They didnt challenge him because the way he acted was "gangsta" and "hard" to them. The respected him for it, but when it came out they made a big act of pretending to "depatch" him lol.
I'm so glad for your comment! This is what I kept thinking everytime they called it domestic violence! It was never her choice for him to be in her life. So tragic
Her community and family did not help her. He kidnapped her home,life and was so insecure,frightened . Imagine believing that's what live is!! Good on you for doing for yourself.
Zania, I went to school with River and Rain. You've done amazing with raising them. They were some of the sweetest girls I knew. I am so truly sorry. You're a warrior through and through.
As a 75yo Australian male I'm absolutely discussted at the way family and friends did nothing for this beautiful female. Shame Shame Shame. All the best for the rest of your life Sweet Lady ❤
Her family, friends and the neighbors didn't want to help her, because it wasn't safe to help her, and I don't blame them. They obviously knew that this guy is extremely dangerous, trying to help her or call the police is not an option, otherwise they're putting their safety at serious risk too. If they tried to help her and he found out, he would hunt them down and terrorise them, and she won't have wanted that.
@@davidboyd8113yea they see how long women have been repeatedly dismissed for the same claims, and don’t want to put themselves through more (legal)traumā
OMG! now that’s a woman who had the strength in her and she stood strong in her beliefs. I just loved and admired her courage and commitment to her children. I cried for her being through domestic abuse and to go through it all those years. I see you as a leader in your community and a very loving person. Not once did l see hatred just hurt! Blessings to you Zania and your family❤️💛🌻
My ex took me hostage for one night and did horrible things. I put him in jail and he got 12 years. I could not imagine having to live through that for as long as this brave woman did. I have so much respect for her. Congratulations I'm being able to live your life again. These things change us, but they show how resilient we are. May you have hope, peace and love for the rest of your life.
The fact that she said she doesn't blame her family and friends for not helping when they abandoned her one-by-one, simply because they were afraid of him, says a lot about her courage and forgiveness. As many have a said already, this isn't domestic violence, this is essentially a home invasion and kidnapping.
I'm just gobsmacked at this man and his barbaric abuse when there was never a relationship to begin with. There was no love, just fear, intimidation and horrific treatment. I'm amazed this poor woman survived, but thank heaven she did.❤
The NZ Government, Police & legal system should be ashamed of their lack of support for this woman and her innocent children. Gangs should be totally disbanded, why are they still active, waste of oxygen imo, pathetic excuses for human beings. NZ government & police you all need to grow some balls, change the law, put them all behind bars! You’re a warrior Zania 🙏
@@LeMa121 I hope they do but until you see action, their political promises are empty imo. Why does NZ have such a huge problem with gangs & criminals? For such a small population the epic problems across generations these idiots cause, you'd think the police & legal system would have them locked up.
its an ingrained thing that goes back through generations. Not all gang members are this heinous but also i think that they cannot fully abolish gangs as its so ingrained.
Yes, most probably because of fear of retaliation from this psycho and his intimidating gang members. After all it is a small community. Everyone knows everyone. Being associated with gangs can lead to being isolated from friends because they do not want anything to do with you or the gangs and in some cases the loss of family members because of the association. It is a terrible predicament to be in- especially when like this lady- did not want to be in a relationship with this horrible thing called a human. In saying that, the cop should have had more sense and know there would have been consequences for that woman after she approached him for help. At the end of her 16 years of all her abuse and trauma and because of her daughter's intervention of another suicide attempt - She took steps to heal herself and when she did this and joined the Suicide Prevention programme - her life changed. It was good she finally told the police of her 16 years of hell. Good job that gang got rid of him. That man should never be let out. He is a danger to society and to this woman. Well done Zarnia - You are a strong beautiful woman.
Happens in Samoan churches all the time. Grown men touch young girls and sit in front of the church... Everyone knows but continue to sing their church songs 😂 Stopped going to church as soon as I left home. I still pray though ❤
I grew up with violence and then ended up in a violent relationship (relationshit) from one survivor to another, well done for making the right decision and not being afraid. Xo
I also grew up with violence and ended up in a violent relationshit....very good word to describe a bad relationship. Stand strong all my sister's and brother's going thru violence in general. Not all M.M.M are like this sick,immature, sadistic prick towards female's. God bless you all my sister's and brother's. I'm so happy for you Zania and now you have a beautiful partner who will cherish you and take good care of you for the beautiful lady that you have alway's been until the devil you know came knocking on your door. I also was with a Mobsta ehhhh my bad, didn't know much as a adolescent/adult because I was neglected most of my childhood, ended up in Mt eden when I was 15yrs old in 1982. I fk'n hate the nz government and the nz police and social welfare. They did absolutely nothing to help any of us back in the 60's/70's EPIC FAIL
I knew another woman who was in a predicament like this. She had 5 kids including a sick baby who was in and out of hospital. She was from up north and her case was so bad that The Women's Refuge up there arranged for her and her children to move secretly to Napier and she moved into the flay next to mine. Her 5 month old baby was again admitted to hospital with a serious lung disease. She knew her ex was looking for her and she was living in fear. I told her if she needed to she and her kids could hide out in my place. Anyway, something must have happened because next thing she moved out suddenly in the early morning hours and was gone. I never saw her again. I hope she and her kids are safe somewhere away from that man.
Assholes that do that 2 woman don't deserve to be called men. I personally believe 18 years wasn't long enough. Cases like this I wish I was the judge. I wouldn't wanna no my father if he done this 2 my mum especially if I find out this is how I came in 2 the world. I feel sorry 4 those girls ❤
This started with a home invasion and imprisonment of the home owner. I can't wrap my head around labelling this DV. There was no relationship. She doesn't even remember what happened on the night she met him. He could've slipped her something. He took everything from her. He systematically and psychotically destroyed her life. 18 years isn't long enough and DV isnt the right term too describe what he did. Anyway, her bravery is astounding and her life is on track. She and her children deserve all the happiness and peace and love in the world. Just curious about her employer. They must've realised what was happening. She must have had many sick days. I don't know if she stayed with the same employer or not. I'm just thinking that her job was kept for her. She had a few hours of safety at work, but noone offered her anymore than that. The police officer certainly didn't. Her family and community, put the potential risk too their safety, above hers. She was only 21, making a genuine go of her life and noone protected her. Saying at the end that the gang had no idea and would help her from now on and would take better care of their women folk. Yeah right, I don't think anyone believes the cosy idea that gangs are the families of the disenfranchised and left behind kids, any longer.
Well I thought I’d heard the worst even been through hell but no I haven’t and I’m so blown away by what this woman endured for 16years. My Grandparents were the first domestic violence case in NZ courts and my grandmother couldn’t go through with it once she saw my GD in court. I hope our creator knows what this woman and her family have been through and they all have good lives for the rest of their days. This woman is courage in human form and my heart is proud of her strength and fortitude. Thankyou beautiful lady for sharing your pain and your new journey with us❤
The day that parasite gets out his ex mongrel mob brothers should take steps to protect her from him and teach him a lesson. How ironic it was to see the club he represented supporting his wife and not him. !!❤
My ex husband is a black power member and I moved to NZ and left my family in Australia. Also isolated. I can confirm she's telling the truth. No one cares. The police told me to go back to Australia and didn't intervene. I nearly died. I had to flee in secret with my two babies.
It breaks my heart to hear what our wāhine go through! God bless you if you are going through trials and tribulations. Don't give up! Kiā Kāhā! Mānā Wāhine❤
Well instead of wringing your hands and bleating commiserations get off your sorry ar$ and do something about it, you are very good at spouting what you think people want to hear, BUT ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. WALK THE WALK TALK THE TALK OR SHUT UP
I also lived with violence that broke my body and then my mind ,it has taken a long time to put the pieces back together but i have ,we need to be showing our boys what to be kind and empathetic ,and showing our girls that they deserve the kindness and empathy so all our kids can have a great life
What a load of shit man… so men are expected to do something but women not? Dude you’re part of the problem. this lady I have no sympathy she associated with a gang member.
We were the kids where domestic violence was the norm in our home. However, some of us chose not to accept or want to continue domestic violence. Some of us asked God to help because it needed to be buried with hate, greed and power. Zania stood up to her abuser and from there WA the glimmer of hope to freedom of inner peace. Thankyou for sharing your story. Amen!
Tragic story.. unfortunately he will be eligible for parole soon after half served.. and so comes the next nightmare. The family courts will say this guy needs contact with his kids, and so we go on.
Yeah he took no consideration for her feelings about anything, even not being with him! He would be the type to use his kids to get to her, but they'll be over 18 when he's out anyway thank goodness.@@lukebrown9064
Zania. You are a legend. I will pray for you and your boy, every night, from on. You are a hero. I’m so sorry you went through this horrible situation. Stay strong sweetheart xx
So proud of you Zarn, been a long road to get to today. I remember the first time I heard your story in person, you have such strength and have made many many hard decisions x
@@thatsthejobbb8587 The statistics for domestic violence in a small country like NZ is an absolute disgrace though. I hope my son and his family never come back to NZ.
Too many woman in NZ are in this situation. Sadly lots have been killed by these gang psychopaths. What’s gonna happen when the ex gets out of jail?. He’ll want revenge. I would leave town and make a new life in Oz if I was her.
She could indeed go to Australia if she wanted to, but don't forget that comes with risks too. She may get the better living standard, but because she'd be an immigrant she's got to watch out because it would only takes one wrong doing to get her kicked out of the country. The Australian government could easily just be nitpicky and come up with a reason to screw her over randomly if they felt like it. It's already happened a number of times with immigrants in Australia.
@@johnr3150 you're right about the psychopaths in New Zealand, both gang and non gang connected, who are responsible for making woman's lives and family a daily hell.. for various reasons the police are often ineffectual in these situations..
@@ChristopherRodmellwhere in earth are you getting your information? It’s almost impossible to be deported from Australia. We have an Arab man living in Sydney yet that held people in a siege for an entire day in a cafe. She’s not going to be sent home for a small offence
OMG. What a traumatic experience. Zania, you really are an amazingly strong woman. Nobody could imagine the fear you had to endure for all those years. You were tortured which would have to be much worse than DV. Thank goodness you and your children survived and you can finally live life the way you were meant to. That animal should have been given life without parole and never to be released. Stay strong and be happy with your new life ❤
It breaks my heart and makes me cry, that she had to endure that. I’m glad she has a kind man in her life. I hope she knows that Jesus loves her more than she could ever imagine.
You are a heroine to go through that abuse and get out of it alive . These men are absolute evil personified. Sending love and blessings to you sister and for your continued healing xo
She is a Warrior, she is a WOMAN. My heart ached and my tears fell watching this, my own experience with domestic violence and sexual assault coming to my mind. How we fight to survive, to be heard, to simply be loved and respected and nothing less. We should demand it, expect it, and receive it. This evil excuse for a man is nothing, he's a narsassistic psycho that needs to be kept locked away from other bloody human beings, he has given up his right to live amongst us. God bless u Sister girl, your family and your ancestors, may your days be filled with love and peace. ❤❤❤❤
Shocking and what a prince she was forced to marry. He is a big bloke that beat the life out of a woman, scared her children. Bless her and her children. I hope she is now feeling safe and enjoying life…finally.
What a strong strong woman ❤️❤️ what courage and strength this woman has! ❤️ he’ll be a frail lonely old man when released. What goes around comes around comes around .
You are such a beautiful strong Wahine, an inspiration for other wahine dealing with abuse. I'm so sorry you went through the horrors you did. May the rest of your life be filled with the love and abundance you have ALWAYS deserved. Much Aroha ❤
My Daughter died at Easter,she ended her own life.She was the most beautiful girl in the world,none of us saw it coming,but she had been in an abusive relationship and once she had passed I found out the true horror of my brave little girls life.She was isolated by her abuser and beaten regularly,one beating she was punched in the head repeatedly and then kicked in the head repeatedly,she was made to feel like shit and the pain I feel is unbearable,she was my best friend and soulmate and I never knew what was happening. You will e avenged My Honey, you'll never be forgotten and Cory Connelly.....always look over your shoulder. RIP My Princess xx, the law looks like a joke in these instances
Sister you aren't just a survivor, like myself the worst of Once were warriors was a good day for me but like myself you stood up with true Mana, Wairua. Like myself I still see the scars in the mirror as well as within but they now show we're not just survivors, we are thrivers. Empowering those that are still in that terror and nightmare, younger Wāhines. Heal on.
wow, this broke my heart .. i cried too for her .. but 23:00 .. a new partner, a new life .. such a strong courageous wahine .. wow wow wow .. thank you darling for sharing and now reaching out to others to support .. x x x love you.
To think someone had done this to you a MOTHER a daughter possibly someone's sister. it's absolutely disgusting to think this man exists what a disgrace he must be to his family ! I'm so sorry you had to go through this :( you deserved better you really did :(
Its absolutely the left wing politicians that have left most of these guys on bracelets back home instead of in prison, literally their politicie to keep people out of prison that has left so many back in the community.@piriurwin9153
16 years is a long time to put up with the abuse. But Zarnia made it out alive...very brave. So good to hear Slob say we treat our women good❤ and the fact the gangs supported Zarnia. Thank you for sharing and hope this will encourage women to get out and be safe.
Wow this really puts your own problems in stark contrast to what this woman has been through. As a 38 year old man, I will never come close to the strength of this woman.
Tuturu Whakamaua kia taina, Haumi E, Hui E, Taiiki E. You are an awesome blessing to all wahine throughout the world, your story will reach so many wahine to be able to STAND UP AND STAND STRONG TO SAY ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. Thank you so much for sharing your story. From a Survivor to the fist.
Thank you Zania for sharing your story. You are an inspiring wahine, I wish you well for the future you could only have dreamed of before. This is your time xx
This is the gangs. This is what they represent. They have done this over and over. You see a patch, this is what it represents. Everything else is completely fake. This isnt domestic violence either. Its kidnapping.
BE STRONG IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT GOOD ON YOU FOR ASKING FOR HELP. PEOPLE LIKE HIM NEED HELP AND HEALING. MAY THE LORD WATCH OVER YOU AND YOUR WHANAU. AMEN.
I’m soooo deeply sorry Zania. My heart breaks for you. Unfortunately I have my own story too, so I understand how you feel. You are a strong Wahinetoa. And I admire you. You are in my Prayers 🙏 Kia Kaha xxoo ❤
What an amazing beautiful strong woman after going through so much violence I look to her inspiration for making my life better and speaking up for what I experienced in hope of justice also.
You are one tough lady to endure all that for 18 years. Gotta salute you for that. Hope your kids know how brave you are. Ladies, if you are experiencing domestic abuse. You need to talk and stand up for yourself otherwise these Men will keep walking all over you. Have the courage to talk to police, one that you know you can trust.
Sad this brings back memories from my upbringing in the 80's, still till this day I always have my quiet moments, No1 deserves to be treated like a animal
what a great story sad it took her 16 yrs to free herself Amazing strong lady So glad she had a good life now And that that monster is where he belongs
She is braver than all the gang members who didn’t challenge him.
100%
They didnt challenge him because the way he acted was "gangsta" and "hard" to them.
The respected him for it, but when it came out they made a big act of pretending to "depatch" him lol.
Cringe af
Gangs are sh.t holes
This isnt domestic violence.. she never chose to be with him.. he completely hijacked her life and her sons life and no one helped her..
Domestic terrorism for sure
I'm so glad for your comment! This is what I kept thinking everytime they called it domestic violence! It was never her choice for him to be in her life. So tragic
@de-nz4jp so.like your comment no one helped her???
@@jenniferheta4770 NO ONE DID!! Until 16 years later!
Her community and family did not help her. He kidnapped her home,life and was so insecure,frightened . Imagine believing that's what live is!! Good on you for doing for yourself.
That cop should be fired named and shamed. How disgusting😡
This is more like home invasion and torture rather than domestic violence. 16 years of brutal treatment in her own home. A miracle she is ❤❤❤
Yet New Zealand media keeps glorifying gangs. This is sickening. My heart goes out her❤️
And the politicians out there standing up for them
And the cops......Foul!
They lowkey want to have a reason to instill martial law
@@toni-leeblair5869 ...don't forget the judges!
Glorifying gangs? No one is glorifying gangs.
Zania, I went to school with River and Rain. You've done amazing with raising them. They were some of the sweetest girls I knew. I am so truly sorry. You're a warrior through and through.
As a 75yo Australian male I'm absolutely discussted at the way family and friends did nothing for this beautiful female. Shame Shame Shame. All the best for the rest of your life Sweet Lady ❤
@@williamburns9731 Probably out of fear being a small community.
Mind you're own business respect you're self and welcome to country 😂
@@nikorri6373 "respect you're self" can you tell me what this means?
Her family, friends and the neighbors didn't want to help her, because it wasn't safe to help her, and I don't blame them.
They obviously knew that this guy is extremely dangerous, trying to help her or call the police is not an option, otherwise they're putting their safety at serious risk too.
If they tried to help her and he found out, he would hunt them down and terrorise them, and she won't have wanted that.
@@nikorri6373what you gonna bark at him ..beat him up ?
THE WHITE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM FOR ME IS THAT POLICE OFFICER, HE KNEW
My thoughts exactly
Yes
& the neighbours. straight useless
The whole town knew!
The father to her son would've been able to hear her get beaten from his house up the road.
What kinda culture is that?!
@@otablu685they were her family.
The Corrupt Cop though 🤦🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️ Pooftah. Bet the town knows who that cop was in that rugby team.
I’m from around those ways and a name comes to mind.
that cu nt needs to be exposed
@@TippytipeneName the idiot
@@Tippytipene wht the name ? or r u worried?
@@Tippytipene Be sure and serve justice, corrupt systems and the people that built them.
No woman should have to live in fear of violence.
No *One does
Thats right, nobody.
Did you know that it’s a 50-50 split that men also suffer violence from the woman except the police will not report it
@@davidboyd8113yea they see how long women have been repeatedly dismissed for the same claims, and don’t want to put themselves through more (legal)traumā
@@davidboyd8113bull 💩
OMG! now that’s a woman who had the strength in her and she stood strong in her beliefs. I just loved and admired her courage and commitment to her children. I cried for her being through domestic abuse and to go through it all those years. I see you as a leader in your community and a very loving person. Not once did l see hatred just hurt! Blessings to you Zania and your family❤️💛🌻
Who's the nark that cop wtf he put her in this situation so who do you go when you need help
@@Lovekowhailoveu go to the black power 😂
My ex took me hostage for one night and did horrible things. I put him in jail and he got 12 years. I could not imagine having to live through that for as long as this brave woman did. I have so much respect for her. Congratulations I'm being able to live your life again. These things change us, but they show how resilient we are. May you have hope, peace and love for the rest of your life.
The fact that she said she doesn't blame her family and friends for not helping when they abandoned her one-by-one, simply because they were afraid of him, says a lot about her courage and forgiveness. As many have a said already, this isn't domestic violence, this is essentially a home invasion and kidnapping.
But it kept on going it's domestic violence too
Heartbreaking. An unfortunate meeting indeed. I am horrified at this woman's abuse. That male is a absolute waste of oxygen. He is not a man.
I'm just gobsmacked at this man and his barbaric abuse when there was never a relationship to begin with. There was no love, just fear, intimidation and horrific treatment. I'm amazed this poor woman survived, but thank heaven she did.❤
Absolutley filthy guy
There are many like these in society believe me
@@rodeo4786 yep. That's for real.
@@rodeo4786 some people just haven't evolved.
The NZ Government, Police & legal system should be ashamed of their lack of support for this woman and her innocent children. Gangs should be totally disbanded, why are they still active, waste of oxygen imo, pathetic excuses for human beings. NZ government & police you all need to grow some balls, change the law, put them all behind bars! You’re a warrior Zania 🙏
its coming soon don't worry...national have promised a huge crack down on gangs, following Australia
@@LeMa121 I hope they do but until you see action, their political promises are empty imo. Why does NZ have such a huge problem with gangs & criminals? For such a small population the epic problems across generations these idiots cause, you'd think the police & legal system would have them locked up.
@@LeMa121we shall see almost certain very little will change😢
@@kiwisrule6757 tend to agree as gangs have been active in NZ for many years & no politician has tried to shut them down
its an ingrained thing that goes back through generations. Not all gang members are this heinous but also i think that they cannot fully abolish gangs as its so ingrained.
Oh sweetheart. My heart breaks. First time ive cried watching a programe. Im 70 and so proud of you. God bless you. ❤
People knew.......
And turned a blind eye.
😞
That's what happened. Let's keep our eyes open from now hey
Yes, most probably because of fear of retaliation from this psycho and his intimidating gang members. After all it is a small community. Everyone knows everyone.
Being associated with gangs can lead to being isolated from friends because they do not want anything to do with you or the gangs and in some cases the loss of family members because of the association. It is a terrible predicament to be in- especially when like this lady- did not want to be in a relationship with this horrible thing called a human.
In saying that, the cop should have had more sense and know there would have been consequences for that woman after she approached him for help.
At the end of her 16 years of all her abuse and trauma and because of her daughter's intervention of another suicide attempt - She took steps to heal herself and when she did this and joined the Suicide Prevention programme - her life changed. It was good she finally told the police of her 16 years of hell. Good job that gang got rid of him. That man should never be let out.
He is a danger to society and to this woman.
Well done Zarnia - You are a strong beautiful woman.
@@mizdrive2735 Facts💯
Touch a guy like that and police will raid your house as if you were a terrorist.
Happens in Samoan churches all the time. Grown men touch young girls and sit in front of the church... Everyone knows but continue to sing their church songs 😂
Stopped going to church as soon as I left home. I still pray though ❤
You’re not even my sister and I would of done everything I could for you not to go through that. May you heal much love
I grew up with violence and then ended up in a violent relationship (relationshit) from one survivor to another, well done for making the right decision and not being afraid. Xo
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I also grew up with violence and ended up in a violent relationshit....very good word to describe a bad relationship. Stand strong all my sister's and brother's going thru violence in general. Not all M.M.M are like this sick,immature, sadistic prick towards female's. God bless you all my sister's and brother's. I'm so happy for you Zania and now you have a beautiful partner who will cherish you and take good care of you for the beautiful lady that you have alway's been until the devil you know came knocking on your door. I also was with a Mobsta ehhhh my bad, didn't know much as a adolescent/adult because I was neglected most of my childhood, ended up in Mt eden when I was 15yrs old in 1982. I fk'n hate the nz government and the nz police and social welfare. They did absolutely nothing to help any of us back in the 60's/70's EPIC FAIL
Kia Ora Zania thank you for fighting for you and your tamariki. ❤ You are so kaha and brave❤❤❤ We really admire you❤❤❤
I knew another woman who was in a predicament like this. She had 5 kids including a sick baby who was in and out of hospital. She was from up north and her case was so bad that The Women's Refuge up there arranged for her and her children to move secretly to Napier and she moved into the flay next to mine. Her 5 month old baby was again admitted to hospital with a serious lung disease. She knew her ex was looking for her and she was living in fear. I told her if she needed to she and her kids could hide out in my place. Anyway, something must have happened because next thing she moved out suddenly in the early morning hours and was gone. I never saw her again. I hope she and her kids are safe somewhere away from that man.
Hope she is okay and her children. That would have been scary not knowing .
Anyman with a patch or not that does this is a complete piece of 💩 wat a tough guy👎🏼👎🏼
1 of my biggest fears is for mi daughter have a gang member for a parter i think thats alot of dads fears
Assholes that do that 2 woman don't deserve to be called men. I personally believe 18 years wasn't long enough. Cases like this I wish I was the judge. I wouldn't wanna no my father if he done this 2 my mum especially if I find out this is how I came in 2 the world. I feel sorry 4 those girls ❤
This started with a home invasion and imprisonment of the home owner. I can't wrap my head around labelling this DV. There was no relationship. She doesn't even remember what happened on the night she met him. He could've slipped her something. He took everything from her. He systematically and psychotically destroyed her life. 18 years isn't long enough and DV isnt the right term too describe what he did.
Anyway, her bravery is astounding and her life is on track. She and her children deserve all the happiness and peace and love in the world.
Just curious about her employer. They must've realised what was happening. She must have had many sick days. I don't know if she stayed with the same employer or not. I'm just thinking that her job was kept for her. She had a few hours of safety at work, but noone offered her anymore than that.
The police officer certainly didn't. Her family and community, put the potential risk too their safety, above hers. She was only 21, making a genuine go of her life and noone protected her.
Saying at the end that the gang had no idea and would help her from now on and would take better care of their women folk. Yeah right, I don't think anyone believes the cosy idea that gangs are the families of the disenfranchised and left behind kids, any longer.
I was thinking the same...this is so far beyond DV,and he should be in for life
Domestic terrorism is more accurate
So many people can identify with Zania's suffering through this absolutely abhorrent story of abuse and trauma..
Thankyou for sharing this.
18 years is not enough 😢😢 not what he put her through
This kiwi short documentary is World class ,one of the best I've seen, gripping
Thanks for the great feedback!
Well I thought I’d heard the worst even been through hell but no I haven’t and I’m so blown away by what this woman endured for 16years. My Grandparents were the first domestic violence case in NZ courts and my grandmother couldn’t go through with it once she saw my GD in court. I hope our creator knows what this woman and her family have been through and they all have good lives for the rest of their days. This woman is courage in human form and my heart is proud of her strength and fortitude. Thankyou beautiful lady for sharing your pain and your new journey with us❤
Heart breaking story. So happy she's safe with her kids now.
The day that parasite gets out his ex mongrel mob brothers should take steps to protect her from him and teach him a lesson. How ironic it was to see the club he represented supporting his wife and not him. !!❤
And once were warriors continue in this country. Nothing has changed
Im sorry you went through this. Stay strong beautiful lady🙏
My ex husband is a black power member and I moved to NZ and left my family in Australia.
Also isolated.
I can confirm she's telling the truth.
No one cares.
The police told me to go back to Australia and didn't intervene.
I nearly died.
I had to flee in secret with my two babies.
There was a inciddent in lorne street Public libray when a mason Clinic inmate attacked a Black Power gang member
When she said she is stronger now, I thought to myself she was ALWAYS unbelievably strong. If she wasn’t she wouldn’t have survived all that torture.
It breaks my heart to hear what our wāhine go through! God bless you if you are going through trials and tribulations. Don't give up! Kiā Kāhā! Mānā Wāhine❤
But what's more devastating it's our own tanē doing it to our own wahine
I can't even watch that he's an evil man
Well instead of wringing your hands and bleating commiserations get off your sorry ar$ and do something about it, you are very good at spouting what you think people want to hear,
BUT ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.
WALK THE WALK TALK THE TALK OR
SHUT UP
Yes! And they’re not all in gangs.
I know, I’m a survivor.
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I also lived with violence that broke my body and then my mind ,it has taken a long time to put the pieces back together but i have ,we need to be showing our boys what to be kind and empathetic ,and showing our girls that they deserve the kindness and empathy so all our kids can have a great life
What a load of shit man… so men are expected to do something but women not? Dude you’re part of the problem. this lady I have no sympathy she associated with a gang member.
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I’m so proud of you lady. You stayed true to the woman your father would have wanted you to be ❤
We were the kids where domestic violence was the norm in our home. However, some of us chose not to accept or want to continue domestic violence. Some of us asked God to help because it needed to be buried with hate, greed and power. Zania stood up to her abuser and from there WA the glimmer of hope to freedom of inner peace. Thankyou for sharing your story. Amen!
Tragic story.. unfortunately he will be eligible for parole soon after half served.. and so comes the next nightmare. The family courts will say this guy needs contact with his kids, and so we go on.
@@ciouslilif you didn’t notice, she made her own decision but he didn’t accept that…
Yeah he took no consideration for her feelings about anything, even not being with him! He would be the type to use his kids to get to her, but they'll be over 18 when he's out anyway thank goodness.@@lukebrown9064
@@ciouslilyes hes saying that he didnt listen to her when she said no, why would he listen to the children
@@ciouslil no, they go through the children to get to the mother, because they know it's the only thing that they can have power over.
All the systems are stuffed!
He disgusting and I’m happy for you and your son and daughters to be free of him I know what it feels like to tell your baby’s to run 😢
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Absolutely wish all the blessings to Zania and her kids❤ such a strong beautiful Wahine.
Everybody in New Zealand has to watch this. This made me cry heaps just watching, this is one strong lady that did not deserve this.
Zania. You are a legend. I will pray for you and your boy, every night, from on.
You are a hero.
I’m so sorry you went through this horrible situation.
Stay strong sweetheart xx
So proud of you Zarn, been a long road to get to today. I remember the first time I heard your story in person, you have such strength and have made many many hard decisions x
Please come to Australia with your beautiful children & have a good life. One where you'll be supported & not abandoned by those you love
A women is murdered by a current or ex partner every 4days in Australia......
@@thatsthejobbb8587 The statistics for domestic violence in a small country like NZ is an absolute disgrace though. I hope my son and his family never come back to NZ.
Get off the pipe, rural aus is worse ffs wake up
Rather live in rural OZ than rural NZ... clearly many other NZ do too,!
@@thatsthejobbb8587 I guarantee there's more female brutality & murder in NZ than Australia per population capita.
Too many woman in NZ are in this situation. Sadly lots have been killed by these gang psychopaths. What’s gonna happen when the ex gets out of jail?. He’ll want revenge. I would leave town and make a new life in Oz if I was her.
She could indeed go to Australia if she wanted to, but don't forget that comes with risks too.
She may get the better living standard, but because she'd be an immigrant she's got to watch out because it would only takes one wrong doing to get her kicked out of the country.
The Australian government could easily just be nitpicky and come up with a reason to screw her over randomly if they felt like it. It's already happened a number of times with immigrants in Australia.
@@johnr3150 you're right about the psychopaths in New Zealand, both gang and non gang connected, who are responsible for making woman's lives and family a daily hell.. for various reasons the police are often ineffectual in these situations..
@@ChristopherRodmellwhere in earth are you getting your information? It’s almost impossible to be deported from Australia. We have an Arab man living in Sydney yet that held people in a siege for an entire day in a cafe. She’s not going to be sent home for a small offence
Less than 8 minutes in & Im in tears. This was way beyond Domestic Violence, this was sheer TORTURE.
You are the true example of strength Zarnia!
Should of gotten 50 yrs ,the law took its time alright!
Poor lady,basically 1 yr for each beating.
Hope these kids grow into great adults 🤟🤟
OMG. What a traumatic experience. Zania, you really are an amazingly strong woman. Nobody could imagine the fear you had to endure for all those years. You were tortured which would have to be much worse than DV. Thank goodness you and your children survived and you can finally live life the way you were meant to. That animal should have been given life without parole and never to be released. Stay strong and be happy with your new life ❤
as a single mum of a son in my own home this story has really hit home. honestly she is inspiring
This isn't domestic violence this is kidnapp and more
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It breaks my heart and makes me cry, that she had to endure that. I’m glad she has a kind man in her life. I hope she knows that Jesus loves her more than she could ever imagine.
As a fellow polynesian (Hawaiian) I am ashamed of this behavior.
Thank you for sharing your story and saving your kids ,you are such a beautiful strong soul , God Bless you. ❤
You are a heroine to go through that abuse and get out of it alive . These men are absolute evil personified. Sending love and blessings to you sister and for your continued healing xo
She is a Warrior, she is a WOMAN.
My heart ached and my tears fell watching this, my own experience with domestic violence and sexual assault coming to my mind.
How we fight to survive, to be heard, to simply be loved and respected and nothing less.
We should demand it, expect it, and receive it.
This evil excuse for a man is nothing, he's a narsassistic psycho that needs to be kept locked away from other bloody human beings, he has given up his right to live amongst us.
God bless u Sister girl, your family and your ancestors, may your days be filled with love and peace.
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16 years! Where was the whanau? Cant believe it went that long and knowone did anything to help her?
Isolation via abuse probably
look upp - ''''Stockholm Syndrome'' on - Google.- victims who fall in love with their - ''Rapists.''
those small towns are very isolated places, regular ppl r nt equipped to figure these situations
@@1112-g1x equipped git nothing to do with it, they just got no mana.
The police officer made it worse, where was she supposed to go
Shocking and what a prince she was forced to marry. He is a big bloke that beat the life out of a woman, scared her children. Bless her and her children. I hope she is now feeling safe and enjoying life…finally.
What a coward he went and got a gun.
yeah F N coward alright
"" whoreeee - Kerry Fabling does that too around Auckland City, and suburbs.
What a strong strong woman ❤️❤️ what courage and strength this woman has! ❤️ he’ll be a frail lonely old man when released. What goes around comes around comes around .
What a legend of a women. The Director of Photography did a beautiful job on the story too.
You are such a beautiful strong Wahine, an inspiration for other wahine dealing with abuse.
I'm so sorry you went through the horrors you did.
May the rest of your life be filled with the love and abundance you have ALWAYS deserved.
Much Aroha ❤
My Daughter died at Easter,she ended her own life.She was the most beautiful girl in the world,none of us saw it coming,but she had been in an abusive relationship and once she had passed I found out the true horror of my brave little girls life.She was isolated by her abuser and beaten regularly,one beating she was punched in the head repeatedly and then kicked in the head repeatedly,she was made to feel like shit and the pain I feel is unbearable,she was my best friend and soulmate and I never knew what was happening. You will e avenged My Honey, you'll never be forgotten and Cory Connelly.....always look over your shoulder. RIP My Princess xx, the law looks like a joke in these instances
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How did you not know? If yous were so close
@@AdelineKarena because abusers snd victims hide very very very well
Sister you aren't just a survivor, like myself the worst of Once were warriors was a good day for me but like myself you stood up with true Mana, Wairua. Like myself I still see the scars in the mirror as well as within but they now show we're not just survivors, we are thrivers. Empowering those that are still in that terror and nightmare, younger Wāhines. Heal on.
wow, this broke my heart .. i cried too for her .. but 23:00 .. a new partner, a new life .. such a strong courageous wahine .. wow wow wow .. thank you darling for sharing and now reaching out to others to support .. x x x love you.
To think someone had done this to you a MOTHER a daughter possibly someone's sister. it's absolutely disgusting to think this man exists what a disgrace he must be to his family ! I'm so sorry you had to go through this :( you deserved better you really did :(
Thats exactly whats going through my mind. What a disgrace! No words i think can describe this rubbish of a man. But what a strong beautiful woman ❤
Rmemeber. There are politicians out there that are trying to stop police and courts from prosecuting these gang members.
Can you please name the politicians who are trying to stop the prosecution of gang members.
@@bevwinn1369Certainly not any left wing politicians that's for sure
Its absolutely the left wing politicians that have left most of these guys on bracelets back home instead of in prison, literally their politicie to keep people out of prison that has left so many back in the community.@piriurwin9153
Them exactly
16 years is a long time to put up with the abuse. But Zarnia made it out alive...very brave. So good to hear Slob say we treat our women good❤ and the fact the gangs supported Zarnia. Thank you for sharing and hope this will encourage women to get out and be safe.
they depatched him and call her a heroic figure but didn't step in once in 16 years?
They "depatched" him as a show. Just an act, I guarantee behind closed doors they still consider him a "real dawg"
Justice will come to this man when King of the universe returns and those like him.
Wow this really puts your own problems in stark contrast to what this woman has been through. As a 38 year old man, I will never come close to the strength of this woman.
Tuturu Whakamaua kia taina, Haumi E, Hui E, Taiiki E. You are an awesome blessing to all wahine throughout the world, your story will reach so many wahine to be able to STAND UP AND STAND STRONG TO SAY ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. Thank you so much for sharing your story. From a Survivor to the fist.
taiiki e
Guy is probably in prison being a bully. Doesn’t deserve any rights
Respect. Love this woman.
Thank you Zania for sharing your story. You are an inspiring wahine, I wish you well for the future you could only have dreamed of before. This is your time xx
This is the gangs. This is what they represent. They have done this over and over. You see a patch, this is what it represents.
Everything else is completely fake.
This isnt domestic violence either. Its kidnapping.
But if a non-gang member had delt to him and helped her escape, they'd be immediately imprisoned as a "terrorist"
That doesn't make any sense? Why would he be considered a "terrorist"?
Thank you for sharing your story.
I don’t care what motor cycle club someone belongs to, the police are there to protect an individual!
unfortunately the police r barley non exsistant, u can call them but thy will be very ineffective....this is the new normal
Motorcycle club 😂😂😂😂
@@gixxusmetalman7435 That and other 'activities'.
The mob ain’t a motorcycle club. They are a pack of losers
What a harrowing watch. It is the weakest of men who use their fists to feel powerful. What a warrior Zania is.
You are beyond amazing and strong my sister. Thank you for being so brave and courageous to do the mahi that you are.
if this happened to a family member of mind id b locked up for life
BE STRONG IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT GOOD ON YOU FOR ASKING FOR HELP.
PEOPLE LIKE HIM NEED HELP AND HEALING.
MAY THE LORD WATCH OVER YOU AND YOUR WHANAU.
AMEN.
in Jesus mighty name...Amen
@@victoriarihari4934 ♥️ Amen ♥️
Zarnia you should be very proud of yourself! Sending love to you and yours ❤❤❤
That sentence should have been at least 5 years for every year of her suffering
You deserve to be treated better
Never tolerate it ever
Victim Support.- Sean O'Dwyer- Sean O'Dwyer.- number 136- 140 Hobson Street.- Auckland 1010.- New Zealand.// maha aotearoa.''
How do you not tolerate it when you cant escape.
I’m soooo deeply sorry Zania. My heart breaks for you. Unfortunately I have my own story too, so I understand how you feel. You are a strong Wahinetoa. And I admire you. You are in my Prayers 🙏 Kia Kaha xxoo ❤
This is the most courageous story of the love between a mother and her children. ❤
This is absolutely heart breaking!! She is so strong ❤
Admirable woman! ❤ Zania, you are free now 🕊 You are an example for your tamariki, whanau, and all women in the world.
~ "Keep on standing"
You can see the fear in her eyes when retelling her story😭😭😭 I’m so sorry this happened to you:(
What an amazing beautiful strong woman after going through so much violence I look to her inspiration for making my life better and speaking up for what I experienced in hope of justice also.
Kia kaha, I cannot imagine your pain or what you’ve had to endure? Pray that the Lord restores & helps you to become stronger.
You are an amazing beautiful mother and woman.
Love strength, positivity run through your veins.
Thank you so much for sharing . 🙏🌻🍀🥰
16 years...just thinking about that much time she was held captive is so evil and putrid.
You are one tough lady to endure all that for 18 years. Gotta salute you for that. Hope your kids know how brave you are.
Ladies, if you are experiencing domestic abuse. You need to talk and stand up for yourself otherwise these Men will keep walking all over you. Have the courage to talk to police, one that you know you can trust.
Thanks for sharing. I so admire your work and strength
Thank you for your story Zania ❤
Sad this brings back memories from my upbringing in the 80's, still till this day I always have my quiet moments,
No1 deserves to be treated like a animal
Animals don't either. We are actually all animals. Human and non human.
Thank you for sharing.
I am glad you are happy now
Were were the real men? . I'm calling out all the useless fathers out there!
Where were lol
Kicked out of town by the police.
“I’m living the life I should have lived.” Powerful words and gives hope to many still trapped in abusive situations.
what a great story sad it took her 16 yrs to free herself
Amazing strong lady
So glad she had a good life now
And that that monster is where he belongs