THE CATERER DID WHAT?! Wedding Planner Q + A
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why is it so hard to find out how much a venue ACTUALLY costs? pricing lists are so confusing and i feel like they never give a direct answer!
I know this is late but it depends on the day and season... an in-season wedding (April-October/November) vs an out-of-season wedding can vary in cost by as much as up to a 75% discount. Also, since people are more drawn to a weekend wedding because work whether it be the bride/groom’s work demands or the guests’. I’ve seen a weekday wedding vs a weekend wedding save 25-50% off because of how much more common a weekend reservation is. Also, prices change/increase by year so if they put out a straightforward price list it could wind up being out-of-date or inaccurate. Finally, venues are notoriously expensive so if they put out the cost outright it might discourage the bride/groom/representative from considering them as an option and it could prevent the venue’s ability to work with them. There’s other aspects I’m missing or forgetting but I hope this helped.
I literally just chose the only one of them that gave me a straightforward price 🤷♀️😃
@@brickbreck
Just like Luce with Love, I would always prefer a vendor or seller with an official price list.
Really don't like having to phone for, haggle for or even guess prices. 🙄
Tell me upfront or I will assume it's very expensive and look elsewhere. 🤷♂️
Super keen on how to become a wedding planner part 2.
Biggest questions are:
How did you gain your first 5 or so clients?
How do you go with securing clients with only of had planned your own and friends weddings. Like how did you feel comfortable offering a service you hadnt really been doing professionally yet ?
Do you recomend only offering month of coordination to get started?
What are your best stratagies in the actual managing of behind the scenes planning as a planner? Would love even a whole video on the nitty gritty of that question
For gaining work experience learning from other planners, what is the best way to increase chances of them agreeing to take you under their wing even for just 1 wedding?
I would also love to see a video of behind the scenes wedding planning. Like a week of little snippets of meetings, research, ect.
Could you make a video about using restaurants as a venue? We are considering this option, but would like to know the pros and cons. Thank you!
I second this!
I never noticed you having a long intro?! I love it how it is! Video request: rehearsal dinners, what the heck even is this, what’s the timeline for that, where is it hosted?? Help 😭
kitten I would loveeeeee a video on rehearsal dinners too! And I love the long intros too.
I think people who skip through the video to get to the “Info” are the type of people who don’t really care about others! During the intro is where we get to know who you are in a way so I say keep the intro’s! They can skip through all they want but us people who what to know who we are listening to appreciate them!
Yes bring on Mr finger guns! You guys are such an adorkable couple! And don't you dare shorten your intros, they're a ray of sunshine and a gift to humanity!
I didn't know American weddings had such a short timeline for the dinner, I suddenly understand how so many newlyweds miss out on eating. Scandinavian, and I think most European weddings, have at least two hours of sitting down if not longer. You have all the speeches (so many speeches), the games, the cake cutting and obligatory dances.
It's a real job keeping things together during dinner so you have one or two friends be the toast madame/master to run the show. They literally tell the guests when they can go out for a toilet break or smoke. It's the toughest job of them all cause a shitty MC will mess up the whole evening, like at my cousins wedding where half the guests missed either the first dance or the cake cutting cause the MC didn't tell us when we should be back. They also had a buffet which was absolute mayhem. Luckily our toast madame has the look of an angel but the disciplinarian skills of a catholic nun, me and Daniel will be able to just relax and let her run the show 😂
Grooms perspective would be awesome
JAMIE! Please do a video on how to deal with problem bridesmaids!!! How do I get my maids to take me seriously? How can I be firm with decisions and not sound like a total bridezilla? Do you have any advice on how to deal with any form of bridesmaid related issues? Do you have any of your own experiences? I am very desperate 😩
Omg girl, excellent request! Yes please Jamie
YESSSS!!
Your bridesmaids are your friends right? Me, I'd talk with them have an actual mature honest conversation, individual or group. They should be your support and help, but they are still your friends and you probably dont want to ignore their feelings and make them feel totally irrelevant
Consistently Christy trust me I’ve tried... this is a month in the making problem. It’s a long story but this girl is just not putting being a bridesmaid as a priority.
Tilar Williams I’m sorry you’re having problems. I dunno, its a difficult situation for sure. But maybe if she doesn’t want to contribute, ask her if she’s sure she wants to be a bridesmaid. You’re not getting the help you need and I guess she’s not happy about whatever, so you could give her the option of opting out if things aren’t too far.
Please bring your husband and have him talk about the grooms roles from planning to day of!!
I love this!
Yess!!!!
Have you done videos on bridal showers, wedding showers, and all the little parties and events before the wedding like that? Are there any wedding trends you love/hate?
Love all your videos!!!!! Thank you for answering my question! 💕💕
Thank you for all the amazing info! Appreciate it :)
Love you Jamie! Awesome videos.
In my case, a destination wedding is a lot cheaper. My fiancé’s family is huge and they all live in Puerto Rico. Airfare is only needed for us and my parents. The church, the food, and the reception space are all cheaper over there too. So it ends up saving us a lot of money. But I guess it really depends on the size of your wedding and how far away the destination is. In our case, were just inviting close friends and family. Thank you for all of your advice. You’re amazing.
Jamie please dont change your intro...thanks!!
Love you content! Watch every second!
Your timeline video helped me finally sort out my day-of timeline! It was such a relief!
Love your videos, I'm literally sitting here with a notepad and pen taking notes! Out of curiosity, you should post your wedding video! :)
Love your energy
You deserve more than 20,000! You lovely human! ❤❤❤
I love your intros! Theres a reason i watch your channel because your relatable
Hi! Completely obsessed with your videos just found your channel and am now binge watching! Could you please do a video about different times of year and pros and cons or seasons, thanks!
I love your intros! Please don’t change :) They are so personal and heart warming ❤️
Yes Part two!!!
I got engaged this last weekend and I'm sooo excited!! I've been watching your videos for a couple months but now I feel like I need to rewatch and take notes!
I’m aloud to watch your videos at work because your work related... thanks girl!
I love the long intro! Also love longer videos, so don't be embarrassed for a video being on the longer end. More please!
*just purchased my linens for my backyard reception...* I have a feeling we're gonna have fun stress testing my iron!
Jamie I love your videos..you are so funny. Very interesting, thank you!
I love your intros. You always make me smile.
I love the longer video!
I’m a second year planner and would love to hear your tips for planners! Thanks, Jamie!
Well, firstly this video wasn't nearly long enough! I need alllllll of the tips. I wrote a long time ago about my old Spanish themed wedding and we're about 100 days out now! Thank you for all of your amazingness!
You should do a video or SoCal venues you recommend or different wedding theme ideas lol
Hi Jamie, I love your channel!! Thank you so much for your valuable content, and for an editing style that makes me LOL. Video request/suggestion: all about officiants! What to look for, what the process is like, should they be present at the rehearsal, etc? Thanks for considering!
Jamie! Do you have any tips for outdoor weddings during fall/winter timeline wise? With photography and when to start the ceremony and such? Thanks girl and I love your vids! ❤️
Jamie, I love your videos so much, I'm still kind of early on in the planning process but you've been so helpful to me knowing what's important and what isn't. I never comment on videos either but i had to let you know!!
I’ve just been hired to become a venue coordinator at a wedding venue. Im super excited, I’m watching you as much as I can to glean from your experience! I’ve planned and coordinated two weddings on my own and many events. I love your energy and your true to life advice.
Hi Jamie! I love your videos! They are so helpful and honest. Thank you! Just wondering if you have any advice on DJing our own wedding. What are your thoughts and tips?
Jamie, thank you so much for addressing the divorced parent question! We're really struggling with my Fiance's recently divorced parents who very much dislike each other and the families even really dislike each other. We're doing everything we can to diffuse tension, but it just seems like their DEAD SET on causing drama. I'm so over it and soooo stressed. Thankfully my family is trying really hard to help make it easier on me, and I meet with my Day Of Coordinator in May and hopefully she'll have more ideas for us. But I really appreciate your advice, thank you so much!! 💕
I'm feeling the same way. I have been really into this whole process and could see making it into a career. Time will tell! First I need to have my wedding :)
I’d definitely love to see the grooms perspective part and I think it’s fit well on this channel!
I stick through the whole thing.. my favorite person on TH-cam right now
Yes please can you do a part two of becoming a wedding planner!
Please do a part 2 on becoming a wedding planner! Love your channel and I think I'd love to be a wedding planner😊
I love your videos and advice! It would be awesome to get a grooms perspective! What do grooms imagine the day to be like? What was his timeline? Etc.
You're so cute ☺️ your videos make me think I can actually plan my wedding 😅 (I have a small budget so not having a planner). And yes I'd love a groom's perspective. Much love! Xx
Great video! I always watch them all the way through. I'd love to know how to gauge the professionalism of a vendor. I'm working on choosing a photographer and day of coordinator and I'd love to learn how to vet them appropriately.
Also, how to you ensure your guests aren't cramped in your venue? How many feet do you need between tables and on the dance floor?
Hey Jamie! First of all, love love LOVE your videos. ❤️ You have no idea how much you have calmed me down when it comes to wedding planning. 😬 I have 2 questions that I’m hoping to get your thoughts on:
1. What are your thoughts about a dress code for a wedding? For ex. Please only wear neutral colors?
2. What are some tips you have for making it clear about NO kids at wedding?
Thanks in advanced! Can’t wait for your next video! I watch them all while I’m “sweating for the wedding!” Makes the time on the treadmill tolerable lol
I always wanted to know where the bridal party puts their phones during the wedding ceremony, Like after the wedding do they leave it in the cars or the rooms they get ready in? I also see that pockets in wedding dresses is a thing now I think it's cool
Mosa. The. Queen as a bridesmaid I have left my bag with my partner for one wedding. Another wedding we all gave our bags to Mum (who was MOB) and she held on to them for the ceremony. For my wedding I plan on having a small bag and leaving with Mum for the ceremony as she will come in the car with me. After ceremony will give my phone to husband to put in his pocket in case we want to snap a selfie whilst off getting photos.
Love it as always! I don’t mind your long intros(they don’t seem long to me). I like longer TH-cam videos in general, but that’s just a personal preference
Mee too!
Totally agree
Yes please! Part 2 how to be a wedding planner!❤❤
I would love to see a video on cocktail style receptions!! Pros, cons and flow of the day! Love your videos!
Me too
Hi Jamie! Love your videos. Can you please please please do a video explaining the ROLES OF DIFFERENT VENDORS! I feel like there is a lot of talk about coordinator vs. planner, but what about everybody else. Like what is the difference between florist and decorador? Stylist, caterers...and so on.
I enjoy your intros because your personality shows in them too so eye roll to whoever told you to stop them lol
I really need tips on planning a wedding with two languages and cultures! I’m English & he’s Norwegian and we’re trying to use both languages and traditions and it’s so hard!
From BOTH your instagrams! Yes yes yes get your hubbys perspective!!!!
can we see your favorite wedding diy projects right now. More wedding stories. Best center pieces decor must haves
You are completely awesome!! Your videos have been so helpful with the planning process; you've no idea how lost I am with this whole thing. This might seem kinda basic, but I'd like to see a video of what actually happens DURING the ceremony. 😭 I've no clue besides the vows what's supposed to/could go on, and anyone I ask advice from is extremely unhelpful.
OMG. Look at those lashes! So pretty! Falsies, lash extensions, or just new mascara?
On RSVP though, only ONE (1), yes 1, person RSVPed for my wedding. (To be fair with our guests, we're in the Philippines and people are not so used to that... maybe?). The guestlist was driving me nuts 2 weeks before the wedding so WE (my husband and I) decided to let the invitations do their jobs with limiting the guests according to the number of seats mentioned on their invites. We had 35 people in excess, but the venue was gracious enough to wave the corkage fee for the extra food my in-laws brought in! So everyone lived Happily Ever After. :) AND Jamie, I never stopped watching your videos after I got married last January 26th. Love you to bits.
Yess, please have your husband come on! I would love to know what are groomsmen expectations (to groom and vice versa), their roles, maybe his (or your) tips on how to rent/buy tuxes, anything that is groom or groomsmen related. My fiance does not have any sisters and I don't have any brothers, so we are kind of clueless as of how to do this and what we should do for them.
Also, insight on what it's like to have a big bridal party, who pays for what (I'm sure it depends on what you are doing and budget limits) but if I have a good idea of what to know, I can pass it along to my husband-to-be, because we are both the first to get married in our families and we are LOST. Well, me not so much with all of your awesome videos!! 😘 THANK YOU!!
When you coming to Boston to plan mine?! 🥰🥰
Tips on how to save money on flowers?
More how to become a wedding planner videos please! Interested future planner here!
Your videos have been so incredibly helpful during my wedding planning process! Can’t thank you enough!! Would you be able to make a video on or answer in your videos how to ensure that people don’t bring their children to the wedding 😂 We are having a backyard wedding and are nervous when we write on the invite Mr. & Mrs. Smith... they may bring the whole family. Also do you have an opinion on FAQ pages on personal wedding websites? What to include on that page?
Oh and a love love your videos, but do you know of any other similar youtube channels with as good quality content?
Hii✨ you're phenomenal!! So greatful for you and your content.! How did you find your wedding dress??
Sorry if i missed that already
Could you talk about hotel blocks and transportation for the wedding party/guests?
Traditionally who pays for what parts of the wedding. For example: grooms parents pays for wedding cake.. etc
Pleaseeeee make a video about destination weddings! Do's, don't's, any advice would be wonderful!!
Yes please ☺
Video idea: different wedding venues (ceremony/reception)
Please what do you think of a diy photo booth???
PETS in the wedding event! Would love to hear any advice, stories, experience you have had!
So I’ve recently been really into your wedding planning videos, & they’re amazing and really give me inspiration for what I want. I do have a few question: do I need to have a wedding website?
Hi Jenn! I love your content. Entertaining yet straight to the point. Can you do a video on tipping vendors? I’ve heard mixed recommendations about tipping vendors that own their own business vs not (e.g. photographer vs staff at a catering company or venue). May even be awkward but what about a coordinator? Also is 20% the right amount even if the service is $5-12k?
Jamie can you do a video on wedding pictures? I think the important pictures are the candid fun pictures with friends and family. Others think its the posed pictures.
Also, what are your thoughts on bridal party joining the cocktail hour? Then still making a 'grand entrance'
I guess I feel missing the entire cocktail hour for photos silly. And while the pictures will be beautiful, pictures of everyone at the cocktail hour interacting would be more fun to look at 20-30 years from now. But maybe I am wrong.
I love the intros
Oh, I forgot to ask in your planner vs coordinator video... do coordinators carry that supply/emergency bag/kit
Hi Jamie! Do you have a video or can you do a video on the ins and outs of other events leading up to and around weddings? LIke engagement party, bridal showers, bachelorette/bachelor parties, rehearsal dinners, arrival/departure brunches. Do you have to have all of them if not which ones are important to focus on and what is the proper etiquette of who plans and pays for them and who should attend or be invited to each? Additionally, budget ways to hosts these events that guests won't frown at, like is it okay to host a rehearsal dinner at a restaurant and everyone pays for their own meal? Any guidance or help here would be great. Love your videos I so wish I found you earlier in my planning process.
Will you do videos on the reception? I’m new to your channel and I see nothing but conversations about weddings. I am doing my first reception for 300-400 ppl. I have 6 months and I’m
quite winging it rn. 🗣HELP‼️
More details on how to became a wedding planner, please!
Oh thank goodness for uploading. I’m going completely crazy over wedding planning. Watching your videos make me excited to the celebration.
Chey Nicole same!
Yes girl, I'm the first to get married out of everyone and I'm already tempted to just elope, her videos help keeping me motivated to stick out and do it right!
Jahiedy Vinas I’m also the first one in my family to get married. It’s hard because the last time my mom planned a wedding was hers almost 30 years ago! I’m trying to get over the venue hump, but after I book a venue it should be fun again. Keep the wedding hope alive! 🤞🏾
@@cheynicole6779 yes! That's exactly where I'm at too with the venue!! Still hunting! I hope you find the right one for you!!
Winter Weddings: What is a pretty and effective way to heat an outdoor space? How do I find the right wedding insurance?
What I would love to know is some advice for incorporating loved ones who have passed away into your wedding! Especially if one of the parents of the bride or groom passed away and is not present for the wedding. In my case my Mom passed away almost 3 years ago and I want to "have her there" without really "being there" so to speak! And also just advice on proper etiquette for all aspects of handling that!
We are going to save a seat for his dad who isn't with us any more. I know some people like to bring a nice photo along too.
Tori Z. I saw where one girl hung small framed pictures (almost like lockets) of people they had lost but wanted to be there, on her bouquet. So they 'walked down the aisle' with her. I thought that was sweet.
Please do a honeymoon planning advice video!!!!
Question! We’re having a family friend dj our wedding and thinking about the ceremony, what would be the best way for music with that? I’ve read people use an iPod or cd and that can have complications with timing. I’ve also gotten recommendations for hiring a school band or local musicians to have during. What is your opinion on ceremony music and is it essential? We will be having the ceremony and reception in the same venue but different buildings.
Sorry if you have already done a video on this but I would love advice on invitation etiquette. If I want to save money and not do Save the Dates, how soon should I send out the invites, how do you word it for divorced parents, etc. Thanks!
Jamie, yes for a #2 for a how to wedding planner. I have my business name, logo.... thank you 😊
I am not engaged at the moment, but I have spent a lot of time trying to figure out my dream wedding(I am a major procrastinator usually, so the more of this I get done before I do have to actually start planning, the better) and I am stuck on a few things.
One of the biggest is: I am planning to invite all of my family(aunts, uncles, and cousins), but there is one set(an aunt, her new husband, and a cousin) who dramatize everything. They've repeatedly told others that a few of my family aren't part of the family because of something petty. I really don't want my aunt there, but I know there will be even more drama if I don't invite them.
Hey Jamie! I have been watching so many of your videos recently and they are crazy helpful!! Do you have any tips for a wedding with two brides? Me and my fiancee are slowly realising how many wedding details are based around gender. Like what do we do about walking down the isle? Who gives speeches?? Any help would be gratefully received xxx
What do you think about disposable cameras at the guests table & to be handed in at the end? Waist of $? My fiancee wants to do it. Thank you
I want to know more info on having a min wedding at a bed and breakfast. I live in new England and there’s so many great places less than 5 hours away everything out there is about destinations far away tropical.
Yes, please bring your husband on! So curious.
Hi Jamie! Regarding the tablecloths, my wedding planner is offering to purchase them for us (she owns her own storage unit of rental items that she loans out to her brides). It would be, of course, cheaper if she bought them for us and we paid 50% of the cost (which is her proposal) than renting them from a typical rental company. Do you think I should take her up on her offer given I won't be responsible for ironing / set up / tear down / cleaning of the tablecloths or still rent them? Also, wondering if I should warn her given your troubles with tablecloths!
Jamie, what do you suggest when it comes to family merging two weddings into one. My brother decided to get married a month before my wedding and wont be having a reception. I'm worried that my family will be trying to take our wedding and ceremony to celebrate both.
If I've decided I want to hire a day-of wedding coordinator, how do I vet them to make sure they're going to be good and actually help? I've heard some horror stories of people hiring planners or coordinators and it not going how they had hoped.
I think reviews from previous clients on weddingwire.com together with those on theknot.com are super helpful in weeding through potential vendors.
I'm a bride who's a little stressed about the seating chart. I wasn't sure if it was optional to have one, but I think it's necessary. I don't want all of my guests playing musical chairs and bumping around tables, spots that aren't filled due to an odd party number, etc. However, half of my guests are white and the other half are Mexican. And while there's no extreme tension, I know that my Mexican family feels a certain way being around white people. They think we're stuck up, they act very nervous, and it's a very awkward situation. A lot of my Mexican guests don't speak a lot (or any) of English, so I don't want that awkward moment where my guests can't talk with each other. I'm thinking that I'm going to group tables by families and put groups that are close to each other, together. This way conversations can flow, there won't be any awkwardness, etc. However, I have this dream vision that everyone will come together and our families "will become one" lol. I wish there were more videos on this topic of multicultural weddings and how damn stressful it all is. I wasn't expecting this AT ALL, but it's turning out to be on the top list of stressors. The seating, the food, the music, the traditions, etc. It's insane!
We are having the same issue. Future son in law's family speaks mostly spanish and we are white. So we want to group together for comfort. But it feels like it's coming out spanish on one side of the dance floor, white on the other.
Next 'problem' is going to be the music lol
Blend tradition, food and music, keep guests separated by families, doesn't matter if you have all white and all mexican table. Everybody will have more fun, and will engage the amount they feel comfortable with, and that might be more than you expect...
Flower Petal, I agree. It kind of made me sad to divide and not blend everyone but they will all feel more comfortable that way.
But the dance floor and margarita bar will be a different story!!
Do you have any suggestions for alternatives for a father of the bride dance??? Me and my dad are very close but would be very uncomfortable dancing but my fiance's mom really wants a dance. Is this an all or nothing kind of thing or do you have any recommendations for alternatives?
I have a coordinator question for you. My caterer provides a month of coordinator, they are also doing all our rentals, insurance, set up, tear down, and bartenders (we get to provide the alcohol so we can keep the cost in check and have anything that is left - or return it) in addition to the food and cake. Besides our photographer they are basically the only vendor we have coming to the venue (separate but the caterer has done other weddings there). BUT we are having the ceremony at our church - 20 minutes away so the coordinator most likely will need to be at the reception venue during the ceremony getting everything ready since we dont get the building until that morning and they have to literally bring in a kitchen because it is a castle hall (reproduction 1000 - 1300's style) so has absolutely nothing in it. Should I find out if the vestry at church provides a coordinator there to help with the sending people in thing? I know the altar guild will take care of setting up our decor and filling the candles but I dont know about getting the ceremony started. We have to cross a large courtyard to get from the parish house where we will be hiding out before hand into the church which is its own building - and we will be hiding upstairs because the only bathrooms are in the Parish House (church building dates to the early 1800's and has had no additions since). Not sure how that is all going to work - but I dont want to hire a second coordinator when we already have one for the reception.