3 Things: Guys smells like onions, Husband can't find a GF, Bad dating app experience
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ย. 2024
- "My BF smells like onions." 😫😫😫😫😫 🧅🧅🧅🧅🧅🧅
"Why is it difficult to find a GF as a married man?" 🤣🤣🤣
"Why don't men know how to behave? I know, #notallmen"
She needs to leave him. She should not be staying with a guy that stinks and refuses to do anything about it. He can be alone with his funky self.
Yes. His " just deal with it" attitude speaks volumes.
Right? Idk why the guy wasn't ashamed when she told him that he sticks. I would be paranoid (extra showers and new, stronger deodorant) if my wife told me that I smelled bad.
There was this post on Reddit that was much worse; the guy wasn’t bathing or brushing his teeth and he was constantly giving her UTIs because of how filthy he was. I remember saying the smell affected the mattress on her bed so bad she had to replace it. Hygiene is a strong line in the sand for me next to being a horrible person.
Bet he’d leave her right away if she didn’t smell fresh.
@@Kohana07OMG, she covered that post also. I remember that!! Disgusting!! 🤢
Aside from the hygiene, studies show your nose is trying to tell your not genetically matched to this man if he smells that bad. I don't know how anyone can date someone who smells bad.
Between Story #2 and #3, this reminds me of how lucky I actually am being single and celibate. Time to go pet my cats. 😌🐱
Right there with you!
My brain went straight to the gutter. I have a terrible sense of humor sometimes.
Give them a treat for me ❤
He need to go to a doctor. He might have a health condition where his body produces excessive amounts of order
He may also need to adjust his diet.
I was thinking the same!
I think the name of that condition might be He Needs To Use Deodorant 🤷🏾
The real problem is he doesn't want to use deodorant, plain and simple…
I knew someone who got her sweat glands removed from her underarms and groin to remove her smell (this was the last resort after years of problems)
i can't tell you how many times a man has talked himself right out of a sure thing with me! like, bro... calm down! dang!
When a man is too excited I feel the experience will be fast and painful… I feel the ED in the air.
The reminds me of women that that say their bf leave do do stains in their draws and on the sheets. At what point are u just as nasty as him for accepting these nastiness.
That “Chinese takeout” reference is not British humour. It’s racist humour of not so bright men.
I have never heard of this term. Good grief why is it such a hard thing for people to speak respectfully?! I don't understand why it is so challenging to be polite and courteous. Racial and sexist slurs are intolerable and a big sign of a serious jerkoff.
And also s3xist.
Oh my Bougie, you are so right. These men act like we've never been young before and we have always been 30 lol. Like, I remember how grossed out I was about men who were even 5 years older than me at 18. The only time I thought it was rad to have an older man was when I was being groomed from ages 12-16.
He's lying about showering. That's the only explanation. If he's not hairy or sweaty, he's not showering.
He might shower but he may not scrub the underarms adequately. That or he is using that 'eco-friendly deodorant' that usually doesn't work. He could also have a bad diet or have a medical issue.
Whatever it is, the guy doesn't seem to be interested in solving the issue.
There's way more that goes into smells than that. If you don't keep your clean towels clean and they have bacteria on them, if you're stressed out, if you have a bad reaction to something in your diet. It's not that black and white. My friend showers and she stinks in one hour if she doesn't put any deodorant on, because she has cats that love to sleep in her clean towels, and the bacteria reacts and makes it smell bad in her pits. Thank God for deodorant.
@@DelphineTheWorstBladeEvertell her to use panoxyl 10% acne a wash as a mask under her arms for 10 minutes then wash off in the shower and after 10 minutes. I PROMISE no odor
Guys, all soaps, irrespective of the label are anti-bacterial and anti-viral. So if you're showering daily or every alternate day and staying in a mostly air conditioned environment you shouldn't stink, with or without deodrant.
She said he's not too hairy. We stink because of the bacteria on the sweaty hair on our body. I don't know about his medical history or his cats (she didn't mention cats).
But I do know people who just stand under the spray of water for a bit and call that showering. So...yeah, I think that's what he's doing.
@@simransimran9339that doesn’t matter though if there’s an internal problem making your sweat stink. Antibacterial soap isn’t enough and you shouldn’t use that regularly. Look it up! Antibacterial soap isn’t good to use all the time because it kills the helpful bacteria.
Regarding the last guy, and guys like him...I can't imagine this approach usually ends in them meeting a real life woman. So i wonder if for them getting off is about the creepy perpy messages? And if, for some weird reason, the woman actually meets them in person it's a bonus?
Exactly my thought! I think they get off by the attention they are getting from texting ...
@@ellag4619 And, I worry, getting off on the perpy vibe of it all.
Burb good parenting can’t stomp out bad character.
At what point are we going to acknowledge that women are given multiple red flags but decide to stay regardless. The first time is no one's fault, the 10 time is a choice.
I agree. Stop infantilizing women.
@@CynophileandavianenthusiastStop missing the point then. Yall act like women aren’t taught from BIRTH to not trust their gut and ignore red flags and “give him a chance” that type of brainwashing and socialization doesn’t just go away. Most women don’t even know that red flags are red flags…
This is entirely true. But I think I'm still stuck on the real tragedy being that men like this exist...
I say this all the time and people get mad at me! They say I’m “victim blaming” but I’m just calling out foolishness.A lot of women are ignoring huge problems and are willing participants.
Prior trauma, manipulation, societal pressures, all contribute to partners not leaving. If they said hello and then slapped you in the face immediately, it would be easy.
Yes, women need to recognize red flags and leave when they start coming out. But I wish it was easier for people to have access to mental health services so they have the support network to leave.
I dated a Korean man who never consumed dairy and used deodorant, had a neutral smell.
I dated a Middle Eastern man, applied deodorant like 3 times a day but at least didn't smell.
I dated a whyte guy and he used the Matthew machanahay (?) thing of "oh I don't need deodorant". He definitely needed it and that only lasted 2 months
Because koreans have the gene that doesn't produce the 'stinky sweat' that bacteria love to eat so they don't need deodorant. Dairy or non dairy is the same shyt.
Middle east guy definitely doesn't have the blessed gene so he needed deo.
Regarding story #3: I'm a trans woman and there were a few guys on dating apps who thought they could get to my place or me at theirs without us even meeting in public first. Of course I get why they do this, but like... Dude you must be delusional if you think I'm gonna risk getting tied up in your basement with you talking about some ''It puts the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again'', all for some nookie... Hell no.
They think real life is like 🌽. That you're excited to get in some random men's van and have zero value systems..... It's insane. I stopped going on dating sites and life is way better but I do still date.
I love this response. Especially the Hannibal reference at the end
How is that related with you being a trans woman?
That's how men act, it doesn't matter if you're a woman, a man or a trans. They got used to dating apps being doordash, gay community never had problems with it and some women seem to be fine with it too so they just ask.
It's not even a few. Im fully covered in winter clothes in my dating apps profiles, i have stated on my profile not looking for seggshual relationships and i still get dozens and dozens of men asking me where i am and letting me know where they are so i could go to them. Since i live in a touristic city it's even more common with men asking me to come to their hotel, airbnb or even van since 'it's their last night in town'.
Even if 1 in 100 accepts their request they still get 1.
@@redleeks6253I think that they’re saying that trans women experience this too, and given the amount of violence they face, I’m sure of it.
There is no such thing as tRaNs woman. You are a man
There are 2 issues going on with the first story. 1) this guy is not willing to comply with the rules of civilized society wvich expects cleanliness and body odor managent. Not only are their natural deoderant but there are also colognes.
2) his bad scent may mean that they have some sort of genetic incompatibility. BO is universaly offputting but if he just naturaly smells bad to her it means that they are biologicaly out of sync and need to break up. She will grow disgusted by him and their childern may wind up with rare gentic issues
Good point. Once a man begins to smell bad, something is literally off physically, but also relationally.
I can't even agree that parents need to do a better job teaching kids about hygiene. Simply because at 36 years old; you should know on your own how to wash and care for your body. Especially today. If you're having an issue, you can head right over to the good ol' internets and get insight into ANYTHING. That woman can't be *that* upset about the way her bf smells if they're still together.
P.S. YUCKKKKKK
Siblings who are both gender come from same house and taught the same things yet the females will keep their hygiene as they were taught while the males will ignore everything they were taught and bask in their filth. It's male nature to be filthy
He's just nasty. Will never understand some men like that.
Onion pits reminded me of a time when I hung out with a group of friends. One of the guys I knew invited his roommate to the hangout. We did karaoke in a private room. I was the last to show up and when I walked into the room a foul odor punched me in the nose. I think the AC in the room didn’t work. I eventually found out it was the roommate and he happened to have a crush on me. My best friend at the time asked why I didn’t express interest in the guy and I said it was because of his body odor.
Onion dude: He's bathing with water, no soap (or pretending to use soap)
She mentions European because deodorant usage in Europe is sometimes frowned upon so this could be part of the issue.
I'm kinda a little swayed on the 1st story, I knew a guy with a medical condition like this in HS. Instead of deodorant, she needs to tell him to see a doctor he could be sick. However, if he still doesn't listen its not her fault if she walks away. I'd recommend it.
He needs to figure out that he needs a Dr for himself. It's not her job to persuade him. Men will do anything apart from taking responsibility for their own health. They're exhausting!
Why is it her job to tell a gown male to “see a doctor”? She told him he stinks. That’s enough free labor for her.
He needs to see a dermatologist for treatment.
I live in a hot, humid climate year-round, and to be very honest many non-bears stink. It’s really bad. Women do not smell like that generally. I just don’t understand it. How do you not know you stink?
Diet and ethnicity can actually impact how much/how bad bo is. For example, most eastern asians don't rlly have sweat gland in their armpits and are less prone to bo
I used to live in South Korea, and they smell like kimchi as soon as they start sweating. I like kimchi, but it’s so pungent. Even the urinals and bathrooms smelled like kimchi pee.
I think she noted he was a Yt European because most East Asians don't have what I like to call the stinky armpit gene. In Taiwan and Chins, virtually no one wears deoderant because of this. It is almost impossible to find it in stores. I always stock up before visiting my husbands family just in case.
First I was traumatized by a stinky classmate trying to get with me. Then someone from work also smelled really strange and like mildew and it threw me off so fkn bad …… like at that point you have repulsed women with both your behavior and PHEROMONES. Lawd Jesus I had become so offended because … these are the ones who try and pursue the hardest
If you’re in a position like the first guy, specially after a workout, use antibacterial soap or benzoyl peroxide wash.
I grow up in a Jamaican household in the uk and I know that there are people out there who prefer to not participate/use things we think is just normal in the western world. In Jamaican culture it’s called ital it in compasses food, drink, products, clothing, behaviour, lifestyle etc. and there are things that can be used to if you don’t want to use chemical deodorant or shop made one. One if he smells like onions he might have a diet that consists of a lot of meals that contain onions. Lower in take of onions and for some people what they eat comes out through their pores making them smell like it and it’s not something that can be helped just the way their body works some people don’t notice it because it’s normal to them but he could also was and then use sodium bicarbonate on his armpits and then on the hotter days lemon and bicarbonate.
Body odor man - If he wants to stay crunchy granola, he can 1. eliminate onions and garlic from his diet, 2. shave his pits and groom his junk, then the next day rub 70-90% alcohol under his pits and elsewhere, then rub limes under his pits and let the lime juice dry completely before putting on his shirt. 3. Drink chlorophyll daily. 1 tablespoon in an 8oz glass of water. It is an internal deodorizer. If none of that helps , then he needs to go to the doctor. Also, gf could just leave him cuz he's a grown as$ stinky man resisting freshness.
I hope she finds someone who fits her preferences better 💖. I also smell like onions when I eat them. Most deodorants cause me an allergic reaction that make me sweat and smell worse 😣. I shower everyday. I think the issue is that he didn’t even try the natural deodorant. That’s not cool. He could even try baking soda and essential oils 🤷.
There are people who don’t mind body odor, so it may be a mismatch.
I’d say that he’s a white European is relevant. Many places outside of the US don’t have the same perfume/deodorant interests. Sometimes it’s something they tease US for. Perfumes/synthetic fragrances trigger chemical allergies like mine, so there are some sent free workplaces in the US.
While I don’t think one should date anyone who repulses that person, the armpit thing could be a dietary or health issue. (The fact that he didn’t even try the soap sounds more like a maturity problem.)
My skin and glands are sensitive to chemicals, and deodorant actually caused my sweat glands to get infections, bleed, close up, inflame and sometimes die. I even had a biopsy to make sure it wasn’t cancer. Naturally, that made my smell situation worse and showering only temporarily fixed it, then it was back with vengeance.
I actually realized at one point that it progressively got better after that point of assault, so I took a week or two to “air out”, wondering if it was my water or something else. It was awful, but then my smell improved for longer periods and overall was less acrid; I think my skin’s bacterial biome normalized. I had to examine my soap and then other things I put on my skin, including water, which led me to just making most at home to avoid bleeding and achey armpits.
I also found that I smelled after eating fast food, presumably because of the canola/soy oil they cook in that my body can’t process well. It happened with high-sulfur foods and asparagus as well, but I’m willing to suffer with that and use my homemade deodorant.
1st story, How can you lay down with a grown man who doesn’t wear deodorant? 🤢🤢 2nd story, Is he serious?? 😂😂😂 Why would any woman want to be a side piece? Last story, 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
There women with no self respect who don't mind being a side piece
When someone is healthy, their natural odor can be quite lovely. I’m wondering if he’s not washing his pits properly and/or he’s re-wearing shirts.
I can’t wear most deodorants bc they make my skin peel off. So I swap my shirt mid-day if it gets too damp. There are natural alternatives to help mitigate the issue. Crystal sticks can help. Hydrogen peroxide, oils, beeswax, underarm pads, etc.
But I will never judge a human for smelling like onion. That’s what humans smell like when active enough. It’s important to shower asap tho once that happens. Wouldn’t wanna grow anything.
that third story is the reason i quit having casual hookups. I got married young to my first bf and his porn addiction impeded our sex life, so after we separated I didn't want another serious relationship but i did want to have some fun and play the field.
For me, sex doesn't have to be this crazy intimate thing; i don't really have my personal identity wrapped up in my physical form and find emotional and mental intimacy to be much more vulnerable than just physical. To sum it up I have no problem with casual sex.
what i have a problem with is the way that men behave. most of them are super entitled and selfish and demanding this way; it's such a turnoff.
I guess it shouldn't surprise me that the self absorbed gender with limited empathy would also show up the same way for casual sex as they do everything else. it just seems weird that we can't both feel respected and have a good time, why does it always have to be this male fantasy? Like bro I will literally give you sex with zero effort on your part if I feel like it, just don't be a selfish perv. They can't even do that. Like you could ask for NOTHING, no date, no connection, NOTHING, just sex, and they will find a way to fumble it. I don't think they want sex as much as they want to subjugate women. If they don't have to manipulate you into sleeping with them, they'll manipulate you into crossing whatever other boundary you might have. Sex isn't about mutual gratification for them; it's about a powerplay.
Great comment. They know what they're doing.
Males think sex is something they are doing to women not something they are doing with women. To them sex is hateful act, they think they are degrading women by having sex with them.
BF number one may have an underlying health condition
My cousin married a foreign guy he didn't wear deodorant he was very handsome and took showers but his culture didn't wear deodorant, but her and her mother let him know babes this is America we use deodorant over here and gift him several kinds deodorants solid and gel formula 😂💀.. he' smells good now he simply didn't know
He should lay off the dairy, cheeses especially, and use Thai crystal deodorant stone, and also make his own natural deodorant(all types of recipes on Obama's internet), or she needs to leave 💅🏿And there is Chlorophyll that he can take daily to help deodorize his internals, but if he's eating loads of garlic and onion, that's going to come thru his pores no matter what, so again, she must decide whether or not he's worth it.
She needs self esteem. How she date him with him smelling like that let alone be in a relationship??? If she up under him she stink too!
First story the boyfriend smells like onions?? How in the age of lume??
The Lume I tried smelled bad on me (tried warm vanilla). I guess it doesn't work with my body chemistry. I wonder if a different Lume scent might work.
@@APlays000 I thought about that too, but there’s plenty of men’s n women’s deodorant, that doesn’t have any of aluminum which is what causes cancer. I mean there’s some that don’t have a scent… it’s a head scratcher for sure.
How do you get to the point of even loving somebody that stinks
Yeah he is lazy! I can understand not wanting to use deodorant but you have to compensate for that. If he wants to take natural measures, he must clean up his diet, drink plenty of water, and shower more often (keep wipes readily available). He will need to be committed to the process no matter his choice.
Im not sure why she’s holding on to a smelly bf but I would’ve dumped him especially when she told him and he still refused. He doesn’t care about himself and definitely not her, she’s wasting her time. Hopefully she will move on. Me, I dumped a guy fir bad breath 😷 He tried to get a first kiss and just before that I caught him putting a piece of gum in his mouth. So that let me know that he was aware of his bad breath but yet he expected me to still kiss him! Ummm no sir you are 38 and could have been went to a dentist or doctor to help you determine what the culprit was….so yeah I dumped him!
How did love wade through the muck of his stink? Yuck!
I have heard that using lemons on your armpits is a good deodorant. Its still better than raw onions
If he is aware that he stinks but he is this wonderful man that she loves maybe the girlfriend can suggest a deodorant soap again and he needs to use it this time. He has to make a compromise if he wants to stay in a relationship with her. Maybe he needs to visit his doctors office about the smell because it could be coming from an underlying illness. I hope that if they truly love rech other that they will find a solution to the problem.
She shouldn't be suggesting a thing to him. He is a grown can research for himself
@@OO9O9 I totally agree with you. He couldn't come around me knowing that he STANK!!! She seemed to think that he is this wonderful guy and my comment was only a possible alternative to her impossible situation. Thanks for your comment though 😊❤
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For the most part only North Americans wear deodorant. White Europeans don’t wear deodorant. For those that don’t know North America includes Mexico the USA and Canada.
I am European and know nobody who does not wear deodorant.
Yup, and you can smell the difference
That’s a lie. European wear deodorant too. Her man doesn’t wear deodorant that’s on him.
@@keld6320 I’m happy to hear this. I’m a Flight Attendant and I’m speaking from my personal experience.
@@brigitte9999- you mean, you're tarring everyone of a certain group with the same brush, because of a few bad incidents
Men talk themselves out of 🐱 all the time.
Right?! Some dudes could easily get some 🐱 if they would chill and maintain good hygiene.
One woman talked about really liking a guy and getting ready for oral intimacy with him. She smelled dookie when he pulled off his pants so she left. Some dudes don't wash their 🍑, it's crazy.
😅😅😅I'm laughing because my Brother was telling me a story about silly men and said the same exact thing you comment just a few days ago!!
😂😂😂😂And I totally agree!
I had a guy trying to talk me into it, but talked me out of it real quick. He got mad, hooked up with my roommate in MY bed, then bragged about it to me.
I was p!ssed, so I told him that was the closest he'd ever get to me, and I hope he enjoyed his dollar store version.
Been saying this for the longest, lol.
I have said it to male relatives and male friends, I’m like some of y’all men like to talk yourself out of 🐱 💦.
All you have to do as a man is ACT like she’s the only woman in the world even if you are juggling 5 different women.
The PickMe’s will be throwing that azz in a circle , cooking , and anything else that PickMe’s do for a man.
I’m not advocating cheating or lies and manipulation, but I’m a realist and men as the collective, are for the streets 🤢
Im starting to think they really want 🍆 👀….men are not dumb they test you to see how much you’re willing to put up with just to say you got a man. They know most women are in competition with eachother to get married
Women need to stop sparing mens feelings. Because if SHE were the one stinking, he would make sure to hurt her feelings and ridicule her. Smh...
I don’t spare their feelings. Ever! 😈
Whaaaaat some women will put up with, just be with a man.
There's so many reddit threads about women asking what to do about their husbands shit stained underwear. I swear this could never be me. Ever.
Preachhhhh!💯💯💯 They get mad at me when I say this, but I dumped a 38 yo man for bad breath. Poor hygiene is unacceptable!!!
@@puffball4484Me either!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
PSA for women. We aren’t supposed to be dating people as a favor or for rehab. We are supposed to be attracted to them. If a person who you are getting to know for a little while has a trait or habits that are REPULSIVE to you, probably better to friend zone their ass.
I agree with all you said except for the friend zone,
they don't deserve friendship. That's how you get SA
@@nussknacker9827 That’s absolutely true. We need high standards for friends as well 🌹
The last story is so accurate. Men really have no idea what women want and refuse to listen. I told my male friend about how Im not ready for a relationship RN and I want a casual set up with this guy I met at the bar. It was going well at first but the guy eventually cancelled on our weekend plans, then texted me at 9 pm on Sunday night wanting to Netflix and chill. I said no and he never texted me again. My male friend was confused because I said I wanted something casual. He was like "isn't that exactly what you wanted, just sex with no commitment or strings attached". no... there's a MAJOR difference between a sketchy sneaky link and casual sexual partner who I know. He just couldn't wrap his head around the fact that women don't want to be treated like objects. It's pathetic how self centered they are
Good for you! He never clarified what YOUR definition of casual was and that’s not your fault that yall have two different definitions of casual lol😂😂😂
There are chemical free deodorants. Lume for men, or break up. It has nothing to do with deodorant, but hygiene.
It might be a sickness or something. In some conditions it won't matter how much he cleans himself.
Exactly. He may also have a terrible diet, he may need to clean up his diet as well.
Yes and it works.
It's not. He showers every day according to the post. The issue is the refusal to figure something out. I'm sure that self-esteem and probably bullying have to do with that. I am allergic to most mainstream deodorants and antiperspirant and so is my ex. I have had to spend a lot of money and time to figure out what works for me. So did my ex. It's not as easy as you'd think.
She said he didn't even touch it. So he probably just doesn't care. Heck there's even a salt stick he can use
That isn’t just a hygiene problem, it’s an empathy problem. 🚩
It's also a basic human decency and respect problem
He doesn’t want her, she needs to move on. If he care he would have either never have a hygiene problem or corrected the problem after she told him.
Story 3: smh.... This is what happens when a guy watches porn and _that's_ his "normal", what he wants and expects. Not gonna happen irl 🤷
"He doesn't like to wear deodorant bc there are chemicals"
"I bought him a natural deodorant & he never touched it"
You know how some guys think washing & wiping their butt crack is feminine? He thinks wearing deodorant is feminine. That's probably what it is. These guys need to gtfu. It's ridiculous that at their big ol ages, they have to be told how to keep up w/their hygiene & properly clean themselves. My thing is this, she knew he stunk & still dated him? He didn't just stop using deodorant randomly. The fact that she still pursued a relationship w/him is ASININE 🤦🏾♀️
I read that as "these guys need to get the f ute" at first. My brain's running a bit slow again.
Right, because I'm just flabbergasted because first of all, WHY???? and WHET?!?!?
yep that is ridiculous, it's better for a guy to be slightly "feminine" than to literally smell like a hoagie or some unwashed @ss. gross!
There's no such thing as chemical free deodorant.
"Wiping your butt is feminine" WTF? There are some damn narstie men men around!
I'm thinking people become "coupled" wayyyyy too damn soon.
REMEMBER the dude who left SHYT STAINS in the bed ???
People are pressured by their boomer parents to have someone around in order to be happy.
It has nothing to do with hygiene. This is his personality. He will never care about her comfort. I'm glad people like this post to reddit so we can hear how awful it is, and they have zero excuse to be thinking it's fine to stay.
This!! While it is gross and embarrassing that he stinks, what's worse is that he is aware and will do literally nothing to change it, which shows he does not care about anyone but himself. Also, the chemical thing is bs. Literally everything we eat, touch, lather, or interact with is comprised of chemicals, including our own bodies. It's the chemicals in his body thar stink. There are natural, organic and more health minded options like Lume if he doesn't want to go cheap drug store products - I can understand that even if I'm too cheap to partake myself - but to act like because something has chemicals in it that somehow justifies discounting deodorant entirely is just man baby behavior. It's "I don't wanna" while flailing his arms, adult version. Not acceptable.
So true! He is purposely not wearing the deodorant because he knows he smells and she hates it! He wants her to get the picture that he doesn’t want her yet she is still putting up with it. At this point she’s wasting her time if she continues with him💯
Every time I want to step my foot into the water all I I have to do is come to your channel and remind myself, "Nope, I'm good."
First guy might be going in the shower, but he is NOT using soap. She addressed it in a compassionate way. He’s using weaponized incompetence pretending he doesn’t know about natural deodorant. He obviously doesn’t care about his health if he won’t go to the doctor to make sure it’s not a sign of something serious. She either needs to get over the smell or move on. At this point, those are her options. Side note: if his pits smell like this, what about his 🍑!! 🤮
Male entitlement. All the way around. 4B. They need to learn.
Every time someone cites "chemicals" as a reason for not using something, I laugh. Everything is a chemical. Everything. If he wants to avoid potentially harmful chemicals, there are plenty of deodorant options. He needs to stop lol
True. Pretty much the reason everyone in American society is getting cancer. There's a park somewhere they just discovered was built on top of a toxic waste site or something like that. How many other places like that, that we don't know about, but will cause cancer clusters?🤷🏾♂️
There are so many great natural deodorants these days made with essential oils. You might have to apply them more often, but so what? Why go around stinking?
the way you say stuff is hilarious. "please don't judge" "ma'am we're gonna judge you, you're dating someone who smells like onions.
LMAO!!!! 😂
There’s soooo many natural ways to smell nice. Coconut oil mixed with oregano oil is a good natural alternative. The rock salt thing works. He’s just being some kinda way.
Edit: I’ve also seen many guys not comb or brush their hair. Or wash it!!!! So gross. One said, “you don’t need to comb your hair if you condition it!”
These guys just need to be avoided until they straighten up. Being nice and patient just enables them.
This is what I was thinking! You can wash your pits & use coconut oil! You can be more natural AND not reek.
The things men put women thru,they would never take😂
They wouldn't even be their own friend, or allow somebody who acts like them into their friend group. They'd clown on the dude RELENTLESSLY.
These types of dudes have so little self-awareness that it would be impressive, if it wasn't so sad, nasty, and unhealthy.
Oh the point of him being white European, oh it does matter. His origin and race most definitely matters. I know from experience. Daily showers, even every other day showers aren't a thing here. I even stopped taking a bus especially during the summer months because it would smell ripe in there. Now I opt to cycle to where I need to be. The detail she mentioned about him being European matters a lot in this story and her dilemma.
I think her boyfriend needs a Dr ffs.
Who?
He needs deodorant
Yeah, a psychiatrist.
Sounds like he just needs to exercise better hygiene. And also watch what he’s eating.
Once you let the bacteria build up and colonize under your arms, no amount of scrubbing or showering and deodorant will get rid of it. Only two things will: antibacterial soap and rubbing alcohol.
"She probably hunches with this raw onions smelling man" 😅😂😅😂😅 So glad you just owned that we gonna judge.
The waves of nausea that washed all he way through this post! HELP! 😢😢😢😢🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢
Just like there are people who don’t bathe there are people who also believe they don’t need to visit a dentist! Hygiene is so important to me!!
I will never understand people who are okay with smelling bad. The owner of the computer shop I worked at in the early 2010s didn't believe in using deodorant either, or showering more than once a week. I stg I have _never_ encountered another human being in my entire life that stunk that bad. It was a mix of feet, hot garbage, and onions, and it would just permeate whatever space he was in. Eyes watered, gags were suppressed, breaths were held, Glade was sprayed when he left. It was _that_ bad. The shop did house calls and customers complained every time he went on a call. We finally sat him down and told him he reeked, it was affecting business, and if he didn't start showering daily and using deodorant we were all quitting.
I also had a roommate years ago that only showered every 7-10 days. His hair stuck to his head in greasy strips but he didn't think it was healthy to "disrupt his microbiome" with regular hygiene.
SHOCKINGLY both of these men were chronically single!
My son smells like onions when he eats raw onions. He would eat them like apples and on lots of his food. He was banned from eating raw onions. She needs to leave. He doesn't like or respect her.
I’m in menopause and my under arm BO just got bad and I had to use deodorant throughout the day. After trying many things I finally found a dermatologist who said use the acne treatment scrubs under the arms when showering and boom-No more underarm BO. Just a little PSA. 😊
I had a Hinge date with a guy who STUNK. I could barely get through the date, so it's incomprehensible to me to be with someone who smells bad. How and why did she overlook this for so long?
The bad dating experiences are just too nasty😂😂😂😂😂
omg
Bring back shame - he needs to be shamed on hygiene
Sorry, not sorry, girl needs to be shamed too - idgf how nice and kind an thoughtful he is...u let that stinking mass of onions crawl all over you??!!
makes me itchy just to read.
Exactly. Sometimes people's feelings need to be hurt. Hurt feelings can create change.
I had to speak with a subordinate about his body odor, clients were complaining, his manager was complaining but none of them would speak with him. They asked me because I had led his training class (really it was because I was a woman and these men were uncomfortable having the discussion). I had to tell this 30 yo Harvard MBA that he needed to shower with deodorant soap and shampoo, use a deodorant and antiperspirant, send all his suits to the cleaners immediately and have his shirts laundered after each use. He wanted to argue with me about it. I told him “do it or not, I don’t care. But this is your first and final warning, everyone else wants to fire you and your current client doesn’t want you back on site.” His manager came to me the following week thanking me and talking about how not only did the odor stop, but he was working twice as hard, lol. You have to be blunt with these guys.
How considerate and nice could he be when he clearly thinks nothing of her nose's feelings.
I have seen women get shamed in public for weight and just the other day I saw a woman who was a running in gym outfit get shamed for smelling bad on the streets. Yet I have yet to see a man get shamed. It seems to be a lot easier to shame the “weakest” link.
I just don't get it though!!!
I'm the first person that can smell myself when I have a funk like after a long day of work or not taking a shower or coming back from a long run or whatever the case... I can smell MYSELF so like how do people not smell themselves if it's THAT bad, not just referring to the actual post but also from the comments. Also, I don't even have a strong sense of smell but I can smell when I start having B.O
It's something he is eating. Smelling like onions isnt normal.
Is he the ONLY man around? These pick mes are insufferable. Body odor is A HUGE NO!!!
Growing up, my parents never used deodorants, soaps, or purfumes because "the government put chemicals in it to make us sick". My siblings and I weren't allowed to use them either, even if we were going somewhere. Only all natural essential oils were allowed, which smelled funky and didnt cover up the BO, the smells just mixed.
Puberty was a nightmare, I was so anxious and tried to keep distance from other people so they wouldn't notice the smell. It doesn't matter how much you wash, you'll still stink.
In my case both parents were just disgusting so it didnt cause relationship problems.
I don't care what kind of chemicals are in it. Its unhygienic and rude to go around other people smelling like armpits and crotch.
There was a girl at my old job that had a stomach ulcers, so she had very bad breath. You could smell her breath all through the place. She explained that to everyone and management, but regardless. They sent her home one day when it was unbearable. I felt bad for her, but if it's an ulcer; you have health insurance, go see a doctor OR there's holistic means to cure ulcers to that are cheaper alternatives. A tablespoon of apple cider vinegar a day is a good tip too.
In the absence of other pathology he’s not drinking enough water, scrubbing the areas that tend to gather bacteria or he’s over consuming pungent foods. Either way he doesn’t love you enough to change his body odor so you can be around him. He has made his boundary clear, it’s time for you to act accordingly. You don’t need to consider his feelings if he cannot even consider your experience around him. Dump him find a man who doesn’t smell they exist.
Japan has a surgical procedure called gland ablation that removes apocrine glands, which cause underarm odor. Perhaps OP1's BF should look into this, while SHE needs to stop buying stuff for him.
He doesn’t even love himself to be hygienic so he is not capable of loving her. She also doesn't love herself by taking this foolishness. She needs therapy and time to herself.
I am not saying that the man doesn't need to figure out something for it, but a lot of people don't understand how the body works. People can't take multiple showers a day, every day, without messing up their skin. Sweating is natural and some people have a stronger smell and produce more sweat (they really do have prescription strength antiperspirants). Some medications, natural remedies, medical issues, etc... change the amount and smell of sweat. There are natural deodorants, powders, and antiperspirants they are expensive and hard to find, but some of them work. He has to want to deal with the issue. It's one of those issues that aren't your fault, but it's on you to fix it.
She’s mentioning the fact that he is a white European, because a lot of White people don’t bathe themselves to the standards that we do (assuming that she’s black.) I live in London right now, and the first time I lived in a house with White people I was appalled by the fact that there were no bathing implements in the entire bathroom. Like wash cloths, hell even a loofa? Nothing. Gross. Thankfully my roommate did not smell, but he did not use anything to assist with bathing himself.
Even before I moved, I once crashed with a friend, and their roommate (also White American) didnt know what wash cloths WERE. They were grown.
Not saying its all, but it’s enough 🤷🏾♀️
What kind of comment is this? If your roommates did not smell, does it matter whether they use a washcloth or not? White ppl I have known were appalled that ppl of colour do not wash their hair frequently and all the hair care product is caked in their hair with flaky scalp that was hid under artificial wigs in 100 degree heat. Different cultures different standards.
I'm a white German and you can find all of these things in my bathroom 😅 I guess it really depends how you grew up and my Grandma's were really clean and had proper body hygiene.
I use silicon sponges for my scalp and skin, a big luffa, a big bathing brush, big scrub bands for my back, special microfiber cloths and pads for my face, wash cloths for my pits and so on 😁
Have you ever heard of soap?
@@redleeks6253Soap alone won’t clean you, that’s exactly why you smell atrocious. Soap without using a wash cloth to scrub is like someone halfway brushing their teeth to binge on cake after. Then proceed to do a half ass job of brushing their teeth three days later. Smh.
@@redleeks6253 you still need a washcloth to scrub away the dead skin, oils, and dirt. Otherwise you are just applying a layer of soap residue to your skin, which can cause or worsen dryness, tightness, and itchiness. And of course your skin may look dull afterwards.
Regarding Onion Man: he needs a THOROUGH medical exam. Sometimes a lung infection/dysfunction shows up in sweat or armpit odor long before it shows up in breath.
The onion guy will be su surprised when she leaves him. He will say "Why would she leave me just like that ?"
In the 1920's and '30's men would be clean-shaven, even chests and armpits. Boxers did it and they were huge celebrities. it was a reaction to how much germ theory had taken hold in the gen pop. Joan Crawford, giant star, would be quoted about how she loved "the clean look."
So that first man wasn't MANLY enough, I say.
You know when you smell funky. What a turn off. He doesn't care how she feels.
If you are sleeping with a married man just remember, when/if you become a married woman with a husband…. karma will be there waiting for you. What goes around comes around.
Lol I have had to convince two of my daughter’s male friends that they needed more frequent showers and that they needed to buy deodorant and invest in a nice cologne. Girls like cleanliness and why the hell aren’t their parents teaching them to bathe?!?!?!
She should go a couple of days without deodorant and see how he reacts.............
I remember when the talk shows in the 90s would have on people (many were women) whose body chemistry was seemingly insurmountable. No matter how often they showered, how hygenic they were, and how many specialists they saw, they still had this issue. The big difference I noticed was the women largely were desperate to try anything to better their situation, while men were more likely to expect others to just deal with their condition. I also remember how hurtful the things both genders-- but the women's stories were worse as a whole-- said they experienced from members of the opposite sex as a result.
My heart goes out to anyone who has that issue, and I hope they found/find a solution. Of course, to do that, that person has to want to find a solution, and it doesn't sound like this man cares enough about how it impacts his partner (and others) to do so.
I have known various shades of funky smelling or excessively sweaty folks. Sometimes things can be genetic and you try everything & it remains... but MOST of the times, diet changes, hygiene products and other moderate changes really fix the issue. Even natural deoderants can really help some folks D:
1:44 Hurt his gosh darn feelings.Cause guess what?! Hopefully men do not give two shits about hurting your feelings. This is the reason why I broke up with a dude straight up. I told him dead a**I shouldn't have to tell you stink!
The second she said he smelled 2 minutes after showering I immediately knew he didn't use deodorant. She may have hurt his feelings, but he repeatedly neglected hers, even failing to do even one second of research that wouldve showed him brands that don't have harmful/ questionable chemicals. Grow up dude.
Online dating, one word: feral
I’ve only once gotten involved with a married man. But the night I met him, I also met his wife. The first thing she said to me was that I was his type, and then she let me know the marriage was for him to get citizenship, and that she had a boyfriend too, as they were waiting out the clock until everything was permanent. They already knew the date they’d be filing for divorce, as it had been part of the deal the entire time. Her boyfriend was there as well. They were completely open about the fact that while they were very good friends, the marriage was only on paper, and that if I was into him, the only awkwardness would be in the form of appointments with immigration. They were basically roommates and buddies, closer to siblings, but could not be less romantically interested in each other.
It seemed like a red flag at first, but it was actually true. The only difference after the divorce was that they lived down the street from each other. They still hung out all the time, they just didn’t have to pretend any more. It was nice to have a built in second couple for double dates.
If he were married married? Yeah, no screw that lol