult communication.
I lose interest if he pulls away. No time for games or inconsistencies
These sound like mind games I don't need. A man who performs these tests doesn't sound like a high value man
So you're saying that as a woman, you never back away from time to time?
😁 We are. Husi material.
They don't want a crazy bitch
He he hmm
Or, how about this? How about NOT testing each other? How about open, direct communication between 2 adults who use their words instead of childish games? 🤔 It saves time, gets straight to the point, and leaves less room for guessing where the other person is coming from🤷🏿♀️......just a suggestion.
Well perhaps because most of this is instinctual and most people do these sort of “tests” in one way or another. A lot goes without being said and many times you just have to see for yourself because people can explain they are a certain way but totally act in a different way, even if they don’t know it. I’ve done this a lot and it’s taking a good bit of effort to be more self aware and humble with myself
Savannah well said👏
I agree. Who has time for games when time is the most expensive commodity in this life? If you have self-esteem, you wouldn't fall for this trap. Good point.
Most people don't consciously "test" partners, they simply try to gather information...and sometimes their poorer behavior is simply a consequence of lack of interest, bt a proper response will gain their respect an dmake them realize they need to show up better pr you are gone.
Ah....these are not Jedi and Sith.😆 Good luck with that,marry that person. Or at the min make them a life long friend. Those kinda ppl are hard to find(not counting the psychos)
*Understanding the tests men might throw our way allows us to respond with confidence and poise. Let's strive to be the high-value women we truly are, and let our actions speak louder than any test.*
#3 is the only one on this list that actually pisses me off. Maybe I was raised differently, but it's a simple courtesy to reach out and reconfirm no matter who you're meeting. If you're busy, a quick, 'Hi! Looking forward to seeing you later.", is all it takes! I've noticed that most guys will be chatter boxes right up to the day of the date and then go radio silent. I'd prefer someone that makes a small effort to communicate that our plans are locked in (like a mature adult) instead of someone who has already annoyed me with his stupid test or simple lack of courtesy.
Exactly!!
It comes down to having compatible attachment styles not one gender denying their needs to please another. There has to be a healthy balance.
Who's denying their needs??? Nobody NEEDS to have a meltdown or chase a man.
@@Hawaiiansky11 right? it’s very bad for morale.
As a high value woman I wouldn’t ask him “are we still on”. I think he is the one on charge to ask me that before the date, as supposedly he was the one who has initiated it😂. If he don’t ask me, I would simply not show up. If he ask me why I didn’t show up, I would be like “oh, I am sorry, I didn’t know you are still on. Would you like to settle another one? Just don’t forget to remind me on time this time! It’s your last chance 😂!
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As a Sigma, I need space from the demands and annoyances of the daily grind, and it sometimes includes my wife. She has learned this is no threat to our relationship, but simply my way of recharging my social battery. My solo time is important, whether in the field or garage, and I always come back when refreshed. Only Sigmas understand this.
It's not a "sigma" thing. It's a most people thing. I am a woman and I also need time to myself to just be left alone.
Sounds like an introvert thing.
There is no such thing as a sigma. You are just an introvert. Stop labeling yourself with crap you see on the internet
In short, only positive vibrations is encouraged. It also helps staying busy with life. No one wants to feel like the person they are pursuing does not have a life 😀
but why can’t people just be upfront about what kind of people they are looking for and what relationships they want? Purposely “pulling away” from someone seems manipulative. If you like someone and they start pulling away and you just say nothing makes it seem like the man is trying to see if he can use his silence to put you in you place or manipulate you and I have no time for that (not saying you need to freak out but I feel like addressing the situation in a healthy way is ok). If you like someone just talk to them and if it doesn’t work out it doesn’t work out this stuff is very annoying lol. The minute I sense some kind of game I leave and find someone secure enough to be honest about who they are and who is not afraid of getting to know people
Because what people say about themselves and how they ACTUALLY behave are often very different. Just like guys will say they want something real and then hook up with you and never talk to you again. When everything is going well, you don't know what a person's character is like because it's easy for them to behave confidently and smartly... you learn their character when things aren't going their way and when they have challenges... then you find out how to handle conflict, how they deal with problems, and what their communication style is like under pressure... and you can't learn it any other way.
@@MatthewCoast sounds like a couple should go through more life together instead of playing games and manipulating each other's emotions
Most guys who test you test you because they've been burned before. Anyone who has gone on more than one date has probably been burned at some time in their life.
Simple solution: when someone pulls away, block them immediately. That will solve the problem for you.
Most men are not looking for a wife. Simple. Just dating. Games is all you get. When you see the games start, drop him if you are looking for more. He is not looking for anything serious but if you are then drop him.
Exactly!
If a guy is really interested in a lady he will never forget the day for the dating ,
High value women put their efforts into high value people and activities.
I have a boyfriend I knew for awhile. Never went on date I never chase him he needs his freedom. When he want to see me he knows how to find me. Always be patient He is buying a house for us to be together.
Someone is buying you a house you have never gone on a date with?
@@rebeccajordan8132 right? Stalker sounds like it to me ??
Sorry hunny but that's just weird. Never been on a date!?
@@rebeccajordan8132 lol 😂😂😂😂
Oh dear girl....your being future faked. THIS IS NOT REAL.
If he pulls away he better stay away forever. I don't circle back to foolish tests.
I agree. It's damn games I hate them. They need to grow the f up
Ladies I am a little older and men, the deeper the feeling, the more they feel off balance. Honestly it freaks them out and they need a little time especially at first to sort it out what it means to him. It’s up to us to gauge the pace of things, not jump into bed fast (at all) and make him work for us.
Literally NO GUY AT ALL, ANYWHERE is worth all of those weird ass mind games. I’m out
Boundaries are key. Need my own space ✌🏼
Absolutely NO TEST AND NO GAMES. What happened to maturity and acting like a grown up. 🧐. I am a high valued woman because I do not play games or make a man a “test” subject and I absolutely do not let them put me in that category/position either!
I'll just tell you... he can test me all he wants, but when he does he is failing MY test for him. I'm not here to pass anyone's tests and play games. Communicate with me like an adult or move along to make space for someone who does. I'm not going to wait for the day of the date to hear from a man. If I haven't heard from him at least by the day before then I am making other plans and assuming there is no date.
Don’t confuse testing with playing games. They are absolutely not the same thing. Testing is an efficient way to sort the chaff from the wheat, so to speak. Playing games is a quick way to assert that you are the chaff.
I found this helpful, I enjoy being honest, not brutally so, to show you can be kind while being honest
Sending postive vibes to everyone
Makes total sense. I admit to being a doormat before but doormat I am no more.
Love your perspective Matthew. You always give really great, straight forward advice.
Thank you, Kristen!
Having your male perspective is so awesome!! 💜 thanks for everything 💜
You are so welcome!
This just happened to me! He wanted to be exclusive & dangled a vacation after 4 dates..12-hours later ghosted me when I still didn’t sleep w/him
You dodged a bullet. Consider it a lesson learned and thank the universe for it.
Im so thankful for you Matt🙏🏽💙
Pleasure to help, Betty.
Im sorry, life is too short for stupid games
No reason to be sorry about that
Right
Thank you, you gave me answers what I was looking for. 🙂
I'm so glad!
My crush is testing me all the 5 ways u said.... I think he might have watched this video too... 😂😂😂lol
Planning a date the day of is too last min. The day before is fine. Nothing about being needy. This is simple planning. Simply yes or no - and move on either way. It's not just the guy that can make this decision ladies!
Yes, I sign this, I have a date tomorrow with a dude who is more comfortable to talk in person than online, we connected from time to time in between but not like daily. This is fine with me ☺️
I love the way you take your time to explain everything thanks for helping us ❤️
Thank you, Franky!
If he pulls away, I am done n gone forever! No need of games!
Remember that during times when you need to pull away. Sometimes, life gets busy / we struggle with life in general (depression, the past, etc.) or have family emergencies. If you have zero tolerance for any kind of pulling away, then expect others to treat you the same way.
This is so helpful...it applies to the scenario when men evaluate you as business partner material as well, beginning to notice...I agree with it.
This video just confirms I think like a man, even tho I was born & still physically am a woman… I use all of these “tests” on men & women when I date. But it would appear I’m oblivious when these “tests” are done to me 😞
Both genders do this, it’s generally within human nature, it’s takes a very strong person to NOT do this
I found a great guy he was so good he even convinced my family he was amazing, then when he moved in with me and got on the lease he became lazy didn't want to work and became argumentative and stopped me from seeing friends and family, these awful men trap you and then you are totally stuck
Probably a narcissist. That's why it's good to take your time. They seem to fizz out after about 6 months. Some can go longer, but the mask starts coming off right around the 6 month period for some reason.
i used to date a guy like that. But after about 6 months, i got angry and kicked him out of my life. I didn't block the contact but he knew he happened to step on a landmine so he called me to say sorry but i told him stop contacting me. =_=
Great, sensible spot on advice, Matt
I am older (way) lol, but this girl still
needs to listen + learn how to project
the value I know I have + am worth. .
I have already listened 2X's
+ am internalizing your points, making sure I check the boxes, I need to improve on. .
Thanks for these reminders.
I know these will be difference makers
👍 Thanks for sharing this, Nancy
I love your advice Mathew very grounding xx
Thank you, Valerie
Remember not everyone comes to stay,or do that to test you
Some are just passers, so be careful at learning and giving yourself easily
This is so good
Attraction stems from many avenues, mainly from our upbringing and how we were loved growing up. I don't like this accusation of woman being desperate and needy and clingy. Most woman with any self respect will act that way when a guy is "testing" fail the bloidy test and scream them because if ever a guy makes you feel desperate or needy of clingy is because hes making you feel that way. Us woman are intuitive beings and when it doesn't feel right its usually because something isn't right trust your gut. If it feels right you wonte feel desperate or needy or clingy. Word!
Thank You, great content.
Glad you liked it!
Thanks for the tips Matt
Always welcome.
Thank you very much for this video ❤
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This was great. Thank You
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Definitely true!! My Boyfriend works 2 jobs all his life but had to accept who he is ,,
Great advice matt.
Thanks for watching, Susie
In my experience I always give all my bad flaws to my guy and I see that he never give up still chase me 😂
You give such good advice, in a intelligent way, you deserve a good Wife.
Very useful! Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks for the tips.
Happy to help!
Lol. I love your expression 😆 on the ping pong 🏓 🤣 test!
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Great advise. Thank you
Much welcome.
Test 1 : He pulls away
Fail: Freak out, chase, get angry, attack him, act passive-aggressive etc.
Succeeed: give him some space, invite him to come back to you and make him work to get you back...I understand this part and I know it works however I don't fully understand the piece "invite him back" what does that exactly mean?
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Wow this is valuable content👏😊💙
you legend bro :)
Great advice thanx❤
Thanks too.
This one is so good
Glad you like it, Julie
Thank you!
Welcome!
I love your sense of humor, example with ping pong and how you showed it was absolutely fun :D
Thanks!
Good advice ❤
Thanks!
Very helpful here.
Glad to hear it!
I think you have good information. Thanks
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 ~ Matt ~ you’re a riot! This was great
The grammar and spelling in a text are so true. I’ve overlooked that and regretted it
I have terrible grammar and spelling when texting. that doesn't mean I don't know how to use grammar or spell. It just means typing on the phone is a pain.
Is anybody teaching a man how to be caring, considering, forgiven, thoughtful, patient, kind,affectionate committed?
I found this very helpful thank you 😊😘
I'm so glad!
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I think it's kind-of fucked up of a man to try to push past you're boundaries & then uses that as a reason to devalue you & treat you badly.
Thank you for words of wisdom!
You are so welcome
Love your advice
Hmmmm. As a high value woman, if a man pulls away, he’s finished. Why? Bc 1- I hate inconsistency and I’m very consistent, to a fault, and I’m into golden rule 2- low testosterone and cowardice behaviour as well as game playings are the last thing I’m interested in. I would never EVER breed w a man who pulls away and plays games, as a woman who can’t stand playing games.
High value women or men don’t play games. They just are. They don’t run. They don’t pretend. They don’t act inconsistent or unreliable. Granted, most women out there ( these days) play games and that’s WHY they are NOT high value by standards of most societies.
I don’t think you know what high value means. I married my third boyfriend after years of dating ( and after 2 other long term relationships that lasted 4 years ended, no issues, we just went our seperate ways amicably). I’m now married for 15 years. Zero issues. I actually never had relationship issues, and every man I ever dated wanted to get serious w me or marry me. I took my time! I never ever slept w ANYONE without going the long process of getting to know one another. I never played games. I also always paid whatever I could afford, and still do.
I’m horrified but what I hear re dating scenes and how BETA men have become and also confused, I do blame women and third wave feminism for a lot of it, but women have lost a lot too. These games don’t help!
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You are a genius Matthew of course I can't chase a man I had to listen to you sooner my friend ❤
I totally agree. This is the right woman have to do. Thank you so much. You are showing me that I'm thinking correct. Thank you again 😊
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Most welcome
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We all test. Like it or not. I actually agree with most of what was said. I do question the last one though. It kind of gives him permission to embarrass a female, but your supposed to show him your on his side. Don't embarrass him... that's not a high value man. We are here to grow and support each other. Guide each other through stress and learn new things. A high value man will introduce potential stress, yes. But he will also support her in the learning phase and share the experience, as she will when she introduces new things to him. That is a high value relationship.
Good tips
Thanks!
I block any man who tries to test me. It’s immature and disrespectful. The first man who tested me, I failed, but he created a toxic environment that made me to not trust him. He acted interested and then pulled away or asked for a date and disappeared for the rest of the day
Most men should have class and character,these are essential to any relationship. They must be hardworking stable,confident and be willing to take care of themselves and you also.
I was married 3 times but I don't know much about men Matthew so I am all ears my friend ❤❤❤
Isn’t “making him work to get back to you” the same as being passive-aggressive??
And
Why would a man purposely set up a date and not talk til the day of just to test her? Women don’t want to date men like this BYEEE.
It's only passive-aggressive if you're acting passive-aggressive... otherwise, it's valuing yourself and making sure he values you too.
Also, lots of women also don't want to talk to a guy all the time, they have their own lives. And some men want to make sure she's not going to get all crazy on him if she doesn't hear from him for a couple of days... with the social media culture we now have, a lot of people have crazy expectations about how often they want to be in contact with each other. For a lot of people, it's way too much.
@@MatthewCoast For the beginning stages of the relationship, tests should be expected, including time between texts, calls and dates. If someone can't tolerate gaps in time that suggests that they don't have standards and move too quickly. The pulling away test is a critical one for both parties to pass. Once it's passed you can safely get closer to the person without fear of them being "too much".
Raise our value in men eyes 👀! In a relationship both are equal and a woman don’t have do all of theses variety of things to show a man or impress him, so he can fall in love with her! In my opinion love come nature and when two people are in true love ❤️ they can be themselves and they will support each other. For e.g if you hav to do all of these things, is like full-time job and it will lead to a disaster, because the minute you stop cheering him it’s going to be a problem! To all the women please don’t take any nonsense for anyone. Stand on the petals stool…… when a man is truly love you he will never walk out no you; no matter how bad the argument is! The minute when two people start to argue and the man or the woman leave and not clam down and solving the problem, walking is out is not going to do any good, because when man or a woman mostly likely to walking out and get involved with someone else, This is causes more problems!
Thnkz fr ur advce....
Always welcome!
I let him know a long time ago he's still the one
Love for me.
A guy who will pull away to see what happens, treats boundaries like a dare, and waits for me to follow up on the date HE made? I don’t care who the man is, he’s not getting a second chance after trying any of that. How that kind of man can still call himself high value…smh.
I am with this man. His dream is hurting him and us. It's only thing disapgree with. We've been together a long time. He's obsessed with going to the woods and doing odd things out there. I've never seen anyone else do this. It affects us.
His dream is hurting you ?? Weird things in the woods ?? good Lord woman you need a restraining order not relationship advice 😢
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Oh hi, Imee. Welcome aboard.
I gone listen to you more Matthew ❤
THANKS
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For the first one, why can't he just say I need some space, let's go slower? Same test as silently pulling away but it's more respectful & communicative. The fail & succeed are the same but there is an open respectfulness about it that women appreciate & will value in you.