Thank u. I am in depression part of my divorce. I wanted the divorce and know it's the right decision. The depression feels really uncomfortable but I am hopeful and know I will find love again.
My wife wants a divorce and I don't. She seems so closed off and cold and she said she needs space and time and doesn't see how anything can change. I'm falling apart. I love her with my whole being and I'm being cast away. I'm lost. Hurt. Fearful of court as we have a 5 year old child. I'm alone. I don't know what to do.
Me and my husband have spent years swimming against the tide its actually harder to say i have to stop, this is killing us we are both depressed, broken and barely functioning. Im in therapy and i explained im going through a seperation and my therapist said "i know you have that going on in the background" like no its not in the background im not sleeping till 5am, I feel on the edge of throwing up when i think about this being permanent its very much completely engulfing me.
I’m so sorry you are struggling this way. It’s a shame your therapist doesn’t get it. Divorce can totally derail you. If you’d like to get some coaching, I’d be happy to help. You can book an initial session with me here: victoriamccooey.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/dfcbgrdtsbbtfvvcpwbvzxfncgdnfnnf
I was going through some of these stages well before I even filed for divorce. I was going through a stage where I was bargaining and grieving and anger sometimes all at the same time. No matter how much effort I put into the marriage, no matter how much I would bend over backward no matter how much I would try to change myself for him to be happy, nothing was good enough. After filing for divorce which is still going on a year later he has been in the angry stage for that entirety of the year I have gone through grief anger resentment for even trying to make it work before his true colors have came out and I realized that the marriage was over years and years ago but I was in denial.
Thank you for making this video. It helped me a lot. My divorce was final 2 weeks ago and since I was the one to file I thought I would by pass these stages somehow but no matter how you slice it divorce sucks!
Im between depression and acceptance and ive been there for years. Im a special needs mom with sufferin from childhood trauma and existencial fears myself n i always dreamed of an intact family for my child and me since i never had that. I feel like a failure for knowing divorce is the right choice…. I feel im failing my son even tho my husband doesnt involve himself in daily life or education of our son. Hes working and playing playstation. He never goes on outings with us, he doesnt take care of his son, he can walk past me having a nervous breakdown sitting on the floor cryin and hell be goin to his room annoyed. I wonder what it takes for me to finally talk to him about divorce. We never have conversations or intimate momenta anymore for almost four years anyways. I find it hard to get him into a convo bout anything. Such a sad process overall
@@Visible2anyone_on_TH-cam id be so relieved if he told me through any means that he wants a divorce…. But if you still love your husband i totally understand that you feel gutted… so sorry
I have a question - do you coach according to people wanting to divorce and help them through that process or do you also coach in encouraging people to reconcile? I haven't viewed the video, but just thought to post this question because there is way too much help for couples who decide that divorce is the only way to go. It isn't...
Rather superficial. Most of us are so busy barely surviving and fencing for our children while defending ourselves against a variety of attack tactics by the former spouse (who initiated or caused the divorce) that there is no time for neat mourning stages.
I do not see the link to register for the doc outline and checklist? In your video you said there would be a link in the comments....same with video on why am I so angry. Maybe I'm TH-cam illiterate and am missing it?? 😟
Hi Brooke! Thanks for alerting us! The link was inadvertently edited out of the comments. We've added it back in, but here it is for easy reference: www.victoriamccooey.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/5-Stages-of-Divorce-Grief-Checklist.pdf
Thank u. I am in depression part of my divorce. I wanted the divorce and know it's the right decision. The depression feels really uncomfortable but I am hopeful and know I will find love again.
How are you now? Did it go away? I’m at the start of the divorce
My wife wants a divorce and I don't. She seems so closed off and cold and she said she needs space and time and doesn't see how anything can change. I'm falling apart. I love her with my whole being and I'm being cast away. I'm lost. Hurt. Fearful of court as we have a 5 year old child. I'm alone. I don't know what to do.
Stay strong! Always know things happens for a better reason.
I feel with you man. Got the news this month. Similar situation plus a three year old. Painful is an understatement.
How are you now
@mahalak4383 we decided to work things out. Things are OK... could be better but we're working on things.
I morned my marriage for 6 years it was so painful. I cried so much letting go of my husband was one of the hardest things in my life
Me and my husband have spent years swimming against the tide its actually harder to say i have to stop, this is killing us we are both depressed, broken and barely functioning. Im in therapy and i explained im going through a seperation and my therapist said "i know you have that going on in the background" like no its not in the background im not sleeping till 5am, I feel on the edge of throwing up when i think about this being permanent its very much completely engulfing me.
I’m so sorry you are struggling this way. It’s a shame your therapist doesn’t get it. Divorce can totally derail you. If you’d like to get some coaching, I’d be happy to help. You can book an initial session with me here: victoriamccooey.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/dfcbgrdtsbbtfvvcpwbvzxfncgdnfnnf
Thank you because I’m going through a divorce now and I’m searching for coping skills
You are so welcome! Please reach out if I can help :)
I was going through some of these stages well before I even filed for divorce. I was going through a stage where I was bargaining and grieving and anger sometimes all at the same time. No matter how much effort I put into the marriage, no matter how much I would bend over backward no matter how much I would try to change myself for him to be happy, nothing was good enough.
After filing for divorce which is still going on a year later he has been in the angry stage for that entirety of the year I have gone through grief anger resentment for even trying to make it work before his true colors have came out and I realized that the marriage was over years and years ago but I was in denial.
I'm not angry, I'm very sad and depressed. It's painful and surreal.
Thank you for making this video. It helped me a lot. My divorce was final 2 weeks ago and since I was the one to file I thought I would by pass these stages somehow but no matter how you slice it divorce sucks!
It does suck! Thanks for the kind message :)
Im between depression and acceptance and ive been there for years. Im a special needs mom with sufferin from childhood trauma and existencial fears myself n i always dreamed of an intact family for my child and me since i never had that. I feel like a failure for knowing divorce is the right choice…. I feel im failing my son even tho my husband doesnt involve himself in daily life or education of our son. Hes working and playing playstation. He never goes on outings with us, he doesnt take care of his son, he can walk past me having a nervous breakdown sitting on the floor cryin and hell be goin to his room annoyed. I wonder what it takes for me to finally talk to him about divorce. We never have conversations or intimate momenta anymore for almost four years anyways. I find it hard to get him into a convo bout anything. Such a sad process overall
Similar background. Can we talk somehow? He just told me today that he wants a separation and I'm gutted.
@@Visible2anyone_on_TH-cam id be so relieved if he told me through any means that he wants a divorce…. But if you still love your husband i totally understand that you feel gutted… so sorry
I have a question - do you coach according to people wanting to divorce and help them through that process or do you also coach in encouraging people to reconcile? I haven't viewed the video, but just thought to post this question because there is way too much help for couples who decide that divorce is the only way to go. It isn't...
Rather superficial. Most of us are so busy barely surviving and fencing for our children while defending ourselves against a variety of attack tactics by the former spouse (who initiated or caused the divorce) that there is no time for neat mourning stages.
How can you say people will be completely happy?
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Awww, thanks :)
I do not see the link to register for the doc outline and checklist? In your video you said there would be a link in the comments....same with video on why am I so angry. Maybe I'm TH-cam illiterate and am missing it?? 😟
Hi Brooke! Thanks for alerting us! The link was inadvertently edited out of the comments. We've added it back in, but here it is for easy reference: www.victoriamccooey.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/5-Stages-of-Divorce-Grief-Checklist.pdf