Andrew, I just listened to your video The Test twice. I will be listening it several times in the future, it is excellent. Very helpful. May God continue to richly bless you, dear soul. You, indeed, are an angel. Thank you ✝️🙏🏻🕊️😇🌸💯🦋☀️🌳🌎❤️
Dealing with a narcissist will test all of your mental, emotional and physical faculties. Narcissism is something that never turns off. A narcissist will simply wear you out. They will drain you until their is nothing left. I am sooooo grateful not to have them no longer in my life! I am so free!
I never forget that If their lips are moving they’re lying. Prayer, meditation and investing in myself daily. As Andrew always says, I must come 1st,2nd&3rd. Thats how I pass the tests. Now its easier to see clearly & maintain boundaries. There is a calmness that comes. Never give up on yourself.
I can truly testify that GOD himself thru a relationship with him & by His validation, love, support & faithfulness, I am now healing from narcissistic abuse
It sounds like you've swapped one illusion for another. Remember, God is unproven and there is no evidence linking one to your progress - so don't sell yourself short. Life has been tough and YOU found a way through it, like we all are. No need to insert a God in there in my humble opinion.
Having hard time leaving the NARC...? You STAY, guaranteed PAIN, FOREVER.... !!! You LEAVE, still PAIN, but LIGHT at the end of the tunnel, GUARANTEED !!!
Yeah Andrew I passed all tests in flying colors but not this. … thank you so much for sharing …I got my freedom back. .. I’m free as a bird ….you take care and merry Christmas to you …
Thank you, Andrew! What a difficult, hard, hard TEST! For me , the narcissist was my husband of nearly 50 years. In the last 20 years, I have had multiple therapist tell me that it is surprising that I am still here. Now, I will say it. It is surprising that I am still breathing on earth after all he (and his family of flying monkeys) put me through.
I was in a relationship that really wounded me for years. Too young to know what was going on. Now I know and I told my children to learn all about looking for behaviours predicting a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath. Yes there is good and evil and we need knowledge about it to stay clear. I suffered twice, now I will not have a relationship to a man any more. Because I attract narcissists and I still do not trust my own judgement. Thank you Andrew for sharing knowledge we do not learn in school !
How can one human being treat another in such an awful way, it feels like pure evil, it hurts, and still being tested. One day I hope to pass the test and find me again. Thankyou again Andrew, you are helping more people than you probably know. God bless you.
I know...from our perspective it does not compute. They have zero empathy and use everything and everyone around them. It is self and selfishness on steroids the root of evil. Me vs We
God bless you beloved as well. I just wanted to comment to you respectfully Because at our core, we are selfish beloved. But I tell you this most people who are shocked at this evil, in this day and age, are still hearing God in their spirit. If one ever stops hearing from God (if you have true salvation btw if you could lose it that'd make God a liar, correct? In the Scriptures) Evil everywhere. It's insane the insanity going on. But if you are a trust in Christ YOU WILL will find you again. His forgiveness, grace, and mercy lavished upon us. We would be amiss if we did not acknowledge the evil and praise the Almighty God for His protection and grace. The true discernment by the Breath of Yaweh of good and evil. A mighty blessing from Yaweh. I am a Believer in God Almighty this may have been too much for just a comment, but I actually love other people and want to encourage you to pass your test! I hate all this evil and it breaks my heart. May I pray for you, please? The Lord bless you and keep you. The Lord shine His face on you and be gracious to you. The Lord turn His face toward you and grant you SHALOM. In the name of Yeshua (heb) Jesus the Christ. I pray for you to pass your test beloved Lady. I know the Lord Himself knows the answer. Amen. (Sorry so long)
...they expect you to provide for ALL their needs! ...If you are not able to read their minds- expect to be punished for your failing. They are so sick in the head.
"Isolation was my ex and my mother's most powerful weapon". The best thing I did was walk away. Soon, the people that didn't want to get involved started to reach out on their own, and I recovered long lost friends. Stay strong.
The whole planet has been tested to the limit and sadly many have been lost along the way. A true narcissist’s sole aim is to divide and conquer: relationships families communities towns organisations/departments
I feel like every day of my life is a test. I flunked at the narcissistic relationship...I didn't even know what it was until recently. My last birthday I spent with the narcissists was the worst birthday of my life...I am viewing as many videos about narcissism and empaths and learning, but some days it's 1 step forward and 2 steps back...but I am not a quiter. I don't ever want to be in that position again, to be abused.
@@gratefultobehere thank you. I'm working my fanny off trying, friend...too bad the fanny doesn't seen to be shrinking...lol. it's not the life tests that I mind as much as those pesky pop quizzes that pop up without any warning, just like in high school. I always chocked and flunked them, but I always managed to pass the class by sheer will and determination. I hope your tests are successful miss chelsea.
@@משהדרום Keep watching Andrew's videos and others like them, learn all you can and even on the days you feel like giving up, and you will have them, a certainly do, take those days to rest if you can, and start again the next day, or so when you feel strong enough. Just don't give up, keep studying for your own personal life tests, and you will make it to graduation. I hope to graduate one day too...we all will, and pass along the torch to light the way for newbies. Andrew is a great example, and a great teacher.
It lasted 23 years. But when I saw these videos, I found healing. I've been no contact for a year and my broken heart is healed. Thank you for your help.
The way you describe the narcissist cracks me up Bubbles of friends and blowing up relationships! 😂 So true! You’ve done about 760 videos and each one you have personally addressed each comment others have made! That is amazing that you take the time to do that Andrew ❤ Really appreciate all your videos!
So true! Being tested was a daily practice with the ex narcissist in my life. Totally Jekyll and Hyde! It does take a huge amount of time to heal and that is a test in itself. It truly is a test but no matter how long it takes, the test itself should tell you how worthy you are- how strong you are and how resilient you really are. Embrace the test, post narcissistic relationship and take your time getting educated and aware. 🙏💙🙏
I've been through it so many times, family, friends, boyfriends, fiance, work colleagues, acquaintances....I can't live in this world anymore there's only so many times you can heal before being completely and utterly broken and they still keep coming until you have nothing and your dead.
I try to live my life now the way i want to live and not depend on anyone else for my happiness. I no longer involve myself in anything that doesn’t suit me and I am learning to put myself first. Keep listening to Andrew….he’s been through it all and is well equipped to help you and he will ❤️❤️❤️
Luckily, we have great people such as yourself that turned their own bad experience into an amazing one with sharing and educating us with your knowledge! Wonderful community that's here and been doing great on my healing because of it.
Powerful video and worthy of watching it again. This is a guiding light for me: keep focus on myself and heal my vulnerability. One day at the time. It is an uphill battle to do this as narcissist demand attention. Thank you 🙏 Andrew. ❤
@@emilywilson7308 I am hiding my name to feel safe from the narcissist and his large family. This way I am able to be more authentic in my sharing. When I am on my own, I will disclose my real name.
You're 100% correct. There was no honeymoon, no trips, no dinners out, no birthday celebration. Just talk, talk talk. I finally told him to stop. It was embarrassing. He will never get why our relationship failed. That's ok, now. I'm free.
I still can't believe how into I got into a relationship focus only in his needs. But, I awaken, got out of it, healing and learning so much. Thanks...🥰
Oh my God! Yes being tested…. so many times that I got tired of having to prove myself to everybody. But one day after watching an episode of The Oprah Winfrey show, I started asking myself… why am I always the one that has to prove myself and make all the effort. Who are proving themselves to me? And the answer was nobody. The narcissists have the ability to make people feel like we owe them something all the time and that we must produce results. The results that they expect of us. They are masters at it. So they test us often to see where our limits are. Or if we have limits. Just like a child that pushes the parent’s boundaries.The narcissistic abuse test is the ultimate test of a lifetime. It is a huge lesson to learn. But I was raised to believe that when you have past the test and mostly learned that lesson, you won’t need to relive that experience in this lifetime again. So, when life throws a challenge at us it is to make us grow. And we have to face it head on and ask ourself; what is the lesson I have to learn from this? You asked for the veterans on your channel to comment so I thought I would share this with everyone.Thank you Andrew and have a great evening. Love you! 😘💜🙌
One of the lessons I’ve learned from it all,Marie, is looking after myself first. Don’t always find it easy as I’m not used to doing that….but I will try from now on and pause and ask myself, ‘is this suiting me personally’???? Then with calmness decide🙂🤗
"You will keep meeting the same person in a different body until you learn the lesson." It took me a very long time (a lifetime, really) to understand that simple statement. We are programmed (as co-dependents) to keep attracting narcs and keep taking the test-until we learn. Some of us don't trust ourselves anymore to make the right choices. Some of us have lost ourselves in the pursuit of making the unworkable work for years, only to realize it was all an illusion. Some of us are still hanging to threads of excuses to stay in emotionally abusive relationships. Some of us are still wondering if we're the narc (hint: if you're wondering, you're not it). The commonality? There's something "off" with us too... Realizing it, putting our finger on it, admitting it, mourning it, and working on it is half the test. As a narc magnet, I personally feel one lifetime isn't enough. Thank you, Andrew, for helping all of us keep our head above the water and remembering that to some extent "it's not us", and that we serve our purpose best by also remembering that to some extent, "it is us". (hard one to swallow, I know)
Well said! I am narc free for 15 years but I was a narc magnet all my life. I had no idea I was an empath. It took several narc abuse relationships over about 15 years to finally understand. The answer is educatio and healing childhood trauma
Recently I made a big decision that altered the course of my life. Not leaving the narc, that was done a while ago. I decided to be completely honest about everything in my life, hide nothing. One of the narc's most useful tools of control is secrecy. Taking that away from the narc and being free of it felt great and continues to feel great. Keep up the great work Andrew. You and others like you inspire others.
Yea it was a testing time, baby steps one day at a time. It will take time, a band aid is no good for a stab wound. You really have to think logically not emotionally , your whole body mind and soul was attacked. Once you get your mind around the madness and accept we were mislead ,duped,.and taken advantage of we package it and put it to rest, Then we will see things more clearer, we can then start to heal acknowledge and move forward,.I played a comfort song , (I can see clearly now the rain has gone) Neil Diamond from the 70s,it helped me .I also started a Journal that helped ,I got it all down on paper on my progress daily it was like therapy, I pledge to pray for all you beautiful Empath,s that you get abundant strength and your light and goodness and authenticity never dims.lots lots love and blessings.and Joy sent to each of you on Andrews Channel, Remember this is only a set back Soon you will see HOW FAR.YOU HAVE ALLREADY COME,Blessings and encouragement and compassion 🤗🤗💞💞💞💞🙏🙏🙏🙏🇨🇮
Very true! They're soul crushers. So thankful to have had my eyes opened and that The Most High helped me break free!! They won't ever change, but we can change. We can move on and pursue mental and emotional health and healing. Being raised by one leaves you primed for narcs to be drawn to you throughout the rest of your life. Learning the key cues and making you're checklist of tests to give others will help in your future in not allowing narcs to own you. It 100% takes work!! It's worth the effort tho.
I read a book called Boundaries that helped at the beginning of my journey in healing. It took more than a few good books. It took years and 100% removal of the narc from my life. I never allow anyone to make me feel guilty for protecting myself from abuse. For me it's no one's business WHY I cut a narc out. That's 1 thing you will have to be okay with....the mis- judgments and wrong opinions of others make it difficult but it will help strengthen you if you let it.
It is a very lonely healing. And now, w/COVID at 12% here, life is very isolating. Plus, w/what we have learned, it is challenging to meet people let alone quality humans. Still, for the most part Freedom Rocks and better late than never ❣️
I consider myself to be a newbie to the Nac nightmare! 22 years in, two years in recovery ,education & healing! Thank You so much Andrew for helping to educate& inform on the Nac reality! I can truly say, that I passed the test! Yay! no going back for me! Much love & respect Andrew! The key like is to heal yourself & go within! I have to thank the Nac for that!
Well done 🙌 wonderful to hear I was 33 years in nearly a year out (January) your words have given me so much inspiration.... I too will pass the test healing everyday 🙏 god bless ❤️
Your completely right. Growing up I knew they were tests, but I called them punishments. My mum would say “if you don’t do what I’m telling you, your going to get punished”. This sounds a lot like an old boss who tried to befriend me, but once I realised she had no integrity, I stopped talking to her as much as she pitted a few co workers against me and tried to make me look bad; she never told me about an important meeting, the next day I was taken in for disciplinary procedure and her boss asked me if I wanted to work there. It was honestly one of the worse times of my life because I never expected to be bullied by a boss in a company. I think I need to go back to therapy to sort a few things out, so thanks. Your videos are eye opening even more than I work I’ve already done, and clearly still need to do.
Brilliantly said, Andrew. After suffering narcissistic abuse, you really do have to dig into your own history to see what led you to it the encounter with these evil beings. I never really believed people could be evil until my mercifully brief dance with that devil. The enormous burden of recovery the narcissist places on it’s victims calls for HUGE amounts of personal strength and perseverance, and a lot of personal excavation. Make no mistake, it is one of the most challenging events one can ever encounter in their lives. It is, without a doubt, probably the toughest climb I have ever had. Still on the recovery trail. Thank you for what you do for all of us. Blessings.
Excellent video Andrew. I’ve been tested never again. Did much better in college. Got all A’s. What happened? Life happened. Learned so much. Thank you you are an awesome teacher. Namaste 🙏🥰🌈🌏💥
Marvellous video Andrew and marvellous lessons therein. If only I could have heard you speak many years ago it would have gone a long way to help especially when no one was on my side. He was too handsome, too charming and too clever......I didn’t have a chance. He was so attentive toward me up until the wedding .....then the very next day ‘boom’ he completely changed. It was all about him and he stole my life. Thank The Lord for you Andrew in your teaching and wisdom educating people against these evil folk and drawing attention to their traits🙏
I totally understand you! I was always degraded and put-down by the narc. He was always picking-on-me. What a coward! I helped him so much. I deeply believe that a narcissist doesn’t know who they are. The narcissist that I lived with didn’t want to grow. He stayed the same for years. I don’t feel sorry for people that don’t want to grow and or educate themselves to better themselves. All humans have a will to want to succeed or stay the same. I choose to move forward and learn as much as I can. I know that I will never learn everything, but this doesn’t matter, as long as I learn what I believe is important to contribute in society. Thank you for this teaching. I love the background. It’s beautiful. Take care! ❤
You're right about the half truths. They admit certain things which turns out they regret telling you the whole scenario. That would put them in a narcissistic spiral.
If this is the 1st video you listen to Andrew, or recently joined 'our chosen family' my advise to you is listen twice, even a 3rd time. Make notes and apply the wisdom in your life. Andrew will speed up your healing journey and on days that you are sad or backslide or hear a song or go over pictures taken during the love bomb stage THEN IMMEDIATELY replace your thoughts with the light bulb goes on tomes- many incidents that the narcissist devalued humiliated deceived you, lied to you and on purpose hurt you. Andrew thank you, you are my daily VITAMIN A!! We love you too.
I tell myself every day. Its their appalling behaviour and conduct that is responsible for their removal. ,no contact , it's a difficult thing to do but a must for my mental health.
Tested by the narcissist all the time. Not knowing up from down. It’s like goi g through the fun house of mirrors. Truly blessed to be away from a narcissistic relationship. I’m taking every day to get back to me. I have had dark days but also truly blessed happy days right now.
I am 110% sure I'm in one of these Relationships. Been in it for going on 6years in April of 2023. We have a 3year old together. I typically am a very social person but since the relationship start that has diminished to almost nothing. My time is dedicated to my lover and her kids cause she's got 3other kids that aren't mine, I've been raising her kids since we got together she is using them to get my attention focused on her and the kids. Numerous friends have warned me but I've been to stubborn to listen. I am at a point now where I need to get my health back and my balls out of her pocket and back on me where they belong. My issue is, is she's going to use my 3year old son against me and try taking him away from me. I'm bi-polar & ADHD with an Impulse issue. I am medicated and it does help me tremendously I need my son in my life. And I don't wanna see him in a broken home if divided parents. How do I Erase her block her and get her outta my life when we have a kid together? So I can start to get my health back and start Rebuilding everything I used to have?
Gosh yes I’m being tested today, his back around declaring undying love but I’m not answering or meeting up for coffee. I’ve come too far now and I’m not going back . I’ve fostered a strong sense of self and boy am I firmly protecting it. ❤
A dear friend told me Spirit will provide a Test of the same lesson ( disguise differently) to Test if you did learn the lesson or continue the cycle. I personally found this to be true, I allowed the cycle to go around actually three times. However, No More 🙏 😁 I finely completely healed and learned Narc experience. With the help of Andrew, I continue to invest myself and cherish each moment!! Altitude of Gratitude ❤️ 🌺 🌞 🐾 I am a veteran and shining forward! Thank you Andrew!! Many Blessings for you and your love, devotion to help us recover and thrive. ❤️ 🙏 💯😇🎶
I’m back listening to your channel Andrew! Unfortunately I gave into being manipulated and drawn into the madness again! I actually believed him this time as he seemed so different and treated me so lovely and respectful……. 8 weeks later here I am again totally broken after receiving a txt saying he’s over me and will find someone younger and beautiful. I was feeling quite ill with a virus and he called me and wanted me to go to his home and I dared to say no because of how I was feeling…… obviously you don’t ever say no to a narcissist. Here I go again on the path of healing a broken spirit and heart!
Move on and change the locks to your door and heart. You can heal and do it. You mistook abuse for love, the wires got crossed somewhere. Its kind of like Stockholm syndrome
Yep the test we never studied for didn’t even know we were being tested thank you so much Andrew loves the sunshine love the pine trees silver in your hair your white smile powerful message the encouragement always so uplifting I need that thank you 🙏 😌💌🙏🌈
It’s the favorite game of the narcissist,to keep you off balance. They’ll put a lot of thought into the methods to play you then delight as they watch things unfold. Hiding your keys as an example. Undermining your parenting by giving the phone back. They really enjoy the games they play on you.
Thanks thanks thanks Andrew!! For these very usefull online help. Although many people not always reacting to your post be convident that we all appreciate it!! You are not alone Andrew!
I am amazed, at how many of the pieces of the puzzel are still being revealed. You show us/me where to look, and and we/ I find answers. Then seeing the pieces myself/ourselves, we can start putting them together. I have learned extraordinary control over my emotions when being tested. I suppose that's one of the benefits of having been with narcissists(?). Much love ❤
The financial isolation is the worst. Narcissist don't even want you to have car. They want you so financially destroyed that you'll be either walking or riding a bicycle and living on rice and beans.
Yes it was a test. A test I cannot believe I passed. Every day of my life I was tested. Over and over again until finally after the death of the narcissist I was married to for 24 years passed away. I know he was more shocked than I was that he was not able to break me. He was not able to destroy me after giving it everything he had. That test taught me how strong I am and even though I have a ways to go I know now that I am on the right path and im going to be OK.
Lighting is gorgeous spilling in on this video. Love that. You explained this test today with clarity. I believe it is the 3rd test in the three versions of tests (for those not born in): •the pre-test (when the narcissist is testing prior to deciding to clamp their fangs in someone) •the test while in relationship •the post-test (you described) Pretty sure most of us are high achievers here on the channel since most probably fell into serving and giving and as you say “to a fault” so I’m guessing we all passed the first two versions with 4.0 gpa’s. I’ll be focusing on building myself now and pour my high achiever drive into me and avoiding all other narcs and their ridiculous tests. Thank you. Great video ❤
Truly it is very important to be frank about the amount of work that goes into recovery from this, it's even worse if you grew up in a home with narcissistic parents. Realistic expectations allow us to internally justify self-compassion and patience. If that sounds daunting, remember the narcissist is not somebody that deserves your envy. They're not what they appear to be, on the contrary they are completely wretched and in deep misery. It may also be difficult to understand just how powerful you become once you've healed and learned how the game is played, these individuals will have so little power over you it's laughable. Keep plugging.
Awesome, strong talk...very grounding! The healing journey is not linear...but with continued support of this community, I do see growth. Stick with your own healing journey...it's worth it!
Andrew, he has been stealing my energy. Lots of very intense energy, especially at nights. Although my mom is deceased, I know that she was narcissist but as a kid I did not know that now even the word narcissist. My pastor is a narcissist.
Andrew, this wasn’t rough. It was frank. No nonsense, honest. I’ve told so many ppl to watch your channel and I describe you like this- Andrew is like having a friend who is also an expert in narcissism. You aren’t therapist-y in the ‘soft sell’ way that therapists talk. And that just fine! There’s plenty of soft talking therapists out there. I watch a couple and there’s a place for that. But I like having a peer just talk to me with love, motivation and my best interests in mind. Like you always say, most people aren’t like that. It’s rare. We’re all so lucky to have found you and your channel. ❤️💯🥳💪🏼😎
Thank you so much Andrew! I was not only born into a narcissistic family environment but have somehow have ended up in a relationship of some sort with a narcissist over and over.. much gratitude 🙏🏽 your information and honesty is helping me and empowering me every day ❤️
Certainly earned my A+ this year .lost friends (so called ) taking abuse weekly still from her but still standing and trying to be strong … Andrew could you do a future video on how to deal with a narc when you share a child with them .. I’m staying strong just for my son till court gets her to stop
I refuse to attract narcs from here on. After a 14 year marriage to a narc 26 years ago, still pain there. Then recently I had a “friend” who I figured out was also a covert narc. I have blocked all contact. I only want to be around healthy people, life is short. God bless you, Andrew!
Thank you Today my narc son who took his father's model ... discarded me because i didnt let him to yell at me on the phone .... i helped him this year in many ways ..of course gave him money and car because he was fired from job . But andrew ! was educating myself since last july and i was preparing myself to ANY script from him ! He also wrote me that he will use our conversations that he recorded ...😅😅😅 And at last he wrote me that if i will come near him, he will call the police This was really crazy . But i was studying the lessons and i took this on account ! I am rebuilding my life at age 61 ... all my life narcs were around me , god escaped me now and gave me his arm to escape me from these trapps ! Thank you for your great information Love you ! 🥰🥰🥰
Done exactly the same with my own son. Then one day after he treated someone very badly I said NO. He discarded me like a piece of trash and it was a pain I could never have prepared for. Take care of yourself xx
Hello today and everything you are saying is absolutely true. I listen to music with earbuds on for 5hrs a day. It's not only healing, it's bringing me back to myself. So I'm also blocking out the nastiness. It's not a problem to communicate because there is no communication. Very good Test results.
Andrew, you help so much! I like how you tell it like it is. What to watch and listen for. I grew up in a very controlling devaluing environment and married into another. I was devalued and scapegoated on both sides. Narcissists stick together. My ex husband told his friends and family his concerns about me. Wow. I never had a chance. He convinced them i was the bad one, the trouble and then later I figured out I was a threat. Pretty, smart and passionate and sensitive and no real family support, so I was the perfect scapegoat. I never conformed and the one who is not missed. I'm the truthteller. You cant tell your truths to narcissists or anyone. You're right. No one understands. They look at me and call me a victim when all I wanted was to tell my family and friends what happened. Unfortunately, they love my charming ex. I've had to let people go because of the lack of compassion. No one likes a truthteller even if the person is obviously been abused and has anxiety. So I appreciate learning here. Thank you Andrew and peoples comments when yall speak your truths!
6 months into no contact and im realising more things about myself everyday… beautiful things about myself that had to be suppressed to psychologically survive the never ending narcissistic onslaught. Always walk away from unacceptable behaviour.
Just got discarded this week. He broke up with me over my throwing a massive fit over his constant triangulation of me with other women and making it appear innocent. Also making me look like a lunatic. So he discarded me for reacting to his triangulation of me!! How about that? And as you said Andrew, they pick the opportune time. In this case, right before Christmas and while I have been home recovering from the flu.
I was always trying to do everything I could to get his approval and love as I had with my mother. Then afte 22 years of cohabitation, I thought what if I just accept I am never gonna get it and next time he winds me up I will let the ball drop and not pick it up as I had time and time again before. I thought he was a twin flame , there to teach life lessons then when I found your channel and reviewed all the things in my life and my time with him, I realised he was a Narcissist and knowing I would not get normal closure helped me move on without any. I had left once before for nearly 4 years but because I was trauma bonded I went back and did another 22 year sentence 😢. I am in 3rd phase but only second day of new me without him. It is very hard as he is living in house next door while I have retreated to Annexe. ut at least I have a boundary, but I still miss the relationship and caring for someone but I will learn and it will get better as I experience my freedom. Free at last! Thanks. so much for videos. You have certainly saved me .
I remember all the tests and always being told I was wrong and dumb. And all the excuses I made for why they were like that. It was draining and endless. Once I had my light bulb moment and and saw the relationship as the chaotic and toxic mess it was I was so much better for it. Thank you for the content you create, it has been a gigantic help
I do agree with you Lisa….in my case I was never believed by the very people who should have helped…..Tested to the hilt….Now with Andrew’s teaching, the fog is gone and I can think clearly now 🤗
I tell you this is one of the hardest things to get over in life a narcissistic relationship! It's crazy that I get good days where I feel like I'm almost healed then I get days when I just don't want to get out of bed to face the day. It is a rollercoaster of emotions I just can't wait till I'm completely healed. I had to be with a narcissist because all of the other past relationships I've been in I got over them pretty quickly and can move on but with this one it was just different and after I researched on alot of narcissistic abuse channels most of the things you guys or women are saying is checking alot of boxes on what I went through in my relationship. Like I said before I just can't wait till I heal and can completely feel better.
I’m going through the same thing Chris. For me, he gave me covid in January and the devaluation started about a month later. I now have long covid including a clot in my jugular vein. The lies, deceit, cheating and gaslighting have been unreal. How did I not know what I was dealing with? He got me sick and took advantage of my weakness. I’m struggling to heal from this on top of everything else. Prayers for your healing
@@TheLisajoyce Thank you the same for you as well ❤️ These people are so selfish and heartless we must learn to love ourselves again and pick up the pieces these individuals left in there wake of destruction. I wish you the best on your healing journey. 💛🧡💜
I did past the narcissist test. I'm still alive. Didn't think I would make it. But here I am. But... I am reliving that life because the narc is and has been testing my son and he is hurting like I used to. It's so freaking sad.
Andrew, I just listened to your video The Test twice. I will be listening it several times in the future, it is excellent. Very helpful.
May God continue to richly bless you, dear soul.
You, indeed, are an angel. Thank you
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OMG so true!!!! Took me decades to even understand what these folks were. They do not even seem human.
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My soul was never at peace when I was with him. I was always anxious.
Yes and it’s a terrible terrible feeling I was never so liberated as when i finally got out of that relationship
Dealing with a narcissist will test all of your mental, emotional and physical faculties. Narcissism is something that never turns off. A narcissist will simply wear you out. They will drain you until their is nothing left. I am sooooo grateful not to have them no longer in my life! I am so free!
Agree 100%.
I named my car , FREEDOM
Inspiration ❤
Me too! Finally serenity. No more temper meltdowns, abuse, sleep deprivation.
Yes they are like vacuum. Totally destructive, invasive and parasitic.
Everything is FOR ME and WHAT I WANT from now on. Totally LOVING this♥️🥇
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Thanks for always picking these beautiful backdrops of nature. The trees and their bark are incredibly beautiful!!
I never forget that If their lips are moving they’re lying. Prayer, meditation and investing in myself daily. As Andrew always says, I must come 1st,2nd&3rd. Thats how I pass the tests. Now its easier to see clearly & maintain boundaries. There is a calmness that comes. Never give up on yourself.
I can truly testify that GOD himself thru a relationship with him & by His validation, love, support & faithfulness, I am now healing from narcissistic abuse
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It sounds like you've swapped one illusion for another. Remember, God is unproven and there is no evidence linking one to your progress - so don't sell yourself short. Life has been tough and YOU found a way through it, like we all are. No need to insert a God in there in my humble opinion.
Having hard time leaving the NARC...?
You STAY, guaranteed PAIN, FOREVER.... !!!
You LEAVE, still PAIN, but LIGHT at the end of the tunnel, GUARANTEED !!!
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This is the test of your life. It most certainly is. I can't put into words how grateful I am that you created the channel Andrew 🙏
Same
So true, Louise! ❤️ 🙏
Me too
Ditto ❤️
Yeah Andrew I passed all tests in flying colors but not this. … thank you so much for sharing …I got my freedom back. .. I’m free as a bird ….you take care and merry Christmas to you …
Thank you, Andrew! What a difficult, hard, hard TEST! For me , the narcissist was my husband of nearly 50 years. In the last 20 years, I have had multiple therapist tell me that it is surprising that I am still here. Now, I will say it. It is surprising that I am still breathing on earth after all he (and his family of flying monkeys) put me through.
Never to late to move on from the nightmare. You can learn and grow and blossom as you recover
I am so sad this has happened to you. I see a fresh new start in store for you!😊😇🤩💚💖
Yup. Stay well.
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I love your comment ❤️
We Are Spiritual Beings living a human experience as soon as the narcissistic relationship ends your real life begins
Every single word and sentence this man speaks is 100% undiluted TRUTH. He is a Messenger of Light.
I was in a relationship that really wounded me for years. Too young to know what was going on. Now I know and I told my children to learn all about looking for behaviours predicting a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath. Yes there is good and evil and we need knowledge about it to stay clear. I suffered twice, now I will not have a relationship to a man any more. Because I attract narcissists and I still do not trust my own judgement. Thank you Andrew for sharing knowledge we do not learn in school !
WHOOOOOOO!! Don't want another JOB!!Nor another Project. WAY TOO MUCH WORK!!! I AINT NO DUDES SLAVE!!😆
Boundaries and narcissism should be taught in middle and high school! Many of us may have chosen very different paths.
Should be taught in elementary school junior high and High School at least the warning signs so you know what to look fore ........
How can one human being treat another in such an awful way, it feels like pure evil, it hurts, and still being tested. One day I hope to pass the test and find me again. Thankyou again Andrew, you are helping more people than you probably know. God bless you.
I know...from our perspective it does not compute. They have zero empathy and use everything and everyone around them. It is self and selfishness on steroids the root of evil. Me vs We
You past the test u acknowledged the truth..block delete them.
You're right. Pure evil. Demons. Biblical demons. I know. Very well.
God bless you beloved as well. I just wanted to comment to you respectfully Because at our core, we are selfish beloved. But I tell you this most people who are shocked at this evil, in this day and age, are still hearing God in their spirit. If one ever stops hearing from God (if you have true salvation btw if you could lose it that'd make God a liar, correct? In the Scriptures) Evil everywhere. It's insane the insanity going on. But if you are a trust in Christ YOU WILL will find you again. His forgiveness, grace, and mercy lavished upon us. We would be amiss if we did not acknowledge the evil and praise the Almighty God for His protection and grace. The true discernment by the Breath of Yaweh of good and evil. A mighty blessing from Yaweh. I am a Believer in God Almighty this may have been too much for just a comment, but I actually love other people and want to encourage you to pass your test! I hate all this evil and it breaks my heart.
May I pray for you, please?
The Lord bless you and keep you. The Lord shine His face on you and be gracious to you. The Lord turn His face toward you and grant you SHALOM. In the name of Yeshua (heb) Jesus the Christ. I pray for you to pass your test beloved Lady. I know the Lord Himself knows the answer. Amen. (Sorry so long)
Never let your guard down, Monsters know only themselves...
🎯 Great advice. 🙏😇
Pass This Test!
Lesson Learned- So it won’t Happen Again!
Thankful for the
Education/wisdom!
God bless you, you're really a good man ! Thank you so much for your time and help 💯👍🙏
...they expect you to provide for ALL their needs! ...If you are not able to read their minds- expect to be punished for your failing. They are so sick in the head.
"Isolation was my ex and my mother's most powerful weapon". The best thing I did was walk away. Soon, the people that didn't want to get involved started to reach out on their own, and I recovered long lost friends. Stay strong.
Everything is competition to them. Their pettiness is over the top. Can’t expect much from an empty shell. TY Andrew❤
The whole planet has been tested to the limit and sadly many have been lost along the way. A true narcissist’s sole aim is to divide and conquer:
relationships
families
communities
towns
organisations/departments
I feel like every day of my life is a test. I flunked at the narcissistic relationship...I didn't even know what it was until recently. My last birthday I spent with the narcissists was the worst birthday of my life...I am viewing as many videos about narcissism and empaths and learning, but some days it's 1 step forward and 2 steps back...but I am not a quiter. I don't ever want to be in that position again, to be abused.
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You’re an over comer. And you are rising.
Dear mary , i feel the same
I am 61 all surrounded with narcsistic ex husband and narc children making my best to start finally new chapter
@@gratefultobehere thank you. I'm working my fanny off trying, friend...too bad the fanny doesn't seen to be shrinking...lol. it's not the life tests that I mind as much as those pesky pop quizzes that pop up without any warning, just like in high school. I always chocked and flunked them, but I always managed to pass the class by sheer will and determination. I hope your tests are successful miss chelsea.
@@משהדרום Keep watching Andrew's videos and others like them, learn all you can and even on the days you feel like giving up, and you will have them, a certainly do, take those days to rest if you can, and start again the next day, or so when you feel strong enough. Just don't give up, keep studying for your own personal life tests, and you will make it to graduation. I hope to graduate one day too...we all will, and pass along the torch to light the way for newbies. Andrew is a great example, and a great teacher.
It lasted 23 years. But when I saw these videos, I found healing. I've been no contact for a year and my broken heart is healed. Thank you for your help.
Welcome always 🙌💯🙏
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The way you describe the narcissist cracks me up
Bubbles of friends and blowing up relationships! 😂
So true!
You’ve done about 760 videos and each one you have personally addressed each comment others have made! That is amazing that you take the time to do that Andrew ❤
Really appreciate all your videos!
So true! Being tested was a daily practice with the ex narcissist in my life. Totally Jekyll and Hyde! It does take a huge amount of time to heal and that is a test in itself. It truly is a test but no matter how long it takes, the test itself should tell you how worthy you are- how strong you are and how resilient you really are. Embrace the test, post narcissistic relationship and take your time getting educated and aware. 🙏💙🙏
Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌☀️
It takes time to heal from this abuse It is unbelievable to realize that you have been so dumb to not see it!
You are not dumb, you were trapped in a dream of what you needed!
I've been through it so many times, family, friends, boyfriends, fiance, work colleagues, acquaintances....I can't live in this world anymore there's only so many times you can heal before being completely and utterly broken and they still keep coming until you have nothing and your dead.
I try to live my life now the way i want to live and not depend on anyone else for my happiness. I no longer involve myself in anything that doesn’t suit me and I am learning to put myself first. Keep listening to Andrew….he’s been through it all and is well equipped to help you and he will ❤️❤️❤️
Luckily, we have great people such as yourself that turned their own bad experience into an amazing one with sharing and educating us with your knowledge! Wonderful community that's here and been doing great on my healing because of it.
Me too!
Yes, me too!
Powerful video and worthy of watching it again. This is a guiding light for me: keep focus on myself and heal my vulnerability. One day at the time. It is an uphill battle to do this as narcissist demand attention. Thank you 🙏 Andrew. ❤
@@gorunsko31 what is your name?
@@emilywilson7308 I am hiding my name to feel safe from the narcissist and his large family. This way I am able to be more authentic in my sharing. When I am on my own, I will disclose my real name.
You're 100% correct.
There was no honeymoon, no trips, no dinners out, no birthday celebration. Just talk, talk talk. I finally told him to stop. It was embarrassing. He will never get why our relationship failed. That's ok, now. I'm free.
I still can't believe how into I got into a relationship focus only in his needs. But, I awaken, got out of it, healing and learning so much. Thanks...🥰
Oh my God! Yes being tested…. so many times that I got tired of having to prove myself to everybody. But one day after watching an episode of The Oprah Winfrey show, I started asking myself… why am I always the one that has to prove myself and make all the effort. Who are proving themselves to me? And the answer was nobody.
The narcissists have the ability to make people feel like we owe them something all the time and that we must produce results. The results that they expect of us. They are masters at it. So they test us often to see where our limits are. Or if we have limits. Just like a child that pushes the parent’s boundaries.The narcissistic abuse test is the ultimate test of a lifetime. It is a huge lesson to learn. But I was raised to believe that when you have past the test and mostly learned that lesson, you won’t need to relive that experience in this lifetime again. So, when life throws a challenge at us it is to make us grow. And we have to face it head on and ask ourself; what is the lesson I have to learn from this? You asked for the veterans on your channel to comment so I thought I would share this with everyone.Thank you Andrew and have a great evening. Love you! 😘💜🙌
One of the lessons I’ve learned from it all,Marie, is looking after myself first. Don’t always find it easy as I’m not used to doing that….but I will try from now on and pause and ask myself, ‘is this suiting me personally’???? Then with calmness decide🙂🤗
@@margaretrussell7202 Yes i agree. That is what i call being on the right track and taking good care of ourself. Thank you for your wisdom. 😇❤🙏
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"You will keep meeting the same person in a different body until you learn the lesson." It took me a very long time (a lifetime, really) to understand that simple statement. We are programmed (as co-dependents) to keep attracting narcs and keep taking the test-until we learn. Some of us don't trust ourselves anymore to make the right choices. Some of us have lost ourselves in the pursuit of making the unworkable work for years, only to realize it was all an illusion. Some of us are still hanging to threads of excuses to stay in emotionally abusive relationships. Some of us are still wondering if we're the narc (hint: if you're wondering, you're not it). The commonality? There's something "off" with us too... Realizing it, putting our finger on it, admitting it, mourning it, and working on it is half the test. As a narc magnet, I personally feel one lifetime isn't enough. Thank you, Andrew, for helping all of us keep our head above the water and remembering that to some extent "it's not us", and that we serve our purpose best by also remembering that to some extent, "it is us". (hard one to swallow, I know)
Well said! I am narc free for 15 years but I was a narc magnet all my life. I had no idea I was an empath. It took several narc abuse relationships over about 15 years to finally understand. The answer is educatio and healing childhood trauma
Andrew is my healing angel 😘😘😘👍👍👍🙏🙏🙏🍀🍀🍀
Recently I made a big decision that altered the course of my life. Not leaving the narc, that was done a while ago. I decided to be completely honest about everything in my life, hide nothing. One of the narc's most useful tools of control is secrecy. Taking that away from the narc and being free of it felt great and continues to feel great. Keep up the great work Andrew. You and others like you inspire others.
@D ..."One of the narc's most useful tools of control is secrecy."-- SO true.
Yea it was a testing time, baby steps one day at a time. It will take time, a band aid is no good for a stab wound. You really have to think logically not emotionally , your whole body mind and soul was attacked. Once you get your mind around the madness and accept we were mislead ,duped,.and taken advantage of we package it and put it to rest, Then we will see things more clearer, we can then start to heal acknowledge and move forward,.I played a comfort song , (I can see clearly now the rain has gone) Neil Diamond from the 70s,it helped me .I also started a Journal that helped ,I got it all down on paper on my progress daily it was like therapy, I pledge to pray for all you beautiful Empath,s that you get abundant strength and your light and goodness and authenticity never dims.lots lots love and blessings.and Joy sent to each of you on Andrews Channel, Remember this is only a set back Soon you will see HOW FAR.YOU HAVE ALLREADY COME,Blessings and encouragement and compassion 🤗🤗💞💞💞💞🙏🙏🙏🙏🇨🇮
Very true! They're soul crushers. So thankful to have had my eyes opened and that The Most High helped me break free!! They won't ever change, but we can change. We can move on and pursue mental and emotional health and healing. Being raised by one leaves you primed for narcs to be drawn to you throughout the rest of your life. Learning the key cues and making you're checklist of tests to give others will help in your future in not allowing narcs to own you. It 100% takes work!! It's worth the effort tho.
I read a book called Boundaries that helped at the beginning of my journey in healing. It took more than a few good books. It took years and 100% removal of the narc from my life. I never allow anyone to make me feel guilty for protecting myself from abuse. For me it's no one's business WHY I cut a narc out. That's 1 thing you will have to be okay with....the mis- judgments and wrong opinions of others make it difficult but it will help strengthen you if you let it.
wow me too
It is a very lonely healing. And now, w/COVID at 12% here, life is very isolating. Plus, w/what we have learned, it is challenging to meet people let alone quality humans. Still, for the most part Freedom Rocks and better late than never ❣️
I consider myself to be a newbie to the Nac nightmare! 22 years in, two years in recovery ,education & healing! Thank You so much Andrew for helping to educate& inform on the Nac reality! I can truly say, that I passed the test! Yay! no going back for me! Much love & respect Andrew! The key like is to heal yourself & go within! I have to thank the Nac for that!
Well done 🙌 wonderful to hear
I was 33 years in nearly a year out (January) your words have given me so much inspiration.... I too will pass the test healing everyday 🙏 god bless ❤️
Your completely right. Growing up I knew they were tests, but I called them punishments. My mum would say “if you don’t do what I’m telling you, your going to get punished”.
This sounds a lot like an old boss who tried to befriend me, but once I realised she had no integrity, I stopped talking to her as much as she pitted a few co workers against me and tried to make me look bad; she never told me about an important meeting, the next day I was taken in for disciplinary procedure and her boss asked me if I wanted to work there. It was honestly one of the worse times of my life because I never expected to be bullied by a boss in a company.
I think I need to go back to therapy to sort a few things out, so thanks. Your videos are eye opening even more than I work I’ve already done, and clearly still need to do.
Excellent point Andrew… passing the test is putting the narcissist behind me and knowing and learning about MYSELF!
True, ,, so over the test. I'm ready to face the truth
Brilliantly said, Andrew. After suffering narcissistic abuse, you really do have to dig into your own history to see what led you to it the encounter with these evil beings. I never really believed people could be evil until my mercifully brief dance with that devil. The enormous burden of recovery the narcissist places on it’s victims calls for HUGE amounts of personal strength and perseverance, and a lot of personal excavation. Make no mistake, it is one of the most challenging events one can ever encounter in their lives. It is, without a doubt, probably the toughest climb I have ever had. Still on the recovery trail. Thank you for what you do for all of us. Blessings.
So true, it is a bad world out there. So be careful.
Excellent video Andrew. I’ve been tested never again. Did much better in college. Got all A’s. What happened? Life happened. Learned so much. Thank you you are an awesome teacher. Namaste 🙏🥰🌈🌏💥
Namaste 🙏
I'm picking up my shattered heart daily. I hope 2 b free someday, until then it is God who gets me through the trials.
Marvellous video Andrew and marvellous lessons therein. If only I could have heard you speak many years ago it would have gone a long way to help especially when no one was on my side. He was too handsome, too charming and too clever......I didn’t have a chance. He was so attentive toward me up until the wedding .....then the very next day ‘boom’ he completely changed. It was all about him and he stole my life. Thank The Lord for you Andrew in your teaching and wisdom educating people against these evil folk and drawing attention to their traits🙏
Thanks Andrew, I needed to hear this message today.
Welcome ☀️🙌🙏
I totally understand you! I was always degraded and put-down by the narc. He was always picking-on-me. What a coward! I helped him so much. I deeply believe that a narcissist doesn’t know who they are. The narcissist that I lived with didn’t want to grow. He stayed the same for years. I don’t feel sorry for people that don’t want to grow and or educate themselves to better themselves. All humans have a will to want to succeed or stay the same. I choose to move forward and learn as much as I can. I know that I will never learn everything, but this doesn’t matter, as long as I learn what I believe is important to contribute in society. Thank you for this teaching. I love the background. It’s beautiful. Take care! ❤
I agree totally !
Great Message Andrew!
Exactly what I needed to hear - the test of my lifetime. God Bless You - Now & Always!
Dealing with a narcissist should be part of education
U r sooooo rite on, about tests!!! 21 mo post narc. Healing path brings tests almost everyday!!!
You're right about the half truths. They admit certain things which turns out they regret telling you the whole scenario. That would put them in a narcissistic spiral.
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The isolation almost feels like being locked in the attic.
If this is the 1st video you listen to Andrew, or recently joined 'our chosen family' my advise to you is listen twice, even a 3rd time. Make notes and apply the wisdom in your life. Andrew will speed up your healing journey and on days that you are sad or backslide or hear a song or go over pictures taken during the love bomb stage THEN IMMEDIATELY replace your thoughts with the light bulb goes on tomes- many incidents that the narcissist devalued humiliated deceived you, lied to you and on purpose hurt you. Andrew thank you, you are my daily VITAMIN A!! We love you too.
Thank you for sharing 💡💡😌🙌😇
I tell myself every day. Its their appalling behaviour and conduct that is responsible for their removal. ,no contact , it's a difficult thing to do but a must for my mental health.
Excellent video. Most of what you said resonated with me. If anyone finds themselves in a NAR they would be wise to follow your videos and advice.
Tested by the narcissist all the time. Not knowing up from down. It’s like goi g through the fun house of mirrors. Truly blessed to be away from a narcissistic relationship. I’m taking every day to get back to me. I have had dark days but also truly blessed happy days right now.
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I am 110% sure I'm in one of these Relationships. Been in it for going on 6years in April of 2023. We have a 3year old together. I typically am a very social person but since the relationship start that has diminished to almost nothing. My time is dedicated to my lover and her kids cause she's got 3other kids that aren't mine, I've been raising her kids since we got together she is using them to get my attention focused on her and the kids. Numerous friends have warned me but I've been to stubborn to listen. I am at a point now where I need to get my health back and my balls out of her pocket and back on me where they belong. My issue is, is she's going to use my 3year old son against me and try taking him away from me. I'm bi-polar & ADHD with an Impulse issue. I am medicated and it does help me tremendously I need my son in my life. And I don't wanna see him in a broken home if divided parents. How do I Erase her block her and get her outta my life when we have a kid together? So I can start to get my health back and start Rebuilding everything I used to have?
Gosh yes I’m being tested today, his back around declaring undying love but I’m not answering or meeting up for coffee. I’ve come too far now and I’m not going back . I’ve fostered a strong sense of self and boy am I firmly protecting it. ❤
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A dear friend told me Spirit will provide a Test of the same lesson ( disguise differently) to Test if you did learn the lesson or continue the cycle. I personally found this to be true, I allowed the cycle to go around actually three times. However, No More 🙏 😁 I finely completely healed and learned Narc experience. With the help of Andrew, I continue to invest myself and cherish each moment!! Altitude of Gratitude ❤️ 🌺 🌞 🐾 I am a veteran and shining forward! Thank you Andrew!! Many Blessings for you and your love, devotion to help us recover and thrive. ❤️ 🙏 💯😇🎶
I’m back listening to your channel Andrew! Unfortunately I gave into being manipulated and drawn into the madness again! I actually believed him this time as he seemed so different and treated me so lovely and respectful……. 8 weeks later here I am again totally broken after receiving a txt saying he’s over me and will find someone younger and beautiful. I was feeling quite ill with a virus and he called me and wanted me to go to his home and I dared to say no because of how I was feeling…… obviously you don’t ever say no to a narcissist. Here I go again on the path of healing a broken spirit and heart!
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Move on and change the locks to your door and heart. You can heal and do it. You mistook abuse for love, the wires got crossed somewhere. Its kind of like Stockholm syndrome
No contact is key
Yup, tested to the core. Thanks Andrew 💙
Every topic resonates with me. Thank you Andrew!
Yes I believe this was a test. I had to figure out that I am worthy I had to fight for myself. I get it now. Thank you so much Andrew always. ❤
Yep the test we never studied for didn’t even know we were being tested thank you so much Andrew loves the sunshine love the pine trees silver in your hair your white smile powerful message the encouragement always so uplifting I need that thank you 🙏 😌💌🙏🌈
Gaslight is word of the year. Never heard it before you explained it to me. Good job. Education is the key. Thank you ❣️☺️❣️
It’s the favorite game of the narcissist,to keep you off balance. They’ll put a lot of thought into the methods to play you then delight as they watch things unfold. Hiding your keys as an example. Undermining your parenting by giving the phone back. They really enjoy the games they play on you.
@hhhhhhhh127 I don’t know what “chat me up” means.
Thanks thanks thanks Andrew!! For these very usefull online help. Although many people not always reacting to your post be convident that we all appreciate it!! You are not alone Andrew!
I am amazed, at how many of the pieces of the puzzel are still being revealed. You show us/me where to look, and and we/ I find answers. Then seeing the pieces myself/ourselves, we can start putting them together.
I have learned extraordinary control over my emotions when being tested. I suppose that's one of the benefits of having been with narcissists(?).
Much love ❤
The financial isolation is the worst. Narcissist don't even want you to have car. They want you so financially destroyed that you'll be either walking or riding a bicycle and living on rice and beans.
Yes it was a test. A test I cannot believe I passed. Every day of my life I was tested. Over and over again until finally after the death of the narcissist I was married to for 24 years passed away. I know he was more shocked than I was that he was not able to break me. He was not able to destroy me after giving it everything he had. That test taught me how strong I am and even though I have a ways to go I know now that I am on the right path and im going to be OK.
Good riddance. You are free
Thank you. Yes it's a test. I'm on a healing journey. I've had my awakening. I'm on the path. I can't thank you enough for your work ❤
Helping me get through everyday with these insightful videos,thank you and namaste
Much Love and Peace to you Andrew 🥰❤️💯🙏
Thank you 🙏☀️🙌
Lighting is gorgeous spilling in on this video. Love that.
You explained this test today with clarity. I believe it is the 3rd test in the three versions of tests (for those not born in):
•the pre-test (when the narcissist is testing prior to deciding to clamp their fangs in someone)
•the test while in relationship
•the post-test (you described)
Pretty sure most of us are high achievers here on the channel since most probably fell into serving and giving and as you say “to a fault” so I’m guessing we all passed the first two versions with 4.0 gpa’s.
I’ll be focusing on building myself now and pour my high achiever drive into me and avoiding all other narcs and their ridiculous tests.
Thank you.
Great video ❤
Excellent Andrew it’s so true I had no idea which way was up but i defO felt very low down in their presence.
Super true bhro 💯
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Truly it is very important to be frank about the amount of work that goes into recovery from this, it's even worse if you grew up in a home with narcissistic parents. Realistic expectations allow us to internally justify self-compassion and patience. If that sounds daunting, remember the narcissist is not somebody that deserves your envy. They're not what they appear to be, on the contrary they are completely wretched and in deep misery. It may also be difficult to understand just how powerful you become once you've healed and learned how the game is played, these individuals will have so little power over you it's laughable. Keep plugging.
Thank you for sharing 🙏☀️🙌
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Deep gratitude, Andrew.
It's a job , getting rid of them.
Awesome, strong talk...very grounding! The healing journey is not linear...but with continued support of this community, I do see growth. Stick with your own healing journey...it's worth it!
Andrew, he has been stealing my energy. Lots of very intense energy, especially at nights. Although my mom is deceased, I know that she was narcissist but as a kid I did not know that now even the word narcissist. My pastor is a narcissist.
Andrew, this wasn’t rough. It was frank. No nonsense, honest. I’ve told so many ppl to watch your channel and I describe you like this- Andrew is like having a friend who is also an expert in narcissism. You aren’t therapist-y in the ‘soft sell’ way that therapists talk. And that just fine! There’s plenty of soft talking therapists out there. I watch a couple and there’s a place for that. But I like having a peer just talk to me with love, motivation and my best interests in mind. Like you always say, most people aren’t like that. It’s rare. We’re all so lucky to have found you and your channel. ❤️💯🥳💪🏼😎
Yes agree 💯
Awesome video, Andrew. Tough stuff, but I needed it. Thank you!
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Thank you so much Andrew! I was not only born into a narcissistic family environment but have somehow have ended up in a relationship of some sort with a narcissist over and over.. much gratitude 🙏🏽 your information and honesty is helping me and empowering me every day ❤️
Certainly earned my A+ this year .lost friends (so called ) taking abuse weekly still from her but still standing and trying to be strong … Andrew could you do a future video on how to deal with a narc when you share a child with them .. I’m staying strong just for my son till court gets her to stop
I refuse to attract narcs from here on. After a 14 year marriage to a narc 26 years ago, still pain there. Then recently I had a “friend” who I figured out was also a covert narc. I have blocked all contact. I only want to be around healthy people, life is short. God bless you, Andrew!
Thank you 🙏
I like Silver the Hedgehog cause he's a peaceful fellow and I'm autistic he calms me down.
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Today my narc son who took his father's model ... discarded me because i didnt let him to yell at me on the phone ....
i helped him this year in many ways ..of course gave him money and car because he was fired from job .
But andrew ! was educating myself since last july and i was preparing myself to ANY script from him !
He also wrote me that he will use our conversations that he recorded ...😅😅😅
And at last he wrote me that if i will come near him, he will call the police
This was really crazy .
But i was studying the lessons and i took this on account !
I am rebuilding my life at age 61 ... all my life narcs were around me , god escaped me now and gave me his arm to escape me from these trapps !
Thank you for your great information
Love you ! 🥰🥰🥰
Done exactly the same with my own son. Then one day after he treated someone very badly I said NO. He discarded me like a piece of trash and it was a pain I could never have prepared for. Take care of yourself xx
@@loopyloo788 thank you loopy , i am doing my best to recover and rebuild my life . Please do as much as you can
@@משהדרום You too my lovely. 🤗
Hello today and everything you are saying is absolutely true.
I listen to music with earbuds on for 5hrs a day. It's not only healing, it's bringing me back to myself. So I'm also blocking out the nastiness. It's not a problem to communicate because there is no communication. Very good Test results.
Above and beyond the level of human endurance.
Andrew, you help so much! I like how you tell it like it is. What to watch and listen for. I grew up in a very controlling devaluing environment and married into another. I was devalued and scapegoated on both sides. Narcissists stick together. My ex husband told his friends and family his concerns about me. Wow. I never had a chance. He convinced them i was the bad one, the trouble and then later I figured out I was a threat. Pretty, smart and passionate and sensitive and no real family support, so I was the perfect scapegoat. I never conformed and the one who is not missed. I'm the truthteller. You cant tell your truths to narcissists or anyone. You're right. No one understands. They look at me and call me a victim when all I wanted was to tell my family and friends what happened. Unfortunately, they love my charming ex. I've had to let people go because of the lack of compassion. No one likes a truthteller even if the person is obviously been abused and has anxiety. So I appreciate learning here. Thank you Andrew and peoples comments when yall speak your truths!
I recently went no contact. Period. Healing. Very important reminders. Moved out of country. Walk and Don look back.
True facts 💯 Thank you Andrew. What a true blessing you are 🙏🌍
6 months into no contact and im realising more things about myself everyday… beautiful things about myself that had to be suppressed to psychologically survive the never ending narcissistic onslaught. Always walk away from unacceptable behaviour.
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Just got discarded this week. He broke up with me over my throwing a massive fit over his constant triangulation of me with other women and making it appear innocent. Also making me look like a lunatic. So he discarded me for reacting to his triangulation of me!! How about that? And as you said Andrew, they pick the opportune time. In this case, right before Christmas and while I have been home recovering from the flu.
I was always trying to do everything I could to get his approval and love as I had with my mother. Then afte 22 years of cohabitation, I thought what if I just accept I am never gonna get it and next time he winds me up I will let the ball drop and not pick it up as I had time and time again before. I thought he was a twin flame , there to teach life lessons then when I found your channel and reviewed all the things in my life and my time with him, I realised he was a Narcissist and knowing I would not get normal closure helped me move on without any. I had left once before for nearly 4 years but because I was trauma bonded I went back and did another 22 year sentence 😢. I am in 3rd phase but only second day of new me without him. It is very hard as he is living in house next door while I have retreated to Annexe. ut at least I have a boundary, but I still miss the relationship and caring for someone but I will learn and it will get better as I experience my freedom. Free at last! Thanks. so much for videos. You have certainly saved me .
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I remember all the tests and always being told I was wrong and dumb. And all the excuses I made for why they were like that. It was draining and endless. Once I had my light bulb moment and and saw the relationship as the chaotic and toxic mess it was I was so much better for it. Thank you for the content you create, it has been a gigantic help
I do agree with you Lisa….in my case I was never believed by the very people who should have helped…..Tested to the hilt….Now with Andrew’s teaching, the fog is gone and I can think clearly now 🤗
It is a wonderful feeling too❤
I tell you this is one of the hardest things to get over in life a narcissistic relationship! It's crazy that I get good days where I feel like I'm almost healed then I get days when I just don't want to get out of bed to face the day. It is a rollercoaster of emotions I just can't wait till I'm completely healed. I had to be with a narcissist because all of the other past relationships I've been in I got over them pretty quickly and can move on but with this one it was just different and after I researched on alot of narcissistic abuse channels most of the things you guys or women are saying is checking alot of boxes on what I went through in my relationship. Like I said before I just can't wait till I heal and can completely feel better.
I’m going through the same thing Chris. For me, he gave me covid in January and the devaluation started about a month later. I now have long covid including a clot in my jugular vein. The lies, deceit, cheating and gaslighting have been unreal. How did I not know what I was dealing with? He got me sick and took advantage of my weakness. I’m struggling to heal from this on top of everything else. Prayers for your healing
@@TheLisajoyce Thank you the same for you as well ❤️ These people are so selfish and heartless we must learn to love ourselves again and pick up the pieces these individuals left in there wake of destruction. I wish you the best on your healing journey. 💛🧡💜
I did past the narcissist test. I'm still alive. Didn't think I would make it. But here I am. But... I am reliving that life because the narc is and has been testing my son and he is hurting like I used to.
It's so freaking sad.
The 'Test is another way of creating DRAMA......There is no FUEL in the ABSENCE OF DRAMA.....
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Andrew you've nailed it, regarding the sense of unease felt. Which morphed into anxiety.. High functioning anxiety for a while.
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