The not wanting to add to the landfills thing is a real thing for me, but I have recently learned to look at it this way..... I can hold on to this stuff in my home and have it clutter my life, sure.... but eventually, after I am gone, it's going to end up in the landfill anyway. It really takes things down to basic truth. My husband and I have no children of our own, so nobody to really hand things down to. Eventually someone is going to have to deal with all these things and they will end up in the trash, anyway. So donate what is reasonable and if not, move it along now.
What a great way of looking at this! YES! It will eventually end up in some landfill! I don't need to hang on to really anything. It all becomes "stuff" then clutter. Enjoy your day!!!
Yes! My brother is my next of kin, as I have no children. I just keep thinking that he is the one that has to deal with my stuff. I don't want him to have to do this, but I just can't seem to get motivated. That's why I'm here. Kallie deals with the psychology behind why we struggle. I'll just keep trying 🙂
The real vs aspirational self got me. I just retired a year ago and hung on to all the things I was PLANNING on doing, crafts, projects, books. I’m not doing them OR I found other things that I like doing or having that means more to me now. Thanks Kallie🥰👏👍
I binged some of your videos at the end of last week and decided to start small and began with the hallway and kitchen counters that always attracts mess for some reason 😅. I found homes for the things that usually end up there. And I have been able to keep it tidy all week so far, with very little effort actually! Considering I live with husband and 2 kids (8 & 10 yo). I feel very hopeful! 🤩Thank you so much for being such an inspiration 🥰
That segment of aspirational clutter really hit home. Having something there, sitting around, reminds me of the life I want and I cannot have RIGHT NOW. I need to stop mourning that life and embracing the life I have now. Thank you
I had to combine two households after the passing of my dad and then my husband. It is hard to let go of some things so I got my kids and grandkids over to get what they wanted first….then had a yard sale….then donated….then trashed. It’s hard but I will always cherish the memories without all the clutter. Thank you for your tips. It worked for me even before this video.. thanks for sharing.
I’m so sorry 😞! I had my brother, Aunt and mum (Nana) die within an 18 month period! I inherited all 3 households. Overwhelmed is the understatement of the century! Everything had to be gone through quickly as we wanted the houses cleared out asap and sold. As they all live in the states, I had Purple Heart on auto dial! I kept things that were valuable; Waterford, jewellery, fishing/stalking gear, things that I have memories of, gifts I gave them…I started 5 boxes. Two for our daughters and the three remaining for my cousins. Everything is in our basement storage area and labelled. When it gets too hard for me to go threw a box and divide things up, I stop. Put it all back and come back to it in about two days. I had to do this because I recently had 3 heart attacks at 51. My heart was breaking more and more as I tried to push myself to get rid of this stuff. Go slow on things like this. I haven’t gone near any of it since June 2nd. I had surgery and I’m blessed to be ok! My cousin and Aunt are coming in October to help me with everything. I thought I could and had to do it on my own. Nope!! Blessings to you. I sold so much and gave away so much but these last bits are tough. Staying wrapped safely in a sealed, labelled box for a bit longer is OK. I also have a brilliant “GIFTS” box next to my cards and wrapping paper station that is filled with spectacular items I can part with to others. I’m a glass half full kinda lass! 😂💕
@@Sorchia56 it is ok to slow down as long as you move forward. sometimes the speed is slower than a snail but it is still movement. it is so hard to process things when you have to process feelings at the same time.
@@ninirossau2304 Very true, on all points. It’ll get done in due time. I’m no longer pressuring myself over it. I’m a “look at it, throw it in burn pile or rubbish bin” lass. I keep some cards but rarely. Gifts I don’t throw in the bin! 😂
I drive my husband insane. Every season he knows the decluttering time is coming!! I totally agree with you with just donating things. It would be too much of a hassle to try to sell things. Nothing like dropping off that bag of items and knowing it will no longer take up space at home! I have 3 neighbors that actually have me come over when they need help decluttering. Ha!
My Nonna and Mom used to keep things for "some day" this would include the best outfit, the best fancy paper, the best whatever! When my Nonna died, my Mom was shocked about the stuff my Nonna saved. 😂 I then carried on the shock when my Mom died. I'm not judging, I find myself doing the same thing, so the struggle is real! 😂
Not one of us is getting out of this life alive. That's just life. When my beloved aunt died suddenly and unexpectedly in her 50s, me and her sister spent WEEKS clearing out a very cluttered (and very small) apartment she'd lived in for 20+ years. There were so many things that had never been opened or appeared almost never used, and that place could not have been pleasant to live in, because there were items stacked nearly floor to ceiling in the entire apartment. It was sad and also helped inspire me declutter more ruthlessly. I have only one child and I don't want him to have to deal with too much stuff that just sat there and I barely or never used anyway. We all think we'll live to be 80 or whatever, but that's also just not reality. Sometimes we don't and death is not expected. Again, I don't mean to be a downer but for those left living when I'm gone, I just don't want them to have to deal with all of that.
That’s what my mom is doing now, decluttering her entire house so I won’t have to deal with it when she’s gone. She said ideally the only things that’ll be left are what she used every day and those few things I said I wanted. The rest she’s attempting to sell and if not, donate.
I’ve seen a lot of people talk about Swedish death cleaning on TH-cam and it really is that sentiment you’re talking about. It’s a labor of love to not want to put such a burden on your family after you pass away. Thanks for sharing.
My friend wore a white sweater a lot because when she was a child, her mother wouldn't let her wear a white sweater she got as a gift because it might get dirty. She outgrew it and never wore it. I have anti-procrastination days sometimes and do what I have been avoiding. Truly, it takes way less time to do than I imagined.
Yes to Mama’s rock collection!! I finally had too many, so I made a little “rock” garden outside for my son to put them in every time he found a “great” one. We got to see them every time we played outside. He is 13. It is still there. 😉
I'm decluttering my apartment and have been watching her very helpful videos! Today I looked in the cabinet above my refrigerator expecting cookbooks and found two very large rocks that I had stashed there away from my little grandson years ago! They were from a vacation with my dear sister and sentimental to me because she is passed. They are re-homed outside with the plants! LoL just made me happy that I'm not such a nutcase to be sentimental about rocks and collecting them!
Sentimental clutter is my kryptonite! I can’t seem to sift thru and pare down. I definitely need to do better in this department. Thanks for the gentle reminders that all this stuff just weighs us down!
I started my decluttering journey last year… it’s been slow but steady. I struggle with a lot of guilt getting rid of things, so after the first declutter of obvious things, I have been doing this “purpose declutter”: For example, there was a fire that consumed 3 houses in my neighborhood, so I went into my kitchen and bathroom and selected things for the familys that were affected. Then, the kids shelter asked for crafts donation, so i took that opportunity to get rid of extra crafting material. Having a specific purpose (helping others in need) take the guilt away… and it generally motivates me to select more things than originally intended
When a little boy gives you rocks, that’s a big deal. I love that you keep them on your window sill. You are an awesome person! Have a great day and thank you for such awesome, helpful content!💖🙂💖
oh the stones....brought back many memories....what i did was find an awesome flower pot and fill it with the stones. They sit on my front porch highlighted by the red pot. And when the grand kids come....voila they are reminded that their thoughtfulness mattered because it did and still does
Great points! I've reached a point where I really enjoy donating things and/or gifting items to others when they admire them. Don't discount momentum. When you're "in the groove" and able to sort through many items (and remove them from your home), just do it. Stick with it as long as the groove lasts.
Mine sit in my trunk for weeks...or longer. I need to actually drive to the thrift store and donate them! I will do so this week! Thanks. Your comment helped me.
I had to chuckle on the 'Shoes". Just a thought if they are hard to get on this child; why would they not be just as hard to get onto the next child? Your priority is spot on: enjoy your children every second of every minute... They grow up so fast!!
Immediately after retiring I had a massive clothes purge, some shoes & still to finish the shoes. We have an Org, Peace Place that aids abused women & their children in many ways, place to stay, courthouse legal fees, They’ll even find a place for your horse/pets. So, I do not sell. I take everything there, good usable, new, & nearly new. Now I wear my “uniform”. And with age, “things” that were important, aren’t any more, it’s now in the way stuff. I keep a box that I gradually fill to donate.
Great ideas!! The sentimental keepsakes is the toughest one for me. My daughter came up with a nice idea to photograph several homemade quilts from my grandparents that take up a lot of space & unrealistic to keep forever. We made a collage of the photos & put them in a pretty glass frame. Also it was a nice mom & daughter art project. We donated the quilts. Thank you again for your helpful videos. 😊🦋
We are in the process of packing our home for a move after 8 years of living here and there’s no better time to re evaluate clutter than this. We’ve donated and thrown away hundreds of items. We’re moving from a 2300 sq ft home into a 3500 sq ft home and I keep making mental notes of all the things we’re getting rid of and saying how we can’t let ourselves do this again in an even bigger space… it shocks me the amount of clutter and things we buy on the regular for no good reason. I know we had every intention of it being a useful item!
Trust me, if you have space, it’ll get filled up. I moved from a 4,100 sq ft home and downsized to a home less than half that size, and the number of things I got rid of after living there for 25 years was insane. I absolutely love,love, love being in a smaller home at this period of my life. Too much space after the kids are gone in a big house, which in retrospect, I really never needed, not to mention the maintenance of the acreage. For me, thats where Kallie’s “season of my life” comments kicked in for me. With your mindset, I am positive you’ll manage it better than I did!
I let paint supplies in my kitchen for weeks because "we need to paint the kitchen". Finally I accepted that it wasn't going to happen soon, and I put it all in storage until we actually plan to use it. It has majorly helped my mental health to not have it there!
I had to make a rule for myself- if there are ANY steps between "right now" and "doing the thing," I don't need to buy supplies, or accept items from friends/neighbors. Aspirational me is always coming up with ideas :D
As a NEWLY organized person [still a work in progress] I have found the same.. I am super mindful of what I buy now because I DID get rid of SO MUCH STUFF! I have found it super helpful.. and I'm sure my husband will agree.. so much cheaper!
Yup! Got the 'save everything' from my mom. Now, I try to donate what I don't need, and not buy anything I can do without. Yes, I rinse and reuse plastic bags...never buy any.
Great points! I’m pretty good about most clutter, I also live in a smaller home (1020 sf). My struggle, “IT’S A REALLY GOOD BOX” My husband has the same box problem. I need to find help 😆
I developed this problem when I spent months collecting boxes prior to moving. It is real. But cardboard is flammable and can harbor bugs and I don't feel good about my good box collection.
I collect all my important/special shirts. Concerts, school, traveling, etc. I cut out the parts with the pictures and words and stitched them all together and made a sleeping bag! I love repurposing important items in my life in a fun yet functional way.
Years ago I had plans to make a t-shirt quilt but it never happened. I have repurposed a few graphics on shirts into mini pillows or blankets for my dolls though.
This was good. Dealing with so many great things, many of them inherited but I am working on letting them go. I am 70 and I do not want the burden to be left to my son. Thank you.
I think a lot of time we think we don't have time to do something. But actually, at the time we think about doing that, we decide right then we don't WANT to do that right then. Once I realized that I was not doing things because I didn't want to right then and it wasn't a lack of time problem, I was a lot more productive and happy because I didn't have that task hanging over my head.
I have a family member who will "give" others things but then there are so many strings attached. They want to see what they "gave" you when they come over. So.. I don't accept anything from them anymore. And the stuff they have given and I've donated or whatever I've learned to tell them the "gift" outlived it's usefulness. And I've given myself permission to do this even if that person won't. That's on them. Also I REALLY needed to hear that I can give myself permission to throw things away. I've held on to so much stuff because of the guilt of wastefulness. I've already learned to be more mindful when I purchase things but now I will try to give myself permission to throw away that stuff I've held onto for literally years because of guilt. You give awesome, real and practical advice. 💖💖💖
If someone can use it, please consider giving it away, if you don't want to sell. If you don't want to post on a platform to give away, consider neatly setting usable items (maybe a few at a time, so people don't rummage through and make a mess) on your curb 3 or 4 days before trash pick up. You'll may be surprised at how quickly items will find new homes.
My Husband wants to throw everything away he doesn't want to take the time to sell or give away, so I have been taking items to the thrift store. getting started is so overwhelming to me!!!
Take small steps - choose a room you want declutteted. Then divide into small areas or one drawer. Kitchens work well to make small goals. Cleaning one drawer will motivate to do the next!
This video has changed my life. I also have had the bad habit of getting “piles.” I have aspirational clutter. These videos have helped me soo much especially over the guilt of letting go. I did Marie Kondo method about seven years ago and I still feel a little traumatized (stuff everywhere for weeks on end, a never ending mountain, I lost my high school diploma despite keeping it for twelve years prior, tossing things like silverware without thinking then having surprise guests and just one spoon lol) Since then I’ve basically become a mini hoarder when I was fine before. But finally the “just in case” with have I used it in six months? This is more practical for me rather than “joy.” The two hour reset, focusing on surface clutter, etc. especially visual clutter. I have done the two hour trick three times and figured out pain points in my kitchen that were preventing me from clearing surface clutter. Today I FINALLY figured out how to address this and I no longer have pots on my stove, I am SO HAPPY! I wanted to cry from just being so happy and feeling so good. Like I can DO THIS. My house is feeling and looking better and better every day. Thank you so much, truly you have my gratitude for life. ❤
Thank you for your videos. I am finally letting go of the "just in case" items. I have started the 30 days declutter challenge! I am loving this already. So easy to follow and makes the task seem less daunting. Oh your clean sink rule, OH my goodness! That has been a life changer for me. I didn't know I could become organized and tidy!
I have this "6" list in hand.... Here I go. Last year's declutter, my first, is exactly as you described, the no brainer stuff, so this time around I am prepared to address the difficult items. Thank you so much!
I've been decluttering for about 10 months. Everything is tidy. I'm now at the re-decluttering stage where I open a few cupboards at random and try to fill a bag or two every couple of days to donate or trash. The feeling of freedom is addictive!
I've found using Olio is really helping with this. There are certain things that I tend to buy then decide they're no good but for some reason keep them anyway. I'm worst with hair products (I have curly hair and am always looking for the perfect products) and cleaning products. If I use a cleaning product and it sets my asthma off I won't use it again until I forget it set my asthma off and I use it again and set it off again 😕 On olio you can list things like that and someone else might find it useful and it saves them some money. That way I'm not throwing good stuff away but I'm also not keeping stuff I won't use. This reminds me that I desperately need to sort out my cleaning and hair stuff again lol
Recently my husband I moved to a small two bedroom apartment from a 2 story, 3 bedroom house so there was a lot of decluttering going on. I had a large pile of rocks that my son had gathered and given to me before he passed away at the age of 6. It was tearing my heart out to imagine parting with any of them. I kept 3 of them, the rest I took and placed in the garden at our church. I can see them but not have to store them. The others sit in my window. I had/have large stacks of all his art, schoolwork and so on that I have been keeping a few pieces then scanning and digitally storing the rest. One where he wrote his name I scanned, enlarged a bit then printed, traced onto a cutting board that was too small to use (came with a Christmas cheese set) then wood burned his signature into it. Now it makes a nice piece of art in my kitchen and took care of two pieces of clutter at once. I'm still scanning items to save but there are so many that is going to take awhile to get done. I reminded myself that this way I would always have a copy and they were safe, on my computer and the cloud, from fire, leaks and tornadoes. I've also been scanning all of our photos for the same reason and found some hidden gems I didn't know I had. Like my parent-in-laws wedding photo and MIL's HS graduation picture.
Decluttering my small apartment this week. My sister was the keeper of the family heirlooms and I only have a few things from my parents and grandparents so I think I will hang on to them. I had moved across the country 12 years ago and left nearly everything. Unfortunately my sister and brother in law had a house fire and they died. It is a nightmare. Everything is gone. She had really been stressed about having so much clutter. She had recently retired and was in the process of decluttering. No amount of any stuff I have can ever again make my life whole again.
I love your quote "Your stuff talks to you." Excellent points about the types of clutter and the different mindsets we need to address them. I've been on a long journey to become a tidy person and have discovered similar truths along the way. I love watching your videos as kind motivation for maintaining habits. Thank you so much!
I can relate to all of these 🤨. Basically, too much stuff in a small place! I have my grandma’s trifle bowls even though I don’t make trifles. My grandma died in 1986 so it seemed hurtful to see my mum throw them out a couple of years ago. However, sensibly, I can remember my grandma without filling my cupboards with unnecessary trifle bowls. I need a stern word with myself. Thank you for the tips 😊
Love this!! After every birthday or Christmas I got through what was given and decide what I actually want to bring in to my home.... hubby thinks it brutal, I think it’s smart :)
I think for me that throwing things and realizing I didn't need to buy them makes me think twice before making purchases. I now tend to sit on something I want and see if I really still want it or need it after a few weeks.
Yeah, once I did a few declutters and got some cabinets and closets in better order, I stopped buying things! Had no idea how many T-shirts, jackets, towels and bedding items I already owned. Same for cleaning products, lotions n potions, kitchen items.
Thank you so very much. I'm about to declutter since some days, sometimes it's very hard to make a decision. Youre video is so helpful. Now I can deal with my clutter and it's so easy to let go 🤩😎. Have a great day. Kindly regards from germany, Mandy 🌿🌸🐘
a lot of my clutter is mail. Mail from banks offering me credit cards, coupons that stores send me, and some bills. I have a fear that someone will get a credit card on my name (I don't know if that's just being paranoid lol), so I just keep this mail until I have time to go shred it somewhere. I finally made the decision to buy a small hand cranked shredder to shred mail the day I get it. It's small enough that it won't clutter up my space more.
This video just inspired me to donate partly used bottles of shampoo, detergent and cleaning supplies to the laundry room in my apartment building! I didn't need 2 extra bottles of Windex with just an inch or 2 of cleaner left in them!
The aspirational vs reality self was a big one for me! I recently got rid of a lot of crafts for “when I have time.” I love what you said about what serves me during this season of life. Very eye opening, Thank you!
Love these ideas! You are sooo right about sentimental clutter. It’s actually painful when you feel you have to keep things you don’t want! 😆 Thanks for sharing! 💜
Another kind of clutter that slows me down is paperwork. Accumulated papers from invoices/receipts from doctors, veterinarians, donation/charity/auction receipts, work papers, projects I chaired years ago..... Every paper needs to be looked at and either saved (either in its original form or scanned), recycled, or shredded.
Hey I just wanted to say that your videos have been extremely encouraging to me. I only found your channel a month or two ago but you’ve truly helped me get past a lot of my mental roadblocks to decluttering and organizing my home. I still have a long way to go but I’m decluttering my home at a manageable pace and it feels really good. I’m gradually developing the habits I need to actually keep my home organized. Thank you, truly.
Argh! That big box of china in the attic that nobody wants, nobody uses but you can't get rid of it because you will hear "It was your grandma's china!' So we just keep storing it.... (I wish I liked the pattern, but I don't)
I just clicked on this to watch again and saw somehow I’d clicked the dislike not the like button 😱 So just know that seemingly some of us just smoosh buttons 🤦🏼♀️ Really enjoyed this, so much of my clutter is things I don’t want but feel so much guilt about wasting resources and adding to landfill. Thanks for the videos!
If those clothes represent a good time in your life; then keep them and do what it takes to slim down. If the clothes trigger negative emotions, then go and burn them. I am slimming down and the feeling of wearing clothes that were of good times , can't be put into words accurately.
My weight fluctuates because of health issues but I only keep clothes I would be thrilled to fit into again. If it doesn't fit me right now & I don't love it, I don't keep it.
There is value to your rocks! If not for the rocks, the plants couldn't have crawled out of the water. On that note, there are a lot of plants that live and thrive in rocks. Might be something to consider when your ledge gets too cluttered.
We bought a one bedroom house I didn't think I would ever get pregnant so that's why my husband and I decided to buy a one bedroom house. It's been hassle to find ways to store our baby girl things but your channel has help us declutter and find ways to store things.
I’ve no problem getting rid of things like spare socks. I’ve got 16 pairs to take to the Thrift shop tomorrow and I feel great because my sock drawer now closes and it’s tidy! BUT… what do I do with all my old diaries? I’m in my 80s so my time may be short. I have three kids, several grandchildren, all over 20. I don’t know if I want the family to read the diaries. Do I read and then burn or simply burn them? Confused! I’d welcome your advice! Love your videos and working through them. I’m in bed and the kitchen is clean and tidy!
I'm working my way through my house. Any tips at organizing a computer desktop? My desktop is full of 100s of icons, because if I put them in a folder I don't know where to find anything. Thoughts?
After buying paints just before my first child was born, I'm just now pulling them out 23 years later! Of course most of them are pretty well dried up! Plus, I realize now that they weren't even great quality ones. I wish I'd given them away back then when they could have been useful to someone else.
Most problems are with my arts and craft items. I am suffering from ADHD and I know that I will always come to a different project in a few months when my hyper fixation on that hobby (knitting, drawing, journaling, woodwork, jewellery making) comes back. The material is too expensive to throw away and I can not store it somewhere I don't see it because I lack object memory. When I don't see it, I don't use it. And when I want to work with it chances are good that I forgot that I have it. It is very frustrating when I end up with several sets of something because I bought it new because I forgot that I already owned it. Struggling with impulse control when I want to do something and it isn't there so I buy it isn't very helpful either. Not logical, I know, but that's what my brain does. Good that every now and then I hyper fixate on cleaning my house to the tiniest corner. XD XD XD Mostly when I have other urgent projects that should be done but don't get me the dopamine my brain needs.
Again I craft,sew, knit,& scrape book ect I am moving to a 3 bedroom duplex from a home we have been in 42 years I am using 1 bedroom for a craft office room I need help using space in the best way possible I love your stuff & Fetch
Your videos ALWAYS inspire me! I have aspirations to do lots of crafts because I enjoy them. I have tons of craft supplies filling up three entire cupboards (yes, I have a problem, lol). I have come yo the realization that I will more than likely never get to them since I am ill and only getting worse. I have made the decision to collect all of the craft supplies and try selling them as lots first, with the exception of a few larger items. I have started gathering them into a box. Your videos have helped me realize this and gotten me started on the process. Now to keep the momentum going. Thank you so much and have a Blessed day ❤️
I think there is room for aspirations and the stuff you accumulate for your ideas and dreams. If there is not, what a bleak life. BUT....you have to work on it and not just stash the junk away for "someday"!!
My mom LOVES shopping & gift giving. She has very different style from my sister & I, but that doesn’t stop her from insisting on giving us big things that that define our style, like what we wear & how we decorate our homes - so she’ll look for it in the future & ask us where it is 🙄 It’s a problem. I’m about to threaten to burn whatever she gives me in front of her in the driveway.
Great timing …I am so frustrated with my attempts at getting rid of both ‘sentimental’ items and old ‘cassettes’, cds and dvds . With sentimental items I want to back up the photos I take before I get rid of the items and I’ve had digital storage issues and then with the cassettes etc, I have to go through them all…find the songs I really want to keep and see if they are on iTunes and then buy them. But for the ones that aren’t but I still want to keep, I need to collect them and get them transferred to a new digital format and I can’t do that until I get the digital storage issues worked out..and then it is quite expensive to get them transferred. I was going to try to buy a ‘converter’to do the transfers myself but then the technical end wasn’t working out due to the limited storage and capacity of my computer. I don’t have the money to do an upgrade on my computer. ugh I had figured it all out and I had to special order the correct cable / adaptor and then the external hard drive. I waited 3 weeks and then it finally arrived. I had to make an appointment to take it in to get the help to format it properly only to have the techs tell me my computer isn’t up to date enough in capacity/ ability to use an external hard drive. And so after a couple of months of plugging away at trying to get some steps done so I can ‘comfortably’ get rid of my sentimental items and old digital stuff….I am back to square one and I have to start all over and even just try to figure out a work around now. I’ve decluttered my sentimental items 3 times before so I’m just down to the really ‘hard’ stuff. I’m so glad you did this video. It was very affirming. So many decluttering videos are for those just starting when it’s easier to just get rid of the ‘junk’. My books are another area…I’ve decluttered them at least the 3 times as well…now I literally have to read/ reread each book to really decide if it’s worth keeping or not.
That coupled with the fear of having to rebuy. I am not in a financial position to throw things away that I might have to rebuy later. It's more than just wastefulness. I can't afford things.
Even if you don’t think it’s worth donating, place it on the curb (if allowed) or take it to an outdoor drop off or homeless area. Even stuff you think may be no good for donation will be snapped up by someone.
Cleaning out the garage. Decluttering chemicals (paint thinner, insectisides) is a pain: guilt of having bought them in the first place years ago not knowing about natural options and then finding a safe place to dispose of them.
I've cleaned two big areas because of your channel I like that your not someone who has no kids or husband & trying to tell people to keep organized told several friends to check out your channel
I like to cross stitch and bought a stitch people manual that I liked to plan what I wanted to make. But I never actually started the project and found no desire to. I offered to sell it in a FB group and someone else was super happy to buy it for cheaper than new and has already used it to create. That was one aspiration that just wasn’t happening. If I had a change of heart I could always acquire it again.
I’m soooo guilty of keeping gifts that I will never use. I put it in my closet. It sits for years til I think they will forget they gifted me that item. I feel way to rude to toss it 🤦🏻♀️
The not wanting to add to the landfills thing is a real thing for me, but I have recently learned to look at it this way..... I can hold on to this stuff in my home and have it clutter my life, sure.... but eventually, after I am gone, it's going to end up in the landfill anyway. It really takes things down to basic truth. My husband and I have no children of our own, so nobody to really hand things down to. Eventually someone is going to have to deal with all these things and they will end up in the trash, anyway. So donate what is reasonable and if not, move it along now.
What a great way of looking at this! YES! It will eventually end up in some landfill! I don't need to hang on to really anything. It all becomes "stuff" then clutter.
Enjoy your day!!!
Yes! My brother is my next of kin, as I have no children. I just keep thinking that he is the one that has to deal with my stuff. I don't want him to have to do this, but I just can't seem to get motivated. That's why I'm here. Kallie deals with the psychology behind why we struggle. I'll just keep trying 🙂
Your state of mind sounds a lot like Swedish Death Cleaning. I love this thought and I think it really helps people to see the bigger picture.
Deep.
I have that same hang up. Thanks for this perspective!
The real vs aspirational self got me. I just retired a year ago and hung on to all the things I was PLANNING on doing, crafts, projects, books. I’m not doing them OR I found other things that I like doing or having that means more to me now. Thanks Kallie🥰👏👍
I binged some of your videos at the end of last week and decided to start small and began with the hallway and kitchen counters that always attracts mess for some reason 😅. I found homes for the things that usually end up there. And I have been able to keep it tidy all week so far, with very little effort actually! Considering I live with husband and 2 kids (8 & 10 yo). I feel very hopeful! 🤩Thank you so much for being such an inspiration 🥰
My biggest clutter is sentimental items… so very hard to get rid of the items.
Hi there sweetie pie hope you are well great ideas sentimental ideas helps me alot thankyou love from Eugenie your friend xxx 💓🏡
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That segment of aspirational clutter really hit home. Having something there, sitting around, reminds me of the life I want and I cannot have RIGHT NOW. I need to stop mourning that life and embracing the life I have now. Thank you
ME: sees video title, wonders if any of it will apply to me. ALSO ME: I think she made this video while walking around my house...
I had to combine two households after the passing of my dad and then my husband. It is hard to let go of some things so I got my kids and grandkids over to get what they wanted first….then had a yard sale….then donated….then trashed. It’s hard but I will always cherish the memories without all the clutter. Thank you for your tips. It worked for me even before this video.. thanks for sharing.
I’m so sorry 😞! I had my brother, Aunt and mum (Nana) die within an 18 month period! I inherited all 3 households. Overwhelmed is the understatement of the century! Everything had to be gone through quickly as we wanted the houses cleared out asap and sold. As they all live in the states, I had Purple Heart on auto dial! I kept things that were valuable; Waterford, jewellery, fishing/stalking gear, things that I have memories of, gifts I gave them…I started 5 boxes. Two for our daughters and the three remaining for my cousins. Everything is in our basement storage area and labelled. When it gets too hard for me to go threw a box and divide things up, I stop. Put it all back and come back to it in about two days. I had to do this because I recently had 3 heart attacks at 51. My heart was breaking more and more as I tried to push myself to get rid of this stuff. Go slow on things like this. I haven’t gone near any of it since June 2nd. I had surgery and I’m blessed to be ok! My cousin and Aunt are coming in October to help me with everything. I thought I could and had to do it on my own. Nope!! Blessings to you. I sold so much and gave away so much but these last bits are tough. Staying wrapped safely in a sealed, labelled box for a bit longer is OK. I also have a brilliant “GIFTS” box next to my cards and wrapping paper station that is filled with spectacular items I can part with to others. I’m a glass half full kinda lass! 😂💕
@@Sorchia56 You and Sheila have had so much to deal with and you both managed to face up to it with grace. Blessings and good health to both of you.
@@Sorchia56 it is ok to slow down as long as you move forward. sometimes the speed is slower than a snail but it is still movement. it is so hard to process things when you have to process feelings at the same time.
@@marilynndesilva7620 Aw, cheers love! 💕
@@ninirossau2304 Very true, on all points. It’ll get done in due time. I’m no longer pressuring myself over it. I’m a “look at it, throw it in burn pile or rubbish bin” lass. I keep some cards but rarely. Gifts I don’t throw in the bin! 😂
I drive my husband insane. Every season he knows the decluttering time is coming!! I totally agree with you with just donating things. It would be too much of a hassle to try to sell things. Nothing like dropping off that bag of items and knowing it will no longer take up space at home! I have 3 neighbors that actually have me come over when they need help decluttering. Ha!
Every season you declutter and you need three neighbors to help? What in the world are you buying?!
@@luvslyfe1 I think she's helping the neighbors declutter their own homes not that they're helping her
Yes, correct I help my neighbors. It’s mostly clothes that no longer serve us a purpose or toys/books our child has out grown.
My Nonna and Mom used to keep things for "some day" this would include the best outfit, the best fancy paper, the best whatever! When my Nonna died, my Mom was shocked about the stuff my Nonna saved. 😂 I then carried on the shock when my Mom died. I'm not judging, I find myself doing the same thing, so the struggle is real! 😂
You are so right!! I am a 3rd generation "just in caser" as well. It's so hard to get rid of things that I want to get around to, yet never do.
The war created that mentality .
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Not one of us is getting out of this life alive. That's just life. When my beloved aunt died suddenly and unexpectedly in her 50s, me and her sister spent WEEKS clearing out a very cluttered (and very small) apartment she'd lived in for 20+ years. There were so many things that had never been opened or appeared almost never used, and that place could not have been pleasant to live in, because there were items stacked nearly floor to ceiling in the entire apartment.
It was sad and also helped inspire me declutter more ruthlessly. I have only one child and I don't want him to have to deal with too much stuff that just sat there and I barely or never used anyway. We all think we'll live to be 80 or whatever, but that's also just not reality. Sometimes we don't and death is not expected. Again, I don't mean to be a downer but for those left living when I'm gone, I just don't want them to have to deal with all of that.
That’s what my mom is doing now, decluttering her entire house so I won’t have to deal with it when she’s gone. She said ideally the only things that’ll be left are what she used every day and those few things I said I wanted. The rest she’s attempting to sell and if not, donate.
I’ve seen a lot of people talk about Swedish death cleaning on TH-cam and it really is that sentiment you’re talking about. It’s a labor of love to not want to put such a burden on your family after you pass away. Thanks for sharing.
My friend wore a white sweater a lot because when she was a child, her mother wouldn't let her wear a white sweater she got as a gift because it might get dirty. She outgrew it and never wore it. I have anti-procrastination days sometimes and do what I have been avoiding. Truly, it takes way less time to do than I imagined.
Yes to Mama’s rock collection!! I finally had too many, so I made a little “rock” garden outside for my son to put them in every time he found a “great” one. We got to see them every time we played outside. He is 13. It is still there. 😉
Perfect! These rocks (or whatever) is important to him, much thought picking out that item & the fact that he thinks of his mom, is priceless!
Love this!
I'm decluttering my apartment and have been watching her very helpful videos! Today I looked in the cabinet above my refrigerator expecting cookbooks and found two very large rocks that I had stashed there away from my little grandson years ago! They were from a vacation with my dear sister and sentimental to me because she is passed. They are re-homed outside with the plants! LoL just made me happy that I'm not such a nutcase to be sentimental about rocks and collecting them!
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Timestamps:
0:41 'I Don't Wanna Waste It' Clutter
2:25 Aspirational Clutter
3:55 Incompleted Clutter
5:45 'I Just Might Need It' Clutter
6:46 Sentimental Clutter
7:59 Gifted or Inherited Cutter
Sentimental clutter is my kryptonite! I can’t seem to sift thru and pare down. I definitely need to do better in this department. Thanks for the gentle reminders that all this stuff just weighs us down!
I started my decluttering journey last year… it’s been slow but steady. I struggle with a lot of guilt getting rid of things, so after the first declutter of obvious things, I have been doing this “purpose declutter”:
For example, there was a fire that consumed 3 houses in my neighborhood, so I went into my kitchen and bathroom and selected things for the familys that were affected. Then, the kids shelter asked for crafts donation, so i took that opportunity to get rid of extra crafting material.
Having a specific purpose (helping others in need) take the guilt away… and it generally motivates me to select more things than originally intended
When a little boy gives you rocks, that’s a big deal. I love that you keep them on your window sill. You are an awesome person! Have a great day and thank you for such awesome, helpful content!💖🙂💖
oh the stones....brought back many memories....what i did was find an awesome flower pot and fill it with the stones. They sit on my front porch highlighted by the red pot. And when the grand kids come....voila they are reminded that their thoughtfulness mattered because it did and still does
Great points! I've reached a point where I really enjoy donating things and/or gifting items to others when they admire them. Don't discount momentum. When you're "in the groove" and able to sort through many items (and remove them from your home), just do it. Stick with it as long as the groove lasts.
Mine sit in my trunk for weeks...or longer. I need to actually drive to the thrift store and donate them! I will do so this week!
Thanks. Your comment helped me.
Whenever you remind me that I'm not failing by not being my aspirational self, I'm simply prioritizing a realistic life, I take a deep breath
I had to chuckle on the 'Shoes". Just a thought if they are hard to get on this child; why would they not be just as hard to get onto the next child? Your priority is spot on: enjoy your children every second of every minute... They grow up so fast!!
I had the same thought. The reason they should be donated is because they're just too dang hard to put on the kid.
Immediately after retiring I had a massive clothes purge, some shoes & still to finish the shoes.
We have an Org, Peace Place that aids abused women & their children in many ways, place to stay, courthouse legal fees, They’ll even find a place for your horse/pets.
So, I do not sell. I take everything there, good usable, new, & nearly new.
Now I wear my “uniform”.
And with age, “things” that were important, aren’t any more, it’s now in the way stuff.
I keep a box that I gradually fill to donate.
Great ideas!! The sentimental keepsakes is the toughest one for me. My daughter came up with a nice idea to photograph several homemade quilts from my grandparents that take up a lot of space & unrealistic to keep forever. We made a collage of the photos & put them in a pretty glass frame. Also it was a nice mom & daughter art project. We donated the quilts. Thank you again for your helpful videos. 😊🦋
Great idea! I have several heirloom quilts and only one full bed! At least I’ve got the in vacuum sealed bags so they take up less space, but....
We are in the process of packing our home for a move after 8 years of living here and there’s no better time to re evaluate clutter than this. We’ve donated and thrown away hundreds of items. We’re moving from a 2300 sq ft home into a 3500 sq ft home and I keep making mental notes of all the things we’re getting rid of and saying how we can’t let ourselves do this again in an even bigger space… it shocks me the amount of clutter and things we buy on the regular for no good reason. I know we had every intention of it being a useful item!
Trust me, if you have space, it’ll get filled up. I moved from a 4,100 sq ft home and downsized to a home less than half that size, and the number of things I got rid of after living there for 25 years was insane. I absolutely love,love, love being in a smaller home at this period of my life. Too much space after the kids are gone in a big house, which in retrospect, I really never needed, not to mention the maintenance of the acreage. For me, thats where Kallie’s “season of my life” comments kicked in for me. With your mindset, I am positive you’ll manage it better than I did!
I let paint supplies in my kitchen for weeks because "we need to paint the kitchen". Finally I accepted that it wasn't going to happen soon, and I put it all in storage until we actually plan to use it. It has majorly helped my mental health to not have it there!
I had to make a rule for myself- if there are ANY steps between "right now" and "doing the thing," I don't need to buy supplies, or accept items from friends/neighbors. Aspirational me is always coming up with ideas :D
As a NEWLY organized person [still a work in progress] I have found the same.. I am super mindful of what I buy now because I DID get rid of SO MUCH STUFF! I have found it super helpful.. and I'm sure my husband will agree.. so much cheaper!
We have to remember that our parents or grandparents live depression and war And they saved everything reuse reduce recycle
Yup! Got the 'save everything' from my mom. Now, I try to donate what I don't need, and not buy anything I can do without. Yes, I rinse and reuse plastic bags...never buy any.
Slowly training myself to let go of things because I'm sentimental
Great points! I’m pretty good about most clutter, I also live in a smaller home (1020 sf).
My struggle, “IT’S A REALLY GOOD BOX” My husband has the same box problem. I need to find help 😆
I developed this problem when I spent months collecting boxes prior to moving. It is real. But cardboard is flammable and can harbor bugs and I don't feel good about my good box collection.
Your diagnosis is in, and I regret to inform you that you are a cat. 😹😹😹
@@persiswynter6357 If I fits, I sits!
Me and my hubby are also cats.
I collect all my important/special shirts. Concerts, school, traveling, etc. I cut out the parts with the pictures and words and stitched them all together and made a sleeping bag! I love repurposing important items in my life in a fun yet functional way.
Years ago I had plans to make a t-shirt quilt but it never happened. I have repurposed a few graphics on shirts into mini pillows or blankets for my dolls though.
This was good. Dealing with so many great things, many of them inherited but I am working on letting them go. I am 70 and I do not want the burden to be left to my son. Thank you.
I think a lot of time we think we don't have time to do something. But actually, at the time we think about doing that, we decide right then we don't WANT to do that right then. Once I realized that I was not doing things because I didn't want to right then and it wasn't a lack of time problem, I was a lot more productive and happy because I didn't have that task hanging over my head.
I have a family member who will "give" others things but then there are so many strings attached. They want to see what they "gave" you when they come over. So.. I don't accept anything from them anymore. And the stuff they have given and I've donated or whatever I've learned to tell them the "gift" outlived it's usefulness. And I've given myself permission to do this even if that person won't. That's on them. Also I REALLY needed to hear that I can give myself permission to throw things away. I've held on to so much stuff because of the guilt of wastefulness. I've already learned to be more mindful when I purchase things but now I will try to give myself permission to throw away that stuff I've held onto for literally years because of guilt. You give awesome, real and practical advice. 💖💖💖
If someone can use it, please consider giving it away, if you don't want to sell. If you don't want to post on a platform to give away, consider neatly setting usable items (maybe a few at a time, so people don't rummage through and make a mess) on your curb 3 or 4 days before trash pick up. You'll may be surprised at how quickly items will find new homes.
You are so right about the items that were gifted that don't have a purpose in my world. Thank you! I appreciate you outlooks!
My Husband wants to throw everything away he doesn't want to take the time to sell or give away, so I have been taking items to the thrift store. getting started is so overwhelming to me!!!
If it's usable, to someone, it's worth donating,selling, or giving away. Even setting at the curb, but not on trash pick days.
Take small steps - choose a room you want declutteted. Then divide into small areas or one drawer. Kitchens work well to make small goals. Cleaning one drawer will motivate to do the next!
This video has changed my life. I also have had the bad habit of getting “piles.” I have aspirational clutter. These videos have helped me soo much especially over the guilt of letting go. I did Marie Kondo method about seven years ago and I still feel a little traumatized (stuff everywhere for weeks on end, a never ending mountain, I lost my high school diploma despite keeping it for twelve years prior, tossing things like silverware without thinking then having surprise guests and just one spoon lol) Since then I’ve basically become a mini hoarder when I was fine before.
But finally the “just in case” with have I used it in six months? This is more practical for me rather than “joy.” The two hour reset, focusing on surface clutter, etc. especially visual clutter. I have done the two hour trick three times and figured out pain points in my kitchen that were preventing me from clearing surface clutter. Today I FINALLY figured out how to address this and I no longer have pots on my stove, I am SO HAPPY! I wanted to cry from just being so happy and feeling so good. Like I can DO THIS. My house is feeling and looking better and better every day. Thank you so much, truly you have my gratitude for life. ❤
Thank you for your videos. I am finally letting go of the "just in case" items. I have started the 30 days declutter challenge! I am loving this already. So easy to follow and makes the task seem less daunting. Oh your clean sink rule, OH my goodness! That has been a life changer for me. I didn't know I could become organized and tidy!
I have this "6" list in hand.... Here I go. Last year's declutter, my first, is exactly as you described, the no brainer stuff, so this time around I am prepared to address the difficult items. Thank you so much!
I've been decluttering for about 10 months. Everything is tidy. I'm now at the re-decluttering stage where I open a few cupboards at random and try to fill a bag or two every couple of days to donate or trash. The feeling of freedom is addictive!
I've found using Olio is really helping with this. There are certain things that I tend to buy then decide they're no good but for some reason keep them anyway. I'm worst with hair products (I have curly hair and am always looking for the perfect products) and cleaning products. If I use a cleaning product and it sets my asthma off I won't use it again until I forget it set my asthma off and I use it again and set it off again 😕 On olio you can list things like that and someone else might find it useful and it saves them some money. That way I'm not throwing good stuff away but I'm also not keeping stuff I won't use. This reminds me that I desperately need to sort out my cleaning and hair stuff again lol
Recently my husband I moved to a small two bedroom apartment from a 2 story, 3 bedroom house so there was a lot of decluttering going on. I had a large pile of rocks that my son had gathered and given to me before he passed away at the age of 6. It was tearing my heart out to imagine parting with any of them. I kept 3 of them, the rest I took and placed in the garden at our church. I can see them but not have to store them. The others sit in my window. I had/have large stacks of all his art, schoolwork and so on that I have been keeping a few pieces then scanning and digitally storing the rest. One where he wrote his name I scanned, enlarged a bit then printed, traced onto a cutting board that was too small to use (came with a Christmas cheese set) then wood burned his signature into it. Now it makes a nice piece of art in my kitchen and took care of two pieces of clutter at once. I'm still scanning items to save but there are so many that is going to take awhile to get done. I reminded myself that this way I would always have a copy and they were safe, on my computer and the cloud, from fire, leaks and tornadoes. I've also been scanning all of our photos for the same reason and found some hidden gems I didn't know I had. Like my parent-in-laws wedding photo and MIL's HS graduation picture.
Thank you for the sections about gifts received and thing inherited. Very well said and helpful!
I'm struggling Kallie, but I see your light at the end of the tunnel.... thank you! 😊
Love your videos, you are an inspiration. When are you going to write a book about cleaning, origination, motivation? It would be a best seller!!
Decluttering my small apartment this week. My sister was the keeper of the family heirlooms and I only have a few things from my parents and grandparents so I think I will hang on to them. I had moved across the country 12 years ago and left nearly everything. Unfortunately my sister and brother in law had a house fire and they died. It is a nightmare. Everything is gone. She had really been stressed about having so much clutter. She had recently retired and was in the process of decluttering. No amount of any stuff I have can ever again make my life whole again.
I love your quote "Your stuff talks to you." Excellent points about the types of clutter and the different mindsets we need to address them. I've been on a long journey to become a tidy person and have discovered similar truths along the way. I love watching your videos as kind motivation for maintaining habits. Thank you so much!
Great advice.
I really struggle with aspirational clutter, so I'll try to use this as a guideline. Thanks 💜
Great descriptions and very helpful video!👍😺
I can relate to all of these 🤨. Basically, too much stuff in a small place! I have my grandma’s trifle bowls even though I don’t make trifles. My grandma died in 1986 so it seemed hurtful to see my mum throw them out a couple of years ago. However, sensibly, I can remember my grandma without filling my cupboards with unnecessary trifle bowls. I need a stern word with myself. Thank you for the tips 😊
Thank you Kallie 🙂 you've inspired me to declutter and organise my life. I'm taking baby steps. I'm getting there
Great video!! I will be sharing it with a couple of my friends!
YES. This is the one I needed. You Rock! Thanks so much Kallie
Love this!! After every birthday or Christmas I got through what was given and decide what I actually want to bring in to my home.... hubby thinks it brutal, I think it’s smart :)
I think for me that throwing things and realizing I didn't need to buy them makes me think twice before making purchases. I now tend to sit on something I want and see if I really still want it or need it after a few weeks.
Yeah, once I did a few declutters and got some cabinets and closets in better order, I stopped buying things! Had no idea how many T-shirts, jackets, towels and bedding items I already owned. Same for cleaning products, lotions n potions, kitchen items.
You were with Rachael ray?! Post the clip for us!
Thank you so very much. I'm about to declutter since some days, sometimes it's very hard to make a decision. Youre video is so helpful. Now I can deal with my clutter and it's so easy to let go 🤩😎. Have a great day. Kindly regards from germany, Mandy 🌿🌸🐘
a lot of my clutter is mail. Mail from banks offering me credit cards, coupons that stores send me, and some bills. I have a fear that someone will get a credit card on my name (I don't know if that's just being paranoid lol), so I just keep this mail until I have time to go shred it somewhere. I finally made the decision to buy a small hand cranked shredder to shred mail the day I get it. It's small enough that it won't clutter up my space more.
This video just inspired me to donate partly used bottles of shampoo, detergent and cleaning supplies to the laundry room in my apartment building! I didn't need 2 extra bottles of Windex with just an inch or 2 of cleaner left in them!
Those bottles are refillable from a bulk (reduced cost) original.
The aspirational vs reality self was a big one for me! I recently got rid of a lot of crafts for “when I have time.” I love what you said about what serves me during this season of life. Very eye opening, Thank you!
I feel the aspirational one hard. Thank you, I needed to hear that. I'm saving this video to revisit it this weekend when I declutter my closet.
Love these ideas! You are sooo right about sentimental clutter. It’s actually painful when you feel you have to keep things you don’t want! 😆 Thanks for sharing! 💜
You are so real, love all your videos ❤️
Another AWESOMELY HELPFUL video!! I'm 80% through my clutter. I can see the finish line!!!
Whatever you did different with your hair it looks absolutely GORGEOUS😍
Another kind of clutter that slows me down is paperwork. Accumulated papers from invoices/receipts from doctors, veterinarians, donation/charity/auction receipts, work papers, projects I chaired years ago..... Every paper needs to be looked at and either saved (either in its original form or scanned), recycled, or shredded.
Hey I just wanted to say that your videos have been extremely encouraging to me. I only found your channel a month or two ago but you’ve truly helped me get past a lot of my mental roadblocks to decluttering and organizing my home.
I still have a long way to go but I’m decluttering my home at a manageable pace and it feels really good. I’m gradually developing the habits I need to actually keep my home organized.
Thank you, truly.
Argh! That big box of china in the attic that nobody wants, nobody uses but you can't get rid of it because you will hear "It was your grandma's china!'
So we just keep storing it.... (I wish I liked the pattern, but I don't)
Thank you so, so much for these tips!!! They are extremely helpful!!!!!
Thanks for this video! It is extremely helpful as a lot of these are my roadblocks and a lot of other videos don't deal with them.
I just clicked on this to watch again and saw somehow I’d clicked the dislike not the like button 😱 So just know that seemingly some of us just smoosh buttons 🤦🏼♀️ Really enjoyed this, so much of my clutter is things I don’t want but feel so much guilt about wasting resources and adding to landfill. Thanks for the videos!
If those clothes represent a good time in your life; then keep them and do what it takes to slim down. If the clothes trigger negative emotions, then go and burn them. I am slimming down and the feeling of wearing clothes that were of good times , can't be put into words accurately.
My weight fluctuates because of health issues but I only keep clothes I would be thrilled to fit into again. If it doesn't fit me right now & I don't love it, I don't keep it.
Love your advice!
Yay top 538 and top 19 likes and comments. Love this content. Best to you and your family. Happy Sunday.
There is value to your rocks! If not for the rocks, the plants couldn't have crawled out of the water. On that note, there are a lot of plants that live and thrive in rocks. Might be something to consider when your ledge gets too cluttered.
We bought a one bedroom house I didn't think I would ever get pregnant so that's why my husband and I decided to buy a one bedroom house. It's been hassle to find ways to store our baby girl things but your channel has help us declutter and find ways to store things.
Thank you for all your videos. I’ve been drowning in my home clutter lately. I’m starting to slowly get small areas cleared.
this type of specificity is EXTREMELY helpful!
I’ve no problem getting rid of things like spare socks. I’ve got 16 pairs to take to the Thrift shop tomorrow and I feel great because my sock drawer now closes and it’s tidy! BUT… what do I do with all my old diaries? I’m in my 80s so my time may be short. I have three kids, several grandchildren, all over 20. I don’t know if I want the family to read the diaries. Do I read and then burn or simply burn them? Confused! I’d welcome your advice! Love your videos and working through them. I’m in bed and the kitchen is clean and tidy!
I'm working my way through my house. Any tips at organizing a computer desktop? My desktop is full of 100s of icons, because if I put them in a folder I don't know where to find anything. Thoughts?
Very helpful! Thank you so much for sharing!!☺️💜
Oh my gosh!
I have rocks my son gave me when he was younger. He is 26 now.
I will NOT part from them anytime soon. 🤷🏻♀️
After buying paints just before my first child was born, I'm just now pulling them out 23 years later! Of course most of them are pretty well dried up! Plus, I realize now that they weren't even great quality ones. I wish I'd given them away back then when they could have been useful to someone else.
Most problems are with my arts and craft items. I am suffering from ADHD and I know that I will always come to a different project in a few months when my hyper fixation on that hobby (knitting, drawing, journaling, woodwork, jewellery making) comes back. The material is too expensive to throw away and I can not store it somewhere I don't see it because I lack object memory. When I don't see it, I don't use it. And when I want to work with it chances are good that I forgot that I have it. It is very frustrating when I end up with several sets of something because I bought it new because I forgot that I already owned it. Struggling with impulse control when I want to do something and it isn't there so I buy it isn't very helpful either. Not logical, I know, but that's what my brain does.
Good that every now and then I hyper fixate on cleaning my house to the tiniest corner. XD XD XD Mostly when I have other urgent projects that should be done but don't get me the dopamine my brain needs.
Again I craft,sew, knit,& scrape book ect I am moving to a 3 bedroom duplex from a home we have been in 42 years I am using 1 bedroom for a craft office room I need help using space in the best way possible I love your stuff & Fetch
Your videos ALWAYS inspire me! I have aspirations to do lots of crafts because I enjoy them. I have tons of craft supplies filling up three entire cupboards (yes, I have a problem, lol). I have come yo the realization that I will more than likely never get to them since I am ill and only getting worse. I have made the decision to collect all of the craft supplies and try selling them as lots first, with the exception of a few larger items. I have started gathering them into a box. Your videos have helped me realize this and gotten me started on the process. Now to keep the momentum going. Thank you so much and have a Blessed day ❤️
EXCELLENT advice! Thank you! 🙋♀️👍👏👏👏🥰‼️
Anchor the furniture for your kids ASAP!!!! 🤦🏻♀️
Thanq for the video
I don't know about the US, but most people in the UK want things giving & they then ask if u can deliver in with price.
I think there is room for aspirations and the stuff you accumulate for your ideas and dreams. If there is not, what a bleak life. BUT....you have to work on it and not just stash the junk away for "someday"!!
My mom LOVES shopping & gift giving. She has very different style from my sister & I, but that doesn’t stop her from insisting on giving us big things that that define our style, like what we wear & how we decorate our homes - so she’ll look for it in the future & ask us where it is 🙄 It’s a problem. I’m about to threaten to burn whatever she gives me in front of her in the driveway.
Great timing …I am so frustrated with my attempts at getting rid of both ‘sentimental’ items and old ‘cassettes’, cds and dvds . With sentimental items I want to back up the photos I take before I get rid of the items and I’ve had digital storage issues and then with the cassettes etc, I have to go through them all…find the songs I really want to keep and see if they are on iTunes and then buy them. But for the ones that aren’t but I still want to keep, I need to collect them and get them transferred to a new digital format and I can’t do that until I get the digital storage issues worked out..and then it is quite expensive to get them transferred. I was going to try to buy a ‘converter’to do the transfers myself but then the technical end wasn’t working out due to the limited storage and capacity of my computer. I don’t have the money to do an upgrade on my computer. ugh I had figured it all out and I had to special order the correct cable / adaptor and then the external hard drive. I waited 3 weeks and then it finally arrived. I had to make an appointment to take it in to get the help to format it properly only to have the techs tell me my computer isn’t up to date enough in capacity/ ability to use an external hard drive. And so after a couple of months of plugging away at trying to get some steps done so I can ‘comfortably’ get rid of my sentimental items and old digital stuff….I am back to square one and I have to start all over and even just try to figure out a work around now. I’ve decluttered my sentimental items 3 times before so I’m just down to the really ‘hard’ stuff. I’m so glad you did this video. It was very affirming. So many decluttering videos are for those just starting when it’s easier to just get rid of the ‘junk’. My books are another area…I’ve decluttered them at least the 3 times as well…now I literally have to read/ reread each book to really decide if it’s worth keeping or not.
That coupled with the fear of having to rebuy. I am not in a financial position to throw things away that I might have to rebuy later. It's more than just wastefulness. I can't afford things.
Thanq for the video
Personally I donate to Air Ambulance.
Even if you don’t think it’s worth donating, place it on the curb (if allowed) or take it to an outdoor drop off or homeless area. Even stuff you think may be no good for donation will be snapped up by someone.
Cleaning out the garage. Decluttering chemicals (paint thinner, insectisides) is a pain: guilt of having bought them in the first place years ago not knowing about natural options and then finding a safe place to dispose of them.
I've cleaned two big areas because of your channel I like that your not someone who has no kids or husband & trying to tell people to keep organized told several friends to check out your channel
I like to cross stitch and bought a stitch people manual that I liked to plan what I wanted to make. But I never actually started the project and found no desire to. I offered to sell it in a FB group and someone else was super happy to buy it for cheaper than new and has already used it to create. That was one aspiration that just wasn’t happening. If I had a change of heart I could always acquire it again.
I am a senior citizen in a very small apartment. My stuff would not seem so much if I had more space. LOL
I’m soooo guilty of keeping gifts that I will never use. I put it in my closet. It sits for years til I think they will forget they gifted me that item. I feel way to rude to toss it 🤦🏻♀️