Response: 4 Reasons To Date a Single Mom... As told by a man.
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The 4 reasons listed in the article are:
1) Single moms are mature.
2) Single moms have Fruit Roll-Ups in their cabinets - at all times.
3) Single moms are very independent.
4) Single moms are patient, committed and loyal. - ยานยนต์และพาหนะ
Seriously I haven't seen such a crapy, trashy and useless video clips like this yet!
And you know what?! You don't even deserve a single mother to be with. Because you aren't men enough. Single moms are way strong and independent and that's the reason they don't need a man like you.
You should know that doing things around the house doesn't do anything with being with single mom or single women. It's men's job to do it!
So stop blushing!!!
Pinned...
+mary roman
This is such a female reaction :/ "Oh you don't want to date single moms? Well you don't deserve to date one!!!" It's on par with saying someone doesn't deserve eating a turd because they said they don't like eating turds, how is that in any way going to change their mind?
It's like how women will say you'll never find another woman like them when you break up with them. Yes, that's exactly what I'm hoping for, to never find a woman like you again.
that comment is so predictable, just more shaming tactics... bla..bla
mary roman that's exactly why single mums also can go fuk themselves..
Spouting that single moms are independent and that they don't need a man is what is destructive to the kids.This attitude is of a defensive nature, is not constructive, and is in no way conducive to the development of the children which, by fact, are going to be severely disadvantaged. All because of this toxic, ego filled self actualisation mantra which you will never feel the effects of, but your kids will.
Who's just here scrolling down through all the comments?
lmfao
You know it...
me
Aye, aye captain.
Yup.
1 pro of dating a single mom. You'll never make that mistake twice.
Maniac742 lol
Amen...good riddance. I have popped my own cherry on that one..
Excellent😂 true dat
Accurate AF
Word
I dated a single mom. What a total waste of time and energy.
This video is spot on. They are the least independent (more co-dependant). They are not loyal and will gaslight at every chance.
I gave a lot. Concreted her back patio. Fixed her broken fridge. Saved her $7,000 on a car by battling the F&I guy. Took her and her daughter on trips. And much more.. Much, much, much more.
Nothing in return but problems with her custody battle..
Like I said.. I learned a lot,
They are not loyal or monogamous.. They cheat and lie to get what they want for their kids.
That's the truth.
Alec Cox sorry dude but yeah extremely selfish. I didn’t financially give much my gut told me not too, this was before I was red pilled. Don’t fix women or their stuff just leave it how you found it.
remember these independent feminists constantly state 'DONT NEED A MAN! LET THEM BE INDEPENDENT THEN (ALONE)
You said that you dated one single mom. And next you say:' they are'. Are confused or you want confuse me???
Are you talking about your experience? Holy cow! Did you have so many girls with kids as your girlfriend. Wao!!! I have on only one question left: Where is the love??? So you gave everything, but you never got anything. I simply do not believe you. Why you doing this with yourself???
Or maybe she was just a shitty human being and that had nothing to do with her being mother.
Fellas, don't argue with the women. It is Your Right! to want a woman that didn't birth children for another man. They need to understand how big of a deal it is. Most of the women would never give you the time of day if they didn't have kids. They don't want you, they want your help.
Charles Lewis Men have every right not to want to date a women with children. You however are an idiot for saying just because women have children they will take anyone that they wouldn't before. Not saying that there aren't WOMEN in general that would do that, but that does not go for all single moms. If anything we want real men who respect women and have real goals in life. That's what any real single women or women with kids wants. Not any of the uneducated clowns on here putting women down because they are moms.
Cliff Cliffson I'm done with arguing with idiots. I'm bored now yaaawn
Charles Lewis .
Charles Lewis
I agree, I don't want left overs, but don't resort to name calling here.
I just left a woman I loved very much because of her 3 children. I paid for 80 percent of the household bills... 95 percent of the 18 trips taken in 3.5 years.. and countless other things. She gave 70 percent of her take home pay to her adult sons, and the other 30 percent went for some bills and her cigarettes. When i put my foot down finally, i was told take it or leave it. Needless to say I left it, and im the one with peace in my life, more money, and my 3800 square foot home. Never again.
Lucky - just 3 years. I was 8 years, and big mistake.
Me two months peace
Nothing worse than a woman who actually works , bit does contribute. Next !
I don’t have to go through this.. but I did had a single mom liking me at work and she even said there were other guys proposing to her…. I feel bad for the guys who proposed to her. Cuz i don’t think they knw the crazy madness they will stumble upon. How oblivious. And I’m the one with the 2500 sq foot house. Have a job. And just enjoying life and taking care of myself. No need to complicate things with the single moms fellas.
I have dated a single mum, and I'm not going back for more. Never again. That's like breaking back in to Alcatraz
Lol god damn!! 😂🤣
😂👍👏
Azrael then you must have a problem if you can’t get a single woman with no child
😂😂😂😂😂stupidly giving up your freedom
Maybe try a woman with or without kid, but never a mother.
In my experience, single mom's oftentimes are so occupied with work, kids, and dealing with their ex's that they make themselves totally unattractive to me. I want a woman who has time for me to be able to build a strong bond.
Oftentimes, fighting with an ex is an immediate red flag.
You seem needy
Rain s needy? For wanting to bond with the women you’ll potentially commit to? Yea ok. If she’s to busy for you why even put in the effort and resources?
2400 Chris_ obviously y’all aren’t men if you don’t want to bond with her and a child you may be involved with. Isn’t that immaturity and selfishness? You guys are boys not even close to real men. Everyone’s book is written differently.
Rain s Interesting how a man is only a “real man” if it benefits a women. I’m sorry your still stuck on that bias “real man” mentality.
Most men want to get to know a women first. Then bring a child into a relationship. So I’m not a “real man” for not jumping into a ready made family? You must be a single mom or your related to one. Your a little too naive to comprehend the world around you.
"I can buy my own fruit roll ups"
-Entrepreneurs in Cars 2016
fuck that shit!!
Dating single mom's is like continuing someone else's saved game. No fun from the start.
That's hilarious, you didnt even get to see the epic ass beginning cutscenes or story elements,
you just straight up fighting some hard boss, don't know the controls either, because you also missed the tutorial stage.
Richjunior1 ... agreed as a step mum!!!!
Jane Baker i guess it highly depends on the person and how old the kids are. for me everything is working out perfectly so far. bf has a 5yo. he is such a lovable uncomplicated little boy+i'm good with kids+there is no drama with the mom. there has never been any kind of conflict. i love him so much and can't wait to see him grow up and support him in any way i can.
Great analogy!
Gustavo1 100%
Right on Gustavo1
If you date a single Mom get ready to hear this phrase quite frequently; “Hey, before we go out can you just help me with something real quick?”
Your weekend will then vaporize after hours of manual labor….
Yup
It is amazing to hear other men experiencing the same exact thing. Maybe we need to form a support group? LOL!
Brian Garrigan With me it was watching her kid while she did her chores and watching a movie with constant interruptions then past out w her kid.
Fuck that.
@@VAEnvironmentalist omg. So much truth. Lol "I deserve to be happy" haha
I broke up with I single mother once because she told me that she was going to break up with me if I didn't go back to college. She was shocked when I dumped her.
Damn that bitch for trying to help you better your life.
@@veronicaguerrero8383 I actually agree with the single mom but college can leave one with crippling debt.
Veronica Guerrero Threatening someone is not how you help them better their life. Imagine this, he goes back to collage, takes on a couple thousand in student loans, then she leaves anyway.
Dude dodged a bullet, don’t let anyone threaten you into doing anything.
@@carlkpsplucky5554 dodged a bullet only to be shot by another bullet (loan)
Fuck that bitch and you did good👍
More mature? Really. I see all kinds of single moms out partying and drinking making fools of themselves.
Yep totally agree
They are perpetual teens well into their 30s, 40s, and even 50s. Controlling, insecure, and volatile, they are the LEAST mature people.
Yes they are single moms because they are HORRIBLE in relationships. Mouthy bossy and now made a few mistakes with unprotected sex.
But you can not see the good women who are working hard and spend time with their children. Because you are chasing women in bars. I never could meet this kind of guys.
@@bluesapphire7548 I live in very different environment than you.
I've dated two single moms in my life. Everything you've said is absolutely true. The good moms will always choose their kid over you. The ones I dated had very little time to establish a relationship or rapport with me. Most single moms are broke as a joke... and a huge financial drain... wanting you to pay for everything including her bills.
OKAY GREAT Wow, 2 single moms. What experience and knowledge you have with single moms. There are so many guys with no cars, no jobs, no kids, fucking warrants up the ass, no goals what so ever that get foodstamps and try living off of single moms and women period. Should I assume that all guys are like that? Let's put all guys together in a deadbeat group. Shall we?
OKAY GREAT Yes, women should always put their kids first. But a real woman can and will make time for everyone. And men who date single moms already know who comes first. So don't date single moms or maybe date the ones that will choose you over their own children. Stop bashing single moms and go somewhere else with your bullshit
Diamond Star No all the guys are not like that. All the guys YOU dealt with are like that. Obviously he had no prospects so he used you.
And you not learning from your mistakes continue the nonsense. Woman face it you fucked up your sex market value by choosing the worst men humanity had to offer.
In ancient times men like the ones you fucked with would of been killed. Either by nature or the community leaders would of stoned them to death for being a drain on the society.
Luckily for you the modern world government not only allows men like this to live and procreate, BUT encourages men to be this way.
Why? Population control. The more they weaken men the less likely they will revolt against injustice. I mean seriously. How can a man who can't even flex his power against a lowly woman fight the ills of society. Answer: He can't.
And you bought into the social programming tsk tsk tsk. Sleep in the bed you made.
@Diamond Star You're correct, not all single moms are the same as I'm describing. There are exceptions to everything. But the Majority of single moms can be grouped into that bucket.
evilabear, that ain't the worst of it... wait till you get a blood test... hope what ever you caught is curable
If wealthy men won't take them then don't expect regular men to do it.
i have no comment, lmfao 100% covered correctly,, the article should have been 4 reasons not to date a single mom
Thx brother
if you had any women any your life you would do these things. you talk on your experience. everyone has not been threw what you have. you need some help.
Amen EVELYN WILLIAMS. . .
Evelyn Williams and SheMeHer - You wrote, "you talk on your experience. everyone has not been threw what you have. you need some help". He has talked to many men who have gone through similar, and also exactly the same things he has gone through. He has read about many men who have gone through similar, and also exactly the same things he has gone through. To expand on that, he and I have never spoken or communicated in any way, however, I have gone through many of the exact same things he has in regards to single mothers. You seem to be rather upset about this, I wonder why that is. To quote Hamlet's mother " "The lady doth protest too much, methinks." You may be the person who "needs some help".
Strategic Thinker Lol
single moms like to be aggressive in bed because it gives them a sense of revenge toward their ex.
That right.
That actually sounds like an argument in favor of dating single moms lol
Another great video, and absolutely right. I'm 46 and dated a 24-year-old single mom for a couple of months, and she was an absolute unorganized mess. There was always some kind of crisis that she needed a solution for that I felt obliged to help with because she was hot and easy, and I'm very organized and truly independent. The ones I have dated are completely dependent on men or the government. Too bad I didn't discover your videos before I talked to her, and I was thinking with the wrong head. These chicks are like the mythological sirens who caused Greek sailors to crash their ships into rocks while focused on them. Never again!
Club, come on, you are 22 yrs older than her, she aint even long out of school so what do you think she want to be with an old guy for ?( and at 22 someone of 46 is old) Seems like a kind of mutual agreement, she will let you bang her because she is hot and you then sort out her dramas and crisis. Its an exchange with pretty basic motives both sides. You already know you were thinking with your dick not your head, so why any surprise. If you were looking at it any different than being able to bang a young chick, then you must have been fooling yourself.
My guess is that is exactly what he went into it thinking, but realized the sex wasn't worth the crazy after a couple of months. I don't care how hot they are, after a while it's just not worth the crap that they put you through.
@dcosb09 i am a woman and i do care about age... so... maybe you are overgeneralizing when you say women dont care about age xD
I guess the second one were 18 and by this time you were 50 and you come here and cry that your relationship did not work. I am so sorry for you and cry with you. Next time try to chose an ugly virgin and you never can get rid of her, haha!!!
Lmao men always lack common sense. This is the main example. You’re almost 50 😂 You’re mentality is a complete mess if you really believed being with a 20 something year old is the good way to go. You’re old and stupid.
I was with a single mom. This video is 100% accurate. Actually, it's like a recording of my previous life is being played back. Incredible. And sad.
For men, it depends on how old you are and what you want......if you only go for looks, you will only get a nice face and a potentially ugly soul.
Did you see what a guy said above? The mum with kids never had time for him, but he tries push himself again nd again.
My advice to guys who hate 'single mums, marry ugly virgins.
Thank you for that that is true same goes for women, it is a sicl world we got out here.
@MiniKun-t How do you know that? Are you an ugly virgin???
I almost settled for dating a single mother. She's a friend of mine who had been flirting with me for awhile and I guess I started liking her because she was the first woman that ever gave me that kind of attention and actually saying I was attractive. We never went out and I'm glad I moved on from that fast.
Horrible with money,and always looking for a guy who can give her and her kids more of his resources,blow their money on fun time and then come to the guy their seeing for the necessary things like gas,food and housing expenses..not mention they are emotional wrecks and play the victim constantly and no matter how much shit you do for her kids they'll turn on you in an instant..been there done that,leave it alone gentlemen it's not worth the trouble
J Luke this is Exactly what happen to me. Word for word.
Lol....seems you have meet my ex
How sad that you had this experience.
Im a single mum.
I try to be as Independent as possible and pay for help if too difficult.
Try to live within my means.
Look forward to meeting a kind gentleman with whom Id feel safe with and would be fun company for 3 children that I have every second week.
I enjoy talking about many topics and like company.
Im a normal woman who hopes for romance whether Im a single mum or a single woman.
Im fairly christian so in no way promiscuous??
My ex left because he didnt like my mother who visited about 4 times a year.?
oh well.
One of my friends was desperate and miserable and kept dating single moms. It was non stop drama. I gave him this same advice and he has been a lot happier!
Single moms are initially independent, as soon as she settles and discover your financial strength then she becomes as dependent as a typical woman.
Single moms are way strong and independent? That’s why she’s so angry and upset that this man is teaching men and warning them about single moms? If she’s so independent and strong, why so upset this man won’t date her . 😂😂😂😂
Single mothers = more baggage than the baggage claim at LAX
Good moms wouldn't have fruit roll ups. Terrible parenting right there.
ok that's funny
Good point. One good thing about dating a single mom is you can see if they would make a good mother. Spoiler alert ... They wont.
I pay a lot for braces to even have that junk food in my house
This man speaks the truth
opeth dude. A real man will not waste his time to express is opinion behind camara,he will look you in your eyes
noreen perez
so by your definition, every man who makes a video on youtube expressing his opinion about anything is not a real man?
What do you want him to do, fly out to every country, knock on every door and stop every person walking on the street to ram his opinion down their throats?
interesting logic you have there.
5tonyvvvv SO ARE SINGLE FATHERS
Lola Amazon actually, no. Single fathers are much more independent. I’ve seen stories of both, and so far, the single fathers have a better time than single mothers.
on my experience single moms has many in love and conditioned male friends for when they can use them, for backup
This is true 💅🏾💅🏾 I do
This is a very underrated comment. Very true.
Facts
Reading the women's comments full of anger and bitterness, it seems the truth still hurts. It's almost impossible to find a women who could admit she's wrong. So sad
Iskandar The Great You're reading the comments of women that are pissed that this ignorant moron id saying all single moms are the same. The truth hurts? No, lies and being put in to a certain group because you're a single mom is what's pissing women off. But why we are letting a bunch of uneducated ignorant idiots (who have no chance in hell with us) is the real question.
Wrong decisions yes, good intentions yes. I have no problem saying what I did wrong however I see how a person has wronged me too. Why would anyone give up a loyal woma? I didnt nag i made dinner for him, worked...what more could a man want? Im confused on this what more did i have to be?
@IceMan24 People can make bad decisions in life, learn from it, grow from it and do better as a result with higher standards to keep it from happening again.
It's like serving a time in prison for the crime you didn't committed 😂😂😂...
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I was married to my husband for 10 years and he left me. Being a single mom is not something I ever wanted to do. I hate going to sleep alone at night. I don't bring men home. Since I'm a minister, I dont bring men home at all. It has been a struggle. My father has been gracious to teach me to find myself and learn who I am apart from the relationship I was in. My kids are 4, 7, and 11 - AND I don't tolerate direspect from them toward any adult. I understand where you are coming from, and your experience was unfair. I watch these videos to learn more how a man thinks and how can I better prepare myself to be a better woman. Also, my kids can be A-holes, I'm not blind to that. My father and mother taught me to put a husband before the kids, and most women don't agree and it's also very difficult to do. What is your advice to single moms who don't want to fit into this idea that we are needy, or what can we do to be better and independent, but still make a man feel needed and wanted? Thanks for these vids.
When having kids from another man the quality of men you can find is very low-mainly guys who only want night stands or something temporary while they find a woman who has less baggage-that being said if you still find a man with good intentions and he can provide a descent life let him lead,men of value dont like bossy women-he is the man of the house,your kids need to see him as the man of the house,otherwise they wont respect him and the relationship will end up very soon. Bottom line-having kids from a previous relatiobship will lower the value of men you can get-cause men with their lives together dont want to deal with another men's children,they want to have their own. That's the ugly truth.
@@babyboy8597 that is true. I don't ever see guys who dream about becoming a step father one day and raise another man's kids
Wishing you the best in health, wealth, and happiness. I hope you recover quickly from your recent surgery and enjoy the best health possible for many years to come
WOW. I have ALWAYS told everyone IF I dated a single father, he would HAVE to put me before the kids. But there are more cons than pros and it will never happen. EXTREMELY impressed by this.
Wow...Finally, a woman with some sense. I personally don't care if she puts her kids first. It's understandable. But would you choose your kids' bad behavior over your partner?
All I am asking is, be reasonable, logical, practical and fair.
For example, if you had planned a date night 2 weeks before and is ready to head out, your teenage son asks you to drop him in his friend's place so that he can have an impromptu sleepover or play games.
Would you choose his bad behavior or be reasonable and fair and tell him that He can't go because he didn't tell you ahead of time and you have a date to go to?
Your brutal honesty is hilarious but wise, I appreciate the content and enjoy your advice bro. Thanks.
Dating and married single woman was the biggest mistake in my life , end up dealing with a DEVIL ....
I love single moms as people. My dad died early and so I was raised by a single mom as well as by a single aunt when she passed away. So, I've come to appreciate them as people, but not as someone I would potentially want to father children with. You will NEVER come first...EVER. I recently dated a single mom and I don't want to repeat that experience again. She cancelled on me at the last minute due to "babysitter issues." Always talked about her ex too and the drama of them getting separated.
Dude the same thing happened to me with the babysitter issues
I've dated a single mom, and everything you said is true. No time for me, I was always the last thing on her mind, Always repairing stuff, and when things got tough (her workload & kids issues), I was the first thing she dropped because she needed to breath. So no more single moms for me. P.S. she divorced her husband because she always knew he wasn't the right man for her. (?lol)
Mine was similar, was plain sailing till she got into a bit of stress and shit and she dropped me like a bad habit
Do not have anything more than a short term sexual relationship with single mothers. Don’t get emotionally invested and don’t meet the kids. It’s a GIANT waste for any man.
Agreed- made this mistake
I am a single mom and I agree with everything you say except the fact that we are not independent, or maybe I can speak for myself...I am very independent...I have been divorced for 11 years, my daughter was 9 mths old, I have changed careers ( I'm a Dental Hygienist now, former RN), I have bought and sold 5 houses, installed a kitchen (IKEA) by myself, I mow my lawn and snow blow my driveway, I fix whatever I can fix in the house by myself, if I can't I call my contractor...and so on and so forth... But I get that not all single moms are like thatHaving said that however, would it be nice to have a little help ? Perhaps...Oh...and I don't have any fruit rollups in my pantry ...poison for your teeth..lolCheers
Gabi5312 I'm glad you have done so well but, you don't seem to understand statistics. You, yourself, do not represent MOST single mothers. You are way "outside the bell curve". So, according to the stats, single moms are not independent as per WIC, food stamps, alimony, child support payments, etc.
gabi5312 you do everything, cause you don't have a man to do it all for you
I have always been the one supporting the family monetarily, assembling bunk beds, doing yard work, laundry, sharing in the cooking and patching up holes in the walls...The neighbors would ask me why I was doing all that if I had a man to do it. My only reply is that I enjoy being productive. I am now single and I love it. I understand that many of the things this man (in another video) had said about dating single women is true, but there are so many single moms out there who don't expect to be taken care of, pampered or expecting to have someone fix their life or play father to their child(ren). Also, just because a woman is a single mother does not mean that she has given up on her self progression and aspirations. I am back in school after my divorce. I do not blame my life on my exs and feel thankful for my past and past decisions. I have no time in my life for dating and no desire to be with anybody, but if I did, I know that I still have powerful attributes which would render me worthy of a serious suitor.
gabi5312 you're one of a kind but the other single moms like getting smoked and poked
gabi5312 cl
I think single mom work best with single dad's. Specially if their kids are in the same age range. Also I don't agree with you complaining about doing things to help your partner which is a single mom. If you love someone you would do things for your partner and she would reciprocate in different ways such as cooking, cleaning or whatever for you. I have been with some girl who are not single mom's and they also expect you to do everything for them.
omnivisiontv common sense has spoken 🙌🏽
Exactly !
we're going to see a lot more lonely old women in the future.
They won't be lonely, they have cats...
I have been too involved with my husband and our two boys to know much about single moms but I will share this; whenever I meet an unmarried woman over thirty, I am shocked at how alone and bitter she is. Cat ladies, hectoring harridans, and screaming me-me's abound. I can see WHY they are so unhappy; they cannot see another person's point of view. It is terribly sad to see their sad state.
Sigh, i am lonely 😂 and i wish i have cats😌. I hope i pass this level of feeling lonely and be contented to where i am. Good video. It makes me realize marriage, divorce or relationship don't guarantee a person's happiness.👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
No person without a kid should date/marry someone with kids unless they somehow feel they cannot go on without them. Life is not as simple as it seems.
4 Reasons to NOT date a single mom, ever.
1. With the notable exception of widows, everyone that is a single mom, is so by choice. Meaning she is either a bad judge of character and had kids with a total scumbag or she is so insufferable that an otherwise reasonable man chose to leave his family rather than put up with her shit.
2. She will never see you as anything else than a source of income and support for he and her kids.
3. You are not the kids real dad, she will never sure you know this. She will use you for all your worth but will make sure that you have no right to discipline the children. They kill never respect you.
4. As with any woman, as soon as a better deal become available, she WILL leave you. If regular women as hypergamous by nature, single moms are like the ravenous starving wolves of hypergamy. It doesn't matter what you did for her and her kids, as soon as your output declines or something better comes along, she will jump ship.
You mastered , excellent comment
Brilliant
Maybe there are exceptions, but the following is a rule. This is a response to one of these videos on why to date a single mom.
1) She is not independent. She is looking for a good-sized wallet so she can move her 3 kids out of her parents' house. She will live her life on your dime and she has no financial sense and will spend every penny on her own interests leaving you unable to pursue your own. Any protest by the guy footing the bill and you're "putting her down". She's quite selfish.
2) She's not well-rounded. She has a lot of interests and will pursue them without educating herself. She will ignore science. She will ignore the work of those who preceded her in her chosen endeavor and act like she knows it all after doing her particular activity for two weeks. If you see others who are involved in the activity making fun of her and you try to approach her and recommend that maybe she should educate herself a little more before pontificating on the subject at hand, you're "putting her down".
3) Yeah, she's flexible...at using her position in a relationship to get you to do things you normally wouldn't do and give up the things you were doing when she met you. She does her expensive thing and needs more money? You sell that '67 Mustang you spent 5 years restoring. You quit fishing because she includes you in her obligations without asking you and she starts taking up all your free time. So, you sell your boat to make up more for her expensive endeavor. She quits her job and fraudulently collects 99 weeks of unemployment and berates you when you tell her she's being unethical. You're "putting her down" again. Now, all of your money is tied up in her endeavor so you relent and get involved in it with her. You educate yourself. You enter public competition in that endeavor. You make some changes to her program and it starts to succeed. You begin outdoing her and people start coming to you for education. Well, you just took over that one thing that was HER'S you sorry piece of shit.
4) She doesn't roll with the punches. She throws punches because she's now a pilled-up, boozed-up volatile ball of violence. If by "she rolls with the punches" you mean she won't take any financial responsibility or won't take responsibility for her own actions, including lies and her poor parenting...she just brushes off the effects of her long string of poor decisions (which you have to deal with), then ok...you got me.
5) Yeah she's looking for long-term. Her biological clock is ticking, you have a decent-sized wallet, a nice cock and she knows her chances of trapping a guy for the long-haul once she hits 35 will start to dwindle. She WILL in fact play with your feelings, but she will stop playing with your dangly bits. She is a master manipulator. Yeah she knows what she wants. See all the above.
6) She'll love unconditionally? BULLSHIT. It comes with conditions alright.
7) She has a sexy appeal because she has to. Se all the above. She didn't get good with her mouth by not running through a lot of men to get to you.
I've been married to this former single mom for almost 20 years. She has repeated the same pattern of behavior that led to her last divorce. She is 50. I am about to file for divorce. It does my heart good knowing that she will be desperate, run through what limited choices in men she will have after me and wind up old, ugly, poor and alone. I will be able to get back to saving for retirement, working hard and doing things I enjoy. I will enjoy returning to chasing skirts, spending time with my adult children and their families, and will just enjoy life in general until time for my dirt nap.
Guys, single moms can be fun to date. Wrap it, or, better yet, have a vasectomy AND wrap it. Have fun with her. She'll be fun as long as you're dating and she thinks she has a shot at a long-term thing. She's pretty raunchy in bed, has probably run through a few guys so she has experience. Be open to things and make sure she's satisfied. As long as you're just dating her, it'll be a lot of fun. Do NOT put a ring on it. You will pay for that shit for the rest of your life or until you've decided you've had enough. There will be severe financial consequences and your sanity will be stretched to the limit if you do.
All that just to say, "Hell, NO!"
So diving in to relationships with a single mom as a first try is a bad idea. Thank you for the enlightenment. Now, if only my logic would not be completely suppressed by emotion every time I talk to her ...
Started talking to one a month ago. And now I realize whatever attraction she had when she gave me her number is gone. In the end, I dodged a bullet. Two different fathers with three kids.
The only thing that I would take issue with is the maturity level of single moms. Maybe compared to teenagers, but most of the single moms that I have dealt with had immature attitudes about the very things that you mentioned. I dated a couple of single moms when I was single, and dealt with them in a professional capacity as a police officer. If they weren't dealing with baby daddy problems they were sorting out relationship issues with multiple ex's, and the majority of them tried hitting on me or my partners because they saw strong, fit, gainfully employed men that could take care of them and rescue them from their poor life choices.
1. Mature.. Who cares. when the relationship won't work for whatever reason anyway.
2. Fruit Rollups - Plus for me. Definitely more important than so called maturity when the relationship won't work for whatever reason anyway.
3. Independent - that's a Joke. What the hell do you think you're there for?
4. Patient committed or loyal - than why the hell are you there? Why not with their child's dad? Whoever wrote that was a jackass or trying to sell something.
The only reason women leave men is because they want another man.. All the Time!!!!! No matter what excuse they give you!!!! They are experts at lying and giving really solid excuses.
Dating a singlemom is like spending your life in jail for a crime you did'nt commit
I'm with a single mom rn and I wasn't unsure about us at all, she gives me arguably more attention than the kid (7y/o). She was cheated on and left, not married. Independent and mature for the most part. We spend a lot of time together and the only problem for me is that I really fucking love this girl and just seeing the child makes me kind of sad bcoz I really want it to be from me and not some deadbeat but her having a child with someone isnt a reason for me not to love her
What's your advice? Im in same situation
@@robbenvanpersie1562 hey mate, i broke it off eventually. She ended up just being super manipulative and if you step back its much easier to notice. Better to move on and not constantly bear a huge burden just cuz u like someone, there's a ton of girls out there who u can like without having a thorn sticked in you at all times. Its a tough move to end it all but it's for the best, I don't have anything negative weighing me down all the time.
@Stefan Shin Gosh, I was about to reply to your 3 years comment to tell you it's ALL about MANIPULATION, and then I saw what you replied to Robben Van Persie, what a relief!!
I'm sick of seing men being screwed by women, I hope Robben van Persie did't fall into that trap.
I lost my wife to cancer. Been doing the single dad thing for over 8 years. I've found there isn't anything a woman can do for my children that I haven't been able to learn. And my kids aren't snowflakes because I don't shelter them from life's consequences. they are both very capable and I think it's because my "dad love" is doing what's best for them to train them in life, not what makes me feel good like I see so many women doing with their children especially as they age.
Thank you!! finally a positive comment. I’m a single mom and have not YET ASKED ANY MAN FOR ANYTHING because I provide for my son including a GARDENER and all the hell I may need. Not sure where these men on here have been Dating but god they are bitter 😁maybe they should be more attentive and chose better
@@dolly4446correct, choose no mom of other kids anymore.
@@honor9lite1337 it works both ways some women including myself don’t want inexperience men. I mean why take another child
If she has fruit roll ups, it's because you bought them! Lmao
AMEN, brother! Great points (especially your last one, which applies to ALL women, not just those with kids). Anyway, I can think of *no* reason to date a single mom. No way!
If you want a childfree woman, be a childfree man.
@@BarbaraJustBarbara Yes!!!! Couldn't agree more.
It is ok to date single moms just don't get serious and don't get involved with her kids. No one says you have to move in with them, that's the big mistake! Go out on dates enjoy each other's company and leave it at that.
Both of the single moms I've been in relationships with (married one of them) cheated on me once they weren't excited about the relationship anymore. I'm not saying ALL single mothers will cheat but it's also silly to say that they are more loyal than anyone else.
Once things start to change in a relationship, then that means the party is over and time for you to leave before she does
A lot of men never ever dated and picked any single moms but finally helped the single ladies became the single moms . That's amazing , isn't it ?.
@Mi Ku So people and their society are always respecting and giving their men 100 % of their legal right to dream and sleep around no matter it's essence of life or not . For No man , no game !. Work hard , play hard ! Happy wild , happy life ...!.
@Mi Ku Almost the single moms were created by their unhappy marriages as the unwanted results , another number couldn't take control of their lives in their own relationships , as the final outcomes men proudly gave out products to life made their women and child become those very exclusively free gifts and bonuses .... Who will then need to change ???. Who is doctor WHO ?.
OMG do not date a single mother, period, end of discussion.
I'm 55 retired never married ,and I totally have my shit together. Believe me it's slim pickings out there. Met a woman 10 years my junior is pretty awesome and has two kids 15 and 10. Can't even get a first date with her even though she says she wants to go and has cancelled once because she couldn't get a babysitter but offered me a rain check. It's already becoming a pain in the ass. I told her to contact me once you have some time.
Watch the vid I did on the truth about dating single mums, it's not easy.
dennqus1 .. retired at 55!!! wow well done! maybe I won't have kids or get married either. I'm 30, debt free besides 35k on my mortgage. I'll have that paid off in two years!
Babysitter for kids that old? Are you sure she wasn't just trying to avoid the dates?
Move to Asia..and double bag it
dennqus1 if a woman wants to do something, she will. Kids or no kids.
I went out on a date the other day with a women who told me on the date that she was a single mom. After the date, I told her I’d like to see her again. She told me sure, but she can’t do anything with me on weekends because she stays home with her kid. Fuck that. I was put on notice to my low priority immediately.
"Single moms are patient, committed and loyal."
Makes no sense. Then why did they left the man they got the child from?
Valid observation
usually the man is cruel or violent
Everyone has different reason. I did not like to live with a lazy dirty pig.
Drug abuse, gambling, the men left her for a younger woman, domestic violence, depressiom.. So many reasons
I got left. I didnt want him to leave. But alchohol and banging the next chick was more important than a devotes woman
I'm dating a single mom and it's fine. No real benefits though. The only real benefits I can think of is that you know for sure she is fertile (if you're planning on kids) and you can see what type of a mom she is before having children with her.
The Elite Daily is usually pretty disconnected from reality. This is proof. Fruit roll-ups? Seriously?
I know! Who the hell wants a fruit roll up?
Most single moms depend on the man they divorced for child support. Not so many single dads got child support from the mom.
Hahahahahahaha that fruit roll up reaction was hilarious, thanks for great videos sir, cheers
kayakeros Wow, you are so easily entertained. How cute
hahahahahaha what i find really cute is you being entertained by my comments LOL
kayakeros Not entertained. Just sad how dumb people are
Cliff Cliffson Get off of your ass and get a damn job. I have a job. You are so ignorant and slow there's no way McDonals would even hire you
At first I thought this was gonna be the first video I disagreed with, then you spoke the absolute truth my brother! Amen!
One very good reason to date a single mom: you're a single dad. Let's face it child contact is a whole lot easier if you have an experienced pro at hand.
How many single women without children, want to marry a guy WITH children, who won't give them any of their own? But ALL of the single mothers want you to marry them and raise another man's children, while REFUSING to give YOU a child of your own. Sounds pretty selfish to me.
I am not sure why all this hate for single moms, I am one of them and I can guarantee you that i don't rely on any man to do my shit. P.S also I am a successful project manager. It is not nice to generalize. Is it a way for you to get more viewers great for you.
Erebus while you may be the exception you have to understand that generalizations and stereotypes are there for a reason they are observable reality.
I do my best to listen to the opinions of both sides but I care about is my chances of succeeding or failing so to speak. well not all single mothers are like that and not all single mothers have the cons, and some single mothers have plenty of pros.
in the end you really have to break it down case-by-case, but in any situation I want to know the majority. in any group or opinion the majority wins and the majority is better addressed.
and while i don't claim to know everything from what I can tell not just from statistics, facts, my personal experience, and the experience of others is that for various reasons a majority of cases of single men dating single mothers end up with one or both of them unhappy or used, and more importantly the kids are affected negatively for various reasons
+Thomas Davis No point explaining that. Her brain is wired to throw logic out of the window in emotional situations.
In cases someone rages to this comment, people need to understand you don't hate something for what it is. I don't hate women because they are wired to think this way, i hate society not holding them responsible to their trait, especially if they are negatively impacting society or themselves. Especially when laws are in place that enforce this non-accountability thinking for women that screw over men and scare us away. But not all women right? Well in a cost benefit analysis, i've found he chances of succeeding to not be worth the risk, especially as it takes only one bad relationship to screw you over at minimum, hell random people are accused by women and screwed over, so not even that.
Erebus that's because you don't have a man doing everything for you
I have found that single moms are not as mature as women without kids. There might be a reason why they're a single parent and it may not be because of the guy outside of being widowed.
Totally agree with the 'I can do everything a woman can do except give birth but she can't' - that's totally what I have learnt also.
Hi I've been watching your videos just recently. I'm a single mother and the reason I am watching these videos is to try and help me understand a mans perspective on things and to help myself be a better person and partner in the future because I want to know how my man is feeling and what he wants and how I can just be a better person in general. I would have to say that I'm am finding great value in what you are saying and I freely admit to seeing many characteristics you have mentioned in myself and I value these videos for helping me in my perspective and my journey to becoming a better me. One thing I would like to say though is that I am a very independent person I am very capable of putting my own furniture together, fixing my own broken things and if I can't do something I will pay somebody to do it for me. I find it very hard to ask a man to do those things for me because I like to be self sufficient and independent. I am just curious about this particular thing because I have read that men like to feel needed and useful and like they are helping, I recently asked the guy I am seeing to help put my sons basketball hoop together because I wanted him to feel like he was being helpful and it would also be good for my son and his relationship seeing him do that type of thing. So I stood back and let him build the hoop I did hang around to offer some help but had to leave half way through because he was putting things in the wrong places and I desperately wanted to take control and just do it myself, however I repressed the urge to do that and I asked him if he was ok to finish on his own and just said if you need me I'll be in the kitchen... I really think that you are genuinely under the impression that single mothers aren't independent and while that may be the case for the ones you have dealt with that is not the case with me. Just putting that out there that is not my truth at all and I actually really do find that to be very annoying to be so generalised in such a way. I will continue to watch your videos because you do have some very valid things to say. You needed to be called out on that though in my opinion anyways :) I'll brace myself for the trolls now...
This comment is unusual in that (1) it has no shaming language (2) at no point did you sneak in the view that x, y, z female problems are mens' fault or mens' responsibilty. Nearly EVERY women that comments here does these things. I believe what you wrote and that you are different. Good luck to you.
Realisation is the first step. Good luck for your future.
Kerrissa Hayden another unicorn guyz. Quick! Catch the Pokémon!
Men are simple. No single moms!
superAweber and failed my test. Don't trust anything over a paragraph. The the worst two types of women I've encountered either poured out paragraphs and completely admit their faults. But do nothing of the sort to actually fix them blame everything on you.
There is only 1 "benefit" to dating a single mother......you know she is easy! That's it, everything is a pain in the ass and NOT worth it.
Th only real advantage up is you won’t date another single mom again
Hahaha why would you assume that? I haven’t read any intelligent comments on this thread. What is she was married and the father died? So many narcissistic jerks on this page. Yikes.
Well I guess I am the lone wolf here... I am dating a single mom who has three kids One is independently living by herself, and the other two live with her. She is very independent and handles anything and everything by herself, has a mutual relationship with the kids dad for the sake of raising their kids right, he is remarried and has kids of his own too. She has a great career that pays way more than mine and has never asked me for anything. right now we live in two different cities but we see each other as much as we can and I have seen nothing but loyalty and trust from her on both fronts. I grew up knowing her but just recently came together with her. Her hard work and patience with her kids and career as well as me have shown me that all single moms are not evil.
Thank you for your comment, Adam Q :) It gives me hope there are some good and mature men.
He brings up the 'remove the dead tree from the yard' example so often, you know it's gotta be a real story that made a serious mark. Every time he mentions it I can just imagine the grim fiasco of the dead tree. Hahaha.
Its not related to the single mom topic but I love your channel(single woman no kids). I find most of your videos realistic and true -even as a woman. I think its important that men talk about these topics. We all deserve happiness and authentic relationships.
she got fruit roll ups?! well damn... how can i resist!
I needed to see this. Thank you.
If you are between the ages of 25 to 40 and a guy its going to be very difficult to even find a single girl without kids.
exactly and if they are single without kids they are extremely obese or mental illness physically deformed etc.
Fruit Roll Ups... I DIED LAUGHING!!!! LIKE if you did.....
That one was weird
My experience with a single mom was that she expected me & I did take her out on dates. She & I kissed & made out a few times, but did not engage sexually. Then I found out she had an 18 year old guy who frequented her apartment just to have sex with on a regular basis. The evening I found out about the 18 year old, I left her in the movie theatre alone after saying I was going to the men's room, & didn't go back.
Damn as a woman they don’t be straight forward with anything sadly enough
I've been married twice and have had several relationships, have kids of my own, but have never dated a single mother. I don't understand the attraction.
A single mother left her husband for me. Made me think I was the love of her life. Left me for another guy, left him for her ex husband, tried to contact me (ignored), left him again probably for another guy. She has a good job so it's not about the money but loyal? I think not. No clue what goes on in that girls head. Maybe its hypergamy or narcissistic shit. But either way dating a single mom is not something I will ever do again.
Statistically speaking what would be the numbers of the 70-80% of women who instigate divorce that would fall into the 6 types of "women to avoid", you've given advice on!
I have a few million reason$ not to date a single mom
7:30...I can tell by your smirk you know what you're talking about 😂😂
6 years old, but still 100percent true. Brothers, take his advice, otherwhise you will learn it with a lot of money and pain.
I did notice that when I was single, back in my 20s. Single moms were easy pickings. Out at the bars, was pretty easy to reel them in. Always throw them back though! Catch and release! 😎
Women must think ur the antichrist, because u are exposing their wicked ways. Much needed truth...
If you are a father. Leave single childless women alone. That’s period.
If you date a single mom, understand she will look at you as an ATM, and nothing else, and if you think you will have great intimacy if you date and god forbid marry a single mom, you can forget about sex, as she will be with the child who will probably sleep between the two of you. Why would you want to bring up another man's child ? If you want a baby, then adopt one as a single parent, or marry a woman and have your own ! Either choice is better than marrying a single mom ! Marriage is bad enough for the man, without including another mans' child ! TAKE IT FROM A GUY WHO HAS BEEN AROUND FOR ALMOST 77 YEARS, AND HAVE DATED EVERY KIND OF WOMAN YOU CAN IMAGINE. DATING A SINGLE MOM IS ABOUT THE WORST THING THAT A SINGLE GUY CAN POSSIBLE DO !!!
You sir are spot on. Thanks for the video!
It pisses me off how these women are almost entitled to be the judge, jury and executioner of the ultimate outcome of the relationship. Like they’re a boss. No more.
Lmaooo the second one was a joke! 🤣
Do not go to another house with children.
That only ruins the children's lives of another family.
If the woman decided to be single. let her suffer the consequences
"Mine" is just great. She has all the qualities you pretend not to have. The father of her kids died many years ago in a car accident and she never had another man in her life since. We met in a public place and neither of us was actively seeking for a partner. At the first glance we felt this urge to stick together for the rest of the day completely forgetting the rest of the world ... and it's still the same, many years later. But I agree that a woman who is hanging out looking for a man must be in an other state of mind.
Widows are the exception.
Agreed, widows are the ones who have truly had it rough, and also tend to be the most honest/loyal.
A widow is NOT a single mom.
Still no guarantee of quality, though.
Single mothers ALWAYS introduce men to their kids too early.
I won't let a woman near my kids till I've been seeing them 6 months.
Single mom's, straight in on week 1 or 2 usually.
I get they've less time, I'm in the very same boat BUT
There's no excuse for not putting the safety of your kids first.
I am a single mom. I divorced my son's dad because the F#$@* cheated. I am educated, I have a career, I own a business and I pay ALL my bills. I am NOT promiscuous and I AM loyal.
Do not generalize, get educated. There are a lot of us that do not fall into these stereotypes you describe in this sickening video.
A lot of the things you describe can also apply to women who have no children and are single.
I can tell you that from all of my friends that are single I am the most responsible, the most emotionally mature, the one with more money and I am in NO dating apps.
This video and everyone commenting in agreement make me sick.
Actually buy divorcing her husband you are the stereotype majority of women walk away from their marriages… Now you’re on the daily market with a child in alone good luck…
actually i think the only exception to a man dating a single mom is when she is a widow, and not a divorcee
fenrys fenir
No exceptions for me.
Lol I know how to do all of that. Not all of us are that way. 22 years of a marriage I tried to make work to just be abused. So I walked away. My dad taught me how to take care of my own stuff. I can do everything you do minus the thing between your legs. But if you honestly think it's all the woman's fault it's your loss. Yes there are some who are petty I'll give you that. So be careful, keep your eyes open and hearts guarded. I can't stand bars. I go to church. To each their own and some single father's aren't any better than the single mother's. Use good judgement and if your gut instinct is to run... listen to it😊
Recently came across your channel and have enjoyed watching a handful of your videos. I am a woman and many of your observations are spot on -- some embarrassingly so and I know a lot of women who need to hear and understand them. Thanks for putting these out there. My husband covers much of the same material with the young men he mentors. He is justifiably proud of the fact that not one has married badly or fathered any unplanned children in over ten years.
But you missed the mark on this one and squandered a good teachable moment. BOTTOM LINE -- the only factor that matters is that children of single mothers are already getting short shrift. Statistics bear out that they are disadvantaged in most performance areas in life (one being daddy issues that you bring up in another video). All the so-called adults and their drama are irrelevant when compared to the prospect of these children growing up to be healthy and productive or dysfunctional and stymied in life.
Far too many mothers did not understand the weight and reality of the obligation and sacrifice they took on. As for the guys here who like to denigrate the sexual market value of these single mothers, take a bit of stock on yourself -- if you're chasing them, doesn't that put you on the same level? Man up and leave these women alone to, hopefully, do the job they need to. Any guy who complains that some woman who occasionally prioritizes her kid over him is not the alpha male he thinks he is. That guy is just the selfish jerk that a lot of women mistakenly think all men are.
just wondering'....will I get called more snarky, mean, profane names from women or men???
Thank you for your video post. I completely agree. Nobody needs that bs especially kids who are going to disrespect you.