HE CAME, HE SAW AND HE HATED IT/WHAT HE DID WRONG
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- STORY OF JIMMY'S MOVE TO THE PHILIPPINES AND HIS RETURN TO USA/@
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I moved here sight unseen. I had travelled to many countries, often staying 3 to 6 months. I knew myself and my adaptability to new cultures. It’s been 10 months, I love it. I don’t have a girl, don’t want one. I have actually been very successful with women throughout my life, and throughout the world. Filipinas often inquire about my marital status. Peace, quiet, and freedom are my priorities now. So far, so good.
dude, of course they wanna know your marital status quickly, christian country , marriage before sex according to the bible many aspire for.
Refreshing to hear that, Gerry. So many expats seem to get into trouble because of filipina women (not that I blame the filipinas). I plan to do the same as you from November, also having had experience of foreign cultures.
Refreshing to hear that, Gerry. So many expats seem to get into trouble because of filipina women (not that I blame the filipinas). I plan to do the same as you from November, also having had experience of foreign cultures.
I don’t understand how mature older men can travel around the world to a new country for a woman! Have they learned nothing in life?
@@kevingallen1678yes we have and it's usually the mentality of the Western women, because my Filipina friend over here in the States and told me Tim leave these crazy American women alone find a good loving Filipina and I have.
I jumped in without visiting the Philippines just like James. I got lucky with a Fantastic woman and although I don’t like some of the same things James complains about none are deal breakers. I’ve been lucky with my newly wed wife. I live in the province and now I’m liquidating my assets in the USA after being here in the Philippines for a year and a half. I’m in the province too and man I miss cheese lol but it’s fine my wife is a great cook. My son was born two months ago and I’m just so happy
happy it worked out for you Ronald
Congratulations I will say this when I was over Philippines eating their food that my girl cooked for me and family I had no problems in the bathroom area I'll just say.. but since I've been back eating American food is like crap going through a goose😂😂
You dodged a bullet bro. Thank your lucky stars.
I feel for you with the cheese! I miss Tillamook cheese 🧀!
i love stories like this. 💪
He could have simply visited for 30 days first to find out in Real time the things he would not like about the Philippines. The Philippines experience is different than just watching videos of guys in the Philippines. I visited 9 times before retiring in the Philippines. Good story to share to others thinking about coming to the Philippines.
thank you for your comment
I've been there before and still would make a 30-day trial visit... and I don't plan to live there. I'd want to bring a woman back. She could visit the Pinas any time. I might go with her, I might n ot.
A lot of TH-camrs say they love the Philippines,their provincial home, the people the food, etc . Viewers get caught up with their success stories and find out it doesn't work for them. There's nothing wrong with that. Some retirees love retiring in Thailand viet nam south America or the USA. As long as they are happy who cares?
Ive been to pi many times 6months or more intotal.(I lived in asia 5 or 6 years. I got divorced, worked hard to retire at 47 and i did. why am I not there? Because its a shit hole. Im honest. I live in a wealthy neighborhood, clean safe got 3 cars good foods great medical yes i rent a 1 bedroom so what. san jose has great weather compared to pi. I got super fast internet massive cable tv(300 a month) medical is great saved my life, medications too. I got hobbies lots of.. I married a fillipina from caloocan 18 years ago. she makes a great living. She doesnt want to move back. Like driving and freedoms safety NO FLYING COCKROACHES great paying job. she makes more then her sisters a banker and doctor in one day then they do in a month in phillipeans. Call me spoiled but i like my life. renting is freedom(after 12 homes) I havent moved there because its negatives are too many. Medical sucks id be dead if i was there. I like quiet, you aint getting that there. Or the traffic jams smells super high heat and humidity. We amassed millions I like never worrying about bills and monies. I guess if i were poor living hand to mouth it would be different ss only america sucks. It aint great in pi either. Been to Pats homes a few times. He was very happy but I was not except for the bar fun which i no longer do. Take that out and whatever.. Yes Ilove the pi but for reasons i no longer wish to engage in.. I demand a higher life style. unless in makati or the new areas, thats me but still medical. enjoy life I sure have. and so should you. But realize pradice has its downfalls..
In my opinion no one lost. He and she had a relationship that didn’t work (for whatever reason). Relationships that don’t work are totally normal and happen every day in every country. He won because he didn’t marry her, didn’t get her pregnant, and he didn’t end up in foreign prison for domestic abuse (or whatever). He went home free and clear and…a lot wiser. She endured a broken relationship but she is now wiser also. Plus, the sale of the stuff should ease her pain a great deal. She probably had nothing before she met him. They both won from the experience.
Really, who sells everything and blindly ships off thinking they are doing the right thing?
How could the relationship work with a retiree who started behaving like a crybaby from day one !?
In life, you learn by rising to the challenge not by cutting and running. This man is not going to reflect on the predicament and meet the next challenge in life wiser and stronger, he is simply going to retreat into his old comfort zone, thinking that he triumphed over the vagaries of life and outsmarted a vulnerable woman that was not good enough for him, then vegetate for the rest of his sad life...
I am in complete agreement with your assessment!!!
He could have loss a hell of a lot more than that.
I know a couple of guys who lost their ass in moving to South East Asia.
He needs to chalk this up as an experience and move on with his life.
@@dumaguetedreaming Sounds like something I would do, that's the adventure of it all. I understand most people are "safer" than that.
I've lived in the US, Europe, and now Philippines. I'm a desert boy, having grown up in Las Vegas, and I'm not a fan of humidity. But my girlfriend is here and I want to be with her so I've modified my mindset so I can be happy despite the differences and frustrations. Great advice - "there is no perfect life, you can only choose to make the life you have, perfect".
not a mistake in my book and sounds like a reasonable outcome. he took a leap of faith and learned that it wasn't for him. this is much better than living a life of would have, could have, should have. i hope he can eventually find his happiness. thanks for sharing!
Well stated
I had been an expat working overseas since 2007. I first started going to the Philippines in 2009. I would visit every two months. In 2011, I started renting a place there. Still visiting every two months, while working in different countries. Hell, I would go around every month when I lived in Taiwan (only 1 1/2 hour flight). I stopped working and moved there full time until 2015. Didn't sell my house in the states until 2017. No way should anyone move to a country (for retirement), and sell everything in their home country, without knowing they are going to like the new country.
Based on the video, he didn't dislike the Philippines, so much as he disliked province living. The things he said he didn't like, would not have been an issue (or less of one) in a different city in the Philippines. Hell, from the sound of it, he would have been happy in Dumaguete. I don't think Jimmy was the sharpest knife in the drawer.
He did not like philippines thing mention on this video is philippines no matter were you go some area have bigger malls but basic the same noise food heat etc moutains are cooler wander how many earthquakes he see there is a lot of negative about philippines you have to put up with adjust to them or you will hate it
@@garrylafferty100 No, the things he mentioned are not the same no matter where you are in the Philippines. Hell, if he had moved to BGC, he wouldn't have had any of those complaints he was making.
i feel sorry for him....😂😂😂😂😂
@@sgtm7Agreed. Traffic is not an issue in BGC. American food is easy to find. Still hot though!
@@stephendunn2860 I don't consider the Philippines "hot", but only "warm". I understand that it might be hot to people who are only used to cold places.
The three biggest mistakes I have seen westerners make over the years are, No 1. Meeting a girl online, selling everything and moving to her province, realizing they hate it for various reasons...then moving back to their home country not even considering a change of location. No 2. Being financially reckless by throwing caution to the wind. I think of 500 peso as $500.00 dollars rather than looking at 500 pesos as only being $10.00 dollars. I hear guys saying, "Oh its only $10.00 dollars." Well, say that enough times in a day and before you realize it, you have spent $100.00 dollars. Going broke in the Philippines is easier to accomplish than most realize. No 3. Not being financially prepared for medical emergencies and/or complications. No matter your age, something catastrophic is going to eventually happen whether it be a motorbike accident...which happens quite often. Or some type of serious illness.
I agree with you on the money
Wrong. I’m wealthy and have the hottest GF from online that I will marry. No expat has a girl that is half as beautiful. Know your limits. Don’t come with less than $6000 US a month
@@Midwest10LMFAO!😂
😂👍🏾
@@Midwest10 I do well on half that. But don't save much. Working on that when she get an income. For now just letting her know what it feels I've to be loved and human. Not a machine or provider or caretaker. She's the oldest of 4. We know what that means in
Philippines.
I understand the frustrations that some people have when they move to a different country, or even city. I grew up poor in the USA, but after a career in the military I had moved past that part of my life. I married a Filipina here in the States and have visited the Philippines multiple times over the years. I think growing up poor, and the many moves I made in the military have given me the ability to adapt to other cultures and I plan to retire there in a few years. Someone who has only ever lived in a particular situation might have a harder time adapting. If you lived in Iowa your whole life and then moved to New York City, or the other way around, you would have a hard time adapting. Add the language, food, climate and cultural differences can make it even harder. No place is paradise until you decide that it is.
Thank you for sharing
No place is paradise until you decide it is......I am going to steal that line
Exactly.. no place is paradise until you say it is..👍
Yes! “No place is paradise until you decide that it is”. Very well said! Everything IS in the mind. If you think something IS, it IS.
I lived in the Philippines for six years. I loved beautiful women, and as a white person could have all I could handle and more, thus the place was a paradise for me, outweighing all of the many, many hardships and disadvantages. The guy in the story could have lived in Manila, which is so huge, packed with humanity, and sprawling that he could have had four beautiful girlfriends at one time, changing them out monthly.
@@Fat_Old_Bald yeah, I was thinking that too
Mike, I'm about three years out from Retirement... I'm leaving California, going to establish Domicile in Oregon at my Son's place... & go on a LONG Vacation. I've picked out over TEN places in the Philippines to spend a week or more. If I find a place [or TWO!] that suits, I'll NEVER leave. I won't even look for companionship until I KNOW my situation is stable.
thank you for sharing Ted
Well Done Ted. Way to FLEX UP 💪 love it!
I like the Phillippines, but I miss the United States after 5-6 months. Family, friends, and lifestyle. Your right. He was cheap and paid a hefty price, not visiting the Philippines before selling all his stuff in the States.
should always put boots on the ground first b4 moving
Miss the U S I don’t once a year to visit my mother is enough for me.
I understand he doesn’t like Philippines . US of the America can spoil you. My caucasian hubby does not like Philippines. I myself a Filipina is spoiled. Lol! I’ll just go to the Philippines for vacay not to live there. Too much hassle there. 😂😜🥲
I know a Filipinas who deosn't like the US too, she said she miss talking to her neighbors and go to the market everyday for fresh fish and veges which you cant do in the US she is a friend of mine who got a fiancee visa, she left the US before her visa expired because she felt in prison she said always in the house, while her fiancee is at work. she complains too cold during the winter she was crying to me she said whe wants to go back to the Phil. and she did her fiancee took her to the airport. A mom of my friend is the same doesn't want to live here in the US, so go figure.
Filipinas are mostly miserable living outside the Philippines. I know this first-hand experience from two Filipinas I brought to U.S. and Latin America. Also many men married to pinay tell me the same. It is a huge sacrifice for them to stay in the U.S.. If they find other Filipino friends they can learn to cope, but barely. They are always homesick.
You can bring a Filipina out of the Philippines, but you can not take the Philippines out of the Filipina. That is an old aphorism from the 1990s. Still true.
If you want to marry a Filipina, be prepared to live in the Philippines which will mostly suck from my perspective. If you like a sultry/rainy climate (e.g. Florida in the summer), noisy neighbors and congestion in the roads, then Philippines might work for you.
Also you never marry just the Filipina. You marry all her family including her 3rd cousins, uncles, aunties, etc.. Any of them can ask your pinay to ask you for money. She will feel ashamed if she does not get the money from you.
You become an ATM machine. This is the reality of it.
Americans do not understand the clan culture. We are too far removed from small tribes to understand. We have tribes but they are more in terms of what we identify with, e.g. which football team, which politics, etc.. Filipinos are tribal in the original way of being so.
If you have a very unique Filipina, who respects you intensely and is not too close with her extended family, after some years, she might start being more protective of you and herself about money. But she will still want to give to those who she is closest to in her family. I have a pinay now, who feels it is important to support the education of her younger siblings, and their children, as well take care of her mother. That is about the best you will find there. You can find much worse usually.
She did not like to live in the United States because most foods are artificial, seafood is 90% farm-raised, people hide inside their houses or apartments watching football, and they are afraid to talk to each other. then there are shootings everywhere.
Have traveled the World extensively…. Through the military and as a DOD contractor (since retired). What I’ve witnessed is a majority of these Expats, are lonely , let their guard down and settle for the first Filipino that shows them any kind of interest/attention. Peace ✌️
Thank you for sharing
yes, but why is this the case ,
I don't find the women great,
small, weak, skinny, no breast ,
face often medium
to me they look like children, I rather rave for African women
@@christofotto2499good to know Chris
Azzz for every seat…… 😁
If you want to move and live in the Philippines, you MUST love the country before you love a girl. It takes several months to get to know the basics of their culture and to travel to different islands/cities. Rushing in is NEVER a good idea for people who love the American way of life. Thanks for sharing, Mike.
@gary Same words!
American comfort is American comfort wherever you are and it's not cheap wherever you are.
And you will have to love and support her family as well and who ever else she brings around!
@@highwaystar8310 as a filipina its okay not to support the family as long as you recognize their presence when family comes / visit. Respect is very important in any ways.
Financial support is just a bonus.
Not required.
@@lynne14344 Maybe love (for family) is just as important.
When I talk about the Philippines, it's always with a warning. It's not for everyone. It's a developing country. With real issues. I am surprised he wouldn't take a trip first. I feel sorry for the girl. She had so many hopes and dreams.
yes the girl had the hard part
It depends a great deal as well on where you choose to live. If it’s down south in a province with bare bones accommodations and lifestyle, be ready to rough it out and adapt. If it’s the same or higher level lifestyle as the one you have in the US that you seek, it’s gonna cost you, but it’s gonna be better than your US lifestyle. Don’t ever go down to her lifestyle level if she’s from a province, unless she’s a doctor in her province. Otherwise you must lift her up to your level. My US lifestyle required that I live in a P20M condo in a first tier city, and I’m loving it. Way better than my US life for the same cost.
Most people are NOT using the brain and common anymore that's the biggest problem. As simple as that.
@jellymadrigal5879 Never lift up the girl to your level for any reason that's insane. If you leave, leave her as she was. You will create a monster otherwise.
@@patrickmunneke8348 food for thought.
Damn I was Lucky! I spoke to my Wife for 5 years online before I came here to meet her.
FIRST Holiday I had taken in 52 years! I stayed a week in the Paranaque Slums, then Manila, then Cebu and finally Dumaguete.
I came here nd Married her during the 6 weeks I was here, and went back home, packed up and sold up and came back almost a year later and have lived happily here for Ten Years now.
Good on you,,my husband loves the Phil's,,too
Great to hear a positive story,thanks!
If you really want to escape the things that harass you, what you need is not to be in a different place but to become another person.
If the American life is so great why are so many people looking for other places to live?
I'm blessed to be married to a Cebuana. I fell in love with Cebu, my first trip back in 2016. I've got two years to go before retirement, and we will move there permanently from Illinois. Fortunately, my wife already has a house in the province, so we are all set. Great video!
That's awesome!
Mike, one thing no one seems to talk about is time.
In America we work, we have many task to keep us busy all the time.
Im 58 and i retired at 52 but retired from trucking industry as i will never retire from making money.
I notice the many free hours i had in a day and it can become a burden after a while.
What i see is people retiring in the Phils without anything to do.
I am planning to plant veggies as fruits grows everywhere, i also workout, i can build houses, repair Harley motorcycles.
Men need to keep busy and stay away from alcohol, and low life expats in bars.
Your Philly life could be a blessing..
He should have watched more videos of how life is in the Philippines. That what I did and said, NO THANK YOU, I'm moving to Mexico and I did and I Love it. End of story. Thank Lord or God that we are all different.
You are absolutely right. One should get to know the Philippines before making such decisions. Greetings from Davao
hello Davao
Smart man, got out before he got in too deep. It happens, change is not for everyone.
Been here for a little over 8yrs. Before coming I did my homework and dug up everything about the Philippines before coming here. Culture,lifestyle, living, people, typography, and location. I even met my wife online. It's doable if you take your time and do your homework before taking that leap. Hope he finds his happiness.
Maybe give Mike your “formula” of how to do it the “right way” for a success story.
In my time, after you graduated and start working in your profession, the first they told me "don't think you know anything, you still have to learn how it's done in practice".
In my opinion, the same applies to moving to another country, another culture.
Taking my time and then making a commitment worked for me.
You can't feel the stifling heat or smell the air "online."
This is the same game plan when you want to move anywhere, even in your own country.
Make several visits, check everything out, then decide.
This man would have been better off to live in BGC or Makati. That’s about as western as you can get.
As far as the weather in the Philippines,
If you’re not into the tropics or beaches, too bad for you.
The Philippines, in my opinion is just beautiful!
Thank you for sharing
I have lived in the Philippines for 19 years and love it here. I occasionally meet foreigners who have retired and moved here who do nothing but complain. Now there are a lot of things that are different here but the country isn't going to change for anyone, you have to do the adjusting to the different driving, culture, noise, food, cost, etc. It is not hard to pick out who will not end up staying here permanently.
So any advice to a Floridian wanting to move there and retire?
I traveled all over the Philippines for the first six months I was here and liked Panglao, Bohol the best. Friendly locals, lots of foreigners to interact with, nice beaches, and loads of good restaurants and bars to go to. Everybody has different tastes though. I stayed in the southern side of the country because as a general rule the weather is better. @@Jonahstrials
@@Jonahstrialsyou tired with huricane and property insurance FL
I'm a Filipina and I'm so blessed to have married a British man, and I'm sure he too. God bless you both.,🙏
I liked for a Filipina, they all wanted money. I realised they all want American and my LDR was only using me for Gcash
He should have stayed in BGC or Makati cuz there’s American food over there. Condos are good and it’s a nice place for foreigners but a bit pricey.
Same here
@@hardythingh4510of course they want your money most old white man want married teens should be his grand daughter or daughter..thats not real love for that
I'm British and I am discovering my Filipina has a real gratitude problem, she is not poor but it seems she will never be grateful for what she has, shame.
Great video Mike thanks for sharing this. Grace was perfect. Too bad. James wasn’t. It’s sad to hear stories like this, especially when it hurts a Filipina. I watched a TH-cam video where a foreigner moved his girl and daughter from Dumaguete to Palawan. He went back to his home country for a visit and then broke up with the her from there leaving her and her daughter alone. Words can’t describe how I felt. Foreigners give foreigners a bad name. Whatever happened to personal responsibility, commitment, love? Oh well. Take care.
I was stunned that Jimmy did not visit here first. The cost of a couple thousand dollars would have been money well spent before committing but Jimmy really did not know himself very well. Very good lesson for all newcomers, thanks for sharing Mike.
My thoughts exactly
Another volger Joe Gilbert is about 8 months into his migration to the Philippines, but he took a totally different course.
No girl until he decides where he will want to live.
He took a one year lease in BGC to become accustom to the Philippines
He has the embassy and every government office close by to make arrangements
St Luke’s hospital for medical assessment
Now each couple of weeks he ventures out for day trips to look at other areas to make a permanent move to
I believe this is a better way than the story you related
Just because you don’t like one area or even one region of the Philippines there are 7000 islands to pick from and city or province.
I hated Manila hate Cebu hated rural province life but love Subic Bay. All of these choices are in the Philippines
What do you hate about Cebu, and like about Subic Bay? Curious.
@@d.f.9064I’m a married guy moving with my Filipina wife so my situation is not like the guy coming looking for love. Cebu to me the traffic was as bad as Manila just on a slightly smaller scale. Next to impossible to find open public beaches in Cebu unless you go to some resort.
Although the beaches in Subic are not great you only have to drive a hour to see beautiful beaches. In SBMA there are real traffic police and traffic laws that you have to obey. SBMA is like a little slice of America. Also fantastic restaurants all over Subic
Maybe not for everyone that was my point as an expat you need to find your happy place in the Philippines 7000 islands to pick from
That’s the way to go. Stay in an area where it’s close to all your western needs and accustomed to. Then take trips around different areas to find your spot. We chose Laguna which is close enough to Manila for the good hospitals and shops. Also a shorter drive to Batangas beaches. It’s not congested (not yet anyway) and an easy commute to Tagaytay for the pleasant weather. Santa Rosa is up and coming with all the new establishments in Nuvali. Many good places to go to in the Philippines if you want access to your western needs.
@@airlinename2614 could not agree more!
@@AtHomeinSubicBay-cw4ij
Cebu is unwalkable too .. that's what i disliked about it .. Manila is far more walkable at least
A very cautionary tale. Such wise thoughts and an observation from yourself rather than judging or preaching. Thank you.
This is exactly the kind of video I've been wishing more youtubers would make. 90+% of every guy considering the Philippines would actually hate it with a passion. The disasters like this one are countless and mostly unreported.
thanks for watching and the comment
It mind boggles me why Americans look for YOUNG women in Asia! I know of Some Americans who go to Asia, marry women there, a few years later, they come to the US, become bored intellectually, decide to find other Asian women who are educated, wanting them to be their mistresses. Hahahaha! Unbelievable! One American was criticizing one American who married a 19 year old and the American was about 43 years old. A few years later, the critic went to Asia, married a teenager, same with the person he criticized, and he’s probably 40 years older than the person. They have been married, but back in America, he wanted to get back to his former gf, denying his wife and kids exist. My gosh!!! I knew more than just 2 or 3 of these men. Because they failed, they made u bad stories about these women, too. Therefore, find women in your community, your localities, At your churches, in your states. What’s your purpose to go to the Philippines? To Thailand? To Vietnam? To Indonesia? Why are you not trying to look in the US? What’s wrong with American women in your eyes, in your mind? There are many American women who are great! What is your problem with them? Because they are not potential domestic helpers? Caregivers in your old age? Because there are not many American women who are willing to marry men 10.20,30,40,50,60 years older than them? You have to analyze your purpose, too, as to why you are willing to marry young women in Asia, spending all US dollars willingly and then marrying them and then to find out that they are not willing to live their entire youth taking care of older men with many or few medical problems already. And in the US, their eyes are opened to the realization, too, about what have they done, they have freedom, they can work, they fall in love with people close to their ages, etc. what I am saying is, analyze your purpose of traveling thousands of miles to a poor country, you’re willing to marry young women for what, that you haven’t even dated formally and have not met your American friends who may be able to give good feedbacks about the girls/young women. Are you looking for a true romantic love? Start with your own localities, your own communities, your own cultures, women in churches, schools, colleges. I have seen many Asian women in the USA who have successfully married Americans, many met in colleges. There’s a young couple, Cambodian woman, came to the US at 6 years old, mother is Cambodian, working full time, the little girl grew up, just graduated college in the USA, has a wonderful young American boyfriend, white race, he loves her entire family, they are a great couple, he is planning on proposing to her in February, a romantic month. The other thing I want to ask is why close yourself to dating American women your age? There are so many of them who are wonderful, if treated wonderfully, not as potential domestic/sex/caregivers, but equal as human beings deserving of true love and respect, too. Before you sell your house and move to the Philippines or Thailand or Cambodia, make sure you already know the culture, instead of having the preconceived notions that it’s cheap to live there, easy to find a teenager, a 20 something woman, just by the click of the button on your computer keyboard. Geez!!!
Even the picture says a lot about generational gaps.
Don’t delete my other comments…
My suggestion to avoid this is to visit many countries before deciding where to settle. I loved Colombia but didn't speak Spanish. Vietnam was beautiful but there are many cheaters and scammers. Thailand is not what it was 10 years ago and I didn't like the changes. After 19 months and 9 countries, I settled on Mactan Island in the Philippines. You will find a new home too.
Good Story Mike !!! Not every-one likes the Philippines , No big deal , he dropped 20 K , no big deal !!! He was smart enough to cut his losses !!! Life goes on !!!! too bad there is collateral damage !!! Sometimes chicken , sometimes Feathers !!! Keep up the good video's , Thanks
thank you for the comment George
Dan of Vagabond Awake had a Move Abroad Course that I followed exactly. It covers everything. One thing he said is don’t sell your home. Dan also highly recommends take exploratory tripS! The playbook is laid out by him, Reekay, Fly me to the Phillipines and many others. It’s a huge move in one’s life. I have Also witnessed others do what James did many times and that’s a teacher to me for what not to do. Moving abroad can be a huge adventure or a nightmare. It helps to be connected to vloggers that don’t embellish and spin things for views as some do. Build relationships with some vloggers I would suggest and stay away from negative expats. Dan of Vagabond Awake talks about the 4 emotional stages of moving abroad. That is also very helpful to understand what to expect and how to minimize the hard parts emotionally. Ever since I was young I always had older mentors. It’s good to establish people to trust before we go there to talk things through. I have my list of 6 people that responsibly post videos on TH-cam
I like Dans Videos
Wow...
Lessons:
1. Take it slow
2. Don't be Penny wise and pound foolish.
good advice taking it slow
That guy didn't go to the Philippines to check it out before he moved there that the dumbest mistake that you can make. I feel for the women who got her heart broken by this loser.
yes not fair to the girl
I went there in 2010 while in the navy and had a decent time. So, in April or 2021 I went back with the intention of staying. I met a nice girl but had a horrible time. I left a little over a year of being there. Traveled all over the country and couldn’t seem to gel with Filipinos. A lot of the Philippines has so many problems that it’s just too much for me and I left. It’s a culmination of too many negatives.
Going there first doesn’t always work.
Well I know I would really dislike living there. I love the sun and heat,, but all year round? No way. I wouldn't like the food either or the lack of road rules or the stray dogs. I live in Florida, so I have my sun and surf and English speakers, but come winter we do get a nice break from the heat.
Suffice to say I know all this, so will never live in the Philippines. I do enjoy the videos from there, always very entertaining. This guy is not a loser imo, just someone who may have gone there for all the wrong reasons.
@@mikesphilippineretirementyes I agree to a point Mike. His girlfriend should have also been discouraging him from selling everything before the big move. She participated in the train wreck. No matter how long the online relationship has been going on, the relationship starts on day 1 getting off the plane. Go get some pizza on day 1 and see if there’s even going to be a 2nd date.
people do that all that time, expats should always spend time visiting the place they want to settle in before doing it
He probably had a lower interest rate on his mortgage and now if he decides to buy a house again he's facing a substantial interest rate increase. Rents are not cheap anymore so I wish him luck starting over. You and others have laid out practically everything to expect moving there so unless he wasn't watching there should not have been many surprises. Spending money on a trip to check things out first is a small price to pay compared to having to start over from scratch.🏝️
we all wish them luck Him and Grace also
I’m currently visiting my home my Filipina and I built here in the Philippines back in 2020. This is my 4th trip here. I always tell people, “You’re either gunna love it or hate it. There’s no in between.” 😅 And I love it 🥰. Each visit is a learning experience that I take mental notes of while I’m here… things I need to change in myself, my diet, what occupies my time, etc. etc. I plan to retire here within the next 2-3 years and I hope to have everything set up here that I will need before I make that final move.
What happens if she dumps you for someone else before you retire? Maybe she is just enjoying the money you send her and the house you built her? Filipinas are good at telling you what you want to hear. I bet she has a man with her when you are in the states, she probably tells you that it’s her cousin. Men like you are easy targets and believe that you have the one in a million Filipina. You are there to bump her lifestyle, that is what she wants you for, nothing else. Stop sending her money, try selling the house, see how she turns on you quickly lol
Ausländer können kein Haus besitze in den Philippinen .Krankenversicherungen gibt es keine für Ausländer ,also braucht es eine Internationale Versicherung ,wo sehr Teuer ist ,ab 70 Jahren sind Menschen Ausgeschlossen ,im Ausland für Kranken Unfall Versicherung .Also braucht es für eine Auswanderung viel Bargeld ,da beim jedem Spitalaufenthalt Bar bezahlt wird .Lebe schon seit 24 Jahren in den Philippinen 42 x Europa Philippinen .
@@Deltadawgall are true 🎉🎉not marriage not buy owns car motor only rent ,so you are the Master ❤no Respect 🦶 out
I totally agree with you, it's either you love it or hate it. No in betweens. Visit us during the summer and the wet season so you experience first hand how it is here and then give it a lot of thought if WE are what you want . One or two visits isn't enough you have to make a lot of trips to truly appreciate us just like in dating. As much as possible mingle with people of different social status so you get exposed to different views and opinions. But most of all be honest in dealing with US and learn to adjust. As the saying goes," when in Rome, do as the Romans do" and you'll never go wrong.
@@Deltadawg Well said, I say this all the time. You see and hear this all the time lonely old white men meeting these asian women spending all their money on them building houses for them etc etc. Silly old fools 😂😂
Hey Mike, sounds like James did everything the wrong way! I can’t imagine just picking up and moving somewhere without making a few trips to check out the area. I would do this in the US as well not every American city is one where I want to live; great story, lots of lessons.
Glad you enjoyed the video Andy
This story is good lesson, thanks for sharing. If you come from developed country into developing country it’s very hard to to get used to it, because developing country is chaotic. Philippine is hot all year round, lots of bugs and mosquitoes also for western people, if you don’t like Asian food , I can imagine it’s hard to live.
Is US developing country?
Hi, I just found your channel and watched a couple videos. My Filipina wife passed away during covid, and I'm having a heck of a time trying to find another good woman from the Philippines. I love it there, and am planning to return again soon. I've been all over Asia, and to the Philippines twice so far. Great, honest and informative videos. I really like your channel.
Some people don’t think ahead or do their due diligence 🤷♂️. Big lesson to learn.
I choose not to live full time in the Phils, I did spend a year in Makati in 07/08 and I did love it but I realised I would miss uk summers too much. For the past 15 years I just spend 3 months there each year to avoid UK winters 👍
Thank you for sharing
UK winter= Depression , why would some live in freezing cold, cloudy London?
You would not believe how many times Ive done the same thing, bought 4 different houses, and moved back home 6 times with nothing but my backpack........ got accommodation , job and vehicle again and did the same thing over again. DO NOT be afraid to do that..........its ONLY fear that stops you. I DONT regret one thing! .....its called living a life............try it sometime.
Amen dude!
You hit it right on the head Mike. That was very intelligent and smart commentary about moving to the Philippines. You make a lot of sense.
Another good one Mike, Did he not watch the 100’s of videos clearly saying don’t sell everything and do a recon visit first. Hope it works out for him in the end. What a tough lesson.
I feel bad for her not only will she lose face but being walked out on can cause long time trauma.
great point about her trauma
I'm retired Navy. Not liking where I was stationed was NOT an option as far as the Navy was concerned so I always found a way to adapt.
😉😉😉
I wish these people would stop this sexual tourism. Fine to seek a good life. But your actions affect real people. Now this poor woman's life has been impacted.
I see on "every man has a story" that a woman was just murdered in Dumaguete, Philippines in broad daylight. A man asked for money from a Filipino woman and she just kept walking. He ran up behind her and stabbed her in the back of the neck and she died on the way to the hospital. Everyone else on the street called the police and arrested the man. Be safe Mike.
yes we saw that. Thank you we will be safe as we can
i seen a documentary lately about hitmen killing targets there for a couple of hundred dollars ... come up beside people or on a motorcykle & shoot them dead ... imagine having married ,bought a house & everything (in the wifes name) then getting bumped off ....
I heard it was a Filipino guy on drugs. That the woman did give him some money but apparently not enough. I heard she was a Filipina carrying bags of groceries.
@@mikesphilippineretirement Mike can you confirm if this happened during c o v i d? I heard someone on a video not about the PHP say that during the pandemic if you were caught on the streets without the cvax you would be arrested and put in jail. True or?
It's his issue, his life. Good story to share to others thinking about coming to the Philippines. Great video!
I would say the language and the culture will be the biggest obstacle for many people. Nobody lives on "love" alone.
The Philippines has driven me crazy ahain and again yet I keep coming back. There is a magnetic pull of the place, the islands, the women, the adventure
Beyond making some good decisions, there is a certain level of maturity that is needed to be successful in a new culture. James clearly lacked that maturity. While listening to Mike recount how James didn't like X,Y, and Z, I said to myself that I bet James was also having increasing problems with his girlfriend too...and sure enough, about 1 minute later in the story Mike tells us that the couple began having many arguments. James needed to have everything the way he wanted it, and if it didn't turn out that way then the people around him would have to deal with his displeasure. I feel bad for the girlfriend as I am sure being with a foreigner was life-changing for her. But in a way weird way I think she dodged a bullet as she would have been living with a negative person day after day and hour after hour for the rest of her life.
I think there are a lot of men who worked hard all their lives but never had the money to explore new environments (not even different cities in their own country). They retire and then decide to make some grand move away from everything they know, but are mentally and emotionally ill-prepared for the journey.
Thanks for your insight
You nailed it!
many americans have never been out of their country and expect the world to be like the usa. I've been to 50 countries and lived in 7 or 8 but even i hated many aspects of the PI, u need a zen outlook to even get thru the day there
@@mikesphilippineretirement: I don’t understand why expats always immediately bring some girl to live with them?? It makes no sense to me at all. I lived there for six years, but never had a girl live with me. Instead I had several girlfriends at a time, funneling them through my apartment on an almost daily basis. I had one girlfriend who came over on Mondays, one on Wednesdays and stayed through Thursday, and one for weekends, which was as many as I could manage. I never had one disagreement with any girlfriend. My most difficult chore was changing my girlfriends out as their shine wore off. At the same time, I had a live in maid to take care of me, such as early morning daily shopping in the dirty, stinking open air, fly infested market, cooking, traveling to pay monthly power, water, telephone and other bills, washing clothes, and house keeping. It was a strictly employer/employee relationship. She greeted my female visitors, and acted as host, offering them food and drink, and then retired to her room. She had an a very easy job, with the best food of her choice, and was very happy.
Comforts of living are miniscule if you don't have a good woman. I lived with the same American woman for 43 years. She was dead inside. Literally there was no communication throughout the day. No humor. No sex. She was a robot waiting for me to program her. She did what I told her. No complaints. No nagging. Most men would like a woman like this. I couldn't take it anymore. I divorced her because she showed no life. I moved to the PI and met a girl 30 years my jr. who LOVES LIFE and treats me with love and respect. Moral of the story...it's never to late to change a relationship if you aren't happy. Just go for it!
thanks for sharing
Great story that’s why you go first and see if you like the country I have Been there five times and I’m very understanding of the culture there and my two daughters there teach me a lot about it
If that was me, I would just try another nearby country, fares are cheap or just another area of the Philippines!
I agree with you
I've lived in Thailand for over 14 years and I'm completely adjusted to the way of life. In my business life I traveled to the US to attend trade shows and remember a couple of colleagues who, even though we were staying in nice hotels ect couldn't wait to get back home. There are some people who just can't escape from what there used to in their own country.
That's poor girl now the guy just leave her..she should told him about chicken dog his food Nad many mosquito
Extremely well said, very wise level headed words….many thx
It's funny to hear all his problem's. I to hated all the things you just mentioned but I got used to it within 2 years or less. I love the Philippines I have been here 5 years now. He should have given it more time he was just suffering from culture shock I think we all go through that I can't imagine living in the US again.
Some times you find yourself in search of a dream. Not a reality!
very true
correct my friend
I can’t live in the province either! Sorry for this gentleman but if he’s been watching any of your videos at all, he should have known how to do things differently! He did exactly the opposite of all the things you tell expats not to do! Great video, regardless. You are a great story teller, Mike!
I talked with him last Christmas about this...we need to do a video chat again as I love you new channel
@@mikesphilippineretirement thanks, Mike! I’ll be back in PH in October! Would love to chat again. I’m having too much fun on my new channel 😂
A well done public service message. Thank you.
Welcome
I am so glad i spent the money and spent time there I cant wait to return and retire
I loved the climate
I think most Foreigners have too much expectations of what they expect out of the Philippines. Yes the cities like Manila, Makati, BGC etc, would be a closer 1:1 of what life is in the US with all the Malls, Foods and Facilities etc, if that's something you like or want. But its a hell lot more expensive to live there, compared to the simple life in the provinces. If you don't like adjusting your life to a very simple style, then province life in the Philippines is not for you As you mentioned Mike, the very best thing to do is visit at least a couple times, and explore and see how the Filipinos live a simple, yet contented and happy life with very little. I am proud to say I love that kinda life, and looking forward to my retirement there soon, with my beautiful Filipino wife.
Thank you for sharing Kevin
His huge mistake was he moved to the Philippines for a Filipina. Find a place you want to live/retire first than find a woman locally. Basing your life/retirement around a woman is silly. 🙄
good advice
Good video Mike,,,, I made 3 trips , and made it clear the wife needed to become a US citizen and then we could retire to the PH.. My 2nd trip was 3 weeks, in a basic hotel in a real neighborhood. The noise, the people, the food, roosters, traffic, trikes, jeepneys,, AND those 3 weeks were the most relaxed I had been in 20 years. Looking forward to our final move..
It works if everyone would remember that just two generations ago everyone in the US lived on a family farm unless you really lived in a big city.
You are a very good man.More power and God Bless.
I appreciate that
The guy you're telling the story about was obviously wrong for not doing his own due diligence and seeing in person about how things are there.
Congratulations to you for telling these stories and warning people that they need to see for themselves and not just take some TH-camrs advice about "Paradise".
thank you for sharing
I was born in the philippines and grew up poor in manila and province, left when i was 17. Now im 46 and i do wanna go back for good with the expectation im going to run out of money, life is gonna be hard, poor living condition and im ok with all that because my lifestyle would be no social media, no car , dont need friends to hang out and party. Understanding what your getting into , the place you are going to be at , the people you are going to deal with helps a lot with making that decision. There is no such thing as a perfect paradise place.
Good points Mike, thanks!
Any time!
Beautiful video. Superb point!
Glad you think so!
"Everybody was a looser except the vendors", great sentence Mike. I am potentially in the same situation, planning living there and my decision involves selling my property. I'm not sure I'll adapt well, so I'll take an exploratory trip first that includes check different locations. Maybe living in a westernized area, for example in Cebu, would be more bearable. It is a matter of weighing pros and cons.
who was the winner in the video? I enjoy Cebu City and have a condo i stay in near Ayala Mall but we call Dumaguete our home. Also a trip with boots on the ground is a great start
I’m from PHILIPPINES frankly I love my country but the weather its really hotter since then .Stayed one month I got stuck in the house I couldn’t go even outside..Visit is okay but to live permanently I just can’t it’s the weather that’s killing me.
Maybe you dont want to expose under the sun, and your skin is getting dark. 😀
@@simplicity2022 dumb if you don’t feel it maybe you a buffalo skin 🤣🤣
I have been going to the Philippines for 26 years from cold Scotland for 5 month spells in UK Winter. This year in Angeles City the traffic has trebled and the temperature has went up by about 6 degrees. It makes a big difference.
Same thing happened to me when I visited Tampico Mexico in my youth. But when I got to the city, in the open areas with shady spots and restaurants near the ocean, it wasn’t so bad.
Thanks for sharing important and valuable information about real life experience
God bless you my friend
Keep it up
Thanks 🙏
welcome
Excellent story Mike and an example and very good lesson of what not to do. See you in December
see you soon
I'm actually taking 2 trips to Philippines and This is Best practical advice and always have plan A & B and maybe C and the Better you plan not for outcome but for the journey and then just like where I live now best advice was; "Know what you want out of the place your going to live". If your used to creature comforts and never roughed it in the woods and survived on your own then going to a 3rd world country is Not Smart as that would be jumping in the ocean without knowing about riptides.
thanks for sharing Paul
Any country you’re interested in living in, you should visit first. No place is perfect and it’s what you make of it. Figure out what things are important to you. Do your research. Great video.🙏🏾
Well said!
@@mikesphilippineretirement 👍🏾🇵🇭🇺🇸
Excellent real-life story, Mike. Thanks.
Glad you enjoyed it
He was presumptuous in making such drastic changes in his life without checking first. That was tragic for him. I feel sorry for him.
and the girl
Every decision he made he made the same way. .From his decision to move there, his decision to move in with an ldr, where he decided to live and his decision to leave. I'll bet he's not happy with his decision to return to the US or where he's living or working now.
It was really a big mistake to sell everything and regret later.Sir,you can be a good Guidance Counselor to those who want to come here for an advice before settling down.Yes,you are right to say visit first the place and observe everything.God bless you Sir🙏🏻💞Thank you.
I lived in Thailand for many years back in the 80's and 90's and loved the lifestyle. Now that I am retired I am moving to the Phillipines in May. With America divided and the decline of the country, leaving is that much more attractive.
"In this age of information, ignorance is a CHOICE!"
My Navy career taught me that curiosity and adaptability were essential in having a happy life. Problems should be seen as adventures ...
Having lived in asia (singapore) I can relate to these points. Especially the lack of seasons, lack of cold weather and lack of western food. The weather is a biggie. The cockroaches are horrible indeed.
I spent 15 months in the Philippines and got the hell out of there. I hated just about every minute of it from every aspect.
Why the hell would you spend 15 months😂l?
@@brianh9014 I was seriously considering retiring there and wanted to give it at least a year before trying a different place. Retiring in a country that’s not your own is a big decision and shouldn’t be taken lightly. I also met a good woman and enjoyed spending time with her. But, it seems like everywhere you go there someone is trying to disrupt your peace. I can’t stand the gossiping and disrespectful nature of the Filipinos. Racists xenophobes basically. After 15 months I had to leave my girl there as she can only get tourist visas. It just didn’t fit in with me. Also, the horrible infrastructure, weather, food, overcrowding, corruption at every transaction, it’s filthy dirt, and disorganized was not anything I want to be around again. It’s no wonder the Philippines gets a fraction of the tourists Thailand and Malaysia gets. Oh, and don’t forget the terrible medical. I don’t trust those fools to take my temperature, let alone an operation. You can have that dump.
Non worldly people shouldn’t make such drastic life moves.
As a 2 time expat in asia. The phillipeans are differnt as one ages. i was a spoiled expat in my late 30s lived in amazing flats hong kong and singapore. going to pi was like an adventure, the fun was amazing the dirt noise poverty bad water etc were overlooked. the fun was overwhelming.. Got divorced lost wealth, worked hrd to get it again and i did. but its not looking the same Im older like my comforts and health issues.
Great story Mike!
I don’t have a girlfriend (yet) but just bought a flexible ticket for Feb-March visit for this very reason… I hope I like it, and plan to visit several prospective areas as well as sightseeing… I felt bad for the girl in the story, she didn’t deserve that… hope you and Janet are well.
yes Grace had the worst part of it...Janet and I are very good thank you
It always cracks me up when a significant percentage of Westerners have to have beef, cheese, pizzas, etc. Give me fish, rice, and fresh fruit and I'm as happy as a duck in a tub of water...
thank you for sharing
Good story and good lesson for others
Thanks for watching
I like it Mike you’re a real hustler and creative. Keep rolling strong brother I love the content.
thanks Charles
Many guys are tired of the B.S. in the U.S. and try to embrace the Philippines. This guy just wanted a girlfriend.
It never ceases to amaze me why some people leave the U.S. and travel halfway around the world to the Philippines looking for an American lifestyle.
Expensive lesson😮😮...I've learned a lot online...I thought at one time it was for me...but now not thinking it's for me! Thanks for sharing!
Glad it was helpful!
I recently visited Thailand and the heat was a bit much, so I understand that. I'm planning a trip to The Philippines to check out Baguio City as a place to move. It has a more moderate climate and a population around 300K, which is about a size I prefer. So, I'm planning to spend about 4 weeks checking it out. Food is one concern. In Thailand, I wound up eating a "Full English Breakfast" most mornings.
A Vlogger presents things how she/he sees them based on their own experience, a viewer will interpret the messages according to their own state of mind, situation & expectation.
yes they do
Very true, and its hard to feel 92 degrees and 80% humidity in an air conditioned house.
You know as many blogs that are out there telling people what NOT to do in the Philippines, that guys continue to think that they can sell everything they own and move out here to live the dream and end up broke. Don't move out here UNLESS you have a monthly income such as SS or a pension. And the guys don't even take the time to come over here for a month or so to see what it is like? Take a month off and see if is for you. It is not fun and games all the time. Stop living in a dream world of living on a beach surrounded by coconut trees and drinking Pina Coladas. If you CANNOT budget your money and say NO don't come. Thats the reality.
Thanks for sharing
A very practical story that must be studied by all future expats. All my friends came back to the USA. Make sure you have an exit plan.
That's great message
I feel that the girl he met and stayed with dodged living with a miserable person who was too stupid to do his research before moving to the Philippines. Imagine having to put up with his constant complaining and anger about living where he did not like to be. Cheap Charlie ended up spending more money than ever just because of his cheap mentality.
thanks for your comment
Hi Mike. I completely understand this guy’s intention. I guess he really thought he was fully prepared for life in the PHs. Perhaps he never travelled to SE Asia before, so didn’t fully know what to expect. Seems like he got himself and GF very nicely set up. Did he consider the option of moving to a cooler location in the mountains once he found his seaside area too hot? Insects, sometimes mice, heat, humidity, heavy rain, typhoons, mosquitoes, etc., are all part of living in SE Asia.
Thanks for sharing
I’m visiting Manila in a few months for the first time. I’ve arranged to stay in the Uptown nice area in a nice Condo. I think I’ll acclimate or adjust to that area. Once I’m there, I’ll arrange some day trips or overnight trips to fun places. Thanks for sharing your video and thanks to your viewers who shared comments.
Living here is not what most Americans can handle. You have to just roll along with, “ that’s the way it is here”. If your a logical thinker, or someone who thinks they have a better way of doing something, stay away, you’ll for sure be frustrated most of the time. If you can adjust your mindset you stand a chance, just fully embrace the culture, the way things are done here then you will have happiness. Let tomorrow take care of itself, enjoy today.