I showed my friend some of your music and now whenever he texts me he says “noahfinnce” instead of “no offense”. And every time he says “no offense” in person he smiles really big it makes my day every time
Nah i went to a military boarding school, the legit gave us gvns cuz like why not lets give a bunch of mentally unstable teenagers gvns ig (someone in a few years above una lived themself…) But like apart from that lol it was kinda fun, i goofed of with friends, was in a relationship with my roommate, got to wear fancy military uniform (I always pissed off the teachers by wearing the boys uniform lol) snuck out and explored the town nearby, i kinda miss it ngl lol I didnt go nto the army tho lol
It’s funny hearing you say that your brothers friends yelled “Zacks brother!!!” At you because the exact same thing happens to me. It’s also funny when people see it happen then try to comfort me by telling me how much I’m not a boy and how I’m so obviously a girl, when I am very clearly not a girl.
I haven’t been insulted to my face before, but my sister’s classmates knew I (the older ‘sister’) had gone to their school and when my sis began saying “brother” because I was trans and she supported me (she was the first to support me fully with no questions whatsoever), she got this reaction: “OH MY GOD! Is she/he gay???” I can’t actually remember what she said that her classmate had said to it, but it was something along the above in a mocking tone. But to think that I used to be a girl (I didn’t even fit the definition of femme back then), I definitely don’t look like it and I haven’t even transitioned medically
We (my friend group and I) came to ninth grade completely "cishet" and entered eleventh as two pan girls, a bi non-binary person, a femme non-binary lesbian and an asexual masc non-binary person AT THE EXACT SAME TIME 😭💀
As a girl whos just recently realized im on the spectrum with sensory processing disorder & also had an ED, that sounds like a nightmare!! So damaging in SO many ways!! 🥺
I had a similar experience. I went to an all girls catholic school for almost 10 years. Although the school was more LGBT friendly than other catholic schools in my country, it still sucks cuz we were taught mandatory classes on how to do our nails and makeup... Did the nails, didn't do the makeup cuz I was thankfully allergic to literally every product except for the lipstick. I wasn't exactly the most popular in our batch, but people knew me because I was the kid of one of the teachers. I got bullied on and off throughout the years because I acted weird. Turns out, the reason that I was weird in school was because I was actually trans. I had hobbies considered typically masculine. I still have a couple of friends from that school and I'm mostly cool with the other people who went there.
@@NOAHFINNCE yeah it was the weirdest thing 😭😭😭. We also had these "gala uniforms" which are essentially long sleeved white dresses that we wear during the mass. I live in a tropical country and that uniform sucks ass during February cuz summer was starting. At least the school was openly supportive of lgbtq people tho. Last I heard there was talk about accepting transwomen into the school. I know a few trans guys who came from my school tho. ALSO OMG THANK U FOR REPLYING KING U ARE GREAT AND I LOVE UR MUSIC
I went to a Christian school like my whole life and it is such a conservative echo chamber. If it wasn't for TH-cam and social media I would know pretty much nothing about the lgbt+ community.
This video really resonated with me. I often mourn the fact that I never got to have a happy childhood cos of dysphoria, was never allowed to have my hair cut and sometimes had to wear clothes I hated, and I get lowkey jealous that Noah has photos of him as a kid where he looks like himself if that makes sense (not in a ‘grr’ way just in a ‘damn I wish I had that’ way). And I didn’t get to be myself until 18 because my parents always dismissed it as a phase until 2 years ago, but I could’ve been on T now had they listened (I still love them). But this video just shows that Noah hasn’t had the perfect life at all and that sometimes your head makes you think people have better lives than you when you don’t actually know that lol
@@prettyinpinky5937 Yeah god knows! I was allowed to wear some clothes I wanted but I remember being forced into dresses and literally breaking down over it and same with haircuts, should've just cut my own hair aha
The complimenting part… I remember trying to fit in so I used mascara and a girl told me how pretty I look with it and told her clique how beautiful I was….”looking so feminine” she was really really nice and meant what she said but I remember going to the bathroom and sobbing. Because I realized how much I did NOT want to look like a pretty or beautiful girl-didn’t want to look like a girl at all.
hey noah, i go to a catholic secondary school, and i came out as trans to my school about 4 months ago. your videos give me alot of reassurance so thankyou
@@avocadoolive1484 thankfully yes,just really weird timing since in Australia, our government is a tad corrupt. Trying to protect myself the best I can but yes we are gooddd
I went to boarding school at 13 as well, it was at the end of the 90ies, which went totally different. We had the assembly every morning, we had 7 or 8 lessons a day, one hour for homework each day. Our class had maximum 12 students. My class had only 8 students, for Latin we were only 4 people, so our lessons were intense. But we were supposed to have an after school activity every day, sometimes two. I had tennis, diving, vegetarian cooking, pottery and choir. Our food was amazing, we had a cook, that cooked fresh food every day. There was always 2 dishes to choose from. Our teachers ate there as well, even the headmaster. Every day one student had kitchen duty, where we helped to prepare the dining area. There was always fresh fruit available. We could go home every weekend, except for one weekend a months where we had special events. Could be anything, but we went to theatre twice, one was the Rocky Horror Picture Show. On those weekends at school we had a fancy dinner. So fancy dresses and suits or even a tux were mandatory. We had a three course candlelight dinner with rather fancy food. It was delicious! I mentioned the Rocky Horror Picture Show, the year before I went, the students were actually performing it. Frank N. Furter was no other than our head boy! Fishnets and corset included. So yes, our school was really open minded. It was no secret, that two of the girls in 12 grade dated and still shared a room. They pushed their beds together and no one cared. We had guys dating as well. I'm glad, I had a good experience. But we were a tiny school, just about 120 students. Today it's a school for gifted children.
gosh this sounds like such an awful experience tbh. i live in a country with mandatory military service, so i can relate to a lot of the stuff you've described as i served there for two years, and even though i was 18 when i got enlisted it was very traumatic and terrible for my mental health. i can't even imagine how much worse such an experience would be for 5 of your *formative years*!!! seems like utter torture
Noah I came out last Friday and I’m beginning to transition soon I’m so excited thank you so much with your videos and your music you’ve helped me a ton. Thank you!
thats amazing!! im so happy for you! I came out september 2020, got ignored for a year and now im finally starting to medically transition (social was last year haha). good luck!!
Wow, this honestly sounds like something out of my grandfather's times to me. I knew there were still a lot of traditional/conservative private schools in the UK, but I hadn't really spent much time reflecting on it. This would pe pure torture to me. So I guess thanks for reminding me how lucky I am for the school experiences I've had.
Thank you for talking about how emotional being in the closet made you. When you talked a bout being angry at your situation and yourself I felt a huge flood of relief because I experienced those emotions in high school (still do every now and then) and, at the time, I thought I was crazy for feeling that way. I'm still in the closet but have access to LGBTQ spaces and resources now but have never heard anyone else mention anger as a side effect of being closeted. Admitting things about emotions is hard and I can't imagine doing it on the internet. Please know it is making a difference and respect for being brave enough to do that.
There is a Venn diagram where being closeted absolutely intersects with profound depression - even when you are not aware. Though it's not what people first consider, excess anger, I'd even say rage, is commonly a part of depression. Please take advantage of some of the resources! Check out Togetherall - it's available in many countries, is online, pretty much anonymous. Take care!
It makes a lot of sense for anger to be a result of an unsafe environment for fellow queer people. I’ve had this before. They know they’re stuck in a Limbo, they’re pinched between living in a body that doesn’t fit the image of themselves in their mind, and being unable to come out because their family or peers are outwardly lgbtq-phobic. The way that I’ve had this (it has happened twice now), I’ve felt like I didn’t belong *anywhere*. I don’t want to change with the girls because I don’t feel like I am a girl, and it’s very hard for me to see a future where I am a cis woman, but I can’t change with the boys because my body is still the one of a girl. I can hopefully get changes done soon, I’m almost 15 with the mind of an 18y.o
Since there were no gay people at my school I was stuck with the weird kids that no one likes :) (It wasn't fun, especially because once I got to know one of them, they made fun of LGBTQ+ people and said the n word numerous times a day)
This is so interesting to me because my school was the exact opposite. First of all, no schedule. Obviously not a boarding school. But no schedule either. Some subjects had classes, like drama or band where you obviously have to be actively participating, but most subjects’ classes were optional. They’d hold lectures, but going to them wasn’t mandatory. Most of the day was absolutely free, you could go to various places to study or just talk to your friends. You could even leave campus and go to a coffee shop if you were sneaky about it and were there for attendance. But you could even get off from school early if you told your teacher-advisor that you were going to. And there were a lot of students at the school, like 3000 or so? Some were online, most in person. Most students went there for the self-directed environment because they had a lot of other stuff going on in sports or because they had difficulty learning in a regular environment for whatever reason. There wasn’t really a dress code, though you obviously couldn’t be nude. Oh and not many restrictions on the wifi, I could definitely find porn if I tried to. I would have to try, and I think they did technically track what sites you go to, but I don’t think anyone actually monitors it lol. The food was awesome, our cooks were Vietnamese and made Vietnamese food every day (very good type of food). It was also optional, you could bring your own food and use microwaves/kettles to heat it up. Trans and gay people were generally accepted, but there we’re definitely cliques of queer people so maybe it was just everyone I knew. But there was even a point where my cis friend, who is not transphobic at all, was called transphobic for accidentally misgendering someone. So transphobia was like over-corrected in a way, at least within the people we knew. There were also clubs for people on all sorts of spectrums to join. Now, unfortunately I couldn’t enjoy this school all that much due to my incredible anxiety around people and my at that point undiagnosed ADHD in a schedule free environment, but objectively the school was awesome. And if I was on the meds I am now, and gone through the therapy I have now, I think I could’ve enjoyed it a lot. I enjoy university, and that’s kind of what that school was trying to mimic to prepare us. Very good school. Oh and I didn’t do homework. I think homework is a SHAM, it should always be optional. I got to spend time doing what I wanted to do instead of silly little math problems. I think it’s the future of schools. Edit: OH AND I FORGOT THE BEST PART: IT WAS FREE!! NO MONEY REQUIRED, JUST MAYBE FOR TRANSPORT TO AND FROM, AND I GUESS SOME CLUB FEES.
I spent my last 3 years of school in a similar institution, although it wasn't a boarding school, we did go home after the classes. But they controlled every aspect of our appearance pretty much the same as in your school. We got detention for sneezing the wrong way. There were nice teachers but most of them were really not that nice. There was a dude whose literal job was to control if people brought phones into the school (it wasn't allowed). He would run (i'm not exaggerating) around and catch people when he thought they had a phone in their pocket. He legit ripped off the pocket of my friend's trousers on one of these occasions. One time there was a guy who walked through the gate without a tie on, and one of the teachers deadass made him put the tie on and then made a knot that is impossible to undo. The dude had to chop the tie off with scissors that day. Can relate. I'm just happy i didn't figure out i was trans until after that school.
When I lived in Germany and casually mentioned CCF (which I didn’t participate in) at my international school, my friends were so confused and freaked out by it. They thought it was really fucked up
The last few minutes are such rel, since I lived with toxic parents that I was hiding being trans from. They were constantly criticizing me for different things, like when I started drawing to become interior designer, they were like „you can’t do it cause you should’ve started drawing when you were a child”. So many things like that. I just couldn’t express myself or experiment with my looks. I feel like I am sooo behind my peers right now. I’m 22, started T few months ago and feel like a 14 years old discovering who they are. - Raven
Your videos are weirdly calming for me lmao i once couldnt sleep from anxiety and then i watched your room tour video and i could get to sleep after, so thanks!
I had JROTC at school and casually came out to the whole class because some senior kept asking me out. The tiny skinny conservative kid looked so offended and looked like he wanted to start a fight, but I was so much stronger than him, so I got to watch him languish in misery the entire year.
As i'm listening to this i'm hearing a startlingly similar experience. I go to a fairly small private christian highschool in one of the most conservative provinces in Canada. I grew up in the conservative bubble and I had virtually no interaction with outside influences until I was about 14. I'm in my 12th year now and I have come out as non-binary to close friends and family. I don't hide it at school but it is not widely talked about. This year I am helping my friend start the schools first ever GSA because we have many friends in lower grades who are also a part of the community. The school legally has to give us one but the announcement has started a ripple effect through the tightly knit community and I am seeing very ugly sides to the more prominent families and the general populace. It's mostly fear I think, but there is legitimate hate and there is genuine harassment on young lgbtq people that is passed off as regular bullying. Lets just say I have it pretty easy even having a gender that most of them have never heard of. The teachers are all lovely and the principal is being a dart board for all the hate from parents, but for now we hold secret meetings in the basement...
When you talked about being the only "girl" in your chemistry class, I just though wow, I can't believe there were no girls. I did chemistry all the way through secondary school, and I would say it was one of the more equal classes in terms of gender ratio. (I finished school last year)
there were a lot more boys than girls in that school in general, just so happened that my timetable was set out so that that class didn’t have other girls haha
@@NOAHFINNCE oh okay that makes more sense now lol. I guess there was more boys cos it was previously an all boys school? Also that "We only shop at Waitrose" chant was so funny, as someone who first heard about Waitrose in a book and has never been inside one in my life haha. Also question I just thought of, did you have any kind of sex education at this school?
I was closeted for 3 years in state school, because for various reasons my situation in school/my school was so bad that I could not possibly come out, and it totally messes with your mind. I felt like I was just moving through life until the evening when I could speak to my friends online. It was honestly so weird, the only way I can sum it up is it felt like a waste of time because I was just wishing my life/time away? Would not recommend but also could not have come out and that would have made my life (somehow) worse.
Bloody hell. That sounds properly shit. I once hid from my parents making them properly afraid because i didn't feel like going to horse riding school. Which was a totally nice school. I just didn't want to. After i heard them calling for like 30 minutes i decided to come out of hiding, and then it was too late to go anyway. I would've probably disappeared into the woods if they'd have tried to send me to such a boarding school. Authoritarian people? Nopenopenopenope.
As someone who used to go to boarding school the best way I can describe it is this: Envision Hogwarts, but then take the magic out of it, take the cool lessons and architecture out of it, take the good food out, imagine the freedom out, and then scrap all of it and imagine jail.
Yeah well the arcitecture of the boarding house was great at my school as it actually used to be the summer castle of some high up royal that now rents it out to the school. But the rest spot on. Terrible food. No magic. Similar amount of stairs and walking over school grounds but much less magic with much more running because they didnt include the walking time in schedules. Extremly strict discipline (like drug tests if they even suspected you stepped foot in the netherlands during hols or walked funny and seemed kinda drunk, complete Wifi black out after 10 as this is village in a complete black spot you dont even get normal service otherwise). Schedules for every minute of your day. Sports and more active things and study time to have a pause from the active things. No houses just year groups and no uniforms though (as is the norm for my country) and generally much more shit than Hogwarts. Add on: Thankfully I wasnt a boarder as I lived the next village over but my best friend was a full boarder so stayed there pretty much always as Noah explained and we ate the exact same food in the same cafeteria as the boarders so got some experience.
@@Serenity_yt I was actually a full boarder, like full- full. My parents lived in another country so I stayed even on weekends and such and only went home for the holidays and it wasn’t great ngl.
@@apolly125 I can imagine, although Ive never boarded. My friend was from China (most foreign students were asian) and the school is in western europe, not really a weekend trip ^^. (They even had guest families for the shorter holidays)
@@Serenity_yt I boarded in England, and my parents were french so it wasn’t too far away- but I can’t imagine having a guest family even in the short times that you might get to see your parents
Thank you for answering my question! My son is in marching band at his high school, he loves it. He plays percussion, this year he played the vibraphone
So relate to a lot of this. I was sent to a private all girls school (not boarding). I got there through a grant because they had to offer a certain number of places to pupils who couldn’t otherwise afford so experienced the classism right from the start. Hated the place. I was there from age 7 to age 16. I begged all the time to leave. I was bullied for everything and like you there was absolutely no way I could risk coming out as a guy. My parents believed that to be given that opportunity was such a blessing. I suspect I will be traumatised for life.
This is so interesting to me. I’m an army cadet and the routine you described reminds me of the cadet camps i do. I do the marching and the parades but i mainly do it for the band. It’s interesting that you had to do that all the time like i go through that for a week and I’m completely shattered and need a weeks rest lmao
Do you regret not coming out while you were at school at all? Im currently debating coming out so i can have my senior year of high school to be out and actually like how i look in my yearbook.
if you think its the right time then go for it! You will look back and be super proud of yourself. but make sure to do it gradually. tell your close friends first if you haven't already and make sure you have a small group of people who support you first. I hope the best for you and i hope you have a great day/night!!
Tl;dr: I came out during my senior year and it wasn't terrible, and if you'll be miserable if you stay closeted, then you might consider coming out. It really depends on your circumstances, but I came out to my parents the summer before my senior year of high school. I went to a public school in the US, my parents were and still are super supportive, and the area I went to school in was super LGBT friendly. For the first few months, I didn't officially come out to everyone (mind you, I went to a large school, 4000+ kids), but at the beginning of the year I had emailed my teachers so I could at least put my name on assignments and stuff. I had already sort of started transitioning, so I didn't hate how I looked. During my senior portraits, I asked to wear the tux (they let me), and the photographer let me change my name that came up on my school ID. This gave me so much euphoria and confidence that I ended up coming out to my band directors that had known me since middle school and early high school. I also told my teachers to start calling me by name and using my pronouns, just sorta hoping people would catch on. I had come out online a little before so some people already knew, but not everyone. I was able to have my name changed in the year book, and then I eventually got it changed legally so I could have my real name on my diploma. I know that is kind of a long story, but if you think you'll have a good support system, then go for it. Will there be people who stop talking to you? Sure, but you probably wouldn't want to be around them anyway. You also don't have to tell everyone if you don't want to, especially if you won't see them after senior year or you're not super close to them. You really have to way the costs and benefits. If coming out is going to put you in an unsafe situation, then maybe hold off for a bit. But if you know that at least some people will be supportive, then go ahead. I know this was super long, but I hope it helps you or someone else. Good luck!
@@kadenmigdal4209 thanks so much for your opinion! I unfortunately live in a VERY conservative area with trump 2024 gear already everywhere. I have my friends that are accepting and thats all i care about. I am not worried about being physically harmed because its not that kind of transphobia where i live but more of a verbal thing. If i do come out though i will probably have to move with my dad though so thats my biggest problem lol.
Go for it! I came out too my class, it worked out more or less okay- your gonna be bullied more for it but if you know your gonna have a mostly supportive environment you should :) (don't if you feel unsafe doing so, or if you don't want too)
A lot of the naval things you did in school reminds me of when I was a sea cadet we wore naval uniforms with awful itchy jumpers, had to stand at attention and salute the flag and all that jazz along with marching, parades, rifles, rowing, survival skill etc I can't imagine having to do all that while also being in school
I really resonated with Noah talking about even people being nice hurt because he was trans and about how he wanted guys to like him, but he wanted them to like him as a guy rather than a girl. I'm a very femme trans guy. I like being that way, but it's hard because I want people to see me as a pretty guy
I realized how f*cked up my family was when you said that you can go home and be yourself without being bullied for who you are... If i wasn't who my family wanted me to be i would get beat 💀💀💀 took me years to be comfortably myself and they are still angry when I am bc I'm different from them-
PIGEON! MEAT! 😧 I also really resonate what you said about what it was like being surrounded by girls and liking guys As a gay trans guy, it helps put to words what I already felt and couldn't put to words. Being around girls and having girl friends and not relating to them was so weird - so I can only imagine the extent of it at such a school as yours. People also always thought I was a lesbian as well! People still mistaken me for a butch lesbian despite the testosterone, mens clothes, and short hair lol. Thanks for sharing your story.
I'm a closeted trans guy at an all girls catholic boarding school (although personally i don't board) and it is quite... and experience for people like me there. Lots of what noah said I was like yeah me too
OMG YOU EXPLAINING YOUR DRESSCODE REMINDED ME OF MY HIGH SCHOOL DRESSCODE . we had to wear blue polos, black pants, and dr martens. shirts had to cover your belly button with your arms up. you couldn’t have your hair in front of your ears, girls hair had to be up if they wore it long, NO HAIR BELOW THE EYEBROWS (very big emphasis on that), boys couldn’t have their hair in front of their ears and they couldn’t wear piercings of any kind. no jewelry or tattoos, unless it’s for cultural reasons, if you had gauges, you weren’t allowed to wear plugs and no face piercings or other body piercings. we had to wear solid black or solid white socks. just very strict and very conservative. although, our school was fairly accepting of the LGBTQ+ community, it was still religious and weird and just ew.
This is so bizarre! It sounds like something from the 1950s not 2017. It’s kind of funny though to think of the kids being snobby towards state school kids because you’d be ripped apart if you acted like this in a state school. Also the rule about only being able to wear one charity wristband as jewellery really tickled me lol
Man what a good video! Love the long format! Thanks a lot for making this despite being sick, I'll hope you get better soon. This made me reflect a lot on my own school years since we're close in age and damn it is a LOT looking back but I also feel quite grateful for being surrounded w/ mostly lovely ppl. Also Worms is a banger
omg i cant even start to explain how similar we are im taking a psychology course i love psychology im part of the LGBTQIA+ and i have sensory issues around food and textures, my parents are lso divorced, love ur videos and ur music had tthebest time at one of ur shows the other week
i go to an all-girls secondary school, and what you said about gays flocking towards each other definitely happens, at least in my experience lmao. all of my friends are queer, its crazy 😭
this is similar to what I have to deal with today( I'm 13 and in school) at my school I'm out to my friends that I trust about my sexuality but nobody knows that I'm genderfluid because I have a friend who used to be in my friend group who was kicked out of the group because of their pronouns and that nobody would be respectful of them. there are some people in my school that are strong allies/passionate members of the LGBTQ+ community that were Labeled as "the gay kids" because of it and would not be seen of as anything other than that. there was never any bullying because of my school's strict no bullying policy but mean comments were always made towards them on the side.
I go through the same thing. People like that are going to grow up doing something they hate cuz nobody is gonna willingly work with a toxic person- please be safe though! :)
Noah you are literally my hero if I never would've come across your singing video and dug into your channel I never would've discovered my true gender like you really have no idea how much you've helped me thru the years
Hey I am at a private Christian school and I can realate to alot of what you where talking about I had to pause the vidio at one point and just sit there like wow man this guy is like speaking what I'm living, I just wanted to thank you and it was really comforting seeing as I'm pretty closeted hoping to get braver in later years. 👍👍👍
Weirdly enough my school had some things very similar to this(like the school flag,the morning assembly every single day,strict uniform and other stuff).It wasn't a military school but it definitely felt like it.
I went to an old boarding school too where marching was an important thing (I'd go so far as to say more than at yours, as it was famous for marching into lunch every day and in parades through London and at Lord's etc). It was strict and very traditional, and the head of CCF/some other role in the school to do with security/dress code enforcement was an absolute terror, BUT to his credit he was actually very determined to make sure that the CCF was inclusive and accepting for those with different gender identities. So I guess one good aspect, just one redeeming feature of that dude that this reminded me of! We'll ignore how he was mildly misogynistic haha... I don't have a problem with the CCF at all, just when it's something forced. I'm so sorry you had a less good experience with it, but I really enjoyed this video, it made me think a lot x
You make me feel so old! Started there in 2012! 😱 I'm so old! 😅 I went to a covent school, so not military or boarding, but a lot of the other parts sound uncomfortably familiar.
Oh geez all of these remind me of being apart of jrotc (Navy). It’s very cultish and I’m so glad I left. Even though I went to a public school I had to follow the jrotc dress code. I spent 5 years in the program and should’ve been at a decently high rank but they never even ranked me up from a cadet simply because I always forgot to shine my shoes. It was a terrible time but sometimes I miss it simply because of the family like relationship we all had.
i'm a day student at an ex-armed forces school and it's something else, although we've only been forced to march once and that was to "culture" us. we are still called the "cadets"
hey, I just wanted to say you're a really cool person and watching your videos helped me come out to myself as trans and I look up at you cause... well, you're really awesome. And I've been noticing that a lot of things I go through are things you've gone through and your videos make me feel better. That part about girls wanting to do your makeup and everyone saying you'd look better with longer hair/ if you did this, really resonated with me. Thank you for helping me and countless others.
im a trans man and my name is alex which is also actually my birth name i love when any other trans guy calls themself alex, even temporarily i think it increases my power
ngl I think it's so interesting to hear about all those thing because I guess 90% would probably be illegal in Germany. Like it's not even legal for schools in Germany to have a whole school uniform. I feel really sorry for everyone who still has to go to schools like that and not be able to be themselves at all. I imagine it can be quite hard on some people that just don't feel like they belong there. Personally I'm not a fan of killing every little spark of individualism but I wish the schools I went to was a bit stricter because I think teenage me really needed that
I went to a military here in America and that school was very similar. Something that's strange is that we didn't shoot ANY guns. Lol all we did was exercise, march, and go to school mostly
I showed my friend some of your music and now whenever he texts me he says “noahfinnce” instead of “no offense”. And every time he says “no offense” in person he smiles really big it makes my day every time
aww that's so cute
thats adorable lol
THAT'S PRIME😩🤌
oh lol, ive been pronouncing his name "noah finance" because i cant read
@@whyaretheykinda lol I use to pronounce his name like "Noah fin-neace" until I heard him say it out loud 💀
noah's 'hello underachievers' makes my day every time.
It would be nasty... if it wasn't just... British :D
Omg yes
Yep!
this is so interesting and terrifying to learn about as someone who has never been to boarding school
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Nah i went to a military boarding school, the legit gave us gvns cuz like why not lets give a bunch of mentally unstable teenagers gvns ig (someone in a few years above una lived themself…)
But like apart from that lol it was kinda fun, i goofed of with friends, was in a relationship with my roommate, got to wear fancy military uniform (I always pissed off the teachers by wearing the boys uniform lol) snuck out and explored the town nearby, i kinda miss it ngl lol
I didnt go nto the army tho lol
It’s funny hearing you say that your brothers friends yelled “Zacks brother!!!” At you because the exact same thing happens to me. It’s also funny when people see it happen then try to comfort me by telling me how much I’m not a boy and how I’m so obviously a girl, when I am very clearly not a girl.
I'm Librafaun/Genderfaun and my brother tried to insult me by saying I look masculine and I said "Really? Thanks!" and he got so confused XD
I haven’t been insulted to my face before, but my sister’s classmates knew I (the older ‘sister’) had gone to their school and when my sis began saying “brother” because I was trans and she supported me (she was the first to support me fully with no questions whatsoever), she got this reaction: “OH MY GOD! Is she/he gay???”
I can’t actually remember what she said that her classmate had said to it, but it was something along the above in a mocking tone. But to think that I used to be a girl (I didn’t even fit the definition of femme back then), I definitely don’t look like it and I haven’t even transitioned medically
I go to a public highschool in Canada and yes, I can confirm that the gays flock together. Even before we knew we were gay.
Yes! All the gays are friends even when they're all in the closet. We all just /know/ even if we are in denile
We (my friend group and I) came to ninth grade completely "cishet" and entered eleventh as two pan girls, a bi non-binary person, a femme non-binary lesbian and an asexual masc non-binary person AT THE EXACT SAME TIME 😭💀
@@oops-a-davey that's just how it goes I guess😂 I mean just a few months ago I thought I was a cis girl but nope, I'm trans.
i go to a private catholic high school in canada, and i can also confirm this (as a part of the flock)
I can confidently say this is accurate
As a girl whos just recently realized im on the spectrum with sensory processing disorder & also had an ED, that sounds like a nightmare!! So damaging in SO many ways!! 🥺
I had a similar experience. I went to an all girls catholic school for almost 10 years. Although the school was more LGBT friendly than other catholic schools in my country, it still sucks cuz we were taught mandatory classes on how to do our nails and makeup... Did the nails, didn't do the makeup cuz I was thankfully allergic to literally every product except for the lipstick. I wasn't exactly the most popular in our batch, but people knew me because I was the kid of one of the teachers. I got bullied on and off throughout the years because I acted weird. Turns out, the reason that I was weird in school was because I was actually trans. I had hobbies considered typically masculine. I still have a couple of friends from that school and I'm mostly cool with the other people who went there.
MAKEUP AND NAILS CLASS??
@@NOAHFINNCE yeah it was the weirdest thing 😭😭😭. We also had these "gala uniforms" which are essentially long sleeved white dresses that we wear during the mass. I live in a tropical country and that uniform sucks ass during February cuz summer was starting. At least the school was openly supportive of lgbtq people tho. Last I heard there was talk about accepting transwomen into the school. I know a few trans guys who came from my school tho. ALSO OMG THANK U FOR REPLYING KING U ARE GREAT AND I LOVE UR MUSIC
@@pupculturejackattacc hmmmm you happen to be Filipino?
@@thecorlorlesspig1993 yeah I do!
@@pupculturejackattacc omg just saw this and me too lol
im also trans at a girls boarding school, this hit hard
that must be really tough. Hope you're doing ok :]
@@harley5.7bviews5secondsago6 hello, my fellow directioner ^^💙💚
@@mariettarumetshofer5841 OMG HI!! 💚💚💙💙
@@harley5.7bviews5secondsago6 I feel like we're literally everywhere ^^ hope you're doing alright 💙💚
@@mariettarumetshofer5841 same! There's so many of us lol
And, thank you! I'm doing ok, I hope you are too! ^^ 💚💙
I went to a Christian school like my whole life and it is such a conservative echo chamber. If it wasn't for TH-cam and social media I would know pretty much nothing about the lgbt+ community.
same
I know I’m late but same
This video really resonated with me. I often mourn the fact that I never got to have a happy childhood cos of dysphoria, was never allowed to have my hair cut and sometimes had to wear clothes I hated, and I get lowkey jealous that Noah has photos of him as a kid where he looks like himself if that makes sense (not in a ‘grr’ way just in a ‘damn I wish I had that’ way). And I didn’t get to be myself until 18 because my parents always dismissed it as a phase until 2 years ago, but I could’ve been on T now had they listened (I still love them). But this video just shows that Noah hasn’t had the perfect life at all and that sometimes your head makes you think people have better lives than you when you don’t actually know that lol
That’s exactly what’s happening to me oof. Except I’m 13 sooo
@@bruiser8820 Much love mate, and good luck in life :)
@@superdrwholock thanks man
Why didn’t they just let you be a tomboy? Weird forcing your kid to wear certain clothes. My mom would just let me go shopping with my brother.
@@prettyinpinky5937 Yeah god knows! I was allowed to wear some clothes I wanted but I remember being forced into dresses and literally breaking down over it and same with haircuts, should've just cut my own hair aha
basing my style and aesthetic off of noah for the past few years and never realizing it until now💀
I know im going to look like him when i grow up (yes we're like the same age)
The complimenting part… I remember trying to fit in so I used mascara and a girl told me how pretty I look with it and told her clique how beautiful I was….”looking so feminine” she was really really nice and meant what she said but I remember going to the bathroom and sobbing. Because I realized how much I did NOT want to look like a pretty or beautiful girl-didn’t want to look like a girl at all.
Just hearing the "Hello underachievers!" cheered me up (I lost one of my guinea pigs earlier so today has been rough)
i'm sorry about your guinea pig :((
Oh no, I'm so sorry :((
im sorry, i know how you feel. i lost one of my rats a few days ago. it sucks losing pets :(
Sorry about your guinea pig. I lost one of my cats 4 years ago and call me over sentimental but I still cry when I think about her.
hey noah, i go to a catholic secondary school, and i came out as trans to my school about 4 months ago. your videos give me alot of reassurance so thankyou
Congrats on coming out =)
@@sully0414 thankyou :D
@@riotix1196 no problem :)
Is your school accepting? :)
@@avocadoolive1484 thankfully yes,just really weird timing since in Australia, our government is a tad corrupt. Trying to protect myself the best I can but yes we are gooddd
I have never related to something more “I liked boys but in a gay way” omg littarally me
I went to boarding school at 13 as well, it was at the end of the 90ies, which went totally different. We had the assembly every morning, we had 7 or 8 lessons a day, one hour for homework each day. Our class had maximum 12 students. My class had only 8 students, for Latin we were only 4 people, so our lessons were intense. But we were supposed to have an after school activity every day, sometimes two. I had tennis, diving, vegetarian cooking, pottery and choir.
Our food was amazing, we had a cook, that cooked fresh food every day. There was always 2 dishes to choose from. Our teachers ate there as well, even the headmaster. Every day one student had kitchen duty, where we helped to prepare the dining area. There was always fresh fruit available.
We could go home every weekend, except for one weekend a months where we had special events. Could be anything, but we went to theatre twice, one was the Rocky Horror Picture Show.
On those weekends at school we had a fancy dinner. So fancy dresses and suits or even a tux were mandatory. We had a three course candlelight dinner with rather fancy food. It was delicious!
I mentioned the Rocky Horror Picture Show, the year before I went, the students were actually performing it. Frank N. Furter was no other than our head boy! Fishnets and corset included.
So yes, our school was really open minded. It was no secret, that two of the girls in 12 grade dated and still shared a room. They pushed their beds together and no one cared. We had guys dating as well. I'm glad, I had a good experience. But we were a tiny school, just about 120 students. Today it's a school for gifted children.
That's amazing!
May I ask if this was st. Afra?
@@no._.3894 No Torgelow
gosh this sounds like such an awful experience tbh. i live in a country with mandatory military service, so i can relate to a lot of the stuff you've described as i served there for two years, and even though i was 18 when i got enlisted it was very traumatic and terrible for my mental health. i can't even imagine how much worse such an experience would be for 5 of your *formative years*!!! seems like utter torture
same for my brother, he was very affected by his military service when he enlisted, the difference in him before-after is crazy too. (we are korean)
"if i was a lesbian, i probably would've had a great time"
not if you were made to hate doc martens
i'll see myself out
Noah I came out last Friday and I’m beginning to transition soon I’m so excited thank you so much with your videos and your music you’ve helped me a ton. Thank you!
Well done, I hope your doing well and your family are supportive =)
@@bluechequer thanks and they are :)
@@SnailTrailJay glad to hear it and no problem :))
thats amazing!! im so happy for you! I came out september 2020, got ignored for a year and now im finally starting to medically transition (social was last year haha). good luck!!
Congrats =)
Wow, this honestly sounds like something out of my grandfather's times to me. I knew there were still a lot of traditional/conservative private schools in the UK, but I hadn't really spent much time reflecting on it. This would pe pure torture to me. So I guess thanks for reminding me how lucky I am for the school experiences I've had.
Thank you for talking about how emotional being in the closet made you. When you talked a bout being angry at your situation and yourself I felt a huge flood of relief because I experienced those emotions in high school (still do every now and then) and, at the time, I thought I was crazy for feeling that way. I'm still in the closet but have access to LGBTQ spaces and resources now but have never heard anyone else mention anger as a side effect of being closeted. Admitting things about emotions is hard and I can't imagine doing it on the internet. Please know it is making a difference and respect for being brave enough to do that.
There is a Venn diagram where being closeted absolutely intersects with profound depression - even when you are not aware. Though it's not what people first consider, excess anger, I'd even say rage, is commonly a part of depression. Please take advantage of some of the resources! Check out Togetherall - it's available in many countries, is online, pretty much anonymous. Take care!
@@johncollinge619 That's interesting! Also, thank you for suggesting the resource!
It makes a lot of sense for anger to be a result of an unsafe environment for fellow queer people. I’ve had this before.
They know they’re stuck in a Limbo, they’re pinched between living in a body that doesn’t fit the image of themselves in their mind, and being unable to come out because their family or peers are outwardly lgbtq-phobic.
The way that I’ve had this (it has happened twice now), I’ve felt like I didn’t belong *anywhere*. I don’t want to change with the girls because I don’t feel like I am a girl, and it’s very hard for me to see a future where I am a cis woman, but I can’t change with the boys because my body is still the one of a girl. I can hopefully get changes done soon, I’m almost 15 with the mind of an 18y.o
16:49 as a person who goes to a larger school all the gays know each other/ are friends with each other.
Since there were no gay people at my school I was stuck with the weird kids that no one likes :)
(It wasn't fun, especially because once I got to know one of them, they made fun of LGBTQ+ people and said the n word numerous times a day)
This is so interesting to me because my school was the exact opposite.
First of all, no schedule. Obviously not a boarding school. But no schedule either. Some subjects had classes, like drama or band where you obviously have to be actively participating, but most subjects’ classes were optional. They’d hold lectures, but going to them wasn’t mandatory.
Most of the day was absolutely free, you could go to various places to study or just talk to your friends. You could even leave campus and go to a coffee shop if you were sneaky about it and were there for attendance. But you could even get off from school early if you told your teacher-advisor that you were going to.
And there were a lot of students at the school, like 3000 or so? Some were online, most in person. Most students went there for the self-directed environment because they had a lot of other stuff going on in sports or because they had difficulty learning in a regular environment for whatever reason.
There wasn’t really a dress code, though you obviously couldn’t be nude. Oh and not many restrictions on the wifi, I could definitely find porn if I tried to. I would have to try, and I think they did technically track what sites you go to, but I don’t think anyone actually monitors it lol.
The food was awesome, our cooks were Vietnamese and made Vietnamese food every day (very good type of food). It was also optional, you could bring your own food and use microwaves/kettles to heat it up.
Trans and gay people were generally accepted, but there we’re definitely cliques of queer people so maybe it was just everyone I knew. But there was even a point where my cis friend, who is not transphobic at all, was called transphobic for accidentally misgendering someone. So transphobia was like over-corrected in a way, at least within the people we knew. There were also clubs for people on all sorts of spectrums to join.
Now, unfortunately I couldn’t enjoy this school all that much due to my incredible anxiety around people and my at that point undiagnosed ADHD in a schedule free environment, but objectively the school was awesome. And if I was on the meds I am now, and gone through the therapy I have now, I think I could’ve enjoyed it a lot. I enjoy university, and that’s kind of what that school was trying to mimic to prepare us.
Very good school. Oh and I didn’t do homework. I think homework is a SHAM, it should always be optional. I got to spend time doing what I wanted to do instead of silly little math problems. I think it’s the future of schools.
Edit: OH AND I FORGOT THE BEST PART: IT WAS FREE!! NO MONEY REQUIRED, JUST MAYBE FOR TRANSPORT TO AND FROM, AND I GUESS SOME CLUB FEES.
I spent my last 3 years of school in a similar institution, although it wasn't a boarding school, we did go home after the classes. But they controlled every aspect of our appearance pretty much the same as in your school. We got detention for sneezing the wrong way. There were nice teachers but most of them were really not that nice. There was a dude whose literal job was to control if people brought phones into the school (it wasn't allowed). He would run (i'm not exaggerating) around and catch people when he thought they had a phone in their pocket. He legit ripped off the pocket of my friend's trousers on one of these occasions. One time there was a guy who walked through the gate without a tie on, and one of the teachers deadass made him put the tie on and then made a knot that is impossible to undo. The dude had to chop the tie off with scissors that day. Can relate. I'm just happy i didn't figure out i was trans until after that school.
OH YEAH, and we had military training as well which included parade training, shooting & other military stuff
When I lived in Germany and casually mentioned CCF (which I didn’t participate in) at my international school, my friends were so confused and freaked out by it. They thought it was really fucked up
EVERYTIME I feel like crap I just put on any one of your songs and I just immediately feel better, thank you for not being a prick.
The last few minutes are such rel, since I lived with toxic parents that I was hiding being trans from. They were constantly criticizing me for different things, like when I started drawing to become interior designer, they were like „you can’t do it cause you should’ve started drawing when you were a child”. So many things like that. I just couldn’t express myself or experiment with my looks. I feel like I am sooo behind my peers right now. I’m 22, started T few months ago and feel like a 14 years old discovering who they are. - Raven
Your videos are weirdly calming for me lmao i once couldnt sleep from anxiety and then i watched your room tour video and i could get to sleep after, so thanks!
I had JROTC at school and casually came out to the whole class because some senior kept asking me out. The tiny skinny conservative kid looked so offended and looked like he wanted to start a fight, but I was so much stronger than him, so I got to watch him languish in misery the entire year.
That's hysterical lmao 💀
As i'm listening to this i'm hearing a startlingly similar experience. I go to a fairly small private christian highschool in one of the most conservative provinces in Canada. I grew up in the conservative bubble and I had virtually no interaction with outside influences until I was about 14. I'm in my 12th year now and I have come out as non-binary to close friends and family. I don't hide it at school but it is not widely talked about. This year I am helping my friend start the schools first ever GSA because we have many friends in lower grades who are also a part of the community. The school legally has to give us one but the announcement has started a ripple effect through the tightly knit community and I am seeing very ugly sides to the more prominent families and the general populace. It's mostly fear I think, but there is legitimate hate and there is genuine harassment on young lgbtq people that is passed off as regular bullying. Lets just say I have it pretty easy even having a gender that most of them have never heard of. The teachers are all lovely and the principal is being a dart board for all the hate from parents, but for now we hold secret meetings in the basement...
When you talked about being the only "girl" in your chemistry class, I just though wow, I can't believe there were no girls. I did chemistry all the way through secondary school, and I would say it was one of the more equal classes in terms of gender ratio. (I finished school last year)
there were a lot more boys than girls in that school in general, just so happened that my timetable was set out so that that class didn’t have other girls haha
@@NOAHFINNCE oh okay that makes more sense now lol. I guess there was more boys cos it was previously an all boys school? Also that "We only shop at Waitrose" chant was so funny, as someone who first heard about Waitrose in a book and has never been inside one in my life haha. Also question I just thought of, did you have any kind of sex education at this school?
I was closeted for 3 years in state school, because for various reasons my situation in school/my school was so bad that I could not possibly come out, and it totally messes with your mind. I felt like I was just moving through life until the evening when I could speak to my friends online. It was honestly so weird, the only way I can sum it up is it felt like a waste of time because I was just wishing my life/time away? Would not recommend but also could not have come out and that would have made my life (somehow) worse.
Bloody hell. That sounds properly shit.
I once hid from my parents making them properly afraid because i didn't feel like going to horse riding school. Which was a totally nice school. I just didn't want to. After i heard them calling for like 30 minutes i decided to come out of hiding, and then it was too late to go anyway.
I would've probably disappeared into the woods if they'd have tried to send me to such a boarding school. Authoritarian people? Nopenopenopenope.
Really needed this alot,im a trans guy and I'm about to go to an all girls boarding school,it sucks but I don't really have a choice
wishing u luck! u may be surprised and find a great group of people!
As someone who used to go to boarding school the best way I can describe it is this: Envision Hogwarts, but then take the magic out of it, take the cool lessons and architecture out of it, take the good food out, imagine the freedom out, and then scrap all of it and imagine jail.
Yeah well the arcitecture of the boarding house was great at my school as it actually used to be the summer castle of some high up royal that now rents it out to the school. But the rest spot on. Terrible food. No magic. Similar amount of stairs and walking over school grounds but much less magic with much more running because they didnt include the walking time in schedules. Extremly strict discipline (like drug tests if they even suspected you stepped foot in the netherlands during hols or walked funny and seemed kinda drunk, complete Wifi black out after 10 as this is village in a complete black spot you dont even get normal service otherwise). Schedules for every minute of your day. Sports and more active things and study time to have a pause from the active things. No houses just year groups and no uniforms though (as is the norm for my country) and generally much more shit than Hogwarts.
Add on: Thankfully I wasnt a boarder as I lived the next village over but my best friend was a full boarder so stayed there pretty much always as Noah explained and we ate the exact same food in the same cafeteria as the boarders so got some experience.
@@Serenity_yt I was actually a full boarder, like full- full. My parents lived in another country so I stayed even on weekends and such and only went home for the holidays and it wasn’t great ngl.
@@apolly125 I can imagine, although Ive never boarded. My friend was from China (most foreign students were asian) and the school is in western europe, not really a weekend trip ^^. (They even had guest families for the shorter holidays)
@@Serenity_yt I boarded in England, and my parents were french so it wasn’t too far away- but I can’t imagine having a guest family even in the short times that you might get to see your parents
But the way he made it sound sounds so nice though? I hate being at home... I do like school. As long as I get enough sleep
the dedication to replacing everyone’s face in every pic with noah’s face >>>
Thank you for answering my question! My son is in marching band at his high school, he loves it. He plays percussion, this year he played the vibraphone
How much I wish I was from the UK so I could go to your concert, anyway I'm sooo happy for you! ❤
you should do more videos this length i like it :)
So relate to a lot of this. I was sent to a private all girls school (not boarding). I got there through a grant because they had to offer a certain number of places to pupils who couldn’t otherwise afford so experienced the classism right from the start. Hated the place. I was there from age 7 to age 16. I begged all the time to leave. I was bullied for everything and like you there was absolutely no way I could risk coming out as a guy. My parents believed that to be given that opportunity was such a blessing. I suspect I will be traumatised for life.
i hope you start feeling better soon!!!!💜
i have followed you since your boarding school days and i just wanna say i’m so happy to see how far you’ve come :)
"If I was a lesbian, I would've probably had a great time." I don't know why, but I loved that sentence (and it seems to be very true haha)
This is so interesting to me. I’m an army cadet and the routine you described reminds me of the cadet camps i do. I do the marching and the parades but i mainly do it for the band. It’s interesting that you had to do that all the time like i go through that for a week and I’m completely shattered and need a weeks rest lmao
Do you regret not coming out while you were at school at all? Im currently debating coming out so i can have my senior year of high school to be out and actually like how i look in my yearbook.
if you think its the right time then go for it! You will look back and be super proud of yourself. but make sure to do it gradually. tell your close friends first if you haven't already and make sure you have a small group of people who support you first. I hope the best for you and i hope you have a great day/night!!
Tl;dr: I came out during my senior year and it wasn't terrible, and if you'll be miserable if you stay closeted, then you might consider coming out.
It really depends on your circumstances, but I came out to my parents the summer before my senior year of high school. I went to a public school in the US, my parents were and still are super supportive, and the area I went to school in was super LGBT friendly. For the first few months, I didn't officially come out to everyone (mind you, I went to a large school, 4000+ kids), but at the beginning of the year I had emailed my teachers so I could at least put my name on assignments and stuff. I had already sort of started transitioning, so I didn't hate how I looked. During my senior portraits, I asked to wear the tux (they let me), and the photographer let me change my name that came up on my school ID. This gave me so much euphoria and confidence that I ended up coming out to my band directors that had known me since middle school and early high school. I also told my teachers to start calling me by name and using my pronouns, just sorta hoping people would catch on. I had come out online a little before so some people already knew, but not everyone. I was able to have my name changed in the year book, and then I eventually got it changed legally so I could have my real name on my diploma.
I know that is kind of a long story, but if you think you'll have a good support system, then go for it. Will there be people who stop talking to you? Sure, but you probably wouldn't want to be around them anyway. You also don't have to tell everyone if you don't want to, especially if you won't see them after senior year or you're not super close to them. You really have to way the costs and benefits. If coming out is going to put you in an unsafe situation, then maybe hold off for a bit. But if you know that at least some people will be supportive, then go ahead.
I know this was super long, but I hope it helps you or someone else. Good luck!
@@kadenmigdal4209 thanks so much for your opinion! I unfortunately live in a VERY conservative area with trump 2024 gear already everywhere. I have my friends that are accepting and thats all i care about. I am not worried about being physically harmed because its not that kind of transphobia where i live but more of a verbal thing. If i do come out though i will probably have to move with my dad though so thats my biggest problem lol.
He answered that one ;)
Go for it! I came out too my class, it worked out more or less okay- your gonna be bullied more for it but if you know your gonna have a mostly supportive environment you should :) (don't if you feel unsafe doing so, or if you don't want too)
A lot of the naval things you did in school reminds me of when I was a sea cadet we wore naval uniforms with awful itchy jumpers, had to stand at attention and salute the flag and all that jazz along with marching, parades, rifles, rowing, survival skill etc
I can't imagine having to do all that while also being in school
honestly, my favorite part of this video was noah having multiple moments of realization of how much the school was like a prison
I really resonated with Noah talking about even people being nice hurt because he was trans and about how he wanted guys to like him, but he wanted them to like him as a guy rather than a girl. I'm a very femme trans guy. I like being that way, but it's hard because I want people to see me as a pretty guy
That's awesome, and I hope you get to meet lots of people who appreciate you exactly as you are!
Lol the teacher not believing people saying your a "girl" happen to me in reverse many time during my school years hahaha (but in reverse lol)
In my school all the lgbtq+ kids did flocked together and we used to hang out at the same table every break time, we called it the gay table
Gayble :]
HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER!!!!💖💖💖
I realized how f*cked up my family was when you said that you can go home and be yourself without being bullied for who you are... If i wasn't who my family wanted me to be i would get beat 💀💀💀 took me years to be comfortably myself and they are still angry when I am bc I'm different from them-
So basically child abuse. Conservatives really are fricked up.
You're awesome! You should come to Canada one day!! I would come to your concert!
it’s the fact that the “living two lives” thing relates to me so much. online i’m myself, at home AND school i’m a girl :/
PIGEON! MEAT! 😧 I also really resonate what you said about what it was like being surrounded by girls and liking guys As a gay trans guy, it helps put to words what I already felt and couldn't put to words. Being around girls and having girl friends and not relating to them was so weird - so I can only imagine the extent of it at such a school as yours. People also always thought I was a lesbian as well! People still mistaken me for a butch lesbian despite the testosterone, mens clothes, and short hair lol. Thanks for sharing your story.
I'm a closeted trans guy at an all girls catholic boarding school (although personally i don't board) and it is quite... and experience for people like me there. Lots of what noah said I was like yeah me too
OMG YOU EXPLAINING YOUR DRESSCODE REMINDED ME OF MY HIGH SCHOOL DRESSCODE . we had to wear blue polos, black pants, and dr martens. shirts had to cover your belly button with your arms up. you couldn’t have your hair in front of your ears, girls hair had to be up if they wore it long, NO HAIR BELOW THE EYEBROWS (very big emphasis on that), boys couldn’t have their hair in front of their ears and they couldn’t wear piercings of any kind. no jewelry or tattoos, unless it’s for cultural reasons, if you had gauges, you weren’t allowed to wear plugs and no face piercings or other body piercings. we had to wear solid black or solid white socks. just very strict and very conservative. although, our school was fairly accepting of the LGBTQ+ community, it was still religious and weird and just ew.
This is so bizarre! It sounds like something from the 1950s not 2017. It’s kind of funny though to think of the kids being snobby towards state school kids because you’d be ripped apart if you acted like this in a state school. Also the rule about only being able to wear one charity wristband as jewellery really tickled me lol
watching you have helped me come out to family as trans (3 years ago)
This was unexpectedly relatable
Man what a good video! Love the long format! Thanks a lot for making this despite being sick, I'll hope you get better soon.
This made me reflect a lot on my own school years since we're close in age and damn it is a LOT looking back but I also feel quite grateful for being surrounded w/ mostly lovely ppl.
Also Worms is a banger
“We only shop at Waitrose!” is my new go to
lowkey you should do a podcast, your voice is soothing and you tell stories well
That would be really cool
Feel better soon Noah!
@Silent Stay classy
@Silent wow what an original and funny joke /s
@Silent Wow someone needs a life huh?
@Ville he
omg i cant even start to explain how similar we are im taking a psychology course i love psychology im part of the LGBTQIA+ and i have sensory issues around food and textures, my parents are lso divorced, love ur videos and ur music had tthebest time at one of ur shows the other week
Great story. Well done for doing you. With pride. Next thing will be to check out yr music
i go to an all-girls secondary school, and what you said about gays flocking towards each other definitely happens, at least in my experience lmao. all of my friends are queer, its crazy 😭
I'm also a transmac person who played drums in the marching band and loves to make music!
this is similar to what I have to deal with today( I'm 13 and in school) at my school I'm out to my friends that I trust about my sexuality but nobody knows that I'm genderfluid because I have a friend who used to be in my friend group who was kicked out of the group because of their pronouns and that nobody would be respectful of them. there are some people in my school that are strong allies/passionate members of the LGBTQ+ community that were Labeled as "the gay kids" because of it and would not be seen of as anything other than that. there was never any bullying because of my school's strict no bullying policy but mean comments were always made towards them on the side.
I go through the same thing. People like that are going to grow up doing something they hate cuz nobody is gonna willingly work with a toxic person- please be safe though! :)
I can't believe you got covid wish you a happy recovery bro nice vids
Noah you are literally my hero if I never would've come across your singing video and dug into your channel I never would've discovered my true gender like you really have no idea how much you've helped me thru the years
Awwe congrats!
Hey I am at a private Christian school and I can realate to alot of what you where talking about I had to pause the vidio at one point and just sit there like wow man this guy is like speaking what I'm living, I just wanted to thank you and it was really comforting seeing as I'm pretty closeted hoping to get braver in later years. 👍👍👍
the fucking ‘we only shop at waitrose’ please😭😭
Weirdly enough my school had some things very similar to this(like the school flag,the morning assembly every single day,strict uniform and other stuff).It wasn't a military school but it definitely felt like it.
Wooow a long video! Love it. I was waiting for this video⭐️
I hope you feel better soon!
16:52 yes we do, we have a pride club it's such a vibe
I went to an old boarding school too where marching was an important thing (I'd go so far as to say more than at yours, as it was famous for marching into lunch every day and in parades through London and at Lord's etc). It was strict and very traditional, and the head of CCF/some other role in the school to do with security/dress code enforcement was an absolute terror, BUT to his credit he was actually very determined to make sure that the CCF was inclusive and accepting for those with different gender identities. So I guess one good aspect, just one redeeming feature of that dude that this reminded me of! We'll ignore how he was mildly misogynistic haha... I don't have a problem with the CCF at all, just when it's something forced. I'm so sorry you had a less good experience with it, but I really enjoyed this video, it made me think a lot x
Where is the "ex" part of the naval academy. That's a military school lol.
Ahhh Noah your content and music is amazing!!! I hope your doing well :)
You make me feel so old! Started there in 2012! 😱 I'm so old! 😅
I went to a covent school, so not military or boarding, but a lot of the other parts sound uncomfortably familiar.
Anyone who hasn't listened to Worms really should check it out. It might be my current favorite song.
Oh geez all of these remind me of being apart of jrotc (Navy). It’s very cultish and I’m so glad I left. Even though I went to a public school I had to follow the jrotc dress code. I spent 5 years in the program and should’ve been at a decently high rank but they never even ranked me up from a cadet simply because I always forgot to shine my shoes. It was a terrible time but sometimes I miss it simply because of the family like relationship we all had.
I'm supposed to be at school right now but I skipped because my dysphoria is badddd lmao
After you not uploading a lot recently it's sooo great seeing such a long video (: will definitely listen to it while gaming.
I would totally see you if I lived in the UK
literally love noah's energy. Hope you get better from covid noah!
I do have a lot of questions about boarding school, so i've been waiting for this video
Such a wholesome video.
Your “hello underachievers” makes my day
Bro someone should make this into a book.
Preordered your merch a few weeks ago! So excited for it to come! 💕
i'm a day student at an ex-armed forces school and it's something else, although we've only been forced to march once and that was to "culture" us. we are still called the "cadets"
I am not trans, but as a gay man in a very 'don't as don't tell community I think I understand a lot of what you talk about.
No offense but Noah Finnce needs to tour in the states 🙏🏼😭
and canadaaa
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@@abbs3661 frr nobody tours in canada :( (atleast ppl ik/i like
@@incestfetus i knowwww
hey, I just wanted to say you're a really cool person and watching your videos helped me come out to myself as trans and I look up at you cause... well, you're really awesome. And I've been noticing that a lot of things I go through are things you've gone through and your videos make me feel better. That part about girls wanting to do your makeup and everyone saying you'd look better with longer hair/ if you did this, really resonated with me. Thank you for helping me and countless others.
im a trans man and my name is alex which is also actually my birth name i love when any other trans guy calls themself alex, even temporarily i think it increases my power
the way noah sang in that old cover gave me a physical reaction 😭 because my eyes were like “that’s our boy noah” and my ears were like “who’s that”
ngl I think it's so interesting to hear about all those thing because I guess 90% would probably be illegal in Germany. Like it's not even legal for schools in Germany to have a whole school uniform. I feel really sorry for everyone who still has to go to schools like that and not be able to be themselves at all. I imagine it can be quite hard on some people that just don't feel like they belong there. Personally I'm not a fan of killing every little spark of individualism but I wish the schools I went to was a bit stricter because I think teenage me really needed that
There's a really fine line between strict and structure in my mind.
I went to a military here in America and that school was very similar. Something that's strange is that we didn't shoot ANY guns. Lol all we did was exercise, march, and go to school mostly