Same! I think my height has something to do with it. In the mirror I'm looking down at by body but I'm tall so in photos the camera is angled up at me 🤷♀️
Yes, me too! Spot on with the height thing. And I always tend to get positioned on the outside in group photos making me look twice the size I am, no joke! And that was confirmed for me by a pro photographer friend. I just had it happen yesterday and I told myself "I refuse to be gaslit by that camera!!"
I hate how I look in the mirror. I feel cute. The mirror me looks fat and I don't really recognize me. I don't do mirrors. Edit: I also hate taking pictures, I always have.
I mean, ninety-bazillion messages a day from advertising and shit, telling us everything including the atoms of our inner pupils need to be changed or else we're unworthy/hideous...I dunno how _anyone_ has any self-esteem these days! 😅🤷🏾♀️
@@aundreanaphiffer3572 Girl, don't you know it! 😂 The atoms of our inner pupils, the hue of our nostrils' shadow, the shape of the air around our wrists -- they are _out of control_ with all these endless, arbitrary characteristics and measurements that only waste the time that we should be spending loving and nurturing ourselves and our loved ones, replacing it with despair and self-consciousness over **nothing** !! I wanna tell 'em go sell a cream to them wearing swastikas and iron crosses; and leave me and my cute, innocent, harmless knees alone! Whatever my imperfections are, _someone_ gonna like them, they not hurting nobody, and in the end they're not anybody else's business but mine!
literally me today: "I think... I think that is some ribcage. I probably should not be seeing bone. I have been trying to lose weight though but I probably should not be seeing bone."
Okay but like.. me. Especially since having my fourth child last year, it's gotten worse than it's ever been in my life and nearly constant, so back to therapy for me!
A friend of mine of mine was dealing with body dysmorphia for a while and me being the social klutz that I am, unironically said "if you don't stop and start loving yourself I will slap you in friendship"
I have gender dysphoria, and sometimes i just want to cry when I look at myself in the mirror, and other times, especially when i tuck my hair under a beanie or a hood I'm like "I GIVE GENDER ! WOOOOO !" and than my mother comes in and ruins everything.
Mood. Summer was always weird for me cuz I loved my cute summer clothes, but they were much more femme so I'd get misgendered a lot and I couldn’t ways bind in the heat. It's my first summer post op this year and I'm so psyched to wear a crop top without thinking about it
@@jamiedodger2361 I'm cutting my hair this summer to help with my gender dysphoria ! I'm going to confuse a lot of people, and I'm so ready for it >:) Confuse people with gender.
Currently 31 weeks pregnant with twins. Getting out of the shower and looking in the mirror is literally the worst part of the pregnancy because I have struggled with my weight and body image since I was in elementary school. Very rarely do I have a "wow I look cute" moment. It's worth it to have my kids, but I do have lottle breakdowns about how I look sometimes. You look great, Nicque. :)
As someone who struggled with body dysmorphic disorder since childhood, I am fed up with people using the term body dysmorphia to describe a bad hair day or a bad mirror day. BDD patients spend every day fighting to lead a normal life and not be overwhelmed by depression, obsessive behaviours, and the urge to withdraw completely from every day life. Please stop using terms based on real diseases to describe your moods.
ikr, this was kind of insulting to put it lightly. i get she's trying to make light of a bad situation. but thats not how it is. i'd guess for most it would really go like: "ugh, disgusting" stares and looks at every inch of body to see if theres any miracoulous improvement. "disgusting, i look like a waterbuffallo or other animal associated with uglyness"
It’s the other way around for me 😢 I feel amazing and then SOMEONE decides to take photos and I look like a deranged, stocky elephant crashing into everything and everyone 😭
Oh my god, same, everyday. I'll be frustrated, in tears, not liking the way anything looks at me, and my husband is like "but you're so cute" and I'll still put on my jeans and sleeveless shirts. It's a curse
I have the opposite reaction. Pictures bother me far more than mirrors. I hate having my pic taken because I hate seeing my second chin so prominent in so many photos taken of me. Makes me feel like crying and never leaving the house knowing that I look like that.
Feel you. I had a lucky experience where someone picked out one of my least favorite photos as their favorite, completely unprompted. It made something click in my head that no matter how fat or weird I look in a photo, I always look like me, the person people have gotten to know. That's really helped me over the years. (Now that insecurity has been replaced by gender issues and always looking the wrong gender. Cause life is like that.) Sorry if that ramble was completely unhelpful, but here's a virtual hug. 🫂
I kind of have the opposite. I don't think about what I look like most of the time but I look horrible in photos even when I try to look nice. I have people comment that I look like I am grimacing when I was actually happy and smiling.
@@fearreavers same thing. and it also strange that if people film a video i look nice, but when they take a photo i look horribly sick or like a gremlin 🙃
@@heh.wantsomewine It's the way modern digital cameras work, ESPECIALLY phone cameras. I had a pro photographer friend tell me this and it has literally saved my sanity. On the mend from BD and feel decent, usually, looking in the mirror but then I would see a pic of myself and spiral, not realizing often these phone camera lenses are like fun house mirrors!!
Girl! I had this in the work place mirror one day. Was like “yo that’s my face, why do I look like that” and then in the elevator mirror was like “damn I’m cute” 😅😂 probably something wrong with the lighting
I was trying on a skating dress at my ice skating competition and the second one I tried on made me feel so bad about myself that I went into the tent and silently cried
Yep, if I catch my reflection anywhere im like “bitch u ugly” in my mind but this Monday I had some fun with makeup and accessories and when I caught it for a second I was like “who’s that cutie” and remembered it was me and I was so fucking happy I told my partner and they were very happy for me, since they know my struggles, and we had a very cute moment picking up my medication XD ✨
i’m the same way but i’m also the opposite at the same time. sometimes i’ll look in the mirror, think “damn i look kinda good today” and try taking a picture that ends up making me look like gollum (that’s my own mental issues thinking that ofc) and feel bad about myself again. other times i feel gross about my body then i find pictures from times like prom and even some casual outings and think “damn i look good” again. the brain is such a puzzling thing 😂😭
I only like pictures of myself from at least a year ago, pictures I absolutely hated. Next year I’ll like the current ones and the cycle will continue.
Honestly I have it both the opposite and the same exact way. Every time I think I’m too fat or just not appealing, then look at myself in another medium I suddenly go, “Damn I look good.”
I don't even know what that word Means but I experience this nearly all the freaking time I look at myself in the mirror But then see some rocking photos of me😭
Literally just got old timey photos taken with my fiance for that very reason. Don't feel handsome today? Boom. A professional photo of me dressed as a cowboy. Take that.
As someone who struggles with BD and and ED I just look at certain parts of my body like thighs and torso and am like”ew” and then I look at different areas of my body like eyes and hair and am like “Ok girl slay pop off”
It's like watching my sister. She both assumes everyone wants her (her own words) and has the worst most fucked up body image of anyone you've ever met. I wish I knew how to help aside from the obvious of just being there.
i think i have body dysmorphia like. people say im a little thick, and everyone has always been okay about it (except elementary school) but when i see myself at all i just. shut down. sometimes i have bad thoughts etc etc yeah idk
Literly me but i look away then back at the mirror and im like wait but like im kinda slaying this look and then next week i be lokking in the mirror wandering what went wrong
And the reasons I think I’m ugly are always so random it’ll be like “uuggghhhhh my arms are so skinny and my knees are so wrinkly and my eyes don’t match my chin” like calm down maybe
Lmao I'm the opposite, in the mirror I'm like "okay damn I'm cute" and then someone takes a photo of me and I'm like "omfg wtf is that troll"
Same! I think my height has something to do with it. In the mirror I'm looking down at by body but I'm tall so in photos the camera is angled up at me 🤷♀️
@@meekasag7700 SAME THAT MIGHT BE IT! I feel like my face especially looks way better from eye level
Same!
Yes, me too! Spot on with the height thing. And I always tend to get positioned on the outside in group photos making me look twice the size I am, no joke! And that was confirmed for me by a pro photographer friend. I just had it happen yesterday and I told myself "I refuse to be gaslit by that camera!!"
Same! 😂😂
“wHaT tHe FuCk iS tHiS?!?” I felt that on a different level. 💀
That was a personal attack calling me out
I felt the noise that happened after that statement
This entire video made me feel things 😭
Same💀
I felt that "until next time" 😅
Me who doesn't take pictures: THERE IS NO ESCAPE FOR ME
I hate how I look in the mirror. I feel cute. The mirror me looks fat and I don't really recognize me. I don't do mirrors.
Edit: I also hate taking pictures, I always have.
That "until next time" came for me directly
When i look terrible in photos but amazing in the mirror. 😂😂😂
Same lmao and then I have a whole mental breakdown because I’m debating which is what I actually look like the mirror or the photos 😭
I mean, ninety-bazillion messages a day from advertising and shit, telling us everything including the atoms of our inner pupils need to be changed or else we're unworthy/hideous...I dunno how _anyone_ has any self-esteem these days! 😅🤷🏾♀️
Girl not the atoms of our inner pupils 😂
@@aundreanaphiffer3572 Girl, don't you know it! 😂 The atoms of our inner pupils, the hue of our nostrils' shadow, the shape of the air around our wrists -- they are _out of control_ with all these endless, arbitrary characteristics and measurements that only waste the time that we should be spending loving and nurturing ourselves and our loved ones, replacing it with despair and self-consciousness over **nothing** !!
I wanna tell 'em go sell a cream to them wearing swastikas and iron crosses; and leave me and my cute, innocent, harmless knees alone! Whatever my imperfections are, _someone_ gonna like them, they not hurting nobody, and in the end they're not anybody else's business but mine!
Our pupils are holes in our eyes
@@lulolie I know. And the white part are called scleras 💁🏾♀️
@@TreeHairedGingerAle so they don't have atoms 😛
You just burst my “I don’t have body dysmorphia because even though I hate myself in the mirror I find picture of myself I like” bubble
It's the reverse for me. I'll see myself in the mirror, thinking I'm serving then take a selfie and Google Assistant will mistake me for a walrus.
It's the opposite for me. I like how I look way more in the mirror than on camera
literally me today:
"I think... I think that is some ribcage. I probably should not be seeing bone. I have been trying to lose weight though but I probably should not be seeing bone."
Okay but like.. me.
Especially since having my fourth child last year, it's gotten worse than it's ever been in my life and nearly constant, so back to therapy for me!
4 kids? Mama, you’re a warrior queen! ❤
hey i hope you have a supportive partner who loves yr body
Damn, my pictures make it worse
Unless I'm wearing a mask
Safety and f**king dysphoria
Dysphoria is a bitch fr, I get it
A friend of mine of mine was dealing with body dysmorphia for a while and me being the social klutz that I am, unironically said "if you don't stop and start loving yourself I will slap you in friendship"
I have gender dysphoria, and sometimes i just want to cry when I look at myself in the mirror, and other times, especially when i tuck my hair under a beanie or a hood I'm like "I GIVE GENDER ! WOOOOO !"
and than my mother comes in and ruins everything.
As an enby, it can be literally so hard to have a consept of yourself like that
Mood. Summer was always weird for me cuz I loved my cute summer clothes, but they were much more femme so I'd get misgendered a lot and I couldn’t ways bind in the heat. It's my first summer post op this year and I'm so psyched to wear a crop top without thinking about it
@@jamiedodger2361
I'm cutting my hair this summer to help with my gender dysphoria ! I'm going to confuse a lot of people, and I'm so ready for it >:)
Confuse people with gender.
@@tamarbeker1701 REAL I literally have gender dysphoria no matter what :(
@@-satanicpanic- yeah....
"UNTIL NEXT TIME" IS SENDING ME
Currently 31 weeks pregnant with twins. Getting out of the shower and looking in the mirror is literally the worst part of the pregnancy because I have struggled with my weight and body image since I was in elementary school. Very rarely do I have a "wow I look cute" moment. It's worth it to have my kids, but I do have lottle breakdowns about how I look sometimes.
You look great, Nicque. :)
Me, barely recalling what I look like and having to relearn my face every bathroom trip: I understand.
most relatable thing I’ve seen today
As someone who struggled with body dysmorphic disorder since childhood, I am fed up with people using the term body dysmorphia to describe a bad hair day or a bad mirror day. BDD patients spend every day fighting to lead a normal life and not be overwhelmed by depression, obsessive behaviours, and the urge to withdraw completely from every day life. Please stop using terms based on real diseases to describe your moods.
ikr, this was kind of insulting to put it lightly. i get she's trying to make light of a bad situation. but thats not how it is. i'd guess for most it would really go like:
"ugh, disgusting"
stares and looks at every inch of body to see if theres any miracoulous improvement.
"disgusting, i look like a waterbuffallo or other animal associated with uglyness"
FINALLY THANK YOU!!!!!
It’s the other way around for me 😢 I feel amazing and then SOMEONE decides to take photos and I look like a deranged, stocky elephant crashing into everything and everyone 😭
Complete opposite for me lol! I think I look ok then, I see PICTURES
She went from 😭 to 😘 real fast, without a dos
At least you got there now! It took me 10 years to look back at pics and say, "WTF was my issue? I wasn't beautiful, but damn cute"! 🤷♀️
Oh my god, same, everyday. I'll be frustrated, in tears, not liking the way anything looks at me, and my husband is like "but you're so cute" and I'll still put on my jeans and sleeveless shirts. It's a curse
Me: *aggressively entering the room at mach speed* YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL DO YOU UNDERSTAND ME?! YOURE A BEAUTIFUL QUEEN!
Me whi can't even take photos because my body dysmorphia got so bad and nobody respects my deep hate of photos
I have the opposite reaction. Pictures bother me far more than mirrors. I hate having my pic taken because I hate seeing my second chin so prominent in so many photos taken of me. Makes me feel like crying and never leaving the house knowing that I look like that.
Feel you. I had a lucky experience where someone picked out one of my least favorite photos as their favorite, completely unprompted. It made something click in my head that no matter how fat or weird I look in a photo, I always look like me, the person people have gotten to know. That's really helped me over the years. (Now that insecurity has been replaced by gender issues and always looking the wrong gender. Cause life is like that.)
Sorry if that ramble was completely unhelpful, but here's a virtual hug. 🫂
lmao, i have literally opposite problem
I kind of have the opposite. I don't think about what I look like most of the time but I look horrible in photos even when I try to look nice. I have people comment that I look like I am grimacing when I was actually happy and smiling.
@@fearreavers same thing. and it also strange that if people film a video i look nice, but when they take a photo i look horribly sick or like a gremlin 🙃
@@heh.wantsomewine It's the way modern digital cameras work, ESPECIALLY phone cameras. I had a pro photographer friend tell me this and it has literally saved my sanity. On the mend from BD and feel decent, usually, looking in the mirror but then I would see a pic of myself and spiral, not realizing often these phone camera lenses are like fun house mirrors!!
@@Nerdy-By-Nature wow, that explains a lot
@@heh.wantsomewine I even look horrible on film. Even old film cameras are not kind.
Girl! I had this in the work place mirror one day. Was like “yo that’s my face, why do I look like that” and then in the elevator mirror was like “damn I’m cute” 😅😂 probably something wrong with the lighting
"WhAt ThE FuCk Is ThIs? (Pterodactyl screeching)" is what my general outlook on life is now lol
I KNEW I wasn't the only one who gets body dysmorphia in the mirror and not in pictures.
ugh... sometimes I don't even recognise my reflection. I can feel like a gruesome monster one minute and cute the next.
I never knew I had body dysmorphia until this video, this is quite literally me so thank you for diagnosing me
Damn, that is right on the money 😂
The “untill next time”😂
Lord so relatable 😅😂😂😂 "oh" just made me feel non alone 😂😂
Why is this so relatable 😅
"Until next time." XD
I have this one outfit that somehow always looks good..that’s how I knew it was dysmorphia
how tf does she make something so depressing so fucking funny 😂
She is so gorgeous
Thing is: I look bad in the mirror and even worse in photos 🙃
"What the fuc- what the fuck is this???????? 😢 " has me sentttt
OMG THIS IS ME WHEN I LOOK AT MY PHOTOS VS THE MIRROR
"Until next time" ☠️
HELP THIS IS ME ALMOST 57% OF THE TIME 😭
I was trying on a skating dress at my ice skating competition and the second one I tried on made me feel so bad about myself that I went into the tent and silently cried
GOD ! This is relatable 😂🥺
THE ACCURACY
My literal thoughts watching this were "but... She doesn't look ugly?!"
Yep, if I catch my reflection anywhere im like “bitch u ugly” in my mind but this Monday I had some fun with makeup and accessories and when I caught it for a second I was like “who’s that cutie” and remembered it was me and I was so fucking happy I told my partner and they were very happy for me, since they know my struggles, and we had a very cute moment picking up my medication XD ✨
Miss ma'am stop 👏 calling 👏 me out 👏 😂😂😂 *immediately subscribes*
I wish I was able to say that I look cute, but my brain says "NAH BITCH"
For me, I look somewhat passable in the mirror but if I take a photo, I could probably be confused for some kind of cryptid.
That one angle, that one outfit, or the light hitting you just right always makes that happen!
This is so relatable 💀💀
Turns out the photo was photo shopped
i’m the same way but i’m also the opposite at the same time. sometimes i’ll look in the mirror, think “damn i look kinda good today” and try taking a picture that ends up making me look like gollum (that’s my own mental issues thinking that ofc) and feel bad about myself again. other times i feel gross about my body then i find pictures from times like prom and even some casual outings and think “damn i look good” again. the brain is such a puzzling thing 😂😭
Bruh, that's me every day 😂
Mines the opposite, I see myself in the mirror and love myself but then see photos of myself and say.. “ew”
I only like pictures of myself from at least a year ago, pictures I absolutely hated. Next year I’ll like the current ones and the cycle will continue.
I'm the exact opposite. I think I look good in the mirror, but I always look awkward in photos.
Ok I didn’t think I had body dysmorphia but seeing this video and seeing how I act I think i should get a diagnosis 💀
literally so relatable😭😭😭
Honestly I have it both the opposite and the same exact way. Every time I think I’m too fat or just not appealing, then look at myself in another medium I suddenly go, “Damn I look good.”
I don't even know what that word Means but I experience this nearly all the freaking time I look at myself in the mirror But then see some rocking photos of me😭
Stop calling me out!! Lol
Pfft- why is this my whole personality😂
Literally just got old timey photos taken with my fiance for that very reason. Don't feel handsome today? Boom. A professional photo of me dressed as a cowboy. Take that.
Its the opposite for me all the pics im in i look either like im in pain or i look ugly af💀
The old folk would say that mirror liein
Seriously sammeeee I'm like ew why do my arms look so long and I look so awkard
Lol i have the opposite problem. Look good in the mirror look horrible in the photo. Which makes me second guess the mirror everytime
Omg. I feel seen.
I am thankful for digital cameras.
Thats my dysphoria :,)
Um, Body Dysmorphia is a legitimate mental illness. Not a a generic joke thing.
I'm the opposite. I will feel all cute, then look in a full length mirror and think "where did that fat come from!" Lol
As someone who struggles with BD and and ED I just look at certain parts of my body like thighs and torso and am like”ew” and then I look at different areas of my body like eyes and hair and am like “Ok girl slay pop off”
Ok but why am I the opposite?? I look in the mirror "ok I don't look hideous" [take a few pics] "oh dear god!" 😭
Nah it looks even worse in photos
Quite literally me before and after I put eyeliner on
Yeah... I can never quite tell if i'm fat or not myself. It's in that valley of maybe.
MY GOD did this come for me 😂😂😂😅
It's like watching my sister. She both assumes everyone wants her (her own words) and has the worst most fucked up body image of anyone you've ever met. I wish I knew how to help aside from the obvious of just being there.
i think i have body dysmorphia like. people say im a little thick, and everyone has always been okay about it (except elementary school) but when i see myself at all i just. shut down. sometimes i have bad thoughts etc etc yeah idk
It’s the other way for me 😂😂
Literly me but i look away then back at the mirror and im like wait but like im kinda slaying this look and then next week i be lokking in the mirror wandering what went wrong
And the reasons I think I’m ugly are always so random it’ll be like “uuggghhhhh my arms are so skinny and my knees are so wrinkly and my eyes don’t match my chin” like calm down maybe
This is literally me! I bet everyone is on this same level!
I look way better in a mirror than I do in pictures💀
It’s the reverse for me. The mirror image is cute (excluding my tired eyes from insomnia) but any picture of me is considered dumpster feed🙂
Me and my bathroom mirror vs my closet mirror 😂
I wish I had dysmorphia, but unfortunately by body is actually like that.
Awww thanks for making fun of an actual problem people have.
Body dysmorphia in reverse: I have to gain weight I have to gain weight I can literally see my bones (cannot actually see the outline of my bones)
i felt that😭😭
This is me except I look ugly both ways LMAO
me before every date
Me but the other way around. Look at the mirror thinking I am semi kind of cute then I get a picture taken of me. I’m like WHALE😫