The wise words of Baz Luhrmann, "Enjoy your body, use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it, or what other people think of it; It is the greatest instrument you will ever own".
I'm reading all your comments and shedding a little tear, you've all got so much lessons and expereince from the 15 year olds to 50 year olds, your all sooooo soooo amazing. *big hugs* and now bed time x
LOL I died when she said "My bed is like a club.!" I am in my late 20s and I feel the same way! I no longer feel guilty or old for wanting to get 8+ hours of sleep! Sleep is cool ya'll! And I've learned so much in my 20s, I could write a book but something that sticks out that I have learned is that EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE. Whatever happens, try not to get too down on yourself because you will get through it and you'll be so much stronger and better for it. And I've learned that getting older and wiser rocks so embrace it!
One lesson I learned and I learned this in high school. It's okay being single. I actually spend that time getting done,focusing on me, and healing myself. Men can be a distraction sometimes so when I do break from a guy I spend that time bettering myself. Not every guy is "THE ONE".
I'm 23 and the biggest lesson I've learned in life thus far is that when people show you who they are believe them! I used to think that everyone had good intentions... BOY was I wrong lol. Also I learned don't envy people for what looks like their happiness and riches because you never know what their life is like behind closed doors & oh yea I definitely can't eat whatever I want but I still do lol
I'm only 22 but I've learnt that it takes time to get to know who you really are and you should allow yourself that time to grow and truly attain what you want for yourself. I've also realized that friends come and go but the true ones stay; there's only a handful of people you can genuinely trust with things.
I'm 25 and I've learned that if you gonna buy something big and expensive, like house, you should learn everything about the cost of its maintenance/decor and where to buy those things! And I've learned that the less stuff and clothes you have in your house- THE BETTER! It's way easier to clean everything, and organize! And also always learn how much time you spend on everything you do!
You know I love these videos where I get to chit-chat with you and share some of my experiences and lessons I've learnt! Leave me a comment on something important you've learnt in your life so far, and share the knowledge! xx 20 THINGS I'VE LEARNT IN MY 20'S
Do you PB, your videos/posts are entertaining and helpful. The little things don't matter because the people that are interested get your point. Have a great day!
I'm 18 and learned a very big lesson in my life recently. Never do things for a guy and expect him to do things for you in return (sexually for the most part). Don't give yourself to a man just because you think he'll ask you out afterwards or so he can take your loneliness away. In the end, he probably won't do any of that and you'll remain alone like before...
Just graduated from college a few months ago and I'm now shattered that the real world doesn't give two pennies about how high my grades were or how well I carry myself as a person. There's always someone better than you and the job you want takes a ton of rejections to get to. I know, harsh...but it's been a rocky road so far.
I had a bad time today at work and I literally teared up while I was on the subway. But I came back home and watched this amazing video and I just want to say, thank you Patricia, your words are truly inspiring and they calmed me down so much. I felt a lot better after watching this. :)
So inspiring and so true! I'm turning 23 in less than a month and I'm at a stage of life where I feel like I'm stuck. I'm questioning myself and figuring out who I am and where I'm going, what career I want to pursue..I'm also becoming more conscious that years are going by faster and faster and thatI have to enjoy life because it is short! I'm also realizing that not having a load of friends and not pleasing everybody is totally okay, that people have disappointed me and still are doing it, but you know what! It goes on! I have one life to live and again I have to enjoy it the best I can! Thank you Pat so much for this amazing video!
Im 14 & I just got into year 10 and everyone in my class have boyfriends except me. And were in a girls school, I'm straight so thats nothing but while everyone tells yoy why dont you like anyone ? Why dont you like guys ? Lol & it use to make me annoyed but I learnt now that its ok if you dont like guys because first of all it wont last long, its a waste of time and God will give me one at the right time and moment xx Patricia you really inspire me
nadiaxoxidk You have so more much to do in life than a boyfriend. I didn't have my first one until my senior year. God sent him to me and he was truly worth the wait. He's very patient. Don't rush it, plus many of those girls are insecure and are in those relationships looking for love in the wrong places. You're only 14, don't let the world peer pressure you into their fast paced world. You're perfect and are right where you're suppose to be!
Patricia Bright Me too! nadiaxoxidk: My schoolwork and extracurricular activities kept me busy. In fact, it's because of my extracurricular activities- which i thoroughly enjoyed- that got me through school and life! you have the rest of your life to have a boyfriend.FYI, I was also in an all girls school. 99% of those with boyfriend at your school will probably end up marrying other guys anyway (if they get married). Never feel pressured to do anything!
yeah i remember when i was in high school some ppl would ask why dont i ever see u with a guy? lol bc no guy ever ask me out in high school. lame i know but coming into college was a whole different ball game. now ive been together with my bf for 2 1/2 years. just enjoy and focus on yourself. he will come. :)
Believe me focus on your academics. Men aren't running away from the planet. There will be loads of real men with great personality and so worth your time. Please don't waste time trying to be like everyone. x
Your past mistakes are not a reflection of who you are or who you aspire to be. Anything negative in the past should stay there and only serve the purpose of bettering yourself. This video was so inspiring and positive Patricia! Could relate to it 100%.
Your videos always make me happy and inspire me. I've fallen into a bit of a rutt about life and what I want to do and this really helped put things into perspective and made me feel a lot better x
heykeish I know what you mean. With me, it felt like everything went wrong. And I'm still not where I want to be, but it feels like something awakened deep within. Like a wakeup call. And videos like these are getting me through rough times. Thanks, Patricia Bright 💋
Oh my goodness! I needed this soo badly! I just turned 22 and many things that I was dealing with and thinking about you touched on so beautifully! This video was such an encouragement for me. I often feel as though I should have my ish together and I really am hard on myself because I do not feel as though I am where I would like to be at my age. This kind of helped me realize that it is ok to not have it ALL together right now, and actually be proud of how far I have come. Thank you soo much Patricia!
I just learned so much about myself from this video. Being in your 20s should be about development and growth. This is our 10 year chance to really get to know ourselves and the world around us. Patti you are awesome for this video!
I'm 17 and I'm retaking my first year of sixth form by my own choice. It's I know what I want to do with my life but at the same time I don't. This video might be for people in their 20's but it has honestly given me some inspiration and hope for my future!! Thank you Patricia, you really are like a big sister which gives spot on advice!!
Amen girl. Coming from a 27 year old here. So relate to what you're saying, especially the career path point. I studied law for 5 years but I am a business woman now. It doesn't matter, you education makes you a well-rounded, well-spoken individual. Loving the more intellectual vlogs you have been doing recently.
This is such a great list Patricia. I'm 25 and the most important one for me is what you said about not worrying if you haven't got it all figured out. I still call my mum if I'm not sure what to do about a situation at work, or about how to cook some new ingredient I'm trying in a recipe... haha
25 years old here! Quarter-life crisis. You start to feel kinda frantic and "carpe diem" because you don't want to waste your 20s. Calming down and just enjoying every stage of your life as it comes helps!
You made me a little teary eyed! I feel like such an epic failure because I made a huge mistake in life and am not anywhere near where I thought I would be at this age (23). I am so grateful that you said it's ok to fail, and I feel so motivated! Thank you!
I'm 23 now and what I've learned so far being a twentysomething is that everybody is unique and his or her own qualities. Find those qualities and embrace them, and you'll find a job or hobby that fits you perfectly!
Oh my god yes! These are exactly the kind of things I've been thinking a lot about lately. I'm 22 now and looking back over the last couple of years I've learnt so much about life that just didn't make sense before. Your 20's are definitely a learning curve and sometimes I can't help but be nostalgic for my teenage years when everything was so much simpler, but onwards and upwards!
I'm 24 and 6 months I remember turning 23 and 24 was like nooo I'm old. After analyze myself and where I'm standing in life i figured out getting old is pretty cool. (Not the number but the feeling) I figured out the I'm wiser I know better what I want, what makes me happy I know better myself. With others words I'm happier and free. So getting older is pretty cool you just have to embrace it on your own time. DON'T WORRY
I'm 26 in 28 days, and yes I'm fully in a quarter life crises right now.. It's not that I feel 'old', but I just can't deal with the increasing number, haha. However, I have learnt so much over the past few years and I am grateful for my lessons. Everything you said Patricia was spot on! One of my favourite videos of yours. Here's to getting wiser.
I wanted to stop aging at 21! I'll be 23 this year, I really can't believe it! But, i'm happy that i've gained skills to cherish every moment & be responsible! This video is sparkle beautiful! Thanks!
I turn 30 in a month and by 25 I learned that I didn't know anything about life! Since then, I've come into the woman I love to be meaning, I'm confident in who I am, I'm very understanding, and whatever my parents didn't teach the world would, did, and will.
I'm turning 20 in a month, I really hope I get better at the small talk, I'm terrible at it lol. But one thing I have learned in the past year is that taking time for yourself is so important. Self-care really makes a difference, taking like 20 minutes of the day just to be by yourself or do something that makes you feel good and helps you de-stress is really helpful :). I've also figured out that even though you have to learn to be self-reliant, you also have to be self-aware and realize sometimes you can't take on the world by yourself.
Absolutely loved this video. I'm coming up to 25 and these 20 life lessons were SPOT ON! The fact that most uni goers don't succeed in a career they completed at uni. That you will drift away from most friends during the teen years and that bed is a haven! I'd love more of these 20 lessons. Maybe do a relationship one.
This was a really good video. I am 35 so no where close to 20 but you are right on with everything you talked about. Some of it still continues in the 30 ' too. I usually never comment, but I wanted to on this video. Thanks!!
I'm officially off the calendar as well:)) lol!! I wouldn't change a thing... With age come wisdom and clarity, a much clear understanding of what your purpose is in life ;) so nice to see that at her ( Patricia ) age she gets it!
I'm 18 now and over the past years I've learn to appreciate myself, family, friends, and God. I never understood how important they were until when i was stuck in a very.. i mean VERY serious situation and they will help me get through it. Also I've realized that I have so much potential. I never believed in myself, and now i'm a freshman in college getting straight A's. Lastly, i've learned that those who care about you would make an effort to contact you. I just graduated from high school and everyone that I've talked to except 5 people don't make an effort to contact me. Matter of fact, two weeks ago i made an effort to meet one my "good" friends and she treated me like complete crap.
A major thing that I am learning (which I think you touched on briefly) is to get rid of the lofty expectations that you had for your life. When you're younger, you tend to plan out your life all the way done to the letter...what kind of occupation you'll have, where you'll live, who you'll marry etc. only to find that things don't always go as planned. And that is mainly because while you're planning your life, you're not factoring in LIFE. So many unexpected things can happen that throw your "plan" off and that's okay, it's what makes the journey worthwhile. So don't get discouraged if things don't pan out as you thought they would by the time you're a certain age...you are where you are for a reason and just learn to grow from the experiences while continuously working to create the life you imagine for yourself. :)
I'm just about done with 30 (like a few days), but the best thing I learned in my 20s was to not stress out too much. All things come at their appointed time. No pressure, no stress. Stress is a killer and it is not worth it.
This is such a great, positive, uplifting video! I just graduated high school and I am at the very beginning of trying to figure out my path in life, so it really helped hearing from someone elses experience ! I have just started to make new friends, who are mostly older than me, and I find it to be such a great experience to interact with people who are much more mature than my former classmates and I actually find myself getting along with them much better !!
This video has helped me so much today you can't even imagine. Going through a really rough patch right now and you helped me to see the light at the end of the tunnel and be ok with myself and my life the way it is now. Thank you so much for this. x
I needed this video so bad. I am 19 and sometimes I feel so lost. All my friends are at Uni and I am still in college so I feel a lot like a failure but the points you made in your video REALLY helped. The only way from here is UP :) I am so glad you made this, please do more of these kind of videos !!!
GUESSMYZAIS Thank you so much, sometimes I think it is my fault I did this to myself. I am just so stupid and thick I hate myself. I should of just concentrated better :'( too late, oh well :p
lushredlips haha, so glad I am not the only one! I sometimes think that maybe this happened for a reason, maybe I need shit to happen to me to realise that I have to work for what I want and be motivated/ believe in my dreams!? What do you think?
After watching this video I must say I am definitely subscribing to your channel. This video really touched me. I'm 22 and have experienced a lot if not everything you mentioned. I feel like at this age there is so much pressure put on us, but being young and still learning we are going to make mistakes. So thank you so much for making this video!
Hi, dear Patricia, I'm 24 and I couldn't agree more, except for one thing: University is actually going to have the greatest impact on your career, this is the way to make your dreams come true. I've always wanted to be an artist and a designer, so that would be my Master degrees and one thing I've learned is that you have to find out what's your dream job/career and go for it! Cause if you do the things you love, you'll never feel like working :)
“one thing that you’ll learn in life is that absolutely everybody is going to eventually disappoint you in one way or another and that is because everybody is human and so you learn to stop relying on other people to get stuff done for you and you say ‘you know what, i can do this myself’.” you are the REALEST! xoxo love you.
Dead on Patricia....I feel the same way. The older an more mature I get my friends change, my circle gets smaller and most people around me I look up to in some way or another.
I'm in my early Forties and I have learned that you never stop learning.. and my 21 year old continues to teach me so much! Thanks for sharing your video love...
this just may be my next video topic. I'm 22 and I started learning these at 18 haha. one thing I'm adding to the list: Listen to what your parents say. Majority of the time there is wisdom and so much truth to the things they will tell you about life.
Wow Patricia this was was VERY helpful! I'm 22 going on 23 and am now really dealing with all of the 20's ups and downs and coming to realize the world around me. And I literally thought I was the only one dealing with the issues considering I dont have many ppl in my life to talk to or get advice from. So by you making this video has really helped me realize that I'm not alone in this world. Its just the terrible 2's lol.
It's so true about being able to get along with people of all ages. I'm 25 and one of my closest friends from my workplace is in his 40s. And there's a lovely lady that is in her 70s and she's like the life and soul and just cracks me up. And the thing about being in bed early. I feel like a grandma but I need my sleep!
First off, I want to say that this video is awesome! This is what I needed to hear on this Sunday morning. I am 19 and in college. Right now, I am learning how to be realistic with myself. I always expect to be better than I really am and when I fail at something, I am really really disappointed. I am learning that I'm not always to going get things right and that it is okay.
I actually didnt want this video to ennnd !!! I'm 22 and I learned from when I got out of high school until now that it reaaally doesnt matter if other ppl like u or not if you're not being yourself. Dont rely on other people's opinion of u or validation its so much better to be like "this is me and nope I'm not gonna be a party girl that gets in trouble just so you would think I'm cool:)" you're cool enough no matter what u do ;)
Hi Patricia. Awesome video. It really got me thinking. I've learned that it's ok to be alone, I don't have to be in a relationship to be happy or to feel "complete".
Oh gosh girl this made me giggle, you hit the nail on the head with all of those. I'm 25, married and a mummy; I now definitely appreciate those 9/10pm bed times and getting to have a wee on my own! That is a luxury.. When it happens haha
Hello Patricia, I am 27 now and one thing that reasonates well now is be thankful for the path your on now and remember that only you can change things. You are the master of your life and your perspective in every situation may make or break you. To sum it up, live your journey and make changes to suit you not the world!
I'm only 17 but I feel like I've grown so much since I was 15 ; that's the age I was diagnosed an illness that has put me through loads of hard moments. Now, in my last year of high school, I feel like my classmates don't understand how silly it is to put so much pressure on yourself for exams, tests, etc. It is such a waste of time to me, and I really think they should be thinking about what they like doing and the people they love instead of doing that. I just feel like what I've been through has helped me grow much quicker than the rest of the people my age. Thank you for your video Pat, I could really relate to a lot of things you said! :) xx
I've learnt that we are responsible for the life we live because it is the sum total of the choices we make. I've learnt that as a result of the choices we have made, life teaches us lessons...some of those lessons result in regret or great joy. I've learnt that regret is "destiny calling out from the future what direction you should take" and it is only in learning from regrets that we are able to live genuine lives. To dwell on regrets is to steal precious time that could've been spent on improving yourself. Simply put, life can be summarized in three words: choose, live and learn.
I'm 21 and I feel like I've learned so much. Looking at everyone else's responses and listening to your advice is very beneficial. Thanks TH-cam big sis (;
Hey Patricia, I'm new to your channel and I wanted you to know I definitely identify with number 10 on your list about not having it all figured out in your mid 20s and not achieving your goals. I'm 24 right now, it's been 2 years since I graduated from university and I realized my career choice (accounting) in the corporate world isn't for me. I would have fared better with a career in the medical field. I feel like I don't want to continue even with pressure from my mom to not waste my degree and go on, when in my heart I just want to quit and go back for nursing school. I'm studying to get my accounting license, more for my mom's sake, when really I'm so demotivated I don't even really care for completing my license. I'm Nigerian like you, so you know how our parents can be with the pressure to make good money and be successful. Anyway, financially I'm in a hard place since I've already got my first degree getting financial aid for a second one is very difficult. This was way longer than I intended it to be, but my question is do you have any advice for being at number 10 on your list, such as being on the brink of a career change and not having it all figured out? Or if you've already made a video on it feel free to just let me know. Hope I haven't gone on and on, but I do enjoy your personality and I'm coming to like your channel. Thanks and all the best!
1. Organise your thoughts and have a serious heart to heart with your mum about your plans. 2. Start saving money. Esp in lieu of tuition. This might take a year or two.You might stay at your current job (if you have one) or get another, up to you. Don't quit until you have another job, of course. 3. Make a realistic timeline of what you want to do as far as nursing school or whatever you have in mind. Follow it and go from there. (Also Nigerian in the Diaspora btw)
Hey! I had to reply because you are literally me! I did accounting as well, worked and QUIT after a year, didn't even do the exams and now I am so happy and in about a year and a half I will have graduated from my second degree and I am delighted!! Life is too short to be in a world you hate. I was also born in a nigerian house and once YOU know what you want, just do it. Good luck!
This helped a lot! Been thinking recently that I haven't achieved as much as I wanted to when I was in high school, but this really put it into perspective, and made me realise how hard I have worked for what I have now! Thank you, Patricia! Been a fan of your's for years and love your videos! x
I'm 16 and I've figured a lot of this out already... I don't think of myself as an old soul. I guess I'm just more aware than the average teen 💖🌺🌙 great video!
I've learned that I don't need a lot of friends, one or two is good enough. I'm almost 30 and I've met too many let downs in my life and I am over it. Females are too much to deal with, and people in general. lol
Same here. I am ruthless with selecting the people I want in my life and I think that's why I've had smooth wonderful long lasting friendships thus far. :) My style is to make many good acquaintances but keep my core group of best friends minimal and full of only people who truly want the best for me. Xx
It's amazing how I can relate to everything you said. I guess people really do go through the same things. I am in my early 20's and the best thing I've learned so far is that it's okay not to fit in some times. I mean when everyone else tries to 'fake' who they really are I still choose to be the 'real' me. I guess I just don't want to lose my individuality just because everyone else is trying to be the same. Love you Patricia! You inspire me so much. Thank you! :)
Well said Patricia been there done that, at 71 years my best friend is my husband of 48 years, we practically grew up together met at 17 got married at 22 with 2 sons, 4 grand daughters and 3 grandsons my home is ,my haven
Entering my 20's in a year, so this really helped! :-) I just got out of the danish version of high school, and I've learned that the people you were closest with, aren't necessarily the ones that you will stay friends with. People change when you don't see them everyday anymore, and that made me realize who my real friends are
You literally summarized my entire 20s experience soo sooo well... and i truly feel from my heart that each of those are things which ive lrnd thru ma twnties.. Am js abt to hit mid twenties and among many things ive realized that, the only person who can make you feel happy is you ... YOU decide how you wanna feel..or how others are gonna make you feel.. ur the one in control.. nd the sooner you realize that.. the sooner you will find happiness.. Thankyou patricia for that video.. it has really made me contemplate on all the things that life has tot me... hope you'll keep posting more such videos.. and yes quoting you "You go girl!!"..
I learned to be more selfish. I think more about what makes me happy and not the people around me. When you put everyone happiness before yours, you have the tendency to loose yourself... The 20s are your selfish years so we have to enjoyed it!!!!
I so needed to hear this video ..... 2 months away from my 30's and you just hit the nail on the head with everything .... I love love loved this video .... Much love xx
This video is so amazing and spot on! Thank you for sharing!! I've learned that it's okay to be alone! That I should enjoy my ME time by watching a movie, reading a good novel , or taking a nice walk around the neighborhood! It is truly relaxing!
i'm only 23 but at some points i can relate to this. My favorite is that growing up means growing apart. That kinda makes me sad, but hey, i know that i'm going to make new friends. Great video as usual! Love you, Patricia! xx
Thank you, I needed this. :) So far, the most important lesson I personally learned in my 20's is that heartbreak can actually be a wonderful tool for discovering yourself. even though it's extremely painful, it makes you a stronger person and promotes growth.
I just turned 30 this year....there's still so much to learn :-) One of the greatest things I've learned is to depend on God. Life will through many difficult things our way...yet God will help us through it.
hi Patricia. i just wanted to thank you for being who are and staying true to yourself. i love your personality and i love your vlogs. much love from Kenya
Omg I'm 21 and these are ALL lessons I'm in the middle of learning or I've already learnt. So much truth in here, I can't. :') I am having a hard time with the 'it's ok to not have it all figured out' and 'it's ok to fail' ones though as a once high achieving high school student who is now an uncertain demotivated struggling uni student. So thanks for reminding me again, patricia.
The wise words of Baz Luhrmann, "Enjoy your body, use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it, or what other people think of it; It is the greatest instrument you will ever own".
I Love this x
I'm reading all your comments and shedding a little tear, you've all got so much lessons and expereince from the 15 year olds to 50 year olds, your all sooooo soooo amazing. *big hugs* and now bed time x
LOL I died when she said "My bed is like a club.!" I am in my late 20s and I feel the same way! I no longer feel guilty or old for wanting to get 8+ hours of sleep! Sleep is cool ya'll! And I've learned so much in my 20s, I could write a book but something that sticks out that I have learned is that EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE. Whatever happens, try not to get too down on yourself because you will get through it and you'll be so much stronger and better for it. And I've learned that getting older and wiser rocks so embrace it!
thanks for that Taryn! :)
mulanrougee You are very welcome!
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My bed is a club as well hun! Thumbs up for our beds :)
Sleep is a commodity. Love it! Need it! Want it!
"You realize that the cool kids, growing up, were never that cool"
TRUTHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH, lol!
RIGHT?! I've seen some of the "cool kids" since graduation n...WOW. The yrs have NOT been kind to most of those people. LOL
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One lesson I learned and I learned this in high school. It's okay being single. I actually spend that time getting done,focusing on me, and healing myself. Men can be a distraction sometimes so when I do break from a guy I spend that time bettering myself. Not every guy is "THE ONE".
I'm 23 and the biggest lesson I've learned in life thus far is that when people show you who they are believe them! I used to think that everyone had good intentions... BOY was I wrong lol. Also I learned don't envy people for what looks like their happiness and riches because you never know what their life is like behind closed doors & oh yea I definitely can't eat whatever I want but I still do lol
Kez B. Omgoodness yes the truth 🙌
I'm only 22 but I've learnt that it takes time to get to know who you really are and you should allow yourself that time to grow and truly attain what you want for yourself. I've also realized that friends come and go but the true ones stay; there's only a handful of people you can genuinely trust with things.
I'm 25 and I've learned that if you gonna buy something big and expensive, like house, you should learn everything about the cost of its maintenance/decor and where to buy those things! And I've learned that the less stuff and clothes you have in your house- THE BETTER! It's way easier to clean everything, and organize! And also always learn how much time you spend on everything you do!
You know I love these videos where I get to chit-chat with you and share some of my experiences and lessons I've learnt! Leave me a comment on something important you've learnt in your life so far, and share the knowledge! xx 20 THINGS I'VE LEARNT IN MY 20'S
I believe it's "learned" sweetie..
Kayla Aspromonte that's the most patronizing comment I've ever read especially when we have grammatical differences in england...
Kayla Aspromonte she's British sweetie. And we say "learnt". So no need for correction.
I just did a blog post on this last week. #20something - great video!
Do you PB, your videos/posts are entertaining and helpful. The little things don't matter because the people that are interested get your point. Have a great day!
TH-cam + Patricia= perfection, love every single video of you!,
thank you x
I love it when you do videos like this keep them coming. It's like having an older sister
I love that! x
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I'm 18 and learned a very big lesson in my life recently. Never do things for a guy and expect him to do things for you in return (sexually for the most part). Don't give yourself to a man just because you think he'll ask you out afterwards or so he can take your loneliness away. In the end, he probably won't do any of that and you'll remain alone like before...
"In your twenties you need to be your biggest fan, without putting anyone down." Work hard. Very well said.
Just graduated from college a few months ago and I'm now shattered that the real world doesn't give two pennies about how high my grades were or how well I carry myself as a person. There's always someone better than you and the job you want takes a ton of rejections to get to. I know, harsh...but it's been a rocky road so far.
I had a bad time today at work and I literally teared up while I was on the subway. But I came back home and watched this amazing video and I just want to say, thank you Patricia, your words are truly inspiring and they calmed me down so much. I felt a lot better after watching this. :)
So inspiring and so true! I'm turning 23 in less than a month and I'm at a stage of life where I feel like I'm stuck. I'm questioning myself and figuring out who I am and where I'm going, what career I want to pursue..I'm also becoming more conscious that years are going by faster and faster and thatI have to enjoy life because it is short! I'm also realizing that not having a load of friends and not pleasing everybody is totally okay, that people have disappointed me and still are doing it, but you know what! It goes on! I have one life to live and again I have to enjoy it the best I can! Thank you Pat so much for this amazing video!
Im 14 & I just got into year 10 and everyone in my class have boyfriends except me. And were in a girls school, I'm straight so thats nothing but while everyone tells yoy why dont you like anyone ? Why dont you like guys ? Lol & it use to make me annoyed but I learnt now that its ok if you dont like guys because first of all it wont last long, its a waste of time and God will give me one at the right time and moment xx Patricia you really inspire me
Hi 5 Gurrllll! Enjoy being young and single, I never had a boyfriend till I was 18 and I was cool with that!
nadiaxoxidk You have so more much to do in life than a boyfriend. I didn't have my first one until my senior year. God sent him to me and he was truly worth the wait. He's very patient. Don't rush it, plus many of those girls are insecure and are in those relationships looking for love in the wrong places. You're only 14, don't let the world peer pressure you into their fast paced world. You're perfect and are right where you're suppose to be!
Patricia Bright
Me too!
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My schoolwork and extracurricular activities kept me busy. In fact, it's because of my extracurricular activities- which i thoroughly enjoyed- that got me through school and life! you have the rest of your life to have a boyfriend.FYI, I was also in an all girls school. 99% of those with boyfriend at your school will probably end up marrying other guys anyway (if they get married). Never feel pressured to do anything!
yeah i remember when i was in high school some ppl would ask why dont i ever see u with a guy? lol bc no guy ever ask me out in high school. lame i know but coming into college was a whole different ball game. now ive been together with my bf for 2 1/2 years. just enjoy and focus on yourself. he will come. :)
Believe me focus on your academics. Men aren't running away from the planet. There will be loads of real men with great personality and so worth your time. Please don't waste time trying to be like everyone. x
Your past mistakes are not a reflection of who you are or who you aspire to be. Anything negative in the past should stay there and only serve the purpose of bettering yourself.
This video was so inspiring and positive Patricia! Could relate to it 100%.
Your videos always make me happy and inspire me. I've fallen into a bit of a rutt about life and what I want to do and this really helped put things into perspective and made me feel a lot better x
So glad to be able to help, chin up girl, you'll get there x
heykeish I know what you mean. With me, it felt like everything went wrong. And I'm still not where I want to be, but it feels like something awakened deep within. Like a wakeup call. And videos like these are getting me through rough times. Thanks, Patricia Bright 💋
Oh my goodness! I needed this soo badly! I just turned 22 and many things that I was dealing with and thinking about you touched on so beautifully! This video was such an encouragement for me. I often feel as though I should have my ish together and I really am hard on myself because I do not feel as though I am where I would like to be at my age. This kind of helped me realize that it is ok to not have it ALL together right now, and actually be proud of how far I have come. Thank you soo much Patricia!
I agree with you but i'm so glad my 20's are over!
I just learned so much about myself from this video. Being in your 20s should be about development and growth. This is our 10 year chance to really get to know ourselves and the world around us. Patti you are awesome for this video!
I'm 17 and I'm retaking my first year of sixth form by my own choice. It's I know what I want to do with my life but at the same time I don't. This video might be for people in their 20's but it has honestly given me some inspiration and hope for my future!! Thank you Patricia, you really are like a big sister which gives spot on advice!!
Amen girl. Coming from a 27 year old here. So relate to what you're saying, especially the career path point. I studied law for 5 years but I am a business woman now. It doesn't matter, you education makes you a well-rounded, well-spoken individual. Loving the more intellectual vlogs you have been doing recently.
This is such a great list Patricia. I'm 25 and the most important one for me is what you said about not worrying if you haven't got it all figured out. I still call my mum if I'm not sure what to do about a situation at work, or about how to cook some new ingredient I'm trying in a recipe... haha
25 years old here! Quarter-life crisis. You start to feel kinda frantic and "carpe diem" because you don't want to waste your 20s. Calming down and just enjoying every stage of your life as it comes helps!
I'm 24 and I've learned in my 20s that it's okay to start over and be a beginner again
You made me a little teary eyed! I feel like such an epic failure because I made a huge mistake in life and am not anywhere near where I thought I would be at this age (23). I am so grateful that you said it's ok to fail, and I feel so motivated! Thank you!
I'm 23 now and what I've learned so far being a twentysomething is that everybody is unique and his or her own qualities. Find those qualities and embrace them, and you'll find a job or hobby that fits you perfectly!
Oh my god yes! These are exactly the kind of things I've been thinking a lot about lately. I'm 22 now and looking back over the last couple of years I've learnt so much about life that just didn't make sense before. Your 20's are definitely a learning curve and sometimes I can't help but be nostalgic for my teenage years when everything was so much simpler, but onwards and upwards!
Needed this video! I'm 23 and I'm feeling like I'm in a quarter life crisis lol. This video was the truth.
I'm turning 23 this october and I feel the same way!!
I'm 23 too.. we're young guys! enjoy it while it lasts!
I'm turning 23 next and I'm scared as shit.
I'm 24 and 6 months I remember turning 23 and 24 was like nooo I'm old. After analyze myself and where I'm standing in life i figured out getting old is pretty cool. (Not the number but the feeling) I figured out the I'm wiser I know better what I want, what makes me happy I know better myself. With others words I'm happier and free. So getting older is pretty cool you just have to embrace it on your own time. DON'T WORRY
I'm 26 in 28 days, and yes I'm fully in a quarter life crises right now.. It's not that I feel 'old', but I just can't deal with the increasing number, haha. However, I have learnt so much over the past few years and I am grateful for my lessons. Everything you said Patricia was spot on! One of my favourite videos of yours. Here's to getting wiser.
I wanted to stop aging at 21! I'll be 23 this year, I really can't believe it! But, i'm happy that i've gained skills to cherish every moment & be responsible! This video is sparkle beautiful! Thanks!
I turn 30 in a month and by 25 I learned that I didn't know anything about life! Since then, I've come into the woman I love to be meaning, I'm confident in who I am, I'm very understanding, and whatever my parents didn't teach the world would, did, and will.
You are helping me through my twenties, fashion-wise, advice-wise, etc. Great advice especially for someone finishing up college :) xo
I've just turned 26 and girl, this just hit the nail on head! Love your videos and you are just killing it at the moment! xxx
I'm turning 20 in a month, I really hope I get better at the small talk, I'm terrible at it lol. But one thing I have learned in the past year is that taking time for yourself is so important. Self-care really makes a difference, taking like 20 minutes of the day just to be by yourself or do something that makes you feel good and helps you de-stress is really helpful :). I've also figured out that even though you have to learn to be self-reliant, you also have to be self-aware and realize sometimes you can't take on the world by yourself.
Yes definitely
Absolutely loved this video. I'm coming up to 25 and these 20 life lessons were SPOT ON! The fact that most uni goers don't succeed in a career they completed at uni. That you will drift away from most friends during the teen years and that bed is a haven! I'd love more of these 20 lessons. Maybe do a relationship one.
This was a really good video. I am 35 so no where close to 20 but you are right on with everything you talked about. Some of it still continues in the 30 ' too. I usually never comment, but I wanted to on this video. Thanks!!
I'm officially off the calendar as well:)) lol!! I wouldn't change a thing... With age come wisdom and clarity, a much clear understanding of what your purpose is in life ;) so nice to see that at her ( Patricia ) age she gets it!
Yea it is cool that even though she is so young, she understands. She is smart!
I'm 18 now and over the past years I've learn to appreciate myself, family, friends, and God. I never understood how important they were until when i was stuck in a very.. i mean VERY serious situation and they will help me get through it. Also I've realized that I have so much potential. I never believed in myself, and now i'm a freshman in college getting straight A's. Lastly, i've learned that those who care about you would make an effort to contact you. I just graduated from high school and everyone that I've talked to except 5 people don't make an effort to contact me. Matter of fact, two weeks ago i made an effort to meet one my "good" friends and she treated me like complete crap.
A major thing that I am learning (which I think you touched on briefly) is to get rid of the lofty expectations that you had for your life. When you're younger, you tend to plan out your life all the way done to the letter...what kind of occupation you'll have, where you'll live, who you'll marry etc. only to find that things don't always go as planned. And that is mainly because while you're planning your life, you're not factoring in LIFE. So many unexpected things can happen that throw your "plan" off and that's okay, it's what makes the journey worthwhile. So don't get discouraged if things don't pan out as you thought they would by the time you're a certain age...you are where you are for a reason and just learn to grow from the experiences while continuously working to create the life you imagine for yourself. :)
Crystal Byrd Thank you for this 💙
I'm just about done with 30 (like a few days), but the best thing I learned in my 20s was to not stress out too much. All things come at their appointed time. No pressure, no stress. Stress is a killer and it is not worth it.
Perfect timing, I turn 20 tomorrow :)
Happy Birthday in advance!!!
happy birthday!
Happy birthday and happy wishes xx
Happy Birthday!
Happy birthday for tomorrow 😊
Your skin is so rich and beautiful and radiant!
On friday I turned 20 so definitely an inspiring video for me
I turned 20 last week :)
I turned 18 this
week
This is such a great, positive, uplifting video! I just graduated high school and I am at the very beginning of trying to figure out my path in life, so it really helped hearing from someone elses experience ! I have just started to make new friends, who are mostly older than me, and I find it to be such a great experience to interact with people who are much more mature than my former classmates and I actually find myself getting along with them much better !!
Loved this, I agree so many of these!
thank you hun x
This video has helped me so much today you can't even imagine. Going through a really rough patch right now and you helped me to see the light at the end of the tunnel and be ok with myself and my life the way it is now. Thank you so much for this. x
I needed this video so bad. I am 19 and sometimes I feel so lost. All my friends are at Uni and I am still in college so I feel a lot like a failure but the points you made in your video REALLY helped. The only way from here is UP :) I am so glad you made this, please do more of these kind of videos !!!
Determination is everything remain focused;)) be proud of your every accomplishment whether it's big or small. Rejoice because YOU did it!!;))
GUESSMYZAIS Thank you so much, sometimes I think it is my fault I did this to myself. I am just so stupid and thick I hate myself. I should of just concentrated better :'( too late, oh well :p
Your story is my life currently! I agree the only is up! These things do happen for a reason after all :-)
lushredlips haha, so glad I am not the only one! I sometimes think that maybe this happened for a reason, maybe I need shit to happen to me to realise that I have to work for what I want and be motivated/ believe in my dreams!? What do you think?
After watching this video I must say I am definitely subscribing to your channel. This video really touched me. I'm 22 and have experienced a lot if not everything you mentioned. I feel like at this age there is so much pressure put on us, but being young and still learning we are going to make mistakes. So thank you so much for making this video!
Hi, dear Patricia, I'm 24 and I couldn't agree more, except for one thing: University is actually going to have the greatest impact on your career, this is the way to make your dreams come true. I've always wanted to be an artist and a designer, so that would be my Master degrees and one thing I've learned is that you have to find out what's your dream job/career and go for it! Cause if you do the things you love, you'll never feel like working :)
“one thing that you’ll learn in life is that absolutely everybody is going to eventually disappoint you in one way or another and that is because everybody is human and so you learn to stop relying on other people to get stuff done for you and you say ‘you know what, i can do this myself’.” you are the REALEST! xoxo love you.
Dead on Patricia....I feel the same way. The older an more mature I get my friends change, my circle gets smaller and most people around me I look up to in some way or another.
True!:) friendship becomes more about quality and not quantity.
I'm in my early Forties and I have learned that you never stop learning.. and my 21 year old continues to teach me so much! Thanks for sharing your video love...
this just may be my next video topic. I'm 22 and I started learning these at 18 haha. one thing I'm adding to the list: Listen to what your parents say. Majority of the time there is wisdom and so much truth to the things they will tell you about life.
Your hard work comment it's so true. Natural ability takes you a little distance but hard work pushes you to the stars.
YESS!!! This video completely spoke to me!! Thank you for making this video, please make more videos like this! Love ya!!
Thanks Brianna, glad you enjoyed! :)
Wow Patricia this was was VERY helpful! I'm 22 going on 23 and am now really dealing with all of the 20's ups and downs and coming to realize the world around me. And I literally thought I was the only one dealing with the issues considering I dont have many ppl in my life to talk to or get advice from. So by you making this video has really helped me realize that I'm not alone in this world. Its just the terrible 2's lol.
Patricia the stuff you spoke about is soooo real!!!! I am going to do this video as well! Love this!
It's so true about being able to get along with people of all ages. I'm 25 and one of my closest friends from my workplace is in his 40s. And there's a lovely lady that is in her 70s and she's like the life and soul and just cracks me up. And the thing about being in bed early. I feel like a grandma but I need my sleep!
This might sound corny I really do think of you as my older sister since I'm an only child, I do love your advice videos
First off, I want to say that this video is awesome! This is what I needed to hear on this Sunday morning. I am 19 and in college. Right now, I am learning how to be realistic with myself. I always expect to be better than I really am and when I fail at something, I am really really disappointed. I am learning that I'm not always to going get things right and that it is okay.
I actually didnt want this video to ennnd !!! I'm 22 and I learned from when I got out of high school until now that it reaaally doesnt matter if other ppl like u or not if you're not being yourself. Dont rely on other people's opinion of u or validation its so much better to be like "this is me and nope I'm not gonna be a party girl that gets in trouble just so you would think I'm cool:)" you're cool enough no matter what u do ;)
Hi Patricia. Awesome video. It really got me thinking. I've learned that it's ok to be alone, I don't have to be in a relationship to be happy or to feel "complete".
I just started watching your videos and I already love them
i feel like every single video you make is gold. thank you.
Oh gosh girl this made me giggle, you hit the nail on the head with all of those. I'm 25, married and a mummy; I now definitely appreciate those 9/10pm bed times and getting to have a wee on my own! That is a luxury.. When it happens haha
Haha! I have to say, I completely agree x
lol definitely !
Hello Patricia, I am 27 now and one thing that reasonates well now is be thankful for the path your on now and remember that only you can change things. You are the master of your life and your perspective in every situation may make or break you. To sum it up, live your journey and make changes to suit you not the world!
I'm only 17 but I feel like I've grown so much since I was 15 ; that's the age I was diagnosed an illness that has put me through loads of hard moments. Now, in my last year of high school, I feel like my classmates don't understand how silly it is to put so much pressure on yourself for exams, tests, etc. It is such a waste of time to me, and I really think they should be thinking about what they like doing and the people they love instead of doing that. I just feel like what I've been through has helped me grow much quicker than the rest of the people my age.
Thank you for your video Pat, I could really relate to a lot of things you said! :) xx
I've learnt that we are responsible for the life we live because it is the sum total of the choices we make. I've learnt that as a result of the choices we have made, life teaches us lessons...some of those lessons result in regret or great joy. I've learnt that regret is "destiny calling out from the future what direction you should take" and it is only in learning from regrets that we are able to live genuine lives. To dwell on regrets is to steal precious time that could've been spent on improving yourself. Simply put, life can be summarized in three words: choose, live and learn.
i just love your personality
I'm 21 and I feel like I've learned so much. Looking at everyone else's responses and listening to your advice is very beneficial. Thanks TH-cam big sis (;
Hey Patricia, I'm new to your channel and I wanted you to know I definitely identify with number 10 on your list about not having it all figured out in your mid 20s and not achieving your goals. I'm 24 right now, it's been 2 years since I graduated from university and I realized my career choice (accounting) in the corporate world isn't for me. I would have fared better with a career in the medical field. I feel like I don't want to continue even with pressure from my mom to not waste my degree and go on, when in my heart I just want to quit and go back for nursing school. I'm studying to get my accounting license, more for my mom's sake, when really I'm so demotivated I don't even really care for completing my license. I'm Nigerian like you, so you know how our parents can be with the pressure to make good money and be successful. Anyway, financially I'm in a hard place since I've already got my first degree getting financial aid for a second one is very difficult. This was way longer than I intended it to be, but my question is do you have any advice for being at number 10 on your list, such as being on the brink of a career change and not having it all figured out? Or if you've already made a video on it feel free to just let me know. Hope I haven't gone on and on, but I do enjoy your personality and I'm coming to like your channel. Thanks and all the best!
I just want to advise you to pray to God that he will make a way for you, so you'll be able to follow your passion.
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1. Organise your thoughts and have a serious heart to heart with your mum about your plans.
2. Start saving money. Esp in lieu of tuition. This might take a year or two.You might stay at your current job (if you have one) or get another, up to you. Don't quit until you have another job, of course.
3. Make a realistic timeline of what you want to do as far as nursing school or whatever you have in mind. Follow it and go from there. (Also Nigerian in the Diaspora btw)
Hey! I had to reply because you are literally me! I did accounting as well, worked and QUIT after a year, didn't even do the exams and now I am so happy and in about a year and a half I will have graduated from my second degree and I am delighted!! Life is too short to be in a world you hate. I was also born in a nigerian house and once YOU know what you want, just do it. Good luck!
This was so empowering! I just turned 20 and I'm so pumped for this decade and I'm so hungry for knowledge! Thanks boo
You made me cry,it's kinda sad growing up you know 😥💖
This helped a lot! Been thinking recently that I haven't achieved as much as I wanted to when I was in high school, but this really put it into perspective, and made me realise how hard I have worked for what I have now! Thank you, Patricia! Been a fan of your's for years and love your videos! x
I'm 16 and I've figured a lot of this out already... I don't think of myself as an old soul. I guess I'm just more aware than the average teen 💖🌺🌙 great video!
Brilliant!! I'm 27 and I needed this and recognise the truth in this. Every young person needs to watch this. Sending this to my 21yo sister!
I've learned that I don't need a lot of friends, one or two is good enough. I'm almost 30 and I've met too many let downs in my life and I am over it. Females are too much to deal with, and people in general. lol
agree.....my husband is my best friend and he is all I need
I totally agree. It's even a blessing to have 1 or 2 ppl on whom you can count.
i agree, plus also i've learnt it's important to be your own best friend x
Same here. I am ruthless with selecting the people I want in my life and I think that's why I've had smooth wonderful long lasting friendships thus far. :) My style is to make many good acquaintances but keep my core group of best friends minimal and full of only people who truly want the best for me. Xx
I hear that!
Had a tiring day at uni but so excited to watch your video before I sleep your positive vibes recharges my energy.
Loved the video it was amazing,my favourite youtuber😘👌
Wow that is such a compliment, thank you x
It's amazing how I can relate to everything you said. I guess people really do go through the same things. I am in my early 20's and the best thing I've learned so far is that it's okay not to fit in some times. I mean when everyone else tries to 'fake' who they really are I still choose to be the 'real' me. I guess I just don't want to lose my individuality just because everyone else is trying to be the same. Love you Patricia! You inspire me so much. Thank you! :)
Well said Patricia been there done that, at 71 years my best friend is my husband of 48 years, we practically grew up together met at 17 got married at 22 with 2 sons, 4 grand daughters and 3 grandsons my home is ,my haven
Love, love this lady...she imparts sooooooo much positive wisdom.
May God continue to use you as a BRIGHT light unto this earth!
Entering my 20's in a year, so this really helped! :-)
I just got out of the danish version of high school, and I've learned that the people you were closest with, aren't necessarily the ones that you will stay friends with. People change when you don't see them everyday anymore, and that made me realize who my real friends are
You literally summarized my entire 20s experience soo sooo well... and i truly feel from my heart that each of those are things which ive lrnd thru ma twnties..
Am js abt to hit mid twenties and among many things ive realized that, the only person who can make you feel happy is you ...
YOU decide how you wanna feel..or how others are gonna make you feel.. ur the one in control.. nd the sooner you realize that.. the sooner you will find happiness..
Thankyou patricia for that video.. it has really made me contemplate on all the things that life has tot me... hope you'll keep posting more such videos.. and yes quoting you "You go girl!!"..
I learned to be more selfish. I think more about what makes me happy and not the people around me. When you put everyone happiness before yours, you have the tendency to loose yourself... The 20s are your selfish years so we have to enjoyed it!!!!
I so needed to hear this video ..... 2 months away from my 30's and you just hit the nail on the head with everything .... I love love loved this video .... Much love xx
This was a fabulous, fun and touching idea. Thank you for sharing.
This video is so amazing and spot on! Thank you for sharing!! I've learned that it's okay to be alone! That I should enjoy my ME time by watching a movie, reading a good novel , or taking a nice walk around the neighborhood! It is truly relaxing!
I need this in my life🙏 Patricia= bae
ahh thanks Teni= Bae! lol
Patricia Bright I'm her sister - so am I bae too? Ahaa!
i'm only 23 but at some points i can relate to this. My favorite is that growing up means growing apart. That kinda makes me sad, but hey, i know that i'm going to make new friends. Great video as usual! Love you, Patricia! xx
Loveeeeeeed this vid I'm 21 turning 22 in January and some already apply to me .. Thanks so much for this vid !
This has seriously got to be one of the best videos you've ever made. And I agree with everything you said, I have already experienced half of them.
Cute video. I just turned 25 and I have to say everything you said is very accurate. Love your sweater by the way. :)
Thank you, I needed this. :)
So far, the most important lesson I personally learned in my 20's is that heartbreak can actually be a wonderful tool for discovering yourself. even though it's extremely painful, it makes you a stronger person and promotes growth.
I just turned 30 this year....there's still so much to learn :-)
One of the greatest things I've learned is to depend on God. Life will through many difficult things our way...yet God will help us through it.
Judy Vera Amen! ✨
hi Patricia. i just wanted to thank you for being who are and staying true to yourself. i love your personality and i love your vlogs. much love from Kenya
this video motivated me so much I'm just about to hit 20 x
Omg I'm 21 and these are ALL lessons I'm in the middle of learning or I've already learnt. So much truth in here, I can't. :') I am having a hard time with the 'it's ok to not have it all figured out' and 'it's ok to fail' ones though as a once high achieving high school student who is now an uncertain demotivated struggling uni student. So thanks for reminding me again, patricia.