Why I'm REALLY Doing a PhD
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I went back to get my PhD because I wanted to savor the experience of going to college, because I felt like I hadn't appreciated it before. Yes! It's like falling in love!
Leslie you're too old. Find a husband and a job instead.
@@karupt422 I got my PhD more than 20 years ago. Thank you for your input.
I'm applying for a PhD at the moment and have been tying myself in knots, thinking about what I will say is my reason for applying. I'm 50 - it's not or career progression. In truth, it's because I love the research, the learning. The thought that I could add to the existing knowledge in my field is so... seductive.
Best of luck with your application process, Melissa!
Say its sapophilia
@@Neilos-sd6ti 😉
Definitely go for it xxx
Good for you. When we never stop learning, we stay truly alive. 💞
Cinzia. I’ve never related to a discussion. I heard you saying your doing your PHD because it fulfills your souls purpose. I would just like to offer that you are a tremendous teacher here on your channel! I hope you see how much incredible teaching you offer. Sometimes our paths don’t make sense but they feel right and that’s exactly what I followed too. Distilling what I’ve learned and my own researcher and making it accessible is my happy place. Cheers to you and your PHD. I’m so excited for you.
I've been away from TH-cam and just catching up on comments and seeing your face made my day. You have no idea how much you inspire me on this platform - I know zero about law, but your passion and personality are just incredibly contagious and I aspire to be that level of "nerd" teacher. Love seeing just confident female nerds unapologetically ruling their space online. We're different spheres, but I relate to you so much. Keep being amazing, and sending love all the way across the pond x
As someone a year out from my PhD and doing a postdoc, I didn’t even realize how much I needed this video. Thank you ❤️
This resonates with me so, SO much. I left full-time employment as a secondary school teacher two years ago because I had this overwhelming desire to pursue a phd. Not because I dream of an academic position afterwards, or because of any exceptional talent as a researcher. I just had a burning desire to learn more and uncover more about my specific area of research. I admit that I was extremely privileged to be able to do so - and I'm trying my best to navigate the freelance space alongside my research so that I am not a complete pauper. But honestly, the love and interest I have for my topic makes it worth it. Just found your channel, Cinzia. Binging your content while I isolate with Covid 😅 Hugs and thanks for sharing! From an Irish phd student xx
I love to listen to how passionate you are and see how happy doing a PhD makes you. I had a similar background with family really pushing university and I ended up being the first of my family to go to uni. I loved learning and enjoyed education but was most definitely under pressure to perform and ‘be the smart one’ and make something of myself. I ended up doing a PhD because I was trying to please my family and I did not have the motivations that you have for doing it. The truth was I was ready to leave academia after my undergrad but my family wanted me to keep going. My supervisor was dreadful and the environment I was working in was toxic. I kept pushing on until I broke and I needed to take time out for my mental health. It was then I realised I was putting myself through misery and it wasn’t even for me. I had lost my passion and direction and knew I had to quit for my own sanity. I now have a decent enough job that allows me to live my life the way I want to. My family are disappointed and I still have to deal with them constantly telling me (years later) that I wasted my brain, why didn’t I just carry on, what was even the point of me going to uni at all. I know I made the right decision for me the same way you know that following this path is right for you. Always do what is right for you.
We must savour the things that truly make us feel alive, merely exisiting is no way to live. May your studies give you that ambrosial feast you seek. 🙂📖
Cinzia, first of all- thank you for this honest discussion. I honestly think that things will fall into place for you. It may not be in the traditional sector of university but in a sector that is not yet created. Keep doing you and you will find success!! P.S. I am 35 years old and after 14 years teaching I decided to change careers. Good luck 😃
Best of luck with your career shift! That's a super brave thing to do, but it will pay off. Wishing you so much luck!
I appreciate your open discussion about why you are pursuing a PhD. I really enjoyed thinking about the issues you brought up. I particularly appreciate your discussion about generational trauma leaking through and influencing one's decisions and goals. Thank you...
Glad you enjoyed it!
A very interesting and honest answer. Your story is so familiar. The PhD is such a balancing act between passion, duty and anxiety. I went back to Uni in my early 50's, completed my BA in Art History and English with little turbulence, then my MA; which allowed me to follow my passion in Monster theory. But the PhD has been a different beast. Very few of the students I have met have come through unscathed by imposter syndrome. At 65 I am now in my second year, this is a job of work. You have my sympathy and respect, this is not an easy journey.
Monster Theory?
Please explain Monster Theory
I did I PhD because it felt like the easiest thing to do. That may sound weird, but, like you said, after aiming your whole life to finish your university degree, the world is too big and there are too many options. So when I got an offer from the professor next door to the professor whom I was handing in my MSc thesis too that day, I just accepted it.
I loved doing a PhD, it was the best part of my academic life: focusing one topic, and lots of time in the lab, no exams, working in a close-knit team, I felt really at home doing my PhD.
For people choosing to start a PhD: your advisor (and how much time they have) matters much more than the topic. The people who really struggled during their PhD were always from research groups with too many PhD students per advisor.
I ended up doing a postdoc for the same reason: because I didn't know anything else, and I liked the day-to-day of my PhD so much, that I figured I might as well continue. I realized then that I did not want to become a professor, so now I am still at university, but only teaching, which is a whole new challenge, and I think I'd like to do this for a long while.
It sounds like we have a similar background story, although there was zero academic expectation of me.
I finished my PhD 10 years ago and that particular question doesn't stop ...I'd simply becomes past tense.
It could be because the PhD isn't a widely understood thing in popular culture - the idea that you can be a doctor without writing prescriptions is unknown to many people (also known as the "wrong type" of doctor), so understanding the motivations behind working so much for no pay cheque at the end cann be confounding.
The question can be useful in understanding the person who asked it, however. 😁
For Imposter Syndrome - I saw a post saying that Legacy students (i.e their parents, grandparents and more attended the university/they donate to the school) are the ones that should have it and not first generation/low income students since their parents paved the way for their admission. That post had me dead, but also changed the way I viewed imposter syndrome as I have been combating my own as a first gen student.
It's great that you found joy in studying and learning away from the external pressure. External thoughts are the worst and so important to overcome to lead a free life.
those alarm and cuts were brilliant, you echo a lot of what I have been thinking in my mind for years about my own upbringing, and I feel we are kindred in our thoughts. It must have been really difficult for you, but you are following what you want to do :)
I had to complete my masters for much the same reason. I knew if I didn't it would be something I would regret as I got older. I didn't want to be in the nursing home complaining about how I never got my MA.
ETA: As you said about 11.50, I love researching and learning things. I knew there was an area to explore that would give insights into a field and just wanted to tell that story
I was told not to go to college, I was told to get a job. I got two college degrees, worked for bank, and finally tried real estate agent as a MMO character for fun, 20 years later I'm part owner of a real estate company.
I can really resonate with the experience of having professors and peers interested in what you are curious about and writing about. It is very motivating and encouraging.
Yayyy! Please share more background videos! Fantastic person! Salutations from a fellow Scots uni grad!
Wow I love your reason for wanting to do a PhD it is so relatable! I love researching, learning, writing and disseminating. I’m a scientist with a Masters. I applied for my PhD multiple times and got rejected multiple times. I go back and forth if I want a PhD or not.
While I'm far from your experience with education, i feel this "being right" in a specific area of study at university.
I'm in my first semester at Uni (Biochemistry) and i only came to study it because as my depression treatment made progress i fell in love with chemistry in my last school year. and despite having a burnout immediately before my final exams, now im in this field of study, and to use your words: this is the thing where flow comes easily and its one of the few things that bring me so much joy. All the people ive talked to so far cant fully comprehend the love and joy being at Uni for biochem brings me and I'm so glad to hear that others feel the same for their area of study
I love listening to you talk about how you see your studies and what they mean to you.
I wasn't able to do any 'major' studies at the age when you're 'supposed' to. I had to go out and work. Then I told myself that it was too late, too complicated (in France, as soon as you leave school and have an atypical background, it's a nightmare)...
But finally, at the age of 37, I enrolled on a law course. I'm strongly considering doing a double degree and adding literature or history.
Thinking outside the box, not being what other people expect you to be, is very hard to bear and to take on sometimes.
However, the idea of being an eternal student is what seems to me to be my real 'me'.
And I think the confidence I've gained in this idea comes partly from what you convey in each of your videos. For that, and for everything else: thank you!
This is the second video i watched from you and i'm already in love with you.
Thank you.
Hope you had a wondetfull chrismas.
I relate so strongly to everything you've said. Thanks for being so open about your experience!
Lovely video, really insightful ❤️
I am so glad, I stumbled upon you today. You are fabulous and I cant wait to explore your channel. Thank you for existing!
Quillette wrote an article recently on exactly this issue. Rejecting the structure of society that turns people into productive units without doing things for beauty, wisdom, knowledge. The beauty of humanities, broken though they are right now.
I'm going through a patch of re-evaluating my life path at the moment after some massive personal revelations, so this video really resonates. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and reasons. You seem happy and are pursuing something that you love, it seems, mostly because you love it. That is something to aspire to. It gives me some things to think about in my own life.
I feel I’ve found someone who understands how I feel about it, it’s so exciting to get lost in learning! The UK has also so many funded programmes it’s amazing, pity that after brexit we other Europeans are cut out of most funding and scholarships
I had a similar experience. Thank you for sharing your story 💕
I love this so much, it resonates with me. I’ve always felt average academically but I love studying and learning. I did an MA in film studies after my BA then felt empty and sad. Then last year I was able to do a distance learning MA in digital technologies and education and I love it soooo much! My dream is to do a phd but I feel like I can’t justify it! But you’re right, doing it for the love of it is the reason!
yeah i've always felt average too, but honestly, i'm getting through my classes so, don't care what the critics say or what the overachievers are doing
At this point, I feel like as long as you can justify it to yourself that’s all that matters.
Your love of teaching others shines through in every video I have seen. I’m glad to have come across your channel! You are teaching. All the best in your endeavors!
Dear Cinzia,
Thank you for your vlog. I am a mature woman and I have wanted to continue my education with a masters for years. Now I am doing so. This message was very inspiring
I resonate with this a lot and I'm so glad I discovered your channel !
Thank you for sharing !
Anne (a French PhD student in modern literature)
Omg this is one of my favorite videos ever!!!
That was so inspiring! It sounds like you're living your own Hero's Journey.
I’m glad you’re doing what you love and wish you much success.
Fantastic video!
As someone who just started uni to follow my dream of becoming a teacher in my late 20's this hits home. I spent most of my life worried about survival because I came from a similar working-class background and education was my only way out I thought. I spent a lot of time keeping my head above water (hardly) and realized that I had exhausted all other options to pursue self fulfilment except for what I truly wanted to do. I spent 10 years dreading Uni because I was a curious study but a terrible student. Though COVID has made university a drag, for the first time in my life I'm around people who care what my thoughts on Hammurabi's laws are. I'd wish you luck on your Phd but I have no doubt in your ability to nail it.
Loved this and good for you, I think most people feel that pressure when they start university. Of course many people are like me and chose what will make them money in the future and not what will make them happy. Choosing what will make you happy is for the brave.
Yes, I felt lots of pressure to get onto my uni course after sixth form; not from my parents; more from myself to 'get out' and on with my life, and then when I eventually got there it also made me ill. Good luck with your PhD. Coming across a supervisor or lecturer who responds to you personally is probably the best experience about higher ed. You can feel so alone and lost reading esoteric intellectual material and then having to write essays that having someone championing you who also knows loads about that stuff changes everything. Love your vids.
Wishing you all the best for your PhD! I believe there are so many opportunities out there and you never know where they might come from. Doing a PhD is my daydream whenever I have a crap day at work! It's so tantalizing as a prospect but I know the reality would be so different. Good luck with it - it sounds like you're thriving and I'm so pleased for you.
Following your heart leads you to where you need to be ❤️ well done for listening to yourself!
Thank you for sharing !!!
I identified with a number of things you said, especially the part about loving doing research and talking about it. Great video keep up the good work !!! 😄
Thank you, Albert!
So good to see you have sponsorships Cinzia!
You say a lot about things you say you never will be, but I don't see why you wouldn't be those things. I believe in you!
Brilliant!
Omg wow such an inspirational video
I’ve just found you while researching mythology and thoroughly enjoying your content
I didn’t know I was able to be an academic because I left school in 1992 with no decent GCSEs mainly because I have adhd which was o my diagnosed recently. it wasn’t until I was early thirties when I did a ten week mini course in neuro linguistic programming that my whole self view was shattered wide open
I enrolled on a level 2 course in counselling, then level 3 then my professional level 4 diploma and a BA in counselling degree and I got a first class honours
Ever since then I’ve loved learning and researching and writing I would love to continue and see if I have what I takes to get a phd - but have two children and I’m a single mum so right now it’s not the best time for me to study
But one day I will follow my dreams and passions and go back to my studies - the difficulty will be what to choose to study lol
Two areas of interest - one psychology and two my love of magic and mythology
Maybe a combination of the two lol
Thank so much I needed listening something like this to make my mine keep stable after so many things you can find in social media that can scare me.
I would love to have you as a teacher!!! The way you present subjects is so engaging yet makes people at ease! Perfect combo for a teacher!
Dear Lady. I love your accent, I find it aristocratic, academic and upper class British. Its fun watching and listening to you. I could listen to you all day. You are motivating and just fun. This from a fan a barbaric colonial from across the pond who the fates have planted me in central Florida surrounded by Neo confederates after a carrier at NBC TV Chicago as a video tape editor. Stay well Dear Lady. DJY.
Following your passion does wonders for the soul and mentality. It's been lovely to see you follow your passion over the years, very inspiring 😊❤
Thank you so much for all your support, Mikki!
Many people spend their whole lives looking for that feeling, some never find it.
This resonates so much with me especially today. Yesterday I came to my own point of realizing, I need to do what's good for me and not be influenced by external factors that have been in my life for over 18 years now. I am 35 and yesterday was that day for me. And today I am watching this video. Life is crazy isn't? Chops for you for choosing yourself, I hope I can make it happen for myself as well. It will take some effort to come loose of 18 years of living my life in a way that maybe caused more harm then good. To everyone reading, you are not too old, it's not too late. Do you boo.
Thank you for sharing this look at your motivations! We hope that you find an element of fulfillment in all that you do 🙆♀️
Thank you so much!!
Fantastic video, very inspiring for the new year! I am just applying for a PhD after dropping out of one early in my twenties and I feel the same way. I want to do things that feel good and fulfilling to me regardless of all the things I have been told I am supposed to do. I am sure whatever happens you will get something deeply meaningful from having done it and it will open the door to other opportunities that feel right.
I love this video- it’s somehow comforting
I'm glad you found it comforting, Elizabeth
Excellent timing as I’ve just made a cup if tea 😉 I would really love a revisit to the video about tools you had got before starting your PhD, which has been useful and which has not been used? What has been surprisingly useful? Etcetera. I’m studying at the university at the moment, I’m the oldest in my ’class’ at 37 years old in my last year of my bachelors degree. My experience in having had a completely different career makes the university experience richer I belive. I’m from working class as well, studying at university was never a natural option for me to even consider, you finish school and then you start working. It was never even a discussion. But I found that I wanted a career of MY choice in a field I find interesting, not a career where I’ve done my best with what I had (even though I was very sucessful). It’s nothing wrong with that but I wanted to learn again and enter a field of my choice.
Great vid thanks.
New to this thing. Just tripping head over heel down the rabbit hole of the woman who believes The Roman Empire never existed. You had a good take with that one and made lots of valid points but sadly you can lead an ass towards water but you can't make them drink. Also I hope you do achieve your PhD and realize now the only person's approval you ever need is your own. No one else's.
Also I think you would find it very interesting to know, if you are a really serious artist/photographer/writer or whatever kind of creative type. Research is the most important thing. They literally go hand in hand for any concept or design. As a younger man doing photojournalist I literally showed up for almost a year straight at one location to note and document the lighting, looking at other people's photos, shooting different angles noting the weather and how things look under certain conditions just to shoot one artistic photo for myself. Research is super important. Yeah there is something lovely with a good candid shot. But shooting an image and showing someone a still frame of exactly what my eyes are seeing so others can look through my eyes just once. Priceless to me. Best of luck and keep up the good work.
Good lord this channel is amazing. My first video watching you talking about the "fake Rome" lady.
Your channel is great plus I could listen to you talk for hours lol! You're great!
You are so inspiring to me!
Looking forward to see you in a next video Cinzia. As a 40+ woman who went back to university this year (after years of chronic illness) it is valuable to hear your honest experiences. I feel like I dont know anything an
anymore about my former degree...learning now from the newly graduated. And trying to not get overwhelmed by selfdoubt 😬
Loved this. So helpful to hear and I really related to how you feel about your reading and research. I also don't think I'll work in academia and don't know if my PhD will actually lead anywhere but I just felt (internally) like I had to do it.
PhD in history focusing on ancient Rome here. When I was finishing my BA I was thinking about what I was going to do after graduation, and I could only come up with "I'm not done reading about Rome." Did my master's at Durham UK, and then PhD at Santa Barbara. Rode that Roman History train all the way to the end.
Everything you are saying is familiar to me.
It is divine to hear you speak! Your video on the tick tock person who denies the existence of Rome. I kept rewinding where you exclaimed "latin!"
The moment I saw this pop up in my algorithm, I clicked on it at the speed of light because honestly I've been tossing this idea around my own head recently.
Edit: The intro rung quite a lot with me - I wanted to do something "nerdy" when I was younger, but there was also that underlying "education is the only way up and out" and that has been an intergenerational trauma that I still carry and drives me... But then the culture and concept of academia and research has become one major driver as well!
As someone who just finished undergrad after 5 1/2 years of turmoil and hopping between majors and interests trying to find what I wanted to do, this video was really reassuring to me. I'm currently at a point where I'm uncertain whether I want to continue with a master's or just stop for now and go into the workforce (most of what I studied was computer science). While I love doing math and CS research, I struggled a lot in college because of the suffocating pressure of grades, even if I loved what I was learning, and that definitely made me doubt whether I was in the right program. But hearing about how you found yourself and stuck with your passion, even if there wasn't a definitive end goal in mind, really spoke to me. I really can't thank you enough, hearing about your experiences was really something that I needed right about now.
I don’t know what your finances are looking like, but you might want to work in tech sales. That way, your computer science degree could give you leverage to getting hired, but you don’t have to stress about your technical skills because tech sales is more about sales and personality. It is super high paying, so then you can stack your money up while you decide on pursuing graduate school. If you do want to use some technical skills, you could be a sales engineer. Which is also high-paying.
I finished my PhD 43 years ago while supporting one child as a single parent. I never worked in academia and initially felt I wasn’t us8ng my education in my employment. However over the course of my working life I definitely used the skills and knowledge in my work and life. The pursuit of further education is a very personal path with uncertain financial outcomes unless you are getting trained to be certified (MD, etc) in a field with large opportunities for employment. I’m glad you are going for it!
I heard lots of the same arguments against my becoming a novelist, BTW.
No way, really? I'm sorry ):
@@CinziaDuBois Thank you 💞 Lots of people in my life told me that I could never make any money from writing novels, and I would be better served by pursuing a practical career.
@@lesliemoiseauthor I also want to write a novel, but I don't imagine it ever being published or earning me money. I just want to write it for me XD
@@CinziaDuBois Go!
Congrats on the PhD acceptance Anniversary.
By the way I got a Clever Fox Planner because i saw you using it. I havent tried it yet but I am looking forward to it.
@11:48 I loved your video. Very inspiring!
Glad you enjoyed it, Fintan!
What an honest and open answer!!! Really made me think about why I want to do a phd
i think i personally wanted to get into uni because it would make me feel really smart and also because i didn't know what else to do, and having ADHD/autism, it was hard for me. I don't think it was about trauma, but perhaps there was partially fear of failing it once I got in because I thought I would be "dumb." Now I'm still in uni at 26 and honestly, I'm just aiming to pass and help people with my education and enjoy it so far. I've let go of the drive and status too and... honestly, I'm still okay with doing university because I feel it'll give me a framework to achieve something I want? I've never really been a flawless student, but also.. meh because many folks start uni later and drop out and go find a job and this.. that.. Everyone's got their own journey!!
I think I'm wiser and smarter than I seem at times, even if I struggle with studying and my grades aren't super high, I've also heard what I'm saying & writing is important and interesting. Hearing those things made me feel more motivated, even if I don't study 8 hours a day or don't always go to class (because of overwhelm etc..). I also couldn't stop thinking about research and helping students and discovering things.
I do have issues with organisation/time blindness/management due to my neurodivergency so I feel I can never quite get as deep into my research or get my papers as perfectly as I want them? And it hurts too, it makes me feel like I'm only mediocre and that my life and job oppurtunities would be the same if I didn't go to uni.
Especially cos here in my country, you can just get into uni and don't have to get accepted into an MA, I feel like I just got in cos I'm just average?
I think I hate footnotes/referencing too much to become a full time researcher, lol.
But yes, I'm honestly just doing things in my own time, going to do my masters and moving towards things where I can educate and help people that are usually left out of the system.
Ah its good to see the human side of you. I am genuinely interested in your videos and subscribed because of the 6 lilac Mime lions post.
I can so much relate to what you say. I grow up in post- communistic Poland and was first to go to university. Always felt this push for as best results as possible. And to put aside my artwork - because "you will never make any money on it"
At studies studies I was egaging a lot in academic assotiations and found lot of enjoyment in it. I tried to get to PhD twice and both was rejected. That was quite hard period for me but now after 10 years actually dont regret that. I moved abroad. I the same as you get flow mostly in research and art. Now I see more and more that manual art work brings me most of happiness. Maybe also not being under family pression helps. And I still explore new things ;)
This was amazing video you made
i say you do things because you want to do it and the feeling of achievement can be cathartic in its own way, also when i watched the video you did on pointing out the inconsistencies and incorrect information about that person who did the videos on Rome never existed you can see how much you loved the subject and your knowable response was enthralling to watch. in that video the personal acumination of knowledge shone through and touched others who are interested in the subject you are clearly using what you have learned to create clear academic responses.
Have you read Stoner? I feel like that is the book that really "saw" me, and this video...I felt that again. I feel so connected and moved with everything you said.
Thank you for sharing your PhD information (and emotions). I’m retired and am considering getting a PhD in history researching a specific question about the Early Medieval Period. I will probably have to start in Classical Studies. My question for you is: What languages did you have to learn? I’m beginning my journey with Ancient Greek and Latin. Do you have any granddaughter’s advice for an old dog out to learn some new tricks?
In primary school you would have thought I would succeed in academia, I was amongst top of the class at everything.
By the time I was in high school I'd started to develop symptoms of multiple psychiatric disorders, which got misread as "typical teenage depression" by the adults around me.
I began a downward spiral that totally destroyed me academically. I was intellectually capable of getting amazing grades but I was emotionally ruined. Coursework was never done and revision was not happening.
Going into school I would love the classes, because I found learning to be my solace like the lovely Cinzia(spelling?).
I paid attention and took it in, but as soon as I was under my own steam, outside of school, I was struggling with undiagnosed mental illness and simply was not going to get anything done.
My habit of genuinely paying attention in class and my baseline intelligence let me coast through GCSEs with mixed grades.
I could have gotten many A* grades but instead I got a broad mix of a few D, C, B, A and A* grades.
College was a disaster. I took four difficult A levels when I should have taken three and not all so hard.
Computing. Philosophy & Theology. Physics. Maths.
Ridiculous decision.
Both me and the adults around me should have known that I was taking on too much.
I had a total breakdown and what I would later learn to be my first true manic episode.
I don't remember that much of college but by the end of it I had just scraped very low passes on two A levels. (Philosophy and Computing)
Still not understanding how mentally unwell I had been consistently since the age of 14, I was not done making bad decisions yet.
I basically took any uni place that would take me.
I ended up on an accounting degree that I hated.
Dropped out and spiralled to depths I didn't know existed within me.
I got jobs and couldn't hold them down. Years went by and my life was stagnant in all aspects.
The big breakdown happened around then.
Eventually I was so severely unwell that people around me started to see clearly that more had been going on than they realised.
I was diagnosed with bipolar and ADHD. It's crazy because that whole time I thought I was a fuck up with depression.
Learning that many of the strange decisions I have made were influenced by something I didn't realize was influencing me, was a big help in letting go of my perceived failures.
Learning that I've actually had ADHD that whole time allowed me to forgive myself for my academic struggles too.
Now I'm out of work and on benefits long term. I nearly died many times and basically forgot how to function in society. Everything broke down.
I feel guilty sometimes about living off the state (for now at least) but I have been so unwell for so long my doctor says I can't see how much I'm obviously entitled to the support.
Something I only learned recently is that it's ok to set modest goals.
For me, keeping my house tidy, me and my dog fed and my bills paid is a good enough goal.
It's ok to be happy with just succeeding at the small things.
Overall my life is better than ever now I know myself truly and am comfortable with my simple goals.
Eventually it would be nice to have a love life too. That was a part of myself that was unable to grow out of teenage anxiety because of all the other shit going on.
Never had a proper relationship at 28. Wish me luck!
Much love Cinzia this video resonated with me so much.
You are a teacher. And a very good one. If teachers at my university had been like you, I probably would have done a Ph D myself!
I completely understand.
Cinzia, sei una coraggiosa ragazza!
You’re awesome. I just want you to have fun with your PhD, to have fun making the videos you want to make, and for that car alarm to stop going off.
I would love to do a PhD. Well done Cinzia. If I were doing a PhD it would be for personal fulfilment. What a great video.
P. S. I cannot believe how similar our background life experiences are.
This just motivated me to pursue Socio more right after Nursing, I felt so miserable in Nursing and just had to push through it since it is hella expensive and because it's a much more "practical earning" job.
Good on you. Sometimes stepping away from something makes it easier the next time. It looks like juicy food for you. Once the accepted superficial stream of history was that it began in the fertile crescent and many an academic who challenged this, lost a lot. Take for instance the wall building technique, polygonal stone walls. You can find this technique used in places across the planet. Egypt, Japan. South America and even on Rapanui, Easter island.
Now i know systems can rise independently of each other due to humans facing similar situations but the exact type of technique popping up here there and everywhere is silly. Here's another. How did the chicken get to South America before the European? Or how did the sweet potato get across the pacific from South America. Details that stand out. It's all history, of course most only concern themselves with textual history.
Higher education and academia (in the UK) is now closed to only those who can afford it or are prepared to get into massive lifelong debt. After being bullied out of a teacher training degree course I find I am now locked out of completing my degree unless I find £9,000 to fund the final year (or £18,000 if I wanted to switch to another subject). As a single mum of two autistic boys I do not have access to that kind of money, so I am left with an unfinished degree.
Very happy to wait 6 or so years for you to finish your dream, and then buy your book. Because your thesis will get published and you will expand on it and put out a whole book of awesomeness. xxx
Thank you Jana! But I must say - I have ZERO intention of publishing my thesis in book form XD And I'm unlikely ever going to publish a book of my own. I don't have the time to write one! But my thesis will be published through the university library so will be available at academic libraries for free in 6-8 years time (:
@@CinziaDuBois Pretty please...? :D :D xx
I can’t do something I can’t do 😅, it’s not something I would ever have the time for working full time and on a single household income and balancing a PhD. Maybe in my forties I will be in a position to write something. x
I’m a bit late to this video, but I really wanted to leave a big thanks to everyone who commented here. I have been having a lot of doubts about going back to do my Master. I’m glad I waited a few years to make sure it is what I want and not what others think I need. But then I felt like I wasted the years by not doing it immediately, and now it's scary to earn less to follow my passion.
This video and all the comments really helped with these doubts ❤️
Are you going to put your videos on Spotify as well now that they have video podcasts? I'd love to binge your videos on there
No, sorry -- I don't have the time or patience XD
This hit home. This is why I got my first graduate degree. I got my MA in National Security Studies to prove to myself that I could get a graduate degree. And then I got an MBA afterwards lol Are either of these degrees useful? No, but I like the subjects lmao
Often times, when you tell people that you want to pursue your passions that are artistic/not rooted in a “conventional” job (if that makes sense) people think that you want to be something big in this field, and I hate that, can we not just do things we love just because? People fear being “average”, when that’s perfectly ok, and even if you are seen as average in your field by other people, I think pursing what you genuinely like is amazing and shows true success, no matter how much money you make from it, and let’s be honest that’s what this is all rooted in, sorry if this was all over the place, but when you started saying that in the end, it struck a cord, told my friend I wanted to be an actor, and he was basically making fun of me, peoples opinions don’t bother me usually, but I hate ignorance!
Love your use of the English language
Okay so basically what I got out of this is to pursue a higher education not because you want something out of it, like a degree or job, etc, but because you genuinely want to learn more, which also got me thinking that it's better to do some soul searching after you graduate highschool instead of hopping into something you barely understand, though this depends on who it is because some people are actually aware of what they're getting into going into college from the get go.
Personally I wasn't one of those people, I was lost when I graduated and I'm 23 still trying to figure things out. Though right now I think pursuing a career in digital art is something I actually like, whether as a graphic artist, or concept artist, I'm just exploring my options and developing my skills.
Same here I did a bachelor's in art/animation. Intrinsic no value, except for myself. And I could do it I was very lucky. This was a part-time course at (College of Wolverhampton) I was working at the time.
Passion involves Joy and Obligation...am sure your passions will reap rewards, even if just to be called Dr.
Am sure the skills and knowledge you continue to develop with yourself will prove 'marketable.' 👍
I subscribed to your channel.
Started my Ph.D. when I was older than you, finished it, loved academia, and managed to land a job. Now I am a 'reader' and happy in my 3rd career. Do what motivates, and you never know. Thanks for the videos, you are a very interesting person.
Thanks for sharing and for your support, Eric