Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse Month | Michael
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- April is Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse Month, which recognizes that boyhood sexual abuse is often overlooked and poorly understood.
A lack of understanding and support can lead to additional trauma for male survivors and a lack of adequate resources.
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i was 12-13 and it destroyed my life for a long time. my silence prolonged my suffering. i started my healing at 39 and am very happy at 58. kudos young man great job
I'm really sorry, I'm so happy you are okay now, please remember you are loved and we believe in you♡
Curious how that abuse affected your personal relationships afterwards. Glad you found happiness.
@Garou 🅥 everything we are today is based on all of our lifes experiences thus far but so much of your life has yet to happen. I encourage you to tell your parents. Do not carry this burden alone. Take charge of this. Own it. It happened. You cant change that but you can choose to not let it too continue to cause you such emotional distress.
Wow same as me, only I have 6 years to go before I’m 39. I have no life. So much I never caught Covid. What does happiness look like?
@@ethantownsend458 happiness is different to everyone and no one was ever guaranteed it. It is up to the individual to find it.
I was 5 years old. My father has passed from an overdose and my Mother had to hire a nanny to take care of me while she worked 80 hours a week. Her husband tricked me into believing that IT was a rite of passage. I recall walking back home in tears followed by crimson footprints.
I am 27 now. Still destroyed. Have huge trust issues. But i have been working on myself and loving life despite its unfairness.
Thank you all for sharing your stories.
Stay strong 😊
I'm so sorry❤️ stay strong :(
I feel your pain
There is a lot missing in that perpetrator. One very deranged person would harm a child such as.
I'm sorry. May the road ahead be smoother and kinder to you. I hope you get the solid type of help and support talked about in this clip. Wishing you the best.
I was 10 years old when molested by a neighbor who was a high school football player. Decades later I was able to share it with a few very select friends, and I was 56 when I finally told my dad about it. All I can say is that my trust in virtually anyone was shatterd and it scarred me for most of my life. And though there is no doubt I was a victim, I finally see myself not as a victim but as a conqueror. I would never wish the experience on anyone, but I can honestly say that God has used it for good in my life and made me much more sensitive to the needs and hurts of others. Thank you for sharing your journey. May you continue to heal, learn, grow, and make a difference in the lives of those around you.
Gay or Straight, young or older Everyone should be treated with respect and care.
Most importantly Grown Men having a intrest in a child of God. Is repulsive and unforgivable crime to humanity. Premeditated pedophiles are going to be castrated and Exposed to save All children. I agree , No child of God should be sexually assaulted, harrassed, abused And violated for any reason.
I agree totaly !!!
i struggle with my sexuality, is there anyone like me. that is "straight" but acts out some times??
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@@Kimi9507rw Yes, many.
no one deserves this.. my heart goes to you ♥
Congratulations and thank you. You told a difficult story well. The more often a secret is told, the less power it has. It took 10 years before I told my story.
I'd just like to point out that when ppl speak on this that they only mention women, girls, and boys (sometimes), and on occasion men, but the reality is that it happens to women, girls, boys, men, anyone. And both Men and Women do those terrible things too. Ppl have it in their mind that if it did happen to a grown man that another grown man did it when women can do that to men too. My heart goes out to ANYONE going thru this. ❤️💯
You are absolutely right it can happen to anyone and by anybody.
Extremely brave of you to talk about this. Your openness and honest is beautiful and will help so many others (as well as yourself). Wishing you all the health, happiness, and healing and congratulations on having your own family - sure that your experiences will help you being an amazing dad 😊❤️🙏
The pain in your eyes is so prevalent. I'm so incredibly so that you and countless others have endured such horrific abuse 😢❤️
You're a strong young man. I wished this had never happened to you. This is no childs fault, when this kind of sadness happens to them. Stay strong my friend. Love, prayers 🙏 going your way sir. Now you have a family of your own to love and protect. I just know you can do it 😊. ♥️🙏
Thanks for your story, you are believed, you are loved, you are beautiful ❤
I want to reach through the phone and give you a big hug. Thank you for sharing your story, it will help others 💓 I'm saving it for to show my son when he feels ready to start his healing journey. It is so difficult for boys to open up, you are a true inspiration.
Michael , You Are Doing Great , You are Beyond Brave..! You are facing your dark shadowing head on . So so Proud of you.! “ Just Remember that the dark moments in our life does not defines us or make us feel any less important, but only how we move forward. “
“ What I thought would weaken me , Actually made me stronger . What I thought broke me , actually made me unbreakable “.
The Battles that I had to face in my life & overcome it , was there to strengthen my consciousness, & make me stronger. Once I understood , I’ve learned that My dark shadows is what makes me brighter . Without it , my light would never know what it’s capable of or it’s potential . ❤️
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Heal Your Inner Self my dear . You Got This ! Raise your right hand to your heart. & feel your heart beat , Just know that that is how you can reach your inner child . Talk to it , & tell it how proud you are of it. And how you’ve survived it.
Our heart is our second brain, it hold the keys to all the memories of our life .
“ As your healing Journey Begins my dear , I wish you Greatness to the very End”.
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In Wisdom , People with scars are the more wise ones. They have seen it all, been thru & faced it all , & overcome it all.
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Michael thanks for sharing and being so brave. Im a survivor myself. From 12 to 17 years old i was sexually abused by a teacher and a brother. Got some help in my late 20's and more in my 30's, never have been in a relationship until my late 50's. Now I'm 61 and still deal with issues from way back then. Wish I had the support that you got. Proud of you.
God bless you James! Your strength lies in you loving yourself and knowing that you may have been violated but this violation will not be the destruction of your destination!
Thank you, Michael, for your sharing experience. I admire you for speaking out.
Feels weird "liking" the video. Thanks for your bravery, Michael!
Thank you so much for your bravery in telling your story. I’m the mother of four sons around your age. It’s heartbreaking to hear this but so necessary for us parents to be aware. Thank you again and I pray that God’s Love will fill your life.
Respect and thank you! Courageous! 🌿🦅🌿🦬🌿🐎🌿🦌🌿👵🏽👋🏾✨☀️✨💜✝️💜☪️💜
I was 8-12,
My predator/real demon a football trainer still works as an ambulance driver with a son at the police,
he went with me to so many places,
I have so much anger pushed inside me, because I want to be free, but with that complexity, it's always training for me to not get in panic or depression.
I got out on my own with many excuses,
I role played a healthy teenager,
I hear so many complex stories,
Changing the future with knowledge from the past,
to slow or to fast.
Fixing something like that alone is a heavy task,
So I put on a crazy mask.
It really touched me to hear you talking about such horrible stuff, you are a brave man, it is not easy to speak about such things. Shame on people who prey on others and sexually abuse them. Sending positive vibes to all!
You are still in pain. I can see it in your eyes and the way you hold yourself back from tears. Talk to someone you trust and who cares about you. A male friend might be able to help you repair the injury done by the male who abused you. Don't give up on the love of family and good trustworthy friends. God bless.
This young man was extremely brave. Thank you so much for telling us about this as it was so painful for you. No one has the right to destroy someone in that way - ever.
I can relate not thinking about it until a much later time. I never thought about what I went through until I was 15. I think my brain was just trying to suppress it and make it seem insignificant for as long as it could.
I think a big part of healing for the victim is knowing that what happened is not their fault. Otherwise a lot of shame can be carried around for a long time.
You are so brave. Everything will be ok.
I totally understand how it feels to go through this, it's so sad I was also abused at age 10 and the hardest part of it was I couldn't tell anyone about it so devastating, though I was finally able to speak out after so many years I'm 20 now and doing a lot better but I guess I will have to live with the scars a little longer if not all my life
Wishing you healing and peace. Look at all the comments from men who made it through and are living happy lives now. That's waiting for you too. All the best.
Michael my wish for you is for someone to come into your Life and gently nurse your Heart and Soul back to full health.
My Heart goes out to you.
What happened to your Life and Innocence is so vile.
Michael you are beyond brave.
Blessings for you 💟
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Sending Love ❤️ 👵🏽👋🏾 May Creator Bless You for being so very brave!
Archway: Is this fellow a survivor who volunteered to film this? (I ask because, as you know, actors often play patients, but in this instance, it would be hard to believe this is an actor.) If so, what a courageous and generous young man! Godspeed, Michael, on your path to well-being.
So sorry for you.
I have gone through that too.
I am leaving with it all my life and probably until I die.
Be strong and believe in you and GOD.
Youre a true example of a Man who is victorious over CSA
I'm looking into an amazing strong soul through your eyes. Thank you for sharing your story with the world. I know exactly what you feel and I understand every emotion you experience. Forgiveness is the key to your inner peace. God bless you and your family.
You are very brave to come forward in details. You are helping many old men, middle age men, young men, teens, and children. I know how hard it was to come forward first hand. It's extremely hard for women to come forward. I think it's even harder for men to come forward. All the men I know that had it happen. Only opened up to me. They think people will think they are gay. Or there is something wring with them if they did not enjoy it, if it was a woman. When men come forward. They are believed. When women come forward. SELDOM DOES ANY ONE BELIEVE IT.
Very articulate, very brave. I wish you all the very best for the future - you absolutely deserve it.
I didn't think much about it except sometimes it hurt. But I just let it go and moved on.
thanks for your story, your not alone.hope you heal and you are belived
We love you, Michael
I told the truth spoke up . And now I'm in xhile and have no family no friends . I often think is that what being in prison alone is like I wish I would had kept my mouth shut sometimes
what happened to me lasted 15 very torturous yrs of my life and has since left me a perminant paranoid mess. i never sleep without access to at least 3 or more weapons at my disposal. im armed to the teeth and only live around people i can easily physically overpower if they tried to attack me. i can only ever really achieve as much sleep as my sense of peace (which is fleeting at times due to my inability to trust anyone). I'm so enraged and depressed at the state of the world and its inability to recognize and start drafting solutions for mens issues.
... i couldnt watch your video for my brain isnt capable of handling that at this time.
At 7 years of age, I was not only repeadly molested, I was also passed around to other adults and was forced to unimaginable things.
I’m sorry this happened to you. You are strong and it was not your fault ❤️
@@AM-sq9snShared sentiment.
I believe it happened to me, at that age
Satan comes through his people to get to the young, innocent and most vulnerable
Good young guy speaking up about the evil that he endured as a boy. Yes, it's extremely evil to abuse a kid.
"Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear." --- Nelson Mandela.
Michael exemplifies that.
Thank you.........
Guys we should unite until there are strict laws against abuse of men.
Wow. I guess my story is so horrible I still can’t tell.
I am sure this takes A LOT of courage 🤍🤍🤍. You're an inspiration, Michael ✨ 💚🤍💚💚💙✨.
It was only when I talked to a psychiatrist that my mind is able to recall these events… and abnormally shed tears…
If parents would explain to there children at a very young age especially now days that it’s ok to come to them with anything and everything without judgement.
i was 9.
her parents walked in on her doing it to me, they didn't stop her. they never stopped her.
Sometimes things aren't in our hands .....we have to compromise 💔
Your are strong brother
Thank you for your courage and strength. You are seen and heard. I was 10-11ish when it happed to me.
You have great value and worth.
I'm not a bad person the fact is things where done to me now I don't function correctly I've been unemployed for almost 5 months I did ten years of therapy I almost died they had me on 130mg of Ritalin as a child that's twice the adult dosage they gave it to a 5 year old I had to carry a portable heart monitor I had a learning disorder because I was high my entire youth they expect me to survive I'm 29 I still can't pass the drivers test
This is suprisingly not an uncommon story. I hope he finds a man who will love, protect, and respect him.
2:43 why do i feel like he is about to burst crying
He is holding alot of pain
Big hug from Rienzi Mississippi 🫂
Courageous buddy. Appreciate your honesty.
Unless you have been through this, no one understands how it emotionally changes you forever.
Agree 100% lifelong healing.
I was sexually abused too, but I don't think much about it, men who cry like this just want attention and sympathy.
@@johndy9571 The one who want attention and sympathy is you
You are right. I do not fully understand. It's REALLY hard for me to understand how a one-time abuse can have such a great impact in someone's life. I have not been sexually abused but a cousin of mine has. It was important to me to watch this. It sensitized me to this issue and helped me think about his situation and perhaps understand him a bit more. I hope I can learn more about abuse so that, as I interact with any children in the future, I can help them feel comfortable sharing any abuse experiences.
And the amount of people defending pedophiles disgusts me
Michael is obviously still very troubled by his abuse. I pray that he continues to grow in his understanding that he is a victim and not to blame. I would hope is still in counseling, two years is simply not enough to resolve the lifelong issues this event presents in his life. This video is a great step in the direction of recovery. Helping others who may be hurting and not knowing where to turn can be very impactful in a positive way. Thank you Michael for being strong, remaining strong. Brother Thom
Super brave of you telling your story. At 39 years old, I'm still struggling. Over the years, I've blocked out the memories of my abuse. However as I get older, some of the memories are coming back. I still have night terrors, and suffer extreme anxiety and depression from my childhood abuse. I thank God my wife has been supportive and helping me overcome. I wasn't allowed to speak out, I was labeled as the problematic stepson, the black sheep. I was not allowed to express any other feelings. I was expected to be happy and smiling all of the time. This has also caused me to have anger issues, depression and anxiety.
We are so sorry you've gone through that, and we hope you are able to receive the help that you need. You're not alone, thanks for sharing.
I did the same thing through junior high and high school my mind blocked it out and the only came back recently through a trigger.
@Kris: I also have night terrors which I believe originates with the physical, emotional and psychological abuse I experienced from the time I was a little boy, until I was approximately 16. It's a terrible affliction, and deeply impacts my spouse. Just wanted you to know you weren't alone in dealing with those.
I was sexually abused too, but I don't think much about it, men who cry like this just want attention and sympathy.
Get help!
I needed to hear this. Fellow survivor here! I love you Michael! Hang in there!
God bless him. I appreciate him sharing his story I hate he went threw that thou. My heart goes out to him.
Because of people like you guys I have learned lots to help protect my son and little sister. Thank you. I wish I didn’t have to say that but thank you for sharing.
My very first memories, as a small child, of my abuser were of abuse and being abused. It lasted til I was 11 when he was killed in a car accident. I was so damaged abd broken, that I missed him and the abuse. It was such a "normal" part of my life. Im 38 and it is still difficult at times.
Am I reading this for casualty?
Or a coincidence.
My story.
I did the same for years. I blamed myself because I enjoyed some of it and liked the attention. All these years later and I am so damaged and broken. It took me a long time to understand what he did was wrong. What seemed normal and innocent at the time now makes me sick to even type these words! Hope you are doing well. ✌❤
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I am so sorry.
I am with you, knowing the feeling.
Faith and prayers are the keys.
I am focusing on my self esteem and be happy or trying.
Past is the past, I can not change it but I can change my attitude and loving people.
I deserve to be happy and shine again.
I am sorry
Even now in my mid 50's, is it wrong to say that even at 5 or 6 years old, I somehow "enjoyed" the abuse and the experience.
In fact, I think I looked forward to it at that young age. I thrived on that attention and felt very special that I can honestly admit that I missed it.
I needed to hear this! I’m a survivor too! Mine was from age 3 to age 12! I only recently started my healing process and it’s beyond hard and frustrating!! Thank you for sharing your story!!! God bless you! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
It can. Strength.
I was sexually abused too, but I don't think much about it, men who cry like this just want attention and sympathy.
@@johndy9571 People like us who seem to handle our abuse "quite OK" should not expect others to react the same way, since we all are different and deal with stuff like this very differently. I have never cried because of how I was abused, but I'm not going to berate or drag someone else down because they needed to let their feelings out in order to cope with their traumatic experiences.
@@johndy9571 You mean women. When men do it, it's usually legit.
@@AZ-gm2md so when female abuse victims cry it’s for attention? Wow
I’m a survivor, too. I was 5 when it began, 7 when he (our neighbor) moved away. For the next 51 years I never told anyone. In 2013, after talking with my wife, I sought counseling. It was one of the best things I could have done.
Yes, the nightmares still come, the shame, sadness, feeling of loneliness and the loss of my innocence still show up from time to time…but it never truly ever goes away. We live with this every day of our lives.
Bravo to this young man.
I understand, brother.
You're fortunate.
I haven't been able to experience true, normal love, due to that past
There's no love in my life period.
@@dennismclaurin1487 I understand, Dennis. I truly don’t know what love is, either. Not genuine love…my wife and children love me and had I not been sexually assaulted by that neighbor, I could love them back as I should.
I am a Registered Social Worker who works with people who have been sexually assaulted and abused; this man and all the other adults and children that I have worked with have shown so much strength with their healing!
It happened to me when I was 3 and it destroyed my life, and worse, I’ve had people tell me to my face that I’m lying because “you must’ve liked it” (even though I was 3 years old) and tell me that “boys don’t get abused”
I got alot of support but the fact that men aren’t taken seriously or are made fun of, it made me quiet about it for 18 years
Not sure who or why someone would say that, especially if it wasn't your abuser trying to cover their crime.
You are probably a lovely person, i hope you don't let that ignorance bring you down 🙏
that's totally horrible that someone said that, of course little boys get abused!
That’s horrible, I’m so sorry 😢 I pray you’re on a healing/recovery journey and exceedingly do well in life now🤍
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Thank you for being vulnerable and share your story. Not only women, but men also get often abused. Somehow they don't feel comfortable to speak about that, but we need to spread awareness. I write that as a woman. Abuse has to stop, regardless of gender!!!
I was 5 when my older cousin that was baby sitting us thought to target me. But my brother of 7 stopped him and told adults. Apparently the cousin had been hurting both of us for some time. Im very grateful for my brother, though our shared trauma made us both angry children so we fought a lot. Now as adults we are very good friends. I'm glad our parents got us help right away and continued to do so all of growing up.
The immense pain and anxiety is still so prevalent in your eyes and disposition. I am so terribly sorry these horrors happened to you and know you are not alone. You may have suffered terrible abuse but know this does not define you. You are a warrior in how you fought through it. I commend you for it ❤
Well said music!!!
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👍🏼👍🏼 ❤️ Back at ya
It feels wrong to "Like" this video, but good on you for speaking up, Michael. Awareness helps make a difference for future children who could have been at risk had their parents been completely clueless.
Don't be ashamed! Liking the video shows support. It drives engagement to the algorithm to make it more seen.
You are one of the bravest people I have ever encountered. I wish this had never happened to you.
Lots of respect to you sir, i am happy my son gets to grow up and have role models like you. Thank you!
Mine happened at the age of 11 also. You are not alone. My prayers are with you.
U know, coming out is the bravest thing any juvenile can do.Yet that's still not as brave as telling about having been sexually molested or abused nonetheless. Having the guts to tell that to someone and even share that publicly to the world is rather heroic. 👏
I agree
I'm so incredibly sorry you went through this and I wish you well as you continue to heal.
God bless.
I was 8 years old and it happened to me when I was in an orphanage run by priests. In a place where I thought that I was the most safe. What's more grueling is that the culprits were the other students who were also kids like maybe 14-16aged.
They made it look like it was my fault and took advantage of me through blackmail and manipulations.
It took a long time for me to realize that it wasn't my fault. I'm still struggling, still healing. It was eating away at me, and I couldn't find the courage to tell somebody about this to this day.
I went into depression, started cutting, lost interest in studies.
A family friend noticed the change in me and took me to a therapist. I'm doing much better now, I don't get that much panic attacks as I've used to. I'm not hurting myself anymore, but sometimes something triggers all those memories and everything comes back to me.
But I know now that this too shall pass😊
You cannot take back the past. Believe I.n Yourself and do not look back too intensely maybe. Live for today and the future promises, opportunities to come. Maybe that is better.
I don't know how to express how sorry I am. Sincerely sorry 😞 Has therapy helped you?
For me, conventional therapy didn't really work. EMDR is much better imo. I only had a few sessions before covid closed the clinic i went to but i highly recommend it.
Do you have good family today? I really hope you overcome those rats from the past.
It feels so disturbingly comforting hearing other peoples accounts. It really makes you feel less alone y'know. I recently decided to speak out on my experiences and it really lifted so much weight off. Thanks for sharing.
One of the things that helps a lot to protect your children, is to stop letting them do sleep overs 🛌; you would be surprised how dangerous ⚠️ that is; a lot of people are molested as children because of that reason or because you have company stay over night and that’s when they’re molested; also, talk to your children and explain to them what inappropriate behavior \touching ! 😄
Happened to me at 9, didn't realize how it set a terrible idea of relationships for a long time. Finally started healing at 33, and now I feel great
I'm sorry for him, I hope he knows his story is being heard and that we believe in him
I am a woman but I am so sorry for the pain that so many of you have endured. I hope you all find peace and healing.
Thank you.
My brother Im so sorry. It takes a hell of a man to share thank you sir. Again Im really sorry.
Thank you for sharing your story! Your freaking brave man! I admire you tremendously!
This is so important to make the public aware of. We hear about girls who have been harmed this way, but the boys and young men are often silent, and they need our most sustained support possible.
It'snot the silence of our enemies that hurt . It's the silence of people who are supposed to protect us that hurts the most. Expose them all. Stop letting premeditated pedophiles make victims of children of God. Thank all of you brave Men, Your strength is the future protection of All children.
Michael is the definition of a real Man. I’m sorry you were hurt deeply, and for all the suffering you have endured. It sounds like you have learned how to cope with this trauma and become a thoughtful, caring man. I can see and hear the deep trauma in this video. Definitely a lot of learning tools for myself and others on there path of healing. God Bless you Michael and I will remember you in prayer, with others who suffer.
Michael, thank you for your courage in making this video. I related to much of what you said, particularly how it has affected personal relationships. Trusting is still sometimes difficult. My journey began seven years ago, and I am still working on myself. I began a journey, but for a few years it became an odyssey, but now back to a journey.
Again, thank you for your bravery in sharing your story.
All the best for your future,
Anthony
Thank everyone for coming forward. The more that come out and tell their story the more the public knows.
For reasons that aren't fair, I'd have had issues dealing with this as well. Good for you for being open with your story! It's hard enough growing up in this world, so the least we can do is watch out for each other. ❤️
I was physically abused but not sexually abused by my father. Its had a life long affect of not trusting people.
@@romaneros4583 Same. I do trust most people, but it's easy to turn myself off to certain people if I feel uncomfortable. I don't think that will ever go away.
@@hagsvilledtx our parents were supposed to be our safety zone. When they betrayed us they created emotional scars that we will carry to our grave. I see those scars in my life all the time. How about you?
@@romaneros4583 Well, I became a raging alcoholic until three years ago and now waiting for a liver transplant. That was my own fault, but I'm sure those other things didn't help any. 😐
@@hagsvilledtx it's a cliche but maybe you were drinking to numb the pain and silence the memories. Have you ever loved some one? I have had people tell me they love me but there is a part of me that does not believe them. That part believes iam not worthy of another person's love.
I was about 12 years old just coming into puberty when the women that had been looking after me as my mother had died at child birth I am almost 80 now and I still remember it today as if it happen yesterday so I have never got over it, thank God about thirty years ago that helped me get over this part my life. I feel for you I pray every for people like you and others.
You are very strong Michael, I hope you be well, you are not alone, I love you 💖,thank you for you being brave, God bless you 💖🙏
I admire your courage. I've never spoken to many people about what happened to me let alone speak about it before everyone like this. You're a brave man and I admire you. I could see the hurt in your heart and I feel that pain too. Every day I wish God would just take me home so I wouldn't hurt anymore. God bless you
I'm praying for you and all the people who gone through abuse. That God will give you healing and restoration through excellent support and counselling too. And one day you will be able to help others, just as this video is.
I was 14 and I finally started living again at 20. I'm even in a loving relationship that may one day move into marriage, and I've never been happier. It was difficult learning how to actually authentically engage with people rather than holding them at arms length or avoiding people in general. I have goals, dreams, and strong friendships now after years and years of dissociation, emotional outbursts, panic attacks, suicidal ideation, and hurting myself and others emotionally.
Very Glad to hear that and always makes me happy to hear that brother I’m hoping you achieve everything in life you ever wanted I’m a 22yrd old with a story to I was around 11-12 age I’m also looking for a relationship looking for (female) now that after all these years I’m starting to want a relationship partner connection and not feel as lonely
May God YHVH help us all heal from all kinds of abuse.
You can say that again
*And if he's too busy, maybe Krishna can help us all heal.*
The all powerful sky daddy lat is happened in the first place!! *WORTHLESS!!* 😒😒
I still struggle with it not being my fault after 40 tears aven though I know it was not my fault....
🤗hugs. Brought up some memories. Thanks for sharing your story.
That's is so, so, so, sad that this happens. And it happens to children, I don't know how and why these incidents happen/occur, but they do, and when they do, a child's/hood, life HAS BEEN TAKN AWAY, FOREVER!!!!! For the rest of their lives, and they will remember that FOREVER!!!!!
THATS SAD,😭😭😭 I CAN ONLY PRAY FOR EACH AND EVERY CHILD/VICTIM THAT GOES THRU THIS TERRIBLE ORDEAL, may GOD HELP YOU ALL, AS YOU GROW UP, AND BECOME AN ADULT, LIVE YOUR LIFE. I KNOW ITS GONNA BE HARD TO NOT THINK ABOUT IT, (The past), BUT DON'T DWELL ON (IT), THE PAST, FOR IT HAS COME AND GONE. MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE, FOR YOU HAVE MUCH BETTER THINGS TO DO.
MAY GOD BLESS YOU.🙏🙏🙏
I was 10-11 an was by my neighbor. Thank God I got into therapy cuz I literally felt like it destroyed my life. Sexual/physical abuse has literally changed the trajectory of my life. I battle with Clinical Depression/Anxiety an even contemplated suicide a few nights cuz I was like God why am I even here??
I was 7 years old, the summer between 2nd and 3rd grade. I blocked it out for many years till a young cousin was almost abused. I was 24 when I started to remember. Talk about a difficult time. It took 10 years for me to remember everything (I think). I did get therapy for over a year. I don’t think that I would be here if I hadn’t had the therapy. It was never our fault, we were the victims. Stay strong everyone.
This took place in 1969, I believe, when mother was in the hospital after giving birth to another son,on her birthday.
The aunt and her son and daughter apparently spent a couple or so days over.
The 2nd incident happened years later, around 1975 about 6 years later in our apartment in the projects. Mother was in another room when he jumped on top of me on the bed.I remember her asking him what was he doing. I don't know what he said. Then I heard Mother say, " That's not what it looked like what you were doing "
I was like a silent, innocent lamb, thinking nothing of it.
I experienced abuse from age 9 to 14 . I deal with this over and over I believe that considering the horrible abuse that I suffered I am a lot more normal than I should be. I am extremely protective of my children and nieces and nephews I don't allow my kids to be around their grandfather or 2 of their uncles because I am afraid of what would probably happen. This has destroyed my relationship with 2 brothers and my dad on top of all that happened I feel like a orphan because of it plus my dad hates me but I suppose he always had.
How did you have thé courage to finish that horrible situation ?
Jean Paris
I don't know I do believe however that you can look a person in the eyes and just know that they were also abused
😭😭😭 Omc my heart goes out to you. I wish I could hug you and take your pain away. I’m so sorry you went through this. It makes me so angry you were hurt in such a horrific way. Thank you for speaking up. Men, are allowed to have emotions and speak about the things they go through. It’s so wrong what you went through. Now, You will be such a good leader, you are paving the way for young men and boys to speak up about this. I can’t imagine how scary it must be to pave the way. Please, if you are comfortable making a video on what you think is needed to support young boys who go through this. Elaborating on those points? I’ve gone through it myself too much, but it’s different … I’m not a man. My nephew, he’s gone through it recently. He’s out in counseling, but I see the anger you speak of in him, his hurt, and he’s changing. I’m trying to help him, and I’m scared I’m unable to help him heal. His dad isn’t involved enough, and me and my sister are trying to push his dad to spend more time with his son and encourage him to open up, and know he’s supported. He’s got his own trauma he’s not handling so well, so it all falls in my sister’s shoulder. I’m terrified about this with my own son. I don’t want to be a helicopter parent on my son, but it happened to me abs I wasn’t even 5. How to do we teach our children so young, how do we prevent without taking away their freedom? 😞