I just relapsed back on day 0 , wish me luck guys. Update : Day 8 💪🏾 Update: Day 23 💪🏾 Update: Day 2 learning form my mistakes, this go round im coming back even harder 😈, and i appreciate all of you guys a lot for supporting me on this journey.
The way I see it, the goal isn't to not fap, it's to get to a point in life where you don't feel that you need to do it all the time to be happy. Just like responsible adults can have some beer without being an alcoholic, someone can have sex or fap without their life falling apart. The trick and things girls find attractive is the ability to responsibly find that balance. It's unfortunate that nofap has been simplified to numbers and streaks when truly tempered adults shouldn't need to care about that.
@@AD-wg8ik bro it's healthy to bust every now and then. Just don't abuse it to the point where it effects you negatively by hurting your drive and purpose in life.
@@longlivemklonglivemk4027 imo 90 days is kinda like punishing yourself. I feel like if you're a healthy young guy 21-30 days on no nut is enough to get the benefits. The benefits are supposed to boost your energy and drive levels. Also for guys experiencing ed it could improve that too.
@@jarto10 I think you misinterpreted. I said if you reject women entirely and have a distaste towards women i dont think thats masculine. It doesnt mean you have to be in a relationship with one.
I’m a 27-year-old female who has dated a guy for about three years and lived with him who had a massive porn addiction. I know it can be devastating to men who are feeling depressed and low energy and like they aren’t doing anything good with their lives and don’t try to do anything to change it. This video was helpful to me in many ways. Someone has to be super strong mentally to give up porn. Or they may need help and support in the rough times when they feel like relapsing. Most people will keep it so private that they hide it from their partners. I struggled with self worth in that relationship. Mostly because I had a higher sex drive and wanted to have it multiple times a day, at least once a day. I prioritized emotional bonding in my relationship, but he did not. So what I’m getting at is, a lot of women out there feel like they aren’t enough when men watch porn, especially behind their backs, especially when they are in the next room, wanting and craving that emotional and physical connection that they won’t get that day. It is detrimental for long-term relationships. I would say there are a handful of women (who I have been friends with) who decide to cut men off to sex when they make them angry... I say personally to them that with research, men trust you and open up to you more when you are in your feminine energy. Maybe that’s off point and a story for another day. It’s very admirable for a man to be a MAN and learn how to be mentally aware that he can be better FOR HIMSELF. Everyone should focus on what’s best for themselves first. It’s so cliché, but it’s true: an empty cup cannot fill another. Everyone has the responsibility to be their best self. That is the confidence and security you need. A partner will follow, because you will find them in the RIGHT places. Take it easy if you mess up. It’s very attractive to meet someone who wants the same thing you want. Until then, you might meet women who have their own battles and problems within themselves to manipulate men or just be in it for their own benefit at the time until they get bored. This can go for men too. I think this idea is almost surface-level but very important.
You didn't relapse. Relapse is a term for someone trying to recover from addition, in this case porn addiction, and they give in to their addiction. What you did was a completely natural thing and sounds very healthy. As for me, I'm going to see how.long I can retain for. Currently on 3 weeks today, and am set for the rest of the year to hit my 90 days. I personally wouldn't mind going a whole year though.
@@juanthebaptist8126 I started 2 days ago, I have cold shower every morning, meditate in the evening and writing diary before sleeping or earlier in order to self-motivate and write down my tomorrow's goals. Thanks for replying me man, wish you the best of luck as well🙏
Yes, relapse is needed, agree. Otherwise, you will acquire "pre-mature ejaculation" in men especially over 40 age because your dick is too sensitive and not being maintained. Once touched it, it explodes like "supernova".
Thanks mate, I’ve been trying to stop this addiction for a while now and when I see your content, it motivates me to keep going. It reminds me of why I’m really doing this and how important this is for me has a man and a human.
just relapsed after 8 days. even though it was only 8 days i felt better. don’t know how to explain it. i’ve been more productive this past week than the months march - october. trying to go 90 days starting today.
A couple things I want to clear up that might cause confusion: 1. I plan to never watch porn again. Quitting these things has changed my life. 2. I feel like I don't have a lot of information (or rather not enough information) to talk about MGTOW as i did. Ill have to do more research. But I still don't think men should separate themselves from women completely. I at least agree that marriage is not in men's favor.
MGTOW isn't about giving up on women at all and can't be used in the same category as incels. Most men who go their own way have no problem with women, rather they choose to live their own way without being ruined by women. Just because society is changing doesn't mean it's a good thing and that we must just accept it. Just my 10 cents worth...
Cole Hastings, It´s ok Man, there´s a lot of MGTOW stuff that is often off radar, like the "Toxic" elements, the rest of it such as "Intelectuals" like Stardust that give it a respectable name, however are good.
@@tooth2163 It could also be a asexuality factor, for a lot of asexual males, there´s no trigger to simp for a woman, so going mgtow would therefore make logical sense to them. People shouldnt judge MGTOW as a whole, the group has toxic, simple and intelectual elements, I prefer to stick by the intelectual elements since the other two give it bad name and arent the basis of the thing anyway
As someone who has been practicing this retention lifestyle for three years and with a lot of relapses here and there, I realized that it really isn't about how long you've been retaining but how mentally in control you are each time you "relapse". Because you are absolutely correct, releasing your seed without it feeling forced or taking control over you mentally isn't exactly a relapse, it's just a simple release. BUT, to anyone who's just starting, the first 30+ days is crucial because you gotta build a good habit out of it. Once the positive habits have been ingrained in your personality, these "relapses" aren't gonna shake you down believe me.
@@Nothing36902 but not on nofap, which in way more important. semen retention is cool and helpful when you are single but you shouldn't be on it when you're in a relationship, sex is so important to bond with your partner.
Thank you for being honest about this retention thing. There are hundreds of channels on YT that make it sound like its some kind of a weird cult practice. Like you said and from my experience, its nothing more than the power of self control and the feeling of empowerment you get for not giving in to slightest stimulus. Maybe there are other benefits like increase in T levels and such but who's gonna find out? They don't really do experiments on this lol. Anyways, its good to hear an honest opinion from someone who actually practiced it and not someone who spews some mumbo jumbo for the sake of recruiting others in their cult like channels.
No man shall be mad at the next man on their journey! If anything respect the man ! It’s a lifestyle change so keep transmuting that energy 💪🏾 becoming your better version
It's all good brotha. You're still the man in my eyes. Well, even though I've only been watching your channel for 1 month now but I've been inspired to get my life together because of you and others. Porn is definitely causing many men not to get their life together and it's an endless cycle of instant gratification for doing nothing which is making men feel even more miserable. Good video overall man!
I'm on a 3 months+ streak but what I see is that I'm waaaay more emotional. Some things happened in my life but I reacted in such a strong way emotionally!
@andyprado1962 remember seamen retention brings forth what's hiding inside of you on the retention journey. That why yoga and meditation are needed during the seamen retention process
If you were spiritually aware, you would understand that having sex with multiple partners transmits more than just bodily fluids and if you do want to commit to 1 partner one day/get married, I recommend you practice this as long as possible. Man up and be disciplined, no excuses. Go enjoy life without spilling your potential..
@@onetime3137 Nah go workout, stop scrolling through places you know will trigger you. After you checked all your notifications/emails, get off your phone and read, work on your hobby or another source of income. Dont waste that energy. You CAN if you want but I personally dont think its worth it. Gonna be off for a couple days or weeks... By the way im proud of you for going that long keep it up
Yes it's transfer of energy. Just doing it on multiple partners gives your life away. But if it's done with the one which connects to you, it's transcends experience
Love your self improvement content Cole. I'm not a vegan but I have recently started practicing NoFap/Retention and cold showers and after only a week I'm starting to feel small wins already. Much love from across the pond. 🏴
@@Mamadeble imo it is, i get where you’re coming from but reality is how much you need the semen power, there’s no good or bad just consequences, if you want to have interaction with a baddie that’s you just know the streak will get lost. meanwhile you abstain from porn you’re far too well imo
@@huh-m6f I am on day 30 NoNut and I will go further after November but if Iam going to meet some girls I will definitely going to have sex if it comes this far! But NoFap ist the power😂
Number one thing that has helped me with nofap and retention has been going Christian. When you accept the fact that God is real and that he doesn’t want you to fap it’s so helpful to get through those tough times when you’re rationalizing why you can/should fap/release. When you’re doing it as part of a spiritual practice it takes on a different meaning.
@@Diplexsy man, when you're watching porn and nutting you're telling your brain that you have a hell of a sexual life with unlimited partners, which reduces your energy overall, your testosterone and your drive to actually go out and seek a real sexual mate. The point of nofap is to retain that energy to use it for the real important stuff, like work, exercise and mating! Why would anyone want to eliminate sex from their life completely? Turns from self improvement to self punishment
this is the best take on nofap I've seen dude. Its genuinely important for growing yourself as a person / creating and maintaining relationships but there is a cult-like level that goes too far. Basic human sexuality is not something to be ashamed of.
So when Cole was saying "relapse" he did not really mean it as a relapse. Sex and masturbation are two different things. Although both do similar things in your brain, sex can be more meaningful because it is with another person. It builds a cooperative mindset as well as connection with another human. Masturbation just gives you the high with none of the natural connection that our bodies are designed to experience in tandem with those emotions, hormones, and chemicals.
Travis Nilsson, he said semen retention bro, not nofap, they're also 2 different things. no fap is not fapping while semen retention is retaining your semen by being celibate and also not fapping.
Went over 2 weeks. My life changed and I became much happier, but I do have a lot of other changes going on in my life. Gonna try and go longer this time and see if the same happens. The hardest part was the first 5 days. Once you make it past that point you get distracted by many other things in life.
Starting back: haven’t done it, just been exercising and doing shadow work. Shadow work definitely helps at getting to the reason why you want to do it and just spills out all the trauma and negative issues in your life.
I will tell you this. There is a massive difference between the energy you bring in your other retention video and this one. And, you sound stronger, vibrant, rigorous in the other video. Something about you makes me want to listen.
How the heck do you guys do it. I am almost 47 and a few months ago I went 21 days and it was a miracle. You guys shouldn't beat yourself up for 'relapsing'. The length of times you all go is a miracle, really. Give yourselves some credit.
While MGTOW by definition is removing yourself completely from women, it really is more about finding your own self value and esteem and not placing all of it in your success with finding a mate. I wouldn't say I am MGTOW by any sense of the word but it is Eons better than inceldom because its focused a lot more on self help and self reliance rather than sulking about girls not liking you.
Ha when Cole pulled out the laptop I was ready to see some pleasure videos! But for real I totally agree, retention really improves quality of life. I watched the 90 days of retention video a few weeks ago and I was happy to hear I was not alone in this conclusion. I have tried retention before and I have seen much benefit in the energy and confidence I have on a daily bases. That's why this channel gave me the idea to do it as a new years resolution this year. So far its going great and I am more productive than ever! Cole, I really appreciate the honesty in this channel in describing what you've been through to better yourself as a man and a human being. I think that's what makes this channel stand out. Keep making videos like these and I think you'll do very well. Thanks for the advice and new found confidence!
I think you misunderstand MGTOW. But i guess everyone defines it differently. For my part, it helped me get out of toxic situations where i was being manipulated without actually realizing it. MGTOW for me means, not taking their psychological BS and manipulation. Sure there are ppl who take it to other extremes.
Hey bro, you can do it. I strated with no hole at all, actually completed nnn and now I'm actually kinda free, haven't really felt the need to fap since November, only did it once
damn really nice editing tho, I like your videos a lot. interesting topics and you always have your own self built point of view. good stuff, keep it up bro! im on day 12 btw and aiming for 90 days!
Its fine if you're not having sex, but its just the dudes who start to demonize women and think all women are the same that I don't agree with. I do think in order to develop yourself fully as a man, you must learn how to attract and communicate with women. So if thats something you're struggling with, think of it as a fun new challenge to tackle. No matter what you look like or your social status, I guarantee there's women out there that think you're attractive
@@maximilianodelrio Actually it has a lot of benefits, when you do it in the morning before breakfast you feel refreshed, it wakes you up way quicker, it's good for your cardiovascular system, and it increases your immunity system as well, most importantly, later on you feel like more productive and you wanna do something useful, and after you did something most likely you wanna do more during the rest of the day, it's the best way to get started.. seriously.. I never felt like this before. However, make sure to don't eat anything before having the cold shower, don't sweat or do meditation before cold shower as well, it gives you more harm than good. You can practice meditation after shower or even better in the afternoon or evening. Also.. when you have cold shower, I recommend you not washing your head immediately, first put it in your body, when it gets a little bit warmer(still cold though) you can wash your head. while you do it.. remind yourself how strong and powerful you're.
@@ronniejamesdio6889 wow, thanks a lot for such a complete and informative answer! That sounds like just what I need during these times. I’m starting it tomorrow
Happened to me too but I feel good and it seems to me that I know now how to handle it better and to be more focused. It definitely helped me and I'll continue with that. Good luck to all of us
@@chiefchimp4377 its hard wired in our DNA to eat as much fatty foods as possible but you can see how thats bad. our DNA has not caught up with modern times.
@@GooseTower update: failed... a lot, but I'm not gonna give up. I made a clear set of goals today that give me a reason to stay disciplined in this path.
Most who complain about no science backing up SR just don’t have the willpower to adopt the habit and want to have to reason to not do it so they don’t feel bad. What’s the problem with something like this having little study done on it yet? Try it and it helps it helps, it can’t possibly hurt you
If you nut because you had sex with someone, that's not cheating against NoFap. The whole point of NoFap is to condition and help your body and mindset for a consistently rewarding physical relationship with people. NoFap prepared you for that moment, and it sounds like you nailed it.
THIS IS ON-POINT. I would recommend though that men partake in CONSISTENT streaks. Get your average streak to be around 12 days and you will see incremental growth in different areas of your life.
Honestly, I was on no-fap for almost 2 months, I was very motivated to hit the 30 day mark because everyone was saying that you star noticing the change, but I didn't feel any different, then day 31 came, and day 32 until day 45, I was so disappointed that I just gave up, now I try to do it with good spaces in between and I never watch porn, and it's been good, I'm starting to get a good sleep schedule, and exercising more.
My friend say that some Taoists say to hold your seed for 3 weeks and then you can release and this is what’s optimal for your vital energy/energetic body/ chi. I think we need to find a perfect balance, or middle path, much like the Taos teach.
Very well said when you argued that Sex is a natural human drive that should be enjoyed at its own natural timing. Waiting until marriage to have Sex in my opinion does sound unnatural. I tried so hard As a young man to uphold that teaching that I could never fully accept it even as a believer. I'm taking away from this video that the purpose of retention should be to aid your internal cause, in my case self control and sexual reset. Cole I want to thank you for mentioning the subject of Sex before marriage because it was something I struggled to think for myself and how you explained in the video felt like that's been what I've been trying to tell myself.
I think it’s just a matter of finding a balance as a male human being: PMO is poison, having sex with our own partner ain’t. As simple as that. Good luck everybody, take care!
@@loner8307 @DDoffer i don't think you understood what i was saying. Yes, I'm doing this for my self, because I want to work on myself amd then when I'm done working on myself I'll go and look for women, because I dont want my happiness, and other things to depend on women, so yes I'm doing it for myself. I'm in the correct mindset.
@@doffunreleased I don't think you understood what i was saying. Yes, I'm doing this for my self, because I want to work on myself amd then when I'm done working on myself I'll go and look for women, because I dont want my happiness, and other things to depend on women, so yes I'm doing it for myself. I'm in the correct mindset.
Sexual transmutation, tantra and daoism is really gonna help in this journey. I would really advise you to watch "Introduction to Tantric Sex", and also search stuff on sexual transmutation, and how to have multiple orgasms without watching p, like with the breath or with your genitals. Get documented man, there are loads of self discoveries ahead of you. ;)
Erase all dating apps as well as Instagram snapchat and tik tok. I only use Facebook and youtube now. I cant wait to start making Beats again, it's always been something I'm in too.
Thank you for making this video, it came to me at the perfect time and I think I needed to hear someone else say what I was already thinking. I appreciate it boss👍
I relapsed after a 125+ day streak. I ve watched porn alot and edged until I finally came :/ I even failed on NNN. Now I go straight with hardmode so no more porn or edging stuff.
@@utkarshakarki6015 Im on day 50 nofap but its hard to go straight without edging or watching p. My goal now is to complete the month april as cleanest I can. Days dont really matter anymore but its the understanding why PMO is bad for me to go through. The day/streak goal is just a little event I ve made for my self.
@@utkarshakarki6015 The last week I ve only watched one time and the week before maybe 2 or 3 times. The thing is just that I watch it longer than I actually want to and then it is really fast one or two hours straight I watched.
You deserve a medal.....You used yourself as lab rat; to walk upon a path in which you sought for with diligence and intelligence....You know the path and now you walked the path.....Your Wisdom levels will now activate your intellectual essence within your Mental state.....I am impressed with you....You have gone beyond the physical mentality to acquire "that which the eyes cannot see and hands cannot touch"..…..Be Blessed ...Keep on going for ; every journey has a hibernation phase for the journey to evolve and continue....... Remember the process not the result for the result is as you wish......Blessings...
It can be. Honestly if you think about “not nutting” you do bust faster. Last time I just thought about enjoying my time with the girl and I lasted a while.
After just now making the painful realization that ive become an incel or mgtow i definitely want to change. My main thing that makes it difficult for me to pursue a woman is literally me not trying lol. I guess my past failed attempts is what made me fall into those mindsets and stop trying.
The realization alone is great. I almost started slipping down that path after getting played and used for attention for months 😂 also tinder. But that mindset only makes you avoid accountability and destroys self esteem. There's quality girls out there. Hard to find, especially if you're also introverted, but they're out there. Your past is not your future
@@Aaron-fb6mb I appreciate the last part of your response. Really opened up my eyes to the fact that i can't and shouldn't let my past negatibely effect my future. But unfortunately with lockdowns its gonna be tough to meet anyone lol.
This Guy is Correct The Retention Is Meaning of Self Control From the Addiction I Relapsed after This Video I didn't Feel any Guilt But I didn't feel Any Weaker After Erection(Now I am the master of Mind & Body)
Jesus isn't there when Isis is raping women and calling it service of women for god's messengers. Be spiritual not religious it's the cause of most of the evil in this world
@@shalyfemusic He said "The flesh is weak" which implies that humans are weak stop being a religious missionary dude, Just because social media is free for everyone doesn't mean you should spread false info the answers are within you and not in a statue they charge you money to look at.
Master MemeLord it’s clear to see you know very little about Christianity. If I were you I wouldn’t speak so assertive on something you are uneducated on
I relapsed after 4 months but I'm glad I did it. No fap/semen retention is starting to become a part of my lifestyle. Now I usually go for 3-4 months (or longer, depending on how I'm feeling) on semen retention then release. And I don't fap at all!
Here's why it isn't a "relapse". You had sex with a partner. Like you said, if you were trying to break a porn habit, or, trying to break a solo habit, that would be different. If I was in a relationship, and sex was involved, I wouldn't consider that "relapsing". However, I'm a single man, had a bad nearly-sexless marriage, so, I'm wanting to break a solo habit. The porn, yes, I've viewed it. I stopped watching it several days ago. No big deal (for me). Since I work ten hour days, come home, maybe get some work done on my house, I really don't have time to socialize. I don't go to bars/clubs, etc., so the places to meet women are few and far between. I wouldn't mind having your reason for "relapsing". At least you're getting some. God bless you in this new year. And, my nofap I am beginning Jan. 2nd. Period.
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Honestly regret the day I got into porn. Such a struggle
Same if I had a choice I would go back in time and stop myself from using it
@@mrsplicer7343 same lmao I just think I change history and wonder what would of happen lol
Same I hate it now
@@__deebzz__ yeah me too but I'm doing nofap rn hbu?
i don't regret it, but i'm starting to use it less towards my 18th birthday
I just relapsed back on day 0 , wish me luck guys.
Update : Day 8 💪🏾
Update: Day 23 💪🏾
Update: Day 2 learning form my mistakes, this go round im coming back even harder 😈, and i appreciate all of you guys a lot for supporting me on this journey.
You got it bro
Same bro wish me luck too
@@ColeHastings how long should we go. I'm on Day 50
@@bhongonkumanda7630 at least 90 days
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The way I see it, the goal isn't to not fap, it's to get to a point in life where you don't feel that you need to do it all the time to be happy. Just like responsible adults can have some beer without being an alcoholic, someone can have sex or fap without their life falling apart. The trick and things girls find attractive is the ability to responsibly find that balance. It's unfortunate that nofap has been simplified to numbers and streaks when truly tempered adults shouldn't need to care about that.
Sex is fine but fapping I think is something that should be quit completely because of the disastrous consequences it can have on an individuals life
@Ajani Allen sex addiction is a thing too tho
108 likes lmao
Well said
@@favortp3675 No, not Fap! PMO.
This isn't a relapse. This is natural and healthy, especially since you hit the 90 day reboot already
Nah.. you should try to never release unless you’re trying to have a baby. Learn how to have sex without ejaculation.
@@AD-wg8ik bro it's healthy to bust every now and then. Just don't abuse it to the point where it effects you negatively by hurting your drive and purpose in life.
Explain 90 day reboot Nd wat are the benefits
@@longlivemklonglivemk4027 imo 90 days is kinda like punishing yourself. I feel like if you're a healthy young guy 21-30 days on no nut is enough to get the benefits. The benefits are supposed to boost your energy and drive levels. Also for guys experiencing ed it could improve that too.
Ty Taggem I’m not saying it’s unhealthy. I’m saying if you want the full benefits of SR then you should never release until necessary.
“Maybe once a year for 30 days”
November:
We were doing it for the memes, but we didn't know this was gonna do us good
i thought NNN was something stupid jus to say "hey i didnt fap for a full month" but now i realize its much more than that
That must’ve been a fat load lol. Prayers for her
She's doing just fine
Dudeeeeee!!!! Seriously? 😂
😂😂💀
Bro???😭😭😭
Did you just "assume" their gender? What if it was a guy?
Imagine being the girl he slept with and coming across this video😳
She's already seen it
@@ColeHastings hhahahah
@@ColeHastings I feel like this is her typing 😂
You're the girl from your "Boy" ID ❕
On semen retention men really learn what masculanity means for them. Once they figure this out it feels far more natural to bond with women.
Love that
@@jarto10 I think you misinterpreted. I said if you reject women entirely and have a distaste towards women i dont think thats masculine. It doesnt mean you have to be in a relationship with one.
great vid
@hamza97 still going 4 month💪
I’m a 27-year-old female who has dated a guy for about three years and lived with him who had a massive porn addiction. I know it can be devastating to men who are feeling depressed and low energy and like they aren’t doing anything good with their lives and don’t try to do anything to change it. This video was helpful to me in many ways. Someone has to be super strong mentally to give up porn. Or they may need help and support in the rough times when they feel like relapsing. Most people will keep it so private that they hide it from their partners. I struggled with self worth in that relationship. Mostly because I had a higher sex drive and wanted to have it multiple times a day, at least once a day. I prioritized emotional bonding in my relationship, but he did not. So what I’m getting at is, a lot of women out there feel like they aren’t enough when men watch porn, especially behind their backs, especially when they are in the next room, wanting and craving that emotional and physical connection that they won’t get that day. It is detrimental for long-term relationships. I would say there are a handful of women (who I have been friends with) who decide to cut men off to sex when they make them angry... I say personally to them that with research, men trust you and open up to you more when you are in your feminine energy. Maybe that’s off point and a story for another day. It’s very admirable for a man to be a MAN and learn how to be mentally aware that he can be better FOR HIMSELF. Everyone should focus on what’s best for themselves first. It’s so cliché, but it’s true: an empty cup cannot fill another. Everyone has the responsibility to be their best self. That is the confidence and security you need. A partner will follow, because you will find them in the RIGHT places. Take it easy if you mess up. It’s very attractive to meet someone who wants the same thing you want. Until then, you might meet women who have their own battles and problems within themselves to manipulate men or just be in it for their own benefit at the time until they get bored. This can go for men too. I think this idea is almost surface-level but very important.
I dont know you, but i like you.
I feel you sis :|
If only all women think like you huh 😳
He chooses porn over a beauty like you? Wow, that's some intense addiction. Probably needs some professional help (if he actually wants to quit).
We'll said
This man spoke nothing but facts his mindset is cool asf
Appreciate that
More like valid opinions based off of real life experiences. Which I respect him for full sending it on a philosophy not proven with science.
What he said I don't understand 😢
You didn't relapse. Relapse is a term for someone trying to recover from addition, in this case porn addiction, and they give in to their addiction. What you did was a completely natural thing and sounds very healthy. As for me, I'm going to see how.long I can retain for. Currently on 3 weeks today, and am set for the rest of the year to hit my 90 days. I personally wouldn't mind going a whole year though.
Cheers man
Thanks for your comment, I feel even more motivated to work harder
@@ronniejamesdio6889 get after it! I'm at one month 💪 make the decision. Today is your day
@@juanthebaptist8126 I started 2 days ago, I have cold shower every morning, meditate in the evening and writing diary before sleeping or earlier in order to self-motivate and write down my tomorrow's goals. Thanks for replying me man, wish you the best of luck as well🙏
Yes, relapse is needed, agree. Otherwise, you will acquire "pre-mature ejaculation" in men especially over 40 age because your dick is too sensitive and not being maintained. Once touched it, it explodes like "supernova".
I just relapsed yesterday on day 48 but I’m gonna get on the grind even harder💯
I see you bro
Was that some kind of pun?
@@Siouxthenation he's getting on Grindr lol
Cole : "Try retention for 30 days once a year"
November : "This is my sole purpose for existence"
Dont do it for once,try all most each year without gap and you'll become something you have never seen before
Thanks mate, I’ve been trying to stop this addiction for a while now and when I see your content, it motivates me to keep going. It reminds me of why I’m really doing this and how important this is for me has a man and a human.
just relapsed after 8 days. even though it was only 8 days i felt better. don’t know how to explain it. i’ve been more productive this past week than the months march - october. trying to go 90 days starting today.
You have no discipline
@@berto316life4 i relapsed on purpose
As long as you learn from it, you’re good bro
@@berto316life4 stfu lmao
@@luwapp8912 you got this shit bro
A couple things I want to clear up that might cause confusion:
1. I plan to never watch porn again. Quitting these things has changed my life.
2. I feel like I don't have a lot of information (or rather not enough information) to talk about MGTOW as i did. Ill have to do more research. But I still don't think men should separate themselves from women completely. I at least agree that marriage is not in men's favor.
MGTOW isn't about giving up on women at all and can't be used in the same category as incels. Most men who go their own way have no problem with women, rather they choose to live their own way without being ruined by women. Just because society is changing doesn't mean it's a good thing and that we must just accept it. Just my 10 cents worth...
@@tooth2163 "MGTOW.. can't be used in the same category as incels" ..... "without being ruined by women"
pick one
@@Luke-ih1oc I didn't need to make my post any longer than it already was. That's just nitpicky.
Cole Hastings, It´s ok Man, there´s a lot of MGTOW stuff that is often off radar, like the "Toxic" elements, the rest of it such as "Intelectuals" like Stardust that give it a respectable name, however are good.
@@tooth2163 It could also be a asexuality factor, for a lot of asexual males, there´s no trigger to simp for a woman, so going mgtow would therefore make logical sense to them.
People shouldnt judge MGTOW as a whole, the group has toxic, simple and intelectual elements, I prefer to stick by the intelectual elements since the other two give it bad name and arent the basis of the thing anyway
As someone who has been practicing this retention lifestyle for three years and with a lot of relapses here and there, I realized that it really isn't about how long you've been retaining but how mentally in control you are each time you "relapse". Because you are absolutely correct, releasing your seed without it feeling forced or taking control over you mentally isn't exactly a relapse, it's just a simple release.
BUT, to anyone who's just starting, the first 30+ days is crucial because you gotta build a good habit out of it. Once the positive habits have been ingrained in your personality, these "relapses" aren't gonna shake you down believe me.
It wasn't a relapse man. Having sex is absolutely natural thing to do. Agreed with you 100 percent
it is a relapse on semen retention but you already know this now
@@Nothing36902 but not on nofap, which in way more important. semen retention is cool and helpful when you are single but you shouldn't be on it when you're in a relationship, sex is so important to bond with your partner.
Relapse it is
Thank you for being honest about this retention thing. There are hundreds of channels on YT that make it sound like its some kind of a weird cult practice. Like you said and from my experience, its nothing more than the power of self control and the feeling of empowerment you get for not giving in to slightest stimulus. Maybe there are other benefits like increase in T levels and such but who's gonna find out? They don't really do experiments on this lol. Anyways, its good to hear an honest opinion from someone who actually practiced it and not someone who spews some mumbo jumbo for the sake of recruiting others in their cult like channels.
No man shall be mad at the next man on their journey! If anything respect the man ! It’s a lifestyle change so keep transmuting that energy 💪🏾 becoming your better version
Yessir
It's all good brotha. You're still the man in my eyes. Well, even though I've only been watching your channel for 1 month now but I've been inspired to get my life together because of you and others. Porn is definitely causing many men not to get their life together and it's an endless cycle of instant gratification for doing nothing which is making men feel even more miserable. Good video overall man!
Thank you brother
Indeed
good points
I would hardly call having sex a “relapse” but I guess u right lol
@Tian333 you telling me i shouldnt nut on her face? HOW DARE YOU
It is on hard mode- not on soft mode.
@@pauljohnson6019 What's the point of hard mode? I thought only fapping/porn is the bad thing
@@KlutzyBoss Well yes, but no sex is part of hard mode too, so yeah, this is for the real trojans.
@Truth Teller Talks Books and studies from 100+ years ago
I'm on a 3 months+ streak but what I see is that I'm waaaay more emotional. Some things happened in my life but I reacted in such a strong way emotionally!
Im also around 3 months. I’m super emotional and I’m thinking about quitting.
@andyprado1962 remember seamen retention brings forth what's hiding inside of you on the retention journey. That why yoga and meditation are needed during the seamen retention process
If you were spiritually aware, you would understand that having sex with multiple partners transmits more than just bodily fluids and if you do want to commit to 1 partner one day/get married, I recommend you practice this as long as possible. Man up and be disciplined, no excuses. Go enjoy life without spilling your potential..
The only smart comment I see on here, sex is just not pleasure it’s soul ties and energy exchange
@@spiritualak5147 what is energy exchange ?
It’s been 4.5 months is it ok to bust once then streak again or no ? Worth it or not ?
@@onetime3137 Nah go workout, stop scrolling through places you know will trigger you. After you checked all your notifications/emails, get off your phone and read, work on your hobby or another source of income. Dont waste that energy. You CAN if you want but I personally dont think its worth it. Gonna be off for a couple days or weeks... By the way im proud of you for going that long keep it up
Yes it's transfer of energy. Just doing it on multiple partners gives your life away. But if it's done with the one which connects to you, it's transcends experience
It's not about how long you go before relapsing. It's about how in control you are.
Love your self improvement content Cole. I'm not a vegan but I have recently started practicing NoFap/Retention and cold showers and after only a week I'm starting to feel small wins already. Much love from across the pond. 🏴
Much love brother
All good bro that's a good streak
It's a journey g
it’s not about the streak it’s about making it forever, saying “it was a good streak” i kinda too self pity imo
@@huh-m6f but then you can’t have sex that’s to much I think
@@Mamadeble imo it is, i get where you’re coming from but reality is how much you need the semen power, there’s no good or bad just consequences, if you want to have interaction with a baddie that’s you just know the streak will get lost. meanwhile you abstain from porn you’re far too well imo
@@huh-m6f I am on day 30 NoNut and I will go further after November but if Iam going to meet some girls I will definitely going to have sex if it comes this far! But NoFap ist the power😂
Number one thing that has helped me with nofap and retention has been going Christian. When you accept the fact that God is real and that he doesn’t want you to fap it’s so helpful to get through those tough times when you’re rationalizing why you can/should fap/release. When you’re doing it as part of a spiritual practice it takes on a different meaning.
Even not doing it for 3 days, I felt so strong and free.
It’s insane what they said about taking the Red pill. I can’t go back to the lifestyle, the feeling after 30 days is addicting.
I did retention for the first time and got a girlfriend for the first time, girlfriend made me relapse and then I lost her after a while
Bro, wtf, the whole point of nofap is to actually get laid, if you call it a relapse you are a disappointment of a man
@@ernodios that’s retention he’s talking about, which means no nutting at all. No fap is just that, no fap
Still smahed tho
@@ernodios bro the whole point of no fap is not getting laid you trippin😂
@@Diplexsy man, when you're watching porn and nutting you're telling your brain that you have a hell of a sexual life with unlimited partners, which reduces your energy overall, your testosterone and your drive to actually go out and seek a real sexual mate. The point of nofap is to retain that energy to use it for the real important stuff, like work, exercise and mating! Why would anyone want to eliminate sex from their life completely? Turns from self improvement to self punishment
I'm almost reaching 2 weeks on the journey, stay strong guys
Make men great again.
this is the best take on nofap I've seen dude. Its genuinely important for growing yourself as a person / creating and maintaining relationships but there is a cult-like level that goes too far. Basic human sexuality is not something to be ashamed of.
So when Cole was saying "relapse" he did not really mean it as a relapse. Sex and masturbation are two different things. Although both do similar things in your brain, sex can be more meaningful because it is with another person. It builds a cooperative mindset as well as connection with another human. Masturbation just gives you the high with none of the natural connection that our bodies are designed to experience in tandem with those emotions, hormones, and chemicals.
true but it is a relapse regardless. he was talking about the journey of semen retention so like he nutted and it’s over
Travis Nilsson, he said semen retention bro, not nofap, they're also 2 different things. no fap is not fapping while semen retention is retaining your semen by being celibate and also not fapping.
@@Noname-tl1yt Retaining and being celibate seem like a fucking retarded choice. No fap makes sense at least for me. I want sex not masturbation!
Went over 2 weeks. My life changed and I became much happier, but I do have a lot of other changes going on in my life. Gonna try and go longer this time and see if the same happens. The hardest part was the first 5 days. Once you make it past that point you get distracted by many other things in life.
Mind over matter lol
Day three: almost did it but I went running around my neighborhood
Failed last night
@@carlossacerio431 same bro this shit is hard especially living in a stressful environment. Everyone I live with sucks
Starting back: haven’t done it, just been exercising and doing shadow work. Shadow work definitely helps at getting to the reason why you want to do it and just spills out all the trauma and negative issues in your life.
im on day 3 :) I feel good
Back on day one again:’) I didn’t work out for one day and then boom I did it. Any tips to control?
The whole point of nofap for me was to fix my ED issues. Seems like you're doing it right
This channel is sooooo underrated!
I will tell you this.
There is a massive difference between the energy you bring in your other retention video and this one.
And, you sound stronger, vibrant, rigorous in the other video. Something about you makes me want to listen.
How the heck do you guys do it. I am almost 47 and a few months ago I went 21 days and it was a miracle. You guys shouldn't beat yourself up for 'relapsing'. The length of times you all go is a miracle, really. Give yourselves some credit.
@Cosmic porn is free and easily available.
While MGTOW by definition is removing yourself completely from women, it really is more about finding your own self value and esteem and not placing all of it in your success with finding a mate. I wouldn't say I am MGTOW by any sense of the word but it is Eons better than inceldom because its focused a lot more on self help and self reliance rather than sulking about girls not liking you.
NoFap doesn’t hand you all the benefits but it sets you up for them, and that is exactly why NoFap works
Exactly this.
Ha when Cole pulled out the laptop I was ready to see some pleasure videos! But for real I totally agree, retention really improves quality of life. I watched the 90 days of retention video a few weeks ago and I was happy to hear I was not alone in this conclusion. I have tried retention before and I have seen much benefit in the energy and confidence I have on a daily bases. That's why this channel gave me the idea to do it as a new years resolution this year. So far its going great and I am more productive than ever! Cole, I really appreciate the honesty in this channel in describing what you've been through to better yourself as a man and a human being. I think that's what makes this channel stand out. Keep making videos like these and I think you'll do very well. Thanks for the advice and new found confidence!
108 is an auspicious number for fasting. Well done!
I think you misunderstand MGTOW. But i guess everyone defines it differently. For my part, it helped me get out of toxic situations where i was being manipulated without actually realizing it. MGTOW for me means, not taking their psychological BS and manipulation. Sure there are ppl who take it to other extremes.
Ahh dude you're just amazing. I can't say anything but thank you. This changed my life for the better.
The higher you climb, the harder you fall.
As long as you don't stop climbing back up. You're good
Not “harder you fall” if you grew wings to glide down willingly.
Day 2 on NOFAP now
Aiming to reach 100 days, will keep this post updated. :)
We all gonna make it bruhhh!
Hey bro, you can do it. I strated with no hole at all, actually completed nnn and now I'm actually kinda free, haven't really felt the need to fap since November, only did it once
I'm rooting for you!
I hope you fail and ik ur gonna cos ur not updating This
@@peadercunningham283 how rude
@@carlossacerio431 lol
damn really nice editing tho, I like your videos a lot. interesting topics and you always have your own self built point of view. good stuff, keep it up bro! im on day 12 btw and aiming for 90 days!
Bro, I like how professional you sound when you talk about this 💀 is almost looks like a joke but it's not
haha thanks man
Ignorant incel here. Had no idea I was one of those. Called me out. Guess I gotta make some changes. Definitely will be a struggle. Where to start 🤔
Its fine if you're not having sex, but its just the dudes who start to demonize women and think all women are the same that I don't agree with. I do think in order to develop yourself fully as a man, you must learn how to attract and communicate with women. So if thats something you're struggling with, think of it as a fun new challenge to tackle. No matter what you look like or your social status, I guarantee there's women out there that think you're attractive
it’s crazy when you think about it, the generations of men before the internet didn’t have instant access to porn.
That's when men were better..now they're all brainwashed by porn
@JaBunch indeed, seems like history repeats itself in continuous cycles
@@minecraftstation6422 it’s all by design
Most died of disease or war in their 30s, the fortunate ones probably banged women until their untimely deaths
They relied on nudy mags lol
I agree with everything this man has said. Great video brother!
the *releasing my seed* sentence is just legendary xD
Just starting NoFap journey 3 weeks ago.
Feel more confidence, energetic and happy.
Stop fapping guys.
Me too man, I am having cold shower every morning, work out, practice meditation, and writing diary every night, it's extremely powerful.
@@ronniejamesdio6889 what’s the advantage of a cold shower?
@@maximilianodelrio Actually it has a lot of benefits, when you do it in the morning before breakfast you feel refreshed, it wakes you up way quicker, it's good for your cardiovascular system, and it increases your immunity system as well, most importantly, later on you feel like more productive and you wanna do something useful, and after you did something most likely you wanna do more during the rest of the day, it's the best way to get started.. seriously.. I never felt like this before.
However, make sure to don't eat anything before having the cold shower, don't sweat or do meditation before cold shower as well, it gives you more harm than good. You can practice meditation after shower or even better in the afternoon or evening.
Also.. when you have cold shower, I recommend you not washing your head immediately, first put it in your body, when it gets a little bit warmer(still cold though) you can wash your head. while you do it.. remind yourself how strong and powerful you're.
@@ronniejamesdio6889 wow, thanks a lot for such a complete and informative answer! That sounds like just what I need during these times. I’m starting it tomorrow
@@ronniejamesdio6889 also another question, is a cold shower good after a workout in the afternoon? Or should I take a warm shower in that case
Happened to me too but I feel good and it seems to me that I know now how to handle it better and to be more focused. It definitely helped me and I'll continue with that. Good luck to all of us
It’s crazy how almost every guy can’t go 100 days without having the urge to relapse
yeah thats damn near impossible especially if your around girls or on social media
Why’s that crazy? It’s hardwired into our DNA to reproduce.
How is that crazy lol you crazy
@@DiamondScopezz same but it was day 3 for me always goddam day 3 but grind don't stop brodie
@@chiefchimp4377 its hard wired in our DNA to eat as much fatty foods as possible but you can see how thats bad. our DNA has not caught up with modern times.
Thanks for the video, its brilliant to see there is a supportive community in this subject and practice
This is my journal/commitment thread.
Day 1: I’ve been working all day so it’s been easy, I’m very tired so I’ll just go to bed after studying
aight it's been a month I'm calling you out for the update
@@GooseTower update: failed... a lot, but I'm not gonna give up. I made a clear set of goals today that give me a reason to stay disciplined in this path.
She don’t deserve your seed young king 👑
Most who complain about no science backing up SR just don’t have the willpower to adopt the habit and want to have to reason to not do it so they don’t feel bad. What’s the problem with something like this having little study done on it yet? Try it and it helps it helps, it can’t possibly hurt you
If you nut because you had sex with someone, that's not cheating against NoFap. The whole point of NoFap is to condition and help your body and mindset for a consistently rewarding physical relationship with people. NoFap prepared you for that moment, and it sounds like you nailed it.
THIS IS ON-POINT. I would recommend though that men partake in CONSISTENT streaks. Get your average streak to be around 12 days and you will see incremental growth in different areas of your life.
Bro, that retention span is going down In history! You’re a legend! 💪🏾
Haha thanks bro
I relasped at like day 40 and i still feel the same as when i was doing the retention it had its benefits tho
How it's going dude
Just getting it to monthly was hard for me too, once you get to 15-30, however you can start piling up more days
I've done a month before, it wasn't hard... (see what I did there?)
Ahhh
gawdee🤪🤣😂
BARS
It gets harder the more you try it
Living legend. Thank you so much for your content. It is soo good. You just want the best for your subscribers. It’s really genuine
You’re way underrated man amazing keep up the good work ❤️❤️
Honestly, I was on no-fap for almost 2 months, I was very motivated to hit the 30 day mark because everyone was saying that you star noticing the change, but I didn't feel any different, then day 31 came, and day 32 until day 45, I was so disappointed that I just gave up, now I try to do it with good spaces in between and I never watch porn, and it's been good, I'm starting to get a good sleep schedule, and exercising more.
My friend say that some Taoists say to hold your seed for 3 weeks and then you can release and this is what’s optimal for your vital energy/energetic body/ chi. I think we need to find a perfect balance, or middle path, much like the Taos teach.
Fuck that
@@blackpillfitness9136 haha fair enough
*It's all about BALANCE bro!*
Subbed at 36.2k. I see you going all the way bro, your content rocks and is the truth. This year will be the year of insane growth for you!
now he has 247k subs.
This was a great video , most truthful video on semen retention I watched
you relapsed the only way a man should.anything else is total failure
Disagree, nutting is natural, porn isnt
Someone give this man an Oscar award
Please
Almost 4 months... Bet you let loose a gallon 😭💦💦💦💦
Hahahaha you have no idea
@@ColeHastings I was in USMC boot camp, so that's longest I went, 3 months. But yeah, when I got back home.... 🤣
I hope it didn’t go to the toilet.
I’m day 129 porn free.
@Edis Babahmetovic how’s that sad
Very well said when you argued that Sex is a natural human drive that should be enjoyed at its own natural timing. Waiting until marriage to have Sex in my opinion does sound unnatural. I tried so hard As a young man to uphold that teaching that I could never fully accept it even as a believer. I'm taking away from this video that the purpose of retention should be to aid your internal cause, in my case self control and sexual reset. Cole I want to thank you for mentioning the subject of Sex before marriage because it was something I struggled to think for myself and how you explained in the video felt like that's been what I've been trying to tell myself.
Just because you relapsed doesn't mean you start over. You take the punch and keep going.
I think it’s just a matter of finding a balance as a male human being: PMO is poison, having sex with our own partner ain’t. As simple as that. Good luck everybody, take care!
Wtf im actually doing this because i want to pursue women
That's the wrong mindset my guy, that's like going to the gym for girls. Do it for you
Don’t pursue no women my guy, watch “ alpha male strategy “ on TH-cam
@@loner8307 @DDoffer i don't think you understood what i was saying. Yes, I'm doing this for my self, because I want to work on myself amd then when I'm done working on myself I'll go and look for women, because I dont want my happiness, and other things to depend on women, so yes I'm doing it for myself. I'm in the correct mindset.
@@doffunreleased I don't think you understood what i was saying. Yes, I'm doing this for my self, because I want to work on myself amd then when I'm done working on myself I'll go and look for women, because I dont want my happiness, and other things to depend on women, so yes I'm doing it for myself. I'm in the correct mindset.
Sexual transmutation, tantra and daoism is really gonna help in this journey. I would really advise you to watch "Introduction to Tantric Sex", and also search stuff on sexual transmutation, and how to have multiple orgasms without watching p, like with the breath or with your genitals. Get documented man, there are loads of self discoveries ahead of you. ;)
Erase all dating apps as well as Instagram snapchat and tik tok. I only use Facebook and youtube now. I cant wait to start making Beats again, it's always been something I'm in too.
Thats good. Its always good to have a passion. Stay on ur grind bro
how is facebook better than the others?
@@thecrimsonkid3574 family contact perhaps
Do you still use tinder?
@@thecrimsonkid3574 because facebook is not instagram while instagram is used for hoes showing their asses everywhere lol
I relapsed after a week, But I'm starting again, I'm not giving up.
Thank you for making this video, it came to me at the perfect time and I think I needed to hear someone else say what I was already thinking. I appreciate it boss👍
Day 8 of NNN stay strong boys💪🏽
Everyones sweet spot is different, for me I find that 1 time per week works very well for my mood
I relapsed after a 125+ day streak. I ve watched porn alot and edged until I finally came :/ I even failed on NNN. Now I go straight with hardmode so no more porn or edging stuff.
How it's going
@@utkarshakarki6015 Im on day 50 nofap but its hard to go straight without edging or watching p. My goal now is to complete the month april as cleanest I can. Days dont really matter anymore but its the understanding why PMO is bad for me to go through. The day/streak goal is just a little event I ve made for my self.
@@nidardo do you watch p*rn by any chance ?? Or once a week type?
@@utkarshakarki6015 The last week I ve only watched one time and the week before maybe 2 or 3 times. The thing is just that I watch it longer than I actually want to and then it is really fast one or two hours straight I watched.
You deserve a medal.....You used yourself as lab rat; to walk upon a path in which you sought for with diligence and intelligence....You know the path and now you walked the path.....Your Wisdom levels will now activate your intellectual essence within your Mental state.....I am impressed with you....You have gone beyond the physical mentality to acquire "that which the eyes cannot see and hands cannot touch"..…..Be Blessed ...Keep on going for ; every journey has a hibernation phase for the journey to evolve and continue....... Remember the process not the result for the result is as you wish......Blessings...
When you’re on it for a long time won’t it become really easy to finish fast ?
Nah. It's all in the mindset
It can be. Honestly if you think about “not nutting” you do bust faster. Last time I just thought about enjoying my time with the girl and I lasted a while.
Mindset, just slow down, change positions or switch up before you feel the nut coming on
10 seconds tops.
Just stand with your legs apart
After just now making the painful realization that ive become an incel or mgtow i definitely want to change. My main thing that makes it difficult for me to pursue a woman is literally me not trying lol. I guess my past failed attempts is what made me fall into those mindsets and stop trying.
The realization alone is great. I almost started slipping down that path after getting played and used for attention for months 😂 also tinder. But that mindset only makes you avoid accountability and destroys self esteem. There's quality girls out there. Hard to find, especially if you're also introverted, but they're out there. Your past is not your future
@@Aaron-fb6mb I appreciate the last part of your response. Really opened up my eyes to the fact that i can't and shouldn't let my past negatibely effect my future. But unfortunately with lockdowns its gonna be tough to meet anyone lol.
Don’t change, embrace your hatred
You are amazing. Are there more guys out there like you? I can't find them 😫
I been battling with porn addiction myself, I’m almost 3 months in of no fap. I’m a good person that’s lonely.
@@timhiltz6323 :(
TH-cam is the new Tinder.
You not finna make me relapse sweetie
Hey man , honestly very thankful to you for uploading such videos and guiding people . ♥️
This Guy is Correct The Retention Is Meaning of Self Control From the Addiction I Relapsed after This Video I didn't Feel any Guilt But I didn't feel Any Weaker After Erection(Now I am the master of Mind & Body)
Love the content bro!
Thank you bro
I feel like dogsh*t, I just relapsed today and I feel like a pile of sh*t
Same bro I relapsed last night 2 times after a 45 days streak and I honestly feel the lowest I’ve felt my whole life man , we can bounce back tho bro
@@djswirley exactly bro
The journey is a lot easier when you got Jesus to put you in check vs your own strength. The flesh is weak
True
Jesus isn't there when Isis is raping women and calling it service of women for god's messengers. Be spiritual not religious it's the cause of most of the evil in this world
@@Akash-hu3vb chill out man
All he said is if someone is checking you its way easier to acheive a goal
@@shalyfemusic He said "The flesh is weak" which implies that humans are weak stop being a religious missionary dude, Just because social media is free for everyone doesn't mean you should spread false info the answers are within you and not in a statue they charge you money to look at.
Master MemeLord it’s clear to see you know very little about Christianity. If I were you I wouldn’t speak so assertive on something you are uneducated on
I relapsed after 4 months but I'm glad I did it. No fap/semen retention is starting to become a part of my lifestyle. Now I usually go for 3-4 months (or longer, depending on how I'm feeling) on semen retention then release. And I don't fap at all!
How's the respect among other men, brother?
Every thing in moderation I enjoy it greetings from Scotland 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
Here's why it isn't a "relapse". You had sex with a partner. Like you said, if you were trying to break a porn habit, or, trying to break a solo habit, that would be different. If I was in a relationship, and sex was involved, I wouldn't consider that "relapsing". However, I'm a single man, had a bad nearly-sexless marriage, so, I'm wanting to break a solo habit. The porn, yes, I've viewed it. I stopped watching it several days ago. No big deal (for me). Since I work ten hour days, come home, maybe get some work done on my house, I really don't have time to socialize. I don't go to bars/clubs, etc., so the places to meet women are few and far between. I wouldn't mind having your reason for "relapsing". At least you're getting some. God bless you in this new year. And, my nofap I am beginning Jan. 2nd. Period.
All the best Sir!