I’ve been a fan for years, Carli. I’m 60 years old and a widow. I too just had a recent breakup. May I say a huge ‘thank you’ for your great presentation in helping all of us ladies. Congrats on being such fabulous support as we all face challenges. Wishing you the best ahead!!
My main piece of advice is actually for post-post breakup. We’ve all seen the girl who goes from relationship to relationship and in between “finds herself” or loses a ton of weight or “glows up” and then gets in a relationship again and bam, she’s back to square one and rinse and repeat. Find yourself during the breakup, yes. But actively work to KEEP yourself, even if you’re in a relationship. That’s when you’ll really glow up and find your true partner. Don’t make a relationship your entire life or personality and keep growing. Because even if that relationship ends, the relationship you have with yourself is still solid.
Ladies, most importantly, take advice from people who are in long and successful relationships. I've been with my husband 15 years and I can honestly say, be confident with yourself and being alone. Look for a teammate/partner, not someone to save you. Also, don't move in together right away, and have babies before marriage. Have respect for yourself. Don't compare your relationship to others. Don't give up at the first sign of trouble. Relationships take work on both ends. And just don't settle.
12 year relationship ended recently and I'm currently watching this in bed with a bag of Wendy's 😂 being in the moment is so hard and I cry everyday, multiple times a day, but I know God has a plan for me. Just gotta have faith. Its just, again, hard when you're in the moment with the feeling of a deep sinking sorrow in your chest...
You are strong girl. I know you can get through this and I’m so happy to hear that you know God has a plan for you. I ended my 8 year relationship because I was so unhappy and felt it was toxic. It was really difficult and having anxiety about turning 31 with no husband and kids makes it feel even worse. Especially because my girls are all married and have kids. But I keep reminding myself, I’d rather feel lonely than be married to someone who makes me unhappy.
@@christinekim4056 Exactly! Dont settle so that you can just pretend you are happy and because you feel pressured cause all your freinds got married. In the long run you will be way more miserable in a marriage like that than if you are single and doing what you love and whats best for you!!
i just wanted to say i’ve been watching your videos since like 2015 and i still use l’oréal telescopic bc of you and still use your blow drying method and products from back in the day and you are such a role model and icon to me. i just wanted you to know you had THE most impact on my overall appearance and feeling good about myself ily
I have followed you since 2015 or 2016 ?? Your palette was my very first real eyeshadow palette I bought like. You roughte me back to my love of makeup. I’m 61. Don’t look or act it for sure. I have been there, done that. Let me tell you all this. YOU DONT NEED ANYONE TO MAKE YOU FEEL WHOLE OR MAKE YOU “ANYTHING”. I raised my girl all alone, and I didn’t date for 10 yrs. She was more important !! You can do it, you will get over anyone. You may hurt, be sad, grieve, but that’s ok !! I FOUNd PEACE, and you will too !! Don’t LET ANYONE TAKE YOUR SUNSHINE AWAY. NOT EVER 😊. I also have never been married I have been with my man for 16yrs now. But it took a lot to find him. ❤oh, and my daughter is amazing AND INDEPENDENT bought her first home at 24. And makes bank. Ha ha. You can be alone, and you can be ok
I found my person when I was 29! I had gone through some bad relationships and was just focusing on myself. Making good financial decisions, focusing on my health. Then I reconnected with a guy I had a fling with years prior. I wasn’t wanting anything serious, but before we knew it, we realized we were perfect for each other. We both went through bad relationships and we both had so much growth. Fast forward 3 years, we’re married and have our first baby on the way. I’ve never been closer to anyone in my life. We have great financial goals and I couldn’t imagine my life without him. And he’s so excited to be father. I can’t wait for our next chapter. ❤
You're absolutely right. I was single for 2 yrs, worked on myself, gained self worth, confidence... I was happy being alone and really had no desire to change that. Then I met my now husband. I honestly didn't think partners like him existed... we're going on 10yrs together, 4 yrs married, and have a beautiful 3yr old and 16 month old. I'm so grateful I never settled for less. Healing and taking time for myself was the best thing I could do for myself. Lots of love to you and your son 💗
I will say people also need to look at themselves when they go through a breakup. You can't always say to yourself "well it's their loss"..no. Sometimes it's your loss. Maybe you thought you were a great partner by your limited understanding of what a partner should be, but in reality you weren't. There's always room to grow.
Yes! Same thing came to mind. If you're constantly going through the same thing with different individuals then you may be the problem. There should be respect, compromise and communication in a relationship. We can't expect to find the "perfect" person when we don't bring our "perfect" into it. Plus no one will ever be perfect.
Different topic but has anyone else had a friendship breakup that felt even worse than a romantic breakup ? I have , it literally broke my heart to let that friend go after finding out something really shady about her character. I couldn’t forgive and it still haunts me. 😢
@@ayeeyoya wow I’m so sorry for both situations dear. My friend completely broke my heart, sort of like a stab in the back; and this was 13 years ago. I still have dreams about her in my life and I think it’s because I never properly closed that chapter. I just distanced myself and never explained what I discovered. She was my best friend for 9 years of my life . What Ive come to learn is that not every friend is meant to remain in your life . And sometimes you consider someone your best friend but they consider someone else their best friend and that’s ok. I just wish it wasn’t so painful till this day to remember. I hope you heal your wounds . It’s hard for sure .
I’m going through a friend breakup. Was best friends with him for 20 years. I said the same thing, that friend break ups are worse. So much time of being super close and the disappointment just killed me. At the end of the day I remind myself that he no longer deserved me in his life and I have many amazing friends that do. 🙌🏻
When my ex broke up with me, i was devastated at first. You only remember the good and it felt extra shitty to be blindsided by it. But time makes you see clearer and clearer. My breakup was one of the best things that happened to me. I was settling for a man who was immature, selfish, and thought that power and abusing women was normal. I look back and severely regret not leaving him when i really wanted to. I lost myself and everything i thought i was. I was no longer the person i wanted to be and was stuck being manipulated and abused so much that i didnt recognize myself. I hated my life. But now, being single is truly amazing. I dont have to compromise, mix schedules, share things, check-in, etc.
One of the things I struggled with after breakups is forgiving myself and giving myself grace to acknowledge that ‘yea it didn’t work out but that’s okay’
The best advice i can give you is to leave your stuff and start fresh. Every item that you shared with that person will be a constant reminder of them. Throw everything away!
Going through one right now. So glad you uploaded a video on this topic. I am sure there will be words of wisdom for who is going through one right now. Love you girlie❤
when you keep going from relationship to relationship most of the time is a “me” problem not a “all of them are the problem”, … laddies it’s okay to think of ourselves as worthy but when you put your beauty up in a pedestal and assume you ALWAYS deserve better, that’s no longer “self love “ that’s called “pride”! And pride will always bring a fall. Sometimes just sometimes it’s best to concentrate on working in our own selves that’s also “self love”..
it doesn't apply to everyone… if so, now I don't have a long-long-term relationship after all . And there were 3 frogs before him 😅 they kept saying that I was the problem . With the last one, I found out that it is not true.
There are also too many men who expect being taken care of as if they are children. Too many are like that. Easy for such to tell women to be running around them… nope thanks.
my sister in law met my brother when she was 37, they've been together 12 years now. she always tells me that there is no rush bc when you find someone they will be in your life forever so enjoy the time with yourself
I really needed this video. I've been with my high school sweethart for 7 years and broke up with him recently. I'm finally ready to say goodbye. I've been going back and forth the last 3 years since I got pregnant and had our son. I've been so scared to walk away and feeling guilty, but I can't deal with the mental and emotional turmoil and manipulation anymore. I have to figure out a new job, car, and place to live but I'm so ready to be done. I told myself this was the year I walk away and get myself together especially for my son.
I remember seeing this quote online when i was in high-school, and debating about breaking up with a boyfriend at the time. " If you love something set it free, if it comes back it was meant to be, if it continues to fly let it soar. Have faith god has something better in store".. So glad I broke up with my ex. God definitely had something better in store for me. My best friends brother!! Who knew..🥰 13 years and 3 kids later I couldn't be more thankful and happy. I know one day you will find true love. It will come when you least expect it, and not looking. All my Love Carli 💓 😘
I love that you’re sharing your tips and experiences. It’s something we can all apply into our life if we are still in the dating scene. Been watching you since I was a teenager and now I’m 25! I love listening and learning from you xoxo ❤️
Thank you for this video. I just got divorced, my husbund left me when i was 7 months pregnant, after 11 years of a marriage, he said that our baby is a "mistake" and he always wanted a divorce... He don't care about me or our son (no he's 6 months old), and now i'm going through the darkest period of my life. I have no job now, almost no friends...barely have anyone to talk to... i'm very tired and exhausted... i almost lost any hope for any better future
It's hard, but force yourself to pull yourself up, little by little if you need too. Otherwise you will always be letting him take you down. He isn't worth you.
I’ve been watching you for roughly 10 years and you’ve “been with me” thru many break ups. I was treated like shit off and on for 6 years. I’m now happily married to the man of my dreams and treated like a Queen. I agree with everything you say and it’s so true to ensure you focus on your own health and well-being, first and foremost!!
I love this Carli! Something I needed to hear tonight. 10 year relationship gone. After being betrayed and cheated on, for the last 3 years on and off I feel so broken. I’ve lost my bestfriend and it’s honestly the worst pain I’ve ever felt. We have children together and it almost seems impossible to get away from it all. I want to be out of this toxic mentality so bad. It’s true that we really do think about all the good times, and all the memories you shared. Praying for things to get better. I’m 31 and knowing I’m starting over after 10 long years is scary, but I know I deserve so much more ♥️
It’s definitely harder with children involved but seeing their momma disrespected isn’t great for them, so good for you! I was divorced with two kids after a horrible marriage. Worked on myself and building up my confidence and married my real soulmate a few years later. We had three more kids and have been married 18 years now. I don’t even recognize myself from my first marriage. My name is Alexa, too. Sending lots of strength to you!!
Can you please do more get ready with mes and talk about your struggles and share your advices because you are the most humble TH-camr, you’re so real and it’s so nice to here you it’s like catching up with a friend
I walked out from a 10yrs of abusive and toxic relationship yesterday. I cried when you gave us screen hug. I needed this so bad. It’s such a beautiful and sunny outside today after months of winter but feels so dark and gloomy. 😢
Got out of a 4 year relationship a year ago & I can’t even begin to describe how much more confident I am. I’m so grateful I decided not to settle for less than I deserve
I was married for 18 yrs. We were HS sweethearts. Sometimes you out grow someone. I think that’s what happened in my case since we were so young. I knew I deserved better, I wanted better. Guess what… I go it!! Hang in there and make the leap! It’s hard and scary but man you’re gonna look back and be so mad you didn’t do it sooner! ❤
I am going through a divorce after 18 years and 3 children together.... It's very hard... very.. but I know that it is what's best for me and my kids, this really should have happened a long time ago, but even though our relationship has had more bad times than good, he has been my "normal" for so long that I lost myself somewhere in those 18 years and have basically been his puppet... We were 21 and 20 when we got together and are 38 and 39 now so just completely different people.... It's so hard and there are days when I feel like going back would just be the easy thing to do, but I watch uplifting videos like these and stay strong in my decision. So thank you for this girl!! 😘😘
as a soon-to-be 30yr old who just went through a hurtful breakup (got dumped), and I thought he was the one…thank you ❤️ I’m so comforted and warm that you feel me and have been through it and maybe worse 😢 thank you Carli 💝
I’ve been watching Carli for so long, and I definitely would have needed to hear this years and years ago but watching it now I could not agree more ❤ One thing that always resonates with me after a huge change was when someone said “be thankful for the things that didn’t work out” and it helped me a lot
Love you Carli! This was such a heartfelt video and I could really feel your loving and positive energy. It's hard navigating all of the emotions that come with breakups but if you're willing to take the lessons and be grateful for what you've learned...ultimately, you become a better more wholesome version of yourself and that's truly a gift. Thank you for being so open and relatable to all of your YT friends!
I’m not going through a breakup. But I have. Many. And I wish I knew you back then. This was so sweet and genuine. I know this will help a lot of people to feel like they have someone who cares about them 😊
When I went through a horrible breakup with my first real serious adult relationship I thought I would never be happy again or find love like that again. I remember my mom telling me that one day I’d find someone and I’d think “oh that wasn’t even love compared to that” and she was absolutely right. It wasn’t immediately it was about 4 years later. But anyone out there should know time really does heal and over time it hurts less. As cliche as that is
The best advice I can give is always do what makes you feel good & do not chase, act unbothered if he makes you mad… and if you guys cannot grow together and be understanding of each other’s feelings, it’s probably best to just go on and put energy into people who care for you because you cannot make anyone get on your level if they’re not ready. Don’t let anyone continuously disrespect you. make boundaries! You show them how to treat you. Stand up for yourself. ❤
Loved this. I was hoping for some more tea spilled about her breakups specifically haha!! I wanna know the nitty gritty of what happened w Brett and Anthony
I think a part of her is saying this not only to her followers, but to herself as well. It’s okay Carli. We know you’re hurting. Be blessed and heal! We love you
It is so sad, the amount of ladies who feel like their life is over, over a man who probably isn't giving you another thought. I have been single for almost a full year after a 20 year horrible relationship/marriage and a 2 1/2 year "situationship" and it has been amazing.
My husband left me, were in the middle of the divorce now. Its literally the worst thing I've ever experienced in my entire life. It feels like I'll never find anyone that made me feel the way he did. It's so hard. We have 2 daughters also. Thank you for this video!!!
im so sorry! It must be really hard trying to pretend that you are ok in front of your kids. I am mid break up of a 3 year relationship and i am devestated. I cant imagine going through that with kids..
My ex left me too after 8 years and we also have 2 kids together. This was back in 2020. I know how much it hurts! The pain was on another level. It takes time but I promise you it gets better. Carli gave some pretty solid advice. Focus on you and your kids and heal. You'll come out of this a better person. God bless ❤️
Ladies! Carli is right. Ive been in a relationship with somene for 6 years and in the end he dumped me(sounds harsh). But i choose not to give him closure when he decided to find me back and explain things. Nope. Sis got the best closure by not allowing him to comeback. Now im happy and still working on myseld in so many ways. Yes grief cant be avoided. Cry when you can. Its okay. You feel better. And yes i do believe there is someone out there for each and everyone of us. Remember ladiees, never compare yourself with their current partner. We are the diamonds after all and they do not deserve us. Pity them. Enjoy and have fun the single time you have. Put yourself first always. Carpe diem everyday! Thanks Carli, such an inspiration by showing us its okay when you are not with someone and being the independant woman you are. God bless you and Lorenzo. 😘
This video is just what I needed ! Going through a tough breakup after a 15 year relationship, he was my first and only bf ever and this is so hard Thank you Carli ❤
I would say microdosing mushrooms changed my mental health! It was such a beautiful experience & im now in the best place mentally I have ever been in before💕 working on yourself is a MUST
I just want to take this moment and say that you’re one of my favorite and OGs TH-camrs I’ve been watching you for years. ❤ god bless you and your family and wish you the best 🙏🏻
thank you so much for your soothing words. This means a lot to me and I’m sure many others, too. I am going through a break up right now and it’s so surreal to me that the day we broke up is the day you upload this video. The universe is telling us so many things, wow
I had a really toxic marriage until aged 25 and I still let that hurt affect me until the end of last year and someone really close to me reminded me that he isn't hurting, he doesn't care he hurt you but your subconsciously hurting yourself. It takes time but the hurt goes....always remember your beautiful, incredible and so strong. My best breakup advice I've ever heard x
Carli❤ about 7 years ago when my ex broke up with me I left a message in your comments (the first message I’d ever left to anyone on TH-cam although I’d watched you for years) and your were just so lovely to me and your subs were too I saved the messages and they got me through the wrist break up of my life. We were engaged and owned a house together. I used it as motivation ended up travelling and living in the uk for years. Now back home in nz found the man of my dreams and have now been married for 6weeks. ❤ tones of love I will always be great full to you for that time
@@sophiebaty2883 Oh wow! No way!!!! 😃😃 Haha that's AMAZING!!! I was meant to see your comment then ☺I'm so happy things worked out for you!!! you deserve to be happy 🥰❤💞
@@MochiColorsZanos it’s just lovely that you are always being such a lovely supportive it’s a wonderful part of Carlis community. Your so wonderful spreading such kindness ❤️❤️🥰
@@sophiebaty2883 Well, you know what's funny is I hardly watch Carli's videos anymore. I haven't in a really long time and I wasn't even going to click on this one, but I precisely thought I haven't seen her videos in a long while so I did 😄❤
A wise woman once said: They call it "falling in love" for a reason. It's not easy to just get over the love you develop for that person. But when you finally do, it will be refreshing.
Post break up 5 months here, it’s been hard, started talking to him again and realized why we broke up the first place, so now I’m done done. It’s still hard being single and lonely. I hope to get to the point of being okay with it. I deserve better and you deserve someone to treat you like a queen ❤
All the advice is so on point!! All realizations and lessons I myself learned through divorce. Im now in the happiest and healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in and so grateful to have finally found my person ❤
You’re so strong to be so soft still through all of your pain! Really generous of you to share this kind of thing. I’ve watched you from the start! Love! ❤
I’ve never clicked quicker !!! Me and my bf of 8 years broke up and I’m doing my own thing on my own for the first time in a long time and it’s crazy but I’m so much more happy. Never thought I could do it on my own but I am. Love you Carly !!❤
I also left an eight year relationship, I thought he wanted the same things. He did but wanted me to wait five more years because he wasnt ready, he wasnt ready to be engaged, so that made me realize I wasted 8 years of my life with someone and it hurts, but im ok. Im 48 and starting over again 🤷♀️ I cant settle and I was not happy with the sitaution. He told me I broke his heart....he broke my heart for letting me believe we were gonna be together in the right way.
You're absolutely RIGHT. ❤️ I love you Carli!!!! I am my most happiest, most authentic and becoming a better version of myself after a 10 year on and off relationship. I'm loving my journey. 💫✨️🥰
Yes it's absolutely important to know your worth and not settle for less than what we deserve -SO IMPORTANT! I also think that it's just as important to realize that your partner or the next person also deserves the best, so it's important that it works both ways. Sometimes we are quick to shift the blame to someone else for unhappiness in a relationship without acknowledging what we are doing wrong🤷♀️.
I was never in a relationship, a lot of people wanted the wrong things first (hookups) and not date. I’m 28, but that all showed me what I want in a man and what I don’t ! Even dating apps are coming across people you don’t know, and I feel like if people don’t know you through those dating apps, they’re not gonna “get to know you” that’s why its better to know someone, and build a relationship through a friendship 😊if you go that route of meeting people. But don’t worry about them, worry about yourself at the end of the day and build that version of yourself ☺️.
Love is a journey! To say the leasssst. I’ve had so many heartbreaks… been on so many dates… settled! And once I met my soulmate everything made sense. when it’s your soulmate you’ll know. The saying “when you know you know” is so true! Just be patient in the meantime and nurture yourself! Relationships are work but loving the person you’re meant to be with is easy, trust me 💛
I had a miscarriage with my ex. I was terrified to tell him so I waited 4.5 months which was so awful on my part. He said if I didn’t have a baby with him he wouldn’t be with me. He mentally abused me for 9 months yet I still felt I loved him. He kicked me out last week after I told him we lost our baby girl in Sept. I’m in therapy and I’m just praying to God I can get over this awful pain I feel in my chest. I know he wasn’t right for me, but to be discarded like that has been beyond hurtful. I’m grateful for my family and friends who have embraced me during this time. Again you rock Carli. 💕
I just rediscovered your page through this video. I remember watching at like 30,000 and seeing your growth. What is so beautiful and inspiring is you have always been YOU and so uplifted, positive, evolved and empowering. It’s so great to see you. We’re around the same age, and I really honour your work and heart that you put into it! You’re such a queen. Shine one beautiful Diamond ✨💎✨
this is a strong womans experience! i will always put women up high that get through breakups 😮💨 ive been with the same person forever but man i think about if what when wheres and it takes a big woman for that! credits to you carli! 👏
Thank you for this!!! You’re so right in everything you said & you gave me so much hope that a “my one” is still out there (saying it from a 37 yr old). Sending lots of love from NYC!! ❤❤❤
Carli I have been watching you since the early 2010’s! You have really shaped the way I see myself and how I take care of myself. You are one of the few genuine TH-camrs that captures so many people’s hearts 🤍 Plus you were one of the people that inspired me to start my small business! I hope your never stop creating content on here 🤍
I lost my sister. Carli you are like a sister to me. Your entire soul is warm and loving. You are wonderful and wise and kind. I love you and your vids. You always inspire me to put make up on when I'm down. God bless you🌹
Love Carly! I remember being 18 in love and heartbroken severely. Cheated on and lied to it gave me such a push to see the world and she is so right. 6 months he was begging to come back I was not wanting anything to do with him. 12 years later I have two kids with the most amazing man. I wouldn’t be with this man had that guy not cheated on me I was trying to cling on something that wasn’t meant for me but im now the woman of my dreams, his dreams and the man I am with gets to have the best version of myself ❤️ self love is key my loves
I needed this so much… I called off my engagement back in august and to this day I’ve asked myself was it the right thing. Going back and forth between happiness and regret. But after watching this is showed me I did make the right decision and it’s ok to feel this way! And who I am today is so beyond strong compared to who I was. And I finally put myself first. Thank you so much Carli. You are the sister I always wanted and I needed this video❤️❤️
Yes ❤️she's right...put yourself first for once!!! It's a process ,I know..and if you have to,go get therapy to help you! Heal from it, and something positive will come from it all ♥️♥️♥️..Valentine's day...take your son out! Buy yourself flowers!
It is totally true that in the moment you might feel very down or think you can’t get through it but you definitely will. At 28 years old I got very sick and was hospitalized several times. At the time my first husband was deployed. When he returned after 12 months with no R&R (military meaning that they don’t get to come home for a break), he was suffering with PTSD. I suffered permanent nerve damage and was still dealing with my new disability while being forced out of my job. While I was trying to recovering and getting him acclimated back here in the States. After taking care of him for a year and a half after returning home and being with him for 9 years, he told me he wanted to be alone. I was divorced at 30 years old and had to start over again but at that time, I felt the “hits” just kept coming. I eventually met my 2nd husband and I think back, thank God all of that happened because it led me to my life now which is so much better! Just keep your head up and keep fighting on because most things happen for a reason, and you usually wind up in a much better place once you get through those tough times! ☺️♥️
I have been a subscriber, fan and long time viewer for a very long time- I think before you moved from your home of origin -and I just want to say that I’ve been treating myself to some one- video- after -another and I’ve just been smiling the whole time ,having some tears with you having some happiness with you ,enjoying everything so thank you so much! I appreciate being able to get on TH-cam and see you and all you’re doing and just all the things you share. Your beautiful make up and getting ready with me’s are so wonderful and your vlogs of the day -but it’s also what you share from your heart and it just means a lot! thank you! by the way I’m 65 (and I feel like I’m 50 and it’s great to get older and just enjoy every single day -it’s its own envelope of joy! ❤
I haven't seen one of your videos in a while and literally yesterday I was like "Oh I wonder how's Carli doing". I didn't expect this, but you are a strong beautiful mama! Hope things will get better. 🥰
I didn’t get married until I was 42. Nothing wrong with being heartbroken but it’s amazing when you come out of that darkness and you realize what you want and who you are.
Carli, I just wanna let you know that listening to you is so therapeutic. You inspire me to believe in myself and believe that life can get better ✨️ thank you for that!
Recently went through a breakup, I needed this! ❤ it gets a little easier everyday and I’m starting to love myself again and have so much hope for the future!
I am not even going through a break up and am in a really healthy and loving relationship BUT this is great advice Carli! I'm a very forward motion thinker like you and know that every decision we make is for our best. I am proof that it gets better and all the mess and wrong people you put in the past is for THE BETTER GOOD. Life is happening for you not to you and I hope every girl or guy watching this feels and experiences that very soon! Love you Carli sending you ALL the good vibes and good health.
I’ve been a fan for years, Carli. I’m 60 years old and a widow. I too just had a recent breakup. May I say a huge ‘thank you’ for your great presentation in helping all of us ladies. Congrats on being such fabulous support as we all face challenges. Wishing you the best ahead!!
What a beautiful message ❤
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My main piece of advice is actually for post-post breakup.
We’ve all seen the girl who goes from relationship to relationship and in between “finds herself” or loses a ton of weight or “glows up” and then gets in a relationship again and bam, she’s back to square one and rinse and repeat.
Find yourself during the breakup, yes. But actively work to KEEP yourself, even if you’re in a relationship. That’s when you’ll really glow up and find your true partner. Don’t make a relationship your entire life or personality and keep growing. Because even if that relationship ends, the relationship you have with yourself is still solid.
The absolute best wisdom
Most girls are codependent in relationships they dont want to be alone because they dont have the healthy self relationship
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What I always tell myself is " you were good before them, you will be better after them"
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Omg that quote is always my mantra since my first break up in 2011 :)
Ladies, most importantly, take advice from people who are in long and successful relationships. I've been with my husband 15 years and I can honestly say, be confident with yourself and being alone. Look for a teammate/partner, not someone to save you. Also, don't move in together right away, and have babies before marriage. Have respect for yourself. Don't compare your relationship to others. Don't give up at the first sign of trouble. Relationships take work on both ends. And just don't settle.
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12 year relationship ended recently and I'm currently watching this in bed with a bag of Wendy's 😂 being in the moment is so hard and I cry everyday, multiple times a day, but I know God has a plan for me. Just gotta have faith. Its just, again, hard when you're in the moment with the feeling of a deep sinking sorrow in your chest...
Stay strong angel🫶🏻
You are strong girl. I know you can get through this and I’m so happy to hear that you know God has a plan for you.
I ended my 8 year relationship because I was so unhappy and felt it was toxic. It was really difficult and having anxiety about turning 31 with no husband and kids makes it feel even worse. Especially because my girls are all married and have kids. But I keep reminding myself, I’d rather feel lonely than be married to someone who makes me unhappy.
@@christinekim4056 Exactly! Dont settle so that you can just pretend you are happy and because you feel pressured cause all your freinds got married. In the long run you will be way more miserable in a marriage like that than if you are single and doing what you love and whats best for you!!
Remember that our Almighty God loves you and is for you! May you receive the healing you need in Jesus name! 💞✨
Love ya girl 💗
i just wanted to say i’ve been watching your videos since like 2015 and i still use l’oréal telescopic bc of you and still use your blow drying method and products from back in the day and you are such a role model and icon to me. i just wanted you to know you had THE most impact on my overall appearance and feeling good about myself ily
aw :) hi my love!!! Thanks for sticking with me all these years!! Sending you all my love!!!
@@CarliBel55 legit tearing up rn I LOVE YOU❤️❤️❤️
I have followed you since 2015 or 2016 ?? Your palette was my very first real eyeshadow palette I bought like. You roughte me back to my love of makeup. I’m 61. Don’t look or act it for sure. I have been there, done that. Let me tell you all this. YOU DONT NEED ANYONE TO MAKE YOU FEEL WHOLE OR MAKE YOU “ANYTHING”. I raised my girl all alone, and I didn’t date for 10 yrs. She was more important !! You can do it, you will get over anyone. You may hurt, be sad, grieve, but that’s ok !! I FOUNd PEACE, and you will too !! Don’t LET ANYONE TAKE YOUR SUNSHINE AWAY. NOT EVER 😊. I also have never been married I have been with my man for 16yrs now. But it took a lot to find him. ❤oh, and my daughter is amazing AND INDEPENDENT bought her first home at 24. And makes bank. Ha ha. You can be alone, and you can be ok
@@CarliBel55 Love your GRWM
Same I still use telescopic because of her too! Lol
I found my person when I was 29! I had gone through some bad relationships and was just focusing on myself. Making good financial decisions, focusing on my health. Then I reconnected with a guy I had a fling with years prior. I wasn’t wanting anything serious, but before we knew it, we realized we were perfect for each other. We both went through bad relationships and we both had so much growth. Fast forward 3 years, we’re married and have our first baby on the way. I’ve never been closer to anyone in my life. We have great financial goals and I couldn’t imagine my life without him. And he’s so excited to be father. I can’t wait for our next chapter. ❤
This gives me so much hope ❤
You're absolutely right. I was single for 2 yrs, worked on myself, gained self worth, confidence... I was happy being alone and really had no desire to change that. Then I met my now husband. I honestly didn't think partners like him existed... we're going on 10yrs together, 4 yrs married, and have a beautiful 3yr old and 16 month old. I'm so grateful I never settled for less. Healing and taking time for myself was the best thing I could do for myself. Lots of love to you and your son 💗
I will say people also need to look at themselves when they go through a breakup. You can't always say to yourself "well it's their loss"..no.
Sometimes it's your loss. Maybe you thought you were a great partner by your limited understanding of what a partner should be, but in reality you weren't. There's always room to grow.
Yes! Same thing came to mind. If you're constantly going through the same thing with different individuals then you may be the problem. There should be respect, compromise and communication in a relationship. We can't expect to find the "perfect" person when we don't bring our "perfect" into it. Plus no one will ever be perfect.
@@TheAjda2011 Yes very well said! 💜
Definitely true this
Different topic but has anyone else had a friendship breakup that felt even worse than a romantic breakup ? I have , it literally broke my heart to let that friend go after finding out something really shady about her character. I couldn’t forgive and it still haunts me. 😢
Going through it right now and it has completely shattered me more than finding out my ex of 6 years was living a double life.
@@ayeeyoya wow I’m so sorry for both situations dear. My friend completely broke my heart, sort of like a stab in the back; and this was 13 years ago. I still have dreams about her in my life and I think it’s because I never properly closed that chapter. I just distanced myself and never explained what I discovered. She was my best friend for 9 years of my life . What Ive come to learn is that not every friend is meant to remain in your life . And sometimes you consider someone your best friend but they consider someone else their best friend and that’s ok. I just wish it wasn’t so painful till this day to remember. I hope you heal your wounds . It’s hard for sure .
Ur gonna find better friends trust
I’m going through a friend breakup. Was best friends with him for 20 years. I said the same thing, that friend break ups are worse. So much time of being super close and the disappointment just killed me. At the end of the day I remind myself that he no longer deserved me in his life and I have many amazing friends that do. 🙌🏻
There's better friends to be found. I know how u feel. Hang in there
Going through divorce, single mum of 3 young children! I needed this today ❤️ thank you!
Love ya girl 💗
@@carlabarrick8538 love ya back 😘
Sending love 💕 being a single mom isn’t easy I have two of my own. But this is what makes us the strongest beings on earth.
Why are you going through a divorce
You and Nicole are the only reasons I still watch TH-cam, my absolute favorites 😭♥️
When my ex broke up with me, i was devastated at first. You only remember the good and it felt extra shitty to be blindsided by it. But time makes you see clearer and clearer. My breakup was one of the best things that happened to me. I was settling for a man who was immature, selfish, and thought that power and abusing women was normal. I look back and severely regret not leaving him when i really wanted to. I lost myself and everything i thought i was. I was no longer the person i wanted to be and was stuck being manipulated and abused so much that i didnt recognize myself. I hated my life. But now, being single is truly amazing. I dont have to compromise, mix schedules, share things, check-in, etc.
One of the things I struggled with after breakups is forgiving myself and giving myself grace to acknowledge that ‘yea it didn’t work out but that’s okay’
I am literally packing my stuf rn and moving out of my bf’s place after 6 years od toxic relationship. This couldn’t have been more TIMELY! 🦋
The best advice i can give you is to leave your stuff and start fresh. Every item that you shared with that person will be a constant reminder of them. Throw everything away!
@@dj.1094 Ok so start to pay for her new items!🙂👏
You got this girl trust me god knows why he does things you will be ok and stronger 💚💚👌
I am doing the same girl, after 3 years of toxicity. I’m proud of you!! ❤️❤️❤️🥂
@@dj.1094 Can’t wait till I’m financially able to do that! 🤞🏻
Going through one right now. So glad you uploaded a video on this topic. I am sure there will be words of wisdom for who is going through one right now. Love you girlie❤
love you more babe
when you keep going from relationship to relationship most of the time is a “me” problem not a “all of them are the problem”, … laddies it’s okay to think of ourselves as worthy but when you put your beauty up in a pedestal and assume you ALWAYS deserve better, that’s no longer “self love “ that’s called “pride”! And pride will always bring a fall. Sometimes just sometimes it’s best to concentrate on working in our own selves that’s also “self love”..
it doesn't apply to everyone… if so, now I don't have a long-long-term relationship after all . And there were 3 frogs before him 😅 they kept saying that I was the problem . With the last one, I found out that it is not true.
There are also too many men who expect being taken care of as if they are children. Too many are like that. Easy for such to tell women to be running around them… nope thanks.
my sister in law met my brother when she was 37, they've been together 12 years now. she always tells me that there is no rush bc when you find someone they will be in your life forever so enjoy the time with yourself
Best quote I heard that I try to live by at the age of 38 “I’d rather be alone than to be someone and feel alone”.💕
I really needed this video. I've been with my high school sweethart for 7 years and broke up with him recently. I'm finally ready to say goodbye. I've been going back and forth the last 3 years since I got pregnant and had our son. I've been so scared to walk away and feeling guilty, but I can't deal with the mental and emotional turmoil and manipulation anymore. I have to figure out a new job, car, and place to live but I'm so ready to be done. I told myself this was the year I walk away and get myself together especially for my son.
I remember seeing this quote online when i was in high-school, and debating about breaking up with a boyfriend at the time. " If you love something set it free, if it comes back it was meant to be, if it continues to fly let it soar. Have faith god has something better in store".. So glad I broke up with my ex. God definitely had something better in store for me. My best friends brother!! Who knew..🥰 13 years and 3 kids later I couldn't be more thankful and happy.
I know one day you will find true love. It will come when you least expect it, and not looking. All my Love Carli 💓 😘
I love that you’re sharing your tips and experiences. It’s something we can all apply into our life if we are still in the dating scene. Been watching you since I was a teenager and now I’m 25! I love listening and learning from you xoxo ❤️
Thank you for this video. I just got divorced, my husbund left me when i was 7 months pregnant, after 11 years of a marriage, he said that our baby is a "mistake" and he always wanted a divorce... He don't care about me or our son (no he's 6 months old), and now i'm going through the darkest period of my life. I have no job now, almost no friends...barely have anyone to talk to... i'm very tired and exhausted... i almost lost any hope for any better future
It's hard, but force yourself to pull yourself up, little by little if you need too. Otherwise you will always be letting him take you down. He isn't worth you.
Don’t ever give up hope because a brighter day is on its way, I promise you. Your angel is your baby. Cherish him with your whole heart.
You can do this!
You’re gonna get through this!! I promise!!
So happy you covered this topic! You’re literally the best & most beautiful person with the most purest soul. I will forever love you Carli🥺💖💖💖
Thank you doll baby!!! love you!!!!
I’ve been watching you for roughly 10 years and you’ve “been with me” thru many break ups. I was treated like shit off and on for 6 years. I’m now happily married to the man of my dreams and treated like a Queen. I agree with everything you say and it’s so true to ensure you focus on your own health and well-being, first and foremost!!
I love this Carli! Something I needed to hear tonight. 10 year relationship gone. After being betrayed and cheated on, for the last 3 years on and off I feel so broken. I’ve lost my bestfriend and it’s honestly the worst pain I’ve ever felt. We have children together and it almost seems impossible to get away from it all. I want to be out of this toxic mentality so bad. It’s true that we really do think about all the good times, and all the memories you shared. Praying for things to get better. I’m 31 and knowing I’m starting over after 10 long years is scary, but I know I deserve so much more ♥️
It’s definitely harder with children involved but seeing their momma disrespected isn’t great for them, so good for you! I was divorced with two kids after a horrible marriage. Worked on myself and building up my confidence and married my real soulmate a few years later. We had three more kids and have been married 18 years now. I don’t even recognize myself from my first marriage. My name is Alexa, too. Sending lots of strength to you!!
Can you please do more get ready with mes and talk about your struggles and share your advices because you are the most humble TH-camr, you’re so real and it’s so nice to here you it’s like catching up with a friend
you've legit grown as a role model for every other gurl!!!♥️
Thanks. All women need to hear this at some point! Very heartfelt.
I walked out from a 10yrs of abusive and toxic relationship yesterday. I cried when you gave us screen hug. I needed this so bad. It’s such a beautiful and sunny outside today after months of winter but feels so dark and gloomy. 😢
Got out of a 4 year relationship a year ago & I can’t even begin to describe how much more confident I am. I’m so grateful I decided not to settle for less than I deserve
Hell yeah!! Love this!! 👏💕
Your videos put me a complete peace ❤️ please never stop posting
love you so much
Yessss 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤
I was married for 18 yrs. We were HS sweethearts. Sometimes you out grow someone. I think that’s what happened in my case since we were so young. I knew I deserved better, I wanted better. Guess what… I go it!! Hang in there and make the leap! It’s hard and scary but man you’re gonna look back and be so mad you didn’t do it sooner! ❤
I am going through a divorce after 18 years and 3 children together.... It's very hard... very.. but I know that it is what's best for me and my kids, this really should have happened a long time ago, but even though our relationship has had more bad times than good, he has been my "normal" for so long that I lost myself somewhere in those 18 years and have basically been his puppet... We were 21 and 20 when we got together and are 38 and 39 now so just completely different people.... It's so hard and there are days when I feel like going back would just be the easy thing to do, but I watch uplifting videos like these and stay strong in my decision. So thank you for this girl!! 😘😘
as a soon-to-be 30yr old who just went through a hurtful breakup (got dumped), and I thought he was the one…thank you ❤️ I’m so comforted and warm that you feel me and have been through it and maybe worse 😢 thank you Carli 💝
I’ve been watching Carli for so long, and I definitely would have needed to hear this years and years ago but watching it now I could not agree more ❤ One thing that always resonates with me after a huge change was when someone said “be thankful for the things that didn’t work out” and it helped me a lot
Love you Carli! This was such a heartfelt video and I could really feel your loving and positive energy. It's hard navigating all of the emotions that come with breakups but if you're willing to take the lessons and be grateful for what you've learned...ultimately, you become a better more wholesome version of yourself and that's truly a gift. Thank you for being so open and relatable to all of your YT friends!
I’m not going through a breakup. But I have. Many. And I wish I knew you back then. This was so sweet and genuine. I know this will help a lot of people to feel like they have someone who cares about them 😊
ABSOLUTELY NEEDED THIS♥️you touched literally all the emotions running through me at the moment Thankyou babes💋
Oh this video is the best, my favorite. Im gonna watch over and over again. I know it
When I went through a horrible breakup with my first real serious adult relationship I thought I would never be happy again or find love like that again. I remember my mom telling me that one day I’d find someone and I’d think “oh that wasn’t even love compared to that” and she was absolutely right. It wasn’t immediately it was about 4 years later. But anyone out there should know time really does heal and over time it hurts less. As cliche as that is
Seriously one of the most real and humble people on youtube❤
The best advice I can give is always do what makes you feel good & do not chase, act unbothered if he makes you mad… and if you guys cannot grow together and be understanding of each other’s feelings, it’s probably best to just go on and put energy into people who care for you because you cannot make anyone get on your level if they’re not ready. Don’t let anyone continuously disrespect you. make boundaries! You show them how to treat you. Stand up for yourself. ❤
Loved this. I was hoping for some more tea spilled about her breakups specifically haha!! I wanna know the nitty gritty of what happened w Brett and Anthony
I think a part of her is saying this not only to her followers, but to herself as well. It’s okay Carli. We know you’re hurting. Be blessed and heal! We love you
Omg Carli!!!!! You said exactly what I needed to hear!!! I'm going through this right now!!! You are the best! Thank you!!
That’s so true! I found my person when I was low but we built ourselves up. We moved to different places and We are each other biggest cheerleader.
It is so sad, the amount of ladies who feel like their life is over, over a man who probably isn't giving you another thought. I have been single for almost a full year after a 20 year horrible relationship/marriage and a 2 1/2 year "situationship" and it has been amazing.
I literally just went through 💔 6 months ago and for the first time feel great about being single, thx Carli!
Carli, I love you saying what is meant to be will always be yours no matter what. This is so true! Thank you!
Carly, you’re the sweetest! Glad you’re working on yourself and I hope you’ll find someone who deserves you in no time!
My husband left me, were in the middle of the divorce now. Its literally the worst thing I've ever experienced in my entire life. It feels like I'll never find anyone that made me feel the way he did. It's so hard. We have 2 daughters also. Thank you for this video!!!
im so sorry! It must be really hard trying to pretend that you are ok in front of your kids. I am mid break up of a 3 year relationship and i am devestated. I cant imagine going through that with kids..
Jen, you are beautiful and deserving of the love of a lifetime if you choose down the line. Love ya girl 💗
Prayers for you during this difficult time 🙏🏽
My ex left me too after 8 years and we also have 2 kids together. This was back in 2020. I know how much it hurts! The pain was on another level. It takes time but I promise you it gets better. Carli gave some pretty solid advice. Focus on you and your kids and heal. You'll come out of this a better person. God bless ❤️
@@tangerine3683 so sorry! Sending love and prayers your way.
Love you!! ❤ Growing up with you has been a blessing. Let us celebrate ourselves, we got this 💐❤
yes we do!!! LOVE YOU ANGEL
Ladies! Carli is right. Ive been in a relationship with somene for 6 years and in the end he dumped me(sounds harsh). But i choose not to give him closure when he decided to find me back and explain things. Nope. Sis got the best closure by not allowing him to comeback.
Now im happy and still working on myseld in so many ways. Yes grief cant be avoided. Cry when you can. Its okay. You feel better. And yes i do believe there is someone out there for each and everyone of us.
Remember ladiees, never compare yourself with their current partner. We are the diamonds after all and they do not deserve us. Pity them.
Enjoy and have fun the single time you have. Put yourself first always. Carpe diem everyday!
Thanks Carli, such an inspiration by showing us its okay when you are not with someone and being the independant woman you are. God bless you and Lorenzo. 😘
This video is just what I needed ! Going through a tough breakup after a 15 year relationship, he was my first and only bf ever and this is so hard
Thank you Carli ❤
I would say microdosing mushrooms changed my mental health! It was such a beautiful experience & im now in the best place mentally I have ever been in before💕 working on yourself is a MUST
I just want to take this moment and say that you’re one of my favorite and OGs TH-camrs I’ve been watching you for years. ❤ god bless you and your family and wish you the best 🙏🏻
Thank you my angel!! Same to you & yours xoxo
thank you so much for your soothing words. This means a lot to me and I’m sure many others, too.
I am going through a break up right now and it’s so surreal to me that the day we broke up is the day you upload this video. The universe is telling us so many things, wow
I had a really toxic marriage until aged 25 and I still let that hurt affect me until the end of last year and someone really close to me reminded me that he isn't hurting, he doesn't care he hurt you but your subconsciously hurting yourself. It takes time but the hurt goes....always remember your beautiful, incredible and so strong.
My best breakup advice I've ever heard x
Carli❤ about 7 years ago when my ex broke up with me I left a message in your comments (the first message I’d ever left to anyone on TH-cam although I’d watched you for years) and your were just so lovely to me and your subs were too I saved the messages and they got me through the wrist break up of my life. We were engaged and owned a house together. I used it as motivation ended up travelling and living in the uk for years. Now back home in nz found the man of my dreams and have now been married for 6weeks. ❤ tones of love I will always be great full to you for that time
What an amazing story!!
@@MochiColorsZanos omg I recognise your profile photo !! You wrote to me on my comment all those years ago too I still have the screen shot!!! 😊❤️
@@sophiebaty2883 Oh wow! No way!!!! 😃😃 Haha that's AMAZING!!! I was meant to see your comment then ☺I'm so happy things worked out for you!!! you deserve to be happy 🥰❤💞
@@MochiColorsZanos it’s just lovely that you are always being such a lovely supportive it’s a wonderful part of Carlis community. Your so wonderful spreading such kindness ❤️❤️🥰
@@sophiebaty2883 Well, you know what's funny is I hardly watch Carli's videos anymore. I haven't in a really long time and I wasn't even going to click on this one, but I precisely thought I haven't seen her videos in a long while so I did 😄❤
A wise woman once said: They call it "falling in love" for a reason.
It's not easy to just get over the love you develop for that person. But when you finally do, it will be refreshing.
Post break up 5 months here, it’s been hard, started talking to him again and realized why we broke up the first place, so now I’m done done. It’s still hard being single and lonely. I hope to get to the point of being okay with it. I deserve better and you deserve someone to treat you like a queen ❤
It’s been a month between me n him and I keep hoping for him to text me back 😢
@@khadijabegum5121 ugh I’m sorry I know it’s hard
ladies don't settle!!!!!!!!!!!! it is better to be lonely than feeling bad.
All the advice is so on point!! All realizations and lessons I myself learned through divorce. Im now in the happiest and healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in and so grateful to have finally found my person ❤
You’re so strong to be so soft still through all of your pain! Really generous of you to share this kind of thing. I’ve watched you from the start! Love! ❤
I’ve never clicked quicker !!! Me and my bf of 8 years broke up and I’m doing my own thing on my own for the first time in a long time and it’s crazy but I’m so much more happy. Never thought I could do it on my own but I am. Love you Carly !!❤
Good for you girl! 👏🏽
Proud of you babe!! Love you
I also left an eight year relationship, I thought he wanted the same things. He did but wanted me to wait five more years because he wasnt ready, he wasnt ready to be engaged, so that made me realize I wasted 8 years of my life with someone and it hurts, but im ok. Im 48 and starting over again 🤷♀️ I cant settle and I was not happy with the sitaution. He told me I broke his heart....he broke my heart for letting me believe we were gonna be together in the right way.
Wishing you a lot of happines! 🫶🏻
So happy you were able to find happiness within yourself. I’m still trying to figure it out.
Thank you for saying you see a therapist too. Its so so important for those struggling and even those who are not. No one needs to feel alone.
You're absolutely RIGHT. ❤️ I love you Carli!!!!
I am my most happiest, most authentic and becoming a better version of myself after a 10 year on and off relationship. I'm loving my journey. 💫✨️🥰
Proud of YOU! Keep going strong. Love you
@@CarliBel55 ❤️
Yes it's absolutely important to know your worth and not settle for less than what we deserve -SO IMPORTANT!
I also think that it's just as important to realize that your partner or the next person also deserves the best, so it's important that it works both ways. Sometimes we are quick to shift the blame to someone else for unhappiness in a relationship without acknowledging what we are doing wrong🤷♀️.
I'm listening with my eyes closed and crying. Thank you for this. Sending love and support back to you.
I was never in a relationship, a lot of people wanted the wrong things first (hookups) and not date. I’m 28, but that all showed me what I want in a man and what I don’t ! Even dating apps are coming across people you don’t know, and I feel like if people don’t know you through those dating apps, they’re not gonna “get to know you” that’s why its better to know someone, and build a relationship through a friendship 😊if you go that route of meeting people. But don’t worry about them, worry about yourself at the end of the day and build that version of yourself ☺️.
Yes girl! you are a saint on earth! I needed this fo sho
Love is a journey! To say the leasssst. I’ve had so many heartbreaks… been on so many dates… settled! And once I met my soulmate everything made sense. when it’s your soulmate you’ll know. The saying “when you know you know” is so true! Just be patient in the meantime and nurture yourself! Relationships are work but loving the person you’re meant to be with is easy, trust me 💛
I had a miscarriage with my ex. I was terrified to tell him so I waited 4.5 months which was so awful on my part. He said if I didn’t have a baby with him he wouldn’t be with me. He mentally abused me for 9 months yet I still felt I loved him. He kicked me out last week after I told him we lost our baby girl in Sept. I’m in therapy and I’m just praying to God I can get over this awful pain I feel in my chest. I know he wasn’t right for me, but to be discarded like that has been beyond hurtful. I’m grateful for my family and friends who have embraced me during this time. Again you rock Carli. 💕
I just rediscovered your page through this video. I remember watching at like 30,000 and seeing your growth. What is so beautiful and inspiring is you have always been YOU and so uplifted, positive, evolved and empowering. It’s so great to see you. We’re around the same age, and I really honour your work and heart that you put into it! You’re such a queen. Shine one beautiful Diamond ✨💎✨
this is a strong womans experience! i will always put women up high that get through breakups 😮💨 ive been with the same person forever but man i think about if what when wheres and it takes a big woman for that! credits to you carli! 👏
Thank you for this!!! You’re so right in everything you said & you gave me so much hope that a “my one” is still out there (saying it from a 37 yr old). Sending lots of love from NYC!! ❤❤❤
Resonate with all of this Carli. Love is the highest frequency there is and love towards yourself is what will ultimately heal you✨🤍
And what about friendship breakups? They hurt worst than the romantic ones sometimes 😭
100% ... what's meant for you will stay, what's not will be a lesson learned. x
@@CarliBel55 I love this! Thanks Carli ❤️
Listen to “friends that break your heart” by James Blake and be prepared to 😢
PREACH!!!!
What about the relationship where the man was nothing but perfect, but you were too toxic and he left
Carli I have been watching you since the early 2010’s! You have really shaped the way I see myself and how I take care of myself. You are one of the few genuine TH-camrs that captures so many people’s hearts 🤍 Plus you were one of the people that inspired me to start my small business! I hope your never stop creating content on here 🤍
I lost my sister. Carli you are like a sister to me. Your entire soul is warm and loving. You are wonderful and wise and kind. I love you and your vids. You always inspire me to put make up on when I'm down.
God bless you🌹
Love Carly! I remember being 18 in love and heartbroken severely. Cheated on and lied to it gave me such a push to see the world and she is so right. 6 months he was begging to come back I was not wanting anything to do with him. 12 years later I have two kids with the most amazing man. I wouldn’t be with this man had that guy not cheated on me I was trying to cling on something that wasn’t meant for me but im now the woman of my dreams, his dreams and the man I am with gets to have the best version of myself ❤️ self love is key my loves
I needed this so much… I called off my engagement back in august and to this day I’ve asked myself was it the right thing. Going back and forth between happiness and regret. But after watching this is showed me I did make the right decision and it’s ok to feel this way! And who I am today is so beyond strong compared to who I was. And I finally put myself first. Thank you so much Carli. You are the sister I always wanted and I needed this video❤️❤️
Yes ❤️she's right...put yourself first for once!!! It's a process ,I know..and if you have to,go get therapy to help you! Heal from it, and something positive will come from it all ♥️♥️♥️..Valentine's day...take your son out! Buy yourself flowers!
Came back to this video, sobbing. Thank you so much Carli, these words helped me so much today. Love you !!
This is why I love Carli. She's such a light to woman. Since back in the day! ❤ Mom. 😭
carli>>>>>>>studying for my nursing exam
beautiful as always carli, makeup and soul❤️
It is totally true that in the moment you might feel very down or think you can’t get through it but you definitely will. At 28 years old I got very sick and was hospitalized several times. At the time my first husband was deployed. When he returned after 12 months with no R&R (military meaning that they don’t get to come home for a break), he was suffering with PTSD. I suffered permanent nerve damage and was still dealing with my new disability while being forced out of my job. While I was trying to recovering and getting him acclimated back here in the States. After taking care of him for a year and a half after returning home and being with him for 9 years, he told me he wanted to be alone. I was divorced at 30 years old and had to start over again but at that time, I felt the “hits” just kept coming. I eventually met my 2nd husband and I think back, thank God all of that happened because it led me to my life now which is so much better! Just keep your head up and keep fighting on because most things happen for a reason, and you usually wind up in a much better place once you get through those tough times! ☺️♥️
I have been a subscriber, fan and long time viewer for a very long time- I think before you moved from your home of origin -and I just want to say that I’ve been treating myself to some one- video- after -another and I’ve just been smiling the whole time ,having some tears with you having some happiness with you ,enjoying everything so thank you so much! I appreciate being able to get on TH-cam and see you and all you’re doing and just all the things you share. Your beautiful make up and getting ready with me’s are so wonderful and your vlogs of the day -but it’s also what you share from your heart and it just means a lot! thank you! by the way I’m 65 (and I feel like I’m 50 and it’s great to get older and just enjoy every single day -it’s its own envelope of joy! ❤
Most of the time I'm a silent watcher. But this video made me realize how valuable I am. TQ Carli 😊
I haven't seen one of your videos in a while and literally yesterday I was like "Oh I wonder how's Carli doing". I didn't expect this, but you are a strong beautiful mama! Hope things will get better. 🥰
We all need our big sister Carli’s wisdom❤️ Thank you for this video beautiful!💕 We are all queens ladies, your Prince Charming is coming!❤️
Thanks for your kind words and the motivation to keep going. 🌻
I didn’t get married until I was 42. Nothing wrong with being heartbroken but it’s amazing when you come out of that darkness and you realize what you want and who you are.
Carli, I just wanna let you know that listening to you is so therapeutic. You inspire me to believe in myself and believe that life can get better ✨️ thank you for that!
My favourite person on the internet. Love from Morocco ❤❤
Recently went through a breakup, I needed this! ❤ it gets a little easier everyday and I’m starting to love myself again and have so much hope for the future!
Awe Chi is like ok mama just don’t get sad cus I am with you to cuddle 🥰
I am not even going through a break up and am in a really healthy and loving relationship BUT this is great advice Carli! I'm a very forward motion thinker like you and know that every decision we make is for our best. I am proof that it gets better and all the mess and wrong people you put in the past is for THE BETTER GOOD. Life is happening for you not to you and I hope every girl or guy watching this feels and experiences that very soon! Love you Carli sending you ALL the good vibes and good health.
You are so sweet Carli! Yes, breakups are hard and also friendships ending, but I agree it's best to learn and grow from the situation.