i was 12-13 and it destroyed my life for a long time. my silence prolonged my suffering. i started my healing at 39 and am very happy at 58. kudos young man great job
@Garou 🅥 everything we are today is based on all of our lifes experiences thus far but so much of your life has yet to happen. I encourage you to tell your parents. Do not carry this burden alone. Take charge of this. Own it. It happened. You cant change that but you can choose to not let it too continue to cause you such emotional distress.
You are right. I do not fully understand. It's REALLY hard for me to understand how a one-time abuse can have such a great impact in someone's life. I have not been sexually abused but a cousin of mine has. It was important to me to watch this. It sensitized me to this issue and helped me think about his situation and perhaps understand him a bit more. I hope I can learn more about abuse so that, as I interact with any children in the future, I can help them feel comfortable sharing any abuse experiences.
Most importantly Grown Men having a intrest in a child of God. Is repulsive and unforgivable crime to humanity. Premeditated pedophiles are going to be castrated and Exposed to save All children. I agree , No child of God should be sexually assaulted, harrassed, abused And violated for any reason.
I was 5 years old. My father has passed from an overdose and my Mother had to hire a nanny to take care of me while she worked 80 hours a week. Her husband tricked me into believing that IT was a rite of passage. I recall walking back home in tears followed by crimson footprints. I am 27 now. Still destroyed. Have huge trust issues. But i have been working on myself and loving life despite its unfairness. Thank you all for sharing your stories.
I'm sorry. May the road ahead be smoother and kinder to you. I hope you get the solid type of help and support talked about in this clip. Wishing you the best.
I’m a survivor, too. I was 5 when it began, 7 when he (our neighbor) moved away. For the next 51 years I never told anyone. In 2013, after talking with my wife, I sought counseling. It was one of the best things I could have done. Yes, the nightmares still come, the shame, sadness, feeling of loneliness and the loss of my innocence still show up from time to time…but it never truly ever goes away. We live with this every day of our lives. Bravo to this young man. I understand, brother.
@@dennismclaurin1487 I understand, Dennis. I truly don’t know what love is, either. Not genuine love…my wife and children love me and had I not been sexually assaulted by that neighbor, I could love them back as I should.
Super brave of you telling your story. At 39 years old, I'm still struggling. Over the years, I've blocked out the memories of my abuse. However as I get older, some of the memories are coming back. I still have night terrors, and suffer extreme anxiety and depression from my childhood abuse. I thank God my wife has been supportive and helping me overcome. I wasn't allowed to speak out, I was labeled as the problematic stepson, the black sheep. I was not allowed to express any other feelings. I was expected to be happy and smiling all of the time. This has also caused me to have anger issues, depression and anxiety.
@Kris: I also have night terrors which I believe originates with the physical, emotional and psychological abuse I experienced from the time I was a little boy, until I was approximately 16. It's a terrible affliction, and deeply impacts my spouse. Just wanted you to know you weren't alone in dealing with those.
My very first memories, as a small child, of my abuser were of abuse and being abused. It lasted til I was 11 when he was killed in a car accident. I was so damaged abd broken, that I missed him and the abuse. It was such a "normal" part of my life. Im 38 and it is still difficult at times.
I did the same for years. I blamed myself because I enjoyed some of it and liked the attention. All these years later and I am so damaged and broken. It took me a long time to understand what he did was wrong. What seemed normal and innocent at the time now makes me sick to even type these words! Hope you are doing well. ✌❤
@@BOLLOCKS1968 I am so sorry. I am with you, knowing the feeling. Faith and prayers are the keys. I am focusing on my self esteem and be happy or trying. Past is the past, I can not change it but I can change my attitude and loving people. I deserve to be happy and shine again.
Even now in my mid 50's, is it wrong to say that even at 5 or 6 years old, I somehow "enjoyed" the abuse and the experience. In fact, I think I looked forward to it at that young age. I thrived on that attention and felt very special that I can honestly admit that I missed it.
Michael is obviously still very troubled by his abuse. I pray that he continues to grow in his understanding that he is a victim and not to blame. I would hope is still in counseling, two years is simply not enough to resolve the lifelong issues this event presents in his life. This video is a great step in the direction of recovery. Helping others who may be hurting and not knowing where to turn can be very impactful in a positive way. Thank you Michael for being strong, remaining strong. Brother Thom
I am a Registered Social Worker who works with people who have been sexually assaulted and abused; this man and all the other adults and children that I have worked with have shown so much strength with their healing!
Because of people like you guys I have learned lots to help protect my son and little sister. Thank you. I wish I didn’t have to say that but thank you for sharing.
Thank you for being vulnerable and share your story. Not only women, but men also get often abused. Somehow they don't feel comfortable to speak about that, but we need to spread awareness. I write that as a woman. Abuse has to stop, regardless of gender!!!
I was 10 years old when molested by a neighbor who was a high school football player. Decades later I was able to share it with a few very select friends, and I was 56 when I finally told my dad about it. All I can say is that my trust in virtually anyone was shatterd and it scarred me for most of my life. And though there is no doubt I was a victim, I finally see myself not as a victim but as a conqueror. I would never wish the experience on anyone, but I can honestly say that God has used it for good in my life and made me much more sensitive to the needs and hurts of others. Thank you for sharing your journey. May you continue to heal, learn, grow, and make a difference in the lives of those around you.
It happened to me when I was 3 and it destroyed my life, and worse, I’ve had people tell me to my face that I’m lying because “you must’ve liked it” (even though I was 3 years old) and tell me that “boys don’t get abused” I got alot of support but the fact that men aren’t taken seriously or are made fun of, it made me quiet about it for 18 years
Not sure who or why someone would say that, especially if it wasn't your abuser trying to cover their crime. You are probably a lovely person, i hope you don't let that ignorance bring you down 🙏
I was 5 when my older cousin that was baby sitting us thought to target me. But my brother of 7 stopped him and told adults. Apparently the cousin had been hurting both of us for some time. Im very grateful for my brother, though our shared trauma made us both angry children so we fought a lot. Now as adults we are very good friends. I'm glad our parents got us help right away and continued to do so all of growing up.
I needed to hear this! I’m a survivor too! Mine was from age 3 to age 12! I only recently started my healing process and it’s beyond hard and frustrating!! Thank you for sharing your story!!! God bless you! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@johndy9571 People like us who seem to handle our abuse "quite OK" should not expect others to react the same way, since we all are different and deal with stuff like this very differently. I have never cried because of how I was abused, but I'm not going to berate or drag someone else down because they needed to let their feelings out in order to cope with their traumatic experiences.
The immense pain and anxiety is still so prevalent in your eyes and disposition. I am so terribly sorry these horrors happened to you and know you are not alone. You may have suffered terrible abuse but know this does not define you. You are a warrior in how you fought through it. I commend you for it ❤
One of my biggest traumas that i wouldn't share with anyone was when i was 16 I wanted to work in the summertime, and a taxi driver from my dad's friends said that his family owns a clothes store and that he can let me work there, my parents didn't want to get a job but i insisted so much. When we were on the way there he got a call and they told him that there's no place for an employee (i think it was all made up) On our way back he told me that he teach teens to drive and can get them a license, he asked me if i wanted to try and the innocent me said yes why not. He told me that it wouldn't take long so your parents won't realize you being a little late, so don't tell them about the driving thing. We went to a place with low population and there was small highways. He talked a little bit about driving and stuf and then he told me that i should sit in the driver seat, but he should sit there too, like I'll be sitting on his lap. I didn't want at first but he insisted and told me that it's alright you're little (my body is so petite for my age) So i did so, he started moving weordly and stuff and then i felt vey unsafe, but still i didn't know what was going on So i started telling him nonstop that the time is too late i should go home and stuff So he drove me back home, on our way back he talked about his dead wife sexually (she's not dead) and when we arrived back home he told me not to say anything to anyone and that he can continue teaching me if i told my parents that i got the job Anyway, becuase of the uncomfortablilty that day i didn't want to go or either see him anymore I didn't tell anyone anything. Like at the age of 18, i realized what happened with me that day. I was in my first year of uni and i was going abroad and having to use taxis, i got into depression because i was getting too scared to get in a taxi and i dropped out after two months of uni I'm 20 now, but hey, it could have ended in a worse scenario, I'm glad I'm ok. The trauma from taxi drivers is still here but my dad bought a car and he's teaching me how to drive, so this is good
I was 8 years old and it happened to me when I was in an orphanage run by priests. In a place where I thought that I was the most safe. What's more grueling is that the culprits were the other students who were also kids like maybe 14-16aged. They made it look like it was my fault and took advantage of me through blackmail and manipulations. It took a long time for me to realize that it wasn't my fault. I'm still struggling, still healing. It was eating away at me, and I couldn't find the courage to tell somebody about this to this day. I went into depression, started cutting, lost interest in studies. A family friend noticed the change in me and took me to a therapist. I'm doing much better now, I don't get that much panic attacks as I've used to. I'm not hurting myself anymore, but sometimes something triggers all those memories and everything comes back to me. But I know now that this too shall pass😊
You cannot take back the past. Believe I.n Yourself and do not look back too intensely maybe. Live for today and the future promises, opportunities to come. Maybe that is better.
I don't know how to express how sorry I am. Sincerely sorry 😞 Has therapy helped you? For me, conventional therapy didn't really work. EMDR is much better imo. I only had a few sessions before covid closed the clinic i went to but i highly recommend it. Do you have good family today? I really hope you overcome those rats from the past.
Michael is the definition of a real Man. I’m sorry you were hurt deeply, and for all the suffering you have endured. It sounds like you have learned how to cope with this trauma and become a thoughtful, caring man. I can see and hear the deep trauma in this video. Definitely a lot of learning tools for myself and others on there path of healing. God Bless you Michael and I will remember you in prayer, with others who suffer.
It happened to me age 11 to 16. I’ve never told anyone, and I’ve never gotten any support or counseling. I’m 55 now, and it ruined my life. It still does.
I was 14 and I finally started living again at 20. I'm even in a loving relationship that may one day move into marriage, and I've never been happier. It was difficult learning how to actually authentically engage with people rather than holding them at arms length or avoiding people in general. I have goals, dreams, and strong friendships now after years and years of dissociation, emotional outbursts, panic attacks, suicidal ideation, and hurting myself and others emotionally.
Very Glad to hear that and always makes me happy to hear that brother I’m hoping you achieve everything in life you ever wanted I’m a 22yrd old with a story to I was around 11-12 age I’m also looking for a relationship looking for (female) now that after all these years I’m starting to want a relationship partner connection and not feel as lonely
It feels so disturbingly comforting hearing other peoples accounts. It really makes you feel less alone y'know. I recently decided to speak out on my experiences and it really lifted so much weight off. Thanks for sharing.
This is so important to make the public aware of. We hear about girls who have been harmed this way, but the boys and young men are often silent, and they need our most sustained support possible.
It'snot the silence of our enemies that hurt . It's the silence of people who are supposed to protect us that hurts the most. Expose them all. Stop letting premeditated pedophiles make victims of children of God. Thank all of you brave Men, Your strength is the future protection of All children.
It feels wrong to "Like" this video, but good on you for speaking up, Michael. Awareness helps make a difference for future children who could have been at risk had their parents been completely clueless.
Oh young man I am so sorry for the pain go through, my prayers for you complete recovery and for your totally healing,God bless you, send love and light .
I am so very sorry that you had to go thru this. Thank you for speaking up and sharing your story. You are extremely brave for sharing your story for others to hear. I hope that someone watching this video who needs to speak out gets the courage to speak out.
Michael thanks for sharing and being so brave. Im a survivor myself. From 12 to 17 years old i was sexually abused by a teacher and a brother. Got some help in my late 20's and more in my 30's, never have been in a relationship until my late 50's. Now I'm 61 and still deal with issues from way back then. Wish I had the support that you got. Proud of you.
God bless you James! Your strength lies in you loving yourself and knowing that you may have been violated but this violation will not be the destruction of your destination!
Thank you for having the courage to share your story and to raise awareness of this issue. So glad you were able to have the strength to seek and find help. God bless you and know that by taking the time to make this video you are changing so many peoples lives!
I admire your courage. I've never spoken to many people about what happened to me let alone speak about it before everyone like this. You're a brave man and I admire you. I could see the hurt in your heart and I feel that pain too. Every day I wish God would just take me home so I wouldn't hurt anymore. God bless you
I'm praying for you and all the people who gone through abuse. That God will give you healing and restoration through excellent support and counselling too. And one day you will be able to help others, just as this video is.
For reasons that aren't fair, I'd have had issues dealing with this as well. Good for you for being open with your story! It's hard enough growing up in this world, so the least we can do is watch out for each other. ❤️
@@romaneros4583 Same. I do trust most people, but it's easy to turn myself off to certain people if I feel uncomfortable. I don't think that will ever go away.
@@hagsvilledtx our parents were supposed to be our safety zone. When they betrayed us they created emotional scars that we will carry to our grave. I see those scars in my life all the time. How about you?
@@romaneros4583 Well, I became a raging alcoholic until three years ago and now waiting for a liver transplant. That was my own fault, but I'm sure those other things didn't help any. 😐
@@hagsvilledtx it's a cliche but maybe you were drinking to numb the pain and silence the memories. Have you ever loved some one? I have had people tell me they love me but there is a part of me that does not believe them. That part believes iam not worthy of another person's love.
I was about 12 years old just coming into puberty when the women that had been looking after me as my mother had died at child birth I am almost 80 now and I still remember it today as if it happen yesterday so I have never got over it, thank God about thirty years ago that helped me get over this part my life. I feel for you I pray every for people like you and others.
Really courageous sharing your story here. That justified anger & rage at having your childhood destroyed needs to be screamed out loud, screamed till it’s all out of the body. I screamed into pillows, in the car, in the wilderness, underwater.. The internalized self hatred is the worst harm. Still learning to love myself. To believe that others could and do love me.
Extremely brave of you to talk about this. Your openness and honest is beautiful and will help so many others (as well as yourself). Wishing you all the health, happiness, and healing and congratulations on having your own family - sure that your experiences will help you being an amazing dad 😊❤️🙏
Congratulations and thank you. You told a difficult story well. The more often a secret is told, the less power it has. It took 10 years before I told my story.
Your courage and strength, powering through such a painful story, are so helpful for me. You've accomplished as a young man what I have yet to do as a 53 year old. Wishing you peace
😭😭😭 Omc my heart goes out to you. I wish I could hug you and take your pain away. I’m so sorry you went through this. It makes me so angry you were hurt in such a horrific way. Thank you for speaking up. Men, are allowed to have emotions and speak about the things they go through. It’s so wrong what you went through. Now, You will be such a good leader, you are paving the way for young men and boys to speak up about this. I can’t imagine how scary it must be to pave the way. Please, if you are comfortable making a video on what you think is needed to support young boys who go through this. Elaborating on those points? I’ve gone through it myself too much, but it’s different … I’m not a man. My nephew, he’s gone through it recently. He’s out in counseling, but I see the anger you speak of in him, his hurt, and he’s changing. I’m trying to help him, and I’m scared I’m unable to help him heal. His dad isn’t involved enough, and me and my sister are trying to push his dad to spend more time with his son and encourage him to open up, and know he’s supported. He’s got his own trauma he’s not handling so well, so it all falls in my sister’s shoulder. I’m terrified about this with my own son. I don’t want to be a helicopter parent on my son, but it happened to me abs I wasn’t even 5. How to do we teach our children so young, how do we prevent without taking away their freedom? 😞
Thank you so much for your bravery in telling your story. I’m the mother of four sons around your age. It’s heartbreaking to hear this but so necessary for us parents to be aware. Thank you again and I pray that God’s Love will fill your life.
I was younger than 9, that's 55 years of my suffering and I'm still in my cocoon. I'm afraid of going out, and I have to be home before night fall. Should I not make it home, I look for a place to hide. Just make sure no one sees me coming out of my hiding place incase I need my spot. I don't talk to anyone. I'm just afraid of being alive.
Thank you for sharing your testimony. Just sharing can be like reliving it all over again. Just know that people have watched your testimony and we may never meet, we feel your expressed pain. We wished it could be easily removed. Facing one's demons is the hardest fight one will encounter. Let your children and family fill you life with love, joy and happiness to where the pain can no longer occupy your mind.
I was 7 years old, the summer between 2nd and 3rd grade. I blocked it out for many years till a young cousin was almost abused. I was 24 when I started to remember. Talk about a difficult time. It took 10 years for me to remember everything (I think). I did get therapy for over a year. I don’t think that I would be here if I hadn’t had the therapy. It was never our fault, we were the victims. Stay strong everyone.
This took place in 1969, I believe, when mother was in the hospital after giving birth to another son,on her birthday. The aunt and her son and daughter apparently spent a couple or so days over. The 2nd incident happened years later, around 1975 about 6 years later in our apartment in the projects. Mother was in another room when he jumped on top of me on the bed.I remember her asking him what was he doing. I don't know what he said. Then I heard Mother say, " That's not what it looked like what you were doing " I was like a silent, innocent lamb, thinking nothing of it.
Ill never understand why people hurt children. This is so heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing,this helps others come forward and understand that its not the fault of the children and help is out there.
You are an amazing and brave young man Michael to tell your story in such a public forum. My abuse lasted from 8-17 and 40 years later I am still struggling but getting better. Your story is so positive particularly for young men as unlike in my time, as you said, you will be believed and there is help available.
Much Respect to you!!! Millions of unheard voices stand with you. I was in the third grade when it happened to me. I beat myself up thinking, 1.) I wanted it to happen 2.) It was my fault. Both of these are untrue.
Well done for seeking support and knowledge to handle this situation and moving on with your life. You have the strength many don't find during a whole lifetime. What happened to you was a crime. Nobody should be ashamed of being a victim of any kind of crime.
U know, coming out is the bravest thing any juvenile can do.Yet that's still not as brave as telling about having been sexually molested or abused nonetheless. Having the guts to tell that to someone and even share that publicly to the world is rather heroic. 👏
Michael, thank you for your courage in making this video. I related to much of what you said, particularly how it has affected personal relationships. Trusting is still sometimes difficult. My journey began seven years ago, and I am still working on myself. I began a journey, but for a few years it became an odyssey, but now back to a journey. Again, thank you for your bravery in sharing your story. All the best for your future, Anthony
You are very strong I’m so sorry this happened to u I was abused as a lil girl Iv had therapy all my life and now at 68 I’m finally in touch with my inner child 🧒
I want to reach through the phone and give you a big hug. Thank you for sharing your story, it will help others 💓 I'm saving it for to show my son when he feels ready to start his healing journey. It is so difficult for boys to open up, you are a true inspiration.
You're a strong young man. I wished this had never happened to you. This is no childs fault, when this kind of sadness happens to them. Stay strong my friend. Love, prayers 🙏 going your way sir. Now you have a family of your own to love and protect. I just know you can do it 😊. ♥️🙏
Michael, I can’t imagine what you went through. For you to get through this all alone shows what a very strong and brave young man you are. Your life could have been very different without how strong you are. I can see the hurt and pain in your eyes. Hearing that you have a family I pray that you found love. I hope that you are able to feel love an enjoy that wonderful feeling. I have no doubt you are a wonderful husband and great father. Michael I am so sorry and I truly wish you only the best life you can have and are able to the best of your ability to put this behind you. I know you will never be able to forget it but hope it goes to furtherest back part of your brain and live your best life hence forth. Thank you for sharing your story. You are a very attractive young man no matter what you thought of your younger self. I am sure your wife will attest to this. Bless you Michael.
Far more common than any of us want to believe. Thank you to those courageous enough to tell their own story, like this young man; and to those willing and able to listen, like the police officer and the counsellor that Michael spoke of with gratitude.
I'd just like to point out that when ppl speak on this that they only mention women, girls, and boys (sometimes), and on occasion men, but the reality is that it happens to women, girls, boys, men, anyone. And both Men and Women do those terrible things too. Ppl have it in their mind that if it did happen to a grown man that another grown man did it when women can do that to men too. My heart goes out to ANYONE going thru this. ❤️💯
I was 8-12, My predator/real demon a football trainer still works as an ambulance driver with a son at the police, he went with me to so many places, I have so much anger pushed inside me, because I want to be free, but with that complexity, it's always training for me to not get in panic or depression. I got out on my own with many excuses, I role played a healthy teenager, I hear so many complex stories, Changing the future with knowledge from the past, to slow or to fast. Fixing something like that alone is a heavy task, So I put on a crazy mask.
Your advice to parents is excellent. Youth need to know that their parents are supportive and provide safe places to speak and share. Thank you for sharing your story with such courage and wisdom.
I think a big part of healing for the victim is knowing that what happened is not their fault. Otherwise a lot of shame can be carried around for a long time.
i was 12-13 and it destroyed my life for a long time. my silence prolonged my suffering. i started my healing at 39 and am very happy at 58. kudos young man great job
I'm really sorry, I'm so happy you are okay now, please remember you are loved and we believe in you♡
Curious how that abuse affected your personal relationships afterwards. Glad you found happiness.
@Garou 🅥 everything we are today is based on all of our lifes experiences thus far but so much of your life has yet to happen. I encourage you to tell your parents. Do not carry this burden alone. Take charge of this. Own it. It happened. You cant change that but you can choose to not let it too continue to cause you such emotional distress.
Wow same as me, only I have 6 years to go before I’m 39. I have no life. So much I never caught Covid. What does happiness look like?
@@ethantownsend458 happiness is different to everyone and no one was ever guaranteed it. It is up to the individual to find it.
Unless you have been through this, no one understands how it emotionally changes you forever.
Agree 100% lifelong healing.
I was sexually abused too, but I don't think much about it, men who cry like this just want attention and sympathy.
@@johndy9571 The one who want attention and sympathy is you
You are right. I do not fully understand. It's REALLY hard for me to understand how a one-time abuse can have such a great impact in someone's life. I have not been sexually abused but a cousin of mine has. It was important to me to watch this. It sensitized me to this issue and helped me think about his situation and perhaps understand him a bit more. I hope I can learn more about abuse so that, as I interact with any children in the future, I can help them feel comfortable sharing any abuse experiences.
And the amount of people defending pedophiles disgusts me
Gay or Straight, young or older Everyone should be treated with respect and care.
Most importantly Grown Men having a intrest in a child of God. Is repulsive and unforgivable crime to humanity. Premeditated pedophiles are going to be castrated and Exposed to save All children. I agree , No child of God should be sexually assaulted, harrassed, abused And violated for any reason.
I agree totaly !!!
i struggle with my sexuality, is there anyone like me. that is "straight" but acts out some times??
❤tx
@@Kimi9507rw Yes, many.
I was 5 years old. My father has passed from an overdose and my Mother had to hire a nanny to take care of me while she worked 80 hours a week. Her husband tricked me into believing that IT was a rite of passage. I recall walking back home in tears followed by crimson footprints.
I am 27 now. Still destroyed. Have huge trust issues. But i have been working on myself and loving life despite its unfairness.
Thank you all for sharing your stories.
Stay strong 😊
I'm so sorry❤️ stay strong :(
I feel your pain
There is a lot missing in that perpetrator. One very deranged person would harm a child such as.
I'm sorry. May the road ahead be smoother and kinder to you. I hope you get the solid type of help and support talked about in this clip. Wishing you the best.
I’m a survivor, too. I was 5 when it began, 7 when he (our neighbor) moved away. For the next 51 years I never told anyone. In 2013, after talking with my wife, I sought counseling. It was one of the best things I could have done.
Yes, the nightmares still come, the shame, sadness, feeling of loneliness and the loss of my innocence still show up from time to time…but it never truly ever goes away. We live with this every day of our lives.
Bravo to this young man.
I understand, brother.
You're fortunate.
I haven't been able to experience true, normal love, due to that past
There's no love in my life period.
@@dennismclaurin1487 I understand, Dennis. I truly don’t know what love is, either. Not genuine love…my wife and children love me and had I not been sexually assaulted by that neighbor, I could love them back as I should.
Super brave of you telling your story. At 39 years old, I'm still struggling. Over the years, I've blocked out the memories of my abuse. However as I get older, some of the memories are coming back. I still have night terrors, and suffer extreme anxiety and depression from my childhood abuse. I thank God my wife has been supportive and helping me overcome. I wasn't allowed to speak out, I was labeled as the problematic stepson, the black sheep. I was not allowed to express any other feelings. I was expected to be happy and smiling all of the time. This has also caused me to have anger issues, depression and anxiety.
We are so sorry you've gone through that, and we hope you are able to receive the help that you need. You're not alone, thanks for sharing.
I did the same thing through junior high and high school my mind blocked it out and the only came back recently through a trigger.
@Kris: I also have night terrors which I believe originates with the physical, emotional and psychological abuse I experienced from the time I was a little boy, until I was approximately 16. It's a terrible affliction, and deeply impacts my spouse. Just wanted you to know you weren't alone in dealing with those.
I was sexually abused too, but I don't think much about it, men who cry like this just want attention and sympathy.
Get help!
My very first memories, as a small child, of my abuser were of abuse and being abused. It lasted til I was 11 when he was killed in a car accident. I was so damaged abd broken, that I missed him and the abuse. It was such a "normal" part of my life. Im 38 and it is still difficult at times.
Am I reading this for casualty?
Or a coincidence.
My story.
I did the same for years. I blamed myself because I enjoyed some of it and liked the attention. All these years later and I am so damaged and broken. It took me a long time to understand what he did was wrong. What seemed normal and innocent at the time now makes me sick to even type these words! Hope you are doing well. ✌❤
@@BOLLOCKS1968
I am so sorry.
I am with you, knowing the feeling.
Faith and prayers are the keys.
I am focusing on my self esteem and be happy or trying.
Past is the past, I can not change it but I can change my attitude and loving people.
I deserve to be happy and shine again.
I am sorry
Even now in my mid 50's, is it wrong to say that even at 5 or 6 years old, I somehow "enjoyed" the abuse and the experience.
In fact, I think I looked forward to it at that young age. I thrived on that attention and felt very special that I can honestly admit that I missed it.
Michael is obviously still very troubled by his abuse. I pray that he continues to grow in his understanding that he is a victim and not to blame. I would hope is still in counseling, two years is simply not enough to resolve the lifelong issues this event presents in his life. This video is a great step in the direction of recovery. Helping others who may be hurting and not knowing where to turn can be very impactful in a positive way. Thank you Michael for being strong, remaining strong. Brother Thom
I am a Registered Social Worker who works with people who have been sexually assaulted and abused; this man and all the other adults and children that I have worked with have shown so much strength with their healing!
I needed to hear this. Fellow survivor here! I love you Michael! Hang in there!
God bless him. I appreciate him sharing his story I hate he went threw that thou. My heart goes out to him.
Because of people like you guys I have learned lots to help protect my son and little sister. Thank you. I wish I didn’t have to say that but thank you for sharing.
Thank you for being vulnerable and share your story. Not only women, but men also get often abused. Somehow they don't feel comfortable to speak about that, but we need to spread awareness. I write that as a woman. Abuse has to stop, regardless of gender!!!
I was 10 years old when molested by a neighbor who was a high school football player. Decades later I was able to share it with a few very select friends, and I was 56 when I finally told my dad about it. All I can say is that my trust in virtually anyone was shatterd and it scarred me for most of my life. And though there is no doubt I was a victim, I finally see myself not as a victim but as a conqueror. I would never wish the experience on anyone, but I can honestly say that God has used it for good in my life and made me much more sensitive to the needs and hurts of others. Thank you for sharing your journey. May you continue to heal, learn, grow, and make a difference in the lives of those around you.
It happened to me when I was 3 and it destroyed my life, and worse, I’ve had people tell me to my face that I’m lying because “you must’ve liked it” (even though I was 3 years old) and tell me that “boys don’t get abused”
I got alot of support but the fact that men aren’t taken seriously or are made fun of, it made me quiet about it for 18 years
Not sure who or why someone would say that, especially if it wasn't your abuser trying to cover their crime.
You are probably a lovely person, i hope you don't let that ignorance bring you down 🙏
that's totally horrible that someone said that, of course little boys get abused!
That’s horrible, I’m so sorry 😢 I pray you’re on a healing/recovery journey and exceedingly do well in life now🤍
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😢. 💔
I was 5 when my older cousin that was baby sitting us thought to target me. But my brother of 7 stopped him and told adults. Apparently the cousin had been hurting both of us for some time. Im very grateful for my brother, though our shared trauma made us both angry children so we fought a lot. Now as adults we are very good friends. I'm glad our parents got us help right away and continued to do so all of growing up.
I needed to hear this! I’m a survivor too! Mine was from age 3 to age 12! I only recently started my healing process and it’s beyond hard and frustrating!! Thank you for sharing your story!!! God bless you! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
It can. Strength.
I was sexually abused too, but I don't think much about it, men who cry like this just want attention and sympathy.
@@johndy9571 People like us who seem to handle our abuse "quite OK" should not expect others to react the same way, since we all are different and deal with stuff like this very differently. I have never cried because of how I was abused, but I'm not going to berate or drag someone else down because they needed to let their feelings out in order to cope with their traumatic experiences.
@@johndy9571 You mean women. When men do it, it's usually legit.
@@AZ-gm2md so when female abuse victims cry it’s for attention? Wow
The immense pain and anxiety is still so prevalent in your eyes and disposition. I am so terribly sorry these horrors happened to you and know you are not alone. You may have suffered terrible abuse but know this does not define you. You are a warrior in how you fought through it. I commend you for it ❤
Well said music!!!
@@jakereal3604 ❤
👍🏼👍🏼 ❤️ Back at ya
Thank everyone for coming forward. The more that come out and tell their story the more the public knows.
One of my biggest traumas that i wouldn't share with anyone was when i was 16
I wanted to work in the summertime, and a taxi driver from my dad's friends said that his family owns a clothes store and that he can let me work there, my parents didn't want to get a job but i insisted so much. When we were on the way there he got a call and they told him that there's no place for an employee (i think it was all made up)
On our way back he told me that he teach teens to drive and can get them a license, he asked me if i wanted to try and the innocent me said yes why not. He told me that it wouldn't take long so your parents won't realize you being a little late, so don't tell them about the driving thing.
We went to a place with low population and there was small highways.
He talked a little bit about driving and stuf and then he told me that i should sit in the driver seat, but he should sit there too, like I'll be sitting on his lap.
I didn't want at first but he insisted and told me that it's alright you're little (my body is so petite for my age)
So i did so, he started moving weordly and stuff and then i felt vey unsafe, but still i didn't know what was going on
So i started telling him nonstop that the time is too late i should go home and stuff
So he drove me back home, on our way back he talked about his dead wife sexually (she's not dead) and when we arrived back home he told me not to say anything to anyone and that he can continue teaching me if i told my parents that i got the job
Anyway, becuase of the uncomfortablilty that day i didn't want to go or either see him anymore
I didn't tell anyone anything. Like at the age of 18, i realized what happened with me that day. I was in my first year of uni and i was going abroad and having to use taxis, i got into depression because i was getting too scared to get in a taxi and i dropped out after two months of uni
I'm 20 now, but hey, it could have ended in a worse scenario, I'm glad I'm ok. The trauma from taxi drivers is still here but my dad bought a car and he's teaching me how to drive, so this is good
I am a woman but I am so sorry for the pain that so many of you have endured. I hope you all find peace and healing.
Thank you.
Mine happened at the age of 11 also. You are not alone. My prayers are with you.
Lots of respect to you sir, i am happy my son gets to grow up and have role models like you. Thank you!
I was 8 years old and it happened to me when I was in an orphanage run by priests. In a place where I thought that I was the most safe. What's more grueling is that the culprits were the other students who were also kids like maybe 14-16aged.
They made it look like it was my fault and took advantage of me through blackmail and manipulations.
It took a long time for me to realize that it wasn't my fault. I'm still struggling, still healing. It was eating away at me, and I couldn't find the courage to tell somebody about this to this day.
I went into depression, started cutting, lost interest in studies.
A family friend noticed the change in me and took me to a therapist. I'm doing much better now, I don't get that much panic attacks as I've used to. I'm not hurting myself anymore, but sometimes something triggers all those memories and everything comes back to me.
But I know now that this too shall pass😊
You cannot take back the past. Believe I.n Yourself and do not look back too intensely maybe. Live for today and the future promises, opportunities to come. Maybe that is better.
I don't know how to express how sorry I am. Sincerely sorry 😞 Has therapy helped you?
For me, conventional therapy didn't really work. EMDR is much better imo. I only had a few sessions before covid closed the clinic i went to but i highly recommend it.
Do you have good family today? I really hope you overcome those rats from the past.
Happened to me at 9, didn't realize how it set a terrible idea of relationships for a long time. Finally started healing at 33, and now I feel great
Michael is the definition of a real Man. I’m sorry you were hurt deeply, and for all the suffering you have endured. It sounds like you have learned how to cope with this trauma and become a thoughtful, caring man. I can see and hear the deep trauma in this video. Definitely a lot of learning tools for myself and others on there path of healing. God Bless you Michael and I will remember you in prayer, with others who suffer.
I'm so incredibly sorry you went through this and I wish you well as you continue to heal.
God bless.
You are one of the bravest people I have ever encountered. I wish this had never happened to you.
no one deserves this.. my heart goes to you ♥
It happened to me age 11 to 16. I’ve never told anyone, and I’ve never gotten any support or counseling. I’m 55 now, and it ruined my life. It still does.
I was 14 and I finally started living again at 20. I'm even in a loving relationship that may one day move into marriage, and I've never been happier. It was difficult learning how to actually authentically engage with people rather than holding them at arms length or avoiding people in general. I have goals, dreams, and strong friendships now after years and years of dissociation, emotional outbursts, panic attacks, suicidal ideation, and hurting myself and others emotionally.
Very Glad to hear that and always makes me happy to hear that brother I’m hoping you achieve everything in life you ever wanted I’m a 22yrd old with a story to I was around 11-12 age I’m also looking for a relationship looking for (female) now that after all these years I’m starting to want a relationship partner connection and not feel as lonely
I was 3 years old. It took me till 28 to fully remember. Finally at 65 I saw a therapist and ended my rage. He did not win.
How strong Michael is.He never gave up...what a fighter.Didnt let what happened identify him.❤
It feels so disturbingly comforting hearing other peoples accounts. It really makes you feel less alone y'know. I recently decided to speak out on my experiences and it really lifted so much weight off. Thanks for sharing.
So sad..Ill pray that you heal and recover well..🙏🙏🙏
This is so important to make the public aware of. We hear about girls who have been harmed this way, but the boys and young men are often silent, and they need our most sustained support possible.
It'snot the silence of our enemies that hurt . It's the silence of people who are supposed to protect us that hurts the most. Expose them all. Stop letting premeditated pedophiles make victims of children of God. Thank all of you brave Men, Your strength is the future protection of All children.
It feels wrong to "Like" this video, but good on you for speaking up, Michael. Awareness helps make a difference for future children who could have been at risk had their parents been completely clueless.
Don't be ashamed! Liking the video shows support. It drives engagement to the algorithm to make it more seen.
Oh young man I am so sorry for the pain go through, my prayers for you complete recovery and for your totally healing,God bless you, send love and light .
I am so very sorry that you had to go thru this. Thank you for speaking up and sharing your story. You are extremely brave for sharing your story for others to hear. I hope that someone watching this video who needs to speak out gets the courage to speak out.
You are very strong Michael, I hope you be well, you are not alone, I love you 💖,thank you for you being brave, God bless you 💖🙏
My brother Im so sorry. It takes a hell of a man to share thank you sir. Again Im really sorry.
Michael thanks for sharing and being so brave. Im a survivor myself. From 12 to 17 years old i was sexually abused by a teacher and a brother. Got some help in my late 20's and more in my 30's, never have been in a relationship until my late 50's. Now I'm 61 and still deal with issues from way back then. Wish I had the support that you got. Proud of you.
God bless you James! Your strength lies in you loving yourself and knowing that you may have been violated but this violation will not be the destruction of your destination!
Thank you for having the courage to share your story and to raise awareness of this issue. So glad you were able to have the strength to seek and find help. God bless you and know that by taking the time to make this video you are changing so many peoples lives!
I admire your courage. I've never spoken to many people about what happened to me let alone speak about it before everyone like this. You're a brave man and I admire you. I could see the hurt in your heart and I feel that pain too. Every day I wish God would just take me home so I wouldn't hurt anymore. God bless you
I'm praying for you and all the people who gone through abuse. That God will give you healing and restoration through excellent support and counselling too. And one day you will be able to help others, just as this video is.
Thank you for being vulnerable and brave to share all u went through. Helping others to feel they are not alone and others have suffered as you have.
For reasons that aren't fair, I'd have had issues dealing with this as well. Good for you for being open with your story! It's hard enough growing up in this world, so the least we can do is watch out for each other. ❤️
I was physically abused but not sexually abused by my father. Its had a life long affect of not trusting people.
@@romaneros4583 Same. I do trust most people, but it's easy to turn myself off to certain people if I feel uncomfortable. I don't think that will ever go away.
@@hagsvilledtx our parents were supposed to be our safety zone. When they betrayed us they created emotional scars that we will carry to our grave. I see those scars in my life all the time. How about you?
@@romaneros4583 Well, I became a raging alcoholic until three years ago and now waiting for a liver transplant. That was my own fault, but I'm sure those other things didn't help any. 😐
@@hagsvilledtx it's a cliche but maybe you were drinking to numb the pain and silence the memories. Have you ever loved some one? I have had people tell me they love me but there is a part of me that does not believe them. That part believes iam not worthy of another person's love.
Thanks for your story, you are believed, you are loved, you are beautiful ❤
I was about 12 years old just coming into puberty when the women that had been looking after me as my mother had died at child birth I am almost 80 now and I still remember it today as if it happen yesterday so I have never got over it, thank God about thirty years ago that helped me get over this part my life. I feel for you I pray every for people like you and others.
Really courageous sharing your story here. That justified anger & rage at having your childhood destroyed needs to be screamed out loud, screamed till it’s all out of the body. I screamed into pillows, in the car, in the wilderness, underwater..
The internalized self hatred is the worst harm. Still learning to love myself. To believe that others could and do love me.
Extremely brave of you to talk about this. Your openness and honest is beautiful and will help so many others (as well as yourself). Wishing you all the health, happiness, and healing and congratulations on having your own family - sure that your experiences will help you being an amazing dad 😊❤️🙏
Congratulations and thank you. You told a difficult story well. The more often a secret is told, the less power it has. It took 10 years before I told my story.
This is the story of so many, thank you for your contribution and bravery, young man.
Your courage and strength, powering through such a painful story, are so helpful for me. You've accomplished as a young man what I have yet to do as a 53 year old. Wishing you peace
Wishing you healing.
This was so powerful. I have so much respect for this man speaking up. More men need to do so.❤
Thank you for sharing your story! Your freaking brave man! I admire you tremendously!
Feels weird "liking" the video. Thanks for your bravery, Michael!
Very articulate, very brave. I wish you all the very best for the future - you absolutely deserve it.
Michael, I understood how you feel.. I was a victim too, but in different story. Be strong and I always with you!
I'm sorry for him, I hope he knows his story is being heard and that we believe in him
😭😭😭 Omc my heart goes out to you. I wish I could hug you and take your pain away. I’m so sorry you went through this. It makes me so angry you were hurt in such a horrific way. Thank you for speaking up. Men, are allowed to have emotions and speak about the things they go through. It’s so wrong what you went through. Now, You will be such a good leader, you are paving the way for young men and boys to speak up about this. I can’t imagine how scary it must be to pave the way. Please, if you are comfortable making a video on what you think is needed to support young boys who go through this. Elaborating on those points? I’ve gone through it myself too much, but it’s different … I’m not a man. My nephew, he’s gone through it recently. He’s out in counseling, but I see the anger you speak of in him, his hurt, and he’s changing. I’m trying to help him, and I’m scared I’m unable to help him heal. His dad isn’t involved enough, and me and my sister are trying to push his dad to spend more time with his son and encourage him to open up, and know he’s supported. He’s got his own trauma he’s not handling so well, so it all falls in my sister’s shoulder. I’m terrified about this with my own son. I don’t want to be a helicopter parent on my son, but it happened to me abs I wasn’t even 5. How to do we teach our children so young, how do we prevent without taking away their freedom? 😞
Thank you for your great courage, Michael !
Thank you so much for your bravery in telling your story. I’m the mother of four sons around your age. It’s heartbreaking to hear this but so necessary for us parents to be aware. Thank you again and I pray that God’s Love will fill your life.
I was younger than 9, that's 55 years of my suffering and I'm still in my cocoon. I'm afraid of going out, and I have to be home before night fall. Should I not make it home, I look for a place to hide. Just make sure no one sees me coming out of my hiding place incase I need my spot. I don't talk to anyone. I'm just afraid of being alive.
Thank you for sharing your testimony. Just sharing can be like reliving it all over again. Just know that people have watched your testimony and we may never meet, we feel your expressed pain. We wished it could be easily removed. Facing one's demons is the hardest fight one will encounter. Let your children and family fill you life with love, joy and happiness to where the pain can no longer occupy your mind.
I was 7 years old, the summer between 2nd and 3rd grade. I blocked it out for many years till a young cousin was almost abused. I was 24 when I started to remember. Talk about a difficult time. It took 10 years for me to remember everything (I think). I did get therapy for over a year. I don’t think that I would be here if I hadn’t had the therapy. It was never our fault, we were the victims. Stay strong everyone.
This took place in 1969, I believe, when mother was in the hospital after giving birth to another son,on her birthday.
The aunt and her son and daughter apparently spent a couple or so days over.
The 2nd incident happened years later, around 1975 about 6 years later in our apartment in the projects. Mother was in another room when he jumped on top of me on the bed.I remember her asking him what was he doing. I don't know what he said. Then I heard Mother say, " That's not what it looked like what you were doing "
I was like a silent, innocent lamb, thinking nothing of it.
Ill never understand why people hurt children. This is so heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing,this helps others come forward and understand that its not the fault of the children and help is out there.
Thank you for your courage. What you have shared is saving lives and souls. I wish you continued healing and the very best going forward.
You are an angel with the heart of a lion. thank you for sharing this difficult tale. Much love, belief, and support to you.
You are an amazing and brave young man Michael to tell your story in such a public forum. My abuse lasted from 8-17 and 40 years later I am still struggling but getting better. Your story is so positive particularly for young men as unlike in my time, as you said, you will be believed and there is help available.
@ianfromoz1
was it impossible for you to resist to this egoistic criminalist when you were 15 or 16 years old?
Much Respect to you!!! Millions of unheard voices stand with you. I was in the third grade when it happened to me. I beat myself up thinking, 1.) I wanted it to happen 2.) It was my fault. Both of these are untrue.
God bless this man❤
Well done for seeking support and knowledge to handle this situation and moving on with your life. You have the strength many don't find during a whole lifetime. What happened to you was a crime. Nobody should be ashamed of being a victim of any kind of crime.
U know, coming out is the bravest thing any juvenile can do.Yet that's still not as brave as telling about having been sexually molested or abused nonetheless. Having the guts to tell that to someone and even share that publicly to the world is rather heroic. 👏
I agree
Thanks for speaking out .
Michael, thank you for your courage in making this video. I related to much of what you said, particularly how it has affected personal relationships. Trusting is still sometimes difficult. My journey began seven years ago, and I am still working on myself. I began a journey, but for a few years it became an odyssey, but now back to a journey.
Again, thank you for your bravery in sharing your story.
All the best for your future,
Anthony
Thank you, Michael, for your sharing experience. I admire you for speaking out.
The pain in your eyes is so prevalent. I'm so incredibly so that you and countless others have endured such horrific abuse 😢❤️
You are very strong I’m so sorry this happened to u I was abused as a lil girl Iv had therapy all my life and now at 68 I’m finally in touch with my inner child 🧒
I want to reach through the phone and give you a big hug. Thank you for sharing your story, it will help others 💓 I'm saving it for to show my son when he feels ready to start his healing journey. It is so difficult for boys to open up, you are a true inspiration.
I hope you find peace Micheal. ❤
You're a strong young man. I wished this had never happened to you. This is no childs fault, when this kind of sadness happens to them. Stay strong my friend. Love, prayers 🙏 going your way sir. Now you have a family of your own to love and protect. I just know you can do it 😊. ♥️🙏
Michael, I can’t imagine what you went through. For you to get through this all alone shows what a very strong and brave young man you are. Your life could have been very different without how strong you are. I can see the hurt and pain in your eyes. Hearing that you have a family I pray that you found love. I hope that you are able to feel love an enjoy that wonderful feeling. I have no doubt you are a wonderful husband and great father. Michael I am so sorry and I truly wish you only the best life you can have and are able to the best of your ability to put this behind you. I know you will never be able to forget it but hope it goes to furtherest back part of your brain and live your best life hence forth. Thank you for sharing your story. You are a very attractive young man no matter what you thought of your younger self. I am sure your wife will attest to this. Bless you Michael.
Thank you Michael
Thanks for having the strength to share your story. I've never had the guts to tell anyone.
thanks for your story, your not alone.hope you heal and you are belived
Far more common than any of us want to believe. Thank you to those courageous enough to tell their own story, like this young man; and to those willing and able to listen, like the police officer and the counsellor that Michael spoke of with gratitude.
I'd just like to point out that when ppl speak on this that they only mention women, girls, and boys (sometimes), and on occasion men, but the reality is that it happens to women, girls, boys, men, anyone. And both Men and Women do those terrible things too. Ppl have it in their mind that if it did happen to a grown man that another grown man did it when women can do that to men too. My heart goes out to ANYONE going thru this. ❤️💯
You are absolutely right it can happen to anyone and by anybody.
I was 8-12,
My predator/real demon a football trainer still works as an ambulance driver with a son at the police,
he went with me to so many places,
I have so much anger pushed inside me, because I want to be free, but with that complexity, it's always training for me to not get in panic or depression.
I got out on my own with many excuses,
I role played a healthy teenager,
I hear so many complex stories,
Changing the future with knowledge from the past,
to slow or to fast.
Fixing something like that alone is a heavy task,
So I put on a crazy mask.
Your advice to parents is excellent. Youth need to know that their parents are supportive and provide safe places to speak and share. Thank you for sharing your story with such courage and wisdom.
God Bess you, my son went through the same thing, he’s is gay and. Love him Sooooo much, I hope you heal
Thank you for sharing your story and so sorry you went through this in your life! Wish all the best and so happy you found your family. ❤❤
Thanks for the words. Only the best to you.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Extremely brave of you. More men are out there than we will ever know.
Wishing you all the best in putting all of this behind you. Take good care
How great and brave of u to speak up. It will aid so many others as well 🙏🙂
Society laughs at the pain of men while it cries at the pain of women
Thankyou for sharing your story. I am so sorry this happened to you.
Keep it Up... It's really hard to talk about!!!
Bless you for sharing. ❤ you are a warrior indeed 😊
I think a big part of healing for the victim is knowing that what happened is not their fault. Otherwise a lot of shame can be carried around for a long time.
God bless you,dear man
Thank you for sharing your experience...wishing you healing and happiness with your family. Stay strong.