Your Inner Critic Holds Your Values
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This is a very powerful clip! I think I get it if I tell myself, I’m fat and lazy. Then my core values are fitness and productivity… if my inner critic tells me my my kitchen is disgusting and people will think I’m gross then I know I value cleanliness and order if my inner critic is loud, it means I am not being authentic to my core values… #Transformational
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And I could be wrong about this but…. No. Those are things you were told you “should” value. What you actually value is your relationship with the people who taught you that. Your inner critic isn’t trying to keep your house clean or hold you to dine societal beauty standard. It’s trying to preserve your relationships with other humans you believe will hold you to those made up standards.
What you value is relationship, community, being loved and supported in a meaningful way not random made up social standards,
Right!
@@nics4062I agree with you on that your inner critic, you inner voice was at some point an outer voice that got internalized.
However, what Teal says is that you have to sit down with this inner side and see if these are really your values which is suprisinlgy very hard and a long process to do.
this helped me understand, thank you
So if the inner critic is constantly telling me I'm not good enough in a particular area, then it's because I value that thing and it's holding me accountable? Interesting insight
You can have a malaligned inner critic that is toxic. You can have one that is semi-toxic and you can have a healthy one. Most importantly, you must reality test to find out and adjust as required.
It’s a good opportunity to think about where that value came from, if you truly want to keep that value, and how your behavior might change ❤
It makes a lot more sense if you watch the entire part of the video where she worked with someone on their inner critic
@@icyearth Is it available here on youtube for free?
@@erasedshallbehisname5100 Unfortunately not, she does run discounts for her premium. 80$ a month is to hefty
This woman is hypnotic. Her clips the way she speaks something about her is so peaceful and so attractive 😍. God bless
Shadow work can help that inner critic become healthy in that way...like a discernment tool.
How do you do shadow work? What exactly is it,?
@@Femmefatale32000 shadow work is trauma that we hold on to mentally, emotionally and physically, like guilt, shame, fears, hate, rejection etc. When the feelings are triggered usually from a person or situation, Instead of ignoring it and pushing the negativity back down, I will allow myself to feel it fully without judgement. Sometimes I cry, punch a pillow or jump around to help clear and transmute it if the pain is really dense. If the pain is lighter, I'll sometimes laugh (not at myself, but the energy of it) and thank the pain for coming out. I release it and replace with something I prefer. Instead of anxiety, I'll feel peace, from fear to feeling safe and supported, from insecure to feeling secure and confident. I'm replacing it with my True Self. It's very hard and painful sometimes when old pain comes up, but it's worth all the effort.
Incredible insight and wisdom.
To anyone battling their inner critic, please…Listen, take note and then listen again…and allow yourself to separate the inner (critical) voice from the inner warrior/superhero/plain and simple stronger ‘you’ that you must believe in if you’re watching these videos.
Pat yourself on the back for all the things you HAVE done and ARE proud of (even if the achievement was ‘just’ getting through another day!) as opposed to beating yourself up for things you didn’t do or felt was a failure.
Keep on keepin’ on, as the saying goes.
Nobody else knows your struggles, your resolve, your world,..so compare less and believe more 🙏🏼❤️
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But if stop caring about about peoples opinion, I wouldnt be able to enjoy my medicine. NEED EXCUSE. I will not do it alone.., oh wait, i forgot
You are awesome!
@@beatricedarpini2409 ☺️ thank you. But remember, so are You!… so are us all if we can believe it, even just a little to begin with and build on the feedback loops of positive actions that create positive thoughts. 🤔☺️💪🏼
@@Monkey80llxyou tube wants me to rate your comment..., like the Blue box of additional rating options .... More Technocracy building upon our own responses... I'm skipping any/all of such self digital prison building activities...
Our inner critics are from how our parents talked to us as children
That’s what I always thought too.
She's a frickin' genius! The inner critic holds us to our standards. It's loud when we're off base and quiets down when we're congruent to ourselves and our beliefs. Excellent!
I will meditate with my inner critic to clarify my inner values! This. Is. PARAMOUNT!
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leave it to a moron to over complicate something simple they dont understand
I'm in love with the way she explains things so smoothly, it's a big shame for me not knowing her until now.
She has a soothing voice. She has a vibrant, image-evoking name. She is pretty. She wears pretty dresses. She sits on an ornate chair. But she talks a lot of nonsense, imo. She's got snake oil salesman inspirational speaker vibes. At best, her claims are reckless and too broadly sweeping. I know you want someone to guide you, but choose someone with credentials and education based on research. Not something that just sounds nice so let's assume it's correct. Agreed?
@@ultrameticulous No.
@@margarethren2363 Well, good luck following her advice. Look up her wiki. She is "a spiritual influencer and author."
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In a time of enormous stress, I began having inserting thoughts that sounded external. They stopped when I listened to them as carefully as I could without judgement and took notes. I consulted the I Ching and read that they were Deliverance (as from evil). That is exactly what they were.
This is maybe one of the most important things I've heard. People say "oh you're fine as you are" "you don't need to improve anything". But that voice that tells you 'you're not what you could be' is right. It's always going to be right. How could there be a limit on the highs of the highs?
wow....never heard that before of 35 years of searching...very profound.
Have you studied IFS?
My inner critic is most fierce at a certain time of the month. She is my shadow sister - divine feminine checking in with me.
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Your comments on this platform really resonates with my soul... the core meaning ..short to the point... no attachment no desire no distinguishing/observing with no judgement of whether it is good or bad... only observing
Amen ❤️🙏 no longer emotionally attached
Look at her....just sitting.... The most beautiful angel .....sharing her wisdom and light ❤️🙏
Yes I agree she is such a powerful force.
agreed
Omg yes!! Thank you, Teal! I had developed an obsession (limerence) over somebody to the point I was just doing crazy things like taking on their interests etc. It felt so authentic but my own upbringing/attachment style knew no way other way.
Despite this, an inner voice kept finding this "gross" and "sick". My friends told me what I was doing was harmless, that I'm allowed to also have/like similar interests as him. But they didn't get the authenticity factor. Finally, I gave in to my inner voice and stopped. I realized I cultivated much more respect for myself and he then started to respect me.
The Inner Critic is not an enemy, but is an internal compass! It warns us when we are straying off our authnetic path due to our own bad conditioning/habits etc.
I truly believe that I am understanding what she is saying.
I thought about this and I felt about it and as far as I can remember it is the first and true revelation of what I became of it .
The inner critic is another name for the emotion of "shame". Most people grow up with emotionally abusive parents who weaponized shame as a tool to hurt their children. They purposefully activated that emotion in their kids to get them to fall in line.
Shame, or "the inner critic" is actually known as the MASTER emotion, it's stronger than fear, rage, lust, everything. That's why parents abusively activate it in their children, because it WORKS.
Those children then grow up with their own inner critic (shame) being permanently tainted by their parents verbal abuse "Why can't you be more like your sister?" "No son of mine will be a cry baby" Etc. Etc.
Shame (the inner critic) is supposed to develop into, essentially, an internal parental unit when you're an adult. It's there to speak up before you do something stupid, because it TRULY has your best interest at heart. It's supposed to lovingly guide you, even when that means tough love, by sending messages like "You can do better than this. You DESERVE better than this. You know that, right?"
It's supposed to steer you in the right direction to live your best life. BUT, because of most people's relationship with their internal sense of shame has been hijacked and poisoned with abuse, they grow up DEEPLY FEARING the experience of shame (i.e. repairing their relationship with their internal critic) to where they cast it out as an emotion all together.
You see this in people who say they're "proud" of who they are, yet they're constantly throwing away their health via smoking, drinking excessively, doing drugs, are obese, extremely promiscuous, unapologetically rude, etc.
These people are not actually proud of their lifestyles, they're wearing pride as armor to avoid experiencing shame (which, when experienced in a non-toxic, healthy way, will lead them to self improvement and true happiness)
We need to stop weaponizing shame in others, and learn to co-exist with it within ourselves, as our guiding compass to becoming our best selves.
Moral of the story: Face your own shame, learn to separate out the abusive things told to you using shame, and find your inner critics TRUE voice calling out to you. Then, listen to it and let it lead you to greatness. And other people's shame, is NEVER yours to try to activate and hijack. It is their compass and theirs alone.
"Most people" grow up with such parents? Nah, maybe in the west but I wouldn't know. Parents in general offer too much love to their children, and too little discipline.
@cataliniancu5318 As someone studying psychology, I disagree. But we can have different opinions and that's ok, we have different experiences. My parents never shamed me, they taught me, so I have a very healthy relationship with my inner critic as an adult.
@@MiraJune742Who said anything about shaming? Disciplining is far more than that. It's rewarding good behavior and discouraging bad behavior.
@@cataliniancu5318 Did you read my entire first comment...? The entire thing was explaining how most parents purposefully shame their kids instead of teaching them and disciplining them properly because shaming is easier to get the kids to fall in line. The whole topic is about shame. It feels to me like you're taking my comments personally, which they aren't. I don't know you, don't know your story, and don't know why you're stirring up an issue where there isn't any. I've expressed my thoughts and shared my experiences a little bit. That's all I need to do, it isn't about you 🙂
@@MiraJune742 Nah, I don't have much stake in this, other than the fact that I already know how I will be disciplining my future children. Because it's clear that letting them do whatever will just end up like everyone else these days, which is terrible.
So we should befriend the inner critic for it guides us and kinda keeps us in check too so clever ❤
It took forever to understand this.. It's not my enemy anymore and I own my value and self respect. It took 59 years to love myself.
this is so interesting, I never thought about it like this but the more shadow work I did the more I realised it's alot more like a protector for real
That's a true fact: this inner voice can be seen as a welcomed friend who in some instances would help guide us - use our common sense - to look any situation that we may have been programmed to think it being negative or "bad for us". Once we speak to ourselves as we would a friend in need, calm, patient, open minded as well as kind and compassionate then whatever the "critical voice" might have said or we may have felt it to be negative isn't really what is the answer. Putting ourselves down is so detrimental and unhealthy and it's also become a habit in some. A sort of "go to" reaction to everything - it's uncomfortable, downright disrespectful to treat ourselves in this manner. See the difference between treating yourself well and being able to accomplish something or treating yourself negatively and then trying to do the same. There is a difference in the way your heart and soul feels - for example: take 2 glasses of water - on one you write "good-happy-kind and the other hate-no good-useless. They have shown how the water disintegrates in its molecules in the second glass treated abusively. Same for us - in our brains and the way our body reacts to that voice.
Internal family systems for the win
You tap into the place that satisfies my mindfulness.
My inner critic is called the Holy Spirit
Not fully convinced. I feel my inner critic tries to mold me into something society wants. Not what's actually healthy for me..
Yup, same here- but in the past when I *did* cave in and do what it said it still hated me from new angles. Not an ally for me.
So the answer may be something like: you value your social connections over your own health.
Many people do, maybe it's even true for all people at a certain point in their lives. It certainly was true for me at some points in my life, currently not so much, but I take into account that my position on that might change or fluctuate back and forth depending on other conditions.
Maybe it's similar for you?
Good luck with figuring out your subconcious motivations, it's not an easy task, but it's a worthy one. ;)
@@Seamannon Thank you for your indepth honest answer... the difficult thing about deciding whether your assumptions are true or not for me is the fact, that we have so many parts in us and of course parts who are intrijects. Mini-representations of authority figures we met usually.
Lets use another example. Imagine someone is gay and is inner critic says: "you have to conform, you have to be a good christian, you are disgusting...." Would you say that's reflecting his values? I mean it's for sure not reflecting his inner truth...
Tell me what you tink 🙂
@@freidenkerin5198 Sure is :) You have to unpack all of the bits one by one first, assess each one and then dig deeper into how they are related.
You can ask yourself:
Do I really have to conform? Why? What for? Is it important? For whom? For me? For a part of me? For other people? Does it hurt me? Do I really care? Am I tormenting myself for that? Why? Why not? Do I have to be a good christian? What does it mean to be a good christian? Why do I need to be that? Do I want to meet that standard? Do I care about that label? Why? Why not? Am I digusting? Why? What for? In what way? What is disgusting to me? How do I distance myself from that? How can I confront that? What can I do about that? How do I improve myself? What can I focus on to make myself more acceptable to others? To myself? In what way do I want my life to improve? and so on...
Anyone can get to their inner truth after some ammount of self-reflection I believe. After investing some time and focus to unpack those beliefs and sort them out, drawing lines between personal and social motivations, setting some boudaries and goals for self-improvement, your personal truth will become more clear :)
Society exists more or less functionally for a very very long time already and tried and tested copious amounts of different things to see what works and what doesn't with billions of individuals.
What the hell do you know what's good for you anyway? Quite arrogant of you to assume you'd know better.
But I'm sure you don't want to hear that.
This blew my mind! I want to hear more...
Ive felt this, but never had thought the words for it
This is beautifully said
That gentle part of your voice, it's special. Namaste
Hm. Interesting. I tend to view the inner critic as an agglomeration of all the things my parents said to me or how they made me feel. I guess in retrospect that in itself formed my values. I try, and think that I'm very good at living inline with a majority of my values but when I fail, I resurrect monuments so that my homage to my lacking is greater than to my good. I can succeed 1000 times a day but mess up once and I become my own abuser which interrupts momentum, initiates depression and causes delay as I wrangle with getting my mind back on track.
The next time you "mess up" try to write down what your inner critic is saying. Write it on paper. And then let your inner friend "speak". Think of them as a empathetic friend that loves you and respects you and understands you. Write down what the friend says to you about messing up. This creates more balance and helps to see, that there are always two sides.
It’s amazing how someone can say so much without having actually said anything tangible.
Love the sight of Teal sitting in these fancy chairs. She's got style as well as wisdom. Very informative video
I was just thinking it's a little arrogant. None of us are royalty.
But it does look good and I like her advice.
Oh my God that is so true! Thank you!
I LOVE THE PHRaSE, " PROTECTOR, WITHIN yourself ":!!😼👏🏻👏🏻🤔
She is beautiful ❤
It goes along with
If I don't feel good enough... its because I'm actually not good enough... = I could be doing better for myself, I could be healthier, I know I should be eating healthier and going for walks alot more.
It's the way I've always seen my inner critic it's a guide & it's telling me something that I need to know about myself.
There is also another aspect to it to recognise, it's also the voices of other critics of you, critics like your parents, teachers, coaches, anyone you looked up to or trusted that criticised you for no reason but that they could will be inside you too, because you trusted them you BELIEVED what they said to you about you, so this becomes an inner critic too.
Always remember there is more than ONE way to look at everything & it's never just ONE way, ONE reason 😊
WOW! It's so liberating to think of it like that. Thanks Teal.
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Blessed Be! ! !❤🙏❤
It’s the one we base our lives on. Imaginations affect our will.
I love listening to you
Teal is so DIALED IN!
I agree and disagree because if our inner critic is valuing things that we know deep down shouldn’t hold much value because they are not healthy.. then we’re at a constant battle with our inner critic and our true self. My inner critic is constantly telling me that iam not beautiful enough and that I am not strong enough.. smart enough.. but my true self tells me that those things aren’t and shouldn’t be what gives me value and meaning. So I try not to give my inner critic too much power and I constantly have to filter my inner critics values.
What she is talking about is that in essence you have a value for beauty, strength and intelligence. If you're telling yourself that you're not those things, the point would be to move towards those things, not away from them.
Maybe your inner critic wants to tickle you (ina rude way), maybe the message is that you must see that you are all of this. Let me tell you: You ARE beautiful, strong and smart!
This is what I struggle with, what if I don't know how to socialize and allow my vulnerability/ trust to show, my inner critic says: "I'm not worthy."
yes so your inner kids need their loving parent to remind them of their true identity
Love your dresses... would love to style you with matching shoes for each dress
I find this so true as the voice has started getting less as I've started to do things for my self instead of constantly putting those that I love first as a recovering Anxious attachment style and almost ruined everything with my soul mate
Wow, this is exactly what I’m starting to experience.
I find having a good 'critic' friend can provide additional insight.. again, my willingness to listen is paramount..
She's unbelievably correct.. my mind chatter was unbelievably screaming ALL 5HE TIME.. after going in and beginning an interaction with it... My mind feels SOOOO at peace, helpful when I need or ask info from it .. clarity is phenomenal and quiet, peace, sincerity, unconditional appreciation of everything.. ❤😊
Wow! Mindblowing! Thank you for this Insight!
yes those who do not like a part of themselves are still very wounded
This is actually incredibly insightful.
This form of subtitles is much better, and less agressive than the habitual flashy and disjointed word-for-word (sometimes in the center of the screen). That's the only critic I would do.
This is gold! I've never heard this before. It makes so much sense. What a powerful mind change! Thank you!
Just my opinion "The inner critic, relentless in its judgment, often clouds our path with doubt. Yet amidst its clamor, the truth remains: just be yourself. While learning from others is invaluable, their opinions are mere echoes in the wind. Remember, it's your journey to traverse, your road to tread. Choose your battles wisely, for not every skirmish is worth the fight. In life's labyrinth, steer clear of danger when possible, and set your sights on the beacon of positivity that guides your way."
Thank you Teal!
As a counter point, some people are more prone to shame and hold themselves to unrealistic standards and have a hard time with acceptance of reality. Comparing ourselves to others on the internet has been disastrous for many as an example.
It's constantly practicing what someone could view me as. It simulates a worse perspective and then budges over my desk to interrupt what I'm doing to prepare myself for being misrepresented. All fine and dandy, but the fact is that it wants me to do so 24/7 and I know it can always come up with more. My inner critic is garbage, my external critics are worse. 🎉
Finally words for what I have felt. Truth of my values 🙌
You are scary wise and helpfully profound...
Thank you for the Beautiful way and sometimes hard truths That you share 💋
When you have a inner voice that telling you that you're not worth anything already when you're 4 or 5, it's not because of some values you don't live up to!
what I realized doing parts work is that my inner critic knew more about my parts than my conscious self. I heard the inner critic laugh about some behaviour of mine and didn't know what it laughed about. Thinking about it I noticed that I had wanted to speak to someone but out of shame made a skip action and made me a cup of tea. I laughed about myself while making tea and didn't know why.
This experience motivated me to befriend my inner critic to make his knowledge availlable to me.
so smart she is... i always wonder where she gets so much insight from...
I'm amazed how insightful she is for her age. I learn so much listening to even her video shorts. Is she a psychologist?
Let the inner critic be where it should be in the corner and let the Amazing Person Shine 😍
Teal & Team, thank you for this information.
I don’t have an inner critic… I have “an observer of all” and a healthy “filter system” built over many years…
The inner critic is a result of being away from love, away from Source,Universe,God…. If I critique myself it’s from a deeper wiser knowing and i can clearly hear and heed these conversations ✨
Sounds like a great perspective to have, something to aspire to! Thanks for sharing :)
@@Seamannon How I see it is connecting to “confidence”(Latin:confidere “have full trust”) built over many years, this I believe is the deeper knowing we connect with (Source etc) …this silences any inner critic… which is only the uncontrolled “mind” …I’m glad it resonates with you, always nice when this happens…enjoy the journey 😃✨
I love this woman
she's like a fairy 🥰
This woman is brilliant!!
🤯thank you for the epiphany!!!! Starting to make friends now!
This needs to be understood more widely!!!
❤yes dear ......innermost...when trying to make socialization....I haven't found not one person without the intent to suggest that they are interested in a sexual relationship without considering that one has a worthiness value❤
My favorite self-help advice
Ugh, exactly what I needed!!!
Like damn, too accurate 🥺👁🙏🏽💜🕸💚💯
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Wow! Gamechanging 🙏🏼🧙🏼♀️
100%. So true!
Tku for shining 🌟
This is magical.
Thank you
I agree… it knows I can do better than what I am… that’s how I did my best work
I am scared how on point it is....
I know this is a deep message, but that aside for a sec. Love how the earrings glitter!
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My inner critic has kept me from getting my own ass kicked many times. It tells me to sit down son.
My inner critic is the distillation of how much my mother *utterly hated* me and it wants nothing less than my complete annihilation. Can’t see how this is “defending my values”, my inner critic is satisfied with *nothing* I do: even when I *do* the things it tells me to do it flips the script on me and hates on me for THAT. I’ve learned it absolutely is not, ever, an ally of mine, it simply is the personification of all the hatred, harm and contempt I received from the adults around me growing up. My internal allies have an absolutely different feel to them.
Teal said that it's formed from socialization. It's not that the criticism or values you hold currently are correct for you. She's calling you to listen to them, question them and re evaluate/unlearn them if need be. But your openness to listen to it allows the critic to understand what you do really value and what your inherent values are. You allow it to be part of you and then you have dominion over it again once more
Please look into inner child integration. Having toxic parents messes with the equilibrium of our internal compass.
You are right your inner critic is your toxic parent right now. I know how hard it is to do anything. I couldn't even choose between colours, make/model of things I wanted to buy because the critic would go crazy with all kinds of worries about getting it right etc.
Inner child work really brings the you inside and the you outside onto the same page. Teal has loads of content on this subject.
@@rebeccahepson it’s through decades of listening to it, learning that it is never, ever coming from actual interest in my healthy, healed thriving, and learning to shrug my shoulders at it that I’ve learned my ‘inner critic’ isn’t some advocate for me as Teal here describes it to be- I absolutely *do* have a loving and supportive element whose voice I’ve been slowly yet steadily raising, but this voice is *not* that of the poisonous hypercritic. The hypercritic is also *not* my wounded child elements and I’ve done much work in reclaiming and integrating those parts of me, and I continue to do so. The conflation between our wounded child elements and the *poisonous hypercritic* created by individuals that would have *happily seen us dead inside, if not physically* , is NOT one I’m ever going to make again- I made that mistake earlier in my life and nearly died several times from that. My inner child aspects were in pain and thrashing, but the Grima Wormtongue in my head *hates* me utterly and can never be given ANY space. I’ve learned that the hard way, with scars to prove it- my critic no longer dominates my life at all, there are still some gnarly programs to deal with and I’m doing that *and* I will never, ever see it as anything other than an indicator of what the total opposite of my well-being looks like because it is most definitely *not* an ally of mine.
@@kristyoblen7004 “you are right your inner critic is your toxic parent right now”- it’s precisely because of my inner child work that I have learned the inner critic is never to be trusted or looked to as a source of ANYTHING good in my life. I’m decades down the track in this work, I’ve shrunk the inner critic from a monstrous shrieking banshee that I couldn’t hear anything else over to an insidious hiss whose tricks I’m well versed.
I now focus on my true self as part of the unveiling of my life path- the inner critic tried everything in its power to keep me from that, it was *never* an ally and the voices of my inner allies sound nothing like the bile that spewed from my inner critic in the past. My critic is nothing more than a ‘bad program’ that is trying to stay alive, not something there to ‘help’ me- it is heading the way of the Wicked Witch of the West, melting into well deserved eventual oblivion as I cultivate the loving, caring parts of my greater Self who guide me with genuine support and understanding.
@@Ninsidhe Sounds like you are already on the right path to figure things out and fix your problems one by one, patiently and with love in your heart. I wish you good luck on your way. Blessings :)
Sounds like a beautiful way to Integrate your shadow.
This is so very powerful!! Thank you!!
Truth....mine was screaming for while . Im listening now..between my inner critic and intuition done deal.
This is so powerful and I resonate with it so much!!
We are all the same person with different forms of blindness and social programming but the one that loses their life will find it. Then they will find it was never theirs, nor is the one they found.
My inner critic is always telling me to keep being a doormat to avoid conflict. When I decide to quietly stand up for myself, it bring unwanted and detrimental attention. My inner critic is confusing.
Seems like you may value connection with others over your own needs or a quiet coexistance in a relationship over your own opinions. I can only make a guess here, I'm sure you can answer the question of what your inner critic expects of you much better for yourself if you think about it.
Good luck ;)
My two cents is such, look at it as that sarcastic cousin playing devils advocate. It's daring you to be bold, brave, and honest with yourself. Because this is so important to you deep down, it continues to dare you, start crap so you can become so uncomfortable that you fix it. You can not stand up for yourself unless you know what your boundaries are. Spend some time inside to find your true values, boundaries, needs, and wants. This will allow you to stand up for these things when they're being threatened. Otherwise you will lash out at everything or allow everything out of fear. I hope this helps dear.
yes all Adult Children get guilt feelings for standing up for their Inner Kids
❤a very well explaination love it the emphasis that jumped into my hearing . . . Only when you seriously consider that value! ❤ bless your work
My 11 year old part was labeled a critical inner parent and I feel bad still about that. She held the burden of all the other IFS and she felt like she had the weight of the world on her shoulders
Thanks
This resonates with me. Intriguing observation!
Love this!!
This is literally the description of the INFJ personality type (based on Jung’s personality typology) from a cognitive functions’ standpoint. With Fe (extroverted feeling) as auxiliary and Fi (introverted feeling) as its shadow, critic function, it makes perfect sense for the INFJ type. If you know you know.