My Autistic school experience
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ม.ค. 2019
- In this video, we talk about how we found our education experience as girls on the spectrum. We hope people find this useful and if you would like to hear about any other topics, please comment down below!
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Just a heads up Aspergers is no longer separate, it’s part of Autism spectrum disorder now. 😊
Also, where have you guys been all my life!
You guys are the perfect example of beating stereotypes of autism. ( So many people sadly think that you have to be non expressive to be on the spectrum and not be super social and have no friends) I recently had my diagnosis too and felt different and an outcast throughout high school and as I got older. Now things are so much better. Good environments are essential for us.
I also had learning difficulties which made it hard to progress in school. I was also told in primary school that I was “fine”, I was not, I needed an education aide. I eventually got one by force.
So happy to have found you!
I’d love to see more videos about beating stereotypes!
Through the Telescope! Thank you so much and we know, we’re just so used to saying Aspergers haha! Yeah I’ve found that environments are important as in places where it was difficult for me I would display obvious traits and people would notice something odd about me but currently I’m in a good environment so I don’t look like there is anything wrong with me- which does lead to the assumption that I don’t have autism 😒 thanks for the comment :)
Thanks girls, as a mum to a 12yo autistic girl i found this video really interesting xx
I'm a girl with asperger and I'm 19 years old and studying biochemical Laboratory research (not at University, but a HBO (In the Netherlands, this is theory with also a lot practical stuff). Normally, I don't talk about my aspergers very openly. I recognize some things that you talked about.
My English isn't very good, but I watch English youtubers, so it gets better.
I'm 31 and currently waiting on my assessment date right now, my brother who has aspergers at a young age and it was really obvious at the time but my mum did ask about me and was told it could just be learning difficulties which I've started to dismiss the excuse she was given, I'm only just also discovered my 11 your old Down syndrome son might even have it. (Didn't even know he could.)
I struggled so much during school, I started off in a special needs unit then after a few years there moved to another primary school closer to home, not really sure why that was and I was still in a special needs class just my mainstream.
In comprehensive school this where I struggled the most, start off good in tidy level of class (Slightly higher than average I think) then plummeted down the classes as the teachers felt I was really struggling and it had been a mistake for me to be put in those classes (I also wasn't keen on most of the level of work I was given as it was way out of my abilities). I also got shouted at on a number of occasions for not doing work or homework, I really must have annoyed my English teacher one day as he took my out of the class and gave me a right shouting at. The silence walking back in was deafening. (I never did any homework at all.) I was in tears but it never did take much to make me cry when shouted at. (I think there may have been a reason why as it could have been painful, can't remember.)
The only subject I was really interested in was IT, I was obsessed with computers and video game (still am) so would often just stare at screen savers more than do my work. (I think I recall once the teacher actually turning the screen off just so I would work) I think that was the only subject I had a decent grade in.
My best subjects other than IT were Maths and Science but only had E GCSE, the rest were G, I did not do well and if I did have a time machine I would love to back and see what I did so wrong.
It's nice to hear other people have similar experiences as I thought most of mine were normal.
I love the pink shirt!
Da_kitten_ Girl thank you! From topshop :)
I can relate to this! I'm 18 with aspergers. I'm interested to know what your special interests are? Could you do a video on this?
I didn’t see this comment! Yes I’m hoping to make more videos soon :)
I'm 29 years old, want to say that I admire your courageous effort on making a video on Asperger's experience in school. How do you cope with it, and would love to meet you in person someday. I would love to share my experience with you if you don't mind. Both of you are outrageously cute, beautiful, and would like to have a female friend. share the love with other Aspies!
Thank you so much! Sorry it’s taken so long to respond as some messages don’t come through! 🤗 where are you from?
I have suspected my daughter has Aspergers since she was two. She is now 11. I have struggled with what a diagnosis would mean for her going forward in life, her entire life (from now until she is 100). As she is heading into more advanced social exchanges she is increasingly more stressed. I struggle to see how her interactions are any different to normal awkward teenage interactions. We all have to analyze on a second by second basis we all have to mask to a certain degree to fit it even if one is neurotypical.
By giving her a diagnosis would I be handing her a free pass to avoid the stresses of life? Would I weaken her?
I do not have a way to predict what she would do with the information at any stage of her life.
Would she hide behind it and use it as an excuse to not try? Or interact?
This all came to a head as it has become increasingly more difficult to get her to go to school.
She is very young and obedient now and I am intimidating and strong enough of a character to push back. (Mind you she is quite popular and well liked, she is a an A student. Not bullied and not in any real physical danger even though she rants like she is on fire). Her condition is so very subtle it is nearly impossible to spot if you don’t ask the precise right questions in the exact right order to get around her ability to hide herself.
It reached a point where I have considered homeschooling but in my mind it is like asking me to cut the tether that ties her to the world around her.
Would her introverted nature finally win out? What would be the next shoe to drop? Her family interactions? She already floats through the home like she is waiting for a bus to come and take her away forever.
In my search for school options I came across a school that is for children on the autism spectrum. Again I am very unsure as to what the results would be sending her there.
Would she revert? Would she unmask the coping skills she has taught herself? What would be the effect to her adulthood on her own if she didn’t learn to better interface with people on a neurologically typical basis?
Hi, sorry for the late response as some messages don't go through. But to answer your questions, firstly it would depend on the reasons for your suspicions that she has Aspergers. While a lot of people on the spectrum show subtle signs that look normal to everyone else, internally its a lot worse and eventually leads to much bigger problems which can encourage diagnosis. For me, I looked normal at school and to the public but at home it was very obvious because that was my safe space to explode and let out all the emotions I had bottled up. Yes, everyone masks to a degree but they don't respond to it in the same way as someone with autism.
With your questions, my answers from experience is that giving her a diagnosis may allow her to avoid stressful situations, but on the better side, it will also allow her to understand why she behaves in a certain way, allow her to get help much faster and efficiently, and remove her from situations which may lead to meltdowns or other problems. For me, it's helped my behaviour greatly having a diagnosis, despite being lucky to avoid certain stresses of life. If you think it would weaken your child, that depends on the person. I believe it's made me stronger as I am able to push myself out of my comfort zone, as I now know what triggers me and what to say in need of help etc.
Anyone who receives a diagnosis will use it in different ways. I guess it depends on the person, and their parents. It would be good to chat with her about what it means and that it is not something she should hide behind. Maybe watching videos like mine and others out there would help for her.
Especially with your daughter being 11, its around the time of puberty soon and she's getting older-the beginning of high school, and this period of time was unfortunately, for me, a bad time especially with Aspergers, so this could be what is making her introverted and refusing to go to school. That doesn't mean to say her behaviour will change as everyone is different!
Personally, I don't think there is a need to go to an autistic school unless the child shows severe behaviour, and today, schools tend to really provide a lot of support for people with disabilities! And it would encourage her to learn how to cope in situations and develop her social skills :) If she does have aspergers, it will be a tough time and it may get harder as she gets older (especially in teenage years, for anyone!) but with the right help and support from you and people around her, hopefully she'll be fine!
Again, allowing her to watch videos of young people talking about Aspergers on youtube would also help and let her know she isn't alone :)
I wish that i had been diagnosed earlier. I was only diagnosed at 16 and prior to that i thought i was broken.
In terms of using a diagnosis as a way to avoid things, I felt right after my diagnosis that yes i was avoiding things more and mentally using the diagnosis as a reason why which brought me a lot of guilt and self hared because i was able to force myself to do those things before. It was only after a few months I realised that I couldn’t do those things anyways, that before it was causing me such anxiety and mental fatigue that it wasn’t worth being able to speak in class , stay in noisy environments or deal with sensory discomforts I previously forced myself to do because i thought everyone also found difficult.
If you get her a diagnosis you can always choose to not make a big deal of it, having a diagnosis gives her the chance to understand her own thought process and why he reacts or behaves the way she does, something that would be of such value as she gets older. Now if I’m struggling with something my friends aren’t struggling with I’m able to give it a google and will often find its autism related which takes the worry out of it. It also gives you access to groups and communities which means opportunities to meet other young people with asd.
@@reveluvreveluv7257 I was diagnosed at 23 now 40
They said that I was doing fine in secondary school after I was diagnosed & my mum try to get me in to a special school but they were having none of it. I wasn't doing fine at all they tought me virtually nothing & completely failed me.
Steelinversion83 I think the same was said to me at the beginning when I requested help and they said everything was fine. I think things are changing now though!
@@darceylauren yeah I think so too but still room for a lot of improvement
Great video. Just curious at what age did you started talking? My son is 2 and a half years and Just got diagnosed. This video gives me hope.
Thanks! I didn't have any delayed development issues but I think with things like talking, crawling, walking, I started earlier than normal. It's great your son has been diagnosed so early though! That will definitely help him in the long run :) and there's so much more support in place nowadays.