Abusers don't victimize everyone they meet: they choose certain types of people. They choose highly moral compassionate and loving people to take down. The abuser knows he can turn the story around on them.
I’m a 64 year old psychologist & I have only admitted to myself that I was groomed & sexually assaulted when I was 16. I conceived his son & I was coerced into marrying him when I was 18; I left my ex when I was 19.
I finally reported my father’s sexual abuse of me to my mother (who was well aware of the physical & emotional abuse and neglect on his part) when I was fourteen. I did not speak to my father again until I was an adult. His first words to me I am sorry. What happened to you as a child was not your fault. If I could go back in time and change it I would. I do not expect you to forgive me. I already had, especially knowing his mother. But him taking responsibility as well as keeping himself away from children under his control, helped me heal.
@@whitesalamander Definitely! It really helped hearing it from him. I knew he was an alcoholic and had issues because of his mother, but he took accountability.
This is such an important story!!!! Thank you so much for staying on it and helping these women find justice!!! You ALL are my heroes (and Ryan also, of course!), and I look up to all of you!! Keep up the amazing work to hold this creep responsible. ❤❤❤❤
Carahhh, this is one of the best videos Ive seen you do!!! I loved how you stayed on key, your voice, your professionalism, body projection, gave the info like it were the news!!! Love it! This is such a great subject too and there are so many of us that could add to it with our own story and experience. Thank you for all you do, you are making your mark, so proud of you.
You're doing an amazing job Carah. Your strength, your poise, you clearly articulate yourself in defense. Especially having heard your story you shared. You've found ur voice and know how to use it. It speaks volumes when you don't make it about you & your experiences. There's a saying it's either reconciliation or a lesson. And damn You've healed enuff to see thru the bullshit to explain what victims struggle to put words to. You kinda remind me of a jack in a box, in a good way cos ur full of surprises. Thankyou for being you and doing what ya do🦄🐞
Great video! It’s so painful to hear people say “if it happened why wasn’t it reported right away”. People can mess with your mind, they can flip it and put you at fault. They typically work hard to gain your trust to the point that it makes no sense they would abuse you, so you believe it must be something else. So many women are raised to be people pleasers and not “stir the pot”. I pray that the judges understand SA victims and can see the truth. Tim deserves to have everything taken from him!!
You might be interested in a system Jessica Ladd made with an information escrow for college campuses. It works anywhere, not just for the college campuses. This isn't impossible. ♥
The old “They didn’t report it right away” excuse is SO tired. Even a cursory glance at the research on how SA victims respond to their ab*se would show even the least informed person that this excuse is both a ridiculous and dangerous phenomenon. Grrr…
Typical abuser counter-blaming. I've even heard CSA perpetrators claim that they were "seduced." Tim is a garbage human. And I'm sorry for what happened to you, Carah. 💔
Tim Ballard is so obviously a perpetrator of abuse. Unfortunately, he has done a darned good job of manipulating the women & his supporters. One of the most important things that can come from this situation is that young women & girls can become aware of what ‘grooming’ & manipulation actually looks like, empowering them from ever being abused in this manner. I sure hope the courts find this vile human being accountable for his disgusting behavior.
I was sexually assaulted when I went in the USAF at 17. I don’t know who did it because they threw a towel around my face in the restroom. I do know it was two airmen. I did report it and the training instructor told me to toughen up because they were just testing me. It never goes away. I’m 63 now and still suffer from it.
Another layer to this important line of thought and questioning is how survivors of SA are condemned when the perpetrators are publicly condemned the victims are once again shamed by this. As the survivors and the perpetrators are entwined due to the grooming of the perp, shame of being a victim and disgust of those that learn of this causes more difficulties for those trying to move beyond the damage caused by the abusers.
Thank you for sharing this Kara - I have been in freeze as accusations get turned around on me and my desire to be good, institutions respect for people in high priesthood authority gives them a pass. The time has come to stand up to it. Your example and courage inspires me to start talking and let the consequences that have been threatened follow.
Winning what? He’s been excommunicated. He’s looking rough and has aged by years. He’s clearly on drugs or abusing alcohol. The lawsuits are coming one after the other putting him in the defensive. So yeah so much winning
Lol. What you see as “winning” for Tim, we see his pride and “reputation” falling. A.k.a. Narcissistic collapse. And it’s glorious and fascinating to witness it in real time. Predators always love to operate in the dark. Unfortunately, for Tim, the time and LIGHT IS SHINING BRIGHT! Nowhere to hide Timmy, any longer. 💜 SHAME ON YOU, for what you did in Columbia! God, is ALWAYS WATCHING! Karma! TikTok 🤭
40k likes on his IG?! They’re definitely drinkin his koolaid! These women were hand selected by Tim because he knew they’d be easy to manipulate! That’s what master manipulators/groomers do! ♥️WE STAND WITH THE WOMEN!♥️
thanks for making this video, ive been searching the internet to find out what the controversy is about Tim Ballard. Ive heard people saying hes made lies about his operations and all that.
Sexual predators all seem to use the same playbook. It's horrible how they often assault their victims in all ways possible to destroy their credibility when finally come foreword.
R*ped by my former fiancé. Stayed in the relationship for way too long after because he was “my only chance at eternal life.” Fawning is a PTSD response. Ugh.
People will hold strong opinions on the subject until something like this hits close to home. I pray that any of Ballard's supporters never have to be in the position his victims are in.
Yes, assaulted at age 7,8,13,18,21, 34!!! And never again. Both men and 2 women. :/ I learned how to use my strong voice and stopped being silent. Still can’t tell many people. Lots of shame/embarrassment.
You might be interested in a system Jessica Ladd made with an information escrow for college campuses. It works anywhere, not just for the college campuses. This isn't impossible.
If the behavior and statements of a victim is indistinguishable from one who does not feel victimized, it seems that it would encourage the perpetrator into continuing the behavior. Thoughts?
Excellent video. I do not understand why Tim Ballard would actually hire women from his Temple group? or church class?, oh yeah the ones he's attracted to and he wants a sexual experience with. He's so smooth, with the leaders approval .... Remind you of someone? What exactly is charismatic? Tim Ballard and JS. Both are guilty of gaslighting and grooming women to be their love match. So many woman and So much like JS. . So maybe the Mormon church leaders today would ex communicate Joseph Smith? Think? My last thought is Tim's wife? Wow she is drinking the punch and it's really loaded with Kool-Aid. After his dna is found on his choice of gal who lacks any experience or educated about law enforcement or human trafficking, yeah, that gal. Hello!!!!! That one.... Well duh! Crazy s*** cannot make this crap up. But that's exact case scenario very similar to what happened with Joseph Smith. Just think about this.
Ballard is a predator. When faced with the women’s allegations, rather than a rationale explanation and justification (which there isn’t any) he blames them for coming onto him. If there was a justification for what he did, it should be his legal defense.
So, are you saying that he is admitting to having sexual relations w/these women as part of the couple-ruse but that it was them that initiated the encounters?
I refuse to watch any more videos you do. You only needed one video to say in your opinion he is a POS. I have no opinion on him one way or the other. Pick someone else to talk about. Talk about kicking a dead horse.
We won't stop until those abusing women and children stop..... including Tim Ballard who is out there a free man right now, grooming another crop of couples ruse partners. There is nothing even remotely "dead" about this horse.
@@amberinthemist7912 lol. Seriously I don't support him but if he is a bad guy how come she never talks about anyone else involved. He wouldn't be able to do this all on his own. No man has that much power. Reminds me of Epstein and now we still don't have the list of the people involved. Show me the other bad guy's. If your purpose is to expose them then do it. Expose them all not just this one.
Abusers don't victimize everyone they meet: they choose certain types of people. They choose highly moral compassionate and loving people to take down. The abuser knows he can turn the story around on them.
I’m a 64 year old psychologist & I have only admitted to myself that I was groomed & sexually assaulted when I was 16. I conceived his son & I was coerced into marrying him when I was 18; I left my ex when I was 19.
My ex was an active seventh day Adventist
It's chilling how many stories like yours I've heard in support groups.
This is important work you are doing. This information matters.
I finally reported my father’s sexual abuse of me to my mother (who was well aware of the physical & emotional abuse and neglect on his part) when I was fourteen. I did not speak to my father again until I was an adult. His first words to me
I am sorry. What happened to you as a child was not your fault. If I could go back in time and change it I would. I do not expect you to forgive me.
I already had, especially knowing his mother. But him taking responsibility as well as keeping himself away from children under his control, helped me heal.
Wow, a perp apology is a rare event. Thanks for sharing.
@@whitesalamander Definitely! It really helped hearing it from him. I knew he was an alcoholic and had issues because of his mother, but he took accountability.
Break the silence. Break the cycle.
This is such an important story!!!! Thank you so much for staying on it and helping these women find justice!!! You ALL are my heroes (and Ryan also, of course!), and I look up to all of you!! Keep up the amazing work to hold this creep responsible. ❤❤❤❤
Carahhh, this is one of the best videos Ive seen you do!!! I loved how you stayed on key, your voice, your professionalism, body projection, gave the info like it were the news!!! Love it! This is such a great subject too and there are so many of us that could add to it with our own story and experience. Thank you for all you do, you are making your mark, so proud of you.
Everyone needs to see this. Your work on the subject is amazing. Thank you.
You're doing an amazing job Carah. Your strength, your poise, you clearly articulate yourself in defense. Especially having heard your story you shared. You've found ur voice and know how to use it. It speaks volumes when you don't make it about you & your experiences.
There's a saying it's either reconciliation or a lesson. And damn You've healed enuff to see thru the bullshit to explain what victims struggle to put words to.
You kinda remind me of a jack in a box, in a good way cos ur full of surprises. Thankyou for being you and doing what ya do🦄🐞
Great video! It’s so painful to hear people say “if it happened why wasn’t it reported right away”. People can mess with your mind, they can flip it and put you at fault. They typically work hard to gain your trust to the point that it makes no sense they would abuse you, so you believe it must be something else. So many women are raised to be people pleasers and not “stir the pot”. I pray that the judges understand SA victims and can see the truth. Tim deserves to have everything taken from him!!
You might be interested in a system Jessica Ladd made with an information escrow for college campuses. It works anywhere, not just for the college campuses. This isn't impossible. ♥
The old “They didn’t report it right away” excuse is SO tired. Even a cursory glance at the research on how SA victims respond to their ab*se would show even the least informed person that this excuse is both a ridiculous and dangerous phenomenon. Grrr…
Thanks for this, and for all you do to expose this vile wolf in sheep’s clothing. 💕
Thanks!
Very grateful for your work.
Typical abuser counter-blaming. I've even heard CSA perpetrators claim that they were "seduced." Tim is a garbage human.
And I'm sorry for what happened to you, Carah. 💔
my abuser said this to me. I was 11.
I noticed that "you made me do it" thing, both in my childhood home (non-SA abuse) and in my first marriage (DV that included SA.)
I've heard from pedoes: we were partners. PARTNERS. It is the extra layer of cringe that makes the garbage light on fire.
DARVO
Deny wrongdoing
Attack the credibility of the accuser
Reverse Vitcim and Offender role
Thank you.
Tim Ballard is so obviously a perpetrator of abuse. Unfortunately, he has done a darned good job of manipulating the women & his supporters. One of the most important things that can come from this situation is that young women & girls can become aware of what ‘grooming’ & manipulation actually looks like, empowering them from ever being abused in this manner.
I sure hope the courts find this vile human being accountable for his disgusting behavior.
Sounds like my ex. He's a narcissist sociopath. Still has his temple recommend.
Cream rises to the top 🤦♀️so very sorry
Lots of narcs sociopaths with temple recommends. Lots.
Thank you. This really helped me!
Well said..wolf in sheeps clothing..i hope he gets what he deserves..sickening..😢😢😢
I was sexually assaulted when I went in the USAF at 17. I don’t know who did it because they threw a towel around my face in the restroom. I do know it was two airmen. I did report it and the training instructor told me to toughen up because they were just testing me.
It never goes away. I’m 63 now and still suffer from it.
Wow, I'm so sorry that happened to you. You ARE tough.
brilliantly explained. And the fawning response (the justification) can happen to anyone, regardless if you are or not raised as a mormon. Hugs.
Another layer to this important line of thought and questioning is how survivors of SA are condemned when the perpetrators are publicly condemned the victims are once again shamed by this. As the survivors and the perpetrators are entwined due to the grooming of the perp, shame of being a victim and disgust of those that learn of this causes more difficulties for those trying to move beyond the damage caused by the abusers.
Thank you for sharing this Kara - I have been in freeze as accusations get turned around on me and my desire to be good, institutions respect for people in high priesthood authority gives them a pass. The time has come to stand up to it. Your example and courage inspires me to start talking and let the consequences that have been threatened follow.
Carah, you are a brave Woman. X
Filing defamation against Miss Utah is going to fail hard. He's going to find that discovery won't do him any favors.
Well done Carah, appreciate your work and passion in this cause
And, ironically Tim keeps winning💪
Winning what? He’s been excommunicated. He’s looking rough and has aged by years. He’s clearly on drugs or abusing alcohol. The lawsuits are coming one after the other putting him in the defensive. So yeah so much winning
Lol. What you see as “winning” for Tim, we see his pride and “reputation” falling. A.k.a. Narcissistic collapse. And it’s glorious and fascinating to witness it in real time.
Predators always love to operate in the dark. Unfortunately, for Tim, the time and LIGHT IS SHINING BRIGHT! Nowhere to hide Timmy, any longer. 💜
SHAME ON YOU, for what you did in Columbia! God, is ALWAYS WATCHING!
Karma! TikTok 🤭
Tim and Sean are buddies. Tim has paid police protection. Been this way since Brigham was czar
Brigham Young (Bring'em young)
Classic DARVO behavior by Tim Ballard here. DARVO: Defend Attack Reverse Victim and Offender
Nailed it
40k likes on his IG?! They’re definitely drinkin his koolaid!
These women were hand selected by Tim because he knew they’d be easy to manipulate! That’s what master manipulators/groomers do!
♥️WE STAND WITH THE WOMEN!♥️
It’s disgusting how many folks - especially women- still support him
thanks for making this video, ive been searching the internet to find out what the controversy is about Tim Ballard. Ive heard people saying hes made lies about his operations and all that.
Sexual predators all seem to use the same playbook. It's horrible how they often assault their victims in all ways possible to destroy their credibility when finally come foreword.
Most clinical psychologists agree with you and assist their clients in unraveling the perp’s play book. Patriarchy enables grooming.
R*ped by my former fiancé. Stayed in the relationship for way too long after because he was “my only chance at eternal life.” Fawning is a PTSD response. Ugh.
People will hold strong opinions on the subject until something like this hits close to home. I pray that any of Ballard's supporters never have to be in the position his victims are in.
Thank you for sharing this info 🙏
Yes, assaulted at age 7,8,13,18,21, 34!!! And never again. Both men and 2 women. :/
I learned how to use my strong voice and stopped being silent. Still can’t tell many people. Lots of shame/embarrassment.
You might be interested in a system Jessica Ladd made with an information escrow for college campuses. It works anywhere, not just for the college campuses. This isn't impossible.
I subscribed❣️
Good job, Carah!❤
If the behavior and statements of a victim is indistinguishable from one who does not feel victimized, it seems that it would encourage the perpetrator into continuing the behavior.
Thoughts?
You mean that "every accusation is a confession"? Shocked I am not.
Excellent video. I do not understand why Tim Ballard would actually hire women from his Temple group? or church class?, oh yeah the ones he's attracted to and he wants a sexual experience with. He's so smooth, with the leaders approval .... Remind you of someone? What exactly is charismatic? Tim Ballard and JS. Both are guilty of gaslighting and grooming women to be their love match. So many woman and So much like JS. . So maybe the Mormon church leaders today would ex communicate Joseph Smith? Think? My last thought is Tim's wife? Wow she is drinking the punch and it's really loaded with Kool-Aid. After his dna is found on his choice of gal who lacks any experience or educated about law enforcement or human trafficking, yeah, that gal. Hello!!!!! That one.... Well duh! Crazy s*** cannot make this crap up. But that's exact case scenario very similar to what happened with Joseph Smith. Just think about this.
Ballard is a predator. When faced with the women’s allegations, rather than a rationale explanation and justification (which there isn’t any) he blames them for coming onto him. If there was a justification for what he did, it should be his legal defense.
💜💜💜 Thank you for this, so very much.
So, are you saying that he is admitting to having sexual relations w/these women as part of the couple-ruse but that it was them that initiated the encounters?
Why it’ll never … I can’t read the last word because the numbers are in the way. What is the last part?
So if he’s telling all these women that God chose them, and then they supposedly “hit on him” is he also mistaken in hearing from God?
Tim B is a textbook narcissist. Everything he does is for his own ego stroking and he will do anything he can to avoid responsibility.
I got Your 6
“Gawd’s children” don’t include you, Timmy-boy. But nice T-shirt, dude.🙄
How can anyone think that loud mouth tim ballard is anything but full of bs?
so not to be rude but tim is not good looking and he is short.
Being petty does not help the cause. Do better
He creeps me out big time. Cringey 😬
I refuse to watch any more videos you do. You only needed one video to say in your opinion he is a POS. I have no opinion on him one way or the other. Pick someone else to talk about. Talk about kicking a dead horse.
We won't stop until those abusing women and children stop..... including Tim Ballard who is out there a free man right now, grooming another crop of couples ruse partners. There is nothing even remotely "dead" about this horse.
We won't be silenced anymore. Your support of sex abuse predators will catch up with you somewhere.
K thx bye
@@amberinthemist7912 lol. Seriously I don't support him but if he is a bad guy how come she never talks about anyone else involved. He wouldn't be able to do this all on his own. No man has that much power. Reminds me of Epstein and now we still don't have the list of the people involved. Show me the other bad guy's. If your purpose is to expose them then do it. Expose them all not just this one.
Tim is the gift that keeps on giving. Maybe stop watching because his actions are so vile it makes you sick?