“We cannot be more sensitive to pleasure without being more sensitive to pain” one of my many favorite quotes by Alan Watts. Helps me accept all my emotions as we are perfectly where we should be.
"Replace the fear of the unknown for curiosity". Life is so interesting, if we get curious about it, every single day will be an adventure. I also tried to add a sense of urgency by fear, but that's the worst way. Being afraid of living is exactly what death wants. Being curious of life is what gives us the energy we need to keep moving on.
I've lived without fear for a long time now. I figured I'd be dead by the age of 30. But 24 years have gone by. I call it bonus time! And I'm still going!
You're right. Fear is what teaches us, but curiosity gives us understanding. Fear will never lead to understanding, because it's a signal to get away (flight), destroy (fight), freeze (do nothing), or any of the other Fs. Curiosity, however, leads us to investigate further, and understand the nuances and intricacies of something. Fear would never do that. But fear is am effective teacher. Especially of what not to do. @@damonm4156
Tim Ferriss, the amount of net lift that society has experienced through your work is immense and incalculable. Glad I’m alive at the same time you are
Bro you are such a role model for me. You just can not image how much it means to me your content and your effort to leave this place better than we found it. I can relate to you so much. I am so proud of you Tim. I really wish to meet you one day. When I watch your video, I think “that’s how I would like to become”. Someone who is not afraid of saying what he thinks, someone who is bold enough to leave an environment like startup investing to pursue the spread of psychedelics, among all the other awesome activities you do. Thanks man :) you are my hero.
Thanks for these words of inspiration. Leave the course in better condition than what you found it is the only thing my father thought me about the game of golf. Everything else compared by comparison I guess and it's the ONLY thing he ever taught me about the game. "Leave the course in better condition than you found it." He was totally indifferent whether or not I excelled in playing the game, so the rest of my pursuit into the world of golf was through self discovery and the skool of hard knocks. "Repair your divot son, and repair two others others left unrepaired. Same goes for your ball marks on the green." The wisdom of those words is the common thread of all governance, particularly when the by product of it all is the golden rule gets executed by habit, unconsciously because of the simple rule leave the place in better shape than you found it so others behind you are better off. This can become a whole new world with a single idea that catches on and takes root, grows, and flourishes and takes over the old world not by force, but obsolence.
I second that! Out of all of the figures I read and follow on personal development and personal growth, Tim is by far the one I admire, appreciate, and aspire to be like the most.
I've grown into the stoic way of thinking as I've grown older. But when I was diagnosed with Primary Progressive MS it really hit me hard. I had already figured I would die at a fairly young age based on family history, so I tried to make everything I did matter. But when the neurologist told me I'd be in a wheelchair in 3 to 5 years it made me look at what I still want to do. I told him "no, I won't!" I was walking with a walker then. I pushed myself to not give in. I progressed to using a cane. I kept pushing and have been cane-free for over a year. The sense of urgency is a real driving force. If I'm going to die young, that was a good enough thing, but being crippled is another thing altogether. That neurologist has refused to see me in the past year because I showed him I was fighting MS in a way his other patients couldn't. I'm stronger now than when I was diagnosed, but will never be back to as I was before. I refused to lay down and die crippled. The sense of urgency is real! Stoicism is real, too. I've always been a dreamer, but now I'm trying to live the dreams.
Mike you are an inspiration! To be told you will lose your ability to walk at a point of vulnerability by a caretaker and overcome and progress is true grit.
1. Stoicism: A Philosophy of life to focus only on that which you control. 2. Remind yourself of mortality as another reason to push through tough days. "What emotions am I NOT willing to feel." ( A father getting up at 4 to go the gym because he wants to be there for his daughters wedding instead of another man/stranger.) 3. 'That which you resist, persists." You are going to feel these emotions. What matters is the HOW you handle it. ( Tim explains some of his weird sad piano practice. Personally I choose to find meaning in the everyday discomfort. Ex. Dirty dishes means you had food to eat & washing them is an act of gratitude." 4. Ask "When on your death bed, how much would you pay to relive warm experiences in your life?". Personally I like the ted talk, "Homework for life" by Matthew Dicks. Great practical way to in rich your life.
The Movie that helped me during my worse depressive moments of my Life was The Crow and the soundtrack were what lifted me. I was 25 years old in the Army and hadn't achieved any of my goals I had wanted to achieve by that age, had no girlfriend for years, and was 1000's miles away from my family!! I cried while watching and blasting the audio!! I let it all just drain out of me and decided that better times will come(took 9 years) but they came! At 34 I got married and now have 4 children! The Happiest days of my Life were ahead of me and I would have not had them had I decided to end my Life then!!! My Favorite song from the sound track is Burn by The Cure!!!
I find listening to elderly neighbours a wonderful way to keep myself in check. I am reminded that they were once my age and I would be blessed to make it to their age. One of my mentors said “Treat each day as your “first day” (first date, first day on new job, etc) and your last day (imagine yourself on your deathbed) Bring the same first day enthusiasm with you into each day. And how would you like to be remembered? Who would you call to say I love you on your last. Great share Tim 🙏🏻
I needed this today Tim. Since the lockdown came into effect I’ve realised a couple of things about my behaviour, one of which is this: I need to compete with myself in order to remain active. I need to give myself things to beat if I want to get to the gym, for example. I need things that scare me; the thought of being less than, the threat of unfulfilled potential, things that give me a sense of urgency. It’s funny how little we consider death, even when people are dying around us. Putting that in the forefront of my mind today made me realise that the motivation I find from challenging myself into urgency can be there all the time if I keep things in perspective. Death really isn’t that far away. Maybe we should act like it a little more.
Hi Billy, totally relate to your answer, and thought that my almost indifference with regards to death was a strange feeling, seems that death is all to familiar and close, for myself, friends and closed ones, i'm not foreseeing as a devastating event on ones life, at least for now, it's so strange, it's almost a desensitization of the most basic human emotions and loss in general.Not sure if this makes sense, it's my view on things for now.
Death is one metric of the score of health. Until then, love on the other extreme, yet be inextricably linked to the cold reality that from your genïsys, you'll discover your destiny.
3:20 Thank you so much. My epiphany is that the things you avoid are the things you need to pay attention to the most. These are the things at the root of your deepest struggles - these are also the very things that will set you free. 💕🦋💕
I’m from L.A. and there is a HUGE! Problem with homelessness! More than ever it’s disgusting, even more due to the facts that now it’s more young people
It’s a program. It’s what the elites want. When you’re a complete degenerate you cannot help your country. They want the country to fall into ruin. Yes they do.
As a person who has dealt with debilitating anxiety, depression and ideation, want to thank you for putting this together to help people. I'm certainly 1500% better, but learned that this is still a process to keep up and stay postive and enthusiastic, and am grateful for the reminder and practical tools, like this video, to help with that! Take good care Brother!✌✌✌
For the past few years i have developed a stronf resilience to feelings of despair and sadness . You have to tell yourself you are ok no matter what and the brain processes it and not only saying you need to believe that you will be ok with or without certain people, jobs, things etc
Yes. I just say positive things all the time and take action to make things better. Wash the dishes, be kind to a lonely person, write a letter to someone who is hurting. Eat moderately. Drink water. Praise God.
I don't think I would have to pay to relive thoose great moments in my life. I have kept those memories of wonderful experiences close by reflecting in a way that allows me to again enjoy that ski run or that childhood friendship. Details may be a little fuzzy but the FEELING remains.
This was a 9:57 minute journey through different aspects of the brave, focused, determined Tim Ferris. Thank you for the gift of you and the inspiration (and education) that you continue to provide by being you. May this video go viral many times.
If you are present and can say to yourself "This is priceless", you have named one of those accessible moments that feed your soul . You can utilize priceless recall as a "feeling mantra" for meditation.
When Yaksha asked Yudhisthir this question: What is the greatest wonder in the world? he replied: *The greatest wonder is that although people see living beings die every day they still live as if death doesn't hit them one day and that they live forever*
@angela merkel The mortality rate goes down so much that we will finally find out that nobody really died because of COVID-19 and everyone on the planet has been just inebriated by this sudden crave of destroying their own economy
I can't believe that I found out about stoicism before I knew about stoicism. I used to be a workaholic, had major depressive episodes and I knew I had to make a change. Meditation changed my perspective on everything. I started thinking about death every day, and reminding myself that it's something that is going to happen. But the important point is that it's not just about death, but the morbidity you might experience when you get old, years before you die. Tim makes a really good point here, something that I've implemented in my life that allowed me to pursue things I never thought I would. Think about your old self in the future. How much would you give to get back to your younger age right this very moment? And what would you do that you won't be able to do when you're older? Because of this I found a good balance with work, I pursued better relationships, enjoyed company of others, climbed mountains, sky dived, started skiing, rock climbing, surfing, and most importantly avoiding bullshit, toxic things such as relationships, food; taking care of my overall wellbeing. I was nodding my head the whole time watching this. It is extremely powerful and it truly does change your life. Tim, you are truly someone I admire for this.
“The psyche is porous” Brilliant wording. Thank you. I will use this in my vocab. I am very sensitive to music energy, any media really. For example if you had background music of any kind while you were teaching us I wouldn’t be able to pay attention to learn. The two audios would just cause unrest because I couldn’t concentrate on one. What is that? Anyone know? Anyway, I so appreciate your teaching style Tim. You have been given such helpful gifts. Thank you for your generosity in helping others.
That question was deeply moving to me... I'm always aware of what I should be appreciating in the moment, but sometimes can't.. The idea to consider how much I'll value that moment when I no longer have the possibility to enjoy it, well, it really hit. Thank you.
Thank you Tim for sharing your experience with depression and for your experience in addressing what I think is more prevalent than ever! Especially during this Pandemic!
“Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. ― Steve Jobs
@@JamesSmith-cm7sg The problem with that conclusion is that it ignores the natural human condition of wanting to advance in life (I mean this in a subjective way. If you are a basketball player, for example, "advance" would mean get better at playing). If you did *nothing* but be with your family, or if you had unlimeted access to pleasure and did nothing but indulge in it, then you would feel absolutely miserable because you would not meet that innate need to grow as a person.
Thank you Tim for all that you do, you’ve been a recurring figure in my life at different stages to guide me towards the new chapter of my life. Love you.
I found that I tend to use my mortalty as a motivator and also a way to let go of fear. On one hand I use it as a reminder to move forward in having as many of the experiences I want to have a soon as I can, and on the other hand, also remembering that I will not be here forever helps to remember that nothing really matters except my expriences. Failures, embarassments, wrong-doings of others will mean nothing 100 years from now for the now living adults, so why be afraid of anything?
I swear i have thought this way before. I feel like i would pay unlimited amounts to relive where i am now when i'm on my deathbed. Makes me grateful for what i have.
This is why I personally find memorials/funerals particularly motivating for me. I'm not necessarily motivated to accomplish more just vocationally, but more so in personal relationships and my contributions to society. Being regularly reminded that death and suffering (taking many forms) are not only unpredictable, but imminent- helps me live life with my eyes wide open. I find it difficult to be consistent in the "practice" of doing so- this should be a good time to start...but why?
Love the sadness and happiness exercise. There is a verse in the Bible that says: “Better to go to the house of mourning Than to go to the house of feasting, For that is the end of all men; And the living will take it to heart.” Ecclesiastes 7:2
Damn he just explained why I've been listening to strictly what people consider "depressing" music since I was 14. Embracing the feeling is much more therapeutic for me than trying to ignore it
Happy to hear someone else uses this method to add urgency to accomplishing things! You helped me feel a little more normal with this podcast. Thank you!
*Meditating on death* is one tool🧰 I got from Tim about 2 years ago on his podcast, and I've *accomplished* more in the last 2 years then I have in the last 10. 🎯
Tim, knowing who made you and who hung the stars will give you the healthy fear and freedom you desire. There will always be another self-help process as each fades. Seek the eternal prior to death, receive and death will become merely the jumping off point.
This might be the best argument against playing singleplayer videogames I've ever heard. Simply because those games will still be the same when I'm 80 years old. I can still play them when I can't walk anymore. This sure got me thinking a lot, thanks!
yeah but you're ignoring the experience of sharing stories of your experiences in the single player game with your friends. I can't count the number of times the topic of the single player Doom campaign and how amazing it was came up among my friend group. not being able to partake in that sharing is a net loss.
@@gibdopaminepls At first I agreed with OP. But, you're also right. A quality single player game such as The Last of Us, is like reading a really good book There are other single player games though that are super time sinks, like Dark Souls, and Skyrim(I love those games, but it came to a point where I wanted to level up in real life.)
Tim, glad to see you have matured into real stuff, beyond the cheesy " life hack" videos. Sincerely, well done! I'll tune in as I think you can add value! Cheers!
I experienced a powerful feeling of needing to value moments in life that I can live now, but will not be able to live later. I.E. spending the day on the patio with my parents. Learning to live in those moments as if my last day is tomorrow. Thankful for the opportunity to continue another day. Keep your heads up, from TX.
Hehe, I have delved deeply into depression and also nostalgia, I enjoyed it, feeling those blues, especially as you mention, listening to music that evoked certain depressive feelings, and nostalgic feelings too. Nowadays its hard for me to evoke them, its like you become desensitized. Its like sugar, the more sugar you consume the more stale your sense of taste, thus you stop savouring the sweetness of say, an apple, because your taste has become dormat beacause of all the artifical super sweet stuffs. Just like this we persue happy feelings, pleasure, etc. Soon growing tolerant to this happiness, our ability to sense it grows stale, and we cant find this "sweetness of happiness" anywhere in life. And everything begins to seem depressive, dull, sad, and low vibe. However if instead of seeking happiness, you sink into this inner loneliness, depressive void within, obviously doing it gradually and not in an overwhelming way, you grow desensitized of depression, sadness and all these things, and conversely you become a lot more sensitive to happiness.
In my journal, at the start of every month it's says the date and next to it the number of days until I turn 80. It will be 21489 at the start of May. This is a big help for urgency because you see the numbers go by
Thank you for being the little angel (right side of my shoulder) of my consciousness, Mr. Ferriss! I’d have love to run into you on the 6th street about 20 years ago when I used to do busking in Austin, Texas...
Thanks Tim.. just what I needed. I'm starting a meditation practice to give me belief in myself to start a business .. I read about this practice of thinking of the worst .. and how it can make you feel hopeful. I'm going to give it a go. Didn't know you had depression.. thanks for sharing. More blokes should do this
Thanks for sharing your personal experience here. I love that you delve into music and experiences that take you into different waves of emotion. Check out the music of Cole Porter and his penchant for minor keys.
Thanks Tim. Listened to your podcast for last year or so, always great information for someone fascinated with the mind, motivations & behaviours. In this vid, you reminded me of Elkhart Tolle’s ‘The Power Of Now’ in terms of speaking about the moment and presence, fighting something will give you more of it because the brain doesn’t understand ‘Don’t think these thoughts’, the subconscious just registers the thoughts and that energy/vibration is strengthened. Observation of it seems to remind your inner self that the thoughts are external, they aren’t part of your being, they are the noise covering your being. Also, your mention of minor key music is super interesting as I struggle to listen to it, melancholia feels more uncomfortable for me than physical pain, I find it a horrible experience (I cannot stand two chords from Coldplay for example). But there is something to say about stacking that up against a more positive musical experience straight after, light and shade, speaking to the duality of life. What’s the pleasure of a warm, sunny day without rain and winter to compare? I find that mentally NOTING really helps. In the moment, a thought or emotion comes to light or overwhelms me, I’ll not ask anything of myself and try VERY HARD not to project and analyse. Just observe as if it’s someone else’s problem who has since overcome the issue. The mere observation of it, detaches you from it and for me at least, completely changes how I identify with that emotion, feeling or thought pattern. Doing something similar with pleasure able experiences is almost like pinching myself into the moment to appreciate it... in these states I’ll give my friend an extra complement, thank the host one more time, take a moment to pick up my cat and appreciate she’s here right now because everything will go and I never want to be unconsciously living or living in the past as I think that’s where regret and depression are born.
Early Buddhism also teaches us to frequently reflect on the inevitability of aging, sickness, death, the eventual separation from loved ones, and to constantly contemplate impermanence
I had the same realization about how transient our orb of emotion is and how we can do things deliberately to manipulate or steer, while listing to Piano covers....
Does tim ferris have any videos on how to get eloquent at speech??? I love how he is so expressive and precise unlike other people who say 'amazing' 10000times in a 5minute video.
This is such an Important message especially during this time in isolation! Thank you for highlighting that life is what we need to make it and make everyday count to Live Full Out.
Using these methods: music, psychedelics, and visualizations; to transcend current time and emotions with perspective of gratitude for life and connectedness to reality. Being stoic in recognizing the things you can and actually desire to change and accepting of the things you cannot or dont truly desire to change.
Another aspect to this is that if you don't push yourself to think about death in your daily life, you'll only be thinking about it when it hits you the hardest, like when family dies. This will color your perspective, whereas if you're feeling well and everything's going smoothly you get a different view of death that also deserves to be taken into account.
Tim, thank you so much. This was incredibly insightful and has really left me filled with gratitude. I am so appreciative for you, your team and everyone else that helps enrich our lives with your content ❤️
Hello Tim thank you for always keeping the momentum and sharing your thoughts. You have helped me unknowingly. So thank you very much 😊🙏🏼I appreciate you very much. 😁🙏🏼
I got a lot out of asking oneself how much money you'd pay to get back the experience you are having right now in 30 years. This emphasis on the value of experience in the present is a much needed counterpoint to self help tips all focusing on saving money now in order to get interest later. Maybe the value of experience compounds faster than money (although it seems crass to even compare the two).
For myself, I've noticed that when I feel threatened by some mental object -- a possible experience, like sadness, rejection -- I posture at it mentally. Obviously this is pointing at the same basic thing as 'resistance', but this particular framing has been useful to acquire because a) it's more specific than 'I notice I'm getting mentally caught up in this' b)I regard posturing as generally ridiculous futility, no matter who it is coming from; certainly not something I want to do. And c) understanding it as this social behaviour I see from the outside, 'posturing', makes it hard to take the typical 'but my concerns are uniquely valid [because they're mine]' excuse too seriously.
“We cannot be more sensitive to pleasure without being more sensitive to pain” one of my many favorite quotes by Alan Watts. Helps me accept all my emotions as we are perfectly where we should be.
Beautiful.
❤️ superb.
How do you know that
"Replace the fear of the unknown for curiosity". Life is so interesting, if we get curious about it, every single day will be an adventure. I also tried to add a sense of urgency by fear, but that's the worst way. Being afraid of living is exactly what death wants. Being curious of life is what gives us the energy we need to keep moving on.
Very well said! Thank you.
Spot on
I've lived without fear for a long time now. I figured I'd be dead by the age of 30. But 24 years have gone by. I call it bonus time! And I'm still going!
We are not taught curiosity but i totally agree
You're right. Fear is what teaches us, but curiosity gives us understanding. Fear will never lead to understanding, because it's a signal to get away (flight), destroy (fight), freeze (do nothing), or any of the other Fs. Curiosity, however, leads us to investigate further, and understand the nuances and intricacies of something. Fear would never do that. But fear is am effective teacher. Especially of what not to do. @@damonm4156
Tim Ferriss, the amount of net lift that society has experienced through your work is immense and incalculable. Glad I’m alive at the same time you are
Erick Mortenson word
Agree
Bro you are such a role model for me. You just can not image how much it means to me your content and your effort to leave this place better than we found it. I can relate to you so much. I am so proud of you Tim. I really wish to meet you one day.
When I watch your video, I think “that’s how I would like to become”.
Someone who is not afraid of saying what he thinks, someone who is bold enough to leave an environment like startup investing to pursue the spread of psychedelics, among all the other awesome activities you do.
Thanks man :) you are my hero.
Thanks for these words of inspiration. Leave the course in better condition than what you found it is the only thing my father thought me about the game of golf. Everything else compared by comparison I guess and it's the ONLY thing he ever taught me about the game. "Leave the course in better condition than you found it." He was totally indifferent whether or not I excelled in playing the game, so the rest of my pursuit into the world of golf was through self discovery and the skool of hard knocks.
"Repair your divot son, and repair two others others left unrepaired. Same goes for your ball marks on the green."
The wisdom of those words is the common thread of all governance, particularly when the by product of it all is the golden rule gets executed by habit, unconsciously because of the simple rule leave the place in better shape than you found it so others behind you are better off.
This can become a whole new world with a single idea that catches on and takes root, grows, and flourishes and takes over the old world not by force, but obsolence.
I second that! Out of all of the figures I read and follow on personal development and personal growth, Tim is by far the one I admire, appreciate, and aspire to be like the most.
Tim ferriss is the ultimate "Add To Watch Later" youtuber
lol, looks like I am not the only one 😅
Me too
Where is the urgency 😂
Haha this is too real
hahaha i just thought about it
4:23 “What you resist tends to persist.” Beautiful 👌🏽
Seems pretty obvious
James Smith True.. yet most of us don’t realise this when we really need to.
James Smith True.. yet most of us don’t realise this when we really need to.
I've grown into the stoic way of thinking as I've grown older. But when I was diagnosed with Primary Progressive MS it really hit me hard. I had already figured I would die at a fairly young age based on family history, so I tried to make everything I did matter. But when the neurologist told me I'd be in a wheelchair in 3 to 5 years it made me look at what I still want to do. I told him "no, I won't!" I was walking with a walker then. I pushed myself to not give in. I progressed to using a cane. I kept pushing and have been cane-free for over a year. The sense of urgency is a real driving force. If I'm going to die young, that was a good enough thing, but being crippled is another thing altogether. That neurologist has refused to see me in the past year because I showed him I was fighting MS in a way his other patients couldn't. I'm stronger now than when I was diagnosed, but will never be back to as I was before. I refused to lay down and die crippled. The sense of urgency is real! Stoicism is real, too. I've always been a dreamer, but now I'm trying to live the dreams.
That's amazing and I'm happy to see your working at it and pushing forward. I hope your doing well bud c:
Mike you are an inspiration! To be told you will lose your ability to walk at a point of vulnerability by a caretaker and overcome and progress is true grit.
Look into carnivore diet and Dr ken berry.
1. Stoicism: A Philosophy of life to focus only on that which you control.
2. Remind yourself of mortality as another reason to push through tough days. "What emotions am I NOT willing to feel." ( A father getting up at 4 to go the gym because he wants to be there for his daughters wedding instead of another man/stranger.)
3. 'That which you resist, persists." You are going to feel these emotions. What matters is the HOW you handle it. ( Tim explains some of his weird sad piano practice. Personally I choose to find meaning in the everyday discomfort. Ex. Dirty dishes means you had food to eat & washing them is an act of gratitude."
4. Ask "When on your death bed, how much would you pay to relive warm experiences in your life?". Personally I like the ted talk, "Homework for life" by Matthew Dicks. Great practical way to in rich your life.
The Movie that helped me during my worse depressive moments of my Life was The Crow and the soundtrack were what lifted me. I was 25 years old in the Army and hadn't achieved any of my goals I had wanted to achieve by that age, had no girlfriend for years, and was 1000's miles away from my family!! I cried while watching and blasting the audio!! I let it all just drain out of me and decided that better times will come(took 9 years) but they came! At 34 I got married and now have 4 children! The Happiest days of my Life were ahead of me and I would have not had them had I decided to end my Life then!!! My Favorite song from the sound track is Burn by The Cure!!!
What year of the movie
I find listening to elderly neighbours a wonderful way to keep myself in check. I am reminded that they were once my age and I would be blessed to make it to their age.
One of my mentors said “Treat each day as your “first day” (first date, first day on new job, etc) and your last day (imagine yourself on your deathbed) Bring the same first day enthusiasm with you into each day. And how would you like to be remembered? Who would you call to say I love you on your last.
Great share Tim 🙏🏻
I needed this today Tim. Since the lockdown came into effect I’ve realised a couple of things about my behaviour, one of which is this: I need to compete with myself in order to remain active. I need to give myself things to beat if I want to get to the gym, for example. I need things that scare me; the thought of being less than, the threat of unfulfilled potential, things that give me a sense of urgency. It’s funny how little we consider death, even when people are dying around us. Putting that in the forefront of my mind today made me realise that the motivation I find from challenging myself into urgency can be there all the time if I keep things in perspective. Death really isn’t that far away. Maybe we should act like it a little more.
Hi Billy, totally relate to your answer, and thought that my almost indifference with regards to death was a strange feeling, seems that death is all to familiar and close, for myself, friends and closed ones, i'm not foreseeing as a devastating event on ones life, at least for now, it's so strange, it's almost a desensitization of the most basic human emotions and loss in general.Not sure if this makes sense, it's my view on things for now.
Have you gone to the gym regularly now?
Death is one metric of the score of health. Until then, love on the other extreme, yet be inextricably linked to the cold reality that from your genïsys, you'll discover your destiny.
3:20 Thank you so much. My epiphany is that the things you avoid are the things you need to pay attention to the most. These are the things at the root of your deepest struggles - these are also the very things that will set you free. 💕🦋💕
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"It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live" - Marcus A.
I’m from L.A. and there is a HUGE! Problem with homelessness! More than ever it’s disgusting, even more due to the facts that now it’s more young people
It’s a program. It’s what the elites want. When you’re a complete degenerate you cannot help your country. They want the country to fall into ruin. Yes they do.
As a person who has dealt with debilitating anxiety, depression and ideation, want to thank you for putting this together to help people. I'm certainly 1500% better, but learned that this is still a process to keep up and stay postive and enthusiastic, and am grateful for the reminder and practical tools, like this video, to help with that! Take good care Brother!✌✌✌
For the past few years i have developed a stronf resilience to feelings of despair and sadness . You have to tell yourself you are ok no matter what and the brain processes it and not only saying you need to believe that you will be ok with or without certain people, jobs, things etc
Yes. I just say positive things all the time and take action to make things better. Wash the dishes, be kind to a lonely person, write a letter to someone who is hurting. Eat moderately. Drink water. Praise God.
I don't think I would have to pay to relive thoose great moments in my life. I have kept those memories of wonderful experiences close by reflecting in a way that allows me to again enjoy that ski run or that childhood friendship. Details may be a little fuzzy but the FEELING remains.
Wisdom + insight + education + action
This man clearly exhibits both...
The last one being what makes him pop.
Thank you 🥰😍
This was a 9:57 minute journey through different aspects of the brave, focused, determined Tim Ferris. Thank you for the gift of you and the inspiration (and education) that you continue to provide by being you. May this video go viral many times.
If you are present and can say to yourself "This is priceless", you have named one of those accessible moments that feed your soul . You can utilize priceless recall as a "feeling mantra" for meditation.
When Yaksha asked Yudhisthir this question: What is the greatest wonder in the world?
he replied:
*The greatest wonder is that although people see living beings die every day they still live as if death doesn't hit them one day and that they live forever*
"Death smiles at us all, all a man can do is smile back." - Marcus Aurelius
Such a great quote!
Great!
I laugh back
@angela merkel The mortality rate goes down so much that we will finally find out that nobody really died because of COVID-19 and everyone on the planet has been just inebriated by this sudden crave of destroying their own economy
@@xdiuturno9475 mannnn fuck the system. Never really cared about us anyway. We're just being used as batteries.
Read this book a long time ago... your enthusiasm has made me want to revist it.
I can't believe that I found out about stoicism before I knew about stoicism. I used to be a workaholic, had major depressive episodes and I knew I had to make a change. Meditation changed my perspective on everything. I started thinking about death every day, and reminding myself that it's something that is going to happen. But the important point is that it's not just about death, but the morbidity you might experience when you get old, years before you die. Tim makes a really good point here, something that I've implemented in my life that allowed me to pursue things I never thought I would. Think about your old self in the future. How much would you give to get back to your younger age right this very moment? And what would you do that you won't be able to do when you're older? Because of this I found a good balance with work, I pursued better relationships, enjoyed company of others, climbed mountains, sky dived, started skiing, rock climbing, surfing, and most importantly avoiding bullshit, toxic things such as relationships, food; taking care of my overall wellbeing. I was nodding my head the whole time watching this. It is extremely powerful and it truly does change your life. Tim, you are truly someone I admire for this.
“The psyche is porous” Brilliant wording. Thank you. I will use this in my vocab.
I am very sensitive to music energy, any media really. For example if you had background music of any kind while you were teaching us I wouldn’t be able to pay attention to learn. The two audios would just cause unrest because I couldn’t concentrate on one. What is that? Anyone know?
Anyway, I so appreciate your teaching style Tim. You have been given such helpful gifts. Thank you for your generosity in helping others.
That question was deeply moving to me... I'm always aware of what I should be appreciating in the moment, but sometimes can't.. The idea to consider how much I'll value that moment when I no longer have the possibility to enjoy it, well, it really hit. Thank you.
Thank you Tim for sharing your experience with depression and for your experience in addressing what I think is more prevalent than ever! Especially during this Pandemic!
“Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life.
Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
― Steve Jobs
Thanks for this quote...it's getting me thinking...
That does the opposite for me. It makes me think, "well if I die soon then screw everything i'lll just spend time with family"
@@JamesSmith-cm7sg The problem with that conclusion is that it ignores the natural human condition of wanting to advance in life (I mean this in a subjective way. If you are a basketball player, for example, "advance" would mean get better at playing).
If you did *nothing* but be with your family, or if you had unlimeted access to pleasure and did nothing but indulge in it, then you would feel absolutely miserable because you would not meet that innate need to grow as a person.
Thank you Tim for all that you do, you’ve been a recurring figure in my life at different stages to guide me towards the new chapter of my life. Love you.
We are lucky to live in the times of Tim Ferris what a wealth of value
I found that I tend to use my mortalty as a motivator and also a way to let go of fear. On one hand I use it as a reminder to move forward in having as many of the experiences I want to have a soon as I can, and on the other hand, also remembering that I will not be here forever helps to remember that nothing really matters except my expriences. Failures, embarassments, wrong-doings of others will mean nothing 100 years from now for the now living adults, so why be afraid of anything?
Thanks Tim, you have a beautiful soul - thank you for sharing with us. Good words.
I swear i have thought this way before. I feel like i would pay unlimited amounts to relive where i am now when i'm on my deathbed. Makes me grateful for what i have.
Your impact on my life is large, consistent, and positive. Thank you for everything, thanks for being alive.
Much health and love.
Tim, thank you so much por creating this kind of content. We are a language school, and we encourage our students to watch your videos.
Been able to achieve more in the last year. And happily practicing stoicism as we speak. Never been happier.
I think about a great experience and I immediately cry, Tim, this is so hard to do.... thank you
Glad to hear it from you Tim.I thought I am not thinking right.Now I can keep thinking that way.
This is why I personally find memorials/funerals particularly motivating for me. I'm not necessarily motivated to accomplish more just vocationally, but more so in personal relationships and my contributions to society. Being regularly reminded that death and suffering (taking many forms) are not only unpredictable, but imminent- helps me live life with my eyes wide open. I find it difficult to be consistent in the "practice" of doing so- this should be a good time to start...but why?
Thanks for being candid about mental health
Love the sadness and happiness exercise. There is a verse in the Bible that says: “Better to go to the house of mourning Than to go to the house of feasting, For that is the end of all men; And the living will take it to heart.”
Ecclesiastes 7:2
Damn he just explained why I've been listening to strictly what people consider "depressing" music since I was 14. Embracing the feeling is much more therapeutic for me than trying to ignore it
Thanks Tim from India, hope every one in USA is doing well.
I love to see this. We should always remind ourselves that each second that passes is a second gone.
Happy to hear someone else uses this method to add urgency to accomplishing things! You helped me feel a little more normal with this podcast. Thank you!
This was absolutely what I needed to hear tonight. Thank you from the bottom of my heart sir
You're smart Tim. I like you Tim!
*Meditating on death* is one tool🧰 I got from Tim about 2 years ago on his podcast,
and I've *accomplished* more in the last 2 years then I have in the last 10. 🎯
very nice books
Lady Tina where Can we find this meditation?
@@jaswati its in u, here and now. Just breath.
:/ İ can't
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I’ve been meditating for over a year now. But never on “death”. Haha
"Driftwood" is the 🗝️ to success!
Tim, knowing who made you and who hung the stars will give you the healthy fear and freedom you desire. There will always be another self-help process as each fades. Seek the eternal prior to death, receive and death will become merely the jumping off point.
Tim Ferris, you don't know, you are amazaing.
This might be the best argument against playing singleplayer videogames I've ever heard. Simply because those games will still be the same when I'm 80 years old. I can still play them when I can't walk anymore.
This sure got me thinking a lot, thanks!
That's not about singleplayer games, dude. Not about games either. Think about it more.
That's a nice perspective!
yeah but you're ignoring the experience of sharing stories of your experiences in the single player game with your friends. I can't count the number of times the topic of the single player Doom campaign and how amazing it was came up among my friend group. not being able to partake in that sharing is a net loss.
@@gibdopaminepls At first I agreed with OP. But, you're also right. A quality single player game such as The Last of Us, is like reading a really good book There are other single player games though that are super time sinks, like Dark Souls, and Skyrim(I love those games, but it came to a point where I wanted to level up in real life.)
That sad and empty feeling when you grow tired of a game and realize how much time you wasted
Tim, glad to see you have matured into real stuff, beyond the cheesy " life hack" videos. Sincerely, well done! I'll tune in as I think you can add value! Cheers!
I experienced a powerful feeling of needing to value moments in life that I can live now, but will not be able to live later. I.E. spending the day on the patio with my parents. Learning to live in those moments as if my last day is tomorrow. Thankful for the opportunity to continue another day. Keep your heads up, from TX.
I always remember the moment of the Derek Sivers Podcast where Derek goes "aaaah.... yes, one day this will be all over". Thanks for sharing Tim!
Sounds interesting. What episode was that if you remember?
@@andreyseas Of course, will never forget cuz its one of my favourites: its Tims Podcast Nr. 125; or 371 where Tim reloaded it.
Excellent thoughts. I love that you don't use the um transitions almost never. Good communication skills. Nice Tim
This video put a heavy feeling in my chest
Got into stoic philosophy a couple of years ago but only skimmed the surface. Feel I'm now prepared to make a much deeper dive down.
This guy is the real deal! Love watching your videos and reading the 4 hour work week
Your comments are validating
Amazing teacher ♥️ Thank you Tim for what you do
Hehe, I have delved deeply into depression and also nostalgia, I enjoyed it, feeling those blues, especially as you mention, listening to music that evoked certain depressive feelings, and nostalgic feelings too. Nowadays its hard for me to evoke them, its like you become desensitized.
Its like sugar, the more sugar you consume the more stale your sense of taste, thus you stop savouring the sweetness of say, an apple, because your taste has become dormat beacause of all the artifical super sweet stuffs.
Just like this we persue happy feelings, pleasure, etc. Soon growing tolerant to this happiness, our ability to sense it grows stale, and we cant find this "sweetness of happiness" anywhere in life. And everything begins to seem depressive, dull, sad, and low vibe.
However if instead of seeking happiness, you sink into this inner loneliness, depressive void within, obviously doing it gradually and not in an overwhelming way, you grow desensitized of depression, sadness and all these things, and conversely you become a lot more sensitive to happiness.
In my journal, at the start of every month it's says the date and next to it the number of days until I turn 80. It will be 21489 at the start of May.
This is a big help for urgency because you see the numbers go by
Good idea
Tim, thank you for your authenticity
Thank you for being the little angel (right side of my shoulder) of my consciousness, Mr. Ferriss! I’d have love to run into you on the 6th street about 20 years ago when I used to do busking in Austin, Texas...
Thanks Tim.. just what I needed. I'm starting a meditation practice to give me belief in myself to start a business .. I read about this practice of thinking of the worst .. and how it can make you feel hopeful. I'm going to give it a go. Didn't know you had depression.. thanks for sharing. More blokes should do this
Thanks for sharing your personal experience here. I love that you delve into music and experiences that take you into different waves of emotion. Check out the music of Cole Porter and his penchant for minor keys.
Thanks Tim. Listened to your podcast for last year or so, always great information for someone fascinated with the mind, motivations & behaviours.
In this vid, you reminded me of Elkhart Tolle’s ‘The Power Of Now’ in terms of speaking about the moment and presence, fighting something will give you more of it because the brain doesn’t understand ‘Don’t think these thoughts’, the subconscious just registers the thoughts and that energy/vibration is strengthened. Observation of it seems to remind your inner self that the thoughts are external, they aren’t part of your being, they are the noise covering your being.
Also, your mention of minor key music is super interesting as I struggle to listen to it, melancholia feels more uncomfortable for me than physical pain, I find it a horrible experience (I cannot stand two chords from Coldplay for example). But there is something to say about stacking that up against a more positive musical experience straight after, light and shade, speaking to the duality of life. What’s the pleasure of a warm, sunny day without rain and winter to compare?
I find that mentally NOTING really helps. In the moment, a thought or emotion comes to light or overwhelms me, I’ll not ask anything of myself and try VERY HARD not to project and analyse. Just observe as if it’s someone else’s problem who has since overcome the issue. The mere observation of it, detaches you from it and for me at least, completely changes how I identify with that emotion, feeling or thought pattern. Doing something similar with pleasure able experiences is almost like pinching myself into the moment to appreciate it... in these states I’ll give my friend an extra complement, thank the host one more time, take a moment to pick up my cat and appreciate she’s here right now because everything will go and I never want to be unconsciously living or living in the past as I think that’s where regret and depression are born.
authentic explanation ...makes sense ..though a small discussion.good job
Early Buddhism also teaches us to frequently reflect on the inevitability of aging, sickness, death, the eventual separation from loved ones, and to constantly contemplate impermanence
This is one of the beat video’s I’ve wver come across.
It’s helping me turn a corner on my mental health healing journey. Much love to you Tim 🙏🏼❤️
What a beautiful video. I saw it when it was released but it's taken time and experience to learn why hes saying some of these things
Congratulations Tim !
Im reading "4 hour work week " in this quarantine ---Amazing Book 🔥🔥🔥
Yesss! Minor key music helps me feel deeply
Happy music, funny movies/tv shows, happy internal dialog...
I had the same realization about how transient our orb of emotion is and how we can do things deliberately to manipulate or steer, while listing to Piano covers....
Thank you Tim for sharing this.
Does tim ferris have any videos on how to get eloquent at speech??? I love how he is so expressive and precise unlike other people who say 'amazing' 10000times in a 5minute video.
Thank you, Tim, for doing the work that you do!
This is such an Important message especially during this time in isolation! Thank you for highlighting that life is what we need to make it and make everyday count to Live Full Out.
Thank you for this video Tim Ferriss!! ☺🙏💃💄🌱💐🏝💜
Chopin's blue moods are great.
Tim, thanks for all your valuable content. )
Excellent. Thank you.
Thank you for this. I don't feel, however, like you've directly answered the question. Looking for more insight, please!
Using these methods: music, psychedelics, and visualizations; to transcend current time and emotions with perspective of gratitude for life and connectedness to reality. Being stoic in recognizing the things you can and actually desire to change and accepting of the things you cannot or dont truly desire to change.
I'll try to practice this from today onwards..
Another aspect to this is that if you don't push yourself to think about death in your daily life, you'll only be thinking about it when it hits you the hardest, like when family dies. This will color your perspective, whereas if you're feeling well and everything's going smoothly you get a different view of death that also deserves to be taken into account.
As per usual, very articulate and insightful 👌!
You are incredible, your work has inspired me so much, thanks for sharing your wisdom and make the positive influences on everyone.
Tim, thank you so much. This was incredibly insightful and has really left me filled with gratitude. I am so appreciative for you, your team and everyone else that helps enrich our lives with your content ❤️
Hello Tim thank you for always keeping the momentum and sharing your thoughts. You have helped me unknowingly. So thank you very much 😊🙏🏼I appreciate you very much. 😁🙏🏼
I got a lot out of asking oneself how much money you'd pay to get back the experience you are having right now in 30 years. This emphasis on the value of experience in the present is a much needed counterpoint to self help tips all focusing on saving money now in order to get interest later. Maybe the value of experience compounds faster than money (although it seems crass to even compare the two).
Love this video. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us Tim.
Love your youtube talk.
I learn a lot from you.
Thank you
Thanks Tim!
wow! this was the first video I saw of you and it might have changed my life
Tim. Your a good man. This world relies on men like you whether you know it or not
For myself, I've noticed that when I feel threatened by some mental object -- a possible experience, like sadness, rejection -- I posture at it mentally. Obviously this is pointing at the same basic thing as 'resistance', but this particular framing has been useful to acquire because a) it's more specific than 'I notice I'm getting mentally caught up in this' b)I regard posturing as generally ridiculous futility, no matter who it is coming from; certainly not something I want to do. And c) understanding it as this social behaviour I see from the outside, 'posturing', makes it hard to take the typical 'but my concerns are uniquely valid [because they're mine]' excuse too seriously.
Fantastic as always