@@MigjolVanMjol you've lived your whole life in "lIvE aNd lEt lIve" and SEEN with your own 👀 the mishandling, why would you come with this bullshit as if it's not faulty my guy? dealing with the prospect of pedophilia being normalized day by day and saying that is something we need to reevaluate.
Or is it people who are insecure about their failures; because labeling people “pseudo-narcissist” seems to be the new way people cope. Like hating someone for their success is cope, so if you hate the advice a successful person gives you, when it can help you, you are just a coping.
@joceja23 It's not about someone believing something strongly, it's when people push their opinions on others. It's annoying whether they're trying to be or not.
@@Jack-fr1wg Ya but u should ultimately make your own conclusion what "success" is. Cuz success can mean many things depending on the individual. Some people want to have a social circle and hang out in the club for a bit. I myself wanted that since I always was somewhat of a reserved individual. Allowing myself in those situations broaden by social ability and allowed me to have connections with people. That to me was a success in my book. Am i going to do this for the rest of my life? No.
@joceja23 don't get mad then when people with common sense push you away from them for being annoying or retaliate with their own opinion then. you people have zero social skills and it shows.
Honestly it's refreshing to see you talk about these important subjects that are not talked about enough while making them genuinely funny and entertaining. (I don't usually dickride youtubers so enjoy it while it lasts)
@@user-ns4zm8qe9p ??? If you get invited all you gotta bring is a bottle and a good attitude. Or so I hear. Highschool parties are not L.A penthouse project X bs. Its just a bunch of people in one house getting fu**ed up together.
You spend time alone and grind because you think you’re better than everyone else, I spend time alone and grind because I don’t think I’m good enough to have friends. We are not the same
Its not that you aren't "good enough", its because you don't think you're as good as you should be 😭 And fair enough, why not try to manifest the best version of you, that you can be! 💪
Our brains are wired towards making generalizations so many people naturally turn towards assuming their views and tastes represent the truth when in reality we are very different. A lot of it is cope
To be fair, I think it's good to worry and tell what you think about certain activities your close ones might be doing if those become a habit - because it comes from genuine concern for their well-being. But doing this to people you barely know, randoms or for small things that literally do no damage to yourself like liking a genre of music or are a one-time-thing? That's where the problem starts and becomes annoying. And like you said, it's okay to have fun. When it comes to this I apply Aristotle's Golden Mean; do everything with moderation, and try to reach the point where there is no lack, but also no excess, for it is the greatest virtue. By the way, WHO'S MELVIN? WHAT DID HE DO? 💀
One thing is to express concern or call out someone close to you for a hobby/activity that is clearly becoming detrimental to him and other, like you point out, judging harshly a random anon on internet you don't know just because he has some interest you personally don't like or approve. I think it usually speaks more of the insecurities or self-righteousness of the know-it-all person than of those who become the target of their remarks.
My fav kaedee video by far. Love your view on self improvement. It's not just about giving up all the things you enjoy, but to improve on things you aren't happy about (your body, mental health etc...)
I'm building a mech and people at school insult me for it, Man, I'm literally building a mechanic exosuit able to lift well over 200 pounds. Literal Power Armor.
Bro tbh i do this to myself all the time and it exhausts me, i make myself feel bad for everything i do, in reality i am a lazy person, all i do is sit on my ass all day and watch youtube on my phone all day, i would love to change, but i always have excuses not to, and i hate that, i have this conflict between feeling comfortable and feeling sh*t about myself at the same time, i want to be successful, but i believe im not good and mature enough to do so, especially when it comes to relationships, i would'nt enter into a relationship because im insecure and immature, i want to fix all of these problems, but i lack the motivation to do so, i dont even know if these things are true, i need peace in my mind
find something that you are good or better than others then go for that way. I like coding plus have a logical understanding, so coding would be great for me.
I think, you should just starr doing nothing. I mean literally. No TH-cam or anything. And take a week to reflect. And then think what you wanted to try all along. And start doing it next week. Stick to that and make it habit and enjoy doing it. If after months you feel you don't enjoy or not satisfied. Look for something else. You don't need to the master or expert or perfect in things you like just do it , be open to criticism.
My brother, everyone deals with these issues. It's good that you are honest with yourself. Do the changes slowly, start with doing a couple exercises every day (or whatever else you deem productive) and increase from there. You can't just wipe out bad habits because then you have a gap of dopamine and free time in your schedule, you have to replace bad habits with good ones over time.
This... this was actually very deep and insightful for me. I never said anything about anyone, but shit I hated myself waay too much when I wasn't "on the grind", but rather just enjoying myself. This opened my eyes to something I forgot about, thank you!
Brother, respectfully, I would ask you to do that video on High school relationships and their consequences, it is really interesting concept that I see a lot of people talk about superficially but not analyze throughly.
@@PhilosophiceRetardari Idk how to exactly put into words, but I think that it would be smth like how Viable it is a HS relationship, and how worth it is, since it is on a age were we are not mature enough to handle certain situations and decisions, something that you get with age and emotional intelligence (that teenagers often do not have), how worth it would exactly be to dedicate time and energy to cultivate something that can fail so miserably, or if maybe HS relationships CAN'T work, and that's the point, that you need to go through it to grow, things like that y'know ?
@@theseekerofdankness959 Yeah, I get you. That would be really interesting, since even if everyone is inmature at those times it can be seen as something counterproductive; but at the same time is at those ages when you should start getting some experience with the opposite sex to be able to handle relationships correctly when you're an adult. Something that is contradictory but true for most, since if you don't have a relation in HS or early college then you've fallen behind (for better or for worse, there can be many reasons for it like religious beliefs and so on).
I love how you flame the alpha/sigma or whatever community. I tried being on the ''grind'' 24/7 but it just slows down anything. So do what you have to do: Maybe go gym, study and learn a new skill but pls don't overdo it. You'll reach your destination eventually
I don't live by "work hard, play hard" because I treat everything as both work and play. Going to bars is work and play for me because I am forcing myself to socialize with as many people as I can to improve my social skills and make new friends. School and work are play for me because I game-ify making those tasks more efficient and higher quality. I focus primarily on improving my life and part of that is listening for meaningful feedback and I hate it when people take a shit in my watering hole by shitting on activities that I like doing.
I think video games are usually a way to escape from something or a way to spend time with other people.The fun part is not really the game itself,but the time spent with the boys.At least that s my opinion,what do you guys think?
I do believe that general actions like drinking, smoking, eating, fucking, aren’t degenerate. It’s the overindulgence or extremes of these actions that are degenerate. There is a difference between having a few drinks on the weekends and drinking everyday out of emotional instability, treating both as the same is stupid.
@@jarredpickle4916Fair enough, not all of us have developed self control so if you are aware you can’t control your vices then you shouldn’t cope and indulge in them at all. But just because you can’t handle your beer doesn’t mean I’m going to stop drinking for your sake. Stop projecting mate.
@@anomalousanimatessome stamps look pretty cool, so people try to collect them to appreciate the variety and simply how they look. At least I think that’s why some people partake in stamp collecting, I personally don’t.
@@The-Devils-Advocate That's part of it, it can get really detailed like the amount of perforations (the little teeth like edges of a stamp), to the dyes, where it was "minted"/printed to even the type and content of the paper. Of course I just collect and organize them based on "themes" like stamps that have flowers, or stamps that have the words of certain holidays.
I honestly love the sigma meme, but it really is a horrible lifestyle that absolutely no one can hold for more than a weekend, you need to love yourself.
Before i finish this video( 2:32 ), i feel how that shit developed was because others side goes the same way, or how its precieved in media and social media. Like people will ask do you party, do you drink, do you have sex? And if you say no to all of these, you get precieved as a nerd or very boring. Or like in regular media(like movies or tv shows) having a high body count and lots of parties as moral goods in themselves.
6:31 Could never put my finger on why this felt stupid but now I have a good idea: This makes the following assumptions: *-The competition is global* This means: No language barriers No location barriers Every individual is aware of every other individual , akin to a stock market where a script can just filter every person by a specifc trait. eg. I have 6 points and can match with anyone in the list that has 6 or less. You cannot meet all of the women on earth , even if all of them could be acessed "though the internet" (avoiding the location barrier issue) and all of them could speak english. Meaning a worse partner can end up "on top" simply because he is either the best option the other partner knows about or simply be a better option because he/she is more "locally avalable" than someone from Romania who does not even speak english and would to fly over to america all the way from eastern europe to meet up, even if that Romanian is slightly more muscular/bigger boobs/both/has played 1 hour less of videogames than you did. You are not competing globally. *-Every individual is able to make a fully informed decision.* Anything ranging from intentional deception to just never bringing it up means the all individuals have imperfect knowledge. Meaning a partner may know about a specific flaw that would have initially been met with a rejection , but now that they are in a 1 year relationship... there is some attachment to the "objectively worse" partner *-Every man is interested in the same type of women* Mihai likes [X] Vlad hates [X] A Xaviera has [X] , Vlad could absolutely get Xaviera if he wanted but will not compete for Xaviera because he does not like her and will leave her to Mihai. *-Every women is intrested in the same type of man.* Vlad is a strong muscular guy , most women would like vlad Dorel is abnormally weak, weaker than most women in fact. In most circumstances, Vlad should get the girl, however they are both competing for Victoria , who is a bit unusual, Victoria has a very strong fetish for physically overpowering men, unlucky for her, most men are stronger than women, save for Dorel.
There's nothing wrong with judgement, and speaking out against a behavior you don't like. It's up to the individual to handle that judgement properly. It becomes an issue when you're too invasive.
@joceja23 The problem with pushing your ideas is that if you start doing it to multiple people, they might unite and go against you alltogether. If you're gonna gaslight someone into believing something, even if you could by force, do it intelligently. Or just don't, but not gonna point fingers at anybody for doing some mischief.
@joceja23 Sorry i live in canada, not the trash pile called America or any Third World country. Also, might as well smash your electronic if you want to stop being dictated
@joceja23 so people have to force you to shut up for you to stop spreading your beliefs to them? either you don't actually do this in real life, or you have no friends lmao.
I'm not a big fan of parties but I'm not shaming people for having fun. It's just not my thing, It might be due to my autism because of too much sensory overload and it's sometimes overwhelming. But I do like it if its with a close group of friends.
Hard agree except one thing: Boys (and girls but boys is a general term here) you can lose your virginity at any point you feel like, but have a long and honest talk with yourself and think if you wanna do that yet. Once you cross that threshold, that's it. That is your first time gone, and you're bound to that person, in one way or another, for life. I'm not saying you can't do it, but be sure that you're ready, and that the person is right. Respect yourselves and have a good one
I agree with you. People are only a virgin once, and if you lose it with someone you will never speak to again (hooking up) you’ve essentially thrown your virginity in the dumpster. Thats why i believe us humans should wait ‘til marriage for sex
When you actually don't know what fun is anymore.... Don't know how but relaxing, playing games or going for a walk has become as exhausting as actually working...
6:40 the BEAUTIFUL irony of that dude giving that "advice" while having a gta video underneath him (Badass drifting from that player btw, holy shit) to keep some brain rotted goofball from clicking off in a millisecond.
It's one thing if you're getting angry at randoms for stuff that they do because it's not "alpha" or whatever, but in my opinion, if your friends are actually your friends, it never hurts to inform them on how the habits they indulge in may hurt them in the future without being a dick, but also still being as real as you can be. I have a friend who's very overweight, and he likes to blame it on other factors. He got kicked out of his mom's house and lives with my other friend while not taking an ounce of care of his space. The reason he's gotten like this is because of all his bad habits he's dealt with for so long. Don't take this video as an excuse to cope and do nothing with your life, and also know that you don't want your friends to end up hating their lives in the future. you do too,
I don't want to drink anymore and now some friends are clowning at me for this decision. I tried to moderate it but each time I did, I felt more and more sad about it, so I decided to cut it to zero. Does it make me a "melvin" or is it still a choice?
If it's your decision and not like "i dont drink because andrew master alpha sneako man ordered me to do so" and don't annoy others about I would say it's fine
If your worry is “people will depict me as a soyjak if I don’t drink” then that won’t happen. If it does then who cares, can’t please everyone. Stay sober mate.
I don’t even play video games and I don’t understand why people criticize people who do. Those same people who criticize others for playing video games literally spend the whole day on TikTok and watching Netflix, so what’s the difference between that and playing video games?
I LOVE YOU MAN you are the fucking GOAT being a sigma is about understanding and not judging but those people that call themselves "SIGMAS" are just being arrogant and I despise these despicable people.
So far I love your videos, it's nice to find motivational videos without them being Andrew Tate clones. I can relate to this video because I had a friend like this who'd constantly put me and other friends down for stuff like our fields of study, the youtubers we watch, and the video games we'd play, even tho he would often play for hours a day but they were "based sigma male" games so he was fine. He'd make fun of my friend for not going to the gym everyday when he was busy with schoolwork and me for taking French so I can read more historical sources, even tho he took German and didn't come to class. He'd also make fun of us for not having a lot of relationship experience when I wasn't really big on dating, but when I ended up with someone he said he wasn't a strong man so he wasn't good enough for me, and meanwhile he'd use his girlfriends for sex. We don't talk to him anymore because he cut us off and dropped out of school after taking 3 classes lol.
You're delusional if you really think that playing videogames once in a while for only 1 hour, really is gonna cause you to lose your wife and level you -99 lmao
@@SantiagoMonroy5 1 hour can easily become 2-3 hours. and most games require more than one hour to get some good gaming in. (matchmaking time + long nature of matches + "one more game" mentality"
This video is facts. It’s important not to push your values and beliefs into others. If you don’t like what someone is doing don’t be friends with them. I’m still gonna keep going to the gym, working hard, and avoid playing video games and watching movies. Cause thats what I think is a good way to live. I’m not gonna bully people for thinking otherwise. Good message though
i disagree. There is a certain ways to live, that are objectively better than other ways, to not point this out to one's degen friends is doing them a disservice.
@@acethemain7776 it is difficult to change others. I have tried this very thing but it has been unsuccessful. Why not get friends who are already like you than trying to change your friends.
@@shadows7936 I think the "echo chamber" algorithm of most social media (including TH-cam) unfortunately gives more visibility to clearly mentally unwell individual who would most likely go unnoticed (or would have the decency to hide their dark side) in real life.
As long as you have a perfect balance of focusing on your ambitions and goals in life but also having spare fun time with yourself rhen you should be fine.
i was like that guy at the beginning about parties like "well i dont go to parties! i think they are rather goofy!" every time theyre brought up and then someone was like "yes we know" and i reconsidered my entire life
Dude took the words right out month, they are the most annoying people in the world god forbid you work your ass off and reward yourself with a little bit of booze and fun, life is tough enough as it is man.
I'm that guy that barely goes out. I had moved out of country, so I don't have any friends to go out and socialize with where I currently live. I think it has made me bitter and resentful. I don't really post anything on social media because it's just me staying at home. Feels like hook ups and situationships are the only thing filling the void. And they are through dating apps
So lets say you somehow found something you really enjoy for work. Now because of hustle culture, you feel tou should be working all day so you can keep ahead. If you dont rest, or slow down somedays, or go out with your friends or play some videogames or watch a movie, etc you are risking burning yourself out. Byrnout syndrome is real and it is awfull. Imagine spending a lot of time getting better at your job only for you to eventually hate it because you did not respect your own right to rest. I have seen it happen and i dont recomend it.
Erm, while you went and played video games I studied the blade, while you did the drugs I studied the games, while you went and partied and had fun. I. STUDIED. THE. BLADE.
It’s my belief that the guys who think so much about how complicated it is to be a man and how you have to be alpha and hustle and shit are just wrong and coping that they are so timid. Like bro it’s not that hard. It’s not hard to be a man, it’s literally one of the few things you’re born to do. It’s not hard to find a gorgeous woman. It’s embarrassing to spend your whole life thinking about how hard it is to talk to women. It’s not hard to get money. Just fuckin do it and stop trying to analyze it. Life is so good and it all works out when you realize this.
Listen to Marcus Aurelius, and do not hold others to the same high standards you hold for yourself. Be patient with everyone, and treat them with patience and kindess, especially when you disagree with them.
"why are you playing video games? video games are such a waste of time and you'll never be successful" Henry Cavill: guess I'm just a himbo who played Superman and Geralt
5:54 bro i agree with you 10000% but i just really don't want be social with people who are going to make me do shit like that, because it should be common sense by now that when you are with low quality friends, then you will be more likely to take drugs aswell. Bro of course i would do the same degenerate shit; it is in my instincts, that's why i stay away from them. But you have a very good point as well, i really need to get over my social anxiety.
I’m just a kid with a body that can go until I want to stop. I’ve got my main job and my side piece. 6am-9pm on some days but most is 10am-9pm. Does that shit stop me from gaming with the bois for a little bit? No do I pay the price everytime? Yes but we all have our recuperate days. Sleep in till 11 snuggle my baby brother. Emphasis on the baby. We wake up, eat some breakfast, watch some tv, then we go play outside for the day. Balance your life and surround yourself with the right people.
I used to be that fucking guy. God I cringe so much from it. Literally a few months ago my whole personality was a big stinky dunning kruger. I'd love to say that I've made good progress to being more normal.
You cannot tell someone not to do something. Use your own evaluations for your own self improvement. This is how the old tend to survive, by watching their stupider counterparts die first.
Bro I literally know this dude, he was talking to a girl next to him saying "ooh tiktok and insta reels are stupid, they are a waste of time, you should be investing in crypto and stocks like me" I do kind of agree with him that they are kinda stupid (I still watch them) but bro literally pulled up insta the next day.
I think I be too hard on myself. Sometimes being thinking man I should go outside but at the same time it be I don’t know what to do besides drink, and I don’t want to deal with traffic. I think I also I work probably too much as well so I don’t have the energy to do anything
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Omg, you live and let live? Whoever does that? How you going to get ahead if you're not putting people down, smh.
no stizzy kiizzy facts cap🤓
"Live and let live" is not a noble nor realistic virtue to have, pls stop the pseudo "individuality" crap.
@@shelbyspeaks3287 What? I assume you are joking along with me or are you actually serious?
@@shelbyspeaks3287 agreed! Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should, and consequences still exist.
@@MigjolVanMjol you've lived your whole life in "lIvE aNd lEt lIve" and SEEN with your own 👀 the mishandling, why would you come with this bullshit as if it's not faulty my guy?
dealing with the prospect of pedophilia being normalized day by day and saying that is something we need to reevaluate.
These types of people basically seek validation by putting others down. It's unironically the most lame thing to do.
Or is it people who are insecure about their failures; because labeling people “pseudo-narcissist” seems to be the new way people cope. Like hating someone for their success is cope, so if you hate the advice a successful person gives you, when it can help you, you are just a coping.
Or they just genuinely think they are right.
@joceja23 It's not about someone believing something strongly, it's when people push their opinions on others. It's annoying whether they're trying to be or not.
@@Jack-fr1wg Ya but u should ultimately make your own conclusion what "success" is. Cuz success can mean many things depending on the individual. Some people want to have a social circle and hang out in the club for a bit. I myself wanted that since I always was somewhat of a reserved individual. Allowing myself in those situations broaden by social ability and allowed me to have connections with people. That to me was a success in my book. Am i going to do this for the rest of my life? No.
@joceja23 don't get mad then when people with common sense push you away from them for being annoying or retaliate with their own opinion then. you people have zero social skills and it shows.
"Situationship" is one of the best terms I've heard for a hookup
Honestly it's refreshing to see you talk about these important subjects that are not talked about enough while making them genuinely funny and entertaining. (I don't usually dickride youtubers so enjoy it while it lasts)
i don't think he enjoys it
description says "off my nuts pls"
This is considered dick riding? It's literally just a compliment, but ok.
@@thisisaperson1536Never said anything about his in out in out tool
@@graduatedpinksnowball668
(x) doubt
dude thats just sounds like a nice compliment, you aint riding anything, chill lol
You don’t go to parties because you are “high value”
I don’t go to parties because I don’t get invited
We are not the same
So true and neither do any of my close friends so I don't even have a way in. #over
You don’t get invited? I can’t afford to go, we are not the same
@@user-ns4zm8qe9p ??? If you get invited all you gotta bring is a bottle and a good attitude. Or so I hear. Highschool parties are not L.A penthouse project X bs. Its just a bunch of people in one house getting fu**ed up together.
we are the same*
real
You spend time alone and grind because you think you’re better than everyone else, I spend time alone and grind because I don’t think I’m good enough to have friends.
We are not the same
alone grinding to make myself worth another person's attention
Its not that you aren't "good enough", its because you don't think you're as good as you should be 😭
And fair enough, why not try to manifest the best version of you, that you can be! 💪
The following statement proves you are good enough to have friends.
ngo, you kinda are, they’re just in denial
LMFAOOO SAME
Our brains are wired towards making generalizations so many people naturally turn towards assuming their views and tastes represent the truth when in reality we are very different. A lot of it is cope
That's sounds kinda relativistic, in action things do fall into cause and effect and that logic of personal opinion goes out the window.
Achktually
@@Phasma6969 no.
I normally can't stand parties at all,
I will however happily accompany a friend who goes to one just for their sake alone.
You just like me
To be fair, I think it's good to worry and tell what you think about certain activities your close ones might be doing if those become a habit - because it comes from genuine concern for their well-being. But doing this to people you barely know, randoms or for small things that literally do no damage to yourself like liking a genre of music or are a one-time-thing? That's where the problem starts and becomes annoying. And like you said, it's okay to have fun. When it comes to this I apply Aristotle's Golden Mean; do everything with moderation, and try to reach the point where there is no lack, but also no excess, for it is the greatest virtue.
By the way, WHO'S MELVIN? WHAT DID HE DO? 💀
One thing is to express concern or call out someone close to you for a hobby/activity that is clearly becoming detrimental to him and other, like you point out, judging harshly a random anon on internet you don't know just because he has some interest you personally don't like or approve.
I think it usually speaks more of the insecurities or self-righteousness of the know-it-all person than of those who become the target of their remarks.
im a schizophrenic and the voices wont stop am i right guys
Hell yeah
God is talking to you. Listen to the voices and do what they tell you.
@@PhilosophiceRetardari thank you brother atf headquarters will not stand a chance
@@kaisercrusader465 Amen brother.
Lets goooo
Be humble. Do the work. Have fun. Serve others.
Said by a true civillian
And actively try to discover and understand the principles of the universe, yes?
@joceja23 around as much as you serve yourself. Maybe a bit less, or a bit more, but not the extremes.
@joceja23 just don’t abuse such conditions
@joceja23 I am only saying what I think is ought to be, not what is. I understand your point and was aware of it beforehand.
My fav kaedee video by far. Love your view on self improvement. It's not just about giving up all the things you enjoy, but to improve on things you aren't happy about (your body, mental health etc...)
Working on yourself doesn't need to be a sacrifice, but an act of self care and self respect
Based comment on a based video 💯
I’m only that “purist” sex before marriage and alcohol is bad because I try to follow the Bible and crap.
@@PA1NBRU5H respectable
you see while you are out getting drunk i am in my bed crying gotta keep that grind
Bro's got the ligma grindset sheesh
Sigma snail grindset
Crying? I jerk off and eat. We are not the same.
As they say, misery loves company.
Man you can really feel the timeless ethnic family tradition of Street Fighter asswhoopings everytime Kaedee says "MM BITCH" and slaps a nerd
It would be pretty hypocritical for me to call people who play video games immature or lazy since I’m literally studying to be a game dev
Good luck! I know that stuff can be very hard! It's still my backup backup choice though..
Idk man it's pretty common for someone to look down on those who give them money. Like drug kingpins and politicians
@@vceisdead Music production. Interested in psychology too.
@ajgumpper I think you should get this one. Can you finish this for me?
"If you tell someone not to do something..."
@@yeng1855 they will usually do it anyways 🤣
i hate vaping and weed cuz i want my friends to be their best selves, if they want to do that its fine i just warn them tbh
weed doesn't ruin your or have long term side affects unless your doing it every hour or some shit
@@BrianOrSum Keep telling yourself that but you do you. Any intoxicant is bad for your body but we all human so it’s whatever 🤷🏿♂️
@@Akech101 its just annoying seeing people tryna shame mfs for doing drugs
@@BrianOrSum weed might not have anything bad with it, however it's a gateway drug so yk, just gonna warn them.
@@majinmanny6509 its not though, only people who dont smoke say ts bro
I'm building a mech and people at school insult me for it, Man, I'm literally building a mechanic exosuit able to lift well over 200 pounds. Literal Power Armor.
thats so cool
wait fr?, why they hating then??, thats crazy cool
Bro tbh i do this to myself all the time and it exhausts me, i make myself feel bad for everything i do, in reality i am a lazy person, all i do is sit on my ass all day and watch youtube on my phone all day, i would love to change, but i always have excuses not to, and i hate that, i have this conflict between feeling comfortable and feeling sh*t about myself at the same time, i want to be successful, but i believe im not good and mature enough to do so, especially when it comes to relationships, i would'nt enter into a relationship because im insecure and immature, i want to fix all of these problems, but i lack the motivation to do so, i dont even know if these things are true, i need peace in my mind
find something that you are good or better than others then go for that way. I like coding plus have a logical understanding, so coding would be great for me.
You sound mature ;)
I think, you should just starr doing nothing. I mean literally. No TH-cam or anything. And take a week to reflect. And then think what you wanted to try all along. And start doing it next week. Stick to that and make it habit and enjoy doing it. If after months you feel you don't enjoy or not satisfied. Look for something else.
You don't need to the master or expert or perfect in things you like just do it , be open to criticism.
My brother, everyone deals with these issues. It's good that you are honest with yourself. Do the changes slowly, start with doing a couple exercises every day (or whatever else you deem productive) and increase from there. You can't just wipe out bad habits because then you have a gap of dopamine and free time in your schedule, you have to replace bad habits with good ones over time.
Thank you all so much for your advice, I'll do my best to improve my situation in increments
This... this was actually very deep and insightful for me. I never said anything about anyone, but shit I hated myself waay too much when I wasn't "on the grind", but rather just enjoying myself. This opened my eyes to something I forgot about, thank you!
I prefer work hard, play reasonably, and sleep regularly.
"Mm-bitch!" ✋
Gets me every time 😂
Brother, respectfully, I would ask you to do that video on High school relationships and their consequences, it is really interesting concept that I see a lot of people talk about superficially but not analyze throughly.
Just out of curiosity: which points would you like to be touched when it comes to highschool relationships? Because it can give for a long talk.
@@PhilosophiceRetardari Idk how to exactly put into words, but I think that it would be smth like how Viable it is a HS relationship, and how worth it is, since it is on a age were we are not mature enough to handle certain situations and decisions, something that you get with age and emotional intelligence (that teenagers often do not have), how worth it would exactly be to dedicate time and energy to cultivate something that can fail so miserably, or if maybe HS relationships CAN'T work, and that's the point, that you need to go through it to grow, things like that y'know ?
@@theseekerofdankness959 Yeah, I get you. That would be really interesting, since even if everyone is inmature at those times it can be seen as something counterproductive; but at the same time is at those ages when you should start getting some experience with the opposite sex to be able to handle relationships correctly when you're an adult. Something that is contradictory but true for most, since if you don't have a relation in HS or early college then you've fallen behind (for better or for worse, there can be many reasons for it like religious beliefs and so on).
I love how you flame the alpha/sigma or whatever community. I tried being on the ''grind'' 24/7 but it just slows down anything. So do what you have to do: Maybe go gym, study and learn a new skill but pls don't overdo it. You'll reach your destination eventually
0:37 my mom walked in my room and I wasn’t wearing headphones 💀💀💀
How did that go?💀💀💀💀
I don't live by "work hard, play hard" because I treat everything as both work and play. Going to bars is work and play for me because I am forcing myself to socialize with as many people as I can to improve my social skills and make new friends. School and work are play for me because I game-ify making those tasks more efficient and higher quality. I focus primarily on improving my life and part of that is listening for meaningful feedback and I hate it when people take a shit in my watering hole by shitting on activities that I like doing.
I think video games are usually a way to escape from something or a way to spend time with other people.The fun part is not really the game itself,but the time spent with the boys.At least that s my opinion,what do you guys think?
I absolutely loved this comment, you seem like a cool person. What do you play on?
Some games can be fun solo, but the boys are always better fr
@@cheezebagz729 When you have boys that is. And I don't mean discord boys, I mean irl friends.
I do believe that general actions like drinking, smoking, eating, fucking, aren’t degenerate. It’s the overindulgence or extremes of these actions that are degenerate. There is a difference between having a few drinks on the weekends and drinking everyday out of emotional instability, treating both as the same is stupid.
They are stop coping
@@jarredpickle4916Fair enough, not all of us have developed self control so if you are aware you can’t control your vices then you shouldn’t cope and indulge in them at all. But just because you can’t handle your beer doesn’t mean I’m going to stop drinking for your sake. Stop projecting mate.
@@almightyarsenal3366 eating and drinking are okay but odd, smoking, vaping and taking drugs is loser shit
Nothing wrong with a party. The problem comes when people are obsessed and can’t go one minute without being by himself
Stamp collecting is the bomb
Its soo fun I do it all the time.
Fuck yah bro
stamp collecting? never heard of that
@@anomalousanimatessome stamps look pretty cool, so people try to collect them to appreciate the variety and simply how they look.
At least I think that’s why some people partake in stamp collecting, I personally don’t.
@@The-Devils-Advocate That's part of it, it can get really detailed like the amount of perforations (the little teeth like edges of a stamp), to the dyes, where it was "minted"/printed to even the type and content of the paper.
Of course I just collect and organize them based on "themes" like stamps that have flowers, or stamps that have the words of certain holidays.
I honestly love the sigma meme, but it really is a horrible lifestyle that absolutely no one can hold for more than a weekend, you need to love yourself.
the bitch slap cracks me up every time
You don't go to parties because you're "high value."
I don't go to parties because I study the blade...
We are not the same.
I don't go to parties because im committing tax evasion and fiscal fraud, we are not the same.
i dont go to parties bc i think alchohol smells bad and im scared of socialization. we are not the same.
Bro, I'm just like those ppl, i see how it is weird and dumb to judge others for wat they like, big thanks to you!
Before i finish this video( 2:32 ), i feel how that shit developed was because others side goes the same way, or how its precieved in media and social media. Like people will ask do you party, do you drink, do you have sex? And if you say no to all of these, you get precieved as a nerd or very boring. Or like in regular media(like movies or tv shows) having a high body count and lots of parties as moral goods in themselves.
i love hearing you shout in my ear
he's so fineeee
@@vizari9570 hes a stick figure
@@Teaquamarine still so fine
@@book_roblox idk personally i look for girth
@@Teaquamarine I disagree but accept your opinion
some people feel alive and happy when they are hated and love it.
Go gym mfs when go school mfs are more successful than them
absolutely agree. Everyone thinking they're the shit when in reality they're just tiny pebbles.
6:31 Could never put my finger on why this felt stupid but now I have a good idea:
This makes the following assumptions:
*-The competition is global*
This means:
No language barriers
No location barriers
Every individual is aware of every other individual , akin to a stock market where a script can just filter every person by a specifc trait. eg. I have 6 points and can match with anyone in the list that has 6 or less. You cannot meet all of the women on earth , even if all of them could be acessed "though the internet" (avoiding the location barrier issue) and all of them could speak english.
Meaning a worse partner can end up "on top" simply because he is either the best option the other partner knows about or simply be a better option because he/she is more "locally avalable" than someone from Romania who does not even speak english and would to fly over to america all the way from eastern europe to meet up, even if that Romanian is slightly more muscular/bigger boobs/both/has played 1 hour less of videogames than you did.
You are not competing globally.
*-Every individual is able to make a fully informed decision.*
Anything ranging from intentional deception to just never bringing it up means the all individuals have imperfect knowledge.
Meaning a partner may know about a specific flaw that would have initially been met with a rejection , but now that they are in a 1 year relationship... there is some attachment to the "objectively worse" partner
*-Every man is interested in the same type of women*
Mihai likes [X]
Vlad hates [X]
A Xaviera has [X] , Vlad could absolutely get Xaviera if he wanted but will not compete for Xaviera because he does not like her and will leave her to Mihai.
*-Every women is intrested in the same type of man.*
Vlad is a strong muscular guy , most women would like vlad
Dorel is abnormally weak, weaker than most women in fact.
In most circumstances, Vlad should get the girl, however they are both competing for Victoria , who is a bit unusual,
Victoria has a very strong fetish for physically overpowering men, unlucky for her, most men are stronger than women, save for Dorel.
this is such a good way of exaplaining it dude
guys talking about getting women like its some sort of tokyo olympic competition will never be not funny
I agree but big issue is a lot of people are addicted to these things than they're willing to admit, I can speak from experience
Exactly
I feast my hunger on living humans
There's nothing wrong with judgement, and speaking out against a behavior you don't like. It's up to the individual to handle that judgement properly.
It becomes an issue when you're too invasive.
The issue isn't the judgement it's how you present that judgement (And intentions ofc)
@joceja23 The problem with pushing your ideas is that if you start doing it to multiple people, they might unite and go against you alltogether. If you're gonna gaslight someone into believing something, even if you could by force, do it intelligently. Or just don't, but not gonna point fingers at anybody for doing some mischief.
@joceja23 this is how dictator ship work
@joceja23 Sorry i live in canada, not the trash pile called America or any Third World country. Also, might as well smash your electronic if you want to stop being dictated
@joceja23 so people have to force you to shut up for you to stop spreading your beliefs to them? either you don't actually do this in real life, or you have no friends lmao.
I'm not a big fan of parties but I'm not shaming people for having fun. It's just not my thing, It might be due to my autism because of too much sensory overload and it's sometimes overwhelming.
But I do like it if its with a close group of friends.
Literally me
Many non-autistic people hate parties. Not an uncommon thing. I will say, autistic guys and gals are usually the nicest! Hope you're doing well!
Hard agree except one thing: Boys (and girls but boys is a general term here) you can lose your virginity at any point you feel like, but have a long and honest talk with yourself and think if you wanna do that yet. Once you cross that threshold, that's it. That is your first time gone, and you're bound to that person, in one way or another, for life. I'm not saying you can't do it, but be sure that you're ready, and that the person is right. Respect yourselves and have a good one
Goes for both! Well said.
I agree with you. People are only a virgin once, and if you lose it with someone you will never speak to again (hooking up) you’ve essentially thrown your virginity in the dumpster. Thats why i believe us humans should wait ‘til marriage for sex
@@NerfedOnGod Agreed!
@@NerfedOnGodyeah, it can make for a stronger relationship too in some ways (done right).
When you actually don't know what fun is anymore....
Don't know how but relaxing, playing games or going for a walk has become as exhausting as actually working...
As an alcoholic Kaedee i appreciate you for stepping out for my culture.
6:40 the BEAUTIFUL irony of that dude giving that "advice" while having a gta video underneath him (Badass drifting from that player btw, holy shit) to keep some brain rotted goofball from clicking off in a millisecond.
That isnt his original video, maybe some dumbass thought he could get more views by putting an overstimulating GTA vid under it
It's one thing if you're getting angry at randoms for stuff that they do because it's not "alpha" or whatever, but in my opinion, if your friends are actually your friends, it never hurts to inform them on how the habits they indulge in may hurt them in the future without being a dick, but also still being as real as you can be. I have a friend who's very overweight, and he likes to blame it on other factors. He got kicked out of his mom's house and lives with my other friend while not taking an ounce of care of his space. The reason he's gotten like this is because of all his bad habits he's dealt with for so long. Don't take this video as an excuse to cope and do nothing with your life, and also know that you don't want your friends to end up hating their lives in the future. you do too,
i agree, always have the friend that gives you reality check.
There is a certain number of patrick batesman edits u can watch bfor the word sigma makes u leave the room. Loved the vid bruv.
I don't want to drink anymore and now some friends are clowning at me for this decision. I tried to moderate it but each time I did, I felt more and more sad about it, so I decided to cut it to zero. Does it make me a "melvin" or is it still a choice?
If it's your decision and not like "i dont drink because andrew master alpha sneako man ordered me to do so" and don't annoy others about I would say it's fine
Alcohol is overrated
If your worry is “people will depict me as a soyjak if I don’t drink” then that won’t happen. If it does then who cares, can’t please everyone. Stay sober mate.
I don’t even play video games and I don’t understand why people criticize people who do. Those same people who criticize others for playing video games literally spend the whole day on TikTok and watching Netflix, so what’s the difference between that and playing video games?
I LOVE YOU MAN you are the fucking GOAT being a sigma is about understanding and not judging but those people that call themselves "SIGMAS" are just being arrogant and I despise these despicable people.
So far I love your videos, it's nice to find motivational videos without them being Andrew Tate clones. I can relate to this video because I had a friend like this who'd constantly put me and other friends down for stuff like our fields of study, the youtubers we watch, and the video games we'd play, even tho he would often play for hours a day but they were "based sigma male" games so he was fine. He'd make fun of my friend for not going to the gym everyday when he was busy with schoolwork and me for taking French so I can read more historical sources, even tho he took German and didn't come to class. He'd also make fun of us for not having a lot of relationship experience when I wasn't really big on dating, but when I ended up with someone he said he wasn't a strong man so he wasn't good enough for me, and meanwhile he'd use his girlfriends for sex. We don't talk to him anymore because he cut us off and dropped out of school after taking 3 classes lol.
i think what hamza was talking about was that it's not that videogames are a break from moving forward, but something that moves you backward
Naw many things gets ya backwards, but if ya believe that shi then you go backwards if you think you go backwards. The mind fallible bitch
You're delusional if you really think that playing videogames once in a while for only 1 hour, really is gonna cause you to lose your wife and level you -99 lmao
In that case, music producers are the biggest losers on the planet 😂😂 'cause the grind is literally ALL DAY for them. Cmon now.
@@SantiagoMonroy5 1 hour can easily become 2-3 hours. and most games require more than one hour to get some good gaming in. (matchmaking time + long nature of matches + "one more game" mentality"
@@acethemain7776 it depends on what type of game ur playing, if ur playing multiplayer or campaing based games, it mattera
I had a realisation a while back that changed my life forever, this one simple sentence:
You can be pissed and not say anything.
This video is facts. It’s important not to push your values and beliefs into others. If you don’t like what someone is doing don’t be friends with them. I’m still gonna keep going to the gym, working hard, and avoid playing video games and watching movies. Cause thats what I think is a good way to live. I’m not gonna bully people for thinking otherwise. Good message though
i disagree.
There is a certain ways to live, that are objectively better than other ways, to not point this out to one's degen friends is doing them a disservice.
@@acethemain7776 it is difficult to change others. I have tried this very thing but it has been unsuccessful. Why not get friends who are already like you than trying to change your friends.
@@xonezzz_______zzzzzz2171facts bro. But it's so hard to find friends who think the same way as you
6:31 I actually love this guys channel it’s so goofy but sometimes good advice
This like gen z version of gradeAunderA
This channel is making me a better person honestly
Carl Jung once said (sorta): We hate other people about things we hate about ourselves.
Fucking finally, someone said it. though I feel we should differentiate between being a hater and palyful trash talking other peoples interests.
Life too short to not indulge in some fun as long as you schedule yourself
Usually people that do this shit are chronically online
Never met somebody like that
You’re probably that somebody
Online they are plenty
@@eyesack3606 ^assimilated
@@shadows7936 I think the "echo chamber" algorithm of most social media (including TH-cam) unfortunately gives more visibility to clearly mentally unwell individual who would most likely go unnoticed (or would have the decency to hide their dark side) in real life.
@@eyesack3606 that is me, i only talk to andrew tate. Nobody else
As long as you have a perfect balance of focusing on your ambitions and goals in life but also having spare fun time with yourself rhen you should be fine.
i was like that guy at the beginning about parties like "well i dont go to parties! i think they are rather goofy!" every time theyre brought up and then someone was like "yes we know" and i reconsidered my entire life
Dude took the words right out month, they are the most annoying people in the world god forbid you work your ass off and reward yourself with a little bit of booze and fun, life is tough enough as it is man.
Where has this man been all my life
What you’re describing is the modern Bug Man
4:53 "you gonna die because you eat things like" O'Reily Auto Part ad interupts*
"Just let people enjoy things."
Counter-Argument, just let people hate things.
D1 hater
Angry wojak npc founded
I'm that guy that barely goes out. I had moved out of country, so I don't have any friends to go out and socialize with where I currently live. I think it has made me bitter and resentful. I don't really post anything on social media because it's just me staying at home. Feels like hook ups and situationships are the only thing filling the void. And they are through dating apps
Im just sitting in the newest comments with my popcorn reading all the melvins complete missing the point of the video 🍿
same brotha 🍿
🍿🍿🍿 i brought extra
But being judgemental and making others uncomfortable is a special pleasure of its own
"don't be ashamed to do what you like, unless you're playing elden ring"
nice
So lets say you somehow found something you really enjoy for work.
Now because of hustle culture, you feel tou should be working all day so you can keep ahead.
If you dont rest, or slow down somedays, or go out with your friends or play some videogames or watch a movie, etc you are risking burning yourself out.
Byrnout syndrome is real and it is awfull. Imagine spending a lot of time getting better at your job only for you to eventually hate it because you did not respect your own right to rest.
I have seen it happen and i dont recomend it.
“But don’t you do that” is a very good point no matter how many silly voices you add to it
Erm, while you went and played video games I studied the blade, while you did the drugs I studied the games, while you went and partied and had fun. I. STUDIED. THE. BLADE.
sure, I don't like rap, but the difference between me and those guys is I don't shove my opinion down everyone's throat.
Man that scurvy line felt personal 😭
I've gotten a few times before
It’s my belief that the guys who think so much about how complicated it is to be a man and how you have to be alpha and hustle and shit are just wrong and coping that they are so timid. Like bro it’s not that hard. It’s not hard to be a man, it’s literally one of the few things you’re born to do. It’s not hard to find a gorgeous woman. It’s embarrassing to spend your whole life thinking about how hard it is to talk to women. It’s not hard to get money. Just fuckin do it and stop trying to analyze it. Life is so good and it all works out when you realize this.
Listen to Marcus Aurelius, and do not hold others to the same high standards you hold for yourself. Be patient with everyone, and treat them with patience and kindess, especially when you disagree with them.
"why are you playing video games? video games are such a waste of time and you'll never be successful"
Henry Cavill: guess I'm just a himbo who played Superman and Geralt
5:54 bro i agree with you 10000% but i just really don't want be social with people who are going to make me do shit like that, because it should be common sense by now that when you are with low quality friends, then you will be more likely to take drugs aswell. Bro of course i would do the same degenerate shit; it is in my instincts, that's why i stay away from them. But you have a very good point as well, i really need to get over my social anxiety.
I have it too and it sucks. Try meditation because it let's you be in the moment.
I’m just a kid with a body that can go until I want to stop. I’ve got my main job and my side piece. 6am-9pm on some days but most is 10am-9pm. Does that shit stop me from gaming with the bois for a little bit? No do I pay the price everytime? Yes but we all have our recuperate days. Sleep in till 11 snuggle my baby brother. Emphasis on the baby. We wake up, eat some breakfast, watch some tv, then we go play outside for the day. Balance your life and surround yourself with the right people.
"I don't talk much because I don't want to be depicted as a Soyjak" - Ryan Gosling
Them Bitch slaps are the best part of the video
If some of the Melvins in my school could hear what you just said, they'd be very upset.
Thankfully, I haven't met anyone like this. And hopefully, would never meet
I used to be that fucking guy. God I cringe so much from it. Literally a few months ago my whole personality was a big stinky dunning kruger. I'd love to say that I've made good progress to being more normal.
You cannot tell someone not to do something.
Use your own evaluations for your own self improvement.
This is how the old tend to survive, by watching their stupider counterparts die first.
Bro I literally know this dude, he was talking to a girl next to him saying "ooh tiktok and insta reels are stupid, they are a waste of time, you should be investing in crypto and stocks like me" I do kind of agree with him that they are kinda stupid (I still watch them) but bro literally pulled up insta the next day.
You don't party because you think it'll make you successful in life.
I don't party because I don't have friends.
We are not the same.
/j
Also,
You shun those that use drugs because you think you're above others.
I shun drugs because I have asthma.
We are not the same
This man criticizes literally every word i speak and i love it
My favourite quote "em beach!''
Finally a guy who condemns hookup culture 😭
kevin durant keeps on dropping both irl and in youtube videos, great content
I think I be too hard on myself. Sometimes being thinking man I should go outside but at the same time it be I don’t know what to do besides drink, and I don’t want to deal with traffic. I think I also I work probably too much as well so I don’t have the energy to do anything
I hate how these people expect you to have a list of things they like when you meet them