I got divorced in 2016, I lost my job, lost all of my properties and material things , including most of my clothes. My mother was murdered in 2017. I was involved in a car accident in 28th Dec 2018. Lost my job again 2019. I got Covid 19 and was hospitalized was in ICU in 2021 for 10 days. But I bounced back because of resilience and mind power. Now I'm running marathons and competed a few and got medaka🥉 and I will running my 1st Ultra Marathon 87km on the 9th of June 2024. Whatever you are going through stay resilient and grow through it.. If I can do it so can you.
It takes two to divorce. That's life. People lose their jobs all the time. People get in car accidents all the time. You run to cope, and deal with the stress/trauma. Good on ya. And condolences to your family regarding your mother.
I lost my father in a road accident back in 2022, and instead of supporting me, my wife of just six months chose to fight with me during that difficult time. My brother was soon diagnosed with a mental disorder, adding to the burden. With no support from my partner, I faced threats from both her and her mother, who even vowed to destroy my already struggling family. Their narcissistic behavior only worsened the situation, and I found no comfort from relatives. Yet, here I stand at 32, having weathered these challenges and standing strong. Resilience has been my path, a quality I inherited from my father, who himself faced many setbacks in life.
I’d like to add to shelleyc’s list: No more discussions about race, politics or religion greatly help my mental state. Also, going to Church/prayer, watching comedic shows/movies, and I stopped watching the news all day/everyday. Now, I only watch the news 1 day/week or not at all. 😉
Thank you all for your recommendations. Sometimes these things seems so obvious but life gets in the way and we end up forgetting/ignoring them all. Frequent reminders to take care of self is needed
I'm at very very low point of my life. Feeling stressed or depressed would be a less describing term for me. I couldn't hold my tears while watching this wonderful documentary. My prayers for all the souls that are suffering in silence. May they find the best way to conquer their fear.
I am so sorry that you are suffering and in pain. I know words often sound hollow, but I sincerely hope that there will be better days ahead for you. I hope the universe will offer you a break. This Internet stranger supports you and sends you love and good wishes during a difficult time ❤
Just know that life is a curve...it doesn't stay low..it goes back up. It's just a matter of time. Sometimes it takes just a day, sometimes days, sometimes weeks or months. The most important thing is not giving up on life. This world is a school for every human being until the day we die. We learn and keep going looking at the bright light at the end of the tunnel. I pray for you 🙏 ❤️
We are all changing every second, be strong,even feel no one support, at least don’t give up ourselves…. Someone has no feelings and they don’t know how bad they did to a person, let them go,because they’re not worth you to spend even one second on them. Be strong,take care!
i got depressed in 2020 because of the huge work stress after i was promoted manager, i should felt happy about it and people comgrat to me, but the huge work load made me feel super stessful, i could not fall asleep and i feel dizzy everyday, finally i quitted my job and start travel fishing and do whatever i want to do, i finally overcame from the nightmare. people always worry too much, worry lossing and want more, when you think anout, the only thing matters is the life, all other thing is not big deal, think simple, demand less, dont pay attention to others, pay attention to youself.
As long as politicians, social media, "scientists" and basically anyone, keeps ignoring that we live in a sick, obsolete system nothing is ever going to change. We don't need to be "resilient". We need a new, more loving and peaceful way of living together. It starts by accepting that our current system doesn't work anymore.
Yes, I went through the similar situation and felt so fragile. We need to know what is more important in our life. Stressful life with more money/ position or less money but less stress.
I have a friend that lost 4 of her children in an accident. I can’t belive her resiliance. She decided to live every day as they wil like to see her: with a smile. Humans like her are amazing.
I'm a medium and those above want us to be happy and thriving, it frees everyone to live as good a life as they can. Before my friend died young she was adamant life was for the living and it would hurt her for people to fold. I didn't fold but I'm not same as when she was in the world. For your friend it is a cataclysmic shift, but we're here to be of service and she knows things few do. Sending love to her.
This person is resilient because of genetic/biological/environmental determinants in her life. Another person with different life experiences and different neurological wiring will respond in the opposite way. My best friend committed suicide after her fiance died unexpectedly of a heart attack at age 34. She's no better or worse than the person you hold up as an example of resilience. This whole drawing on one's personal resources is an ideologically tinged prerogative in western society. It dovetails with corporate power's drive to empty social safety nets, as well as its ongoing project of dividing communities into factions of warring identities. It's all part of the ideology of individualism, which benefits, and reproduces the status quo. Your anecdote is akin to the one people commonly use when defending their bad eating habits. They will say "My grandpa lived till 85 on a diet of hot dogs and cigarettes"...and although that may be true, it proves absolutely nothing, other than the obvious fact that this individual was fortunate enough to be born into a body that had natural resistance to terrible forms of nutrition. Most others taking up the same habits would be dead by 40.
@@darrinheaton2614 As Marianne Williamson says - "Produce yourself!" In this vein - Howard Glasser, Madan Katara, Julia C. Christensen and Peter Breggin offer emphatic Talent Training. Autism employees at Cares Cafe in Shanghai treat customers with kindness, while beginning to learn musical instruments. They then rehearse together and later perform for the public. With encouragement from the friends they've been making, they practice agapeic love and develop an aesthetic inner resource! / Yes, the corporate cartels are bent on establishing a Unipolar feudalism. Yet, their $2 thousand trillion of claims could just be frozen {like here, in 1933}, the physical economy then improved + the general welfare of people promoted!
The only alternative to being "amazing" is to end your life. Resilience is something we're all capable of if we can persevere long enough. As the above poster said though, it's not particularly special, even if it should be.
I had a friend that graduated with straight A's from MIT in electrical engineering. When he found work, he couldn't take the stress and had a mental breakdown. He went to school and became an electronics technician. Then he searched for a job, not mentioning he was a MIT graduate. His new employer was very happy to have a bright straight-A electronics technician.
@@sanebadger8018 I had a similar thought. But, we are humans and if that guy had let studying consume all of his time, not living space for some other activity or anything, yes, a mental breakdown can occur. But not at an irreversible extend!
One of my friends who was a post doc researcher at CEA, quit and is now a school teacher somewhere in a remote village in France, seems to be living a happy fulfilling life.
What gives us resilience is knowing - really knowing - that the difficult situation will eventually change and pass. We have the seasons to remind us of that. Yes, there is winter but it always, always, always changes into spring, and then summer, and then fall/autumn, and then winter again. Don't ever think that a situation will last forever, even if it's a good situation. Appreciate the good when it's there and wring out as much joy from it as you can, and, when winter comes, know that you will make it through. Don't fight it. Don't hate it. Just let it go through its wintery motions, whatever it needs to do, and it will eventually change.
Heather ... thanks for taking the time to post your helpful thoughts framed by the passing of the Seasons which do define our lives in more ways than we know. Like you, I try to focus on choosing my battles in life and I find that the overall attitude that you described helps me to deal with my decades long chronic pain issues at the same time. I know that after a cold and difficult winter Spring will come, and then the joys of summer weather will soon follow ... if I am patient enough to wait for these changes. And before the bleak frozen landscapes of winter return (which they always do -- unfortunately) I try and focus on finding joy in Mother Nature's beautiful landscapes of colorful trees and the last days of warmth which will soon be gone. But the carpet of endless colorful leaves on the forest floor will be remembered all winter long, and cherished, which helps to remind me that there is healing power in Mother Nature's cycles because they mirror my own private struggles and tell me what should be the most important in my own life. Simple joys and simple pleasures are best as they contain the most healing power for us and the planet. Peace -- Dave
@@davelcx1958 Wow, Dave. I'm sort of speechless - which is extremely rare for me. Your response is so damn poetic and beautifully written. To revert to yet another nature analogy, your thoughts/words remind me of sweet, magnificent, delicate flowers emerging out of the mud of heavy life experience. What a champ! Greatest of respect to you. Cheers and peace indeed
OMG Heather … your response made ME smile so thanks so much! I was just responding to your excellent advice to appreciate the good events our lives while we can, before the cold winter winds settle in which they have here in the upper mid-west of the U.S. Brrrr … bone chilling cold indeed and I can’t wait until Spring! Anywho, I do hope that you find solutions to the problems which brought you here to watch this documentary and let’s keep thinking positive for as long as we can …. All the best - :-D
“You can’t change the situation, but you can control it- you can’t change the stressor, but you can control your reaction to it”- very powerful statement. Stay healthy, everyone!
I’ve got a neurological illness that causes excruciating pain every day. I’ve had it for 6 years. If you’d told me 6 years ago I’d have been able to put up with it for this long I wouldn’t have believed you. It’s amazing what you can get through if you take one day at a time.
I’ve faced major challenges from early on and throughout of my life. I swore to myself at a very young age no matter what that I won’t be trying to numb the pain in any form or shape. So never did escapism in alcohol, dr*gs and such, I acknowledged the difficulty and the pain, stayed true to my core values and what definitely made me cope the best and stay mentally strong is being creative. It made me go through and come stronger at the other end of a battle.
I think I heard of "numbing pain" about a decade ago when I first came on the internet. Something I'm sure was introduced as a solution. Being that I've heard so many people say they will do so, as well as heard pop psychologist talk about such things, being that they believe this is what whoever they're studying likely does or has done. I mean, at the end of the day, anyone can put a few words together to sound like something. But is whatever they're saying and claiming making sense. I remember the first time when I came on the internet, I heard someone with a platform actually say, "if you've been diagnosed with whatever mental illness, you might as well act in that manner." (Or something to this degree).........meanwhile this person is someone that has always played a position in giving advice. *Random folks words and behaviors that have been normalized (as "solutions"), should never play a role in one's personal life. Especially if it didn't work for whoever they're mimmicking/learning from.
Same here....but I think that experience also made me a little selfish and unable to form close bonds with people...a behaviour I struggled and still struggle to overcome and become normal....because what saved me in my childhood was the thought that you are on your own, dont fall into self-pity, fight and make your own way and never expect anything from anyone....and once that message was internalised, I stopped crying about life, accepted everything coming from life and adults and worked to get out of the situation and for my own good....but that message of not expecting from anyone....being happy with less but with independence....that affected my later adult life and it took me a long time to even realise that in my behaviours and expectations I was not normal....I do believe I am very mentally strong and better able to cope with adverse events....but looking back I realise my expectations from life and from other people and hence, my resulting behaviours have edfinitely been a bit different from most other people with normal childhoods
I found resilience in the positivity, calmness, and kindness that I cultivated over a lifetime. I probably wouldn't have made it if I had been angry, negative, and sad.
I agree with you. I went into the negativities in the past while i was in a weak state. It affected my whole life and i kept blaming people around me while actually i also contributed to my faults. Then i learned that its me who have to be gentle and more positive to myself.
Realizing that you cannot depend on others, that the only person you can depend on is yourself, that no one else is going to pick you up and fix your problems/life BUT YOU--forces you to be strong. You can either be strong or give up.
True .. with the exception of if you have caring and loving parents (especially mother) who are the only ones will always be there for you. Sad thing is the reverse is not true though for the parents, as i guarantee you will not be there for your parents, so in that sense your comments apply to them more than to yourself 😉😉
@@AA-wc3tw That's why i said "with the exception" .. it's sad though especially if they are still around, cuz if gone already then you are truly on your own. I hope you yourself are/will be a caring and loving parent if not already, so your kids don't feel/think the same as you.
@@tseek001 I moved 450 miles away from them at age 18 and have been on my own since then (35+ years). They are still living. I am not a parent, I never wanted to be a parent, and I know I would not be a good parent. Therefore I am childfree.
Excellent documentary thank you. I developed a strategy a long time ago for dealing with stress, anxiety, worry, and any other negative mental state. A big part of that strategy is referring to a number of written reminders; reminders of what thoughts or actions got me through previous troubled times! So I have short notes, most of them just a single word written on a piece of paper, but just seeing that single word or short phrase reminds me of how to cope this time. I have all these notes kept together in a safe place. Whenever I am in a negative mental state, I go to the notes, and read them all as reminders. The result is usually instantaneous relief. I call this collection of notes, my holy book, and reading them, is my prayer! Interestingly one of the words is 'Resilience'. Just seeing that word on that little piece of paper seems to help me to instantly become much more 'RESILIENT'!
But what was those actions or thoughts that helped you in the first place ? I wish I could do that but honestly I got through hard times by crying, despair, suicidal thoughts and time that's it
Last year, 2023, I faced very difficult, really very challenging problems at work. I even had to hire lawyers to help me. It was extremely stressfull. I can tell what helped me very much: yoga, a healthy lifestyle and my wife. I have precticing yoga for over 40 years. I just strengthen my yoga practices very much. Longer, stronger and more profound yoga sessions were very helpful. My healthy lifestyle (quality of food intake, exercises, no alcohol consumption at all, no drugs intake at all). Also, the support of my wife was extremely important. My wife mentioned to me that my resilience has been very impressive.
It must be nice to have coin, connections, crews, clout, computer code, cronies (wife, lawyers), and other crucial assets to achieve success. 🙂 Awesome!
I lost my mom and sister. I had failure in life. My health was also worst. Later I accepted it and started doing meditation. I rised up again. And now I m well and won the battle.. ❤❤ I hope Buddha will give power to heal you all the beings in the world.
I just got discharged from a temporary mental health facility a few days ago. It's a struggle. I wish I knew the answer I would comment it but I don't. Just know you're not alone out there
As long as politicians, social media, "scientists" and basically anyone, keeps ignoring that we live in a sick, obsolete system nothing is ever going to change. We don't need to be "resilient". We need a new, more loving and peaceful way of living together. It starts by accepting that our current system doesn't work anymore.
As a person who has lived with Bi-Polarism all my life, of 68 years, this doc' left me feeling like I have mastered my resiliance again. I feel stronger again.... Thank You.
That's a great one. Key Learning: -> Sometimes things can happen in life that we can't change but we can accept them as it is. By this way we can away from the stresses that we can't change or improve. -> Sometimes we priotarized the thing's that we hadn't achieve. But didn't recognize the things go well. So for improving resilience we can practice to remember the simple things we achieve or goes well. -> Psychotherapy and Music can help to improve mental resilience. -> Pregnancy time and early years are most Impactful for improving mental resilience. If mother was stressed during that period it can be harmful for child's mental health.
covid, the inflation, war and the difficult work market put me through so much emotional stress. My body can't even comprehend sadness anymore. It just says well you got through so much, you will get through this one too because this approach is the only that really helps. Cause in the end of the day the person who will truly make your situation bad and make you feel worse, is yourself. So be that friend to yourself who upholds you, makes you feel better, try to stay through this. you can't change what's coming, you can't change the Situation you're in. You can only change how you interact with the Situation.
Having pets to take care of as a child taught me to be responsible as well exposed me to the harsh realities of life and death. From giving birth to losing them to illnesses or tragic accidents has developed my resilience to life in general.
@@susannpatton2893 not to mention that younger generations actually live worse than their parents. a first in the history of humanity. young people can't even afford a house to live in. cost of living is increasing not decreasing. in my country which is in EU 1/3 of people between 18 and 35 have migrated abroad. the average age of people leaving their parents house is: 37. having kids?!?!? that's an unaffordable luxury to young generations. then there's a natality crisis and people wonder why.
@zorancenev3027 the problem is many have been told they don't have to do anything to be a strong ,well adjusted human. It boils down to survival of the fittest. Those who want to be better and work at it tend to have better results.
This video really resonated with me. Losing my dad in 2009 at such a young age was a devastating experience, and I had to dig deep to find the resilience to move forward. It's true, you can't even imagine how strong you can be when being strong is the only option you have. I learned that inner strength isn't about being invincible, it's about recognizing our vulnerabilities and finding ways to cope. For me, connecting with nature, journaling, and seeking support from loved ones were essential for healing. It's a journey, and there will be ups and downs, but remember, you are not alone. There are amazing resources out there, and seeking support from a mental health professional can be incredibly helpful. Hugs to all of you guys!
DW consistently covers important topics with tremendous depth and insight. I wish I knew how to submit topic suggestions to them. So grateful for the work they do.
We all don't have the same ability to cope with stress and difficulties. It's part of genetics (about 50 %) and also environmental factors, love and confidence given in our childhood,... It's a very multifactorial and complicated issue
I remember what my mother told me when I was in school during exam time.... Do your best leave the rest to God..... I feel so relax when I think of this sentence till date.
It's not easy 'cause I've been there and I was also to be blame in his loss. Yesterday was his 22 or 23 years death anniversary. Even though it's been awhile, the pain still there. For many years understanding it and realizing the other side of it or the beauty of it, I can breathe with relief and stoping myself from guilt. I even said, if I can only go back the time, I can replace him 'cause what I am dealing since and now. Being here and still alive, thriving, fighting for survival is not easy. I couldn't even bare to inflict the suffering again to another human being. I don't care if there's resilience or beauty in this planet it's just that it's too much for me to dealt with. I'm still fighting 'cause I have no choice and I still kept on believing that there's something better out there that this world can offer and it will end anyway. And also I still cling to the things(materials, things to do and etc), and the people I care. So, yeah! I can only hope that one day you find peace in your heart and let go for the things that already done and you can't control. Be thankful that his suffering are already over and he is in peace now. ☺️ 🕊️💖🍀
@@Sky10811 Thank you - I do see someone. She assures me there is little other than time, and to give myself that time according to how I live it. It has been a year, and it's better, but I still find little joy in exixence without him.
Thank you to all who helped in making this documentary.This is the best documentary I ever saw.I feel sorry for parents in this documentary who lost their boys and that old neurologist whose parents got killed when he was a child,and I am happy that he managed to live a good life despite odds of life.❤
Person ran red light, my car totaled and skull cracked. Hardest thing to admit was I had brain trauma. But I did it. I am fine now, but can't stand strong perfume, and noise. I became left-handed, and short tempered, but my thinking is now strangely sharper than it ever was. My grasp of languages is now savant-like.
Resilience is the ability to go through the storms in life , gain experience , strength message of hope, compassion, and love. I am a mother of 3 and grandmother.I just turned 70 last March, coming out of another depression feeling hopeless and isolating. My apartment is unhealthy (sloth clutter) I am a recovering alcoholic who is divorced, went to 4 rehabs ended up.in jail due to my addiction. Pride did not want to ask for help. My daughter in law insisted on helping to clean my apt. She was shocked at the state of it yet cleaned and wants to help. Humilty, accepting help. Grief is what fueled my addiction as I lost my parents 3 weeks apart. I cannot imagine the pain of losing a child such as Luca. The simple daily practice of gratitude , keeping connected to friends, neighbours, family, ( opposite of addiction is connection). Thank you for posting this I equate resilience to being at peace with yourself. ❤🦋⏳
My crisis is chronic pain for 45 years. So it’s ongoing still. I’m living with the grey…My responses r in my control. This means I’m continually embracing CBT/ACT therapies, finding a supportive community and learning. This doc was amazing and very helpful in understanding resilience. Loved the elephant story. My Christian faith also gives me hope. One of the best I’m currently reading on loss/grief is by Jerry Sittser entitled “grace disguised” followed by “grace revealed”. To all those with chronic pain “don’t give up” ✝️💟
هل تعتقد أن المسيحية هي الحق؟؟هل تعتقد أن الله يمكن أن يشترك مع البشر في الصفات مثل الولادة؟؟هل يعقل أن الله العظيم إحتاج ألى إنجاب ولد من خلال مريم العذراء،،هل تؤمن بالمسيحية لأنك ولدت فقط في جو مسيحي؟؟😊😊😊😊
Music and Sculpting has been my therapy and way IN to heal my wounds. I passed through kidnap, cancer, then left my country beacause of love and then experience loneliness for months. But I never give up. I learned and trained myself to raise my energies and heal. Now I am helping others to find inner peace in the middle of chaos. Thank you DW for this amazing documentary and encouragment to keep my mission to help people with chronic stress, anxiety, and depression around the world. Peace and Power ❤❤❤
As someone with Lupus, I understand your feelings. What I can say is that time and acceptance helps in the process of coping. In addition prayers, support and finding ways to still appreciate life in the little bouts of happiness, should help. It is possible to still see positives.
Thank you. I’m an octogenarian and am able to evaluate my experiences with traumatic experiences and people at times it was almost as if I wanted to check out but didn’t. I trudged on. Through. study and exposure to Science of Mind (not Scientology) I found that I had strength. Art classes and returning back to classes at the University I retired from Nursing and get an UG Degree in Art and Design-focus in Studio. I have Osteoarthritis but am active and healthy and resilient as I have always been but didn’t know that it was an actual study on those who are or not resilient. Thank you. ❤
I had very strong mental' resilience, despite a very tough life, until at some point during the covid pandemic process of professional care for elderly people. The breaking point is difficult to exactly pinpoint but, it was related to a period when I didn't feel supported or respected and I didn't have a voice and often in social' work we cannot speak freely. Since then, the cortisol' hormone is often spontaneously released and courses painfully through my body. Fortunately, I have an amazing life outside of work and a bright future ahead and I am nearing "retirement". "Grin and bear it", as someone once said. Sometimes thats all we can do. Everything changes...its down to us if we are a victim or a survivor. This life is short and our Creators love us, remember this 🕊💜🕊💜🕊💜
For anyone who is facing or has faced amajor crisis in life. Yes we can still move forward applying the information seen in this informative documenary. Seek help , talk to someone about your crisis. this info gives us understanding resilisence and how it affects our actions to cope with a serious crisis and yet still move forward in life. Inspiring to see the neuoscientist who survived the concentration camp and left without his parents at such a young age and look at what he became despite being told repeately told he couldn't do it.
i thought i was quite resilient but I had a mental breakdown this year. Like I've lived through sexual assault, emotional abuse, constant unemployment, my dad taking his life and many other things and I have been resilient enough to pass through it. But I just lost it last year at 29. We shouldn't be living like this. I got homeless, lost access to my support system, hobbies, and friends, broke, jobless and lost my first time in love before we could have anything and just collapsed at home and had anxiety attacks and seizures for several months and I don't remember anything and all my ptsd came back. I hate capitalism because it just took away my ability to live in the city around my friends, made my potential partner too busy and burned out to date and see me after waiting a year (and we wont be able to have anything good anymore because my breakdown cost me that) and made me have to go back home and be isolated and trapped unable to go anywhere, see any friends or earn any money to escape as it's in the countryside. I finally started to feel how my dad did and it scared me. I was the smartest kid, I had so much potential, but I am just lying in my family home burned out and exhausted. I used to study many things, I was very very sociable, I would travel anywhere I wanted, I spoke several languages and I wrote and I just, I'm not that person anymore. I hope I can be again one day.
Socialism can be even crueler if you are not adapted to it. we are in the transition to socialism now, but a feudalistic type socialism. All the best, I feel at rock bottom myself, but wealth isn’t the issue.
It's so good to see people working in labs and actually doing some real research that really matters !!! Great work DW for making this documentary . I wish politicians in my country also adopt such policies and pay attention to individual mental health, i would also like my friends and family to be more aware about the term resilience. I really liked this documentary, thank you.
I have done it. I have eliminated negative brain training. I run at 98% positive, monthly. I monitor it. You watch your thoughts, and when a negative one pops out, u say, brain eliminate that thought. U work at it. Now after years, it is rare for me to have negative thoughts. When life's challenges face me, I say to myself, can it bite me, or has a plan not gone to plan. I have every comfort, my health is good. Why let what happened yesterday, destroy my quality of life. Abolish living in one's mind trauma challenges from the past. After years, my instinct has become astute, I see things happening before they do. The brain and body memory love positivity. Blessings.
I am a 31-year-old man, and this (along with support of all type) helped me understand that I'm not a weak man for having a mental health problem (psychosis-related). I thought I was a subhuman for being a psychiatric patient. Inner healing, including accepting me and self-compassion, helped me get through. Thanks to all comments; I've read a lot of resilient stories. Greetings from Argentina. 🥰
My condolences to Luka and Freddie's parents. Such a terrible loss because of some horrible teens. Some children are cruel from a young age and this is why you see bullies even in schools. I was taught at a young age to stay away from kids who were nasty, jealous or cunning. As an adult, I can now say that I am thankful to my parents for always providing me this advice because I have met many nasty, jealous people and bullies not only in school but even as an adult and I have managed to stay away from such people somewhat successfully. They cause stress in life but after some bad experiences you learn to identify such people and ignore them. People give a lot of importance to physical strength but mental strength is even more important and it needs to be developed at a young age to live a happy and healthy life.
The close-up slow motion video of the precious, adorable toddler as she interacts with her attentive and loving parents… waterworks 😭😭😭. Beautifully shot and edited footage that pulled every heart string.
Understanding WHO I am today because of genes that were damaged before I was even born, because my mother have always been a depressive person, it makes a lot of sense. Resilience is what save me from making the wrong choices. Thank you DW for the investigative report and to the scientists that continue to work with the brain and its "magical" abilities to heal itself.
Early childhood trauma robs you of the one thing that in my opinion is the strongest indicator of resilience: Connection, or the ability to habe deep relationships. That’s when conventional therapy also fails. When every new attempt to form and keep connections fails, one becomes fearful and hopeless. And when one is hopeless, that’s when it is impossible to be resilient.
Buy and read this book by Dr. Peter Levine: Waking The Tiger and start learning to regulate your nervous system. Also look into attachment theory and attachment styles. Do this, you wil go back 'online'
Prayer makes the soul strong. Knowing that there is someone who has your back in a difficult situation gives us strength to cope and this knowledge makes us more resilient
DW Documentary has produced a splendidly superb piece of a documentary on mental and mind resilience in the face of life's crises as well as trials and tribulations - a masterclass in its own right, tour de force!
As long as politicians, social media, "scientists" and basically anyone, keeps ignoring that we live in a sick, obsolete system nothing is ever going to change. We don't need to be "resilient". We need a new, more loving and peaceful way of living together.
It's gone far beyond repair for, actually, decades... and that's why it will be much less worse to embrace the unavoidable: AI absolutely replacing "humanity". 😊
It's not the enemy within.... It's the enemy without. We can manage our own mental health pretty well. But we can't control how other people treat us or circumstance that triggers PTSD. Flooding us with the oxidative stress.... It's a matter of learning how to regulate the sympathetic nervous system after you get slammed. Based on the studies that I've read, the people who do the best are those who have a support system. Also supplements and foods that mitigate oxidative stress such as liposomal, vitamin C, glutathione, omega-3, fatty acids, blueberries, green tea, hibiscus tea and a really big one which is watercress. They found in a study done on a broadcast on the BBC Network -that if you eat a generous amount of watercress before exercising The oxidative stress from exercise is mitigated. You can find the study video on watercress on TH-cam.
With the passing of my mother and the world looking more dark by the day, drawing closer to Jesus has been my life line. I can’t imagine going through this world without Him. What’s helped me draw closer to Him is dissecting the word; that means praying for the Holy Spirit’s understanding + breaking a verse apart like a detective + and then writing down how I’m going to use that Scripture in my day-to-day life + then actually do it. A channel called “We Are Jesus Doers” has been a huge help on my walk with Jesus. They literally have a ton of Bible studies and even homework. There’s quite a bit of studying involved, but I’m thankful to have found a place that’s so focused on Jesus and the Word of God.
How can you tell the difference? Is this like the difference between sleeping on a $500.00 spring mattress versus a $500.00 foam mattress? 🤔 @@gracenmercy579
Resilience and stress level tolerances are as varied and unique as there are people.... I worry that this research will distract from our push to mold society to be less stressful. Although I can also see how it could help. We create our society... If people are getting sick? It's because we've built a society and way of life that makes people sick. I feel we need to fix society. Then people's lives will improve. "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." Not all forms of society are bad! There are some that are really beneficial. I hope the research also includes these comparisons.
Don't underestimate diet..microbiome produces chemistry needed to cope as well. No one perfect solution....my heart💔 goes out to all those struggling it's a tough road but there will be good days. I promise❣️❣️❣️
I also think one of the key factor to stress resilience is the believe of God.. everything and anything happens to you is for your life to be better towards your journey to God, not one problems this life happens to you is without you can't handle it.. always remember and be humble
Yes. ✝️ Paul, the apostle said he learned to suffer need and to have abundance. And all things he can do through Christ who strengthens him. This is true for all of us that put our faith and trust in Christ Jesus.
I am stressed of not being promoted after spending 8 years on the Job with no benefits. With 2 kids and increasing expenses it has started to take a toll on my mental health.
Synonyms of resilience 1: the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress 2: an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change Resilience Outside of Physics In physics, resilience is the ability of an elastic material (such as rubber or animal tissue) to absorb energy (such as from a blow) and release that energy as it springs back to its original shape. The recovery that occurs in this phenomenon can be viewed as analogous to a person's ability to bounce back after a jarring setback. The word resilience derives from the present participle of the Latin verb resilire, meaning "to jump back" or "to recoil." The base of resilire is salire, a verb meaning "to leap" that also pops up in the etymologies of such sprightly words as sally and somersault. It is really wonderful how much resilience there is in human nature. Let any obstructing cause, no matter what, be removed in any way, even by death, and we fly back to first principles of hope and enjoyment. -Bram Stoker, Dracula, 1897 The rescue workers showed remarkable by resilience in dealing with the difficult conditions. Cold temperatures caused the material to lose resilience As mentioned above Resilience mode is Good and helps to gain back the Energy after Sudden Grief, but not necessarily might last long, because as per me being Harsh on your mind, on your brain on your heart during this Resilience mode can make a Human lose on Resilience, Cracking down a person into Depression, causing a long lasting serious Mental Disorder. I went into Depression after experiencing 5 years of Resilience mode to overcome the Grief of my mother's sudden death in the year 2008 however later I experienced, Cracking down the Flexibility due to too much of Cold and Stiffness in mind, brain and Heart. Thankyou for creating this very Very knowledge and helpful Documentary on Mental Health and Resilience.
I lost my son at 2 days old, i experienced pain and sadness i have never felt before my mum being there for me listening holding me even when i was suicidal helped me overcome
Key factors for RESILIENCE: 1. Remembering the Successes 2. Trying not to judge experiences too negatively 3. Staying active despite adversity Resilience is not a state of being, but rather a continuous process. Our psyche is a complex mix of environmental influences, genes and our own ability to act. Resilience is not about happiness, it's about living with all of life's grey areas, surviving crises without losing your mental health. Saturday, 5 Oct 2024 (South Jakarta, Indonesia)
2011 I was a 16 year going on 17 year old. 2 major family deaths, was cheated on and broken up with by 2 boyfriends, abused by one of them in violent ways. To say as a 30 year old still coming to terms with it all, now living with 3 conditions caused by that stress I am still very broken in my head about it. The transition to adult world from being a school kid was scary enough I didn't need what happened to me to make it more scary. The fact I'm still here and alive still surprises me. Teenage me believing at the time I was weak and too sensitive because of a toxic group of friends telling me I was taking too long to grieve. Adult just turned 30 me thanks past me for the resilience she had and to tell her that our support network improved and that while not 'recovered' hope is still there. We need to help support both the resilient and the not so resilient people. Pain and stress is still pain and stress no matter who is suffering.
The key for living a stress free life is to identify the source of stress this could also be your family member. When you identify them get away from them physically and mentally.
I think the crucial question is, halfway through this documentary, is mental illness an innate inability to handle difficult circumstances? Or are some circumstances so stressful that even the most mentally tough, innately, would fall prey?
Why stop there when there is another question to be asked. What causes an innate inability to handle difficult circumstances? I dont think I will win any prizes to suggest the core causes are rooted in early life trauma, either from narcissistic abusive parents, or well-meaning but emotionally unstable, dysfunctional parents. Many people who suffered an emotionally traumatic childhood later in life develop conditions like adrenal fatigue, chronic anxiety, depression, high cortisol levels, and in very recent finding they are connecting auto-immune diseases to familial narcissistic abuse, because of the physical toll it takes to be resilient for so many years in the face of continuous abuse in a family system.
As long as politicians, social media, "scientists" and basically anyone, keeps ignoring that we live in a sick, obsolete system nothing is ever going to change. We don't need to be "resilient". We need a new, more loving and peaceful way of living together. It starts by accepting that our current system doesn't work anymore.
Thanks DW ! This is a good program to remind me that life isn't perfect (not only for me but for many other people). And yes I have the choice on how to live in it.
Thanks DW! Another excellent documentary. The political aspect was unexpected and interesting. The USA fails to mitigate stressful environments for pregnant women and children, much less the average citizen.
I think about all those children being raised by stressed parents working two jobs and still not making ends meet and how those children will cope as adults. The US is going to have some very messed up adults.
From my personal experiences, these helps: 1. Mix work you excel with work you find difficult. For example, I transferred my major from translation & interpreting to Computer science and CS is difficult. So now I’m a part time interpreter and full time developer. 2. Get some social interactions. My interpreter job allows me to talk to people for at least 1 hour a day. 3. Stress supplements such as Ashwagandha helps
Pressure - when faced with it, some of us focus, and some of us fold. I think resilience is knowing how to free yourself when focusing, and how to forgive yourself when folding.
It's our default predisposition to be self centered. Those who can achieve the paradigm shift of thinking beyond themselves and be perpetually grateful are those that are truly free and will know that things will come their way.
Such great insight into the workings of my adopted child. Born of teen mom in hard situation without prenatal care or support, possibly alcohol exposed as most 19 yo are. Now just come up with strategies to help parents in the early years to prevent the disasters that ensued for so many of us.
I have learned a lot from this documentary film. I found it when i badly need it, big thanks those who contributed . Feel gratitude and appreciation 🙏🙏
I have a friend who is a fraternal twin, but both have very different levels of stress, and one is anxiously attached to parents and now their partners while the other is far less stressed and can achieve secure attachment in their relationships. So I think it’s more than just hormones and chemicals in utero.
I realized that I had dealt with severe stress, combined with depression, anxiety and more, I need to do a research on that. But after taking a break off everything, like school, work and more studying, people that pressured me before about "adult life" doesn't bother me anymore because I now know what I WANT to do not what THEY WANT me to do. It was an exhausting and tough journey, and realizing it now, gave me the chills because I realized before that I just had this social anxiety that was lingering inside of me that's why I isolated myself and never talked to anyone, plus, I was also very insecure, I would put on upbeat music while walking to school and feel the most confident person in there, chest back, chin up and everything but once anyone tries to talk to me, id have to take my earphones down and shake, then stumbles on my words, stuttering and struggling with talking to people because I had looked down on myself too much, I learned that just talking to them and having a conversation with people is very normal and a thing that people should not be scared of doing.
Joy is inside you, not outside and we are only spirits. I struggle with depression and anxiety and I have started to meditate on that every day. Meditation is freedom from my own negative thoughts, hoping that with practice, that peace can be extended throughout the day.
"love yourself a lot". Wayne Dyer. Effective feelings of self worth are habits. Bad habits can changed and good habits can be made by pateince and persistance.
We here in India have a lot to work to just get aware of mental illeness. People ridicule, joke or perceive weak, mentally ill or depressed or stressed people. Boris Cyrulnik also is very correct, it is also political issue, politicians here in India, add to stress level on everyday basis instead acknowledging and working towards it. And That is dangerous for Indian society.
@@TheSunIsMyDestroyer Caste system is root or base of Hindu religion. Classes exist in all societies and not just in India, but the difference is Hindu social order is like a Building without staircase, you can not go up/down the social order. It is the longest survival system of rigid stratification in the world, and worse form of Discrimination, worse than Racism. Untouchability, inequality, exploitation are the evils prevailed due to this system.
Completely agree 💯 waking up very early helped to make sure I could fall asleep at night. With that extra time in the morning, I exercise and meditate and pray before I begin work.
Know yourself. Take MBTI personality test. Find out what your attachment style is. By doing this, you will know your strengths and weakness....both need tending. Regular exercise, eating right, Journaling, meditation, breathing techniques (for instant relief), ...big one: gratitude.
I think having a few healthy relationships can really help. The society we live in overemphasizes individualism and the perception that work is all that defines a person. It leads people to believe they can get through life like an island. There's communities that live in the harshest environments possible. But because they are surrounded by cultures that value a sense of community they endure difficulty that could crush anyone. Having a support group, friends or family that you can reach out to when you can't pick yourself up is crucial in dealing with life's challenges. I've noticed that people who seem to meet challenges with ease have a healthy social network that's real, not social media friends. And they engage in social activities outside of work that fulfill them.
I got divorced in 2016, I lost my job, lost all of my properties and material things , including most of my clothes. My mother was murdered in 2017. I was involved in a car accident in 28th Dec 2018. Lost my job again 2019. I got Covid 19 and was hospitalized was in ICU in 2021 for 10 days. But I bounced back because of resilience and mind power. Now I'm running marathons and competed a few and got medaka🥉 and I will running my 1st Ultra Marathon 87km on the 9th of June 2024. Whatever you are going through stay resilient and grow through it.. If I can do it so can you.
It takes two to divorce. That's life. People lose their jobs all the time. People get in car accidents all the time. You run to cope, and deal with the stress/trauma. Good on ya. And condolences to your family regarding your mother.
Omg that is a lot to go through im glad you are doing better❤ I guess that is life. I have been through some horrible things as well.
Sure, sweetheart.
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Divorce is nothing nowadays! Don't give up!!! If you give positive energy to other, it would be back as well! Don't give up, you will be better
One of my favourite phrases:
"You cant even imagine how strong you can be when being strong is the only option you have".
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There's always a different option for people who can't handle stress and that's the problem. A phrase won't help. 🤷🏻♂️
By Bob Marley
Lies again? Apex Predator Italian Spanish
It's easy to think up simple but impossible 💩
My condolences to Freddie and luka, the 2 teens, what a loss.
luka in my native language means injured, sorry. In our belief name is sacred one form of praying
I lost my father in a road accident back in 2022, and instead of supporting me, my wife of just six months chose to fight with me during that difficult time. My brother was soon diagnosed with a mental disorder, adding to the burden. With no support from my partner, I faced threats from both her and her mother, who even vowed to destroy my already struggling family. Their narcissistic behavior only worsened the situation, and I found no comfort from relatives. Yet, here I stand at 32, having weathered these challenges and standing strong. Resilience has been my path, a quality I inherited from my father, who himself faced many setbacks in life.
What helped me cope with destabilizing experiences: exercise, enough sleep, meditation, support group, reading, journal writing, friends.....
All of that sounds exactly right.
If you have friends and a support group what’s the problem?
I’d like to add to shelleyc’s list:
No more discussions about race, politics or religion greatly help my mental state. Also, going to Church/prayer, watching comedic shows/movies, and I stopped watching the news all day/everyday. Now, I only watch the news 1 day/week or not at all. 😉
Thank you all for your recommendations.
Sometimes these things seems so obvious but life gets in the way and we end up forgetting/ignoring them all. Frequent reminders to take care of self is needed
and sunlight & healthy nutrition
I'm at very very low point of my life. Feeling stressed or depressed would be a less describing term for me. I couldn't hold my tears while watching this wonderful documentary. My prayers for all the souls that are suffering in silence. May they find the best way to conquer their fear.
I am so sorry that you are suffering and in pain. I know words often sound hollow, but I sincerely hope that there will be better days ahead for you. I hope the universe will offer you a break. This Internet stranger supports you and sends you love and good wishes during a difficult time ❤
Just know that life is a curve...it doesn't stay low..it goes back up. It's just a matter of time. Sometimes it takes just a day, sometimes days, sometimes weeks or months. The most important thing is not giving up on life. This world is a school for every human being until the day we die. We learn and keep going looking at the bright light at the end of the tunnel. I pray for you 🙏 ❤️
God bless you. Deep breath and take a break. Nothing else matters more than your health
We are all changing every second, be strong,even feel no one support, at least don’t give up ourselves…. Someone has no feelings and they don’t know how bad they did to a person, let them go,because they’re not worth you to spend even one second on them. Be strong,take care!
To all the good souls who have showered their kindness towards me with their soothing words... may this return to you in thousand folds ❤
i got depressed in 2020 because of the huge work stress after i was promoted manager, i should felt happy about it and people comgrat to me, but the huge work load made me feel super stessful, i could not fall asleep and i feel dizzy everyday, finally i quitted my job and start travel fishing and do whatever i want to do, i finally overcame from the nightmare. people always worry too much, worry lossing and want more, when you think anout, the only thing matters is the life, all other thing is not big deal, think simple, demand less, dont pay attention to others, pay attention to youself.
Humans are more important than corporations even though corporate has more rights than people do these days
As long as politicians, social media, "scientists" and basically anyone, keeps ignoring that we live in a sick, obsolete system nothing is ever going to change. We don't need to be "resilient". We need a new, more loving and peaceful way of living together. It starts by accepting that our current system doesn't work anymore.
Yes, I went through the similar situation and felt so fragile. We need to know what is more important in our life. Stressful life with more money/ position or less money but less stress.
That's what happened to me too at the end of 2021❤ I burned out and my mom passed away from covet and I'm still on disability
What a beautiful encouraging message I need that I'm copying it and will remind me. Thank you❤ God bless you
I have a friend that lost 4 of her children in an accident. I can’t belive her resiliance. She decided to live every day as they wil like to see her: with a smile. Humans like her are amazing.
I'm a medium and those above want us to be happy and thriving, it frees everyone to live as good a life as they can. Before my friend died young she was adamant life was for the living and it would hurt her for people to fold. I didn't fold but I'm not same as when she was in the world. For your friend it is a cataclysmic shift, but we're here to be of service and she knows things few do. Sending love to her.
This person is resilient because of genetic/biological/environmental determinants in her life. Another person with different life experiences and different neurological wiring will respond in the opposite way. My best friend committed suicide after her fiance died unexpectedly of a heart attack at age 34. She's no better or worse than the person you hold up as an example of resilience. This whole drawing on one's personal resources is an ideologically tinged prerogative in western society. It dovetails with corporate power's drive to empty social safety nets, as well as its ongoing project of dividing communities into factions of warring identities. It's all part of the ideology of individualism, which benefits, and reproduces the status quo. Your anecdote is akin to the one people commonly use when defending their bad eating habits. They will say "My grandpa lived till 85 on a diet of hot dogs and cigarettes"...and although that may be true, it proves absolutely nothing, other than the obvious fact that this individual was fortunate enough to be born into a body that had natural resistance to terrible forms of nutrition. Most others taking up the same habits would be dead by 40.
@@darrinheaton2614 As Marianne Williamson says - "Produce yourself!" In this vein - Howard Glasser, Madan Katara, Julia C. Christensen and Peter Breggin offer emphatic Talent Training. Autism employees at Cares Cafe in Shanghai treat customers with kindness, while beginning to learn musical instruments. They then rehearse together and later perform for the public. With encouragement from the friends they've been making, they practice agapeic love and develop an aesthetic inner resource! / Yes, the corporate cartels are bent on establishing a Unipolar feudalism. Yet, their $2 thousand trillion of claims could just be frozen {like here, in 1933}, the physical economy then improved + the general welfare of people promoted!
The only alternative to being "amazing" is to end your life.
Resilience is something we're all capable of if we can persevere long enough.
As the above poster said though, it's not particularly special, even if it should be.
@@elizabethheyenga9277you're psychic? Tell me what I got up to last year, thanks in advance.
Being okay with being weak sometimes opens the path to resilience. You don't beat yourself up when you fail so you dust yourself off, and soldier on.
I had a friend that graduated with straight A's from MIT in electrical engineering. When he found work, he couldn't take the stress and had a mental breakdown. He went to school and became an electronics technician. Then he searched for a job, not mentioning he was a MIT graduate. His new employer was very happy to have a bright straight-A electronics technician.
love that story, going through a similar thing
Doesn’t matter how humble the new job is. The only important thing is your ex-friend survives from the crisis. Well done.
Your friend exists in your imagination , I am guessing like most of your other friends
Is this your story ?
Ignore the cruel morons 😱
@@sanebadger8018 I had a similar thought. But, we are humans and if that guy had let studying consume all of his time, not living space for some other activity or anything, yes, a mental breakdown can occur. But not at an irreversible extend!
One of my friends who was a post doc researcher at CEA, quit and is now a school teacher somewhere in a remote village in France, seems to be living a happy fulfilling life.
Dear DW
Keep these documentaries coming in.
Thank You
Thanks for watching!
What gives us resilience is knowing - really knowing - that the difficult situation will eventually change and pass. We have the seasons to remind us of that. Yes, there is winter but it always, always, always changes into spring, and then summer, and then fall/autumn, and then winter again.
Don't ever think that a situation will last forever, even if it's a good situation. Appreciate the good when it's there and wring out as much joy from it as you can, and, when winter comes, know that you will make it through. Don't fight it. Don't hate it. Just let it go through its wintery motions, whatever it needs to do, and it will eventually change.
Heather ... thanks for taking the time to post your helpful thoughts framed by the passing of the Seasons which do define our lives in more ways than we know.
Like you, I try to focus on choosing my battles in life and I find that the overall attitude that you described helps me to deal with my decades long chronic pain issues at the same time.
I know that after a cold and difficult winter Spring will come, and then the joys of summer weather will soon follow ... if I am patient enough to wait for these changes.
And before the bleak frozen landscapes of winter return (which they always do -- unfortunately) I try and focus on finding joy in Mother Nature's beautiful landscapes of colorful trees and the last days of warmth which will soon be gone.
But the carpet of endless colorful leaves on the forest floor will be remembered all winter long, and cherished, which helps to remind me that there is healing power in Mother Nature's cycles because they mirror my own private struggles and tell me what should be the most important in my own life.
Simple joys and simple pleasures are best as they contain the most healing power for us and the planet. Peace -- Dave
@@davelcx1958 Wow, Dave. I'm sort of speechless - which is extremely rare for me. Your response is so damn poetic and beautifully written.
To revert to yet another nature analogy, your thoughts/words remind me of sweet, magnificent, delicate flowers emerging out of the mud of heavy life experience.
What a champ! Greatest of respect to you. Cheers and peace indeed
OMG Heather … your response made ME smile so thanks so much!
I was just responding to your excellent advice to appreciate the good events our lives while we can, before the cold winter winds settle in which they have here in the upper mid-west of the U.S. Brrrr … bone chilling cold indeed and I can’t wait until Spring!
Anywho, I do hope that you find solutions to the problems which brought you here to watch this documentary and let’s keep thinking positive for as long as we can …. All the best - :-D
I wouldn't treat science facts as inspiration but yes otherwise.
Well written!
“You can’t change the situation, but you can control it- you can’t change the stressor, but you can control your reaction to it”- very powerful statement. Stay healthy, everyone!
in other words the phrase "man up" still has weight and validity
Still, this is debatable.
You can not suffer the stressor for ever
@@NewEra- its just self inflicted
This is very black and white. Do better.
I’ve got a neurological illness that causes excruciating pain every day. I’ve had it for 6 years. If you’d told me 6 years ago I’d have been able to put up with it for this long I wouldn’t have believed you. It’s amazing what you can get through if you take one day at a time.
Chiropractic care might help - then again, Social Services health care does not pay for this in Niagara, NY!
WH is right.
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I’ve faced major challenges from early on and throughout of my life. I swore to myself at a very young age no matter what that I won’t be trying to numb the pain in any form or shape. So never did escapism in alcohol, dr*gs and such, I acknowledged the difficulty and the pain, stayed true to my core values and what definitely made me cope the best and stay mentally strong is being creative. It made me go through and come stronger at the other end of a battle.
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis (DD3)
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I think I heard of "numbing pain" about a decade ago when I first came on the internet. Something I'm sure was introduced as a solution. Being that I've heard so many people say they will do so, as well as heard pop psychologist talk about such things, being that they believe this is what whoever they're studying likely does or has done. I mean, at the end of the day, anyone can put a few words together to sound like something. But is whatever they're saying and claiming making sense. I remember the first time when I came on the internet, I heard someone with a platform actually say, "if you've been diagnosed with whatever mental illness, you might as well act in that manner." (Or something to this degree).........meanwhile this person is someone that has always played a position in giving advice. *Random folks words and behaviors that have been normalized (as "solutions"), should never play a role in one's personal life. Especially if it didn't work for whoever they're mimmicking/learning from.
Same here....but I think that experience also made me a little selfish and unable to form close bonds with people...a behaviour I struggled and still struggle to overcome and become normal....because what saved me in my childhood was the thought that you are on your own, dont fall into self-pity, fight and make your own way and never expect anything from anyone....and once that message was internalised, I stopped crying about life, accepted everything coming from life and adults and worked to get out of the situation and for my own good....but that message of not expecting from anyone....being happy with less but with independence....that affected my later adult life and it took me a long time to even realise that in my behaviours and expectations I was not normal....I do believe I am very mentally strong and better able to cope with adverse events....but looking back I realise my expectations from life and from other people and hence, my resulting behaviours have edfinitely been a bit different from most other people with normal childhoods
@@junglekutz5625 I don't think I have ever read so much but yet understood absolutely nothing.
Good for you..
I found resilience in the positivity, calmness, and kindness that I cultivated over a lifetime. I probably wouldn't have made it if I had been angry, negative, and sad.
I agree with you. I went into the negativities in the past while i was in a weak state. It affected my whole life and i kept blaming people around me while actually i also contributed to my faults. Then i learned that its me who have to be gentle and more positive to myself.
@@Putri7freya okay, I'll try.
I had blamed others too - but I was the main player!@@Putri7freya
what an invalidation of people with mental struggles
Ok so how did you find the positivity, calmness, and kindness?
Realizing that you cannot depend on others, that the only person you can depend on is yourself, that no one else is going to pick you up and fix your problems/life BUT YOU--forces you to be strong. You can either be strong or give up.
Definitely
True .. with the exception of if you have caring and loving parents (especially mother) who are the only ones will always be there for you. Sad thing is the reverse is not true though for the parents, as i guarantee you will not be there for your parents, so in that sense your comments apply to them more than to yourself 😉😉
@@tseek001 I do not have "caring and loving parents (especially mother) who are the only ones will always be there for you."
@@AA-wc3tw That's why i said "with the exception" .. it's sad though especially if they are still around, cuz if gone already then you are truly on your own. I hope you yourself are/will be a caring and loving parent if not already, so your kids don't feel/think the same as you.
@@tseek001 I moved 450 miles away from them at age 18 and have been on my own since then (35+ years). They are still living. I am not a parent, I never wanted to be a parent, and I know I would not be a good parent. Therefore I am childfree.
Excellent documentary thank you. I developed a strategy a long time ago for dealing with stress, anxiety, worry, and any other negative mental state. A big part of that strategy is referring to a number of written reminders; reminders of what thoughts or actions got me through previous troubled times! So I have short notes, most of them just a single word written on a piece of paper, but just seeing that single word or short phrase reminds me of how to cope this time. I have all these notes kept together in a safe place. Whenever I am in a negative mental state, I go to the notes, and read them all as reminders. The result is usually instantaneous relief. I call this collection of notes, my holy book, and reading them, is my prayer! Interestingly one of the words is 'Resilience'. Just seeing that word on that little piece of paper seems to help me to instantly become much more 'RESILIENT'!
What you did is the thing that my therapist suggested me to do.
Like affirmations?
@@almila1368 yes, kind of
@@almila1368 I also keep a list!
But what was those actions or thoughts that helped you in the first place ? I wish I could do that but honestly I got through hard times by crying, despair, suicidal thoughts and time that's it
Last year, 2023, I faced very difficult, really very challenging problems at work. I even had to hire lawyers to help me. It was extremely stressfull. I can tell what helped me very much: yoga, a healthy lifestyle and my wife. I have precticing yoga for over 40 years. I just strengthen my yoga practices very much. Longer, stronger and more profound yoga sessions were very helpful. My healthy lifestyle (quality of food intake, exercises, no alcohol consumption at all, no drugs intake at all). Also, the support of my wife was extremely important. My wife mentioned to me that my resilience has been very impressive.
It must be nice to have coin, connections, crews, clout, computer code, cronies (wife, lawyers), and other crucial assets to achieve success. 🙂 Awesome!
Support and positive human connection is key. Hard to find many times…
@@polarisjustdothework2258r you have it and through circumstances u lose the support
I am glad for you. A positive self image helps to cultivate resilience. Greetings to your wife for her support to you.
I lost my mom and sister. I had failure in life. My health was also worst. Later I accepted it and started doing meditation. I rised up again. And now I m well and won the battle.. ❤❤ I hope Buddha will give power to heal you all the beings in the world.
Praise God!
I just got discharged from a temporary mental health facility a few days ago. It's a struggle. I wish I knew the answer I would comment it but I don't. Just know you're not alone out there
Go and check out the Andrew Huberman podcast; especially look at "access to the healthy mental state".
because there's no 1 only answer to this, we live the moment the best we can bless for you
Wish you have a speedy recovery 🙏. I am also struggling with a mental illness, which has made me lose some opportunities in my life.
I believe resillience doesn t reside in the brain but it originates from the true self, the soul,
As long as politicians, social media, "scientists" and basically anyone, keeps ignoring that we live in a sick, obsolete system nothing is ever going to change. We don't need to be "resilient". We need a new, more loving and peaceful way of living together. It starts by accepting that our current system doesn't work anymore.
As a person who has lived with Bi-Polarism all my life, of 68 years, this doc' left me feeling like I have mastered my resiliance again. I feel stronger again.... Thank You.
Congrats and cheers to That!
U got this all the best to u, know you’re worth ❤️✌🏻
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I always say this: allow yourself to be stressed; it is normal. But never allow yourself to be overstressed; you might not cope up.
Easier to write it than to control it.
Allow yourself to be stressed?? Bad advice. Even a little stress in your body can cause serious harm...
@@adj5767stress is not inherently bad
Best if you can set limits!
The most idiotic thing I've ever seen in the comment section.
Don't write anything again.
Another quality DW documentary containing brave and courageous people telling their stories of pain and suffering. God bless you all.
Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts!
That's a great one.
Key Learning:
-> Sometimes things can happen in life that we can't change but we can accept them as it is. By this way we can away from the stresses that we can't change or improve.
-> Sometimes we priotarized the thing's that we hadn't achieve. But didn't recognize the things go well. So for improving resilience we can practice to remember the simple things we achieve or goes well.
-> Psychotherapy and Music can help to improve mental resilience.
-> Pregnancy time and early years are most Impactful for improving mental resilience. If mother was stressed during that period it can be harmful for child's mental health.
covid, the inflation, war and the difficult work market put me through so much emotional stress. My body can't even comprehend sadness anymore. It just says well you got through so much, you will get through this one too because this approach is the only that really helps. Cause in the end of the day the person who will truly make your situation bad and make you feel worse, is yourself. So be that friend to yourself who upholds you, makes you feel better, try to stay through this.
you can't change what's coming, you can't change the Situation you're in. You can only change how you interact with the Situation.
Having pets to take care of as a child taught me to be responsible as well exposed me to the harsh realities of life and death. From giving birth to losing them to illnesses or tragic accidents has developed my resilience to life in general.
It's an awful feeling when you're grieving a family member and the rest of the family puts you down. You can't get a break lol. I just needed a hug.
It's not always family who are most helpful!
Stay safe. ❤
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Hug from here
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Thumbs up DW. As parents, we need to harness positive mental attitude in our kids as stressors are enormous.
Just wait til they grow up. Kids life is alot simpler - no bills, no rent to pay.
@@susannpatton2893 not to mention that younger generations actually live worse than their parents. a first in the history of humanity. young people can't even afford a house to live in. cost of living is increasing not decreasing. in my country which is in EU 1/3 of people between 18 and 35 have migrated abroad. the average age of people leaving their parents house is: 37. having kids?!?!? that's an unaffordable luxury to young generations. then there's a natality crisis and people wonder why.
We don't need positivity; we need reality.
@@EuropeanQohelethand reality sucks.
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Basically the research said: people who are resilient are resilient. Thank you!
Lazy thinking! The documentary tells you that resilience can be developed. Watch it again.
@zorancenev3027 the problem is many have been told they don't have to do anything to be a strong ,well adjusted human. It boils down to survival of the fittest. Those who want to be better and work at it tend to have better results.
This video really resonated with me. Losing my dad in 2009 at such a young age was a devastating experience, and I had to dig deep to find the resilience to move forward. It's true, you can't even imagine how strong you can be when being strong is the only option you have. I learned that inner strength isn't about being invincible, it's about recognizing our vulnerabilities and finding ways to cope. For me, connecting with nature, journaling, and seeking support from loved ones were essential for healing. It's a journey, and there will be ups and downs, but remember, you are not alone. There are amazing resources out there, and seeking support from a mental health professional can be incredibly helpful. Hugs to all of you guys!
DW consistently covers important topics with tremendous depth and insight. I wish I knew how to submit topic suggestions to them. So grateful for the work they do.
We all don't have the same ability to cope with stress and difficulties. It's part of genetics (about 50 %) and also environmental factors, love and confidence given in our childhood,... It's a very multifactorial and complicated issue
Yes, it is. I can see u dont know what u r talking about and u r full of positive toxicity ehen u say spiritual@@samudramanthan8645
@@samudramanthan8645 the self is a very important concept for a human being, people with no sense of self can end up as psychiatric cases
@@samudramanthan8645 Well do tell me more, how do I immerse myself in this serenity, without losing myself?
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I remember what my mother told me when I was in school during exam time.... Do your best leave the rest to God..... I feel so relax when I think of this sentence till date.
Same ❤
Having recently lost my brother, I am so aware of the pain here that I cannot watch
Sorry for your loss. Please stay strong.
pls hire a psychologist to help live the grief
It's not easy 'cause I've been there and I was also to be blame in his loss. Yesterday was his 22 or 23 years death anniversary. Even though it's been awhile, the pain still there. For many years understanding it and realizing the other side of it or the beauty of it, I can breathe with relief and stoping myself from guilt. I even said, if I can only go back the time, I can replace him 'cause what I am dealing since and now. Being here and still alive, thriving, fighting for survival is not easy. I couldn't even bare to inflict the suffering again to another human being. I don't care if there's resilience or beauty in this planet it's just that it's too much for me to dealt with. I'm still fighting 'cause I have no choice and I still kept on believing that there's something better out there that this world can offer and it will end anyway. And also I still cling to the things(materials, things to do and etc), and the people I care.
So, yeah! I can only hope that one day you find peace in your heart and let go for the things that already done and you can't control. Be thankful that his suffering are already over and he is in peace now. ☺️
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@@lunaimadog4723 Thank you for your kind words and sharing.
@@Sky10811 Thank you - I do see someone. She assures me there is little other than time, and to give myself that time according to how I live it. It has been a year, and it's better, but I still find little joy in exixence without him.
Thank you to all who helped in making this documentary.This is the best documentary I ever saw.I feel sorry for parents in this documentary who lost their boys and that old neurologist whose parents got killed when he was a child,and I am happy that he managed to live a good life despite odds of life.❤
Thanks for watching and for the feedback!
What makes me strong? Prayers and everything prayers have brought to me.
Me too Yahweh is everything.
Person ran red light, my car totaled and skull cracked. Hardest thing to admit was I had brain trauma. But I did it.
I am fine now, but can't stand strong perfume, and noise.
I became left-handed,
and short tempered, but my thinking is now strangely sharper than it ever was. My grasp of languages is now savant-like.
I was once told by a nurse in a really different situation that I have a positive and resiliant personality. And she was right.
Resilience is the ability to go through the storms in life , gain experience , strength message of hope, compassion, and love. I am a mother of 3 and grandmother.I just turned 70 last March, coming out of another depression feeling hopeless and isolating. My apartment is unhealthy (sloth clutter)
I am a recovering alcoholic who is divorced, went to 4 rehabs ended up.in jail due to my addiction.
Pride did not want to ask for help. My daughter in law insisted on helping to clean my apt. She was shocked at the state of it yet cleaned and wants to help.
Humilty, accepting help.
Grief is what fueled my addiction as I lost my parents 3 weeks apart. I cannot imagine the pain of losing a child such as Luca. The simple daily practice of gratitude , keeping connected to friends, neighbours, family, ( opposite of addiction is connection).
Thank you for posting this I equate resilience to being at peace with yourself.
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My crisis is chronic pain for 45 years. So it’s ongoing still. I’m living with the grey…My responses r in my control. This means I’m continually embracing CBT/ACT therapies, finding a supportive community and learning. This doc was amazing and very helpful in understanding resilience. Loved the elephant story. My Christian faith also gives me hope. One of the best I’m currently reading on loss/grief is by Jerry Sittser entitled “grace disguised” followed by “grace revealed”. To all those with chronic pain “don’t give up” ✝️💟
Ever researched EMDR therapy?
Have researched it yes but not yet made appointment
هل تعتقد أن المسيحية هي الحق؟؟هل تعتقد أن الله يمكن أن يشترك مع البشر في الصفات مثل الولادة؟؟هل يعقل أن الله العظيم إحتاج ألى إنجاب ولد من خلال مريم العذراء،،هل تؤمن بالمسيحية لأنك ولدت فقط في جو مسيحي؟؟😊😊😊😊
Music and Sculpting has been my therapy and way IN to heal my wounds. I passed through kidnap, cancer, then left my country beacause of love and then experience loneliness for months. But I never give up. I learned and trained myself to raise my energies and heal. Now I am helping others to find inner peace in the middle of chaos.
Thank you DW for this amazing documentary and encouragment to keep my mission to help people with chronic stress, anxiety, and depression around the world.
Peace and Power ❤❤❤
Thank you for watching and sharing your experience.
Cancer is one of the toughest realities to deal with. Rationality, reasoning and resilience went straight out of the window for me.
As someone with Lupus, I understand your feelings. What I can say is that time and acceptance helps in the process of coping. In addition prayers, support and finding ways to still appreciate life in the little bouts of happiness, should help. It is possible to still see positives.
Praying fot your peace
Thank you. I’m an octogenarian and am able to evaluate my experiences with traumatic experiences and people at times it was almost as if I wanted to check out but didn’t. I trudged on. Through. study and exposure to Science of Mind (not Scientology) I found that I had strength. Art classes and returning back to classes at the University I retired from Nursing and get an UG Degree in Art and Design-focus in Studio.
I have Osteoarthritis but am active and healthy and resilient as I have always been but didn’t know that it was an actual study on those who are or not resilient. Thank you. ❤
Good job Phyllis! Glad to hear that you are still going strong.
I had very strong mental' resilience, despite a very tough life, until at some point during the covid pandemic process of professional care for elderly people. The breaking point is difficult to exactly pinpoint but, it was related to a period when I didn't feel supported or respected and I didn't have a voice and often in social' work we cannot speak freely.
Since then, the cortisol' hormone is often spontaneously released and courses painfully through my body.
Fortunately, I have an amazing life outside of work and a bright future ahead and I am nearing "retirement". "Grin and bear it", as someone once said. Sometimes thats all we can do. Everything changes...its down to us if we are a victim or a survivor. This life is short and our Creators love us, remember this 🕊💜🕊💜🕊💜
Amen ❤
For anyone who is facing or has faced amajor crisis in life. Yes we can still move forward applying the information seen in this informative documenary. Seek help , talk to someone about your crisis. this info gives us understanding resilisence and how it affects our actions to cope with a serious crisis and yet still move forward in life. Inspiring to see the neuoscientist who survived the concentration camp and left without his parents at such a young age and look at what he became despite being told repeately told he couldn't do it.
i thought i was quite resilient but I had a mental breakdown this year. Like I've lived through sexual assault, emotional abuse, constant unemployment, my dad taking his life and many other things and I have been resilient enough to pass through it. But I just lost it last year at 29.
We shouldn't be living like this.
I got homeless, lost access to my support system, hobbies, and friends, broke, jobless and lost my first time in love before we could have anything and just collapsed at home and had anxiety attacks and seizures for several months and I don't remember anything and all my ptsd came back.
I hate capitalism because it just took away my ability to live in the city around my friends, made my potential partner too busy and burned out to date and see me after waiting a year (and we wont be able to have anything good anymore because my breakdown cost me that) and made me have to go back home and be isolated and trapped unable to go anywhere, see any friends or earn any money to escape as it's in the countryside. I finally started to feel how my dad did and it scared me.
I was the smartest kid, I had so much potential, but I am just lying in my family home burned out and exhausted. I used to study many things, I was very very sociable, I would travel anywhere I wanted, I spoke several languages and I wrote and I just, I'm not that person anymore. I hope I can be again one day.
Socialism can be even crueler if you are not adapted to it. we are in the transition to socialism now, but a feudalistic type socialism. All the best, I feel at rock bottom myself, but wealth isn’t the issue.
that's not real socialism in my opinion
Don't stay in your bed. Get up and dance. Hum a song and smile the minute you wakeup in the morning. ❤
doing my best mate, thanks@@GrandMary
Transcendental Meditation,sending positive vibes
It's so good to see people working in labs and actually doing some real research that really matters !!! Great work DW for making this documentary . I wish politicians in my country also adopt such policies and pay attention to individual mental health, i would also like my friends and family to be more aware about the term resilience. I really liked this documentary, thank you.
I have done it. I have eliminated negative brain training. I run at 98% positive, monthly. I monitor it. You watch your thoughts, and when a negative one pops out, u say, brain eliminate that thought. U work at it. Now after years, it is rare for me to have negative thoughts.
When life's challenges face me, I say to myself, can it bite me, or has a plan not gone to plan. I have every comfort, my health is good.
Why let what happened yesterday, destroy my quality of life. Abolish living in one's mind trauma challenges from the past.
After years, my instinct has become astute, I see things happening before they do. The brain and body memory love positivity. Blessings.
I am a 31-year-old man, and this (along with support of all type) helped me understand that I'm not a weak man for having a mental health problem (psychosis-related). I thought I was a subhuman for being a psychiatric patient. Inner healing, including accepting me and self-compassion, helped me get through. Thanks to all comments; I've read a lot of resilient stories. Greetings from Argentina. 🥰
My condolences to Luka and Freddie's parents. Such a terrible loss because of some horrible teens. Some children are cruel from a young age and this is why you see bullies even in schools.
I was taught at a young age to stay away from kids who were nasty, jealous or cunning. As an adult, I can now say that I am thankful to my parents for always providing me this advice because I have met many nasty, jealous people and bullies not only in school but even as an adult and I have managed to stay away from such people somewhat successfully. They cause stress in life but after some bad experiences you learn to identify such people and ignore them.
People give a lot of importance to physical strength but mental strength is even more important and it needs to be developed at a young age to live a happy and healthy life.
The close-up slow motion video of the precious, adorable toddler as she interacts with her attentive and loving parents… waterworks 😭😭😭. Beautifully shot and edited footage that pulled every heart string.
Understanding WHO I am today because of genes that were damaged before I was even born, because my mother have always been a depressive person, it makes a lot of sense. Resilience is what save me from making the wrong choices. Thank you DW for the investigative report and to the scientists that continue to work with the brain and its "magical" abilities to heal itself.
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment!
I love the music they played in the end. It gave me a gentle and warm feeling, to memory those good days. My resilience.
It is also a question of what negative or positive means individually. In many cases what is negative for someone, can be a blessing for someone else.
Seeing DW documentary is a boost to our mental health too ❤
"mental health" is a weaponised psy-op.
Early childhood trauma robs you of the one thing that in my opinion is the strongest indicator of resilience: Connection, or the ability to habe deep relationships.
That’s when conventional therapy also fails. When every new attempt to form and keep connections fails, one becomes fearful and hopeless. And when one is hopeless, that’s when it is impossible to be resilient.
Agree. When you “can not grow into an adult”, handle your connection. You are mostly done.
Then "hope" is the answer 😊
Buy and read this book by Dr. Peter Levine: Waking The Tiger and start learning to regulate your nervous system. Also look into attachment theory and attachment styles. Do this, you wil go back 'online'
Prayer makes the soul strong. Knowing that there is someone who has your back in a difficult situation gives us strength to cope and this knowledge makes us more resilient
DW Documentary has produced a splendidly superb piece of a documentary on mental and mind resilience in the face of life's crises as well as trials and tribulations - a masterclass in its own right, tour de force!
What made me strong? The first family who made me feel like nobody (when I'm unemployed)I learned to love myself.🌱
As long as politicians, social media, "scientists" and basically anyone, keeps ignoring that we live in a sick, obsolete system nothing is ever going to change. We don't need to be "resilient". We need a new, more loving and peaceful way of living together.
Know you’re worth ✌🏻
It's gone far beyond repair for, actually, decades... and that's why it will be much less worse to embrace the unavoidable: AI absolutely replacing "humanity". 😊
It's not the enemy within.... It's the enemy without. We can manage our own mental health pretty well. But we can't control how other people treat us or circumstance that triggers PTSD. Flooding us with the oxidative stress....
It's a matter of learning how to regulate the sympathetic nervous system after you get slammed. Based on the studies that I've read, the people who do the best are those who have a support system. Also supplements and foods that mitigate oxidative stress such as liposomal, vitamin C, glutathione, omega-3, fatty acids, blueberries, green tea, hibiscus tea and a really big one which is watercress. They found in a study done on a broadcast on the BBC Network -that if you eat a generous amount of watercress before exercising The oxidative stress from exercise is mitigated.
You can find the study video on watercress on TH-cam.
So long as they think human beings are animals, like they put themselves in a dark room with an elephant, trying to figure out its form and nature.
"It's not the enemy within....It's the enemy without" Well said, thank you!@@princessbabibear4794
With the passing of my mother and the world looking more dark by the day, drawing closer to Jesus has been my life line. I can’t imagine going through this world without Him. What’s helped me draw closer to Him is dissecting the word; that means praying for the Holy Spirit’s understanding + breaking a verse apart like a detective + and then writing down how I’m going to use that Scripture in my day-to-day life + then actually do it. A channel called “We Are Jesus Doers” has been a huge help on my walk with Jesus. They literally have a ton of Bible studies and even homework. There’s quite a bit of studying involved, but I’m thankful to have found a place that’s so focused on Jesus and the Word of God.
One of the best documentaries about resilience and mental health. Thanks, DW Documentary for sharing this useful video with us. 🙂
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Everything in moderation. My dads words of wisdom.
may we all find the inner peace
You cannot have true inner peace without a relationship with Christ only false peace
@@gracenmercy579Gayyyy
@@gracenmercy579that is you’re opinion ✌🏻, I am doing great without him😳....... peace out ❤️✌🏻
How can you tell the difference? Is this like the difference between sleeping on a $500.00 spring mattress versus a $500.00 foam mattress? 🤔 @@gracenmercy579
Through meditation you may find way just give a try especially vipassana meditation or mindfulness
Resilience and stress level tolerances are as varied and unique as there are people.... I worry that this research will distract from our push to mold society to be less stressful. Although I can also see how it could help. We create our society... If people are getting sick? It's because we've built a society and way of life that makes people sick. I feel we need to fix society. Then people's lives will improve. "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." Not all forms of society are bad! There are some that are really beneficial. I hope the research also includes these comparisons.
Don't underestimate diet..microbiome produces chemistry needed to cope as well. No one perfect solution....my heart💔 goes out to all those struggling
it's a tough road but there will be good days. I promise❣️❣️❣️
I also think one of the key factor to stress resilience is the believe of God.. everything and anything happens to you is for your life to be better towards your journey to God, not one problems this life happens to you is without you can't handle it.. always remember and be humble
Yes. ✝️ Paul, the apostle said he learned to suffer need and to have abundance. And all things he can do through Christ who strengthens him. This is true for all of us that put our faith and trust in Christ Jesus.
I am stressed of not being promoted after spending 8 years on the Job with no benefits.
With 2 kids and increasing expenses it has started to take a toll on my mental health.
What's the name of the piece they were playing on violin?
Synonyms of resilience
1: the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress
2: an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change
Resilience Outside of Physics
In physics, resilience is the ability of an elastic material (such as rubber or animal tissue) to absorb energy (such as from a blow) and release that energy as it springs back to its original shape. The recovery that occurs in this phenomenon can be viewed as analogous to a person's ability to bounce back after a jarring setback. The word resilience derives from the present participle of the Latin verb resilire, meaning "to jump back" or "to recoil." The base of resilire is salire, a verb meaning "to leap" that also pops up in the etymologies of such sprightly words as sally and somersault.
It is really wonderful how much resilience there is in human nature. Let any obstructing cause, no matter what, be removed in any way, even by death, and we fly back to first principles of hope and enjoyment.
-Bram Stoker, Dracula, 1897
The rescue workers showed remarkable by resilience in dealing with the difficult conditions.
Cold temperatures caused the material to lose resilience
As mentioned above Resilience mode is Good and helps to gain back the Energy after Sudden Grief, but not necessarily might last long, because as per me being Harsh on your mind, on your brain on your heart during this Resilience mode can make a Human lose on Resilience, Cracking down a person into Depression, causing a long lasting serious Mental Disorder.
I went into Depression after experiencing 5 years of Resilience mode to overcome the Grief of my mother's sudden death in the year 2008 however later I experienced, Cracking down the Flexibility due to too much of Cold and Stiffness in mind, brain and Heart.
Thankyou for creating this very Very knowledge and helpful Documentary on Mental Health and Resilience.
I lost my son at 2 days old, i experienced pain and sadness i have never felt before my mum being there for me listening holding me even when i was suicidal helped me overcome
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Key factors for RESILIENCE:
1. Remembering the Successes
2. Trying not to judge experiences too negatively
3. Staying active despite adversity
Resilience is not a state of being, but rather a continuous process.
Our psyche is a complex mix of environmental influences, genes and our own ability to act.
Resilience is not about happiness, it's about living with all of life's grey areas, surviving crises without losing your mental health.
Saturday, 5 Oct 2024 (South Jakarta, Indonesia)
What an amazing documentary "Remember the successes" even the small ones. Really enjoyed this, very well done.
2011 I was a 16 year going on 17 year old. 2 major family deaths, was cheated on and broken up with by 2 boyfriends, abused by one of them in violent ways. To say as a 30 year old still coming to terms with it all, now living with 3 conditions caused by that stress I am still very broken in my head about it. The transition to adult world from being a school kid was scary enough I didn't need what happened to me to make it more scary. The fact I'm still here and alive still surprises me. Teenage me believing at the time I was weak and too sensitive because of a toxic group of friends telling me I was taking too long to grieve. Adult just turned 30 me thanks past me for the resilience she had and to tell her that our support network improved and that while not 'recovered' hope is still there.
We need to help support both the resilient and the not so resilient people. Pain and stress is still pain and stress no matter who is suffering.
I learned a lot about stress and resilience. Thank you DW.
The key for living a stress free life is to identify the source of stress this could also be your family member.
When you identify them get away from them physically and mentally.
💯 4 me it was my mother....
I first try to tell them honestly, if they don't want to hear it then I feel better leaving.
Life is not a movie. One cannot flee from every stressor.
Easier said than done.
I think the crucial question is, halfway through this documentary, is mental illness an innate inability to handle difficult circumstances?
Or are some circumstances so stressful that even the most mentally tough, innately, would fall prey?
Why stop there when there is another question to be asked. What causes an innate inability to handle difficult circumstances? I dont think I will win any prizes to suggest the core causes are rooted in early life trauma, either from narcissistic abusive parents, or well-meaning but emotionally unstable, dysfunctional parents.
Many people who suffered an emotionally traumatic childhood later in life develop conditions like adrenal fatigue, chronic anxiety, depression, high cortisol levels, and in very recent finding they are connecting auto-immune diseases to familial narcissistic abuse, because of the physical toll it takes to be resilient for so many years in the face of continuous abuse in a family system.
@@HeartFeltGesture Innate refers to inborn. The causes you mentioned are after birth.
I believe in the latter
@@karmaklutz A down's syndrome boy is born that way.
Likewise people are born with other mental diseases.
There are some people born blind too.
As long as politicians, social media, "scientists" and basically anyone, keeps ignoring that we live in a sick, obsolete system nothing is ever going to change. We don't need to be "resilient". We need a new, more loving and peaceful way of living together. It starts by accepting that our current system doesn't work anymore.
Thanks DW ! This is a good program to remind me that life isn't perfect (not only for me but for many other people). And yes I have the choice on how to live in it.
Thanks DW! Another excellent documentary. The political aspect was unexpected and interesting. The USA fails to mitigate stressful environments for pregnant women and children, much less the average citizen.
I think about all those children being raised by stressed parents working two jobs and still not making ends meet and how those children will cope as adults. The US is going to have some very messed up adults.
@@pippa212we are already there, I'm afraid
Couldn't agree more.
From my personal experiences, these helps:
1. Mix work you excel with work you find difficult. For example, I transferred my major from translation & interpreting to Computer science and CS is difficult. So now I’m a part time interpreter and full time developer.
2. Get some social interactions. My interpreter job allows me to talk to people for at least 1 hour a day.
3. Stress supplements such as Ashwagandha helps
About all negative things happens currently in the world. It's great to see something positive in regards of helping people with issues ❤
Pressure - when faced with it, some of us focus, and some of us fold. I think resilience is knowing how to free yourself when focusing, and how to forgive yourself when folding.
Deep!
It's our default predisposition to be self centered. Those who can achieve the paradigm shift of thinking beyond themselves and be perpetually grateful are those that are truly free and will know that things will come their way.
Such great insight into the workings of my adopted child. Born of teen mom in hard situation without prenatal care or support, possibly alcohol exposed as most 19 yo are. Now just come up with strategies to help parents in the early years to prevent the disasters that ensued for so many of us.
DW always produces great documentaries. Thank you. 😊
Right!👍🏽
I respect those who always shield against negative circumstances.😢
I have learned a lot from this documentary film. I found it when i badly need it, big thanks those who contributed . Feel gratitude and appreciation 🙏🙏
that was phenomenal，I was deeply touched as a traumatised person. I think you make a difference by producing this documentary. Keep it up！
I have a friend who is a fraternal twin, but both have very different levels of stress, and one is anxiously attached to parents and now their partners while the other is far less stressed and can achieve secure attachment in their relationships. So I think it’s more than just hormones and chemicals in utero.
How beautiful this Sting's tune is! He is a true genius.
I realized that I had dealt with severe stress, combined with depression, anxiety and more, I need to do a research on that. But after taking a break off everything, like school, work and more studying, people that pressured me before about "adult life" doesn't bother me anymore because I now know what I WANT to do not what THEY WANT me to do. It was an exhausting and tough journey, and realizing it now, gave me the chills because I realized before that I just had this social anxiety that was lingering inside of me that's why I isolated myself and never talked to anyone, plus, I was also very insecure, I would put on upbeat music while walking to school and feel the most confident person in there, chest back, chin up and everything but once anyone tries to talk to me, id have to take my earphones down and shake, then stumbles on my words, stuttering and struggling with talking to people because I had looked down on myself too much, I learned that just talking to them and having a conversation with people is very normal and a thing that people should not be scared of doing.
“.....he will make you firm, he will make strong, he will firmly ground you.” 1Peter 5: 10
This episode is so amazing for people having Anxiety disorder like me! Very motivating!❤❤❤. Thanks everyone!🎉🎉🎉
The last minute of the documentary made me emotional. Thank you.
Joy is inside you, not outside and we are only spirits. I struggle with depression and anxiety and I have started to meditate on that every day. Meditation is freedom from my own negative thoughts, hoping that with practice, that peace can be extended throughout the day.
"love yourself a lot". Wayne Dyer. Effective feelings of self worth are habits. Bad habits can changed and good habits can be made by pateince and persistance.
We here in India have a lot to work to just get aware of mental illeness. People ridicule, joke or perceive weak, mentally ill or depressed or stressed people. Boris Cyrulnik also is very correct, it is also political issue, politicians here in India, add to stress level on everyday basis instead acknowledging and working towards it. And That is dangerous for Indian society.
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Same for African countries. Politicians don't care about the burdens they put on their own people.
You also have a caste system
@@TheSunIsMyDestroyer Caste system is root or base of Hindu religion. Classes exist in all societies and not just in India, but the difference is Hindu social order is like a Building without staircase, you can not go up/down the social order. It is the longest survival system of rigid stratification in the world, and worse form of Discrimination, worse than Racism. Untouchability, inequality, exploitation are the evils prevailed due to this system.
@kamblegaurav sounds like some women's lives in Marin, Ca Usa
What helped me cope with destabilizing experiences: exercise, enough sleep, meditation, support group, reading, journal writing, friends.....
Completely agree 💯 waking up very early helped to make sure I could fall asleep at night. With that extra time in the morning, I exercise and meditate and pray before I begin work.
The same, together with swimming and a third language learning.. it's quite healthy to keep a brain busy..
Know yourself. Take MBTI personality test. Find out what your attachment style is. By doing this, you will know your strengths and weakness....both need tending.
Regular exercise, eating right, Journaling, meditation, breathing techniques (for instant relief), ...big one: gratitude.
I think having a few healthy relationships can really help. The society we live in overemphasizes individualism and the perception that work is all that defines a person. It leads people to believe they can get through life like an island. There's communities that live in the harshest environments possible. But because they are surrounded by cultures that value a sense of community they endure difficulty that could crush anyone. Having a support group, friends or family that you can reach out to when you can't pick yourself up is crucial in dealing with life's challenges. I've noticed that people who seem to meet challenges with ease have a healthy social network that's real, not social media friends. And they engage in social activities outside of work that fulfill them.