I've actually thought about it, in retrospective ive always showed care for most people slightly close to me, but also the moment a someone does something that i dislike i start hating ( depending on how much i disliked what they did to me ) ... so, that makes me toxic ?
@@felipealfaro9389 Well yeah. But being toxic doesn't make you a bad person NECESSERILY!!!! If you let the toxicity control you, like every other emotion, you'll just turn into a horrid person.
Would like to point out that conversations between neurodivergent people are so frequent that interruptions in closely-knit autistic friend groups aren't interpreted as offensive because they're not intentional and happen constantly.
@@hen-l Sorry, I had made a typo in my first sentence that made it a bit nonsensical. I meant to say "interruptions in conversations between neurodivergent people are so frequent," sorry for the confusion.
@@hen-l Also, I did not say that interruptions aren't noticed, I said that they're not interpreted as offensive in autistic friend groups because they happen constantly and unintentionally. If everyone has the same problem, there's more empathy and less social friction.
People who want justice for themselves and okay with injustice with others. Parents never lecture properly they will say it forbidden or get angry. Difficult people learn toxic behavior to show strength and power. People have fear of accountability. People mimic each other not to get picked on means Bullying and pretending to care. People know how to justify their behavior. Some children think they are funny in this way because their parents laugh and be okay or adolescent environment is Amoral you do what you want to have fun and be cool. You are moral you will be picked on. Respect is sensitive topic. This people conversation I win and you lose. The problem just go through the garbage. A lot of people are dishonest to protect themselves. This will make you feel less trust with them. Animals are better. Victims Mentality is everything you do is justified with moral and you are the opposite. Dysfunctional families is huge issue.
Darn… this video just hit me to my core. I used to get molested, I was carefree enough that I let em borrow my phone in my consent. Without my consent when I went to bathroom, it’s both certain people looked up my search history and sold my phone (true story).
Bro ntgl. Your friend wasn't *the* asshole in the first. I mean they totally messed up at not apologizing so they were *an* asshole but the story talks more about your father than your friend lmao.😅
ngl having an extremely toxic environment to grow up in made me really fucking good at sniffing out toxic people. I haven't misplaced my trust in many years, I genuinenly can't remember the last time my estimation of a person was disproven
@@mjawara1 honestly it's just intuition to me at this point. Just instincts. But I think the most important part is to really listen closely to what people have to say and to observe their behavior, both towards you and towards others
Honestly for me, the biggest giveaway someone is toxic, is if they gossip. These people will talk about anyone behind their back. And yes i learned it the hard way.
Once had a mf talk shit about me in the 9th grade to a guy I’ve known since Kindergarten. This the type of shit that makes dudes racist towards Indians
Bro mine was worse because it's the exact same thing that happened to kaedee's, I was 12 yrs old when this happened (6th grade) and my mentally depraved classmates downloaded p*** on my phone and I didn't even allow them to do that cuz obviously why would I!? Those bastards didn't know the concept of personal space, my performance in school fucked up pretty bad due to them for the first time. Sixth grade was the roughest school year in my life man and I hated it so much.
The "how they treat people they don't respect" be true as fuck though. What's with people and becoming all star reverse meatriders when someone they don't like is around??? Are you allergic to being civil??
I DONT KNOW? If I don’t want to be in your presence. ESPECIALLY if I don’t like you, I simply won’t be there. It’s not hard to do??? Edit: in some case scenarios that isn’t an option.. so like idk disappear🤷🏾♀️
I used to be like that. Ive been that kind of person before, yet in my case shit like that can just also just be the result of your friend group being generally toxic. Kinda glad I made amends to the guy I was a dick towards tho after I left that place. But yeah, some groups could prolly just be harboring enough toxicity that it dont make one person exclusive to it.
What’s worse than someone interrupting when you’re talking about something you like is when they full out stop listening. Had this one dude I know say multiple times “sorry, I spaced out, what’d you say?” While I’m in the middle of an autistic recounting of my favorite story. Does not feel great man.
i understand this bc i zone out, i could be doing nothing but listening and zone out and i still frel bad bc im supposed to be listening, anyway to make this better?
I think it depends. My fiance is autistic and I struggle to listen to him pretty often. At one point some years ago he said he doesn't mind if I don't listen, but lately he's been taking it to heart so I think it's time to talk about it again. The problem for me is, he always talks unprompted, and never even checks in with me to see if I even can listen at that moment, whether I'm interested or am currently doing something else, etc. It gets tiring to always have to stop whatever I'm thinking or doing to listen attentively, especially for those of us with typically shorter attention spans. So yeah, often I just ignore whatever's he's talking/ranting about. It's often the same things over and over too, and topics I really don't care that much about if not actually just don't like. He likes to rant on things he doesn't like, but I generally do not like focusing so long on something I don't like. Other topics he does like I also tend to not care for, or not enough to listen for extended periods of time. TL;DR, we still need to work this aspect of our lives out, haha
@@ShoulderMonsterIf he learned story telling techniques and was able to write down and organize his thoughts that would help and also if you communicated the time and place and that you're not able to listen at the moment that would help.
What I hate is when I keep trying to get into a conversation, but no matter how many times I let them finish, I just never get a chance to join the conversation. person - "So anyways, that's how I got a raise. Me - "Oh so-" Person - "also here is this really cool idea!" Me - "sounds li-." Other person - "damn that idea actually sounds really bad and here's why" Feels like I can never get a word in at all. And it's not even like I'm soft-spoken people. Just cut me off and don't give me a chance, yet if I accedently cut someone else off, I let them go first. It's the biggest reason why I don't like talking to people and prefer to just listen at this point because clearly that's all I'm there for.
@@Neroque I'm not sure that'd work well for us. We're living together, and when he's home he likes to be in the same room the majority of the time due to the fear of being alone. He mostly watches YT or movies or plays videogames, and he tends to just start talking about them at the drop of a hat. Which is fine if it was like a one-off comment or two at a time, but each time he'll go on to info dump about it or his opinions. Even when I say, "Oh, I'm reading" he still tends to talk not too long afterwards. Or I guess for me if feels like not long, but I tend to read for hours on end in silence so that may be a long while to him. Myself, sometimes I get talkative too, but I tend to get too anxious to bring up topics and talk at length about something I know someone isn't that interested in. And a few times he's reassured me he's interested to listen, but in practice I can't quite say he's really that engaged with my topics for that long unless they're topics he can talk about too. Or maybe it's my insecurity preventing me from even thinking of much to say. Just so on and so on with us. 😅 I try really hard to keep it balanced, fair, and accommodating for each of us in the relationship.
Dang, this was a real eye opener for me. I didn't even realize how badly I was treating my friends. I never had consistent friends due to somehow moving at literally the most key parts of my childhood for gaining friends, which made it harder for me to connect with people when I was older, but now that I actually have friends I can see why they get annoyed with me every once in a while
14 year old me blacked out while trying to tape my bully’s mouth shut because of the two straight weeks of constant abuse. Then the rest of the year was her telling people I was choking her.
I got this video recommended after blocking a friend that made fun of my career choice and decisions, calling me a "waste of opportunity", and a friendship that hung on me being a "yes-man" when playing games, even something as simple as "going home together" became a chore when I almost hurt my foot for forcing and enticing me to walk uncomfortably FAST with a big backpack, and always urging me to "do this hobby/interest" that even though I have my own talents that don't match with him, I can't even play games with him at a casual pace since he's trying to always "speedrun" stuff, even critcizing how i play a SANDBOX game, thinks I'm snobbing him (both jokingly and seriously) when I don't respond immediately (even if I have valid reason or I'm still outside and can't message him) Now it's a relief, honestly. I don't have to constantly "yes" this guy, and I do think I'm at fault for propagating that behavior. Even my parents realized how bad that "friendship" might become..
Nah, it's not your fault. If you tried to stand up for yourself, that means you still wanted that friendship, imo. That would require them to realize their own mistake (Difficulty: Impossible). But, if you just didn't want to deal with them anymore, you can just leave them; You don't owe them anything. You did great 👍
"I'm always the bad guy, huh?" Was the EXACT THING my Dad said in the car on the way home from a trip to Florida. Guess i'm not jist pulling this stuff outta my ass.
Dawg that “your dad finding porn on your phone” story hit hard with me cause that fr happened to one if my ex friends and I did the complete opposite, I fucking wiped them gcs CLEAN no curse words, no remotely inappropriate photos/vids in sight. And then my mom looked through my phone saw all the saved booty bouncing vids and started questioning my sexuality. Anyway my mom thinks I’m a lesbian😝😝😝😊
This is so real, one day someone just joined our friend group, n words, nazi shit and Greek nationalism bro, like wtf how did they all just deal with him bro.
i entered a discord vc with my friend and his cousins, we are from venezuela and my friend is white as paper and im brown, everything was good until one of his cousins started saying racist stuff and asked me if i was a person of color, i said yes obviously and suddendly i was treated as a dog, everytime i talked with my friend or gave him directions on how to play around me (league), they asked HIM if he let me speak, after i carried their asses i went out of there and my friend had the saddest voice on him and just apologised since he didn`t expect them to be like that edit: his cousins aren`t from venezuela, they are from the US and he went to live there
@@travisandfreddy2176 He has the right to be himself and other people have the right to not want to be around it 🤷 If people don't like the garbage you say or how you act and you don't have friends because of it that's on you
Just like everyone else, I was and (sadly) currently in a toxic relationship. I recognize MANY things from this video. All the redflags. There is a really toxic kid in my friend zone. He literally complains about everything. Literally everything. Like: why the bus seat is so hard, why the bus ceiling is so low, why the bus is colored yellow (yes, he complained about the busses' colour😭☠️) and many things (not only busses, but i quiet often take the public transport with him, and these came in mind first.) He never takes responsibility, he has the "everything is others fault, and not mine" thinking. He has a very bad habit of grabbing my arm, and pulling me to a different direction, and one day, he grabbed my arm incorrectly, and badly scratched his arm with my metal watch. He played victim, and tried to blame it on me. He also often made classmates mad by offending them, and he thought he was the victim. Always thinks he is right. He knew something wrongly, and i corrected him. He defended his opinion. Others told him he's wrong. He said "oh right, but i am still right." He never ask himself about important things, like "hmm, maybe i was the wrong here" or "hmm, maybe i was too hars", always thinks others are wrong and he is the right. Why he is toxic? Because he was bullied in school quite often... But i was also bullied, and i didn't became toxic (or i hope i am not toxic💀) He is raised in a very toxic environment, his mom always tells him he is not the wrong. My mom always told me, when i was the wrong in a stitulation. Feel free to say "i should leave from that friendship" and you would be right, but i really feel bad about him. He has no friends. (Currently he has friends, but i don't know how long those will last) and i am also not brave enough to tell him that i am no longer his friend. Thank you for making this video! It feels good, that i am not the only one, who's in a toxic releationship!
Fair. Frankly id recommend sitting him down and addressing this, calmly. If he gets pressed, leave, then come back. If he continues to get pressed, then leave forever Ig. But if you ignore the mold in that person, it’s just going to fester and grow.
@@lojika1majiki agree 100%. I noticed in the story that there was never a moment where you addressed or told him about these things. Hence there's a really good chance that he just isn't aware about these behaviours, so the first thing I would recommend is definitely communication about such issues.
@@0103depressingaftermath key thing though is to be civil. If he feels like you’re attacking him, he won’t be as receptive and could go even deeper down the wrong path.
Thank you all for the advice :) It's really helpful! I can't express myself how grateful and happy I am right now! I will stand on my legs, and talk to him, and tell all the problems polietly. Thank you guys very much
I was thinking i was toxic watching this but then realized the shit i say abt people, like the traits or issue i dont like i actually point out to their face instead of gossip and if it doesnt change i just do my best to ignore the issue cuz the homies the homies fr. And the gossip that comes out only goes for that one actually bad faith individual thst did something particularly bad.
Man i hate this because like, understanding is not simple for me... i really cant get social cues easily, i feel like i might fit into some of these criteria? but also i really do not want to hurt my friends, they dont ever seem bothered by my presence or things i do? i still worry if theyre just not picking up on the toxic traits i may have or something i am also terrible at reading my own behaviors, i genuinely will not pick up on something i do being wrong until i get told by someone else, well, i guess i do feel bad when i do some specific things, but when i do feel bad i apologize.
It doesn’t hurt to learn social psychology and get out and meet new people. When people want to be around you, they make themselves available. You should never have to chase someone’s attention. It sounds like you’re just insecure and overthinking, a brainrot TH-cam video shouldn’t have power over you
My friends started archiving things I posted to the server they didn’t like. I’ve been trying for 8 years to stop treating me like a stranger they’ve never met and talking down to me when they’re having a bad day. They always conveniently forget. So I left the server so I won’t have to look at that bullshit. Don’t need a server to play Elden ring together
broooo… I had a friend who was the definition of toxic af. obviously I didn’t realise it at the time, but I figured it out pretty quickly later. she did everything in this video 💀. she always played the victim, even when she stalked someone over social media and acted hurt when he was genuinely pissed off with her, and when his friends hated her too. she was always constantly the victim, always talking about her bullshit problems like tripping over infront of the dude she stalked. she also was a feind for drama, and would do anything imaginable to create it. even staying with her shitty boyfriend (who was as bad as her in his own right) who cheated on her just to create drama. she also would never let me talk about my problems, likely because her tiny brain thought them to be insignificant. despite the fact that it’d be something more serious like getting into an argument with my parents or something. she gave me constant stress, until I blocked her, which is when I felt like I was released from chains and let free.
Despite respect and mutual understanding being crucial in any and all relationships, you must remember not to be so understanding that you fail to see when you are being disrespected.
Dude my friend had this weird person (a year younger) text her sometime at night (they barely know each other) and he started guilt-tripping her into dating him or he’d y’know…
The difference between a Friend and a Parasite is thd friend will know to do the right thing and apologize... The Parasite couldn't care less and knows they'll do more harm for harm's sake.
If they’re always thinking about themselves and/or always blaming others for what’s going wrong in their life. It’s a pretty good sign that may not be a great person 💀
this video is funny and informative and all, but can you quit with the molestation jokes? they're just not funny and just come off as creepy, lazy shock-humor
if you don't know people who act like this are narcissist and what they do is act very charismatic and nice in public but behind closed door's can be the most abusive people we will ever have to encounter
This girl I used to eat with at school would take a bad pic of me, I would reciprocate, and she would respond BY THROWING A BOWL OF SOUP AT ME, then say that it’s my fault cause I took a picture???
So the girl took pictures of you without permissjon in school, when you politely talk back, the girl disrespectfully throwed a soup at you? And then blamed you thay you were taking pictures of her? Im pretty sure that girl is deranged, autistic, and narcissist
It sucks listening to this and going ‘check, check, check… aww shit’ because every toxic friend fits the bill perfectly and you would really have benefitted from this video years ago. I don’t understand how some people can always be the victim either. Like… you know you did a shitty thing. Why can’t you just admit it so you can move on instead of making it everyone else’s fault for the way you behaved?
3:22 Yeah… ur 11, and your friends are ALSO 11. Which mean they like doing dumb shtuff. YOU NEVER LEAVE UR PHONE WITH YOUR FRIENDS UNLESS YOUR WITH THEM. THEY WILL STEAL OR SCREW UP UR STUFF FAST. Speaking from experience.
Gotta say for the first one, I won’t get frustrated playing 99% of games but there are like two games I’ve ever played competitively and if I play those and do poorly, even for fun with a friend, I’m always getting super salty. Idk if that makes me toxic, in my head it’s more of a “you put so much time into this how the hell are you playing so poorly” reaction. It is ego yes, but if you put a lot of effort into something it hurts to do poorly.
So for me growing up i was given autism and the best kind! A brain working enough to be a wonder land of stories and ideas but with extremely bad scshole skills (and a fucking spelling disabilitie) so i quickly relized that when i have an agument to first ask if im in the wrong then just be safe or if im unsure ask my mates by explaining everything as best i can and showing text logs if i have them. Most times the say im more or less on point with what i think but i try to ask more the one group just to be sure. I know im not a perfect person and that i can be an asshole but i always try my best to be there when anyone needs it. Is this a good process or should i try something else?
Damn, I didn't realize how toxic I can be or was the gossiping part or the disrespecting boundaries that was a big one but, however ever some of my friends would just be annoying trust me they were. But nothing wrong with turning a new leaf
One thing that fucken sucks is i tend to be a sucker to them. I really want them to like me cause it always seems like their cool or shit. It tends to make me spill private stuff that they'll gosip abt later
I was actually hesitant to watch this video at first because I knew it wasn't gonna be great but I had to learn something so I went ahead and clicked on it and I didn't expect this, most of the anger towards people I've been mixed up with in the past was reflected in this video, I was not expecting to enjoy this video this much, this is great!
The scariest part is this could be you and you'd not know without realising
I've actually thought about it, in retrospective ive always showed care for most people slightly close to me, but also the moment a someone does something that i dislike i start hating ( depending on how much i disliked what they did to me ) ... so, that makes me toxic ?
@@felipealfaro9389 Well yeah. But being toxic doesn't make you a bad person NECESSERILY!!!! If you let the toxicity control you, like every other emotion, you'll just turn into a horrid person.
@@felipealfaro9389Everybody has toxic traits to an extent, we are still apes after all
You just can't let it control you
From Clark Kent to Reverse Flash
That's why I'm watching this. To try and be better.
Would like to point out that conversations between neurodivergent people are so frequent that interruptions in closely-knit autistic friend groups aren't interpreted as offensive because they're not intentional and happen constantly.
“Hey-“
“So yea-“
“Oh sorry”
“Oh sorry”
“You go ahead”
“No you go ahead”
Could you explain? What do you mean conversations are frequent? How are "interruptions" not noticed and what are these "interruptions".
@@hen-l Sorry, I had made a typo in my first sentence that made it a bit nonsensical. I meant to say "interruptions in conversations between neurodivergent people are so frequent," sorry for the confusion.
@@hen-l Also, I did not say that interruptions aren't noticed, I said that they're not interpreted as offensive in autistic friend groups because they happen constantly and unintentionally. If everyone has the same problem, there's more empathy and less social friction.
@@MawdyDev ah i see, i probably didn't notice because im neurodivergent myself
my favorite disciple of diddy posted again 🗣🔥🔥
Yessir
2:45 yep
People who want justice for themselves and okay with injustice with others. Parents never lecture properly they will say it forbidden or get angry. Difficult people learn toxic behavior to show strength and power. People have fear of accountability. People mimic each other not to get picked on means Bullying and pretending to care. People know how to justify their behavior. Some children think they are funny in this way because their parents laugh and be okay or adolescent environment is Amoral you do what you want to have fun and be cool. You are moral you will be picked on. Respect is sensitive topic. This people conversation I win and you lose. The problem just go through the garbage. A lot of people are dishonest to protect themselves. This will make you feel less trust with them. Animals are better. Victims Mentality is everything you do is justified with moral and you are the opposite. Dysfunctional families is huge issue.
That was a weird ending
I’m watching specifically to make my toxicity less noticeable and become better at gaslighting people into hating themselves
Least obvious ragebait:
hell yeah brother toxic improvement is a never ending mountain, keep climbing
Darn… this video just hit me to my core.
I used to get molested, I was carefree enough that I let em borrow my phone in my consent. Without my consent when I went to bathroom, it’s both certain people looked up my search history and sold my phone (true story).
That discord plug invoked some typa terror inside me I haven't felt in a while. Hell yeah Imma be joinin 😁
The true englightened ones are the ones that sit like kaedee.
Yeah discord
the part about 'never taking blame is just straight up someone from my classroom, like he does something bad? "Oh ItS aLwaYs Me IsnT It?" i hate him
Ever think of reading the DSM-5
Kaedee just uploaded babe wake up 🔥🔥🔥
THE SERVER GOTTA GO
Critiquing you is not overstepping boundaries. Y’all soft af
Over critiquing is stepping boundaries. finding every single fault in someone and talking bad about them
the king has uploaded 🤤🤤🤤
One of my friends left their phone unlocked out... I texted his mom "I love you and really appreciate you ❤"
I already have 100% accuracy all of you are toxic and i am pure!
fear not my kittens 🐺🐺🐺🐺🐺
Hopefully this video doesn’t get removed then upload again
Renee Extension
Ask them if they play Dead by Daylight
Got banned from the discord for having a personality 😎🎸
A new great yapper 🙏🙏
i just pissed on my wall
Bro ntgl. Your friend wasn't *the* asshole in the first. I mean they totally messed up at not apologizing so they were *an* asshole but the story talks more about your father than your friend lmao.😅
8:56 what is wrong with swearing off discord tho lmao
yeah that was a lot of interesting yapping, but the main takeaway from this video is LIVERPOOL FAN 🫵😂
4:40 "People would rather take COCK than accountability"
That's not even wild. That's just *true.*
Reminds me of that one Doja parody ngl
ngl having an extremely toxic environment to grow up in made me really fucking good at sniffing out toxic people. I haven't misplaced my trust in many years, I genuinenly can't remember the last time my estimation of a person was disproven
i mean how old are u, taht makes a big difference
Send some tips fr
@@mjawara1 honestly it's just intuition to me at this point. Just instincts. But I think the most important part is to really listen closely to what people have to say and to observe their behavior, both towards you and towards others
@@juannaym8488 o thx
You must be able to sniff me a mile away huh 😂😂😂
Honestly for me, the biggest giveaway someone is toxic, is if they gossip. These people will talk about anyone behind their back. And yes i learned it the hard way.
I never understood those ranked competitive gossipers
Seriously. At LEAST have the balls to say it to their face if they ask about it or even need to hear it.
same bro the ppl who hate me never have the balls to say it to my face 💀
Once had a mf talk shit about me in the 9th grade to a guy I’ve known since Kindergarten.
This the type of shit that makes dudes racist towards Indians
And he had the audacity to do it 2 feet behind me on a bus back home from school
The timing is absolutely freaking insane on this one
Ngl fax
What? is this personal to you or is something i don’t now about happening
Me too why
bro as soon as we found out kanyes team is just using him for benefits kaedee dropped this vid
real
How to tell if someone is toxic: people around fall down and die from inhaling toxins
to be fair, I feel like I’m gonna die when I’m talking to them
oh-
Bro school story was rough,all my friends did when I left my phone open was take a selfie 💀💀💀
yeah bro last year i also did that wtf is wrong with those ppl
@@polarxd3911 idk thats a lot more tame then what people usually would do at my school, text all the women on yo phone
bruh i kinda relate to that, cause my friends did that to me in Highschool. got in trouble with my ma''
@@godnkosi8879the most for me is that they would type it out and leave it for me to see but not actually write it
Bro mine was worse because it's the exact same thing that happened to kaedee's, I was 12 yrs old when this happened (6th grade) and my mentally depraved classmates downloaded p*** on my phone and I didn't even allow them to do that cuz obviously why would I!?
Those bastards didn't know the concept of personal space, my performance in school fucked up pretty bad due to them for the first time.
Sixth grade was the roughest school year in my life man and I hated it so much.
The "how they treat people they don't respect" be true as fuck though. What's with people and becoming all star reverse meatriders when someone they don't like is around??? Are you allergic to being civil??
I DONT KNOW? If I don’t want to be in your presence. ESPECIALLY if I don’t like you, I simply won’t be there. It’s not hard to do??? Edit: in some case scenarios that isn’t an option.. so like idk disappear🤷🏾♀️
@@dollguts9801
You may have to be, if the situation arises where simply leaving is not an option. What then?
@@obviouslykaleb7998 chile idk😭 kms???
I used to be like that. Ive been that kind of person before, yet in my case shit like that can just also just be the result of your friend group being generally toxic.
Kinda glad I made amends to the guy I was a dick towards tho after I left that place. But yeah, some groups could prolly just be harboring enough toxicity that it dont make one person exclusive to it.
@dollguts9801 I'm not going to quit my job because my coworkers are toxic.
Thing is, toxic people tend to br friends with vulnerable people or even higher tier toxic level 100 mob bosses
Very true.
I’m definitely one of those vulnerable people that’s why I keep people out like it’s Fort Knox
You are so right, speaking from experience.
What’s worse than someone interrupting when you’re talking about something you like is when they full out stop listening. Had this one dude I know say multiple times “sorry, I spaced out, what’d you say?” While I’m in the middle of an autistic recounting of my favorite story. Does not feel great man.
i understand this bc i zone out, i could be doing nothing but listening and zone out and i still frel bad bc im supposed to be listening, anyway to make this better?
I think it depends. My fiance is autistic and I struggle to listen to him pretty often. At one point some years ago he said he doesn't mind if I don't listen, but lately he's been taking it to heart so I think it's time to talk about it again.
The problem for me is, he always talks unprompted, and never even checks in with me to see if I even can listen at that moment, whether I'm interested or am currently doing something else, etc. It gets tiring to always have to stop whatever I'm thinking or doing to listen attentively, especially for those of us with typically shorter attention spans.
So yeah, often I just ignore whatever's he's talking/ranting about. It's often the same things over and over too, and topics I really don't care that much about if not actually just don't like. He likes to rant on things he doesn't like, but I generally do not like focusing so long on something I don't like. Other topics he does like I also tend to not care for, or not enough to listen for extended periods of time.
TL;DR, we still need to work this aspect of our lives out, haha
@@ShoulderMonsterIf he learned story telling techniques and was able to write down and organize his thoughts that would help and also if you communicated the time and place and that you're not able to listen at the moment that would help.
What I hate is when I keep trying to get into a conversation, but no matter how many times I let them finish, I just never get a chance to join the conversation.
person - "So anyways, that's how I got a raise.
Me - "Oh so-"
Person - "also here is this really cool idea!"
Me - "sounds li-."
Other person - "damn that idea actually sounds really bad and here's why"
Feels like I can never get a word in at all. And it's not even like I'm soft-spoken people. Just cut me off and don't give me a chance, yet if I accedently cut someone else off, I let them go first. It's the biggest reason why I don't like talking to people and prefer to just listen at this point because clearly that's all I'm there for.
@@Neroque I'm not sure that'd work well for us. We're living together, and when he's home he likes to be in the same room the majority of the time due to the fear of being alone. He mostly watches YT or movies or plays videogames, and he tends to just start talking about them at the drop of a hat. Which is fine if it was like a one-off comment or two at a time, but each time he'll go on to info dump about it or his opinions.
Even when I say, "Oh, I'm reading" he still tends to talk not too long afterwards. Or I guess for me if feels like not long, but I tend to read for hours on end in silence so that may be a long while to him.
Myself, sometimes I get talkative too, but I tend to get too anxious to bring up topics and talk at length about something I know someone isn't that interested in. And a few times he's reassured me he's interested to listen, but in practice I can't quite say he's really that engaged with my topics for that long unless they're topics he can talk about too. Or maybe it's my insecurity preventing me from even thinking of much to say. Just so on and so on with us. 😅
I try really hard to keep it balanced, fair, and accommodating for each of us in the relationship.
Dang, this was a real eye opener for me. I didn't even realize how badly I was treating my friends. I never had consistent friends due to somehow moving at literally the most key parts of my childhood for gaining friends, which made it harder for me to connect with people when I was older, but now that I actually have friends I can see why they get annoyed with me every once in a while
You’re ballin! Proud of you for recognizing!
glad your inproveing
Good on you, idk and prolly never will, but I appreciate that 👍
Nice introspection man. Not everyone can be honest with themselves like that
14 year old me blacked out while trying to tape my bully’s mouth shut because of the two straight weeks of constant abuse. Then the rest of the year was her telling people I was choking her.
ohhh
Let's get married fr
@@PalestinianOrthodox1846sorry,you are too old for me sweetheart.
@@PalestinianOrthodox1846 I seriously hope you're joking
@@PalestinianOrthodox1846you're based
time to see if I’m toxic
i feel called out
@@bruhmomentous5111same here bruh
I can't be a toxic friend I don't have friends. .
Oh man
I got this video recommended after blocking a friend that made fun of my career choice and decisions, calling me a "waste of opportunity", and a friendship that hung on me being a "yes-man" when playing games, even something as simple as "going home together" became a chore when I almost hurt my foot for forcing and enticing me to walk uncomfortably FAST with a big backpack, and always urging me to "do this hobby/interest" that even though I have my own talents that don't match with him, I can't even play games with him at a casual pace since he's trying to always "speedrun" stuff, even critcizing how i play a SANDBOX game, thinks I'm snobbing him (both jokingly and seriously) when I don't respond immediately (even if I have valid reason or I'm still outside and can't message him)
Now it's a relief, honestly. I don't have to constantly "yes" this guy, and I do think I'm at fault for propagating that behavior. Even my parents realized how bad that "friendship" might become..
Nah, it's not your fault. If you tried to stand up for yourself, that means you still wanted that friendship, imo. That would require them to realize their own mistake (Difficulty: Impossible). But, if you just didn't want to deal with them anymore, you can just leave them; You don't owe them anything.
You did great 👍
Bro I am not joining any discord, especially that of a content creator because that's where all the goofy ahh allegations start
only bad part is that its fan ran
beginning of the end
Yeah, don't even think about it lil bro
Am I the one who is clueless about this whole allegations thing, is he we're posting .pdf stuff?
Lowkey here just to see if im hella toxic. Gotta ground myself with this one
Even worse is feeling like you can’t apologise to someone because they’ll take that opportunity to grill you for the most irrelevant BS.
“Disciples of diddy” lmfao so relatable on Bob
"I'm always the bad guy, huh?" Was the EXACT THING my Dad said in the car on the way home from a trip to Florida. Guess i'm not jist pulling this stuff outta my ass.
Dawg that “your dad finding porn on your phone” story hit hard with me cause that fr happened to one if my ex friends and I did the complete opposite, I fucking wiped them gcs CLEAN no curse words, no remotely inappropriate photos/vids in sight. And then my mom looked through my phone saw all the saved booty bouncing vids and started questioning my sexuality. Anyway my mom thinks I’m a lesbian😝😝😝😊
This is so real, one day someone just joined our friend group, n words, nazi shit and Greek nationalism bro, like wtf how did they all just deal with him bro.
He's literally me but the difference is that I'm American
i entered a discord vc with my friend and his cousins, we are from venezuela and my friend is white as paper and im brown, everything was good until one of his cousins started saying racist stuff and asked me if i was a person of color, i said yes obviously and suddendly i was treated as a dog, everytime i talked with my friend or gave him directions on how to play around me (league), they asked HIM if he let me speak, after i carried their asses i went out of there and my friend had the saddest voice on him and just apologised since he didn`t expect them to be like that
edit: his cousins aren`t from venezuela, they are from the US and he went to live there
@@superwaffle9312 that's crazy bruh
Na dude, your the intolerant one, hes being himself
@@travisandfreddy2176 He has the right to be himself and other people have the right to not want to be around it 🤷 If people don't like the garbage you say or how you act and you don't have friends because of it that's on you
another nice one to add is ppl projecting their own insecurities.
Idk why the soccer story brought me to tears 😭😭😭
I love how he plays soccer like a basketball 😂.
Can't wait for this vid go get taken down and re uploaded 🔥🔥🔥
Just like everyone else, I was and (sadly) currently in a toxic relationship. I recognize MANY things from this video. All the redflags.
There is a really toxic kid in my friend zone. He literally complains about everything. Literally everything. Like: why the bus seat is so hard, why the bus ceiling is so low, why the bus is colored yellow (yes, he complained about the busses' colour😭☠️) and many things (not only busses, but i quiet often take the public transport with him, and these came in mind first.)
He never takes responsibility, he has the "everything is others fault, and not mine" thinking. He has a very bad habit of grabbing my arm, and pulling me to a different direction, and one day, he grabbed my arm incorrectly, and badly scratched his arm with my metal watch. He played victim, and tried to blame it on me. He also often made classmates mad by offending them, and he thought he was the victim.
Always thinks he is right. He knew something wrongly, and i corrected him. He defended his opinion. Others told him he's wrong. He said "oh right, but i am still right."
He never ask himself about important things, like "hmm, maybe i was the wrong here" or "hmm, maybe i was too hars", always thinks others are wrong and he is the right.
Why he is toxic? Because he was bullied in school quite often...
But i was also bullied, and i didn't became toxic (or i hope i am not toxic💀)
He is raised in a very toxic environment, his mom always tells him he is not the wrong. My mom always told me, when i was the wrong in a stitulation.
Feel free to say "i should leave from that friendship" and you would be right, but i really feel bad about him. He has no friends. (Currently he has friends, but i don't know how long those will last) and i am also not brave enough to tell him that i am no longer his friend.
Thank you for making this video! It feels good, that i am not the only one, who's in a toxic releationship!
Fair. Frankly id recommend sitting him down and addressing this, calmly. If he gets pressed, leave, then come back. If he continues to get pressed, then leave forever Ig. But if you ignore the mold in that person, it’s just going to fester and grow.
@@lojika1majiki agree 100%. I noticed in the story that there was never a moment where you addressed or told him about these things. Hence there's a really good chance that he just isn't aware about these behaviours, so the first thing I would recommend is definitely communication about such issues.
@@0103depressingaftermath key thing though is to be civil. If he feels like you’re attacking him, he won’t be as receptive and could go even deeper down the wrong path.
Thank you all for the advice :) It's really helpful! I can't express myself how grateful and happy I am right now!
I will stand on my legs, and talk to him, and tell all the problems polietly.
Thank you guys very much
That guy is the type of guy to cry like "waaaaaah waaaaaaaaaaaah waah waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah"
I was thinking i was toxic watching this but then realized the shit i say abt people, like the traits or issue i dont like i actually point out to their face instead of gossip and if it doesnt change i just do my best to ignore the issue cuz the homies the homies fr. And the gossip that comes out only goes for that one actually bad faith individual thst did something particularly bad.
I like ur vids they've taught a lot and are a VERY nice change of pace from the red pill creators.
red pill creators????????????????????????????????????????????????? Other?????????????????????????????????????????
@@kaedee1011kaedee is suddenly shocked to learn that most of his audience are right wing assholes he hates. what will he do?
@@kaedee1011bro is flabbergasted
@@kaedee1011 Oops???????????????????
Didn't mean to write other?????????????????????
@@GeraldTheFrogg lmao I can imagine him audibly tweaking out at the comment 🤣
Man i hate this because like, understanding is not simple for me... i really cant get social cues easily, i feel like i might fit into some of these criteria? but also i really do not want to hurt my friends, they dont ever seem bothered by my presence or things i do? i still worry if theyre just not picking up on the toxic traits i may have or something
i am also terrible at reading my own behaviors, i genuinely will not pick up on something i do being wrong until i get told by someone else, well, i guess i do feel bad when i do some specific things, but when i do feel bad i apologize.
i have a friend like that, but im real af so i tell him when he is acting like a retard, so tell them to call you out
It doesn’t hurt to learn social psychology and get out and meet new people. When people want to be around you, they make themselves available. You should never have to chase someone’s attention. It sounds like you’re just insecure and overthinking, a brainrot TH-cam video shouldn’t have power over you
You sound too self aware to be toxic, also you sound just like me fr
@@JordoTWFSfr
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@@biqbagel?
just say hes normal, demisexual doesnt mean shit
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My friends started archiving things I posted to the server they didn’t like. I’ve been trying for 8 years to stop treating me like a stranger they’ve never met and talking down to me when they’re having a bad day. They always conveniently forget. So I left the server so I won’t have to look at that bullshit. Don’t need a server to play Elden ring together
I pressed on this video wondering if I was the toxic friend... 😔
broooo… I had a friend who was the definition of toxic af. obviously I didn’t realise it at the time, but I figured it out pretty quickly later. she did everything in this video 💀. she always played the victim, even when she stalked someone over social media and acted hurt when he was genuinely pissed off with her, and when his friends hated her too. she was always constantly the victim, always talking about her bullshit problems like tripping over infront of the dude she stalked. she also was a feind for drama, and would do anything imaginable to create it. even staying with her shitty boyfriend (who was as bad as her in his own right) who cheated on her just to create drama. she also would never let me talk about my problems, likely because her tiny brain thought them to be insignificant. despite the fact that it’d be something more serious like getting into an argument with my parents or something. she gave me constant stress, until I blocked her, which is when I felt like I was released from chains and let free.
Despite respect and mutual understanding being crucial in any and all relationships, you must remember not to be so understanding that you fail to see when you are being disrespected.
ngl if you genuinely threaten to kill yourself in response to someone else not doing something YOU'RE IN THE WRONG.
Dude my friend had this weird person (a year younger) text her sometime at night (they barely know each other) and he started guilt-tripping her into dating him or he’d y’know…
He entered his grooming arc
Did he become the .pdf?
Dam that's crazy
wtf LOL
The difference between a Friend and a Parasite is thd friend will know to do the right thing and apologize... The Parasite couldn't care less and knows they'll do more harm for harm's sake.
Why are you so mad that I punted your phone over the fence it’s just a joke it’s not like you KICKED ME IN THE NUTS 20 MINUTES AGO
I saw “giveaway” and a large crowd of people and immediately assumed it was a mr beast slander video😂
3:41 my friend needs to get that im not hiding anything on my phone, but mfs will look up the worst stuff and frame me for it.
I can agree on the phone one i dont leave my phone i just take it in the bathroom in my pocket
I suppose it would be better to not have anyone like this than be surrounded by them
Thanks for giving me the chills in the morning with that outro
A video from the Apostle of Diddy. My day is made.
If they’re always thinking about themselves and/or always blaming others for what’s going wrong in their life. It’s a pretty good sign that may not be a great person 💀
this video is funny and informative and all, but can you quit with the molestation jokes? they're just not funny and just come off as creepy, lazy shock-humor
if you don't know people who act like this are narcissist and what they do is act very charismatic and nice in public but behind closed door's can be the most abusive people we will ever have to encounter
me af watching videos about toxic people and thinking "man I'm probably toxic" the whole time
You can't just tell yourself that you're toxic by watching the video, you need to do your own research on this.
3:10 (they learned the lesson they just thought it only applied to them self. Boundaries for me never for thy.)
i dunno man u leaving your phone unlocked and unattended and you friends messing with you is hilarious xD gotta have always a password on the phone
damn all of the things you said can be apllied to me. Guess im one fucked up person.
O heck nah I ain't joining the discord
My phone has parental controls I would got my stuff rocked if somebody did that to me
Wow this is one of the worst videos I’ve ever watched.
1# hes bright red and has an evil face
The captain sound is adorable
I need a cross over with kaedee and degenerocity
5:19 Missed chance to change the drawing of the stickman into sitting correctly
This girl I used to eat with at school would take a bad pic of me, I would reciprocate, and she would respond BY THROWING A BOWL OF SOUP AT ME, then say that it’s my fault cause I took a picture???
So the girl took pictures of you without permissjon in school, when you politely talk back, the girl disrespectfully throwed a soup at you? And then blamed you thay you were taking pictures of her? Im pretty sure that girl is deranged, autistic, and narcissist
Hey so this is insane!
@@calebandrewgalicha118I think he also took her photo as she started it but then she got mad
It sucks listening to this and going ‘check, check, check… aww shit’
because every toxic friend fits the bill perfectly and you would really have benefitted from this video years ago. I don’t understand how some people can always be the victim either. Like… you know you did a shitty thing. Why can’t you just admit it so you can move on instead of making it everyone else’s fault for the way you behaved?
3:22
Yeah… ur 11, and your friends are ALSO 11. Which mean they like doing dumb shtuff.
YOU NEVER LEAVE UR PHONE WITH YOUR FRIENDS UNLESS YOUR WITH THEM. THEY WILL STEAL OR SCREW UP UR STUFF FAST.
Speaking from experience.
The way this ended was significantly more profound then I expected, before the discord invite
Who else is here to make sure they're not toxic lol. I have such a negative view of myself :/
Me too lol
Me too
Ahh yes, the video we all needed as insecure freshmen.
dang… that’s me… time to go on a self-improvement arc
U cannot point out a toxic person, everyones toxic in their own way n alot of them know how to hide it
Gotta say for the first one, I won’t get frustrated playing 99% of games but there are like two games I’ve ever played competitively and if I play those and do poorly, even for fun with a friend, I’m always getting super salty. Idk if that makes me toxic, in my head it’s more of a “you put so much time into this how the hell are you playing so poorly” reaction. It is ego yes, but if you put a lot of effort into something it hurts to do poorly.
I relate
So for me growing up i was given autism and the best kind! A brain working enough to be a wonder land of stories and ideas but with extremely bad scshole skills (and a fucking spelling disabilitie) so i quickly relized that when i have an agument to first ask if im in the wrong then just be safe or if im unsure ask my mates by explaining everything as best i can and showing text logs if i have them. Most times the say im more or less on point with what i think but i try to ask more the one group just to be sure. I know im not a perfect person and that i can be an asshole but i always try my best to be there when anyone needs it. Is this a good process or should i try something else?
Damn, I didn't realize how toxic I can be or was the gossiping part or the disrespecting boundaries that was a big one but, however ever some of my friends would just be annoying trust me they were. But nothing wrong with turning a new leaf
my friend doesn't self pity he just says that he doesn't give a shit and continues fucking with people
One thing that fucken sucks is i tend to be a sucker to them. I really want them to like me cause it always seems like their cool or shit. It tends to make me spill private stuff that they'll gosip abt later
I feel you man
I was actually hesitant to watch this video at first because I knew it wasn't gonna be great but I had to learn something so I went ahead and clicked on it and I didn't expect this, most of the anger towards people I've been mixed up with in the past was reflected in this video, I was not expecting to enjoy this video this much, this is great!
you just described narcissism for dummies... Or society attributes any toxic behaviour to narcissism x)
Im so toxic Im going to hate watch all your videos and ironically like and subscribe all your videos!