"Men Are Desperate, TAKE ADVANTAGE"
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Predators??? I don't agree with that line of thought for various reasons. Should men stop buying drinks? Yes, a man who is willing to buy a drink before getting to know me immediately becomes a creep in my mind, which is why all the girls pretty much said "grab the drink and go"
What? If he’s so creepy… why accept his drink & if he’s so creepy, wouldn’t you be extra worried about being roofied. Might as well leave ‘em be.
Mind you, many of these women said they don’t buy a single drink all night they get fully drunk off of “creepy men” they don’t wanna fk.
So you’re telling me y’all go to night clubs to drink off of creepy men and dance? 👍🏾
Just say you want an excuse to take free shit from men you don’t like.
They're like a Venus Fly Trap, or an Angler Fish.
It is still predatory behaviour.
not the pin😳
The pin
My dad always told me never accept anything from a man if you don't like them. It sends the wrong message.
He gave u some great advice. This shit should be common sense for real
God bless that man! He raised you right! 😊
God bless that man! He raised you right! 😊❤
That’s because your dad was from a time when people had common sense. But these modern day chicks ain’t Tryna hear that. They think it’s a Game.
Right? That's common sense for most of us.
If she says she has a boyfriend and you still buy her a drink…that’s on you
I really don't get this, why would anyone just chuck money at someone else's girlfriend? I mean what's the play?
@@ravenwhiteduck6460 Some dudes think that they somehow are good enough to steal the girl for the night, wish I'd say funny enough some men do.
@@victorsoto4821 Stats tell us that it's a decent enough play because surprise, surprise, partners cheat on each other all the time, be it one night stands, exes or their partner's friends.
Bold of you to assume they don't lie.
@@ravenwhiteduck6460 everyone that replied kinda answered it but, sometimes a girl throws that line out trying to be hard to get, or they are lying because they don’t know you but the drink serves as a kinda opener so you have this small change to show off your personally/ whatever good qualities she might’ve initially overlooked. Or cross your fingers and hope she cheats
Y'know, in fairness... if the roles were reversed and women came up to me at a club and offered to buy me drinks I'd totally... think they were planning on drugging me and stealing my kidneys.
Buddy me too, the art of being alert at a bar is a two way street but some people still drive on the wrong side of the road
yes. but unlike the women in this video, you'd simply reject the offer.
@@Breeze06 exactly
I was in a situation where a lady asked me to dance with her and her four friends. They also bought me drinks all night. Of course, this didn't happen in the United States.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
no need to go to the club to meet women, go to a social space that requires you to be an actual socializing, capable, sober person, and you're more likely to meet higher quality people
Such as?
@@Kirbystare1992 well, definitely not chicks that will humiliate you or use you as an ATM machine
and yes, I agree on a degree, you'll definitely cross more people with basic decency and respect
@@Kirbystare1992 Waiting for the usual "church, book/sports club, hiking"
@@rafeek.9623 Dude was definitely asking what places to meet better women and not what kind of better women. Read slower, your comprehension can't keep up.
I was out at a club with a girl about 2 years ago I used to fool around with. We was at a table, and she got up to buy a drink at the bar. When she was about to pay for our drinks, a guy pushed her hand away from the bartender and said “a pretty woman like you shouldn’t be paying for drinks.” And he payed for it. She said he tried to start convo after but She quickly cut him off and said “thank you” and walked right over to me with both our drinks a guy paid for. Smh
Bro this happened to me once with a girl homie when i was in college shit was clutch that day too😂😂
It's fucked up... But at the same time dude was eager to make a fool of himself 🤷🏿♂️
I hope you thanked him 😂
@@Snoop_Dugg that wouldve made it worse
@@baayzil97 if that constitutes making a fool out of yourself then we’ve lost all hope, way too hyperfocused on other peoples perceptions. The opposite is true to you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take so if anything mans just took his shot
“It is a sickness and we don’t want it.” I love that quote.
"And it is Deviant!"
Women: "You find a old man! Sugar daddy!"
Men: "I want a young woman."
Women: *"YOU ARE SUCH A CREEP!"*
Men: 🤨
It'll only sit right with these kinds of women if it benefits them
Sir Yeetus when aren't you complaining about women
@@darnellwilliams8783 probably when you aren't bitching about men
I know. Forget them, bro. Just keep grinding and go abroad. We've got this. I'm gonna be big on TH-cam and you'll live a great life if we keep working.
That's cause men are allowed to be taken advantage of in a pAtRiArChAL society. But tbf my co-workers and I always joke about marrying an old lady for the same reason lol
When I was younger, I used to often go out with a very close female friend. She'd often bring her friends who I didn't know very well. I remember one time, this very average looking friend thought she could just tell me to buy her drinks and I would. This woman was an absolute drop kick, was dumb AF and was broke all the time. I kept telling her that I was not going to buy her any drinks and she can buy her own. Every time I returned from the bar with my own drink, she got angrier and angrier. After a few times, she blew up calling me all sorts, calling me a pathetic man etc etc because I wouldn't buy her any drinks. It astounded me the level of entitlement this woman (and lots of other women) have, that they would demand that a guy they don't like or respect, let alone hook up with, funds their night out and if they don't, they get to shame and emasculate them.
One of the things I've gotten sick of the last few years is constantly being lectured about how men are the only bad people and women are always innocent victims. Some of my interactions with women over the years have left me feeling a bit jaded towards women.
Thanks for sharing. What a horrible situation to go through. And at the same time so ridiculous, that it sounds like a bad joke.
Damn, that’s a tough one to get around, idk how one could see a future where it’s just shrouded in darkness. It feels like men are more prone to be more jaded than women. Women of any rating 1-10 will never know that feeling of loneliness and bitterness, I hate this world.
@@moonknight4053 I also hate this world, the things you talk about is only in society. then when you add things like taxes, crime rates, and the state of the planet I hate it 10 times worse.
Bro you can’t let an ugly woman just emasculate you, you could have easily clapped back at her and tell her you’re keeping your money for a pretty girl. Tell her you’re not into animal fucking or something 😂 The roles would have been reversed and she would have shut the fuck up
@@moonknight4053dude some do some kids to try getting depression diagnosed
In 2015, I went to a bar with a friend and a girl told us if we wanted to go to her table with her friends and said yes. We were drinking beers and they said "we should get some bottles" and we said "yeah, but I'm good with the beer" (I was drinking heavily prior to the bar) and later on they said her ''friend'' was not feeling good and we told them that it is alright and that we will just pay for our beers. Moments later the friend miraculously got better and said that we had to pay for the bottles because we "agreed" to.
In a split of a second my friend and I made eye contact meaning they are trying to set us up and told the waiter that we are only paying for our beers in case they run away and the latter understood the situation. This was in less than a minute and told the broads that we are just going to the restroom. By the time we got out of the restroom the broads were screaming at the waiter and came up to us demanding we pay their share. We just sat at in front of the bartender and told him "two whiskys for my friend and I, I pay". It was glorious. The broads litteraly had to call a friend to help them pay their bill.
Legend, luckily last time I had a similar situation sitting with a bunch of girls in a bar they were actually super nice and paid their share no problem
I don't understand how people can go out to clubs and drink. The success rate is terrible.
@@Jake38nine those men aren't red pilled, if they were they wouldn't even bother with women.
indoctrination runs deep.
Bwahahahah!! The only difference between ordinary girls and prostitutes is, at least prostitutes bring something to the table.
@@Jake38nine It's even worse than Tinder, because you are forced to waste money.
Men that still go out to clubs are evidently insane and/or very very stupid.
My GF has the mentality that if a dude is going to buy her a drink, she will take it. I've told her I do NOT feel comfortable with that because 1. That sends the wrong signal 2. The dude is putting himself out there and you are scorching him for no reason. You have the money, buy your own drinks.
You told a girl something may be wrong with her actions and she’s not an ex? Impossible!
@@marlom7882 if you date women and end things on the slightest character flaw then you don't date long lmao
@@Phantom-kc9ly he means she didn’t break up with him for calling her out
A bit of a red flag that she overlooks something that bothers you. You *know* a woman would get pissy if you didn’t stop doing something that had no effect on you.
@@Phantom-kc9ly thats disrespecting her bfs wishes though. She knows what it means when a guy buys a drink for her
It's absolutely predatory behavior. I've had countless women at bars who I've struck up a conversation with _ask me_ to buy them a drink within a few minutes, and then get incredibly upset when I refuse. It's not always just men approaching and asking them first.
….ain’t it always the audacity? Cringe as hell on their part
@@GumBeatingTV Indeed. It's basically the female equivalent of men who will say or do _anything_ just to get laid. It comes across as incredibly gross and disrespectful.
You learn everything you need to know about a person from that small interaction. Mainly that they aren't worth your time, and they only see you as a wallet rather than an actual person.
Count it as a blessing that they're showing their shallowness right away instead of pretending 🤷♀️ Guys buying random girls drinks i view as creepy and girls accepting random drinks i view as stupid.
As a bartender I see this a lot. Or a girl will be like "you want a shot?" He says yes and then she waits for him to pay for it... Like puta.. you wanted the shot, you offered it you're the one who needs to pay for it.
I usually take them to the bar, order the drink and then say my friend is holding my wallet. I leave and never come back.
There were several women that said no. There are women that understand it’s wrong. I never let men buy me drinks. It makes me feel obligated in a way I don’t like. Not worth it.
You know what’s also wrong? Expecting pussy because you bought a drink. As if a woman’s pussy is equivalent to food or alcohol. She isn’t obligated to fuck him. It’s the unspoken expectation of a woman owing you something because you do something “nice”. It’s pathetic. ESPECIALLY when the woman has already made it clear she’s not interested, you’re insisting and then getting mad that she took the drink and still denied you?
Only a few said no
Most said yes, only like a couple said no.
Me too. I don't like feeling like I owe people stuff. Excluding my friends of course, it's mutual.
Those are the ones that grew up with a strong father figure in their lives.
As a guy from Eastern Europe, I don't understand how the dating life works in the US, its very confusing. If I have a girlfriend, she doesn't go clubbing and accepting drinks from other guys. That's just not how relationships work. Oh and as a general rule, trying to buy drinks to a girl who you know has a bf, will usually get you into trouble.
all of this, 100% spot on.
I’m from Germany and I don’t understand your problem. What’s so wrong about a girlfriend going out in a club? Do you assume clubs a only a place dedicated for searching and flirting? And even if my partner is getting approached by someone else, got enough trust and faith in him and our relationship that he is not going into a flirt.
Can’t women go out in a club bc of the music, dancing and having a fun time with friends?
@@fuwahaschi the problem is your girlfriend acting like she is single and accepting drinks from random thirsty dudes when she is out. she wouldn’t do that when her boyfriend is there so why is it “acceptable” to do when she is out with her girlfriends? reading comprehension matters.
@@pabloescobarschanclas well I’ll wait for the answer, if I’m wrong I’m wrong. Bc it wouldn’t be the first time I read „a good women/girlfriend isn’t going to the club/bar“.
And me personally, I think it doesn’t mean anything to accept a drink. I don’t read much into that.
@@fuwahaschi He said, his woman wouldn't go out AND ACCEPT DRINKS FROM OTHER GUYS. Is this strange for you?
I'm married so I don't go out to clubs or places like clubs much at all anymore...a few weeks ago, I was visiting my younger cousin and he dragged me out to one in the city...I was hanging out by the bar and we're getting a bunch of drinks...I had no less than 8-10 different women literally come up to me and ask me to buy them drinks. No, I wasn't offering anything to anyone. I asked them "why would I buy you a drink?" 3-4 of them were so stupid they didn't even know how to answer that and walked away looking embarrassed. My cousin got angry with me! I told him "you want to be stupid and buy drinks for these waste of air women, be my guest" He said the women I didn't get drinks for will tell all the other girls to stay away from us...fast forward 10 minutes and here they come asking, over and over...and over, lol.
Glad you stuck to your guns
they probably saw your wedding ring and got more attracted to you LOL. A lot of single women seem to have this thing with married men 🤷🏿♂️
@@tyshaq9286 Yeah, it signifies security and assurance. "If a women chose him, it proves he has something to offer". Even though we know in case of marriage men are the one choosing (proposing) 🤷🏽♂️
Those club women seem trashy. Probably not gonna find a diamond in this rough.
@@kni9ght I swear I wish I had made a video of that night that I could post online for you all to see...it was absolutely astounding. I didn't buy a single woman drinks.. anyone who goes out in NYC knows how damn expensive drinks are as it is. What was really hilarious is those sloths knew I wasn't buying them sh*t but more and more just kept coming all night..I kid you not, it had to have been well over 20 different women who just kept trying to get free drinks and "talk" to us by the end of the night. Fellas, don't be stupid. Never buy anything for rando women when you're out. You should have seen the face on two of them when I said "how about you buy me some drinks and see if you can keep my attention for as long as it takes for me to drink it" lol 🤣
I wish dudes would stop and focus more on theirselves instead of listening to Lil Jimmy.
Preach it
Maybe thats the problem in the first place, too much focus on yourself, I am one of them guysI have never even hugged a girl and I gotta try to stop listening to my other head that shit is hard (pun unintended)
lil jimmy be speaking the language of the gods sometimes
YEEHAW yall sound like yall cant get dates
@@darnellwilliams8783 Darnell you are a mad bozo. Why the hell are you even here?
I approached a girl the other day at a bar and in the middle of me saying something she blurted out “can you buy me a drink?” I just walked away
To talk about the Power beautiful women have over men, we first have to accept that pretty privilege is a real thing in society.
You can’t fight with nature. A lot are trying though.
No it's not lol.
@@Anonymous_47 yes it is
@@xtiphuny89 in your fantasy yup
Yup, the blackpill is real buddy boyos.
Part of the reasons why many men aren't pursuing women unless the energy is being well reciprocated. A goodmorning text sent to a woman who is barely interested will easily get you screenshotted and mocked in their group chat lol
Men should have always been thinking this way tbh
Then don't go after silly bimbo girls... its so easy lol brother youre the goofy one here but you don't know it XD
Someone’s a child
Simping is a disease
I went out with this girl once and I treated her horribly or so I thought, broke up with her 6 months later and afterwards I was considerate and apologized for my actions with genuine intent. A day later I see that she screenshot the message and posted it for all her followers to see bashing, and ridiculing me. I accepted it as karma but I definitely felt embarrassed.
I remember when I was like 20 and it was like my 3rd or 4th time at a bar. I wanted to talk to this girl and I went up said hey and she didn’t really respond. I offered to buy her a drink and instantly physically cringed at myself. Of course she turned around and was instantly like “oh yeah! I’m drinking blah blah.” I said never mind and walked off and never said that stupid shit again
your instincts did you a favour
Your learning curve is really impressive! Saying that as a woman who would prefer to just be left alone and dancing peacefully, but also doesn't mind a random conversation with strangers just for a good conversation, then after the conversation is going for a while eventually sometimes asking if the other wants a drink, because talking a lot makes the mouth dry and why not offer a drink when I have the money.
Guuud LLS guuuuuuud. The game is strong in you.... Sooon you will be strong with the Darkside. Something, something, darkside. Something, something, something, COMPLETE.
It's definitely cringe
Youre the reason why women are afraid of men. Yikes
The drinking part is insane to me. Imagine growing up and hearing people are telling you not to accept gifts from strangers. But 90% of these girls are accepting drinks from someone, which might be spiked. To me that is just reckless.
Girls? You mean them harlots.
This is it! I never ever accept drinks from strangers and I’m the only one out of my college friends who hasn’t been roofied. And I don’t have a lot of college friends. Like 10 max. I definitely don’t think every guy is out here trying to roofie girls, I’d rather be safe than sorry.
Don't worry, just stare at it like she did and you'll be able to tell
@@itsyaboyjay9862 No thanks. 😂 I’d rather pay for my own drinks.
@@afmullins592 😂
6 years ago, i worked as a cashier at a grocery store for a while and overheard the young girl employees brag to each other about how they lied about having a bf when they went out so they could get free drinks. One of them went on to say she does it with her bf present, and he doesn’t mind cuz he doesn’t have to buy her drinks. There is a rampant lack of dignity among young 20 somethings.
Women have always been like this. They depend on tools like lies and diceit to get by in life.
Can you blame it when guys are so incredibly desperate?
Damn, you got to do all that just to afford some drinks....
Why just "young 20 somethings"? Wasn't one of those groups of women talking about old men approaching them to buy them drinks
shrugs. sounds legit to me. if shes at the bar and takes a drink from you, then she doesnt have a boyfriend and if she does he dont matter.
I'm gonna say it. Buying women drinks is.... STEEEWWWPIDDD!!! You just demonstrated that you have to pay for a woman's time. Just talk to her if she's giving heavy signals.
Only dweebs even go to the bar.. bro just get free strange online what is wrong with you cry babies lol
stop taking the red pill and just be a goddamn man, court her properly. its just a drink / coffee what the fuck do you have to lose with that
Not only that, but being willing to pay for a drink for a random woman who you probably won't see again in your life? Hell no.
Absolutely! Guys need to learn this simple fact. It's a huge sign of weakness and tells a woman that you can only get her attention through purchase.
How? If you take a girl out or are interested don’t you pay to take her out or impress her? What’s wrong with that y’all do casual sex without relationship’s so women shouldn’t sleep with men right?
I recently had a “nice” encounter with a girl at a club bar. She approached me and we had a few shots together which I paid for. After a while of talking, we started to make out for a little while then she said that she wanted to get another shot with me when suddenly 4 of her friends appear. She starts to order shots and drinks for all of them looks at me and says that I have to pay for all of it. When I refused, she started to insult me about what an asshole I am. So I left and it kind of ruined my evening. But I guess I dodged a bullet n not staying with her haha
You 100% dodged a bullet but also took the L buying all the shots in the first place lol
@@superiorstagg at least he tried
You should've paid your own drinks and leave
@@superiorstagg Not really an L since his subtle intention was to get some action which he did by making out which could have gone further but was interrupted by her friends.
At least he didn't buy drinks for her friends. Because if I invited my girlfriend out and she brought a friend best believe it we are gonna have a talk about it later, I obviously wouldn't walk out on her because she is my girlfriend but a random broad at the club? ***(Darth_Santoos exited the chat 3 hours ago)
⤴️❤️lets talk i have reasonable huge offer for you
Abba - "The mind is logical, it knows what is. The Penis is a Dreamer, it knows who it could be inside"
Preach Dying trying to hold back laughter...
I fell out of my chair laughing... I want that quote on my Tombstone... That's the best Haiku I have ever heard.
The phrase, "If you're buying her a shot, you just lost yours." Should be a motto all guys should live by.
I worked in the bar and hospitality industry for years, and those girls are good for business. Chat with them up first, if they seem interested, offer them an actual drink, not a shot, it screams desperate to get you drunk and take you home.
they all deserve to be roofied fuckem all
Lmfaooooooooo. CORRECT.
There are some LOSERS out there it's actually sad. They call it a "girls night out" 90% of them got Bf's and will lie about it and get free drinks and food for free b4 ghosting. These boys need serious guidance
They are good for business you say? It's almost as if that's the whole reason they get in for free 🤔. That being said I've never been a fan of the club scene or the strip club scene or any scene where men are encouraged to pay women for basically nothing. Just never made sense to me to give my money to somebody for nothing in return. I have to wake up every morning and work hours off my life for that money, you could literally be a homeless woman and still have the vagina that men want. It's an infinite resource that never runs out and costs nothing to maintain. your vagina lasts forever so u never have to earn a new one and u got it for free yet you still won't share it with us. So the way I see it, why should we share our hard earned, limited, exhaustible resource when they're so stingy with their infinite resource? It seems to me that we should be the ones who are more stingy since our resource is more valuable and harder to come by.
@@ANJIN-p4q Ahahahahaha. I’ve never been that girl but I’ve had those friends. Even married ones play this game. 🤦🏾♀️
I never buy a girl a drink yet I have no problems starting a conversation. If the girl asks me to buy her a drink I always tell them the same thing "Buy me a drink first and I will buy you two afterwards." I have yet to have a girl buy me a drink. They all look at me like i'm being an ass for not buying them a drink. This video just reaffirms my belief, they are never interested in me in the first place.
🤣🤣🤣👍👍👍👍👍My buddy used to do the same thing back in the days...and no woman took him up on that offer...I don't understand why men out there don't use the same strategy
@@gemeaux2000 probably because that strategy doesn't work.
@@baby_shii1263 Doesn't work for who? The man who is applying it or the woman who is being subjected to it?
You just gotta meet girls outside of clubs bars and those nastay settings. Shits too competitive there anyway.
Looking for a girl at a bar is already a not very intelligent thing to do. That's where the insufferable harpies with bigger egos than a monster truck hangout. It's almost as bad as a night club.
I was a wingman for a buddy. He found a girl he liked and started a conversation with her and her friend. He introduced me, and I started chatting with her friend. After a few minutes, we switched so that he did not seem as interested in his target. After a few minutes, the girl looked at me and said, "You know, I could use a drink." My friend stopped and looked at me because he knew what was about to happen.
Me: You are holding a beer bottle. Take a drink.
Girl: No. I mean, I could use a cocktail.
Me: Why did you buy a beer if you wanted a cocktail?
Girl: My cousin got it for me.
Me: Why didn't you ask for a cocktail then?
Girl: Because she doesn't have much money and felt bad asking for one.
Me: But you okay asking a stranger for a drink? I am more insulted that you lied to your cousin when she was trying to do something nice for you.
Girl: I want a cocktail
Me: Sure. You get this round; I get next.
We did not see her again; my buddy was laughing his ass off. I have always said, "If I buy a girl a drink, I want to get something out of it, even if it's a simple, fun conversation." I've bought many drinks for girls because they made me laugh. It's not that I have game, I don't think I do. It's just that I have to much self-respect for that.
I like that philosophy tho. If you want a drink then buy me a round first.
Btw what's your close rate?
All this when a real one wouldve just looked away n went back to hangin with his homie.. you did the whole npc dialogue when it was clear after the 1st sentence lol goofy ass
U boring af. It’s the whole gag making them realise how dumb they are behaving. OP is the winner
@@ChillAssTurtle He basically suggested she buy her own and you call him goofy? There aren't rules to it
I bought a drink for a girl the first time I ever went clubbing because she said she would not talk to me until I bought her a drink…. So she gets her drink then starts sipping on it and I’m like “so where you from” and she responds “why are you talking to me?” then proceeded to ignore me
NEVER. AGAIN.
Bruv no offence but that's the most incel ass shit I've ever read lmao how were you surprised by her ignoring you after she literally said you have to pay her TO EVEN TALK TO YOU? Like bruh
But hey, live and learn I suppose
That’s some evil shit
Wait, you brought a drink for a girl who wouldnt talk to you until you did and the problem is her 😂. She's just told you do not talk to me until you buy something for me and you persisted 😂😂😂. Maybe, work on your self esteem. So you'll never buy a drink for a girl again because you have poor self esteem 😂😂. Most men would have walked off saying buy your own damn drink. A guy offered to buy me a drink and we chatted. He went back to his friends then I surprised him with a beer back saying enjoy. We ended up in a relationship but then he cheated haha. It was fun whilst it lasted. He tried to come back but I said no. He regrets it since.
Woulda spilled the drink and walked away. People are trash out there lol
@@cha9165maybe some people (him for example) did not have enough friends or interactions with others to know how wild that type of interaction is. It is sad, and one can learn by good interactions, but putting them down, for trying, is shaming and sad. There are many reasons any one of US is socially inept.
I have financially supported all of my partners because I feel way to fast in debt, I can not have men supporting me and that also is not the best way. Don't judge, let's learn by eachother's experiences
I feel bad for the men who feel that kind of desperation. Hopefully, these men can find a sense of self-worth.
sense
@@nr1NPC thanks
Agreed, it will only make them feel worse in the long run and resentment.
If a financial transaction is needed for interaction, then she belongs on the streets, and he needs to be informed "The Hub" exists.
Disclaimer: I am condoning, promoting, or claiming pr0n as a healthy activity. It's just a better alternative than engaging with a garden-tool in denial about her nature..
Why would you buy ungrateful 304s a drink.
I mean if you think about it, as a man you pay for shrex either way.
Just better to do a transaction where you know what you're getting.
You guys are 100% right in saying it’s predatory. I buy my own drinks mostly but of course I’m not saying no to getting one offered. Other girls I know, don’t even plan on spending money when they go out. They go out with the intention to find “desperate guys” that will buy them drinks all night and then move on to the next dude every time. I think it’s disgusting. They intentionally flirt and dress provocative to get the drink and then say they are going to the bathroom and never coming back. It’s pathetic..
its only western women, mostly.
You got it all wrong. They don't move on to the next guy to buy them drinks. The guys come to the girls by their own merit and stupidity. Can't blame the women to not go out with any money, cause they just know they'll get their shots, withouth having to ask for them.
THe girls who do it the way you said, are girls who still have to learn that they don't even need to pull those tricks.
But yeah it is disgusting either way.
@@ammolator lol, unlike the more civilized societies, like the east... where you pay for them to drink with you with direct cash. and you buy the drinks. Then it's no longer predatory, since the women aren't hunting for free drinks, the women are employed and the men go their knowing what they gonna get. (KTVs, gogo bars, etc)
@@ammolator This happens in any big city globally.
Sure I someone really wants to buy me one and is nice to me, sure why not? But I won’t act like I the guy paid for spending time with me. If this person is nice, sure we talk.
But totally true what you say. I don’t want to get out on parties with the conciseness that I have to relay on man. And sure I get that drinks are expensive and even more in the U.S.
but I don’t know, I’m from Germany and I go barley out and if, I go to techno clubs. Most people are not there to flirt with people. The focus is dancing
Love how taking advantage of men is normalized, but reversed is consider sick and abusive.
Consider it from a person issue, not just men and women. People with better assets or better finances or greater entitlement will do things to advance what they want. Think of it why rich people buy expensive cars. They def don’t need a Porsche 911, but that’s what they want bc the have dough. Apply that to the vid above that people will use why assets they have to get what they want ie. free drinks
Me too 🤣 it’s hilarious at this point I’ve learned to just shut up and take it and if i dont im a misogynist somehow lol
Do something about it .
To be fair, why would these women decline a free drink? Nobody is obligated to talk to somebody. Guys need to stop using drinks as an excuse to talk to a woman they're attracted to
Misandry is totally acceptable while Masculine Mentors like Andrew Tate is censored. What a Society we live in
28yr old Female here and I know I’m late to this video. But I wanna say..
1.) I hope these ladies are staying safe because it seems like they may have a very careless approach to accepting these drinks (that’s me just assuming, I know). “Back in my day” (cause I’m married), you would never catch me casually accept drinks from guys. There’s only been three times when I have let random guys buy my drinks. Two of those times, I was interested in the guy. The last time, I didn’t even know, they just paid my bar tab.
2.) If I wasn’t interested in a guy, I would not accept his drink. I also had the bar tender hand me the drink directly.
3.) I guess I’m in the group of girls who don’t think guys who buy drinks for girls are desperate. I think there are a bunch of honest and quality guys/men out there just trying to make a connection.
So this advice is for you guys.. Save your money, dudes. Don’t be out here buying these girls a $10-$20 drink just cause she has a nice body and gives you “the eyes”. Tbh, if a guy came up to me at a bookstore and either 1.) asked me for a book recommendation or 2.) maybe offered to buy me a book and/or a coffee.. THAT would be such a greater statement than a guy buying me a drink. Maybe you guys should skip the bars and hit up the libraries/Barnes&Nobles. 👍🏻
I accept drinks from dudes I don’t see the problem with it especially since most of the time I know they’re trying to get me drunk
They wanna get fucked so Fuck em just not in the way wanted lol
But yeah it is dangerous deffo get it from the bartender I’ve known aloooooot of girls have gotten roofied (yet another reason why guys buying drinks for you doesn’t make them saints and women accepting them doesn’t make them harpies)
But yeah they have color changing cups now that change colors when they detect drugs I think all bars n clubs should only use cups that are capable of that
I am with you, but as a European i am also confused. Why do people pay for drinks before knowing someone is interested or even ok with talking to them? Why do people accept drinks while taken. Why is being payed for (meals or drinks) ok and do the women not feel in debt? Is this normal? I never take drinks, because it implies interaction, interest and debt wtf?
@@Chiamarx”as a European” is such an incredibly broad statement. Where exactly in Europe because I’ve travelled around many countries in Europe and plenty of them it was perfectly normal to buy strangers drinks in a club to talk to them
@@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986 italy Germany Switzerland England France it was broad because I am mixed
I never accepted free drinks from strangers. I'm paranoid of roofied drinks.
See you're wise enough to protect yourself
This was all I was thinking the whole video.
@@yawarapuyurak3271 one of them tried to act like they knew more on how to perceive a roofie to drink but honestly most are probably not caring
@@noblegalifreyan4551 a lot of my friends get drinks from strangers, thankfully nothing bad has happened to them.
@@Gabster1990 I'm probably going to say you should discourage that
I remember going to a bar during my college years and it was the first time really going out to the bar scene on a weekend. After 10 minutes of looking at this girl I mustered up the courage to finally approach her and asked her if I could buy her a drink, she smiled and said sure, then as soon as the drink came she just said "thanks!" and walked off.
I felt like a complete fool but learned a valuable lesson that night to never buy random women drinks 🤣
We all learn it. Imagine a woman walking up asking if she can jerk you off
Be smarter, figure it out the pattern that these women share among them and never fail to it again.
Im not a club guy but i never seen this.
(in France tho. So it's different)
I would’ve taken that drink right out her hand. Y’all weak out here lol
@@kyleetienne6799 You wouldn't do shit😂😂😂
I got out of that “free drink” mentality years ago. Because when a stranger buys you a drink it isn’t free. It’s a commitment to a conversation, interaction, physical contact and yes ALSO seen as “okay she accepted it so we gonna hook up, give a number or something. It basically came down to this simple fact for me, “would I sell any of the above for $12-$20 dollars?” Answer was no, so I stop accepting drinks from strangers. If you wanna know me ask me my name. If you want something from someone you give hoping you get in return.
Well said.
It's 2022, us fellas ain't approaching you broads no more. The "me too" weirdos ruined it for y'all
So true, you don’t even know if the guy is going to be aggressive towards you because he he feels like he gets swindled. So i rather sit out on that too.
Lmao it’s not a commitment, just take the drink and go. And if that person gets mad, just tell them they were foolish and that they were operating on a false premise.
@@mealovesyu well i saw a guy obsessively stalking my classmate, because he felt like she owed him sex after buying her a drink. Some guys get frustrated and physical. So i wouldn’t gamble on your safety like that. But thats just me, you do you.
Long ago when I used to go out to clubs I always brought my own money. I never expected men to buy me drinks.
I didn't even know men bought drinks! Until I watched this video.
Imagine if a man said “the women in third world countries are desperate, fly over there and take advantage of your wealth and power over them as a rich westerner”. People would rightly call that predatory so why isn’t this seen as the same?
That is what I want to know.
Simps
They already do that tho lol. Even in the west. Which is why I understand when women do this(specifically the ones who tell the guy up front they are not interested), if I have to deal with creepy men and being harassed when going out bc I am considered attractive you bet I'm gonna exercise the privileges that come with the negatives.
Because women can do whatever they want to men, just as black people can do whatever they want to white people.
When you adopt the image of the "oppressed", that gives you a blank check to do whatever you want to those you label as your "oppressor".
@@Amanda-ky7mo some men bad so i am bad, girl you were bad from the beginning, stop trying to excuse your behavior
Not the same scenario but applicable nonetheless.
I was in love with a close friend (already messed up there) who was in this 'on-again-off-again' relationship. She knew how I felt about her and even asked me to tell her how I felt because it hits different hearing it from a guy that loves her, as opposed to friends or family members.
I was her confidant, counselor, shoulder to cry on. I was on the phone with her listening to her talk for hours about life, how she wished her boyfriend or whatever was just like me. I was her 'yes man' and often 'lent' her money not even expecting it to be paid back, and in the times she did pay it back I would get her a gift.
I was and still am by no means a rich man, and I put myself in a bad position a few times because I would put her first. In the end, she was emotionally unavailable to me and yet I was practically her emotional boyfriend.
Now, I'm with a woman that feels like she's struck the lottery by virtue of just knowing me. I plan to propose to her soon and I've got to say, I couldn't have made a better decision than to let that simping relationship go.
And this wasn't a year of simping, this was nearing 7yrs before I told myself "I'm no one's consolation prize. Either they want me as number one or they don't." Changed my life.
Fellas, I know this might be a way for some sort of interaction between yourself and a woman, but if they say they're not interested or some variant, keep it pushing; no need to throw your money away by providing a momentary build up. Forgive my language, but it's akin to a ruined ejaculation; getting all worked up but when it comes to finally getting that release, you don't get it.
But if that's your thing, go for it. If y'all made it this far, hopefully someone learns from my mistakes.
unfortunately, every guy has to live it to understand it. Good try though but at the end of the day, bars are full, nightclubs make 10s of thousands of dollars and BMW/Mercedez benz will continue to sell cars because men will always try to impress women.
Never get emotional in front of a women, do it with your guy friends, since they understand the struggles of being a man.
It sounds like YOU learned from your mistakes. Best comment, brother. I hope you have a great marriage with that girl.
I'm guessing the girl you simped for finally realized she should've chose you after you got with your fiancé.
PRENUP
I use to have a lot of female friends in college just hanging around people who did all the parties. A conversation came up one time and a lot of the females there agreed how creepy it was for guys to buy them drinks and try to talk to them afterwards like they just expected them to buy the drink and walk off...My thoughts were wtf? The guy bought you a drink and you can't even give him a conversation?
It blew my mind at 19 that these girls just view these guys at the bar as a means to an end not even having the decency to talk to them or just tell them they aren't interested. The same logic can be applied to guys taking women out on these extravagant and expensive dates. A lot of them just wanna go out and have free food but have no real interest in the guy. But that also made me realize that most of these women don't require the guy they want to buy them food or drinks and that's why you should never simp.
I don't even know if you can blame girls for this. Guys are just so ridiculously desperate. Most of these ch1cks ain't even that good looking and they still get free drinks.
Young grasshopper, I don't think you grasped the complete lesson here. Understand: physical attraction is not equivalent to actual attraction. A woman can be physically attracted to a man, regardless of whether or not he buys her things. But for most women, their attraction to you can not be bought - that typically comes through conversation and showing genuine interest in another person's humanity. The drink or first meal is supposed to be an opening to help you get to know her. The men frustrated that women just take the drink and go usually lack the social skills to close the deal. Moral of the story: learn HOW to communicate with the opposite gender.
Then again, guys who think they need to spend money to engage with someone are no different than a guy who gives superchats to thots in the hopes she notices them.
They all simps, one just has enough shame to not simp in person.
@@drcatrinaking That's the point I was making. Many women don't require the guy to actually buy them anything but many men attempt to use drinks and gifts to grab gain their affection which clearly doesn't work and just leads to them being used. For the record I have never bought a drink for any of the women i've dated or made our first date too extravagant. It's usually been meeting somewhere to talk in person like a coffee shop or somewhere public like a pier. I understand that good social skills is definitely the necessary component and from my experience women that are genuinely interested don't mind going on a "cheap" date.
@@drcatrinaking pretty much exatctly what op said, nice try tho
My best friend from when I was teenager used to do this, go to a lot of dates for free dinners and stuff, always made me uncomfortable.
I don’t drink and at times it can be isolating being sober in one’s mid 20’s, but videos like this further my conviction in my beliefs.
I don’t drink either. I’d rather be by myself having peace of mind then be lonely with a bunch of people who I don’t relate to at all and thinking alcohol is the only way to have fun 🤷🏾♂️
Plus you save money and avoid a lot of dram
you're not missing anything, I quit drinking a couple years ago and my social life stayed the same
maybe find interest groups/hobby groups and socialize that way.
Keep going. You'll be way farther than those who drink to the point of hangover every weekends. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals, you'll have a good time without feeling isolated.
I like to get messed up sometimes. It helps you get over the pain of existing
One thing that I don't think is addressed enough in these situations is mental health.
I've met plenty of guys like this and after a lot of thinking, I realize they need help. Y'all are right. There's a power dynamic. And it's towards the fractured mental health of men that just might not know any better, and aren't fostered in society to learn. This is why the pick up artist community exists. Nobody wants to help these people get better. They're shamed for being bad at something they were probably never taught or encouraged to do.
The act of purchasing things for strangers, just for the hope of a positive interaction, has horrifying psychological implications. Using Only Fans as an example, do you think men purchasing used bath water and fart jars of strangers on the internet are stable mentally? Just examine that for a second. These guys need help, and instead, we shame them. We do so maliciously for our own amusement. I've been guilty of doing it too. We invite them to be ridiculed for spending money when they lack the tools needed to navigate socially. After watching this it's clear. We deserved Andrew Tate. I hate the guy, but he's a problem we created. And banning him was society rage quitting after losing so many matches.
Welcome to the 21st century
you're holding on still
just take your red pills and be done with it 💊
Well said 👏
well said
This comment should be pinned just for how important and underappreciated this wisdom is. Well said.
I remember once at the club this woman came to me and said : "Hey wanna buy me a drink?" Me: "Why? I don't even know you". She then proceeds to say: "What? You're going to refuse buying a drink to a pretty girl like me?" Me: "Yes." That was the end of that lol. I remember her being so shocked.
LMFAO thats so fucked up ahahah, these bitches are CRAYZEEEE
Went to a few clubs in college, and had a similar experience a couple times. A girl would invite me or I would go with some boys just to be social. Usually stood by the bar so I wouldn't have to walk back and forth to buy drinks, since all I did really was nurse a couple beers until my friends wanted to go. A number of times some girls would ask me to buy them a drink. I figured it was because I was sitting alone by the bar. The first few times, I just politely told them no. The first couple times, they all got kinda rude when I turned them down, or they would try to convince me like your situation above. I told one of them I'm just not interested, and she called me an ugly virgin and said she wasn't interested either. After that, any time a girl would ask me to buy her a drink at the bar, I would raise an eyebrow and purposely look down at her tits, then lean back and take a look at her ass, then return eye contact and say, 'Nah, I'm good'.
@@KingKrapper nice
@@KingKrapper 😂 thats amazing they think they are gonna play you and get a free drink instead they walk away with emotional damage
@@KingKrapper The entitlement is crazy. They’ll get rude right after they don’t get whatever they were begging you for
Buy her a drink, that's on you; you offered, she never asked. She asks, you have a choice; ask for something in return (you buy a round, she buys the next)
Some girls will try to hijack your bottle service drinks; tell the club you're being harassed and have security remove them from the vicinity.
We have a lot more power in our interactions with women in bars or clubs than we think.
I think the predator label is accurate to a degree. The Venus fly trap is an example of a predator that just sits and waits for it's prey to be drawn in by what it thinks is the allure of a flower... Almost a perfect analogy for these types of women.
Doesn't the Venus flytrap kill it's prey once ensnared? Women taking a drink from a person who offered willingly doesn't seem close to a comparison.
What is it called when men go to the bar often and buy multiple women drinks and expect sex in exchange for said drink? As we know the drinks aren't given out the kindness of men's heart as exhibited in the comments.
Except if I stick my chod in a venus fly trap it would feel better
@@greasy8394 lol I just pictured you doing that.
@@praetorian3902 you pictured a russian slav putting his thing inside of a death flower? Must be the vodka talking comrade blyat
Yoo I'm guna start calling those kinda girls FlyTraps now
My sister and her friends used to fake interest in guys to get free drinks back in the day, and she said there was nothing wrong with that.
I said, just like there was nothing wrong with the guys who faked wanting a relationship with her friends to fk them and dump them, and she didn't take this very well.
She couldn't see her logic being reflected back at her. 😁
excellent
💯... 🙂 Can't even be mad at that...
Friend I commend you but woman’s delusion has gotten so bad that even your own blood will try to defend this vapid practice even to the point where they nonchalantly perpetuate this behavior to each other so they can hurt men as well, it’s disgusting and a symptom of society going right down the tubes
Just like women fake the O😴
I was watching this video and then my neighbour came and we watched it together. He said that this video changed his life and touched his heart. I then went and rented a projector in a big field and all my villagers watched it and it changed their lives too. We all are so grateful.
Thank You for this video Aba & Preach
W.
@@23Eulogy23 obviously satire
Are you Amish?
this was the quickest setup and rewatch of a new video ive ever seen. skills indeed
That's good. I hope to make my fans happy through what I'm doing which is uploading vids based on improving themselves.
I would laugh when I would go to the club and I’d be at the bar ordering a drink for myself and a girl next to me will be like “are you getting me one too” or worse will say “GET me a drink too” and when I say “umm no I’m good thank you” they’re quick to talk shit and be like “if you broke just say you’re broke why you even come to the club for then” that shit always made me laugh like there are seriously some females out there that think guys are supposed to buy every girl a drink like nah you got it fucked up and I understand that it’s also the mens fault because the majority of them do..
They're broke and use men and they call you broke? 😂
Keep showing videos like this…We need more men to get this dose of reality.
I will make videos that will wake up more men ! 💯🤞🏾
Ricky Bobby no real man wants the Incel reality
As the only man here yall just need to stop crying n get a job, shower daily, and do strength training.. its not even remotely difficult to tell who these women are.. theyre extremely easy to avoid unless youre low iq and or desperate lol. Try not being a loser maybe
well yeah videos should be made as the reality is not all women are the same there are women that seem actually decent as if you watched the video there were a few women who said they buy their own drinks.
@@xMckingwill If you believed any of the women in this video who said that they would buy their own drinks, I have some beachfront property in North Dakota I can sell to you for a cheap price
I don’t know why but even when I was broke and single I felt really uncomfortable letting other people buy me anything especially if I wasn’t into them
Either because you're a normal person + you got empathy + you're not into selfishly extracting from others with zero care OR because you feel taking the drink is a contract/agreement, a bribe for which you'll feel obligated to do something you don't want to, even if it's a 5min talk. No one likes to be forced doing things he/she doesn't want to.
Those are the only reasons I see.
Same, but I know my reason. My step father would always give me gifts, and whenever he got mad he would take them away, or hang it over my head. So now when I get a gift from someone I feel immediately panicked.
Thanks, step dad!
@@ItsBunnyBuns Jesus. Then it's not a real gift if he takes it away as soon as he changes how he feels about something.
@@ItsBunnyBuns See a therapist, it helps.
@@ItsBunnyBuns oh, that's one pathological shit head. I'm sorry you encountered that.
Men, don't feel bad about focusing on yourself and being ruthless in the dating game today. THESE women are the reason why you should be a savage and not give any of them the benefit of the doubt or respect until they've earned it.
And don't expect any other women to help you in the process, as they are the last ones who would call women out on this behavior.
Preach 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
What is your definition of being “ruthless?”
Alright, my brother. It's time to focus on ourselves so good things can come to us. Stay blessed, king. It's time to change! I will blow up like Aba & Preach soon! 🧘🏾🙏🏾💯✨
@@StrengthInTruth dont take bs from women and learn to say no if it doesn’t benefit you
FACTS! I was schooling one dude about this recently. Like hommie dont be considerate with these women cos 99% of times, if you swap positions, they wont give AF when they chew you and spit you out.
When I was single I was never casually approached by men. It was nice to not be harassed but it also was a regular hit to my self esteem.
it always depends on how they perceive you too. If you look unapproachable, you don't smile/laugh etc. , you most likely won't be approached.
My experience was I was approached even when I didn't feel attractive or looked necessarily well put together, but men would tell me I have a sweet aura and a welcoming face.
@rafeek.9623 but if you do smile and act confident they don't approach you because you are intimidating lol. I had one guy approach me. He said you act so happy, nice and confident, you are lovely I was sure you had a bf, I approached because I was sure you were taken haha. I said no im so single. Make it make sense.
@@cha9165some guys just never approach girls. Ive only asked a girl out once in my life. She was already a friend, i already saw her naked and she straight up told me she wouldn't mind giving me a bj. Thats how much it took for me to believe she was interested in me.
And i technically never even asked that girl out. I made her guess who of our mutual friends i liked, and when she finally guessed herself, i looked her deadpan in the eyes and said yes.
I'm not really interested in girls unless i know them well enough so theres no chance im putting myself up for rejection by someone im not even sure i like.
Someone flirting with you isn't necessarily harrassment
They're shooting their shot and you have to acknowledge that
Sure, it might not be convenient but as long as they back off once you tell them to, it's not harrassment.
I remember going to the club when I was 18 (UK), first few times going out. Got talking to a girl at the bar, offered to buy her a drink. She said no, I said I don't mind and she gave me this pearl of wisdom.
"Don't buy a girl a drink until you have got with her, as there's no point because most likely she's not interested in you and only wants the drink"
Stuck with me and never bought a girl a drink after that until I knew she was interested. Just starting out in the club's, I thought that was the way to get a girl, mainly from watching TV shows.
God bless the girl that gave you that piece of wisdom. She was really looking out for you.
Alright, story time: I once went to a bar/club and approached a girl who I found attractive and that looked vaguely familiar (possibly seen her on college campus). I opened up with a compliment of her tattoo. We started conversing and she happened to get her work done by the same artist. Shortly after my opener her friend leans in and starts talking to her, I couldn't hear what was being said. Her friend then decides to interject, "It's her birthday, you should buy her a drink." I was shocked on how naive she thought I was. I stood there in silence for a brief moment and simply walked away from them to the bar. Know when to walk away gents 🍻.
The entitlement.....is that of the streets!
Gives credence to that saying "your single friends will keep you single"
Aight but you don't gotta reject a girl cuz she has a flagrant friend. Make a joke about it, turn it around on them "oh shit it's my birthday too! Guess we're buying each other drinks now!" etc.
@@sirondium don't know how long it took u to get such a clever comeback but it's good.
how do u do that??
@@sirondium Dude if she's dumb enough to listen to her friend when they tell her to lie to you than she ain't worth it.
In high school I had a guy who I was highly attracted to buy me a drink almost every single day. He was from another school but we were both in the same advanced art program at another school. He asked me about my favorite flavors one day, and from then on would just give me a sealed pop from the machine, like, "hey, I got your drink", and I would take it, and thank him, and he'd just...either talk to me for a few minutes, or smile back and walk away. I'd offer to return the favor, but he'd never accept, because he'd have already bought his, and he'd still ask me if I wanted one, or a water, or a juice, or anything else. It never went anywhere but easily could have. I guess he was just being nice?
As an adult woman, not much has changed. You are not buying me drinks, not even a coffee, if I don't like you. I won't accept anything if I'm not into you, unless we agree that I can pay you back, because there are usually intentions behind the gesture.
Compare that to my friend who wouldn't say no to anything... shoes, concert tickets, food, drinks, anything you wanted to give her, she would receive with open palms. I always just told her she was playing a dangerous game, but she'd never stop.
Maybe he was too shy to ask you out? Or he was just being nice.
I buy girls food and drink but we have to be dating.
I used to go out with a girl who liked to get as many dudes to buy her drinks as possible, I didn’t join in as it feels like leading men on and you never know what kind of stranger you’d be messing with who thinks one drink means they have a right to you. She’d get really drunk and I’d have to look after her and stop her going home with random men.
I’d usually get a sheepish thank you and a sorry the next day.
I’ve let men buy me drinks occasionally if we’ve been chatting a while or they are friends and in both cases if I accept then it’s because I’m happy to reciprocate.
Some men are quite pushy about wanting to buy you one and some get offended if you won’t let them which hardly ever gets mentioned on these things! It’s just the mating game; use your instincts and eyes to filter out the rubbish and men don’t listen to your dreamer penis 😂
@@MusMasi Yup, he wasn't just nice, he was to shy to ask, obviously.
@@sorrystilltrying5062 sometimes it's not that obvious, I had a friend (male) also in highschool that did similar things and he never let me pay but on his birthday I got cake for him and he was extremely happy, nothing ever came of that friendship, also you have to think about the fact that not all men are ready for a relationship or intimacyat that age and they shouldn't kick them selfs for not doing anything about "that girl" in highschool that liked you or was nice to you, just remember them kindly, my point is that men specially teens shouldn't feel the need to persue every positive female encounter, your not less of a man if you don't want anything but to make her smile.
Just a tip, women if your going to the club looking for a man looking to settle down and start a family your looking in the wrong place. Men that go to clubs most of them are only looking for one thing the other ones don’t understand yet what the hell they want.
My sister once said that. I told her “you dumb bitch good men don’t go to bars looking for wifey, just for the food” so she’ll overlook that guy for another that is inflating his ego.
Women aren’t going to the club looking for a man to settle down with FYI
We r going out to have fun, not to find husband, tf? Only guys are delusional enough they can find a normal partner in such a place full of drunk ppl
Even in college I felt like buying a drink for a girl immediately communicates to a woman “I don’t think I’m worth your time so let me give you something to make me worthy of your time. Your majesty”
Yeah, I wasn't and am not a player by any means but even I always felt on an instinctual level that that shit was pathetic. Don't know why dudes keep insisting on that shit.
exactly the same thing happened for me, it felt like I was trying to bribe her to talk to me
Sounds like bs. Guys take girls out on dates for their time and still get nothing. A drink > dinner every time. But I don't buy people anything.
@@joaor3357 because alot of women wont even look at men without a drink being offered. Even hot guys still have to have something to offer.
maybe its like male spiders who bring dead insects and other things to female spiders, like hey I bought you something to eat so please do not kill and eat me please?
Keep pushing topics like this. More people need to hear it. As my sons grow into adulthood, I worry about them just getting taken advantage of and played with. Some lessons need to be loved, not taught though.
REALLY teach your son's the ropes about getting played. Tell them only pay for coffee dates and that's it.
Why are we acting like men doing this so they can have a small chance at having sex with a drunk woman are morally better?
I think Preach hit the nail on the head. All men that buy girls drinks aren't necessairly desperate. But it's like a social thing like holding a door for a girl. And going to a club, no matter if you buy drinks or try to spit game, the chances of you getting her to come back home is like .2% no matter what you do. I've seen it. Been to too many clubs to know how it works.
Agreed
Even dudes that have their own section in those clubs buy all that stuff so chicks can flock there, and that's money. It's just socially acceptable for men to be used financially but women and a lot of feminists won't bring manipulation and stuff when it comes to that. In fact they'll actually encourage it because we gotta prove ourselves to them
@@champ7139 totally agree. It's not just a "desperate" thing. Men, in general, like to look big time financially. And yes, feminist will encourage women to take what they can from a man.
Spot on..
As a kid you’re brought up holding the door open for a woman which is remote of a habit ,buying drinks is a different subject because you’re spending your money on her not only that you didn’t grow up buying womens drinks as a kid so it’s not really a social learned custom just dudes not having the sense not to do it
I agree with Aba, the women out here accepting drinks from dudes they have no intention of hooking up with is knowingly taking advantage of others. It’s diabolical deep down to accept drinks from strangers knowing all they give is a conversation. Deceiving others for any type of gain is manipulation.
Golden rule, never invest any amount of yourself or your finances in someone who hasn't earned it. Your dignity has value. Don't diminish it
I think this video is hilarious. Women are so bold nowadays. One group of women told me to buy them drinks and I told them they have to ask my girlfriend who was about 10 feet away in a crowded bar. They were suprised that I didn’t just buy the drinks. This is such a wild phenomenon to me😂
😂😂 thank goodness I don’t go club and I don’t drink either
I still remember being out at a bar that our university sponsored a $1000 tab for. Needless to say, we all used the tab up very quickly, and when we started buying drinks, some girl I knew came up and asked me to buy her a drink. Keep in mind, she had a boyfriend at the time, I'd met the dude, and despite being a dorky loser at the time I knew better.
The look on her face when I told her no was priceless. She really had me figured for a chump.
It's ok to buy the drinks, long as u ejaculate inside their drinks before consumption
I had multiple women come up to me and asked to buy them drinks. I usually just look at them for a moment and turn away without saying anything :D They get so fucking mad
As a guy that doesn't drink. I've never been in the position where I would be buying drinks for a random stranger. Nor would I throw my money away for a random girl. I'd rather save that money for a vanilla bean frapp from Starbucks for myself LOL
If I'm buying a girl a drink we're probably already on a date. I never understood the bar scene as a way to pick up women when they have no obligation by you just buying a drink first.
@@noblegalifreyan4551 If it is a date, then I could understand that. Or you are out with friends. Normally if you invite friends out to do something, then you end up paying. But I would never waste money on a random stranger lol
Oh me neither. That money's going towards that Mango Dragonfruit refresher hahaha.
Lmao 🤣
@@raventalks3695 honestly I think people get it reversed for some reason when it should be buying the drink after you've already secured a date or have been talking to them for quite some time
They know that after drink 1 they can get a conversation. After drink two they have a better chance than before it
I’ve been married for 15 years, but if I ever end up dating again, I won’t be buying any drinks until we are already having a conversation that is going well. The drink is to keep the conversation going, not initiate it.
Even then she has to also buy you a round
Yes but for men if you buy 30women a drink and get sex from just one thats worth it .. $300
I've been married 15 years too, and I have a ex-con mentality " I ain't goin back in"
It is to initiate, the problem is the cynicism and lies.
If "Can I buy you a drink?" is the best thing you can think of to say to someone you've never spoken to before, expect them to assume you will buy them more drinks without taking a personal interest in you.
BJ upfront 😂
I get sex in colombia for $10
This is a way of getting into someone else business. It's literally how people get to meet each other: one offers a favor and now the other person payback the favor. If they don't want to get involved should reject the favor so they can stay even, minding their own business.
@@davipenha prositution is better
When I was younger and single and a lot prettier, some of my cousins and their friends would take me to the club with them because they knew I would usually end up with free drinks.
They would pay my cover charge and when it was time for drinks, they'd give me their money and their drink orders and send me to the bar.
9 times out of 10 when I would give the bar tender the order, there would be a guy asking if he could pay for my drinks.
I would say "I'm not going to sit with you, I'm not going to dance with you, I'm not going home with you, I'm not coming back over here to chat with you. I am not doing ANYTHING for or with you. Do you still want to pay?" Most of the time when I would say that, these men would still whip out their wallets and pay for the drinks or tell the bar tender to add it to their tab.
The first few times I was like "Haha, free drinks", because I didn't have a lot of money and liked saving my little bit of "fun money" for other stuff. Then I realized doing that made me a trash person, because these dudes are obviously lonely and desperate for female attention.
So I started turning down my cousins when they'd invite me to the club and they eventually stopped even asking me to go.
We had a girl like that in our friend group too the diffrence was she liked it ^^
I appreciate your integrity. Accepting a drink is accepting their interest. Accepting if there is no intent to consider is, as you put it, trashy. Sure, you are free to, but it isn't ethical or responsible. It is also inviting risk. Treating men like an exploitable, disposable resource is an invitation to be the focus of their bitterness... and invoking the ire of a stranger is an unwise die to roll.
@@christopherdriscoll6628 You got it exactly right.
@@tomt4588 lol brilliant
i swear your channel should be used as education. i bet if everyone watched all your content theyd be more self aware and more aware of the rest of the world around them. keep up the creating you guys are 100% always. respect and good energy sent to you both
Bro so true, would u watch videos of aba giving dating advice and flirtation advice?
@@moonknight4053 i guess lol they definitely would have more advice to give than me. i wouldnt jump at making them pick a topic tho the natural flow of topics they get to is good enough for me
I had a girl who asked one of my friends to buy her a drink and turned around and told us he was begging to buy her a drink like we weren’t in the same group. One of my other friends called her out on it and she acted like we were too harsh on her for seeing the BS. Pro tip, you may have an ulterior motive like a hook up when you buy someone a drink. someone is likely hooking up or is capable of hooking up with that person for free and doesn’t get any creeper/simp labels attached to them. It’s a new game. Only Buy drinks for friends and family.
Had two girls walk up to me and say they were thirsty and wanted drinks. Didn't even introduce themselves or ask my name or anything. I pointed and said there was a bar over there and walked off. Told guys at work about it and they seemed incredulous that I didn't do it. They said that's just how it is and you have to take the chance and I should have been happy to buy pretty girls drinks.
You did the right thing and those sheep deserve to get fleeced, the predator always go for the weakest in the herd and you ain’t having it
SSSSIIIMMMPSSS
Yeah fuck that I’d have done the same. I HAVE done the same lmao. Only time I might buy a stranger I wasn’t talking to already a drink would be if it was her birthday and I’m doing good financially. But dropping your hard earned money on girls just for maybe being pretty and asking is lame af.
The fact that they asked though...I ain't ever heard of that. 😂
You made the right move. You should also think about asking your boss for a promotion: you’re clearly smarter than your colleagues
I once had a guy come up to me and say "I'll buy you a drink if you have a cigarette with me" I told him I wasn't interested in him but he literally just wanted five minutes of my time to stand outside the bar with him and have a cigarette, he left before I was even finished with mine... It was confusing but pleasant
Lol maybe you established his alibi!
@@touger9759 Oops hahaha
He was into u but u were lame i think
@Anon he might have had smoking fetish.
the guy had to bribe you for a skerrick of attention for 5 minutes before he went home and joined the 80% sui cide statistic
The number of times I'd be hanging out with women I'm friends with, and they'd gotten enough drinks from guys already, they'd start handing them off to me. It was great. DONT BUY DRINKS FOR WOMEN, UNLESS SHE'S GETTING THE NEXT ROUND!
The only time I remember buying a woman a drink was as an apology when I accidentally knocked her over on the dancefloor. She was probably about 10-15 years older than me and when I bought her the drink, she started trying to mack on ME. How the turns have tabled!
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"How the turns have tabled" 💀💀💀
I remember in high school, a girl I knew had a boyfriend came up to me and asked me if I wanted to buy her a drink and I replied: "I know for a fact you have a boyfriend, buy your own drink or make him do it". The funniest shit is that she genuinely seemed impressed haha.
You act like her having a boyfriend did anything. Women are way more likely to cheat than men. Especially when drinks are involved. Men get called rapists for "taking advantage" of drunk women but drunk men are still 100 percent responsible for their actions, women on the other had have 0 consequences for any of their actions.
@@zachrohler1047 Statistically, men and woman cheat at equal rates actually. Although they typically cheat for different reasons.
Was she impressed by you you're saying?
The sick part is......she was.
@@zachrohler1047 I think that there is a certain scale of how drunk you are, there are some people who are somewhat drunk, but there still conscious to the point where they can make their own decisions, and then there are people who are “black-out” and can’t consent, or make their own decisions with a full though process.
To expand on the predator analogy, keep in mind that not all predators actively hunt their prey. Plenty of them sit and wait for prey to come to them, masquerading as an innocent part of the environment to lure their targets in. Vipers, crocodiles and other cold-blooded creatures come to mind. Be careful out there, lads.
Ant lion....
Although at least the prey gets sucked dry every time they fall for it.....
I remember watching that show on PUA with that Mystery guy who seemed to have a good response for the drink situation. If a girl asks you to buy her a drink, just say "How about you buy the first round and I'll pick up the second round?" Conversation is free and that's really the reason you're at the bar or club to begin with.
This one is for my boy, Preach. Not all predators pursue their prey. There is such a thing as ambush predators who use stealth, strategy and intrigue to capture their prey. These females use their looks to lure these sad saps in the club. It ain't that complicated.
yep, angler fish, snapping turtles even use lures to imitate prey to catch other predators and we as humans do it a lot, I learned to do that when I was 4 when I learnt how to use bait in fishing.
Crocodiles are the scariest predators IMO. They will wait for DAYS for the perfect moment and be RIGHT THERE when it happens.
I think these women are more like one of my favorite predators is the Venus fly trap, it looks good and attracts a small bug to land on it, then it snatches while it’s enjoying the nectar it produces and slowly digest while suffocating it to death, sound familiar fellas
I worked in a nightclub when I was in college. When people are drunk, they talk really loud, and I heard their conversations. Women go there to dance and get attention and free drinks. Guys are just ATM machines to club girls. Occasionally, one of their nasty friends will go home with Chad if he has drugs, but most of the time they go home alone and laugh at the simps that bought them drinks.
I've always said a $50 bag of coke is better than $200 in mixed drinks.
This hurts my soul on so many levels
@@Stop_Gooning HAHAHA damn its funny but sad at the same time
Sad shit.
That's why they deserve to be alone
Men who buy drinks for uninterested women are playing a part in a social scene just so they can have that tiny little interaction with women. Eventually, the well of goodwill runs dry and the dudes stop...but there are always more dudes who think they are "staying in the game", hoping things will change in that scene.
well I guess with only fans they at least have images to fap to I guess, though they can get similar material for free, so I guess the appeal is all about that tiny amount of interaction? That just sounds sad.
the bill cosby clip after she said i have the eyes of hawk was so perfectly timed
As a 5’4” male, it’s extremely tuff for me to get ANY form of female attention. Even if I’m just trying to be friends. It’s a cruel world we live in man. I used to be hella bothered, but it is what it is. I can still get a girl occasionally but yeah
Dont worry as a 6'1 male I also find it extremely difficult. Unless you are a 10/10 guy, most women will ignore you nowadays.
Hang in there pimpin, MOST men struggle. We in this together 🎉
Keep prospering out here here bro 💪🏽
im 5’1 at 18, honestly hadn’t really had a problem in the grand scheme of everything. you just need to be confident in yourself and get out of your comfort zone. talk to a lot of people. ive got blown off COUNTLESS times cause my height, but if a girl is gonna not talk with you purely off your height, that’s not the girl you wanna be with. my girl is slightly taller than me, and we’re straight vibing. and if I’m being honest, pulled myself a good one mentally and physically 👀
im not half bad looking so that works in my favor, but still. be a good person, be funny, treat her like an actual person, and you’ll stand out from the rest. be yourself and be confident
It’s all about status. Look at Big Ed from 90 Day Fiancee, that dude is 4’11”, with a neck deformity, out there slayin’ …. If he can do it, anyone can! That dude actually found a woman who agreed to be his wife and have his child (lovely daughter by the way).
This is why I always left my debit and credit cards at home when I went clubbing. I only brought enough cash for a few drinks. The way I see it... if I'm drunk enough to buy a girl a drink... then I don't need to buy another one for myself 🤣
lol I do the same.
That’s smart
Facts i only go to the club with friends and it’s mainly for the atmosphere and to let loose and just dance. I go maybe once in a couple months
Once in awhile i’d go there get laid then turn that 1-nighter into a f-buddy. I usually sneak my own drinks into the club. Cuz i refuse to buy that watered down shit at those marked up prices. Once i went to a club in NYC an had to pay almost 6 dollars for a bottle water i stopped that shit!
i carry a flask with 1/2 vanilla crown royal mixed with 1/2 rum chata that shit 2 good & smooth and taste like holiday spirit😂😂
And its to not spend too much money on myself, I can, or I use to be able to drink hundreds of dollars in one night, I had a high capacity usually.
@@MusMasi True, My point is also that the comments dont point out that its very easy for a guy to buy a girl a drink... when hes already intoxicated and his judgement is impaired. Of course buying a girl a drink is stupid... but when did drunk people do anything smart (especially guys)?
Now, its obvious in the comments many guys can handle their liquor better and say "no" when a girl approaches them for a drink. Still, with people like myself... the best way to handle these situations is to empty your wallet and make your money inaccessible before you step your foot in the venue.
I'm not even an average dude. Looks-wise, I'm below average. This only made it even easier for me. I knew I had NO CHANCE getting a girl at a club, so I never tried. I at least always left with my dignity. I danced, danced, danced or if it was a bar, I went to drink with my friends. Ironically, women landed up coming up to my friends and I, often because of the interesting conversation we were having.
Women are attracted to men who have a good social life going out with friends gives you a much higher chance of meeting a woman than if you went out alone
Yes, this is the way. You create an environment that they want to be a part of.
I'm proud of you
Accepting reality and finding solutions to move forward is the best thing anyone can do. Sounds like you figured it out man. There's nothing better than a strong bond between friends and family.
That's the thing, most women care a lot more about a man's "vibe".
I promise you, if you're comfortable with yourself, funny, interesting, dress well and put on some good perfume (smelling good is scientifically proven to make you more attractive), you'll be more attractive. Also, remember to think about what kind of person you want to attract. Don't you want to talk to a girl who's interested in the conversations you're having with your friends? Don't get lost in the idea that "only men who get pretty girls are cool" or some shit. Going on a date with someone you can't even talk to is boring as hell.
3:30 how much entitlement there is in these girls voices „FUCK NO“ 😂 gotta say thought they were probably drunk
All this mess made me realize that one of the most attractive qualities is selfrespect.
as someone that just finished school (MBA) I spent years dealing with college chicks on my campus and they would all tell us stories about guys that would buy them drinks, food, free car rides, and etc and they had zero intentions of doing anything with them... that's leech vibes to the fullest... then talk down on the men like they are so much more than they are. honestly the women here look worse than the "creepy men" they are referring too lol its crazy but this is what us men have to go through
I feel so uncomfortable when a man tries to buy me stuff when I know I’m that interested because I know they’re expecting something in return, whether it be my time or sex.
Well, you're exactly right. No guy buys a woman stuff out of the kindness of their heart, no matter what they'll try to convince you or themselves of. It's not an ''often'', but an ''always''.
Facts 🤷🏻♀️
You're mostly correct, they don't expect it, they hope for it. You can't really have an expectation if it only happens 5% of the time, hah. Guys wouldn't do it any more if they had such an low probability expectation.
So when you say "My time" you actually mean how dare this other human try to find a common ground with me to interact, that is CLUB, ALCOHOL, CONNECTION TO THIS PARTICULAR MEETING POINT..... and you CHOOSING to be, putting yourself in, and actively partaking in that situation is everybody else's fault but your own..... get the fuck out of here...with a load of free booze it seems...
My friend is a refugee, I've known her several years before the war though. She had no job, so I paid for our lunches and such when we'd meet. Out of politeness, because I know what it's like to have no income. What ended the friendship was that she'd fly to her friends in Poland and buy them gifts. Mind you, she told me she was crying she forgot my birthday last year. So, yeah, that was it. The end :)
They go to the club with $20, then come home drunk, and fed with $50
I've had a few chicks try chatting me up in line trying to get me to buy a drink for them. When I just order my drink, said goodbye and left, without getting her one, she just looked at me like I committed a crime. The faces at that time are priceless
I wish you had taken a photo lol, this stuff sounds crazy to me.
Having worked as a barback at a pub just off campus, I know all this all too well. I've seen guys spend way too much money on drinks for different ladies. I felt bad for them because I knew that whatever they were after, they'd get nothing for it.
Yup, spent over a decade working at a high scale resort. Saw and heard so many hoes get ready to go "bag some sap" for drinks, knowing they'd ditch him just in time to catch the hotel bar before it closes. Odd part is that it's usually the same guys falling for it every time.
@@GorditaSlim maybe its not that odd then if it always happens?
Ok thanks now wtf is a barback?
@@MusMasi Rape isn't that odd since it happens everyday by your logic.
(Not my opinion just explaining the terrible take)
@@vito413
Barbacks are the equivalent of a busser, except in the bar environment rather than the kitchen environment. The barback makes sure that bartenders have everything they need (like glasses, garnishes, stocked bottles, fresh kegs) at all times.
I would equate being an attractive women to being a minor celebrity. It's almost odd watching live how many people just turn their brains off around them and the power they have because of this.
The way I’ve seen it they only have to look moderately cute most of the time.
"average"
Yup Patrice O'Neal says this.
Bro.... Are you me? I literally say the same thing. Women are literally mint celebrities. You stole my line 🤣
3:24 She's a keeper. Actual self-respect with a hint of probably well-deserved caution.
18:44 Then the opposite. Ain't a single thought in that head of hers. Violently smashing her brain cells together to compose a sentence smh *my head*
Hearing Aba say “Aw Fuck” is like hearing the smartest guy in the room go “wait, is that right?” Like dude, you’re holding the bomb defusion handbook, we fucking hope so lmao
That delivery caught me off guard, and it was funny af.
For me who is way passed my clubbing days, offering a woman who I don't know to buy her a drink in a club feels like I'm just throwing my wallet at her and feel shocked she takes money out of it and walks away. Either strike up a convo and if she seems into you then its more natural than just throwing money out and expect something in return. I mean if you wanna throw money and expect a return, strip clubs and escorts will give you a return on investment.
You betcha!
Exactly that's what men don't seem to get. I'm not a prostitute. I don't owe you shit for buying me a drink unprompted that I didn't ask for
@@LipSyncLover come on. No one expects a blowjob for a drink. A conversation that could MAYBE lead into something if there is a chemistry. Or dance maybe. That's what most men are looking for. No one in their right mind would expect sex in exchange for a drink...
Zactly.
@@LipSyncLover I feel the same way about sex. If I have sex with a lady it is not a contractual agreement for me to stay around and be a father to any kids that come out of it.
i wanna thank you guys for these videos you put out. i’m not a man, and tbh i don’t even remember how i started watching your videos, either way my brother and i have been on such a decline relationship-wise, i haven’t felt any kind of close to him in years. but after i found your channel i feel like i do understand him more, and have been able to identify and start dismantle my own biases towards men in general, and because of that we’re growing close again. even if i don’t completely agree with his opinions (or you guys’ for the matter) it’s still valuable information to know and try to truly understand.
anyways, thanks. i hope y’all keep at it, you’re doing/saying important things.
You're a gem!
That’s amazing to ear
Just being willing to listen to another perspective is what the average person now is incapable of. Thank you for being the exception.
we need more people like you who are willing to look at other perspective of things.
@@briant7265 she's not a gem, she's just a lil self aware
Some predators in nature will lie in wait for their prey to come to them. You don't have to pursue your prey to be a predator.
Aba covered it well. It's different if you have been talking to a girl and dancing with her and you are already vibing and then you say "would you like a drink?" That's different from opening up with it.
It's funny how when women want a guy who makes 100k a year at age 21, it's completely fine. But when us guys want a woman who can cook a few meals, work a decent job, and not talk to a dozen plus dudes a day, we're too overly demanding and stop being so oppressive.
Women: you gotta be 6’4 tatted 0% body fat full beard 10 inches millionaire mansion 6 cars no kids and no hoes
Men: fair
Men:I want a woman that can coo-
Women: MISOGYNY! PATRIARCHY!
In what world is it okay for women to say that? They'll get dragged and get told they're not hot/young enough for that kind on salary.
Shit, I don’t even want that, I’m fine with us both working and doing shit at home as long as she’s attractive and fine with tying me up and riding me
So they want women who will work AND cook/be a homemaker? Buddy you can’t have it both ways. If you’re both working you share the other responsibilities.
That doesn't happen at all except for likr 1% of the girls
So when I was 21 I went clubbing with a group of girls I used to work with. When we were at the club a bunch of dudes approached them and they all offered them drinks. Every other drink was given to me because they kept getting offered drinks. Now listen when I say that at the beginning of the night I kinda felt bad for the dudes but as the night progressed I felt less sorry. I went home that night and reflected and decided never to be that guy. I never went clubbing again either.
It's not that fun tbh most people around you just getting too drunk and everyones yelling. Better to just invite some friends over for a kick back with some weed and a little drink. That's way more enjoyable and you don't have to try and compete with a bunch of other dudes to try to get into some girls pants. 👌