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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 ส.ค. 2024
- An update on my infertility/trying to conceive journey. I share how I found out I was pregnant and what happened following the best news ever.
This video mentions pregnancy loss/miscarriage, so please watch at your own discretion.
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The one thing that helped me was I stopped testing, I just started waiting for my period. I didn’t test until I was late- and most times that didn’t happen so for me; getting my period was less painful than seeing another negative test.
For sure! Testing can get overwhelming.
Thank you for sharing! I recently miscarried at 6 weeks and had a chemical pregnancy immediately after. My dr did say that “it’s still a good sign that you were able to get pregnant, so we should be happy about that”. It’s hard to be happy when this happens but it was a teeny tiny glimmer of hope. One day it’s all going to work out for you 💓
I totally agree! It’s hard to feel good emotions when this happens, and I’m not sure how I would react if someone else told me to be happy about it, lol.. but for me, it was 22 cycles of negatives. And looking for the positive was needed to be able to go through it. I’m so sorry for your losses 🤍 and sending you love and strength for you and your rainbow baby 🙏🏼
I've watched hundreds of videos on ttc while my husband and I have been trying to start our family. I appreciate your videos so much because they have been the most relatable for us! I find our stories quite similar. Thank you for sharing because it makes me feel less alone!
I’m so glad you can relate 🙏🏼 this journey can definitely feel lonely. Sending you love and praying for your family to expand 🤍
I’m sorry for your loss 😔 Thank you for sharing your infertility journey with us. Stay strong! 🌈
Thank you so much 🤍
Had a miscarry back in 2021, and im just now ready to try again! praying for our miracle baby's!
I’m so sorry for your loss 🤍 glad to hear you’re ready again! Sending you all the prayers 🙏🏼
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Im at the fertility clinic for over two years now and this June I held a positive pregnancy test in my hands. It was so surreal tbh. I couldnt believe it. It still feels like a dream. I got to see the heartbeat once which was one of the best days of my life. I lost my baby at 10 weeks. Im so sorry for your loss. Its just truly heartbreaking. It changes you. Also thank you for talking about the actual misscariage part because there should be more information about what to expect. I had full in contractions which kind of shocked me. I keep my fingers crossed for your rainbow baby.
It’s definitely is surreal. Almost to the point that it’s hard to believe what’s right in front your eyes. I’m sorry for your loss 🤍 sending you love
Im so sorry love. I been trying to conceive for 6 years now an still not giving up hope. I pray you get your miracle soon. ❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
Praying for you too 🤍 sending you love and strength!
I am so sorry for your loss. I have also been going through fertility issues. Almost 2 years of trying.. i hope it works out for us soon! Thank you for the video.
Wishing you strength in this journey and to get your healthy baby soon 🤍
You are not alone and we are not alone. TTC for 1 year with an MC at 9 wks in the middle. Thank you for sharing this and sending all the positivity and baby dust your way. ❤❤
Sending you love too 🤍
Blessings to you. Had infertility for 2 years when trying to start our family, I thought it would never happen of course. After many test ( and taking a break, then trying another doc.) and one round of clomid, I was pregnant, 5 months after our daughters birth I was pregnant again, less than 2 years later while taking birth control measures... I was pregnant again. How things can change :) So sorry for your loss. We never give up.🌺
It’s an interesting journey for sure! Happy you have a beautiful family now 🥰
I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you feel hope for the future!
Thank you so much 🤍
Oh I so so relate to this - exactly same experience and feelings about it.
I was pregnant a few months after that - like the body ‘twigged’ to what it was trying to do. So there is that silver lining ❤
Glad to hear there’s a silver lining 🙏🏼 congratulations on your miracle babe 🤍
I am very sorry for your loss.
All I can do is share a little bit of my expererience about pregnancy loss, of which I have more than I ever wanted, and hope some of it might help you a tiny bit.
My first pregnancy was pretty much the same than yours. I had a relativly dark positiv test on the day of my missed period, one week of cramping on and off, and than came the really hard cramps, the bleeding an all. And I can only second your experience that hurts a lot, it is like a little birth, and without previous birthing experience that is not easy do deal with. And not only due to the cramping, it is also the denial, you don't want this to happen.
And just like you, I haden't told a lot of people of my pregnancy, because I had planned to surprise everyone with my first ultrasound picture. Only my fiance, my parents and my sister knew. And afterwards it was hard to tell anyone, so I only told my best friend about it. That was not good, I put a lot of pressure to act like nothing had happend on myself.
I know you said you don't want to put it on others, but why not? I know it is a social taboo to talk about pregnancy loss, but why should I not talk about my lost child? It doesn't matter how far along you were, you lost your child and you should be allowed to talk about it. Otherwise the people around you might not even understand why you act the way you do.
One other thing that did help me a lot, even so I was really hesistant to do it at first, was naming my lost child. I thougt, 'what for?' but it gives the child an identity that it mises a bit without a name. I chose a gender neutral name, and I chose it for its meaning and not the sound of it.
One thing you have to prepare for is that when you are pregnant again, this blissful naivety of the first pregnancy is gone. Pregnancy after loss is different.
And I made the big big mistake to try and protect myself from more pain by 'keeping my distance' to the baby, not conecting to it like I should have. I do so regret this now. If I had lost that baby, it would have never been loved, and so my poor son has not had the conection with me he should have had during the pregnancy. Luckliy we conected well after birth.
After I had my son, I was finally able to tell other people about my first loss, and that was really good. I was surprised how many women I knew came forward and told me about loses they had and never talked about. It made me feel less alone.
As we wanted a second child, we tried again. I got pregnant, but had only a faint line on the day of my missed period, two days later this pregnancy endet. It was strange, but that loss was easier to accept. Two month later I got pregnant again. At the week six ultrasound everything looked perfect, four weeks later not. I had had a missed abortion. It took another thirteen days until my body passed the baby naturally. This time, I got along much better with the contractions, and I had already accepted the loss of my baby, that made the process much easier.
But afterwards I was a mental wreck. My fiancee wanted to try again, but I needed a break. And I finally started to do counseling, that had been overdue. My counselor advised me to get something that I could look at to remember my lost children, a candle or something, and I did. It helps me to remember, even though I never got the chance to meet my children, they existed.
We took a break for six month. Take that break as long as you need it, not for a preset amount of time, that will only put you under pressure.
Last month I got pregnant right away at the first ttc cicle after our break. Sadly my third pregnancy repeated itself. It lasted only two days after my missed period.
This time I don't need a break, I will keep going. Now I am 2 dpo and keep hoping.
My heart really goes out to you, I hope you will feel a bit better soon and will not only hold another positiv pregnancy test in your hands, but a baby nine month later
Thank you so much for sharing your story!
I too acted as if I was ok at first, I guess I thought I was. But I still even now get waves of grief, hitting me out of nowhere.
I think the naming of the child is such a sweet idea! Or getting a keepsake of some sort. I think that’s a beautiful suggestion.
Thank you for your advice about pregnancy after loss. To be honest, I’m quite terrified of it and that’s why we’re taking a break for now. We did have a preset time but may extend it. I’m so glad you were able to connect with your son when he was born!
Wishing you another beautiful pregnancy and healthy baby! I really appreciate you taking the time to comment 🤍
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I'm glad that I could help you a bit. To be honest, it wasn't easy to share my story. (especially in english which isn't my first language). But what you described was just so close to my own experience that it really got to me.
Yeah, I can relate why the thought alone of a new pregnancy is terrifying for you.
I try to keep the advice in mind that I heard in video of a very lovely (and in my opinion also quite wise) lady.
She talked about her pregnancy after to misscarriages. How scared she and anxious she was, until she came to the conclusion that she was wasting precious time. A pregnancy should be a time full of happynes and hope. And being scared would actually not change the outcome of the pregnancy at all.
And so she decided to allow herself to be happy about the pregnancy, no matter how long it might last.
Especially if it would only last for a short time, she'd rather spend that time giving her baby all the love she could give, than waste it with being afraid.
I wish I had heard this advice earlier. I could only use it during my last, very short, pregnancy. But she was right. Looking back I'm glad I did it that way.
Absolutely! I totally agree. Need to surrender and enjoy every moment. Thank you!
New here taking a break is really good mentally ❤ I had 7 miscarriages of 8 babies in 2 and a half years and did have a total mental breakdown whe I missed the twins. We took some time for ourselves and for healing and I found coenzyme q10 (helps with embryos dna development) in the space of 24 months will have two babies which is a crazy gear change
Omg 🥺 I’m so sorry you went through that! Congratulations on your miracle babies 🤍
My daughter has some kind of luteal phase problem. I think that phase of her cycle is too short or something like that. She was having chemical pregnancies. Her doctor tested her progesterone and it was on the very low end of normal so she prescribed her progesterone suppositories to take starting a few days after she ovulated and she was able to carry the baby. She is on her 3rd baby now and is due in a couple of weeks. I hope you get your sweet baby soon. 💕💕💕
Thank you for sharing! So glad your daughter was able to get her miracle babies 💗🙏🏼
Thank you so much for sharing! I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Sending positive prayers & thoughts your way 🫶
Thank you so much 🤍
I lost my pregnancy 21 weeks on the 5th of September a few weeks ago and I know how u feel just praying to get my rainbow baby soon
I’m so sorry for your loss 🤍 sending you love and strength
I am 14 weeks pregnant now after a 10 week miscarriage 2 years ago. Just hoping for a smooth pregnancy this time.
I’m so sorry for your loss 🤍 wishing you a smooth pregnancy and healthy baby!
Hugging you and always here for you. Brave and courageous woman♥️
Love you 🤍
My heart is with you. It happened to me last month. I pray for all of us. I hope we have a baby one day.
So sorry to hear that 🤍 sending you love
Prayers for you 🙏
Thank you 🙏🏼
@@simply.eleonora always!
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have been doing ivf using donor eggs and I just had my 6th transfer in august and it finally worked I got pregnant. But unfortunately it ended up in a early miscarriage. And my body didn’t recognize that the pregnancy wasn’t viable so I had to have a D&C last week. So now I’m waiting for my levels to get to 0. Then I have to wait for my period to come and once it does I can go into my next embryo transfer and hope it sticks this time. Good luck
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so sorry you’re going through that 🤍 sending you so much love and strength and praying you get a sticky baby 🙏🏼
A month before I got pregnant with my daughter, I had a chemical, very similar to yours. It was very painful, very heavy bleeding and yes lots of tears. But I got pregnant again the following month and that daughter is now 5. So hang in there, you have hope it worked, and can also be more fertile after a loss. ❤
Fingers crossed 🤞🏼🥹 it’s crazy how common this can be!
😢sorry for your loss... i hope you get your tainbow babies soon.
Thank you so much 🤍
Thank you for sharing.. my fiancé and I have been trying for over a year and I am starting to lose hope.
I’m so sorry you’re struggling! Don’t lose hope, it’s all we have to be able to get through 🙏🏼
Same thing happened to me. After being on fertility treatments for 2 years, I got pregnant naturally after we moved to a different state. Then miscarried at 5 weeks. It was like a horrible prank. I was so devastated cause my husband was getting excited to be a dad. This happened in 2020. Uugh
Yes! I think we don’t always realize the impact a loss can have on our husbands. He was SO excited and it just felt like the universe was tugging at our heart strings. Sending you love 🤍
Taking a break - it’s something i wish I did. I totally understand wanting to keep pushing forward (lord knows, I did!) but I ended up having 3 chemical pregnancies back to back to back and not only was that exhausting, but my hormones ended up all over the place. I got pregnant again in the next cycle following my third chemical and I’m having such a rough first trimester. My mental health is in the absolute dumps, and I have no doubt it’s the hormones. Hormones are such a delicate thing, and giving them a chance to balance out is so important. I wish I had. Even if it meant a whole other month of not being pregnant. Because this prenatal anxiety and depression is for the dogs, let me tell you 😫
Thank you for sharing your story 🤍 I’m so sorry you went through that. Wishing you strength to overcome your struggle and enjoy your beautiful pregnancy 🙏🏼 my heart is with you!
God Bless Y’all
Thank you 🤍
Hello love, have they checked your thyroid levels? I am a dietitian and I feel like your neck is a little swollen. Might be just because of lightning but I still wanted to bring up the thyroid ❤
Thank you for the observation 🙏🏼 I get that quite often 😅 it’s just the shape of my neck but I do get it checked time to time just in case!
Very sorry. Are you sure that you do not have Thyroid disease? To me (RN) your thyroid looks enlarged. Just wondering...👐
Lol I appreciate the observation. I get that all the time. But that’s just the shape of my neck 🫠 I do keep an extra eye out on my thyroid though because of family history. Thanks!