You're awesome! :D You're so on-point, and cover SO much within each video, it's quite an accomplishment!! And to end your video on such a high- spot on! Much appreciated. I've watched tonnes of videos on narcissism; I should almost be an expert now, but I regularly need reminding of what's what (since I'm still having to have some engagement with my narcissist ex- sadly). Very well summed up. Good job, boss! :) Thank you once again for your pearls of wisdom- so very accurate, based on my personal experience.
Agreed. Every now and then, I'll check out another channel, but too many reasons to return here. For one, his delivery of the urgency to get the message. Repetition? No one excels without learning and practicing the basics over and over and ingraining them into reflexes in thinking and action in the real world.
He hit me with the I don't have food. I would hate to think someone did not have food, but he should contact his mother. I think l he may like men too. If you send me money for gas, can you add $12.59 for a pizza? I don't have food, so I sent $100. Before I knew it I had given $600 to someone I spent a total of 2 hours with before I was regulated to not being able to visit his home. I was really bamboozled. That is what I deserved for allowing man 17 years my junior to love bomb me. I feel like such a fool. 😢
There IS abundant life after the narcissistic relationship! Celebrating ONE FULL YEAR OF ABSOLUTE NO CONTACT! Thank you so much, Andrew, for the You Tube videos and the one-on-one counseling sessions. I could not have done it without you! NAMASTE❤
@@dr.cynthiabroughton1240 Andrews videos have turned my life around after walking away from my abuser every video I watched I saw my ex in every video the gas lighting the blame shifting the financial abuse silent treatment it's only when I came here that I realised am a victim of mental abuse by an evil person who claimed to love me being single is not were I wish to be but it far outweighs being with a nasty vile control freak like my ex stay good people healing takes time you will get there
I finally realized that all my relationships were toxic and have cut them one by one. It's lonely now, but at least I'm free and no longer deluded, no longer getting the life, the literal life sucked out of me. Trapped and still lonely and unloved. Freedom, healing and loneliness is a far better trade. I was lonely regardless
As Andrew says :" You are not alone !" 🙂 You are now loved and accepted by this community !!! Thank you for sharing your experience with this community. It might be just the encouragement someone else needs to take the first steps out of a similar situation.
They try to humiliate you bringing up your mistakes from over 40 years ago. And it works, you sink into shame, losing your self respect, all the time wondering why they concentrate on the dead past of so long ago. The devaluation is subtle, but that’s what happens. Break away in any way you can, moment by moment until you can get free. Pray to get free from their abuse. Thank you Andrew for your bright shining light of truth! ❤
after 12 months since i walked away my life is peaceful no drama head clear from narcisist fog and trauma bond i am currently single living life with friends and family and in 4 weeks i go on holiday to benidorm in spain with a friend my finances have improved and my savings are amazing cut any controlling person out your life there evil toxic nasty and they dont love anyone but themselves
I'm glad you were able to do that. I had 9 kids (adopted foster care} when I divorced my X. Plus, it took me a good 15 years after of trying to figure out what I did wrong. I was poisoned. By eating the wedding cake.
@@kimsteed9401 I spent 3 months trying to work out what I did wrong as I had no closure so I contacted her ex husband who she accused of controlling behaviour only to find out he was a victim same as me my ex was an evil narcissist hell bent on trying to break me
Dark humor has carried me through since I was a child. I get such intense energy from laughing at what is happening during my downfalls. It's ridiculous really...and of course I just carry on as always. Never give up❤
Of course, I didn't carry on as always. I had to lean into the pain for yrs. The only thing that broke me was the loss of my baby son. Learning equals ressialliance 🎉🎉🎉
@@marypalmer1062 I'm so sorry to know you lost a child. I can relate. I lost my entire family when I was 14. I hurt knowing your pain. Blessings to you Mary.
I married a narcissist and then we split up for 10 years and then went back for more. I truly thought he had changed. He did not. They never do. Don't make my mistake.
I did the same unfortunate thing. I hope you find so much happiness in your life. They are so crafty it makes it impossible to not believe they love you, until you see nope, they don't
No contact since August 2023, with the exception of solicitor letters, I don't need any closure from that creature. I know what I lived. That creature has nothing I need or want. I have my own closure. That door is closed tight.
When it comes to narcissists, what most people don't realize is that they excel at disguising their true nature. They can appear charming, empathetic, and caring when it serves their interests, but underneath the mask lies an insidious need for control and validation. Narcissists are often experts at reading their target’s vulnerabilities and exploiting them for their own gain, all while making their victims doubt their reality. What you don’t see is the calculated manipulation, the subtle digs that erode your sense of self, and the endless cycle of gaslighting that keeps you trapped in a fog of confusion. They're always strategizing, always angling for control, and leaving you wondering how you lost sight of who you are.
Wow the triangulation at restaurants is on point. He started striking up conversations with complete strangers while we were supposed to be eating dinner. Basically the low boredom threshold is completely true. He always spoke of when the excitement wears off. I now know what that means. That’s why he’s enjoying the block party for a whole blessed year now.🎊
@@etaokha4164 that is good work ,i think there are many of us who had to suffer with narcessist. It is so important to understand. Here in Holland are more narcessist than tullipans.
@@crispusmahea2135 I was single in 2018 once I found out I was living with a Malignant Narcissistic Sociopath Raving Lunitic. For 21 years I had no idea what a Narcissist was.
My mother was a malignant covert narcissist and no I have no idea who she really was neither did she! After many years of my journey slowly and very painfully began to unveil all of her evilness to me and that she not only didn’t love me but infact tried to destroy me mentally emotionally and physically… with GOD’S WISHES I BECAME A PHOENIX ✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️ Amen💯
The narcissist lived in my house for 11 months and I’ve never had so many issues with my health in such a short period Why do they affect our health so much? My health improved almost immediately after I put him out 🙏🌈
After being married awhile.... my X husband nonchalanly mentioned to me out of the blue, that he had been seen by a therapist & she thought he had multiple personality disorder....& he thought she was full of shi*. I did notice an evil entity that would appear & his eyes glaze over at times. The dark eyes & definitely a cold evil that was not him would take over. He definitely was a narc & knew what he was doing for the most part! Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
@@marieeakin8534 oh Marie…that sounds like it could have been very dangerous if not down right deadly being near that man. I’m glad you made it out and are in the community. Your comments are always encouraging and I hope you have a wonderful weekend!! Lukester ✍🏼
Dear beautiful Andrew, with 19 minutes video you have been able to write an entire encyclopedia about narcissistic abuse. You are simply the best and I’m begging you never to stop. You are awakening lots of people. Thank you for the truth you are spreading on the world 👍🏻
Andrew, everything you say is true.I married one,so deceitful it was pathetic.I, a caring soul,married this clown out of pity,a rebound from a prior narcissistic marriage.At least the first husband,for a while,paid his dues...the second,is a stalking murderous, dangerous man.Now,as i battle end stage cancer,and sever neurological damage...i wonder..what next?🙏🙏🙏🙏ty for your insight,glad u are safe🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🌺🌺🌺💌😊
I've a 3 year old child to a serious narcissist and since break up has tried to keep the child away from myself which is emotional child abuse. Her brother works in a lawfirm and is arguing her case, he kept his own child away from its own mother when his relationship failed through courts. Nothing new to these people. Absolute sickos can't see what they're doing wrong or don't give a damn. I've four hours a week to see my daughter which is abuse against her and myself. Hard to stay calm.
I'm so sorry you are going through this. My daughter and I have been dealing with this for 3 yrs now. I can't even think straight any more. I live in constant fear and panic
Your daughter will remember and recognize your sacrifice when she is older. @Allison471 suggested a lawyer educated on narcissistic abuse, IF you have the means ($$$l. I AM hoping you are able to find a lawyer with this qualification to aid you on this journey !
Andrew is 110 % CORRECT ON ALL THIS. it’s unbelievable ! I’ve been no contact now 1 month & started counselling yesterday. ANDREW IS RIGHT THE TRAUMA BOND IS GONNA BE A DAILY CHALLENGE OF EPIC PROPORTIONS. Councillor told me I NEVER KNEW HER !! That’s a tough pill to swallow.
13:40 Nothing could be further from the truth as I went through the same thing myself EXACTLY as described. The frequently referred "narcissistic fog". But I went as far as to threaten the ex as he was stalking her - clearly still caught in the web and without knowledge of the narc. Now I realise, I have so much sympathy for the ex. He was just "the one before me". We both suffered. Knowledge is power people. God Bless you, Andrew.
So true, Andrew. Long ago, I kept asking why this & that. Only to realized that it is a dysfunctional behaviour of their part. Thank you for giving this an important platform! Very liberating to hear you and knowing that you are there for us. 👍👍👍
God bless you all too. I see you all on this island of us survivors and i weep as i need so much help right now. My father passed a year ago and i miss him so much. I am alone in all of this but at least i am not with my narcissistic ex wife. She has had a string of failed relationships and the common factor .. her!
The whole experience changed my life. I ended up homeless, broken & nearly dead. It was completely insane, but thankfully I’m strong & survived it…..it takes a long time though to get well
That ain't no s***! My narc Waited until I was paralyzed through an accident for her Satan carnet nature to come out, take my children and basically leave me for dead!
@Warp75 I'm glad so many people say these things. I have experienced what you describe. I hope you continue to find peace and contentment. It's priceless, isn't it.
There were *so many* weird, strange incidents in that relationship. So many “lies of omission.” I had no idea what was really going on when I was blindly trying to build a life with this charlatan.
Actually more often than not they trauma bond their children and alienate them from the other parent while triangulating the children against each other. It's spiritual ⚔️
What we don’t know about the narcissist? I never knew where he was and what he was doing while i was asleep or when he was alone somewhere 😮😢and what he was thinking ever, literally everything was always a mystery, not a good feeling, thank you , Andrew❤🙊🙈🙉‼️
It’s unfortunate that these lessons often come later in life. Growing up dependent within a narcissistic family is physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally exhausting, crushing your self-respect. Surviving and emerging from this requires immense inner strength. I deeply regret spending most of my youth navigating this hell instead of growing, learning, travelling and being happy, but I’ve managed to give my own children and grandchildren the upbringing I never had. I've spent a lot of time healing myself this past decade. Now today, these parasites are circling once again, bleating about how lonely they are, they have no self-respect at all.
We have all been infected by this evil... My first memory of this evil was my mother being addicted to the Dallas soapie... Oh my gosh it all feels like a soap opera and boy are narcs addicted
He was mirroring me. He said what he knew I wanted to hear. I can't believe I fell for it. I'm not a stupid person, but I tend to care about others too much.
It sounds as if this person was "telling on themself. " In narc glossary of definitions: PROJECTION - placing their behavior onto you. ( At least that is the way I word the definition. )
I love your videos - I'm officially 4 years divorced from the narc in my life. I was done with him before but I waited. Then he discarded me for NS. I couldn't,t believe it - I had gone through 2 NS before this one, to my knowledge. I was in it again. I took the divorce he offered me with 2 hands - fighting him all the way down. As it would be with a narc - even though he wanted the divorce. But did he? I think he just wanted the attention. I did not give him any. None. Nada. Out now but your videos resonate. it's the truth and I remember who I was then. Believing him. supporting him. Fear for change. I look out for these types now. I question everything. Thank you Andrew.
Yes. Everyone grabbed popcorn and watched my life implode. And my cherished beloved who stood up for me became the next targets. And that really broke my heart 💔
Oh my gosh.😮 Our neighbours Actually DID make popcorn and sat in their balcony LISTENING to our argueing. It would go on for hours into late hours of the night. That's how I ended up Homeless. I couldn't get any sleep. Because he kept me up with his ranting. I USED to CRY.. I used to argue back. Then I tried Grey Rock. NOTHING worked I would sleep in Car just get some peace. Not just for me but for the neighbours. Now I have my own place. And PEACE FINALLY
@@LisaDonaldson-m8hThank you for the empathy towards your neighbors, at such a personal disadvantage to yourself. 🙂 😔 I AM happy to hear you are in better circumstances now. 🙂 Edit : to remove excess wording
@@suesanders1169 thank you for your kindness. Our past doesn't Define us. All we can do is use our experience to learn how to be a better person and make better choices. Thank YOU
It's been approximately a year since I started watching your videos, Andrew. Thank you. If you'd asked me a year ago where I'd be, what I'd be doing...... I would NOT HAVE GUESSED!!!! You always say, "take a class, teach a class." LOL! I don't know if I actually took that to heart, but I started teaching piano lessons in January, and it's been so wonderful! I could tell stories about how my piano-playing and my knowledge of piano was used against me by the narcissist to shut me down. I took back that power. No-contact has changed my life for the better. Thank you again. From me and my husband and my kids.
Hey Andrew…You’ve enlightened me a great deal over the last 3 years…One thing I’ve noticed while observing narcissistic behavior…Narcissists cannot allow any continuity in their life… There is no Chaos in Continuity…You get my point…Thank you for Championing this Cause & Peace Brother
Had no idea my ageing entitled mother was a narcissist until 3years ago.Wont go into detail but ya they can hide their devious, but eventually they reveal themselves in suttle ways.They constantly lie.My ageing mom is 88years old and it seems she thrives off upseting people. They put up a good front in public
WOW! The Narc I was with would blast his music in the car while he was working. He also had a set of headphones on while doing computer work and would Hum along with the music he was listening too. The new supply if there is one in his life unfortunately has an aging (65) narcissist that has a few health issue that will do nothing but get worse. So grateful to be on the healing path and getting back into ME. Thank you Andrew for your Love and understanding while I put the pieces of myself and my life back together ❤✌️🙏
I still feel shame about this but the friendship I had , he helped me out a couple a times financially and I was really great full for that but he treated me emotionally very badly , like a transaction , as if he had the right to abuse , I also felt sometimes like he bought me , feels very dark and heavy
He helped you, bought your loyalty, after all in his mind "after everything I've done for you!" On and on it goes. No matter how stuck you are you will always, always find a way to manage and survive without borrowing though I do understand as I've been there.
I believe in his mind he did consider he " bought" you. So he felt entitled to abuse you mentally/verbally because he bought that right. 😔 I have learned to go without or be creative in obtaining what I need , rather than borrow from a narc. I have even refused money for that exact reason.
@@TanjaT-od4nw Yep. Left the family when she was 13 years old, they didn't know if she was dead or alive for at least a year, then found out she left with another man who thought he was rescuing her. Then she had to raise her younger siblings. Her dad was pretty much ruined. Her mom died a while ago, then her younger brother also. She's having trouble getting out of the trauma and drama of it all. She doesn't seem to be able to forgive herself. Thanks for replying!💖✨
@@kimsteed9401 Forgive specifically what? What is her fault? She was just a child in a toxic environment. A traumatic relationship is just as difficult and bitter as a love relationship, and the feeling of betrayal is certainly even greater. Even after the death of the mother, the trauma bond does not end. Be her support, let her know that you are there. Give her time. Her brother passed away. She's probably grieving. Maybe she went into self-isolation. It might be a good idea to seek professional help.
Good morning all you bright shining ✨️ lights ❤🎉 nobody is safe from the venom of the slivering slimy snakes 🐍 staying no contact is the only way ✨️ ♥️ if you can. ✨️ blessings 🙌
"bestie" of 25+ years...that's for me at this point....after and among many others. So painful... when you can't denay anymore and clearly see the ugly truth... The worst part is the lonelyness that comes after you cutt of with all of them. But we must stay strong and TRY to find the right people ❤❤
Oh i think you've outdone yourself. Best video and so understandable . Thank you. You healed a little part of me when you said he never loved you, he can't love anybody. Doesn’t make me question my self worth😊
Good evening Andrew. I love this color on you! 😊 I look forward to your videos every day, they helped me tremendously in my healing process. Thank you. Namaste. Have a wonderful weekend. ❤❤❤❤❤
That financial part is so insidious and seems to be a common theme in these “relationships”. We weren’t trying to keep up with the Jones’ but we were trying to keep up with their whims and that is financially disastrous 🤨
That’s been the hardest part for me. I never knew who the narcissist was. As I stand here watching this video, I honestly don’t know as if they even know who they are. It’s truly disturbing.
Why? Because they are CONMEN. Period. Point blank. In the case of the jughead that was in my life he was/is also a secret junky. Once an addict always an addict. Thank you,❤ Andrew. Your insight has helped change my life ❤
Shocked at how accurate you are Andrew mine used to whistle if left on her own and couldn’t sleep in silence, constantly checking her phone, and not answering texts in my presence, she was talking to an older guy from hundreds of miles away he used to put kisses on the messages I asked her does he know you are in a relationship, she said no I don’t want to hurt him? I said you need to tell him she said you are only saying that to hurt him you don’t like him , I kicked her to the kerb weeks ago felt better after a few days tbh great to get away from the drama
true so true I tell you I found out satan was in my bed and when I finally took a hard long look over the years together he wasn't going to change he just got worse so I was at the end of the rope I cut the strings that held me and divorced his sorry ass best thing I ever did no regret
All excellent content I think two videos. As we agree all their lives they have been like this will never change never be beat. Go ahead engage the narc in something U know U can beat or out do them. The results will be U will cold loose or they will go ballistic if U win or they will insist U let them win. I can bet my life on it
Living in the here and now and not that horrific past takes some work. The trauma, depression, and anxiety you were left with from that narcissistic fog can truly destabilize your inner world. Sometimes you've really got to take time to relearn to make yourself the priority, and find your strength and worth. This community is a great support. Thanks Andrew.
5:48 Narcspouse made his encounter just as i had come to the conclusion that my life was like the song, Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places. I had JUST begun Not Looking, or so i thought. It felt like he was The One. NOPE! Just a clever gap-filler, for all the holes Narcmom and prior boyfriends left.
Have a sister and her daughter that are narcissists and sister's granddaughter is suffering from mental issues due to they're ways...THIS IS TRUE and I am getting away from them seeing them for who and how they are and want to be
I always thought it was my sister's OCD ... always bringing up something I did or didn't do/say/behave at family gatherings. I remember towards the end, I'd say, "if ___ bothered you, why didn't you call me afterwards? (instead of 4 months later).
You're awesome! :D You're so on-point, and cover SO much within each video, it's quite an accomplishment!! And to end your video on such a high- spot on! Much appreciated. I've watched tonnes of videos on narcissism; I should almost be an expert now, but I regularly need reminding of what's what (since I'm still having to have some engagement with my narcissist ex- sadly). Very well summed up. Good job, boss! :) Thank you once again for your pearls of wisdom- so very accurate, based on my personal experience.
Agreed. Every now and then, I'll check out another channel, but too many reasons to return here.
For one, his delivery of the urgency to get the message. Repetition? No one excels without learning and practicing the basics over and over and ingraining them into reflexes in thinking and action in the real world.
Welcome..🙏💜⛰️
THEY TARGET THE MOST CARING, COMPASSIONATE, GOOD PEOPLE. DON'T FORGET THAT. KNOW THAT.
Truly correct
Well said and their ultimate goal turning most of these beautiful shining light to evil
Run for hills
He hit me with the I don't have food. I would hate to think someone did not have food, but he should contact his mother. I think l he may like men too. If you send me money for gas, can you add $12.59 for a pizza? I don't have food, so I sent $100. Before I knew it I had given $600 to someone I spent a total of 2 hours with before I was regulated to not being able to visit his home. I was really bamboozled. That is what I deserved for allowing man 17 years my junior to love bomb me. I feel like such a fool. 😢
I am a student of myself. Better late than never. Age 74!❣️
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Here here!
Love the way you put it. Been taking more notes, lately. 📝
64 here, better late than never. ❤
There IS abundant life after the narcissistic relationship! Celebrating ONE FULL YEAR OF ABSOLUTE NO CONTACT!
Thank you so much, Andrew, for the You Tube videos and the one-on-one counseling sessions. I could not have done it without you! NAMASTE❤
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@@dr.cynthiabroughton1240 Andrews videos have turned my life around after walking away from my abuser every video I watched I saw my ex in every video the gas lighting the blame shifting the financial abuse silent treatment it's only when I came here that I realised am a victim of mental abuse by an evil person who claimed to love me being single is not were I wish to be but it far outweighs being with a nasty vile control freak like my ex stay good people healing takes time you will get there
Thank you. We all need to hear there is hope and life after going through literal HELL. Bless you.
I finally realized that all my relationships were toxic and have cut them one by one. It's lonely now, but at least I'm free and no longer deluded, no longer getting the life, the literal life sucked out of me. Trapped and still lonely and unloved. Freedom, healing and loneliness is a far better trade. I was lonely regardless
Exactly
As Andrew says :" You are not alone !" 🙂
You are now loved and accepted by this community !!!
Thank you for sharing your experience with this community. It might be just the encouragement someone else needs to take the first steps out of a similar situation.
We feel lonely cause we have to rebuild a better life for our selves xx
They try to humiliate you bringing up your mistakes from over 40 years ago. And it works, you sink into shame, losing your self respect, all the time wondering why they concentrate on the dead past of so long ago. The devaluation is subtle, but that’s what happens. Break away in any way you can, moment by moment until you can get free. Pray to get free from their abuse. Thank you Andrew for your bright shining light of truth! ❤
Welcome..🙏💜😌
after 12 months since i walked away my life is peaceful no drama head clear from narcisist fog and trauma bond i am currently single living life with friends and family and in 4 weeks i go on holiday to benidorm in spain with a friend my finances have improved and my savings are amazing cut any controlling person out your life there evil toxic nasty and they dont love anyone but themselves
I'm glad you were able to do that. I had 9 kids (adopted foster care} when I divorced my X. Plus, it took me a good 15 years after of trying to figure out what I did wrong. I was poisoned. By eating the wedding cake.
@@kimsteed9401 I spent 3 months trying to work out what I did wrong as I had no closure so I contacted her ex husband who she accused of controlling behaviour only to find out he was a victim same as me my ex was an evil narcissist hell bent on trying to break me
Dark humor has carried me through since I was a child. I get such intense energy from laughing at what is happening during my downfalls. It's ridiculous really...and of course I just carry on as always. Never give up❤
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Of course, I didn't carry on as always. I had to lean into the pain for yrs. The only thing that broke me was the loss of my baby son. Learning equals ressialliance 🎉🎉🎉
Never ever give up
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I'm so sorry to know you lost a child. I can relate. I lost my entire family when I was 14. I hurt knowing your pain.
Blessings to you Mary.
Condolences on the loss of your son. 😔
I married a narcissist and then we split up for 10 years and then went back for more. I truly thought he had changed. He did not. They never do. Don't make my mistake.
I did the same unfortunate thing. I hope you find so much happiness in your life. They are so crafty it makes it impossible to not believe they love you, until you see nope, they don't
Hang in there well at least you know now to not go back to him. Ever!
bread crumbed and hoovered
😢😮😢sooo terribly sad
@@Porkypies6m that sucks. You'll make it to the other side.
Over 6 months no contact I cant believe how much better I look got my glow back and my lantern is shining brighter everday.
Ditto here!
Same here!
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Thank God,I feel peaceful 😎
Me too ❤
Continue becoming stronger every day.
Sending positive energy to everyone in the community.
Namaste 🙏🙏
Thanks a lot, Mildred ❤ I wish you the best!
Thank you Mildred ! 🙂
Positive vibes reciprocated back to you ! 🙂
You deserve a nobel price Andrew for helping people around world
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Still laughing no matter what that happens during this life. Never give up
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No contact since August 2023, with the exception of solicitor letters, I don't need any closure from that creature. I know what I lived. That creature has nothing I need or want. I have my own closure. That door is closed tight.
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And also you owe no one any explanation block flying monkey's maintain your peace and boundaries
Keep going Andrew though I believe sometimes it's heavy to make video everyday about these creatures but the community is needing you
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When it comes to narcissists, what most people don't realize is that they excel at disguising their true nature. They can appear charming, empathetic, and caring when it serves their interests, but underneath the mask lies an insidious need for control and validation. Narcissists are often experts at reading their target’s vulnerabilities and exploiting them for their own gain, all while making their victims doubt their reality. What you don’t see is the calculated manipulation, the subtle digs that erode your sense of self, and the endless cycle of gaslighting that keeps you trapped in a fog of confusion. They're always strategizing, always angling for control, and leaving you wondering how you lost sight of who you are.
@JamesNGames this comment deserves one of those deep Barry White Right Ons brother!
Amazing how similar these people are
Very true everything you wrote and more,don’t forget there never satisfied with anything😎
Imagine having them at your church 🤢
@@ericb8413 Wow True 😎
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Church just seems like another source of delusional thinking.
Once you concentrate on yourself and self heal the narcissist will fade out your life
happening iam so happy iam at this stage;)
I am sooooo ready for this! I've truly 'had it'!
It’s helpful to hear you say we are a bright shiny light! thanks i appreciate it
Welcome..💜🙏☀️
Lower than a piece of dirt beneath your shoe...Thx Andrew
Wow the triangulation at restaurants is on point. He started striking up conversations with complete strangers while we were supposed to be eating dinner. Basically the low boredom threshold is completely true. He always spoke of when the excitement wears off. I now know what that means. That’s why he’s enjoying the block party for a whole blessed year now.🎊
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The info should be put on billboards EVERYWHERE!!!
Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
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When you heal, you see the narcissist for who they are and you walk away without looking back.
They get worse not better. Single forever. Its getting worse out here they're literally everywhere
That is what makes me realey afraid, there are so many of them, i will be very carefull when I meet new people. They destroied my health.
At this stage, I am considering becoming a counsellor educating people who are hurting from disgards by narcs
@@etaokha4164 that is good work ,i think there are many of us who had to suffer with narcessist. It is so important to understand. Here in Holland are more narcessist than tullipans.
Yup I married her. Biggest mistake of my life.
Right again Andrew!
You & I both. I hope you are out?
@@crispusmahea2135 I was single in 2018 once I found out I was living with a Malignant Narcissistic Sociopath Raving Lunitic. For 21 years I had no idea what a Narcissist was.
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And I hope you are also out and recovered from this abuse.
My mother was a malignant covert narcissist and no I have no idea who she really was neither did she! After many years of my journey slowly and very painfully began to unveil all of her evilness to me and that she not only didn’t love me but infact tried to destroy me mentally emotionally and physically… with GOD’S WISHES I BECAME A PHOENIX ✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️ Amen💯
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The narcissist lived in my house for 11 months and I’ve never had so many issues with my health in such a short period
Why do they affect our health so much?
My health improved almost immediately after I put him out 🙏🌈
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Accumulating Stress. The body knows and is crying out!
The best thing since sliced bread. You're the first American I've heard use that phrase.❤ 🌎
the rage fits at 100mph is REAL :(
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After being married awhile.... my X husband nonchalanly mentioned to me out of the blue, that he had been seen by a therapist & she thought he had multiple personality disorder....& he thought she was full of shi*.
I did notice an evil entity that would appear & his eyes glaze over at times.
The dark eyes & definitely a cold evil that was not him would take over.
He definitely was a narc & knew what he was doing for the most part!
Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
Multiple masks for multiple personalities....
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Hi Chaz....Exactly!!! 👍💥🙏❤
The eyes- 👁👁🪟"Windows to the Soul or being able to see the "Lights On with Nobody Home ... 'cept a trouble making devil."👹
@@marieeakin8534 oh Marie…that sounds like it could have been very dangerous if not down right deadly being near that man. I’m glad you made it out and are in the community. Your comments are always encouraging and I hope you have a wonderful weekend!! Lukester ✍🏼
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Yep, a good looking, fireman that I met in church! What a shocker!!!
You have a blast with your daughter 👍😘
They hurt and blame you for things that they have and had done.
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👀💭The saddest shittt I ever allowed myself to go through!!
You are always here to drag me up when needed. God bless you
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Excellent as always, thank you Andrew 😊
not knowing, is the worst part of dealing with one.
Dear beautiful Andrew, with 19 minutes video you have been able to write an entire encyclopedia about narcissistic abuse. You are simply the best and I’m begging you never to stop. You are awakening lots of people. Thank you for the truth you are spreading on the world 👍🏻
Andrew, everything you say is true.I married one,so deceitful it was pathetic.I, a caring soul,married this clown out of pity,a rebound from a prior narcissistic marriage.At least the first husband,for a while,paid his dues...the second,is a stalking murderous, dangerous man.Now,as i battle end stage cancer,and sever neurological damage...i wonder..what next?🙏🙏🙏🙏ty for your insight,glad u are safe🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🌺🌺🌺💌😊
Yes , exactly , lots of secrets
I've a 3 year old child to a serious narcissist and since break up has tried to keep the child away from myself which is emotional child abuse. Her brother works in a lawfirm and is arguing her case, he kept his own child away from its own mother when his relationship failed through courts. Nothing new to these people. Absolute sickos can't see what they're doing wrong or don't give a damn. I've four hours a week to see my daughter which is abuse against her and myself. Hard to stay calm.
If you have the means, there are lawyers out there who are well educated on narcissistic abuse
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I'm so sorry you are going through this. My daughter and I have been dealing with this for 3 yrs now. I can't even think straight any more. I live in constant fear and panic
Your daughter will remember and recognize your sacrifice when she is older.
@Allison471 suggested a lawyer educated on narcissistic abuse, IF you have the means ($$$l.
I AM hoping you are able to find a lawyer with this qualification to aid you on this journey !
Praying for you and your child to have a Healthy, Happy and safe lives 🙏🙏🙏
Learn from the past, don’t predict the future, and live in the present moment.. great message..have a good evening.
"Hummming and mumbling"... my brother you are KILLing it... like 10000% spot on.
😊❤😊 thank you Andrew......
they're everywhere ! 😂😂
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Andrew is 110 % CORRECT ON ALL THIS. it’s unbelievable ! I’ve been no contact now 1 month & started counselling yesterday. ANDREW IS RIGHT THE TRAUMA BOND IS GONNA BE A DAILY CHALLENGE OF EPIC PROPORTIONS. Councillor told me I NEVER KNEW HER !! That’s a tough pill to swallow.
I AM glad you found a counselor who understands about narcissism. 🙂
That was so good Andrew. It’s always good to see you and listen to you. It makes me feel so much better. ❤
13:40 Nothing could be further from the truth as I went through the same thing myself EXACTLY as described. The frequently referred "narcissistic fog". But I went as far as to threaten the ex as he was stalking her - clearly still caught in the web and without knowledge of the narc. Now I realise, I have so much sympathy for the ex. He was just "the one before me". We both suffered. Knowledge is power people. God Bless you, Andrew.
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Thanks for sharing your wisdom. This video is a heavy hitter - all boxes ticked.
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Thank you Andrew! Because of your videos I'm able to identify them immediately ❤😂👌
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So true, Andrew. Long ago, I kept asking why this & that. Only to realized that it is a dysfunctional behaviour of their part. Thank you for giving this an important platform! Very liberating to hear you and knowing that you are there for us. 👍👍👍
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God bless you all too.
I see you all on this island of us survivors and i weep as i need so much help right now.
My father passed a year ago and i miss him so much. I am alone in all of this but at least i am not with my narcissistic ex wife.
She has had a string of failed relationships and the common factor .. her!
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The whole experience changed my life. I ended up homeless, broken & nearly dead. It was completely insane, but thankfully I’m strong & survived it…..it takes a long time though to get well
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I can believe it.
That ain't no s***! My narc Waited until I was paralyzed through an accident for her Satan carnet nature to come out, take my children and basically leave me for dead!
💔I am so sorry...Blessings...Xo...
@Warp75 I'm glad so many people say these things. I have experienced what you describe. I hope you continue to find peace and contentment. It's priceless, isn't it.
I’m so glad that I got the light bulb moment and left, almost 2 years ago.
Still healing, becoming awakened and aware. 🙏🏻❤️
There were *so many* weird, strange incidents in that relationship. So many “lies of omission.” I had no idea what was really going on when I was blindly trying to build a life with this charlatan.
Actually more often than not they trauma bond their children and alienate them from the other parent while triangulating the children against each other.
It's spiritual ⚔️
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What we don’t know about the narcissist?
I never knew where he was and what he was doing while i was asleep or when he was alone somewhere 😮😢and what he was thinking ever, literally everything was always a mystery, not a good feeling, thank you , Andrew❤🙊🙈🙉‼️
It’s unfortunate that these lessons often come later in life. Growing up dependent within a narcissistic family is physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally exhausting, crushing your self-respect. Surviving and emerging from this requires immense inner strength. I deeply regret spending most of my youth navigating this hell instead of growing, learning, travelling and being happy, but I’ve managed to give my own children and grandchildren the upbringing I never had. I've spent a lot of time healing myself this past decade. Now today, these parasites are circling once again, bleating about how lonely they are, they have no self-respect at all.
We have all been infected by this evil... My first memory of this evil was my mother being addicted to the Dallas soapie... Oh my gosh it all feels like a soap opera and boy are narcs addicted
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I often wonder if these entities even have a soul🤔. Sometimes I wonder if they're advanced AI robots. 🤔🤷. 🤖..
@@Jenfromtheblock63 yep me too.
There is a history of humans being infiltrated by AI who use demons to control us. 🙏
No, they don't have a soul.
They are possessed with 😈 evil.They enjoy being hateful.They eventually drive themselves crazy.Karma's gets them
They have souls( mind, will and emotions) It's their spirit they've given over to the kingdom of darkness.
He was mirroring me. He said what he knew I wanted to hear.
I can't believe I fell for it. I'm not a stupid person, but I tend to care about others too much.
I remember talking to a narc
This particular narc said'you never tell the truth'
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It sounds as if this person was "telling on themself. "
In narc glossary of definitions:
PROJECTION - placing their behavior onto you. ( At least that is the way I word the definition. )
I love your videos - I'm officially 4 years divorced from the narc in my life. I was done with him before but I waited. Then he discarded me for NS. I couldn't,t believe it - I had gone through 2 NS before this one, to my knowledge. I was in it again. I took the divorce he offered me with 2 hands - fighting him all the way down. As it would be with a narc - even though he wanted the divorce. But did he? I think he just wanted the attention. I did not give him any. None. Nada. Out now but your videos resonate. it's the truth and I remember who I was then. Believing him. supporting him. Fear for change. I look out for these types now. I question everything. Thank you Andrew.
Yes. Everyone grabbed popcorn and watched my life implode. And my cherished beloved who stood up for me became the next targets. And that really broke my heart 💔
Oh my gosh.😮
Our neighbours Actually DID make popcorn and sat in their balcony LISTENING to our argueing.
It would go on for hours into late hours of the night.
That's how I ended up Homeless.
I couldn't get any sleep.
Because he kept me up with his ranting.
I USED to CRY..
I used to argue back.
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I tried Grey Rock.
NOTHING worked
I would sleep in Car just get some peace.
Not just for me but for the neighbours.
Now I have my own place.
And PEACE FINALLY
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I AM happy to hear you are in better circumstances now. 🙂
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@@suesanders1169 thank you for your kindness.
Our past doesn't Define us.
All we can do is use our experience to learn how to be a better person and make better choices.
Thank YOU
It's been approximately a year since I started watching your videos, Andrew. Thank you. If you'd asked me a year ago where I'd be, what I'd be doing...... I would NOT HAVE GUESSED!!!! You always say, "take a class, teach a class." LOL! I don't know if I actually took that to heart, but I started teaching piano lessons in January, and it's been so wonderful! I could tell stories about how my piano-playing and my knowledge of piano was used against me by the narcissist to shut me down. I took back that power. No-contact has changed my life for the better. Thank you again. From me and my husband and my kids.
Hey Andrew…You’ve enlightened me a great deal over the last 3 years…One thing I’ve noticed while observing narcissistic behavior…Narcissists cannot allow any continuity in their life…
There is no Chaos in Continuity…You get my point…Thank you for Championing this Cause & Peace Brother
Had no idea my ageing entitled mother was a narcissist until 3years ago.Wont go into detail but ya they can hide their devious, but eventually they reveal themselves in suttle ways.They constantly lie.My ageing mom is 88years old and it seems she thrives off upseting people.
They put up a good front in public
lol, he told me I was not his priority! That was a lie…He made me his priority to use and deceive
WOW! The Narc I was with would blast his music in the car while he was working. He also had a set of headphones on while doing computer work and would Hum along with the music he was listening too. The new supply if there is one in his life unfortunately has an aging (65) narcissist that has a few health issue that will do nothing but get worse. So grateful to be on the healing path and getting back into ME. Thank you Andrew for your Love and understanding while I put the pieces of myself and my life back together ❤✌️🙏
Living stress free ✨️
peace ✌️ andrew
I still feel shame about this but the friendship I had , he helped me out a couple a times financially and I was really great full for that but he treated me emotionally very badly , like a transaction , as if he had the right to abuse , I also felt sometimes like he bought me , feels very dark and heavy
He helped you, bought your loyalty, after all in his mind "after everything I've done for you!" On and on it goes. No matter how stuck you are you will always, always find a way to manage and survive without borrowing though I do understand as I've been there.
@@alisonj9533 Your right , thank you ♥️
@@alisonj9533 Your right , thank you ♥️
I believe in his mind he did consider he " bought" you.
So he felt entitled to abuse you mentally/verbally because he bought that right. 😔
I have learned to go without or be creative in obtaining what I need , rather than borrow from a narc.
I have even refused money for that exact reason.
@@suesanders1169 Yes , that,s how I felt it very often:-(
Andrew, can you do a show on how to help someone recover from narcissistic abuse who doesn't seem able recover? Love your shows!!✨
0 contact, education, are good starts.
@@lilfairycupcake Her mom has passed away, but she can't seem to overcome it. Thanks for responding. I love this community!!💖
@@kimsteed9401her mom was narcissist?
@@TanjaT-od4nw Yep. Left the family when she was 13 years old, they didn't know if she was dead or alive for at least a year, then found out she left with another man who thought he was rescuing her. Then she had to raise her younger siblings. Her dad was pretty much ruined. Her mom died a while ago, then her younger brother also. She's having trouble getting out of the trauma and drama of it all. She doesn't seem to be able to forgive herself. Thanks for replying!💖✨
@@kimsteed9401 Forgive specifically what? What is her fault? She was just a child in a toxic environment.
A traumatic relationship is just as difficult and bitter as a love relationship, and the feeling of betrayal is certainly even greater. Even after the death of the mother, the trauma bond does not end. Be her support, let her know that you are there. Give her time. Her brother passed away. She's probably grieving. Maybe she went into self-isolation. It might be a good idea to seek professional help.
Narcs always plot & scheme their next move.
Good morning all you bright shining ✨️ lights ❤🎉 nobody is safe from the venom of the slivering slimy snakes 🐍 staying no contact is the only way ✨️ ♥️ if you can. ✨️ blessings 🙌
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"bestie" of 25+ years...that's for me at this point....after and among many others. So painful... when you can't denay anymore and clearly see the ugly truth... The worst part is the lonelyness that comes after you cutt of with all of them. But we must stay strong and TRY to find the right people ❤❤
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Thank you Andrew! Always feel better after hearing u. I always get something from every video u put out…❤✌️💯😎🤟🙏
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Oh i think you've outdone yourself. Best video and so understandable . Thank you. You healed a little part of me when you said he never loved you, he can't love anybody. Doesn’t make me question my self worth😊
You're right! Never ever accept a hoover.
You know these people inside and out and that’s exactly what they do……. Thank you for your videos, they help people alot.
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Thank you Andrew for your untired helpful lessons. You are the best 👍🏻
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Good evening Andrew. I love this color on you! 😊 I look forward to your videos every day, they helped me tremendously in my healing process. Thank you. Namaste. Have a wonderful weekend. ❤❤❤❤❤
That financial part is so insidious and seems to be a common theme in these “relationships”. We weren’t trying to keep up with the Jones’ but we were trying to keep up with their whims and that is financially disastrous 🤨
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That’s been the hardest part for me. I never knew who the narcissist was. As I stand here watching this video, I honestly don’t know as if they even know who they are. It’s truly disturbing.
Why? Because they are CONMEN. Period. Point blank. In the case of the jughead that was in my life he was/is also a secret junky. Once an addict always an addict. Thank you,❤ Andrew. Your insight has helped change my life ❤
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God bless you, Andrew!💜
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Shocked at how accurate you are Andrew mine used to whistle if left on her own and couldn’t sleep in silence, constantly checking her phone, and not answering texts in my presence, she was talking to an older guy from hundreds of miles away he used to put kisses on the messages I asked her does he know you are in a relationship, she said no I don’t want to hurt him? I said you need to tell him she said you are only saying that to hurt him you don’t like him , I kicked her to the kerb weeks ago felt better after a few days tbh great to get away from the drama
true so true I tell you I found out satan was in my bed and when I finally took a hard long look over the years together he wasn't going to change he just got worse so I was at the end of the rope I cut the strings that held me and divorced his sorry ass best thing I ever did no regret
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I often thought about the new supply...🌻thank you, NAMASTE
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Oh so true. Because they do not love themselves. Great video. Live in the present.Love the hair, pulled back.❤😊
Two parts of The Narc's brain doesn,t work. Empathy and Responsibility. Psychopaths are the same !
Truth is a poison ☠️ to narcissists
All excellent content I think two videos. As we agree all their lives they have been like this will never change never be beat.
Go ahead engage the narc in something U know U can beat or out do them. The results will be U will cold loose or they will go ballistic if U win or they will insist U let them win.
I can bet my life on it
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Living in the here and now and not that horrific past takes some work. The trauma, depression, and anxiety you were left with from that narcissistic fog can truly destabilize your inner world. Sometimes you've really got to take time to relearn to make yourself the priority, and find your strength and worth. This community is a great support. Thanks Andrew.
I no longer believe he is an ex army specialist assignment sniper 😂😂
Well, he was probably good at sniping and bitchin' at every little thing!😆
Thank you as always, Andrew 🙏🏻🕊⚘️🦋
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Thank you so much for your information and support. I wonder what happens to the narcissist at the end of their lives?
Seek out the video : The aging narcissist on this channel.
5:48 Narcspouse made his encounter just as i had come to the conclusion that my life was like the song, Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places. I had JUST begun Not Looking, or so i thought. It felt like he was The One. NOPE! Just a clever gap-filler, for all the holes Narcmom and prior boyfriends left.
You were already conditioned to the behavior(s) as acceptable/accepted.
Now you know better, so you can recognize poor behavior(s) and seek better.
@@suesanders1169 🤗 i am going to make s'mores today and will think of this comment while eating one
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Have a sister and her daughter that are narcissists and sister's granddaughter is suffering from mental issues due to they're ways...THIS IS TRUE and I am getting away from them seeing them for who and how they are and want to be
Thank you so much, your videos are a true life saver
I always thought it was my sister's OCD ... always bringing up something I did or didn't do/say/behave at family gatherings. I remember towards the end, I'd say, "if ___ bothered you, why didn't you call me afterwards? (instead of 4 months later).