“He could never handle slights to his ego.” And there it is. This isn’t about mustard - it’s about this disgusting man’s tiny fragile ego. He used divorce as a control tactic to try and force OP against her will, and I’m SO glad she took him up on it and got tf away!
Not just a different story, he took every terrible thing he did and said op did it instead. He not only knows he was in the wrong, he used his abusive behavior to manipulate his family and weaponize them against op to gaslight her back into his control. Truly a disgusting person, its not about the mustard but this guy's horrifying control issues.
People like him know they are wrong, but never admitted, after everything is done the OP should send the record and things that her ex said to her, just send it without saying a word, she didn't do it before because said not to, but after everything is done is a free game.
@@dudeorduuude5211 and if she gets a copy of the surveillance video from the hotel. Maybe soon to be ex MIL will be in the courtroom when they play the videos?
@Dude orDuuude all of that should be shown and played in court so that everyone can see what the OP had to go through and if she can get a copy of the security feed from the gas station with him yelling at her, stealing her food, then contaminating it with something that she'd never eat. Them him yell at her while driving recklessly away, at high speeds. I wonder if you can get a ticket for that after the fact?
To be fair, she's not divorcing him purely over mustard, she's divorcing him because of how he's acting. He's shown his true colours, and OP didn't like it so she's taking steps. It always seems to be the case that these things come to a head over mundane stuff.
She's divorcing him because of his obnoxious behavior. I guarantee there are more examples of this kind of abuse in their marriage that she's not mentioning or possibly has overlooked. Tge mustard thing was just far too obvious for her to overlook. She doesn't seem to have picked up on the massive red flag of his sexual insistences. Guy has serious issues.
the first story really was never about mustard at all, but about control, and the mustard was the one thing where op managed to stand her ground and that made the man furious. i am glad she was able to record the outburst, because it being about mustard was just perfect fodder for the ex husband to turn it around to make op look bad
In the first story, the OPs husband would coerce her into giving him oral when she didn't want to sleep with him; and one time when she said no and he got upset she asked if he was going to force himself on her. He blew up at that. I remember reading that story. Dude was abusive and the mustard incident is what finally made OP realize that
@@quaggykiwi8557 Sounds like my ex. He did everything, from holding a razor blade to his wrist, to pretending to leave me, to make me blow him. It was straight up rape, and far from the limit to what he did. I'll gladly watch him die of cancer or worse, completely unmedicated. Alas, my ex-wife is just as bad. Between them, my childhood-onset PTSD has never been worse, not even when I was a kid.
I agree. I got into an argument with someone on Reddit about something like this. The OP of that story wasn't comfortable "passionately hugging" daily and her boyfriend would ask every day. It felt like a chore for her daily and didn't enjoy it as much. She wants to ask her boyfriend to see if he would be fine with twice a week. The guy I was arguing with kept saying that OP should just deal with it and do it every day. He said it was a "compromise" because if they only did it two times a week, the bf would not get his way but OP would and said it wasn't fair that the woman always gets their way. I told that guy that NO ONE, regardless of gender should ever feel pressured, coerced or pushed into doing these things if they don't want to. That guy refused to believe that if someone was coerced and pressured into doing these things that it was rape or anything along those lines. I was flabbergasted that someone would think this was appropriate.
Christmas sweater story : seems like the family tradition was to humiliate their S/O as much as possible. Why would you want me to wear that sweater in front of your mom ???? That’s what comes to my mind
Story 1: The husband is insane. He is literally insane. OP, take him up on that divorce lawyer. Story 1 Update: It's okay to cry, OP. It's okay to cry, just DON'T GO BACK! Story 1 Update 2: I hope the mother-in-law hears that recording of her precious boy screaming like a lunatic.
@@paulagoeringer9466 She'll either have to get one, or mustard douche won't fulfil his end of things, and OP will have to drag him through the courts for a decade.
Right? The stuff that came out bit by bit in ops comments is pure abuse. It starts as such an odd post... like, who freaks out about somebody not liking mustard like that?! But then the more that was revealed it was like, "oh....a controlling psycho does! "
I want an update from story one, where OP describes her ex's and his family's faces when the threatening texts and recordings are played/ read out in court.
Story 1, it's obviously not about mustard, it's about control. OP's partner gets off on thinking he can control her, but because OP has a hard boundary, even if its over something so silly, it pisses him off. It means there's something she won't give up for whim, and he can't accept that. OP was lucky to escape that relationship now, there's no way the husband wouldn't have turned violent eventually, instead of cowardly threatening violence and screaming like a lunatic up until this point. But OP needs to be careful, these kinds of people get more desperate when they realize they are losing control.
It's terrifying knowing just how many people are like him. Control, ego, and entitlement are what they're all about and if you don't do what they want, then they lose their damn minds.
It was actually kind of hard hearing Rslash laughing during the first story, I know it wasn't meant badly, but I realised very early that this wasn't just about mustard. That this woman was in an abusive controlling marriage with a toxic man. I'm glad to hear she ended up seing that herself.
@@Tortilla.ReformRslash has said he does this in multiple videos. During some videos he has laughed while saying stuff like “what am I reading”. It’s not an assumption, cuz Rslash has stated he nervous laughs before and you can tell between a humorous laugh and a “wtf is this” laugh.
Husband: *complains about op being a picky eater* Also the Husband: *puts mustard on everything* Divorce him and get a restraining order plain and simple
For the last story, it's good that OP knew right away to get out of that relationship. Hopefully things work out for OP. Maybe even Mark and OP will become good friends in the future!
I mean, Mark was buying all of OP’s drinks, and OP expressed his desire for a revenge f*** from Mark, so like... maybe they’ll be “good friends” in the historical sense. 😂
Both the sweater and the mustard were about power and control. How much can I get my partner to do that they don't actually want to do. I dated a few guys like this, Luckily I was so sick of feeling angry all the time that I ended things. One of them kept talking marriage. I finally broke down and said, I would rather be single for the rest of my like than married to a man like you. He tried for 7 years (yes 7) to get back together. I finally had to explain everything he did wrong. (Maybe to help him for his next girlfriend) He eventually got the point and I am currently single and have no regrets about leaving him.
@@pinktastic6159 having seen some super questionable christmas sweaters before, my guess is that it depicted straight up 🌽. Like cartoon santa with his whole hog in either ms clause, one of his elves, or a reindeer. (My guess is on the later two tbh given that op said its hr worthy at their work) Ive seen sweaters that have boobs out on them, or barely censored 🌽, and wouldnt be shocked to learn that rule34 santa sweaters are available somewhere online
Imagine being the cashier that had to witness a husband snatching a hotdog from and his wife and forcing mustard on it while having a full blown fight over...The mustard. .
Yes, like a normal person. Who tries to shove something down someone else's throat constantly that they hate? I would never waste that amount of time and energy uselessly.
My husband and I have this banter with one another. I love broccoli and he loves cauliflower. So, of course we go back and forth playfully about how ones better then the other. I ask if he wants to try it, but if he says no then I'm like, "more for me!"
polygamy can be done well and healthily, but it requires total honesty and trust. it's such a shame that so many cheaters use it as an excuse/way out of their mistake, because it puts such a horrible stigma on people who are in healthy polygamous relationships (said from experience of the excuse way from an ex, but also from having very wonderful poly friends)
And I’m sure those in poly or open relationships can make it work as long as they communicate and respect one another. However in these stories it sounds like at least one person wants random partners while having the stability of their bf/gf
@@lorilancaster5917 if you read my comment fully you’d see i specifically talked about people using it as an excuse or way out of a mistake, which that person had ALREADY cheated and wanted to obscure it by opening the relationship and hoping their partner didn’t realize the timing, so that applies fully still. idk what you’re on about
Story 1: If someone doesn't like something, just accept it and don't force it on someone! Jeez, saying that husband is obsessed with mustard is an understatement. Dude literally threatened divorce, threatened to hit OP and drove dangerously, OVER MUSTARD.
From the post seems like its not specifically mustard, but he is obsessed with things going his way, and from the kind of threats he did he is dangerous, i wouldnt be surprised if he killed her in one of psicotic fits
Tell that to my parents 🤣 I'm 34 and everytime I eat at their house they go out of their way to make stuff I can't stand like cabbage rolls, lasagna, stuffed peppers, or this stuff they call macaroni haha that has ground beef elbow noodles diced tomatoes and tomato juice simmered in a pot. Worst one was when they made me shrimp, lobster, calamari for my birthday 2 weeks ago. I'm deathly allergic to shellfish 🤣
Not over mustard. Over her having enough of a spine to defy this narcissistic control freak in any way, shape, or form. Something controlling abusers do is get their victims conditioned to appeasing them in the little things, including what they eat (for example, always ordering for them in a restaurant without their input, and getting mad and punishing them in some way if they speak up) so doing what they want becomes a life habit. She kept resisting the mustard, so he blew up
Story 3: At least the guy she cheated with was understanding and very nice. But really, the "Open relationship just to excuse cheating" thing seems to be common on Reddit
Just tried Googling to see if there was an open relationship subreddit, and all I got was r/nonmonogamy. Maybe there's some good examples in there? (It's obviously 18+)
As a polyamorous person, it really pisses me off that people use open relationships to excuse cheating as that is antithetical to being polyamorous. Polyamory is all about clear and open communication between all partners. If you are in a dedicated monogamous relationship and want to cheat, then just break up. I don't get why anyone would prefer to betray their partner in such a way
It’s common on Reddit because it’s common in real life. I’ve never seen a heterosexual couple work with an “open” relationship, polyamory, free love or whoever you parse it. Or lesbian relationships don’t fare well with that. I’ve seen a male homosexual relationship seem to work. They said it’s just sex At least that’s what they claimed.
@Robert Easley I have friends who have been in healty heterosexual open marraiges for over 18 years at this point, and they are still going strong. They have well communicated boundaries and rules set in place
"When someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time" That first story goes way beyond mustard, husband is an abusive control freak.
Story 1: OP you should change Hotels and try to get a restraining order on him. At some point he's not going to care about if someone sees in might try to really hurt you. I would also inform your work about his threats to keep him off away and to make sure that he doesn't get any of your info.
You're right the most dangerous time for someone in an abusive relationship is when they're leaving. Statistically it is 87% more dangerous for them while leaving the relationship then in the relationship. Perpetrators of domestic violence and abusers are desperate to hold onto their abuse victim . That's why when some stupid mouth breather says to you why don't they just leave. You can tell them that. I mean let's not even get into the fact instead of asking that question and putting the blame and the shame and the burden on the victim let's ask what is the perpetrator feels that he has the right to put his hands on somebody else. Honestly seeking help from a woman shelter because they know how to help you hide be her best and safest bet
That first story... damn.. I mean as an adult i do occasionally try out stuff i havent tried before, though there are sometimes where the sheer appearance is enough to make me panic, and then i just say the truth, that im afraid to try it. Havent had any issues with being "Picky" for over a decade. The lack of respect in this story is just... It feels borderline abusive. EDIT: Scratch the borderline... Good lord.
Completely agree on the way R/ handled the story. I’m glad I’m not the only one who felt this way. I’ve been watching/listening to this channel since it was created and this is the first video I’ve ever left a comment on. I’m disappointed and honestly don’t feel comfortable listening to R/ read anymore stories about abusive relationships or trauma if he is going to laugh and make a joke out of the situation. No matter how ridiculous the argument in the story is, it’s a disservice to OP 😢
*First OP:* Just to be clear, OP's husband _yelled_ at OP, threatened divorce, and drove erratically possibly endangering OP and himself (and other people on the road) because OP doesn't like mustard? Is that correct? -I think there's another reason why OP's husband wanted a divorce, and used OP's dislike for mustard as an excuse.- I should've said that this likely wasn't about just the mustard. Side note, I don't really like mustard, either, so I understand OP's pain. Honey mustard is fine, though. Yikes, looks like this is another Iranian Yogurt situation. Best of luck to OP. I had the opposite experience from rSlash. I used to like mustard as a kid, but started to dislike it as I got older. It's weird. *Third OP:* Part of me was hoping OP would post another update where he and Mark ended up dating, lol. That would've been quite a revenge story on his ex.
People's food preferences change over time. How many of us as kids hoped to have ice cream for dinner every night when they grew up, only to change that to medium rare steak when we did?
I think the 1st guy is one of those people who, although they are unstable everywhere else, they know somewhere deep down that no one would side with them if anyone knew the truth, otherwise they would've proudly told what they did with no remorse
Tbf to OP, the mustard just brought up all the issues in her marriage, he’s controlling, trying to force her to eat mustard, arguing with his wife constantly, trying to grind her down, screaming at her, driving erratically and putting her in danger, oh and constantly bombing her phone and not allowing her a moment of peace. Husbands true colours came out and they’re actually terrifying, especially with the clarification where he’s coercing her, and genuine fear of being harmed by him. What’s great is the husband is absolutely shooting himself in the foot with all of his abusive messages, with the CCTV from the hotel, oh and threatening “a door won’t be enough to stop me”. Keep sending those messages, you’re making the divorce a total slam dunk for your ex wife, who definitely needs a restraining order.
Story 1: Can't wait for when MIL learns the full story and learns that her "Precious angel" was not all there is to be. I myself only eat mustard in a burger with ketchup, but this man sounds like he is obsessed with it
This is why I'm so picky about getting married. I'm terrified of people showing their true colors after tying the knot. Seen it happen to a lot of people in person. Mustard person is a child.
8:40 Your body goes through cycles that last about 7 years on average. This is basically how long it takes all your cells to be replaced by new ones or something like that. Interests and preferences can change. Your taste buds will literally be completely different ones, and they might have different preferences. This is also why you can develop allergies you didn't previously have later in life, and also why some allergies can lessen or go away. For example, I never had seasonal allergies growing up. I didn't develop Springtime allergies until I was 23 (meaning my cycle is probably close to 8 years than 7, as 7×3=21 & 8×3=24). I didn't develop Autumnal allergies until I was 30. Add this fact to the fact that as an adult you now have more experience, knowledge, etc. & no wonder people's tastes change. I also didn't like mustard growing up. Now I don't mind it on burgers and dogs, but ketchup must also be involved. Honey mustard is great with fries. I still hate seafood though... never been able to stand the stuff.
Story 1: I despise mustard, even so. The guy is an abusive monster who has lost his usual target and he breaking down because of it. Story 2: when they say "new partners" makes me know they don't keep partners for very long. Story 3: op didn't even breath before he bounced! 🤣🤣 dude knows his worth.
Through lots of the 1st story rslash was laughing hysterically while reading it out, all I could think was, dude, this doesn't really seem like a laughing matter. Then makes a lame pun afterwards that her husband "couldn't cut the mustard", then goes off on his own completely irrelevant mustard journey. Wow
Exactly. This was a really dark story and OP needs a restraining order ASAP. It blew my mind Dagny said nothing about the fact the husband stalked OP, grabbed her wrist, and even used family members to try to manipulate her. This wasn't about condiments, it was about an abusive relationship.
Yeah, I was scrolling the comments to see if anybody pointed this out. The whole "commentary" after the story was completely ignorant considering what the story was about. I can't believe rslash would say that in this context.
I'm with OP in the 3rd story. Whenever someone says "I want an open relationship" they are ALWAYS saying "I want to sleep with other people and I expect you to be home on the nights I don't get laid".
@@quaggykiwi8557 i think you misunderstood the message?- An open relationship is different than a polyamorous one. They never mentioned polyamory in general being bad
Actually Op in the 3rd story says doing this midway thru a relationship is the bad thing. IDK if I fully agree, lots of people find stuff out about themselves late, but I think its a good idea to break up if you and the partner have different major desires. Like if you have a partner that wants kids and you don't then you aren't gonna work out. Open relationships are the same as that. Of course you get the most dramatic stories with cheating coming on top on Reddit, its Reddit. You always get the most drama there. Doesn't mean that's what all open relationships are like
Last story: So your friend knew about this but had the nerve to lecture you about ending the relationship too quickly? I couldn't be friends with someone who knew my BF with cheating heard about how he tried to get permission for it then actually tried to convince me to get back together with him. On top of that she was still with him while texting you that she wanted you back and didn't need an open relationship. OP you need some new people to be around.
Nothing said that the specific friends who lectured him were the ones who knew. He did specifically say that it was one of the ex’s friends who spilled.
As someone who likes mustard, the husband is strange. And I can understand how op doesn't like mustard. Like how I don't like Mayo. They say things like "you don't know what you are missing" "it tastes different" or for hot sauce "it's not that spicy"
I can definitely understand you. I dislike both mustard or mayo, but I’m a bit of a hot head. I’m the type of person to challenge myself with how hot I can get.
Ghost is the hottest I've gone. Milk didn't do a damn thing to cool that down. It only became better once I found Ice Cream in the freezer. Let's not forget that there are peppers 3x hotter. No thanks 😆
Mustard guy is exactly like my ex. I'm so happy she got out because, it's so hard, they are master manipulators and will constantly make you feel like you're the crazy one. If she didn't have that recording he would have probably kept beating her down until she felt like it was her fault and she over exaggerated.
Glad you got out. My wife's sister was in a similar situation years ago with a narcissistic, controlling husband. He would constantly argue with her and beat her down mentally until she'd give in just to make it stop. But obviously she was never happy. And the mustard story above reminds me of some of the controlling things he'd do to my SIL, like the time he changed all the radio station presets on her car radio to his favorite station because he couldn't stand the fact that she liked to listen to stations other than the one he liked.
I didn’t like mustard at all, but as an adult I really like whole grain mustard too 😂 but yeah OPs husband is crazy, it doesn’t matter if she does or doesn’t eat mustard and it just shows how controlling he thought he could be over her
My mom was the opposite. She told me she didn't have a problem with mustard until she started changing diapers, and I won't go any further than that! 🤢
I'm allergic to mustard (itchy skin, hives, etc) and the way OP's husband acted made me go o.O. Now if you don't mind, I need to go take some Benadryl cause there was some mustard in the food, plus what RSlash said about that bath. Cherish your loved ones people... and pet floofs.
Divorce him to keep you safe, get a restraining order to keep away because he is inevitably going to bother you, get a gun because he may even ignore it if he was sending threats like he was texting.
3:02 she's been gaslit so long she doesn't realize he's abusive. She fears for her life so she had to record him. He's willing to scream and verbally abuse her in public. He put their lives in danger because he couldn't control her. Just...honey... that's some Buffalo Bill stuff. Edit: it was never about the mustard. Abusive people look for reasons to abuse their victim. An "you did/didn't do this and that's causing me to get angry enough to hurt you. It's your fault I'm this way!" He just found out she wouldn't budge on mustard and used that as an anger catalyst.
Regarding the first story, I’m sooooooo happy I have a stable partner. I like certain foods my partner doesn’t like (like soup and fish) and vice versa. I wouldn’t bother forcing him to eat it. Our REASONABLE compromise is if we don’t want to eat the same thing, we cook together and make different meals. OP’s husband is just a egomaniac man child who always wants to have his way. Happy OP got a divorce from him
The fact that mustard was the breaking point for OP's situation doesn't surprise me at all. My own 11 years of torture came to an end because of a furnace filter.
Been there too. And I think the reason why it's a little thing that does it sometimes, is because it clicks that it will always be like this, that it isn't just something we did/contributed to, that it will always be that way.
I'm in an open relationship, it didn't start open, but I was upfront with my current bf that that was something that I most definitely would want in the future, after the right amount of time spent together to solidify our relationship. And that's exactly how it went. He was ok with it, and the day I asked he knew that I'd eventually ask and rolled with it. We also had spent quite some time talking boundaries and rules out, so much so that It was a smooth transition in our relationship.
Aaaaand this is what most people don't realise, that it's all about communication, including express when the thing is not for them and is better to not waste anyone's time
9:28 Rslash, please do not take a bath in mustard, especially when you're 70, I'm not 70, but I can easily imagine how much pain you'll be feeling in your uretha will go through if you proceed to go through that plan. Trust me when I say the sensors that detect Spice are all over your body, including down there.
OP to MIL: "You think this is about _mustard?_ Only a crazy person would make it about _mustard."_ **click** Xmas sweater: How much d'you wanna bet the bf's parents weren't aware of this "tradition?" That it was "just a prank, bro" concocted by bf and his brothers to humiliate OP in front of his parents (and the parents themselves as collateral damage)?
First story, front desk people generally don’t let people go to your room if they didn’t arrive with you. But as a precaution if you are trying to avoid a particular person let FD know.
>A relationship exists for multiple years >One person suddenly becomes emotionally and physically distant >The same person then asks for an open relationship They're already cheating. Maybe not physically, but DEFINITELY emotionally and mentally.
Mustard story. If he gets this crazy over someone not liking mustard to the point of screaming matches and putting both his and OP’s lives in danger by speeding and swerving the car, he doesn’t need a divorce attorney, he needs a mental health evaluation.
OP2: Traditions involving humiliating people are not cool and should not be tolerated. And regardless of setting, if you expect someone to do something you won't do, you need to take a flying leap.
I love that part in the Great Gatsby where the husband tells his wife basically "It's okay for me to cheat because I'm not in love with the girl I'm cheating with I'm still in love with you whereas you're actually in love with him (Gatsby) so that's why it's not okay for you to cheat"
First story was never about mustard. He was coercive and controlling and a borderline psychopath. Mustard was just one (really really stupid) facet of his controlling behaviour. OP is not only better off without him, she's safer.
That was me throughout fifth grade. My teacher would have like a five minute dance session to make class more fun, I didn’t like to dance in front of people, there was another student who didn’t to dance either. When she would see us not dancing, she would turn off the music and call us out to the class mainly saying she was trying to do something nice and fun, there was like 20 students so 2 students not dancing shouldn’t be a problem but she threatened to stop dance sessions if me and the other student didn’t dance along with the class.
@@kaykay8855 yeah, you're not alone. Later in life I was diagnosed with social anxiety, and it would still take me waving the paper in front of certain people's faces (looking at you, shitty teachers) to understand that no, I really can't play fucking basketball with the class. (Just an example)
That Ugly Sweater thing is less of a “tradition” and more of a hazing. If you have to put up with that kind of humiliation for that family to approve of you, then it’s not one worth tethering yourself to, OP
I hope OP in the first story managed to get away from her psycho husband. The dude is seriously abusive. Hope OP gets restraining order as well. I feel sorry for OP.
The first story op needs to take those threats her ex made right to her local magistrates office and get a restraining order. Also my boyfriend doesn't like mustard very often and I do but we don't fight over it and I don't force it on him.
OP warned him to only contact her via lawyers so if he did show up at the hotel or work, she would call the cops and inform them of their previous altercation with security footage
I had to pause and go to Reddit to find OP’s posts. Oh man…she is seriously stronger than she gives herself credit for. I am now following her and waiting for updates after reading all her posts.
First story: I remember seeing this on Twitter. I had no idea there were updates. That poor woman. I sure hope she gets out of all this without him becoming a stalker. How genuinely terrifying. Last story: OP is right. If you go into a relationship with the idea of being monogamous, suddenly changing to being open is almost impossible to pull off. It's so rare for both members to want to change in a healthy way that you might as well not even try it. And stuff like what his ex pulled is so damaging to the reputation of open relationships that it's the reason why people view the idea so dimly, even though it is a legitimate choice.
@rslash, on a lighthearted note about your sudden passion for mustard: have you had covid? The removal and return of the sense of taste has been shown to completely change peoples taste palettes, its entirely possible that if this happened to you, it just. Suddenly made you LOVE mustard in a way you only tolerated before
That first one. Op isn't picky...the husband is just....a creep. You want picky...I'M picky. I'm Autistic so texture and smell. Taste is the last thing I care about when it comes to how I eat. I have a lot of food Aversions.
I'm that way with mustard, vinegar and mayonnaise. I say that I am a picky eater, I've gotten a lot better as I age since taste buds change over time. However, I still don't like those specific condiments. If those things are ingredients in a meal, I'm cool with it, just don't overpower my taste buds with mustard or mayonnaise and we're golden.
Agreed. And I feel ya on the texture issues, so many foods where I love the ingredients themselves but can't eat them because of the mouth feel or texture when I bite into it.
The city in England where I live used to famous for mustard production (Colmans). Respect to the OP for refusing to wear the crude Christmas jumper. Her gut feeling kicked in at the last moment. Loved how she flipped the argument 180 degrees and requested the boyfriend wear it to forthcoming party. Good call.
Why did it have to take a potential break up for him to see that the sweater was inappropriate? Also, it's a good thing she sent the picture, because we all know he'd downplay the reason
It wasn't about mustard, it was about control. But, if you like whole mustard, here's what I make: yellow and brown mustard seeds, chili flakes, garlic and onion powder, title salt. Just cover in vinegar and let soak for at least 24 hrs before using
I am a 34M who hates mustard and respects boundaries. I hear no once and I never bring it up again. OP, HMU when you get out there again. You might not feel like it, but standing up for yourself and pulling yourself out of that is badass and anyone would be lucky to end up with you.
It's never about the mustard. I got beaten to the floor and strangled for putting the salt down too loudly before. If it's ever something that seems silly that gets them hurting you like this run. It's a big sign that they are ramping up the violence. I'm begging you leave.
i'm in an open relationship. WE STARTED THE RELATIONSHIP BY DISCUSSING EXPECTATIONS AND LIMITS REGARDING HOW WE WANTED IT TO BE OPEN!!! unless these things are discussed at length BEFORE anything happens, it's always a big ass red flag!
I hated mustard as a kid too. Grew to tolerate it as I got older. Now I want it on my hot dogs, hamburgers, hell I've tried it in pasta. I put honey mustard on my salad. Turns out, your tastebuds change every seven years, who knew?
Good lord, that first story! Who hopes to hear another update on how the now ex-husband's many threatening messages ended up biting him in the backside in court?
With that 1st story, our tastes change. At one point, I hated stuffing and sweet potatoes. Now, I have gotten others to like sweet potatoes. And stuffing and dressing are a big thing.
As a representative of the committee established by the mustard enjoyers community to handle the issue of this man, I can confidently say he has been EXCOMMUNICATED from the community. Sorry BOB, you may no longer vote in the annual mustard enjoyers council meeting.
Really hope op on the first story stays safe, the fact that her soon to be ex husband knows where she works and followed her home when he seems like he can snap any time is worrying. For the second story it was great op challaned her bf wear the sweater in front of their friends but he says the they won't understand his "family tradition". Guess what?? Op doesn't understand his "family tradition" either and does not wish to participate. For the last one I'm glad dude broke it up without a second thought. My initial one was she def cheated and was feeling guilty for the month she was distant so wanted an open relationship so she could excuse the cheating.
I am a mustard lover but would never tell someone else what to put on their hot dog or hamburger. I am just sort of dumbfounded how these two ever got together, let alone got married?
Most of the time this sort of behavior is gradual and overtime. They don't start out being that crazy.. it's very slow and minor. If you "accept" the little control, then it escalates. Been there... done that...escaped
As someone in a long term poly relationship, I agree with OP. In general, that's not something that should ever be sprung on a partner, nor is it a justification for cheating. She just wanted an out
I would like to thank you so much for your videos. I’ve become addicted to listening to Reddit stories. I’ve been listening to you for three years. Due to you my listening skill improved so much that I got a near perfect score in an English language assessment test. English in not my native language btw.
“He could never handle slights to his ego.”
And there it is. This isn’t about mustard - it’s about this disgusting man’s tiny fragile ego. He used divorce as a control tactic to try and force OP against her will, and I’m SO glad she took him up on it and got tf away!
Exactly, agreed
He just had to control her. Him and his pride and his ego
Only rivaled by size of his micro hotdog
😢😂😂🎉🎉😢🎉😢😢 to 🎉🎉😂😂
The fact the husband told his family a different story shows he knows he's in the wrong, but he doesn't care
Not just a different story, he took every terrible thing he did and said op did it instead. He not only knows he was in the wrong, he used his abusive behavior to manipulate his family and weaponize them against op to gaslight her back into his control. Truly a disgusting person, its not about the mustard but this guy's horrifying control issues.
I really hope OP shares the recording and story with the MIL once the divorce is finalized.
People like him know they are wrong, but never admitted, after everything is done the OP should send the record and things that her ex said to her, just send it without saying a word, she didn't do it before because said not to, but after everything is done is a free game.
@@dudeorduuude5211 and if she gets a copy of the surveillance video from the hotel. Maybe soon to be ex MIL will be in the courtroom when they play the videos?
@Dude orDuuude all of that should be shown and played in court so that everyone can see what the OP had to go through and if she can get a copy of the security feed from the gas station with him yelling at her, stealing her food, then contaminating it with something that she'd never eat. Them him yell at her while driving recklessly away, at high speeds.
I wonder if you can get a ticket for that after the fact?
To be fair, she's not divorcing him purely over mustard, she's divorcing him because of how he's acting. He's shown his true colours, and OP didn't like it so she's taking steps. It always seems to be the case that these things come to a head over mundane stuff.
He's also sexually abused her and threatened to kill her
Yep, this divorce is because of his stupidity and being a control freak.
She's divorcing him because of his obnoxious behavior. I guarantee there are more examples of this kind of abuse in their marriage that she's not mentioning or possibly has overlooked. Tge mustard thing was just far too obvious for her to overlook. She doesn't seem to have picked up on the massive red flag of his sexual insistences. Guy has serious issues.
She just needs to leave him.
He always showed his true nature the thing is she didn't see it because she still had honeymoon goggles
the first story really was never about mustard at all, but about control, and the mustard was the one thing where op managed to stand her ground and that made the man furious.
i am glad she was able to record the outburst, because it being about mustard was just perfect fodder for the ex husband to turn it around to make op look bad
In the first story, the OPs husband would coerce her into giving him oral when she didn't want to sleep with him; and one time when she said no and he got upset she asked if he was going to force himself on her. He blew up at that. I remember reading that story. Dude was abusive and the mustard incident is what finally made OP realize that
Jesus, what? Okay, I dunno if mustard should been the red flag for that--should have been what you wrote above. What the actual fuck
thank you for spelling it out for the ppl who didnt make the connection
@@quaggykiwi8557 Sounds like my ex. He did everything, from holding a razor blade to his wrist, to pretending to leave me, to make me blow him. It was straight up rape, and far from the limit to what he did. I'll gladly watch him die of cancer or worse, completely unmedicated. Alas, my ex-wife is just as bad. Between them, my childhood-onset PTSD has never been worse, not even when I was a kid.
I agree. I got into an argument with someone on Reddit about something like this. The OP of that story wasn't comfortable "passionately hugging" daily and her boyfriend would ask every day. It felt like a chore for her daily and didn't enjoy it as much. She wants to ask her boyfriend to see if he would be fine with twice a week. The guy I was arguing with kept saying that OP should just deal with it and do it every day. He said it was a "compromise" because if they only did it two times a week, the bf would not get his way but OP would and said it wasn't fair that the woman always gets their way. I told that guy that NO ONE, regardless of gender should ever feel pressured, coerced or pushed into doing these things if they don't want to. That guy refused to believe that if someone was coerced and pressured into doing these things that it was rape or anything along those lines. I was flabbergasted that someone would think this was appropriate.
@@dragonfliesnh4204 a redditor at his finest. Definitely calls himself a nice guy too.
Christmas sweater story : seems like the family tradition was to humiliate their S/O as much as possible. Why would you want me to wear that sweater in front of your mom ???? That’s what comes to my mind
The mom was one of my first thoughts, too
Yeah & it's more than ribbing a new girlfriend; it's s3xual harassment.
Story 1: The husband is insane. He is literally insane. OP, take him up on that divorce lawyer.
Story 1 Update: It's okay to cry, OP. It's okay to cry, just DON'T GO BACK!
Story 1 Update 2: I hope the mother-in-law hears that recording of her precious boy screaming like a lunatic.
She just might in court. Op will probably have to get a restraining order. He's crazy.
I wish that Op would have said:
"Lying in court is a crime, I'm not the one who has to be worried."
@@paulagoeringer9466 She'll either have to get one, or mustard douche won't fulfil his end of things, and OP will have to drag him through the courts for a decade.
@@reginacoeli7106 she probably would have but didn’t want to risk not following her lawyer’s advice
Fr she's a baddie
Mustard hubby is a straight up psycho. Thank God OP finally saw him for what he really is before she got hurt physically
Except there is an update where OP got hospitalized by the ex so yeah glad she left him hope he stays in jail
Ok let’s be honest, the underlying issue isn’t really the mustard, it’s the abusive husband trying to control his wife
I was just about to post this, it’s NOT about mustard at all.
His control issues are terrifying
Right? The stuff that came out bit by bit in ops comments is pure abuse. It starts as such an odd post... like, who freaks out about somebody not liking mustard like that?! But then the more that was revealed it was like, "oh....a controlling psycho does! "
He's an abusive, narcissistic control freak with an addiction to mustard. Plain and simple.
@@RiveroftheWither The moment he threatened to run the car off the road, I was like "Yep, this guy is nuttier than squirrel poop."
I want an update from story one, where OP describes her ex's and his family's faces when the threatening texts and recordings are played/ read out in court.
Same...
Oooh, that'd be spicy!
@@UnnoticedKIN true!
@@UnnoticedKIN _[Snorting laugh]_
@@UnnoticedKIN Ba-da-bum-bum-tisssshh
Story 1, it's obviously not about mustard, it's about control. OP's partner gets off on thinking he can control her, but because OP has a hard boundary, even if its over something so silly, it pisses him off. It means there's something she won't give up for whim, and he can't accept that. OP was lucky to escape that relationship now, there's no way the husband wouldn't have turned violent eventually, instead of cowardly threatening violence and screaming like a lunatic up until this point. But OP needs to be careful, these kinds of people get more desperate when they realize they are losing control.
Op's husband is an abusive fuck and Op needs a restraining order with that divorce
It's terrifying knowing just how many people are like him. Control, ego, and entitlement are what they're all about and if you don't do what they want, then they lose their damn minds.
It was actually kind of hard hearing Rslash laughing during the first story, I know it wasn't meant badly, but I realised very early that this wasn't just about mustard. That this woman was in an abusive controlling marriage with a toxic man. I'm glad to hear she ended up seing that herself.
It's a nervous laugh. The kind that appears when you're silently asking "Am I seeing this right?"
@@jinga9862That’s a generous assumption
@@Tortilla.ReformRslash has said he does this in multiple videos. During some videos he has laughed while saying stuff like “what am I reading”. It’s not an assumption, cuz Rslash has stated he nervous laughs before and you can tell between a humorous laugh and a “wtf is this” laugh.
Husband: *complains about op being a picky eater*
Also the Husband: *puts mustard on everything*
Divorce him and get a restraining order plain and simple
Maybe the husband won’t go for plain and simple.
Op better add some mustard
@@Ozymandias828 ha ha nice one
I honestly hope the video gets played in court so that his whole family sees hes a bitch ass liar and a psycho
Let me repeat that, he threatened to divorce, hit OP, and run the car off the f*cking road, ALL OVER DISLIKING MUSTARD.
He’d put mustard on that, too. Can’t leave it plain!
For the last story, it's good that OP knew right away to get out of that relationship. Hopefully things work out for OP. Maybe even Mark and OP will become good friends in the future!
I mean, Mark was buying all of OP’s drinks, and OP expressed his desire for a revenge f*** from Mark, so like... maybe they’ll be “good friends” in the historical sense. 😂
@@Tustin2121 lol and they invite the ex to the wedding
If either partner suddenly wants an open relationship at any point. That relationship is over.
i hope op and mark get it on LOOOOL
It's always so satisfying when you read about someone who has self respect for sure
Op’s husband sounds like the kind of guy that would bathe in mustard every day and says good for the skin
💀✋🏾 immediately thought of Big Ed....
Wouldn't be surprised if he had mustard running though his veins instead of blood. Probably explains why he's so stupid
I immediately thought this was Thorgy Thor
Why do I see that family dinner being a family in yellow robes, chanting in a circle, bowing to a fridge full of mustard?
@@SuperBatSpider OH MY GOD
Both the sweater and the mustard were about power and control. How much can I get my partner to do that they don't actually want to do. I dated a few guys like this, Luckily I was so sick of feeling angry all the time that I ended things. One of them kept talking marriage. I finally broke down and said, I would rather be single for the rest of my like than married to a man like you. He tried for 7 years (yes 7) to get back together. I finally had to explain everything he did wrong. (Maybe to help him for his next girlfriend) He eventually got the point and I am currently single and have no regrets about leaving him.
How inappropriate was the sweater? Imagine wearing not just something that could get you fired, but also around the guy's mom???
@@pinktastic6159 having seen some super questionable christmas sweaters before, my guess is that it depicted straight up 🌽. Like cartoon santa with his whole hog in either ms clause, one of his elves, or a reindeer. (My guess is on the later two tbh given that op said its hr worthy at their work)
Ive seen sweaters that have boobs out on them, or barely censored 🌽, and wouldnt be shocked to learn that rule34 santa sweaters are available somewhere online
Imagine being the cashier that had to witness a husband snatching a hotdog from and his wife and forcing mustard on it while having a full blown fight over...The mustard. .
Something tells me that side of the story is somewhere on r/talesfromretail.
I wonder if the cashier would be called as a witness?
@@lorilancaster5917 If OP's smart, they will.
A food cashier has probably seen weirder and worse.
Honestly the husband should’ve been embarrassed
He's angry because he's abusing her and this is a way she's resisting his control. She needs to RUN
As someone who absolutely loves mustard, if someone I cared about didn’t like mustard, I’d be like…sweet, more for me!
Me with mayonnaise. XDDD
Yes, like a normal person. Who tries to shove something down someone else's throat constantly that they hate? I would never waste that amount of time and energy uselessly.
@@paulagoeringer9466 Agreed!
Was what I said to my Ex about Olives. I hate them, thus...you have zero competition.
My husband and I have this banter with one another. I love broccoli and he loves cauliflower. So, of course we go back and forth playfully about how ones better then the other. I ask if he wants to try it, but if he says no then I'm like, "more for me!"
polygamy can be done well and healthily, but it requires total honesty and trust. it's such a shame that so many cheaters use it as an excuse/way out of their mistake, because it puts such a horrible stigma on people who are in healthy polygamous relationships (said from experience of the excuse way from an ex, but also from having very wonderful poly friends)
And I’m sure those in poly or open relationships can make it work as long as they communicate and respect one another. However in these stories it sounds like at least one person wants random partners while having the stability of their bf/gf
@@lorilancaster5917 if you read my comment fully you’d see i specifically talked about people using it as an excuse or way out of a mistake, which that person had ALREADY cheated and wanted to obscure it by opening the relationship and hoping their partner didn’t realize the timing, so that applies fully still. idk what you’re on about
And like the guy said in that. If it starts out that way then it can work.
Not even close
Story 1: If someone doesn't like something, just accept it and don't force it on someone! Jeez, saying that husband is obsessed with mustard is an understatement. Dude literally threatened divorce, threatened to hit OP and drove dangerously, OVER MUSTARD.
From the post seems like its not specifically mustard, but he is obsessed with things going his way, and from the kind of threats he did he is dangerous, i wouldnt be surprised if he killed her in one of psicotic fits
Tell that to my parents 🤣 I'm 34 and everytime I eat at their house they go out of their way to make stuff I can't stand like cabbage rolls, lasagna, stuffed peppers, or this stuff they call macaroni haha that has ground beef elbow noodles diced tomatoes and tomato juice simmered in a pot. Worst one was when they made me shrimp, lobster, calamari for my birthday 2 weeks ago. I'm deathly allergic to shellfish 🤣
Not over mustard. Over her having enough of a spine to defy this narcissistic control freak in any way, shape, or form. Something controlling abusers do is get their victims conditioned to appeasing them in the little things, including what they eat (for example, always ordering for them in a restaurant without their input, and getting mad and punishing them in some way if they speak up) so doing what they want becomes a life habit. She kept resisting the mustard, so he blew up
@@the_incredibly_bored_skullman Basically, he's just a narcissistic control freak with an addiction to mustard, that's the jist of it.
Because he's a control freak who can't comprehend that his wife is a person and not an object
woman: posts about being abused
rslash: oh this is kind of funny i used to not like mustard too
Yeah I know right....especially once you learn what was in the paragraph he couldn't read on youtube. 😳
Yeah. This was NOT a funny story, and it only got darker.
I love rslash’s videos but I do agree that the way he handled that post was… not the best, to put it lightly.
Ye that anecdote after that story?
Felt really inappropriate
@@SoManyRandomRamblings what paragraph was he not allowed to post on TH-cam?
Story 3: At least the guy she cheated with was understanding and very nice. But really, the "Open relationship just to excuse cheating" thing seems to be common on Reddit
Just tried Googling to see if there was an open relationship subreddit, and all I got was r/nonmonogamy. Maybe there's some good examples in there? (It's obviously 18+)
@Daniel Brant r/polyamoury is probably what you are looking for
As a polyamorous person, it really pisses me off that people use open relationships to excuse cheating as that is antithetical to being polyamorous. Polyamory is all about clear and open communication between all partners. If you are in a dedicated monogamous relationship and want to cheat, then just break up. I don't get why anyone would prefer to betray their partner in such a way
It’s common on Reddit because it’s common in real life. I’ve never seen a heterosexual couple work with an “open” relationship, polyamory, free love or whoever you parse it. Or lesbian relationships don’t fare well with that. I’ve seen a male homosexual relationship seem to work. They said it’s just sex At least that’s what they claimed.
@Robert Easley I have friends who have been in healty heterosexual open marraiges for over 18 years at this point, and they are still going strong. They have well communicated boundaries and rules set in place
"When someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time"
That first story goes way beyond mustard, husband is an abusive control freak.
That is the most important saying everyone should remember. Never doubt yourself - or them.
Story 1: OP you should change Hotels and try to get a restraining order on him. At some point he's not going to care about if someone sees in might try to really hurt you. I would also inform your work about his threats to keep him off away and to make sure that he doesn't get any of your info.
You're right the most dangerous time for someone in an abusive relationship is when they're leaving. Statistically it is 87% more dangerous for them while leaving the relationship then in the relationship. Perpetrators of domestic violence and abusers are desperate to hold onto their abuse victim . That's why when some stupid mouth breather says to you why don't they just leave. You can tell them that. I mean let's not even get into the fact instead of asking that question and putting the blame and the shame and the burden on the victim let's ask what is the perpetrator feels that he has the right to put his hands on somebody else. Honestly seeking help from a woman shelter because they know how to help you hide be her best and safest bet
In latest update, Op changed her hotel, so her ex dosen't know where she is staying and her job let her work remotly.
Gosh I want to hear another update for the first story. I really want to hear MIL’s reaction to her son having lied about everything.
10 to 1 she will dismiss the evidence and claim it is fake. That husband didn't become a lying, manipulative control freak on his own.
Not sure if you still want an update but rslash posted the update. It’s under r/best of my wife’s sister kissed me
That first story... damn..
I mean as an adult i do occasionally try out stuff i havent tried before, though there are sometimes where the sheer appearance is enough to make me panic, and then i just say the truth, that im afraid to try it. Havent had any issues with being "Picky" for over a decade.
The lack of respect in this story is just... It feels borderline abusive.
EDIT: Scratch the borderline... Good lord.
Completely agree on the way R/ handled the story. I’m glad I’m not the only one who felt this way. I’ve been watching/listening to this channel since it was created and this is the first video I’ve ever left a comment on. I’m disappointed and honestly don’t feel comfortable listening to R/ read anymore stories about abusive relationships or trauma if he is going to laugh and make a joke out of the situation. No matter how ridiculous the argument in the story is, it’s a disservice to OP 😢
Just to be clear: you should NEVER have to wonder if your partner would hurt you.
*First OP:* Just to be clear, OP's husband _yelled_ at OP, threatened divorce, and drove erratically possibly endangering OP and himself (and other people on the road) because OP doesn't like mustard? Is that correct? -I think there's another reason why OP's husband wanted a divorce, and used OP's dislike for mustard as an excuse.- I should've said that this likely wasn't about just the mustard.
Side note, I don't really like mustard, either, so I understand OP's pain. Honey mustard is fine, though.
Yikes, looks like this is another Iranian Yogurt situation. Best of luck to OP. I had the opposite experience from rSlash. I used to like mustard as a kid, but started to dislike it as I got older. It's weird.
*Third OP:* Part of me was hoping OP would post another update where he and Mark ended up dating, lol. That would've been quite a revenge story on his ex.
Iranian yogurt??
Let me be clear -fades away-
People's food preferences change over time. How many of us as kids hoped to have ice cream for dinner every night when they grew up, only to change that to medium rare steak when we did?
If he's going to divorce her and drive recklessly over mustard, then what will he do for more serious stuff?
@@WolfgangDoW Search "aita Iranian Yogurt" and enjoy :)
1st Story: OP trying to escape her abusive husband.
Rslash: omg this is so funny
Yeah, I was really taken aback by how he reacted......especially once finding out what was in the paragraph he couldn't read on youtube. 😳
I think the 1st guy is one of those people who, although they are unstable everywhere else, they know somewhere deep down that no one would side with them if anyone knew the truth, otherwise they would've proudly told what they did with no remorse
*OP:* So this really horrible stuff was done to me
*rSlash:* LOL MUSTARD JOURNEY
Yeah his vids are getting lamer. We don't care about his stupid personal experiences.
I hope the ex mother in law found out that her son is the real control freak
He probably learned it from her and she thinks it's good.
Very unlikely.
Tbf to OP, the mustard just brought up all the issues in her marriage, he’s controlling, trying to force her to eat mustard, arguing with his wife constantly, trying to grind her down, screaming at her, driving erratically and putting her in danger, oh and constantly bombing her phone and not allowing her a moment of peace.
Husbands true colours came out and they’re actually terrifying, especially with the clarification where he’s coercing her, and genuine fear of being harmed by him.
What’s great is the husband is absolutely shooting himself in the foot with all of his abusive messages, with the CCTV from the hotel, oh and threatening “a door won’t be enough to stop me”. Keep sending those messages, you’re making the divorce a total slam dunk for your ex wife, who definitely needs a restraining order.
Story 1: Can't wait for when MIL learns the full story and learns that her "Precious angel" was not all there is to be.
I myself only eat mustard in a burger with ketchup, but this man sounds like he is obsessed with it
I dunno. Abusive behavior is learned behavior. If he didn't learn it from his father, then it was definitely his mother.
@@spazpaul some people are just bad eggs, it doesn't have to stem from childhood abuse.
Even if she sees him as her precious baby I bet she would still be mad that he lied to her.
This is why I'm so picky about getting married. I'm terrified of people showing their true colors after tying the knot. Seen it happen to a lot of people in person. Mustard person is a child.
JUST EAT. THE EFFING. MUSTARD... No honey, I'm not a psychopath. Hurting you is my way of expressing my love to you.
8:40
Your body goes through cycles that last about 7 years on average. This is basically how long it takes all your cells to be replaced by new ones or something like that.
Interests and preferences can change. Your taste buds will literally be completely different ones, and they might have different preferences.
This is also why you can develop allergies you didn't previously have later in life, and also why some allergies can lessen or go away.
For example, I never had seasonal allergies growing up. I didn't develop Springtime allergies until I was 23 (meaning my cycle is probably close to 8 years than 7, as 7×3=21 & 8×3=24). I didn't develop Autumnal allergies until I was 30.
Add this fact to the fact that as an adult you now have more experience, knowledge, etc. & no wonder people's tastes change.
I also didn't like mustard growing up. Now I don't mind it on burgers and dogs, but ketchup must also be involved. Honey mustard is great with fries. I still hate seafood though... never been able to stand the stuff.
Story 1: I despise mustard, even so. The guy is an abusive monster who has lost his usual target and he breaking down because of it.
Story 2: when they say "new partners" makes me know they don't keep partners for very long.
Story 3: op didn't even breath before he bounced! 🤣🤣 dude knows his worth.
Through lots of the 1st story rslash was laughing hysterically while reading it out, all I could think was, dude, this doesn't really seem like a laughing matter. Then makes a lame pun afterwards that her husband "couldn't cut the mustard", then goes off on his own completely irrelevant mustard journey. Wow
RSlash really has poor taste sometimes
Yeah.....i was really taken aback by his attitude......especially when you find out what was in the paragraph he couldn't read on youtube. Legit SA 😳
Exactly. This was a really dark story and OP needs a restraining order ASAP. It blew my mind Dagny said nothing about the fact the husband stalked OP, grabbed her wrist, and even used family members to try to manipulate her. This wasn't about condiments, it was about an abusive relationship.
Yeah, I was scrolling the comments to see if anybody pointed this out. The whole "commentary" after the story was completely ignorant considering what the story was about. I can't believe rslash would say that in this context.
Yes, this was really about OP leaving a controlling, abusive, and potentially dangerous husband.
I'm with OP in the 3rd story. Whenever someone says "I want an open relationship" they are ALWAYS saying "I want to sleep with other people and I expect you to be home on the nights I don't get laid".
Another toxic misogynistic pos that thinks a wife is your property. Grow up
@spicy diarrhea I didn't say whenever a woman says this. Honestly I've seen men want open relationships for the exact same reason.
@@quaggykiwi8557 shut up cheater
@@quaggykiwi8557 i think you misunderstood the message?- An open relationship is different than a polyamorous one. They never mentioned polyamory in general being bad
Actually Op in the 3rd story says doing this midway thru a relationship is the bad thing. IDK if I fully agree, lots of people find stuff out about themselves late, but I think its a good idea to break up if you and the partner have different major desires.
Like if you have a partner that wants kids and you don't then you aren't gonna work out. Open relationships are the same as that. Of course you get the most dramatic stories with cheating coming on top on Reddit, its Reddit. You always get the most drama there. Doesn't mean that's what all open relationships are like
Last story: So your friend knew about this but had the nerve to lecture you about ending the relationship too quickly? I couldn't be friends with someone who knew my BF with cheating heard about how he tried to get permission for it then actually tried to convince me to get back together with him. On top of that she was still with him while texting you that she wanted you back and didn't need an open relationship. OP you need some new people to be around.
Nothing said that the specific friends who lectured him were the ones who knew. He did specifically say that it was one of the ex’s friends who spilled.
As someone who likes mustard, the husband is strange. And I can understand how op doesn't like mustard. Like how I don't like Mayo. They say things like "you don't know what you are missing" "it tastes different" or for hot sauce "it's not that spicy"
I can definitely understand you. I dislike both mustard or mayo, but I’m a bit of a hot head. I’m the type of person to challenge myself with how hot I can get.
@@jordan_cagle I can't handle heat. Even mild is too spicy for me
Strange? That guy is absolutely insane… like a total abusive Psychopath
@@Twinklethefox9022 if you want an idea of how hot I’ve gone, let’s just say the Scoville units are in the 7 digits.
Ghost is the hottest I've gone. Milk didn't do a damn thing to cool that down. It only became better once I found Ice Cream in the freezer. Let's not forget that there are peppers 3x hotter. No thanks 😆
Mustard guy is exactly like my ex. I'm so happy she got out because, it's so hard, they are master manipulators and will constantly make you feel like you're the crazy one. If she didn't have that recording he would have probably kept beating her down until she felt like it was her fault and she over exaggerated.
Glad you got out.
Glad you got out. My wife's sister was in a similar situation years ago with a narcissistic, controlling husband. He would constantly argue with her and beat her down mentally until she'd give in just to make it stop. But obviously she was never happy. And the mustard story above reminds me of some of the controlling things he'd do to my SIL, like the time he changed all the radio station presets on her car radio to his favorite station because he couldn't stand the fact that she liked to listen to stations other than the one he liked.
I didn’t like mustard at all, but as an adult I really like whole grain mustard too 😂 but yeah OPs husband is crazy, it doesn’t matter if she does or doesn’t eat mustard and it just shows how controlling he thought he could be over her
My mom was the opposite. She told me she didn't have a problem with mustard until she started changing diapers, and I won't go any further than that! 🤢
The first story is less about mustard and more about the husband being upset that his attempted gaslighting failed.
I'm allergic to mustard (itchy skin, hives, etc) and the way OP's husband acted made me go o.O.
Now if you don't mind, I need to go take some Benadryl cause there was some mustard in the food, plus what RSlash said about that bath.
Cherish your loved ones people... and pet floofs.
Divorce him to keep you safe, get a restraining order to keep away because he is inevitably going to bother you, get a gun because he may even ignore it if he was sending threats like he was texting.
3:02 she's been gaslit so long she doesn't realize he's abusive. She fears for her life so she had to record him. He's willing to scream and verbally abuse her in public. He put their lives in danger because he couldn't control her. Just...honey... that's some Buffalo Bill stuff.
Edit: it was never about the mustard. Abusive people look for reasons to abuse their victim. An "you did/didn't do this and that's causing me to get angry enough to hurt you. It's your fault I'm this way!" He just found out she wouldn't budge on mustard and used that as an anger catalyst.
Yeah it's always "one mistake" for them when you get enough of their abuse.
EXACTLY
The straw that broke the camel's back.
Regarding the first story, I’m sooooooo happy I have a stable partner. I like certain foods my partner doesn’t like (like soup and fish) and vice versa. I wouldn’t bother forcing him to eat it. Our REASONABLE compromise is if we don’t want to eat the same thing, we cook together and make different meals. OP’s husband is just a egomaniac man child who always wants to have his way. Happy OP got a divorce from him
The fact that mustard was the breaking point for OP's situation doesn't surprise me at all. My own 11 years of torture came to an end because of a furnace filter.
Been there too. And I think the reason why it's a little thing that does it sometimes, is because it clicks that it will always be like this, that it isn't just something we did/contributed to, that it will always be that way.
I'm in an open relationship, it didn't start open, but I was upfront with my current bf that that was something that I most definitely would want in the future, after the right amount of time spent together to solidify our relationship. And that's exactly how it went. He was ok with it, and the day I asked he knew that I'd eventually ask and rolled with it. We also had spent quite some time talking boundaries and rules out, so much so that It was a smooth transition in our relationship.
Aaaaand this is what most people don't realise, that it's all about communication, including express when the thing is not for them and is better to not waste anyone's time
9:28 Rslash, please do not take a bath in mustard, especially when you're 70, I'm not 70, but I can easily imagine how much pain you'll be feeling in your uretha will go through if you proceed to go through that plan. Trust me when I say the sensors that detect Spice are all over your body, including down there.
OP: "My husband is divorcing me because I don't like mustard."
rSlash: "Understandable. Have a nice day ."
Yeah, his attitude was really really off......especially once you learn what was in that paragraph he couldn't read on youtube. 😳
He tried to lighten the mood but it was a massive fail.
@@justine8387Yeah, his vids suck.
OP to MIL:
"You think this is about _mustard?_ Only a crazy person would make it about _mustard."_ **click**
Xmas sweater:
How much d'you wanna bet the bf's parents weren't aware of this "tradition?" That it was "just a prank, bro" concocted by bf and his brothers to humiliate OP in front of his parents (and the parents themselves as collateral damage)?
First story, front desk people generally don’t let people go to your room if they didn’t arrive with you.
But as a precaution if you are trying to avoid a particular person let FD know.
>A relationship exists for multiple years
>One person suddenly becomes emotionally and physically distant
>The same person then asks for an open relationship
They're already cheating. Maybe not physically, but DEFINITELY emotionally and mentally.
I feel like this reason only works as an excuse to get out of their undesirable marriage
OP "I Fear for my Life"
RSlash "What a funny story!"
Yeah, I found his reaction quite disturbing. 😳
So relieved there other commenters who were also worried about OP. Rslash had a bad take on this one.
Mustard story. If he gets this crazy over someone not liking mustard to the point of screaming matches and putting both his and OP’s lives in danger by speeding and swerving the car, he doesn’t need a divorce attorney, he needs a mental health evaluation.
OP2: Traditions involving humiliating people are not cool and should not be tolerated.
And regardless of setting, if you expect someone to do something you won't do, you need to take a flying leap.
I love that part in the Great Gatsby where the husband tells his wife basically "It's okay for me to cheat because I'm not in love with the girl I'm cheating with I'm still in love with you whereas you're actually in love with him (Gatsby) so that's why it's not okay for you to cheat"
Yeah, everyone in that book was a toolbag.
Damn the burn of that " mark seems like a nice guy, too bad you lost him too"
😂😂😂
First story was never about mustard. He was coercive and controlling and a borderline psychopath. Mustard was just one (really really stupid) facet of his controlling behaviour.
OP is not only better off without him, she's safer.
The mustard husband reminds me of people trying to force me to dance. Like, they can't comprehend that people don't like something they like.
That was me throughout fifth grade. My teacher would have like a five minute dance session to make class more fun, I didn’t like to dance in front of people, there was another student who didn’t to dance either. When she would see us not dancing, she would turn off the music and call us out to the class mainly saying she was trying to do something nice and fun, there was like 20 students so 2 students not dancing shouldn’t be a problem but she threatened to stop dance sessions if me and the other student didn’t dance along with the class.
@@kaykay8855 yeah, you're not alone. Later in life I was diagnosed with social anxiety, and it would still take me waving the paper in front of certain people's faces (looking at you, shitty teachers) to understand that no, I really can't play fucking basketball with the class. (Just an example)
It’s sad that abuse like this is common enough that it becomes familiar to see in stories like this.
That Ugly Sweater thing is less of a “tradition” and more of a hazing. If you have to put up with that kind of humiliation for that family to approve of you, then it’s not one worth tethering yourself to, OP
I hope OP in the first story managed to get away from her psycho husband. The dude is seriously abusive. Hope OP gets restraining order as well. I feel sorry for OP.
The first story op needs to take those threats her ex made right to her local magistrates office and get a restraining order.
Also my boyfriend doesn't like mustard very often and I do but we don't fight over it and I don't force it on him.
OP warned him to only contact her via lawyers so if he did show up at the hotel or work, she would call the cops and inform them of their previous altercation with security footage
The mustard problem isn’t the real issue, it’s the fact that he’s controlling and wants his wife to eat what he likes.
oh yeah, it was definitely not about the mustard, mustard was just the final straw that broke the camel's back
That mustard story... goodness. I have an allergy to mustard, and if I was dating someone like that I'd be beyond terrified for my life.
I had to pause and go to Reddit to find OP’s posts. Oh man…she is seriously stronger than she gives herself credit for. I am now following her and waiting for updates after reading all her posts.
I feel you on the mustard! I hated it when I was growing up. Now I can't get enough.
I agree with OP. If an open relationship is suggested... done. People can do what they want, but an open relationship won't be in my life.
First story: I remember seeing this on Twitter. I had no idea there were updates. That poor woman. I sure hope she gets out of all this without him becoming a stalker. How genuinely terrifying.
Last story: OP is right. If you go into a relationship with the idea of being monogamous, suddenly changing to being open is almost impossible to pull off. It's so rare for both members to want to change in a healthy way that you might as well not even try it. And stuff like what his ex pulled is so damaging to the reputation of open relationships that it's the reason why people view the idea so dimly, even though it is a legitimate choice.
@rslash, on a lighthearted note about your sudden passion for mustard: have you had covid? The removal and return of the sense of taste has been shown to completely change peoples taste palettes, its entirely possible that if this happened to you, it just. Suddenly made you LOVE mustard in a way you only tolerated before
That first one. Op isn't picky...the husband is just....a creep. You want picky...I'M picky. I'm Autistic so texture and smell. Taste is the last thing I care about when it comes to how I eat. I have a lot of food Aversions.
I'm that way with mustard, vinegar and mayonnaise. I say that I am a picky eater, I've gotten a lot better as I age since taste buds change over time. However, I still don't like those specific condiments.
If those things are ingredients in a meal, I'm cool with it, just don't overpower my taste buds with mustard or mayonnaise and we're golden.
Agreed. And I feel ya on the texture issues, so many foods where I love the ingredients themselves but can't eat them because of the mouth feel or texture when I bite into it.
The city in England where I live used to famous for mustard production (Colmans).
Respect to the OP for refusing to wear the crude Christmas jumper. Her gut feeling kicked in at the last moment. Loved how she flipped the argument 180 degrees and requested the boyfriend wear it to forthcoming party. Good call.
Why did it have to take a potential break up for him to see that the sweater was inappropriate?
Also, it's a good thing she sent the picture, because we all know he'd downplay the reason
Because he and his family are hypocrites and op most likely was the first to call him on his BS..
He knew the sweater was inappropriate. I believe he's one of those dreadful people that enjoy seeing others humiliated.
It wasn't about mustard, it was about control. But, if you like whole mustard, here's what I make: yellow and brown mustard seeds, chili flakes, garlic and onion powder, title salt. Just cover in vinegar and let soak for at least 24 hrs before using
Update for Story 1:
OP is safe, several state lines away, and has a Protective Order against STBEx
I am a 34M who hates mustard and respects boundaries. I hear no once and I never bring it up again. OP, HMU when you get out there again. You might not feel like it, but standing up for yourself and pulling yourself out of that is badass and anyone would be lucky to end up with you.
It's never about the mustard. I got beaten to the floor and strangled for putting the salt down too loudly before. If it's ever something that seems silly that gets them hurting you like this run. It's a big sign that they are ramping up the violence. I'm begging you leave.
Thankfully op moved several states away
i'm in an open relationship. WE STARTED THE RELATIONSHIP BY DISCUSSING EXPECTATIONS AND LIMITS REGARDING HOW WE WANTED IT TO BE OPEN!!!
unless these things are discussed at length BEFORE anything happens, it's always a big ass red flag!
OP:"my husband has physically and emotionally abused and traumatized me for years."
R/: "lol, mustard IS weird!😜"
... Dude
I hated mustard as a kid too. Grew to tolerate it as I got older. Now I want it on my hot dogs, hamburgers, hell I've tried it in pasta.
I put honey mustard on my salad.
Turns out, your tastebuds change every seven years, who knew?
Good lord, that first story! Who hopes to hear another update on how the now ex-husband's many threatening messages ended up biting him in the backside in court?
ya, this has nothing to do with mustard. obvious abuse. run! this is a good example of how ridiculous the abuse/controlling can get in a relationship
I hope that everyone is having a good Saturday!
Its sunday
@@krissaslotta1161 for some people, today is Saturday
With that 1st story, our tastes change. At one point, I hated stuffing and sweet potatoes. Now, I have gotten others to like sweet potatoes. And stuffing and dressing are a big thing.
Colonel Mustard killed his marriage in the car with his hotdog.
I needed that😂 thank you
As a representative of the committee established by the mustard enjoyers community to handle the issue of this man, I can confidently say he has been EXCOMMUNICATED from the community. Sorry BOB, you may no longer vote in the annual mustard enjoyers council meeting.
Really hope op on the first story stays safe, the fact that her soon to be ex husband knows where she works and followed her home when he seems like he can snap any time is worrying. For the second story it was great op challaned her bf wear the sweater in front of their friends but he says the they won't understand his "family tradition". Guess what?? Op doesn't understand his "family tradition" either and does not wish to participate. For the last one I'm glad dude broke it up without a second thought. My initial one was she def cheated and was feeling guilty for the month she was distant so wanted an open relationship so she could excuse the cheating.
People who don't get out of abusive relationships end up dead. Mustard quite literally saved OP's life.
I am a mustard lover but would never tell someone else what to put on their hot dog or hamburger. I am just sort of dumbfounded how these two ever got together, let alone got married?
Most of the time this sort of behavior is gradual and overtime. They don't start out being that crazy.. it's very slow and minor. If you "accept" the little control, then it escalates.
Been there... done that...escaped
As someone in a long term poly relationship, I agree with OP. In general, that's not something that should ever be sprung on a partner, nor is it a justification for cheating. She just wanted an out
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1:59 That's how you get divorced. By stomping all over your life partner's boundaries.