Not a single second of this video wasn't amazing! You are so amazing and inspirational! Every time I watch your videos they make me so happy and alive!
One of the things I love about social media is the opportunity we have to encourage and uplift others, and I really felt I wanted to share this with you all. I hope it encourages you and please share with anyone you feel it would help! xx NEVER FEELING GOOD ENOUGH
Thank you for this video Patricia! I always felt like this in my job when I first got into the corporate fashion industry. Being a black female in this industry is so hard! I thank god I overcame those feelings. I am good enough. You are good enough! #Girlpower Love ya!
I just don't know how to stop comparing myself.. I'm fine one minute and then I'll see a picture or a video or advert or movie where a woman is sexualised or just really attractive and suddenly I hate myself because I can never be like that. It's so stupid but it's literally like a trigger overtime and I don't know how to stop it
Also, what I've discovered is that there is usually someone very close to you in your life, who is encouraging your self-loathing as a result of the comparison. And it's probably not even intentional on their part but just identifying who this person is and becoming aware of it makes a huge difference because then you can consciously reject it, as Patricia says. Listening to Louise Hays affirmations helps me as well.
I got the same problem too I get triggered because it reminds me of how I look but don't wish to be sexualized because your body is yours and your more that. beautiful is something else, don't try to be like anybody else and do things that make you feel good. people will mostly remember your character. its hard but surround yourself with positively :-) but I know how you feel
Alot times these overrated pictured people have some really issues going on themselves. not to mention that a lot if it is filtered and photoshopped. Do you boo.
Danielle Im so glad this video showed up in my feed because I had a really bad day today and she just literally lifted my spirits and made me think a little bit of how I look at myself.
That was powerful Patricia!! I felt tingles around my body when you was speaking, you spoke with so much conviction and I know you was talking to yourself as much as your were talking to us, You are amazing and you are MORE than enough! Keep inspiring xxx
This is my 2nd time watching this and it finally hit me that I wasn't acknowledging the pain I felt from not feeling good enough. God is so good, and your video really helped me. Thanks for posting this!
Patricia thank you SO MUCH for making this video. I've been struggling with this problem for a very long time and I'm really trying to better myself and change it now, this video came at the perfect time. You're blessed to have a platform to be able to share this with people all over the world. Keep doing what you're doing! Love!!
You should be a therapist or something because you are really good at talking about feelings and I bet everyone who watched this video felt better about themselves including me.
Yeah it helps alot. Here I am sitting down for hours a day watching social media and comparing myself to other ppl not feeling "pretty" or "worthy-enough" I'm trying to start to have a self confidence in myself ,but it's just useless. Her speach is kinda helping me understand how to get over all of this💞
Don't usually comment on here but honestly this is how people should use youtube to help others and encourage them. Definitely agree with what your saying and it's so true especially with social media it can really make you fall into that trap of comparing people and their lives. Thank you so much Patricia, just what I needed. And hey if your a believer you have other followers who are believers so don't hold back. Once again thank you!
As I've stated before, this video has gotten me through some tough times throughout the years. Now, just so happens to be one of the tough times. I dont know, I feel like commenting is helping me express how grateful I am for these encouraging words I cant even get from family or people who are supposedly close to me. I'm trying to live my life right and best the best version of myself I can and this video is constantly reminding me of my goal.
I think this is exactly what I needed today because this weekend especially I was feeling down about myself So thank you I try to stay positive about all things and it's hard after many years of being negative about everything. I find it hard to be positive or feel good about myself when I can't seem to find good friends or frjends that like me for me. I have these friends that claim I'm their best friend but don't include me that much. And I talk to people on facebook and make friends through there before college started ,and when I meet them at beginning of college they hung out with me and then just dumped me. I don't know the reason why but just what I'm left with to think was that I wasn't good enough or cool enough in person (I was totally myself on the internet). I struggle to have confidence in my abilities ,etc ,when people try to criticize on me "being too quiet" or "why can't u let loose and have fun" ...these comments just make me feel even more down and I want to go home and curl up on the couch and cry I'm more introverted and I'm not shy ,but I just don't have much to say when socializing and I'm a serious person....I'm trying to accept myself but people just don't accept me or want to appreciate my qualities. I tried to be more extroverted , but being something I'm not just exhausts me after a while.
I completely understand what you're going through. I went through something like this my first two years of college and even now, at a completely different university, Im still going through a bit of it. I am an introvert as well and I'm very shy. I prefer to not speak and I'm not a party animal. I was pressured, used, and also dumped by friends. And at first I blamed myself and completely isolated myself for almost a year, but after a while I realized that I didn't need those ppl because they weren't healthy for my journey or my well being. My advice to you would be to find a passion and put all your energy into it. Lean on family, friends, or positive people especially during your darkest days. Experiment with makeup or anything you've been interested in before but never tried (nothing crazy or dangerous). Treat yourself to a day at a salon, get a massage, and take yourself out to dinner. Don't worry about being stared at because you're alone. Just go for it! Happiness will find its way to you and everything in your life will fall into place. Good luck! :D
never ever try and be something you're not. it never works! and will only leave you feeling unhappy. keep working on seeing everything good in your life and in you as a person and appreciate that. you only live life once so focus on the good things. those people really weren't worth your time!
I know how you feel and I have to say, don't be afraid to be alone. This world, makes a whole gist about community, and interaction and being with people. I believe that being alone is a gift too, and that you'll never be alone or lonely forever. Love yourself, cherish who you are, who you can be. Enjoy yourself. And be confident in your situation, it will pass, no matter how long it takes, no matter how hard it is, it won't last forever.
You know the funny thing Nicole? What you just described reminded me a time in my life when I experienced betrayal and met superficial folks. I really doubted myself and felt blue every now and then. I thought that I needed a clique, group, a best friend, etc. Looking back I can say I have been proud of who I am and especially proud of not becoming friend with some of the people I really wanted to hang out with. I don't have a need to have a bestie up today but I am there for those who support me. I also think it comes in time with maturity. In college too many people think they are the shit (excuse my language). Most important, I learned so much about myself without even realizing it. I know that going through a down period is the hardest believe me, but hang on there. Don't let these people affect who you are as a person. Just remember you are worth it. Believe that you are precious because like everyone you are unique.
***** THEN JUST ENJOY WHAT YOU ARE WHAT OTHERS ARE NOT! use what they claim as your weakness to be your strenght....... never change for other people who can never be in your skin
Patricia - I am a silent loyal subscriber. The type that never comments but is always excited to see a new video from you. I want to tell you that this video struck a chord for me at a time it was so much needed as I'm sure it did for others. Beauty, skin color and background aside... I am so PROUD of you as a WOMAN. Who is intelligent, beautiful and most importantly FEARLESS in a world that sets the standard of beauty for women at unattainable heights and then proceeds to chastise us for chasing it. KUDOS to you for being "normal" (lol, whatever that means in this day and age) and being unafraid to be exactly who you are, beautiful inside and out. xoxo
Patricia.... My jaw dropped when you said you are a believer!!! You have become one of my most favorite TH-camrs and how awesome it is that you are a Christian! God bless you and keep shining your light! Thank you for this inspiring video!!! 😃💖
I loved this! It's so important to not be overly critical of ourselves, but we fall into that pattern so quickly. Something that I've learned over the years is how important it is to take a stand for yourself and others who may not be able to stand up for themselves, you can't just let others bully, harass, intimidate you or undermine your self-confidence. And if you see someone doing that to others, call them out on it; no one deserves to be treated poorly or as if they are less than human.
I was saying this exact thing yesterday and today!! "I'm not good enough". The comparison thing is so real. I think things suck even more when you have high expectations for yourself or you once were an overachiever now things are going south and you cant seem to catch a break. smh
I had THE WORST day today and came home to this. THANK YOU so much Patricia. God is using you and will continue to use you to reach thousands and thousands of us. Keep doing what you're doing love. May love and light follow you wherever you go.
I know I've already commented on this video in particular but this is the second time I'm watching it because I needed a reminder (thank God I put this video in my "favorites") but I really appreciate your honesty, opinion, and giving me inspiration Patricia it means the most to me. Even though you might not read or comment to this, the best gift anyone can give are things like this so thank you again.
I really didn't to hear what you had to say in this video Patricia. My health has been really bad for the last 2 years and my life has had to stop completely because of it and I am always comparing myself to my friends and others my age, and even myself and what I was able to do a few years ago. I like you are am also extremely hard on myself and need to learn to stop the self criticism and just be proud of how I am handling my current situation and not worry about what I 'should' be doing at this stage in my life. Even though I am not religious I think the message you are putting out in this video is a very important one, so thank you Patricia xx
Going through exactly the same situation as you are. Struck by cancer 3 years ago and life has nvr been the same since. I'm 26 now and I can't stop comparing myself to where I think I should be or afraid that my friends are progressing so far ahead and that I'll always be left behind. Still trying to find a way to cope but I think I'm slowly coming around. Time lapses and I'm beginning to accept what has become and I'm gradually making the best out of the situation n all the little things in life. I hope you feel better soon n try to seize every day. Don't live for the moment..live in. Xxx sending u positivity
That's horrible I hope you are on the improve, thanks so much, sending positivity your way too! I can't imagine what it would be like to have cancer at such a young age, I've had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome for the last 5 years and although it's a horrible condition with no cure and not much research done about it, it's more of a life time thing than what some cancers can be. I am turning 21 soon and am two years out of high school and haven't been able to start uni yet, and most of my friends will be finishing their degrees next year. It's hard to not compare, but I just have to keep persevering with my appointments and hope that something works to get me better. Because at the moment I am at home all day everyday and a lot of my friendships have suffered and I just feel left behind and just miss that social interaction you get in everyday life. I think that's one of the reasons I have turned to youtube so much, you feel connected to people and it helps you feel a bit more normal. Thanks for your lovely message it's nice to know their are others out there in similar situations. I hope you are getting back on track for you, wishing you well xxx
***** It sucks that you are sick too, but it does help to know I'm not the only one my age whose live has been stoped by illness. I know what you mean and being grateful for just the little things, I was able to go to the library and get a coffee for about half an hour yesterday and I have to be happy that I was able to do that. Eventhough it is such a small thing compared to what i was doing 2 years ago. I have had CFS since 2009, so anxiety and a little bit of depression has come into my life and at the moment its just about getting through the days and being happy about the small things! :) x
I'm another person with fibromyalgia, but I also have Lupus and RA. I'm older than you girl, but I got sick very young too. Your going to compare yourselves to other people when you have an illness, it took me years to be ok with what I was missing out on with friends and family. It takes time, but you learn, by trying to keep up with everyone, it zaps your energy and you have horrible flair ups. I was mad at God for a long time also and that goes away to. I still have my bad days with depression, it's natural. Any type of illness changes your life. Stay strong, start a way to communicate with others going through health issues, but make it as positive as possible, this will help you make friends on TH-cam. I've only found people complaining, they have totally forgotten that there was and will be good days in your life. Creating a place that you can meet up online will help you stay social.
"Comparison is the thief of joy", you go girl. Like others, I've been feeling like this for a long time. It makes me feel at ease that I'm not the only one! x
Patricia, thank you so much for sharing this video and your thoughts. I wish I had seen this a bit sooner. I've been feeling really down on myself for the past few months, I lost a great bank job in October and haven't bounced back yet. I've been contemplating following my passion by starting an interior decorating business, but just didn't feel I have what it takes. Seeing this video and hearing your words have greatly inspired me. Thank you!!
Our fashion styles may have very little in common but videos like this one turn you into one of my fave people to wach on YT. Your words are always so inspirational and encourage me and many others so much. Thank you for that.
Girl. I needed this. I have fought this for YEARS. I so needed this. You're right. You basically can choose to be happy and love YOURSELF. It's your attitude that changes everything. ❤️
I love this! Thank you Patricia! That statement is so true, "Comparison is the thief of joy." I have experienced that sooooo much in my life lately and I thank you for sharing!!! God bless you!
when I'm feeling like crap i just look for videos like this its really uplifting, especially when you are hearing it from someone you look up too and respect.. thank you
When you pray God answers in many forms... Even a TH-cam vid sometimes! I've been praying all of last week and this week on some of the issues you touched on. Thank you and God bless you!
Patricia I always love when you do these kind of videos because you always come at the from a Godly angle. It's so refreshing and definitely needed here on TH-cam xx
I honestly didn't think this video was going to have an affect in my certain state but I'm amaze of how positive it just made me feel about myself, in a matter of minutes. Thanks
Thank you so much for this Pat. I'm at such a trying point in my life right now, and I really needed to hear this. This is why I love you and your channel. You bring soooo much more to the table than your gorgeous face and you truly shine light and inspiration on your subscribers, and this is why I admire your success. xx
So glad I found your channel today! You're so genuine, intelligent, fun and inspiring. You make a lot of meaningful points. Needed the motivation. Thank you :)
This is one of my favourite videos you've done Patricia! Ur message really resonates with me especially as I have a very corporate background and am making the transition to blogging. Different focus, different priorities and different challenges. However it's about rising to the challenge and having the confidence to face the fear and do it anyway as Susan Jeffers says! If u don't believe in itself then no one else will - I totally live by that mantra! X
Dear Patricia, I am going through my first broken heart and am hurting a lot right now. I want you to know how inspirational you are to me and how much I look up to you . Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us and just for being such a wonderful and strong person. xx
This video was everything i needed to hear. I have been struggling with thinking whether or not I'm enough of a friend, enough of a student, enough of a women for the people around me. This really helps redirect where i need to put my focus. Thanks girl!
Loved this Patricia! A lot of us women need to find the self love that you're referring to. Once we focus and zone out everything/everyone else we become unstoppable! Thanks for this!
*Patricia*, *Patricia, OMG! I have been subscribed to you since a hundred moons ago and I must say, Iove the person you have grown into. A wise young lady. I never miss a video. Not even on your vlog channel. My family gives me undisturbed time to watch you everytime you upload a video. I love you
I think key is seeing that we are all complete beings, theres nothing to take away and nothing to add even, we're just perfectly made the way we are. Like, compare a flower to a harddisk.. it aint workin! telling the flower that it needs to have more electricity or whatever in it aint improving her, if anything its just making her less focussed on what shes actually designed to do and what would actually make her happy. it aint doing no good! and it aint even FAIR. we're all worthy even if we did nothing ever but sit down and breathe. (or not even breathe. just EXIST.) I mean we hardly ever see a tree thats a little funny as unworthy of being here. no, its just here, livin, breathin, diggin that tree life. man, thats "just" a plant! not even a "pretty" one maybe. dont tell me you aint worthy guys.... I mean its okay to feel that way, but you see that thinking youre unworthy makes you feel bad... thats an indicator right there that its wrong.. just like the feeling you get when you just KNOW that something is wrong... or on the opposite, theres the feeling of just KNOWING that something is right... which would be you, you are "right" the way you are guys. all of you! no matter what! ALL of you! :) Much loooooooooooooovvve from Austria or anywhere lol xxx
You know I really needed this. Being a Girl from Kenya and then moving to the united states I always feel so different and at a disadvantage solely based on uncontrollable characteristics of who I am. Lately with school and social life I've just been feeling so stressed and so insecure like I will never be smart enough to reach my goals, or I'll never look good enough even though I feel like I've tried SO HARD. You remind me so much of my sister and you're truly an inspiration being that you're also into fashion and one day I hope to have a mentor like you or just be even close to how confident you are. All I can say is THANK YOU
PREACH! people always tell me how to live my life or why am i taking a certain route, mind your damn business, don't blame me because your unhappy because your doing what you think you should be doing, don't push that resentment onto me. ima do me, you do you :-)
You're an inspiration, Patty. A lot of people that are well-known and well-liked sometimes put up this front pretending that they have no idea what it is to lack confidence or be stuck, but it's great to know that you also have these days and are relatable. Much love, Mattilyn. xx
Thank you Patricia... i felt just like this yesterday and today. I have finished my A levels at college and i got average grades. That was a little disappointing because i tried so hard to get A's but i have accepted what i achieved as my best. However i am now looking for apprenticeships and part time jobs and the competition is HARDD out here. i'm sure you already know that. I was feeling not good enough because nearly all of my friends already have jobs or apprenticeships and are doing what i am trying to do... But this video has really lifted my spirits and helped me to keep optimistic. I am good enough.I may not be as talented as my friends or as academic as them , but i have my own gifts and i work hard and i am the best i can be . thanks xxX
Hi Keila rose I just had to reply you because I was in your situation not too long ago, almost all my friends had secured internships but I hadn't. I took me about a month plus and after I had submitted over 20 applications. But I must say I eventually secured a great internship. I must say my friend that you should soldier on as there is light at the end of the tunnel...Stay blessed
Patricia, Ive been faithfully watching you on here for a while now and this video has hit home with me. Everything you said has literally moved me to tears because I can relate to it. Thank you so much for this video. You're very inspiring & amazing.
Thank you! Thank you thank you for this! It came at a critical stage in my life where I'm having marital issues...where I compare how my husband treats other women with more dignity to how he treats me with very little regard. Which he has no problem doin, as he argues all the time why cant he just "have fun". Like you, its an interracial marriage. I'm jamaican and he's British, living in Jamaica (unhappily), and its just been a roller coaster of emotions comparing myself to others, and what a marriage shud be. Homoring and respecting your partner. I am now inspired! Thks a bunch from Jamaica! Xx
thank you Patricia for making this video and saying those words , i'v been feeling this way for far to long and i haven't done anything about it but now that I've watched your video you truly motivated me to pull myself together and find my own gifts , thank you
Gurl you should be a motivational speaker! I literally felt my spirits RISE as u spoke. Rn Im struggling with grades and I just realized that I might not get into Law School. And idk... Like Im not sure if I wouldve even liked it but its been my default career choice since I was 8 and now Im realizing i might not even have a shot at trying it out and I feel like I really fucked up basically and im only 21 so its depressing. Also I feel like I just dont try my best to harnest all my other talents and interest so i just feel like im the most boring unpassionate human being ever. But recently I took up dancing again and even tho im struggling it feels good to DO SOMETHING. Anyway today I was thinking... I might not always reach this high strict standard I set for myself but if I truly get my shit together and work hard... I bet I will still find success in ways I never even imagined.
Totally agree on every single word you said. I think it should be the perfect guideline for all those people who feel lost and don't believe in their capabilities. Life literally put us through the wringer and we have to be brave enough and grasp that confidence you talked about from the deepest part of ourselves. I always say that failure and bad experiences shape our personality and make us perfect. One of the best motivational videos I have ever watched, I'm sure it can help a lot of people, me included. Thanks for sharing such precious tips with us, you are so wise and professional, let me tell you. Wish you all the best.
AMEN! Speak life onto your situation! Girl I really started to get teary-eyed hearing about your story about your finances. I am in the same situation and I am praying and trusting in God over everything. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. Bless you
So I started my TH-cam channel almost two years ago & was always happy with the progress I made until around the start of this year I began to compare my channel with people who'd started at around the same time as I did, it got to me a little at first but then it got to a Point when I didn't even want to post anymore because I felt the video wasnt good enough//of a right standard. It got to a point where I'd end up in tears because I felt as if I was failing as an aspiring you tuber, and this affected how I felt about even filming, where I usd to post twice a week I stopped even filming for weeks as I couldn't face feeling angry at myself when it wouldn't get the same response as other people 'at my level' It was only recently that I realized I shouldn't and didn't have to feel like this & I started to have a more positive attitude towards myself and just stopped comparing myself. but when you've been doing it for so long it can be really hard and I still get caught up in it sometimes, anyway this video has just really motivated me to change for good and look at my channel a year ago from now and see the great progress I really have made, I am so grateful to Patricia for uploading this :)
Ahhh Patricia! I NEEDED to hear this and be reminded of this. Thankyou so this :) I pray that God will continue to Bless you and Mike and continue to spread light and encouragement. Lots of love. XxXxX
your amazing, its like having a big sister but on youtube. you literally spoke words of wisdom and i could relate to everything that was said. THANKYOUUUU for this video, topics like this arent spoken about enough and you really hit it on the nail, love you girl
You literally just said everything my pastor said in service yesterday in 10 mins. You are so walking in the spirit Patricia, I guess I really need to take this message to heart don't I?
Thank you so much Patrice for this video. This video was so much needed as I am going through so much in my life right now. Those words of encouragement goes a long way, xxx
Your video is a blessing. I used to have sooo much negative thoughts about myself (well, ok, I still do, sometimes) but in the end, as long as I'm happy with who I am and am deeply convinced that what I do is the right thing, I let go of all that bullshit and of what people say/think. And as the quote says, we shouldn't let people steal our happiness!!
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"Comparison is the thief of joy." WWWOOOWWW!
Not a single second of this video wasn't amazing! You are so amazing and inspirational! Every time I watch your videos they make me so happy and alive!
Jewellianna Palencia yeah i started crying a bit
One of the things I love about social media is the opportunity we have to encourage and uplift others, and I really felt I wanted to share this with you all. I hope it encourages you and please share with anyone you feel it would help! xx NEVER FEELING GOOD ENOUGH
This video gave me so much life!! 😍😍
Thank you for this video Patricia! I always felt like this in my job when I first got into the corporate fashion industry. Being a black female in this industry is so hard! I thank god I overcame those feelings. I am good enough. You are good enough! #Girlpower Love ya!
You look FLAWLESS Patricia, and what's even more important, you are so intelligent and inspiring. THANKS for these videos. Love from SPAIN xxx
Where is that sweater from? So beautiful!! Lovely video by the way :D
Oriena Mensah its from misguided!, so cosy. I'll link it in the description box
I just don't know how to stop comparing myself.. I'm fine one minute and then I'll see a picture or a video or advert or movie where a woman is sexualised or just really attractive and suddenly I hate myself because I can never be like that. It's so stupid but it's literally like a trigger overtime and I don't know how to stop it
Maybe take a break from social media, that's the worst place for me🙈
Also, what I've discovered is that there is usually someone very close to you in your life, who is encouraging your self-loathing as a result of the comparison. And it's probably not even intentional on their part but just identifying who this person is and becoming aware of it makes a huge difference because then you can consciously reject it, as Patricia says. Listening to Louise Hays affirmations helps me as well.
That makes a lot of sense, my sister definitely puts me down all the time, like overtime I speak to her:/ Thank you so much
I got the same problem too I get triggered because it reminds me of how I look but don't wish to be sexualized because your body is yours and your more that. beautiful is something else, don't try to be like anybody else and do things that make you feel good. people will mostly remember your character. its hard but surround yourself with positively :-) but I know how you feel
Alot times these overrated pictured people have some really issues going on themselves. not to mention that a lot if it is filtered and photoshopped. Do you boo.
"Life and death is in the power of the tongue so speak life." Beautifully said! My new mantra.
Proverbs 18:21.... my favorite scripture.
Danielle Im so glad this video showed up in my feed because I had a really bad day today and she just literally lifted my spirits and made me think a little bit of how I look at myself.
That was powerful Patricia!! I felt tingles around my body when you was speaking, you spoke with so much conviction and I know you was talking to yourself as much as your were talking to us, You are amazing and you are MORE than enough! Keep inspiring xxx
Man Patricia!!! You need to be a motivational speaker. Every time I'm feeling a certain way your videos help so much. You really speak the truth.
ItsMyRayeRaye ur truly beautiful girl! Love from india!
This is my 2nd time watching this and it finally hit me that I wasn't acknowledging the pain I felt from not feeling good enough. God is so good, and your video really helped me. Thanks for posting this!
Patricia thank you SO MUCH for making this video. I've been struggling with this problem for a very long time and I'm really trying to better myself and change it now, this video came at the perfect time. You're blessed to have a platform to be able to share this with people all over the world. Keep doing what you're doing! Love!!
Love yr channel
Steph. Keep up the good work and I hope yr mum is doing well.
Aww thank you so much!! My mum isn't doing too well actually :(, but we're praying for things to come around soon xx
JustSteph keeping her in my prayers love.
minnie Nwangumaa thank you so much x
You should be a therapist or something because you are really good at talking about feelings and I bet everyone who watched this video felt better about themselves including me.
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Yeah it helps alot. Here I am sitting down for hours a day watching social media and comparing myself to other ppl not feeling "pretty" or "worthy-enough" I'm trying to start to have a self confidence in myself ,but it's just useless. Her speach is kinda helping me understand how to get over all of this💞
Don't usually comment on here but honestly this is how people should use youtube to help others and encourage them. Definitely agree with what your saying and it's so true especially with social media it can really make you fall into that trap of comparing people and their lives. Thank you so much Patricia, just what I needed. And hey if your a believer you have other followers who are believers so don't hold back.
Once again thank you!
what a powerful girl
Girl preach! your testimony had me like, AMEN! God is great :)
Same thing I said!
As I've stated before, this video has gotten me through some tough times throughout the years. Now, just so happens to be one of the tough times. I dont know, I feel like commenting is helping me express how grateful I am for these encouraging words I cant even get from family or people who are supposedly close to me. I'm trying to live my life right and best the best version of myself I can and this video is constantly reminding me of my goal.
I think this is exactly what I needed today because this weekend especially I was feeling down about myself
So thank you
I try to stay positive about all things and it's hard after many years of being negative about everything.
I find it hard to be positive or feel good about myself when I can't seem to find good friends or frjends that like me for me. I have these friends that claim I'm their best friend but don't include me that much. And I talk to people on facebook and make friends through there before college started ,and when I meet them at beginning of college they hung out with me and then just dumped me. I don't know the reason why but just what I'm left with to think was that I wasn't good enough or cool enough in person (I was totally myself on the internet).
I struggle to have confidence in my abilities ,etc ,when people try to criticize on me "being too quiet" or "why can't u let loose and have fun" ...these comments just make me feel even more down and I want to go home and curl up on the couch and cry
I'm more introverted and I'm not shy ,but I just don't have much to say when socializing and I'm a serious person....I'm trying to accept myself but people just don't accept me or want to appreciate my qualities. I tried to be more extroverted , but being something I'm not just exhausts me after a while.
I completely understand what you're going through. I went through something like this my first two years of college and even now, at a completely different university, Im still going through a bit of it. I am an introvert as well and I'm very shy. I prefer to not speak and I'm not a party animal. I was pressured, used, and also dumped by friends. And at first I blamed myself and completely isolated myself for almost a year, but after a while I realized that I didn't need those ppl because they weren't healthy for my journey or my well being.
My advice to you would be to find a passion and put all your energy into it. Lean on family, friends, or positive people especially during your darkest days. Experiment with makeup or anything you've been interested in before but never tried (nothing crazy or dangerous). Treat yourself to a day at a salon, get a massage, and take yourself out to dinner. Don't worry about being stared at because you're alone. Just go for it! Happiness will find its way to you and everything in your life will fall into place. Good luck! :D
never ever try and be something you're not. it never works! and will only leave you feeling unhappy. keep working on seeing everything good in your life and in you as a person and appreciate that. you only live life once so focus on the good things. those people really weren't worth your time!
I know how you feel and I have to say, don't be afraid to be alone. This world, makes a whole gist about community, and interaction and being with people. I believe that being alone is a gift too, and that you'll never be alone or lonely forever. Love yourself, cherish who you are, who you can be. Enjoy yourself. And be confident in your situation, it will pass, no matter how long it takes, no matter how hard it is, it won't last forever.
You know the funny thing Nicole? What you just described reminded me a time in my life when I experienced betrayal and met superficial folks. I really doubted myself and felt blue every now and then. I thought that I needed a clique, group, a best friend, etc. Looking back I can say I have been proud of who I am and especially proud of not becoming friend with some of the people I really wanted to hang out with. I don't have a need to have a bestie up today but I am there for those who support me. I also think it comes in time with maturity. In college too many people think they are the shit (excuse my language). Most important, I learned so much about myself without even realizing it. I know that going through a down period is the hardest believe me, but hang on there. Don't let these people affect who you are as a person. Just remember you are worth it. Believe that you are precious because like everyone you are unique.
***** THEN JUST ENJOY WHAT YOU ARE WHAT OTHERS ARE NOT! use what they claim as your weakness to be your strenght....... never change for other people who can never be in your skin
4 years later and you don’t understand how much this video just helped me. ❤️
Patricia - I am a silent loyal subscriber. The type that never comments but is always excited to see a new video from you. I want to tell you that this video struck a chord for me at a time it was so much needed as I'm sure it did for others. Beauty, skin color and background aside... I am so PROUD of you as a WOMAN. Who is intelligent, beautiful and most importantly FEARLESS in a world that sets the standard of beauty for women at unattainable heights and then proceeds to chastise us for chasing it. KUDOS to you for being "normal" (lol, whatever that means in this day and age) and being unafraid to be exactly who you are, beautiful inside and out. xoxo
Had to come back and watch this video again!! So much wisdom... MUCH LOVE SIS
Patricia.... My jaw dropped when you said you are a believer!!! You have become one of my most favorite TH-camrs and how awesome it is that you are a Christian! God bless you and keep shining your light! Thank you for this inspiring video!!! 😃💖
I feel like I'm at church and the pastor called Patricia up to give her testimony.
You're such a gem Patricia. Please do more of this type of videos; you're really helping ppl.
I loved this! It's so important to not be overly critical of ourselves, but we fall into that pattern so quickly. Something that I've learned over the years is how important it is to take a stand for yourself and others who may not be able to stand up for themselves, you can't just let others bully, harass, intimidate you or undermine your self-confidence. And if you see someone doing that to others, call them out on it; no one deserves to be treated poorly or as if they are less than human.
I needed this. My Dad passed away recently and I've been down on myself. THANK YOU.
Sorry for your loss. God Bless!
Very sorry to hear that,i honestly wish u all the best and i hope you feel happy again very soon..
stay strong and continue to focus on happiness and health, and you will make him and the rest of your family and friends proud. big love xo
I was saying this exact thing yesterday and today!! "I'm not good enough". The comparison thing is so real. I think things suck even more when you have high expectations for yourself or you once were an overachiever now things are going south and you cant seem to catch a break. smh
love this ! its important that people understand we go through these struggles as well xoxo
I had THE WORST day today and came home to this. THANK YOU so much Patricia. God is using you and will continue to use you to reach thousands and thousands of us. Keep doing what you're doing love. May love and light follow you wherever you go.
Needed this today Pat, perfect timing as always. Love these vids from you...very inspiring! xx
Lowkey excited for your daughter to look back on these and watch them, you are one amazing women Patricia ♥️
Today was my birthday and my mom could not plan anything and I was feeling like I was not good enough but u help literally in tears
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almost 3 years later... I needed this. I really needed this...
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Comparison is the thief of joy, that quote is great!
I know I've already commented on this video in particular but this is the second time I'm watching it because I needed a reminder (thank God I put this video in my "favorites") but I really appreciate your honesty, opinion, and giving me inspiration Patricia it means the most to me. Even though you might not read or comment to this, the best gift anyone can give are things like this so thank you again.
I really didn't to hear what you had to say in this video Patricia. My health has been really bad for the last 2 years and my life has had to stop completely because of it and I am always comparing myself to my friends and others my age, and even myself and what I was able to do a few years ago. I like you are am also extremely hard on myself and need to learn to stop the self criticism and just be proud of how I am handling my current situation and not worry about what I 'should' be doing at this stage in my life. Even though I am not religious I think the message you are putting out in this video is a very important one, so thank you Patricia xx
*i really did need to hear what you had to say. Auto correct!
Going through exactly the same situation as you are. Struck by cancer 3 years ago and life has nvr been the same since. I'm 26 now and I can't stop comparing myself to where I think I should be or afraid that my friends are progressing so far ahead and that I'll always be left behind. Still trying to find a way to cope but I think I'm slowly coming around. Time lapses and I'm beginning to accept what has become and I'm gradually making the best out of the situation n all the little things in life. I hope you feel better soon n try to seize every day. Don't live for the moment..live in. Xxx sending u positivity
That's horrible I hope you are on the improve, thanks so much, sending positivity your way too! I can't imagine what it would be like to have cancer at such a young age, I've had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome for the last 5 years and although it's a horrible condition with no cure and not much research done about it, it's more of a life time thing than what some cancers can be. I am turning 21 soon and am two years out of high school and haven't been able to start uni yet, and most of my friends will be finishing their degrees next year. It's hard to not compare, but I just have to keep persevering with my appointments and hope that something works to get me better. Because at the moment I am at home all day everyday and a lot of my friendships have suffered and I just feel left behind and just miss that social interaction you get in everyday life. I think that's one of the reasons I have turned to youtube so much, you feel connected to people and it helps you feel a bit more normal. Thanks for your lovely message it's nice to know their are others out there in similar situations. I hope you are getting back on track for you, wishing you well xxx
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It sucks that you are sick too, but it does help to know I'm not the only one my age whose live has been stoped by illness. I know what you mean and being grateful for just the little things, I was able to go to the library and get a coffee for about half an hour yesterday and I have to be happy that I was able to do that. Eventhough it is such a small thing compared to what i was doing 2 years ago. I have had CFS since 2009, so anxiety and a little bit of depression has come into my life and at the moment its just about getting through the days and being happy about the small things! :) x
I'm another person with fibromyalgia, but I also have Lupus and RA. I'm older than you girl, but I got sick very young too. Your going to compare yourselves to other people when you have an illness, it took me years to be ok with what I was missing out on with friends and family. It takes time, but you learn, by trying to keep up with everyone, it zaps your energy and you have horrible flair ups. I was mad at God for a long time also and that goes away to. I still have my bad days with depression, it's natural. Any type of illness changes your life. Stay strong, start a way to communicate with others going through health issues, but make it as positive as possible, this will help you make friends on TH-cam. I've only found people complaining, they have totally forgotten that there was and will be good days in your life. Creating a place that you can meet up online will help you stay social.
"Comparison is the thief of joy", you go girl. Like others, I've been feeling like this for a long time. It makes me feel at ease that I'm not the only one! x
Patricia, thank you so much for sharing this video and your thoughts. I wish I had seen this a bit sooner. I've been feeling really down on myself for the past few months, I lost a great bank job in October and haven't bounced back yet. I've been contemplating following my passion by starting an interior decorating business, but just didn't feel I have what it takes. Seeing this video and hearing your words have greatly inspired me. Thank you!!
I come back to your videos when I'm feeling low. Your words and your passion help me so much. Thank you
Our fashion styles may have very little in common but videos like this one turn you into one of my fave people to wach on YT. Your words are always so inspirational and encourage me and many others so much. Thank you for that.
Girl. I needed this. I have fought this for YEARS. I so needed this. You're right. You basically can choose to be happy and love YOURSELF. It's your attitude that changes everything. ❤️
You are a phenomenal woman. I think you should consider writing a book somewhere in the future
You have no idea, how much I needed this. Being a dark-skinned girl too, this means so much to me.
I keep watching you all the way from Kenya because you are just amazing! thank you!
I love this! Thank you Patricia! That statement is so true, "Comparison is the thief of joy." I have experienced that sooooo much in my life lately and I thank you for sharing!!! God bless you!
Speak life!! Amen.
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Thanks for this Girly you are a God send, I love Patricia
Lauren TalkBeauty No prob. You are the reason I actually started watching her videos.
when I'm feeling like crap i just look for videos like this its really uplifting, especially when you are hearing it from someone you look up too and respect.. thank you
When you pray God answers in many forms... Even a TH-cam vid sometimes! I've been praying all of last week and this week on some of the issues you touched on. Thank you and God bless you!
The amount of times I have come back to this video for constant motivation. Love you Patricia x
Patricia I always love when you do these kind of videos because you always come at the from a Godly angle. It's so refreshing and definitely needed here on TH-cam xx
I honestly didn't think this video was going to have an affect in my certain state but I'm amaze of how positive it just made me feel about myself, in a matter of minutes. Thanks
Thank you so much for this Pat. I'm at such a trying point in my life right now, and I really needed to hear this. This is why I love you and your channel. You bring soooo much more to the table than your gorgeous face and you truly shine light and inspiration on your subscribers, and this is why I admire your success. xx
So glad I found your channel today! You're so genuine, intelligent, fun and inspiring. You make a lot of meaningful points. Needed the motivation. Thank you :)
This is one of my favourite videos you've done Patricia! Ur message really resonates with me especially as I have a very corporate background and am making the transition to blogging. Different focus, different priorities and different challenges. However it's about rising to the challenge and having the confidence to face the fear and do it anyway as Susan Jeffers says! If u don't believe in itself then no one else will - I totally live by that mantra! X
Dear Patricia, I am going through my first broken heart and am hurting a lot right now. I want you to know how inspirational you are to me and how much I look up to you . Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us and just for being such a wonderful and strong person. xx
You are beautiful inside out, Patricia. Thank you for such an uplifting video. Love you!
I LOVE that you talk about every day problems in a true way. I always feel better about myself after watching your videos!
Comparison is the thief of joy - wow that quote really hit me so true ✌️
This video was everything i needed to hear. I have been struggling with thinking whether or not I'm enough of a friend, enough of a student, enough of a women for the people around me. This really helps redirect where i need to put my focus. Thanks girl!
This makes me want to cry because its how I been feeling for a while!!!! Its like you anwsered my questions hun xxx
Patricia Bright I am crying!!!! Thank you so much!!!! Just what I needed to hear amongst the negativity in my life!!!!!!
I LOVE THIS!
Loved this Patricia! A lot of us women need to find the self love that you're referring to. Once we focus and zone out everything/everyone else we become unstoppable! Thanks for this!
oh my gosh this made me tear up I felt like you were talking directly to me! Thank you I needed thisss. xo
*Patricia*, *Patricia, OMG! I have been subscribed to you since a hundred moons ago and I must say, Iove the person you have grown into. A wise young lady. I never miss a video. Not even on your vlog channel. My family gives me undisturbed time to watch you everytime you upload a video. I love you
I think key is seeing that we are all complete beings, theres nothing to take away and nothing to add even, we're just perfectly made the way we are. Like, compare a flower to a harddisk.. it aint workin! telling the flower that it needs to have more electricity or whatever in it aint improving her, if anything its just making her less focussed on what shes actually designed to do and what would actually make her happy. it aint doing no good! and it aint even FAIR. we're all worthy even if we did nothing ever but sit down and breathe. (or not even breathe. just EXIST.)
I mean we hardly ever see a tree thats a little funny as unworthy of being here. no, its just here, livin, breathin, diggin that tree life. man, thats "just" a plant! not even a "pretty" one maybe. dont tell me you aint worthy guys.... I mean its okay to feel that way, but you see that thinking youre unworthy makes you feel bad... thats an indicator right there that its wrong.. just like the feeling you get when you just KNOW that something is wrong... or on the opposite, theres the feeling of just KNOWING that something is right... which would be you, you are "right" the way you are guys. all of you! no matter what! ALL of you! :)
Much loooooooooooooovvve from Austria or anywhere lol xxx
diggin that tree life man! lol thanks for your comment x
lol sorry for that was just feelin it a little... thanks for replying Patricia x
You know I really needed this. Being a Girl from Kenya and then moving to the united states I always feel so different and at a disadvantage solely based on uncontrollable characteristics of who I am. Lately with school and social life I've just been feeling so stressed and so insecure like I will never be smart enough to reach my goals, or I'll never look good enough even though I feel like I've tried SO HARD. You remind me so much of my sister and you're truly an inspiration being that you're also into fashion and one day I hope to have a mentor like you or just be even close to how confident you are. All I can say is THANK YOU
PREACH! people always tell me how to live my life or why am i taking a certain route, mind your damn business, don't blame me because your unhappy because your doing what you think you should be doing, don't push that resentment onto me. ima do me, you do you :-)
You're an inspiration, Patty. A lot of people that are well-known and well-liked sometimes put up this front pretending that they have no idea what it is to lack confidence or be stuck, but it's great to know that you also have these days and are relatable.
Much love, Mattilyn. xx
Thank you Patricia... i felt just like this yesterday and today. I have finished my A levels at college and i got average grades. That was a little disappointing because i tried so hard to get A's but i have accepted what i achieved as my best. However i am now looking for apprenticeships and part time jobs and the competition is HARDD out here. i'm sure you already know that. I was feeling not good enough because nearly all of my friends already have jobs or apprenticeships and are doing what i am trying to do... But this video has really lifted my spirits and helped me to keep optimistic. I am good enough.I may not be as talented as my friends or as academic as them , but i have my own gifts and i work hard and i am the best i can be . thanks xxX
Hi Keila rose I just had to reply you because I was in your situation not too long ago, almost all my friends had secured internships but I hadn't. I took me about a month plus and after I had submitted over 20 applications. But I must say I eventually secured a great internship. I must say my friend that you should soldier on as there is light at the end of the tunnel...Stay blessed
Chidinma Onuoha thank you :), that's really encouraging. I will continue to do my best 😌
Patricia, Ive been faithfully watching you on here for a while now and this video has hit home with me. Everything you said has literally moved me to tears because I can relate to it. Thank you so much for this video. You're very inspiring & amazing.
I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much Patricia!!!
I really appreciate you even more for making this video. It speaks volumes about your character in such an amazing way!
" Comparison is the thief of joy"
Thank you. Need to listen to this weekly
Patricia you are insanely beautiful inside and out and I have so much respect for you and how real you keep it... Keep it up hunny!
Thank you! Thank you thank you for this! It came at a critical stage in my life where I'm having marital issues...where I compare how my husband treats other women with more dignity to how he treats me with very little regard. Which he has no problem doin, as he argues all the time why cant he just "have fun". Like you, its an interracial marriage. I'm jamaican and he's British, living in Jamaica (unhappily), and its just been a roller coaster of emotions comparing myself to others, and what a marriage shud be. Homoring and respecting your partner.
I am now inspired! Thks a bunch from Jamaica! Xx
You're so amazing, thank you so much I think I needed this
thank you Patricia for making this video and saying those words , i'v been feeling this way for far to long and i haven't done anything about it but now that I've watched your video you truly motivated me to pull myself together and find my own gifts , thank you
Gurl you should be a motivational speaker! I literally felt my spirits RISE as u spoke. Rn Im struggling with grades and I just realized that I might not get into Law School. And idk... Like Im not sure if I wouldve even liked it but its been my default career choice since I was 8 and now Im realizing i might not even have a shot at trying it out and I feel like I really fucked up basically and im only 21 so its depressing. Also I feel like I just dont try my best to harnest all my other talents and interest so i just feel like im the most boring unpassionate human being ever. But recently I took up dancing again and even tho im struggling it feels good to DO SOMETHING. Anyway today I was thinking... I might not always reach this high strict standard I set for myself but if I truly get my shit together and work hard... I bet I will still find success in ways I never even imagined.
"Comparison is the thief of joy."
Well said Patricia .
I'm a new subscriber - You are so awesome Patricia! I love listening to your encouraging words as a sister in Christ! 🙌🏽 Proverbs 23:7
You really inspire me Patricia, god will continue to lift you up.
Totally agree on every single word you said. I think it should be the perfect guideline for all those people who feel lost and don't believe in their capabilities. Life literally put us through the wringer and we have to be brave enough and grasp that confidence you talked about from the deepest part of ourselves. I always say that failure and bad experiences shape our personality and make us perfect. One of the best motivational videos I have ever watched, I'm sure it can help a lot of people, me included. Thanks for sharing such precious tips with us, you are so wise and professional, let me tell you. Wish you all the best.
AMEN! Speak life onto your situation! Girl I really started to get teary-eyed hearing about your story about your finances. I am in the same situation and I am praying and trusting in God over everything. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. Bless you
So I started my TH-cam channel almost two years ago & was always happy with the progress I made until around the start of this year I began to compare my channel with people who'd started at around the same time as I did, it got to me a little at first but then it got to a Point when I didn't even want to post anymore because I felt the video wasnt good enough//of a right standard. It got to a point where I'd end up in tears because I felt as if I was failing as an aspiring you tuber, and this affected how I felt about even filming, where I usd to post twice a week I stopped even filming for weeks as I couldn't face feeling angry at myself when it wouldn't get the same response as other people 'at my level' It was only recently that I realized I shouldn't and didn't have to feel like this & I started to have a more positive attitude towards myself and just stopped comparing myself. but when you've been doing it for so long it can be really hard and I still get caught up in it sometimes, anyway this video has just really motivated me to change for good and look at my channel a year ago from now and see the great progress I really have made, I am so grateful to Patricia for uploading this :)
comparison is the thief of joy!!! light bulb moment. that is such a good phrase to remember and repeat.
You are ridiculously beautiful.
I watch this video multiple times a year. Absolutely love it.
Ahhh Patricia! I NEEDED to hear this and be reminded of this. Thankyou so this :) I pray that God will continue to Bless you and Mike and continue to spread light and encouragement. Lots of love. XxXxX
your amazing, its like having a big sister but on youtube. you literally spoke words of wisdom and i could relate to everything that was said. THANKYOUUUU for this video, topics like this arent spoken about enough and you really hit it on the nail, love you girl
i cant tell how much i get in my own head and compare myself to others and i struggle with that all the time so amazing video and thanks
The power of you own thoughts. So important to understand, it can really change your life. Thank you for bringing this up Patricia.
Wow thanks for the motivation! It is really about attitude and having positive energy :)
You literally just said everything my pastor said in service yesterday in 10 mins. You are so walking in the spirit Patricia, I guess I really need to take this message to heart don't I?
This is my first time watching her , and I fucking love her !!!!! 🙈😍😍😍😍😍
Thank you SO MUCH for sharing your heart with us! Your "Girl Talks" are always timely and encouraging.
Very touchy subject and definitely something worth talking about xo
The message in this video is truly incredible. Thank you! This is just what I needed to hear today
Thank you for this video!
You look like Olivia Pope ^^
I'm so glad im not the only one who thinks that!!
Thank you so much Patrice for this video. This video was so much needed as I am going through so much in my life right now. Those words of encouragement goes a long way, xxx
patricia i love ur energy
Your video is a blessing. I used to have sooo much negative thoughts about myself (well, ok, I still do, sometimes) but in the end, as long as I'm happy with who I am and am deeply convinced that what I do is the right thing, I let go of all that bullshit and of what people say/think.
And as the quote says, we shouldn't let people steal our happiness!!