How I HEALED My Shopping Addiction!!! STOP Emotional Spending 🤎
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ต.ค. 2024
- 🤎Part 2: “How to Intentionally Shop after healing your shopping addiction” • HOW TO SHOP INTENTIONA...
Hello and Welcome Beautiful Soul!
Today we're talking about HEALING our emotional shopping addiction and spending habits.
I talk about my own personal experience with emotional spending and why it started, how I faced it, worked through it, and healed it.
I share the ways and questions I asked myself that helped me awaken to my own spending demise.
If I healed, so can you!
Its FREEING AF when you do.
Subscribe and comment below your own spending habits. I would love to know if you're working on healing your spending habits or if you are now after watching this video!!!
Sending my love,
Jessica
🤎Here’s the NEW Part 2 to this video- HOW TO Intentionally Shop AFTER healing your Shopping Addiction!
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I relate. For me its really similar, i learned it from my Mom. Stressful times? Lets go Shopping. Since i have to look after my money and cant spend too much, i find myself browsing and browsing hours and hours, loosing myself in a black hole where i think "its absolutely important to find a special bag ive seen on an influencer but is too expensive for me for a price that i could afford". I mean frickin hours. I really have other things to do, i have a daughter and sometimes i think i use that shoppingblackhole as an "escape" to my rather stessful and work-ful live. But its not gone after i spend toomanyhours looking, browsing, searching for "a perfect" thing, i clearly do not need since i have every type of Shoe, Bag, jacket... I need. But, i am afraid top let shopping go. I dont know what i should do instead. Will there be a void
Oh sweet girl… I feel so deeply for what you’re navigating through🥺 So what I hear you saying is, you want to stop shopping (because you know you don’t need to) but you can’t stop shopping because you’re afraid of what that means for you (and your identity).. ?
okay so I would ask yourself… when you were that little girl going through stressful times and you and mom went shopping…. What feelings did that bring up for you? What did it make you feel, after you shopped? I would start there and dive deep. Keep peeling back the layers, the emotions underneath the actions, the situations which invoked the emotions to want to shop.. etc. This sounds like how I used to deal with stressful/uncomfortable emotions as well… but until we identify whyyyy we want to shop, and when we’re triggered to shop- then we’ll continuously spiral ourselves through unconscious actions (like shopping, disassociating, etc)
Does this help?? 🥹 Please let me know if you have any more questions. You got this! All we’re doing here is making the unconscious- conscious- so we can choose different choices for ourselves in the future 🥰🦋💫 So much love your way Mimsey✨
Sounds like me! I just don‘t know what to do instead. I know I SHOULD work on healthy habits like eating less but better and exercise in the gym, go out for a walk in the woods, have tea, do yoga, meet with friends, but these things don’t thrill me that much 😢
@@silkeso1593 Hiiiii! Just now seeing your comment- so you’re struggling with figuring out W H A T to do- besides shopping?
I would start with asking yourself what “lights you up?” What do you do that’s fun, soul nourishing, and makes your heart feel full?
Do you have any creative hobbies? Do you like to read or listen to podcasts? Do you like to get out in nature, hike, or enjoy a sunset? Baking? Cooking a meal for your loved ones? What is anything else you do that’s not shopping to have fun?!? If you still can’t think of anything then I would implore you to start trying some new things!! 🤗 What’s something you’ve always wanted to try? To do? Maybe it’s time to get reacquainted with yourself and what lights you up.
✨Also don’t forget- a huge part of healing is feeling. So understanding where our urges to shop come from so we heal and understand the r o o t of the problem and not just solutions to “bandaid” them! We are here to heal and understand ourselves- not just blanket over them with distractions 🫶🏽🤎
You got this!!! Let me know if this helped at all 🧚🏽♀️✨
I feel this right now. Im looking at bags hours and hours finding an alternative bag for the one that I saw on the influencers but I already have a lot as well and feeling guilty already about the price of all of them. But Im still wanting more because there is this look of mine that Im trying to picture in my head. 😢 I want to heal too.
My mum never shops but im a shopaholic. So i dont think its because you learned it from your mum…who knows…
:( I’ve been spiraling out of control overspending. Anytime I feel insecure, I notice I would go buy something that would make me feel or look better to make up for it but I would almost black out at the “confirm order” after order button and never take into account my consequences until after the fact and feel so bad :(
My dad was an alcoholic & would go buy beer every weekend but even more if he was stressed and it would always make his anger worse
I need to get out of this black hole 😢
Oh sweet girl thank you for sharing this piece of your story with me🥹 When I read the part where you almost “blackout” when you purchase- I wonder if it’s you, Disassociating? Are you familiar with that term? I would look into what that looks and feels like and see if that resonates with you at all🤎 Experiencing a loved one who has alcoholism is a heavy trauma and it sounds like you’re already awareee that’s where your shopping may have stemmed from? In order for our leaves to fully bloom, we need to heal our roots first- as they are the foundation, strength and understanding for it all. Start looking, feeling, healing into your childhood and experiences that shaped you into these urges to shop now! You got this beautiful soul! I am here if you need any guidance or support 🤎 You can always DM me on IG too ✨ Sending you so much love ✨
I'm an Aquarius too and I needed this! Thank you!
Hiiii my fellow Aquarian goddess!!! So happy you found this 🤗🤎 Sending so much love your way 🧚🏽♀️✨
Beautiful soul! What did you think about this video? Do you relate at all? Do you have an emotional shopping addiction? I would love to know below what you’re moving through 🙏🏽✨
Oh yes, this is me. I even bought a new Car because of a break up. A new Car that I didn't need....I couldn't afford the payments over time that had to give it up.
Great advice! I'll try it.
@@MsEri20 😩 Learning those lessons is never fun 🫠 Thank you for sharing a piece of your story with me 🤎
@@MsEri20 You got this!!! 🧚🏽♀️🤎
Girl I’m so thankful for you! My husband and I make a pretty good amount of money and we are literally always broke from my shipping addiction! This has got to stop now before it ruins my marriage! Going to implement your words of wisdom for sure! Thank you!
Omg beautiful, you GOT THIS 🙏🏽🧚🏽♀️ Sending so much love and healing your way! Please let me know if you have anymore questions or need anymore guidance😌🥹🙏🏽✨
Hi Melissa!!! Just wanted to see how everything was going with your shopping addiction, especially during this tough time of year?! 🫶🏽 I recently posted a 2cd video on this topic if you want to watch it for more guidance on healing! Sending you lots of love 🧚🏽♀️🤎✨
Dealing with this for years! I believe I am doing it because I feel lonely and shopping makes me happy. No longer able to go to the mall, but I have found thrift stores and have the same effect!
I know I cannot possibly wear all the clothes I have, so I try to minimize and stop shopping, then something happens and the cycle starts again.😢
Oh Susane I completely feel you… The emotional struggle is all too real🥹 Seems like you have an awareness of what triggers you emotionally- urging you to want to shop but it’s still been a struggle. For me what helped during this phase was going a layer deeper… looking at the things that M A K E you feel sad and start questioning that. That opened my eyes to so much about my own triggers and where they stemmed from, which ultimately led me to deeper awareness of myself and my habits I needed to shift! You got this!!! I’ll be filming a part 2 to this soon as the holiday season approaches and sharing my tips on intentional shopping post healing! Please let me know if you have any more questions. Thank you for sharing a piece of your story with me 🤎
After many years of struggling with spending money, I went on a “No Buy” for several months. I started by doing the same thing you did. I would put stuff in my cart, or wish list, and wait to see if I really wanted it. Usually it was more of a desire than need. I started my no buy in October 24, and am still going strong. I’m pretty sure my shopping issue is gone. I can walk into any store, including Best Buy my favorite, and not buy a single thing. Feels great!
Omgoodness this is AMAZING!!!!!! 🤎👏🏼 Thank you so much for sharing your success story!!! I am so happy for you- especially being able to walk in your favorite store and not feel the need to buy anything- that is Huge!!! 🙏🏽
Thank you for this video. In June, I was going crazy on clothes. But now I going to sit with my urges and get better at managing my money 🙏❤️❤️
Awe you’re so welcome!!! 🥹🤎 A lil side tip- I love shopping in my own closet!! We all have things we forget about or are “saving for a special occasion” but shit- everyday is a special occasion- we’re alive! Wear it now and enjoy creating new looks with what you have!!! You got this 🧚🏽♀️🙏🏽
Omg I LOVE this thank you! I've been searching for a way to stop shopping for YEARS but most advice I come across doesn't help me AT ALL! This actually gave me such a moment of clarity, this is so wonderful! And I love the analogy of first working out and how hard it is compared to how it is months down the line, that makes so much sense and it makes it so much easier to implement. I've always dealt with a shopping addiction due to my VERY traumatic past, and what's crazy is that most things that I purchased 5+ years ago that I impulsively bought, I no longer have. I'm in a ton of debt due to my shopping addiction and I can't wait to get out of it and live a healthy life so I can start saving for my dreams. Thank you so much for this! I've put this in my favorites list so I can come back to it when I feel an urge coming on. I'm doing good right now but I KNOW It's going to come back eventually.
My giiirrrllll. I dont think you realize just how much P O W E R was in your response. You have a new awareness of what you're shifting through, so when shopping comes up again.... because you're right- it will.... but YOU will show up different. YOU are different now. YOU have a new conscious understanding of where it is coming from and you can move confidently from there. YOU GOT THIS! Please keep me posted on how it is going! Or if you have any questions- Please ask me- I truly would love to know how it is going for you! You can DM me on IG if you want- Id love that🧚🏼♀ Sending you so much Love! You are an empowered Goddess- and you got this Shift! Thank you for opening your heart and sharing a piece of your story with me🤎
All my life I thought I was a nail polish junkie. I could never have my nails bare at all. Like I mean never! I always felt like I had to have my nails painted because I told myself a story about how I am prettier wit nail polish. A month ago or maybe a few weeks ago I finally and truly decided to stop wearing nail polish. I decided that I am just as pretty without nail polish and my bare nails are actually pretty without it. I still have moments were I want to cave in and just paint my nails and give up but I stop myself because I am better than that. Having bare nails has given me a feeling of being free. Never in my life would I have thought I would be happy to have bare nails. My 18 year old self is cringing now lol. It's honestly so nice that I am learning to embrace myself as I truly am.
Oh sweet girl, this is AMAZING to hear 🥹🥹 You’re Perfect as you are, I love that you can see that🪞 Isn’t it wild how something that you’ve done unconsciously for years just “because” actually has so much depth and story as to why you feel that way and the reasons we tell ourselves the stories we do. Wow. I see you Doing The Work, beautiful!!!! I SEE YOU 🥹🧚🏽♀️🪞 I am so happy for you and that gorgeous soul of yours💫 Keep shining✨
So needed to see this today ! Thanks for sharing! My shopping starting getting out of control over lockdown - working from home, social isolation and challenge upon challenge with navigating the curveballs of life. Now it’s a point that I’ve run out of space for the duplicates of things I’ve bought impulsively or out of FOMO and it’s getting to become problematic for my family too ,.. I’ve got to go cold turkey and set this right again. I’m in recovery from substance use addiction for over 15 years now (still sober and going strong in that area thank God) so I got caught off guard when the shopping addiction crept up. I know what I got to do, making my mind up and getting off the fence with over shopping . Feeling the hard feelings and actually tuning in to what I actually need in the moment rather than escaping .. thanks again for posting this. Love from Ontario Canada 🇨🇦
Thank you so much for sharing a piece of your story with me 🥹 First of all- huge congratulations on 15 years of sobriety! What a blessing!! So my goodness- you’ve already done the hard work Raquel!!! 👏🏼 Wow if you can stay sober and move through that, I believe you can absolutely overcome your shopping addiction💗 If you want to go deeper with this and ask me anything else you can absolutely DM me on IG @mindfullymodern_ I would love to help in any way!!! 🦋 You got this beautiful soul✨
Great video. Totally relatable as I’ve started to do this. Question myself when i shop. Put things in the virtual basket and walk away. I soon forget about it. The worst thing is clicking on influencers affiliate links so I’ve stopped. I now only get something now if I truely need it, a replacement or I’ve got funds from selling on vinted. Or birthday and Xmas. I loved shopping and getting new things but instead of going to shops now I’ll go to the gym. Go for a walk etc.
Oh my goodness I hope others see your comment so they can see that you also have been doing the work to heal and it’s clearlyyyy paying off. Those are such great activities to do instead of shop 🥹 You should be SO proud of yourself. Im about to film a pt.2 soon on this topic and “how” I shop/spend money now. If you have any questions please don’t hesitate yo ask! Thank you so much for sharing a piece of your story with me 🤎 Sending love!
Thank you for this video. I have grown up with emotional abuse, and now this makes sense. Thank you for this video very encouraging.
🥹🥹 Awe sending you so much love! You got this beautiful 💗
You literally changed my life. Thank you.
🥹 This was so special to hear. Thank you so much for sharing this with me 🥰🤎
I recognised I have the same problem a few months ago. I started getting better but still: a lot of unnecessary spendings. This video helped me a lot and I won’t give up🎀
Aweeee sweet girl the fact you JUST became conscious to your shopping habits a few months ago and are already making such strides of change…. You should be SO proud of yourself!!! I am so proud of you!!! It is not easy- but it can be done and it doessss get easier 🥹🫶🏽 So much love your way!!!! You Got This!!! 🧚🏽♀️
@@mindfullymodern thank you so so much 🎀 🥹
@@pinkdream___ 🥹🫶🏽
Creative hobbies instead of shopping was a great tip
Awe so glad it resonated with you 💜💫
Thank you for your video. I have big time shopping addiction. I am addicted to buying perfume. I keep wanting to find my signature scent but have not found it yet. In the mean time im burning all my cash. My shopping is very impulsive. So I like your idea of just stopping and taking some time to think. Thanks again btw your very pretty!
Oh this is so interesting to hear about your shopping addiction with perfume!!! So wild how we can make a shopping addiction out of buying anything 🫠 Okay so question that just came to mind… What is it about finding your signature scent, that you think you will experience or feel when you do find it?!? Like what are you searching for through wanting to find this “signature scent?!” Ohhhh I love conversations like this! Thank you so much for sharing a piece of your story with me 🥹 So much love your way! ✨
🙌Starting my way to freedom now❤
So HAPPY for you beautiful soul and the peace you’re about to create for yourself 😌🕊️🤎
Your thought process is really sensible. Much better than Psych websites. Thanks, might give ths a go. I did find that when I have those stressed times and urge to shop, playing my instrument helps.
I’m so happy this resonated with you, it was clearly meant to find you🙏🏽 I love that you’ve found a healthy coping mechanism in playing your instrument. That is so beautiful🥹 Thank you for sharing a piece of your story with me. Sending you so much love 🤎🧚🏽♀️
Holy crap. You are so amazing! And so right!! You explained it so well it was crazy! I’ve never heard someone explain what was happening. I can’t wait to see more of your videos! Please make more. You deserve more subs. Ty
Omg Vicky I love that this landed for you 🥹 Reading this comment made my soul smile because these types of connections and helping others from my own experience- is all I want 🙏🏼🤎 Absolutely more videos to come! I appreciate you being here and your kind words so much ✨
Thank you for your video. I have suffered from a serious shopping addiction for years. Your video truly spoke to me and motivated me. ❤
Sophie I am so happy that this resonated with you!! 🥹🤍 Please let me know if you have any questions or need any guidance on kicking your shopping addiction! You got this!! 💗
@@mindfullymodern txs I truly appreciate it. ❤
Thank you for sharing this. I can completely relate to the patterns established in your childhood. What resonates with me most is how you describe getting through the 1st 6 months. That's where I am in this process and, like you said, 'balls to the wall'!
Andrea, I am so happy this resonates with you! Omg you’re in the depths of healing it now- I love it! Keep going! You absolutely got this!! ☺️ I promise it gets easier and easier each time you’re triggered and then move through it successfully! Thank you so much for sharing a piece of your story with me 🥹🥰 I’m here if you have any other questions or need any support 🧚🏽♀️ Sending you SO much love ✨
I love this!! Going through the process you took to break free is super helpful!
I’m so happy you found it helpful beautiful soul 🥰🤎
@@mindfullymodernThank you so much. 🥰❤️❣️
Loved this message and the real life delivery. Thank you.
🥹🥰 You’re so welcome!!! Lots of love your way!
Thank you 🙏🏼
You are so welcome 🥰 So much love your way ✨
Hi, yes, I used to have a shopping addiction. Pretty in control now but it’s not where I want it to be as I still spend more than fits into my budget. Missing out sucks. 😔
Awe I hear you🥺 Missing out is not a fun feeling… do you feel like you are missing out of “experiences” or “buying” things?! Healing our spending habits is hard but it does get easier… hubby got me using the “every dollar” app (not sure if they have it in Germany?) but we budget out EVERY single dollar coming in and out and what the set budgets are for those categories and it really works for us- we even budget in the things that are important to us and not feeling like we’re “missing out” but looking at it like we are consciously choosing where we spend our abundance 🧚🏽♀️ Sending you so much love 🩷
@@mindfullymodern Thanks so much for the support. I live in the UK, I think I could get the Every Dollar App here, never checked. I feel like I’m missing out on buying things as that’s what I’m trying to save on and am trying to invest more in experiences but it doesn’t give me the same dopamine high. Apparently that changes once you’ve not “used” for a while but Idk when that will be…
@@leastidyworld4365 Be gentle with yourself while you navigate healing your spending habits and also the part of you that feels left out when you aren’t shopping. Healing takes time. The awareness you’ve now brought to your healing will continue to get easier as time and situations arise. It’s been years since I started healing my shopping addiction… so much now that I don’t even feel the need to shop unless I actually NEED something. It does get easier. I promise. But it does take time to shift to new perspectives and awareness. You Got This!!! One day at a time…. One urge to shop at a time 🥹🤎🙏🏽
@@mindfullymodern Thanks so much for your encouraging words. Every month I think it’s gonna get better next month but every month I have the same problem that I don’t have enough money. 😔🤷🏼♀️
@@leastidyworld4365 Things Change…When Things C H A N G E 🤎😌
Sending you the biggest hug✨
Thank you! You said exactly what i needed to hear at this very moment!!! Sending love to you! ❤
🥹 I’m so happy this message found you! Sending love right back 🤎💫
Okay wow. I related so much to this 🤪 I have literally never thought of shopping in this light- but wow, okay, I have some things to think about😁 Thank you Jess!
I love this so much. Thank you for sharing your insights with me! Happy pondering beautiful 😌🪞🌌
Thankyou this was really helpful. I want to recover from emotional spending. I do have enough things to sustain me and enough craft items and books to keep me occupied too. I really don't need more stuff! I want to save money and I'm starting today! 😊
Oh I’m so happy you related 🥹
We never really “neeeeed” more stuff… although sometimes it feels like we do. I love that you are already aware of how much you Do have✨ Saving money is so rewarding! (Little financial Tip** I love using the “Every Dollar” app) You Got This Beautiful!!!!! 🩵
@@mindfullymodern thanks 😁
Thank you I needed to hear this
I’m so happy it resonated with you 🤎 So much love to you on your healing journey ✨
I very much go through phases of overshopping. Then I can go months or even a year or so without the urge but when I get into the shopping habit again it is WILD. I love working out and roller skating and have a creative business to keep me fulfilled but I wonder if it stems from being poor in childhood and NEVER getting to shop or have nice things. Anyway, GFEAT video ❤ (I'm also an aquarius named Jess)
Omg hiiiiii fellow Aquarian Goddess, Jess! I love that you have creative outlets and things you love to do for yourself. That is so important. When you do get the urges- is there a common feeling or theme around when those urges come up? (Like- your stressed, you have a disagreement, you feel sad… etc?) It could absolutely stem from being poor in childhood. I think a lot of us can relate to that. Being young and not “having” what we want and growing up and being able to provide it for ourselves🙏🏽 Sending so much love your way. Thank you for watching and sharing a piece of your heart with me 🤎
I have a huge shopping addiction too, mines not when I’m sad though, I guess I just feel like I always want something new and get bored of the things I have so quickly that I have things going out as quickly as they’re coming in. I also scroll around a lot and just look for things to buy, I feel like my two main reasons to shop is boredom or else I’m in a really great excited mood and kinda have this “yolo” attitude
I feel this so much! Thank you so much for sharing a piece of your heart and story with me 🫶🏽 Are you in your 20’s? I had a major “yolo” attitude in my early 20’s and spent $$ like it was my job 😂 It’s wild to me how we can feel an emotion (good or bad or even boredom like you said) and then feel the impulse to buy something to move through whatever we’re feeling. Maybe take a moment with yourself and ask ‘why do I get bored so quickly from new things I buy?’ Or -why when I’m bored on social media does that equate to “buy something!” Is it a learned behavior? Or is it in response to covering something else up? 🧚🏽♀️ Whatever the reason is beautiful, by diving into your unconscious you can start to take back financial power🫶🏽 So much love your way! ✨
I really love this. I’m going to make my last purchase of unnecessary things 😂 but then I’m going to cut it out cold turkey.
Lol! 😆 I love this! Enjoy your last lil “hoorah” before going cold Turkey! You got this!!! 🤎
Great video! So relatable!
Thank you so much for watching and leaving me a comment 😌🤎 So much love your way!
I have just finished computing and listing all the bags and wallet that I own and let go of over my 10 years of emotional shopping. And the total cost could already buy 1 new chanel bag. Im doing it to control my urge right now in buying new bags to add to my so called collection. Its so hard to do self control. But I need to be mature about it. I remember when I was still in highschool I only had 1 backpack. When I was in university I only had 2, a backpack and a sling bag which was just gifted to me. Then I bought a 20 cad backpack, so total 3. Then some gifts from my aunts. Those are my bags when I reached 21y/o. I dont know what happened to me afterwards. I think the deprivation that I felt and low self esteem geared towards making a statement for myself. But Im now feeling its a waste. Thats just the bag category, doesnt include the other categories which I spent money and time with.😢 I want to heal too.
Omg I so hear you! It’s like the cycle that keeps on wanting- “Oh well I have a bag for this type of outfit… now i need one for this type of outfit…” it’s like we can find a reason for buying anything when you have a shopping addiction 😆 I think you could wildly benefit from a No Spend few months and see how you feel after! Every time you feel inclined to shop- start asking yourself- “what triggered this?” “What am I feeling?” “What was I feeling when I started to want to shop again?” And start discovering your inner unconscious patterns! You Got This!!!! You want to heal- so you WILL heal! I’m here if you need any guidance or support and you can always DM me on Ig too 🤎 Sending you so much love!
Thank you so much for sharing!🥰
You’re SO welcome beautiful soul 🥹🤎
I have tremendously CUT DOWN on walking into Marshalls and TJ Maxx! Now, I am on a journey to cancel my Amazon Prime by the end of this year but I still at least have also cut down on buying stuff from Amazon too, and replacing it with the content creation, the journey I have been on since last year, with reading books and writing about minimalism.
I did have a dip though, the day I found out my father passed away a few weeks ago, I found myself numb, confused and walking into TJ Max. I only spent $25 and did purchase some skincare / self-care items which I justified & a candle that I will refill later with my own wax.
That it was at least stuff I would need anyways after running out of current skincare but still......I FELT the emotions behind it
...but I have quit "boredom" shopping though!
My girl! This is HUGE all the changes you’re making 🤗👏🏼!! You should be so proud of your awareness of your habits and boredom Shopping!!! What lights you up for fun?! What do you do that makes you happy?! 🧚🏽♀️☁️ Doing fun, new, aligned activities will absolutely help with the boredom shopping too ✨
Wait… Did I read that right? That you lost your dad a few weeks ago? 🥺 Oh sweet girl. I am sending you the biggest soul hug filled with love and healing. I’m so sorry💔
Trying working at Marshall’s thank god my stuff closed Down ugh
@@chigirllchigirll That would definitely test anyones shopping resilience working there 😆🫠 “It’s only $5”
hi i struggle with a shopping addiction. i go shopping and during that time i feel the exilleration that comes with treating myself with something new but also have a sick feeling in my stomach all the time I'm doing it. then when I get home I really feel overwhelmed and sick to my stomach. I have tried to stop by taking some stuff back thinking that would embarrass me to quit but it only compounds the issue and makes me want to do it more.
Oh sweet girl I completely relate to that thrilling than sick to your stomach feeling. To me, looking back- that was my intuition trying to tell me that what I was doing wasn't working for my highest good- nor was it good for my goals, soul or mental health🫤 What is something else besides shopping that brings you joy and is fun to do for you? Next time you feel the urge to shop- try doing something else thats on your fun list (not food, or alcohol- we dont need a new crutch for an old one🙃) But try going on a nature walk, go swimming, paint some artwork, crochet, write poetry, watch a movie- trying to give ideas around what that something fun could be! Hopefully it brought something to mind for you to try! You got this, One day, one shopping trigger at a time... you can absolutely move through this beautiful soul. Sending you so much love. I am here if you need any more help or guidance 🫶🧚🏼♀
sounds good and realistic. I tend to buy makeup and I think i know why i do it, because I feel old (56). But the 5th Highlighter will not make me younger, just more sparkly. I buy Highlighter like crazy as if they are the youth recipe 😂
Omgoodness how I relate SO MUCH to this! I used to loveeeeee buying makeup too! 😆💄 Ever since healing this lovely addiction I have barely bought any and now just use up all my old makeup (which can be so fun- like shopping in your own stash)🧚🏽♀️ lol. I love that highlighters your thing! If they make you feel amazing and youthful, that is all that matters 🤗✨ I would just use up all the ones you have until they hit the bottom of pan and you need a refill in the next…. Hmm…. 2-3 years haha 🤎 Thank you so much for sharing this story with me! Made my morning 🤗
No problem with debts, life is short!
Proud of you 👏🏽
🥹 Thank you! I’m so proud of me too 🥰🤎 So much love your way ✨✨
Ive been doing so good this year, i had a very devastating realization, i financed $400 this week.. im scared i wont be able to stop.
Sending you so much love 🥹🫶🏽
This is actually so amazing!!!
I am SO happy you connected with it 🧚🏽♀️🥰💫
Great video!! Thank you ✨😊
Thanks for watching beautiful soul! So much love your way 🧚🏽♀️✨
So great full for this video, shopping has been a problem for around 10 years now. Sometimes I manage to not order for 1 or 2 months. Because I know I don’t need it. And I wonder when is it ever enough, how do you decide what’s okay to buy? Because there constantly new collections and constantly new things that are so beautiful.. always scrolling and looking.. I improved a little bit by not instantly buying every cute thing I see but it’s still too much
Sweet girl, you’re literally reading my mind! I’m about to film a part 2 to this video sharing “how and when” i started “spending money/ shopping again” and how different it looks now! I will absolutely answer your questions. Figuring out when to spend and on what was definitely a struggle for me for a while so I just didn’t buy anything 🫠 (not the answer) lolll So I completely relate to all that you’re asking! 🤎 Do you have anything else you’d like answered in the part 2?!? ^ I already took note of the questions above to answer 🤗
This is such a great video minus the fact you’re looking above the camera the entire time which is soooooo distracting!
Thank you so much for your comment and your feedback 🙏🏽☺️ I appreciate it ✨
I liked your video. Maybe you could show us some clothes and home diy project you did in those 2 years?
This is a Great idea!!!!!!! I can absolutely share creative things I did to help me move through the shopping urges 😌🙏🏽 Thank you for your comment 🤎
I found this very helpful ❤
I’m so glad you found it helpful! 🥹🙏🏽 Sending so much love your way ✨
I never had a shopping addiction until about 2 years ago. I suffer with depression and I isolate myself and the loneliness kicks in. 😢 I need help!
Oh no 🥺 I relate so much to this. I’ve been through depression as well and I also isolate myself. Is that when you’re feeling compelled to shop? When you’re feeling low? Do you know what happened 2 years ago to trigger the addiction?
I would love to help you! Please let me know how I can help you, beautiful soul🤎 Leave me some questions or dm me if you’d like on IG @mindfullymodernhome
Sending you so much love.
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Hello beautiful soul! Was just replying to comments and saw yours again and wanted to check in and see how you are doing? 🫶🏽🧚🏽♀️🌌
@mindfullymodern it has gotten better. Recently I've been diagnosed with grief depression. I pretty much cut way back on spending, start saving again
Great video! Just a tip- you should look at the camera lenses so that it feels like you’re talking to us
I cannot express enough gratitude to you for sharing this with me 🥹🙏🏽 I had NO idea about this and as someone who wants to connect with my community- this is E X A C T L Y what I needed to hear! Thank you thank you for your honest, and kind reflections. Sending so much love your way 😌🤎✨
My shopping addiction was more about entertainment. I had to find other activities. Then I had to keep from making those hobbies from being another way to spend money or shop. 😂
Omg yesss- I totally get this 😆🙌🏼 Isn’t it crazy how many ways our shopping addictions can come through🫠 Even people who spend a lot on “self care” or “eating out at boujee restaurants” can quickly turn into a crutch to our addictions if we don’t stay aware.
Love your self awareness!!!! 🤎
Need depends on people😊😊
Question: does NO SHOPPING include a thrift store????
For me- No thrift shopping either!!! I did absolutely No Shopping (anywhere or online) those first few years🫠😌
Where do you shop for clothes and what kinda pieces do you look for now? Can you show some of your outfits
Oh that’s a wonderful idea- I’ll have to make that video for sure🧚🏽♀️ I definitely take a minimal approach to my clothes now and like to get a lot of basics that can be layered and mixed into different looks! I’m more conscious of the places I shop (try to do no fast fashion) and buy pieces of quality that will last for years when taken care of properly. It makes life SO much easier! 💜
The things one needs are the most boring to buy( like food, cleaning products)
I want to heal my illnesses not my shopping addiction😊
Thank you
🥹🥰 Sending you so much love
I appreciate all of this information - great ideas to try, but could you look at the camera please.
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I realized recently that I have a shopping addiction. My husband sold a property, and he cleared out all our credit card and loan debts of $55,000. I was so freed, and all of a sudden, I took the mind set of we don't have credit card balances, so I can charge it and pay it off when we get paid. Within 3 months, I had excuses to buy and have business ideas that were just an excuse to buy. I realized I made us 18,000 of credit card debt in 6 months. I was so upset and realized I have an emotional shopping addiction .
I felt shame as my husband needs things and here I bought 5000$ of cheap jewelry? Really? Omg. I got better by never going in the vintage and higher end thrift shops that I love. I stopped buying things I collected. 2 days ago I feel off the wagon because I went online on live jewelry shops where I had online friends. I told myself I would just talk and watch but the colors and styles were being directed at me by name by the people selling.
"I know what you like! This I saved for you, " Etc
I ended up buying 250 dollars of 5 dollars jewelry... I threw up after it was over.
I decided that I needed to look up shopping addictions, and I saw your videos! Thank you for all the great tips, and I am going to follow and get back up and whip myself back into shape! Your advice and words even support really help me so much! Thank you ❤️
Oh sweet girl. Thank you for sharing a piece of your story and heart with me 🥹 I am rooting for you! You got this!!! Start diving deep within yourself pulling out reasons and feelings when you shop, or don’t shop, or feel pressured to
Shop… you are already taking a huge step in the right direction by acknowledging and sharing your truth… it helps remove the shame around it! 🫶🏽 Look how many other people have had the same addiction (in the comments) and this video has only 1600 views!!! You’re not alone. And you f*cking GOT THIS🤍 Sending you so much love and healing! I’m here if you have any more questions or need anymore guidance! I’m rooting for ya🧚🏽♀️✨
@mindfullymodern
Thank you ❤️
I can relate to this are you sure you aren't me?
@@61Aliceinwonderland 😂🤎
Shopping addiction mixed with tobacco, gambling addiction gets real too fast.
So true! I feel like any of our addictions come from unconsciously covering up pain and traumas we’ve had 🫠
Some people reach for the bottle.. drugs.. food… 🤷🏼♀️
Trauma …. Good for you to own the issue…
This is so so so true. Coping with Trauma and addictions definitely go hand in hand🥲 It took me y e a r s of healing to be able to move through my traumas and now to be able to help others🥹 Thank you for watching and for your comment 🤎 I appreciate you ✨
I'm into cold turkey no shopping for 42 days and really struggling. Honestly I dream with the stuff I want to buy it's that bad. What do you when you are in this stage?
Yay for 42 days no shopping- although it may not feel like it- that’s HUGE and you should be so proud! The first 3 months were very hard for me. So if i understand you question correctly you’re still dreaming of things you can buy? Okay I know exactly what you mean- you basically play out the fantasy in your mind of “how this item/thing/clothing would just change your life and make you feel so happy/good (insert emotion it brings you here)…. 2 things come to mind…. What are you consuming (social media, movies, reality tv, etc) that’s showing you these things to dream about? I got offline for months when I was first quitting cold Turkey because influencers are everywhere and everyone is selling you stuff online and on shows…. It’s like dangling meat in front of a hungry tiger…. Don’t even look at stuff anymore! Like completely make it out of sight out of mind! It will help with the urges- but also- what are you doing to replace shopping? Meaning to have fun? Enjoy yourself? Laugh? Play? What sparks joy for you outside of spending $$ on shit you don’t need???? If you don’t have an answer to that I’d start there…. All that energy you are/were putting towards shopping and now not shopping…. Pivot it to something productive for you, something that makes you happy. Does that make sense? Does this help at all?!?!? Sending you so much love!!!! You fucking got this!!!!!! 🙏🏽🧚🏽♀️☁️🌌
How is no shopping going?? Just wanted to check in 🤎
Who/What is she looking at ? We’re just here girl 😂
😂 I’ve since changed my ways 🫠
And in case you didn’t know, Jesus loves you. 😊❤
Awe so much love and blessings your way 🥹🤎
@@mindfullymodern I’m wishing you many blessings as well!! 💕💖🙏🏻
Can you teach me more haha
😆 Absolutely beautiful! What would be helpful to know??? I am planning on making a “ how i shop now” video post healing my shopping addiction! Let me know your questions! I’ll include them in the video 🧚🏽♀️🤎
CAN YOU PLEASE LOOK AT YOUR CAMERA WHEN TALKING? 😂
😂 Yesssss! Someone kindly pointed that out a few months ago (in these comments somewhere) and I immediately started looking at the lens when filming now ☺️
I keep buying food and alcohol. I'm not overweight but I see the problem because I keep justifying it "well I need to eat". Meanwhile I have food at home. I live walking distance from five corner stores (GA is stupid like that) and the grocery store is miles away. Whenever i
I go to the grocery store I stop at a restaurant. I cant leave the house without spending $40-60 it's awful. And even when i want to be cheap its always the same. Two tacos and a beer $40. I go to a free festival, I spend $40 on parking and food truck food (it's not even cheap anymore). I joined the art museum so I could do events and not spend money. I withheld on drinking there because it's expensive and i was so proud and went to an outside spot to have exactly ONE drink. A Manhattan. House bourbon. It was $35! I decided to go hiking. Free right? Between gas, parking and buying a water bottle amd backpack...40 effing dollars. I make way less than $3000 a month and I live in a crappy little room that I'm too old for and I just want to leave my tiny crappy house without coming back broke soI can save money to move the hell out to place I won't feel the need to leave constantly.
Oh beautiful soul. Thank you so much for sharing this piece of your story with me. This just shows how you can truly be a shopping addict & be purchasing, anything 🥹🫶🏽
I don’t know if you’re looking for solutions or answers but intuitively this is what is coming up as I read your messages….
Are you happy?! If so, what makes you happy? It sounds like you need some inspiration to find things that bring you light and joy (maybe other than food- although it’s totally fine you love food too- soooo doooo I🤗) Maybe some new friends who are doing things or headed in the same direction in life that you see and want for yourself! ✨
Do you enjoy cooking? Maybe tapping into your chef side (watching TH-cam’s on amazing recipes) will get you inspired to make your own delicious foods you want/crave without the extreme markup cost of “fast” foods/ restaurants right now in our country! I love tacos too…. So I’ll make an (easy af) chicken breast, seasoning & salsa in the crockpot since it does the work for you- and make tacos/ burritos for dayssss for less than your $40- one time “2 tacos & a cerveza” meal. 😳
Have you tried budgeting? Listen- it’s never fun- but a budget can really help keep you in check while also still “living your life” sounds like you’d love to move… start a budget where you set aside even $100/month to start towards that goal…. While still allowing for a $40 budget for “eating out” (or whatever works for you) so you realllyyyy have to think…. It’s September 8th…. Do i want to spend my entire budget on this taco meal- or do i want to wait and make myself tacos at home (just an example) My hubby uses an app for our household “every dollar” that he lovessss! Tracks every cent we have coming in and out of our home 🤎
Also- affirmations! You sound like you want things for your life!!! Start speaking those things into existence…. Start taking aligned action to shift out of your current situation. “I am abundant and money flows to me easily and effortlessly” “ I am in control of my life and where my money goes” “I deserve happiness, peace, and abundance” and start showing up for yourself!!!!
You 👏🏼 Got 👏🏼This
Sending you so so so much love!!!!
I’m here if you have any other questions!
You are the master of your fate!!! 🌌🌌🌌
Snacking really kills my budget and I only make $2400 a month so $5 here and there really does a lot of damage. I live in a food desert where there are 5 convenience stores down the street and no grocery stores.
I’m SUCH a snacker too 🙈 Do you have Costco/Sams club in Georgia?! Stocking up on bulk snacks is always a great idea!!! Or waiting until there’s a big “sale” on your favorite snacking items! Or what about Amazon?! Sometimes their bulk can be “cheaper” too!!!! I have faith you will find a reasonable solution!!! And please share what it is when you do 🙏🏽🧚🏽♀️🫶🏽
This is SO HELPFUL 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹
I’m so glad it resonated 🤎🤎🤎