This was exactly the comment I was looking for. Cos I checked myself and realized I don't do any of these and yet I have people even tell me to my face they don't like me because I have what they don't have
Agreed! This one girl expressed her opinion to me about something. I articulated mine in a respectful way. After that when I see her she goes another way to avoid me.
People love to live in a delusion of their lives and so they expect you to go along with their delusion or at the very least not portray a person that sheds light on how delusional they are. That’s the core reason… “judgemental, opinionated and truthful” people will tell you what you need to hear but don’t want to hear
There's a little bit of that, but if you find that it's across the board, and not just certain groups of people, who are avoiding you, I would stick with DA's 7. There's a difference between being an unpopular person, and a person with enemies.
Well that's a narcissist. And once you expose them ,especially in front of other people, you will be on their pay no mind list. Then they will go on the hunt for new people
Well to get ahead life is RISK, meet people, they in theory are teaching you, so you will improve and be successful. Being a solitary introvert will catch up with you later in life
Walk away from people who put you down. Walk away from fights that will never resolved. Walk away from things that poisen your soul the healthier you will be.☺
Correct message but we also know that people can avoid you for many, many reasons especially when it's impossible for them to continue to use you for their own gain!!!
Telling the "TRUTH" isn't being judgmental! I really don't care to have that many people in my life. I don't sugarcoat anything! I'm an INFJ and I keep a small circle of friends and preferred it that way.
And maybe they're trying to bring it to everyone else's attention since everyone walks around so blind and stupid and don't really care about being so politically correct.
So true, it always bugged me how hard my best friend was on her 26 yr old daughter....(she had bad issues with her own mom) and when I tried to reason with her, she ignored me, now her daughter doesn’t speak to her or anyone in the family....because my friend couldn’t manipulate or intimidate her anymore.....so it became that all of a sudden if I didn’t cater to her I wasn’t a good friend, she was rude to me, it really hurt me, but if 9 yrs of friendship meant nothing, there’s nothing I can do but wish her well in my heart and let her go 😭
Great points. However, people do not always avoid you because you have the traits mentioned in this video. People can avoid you because they are jealous of you - 1. You have a great partner, a beautiful home or a great job they can never have or wish they have 2. You are intelligent and ‘always’ gets chosen 3. You are more successful than they are If you are a good person and ‘jealous’ people avoid you, hold your head high and don’t let their insecurities weigh you down. Enjoy being you
Here's the list 1. You're judgemental 2. You're too opinionated 3. You're too curious (Be curious about the right things which are relevant and not invading people's personal space) 4. You're too selfish (Don't take more than you give) 5. You're dirty minded 6. You're too competitive 7. You're too Argumentative (People avoid you because they don't want to disagree with you)
Too sensitive get offended about everything Gossip about everybody Complain about everything Too boring people don't care about your cat Want too much people who always need a few bucks or a favor Covid Send too many message, phone too often , come visit without invite
Some people avoid you because they dislike you amd may be jealous of you. Some people may feel intimidated by you as well. Some people are miserable and are only happy when others are miserable.
Extroverts but not all-" I need somewhere to flock my feathers 🦚 because I'm starting to pluck mine DAMMIT".I've known so many people who sadly could not handle this whole pandemic and got into unhealthy habits and violence 😔.Being an introvert myself just another day especially after everything I've been through in life I don't trust no one and live my life peaceful with 1 person to talk to besides my social worker and therapist.1 thing I learned is "Never let anybody think you need them".
Small people in character, systematic exploiters, spineless, and big fanatics, in what you are and what you have, and the very fact that your thinking precedes them by thousands of light years. Thanks for the lesson
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I have found that if you are there for and/or doing what others want you to do then they are right there by your side. The minute you say no and/or disagree with them then they dismiss you.
Many ppl cannot stomach the truth. I'd rather be told the truth than a lie. It takes a strong person to go against the grain as dead fish go with the flow. #perspective #intuition #integrity 😁👈
Madam, I totally agree with you on this. Nobody wants to be told the truth. What may hurt in the truth is the way it is said. But the truth is like a vaccine jab. It hurts but will be effective in the long run.
I’ve noticed this too, most ppl love lies. Especially sweet lies. It feeds their egos. I’m one of those ppl who are all for constructive honesty because I value self-improvement and you can’t improve yourself if you’re being lied to.
I’m 59 now and way back in 1968 my Grandfather taught me you will have more fingers and toes than you will have ever had true friends . I didn’t listen to him as a younger person we normally don’t , now I’m the grandfather, I’m teaching my grandchildren the same thing hopefully there smarter than I was . My best friend is my German Shepherd. Unfortunately people are born users , I WALK ALONE , doesn’t mean that much to me to mean that much to them , I’m the quite man 🙏💞✨
Aligning with untruths is living in unreality. The only truth is love. When you lie to others, you lower their frequency too. I refuse to be around people who believe in lies.
I used to be the person who told my friends the truth, and I found myself being avoided. It didn't matter if I was straightforward or delivered the truth with a teaspoon of sugar. People just didn't want to hear it. They wanted a sounding board. I then changed my actions as well. I then became the person who avoided these same people. I was no longer available to be a sounding board for their years of repeated mistakes. It's draining.
You have just taught me about ME and others. I need to work on me first. Thank you so much. At times it is easier to hear of my faults from an outside person vs the ones we are close to. I also know that some in my circle want to dominate and control me and others. I back away from them. I know the difference. You are appreciated Daniel.
Dude, I know I got issues. I don’t want to try to justify this stuff. Thank you man. I want people to be excited to see me, and lift them up, but something I’m doing has to be toxic because it’s hard to get together with people
I honestly have been trying to figure out the same thing, I don't get it. People get mad at me for not tolerating their bs. But yet they can do it to me & everything is fine especially when you don't speak on it. I haven't personally done anything to anybody to have to deal with this kind of treatment
Since I don't know you I feel that I can speak freely. After reading your comment, I started thinking of possible other reasons that people may avoid someone. Not knowing you at all I have no way of knowing, but there are first the things that Daniel mentioned. But then there are other reasons as well. Some are as follows: 1. If someone is insecure it can be a huge turnoff for others. 2. If someone smells bad, such as with bad breath or body odor, it can be a turnoff. 3. Talking over others like interrupting people can turn some people off. 4. Talking too much can also turn some off. To be candid, I have to watch this one, and number three. haha Hey we all need improvement at times in our life. By the way, if you have a best friend that is similar to you then it can actually be a good thing in this regards. That's my situation. However, it doesn't work the same with my other people and friends. Moving on to number five below. 5. On the flip side, you can have some opposite and awesome traits, but this can turn the wrong people off. In other words, if you're fun, nice, confident, etc, etc....but you are trying to hang with the wrong people that aren't like that, then they may not appreciate this about you. In this case, you would just need to get some different friends, ones that are similar to you so that they appreciate you. Some may not even be similar to you, but still appreciate you. Just make sure that the people you are hanging out with appreciate you and that they also make you feel happy on the inside. I'm just saying make sure that you are hanging out with the right people. Perhaps you aren't hanging out with anyone. That happens. In this case, pray, get out of your shell and try to make some healthy friends. 6. Oh I had one other thought, if you are being too negative sometimes this can turn people off. People really want to be encouraged and to be around joyful people. If you need to become more joyful. Hey crazy thought. Maybe fake it until you make it. You know how they say put a fake smile on. Well I don't condone fakeness. In fact, I don't like fakeness at all. However, in some situations, it can actually help just to smile and try to act happy even when your not, at least until you find the right person to be real with and at least until you find the right place to be real. You know the safe place they call it. But find the right people quickly cause its not good to keep that stuff inside. Ok so that was a lot I know. If you read this far, thank you. I told you I can talk alot. However, I hope there was at least one thing that I said that helped. Hey we are all just on this crazy journey of life trying to figure it out as we go. And there you have it, some other ideas to add to Daniel's thoughts. The main thing is .....Remember to keep your chin up. Look on the bright side of life, try to find the good in everything. And the most important....Try to find some positive and helpful friends that are right for you! Blessings and Peace to you.
Yes, I just learn something about myself or should I say 2 be a better person...listen, talk less, be more supportive n learn 2 be a better friend...thanks Daniel 😊 🙏
Wow, this one really hit home for me & made me realise I need to be less straight forward so often. Points 1 & 2 were me & points 3, 6 & 7 are why I’ve avoided others, thanks so much for this video Daniel!
Me too. I am judgemental and opinionated and curious like a kid. I have to work on that. Not selfish, not competitive, not dirty minded and only a little argumentative at times. I have work to do to be a better person.
I used to avoid people sometimes. Cause I love my own company and comfortable doing my own stuff and happy to be me being alone. But I love to hang out too, depending on how a friend treats me. I am judgemental depending of how an individual's behavior... cause I am keen observing their behaviour...
They hate me, for being competitive. Cause usually, they wants to drag me down. But, in some areas, I always win. That's why they hate me for that. But I don't care.
People always avoid me but thats ok cause i am who i am I am an encouraging person i have rules for my lifestyle i love to much im a nice person but not a fool I'm quiet I'm not what most people r looking for I'm not the party type and I'm a religious person I am use to being avoided I just thank God for who I am and keep going
This is a great video! I avoid people all the time. Co workers some friends, even in my family. These types of people are very stressful unnecessarily.
You may not have all these reasons for people to avoid you yet they avoid for simple reason that you refuse to be what they want you to be or you refuse to be where they want you to be.
I was wondering why people avoid me, now I know the reason why they did that, all those 7 reasons are true and I have done that too many people so now I am willing to change.
"Too judgemental" Most of my friends are judgemental. I like it. A lot of behavior and attitudes deserve to be judged. I seek their judgement. I like opinionated people too. Associating with people with no opinion are like eating tasteless mush. I listen to their opinions about me too. I love curious people too. No, I demand it. I do agree with you on selfishness, dirty-minded, and competitive. Dirty minded isn't just about inappropriate sexual references. I think people do this just to be offensive. I don't like these either. Compete outside your company and outside your circle of friends. The lesson here is that you should conform to a majorly screwed up society. A society which values isolation and "privacy". You can't have a lot of friends in a screwed-up antisocial society. And you'll have trouble with your career.
Love your comment Phil! You made me think of my best friend and my relationship. We are both talkative, bold, outgoing, interrupting at times, love to give advice, fun loving, caring, but tough skinned, and confident women. However, all of these traits are not always smiled upon. But for us it works perfectly, and it works great with my other peep normally. However, with my husband who has a different communication style, I am more gentle and sensitive towards him because he is so sensitive. So as far as the occasional interrupting, well I work on that. It seems that most people interrupt, even my husband; however, to some it bothers and to some it doesn't. I would say that when communicating with different types of people it helps to be sensitive to their communication style, while still being yourself. Anyway....loved your comment! And it got a response.
Good grief! Daniel, you just described everything that’s wrong with me and why I have no friends. Thanks for opening my eyes. I hope I can take your advice to heart.
I DISAGREE..MY DAUGHTER AND I ALWAYS TREAT PEOPLE WITH RESPECT AND LOVE ...WE ALWAYS GET PUT DOWN SO NO .....THIS MIGHT NOT BE YOU PEOPLE ITS THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU YOU ARE PROBABLY TOO MATURE TO BE AROUND AND TOO SWEET AND HONEST
Theres so many more reasons someone would avoid you. Here's some: 1. they feel lower status than you 2. they feel higher status than you 3. they feel there's too much lacking in common 4. they want to avoid you because there's someone you interact with, that they want nothing to do with 5. Logistical reasons like you live in another town or country even, far away. You're always busy with work, etc... Hope that helps at least 1 person.
People also avoid you because you are married to a disabled person and don't have the same social standing that they feel they have.Its a good thing though.Because you see the true colors of people who are not meant to be in your life.Whe you are truthful and honest and they don't want to deal with you, you're lucky that God has protected you.
My son told me I was judgemental...I told him sweetie I point things out to you about people’s personalities or lack of character....if I don’t teach you who will? Nobody taught me anything, I was so naive and trusting, you have to take of you first or you will allow others to hold you back, THIS advice here is really good and clear....have also learned alot from Dr Laura....biggest problem on earth is poor communication and thinking you can change someone! You can’t....let them go, don’t hold unforgiveness in your heart , pray for those who hurt you and move on, stay close to God , He will comfort you and guide you....😊
It is funny that you mentioned God in the comment. Yet it seems as though you yourself don't trust God and are attempting to make yourself a form of a god in your son's life. As our children are growing, we need to learn when it is the right time to share any Godly wisdom and insight with them when and only if HE leads us to do so in Jesus' name. How is your son going to learn how to use Godly wisdom and insight for himself if you choose to keep adding your two cents every time you turn around.
@flowforever9084 Not good to be that way either. We are not to put pur trust in human beings but put ALL of our trust in God, and know that HE will send people our way to be a blessing and benefit to and for us in His time and in His way in JESUS' NAME. AMEN.
You called out everything so well!! I just want my mom to leave me alone!! I have cut off talking with her but she still find ways to stir the pot with me!! One thing for sure, even if I do my best to avoid her, she always find a way to still argue with me.. If there was a mute button I can press to shut her up, I would press it!!
You are not by yourself...my mother made me despise her since the age of 2...she gotta be right about everything...she even called me an "UNAPPRECIATIVE SLUT" when i was just a baby LITERALLY..i hate that b*tch to the core... Forgive my bad attitude...but people like her make you that way... So i fully understand you...💕💎
So clearly watched this for a reason, and thanks for calling out strong "negative" personality traits. This gives me something to reflect on. Is there a video that is more in-depth, explains the character traits that a person should strive for, and how to practice them?
If you strive for real from the heart truth and honesty within yourself and be true to yourself in everything you do in life. then you will become the best you that you can be. And you will start to see big changes in your life.
Yes, I enjoyed the video. I also enjoyed a previous video of yours. So, I've watched only two of your videos so far, and liked them both. And so I am now a subscriber. Awesome job Daniel! I feel that you fill a unique niche that others on TH-cam have not. The way you describe and explain your topic is perfect for this type of content, and I love the content. It's as if you are teaching us something, and what you're teaching is important information. At least to me it is. I'm excited to be a subscriber! Also, thanks for the hard work in making the videos.
Yes!! It's understood to me 👍🏽 I believe I am the one who avoids the people who gets in my nerves 🙅🏾♀️ its better to walk away and keep silence🤐 😎 Thank you for your best 😊👍🏽👍🏽
It's a flip side to what you saying you just describe a**holes people avoid you for not taking bs ,not easy to manipulate ,not agreeing to everything they say ,speaking the honest truth even tho you know it hurts etc I can go on and on cause I'm that person people avoid .
Ok, but sometimes it is not a bad to have certain values and defend them. I remember when a friend asked my opinion about cheating in marriage(me being single, she is married).I told her that I would rather try to solve the marriage problems or go to counselling instead of complicating things by bringing in a third person, as I am a loyal person. She didn't want to hear that from me and really insisted in if I got the opportunity I certainly would cheat and got sort of aggressive and she tried to push me into answering or admitting something the more I defended my values. She tried to prove me a hypocrite and that conversation changed my good to a bad mood as I didn't understand even why she chose that topic and why she was so keen on me hearing to say I would cheat.I stopped the conversation and told her I was busy and ended the call. Afterwards, I realised that she didn't give her own opinion but just tried to convince me I would be unfaithful but I didn't give in. I m no longer friends her,but for a couple of reasons. Not that I could not take another perspective or opinion, but there are certain things I don't joke with and loyalty is one of them.
your talking about all the people I have met, and I found that when I treated them the way they treated me, they didn;'t like it and didn't want to talk to me any more...so the truth is we mirror each other and if that is the way you are that u are not athenic then they show u who they are..usually ur not 0ffended by others ...they can be who they want...in other words it works both ways...the best way is rise above it...I usually like to see the best in others and if they do that...i say how I see it to thier face...then they can either yay or nay...up to youllsmile
I am learning not to Judge, I have been in the past, but I am learning how to become a better person from your videos, I have been around judge mental people a lot. Learning how to communicate.
Nobody avoids me. I work nights and in a very rural environment. Thus, nobody even sees me. People do not know I exist. It is safer not to have others in your life. This, this nocturnal and very rural lifestyle has served me well over the many years. No friends, no girlfriend, no aquaintences, no problems.
@@thisisme3238 One can experience loneliness and remain fully functional in the 21st century. In the past, as recently as two hundred years ago, if one was not social, that person was destined to live a short life. A lone human did not last long then. Today, the perimeters that dictated humans be social in the past, simply rarely exist. A human with no friends nor a mate can live successfully in the 21st century. Loneliness is a rather sickly, but mild, emotion with an element of unpleasantness that I experience due to ancient instincts. It is quite easy to ignore. However, the emotions humans can inflict on other humans can be cripplingly painful. I chose social isolation, the safest method, to avoid falling victim to crippling emotions I previously experienced while attempting to be social. I believe the benefits of social isolation far exceed the negatives. Loneliness is very mild compared to the emotions stimulated by those I believed friends and my girlfriend. I will never allow any possibility of ever experiencing those crippling emotions stimulated by a fake girlfriend and false friends, again.
yes, really enjoying your videos. I like that you have that challenge test at the end. You have a great thing going on. Sincere in helping others. Lots of respect for you my friend.
This definately does not describe me. I don't have any issues this way. I can think of other ppl that I avoid that have several mindsets that you described.
None of these apply to me. I set boundaries now after being a people pleaser. It’s the same result. In Washington DC and in other countries, I am myself and have lots of friends. Now I live here and everyone hates me
I have to say:I see some comparisons with my own behaviour but I always thought that this was the only way to communicate with other people..You prooved me wrong.Thanks for these eye openers.It made me less sqaired about my life towards other people in general.
What have you learned from this video? Comment below!
Many people avoid me and I have not idea why😫
A lot! Lol Now you need to learn, lol ouch dear Daniel. Love you dearly!
@@walkerhaw600 yes, Walker! People are selfish. Its you, hey?
I am selfish but at least I'm honest about it
@@walkerhaw600 oh absolutely. Lol We all tjink differently! Laughing and you? George lol love you for that! You made me laugh.
Sometimes people don't like you because they are jealous. People whom are successful and goodlooking, especially have enemies.
That's so true 100%
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True
This was exactly the comment I was looking for. Cos I checked myself and realized I don't do any of these and yet I have people even tell me to my face they don't like me because I have what they don't have
Agreed! This one girl expressed her opinion to me about something. I articulated mine in a respectful way. After that when I see her she goes another way to avoid me.
The biggest reason some people avoid you is, you will not let them use you for their own agendas.!!!
Anthony Duncan spot on.
nod and smile and you're okay. Any deviation from that and you're screwed.
Absolutely, thanks for that point of view.
Now THERE'S the REAL reason! They instantly sense you won't go for their bull, so they avoid you at ALL cost! Yep!
Your too smart for them.
They can't get something they want.
Don't give time and things for free to people who want a free ride on cost of you
Don't worry about it. People sometimes avoids the sun too, but it doesn't stop it from shining 💚
This is a good one😄
Spoken like a Taurus, lol
@@nomadicbynature007 my mother's a taurus I'm an aquarius. Peace x
@@johndouglas708 🥰😇
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Lets not forget, they avoid the strong,the truthfulness and those that don't take bs.
Exactly!!!
I don't like foolishness. They run away quick ...lol 🤣 😂 😹 😂 😹
This is a very intelligent answer.
I agree and i dont like fake bs.
People love to live in a delusion of their lives and so they expect you to go along with their delusion or at the very least not portray a person that sheds light on how delusional they are. That’s the core reason… “judgemental, opinionated and truthful” people will tell you what you need to hear but don’t want to hear
People sometimes avoid you because you are not suit on their standard and they cannot easily manipulated you in their own agendas
There's a little bit of that, but if you find that it's across the board, and not just certain groups of people, who are avoiding you, I would stick with DA's 7. There's a difference between being an unpopular person, and a person with enemies.
Well that's a narcissist. And once you expose them ,especially in front of other people, you will be on their pay no mind list. Then they will go on the hunt for new people
Im beginning to understand there's a science to dealing with people
I am the one avoiding people now, especially the toxic ones
Me too
Spot on
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same here
life is a risk
I'm glad people ignore me, I go out of my way to avoid/ignore them too. I am a solitary introvert and love it that way.
and the same right here :)
Well to get ahead life is RISK, meet people, they in theory are teaching you, so you will improve and be successful. Being a solitary introvert will catch up with you later in life
@@danielporter7773 not everyone is made to be an extrovert
Put your mind to it and it will happen, the human mind is very powerful, more powerful than most people realize, it helps in this world
Walk away from people who put you down. Walk away from fights that will never resolved. Walk away from things that poisen your soul the healthier you will be.☺
So very true
Walk away from ugly and arrogant people who try to control you by shaming and intimidating you.
Doesn't work, end up being forced out of employment
Great points..... Sometimes people avoid you because they feel they can't get anything from you
they avoid ppl because they are bad…good ppl won’t avoid ppl
Those are the ones you want to avoid you.
People avoid you until they need you.
That's 100% true
Exactly - I’m keeping to myself because I’m tired of people who just wanna talk to me when they need me.
@@CheriBerry1 well said 1 thing I learnt in this I was single and I going to single because of that I became independent person
@@friendship9904 i gave up dating too. I dont want something casual, but that seems to be dating anymore.
@@CheriBerry1 someone once told me if U finds good friends than U find a good partner at the moment I can't find anyone to trust
It seems that there are people out there that avoid you because they know that they can't use you.
Being An Introvert Is The Best Thing For Me In My Life Right Now
you will be alone
Yeah, I prefer to do it when I know where things go.
It's ok for me to judge, everyone does this all the time, the problem is.. Who is open minded
@@danielporter7773 Do you mean being an introvert = being alone? Introverted people aren’t always loners man :))
By cutting themselves off from people, they do not learn certain knowledge and NOT expand their minds, they do not reach their full potential
@@danielporter7773 Yeah they might not, but if being an introvert makes them happy, who cares? Happiness is key, not full potential.
Correct message but we also know that people can avoid you for many, many reasons especially when it's impossible for them to continue to use you for their own gain!!!
Amen
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Wow! Thanks for your insight. Made me realize.
Yes. I've had people mistreat me and/or blow me off since I won't let them use me or bother me a lot.
You are winning!
Telling the "TRUTH" isn't being judgmental! I really don't care to have that many people in my life. I don't sugarcoat anything! I'm an INFJ and I keep a small circle of friends and preferred it that way.
corrrect the ancients recommend a small circle of friend
@Safira Diamond OMG we are the same INFJ and you are right about not sugarcoating.
Same! INFJ and keeping a small circle is everything.
I’m an INFJ lol 😂 and I sense people lying and judging secretly every time. Smh
The melancholic temperament😂😂
Some times it's not being judgemental people start being wise to the fact about how some people really are.
True.
Facts
Very true
And maybe they're trying to bring it to everyone else's attention since everyone walks around so blind and stupid and don't really care about being so politically correct.
So true, it always bugged me how hard my best friend was on her 26 yr old daughter....(she had bad issues with her own mom) and when I tried to reason with her, she ignored me, now her daughter doesn’t speak to her or anyone in the family....because my friend couldn’t manipulate or intimidate her anymore.....so it became that all of a sudden if I didn’t cater to her I wasn’t a good friend, she was rude to me, it really hurt me, but if 9 yrs of friendship meant nothing, there’s nothing I can do but wish her well in my heart and let her go 😭
Great points. However, people do not always avoid you because you have the traits mentioned in this video. People can avoid you because they are jealous of you -
1. You have a great partner, a beautiful home or a great job they can never have or wish they have
2. You are intelligent and ‘always’ gets chosen
3. You are more successful than they are
If you are a good person and ‘jealous’ people avoid you, hold your head high and don’t let their insecurities weigh you down. Enjoy being you
True,the moment you start shinning ,they avoid you!
AMEN! PREACH!
A...........men !
Major facts
That's EXACTLY right.
Here's the list
1. You're judgemental
2. You're too opinionated
3. You're too curious (Be curious about the right things which are relevant and not invading people's personal space)
4. You're too selfish (Don't take more than you give)
5. You're dirty minded
6. You're too competitive
7. You're too Argumentative (People avoid you because they don't want to disagree with you)
Lovely Joe
Joe Mizo Thanks! You saved me sometime!
Too sensitive get offended about everything
Gossip about everybody
Complain about everything
Too boring people don't care about your cat
Want too much people who always need a few bucks or a favor
Covid
Send too many message, phone too often , come visit without invite
Joe Mizo Thank you Mr.Mizo for listing the 7 reasons out. God bless you. 😇🙏
all of the above 😎
Some people avoid you because they dislike you amd may be jealous of you. Some people may feel intimidated by you as well. Some people are miserable and are only happy when others are miserable.
yep u right,people be avoiding you too when they jealous of you.
I've been told many are intimidated by me. Usually, at work. Outside of work, not so much.
As an introvert, INFJ-t guy, social distancing is a modern day Godsend .
As an introvert,INFP-t woman,I have been living the dream.
I swear
Extroverts but not all-" I need somewhere to flock my feathers 🦚 because I'm starting to pluck mine DAMMIT".I've known so many people who sadly could not handle this whole pandemic and got into unhealthy habits and violence 😔.Being an introvert myself just another day especially after everything I've been through in life I don't trust no one and live my life peaceful with 1 person to talk to besides my social worker and therapist.1 thing I learned is "Never let anybody think you need them".
@@mysterious7092 even my Adult children know!!
Some friends avoid you because they can't control you
Small people in character, systematic exploiters, spineless, and big fanatics, in what you are and what you have, and the very fact that your thinking precedes them by thousands of light years. Thanks for the lesson
I have found that if you are there for and/or doing what others want you to do then they are right there by your side. The minute you say no and/or disagree with them then they dismiss you.
You are right
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Many ppl cannot stomach the truth. I'd rather be told the truth than a lie. It takes a strong person to go against the grain as dead fish go with the flow. #perspective #intuition #integrity 😁👈
Madam, I totally agree with you on this. Nobody wants to be told the truth. What may hurt in the truth is the way it is said. But the truth is like a vaccine jab. It hurts but will be effective in the long run.
@@veroniquendambo3242 Absolutely, you need to Speak the Truth in Love and allow God to step in and change people. 😉
yep. ( i guess this video wasnt for me) if we're thinking the same. lol
Exactly
I’ve noticed this too, most ppl love lies. Especially sweet lies. It feeds their egos. I’m one of those ppl who are all for constructive honesty because I value self-improvement and you can’t improve yourself if you’re being lied to.
I’m 59 now and way back in 1968 my Grandfather taught me you will have more fingers and toes than you will have ever had true friends .
I didn’t listen to him as a younger person we normally don’t , now I’m the grandfather, I’m teaching my grandchildren the same thing hopefully there smarter than I was .
My best friend is my German Shepherd.
Unfortunately people are born users , I WALK ALONE , doesn’t mean that much to me to mean that much to them , I’m the quite man 🙏💞✨
I prefer to be by myself i am argumentative but i have grown to choose my arguments wisely
Aligning with untruths is living in unreality. The only truth is love. When you lie to others, you lower their frequency too. I refuse to be around people who believe in lies.
Hi, excellent video ty so much, when I stopped people pleasing and lived for myself, many people left me! Not my problem!
IKR 🤣 🤣
Thank u for this insight.
I used to be the person who told my friends the truth, and I found myself being avoided. It didn't matter if I was straightforward or delivered the truth with a teaspoon of sugar. People just didn't want to hear it. They wanted a sounding board. I then changed my actions as well. I then became the person who avoided these same people. I was no longer available to be a sounding board for their years of repeated mistakes. It's draining.
truth
Me too
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love this comment
Were they asking for your opinions or insight, or were you giving unsolicited and unwanted advice? There is a difference.
Those are strong points. Thanks Daniel for these good points.
You have just taught me about ME and others. I need to work on me first. Thank you so much.
At times it is easier to hear of my faults from an outside person vs the ones we are close to.
I also know that some in my circle want to dominate and control me and others. I back away from them.
I know the difference. You are appreciated Daniel.
Dude, I know I got issues. I don’t want to try to justify this stuff. Thank you man. I want people to be excited to see me, and lift them up, but something I’m doing has to be toxic because it’s hard to get together with people
I honestly have been trying to figure out the same thing, I don't get it. People get mad at me for not tolerating their bs. But yet they can do it to me & everything is fine especially when you don't speak on it. I haven't personally done anything to anybody to have to deal with this kind of treatment
Since I don't know you I feel that I can speak freely. After reading your comment, I started thinking of possible other reasons that people may avoid someone. Not knowing you at all I have no way of knowing, but there are first the things that Daniel mentioned. But then there are other reasons as well. Some are as follows: 1. If someone is insecure it can be a huge turnoff for others. 2. If someone smells bad, such as with bad breath or body odor, it can be a turnoff. 3. Talking over others like interrupting people can turn some people off. 4. Talking too much can also turn some off. To be candid, I have to watch this one, and number three. haha Hey we all need improvement at times in our life. By the way, if you have a best friend that is similar to you then it can actually be a good thing in this regards. That's my situation. However, it doesn't work the same with my other people and friends. Moving on to number five below.
5. On the flip side, you can have some opposite and awesome traits, but this can turn the wrong people off. In other words, if you're fun, nice, confident, etc, etc....but you are trying to hang with the wrong people that aren't like that, then they may not appreciate this about you. In this case, you would just need to get some different friends, ones that are similar to you so that they appreciate you. Some may not even be similar to you, but still appreciate you. Just make sure that the people you are hanging out with appreciate you and that they also make you feel happy on the inside. I'm just saying make sure that you are hanging out with the right people. Perhaps you aren't hanging out with anyone. That happens. In this case, pray, get out of your shell and try to make some healthy friends. 6. Oh I had one other thought, if you are being too negative sometimes this can turn people off. People really want to be encouraged and to be around joyful people. If you need to become more joyful. Hey crazy thought. Maybe fake it until you make it. You know how they say put a fake smile on. Well I don't condone fakeness. In fact, I don't like fakeness at all. However, in some situations, it can actually help just to smile and try to act happy even when your not, at least until you find the right person to be real with and at least until you find the right place to be real. You know the safe place they call it. But find the right people quickly cause its not good to keep that stuff inside.
Ok so that was a lot I know. If you read this far, thank you. I told you I can talk alot. However, I hope there was at least one thing that I said that helped. Hey we are all just on this crazy journey of life trying to figure it out as we go. And there you have it, some other ideas to add to Daniel's thoughts. The main thing is .....Remember to keep your chin up. Look on the bright side of life, try to find the good in everything. And the most important....Try to find some positive and helpful friends that are right for you! Blessings and Peace to you.
I don’t care about people liking me that ain’t never done nothing for me
the older I get, the more of a misanthrope I become
with that view point you will always be ALONE
@@danielporter7773 one could only hope
Daniel Porter And your thinking you’re not alone is delusional.
That part😁
Respect boundaries, treat others like you want to be treated...
Yes, I just learn something about myself or should I say 2 be a better person...listen, talk less, be more supportive n learn 2 be a better friend...thanks Daniel 😊 🙏
Wow, this one really hit home for me & made me realise I need to be less straight forward so often. Points 1 & 2 were me & points 3, 6 & 7 are why I’ve avoided others, thanks so much for this video Daniel!
Me too. I am judgemental and opinionated and curious like a kid.
I have to work on that.
Not selfish, not competitive, not dirty minded and only a little argumentative at times.
I have work to do to be a better person.
At least a couple of people got the point of the video. I don't think most people tried to grasp what the purpose of this video was.
I used to avoid people sometimes. Cause I love my own company and comfortable doing my own stuff and happy to be me being alone. But I love to hang out too, depending on how a friend treats me. I am judgemental depending of how an individual's behavior... cause I am keen observing their behaviour...
They hate me, for being competitive. Cause usually, they wants to drag me down. But, in some areas, I always win. That's why they hate me for that. But I don't care.
@@amazingching3192 Absolutely!
If you don't treat me the same or you treat me less than somebody else you are just as good as dead in my eyes
Thanks Mebtor Dan.
Your teachings are always practically and realistically insightful and useful.
Yes! That's some raw truth for ya! I feel like I need to work on those aspects of myself. Thank you for this.:
It's true.
People always avoid me but thats ok cause i am who i am I am an encouraging person i have rules for my lifestyle i love to much im a nice person but not a fool I'm quiet I'm not what most people r looking for I'm not the party type and I'm a religious person I am use to being avoided I just thank God for who I am and keep going
@@janicepatterson4778 I feel the same
What an eye opener! Thanks for making me realized my mistakes.. I hope to change my perspective thru your wonderful advice👍
This is a great video! I avoid people all the time. Co workers some friends, even in my family. These types of people are very stressful unnecessarily.
I'd Rather Be Alone
And they will keep following me why if I have these traits??
I can but not anymore. Lockdown is too boring. Gaming is boring. Nothing is fun anymore. Everything is boring
Man, this is awesome. You are very good at dissecting human behavior.
Because we talk truth.
You may not have all these reasons for people to avoid you yet they avoid for simple reason that you refuse to be what they want you to be or you refuse to be where they want you to be.
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Those are the ones you want to avoid you.
All 7 traits and how to rectify each one of those traits are very clearly explained. I learnt a lot, thank you very much, Daniel.
I was wondering why people avoid me, now I know the reason why they did that, all those 7 reasons are true and I have done that too many people so now I am willing to change.
I wouldn't change 4 the world 😂 if they don't like u who cares that's who u are. Fuck family members n friends if u got money u good 😂
@@mikerugoyi4606 wow I like this
Be yourself and find ppl who fit your bill
"Too judgemental" Most of my friends are judgemental. I like it. A lot of behavior and attitudes deserve to be judged. I seek their judgement. I like opinionated people too. Associating with people with no opinion are like eating tasteless mush. I listen to their opinions about me too. I love curious people too. No, I demand it.
I do agree with you on selfishness, dirty-minded, and competitive. Dirty minded isn't just about inappropriate sexual references. I think people do this just to be offensive. I don't like these either. Compete outside your company and outside your circle of friends.
The lesson here is that you should conform to a majorly screwed up society. A society which values isolation and "privacy". You can't have a lot of friends in a screwed-up antisocial society. And you'll have trouble with your career.
Love your comment Phil! You made me think of my best friend and my relationship. We are both talkative, bold, outgoing, interrupting at times, love to give advice, fun loving, caring, but tough skinned, and confident women. However, all of these traits are not always smiled upon. But for us it works perfectly, and it works great with my other peep normally. However, with my husband who has a different communication style, I am more gentle and sensitive towards him because he is so sensitive. So as far as the occasional interrupting, well I work on that. It seems that most people interrupt, even my husband; however, to some it bothers and to some it doesn't. I would say that when communicating with different types of people it helps to be sensitive to their communication style, while still being yourself. Anyway....loved your comment! And it got a response.
was looking for this comment ty for puting my thoughts into words.
Good grief! Daniel, you just described everything that’s wrong with me and why I have no friends. Thanks for opening my eyes. I hope I can take your advice to heart.
Jealousy is the biggest reason that isn't mentioned in this video
am all the above however am not going to dime my light for anybody.. its their loss not mine..
I DISAGREE..MY DAUGHTER AND I ALWAYS TREAT PEOPLE WITH RESPECT AND LOVE ...WE ALWAYS GET PUT DOWN SO NO .....THIS MIGHT NOT BE YOU PEOPLE ITS THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU YOU ARE PROBABLY TOO MATURE TO BE AROUND AND TOO SWEET AND HONEST
Yep 💯
You're probably a doormat.I realize that people don't respect 'sweet' people.So, stand up for yourself.
Awww real cute
@@popkultureentertainment324 I'm not a doormat..I try to do what God tells me it's like throwing pearls to the swine ..which I guess involves you too
@@redgypsy2426 Well, have fun having people wipe their feet on you ,professional victim.
Yes , ...
Theres so many more reasons someone would avoid you. Here's some:
1. they feel lower status than you
2. they feel higher status than you
3. they feel there's too much lacking in common
4. they want to avoid you because there's someone you interact with, that they want nothing to do with
5. Logistical reasons like you live in another town or country even, far away. You're always busy with work, etc...
Hope that helps at least 1 person.
Be U and find your tribe. He’s giving great advice that we all must practice.
It's someone for everybody 💯
Yes! Thank You Daniel! You opened my eyes to the real reasons why people "love" me, but "avoid" me. ~LuLu~
Thankyou
Daniel I appreciate your words of wisdom and look forward to more content from you in the future.
Wow Daniel amazing points thank you for this video I needed to hear this.
"You're too curious " in St.Louis we call that being nosey lol 😄
Thoughts are things and standing barefooted is scientifically proven to relieve stress.💚💚💚
People also avoid you because you are married to a disabled person and don't have the same social standing that they feel they have.Its a good thing though.Because you see the true colors of people who are not meant to be in your life.Whe you are truthful and honest and they don't want to deal with you, you're lucky that God has protected you.
Sounds personal.
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Well done Daniel, great advice. God bless you and your family. From London and Portugal 🇵🇹🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟👍
I learn a lot from you....best mentor since I discovered your channel in 2016
Yes, I learned to be quiet and I do not need to be right all the time
Yes!! Thank you for sharing your knowledge on this topic!!
My son told me I was judgemental...I told him sweetie I point things out to you about people’s personalities or lack of character....if I don’t teach you who will? Nobody taught me anything, I was so naive and trusting, you have to take of you first or you will allow others to hold you back, THIS advice here is really good and clear....have also learned alot from Dr Laura....biggest problem on earth is poor communication and thinking you can change someone! You can’t....let them go, don’t hold unforgiveness in your heart , pray for those who hurt you and move on, stay close to God , He will comfort you and guide you....😊
I was trusting in my younger years. I guess that's why I hate fake ppl now. I live life alone. Don't trust anyone. My problem I guess. 🙄
It is funny that you mentioned God in the comment. Yet it seems as though you yourself don't trust God and are attempting to make yourself a form of a god in your son's life. As our children are growing, we need to learn when it is the right time to share any Godly wisdom and insight with them when and only if HE leads us to do so in Jesus' name. How is your son going to learn how to use Godly wisdom and insight for himself if you choose to keep adding your two cents every time you turn around.
@flowforever9084 Not good to be that way either. We are not to put pur trust in human beings but put ALL of our trust in God, and know that HE will send people our way to be a blessing and benefit to and for us in His time and in His way in JESUS' NAME. AMEN.
You called out everything so well!! I just want my mom to leave me alone!! I have cut off talking with her but she still find ways to stir the pot with me!! One thing for sure, even if I do my best to avoid her, she always find a way to still argue with me.. If there was a mute button I can press to shut her up, I would press it!!
You are not by yourself...my mother made me despise her since the age of 2...she gotta be right about everything...she even called me an "UNAPPRECIATIVE SLUT" when i was just a baby LITERALLY..i hate that b*tch to the core...
Forgive my bad attitude...but people like her make you that way...
So i fully understand you...💕💎
Lol 🤣🤣🤣
Mr Ally I feel the sincerity in your talk and all these words are true. May God bless you more than you can imagine.
You just said what no one else would ever tell me. So thankyou, I know more of how to approach my future
I like straight forward people👍🏾
So clearly watched this for a reason, and thanks for calling out strong "negative" personality traits. This gives me something to reflect on. Is there a video that is more in-depth, explains the character traits that a person should strive for, and how to practice them?
Nice message. Thank you
If you strive for real from the heart truth and honesty within yourself and be true to yourself in everything you do in life. then you will become the best you that you can be.
And you will start to see big changes in your life.
Sometimes I can’t pinpoint exactly why I want to avoid someone else, this video helped me identify those traits to avoid!
Yes, I enjoyed the video. I also enjoyed a previous video of yours. So, I've watched only two of your videos so far, and liked them both. And so I am now a subscriber. Awesome job Daniel! I feel that you fill a unique niche that others on TH-cam have not. The way you describe and explain your topic is perfect for this type of content, and I love the content. It's as if you are teaching us something, and what you're teaching is important information. At least to me it is. I'm excited to be a subscriber! Also, thanks for the hard work in making the videos.
This reminds me of how I used to be a control freak God set me free from controlling people THANK YOU GOD AND PRAISE YOU
Very good stuff! I feel like I could use some improvement. Will work on it! Thank you!
Scorpio ♏️ so true ,I'm working on my self respect and how not to overreact or over talk!
TH-cam video: 7 reasons why people avoid you
Me: Don't care
Then why bother to comment?
@@GrnXnham it's not for you, it's for TH-cam
Exactly
Hahahahahaha
that narcissm 😒
Please listen to this Man! WE LOVE U, BRO!!😃
Good advice Daniel. I needed to hear it, and you presented it in a sensible, logical way that made sense. Thanks for posting it.
I like it when people avoid me because I don't have to avoid them
Yes!! It's understood to me 👍🏽 I believe I am the one who avoids the people who gets in my nerves 🙅🏾♀️ its better to walk away and keep silence🤐 😎 Thank you for your best 😊👍🏽👍🏽
Yes! I enjoyed your video. I definitely want to avoid a narcissist. God bless you!
Being right is overrated. I say to them: "You may be right" when arguments arise.
Being right is kind of useful when problems need solving.
Hence the biblical concept of being dead right.
It's a flip side to what you saying you just describe a**holes people avoid you for not taking bs ,not easy to manipulate ,not agreeing to everything they say ,speaking the honest truth even tho you know it hurts etc I can go on and on cause I'm that person people avoid .
Me too brother I seem to not know how to maintain friendships at all like iam a toddler at it 💀
Ok, but sometimes it is not a bad to have certain values and defend them. I remember when a friend asked my opinion about cheating in marriage(me being single, she is married).I told her that I would rather try to solve the marriage problems or go to counselling instead of complicating things by bringing in a third person, as I am a loyal person. She didn't want to hear that from me and really insisted in if I got the opportunity I certainly would cheat and got sort of aggressive and she tried to push me into answering or admitting something the more I defended my values. She tried to prove me a hypocrite and that conversation changed my good to a bad mood as I didn't understand even why she chose that topic and why she was so keen on me hearing to say I would cheat.I stopped the conversation and told her I was busy and ended the call. Afterwards, I realised that she didn't give her own opinion but just tried to convince me I would be unfaithful but I didn't give in. I m no longer friends her,but for a couple of reasons. Not that I could not take another perspective or opinion, but there are certain things I don't joke with and loyalty is one of them.
Very good. Such people should be left as soon as possible
Brave! 👌🏾Changes ❤
your talking about all the people I have met, and I found that when I treated them the way they treated me, they didn;'t like it and didn't want to talk to me any more...so the truth is we mirror each other and if that is the way you are that u are not athenic then they show u who they are..usually ur not 0ffended by others ...they can be who they want...in other words it works both ways...the best way is rise above it...I usually like to see the best in others and if they do that...i say how I see it to thier face...then they can either yay or nay...up to youllsmile
I am learning not to Judge, I have been in the past, but I am learning how to become a better person from your videos, I have been around judge mental people a lot. Learning how to communicate.
Nobody avoids me. I work nights and in a very rural environment. Thus, nobody even sees me. People do not know I exist. It is safer not to have others in your life. This, this nocturnal and very rural lifestyle has served me well over the many years. No friends, no girlfriend, no aquaintences, no problems.
Aren't you lonely??
@@thisisme3238 One can experience loneliness and remain fully functional in the 21st century. In the past, as recently as two hundred years ago, if one was not social, that person was destined to live a short life. A lone human did not last long then. Today, the perimeters that dictated humans be social in the past, simply rarely exist. A human with no friends nor a mate can live successfully in the 21st century. Loneliness is a rather sickly, but mild, emotion with an element of unpleasantness that I experience due to ancient instincts. It is quite easy to ignore. However, the emotions humans can inflict on other humans can be cripplingly painful. I chose social isolation, the safest method, to avoid falling victim to crippling emotions I previously experienced while attempting to be social. I believe the benefits of social isolation far exceed the negatives. Loneliness is very mild compared to the emotions stimulated by those I believed friends and my girlfriend. I will never allow any possibility of ever experiencing those crippling emotions stimulated by a fake girlfriend and false friends, again.
yes, really enjoying your videos. I like that you have that challenge test at the end.
You have a great thing going on. Sincere in helping others. Lots of respect for you my friend.
This definately does not describe me. I don't have any issues this way. I can think of other ppl that I avoid that have several mindsets that you described.
This is very informative.
None of these apply to me. I set boundaries now after being a people pleaser. It’s the same result. In Washington DC and in other countries, I am myself and have lots of friends. Now I live here and everyone hates me
Daniel; so this is how I can stop all these people from calling me! 🤔🤣🤣🤣
Good video!!! 👍👍👍
I have to say:I see some comparisons with my own behaviour but I always thought that this was the only way to communicate with other people..You prooved me wrong.Thanks for these eye openers.It made me less sqaired about my life towards other people in general.
I noticed one of these about me the dirty jokes and cussing too much sometimes I admit I have to work on those
You started already brother
You admit of being toxic 😳
Thank you Today i really really need your voice... 🥺may God bless you 🙏
Yes,found someone that can elaborate..nicely thanks to you
People didn’t like me because I was a positive talented and I always kept it real and called it like I see it