@jigger jones just because they date a white person it's prob bc they love them dumbass him dating a cacuasion doesn't mean he wouldn't date black girls That's like somebody saying trans rights And then u forcing them to date them (they don't love or know or are into them.) just bc they trans
Omg if I catch someone saying that to another person I will erupt like a volcano. *Sometimes I wonder whether we are conditioned to find a certain type of colour attractive or whether we naturally find a certain type of colour attractive* the reason this question came up in my head is because in some parts of the world they associate skin colour with a certain stigma and that seems to cause people to prefer a certain type of skin colour if you know what I mean.
passerell I’m dyslexic with a PhD in social work. I’ve done A LOT with the small errors of my punctuation. But thanks for noticing xxx PS no one mentioned uneducated black women but YOU. So stop it.
An elderly, white doctor has basically said there are very little advantages to being white other than adaptively being better able to synthesize Vitamin D.
@robin mcgregor Yes. Keywords: varying degrees. If it were as simplistic as it seems and as you suggest, it would not be the foundation for untold nefarious schemes of separation.
I'm a proud Dark- skinned woman. When I was younger I got teased and was very insecure. But I now love the skin I'm in! Wouldn't change it for the world!
I just found this video cuz i wanted to see if any black men especially light skinned men was gonna leave any nice comments but unfortunately i probably clicked the wrong video lol. Anyways i just wanted to say that i love dark skinned women. Your skin color is perfect cuz it's like that expensive high quality yummy chocolate that you don't always get to see or have. If people were teasing you for that beautiful shade of complexion; it's cuz they was jealous. They're jealous cuz your skin doesn't crack, you need color treatments or tanning. Why you think people get tans to begin with lol 😄. A lot people want your color but don't want the struggle. I say keep being you & enjoy what God gave you
I wish i could be like you but i had to many negative experiences. When i go to Mexico with my husband to visit his family. It’s all eyes on me and I’m so uncomfortable… Especially in his gated community where most everyone is white Mexican. The time we literally walked out side his house behind the gates to enjoy fresh air a car literally STOP(A MALE) and looked and i just mind my business but after that we always have to walk at night because that was ridiculous. Now i have a way to fit in!
The same happens in my country Sudan. I remember being told you have to be yellow like a mango that’s beautiful. And being the rebellious kid I was I said “I don’t like mangoes I like dark” lol... but yeah it’s so sad to see all these beautiful people trying desperately to lighten their skin color. Changing your exterior won’t help you. You need to fix your interior first. Learn to love yourself.
This is so needed. I hate that people get more outraged about black women speaking about colorism than colorism itself. Millions of dark-skinned females across the world all share similar experiences. It's not a coincidence and it's not made up. Colorism is real. Its alive and kicking. Whoever says it's a "preference" can miss me with that mess. There's nothing intrinsically wrong with a preference but I always have to wonder "why?" especially if it's a dark-skinned man who is claiming to only like light-skin, because it often comes from a place of hate. There's a problem when a group of people collectively uplift everything except that which resembles them. This "preference argument is disingenuous, and it's intellectually dishonest to use it to try to dismiss colorism. Most of the time when people explain why they prefer light-skin, the first thing they say is "..because dark-skinned is X". You don't need to drag dark-skin throught the dirt in order to affirm your so-called preference for light-skin. Leave dark-skinned women alone, leave them out of it and move the hell on with your 'preference'.
Literally this. I don't understand why people keep making this about envy. It's nothing to do with that. It just shows how much of a pedestal light-skin has been elevated on.. Somehow we've gotten to the point where you can't speak about colorism without people thinking you're somehow jealous of light-skinned people.. So stupid and egocentric.
+Angeliculture You are making people with preference justify it by arguing its racist, stop manipulating society. You say the preference argument is disingenuous but provide no evidence for this other than the fact that people try to justify it with because dark skin is X. Take a non issue like chest hair I have heard some women say they like chest hair because having no chest hair is weird and seems immature, does that mean its disingenuous to say that is preference? Listen plenty of people, hell almost everyone, have characteristics that are, on average, unattractive to the opposite sex I still fail to see how you justify separating skin tone from chest hair, nose size, body shape, ear shape, nail size, eyelash/eyebrow shape, face symmettry, freckles etc.
Angeliculture I'm sorry but everyone agrees that an average darkskin is uglier than an average lightskin. There are acceptions but they are not the majority.
People's unwillingness to accept that colorism is a thing just highlights how ignorant people are. As a black person if someone told you racism doesn't exist would you agree with them ?
+Danielle Idolomah Its not that people are saying its not a thing, its that it is that the thing people are complaining about is in peoples minds not their actions and what they are asking for is widespread manipulation of peoples brains and preferences through media control.
+Lala324 Honestly I can't imagine anything more privelleged than demanding all media in society changes to make you seem more attractive. I mean I have a big nose that isnt very attractive, how entitled would it be to demand media cater to make that more attractive?
I have to agree with the500. Being attractive is not a human right. You don't need to follow media stereotypes. I find it very shallow of people who do so, to the extent of feeling victimised becuase others in the lime light have a 'nicer' tone of skin. Get over it, you're not a super model, focus on other aspects in life. The only thing holding you back is your self. Insecurities come from within.
Mr Sam I didn't hear anyone state that anyone had a "nicer" tone of skin, just lighter, they are not synonymous. Me personally I feel as if deep brown skin is a beautiful and useful tone of skin. Useful in the sense as it acts as a preserver and protection from the natural light of our planet ie the sun. Insecurities do NOT only come from within, they most definitely are instilled by outside forces. Although I will agree with you partly because within is where you will have to fight against these lingering feelings of inadequacy and self doubt. IMO
It took me until recently to understand the privilege I have as a light(-ish) skinned south asian woman. This bias against dark skinned girls is such trash.
Maya K its good to be knowlegable doesnt mean you have to feel bad or guilty but just to have empathy and to try and understand. im medium toned so i get some bad and some good comments but i hate it when light skinned people dismiss colourism.
Amoy Ellis interesting but if u understood real history about colonialism and slavery u would understand that nothing happens in a vacuum.. just like when women sometimes say men are trash but people wonna pretend like we are angry and bitter when we should look at the system in which women are still fighting to feel safe in their own bodies.
Amoy Ellis exactly. Have no qualms about calling a darker black person 'blick' or whatever vile term but when someone of another race says the n word, it's time for war. Absolutely ridiculous.
I stated what i said because I know it first hand, I'm black, born and grew up in Jamaica and clearly understand the plantation system. But I'm keeping it real, we as blacks like to cry and complain about discrimination, but we discriminate against our own people. Being a dark skinned women I have experience it also and have been treated differently because of my color. So anyone who is commenting that I don't understand our history, please check yourself and get off my line.
@witch, please , Its mostly women who fetishze lightskin people...why do you think its always females have this type of convos all the time. What do darskin girls say when they see a lightskin baby.....ahhh she is so beautiful....ahh she oh so cute i want to have a lightskin baby like that as well. Or some feel lightskin women are prettier then them as women refer to others as beautiful. Its easy to blame men and being un nuanced. Because the same dark skin male will still be rejected by women who say stuff like your comment because they want a cute lighskint light eyes male with curly hair right ?
What happens if a Black man is really attracted to a light skin person? So they shouldn't express that part because he's I assume you would call him color struck?
I'm white so I've never had to face this issue myself but even lately I've stopped listening to certain music artists because of this reason. I'm sick of hearing how "rachet" dark skin girls are.. Anyway atleast you dark skin girls will be looking young and fresh faced for years and years, seriously you age ridiculously well! Haha :)
I have a feeling that you don't know the difference between dark skin, brown skin and light skin in the black community. You probably think they mean dark skin = black lol. I would never support someone who dislieks someone of their own race but some people are just ignorant. They are refering to women who are Lupita shade and its just so silly to think because Lupita is gorgeous
Ofcourse I know the difference between a light skinned and dark skinned black person that's the whole point of this comment. We've both just watched the same clip haven't we?... "You probably think dark skin= black" why do I probably think that then? Because I'm white?
Babe!!! Tell me about it. It’s why I totally stopped listening to C-rap music and switched to soft rock and sometimes metal alongside other meaningful music.
MSP 93 Your a smart girl, I don't even listen to that music because it's crap. I'm glad u are doing someone to support dark skinned girl. It is very much appreciated.
Nathan Jones who said anything about black community? I think by “our” she meant people of color. And it is literally special for the black community because we get it the WORST. Ya know why? Because on top of being “dark skinned “ we’re also BLACK. and that’s like the worst thing to come to earth as but we here for some reason smh lmao
Problem with you dark skin girls is you worship dark guys who prefer light women or non black women. Maybe try giving other black guys a chance like brownskin and lightskin or try another race. Don't cry cus the guy as dark as you don't want you when you yourself are a colourist and don't want to date lighter men than you. 'preference' works both ways.
Has anyone watched My Wife and Kids? If you have you'll probably remember when they changed the character of Claire to a dark skin actress to a light skin actress. With the dark skin actress, Claire was really aggressive and ghetto. With the light skin actress, she was calmer and kinder although she was dumber.
Ari SamAlao Yeah. It was the same thing with The Fresh prince of bel air. (The cast claimed that she was stuck up and aggressive behind the scenes and so on.) But we all know that the original (which is usually a dark skinned woman,) is way more entertaining and likeable.
Ari SamAlao the first Claire's mother took her out of the show because she didn't like the teenage pregnancy script. Them replacing them with lighter Claire is another story though.
True, sadly a lot of people are dumb as hell. Blaming "white colonialism" for the preference of light skin when even in Ancient Egypt 3000 years ago way before any white people colonialism they already prefered lighter skin on women. It's called preference.
Well Tiro here proves that a hit dog will holler. Why would i waste my time trying to get some sense in a troll like you? I have seen your comments, no thanks :'-) have a nice day
Of course you don't because you're a helpless idiot who doesn't know what to say besides crying RACISM!!! I have disproven with several examples that cultures that were without the influence of white colonialism already adored lighter skin. Why? Simply because they liked it. Now what can you guys say about that? Nothing. You're just a bunch of dumb crybabies who can't get over the fact that most people will prefer light skin over dark skin.
Everyone wants big lips, hourglass shape, big butts, rounded features, darker skin, fuller hair, voluminous hair..... UNTIL IT'S ON A BLACK WOMAN WHO NATURALLY OBTAINS THESE THINGS.... Then it's a problem? Nah, people are haters point, blank, period. I've been targeted by the black community for my lighter skin, and it makes me sad. I just have to be mature (not easy, lol) and understand that society perpetuates hate between lighter skin and darker skin and I have to kill hate with love... I haven't always done that .. 💛
dear Alphabet soup, Perhaps everyone wats an hour glass shape, maybe some , a big butt ...BUT never a BIG gut, kinky hair, loud voice , musculine look..and all the bla bla some people boast about saying other races are jealous of them because of it.
These videos are always about dark skins and not about how some of them treat light skinned girls ... Yes I'm caramel color , and I get a lot of jealousy comments from my cousins that I'm stuck up or think I'm all that ... My mom is dark skin and I've heard her say a lot of stuff about lighter skinned girls , not me but other people. Like "why she got on all that makeup , she just think she all that cause she light skin" , or "of course she gonna wear that because she think those guys gonna look at her cause that color on her " and I don't say nothing but it makes me sad cause I can't help I'm a lighter skin tone 😭😔 like dark or brown skin girls , look at u so mean sometimes , and rolling they eyes , like wtf.. and than my mom be saying stuff like wear this color lip stick or this color hair , u light skin so it'll look right on u , and I'm just like , why should it matter , it can go anybody , if u fix yourself up right .. idk it might not be as worse as how dark girls are treated but we do deal with stuff too . And it's the black men that be talking about them not us girls !!! And because of the hurt they experience, they put us down , and make us seem like we in the wrong and make us feel bad , and talk about us like dogs and they put they selves on a high pedestal and say stuff like us dark girls are gold, gods and queens , like they try to make us seem like we ain't black because they post nothing but the dark girls and title it black woman like we don't matter . And they making their self seem no better than the black men that put them down dark woman for white and light woman . And most of the time those light woman don't even be from that black race, they be Mexican , Asian , Hispanic, putero Rican and white woman ! I also think they get black light skins mixed up with them !!! Not saying black girls don't have curly hair , but most of those light skin girls with straight and curly hair be from other races !!! And I doubt a black men would date a black light skin girl with 4c hair ... I mean some do, but the ones the capture usually be with curly hair from another race or a damn white woman . I know dark woman have been through hell but it's like now , black lighter woman are silently being excluded and bullied in the process of y'all uplifting y'all selves and it makes me sad . And it also makes me sad how my family think cause I'm kinda light that I automatically look right with everything I put in my face or hair . It makes my cousins that's dark feel bad . And I'm a black girl regardless of what my skin color is
💓Princess Yonna💓 I personally say as a light skin black person that I’ve never faced discrimination. But also Idk is I’m light skinned or not (I’m in the verge of brown) Dark skin woman face more difficulties I believe. The point is not to say light skin people don’t face difficulties too. But the people who are being affected most in the world by colorism is darker skinned people. In the black community they label dark skinned girls ugly and ratchet all the time. The praise people claim dark skinned people get is mostly online not real life. Your mom telling you that you can wear this and that makeup is true. Because you know what: dark skinned usually don’t get that privellage. Not to be rude but you sound kind of butthurt. From my personal experience growing up in the hood and going to public schools, is that dark skinned black girls are hated on and light skin people are idiolized. And you know who usually calls these people ugly: light skinned people. I think the comments from others only affect you if your insecure 🤷🏿♀️ Never once have I felt less black because I am light skin but I have seen people put *me* on pedestals. It’s not fair it never is. Especially since instead of seeing multiple dark skinned woman in the media we see lots of like skinned individuals 🤷🏿♀️ Light skin people need to stop ignoring colorism and start understanding that people who are darker have to face many different diffuculties. I just can’t feel sympathy for you. Being misrepresented in the media as ghetto and ratchet, being taunted by your own people, never seeing skin like your on a tv screen, and being compared to burnt things is what lots of dark skinned people face. If you really are proud of being black then you don’t need anyone’s validation and that’s the tea ☕️ sis warm and hot for you.💅🏽Be proud and support dark skinned woman because we as a whole and the media put them down.
did you have to say that you're not hating on lightskinned people?, own your shit, stop being a dark skinned apologist, you're speaking the truth and its beautiful.
Decia -NB these girls didn’t have to apologize because they said nothing wrong about light skin people. Darkskin women can speak on their issues but there’s no need to drag light skin people while speaking on the issues you face having darker skin.
I'm brown but like it or not light skinned ppl need to be involved in the conversation... The definition of colorism includes Anyone shamed by their own race because of their skintone. We've all seen light skinned girls rejected or scrutinized by the black community. Ppl questioning their 'blackness' or hate on them just because they're light. It's colorist. It's wrong. And they deserve to be sympathized with. Whether the ppl in the video are responsible for it or not.
i understand what you're saying and they do need to be included, they should admit their privilege and understand how they perpetuate colorism as for their blackness or race being questioned that is not right and it should stop, i always tell me friends and family to stop assuming a person is mixed because of their light complexion, however their "struggle" does not compare to the institutionalised structure that is colorism that SOLELY affects dark-skinned people because colorism is the oppression of darker skinned people to benefit lighter skinned people the same way racism is the oppression of minority to uplift white people and therefore the same way no minority can be racist to a white person no dark-skinned person can be colorist to a light-skinned person.
There's a "famous" singer that I used to go to school with. Mixed race, black and white. And she had light skin. She would go out of her way to bully me every single day. Bully me about my appearance, especially because I have dark skin. She'd call me names relating to my skin colour. And now she's "famous", she's now surrounded by people of my skin colour and suddenly wants to be associated with it because she knows that with the kind of music she makes, the audience most of the time are people that look like me. But everyone loves her, so I know that if I said anything about her, that stupid narrative of "jealous mean dark skin girl" would be put upon me. I just wish everyone knew about her disgusting attitudes towards people with dark skin. I hate it (colourism) so much, it's so pathetic. Especially because people like her get away with it all the time.
As a mixed women, I see colorism a whole lot. I refuse to date or even talk to any man that disrespects dark skinned women. My mother is dark skinned, so by disrespecting black women, your are disrespecting my mother and my black side of the family. And my ex boyfriend even told my best friend, who is really dark skinned, that she’s beautiful for a black woman. So he’s implying that black women are normally ugly? Mixed people do face discrimination too, but can I say i’ve faced more discrimination than my dark skinned siblings? No, I can’t. I don’t understand their struggle and I don’t know what they go through on a daily basis. I know it’s horrible, but black men aren’t making it any better, especially if they put down dark skinned women as if it’s gonna impress light skinned women. Colorism is real. You can deny it all you want, but mixed people in general benefit in society for having lighter skin.
Anais She’s biracial is that so hard to understand some biracial people look more black others look more white/ whatever other mix. Stop acting like you ain’t ever seen more that two mixed people.
erm.... isn't it because of through history lighter skin in asian region meant that person doesn't work outside aka rich enough to stay indoors during daytime?
When I was in China my tutors used to favour my light skinned friend and didn't want anything to do with me. My aunt always verbalizes her disappointment when she sees me. My grandpa didn't like holding dark skin babies. When I'm around my cousins ppl think I'm adopted. And guys in Sri Lanka only want to marry very light skinned guys. My cousins are like pale and they get asked out alot. I had a school mate who was very beautiful and very nice but dark skinned. She married a guy but he left her even though he was dark skinned too. Beauty should not have a set form. Beauty should come in all shapes and sizes. I'm light brown and guys still complain over my skin colour. They like everything else about me but the main issue with me is the skin colour.
centigradz those Guys that complaining about your skin colour have issues of their own, don't even waste your time on them, their billions of men on this planet, they will come your way
centigradz those Guys that complaining about your skin colour have issues of their own, don't even waste your time on them, their billions of men on this planet, a good sensible man will come your way
I am sorry to hear that. Anyone who makes you feel lesser because of you're skin should be ashamed. Be who and what you are and not what others want you to be.
I relate to this in many ways especially when it comes to dating. Even some of black boys still treat dark skin girls like we are nothing. I just wish parents would spend their time telling their children how beautiful their skin colour is so that when they get older they would love theirselves even more.
forever young true I do that as well when I meet a certain type of black guys. My ex had these friends who would seat there and make fun of dark skin women whilst letting me know how much they were obsessed with lighter skin and Caucasian girls. It used to annoy me because I could see how they were influencing my ex and he would end up treating me badly or hide me. The guy eventually ended up cheating on me with several white girls and actually left for one. It's messed up.
Elizabeth Salmon true even how they behave on social media has an influence on these regular black guys. They end up mimicking that culture by treating dark skin women badly 🙄
As a white girl, I never understood racism or colourism! I think extremely darkskinned people Look so brautiful! And it's a shame how they're treated!! WE should all stand up, united, and finally be human! Albinos, Vitiligos, White/Brown/Dark skinned. We are all part of the rainbow :) and If one. Color would be missing, the rainbow would never be as beautiful !
I took a picture on my cousins phone then when I got home she sent me the same picture but she photoshopped it to make my skin lighter and she literally said “ here’s a prettier picture “
Whenever my aunt sees a beautiful dark skin or brown skin girl she calls them ugly. Even though she is light skinned and unattractive. I often argue with her but she says the proof is in the pudding.
jasmine bats but is that not Europeans did? Force thier beauty standards on literally every race it can be proven that the more a certain race of woman is uplifted or seen as beautiful the more others will want to date that particular woman or someone that looks similar to her thus because we see white on the media 24/7 we want to look like them not all of us but a lot of people do.
jasmine bats you don't get the lighter Africans exsist in the first place because of Europeans mating with the Africans again the original black were dark skinned.
I think this this details a small amount of information on how deep and discriminating colorisim really is or how far such attitudes go... It's not about dark skin women complaining about people's preferences to lighter skinned women ..its more about people's ideals of beautiful ! They are young women trying to expose an ugly uninformed mind set that thinks only light skinned women are beautiful in Asian, Arab and black community's we have 100% all heard and seen that mindset ...most older generations pride themselves on being lighter skinned a colonial mindset !! As a make up artist I feel all shades are beautiful in general..and as a black women I feel all shades of brown that represent my ethnicity are gorgeous ..darker skinned women are some of the most beautiful women on the planet ..there is nothing ugly about dark skin .. Oh and also let's be more honest in our conversations ! Cut threw the bs! Most music artists etc choose light skinned women or white women not because they are beautiful but they are used to sell a more acceptable image of Blackness!! If more artists put dark skinned women in their videos it would help to dispel this image and mindset! Kmt We need to see more black ppl full stop and more darker skinned women of all nationalities on our tv screens so that women of colour are seen in their beautiful shades of skin tone! And any darker skinned woman who acts like she don't agree like colorisim don't exist is lying to herself!
Someone commented that these issues are always highlighted about men , I fully agree we need more honest discussions about men of colour...dark skinned men of colour are treated differently and seen as more of a threat than lighter skinned men .. And people please remember in this country we have a thing called freedom of speech !! If people don't agree with my input to this conversation that's fine but Keep your rudeness to yourself ! Simple .
If you don't like dark skin girls that's fine. I don't want any man who doesn't want me. But don't get mad if a woman prefers a 6ft man with a six pack body, because a lot of guys get mad at women's preferences when women reject them.
G B a woman wanting a tall man is completely different to him wanting a light skin woman because he's been told all his life that they look "better" even when their own mother is dark. Women want to feel protected so a man being taller gives that illusion and sense of security. It's not the "tallness" per say that they prefer but more so the feeling of protection. So there's no similarity.
Your commentary is appreciated but I agree with the logical direction of Winna Ag. Colorism is rooted in White Supremacist conceptions of attractivess while male height is rooted in patriarchal conceptions of attractiveness. Both are problematic and need be dismantled. However, I do follow your confusion towards the sentiments of men towards height, especially men who protect patriarchy yet concurrenlty complain about patriarchal evaluations of manliness (big, tall, & strong).
There's a difference between a preference and between saying all people who don't look like this are ugly. Colorism connotates the outright rejection of anything dark.
The Emmasculator I think the height issue is a fair comparison to colorism in that a lot of women do immediately write off shorter guys. They cringe and turn their nose up if a short man tries to talk to them, so they are outright rejecting anyone short. For the taller women who do this, they feel that a guy shorter than them can't protect them; and for the shorter women, they don't want a short guy because they don't want short children, which is similar to how dark skinned males don't want dark children so they say they don't date dark girls. Both are fucked up and based on what society deems good and standard.
I love dark skin Women. One of the most beautiful, mimicked & assimilated features but then those same hypocrites have the nerve to call Black/dark skin women ugly or unattractive even though many are attracted to, dating, and marrying those very same features on non Black Women.
I'm White and Welsh, my girlfriend is a dark skinned black girl, we live in London, I'd literally never heard of colorism before I moved here. Her brothers always date mixed/light skin girls and have multiple baby mamas but they resent her for going out with a White guy. We've together 4 years and there's still a wall whenever we meet. Still though, I have the love of a beautiful girl and we have a great life together, every race has beautiful people.
This is what my dissertation is about! I'm so glad more people are talking about it, it definitely needs more attention, as it ends up affecting job prospects, income, and even likelyhood of conviction in the event of crime.
couturegalx3 Dating is a huge part of it as humans we naturally want to mate, have sex etc and if someone is saying your an undesirable, it will affect your self esteem.. How do you think these media companies make billions selling beauty standards to both men and women
Chicot The Jester Its not nonsense long ago people of darker skinned in the black community could not get into college. That's just one example. Colorism is more than just certain people being deemed as undesirable, it can affect men and women's livelihoods.
It's sad that whenever we bring this issue to light people would rather stay ignorant instead of actually thinking. Nobody is trying to change your preferences or force you to love us, we would hope that you're asking yourself questions and be a little self-aware.
passerell She’s not trying to change your preference but just trying to say there’s no need to degrade dark skin girls in order to have a preference. My brother is black and his preferences are latinas but he doesn’t go round saying that dark skins are ugly, look like shadows, are loud etc
Who goes around saying that dark skin is ugly? I certainly don't do that, so if the message is "don't insult black people" I find that very insulting that you think you have to tell me that.
Very well made video, wayyyy better than what buzzfeed could ever do. It is important to make the distinction between racism and colourism. Though colourism comes from racism since it was more desired to look like the colonialists. Im glad this is more talked about because it never was when I was a child.
I’m dark skin and I loooooooovvvvvvvveeee my skin and I would never trade it for anything my friend keeps pressuring me to lighten my knuckles and she gets so stressed about it. She doesn’t know that racism and colorism is embedded in her brain
Can’t no dark skinned man ever tell me to My change the way I look cause I love the way I look plus my father always Treated me like the black Queen that I am
@Onyeka Onyebuchukwu true its just a reflection and deflection tatic used by darkskin women who where never even into darkskin men. Deep insight they always desired to be with a white or lightskin male. They know darkskin men dont face the same problem like them because alot of the ''lightskin females'' or white, latina, asian females are into dark choclate males and always speak highly of them. No one ask why there are so many lightskin, latina,asian white girls are with darkskin males ......they always ask why so many darkskin males are with lightskin, latina, white and asian females.
I never really had to face this issue myself, but recently my 6 year old Indian cousin who is dark skinned told me that she wished she could have skin/eyes like mine. And then I began to pick up other little things. She'd always colour in girls in her colouring book with light skin and blue/green eyes, telling me that that was pretty. She told me her mum told her to stay out of the sun in fear of becoming darker. What kind of self-esteem can a CHILD have believing their ethnic features are not "pretty"? This is an issue which is internal to our own communities. No matter what the root of this issue is (perhaps colonialism), it is up to ourselves to empower our children and teach them to love themselves.
Was she thought by someone to think that light skin and blue eyes are beautiful, or she think that by herself? Because, lets be honest, when you ask a kid which is not influenced by any racial things, which color is most beautiful, 99% will say: blue, red, yellow, pink, green, purple, or something like that. In almost all the cases it will be a color in rainbow spectrum. So, is it just possible that those traits that almost all consider beautiful, are considered as such because of its intrinsic beauty? Or, should we teach children that they can't consider blue or red as their favorite color because it is insult to grey or brown?
You make a good point! That challenges my point on the colouring at least; maybe she was just choosing her favourite colour. Although, regardless, colourism is still an issue in the Indian community and many others; the idea that light skin is beautiful and dark skin is ugly is still perpetuated, and it's no secret. For a group of people who don't naturally have those traits, it's a harmful idea.
I'm not expert on Indian beauty standards, or any other as a mater fact. I learned through internet that light skin and eye color are preferred as beauty standard in most parts of the world. When I got into this subject, I looked a lot of different videos by all races. One interesting video is about this dark skin black beauty which is unanimously recognized as such by all of her own black race (man and woman): th-cam.com/video/GtcVAfLFPYA/w-d-xo.html And I agree with comments that this girl is extraordinarily beautiful (as seen in 1:15). However, facial characteristics and eye color of this girl are not typical black race girl, but they belong to light skinned white or Latino group. Long narrow nose, light eyes, overall shape of the face. Yes, she have dark skin and black curly hair (although, as they say in comments, a soft hair, not a typical afro-textured hair), but that do not harm her beauty. From all of that I conclude next: 1. Primary condition of beauty standard worldwide is related to facial characteristics. 2. Those facial characteristics that are recognized as beautiful (by all, as we see in upper video) are typically related to light skinned population. 3. So, by association, it is presumed that beauty is in light color, although it is only secondary source, not a primary. So, when we combine a facial characteristics of light skinned people with natural color of their eyes (which belong to rainbow spectrum) you have what you have. This, of course, do not belong to all light skinned so it is true that that dark skinned black lady if prettier than great majority of light skinned girls, but that don't change the fact that facial characteristic of even that black lady generally belong to light skinned population. So, as I concluded, light peoples characteristics are not considered beautiful because of media influence, but rather, mass media only shows what everyone already inherently recognize as beautiful.
I am a dark skinned pakistani , people near me insist me to use fairness creams , as fairness is big dream in pakistan , every girl and women wants to be whiter unfortunately they forget that we are brown , I was in depression for a while due to colourism in my own community .
I suffered the same thing but in the black community. However I believe it was my confidence strengthening that I guess got me through it? I sincerely hope you achieved the same thing for yourself! Love you stranger it’ll be alright
I'm gonna be completely honest, as a white guy I hadn't really thought about this subject till recently. I'm glad I stumbled on this video, I'll definitely be trying to learn more about this in the future.
As a light skinned woman i am so sorry to all dark skinned people for what you all have had to endure. Your skin is absolutely beautiful, it literally shines in the sunlight and glows LIKE I MEAN GLOWS, you’ll age WAYYY slower because of your melanin and honestly you guys are just down right beautiful. My aunt is a dark skinned woman who was bullied for having dark skin, i remember she would come home from school crying because of the things people would say to her. Parents should start raising their children to see the beauty in EVERY shade than just one. ❤️
Hey pretty thing, I'm sorry you have to learn to love something that's so beautiful. :D I know is this world that makes us like that, but we can change and become better people. YAHUSHA said "Love each other as I have loved you" but the world says " hate one another as much as you can" quite sad. Think of your skin like a celebrity who some hate and some love, but in the end of the day everybody wants to know who they are and what they are doing. Be strong and pray so the hate will go away, be happy with what you have, 'cause some people don't" Bless you so much my love, my pretty, beautiful human. And be the hero the one who spreads love and let them other ones be the villains, in the end of the day heroes need villains, but heroes always win. You'll win!
I knew a black girl who openly said she hated me because I too am black she was darker than me but she said she wished she could be white. I felt so bad for her. The thing is she was actually really pretty she had model features but she just couldn’t see it.
I'm pale and I truly don't understand these prejudices, I have always thought dark skin is the most beautiful skin colour there is. It covers marks in your skin and looks so shiny and silky. And because the colour is so strong it pops out. It is BEAUTIFUL!!
black man with White, Latina, and Asian women Calm down okay? We get it you like non black women that’s fine no one cares but it’s not necessary to bring down others to uplift another. I hope one day you will stop being hateful.
Claire from MWAK was made to leave by her mum because the friend character played by Raven Symone had a pregnancy story line that the mummy-dearest didn't agree with. Pretty sure that wasn't an appearance issue with the actress
ive never experienced colorsim because im light skin but ive had people say colorist things around me and to me because they thought I wouldnt say anything... ive heard people say “i wouldnt date u if u were darker” “your skin tone is perfect not too dark” and ive seen girls disgusted at the thought of dating my friend because they said he has really dark skin its sad and disgusting
Colourism doesn't just effect women, so it would of been good to hear from men and their experiences, for example how women's ideals have effected them, or even how their family and friends treat them differently based on their colour. Like if you agree. I would want to talk about my experiences, BBC invite me down!👍
Anthxny Because, in the black community at least, dark skinned men are praised. When there is a black character, most of the time he’s they typical black dude (dark, Afro hair). And black female celebrities never really seem to project that same colorism that the black male ones do. Around the globe, most of the marketing for skin lightening is projected at women.That why I feel they chose women. However, I would like to see men talk about it to.
Exactly. This whole video is extremely biased towards women. I’ve had to hear girls constantly talk about wanting a light skin and praise light men. Women are always acting like they are the biggest victims in every situation
Yeah I agree. I always see more women fawning over the likes of Chris Brown, Michael Ealy, Jesse Williams or others before they decided they were canceled for other reasons....however with women being traditionally valued and pursued for their beauty as opposed to their other qualities (intelligence, empathy, job security, etc), women are more likely to attach their self-esteem to their looks, which will plummet if they feel undesirable. Especially since most of the beauty industry is geared/marketed towards women. So I understand why they emphasize the struggles of colourism for women more than men, but it doesn't mean men are not affected also. It's not a competition lol...facts are facts.
Mostly all women will not turn down a guy because he is dark chocolate....that's what people look for in a guy... But not so much for a woman, i would know.
I remember staying inside in summers because I was too afraid to come back to school and hear “GIRL YOU GOT DARK!”. I actually used a skin lightening sunscreen from the beauty store at summer camps so I wouldn’t get dark. I didn’t realize how traumatizing that was until I got older. I’m in love with my skin now. I think it’s the most gorgeous color but I had to learn to love it.
@@idioyjohnathon2054 anyone can talk, it just doesn't always hold a lot of weight in conversation . It's like a fully abled person telling a person with no legs how to feel about their situation. Stop trying to feel so oppressed .
The worse thing you can say to someone who has emotional scars is "Oh, just get over it". You never know that person's mindset, how deep those scars go, and what they are thinking of doing, to themselves or others. Just know that she has not gotten away with anything. GOD SEES ALL, and He knows your pain, love. It hurts me to know you suffered through this...I had a similar situation growing up, and it made me believe, for years, that I was ugly and unworthy. That lie held me captive for a long time. The truth? You are beautiful, inside and out, and she knew she couldn't hold a candle to you. Blessings, you Beautiful Brown Lady... #beautifullymelanated
Self Hate runs deep in a lot of races. When I hear the term "Preference" that word is a Dog Whistle to me from the person saying it. Preference shows the Self Hate that people have, what they are actually saying is "I hate my dark skin and I want to marry/date a light skin or white person so I can dilute my DNA so my children won't be dark. As soon as I hear that word, I get the hell away from that person. Their Self Hate may be contagious!!! My skincare channel teaches Melanin people the blessing of having dark skin, it is ageless, it has a natural sunscreen protection. I show how to be proud of and care for our skin.
I'm biracial, black and white. And my skin was bad when I was a teen, so I would wear natural beige makeup. There wasn't a lot of makeup for darker skin and that's sad, but all my darker friends always had the prettier clearer skin. A lot of them didn't need the face makeup. I'm glad my skin is better now and I don't need makeup. I think all shades of women are beautiful.
THIS HAPPENED TO ME TODAY!! As a dark young female, I am put under lights kind and they are praised for being light on the skin all the time. He was a black male and his friends, we were talking about girls and how they will only like a girl if they are light skinned I asked him what's wrong with dark skins?, he tells me "their always winning, no offence" I mean I wasn't shocked, I always see my fellow dark skins on the side, but still people tell me " your so pretty/bad for a dark skin" or if I was light skin "I would be better" for their circumstances but yet never had a boy that really appreciated my skin tone/ or have dated honestly. I don't hate on light skins ,its not their fault. Its social media and men that hyped it up.
This seems in the same category as short guys complaining that women don’t date short guys. True or not, life isn’t fair and the dating game is double unfair. If being short/dark is a negative in the dating game, you have to bring something else to the table to offset it. But that sounds like work, easier to just complain about it right?
There’s a difference between colorism and preference, many people prefer light skin girls, others prefer dark skin girls. Nothing wrong with having a preference
I am a Dark Skinned Eritrean woman, I never understood the obsession with being dark/light skin? I love my color so much, it's hard for me to relate with what they are saying, pleas black girls love your skin color, you are beautiful.....
The Indian girl who voiced her opinions on Bollywood..I completely agree with her. To further elaborate, an Indian director had said that most directors are inclined.to caste a light skin actress as the lead role as that gives a more girl next door look and sense of innocence...where ass dark skinned actress gives a more erotic look and is used for affair scenes etc. Bollywood has a long way to go. But they are giving young girls the wrong impression, which is why many of them start turning to extremes like bleaching their skins etc etc it's sad. Bollywood needs to be realistic.
@@optimist-warmheart8291 They love hiring Europeans /White actors. In-fact some are even hiring actual white actresses as the lead role. And just makeup to and wardrobe to give her a slight portrayal as being Indian.
I didn’t know how “privileged” a lighter skin human is to my face till I grew up then realised that guys have this underlying thing for “lighter skin” females, just because of their skin tone
Not really just said she is attractive. Not dark and I don´t see how that is relevant. There are people attracted to darker shades and ones attracted to lighter ones. The media makes it a bigger problem than it should be. Stop showing your insecurities. Attractive people are privileged, not all biracial are given attention.
Never said you were jealous, just stated insecurities but it does not seem to be the case. I hate when people think they are privileged because of the color of their skin. It is annoying to think one´s skin tone grants them advantages or makes them more attractive than another. Which was why I told her to get off her high horse.
Come on guys. A preference of lighter colour has always been a thing. It's something very deeply rooted into all kinds of cultures. Don't say it is not real. When it obviously is..
Joshualacruz you can't just have a preference out of thin air. Most light skinned black women are mixed with other races. THEREFORE they tend to have different features than full blooded ones, most of which men have more attraction to. The thing dark skinned girls dodge is they do feel lighter skinned girls are better looking. The colorism I take issue with is not allowing a person to get a job because they are too dark. Also you don't see any heavy set women in music videos or women in their fifties whatsoever.
Foxxy18 I don't think it has to do with forse. Just culture. Think about it, white, or light is always better then black or dark. If something is white you can easily determine if it's clean or not. Anything associated with heavens is with heavens. Anything holy or good (in tales) is white. Darkness is associated with unclear, unsafe, dirty, evil. For the longest time this is why the rich people put on white products as make up. Not only in the west. The Asians still do it. If you're not super white, you must be a poor worker in the field, always under the sun. Dirty and poor and probably sick and disgusting and less of a human being than us, the rich and good looking... Well, that's how they thought a couple decades ago anyway. The darker-skinned believed it too. I mean how can you not? No wonder we still have similar thoughts. Not as intense, thankfully, but it is there, somewhere in the back of our culture.
mrblackalchemist I am not sure what point you're trying to make.. But yeah, of course you can have a preference out of mere air. Actually most of your preferences are out of mere air. The culture you live in + the way you react on that culture = most of your preferences. Not because you carefully tried everything and objectively researched every possible option you prefer the taste of vanilla ice cream over mint ice cream or vica versa. Look at dogs for example. They definitely know something is tasty and what is not. Also they eat literally shit. And enjoy it. Why don't we? Because we learned from our culture it's disgusting and unhygienic. We don't need a taste test. Or a "you'll learn to enjoy it." Hell no. So basically preference out of tin air. 😁
Kemi is right. Nigerian guys always make fun of us dark girls. We were the ones that had problems because of our appearance. They also mocked Ghanaian women because they are typically even darker. I once saw a meme that showed that the foundation Ghanaian women used for makeup was black shoe polish. That was really cold.
This is so interesting to first me because I've been jealous of dark skinned girls all my life. I'm mixed so there were times when I felt like darker skinned black women were much more beautiful. Now, I'm happy with my skin color.
So because these women are taught to us that they are less pretty and take more racism in a white washed society, you are proud of your white-given privilege for being lighter? Vile.
Becky Boo I don’t think that’s what she’s saying at all. She’s saying because she thought darker skin equals beauty she saw her lighter skin as the opposite.
The people that are disliking this are probably those who have never had to suffer these issues. Just because you have not experienced it does not mean it is not real.
Indians need to be more vocal about colorism in India. If I were in India, Id be protesting and boycotting. Black women women need to do more of that as well. We have to make not a big deal but a huge deal out of it to see some change.
As a tall dark skinned girl,i live a proud life. I'm always happy and strong. People say "you are ugly,because you arent light skin and light skin girls are prettier than the dark ones" i always was sad after some stud said that. Now i see the hot chocolate boiling on my skin,my hair flying,im proud that my skin is dark,extremely dark.
I remember the first time I became aware of colourism (being white im not exposed to this) was when i was like 14 I think and J-pop was really popular and a bunch of japanese popstars and rockers were talking about the methods they use to lighten their skin and mocked stars who didnt have pale skin. i was so shocked by it at the time and assumed it was just a japanese issue until people started pointing out that black celebs often are whitewashed to some degree in magazines. within white communities the aim is to not look pale and to have a very 'sun-kissed' tan skintone.... but maybe thats because it's dark for white people and not actually dark
tbh whenever i meet a darkskin woman im attracted too i feel bare relaxed around them, like woe, its like that relaxation i get when im in the sun. bare warm, no joke
When will we ever OVERCOME and love for the inner person? I notice even while my daughter was in DAYCARE she was clearly doted on more ... Because of her brightness. As a teacher myself , I draw in ALL my students no matter their complexion. All of you young ladies are absolutely beautiful.
I think that because of colourism in general, it come to bite lightskin/mixed girls back. If everyone was treated as equally beautiful there wouldn't be a problem.
Coin Ru that's kinda the piont. Darskin girls hate me and I'm not even pretty or anything, I don't actually look like your average mixed/lightskin. So In the end white and darskin hate me, the only time I think lightskin girls are idolized if they are extremely pale and have curly hair, so basically are a stereotype. I just honestly think that nobody should be put in categories.
Little_Brown I feel like they hate lighter people because they are constantly told they aren't "pretty" or "too dark". And just like you said you are not your average lightskin/mixed girl those same darkskins would love to be those average lightskins. I'm a darkskin girl and I agree with you because I have seen it before. I feel like I get a pass sometimes because I have medium curly hair. My moms dad is Indian and black(and came out darkskin so did my mom and her brother) and my dad is lightskin and a redhead with long curly dreads and his mom is half Chinese. So I get constantly told I'm very pretty for a "darkskin girl" or my "hair is so pretty I wish I had that type of hair" it's crazy. But back to you, they feel that you and other lightskins will always be the first pick. I'm truly sorry you have been bullied, oh and I saw your TH-cam channel I'll be subscribing:)
I used to be so insecure about my skin. And i was so jealous of my sister for being lighter skinned than me. And I’m not even that dark. But i was convinced that i was ugly because my skin is a deeper brown than most of my family. And i know of so many people who use skin whitening creams. And it absolutely crushes me.
This is all new to me. As an African woman, I never knew that such discrimination existed among blacks. Let alone the term”colorism”. I discovered it last year on the internet. In Africa our biggest problem is Tribalism. It doesn’t matter what shade you are, tribalism determines how u are treated in society, what job you get, promotion in the work place, who you marry and who becomes president in each African country. Yes! People vote along tribal lines. It’s worse than colorism.
why are you lying looool Africans abuse skin whitening creams, I'm African and many females use Diana Cream/Fair and Lovely cream to whiten themselves lol Africans are the biggest self haters in terms of culture and skin! Tribalism is the biggest issue for sure and i don't like the term colourism cause it creates some false victimhood but africa does have an issue with shade of skin!
Its weird because im medium brown and a mix between light brown skin and dark skin so I don't relate to neither sides haha but I was light skin (by black people standards) as a child so I guess I can see more from that perspective. Ive gotten some black people who think im light skin and other ones who see me as brown skin but never dark skin. Colorism is real though and Ive had men treat me better over a darker skinned black girl just because they think I don't look as black. Its messed up but no one would admit that they do this until you point it out to them or they might ask me what my background is to determine my mixture. Dark skin black is beautiful. I always thought Lupita was so gorgeous!
I'm white so obviously I dont understand a lot of these struggles but as a non visible disabled person i feel like i can empathize a least a little with the feeling of being pushed out of your own community. You are beautiful no matter what and if anyone tries to convince you otherwise it's on them. ❤
Lmao I can totally relate. I’m Somali and because I have a ‘lighter’ skin tone my family and other Somalis call me ‘Caday’ which means light or white. Also boys are always asking me what are u mixed with and whenever I say I’m 100% Somali and not mixed, everyone looks at me like I’m crazy. AND when I’m with my dad people ask him if I’m his child cuz he’s much darker than me which is rude. Also when we are filling forms and they ask for your race, we always tick ‘black african’ because that’s who I am, and once the office lady at my primary school said to my mum, ‘Are u sure you don’t want it put down Asian African’ and that goes to show that anyone can be colourist and it’s soooooooo annoyingggggggg
I know all your saying is true. I'm valuable as I am with my dark chocolate skin. But It’s so disturbing at work when I find most people want to avoid being seen with me, even on breaks. I thought it was my character but it's not because if I was a bad person I'd have lost my job etc. I know I'm a good person because I'm very giving and friendly. my so called friends only want to talk to me in private like in toilets it's sad but true. If she's feeling guilty she will ask me out to lunch on a different floor where we'll sit secluded and not be seen. It's so strange for me because coming from Africa and having been in a private school for six years with white, African and Asian descent students I never experienced what I'm seeing now in the heart of England where's there's equality and diversity laws etc. I had a mixed race friend who treated me the same. And then a friend from India is like that too. In my work place there aren't many black people, you can count them on one hand and I have tried making friends with them, they seem afraid to hangout together. All the blacks either sit by themselves or are close with white people another you talk to them they treat you like you're so different. I'm not criticising the attitude of white people here. I'm just saying I am shocked at other races like Asian people who think my dark skin is dirty. I just don't get it- the high and mighty of it. It's really sad. It makes me want to leave the job. But I love my color, I'm chocolatey like Galaxy :-), so I'll just keep calm and carry on being me.
Amani Ta I'm shocked and saddened to hear that you've been treated that way!! Those people don't deserve your time or friendship, I hope you're surrounded by good people without these horrible attitudes who'll love you for who u are regardless of skin colour, as they should 💖💕
Acceptance is the key of all things in life we all beautiful ... Love the color your in love yourself....and stand out thank your for the comments all of it god bless us to love.
So true I don't like it when people try to tell my friends or any girls that they're 'pretty for a black girl' they're pretty because they're pretty. Growing up as a light skinned mixed race girl I never got any hate from men/boys because obliviously colourism although I did grow up with a lot of rejection from the black community with the girls such as bullying or exclusion loool from primary all the way to secondary. Never understood how people could be rude to someone because of their skin colour. Although im ready glad of the wonderful changes black men and women are doing in the community to stop colourism
I am a black man, and I have been witnessing the same willie Lynch syndrome that black men suffered from, black women suffered from. I witnessed growing up in the black community and all the different aspects of black Social Societies, Religions, Educators Black wealth built off the colorism. This game is being played throughout the history of HBCUS, Masons, Eastern Stars and Boule' organization's. My organization Renaissance action National Network is organizing our 1st Annual Asiactic black Diaspora Economic Summit and Movement. On the black Economic agenda is a serious black sisterhood conference and town Hall to address these issues concerning black women across Diaspora. We have to rebuild the black woman and all black women have value and we come in all different shades, sizes and economics backgrounds. There are black women Organizations that practices White supremacy and elitism, and we need a black men and women Organizations to address the willie Lynch syndrome , White supremacy and the self inflicted wounds and violence against each other. Stay tuned for more information concerning African Diaspora Economic Summit. We need to address all the challenges and needs of everyday black women and men.
This is the type of comments I thought I was going to see under a video like this (I appreciate it!) but 👎🏿 NOPE! Lol I’m seeing a bunch of people denying a CLEAR struggle and I’m just like why are you even here?!
The majority of black guys prefer light skin or brown skin women. Is what mostly think is beautiful, I don’t see this as a problem. I personally prefer dating light skin black girls. When girls date only tall guys no one goes to TH-cam to complain why they don’t date short guys .
I can’t believe you’re comparing colorism to Heightism. Colorism is actually a caste system since there is no such thing as ‘light skin black’, those women are mixed but identifying as fully black. There is no ‘height system’ in the world.
The movement among dark-skinned girls to be proud of who they are inspired me, a white lady, because within the white community there is prejudice against girls who don't get dark tans. You are repeatedly told you look unhealthy, even as a child by adults. You are mocked and bullied and told you look like a ghost (something a guy I dated said to me). I was inspired by dark skinned girls to stop trying to look different, stop getting burned so I'd get a bit of a tan (the only way I can tan) and say "yes I have pale skin, no I don't tan, and I can still be pretty." So I want to thank dark skinned girls for inspiring me. I know I'm not the person you were trying to inspire but you did anyway.
Himaryous thank you for sharing this, very insightful. You have inspired me, a dark-skinned unambiguous black young woman, even further. Yes I have dark skin, no I don’t bleach my skin, and of course I can still be pretty! x.
Halle R nobody is offended by a preference. People are rightfully offended when everyday by everybody they’re bullied and pressured to bleach their skin to fit an unattainable media beauty standard. Why can’t you guys just say you love light skin without mentioning and making fun of dark skin? Then there wouldn’t be an issue.
JustTadiwa : Oh please. If it's not colorism, it would he something. Don't be naive. Humans would always find ways to polarize and class people. It's our nature. If it's not skin color, it would be something else.
"If you are black and standing in it... stand in it, in all shades." -Tiffany "New York" Pollard
Mariivoire don't even get me started on that one!😒
I read that in her voice 😂
Harmony LMAO 😂👏💯
Love me some Tiffany '16
did she seriously say that?
I NEVER like Tiffany until she said that. Changed my opinion on her in literally a split second
colourism is racism's sister and classism is their first cousin.
jigger jones what she said is true so what’s your point
jigger jones ok yea I get what you mean by that. People really don’t practice what they preach
@jigger jones just because they date a white person it's prob bc they love them dumbass him dating a cacuasion doesn't mean he wouldn't date black girls
That's like somebody saying trans rights
And then u forcing them to date them (they don't love or know or are into them.) just bc they trans
@jigger jones I mean but they shouldn't really do that of they don't love them that's blaxploitation you're only dating them because of their skin.
Get a life!
“Your actually really pretty for a black girl” 🙄
Noooo just NOOO
Omg if I catch someone saying that to another person I will erupt like a volcano. *Sometimes I wonder whether we are conditioned to find a certain type of colour attractive or whether we naturally find a certain type of colour attractive* the reason this question came up in my head is because in some parts of the world they associate skin colour with a certain stigma and that seems to cause people to prefer a certain type of skin colour if you know what I mean.
passerell I’m dyslexic with a PhD in social work. I’ve done A LOT with the small errors of my punctuation. But thanks for noticing xxx PS no one mentioned uneducated black women but YOU. So stop it.
passerell wow... Shame. Such a shame.
Pretty much yes. If you think of you're as your you probably don't have GREAT critical thinking skills.
Melanin is a gift yet we've been conditioned to believe that it's a curse...
An elderly, white doctor has basically said there are very little advantages to being white other than adaptively being better able to synthesize Vitamin D.
@robin mcgregor Yes. Keywords: varying degrees. If it were as simplistic as it seems and as you suggest, it would not be the foundation for untold nefarious schemes of separation.
Teal Jade's Research Notes and it is that simple, they just broaden the idea and complicate it
Well it is not a curse, it is a good luck charm, because without it, people will age rapidly.
Exactly
I'm a proud Dark- skinned woman. When I was younger I got teased and was very insecure. But I now love the skin I'm in! Wouldn't change it for the world!
Malibeau 25 yaaaaasss queen own it
I just found this video cuz i wanted to see if any black men especially light skinned men was gonna leave any nice comments but unfortunately i probably clicked the wrong video lol. Anyways i just wanted to say that i love dark skinned women. Your skin color is perfect cuz it's like that expensive high quality yummy chocolate that you don't always get to see or have. If people were teasing you for that beautiful shade of complexion; it's cuz they was jealous. They're jealous cuz your skin doesn't crack, you need color treatments or tanning. Why you think people get tans to begin with lol 😄. A lot people want your color but don't want the struggle. I say keep being you & enjoy what God gave you
I hope I'm like that when I'm older.
Little Sade You’re pretty just the way you are, don’t let them put you down!
I wish i could be like you but i had to many negative experiences. When i go to Mexico with my husband to visit his family. It’s all eyes on me and I’m so uncomfortable… Especially in his gated community where most everyone is white Mexican. The time we literally walked out side his house behind the gates to enjoy fresh air a car literally STOP(A MALE) and looked and i just mind my business but after that we always have to walk at night because that was ridiculous. Now i have a way to fit in!
The same happens in my country Sudan. I remember being told you have to be yellow like a mango that’s beautiful. And being the rebellious kid I was I said “I don’t like mangoes I like dark” lol... but yeah it’s so sad to see all these beautiful people trying desperately to lighten their skin color. Changing your exterior won’t help you. You need to fix your interior first. Learn to love yourself.
Amena Teferi I love that!
if that's you you're quite light for sudanese.
italia Bella lmao sudanese people are very very black like nikki perkins or nyma tang.
Yinksy93 that is a common misconception. Sudan is very diverse we have every color.
italia Bella k have sudanese (south) friends
This is so needed. I hate that people get more outraged about black women speaking about colorism than colorism itself. Millions of dark-skinned females across the world all share similar experiences. It's not a coincidence and it's not made up. Colorism is real. Its alive and kicking. Whoever says it's a "preference" can miss me with that mess. There's nothing intrinsically wrong with a preference but I always have to wonder "why?" especially if it's a dark-skinned man who is claiming to only like light-skin, because it often comes from a place of hate. There's a problem when a group of people collectively uplift everything except that which resembles them.
This "preference argument is disingenuous, and it's intellectually dishonest to use it to try to dismiss colorism. Most of the time when people explain why they prefer light-skin, the first thing they say is "..because dark-skinned is X". You don't need to drag dark-skin throught the dirt in order to affirm your so-called preference for light-skin. Leave dark-skinned women alone, leave them out of it and move the hell on with your 'preference'.
Literally this.
I don't understand why people keep making this about envy. It's nothing to do with that. It just shows how much of a pedestal light-skin has been elevated on.. Somehow we've gotten to the point where you can't speak about colorism without people thinking you're somehow jealous of light-skinned people.. So stupid and egocentric.
shows how far up their own arse lighter skinned people are for them to think denouncing colorism means dark-skinned people are jealous.
+Angeliculture You are making people with preference justify it by arguing its racist, stop manipulating society. You say the preference argument is disingenuous but provide no evidence for this other than the fact that people try to justify it with because dark skin is X.
Take a non issue like chest hair I have heard some women say they like chest hair because having no chest hair is weird and seems immature, does that mean its disingenuous to say that is preference? Listen plenty of people, hell almost everyone, have characteristics that are, on average, unattractive to the opposite sex I still fail to see how you justify separating skin tone from chest hair, nose size, body shape, ear shape, nail size, eyelash/eyebrow shape, face symmettry, freckles etc.
I'm sure your comment was interesting but it was very long so I didn't read it
Angeliculture I'm sorry but everyone agrees that an average darkskin is uglier than an average lightskin. There are acceptions but they are not the majority.
People's unwillingness to accept that colorism is a thing just highlights how ignorant people are. As a black person if someone told you racism doesn't exist would you agree with them ?
+Danielle Idolomah Its not that people are saying its not a thing, its that it is that the thing people are complaining about is in peoples minds not their actions and what they are asking for is widespread manipulation of peoples brains and preferences through media control.
+Lala324 Honestly I can't imagine anything more privelleged than demanding all media in society changes to make you seem more attractive. I mean I have a big nose that isnt very attractive, how entitled would it be to demand media cater to make that more attractive?
I have to agree with the500. Being attractive is not a human right. You don't need to follow media stereotypes. I find it very shallow of people who do so, to the extent of feeling victimised becuase others in the lime light have a 'nicer' tone of skin. Get over it, you're not a super model, focus on other aspects in life. The only thing holding you back is your self. Insecurities come from within.
Mr Sam I didn't hear anyone state that anyone had a "nicer" tone of skin, just lighter, they are not synonymous. Me personally I feel as if deep brown skin is a beautiful and useful tone of skin. Useful in the sense as it acts as a preserver and protection from the natural light of our planet ie the sun. Insecurities do NOT only come from within, they most definitely are instilled by outside forces. Although I will agree with you partly because within is where you will have to fight against these lingering feelings of inadequacy and self doubt. IMO
stoqn FB We don’t need validation to believe we are great, and not all white and asian people hate us
It took me until recently to understand the privilege I have as a light(-ish) skinned south asian woman. This bias against dark skinned girls is such trash.
Maya K its good to be knowlegable doesnt mean you have to feel bad or guilty but just to have empathy and to try and understand. im medium toned so i get some bad and some good comments but i hate it when light skinned people dismiss colourism.
That is an amazing trait to have..to be empathetic and recognise the bias. That attribute will take you far in life.
So true
As a man my skin color is not on anything its about money height power and sexual prowess.
It took you until recently to become a braiwashed racist.
It blows my mind that black people talk so much against racism but hate on their own peoples color.
Amoy Ellis interesting but if u understood real history about colonialism and slavery u would understand that nothing happens in a vacuum.. just like when women sometimes say men are trash but people wonna pretend like we are angry and bitter when we should look at the system in which women are still fighting to feel safe in their own bodies.
As a black person I totally agree.
Amoy Ellis exactly. Have no qualms about calling a darker black person 'blick' or whatever vile term but when someone of another race says the n word, it's time for war. Absolutely ridiculous.
I stated what i said because I know it first hand, I'm black, born and grew up in Jamaica and clearly understand the plantation system. But I'm keeping it real, we as blacks like to cry and complain about discrimination, but we discriminate against our own people. Being a dark skinned women I have experience it also and have been treated differently because of my color. So anyone who is commenting that I don't understand our history, please check yourself and get off my line.
mzChocoSensualHedbob you're not actually putting colourism and racism in the same box??!! WOW!
Explaining colorism to black men is like explaining racism to white people. They know it's real but want to deny it and dismiss the struggles.
@witch, please , Its mostly women who fetishze lightskin people...why do you think its always females have this type of convos all the time. What do darskin girls say when they see a lightskin baby.....ahhh she is so beautiful....ahh she oh so cute i want to have a lightskin baby like that as well. Or some feel lightskin women are prettier then them as women refer to others as beautiful. Its easy to blame men and being un nuanced. Because the same dark skin male will still be rejected by women who say stuff like your comment because they want a cute lighskint light eyes male with curly hair right ?
@@luichen115 You aren't even black.
What happens if a Black man is really attracted to a light skin person? So they shouldn't express that part because he's I assume you would call him color struck?
no some black men experience it
U shouldn’t make stupid statements like that without knowing the facts
I'm white so I've never had to face this issue myself but even lately I've stopped listening to certain music artists because of this reason. I'm sick of hearing how "rachet" dark skin girls are.. Anyway atleast you dark skin girls will be looking young and fresh faced for years and years, seriously you age ridiculously well! Haha :)
I have a feeling that you don't know the difference between dark skin, brown skin and light skin in the black community. You probably think they mean dark skin = black lol. I would never support someone who dislieks someone of their own race but some people are just ignorant. They are refering to women who are Lupita shade and its just so silly to think because Lupita is gorgeous
Ofcourse I know the difference between a light skinned and dark skinned black person that's the whole point of this comment. We've both just watched the same clip haven't we?...
"You probably think dark skin= black" why do I probably think that then? Because I'm white?
Babe!!! Tell me about it. It’s why I totally stopped listening to C-rap music and switched to soft rock and sometimes metal alongside other meaningful music.
RayS2able she isn’t, but compared to other girls like tika sumpter, angel love, Malaysia etc. she is basic af
MSP 93 Your a smart girl, I don't even listen to that music because it's crap. I'm glad u are doing someone to support dark skinned girl. It is very much appreciated.
This video was definitely needed and perfectly explains this issue in our community
LivingAsTasha This occurs n a lot of communities. Nothing special for the blk community
Pretty
Nathan Jones who said anything about black community? I think by “our” she meant people of color. And it is literally special for the black community because we get it the WORST. Ya know why? Because on top of being “dark skinned “ we’re also BLACK. and that’s like the worst thing to come to earth as but we here for some reason smh lmao
Problem with you dark skin girls is you worship dark guys who prefer light women or non black women. Maybe try giving other black guys a chance like brownskin and lightskin or try another race. Don't cry cus the guy as dark as you don't want you when you yourself are a colourist and don't want to date lighter men than you. 'preference' works both ways.
Briptz 96 I agree with that. But i see everyone equally & I would be open to date anybody of any skin tone or race🤗✨
Has anyone watched My Wife and Kids? If you have you'll probably remember when they changed the character of Claire to a dark skin actress to a light skin actress. With the dark skin actress, Claire was really aggressive and ghetto. With the light skin actress, she was calmer and kinder although she was dumber.
Ari SamAlao Yeah. It was the same thing with The Fresh prince of bel air. (The cast claimed that she was stuck up and aggressive behind the scenes and so on.) But we all know that the original (which is usually a dark skinned woman,) is way more entertaining and likeable.
Ari SamAlao the first Claire's mother took her out of the show because she didn't like the teenage pregnancy script. Them replacing them with lighter Claire is another story though.
Ok I’m black & ur reaching.
Yep I remember that show!!!
yeah but they was taking about how she was in real life which she probably was. Her character on the show was dope tho. @@PrincessJJ-o3n
Anyone else dark skinned with a light skinned best friend and find yourself always getting compared to them?
Jessa Agyeman ALL.THE. TIME.
Yesss
Same! Expect I’m the light skin one
Yesssss
yess!
A lot of ignorant comments. Not suprised tho.
True, sadly a lot of people are dumb as hell. Blaming "white colonialism" for the preference of light skin when even in Ancient Egypt 3000 years ago way before any white people colonialism they already prefered lighter skin on women. It's called preference.
Tiro
When you’re unaware that you’re among the ignorant comments that she’s talking about
You got an counter-argument? No? Because you're ignorant and dumb.
Well Tiro here proves that a hit dog will holler. Why would i waste my time trying to get some sense in a troll like you? I have seen your comments, no thanks :'-) have a nice day
Of course you don't because you're a helpless idiot who doesn't know what to say besides crying RACISM!!! I have disproven with several examples that cultures that were without the influence of white colonialism already adored lighter skin. Why? Simply because they liked it.
Now what can you guys say about that? Nothing. You're just a bunch of dumb crybabies who can't get over the fact that most people will prefer light skin over dark skin.
Shout out to Chewing Gum for having an incredible, stereotype-destroying dark-skinned main character!
TheZchristina97 yes !!!!
*Don't let that show gas you up.*
i need to re-watch
Everyone wants big lips, hourglass shape, big butts, rounded features, darker skin, fuller hair, voluminous hair..... UNTIL IT'S ON A BLACK WOMAN WHO NATURALLY OBTAINS THESE THINGS.... Then it's a problem? Nah, people are haters point, blank, period. I've been targeted by the black community for my lighter skin, and it makes me sad. I just have to be mature (not easy, lol) and understand that society perpetuates hate between lighter skin and darker skin and I have to kill hate with love... I haven't always done that .. 💛
dear Alphabet soup, Perhaps everyone wats an hour glass shape, maybe some , a big butt ...BUT never a BIG gut, kinky hair, loud voice , musculine look..and all the bla bla some people boast about saying other races are jealous of them because of it.
@@wingedfameangel7030 Loud voice? masculine look? this HAS to be a joke
zab cartagena I think the video was more about the discrimination that dark skin woman face. No offense but I feel that your comment was kinda...
These videos are always about dark skins and not about how some of them treat light skinned girls ... Yes I'm caramel color , and I get a lot of jealousy comments from my cousins that I'm stuck up or think I'm all that ... My mom is dark skin and I've heard her say a lot of stuff about lighter skinned girls , not me but other people. Like "why she got on all that makeup , she just think she all that cause she light skin" , or "of course she gonna wear that because she think those guys gonna look at her cause that color on her " and I don't say nothing but it makes me sad cause I can't help I'm a lighter skin tone 😭😔 like dark or brown skin girls , look at u so mean sometimes , and rolling they eyes , like wtf.. and than my mom be saying stuff like wear this color lip stick or this color hair , u light skin so it'll look right on u , and I'm just like , why should it matter , it can go anybody , if u fix yourself up right .. idk it might not be as worse as how dark girls are treated but we do deal with stuff too . And it's the black men that be talking about them not us girls !!! And because of the hurt they experience, they put us down , and make us seem like we in the wrong and make us feel bad , and talk about us like dogs and they put they selves on a high pedestal and say stuff like us dark girls are gold, gods and queens , like they try to make us seem like we ain't black because they post nothing but the dark girls and title it black woman like we don't matter . And they making their self seem no better than the black men that put them down dark woman for white and light woman . And most of the time those light woman don't even be from that black race, they be Mexican , Asian , Hispanic, putero Rican and white woman ! I also think they get black light skins mixed up with them !!! Not saying black girls don't have curly hair , but most of those light skin girls with straight and curly hair be from other races !!! And I doubt a black men would date a black light skin girl with 4c hair ... I mean some do, but the ones the capture usually be with curly hair from another race or a damn white woman . I know dark woman have been through hell but it's like now , black lighter woman are silently being excluded and bullied in the process of y'all uplifting y'all selves and it makes me sad . And it also makes me sad how my family think cause I'm kinda light that I automatically look right with everything I put in my face or hair . It makes my cousins that's dark feel bad . And I'm a black girl regardless of what my skin color is
💓Princess Yonna💓 I personally say as a light skin black person that I’ve never faced discrimination. But also Idk is I’m light skinned or not (I’m in the verge of brown) Dark skin woman face more difficulties I believe. The point is not to say light skin people don’t face difficulties too. But the people who are being affected most in the world by colorism is darker skinned people. In the black community they label dark skinned girls ugly and ratchet all the time. The praise people claim dark skinned people get is mostly online not real life. Your mom telling you that you can wear this and that makeup is true. Because you know what: dark skinned usually don’t get that privellage. Not to be rude but you sound kind of butthurt. From my personal experience growing up in the hood and going to public schools, is that dark skinned black girls are hated on and light skin people are idiolized. And you know who usually calls these people ugly: light skinned people. I think the comments from others only affect you if your insecure 🤷🏿♀️ Never once have I felt less black because I am light skin but I have seen people put *me* on pedestals. It’s not fair it never is. Especially since instead of seeing multiple dark skinned woman in the media we see lots of like skinned individuals 🤷🏿♀️ Light skin people need to stop ignoring colorism and start understanding that people who are darker have to face many different diffuculties. I just can’t feel sympathy for you. Being misrepresented in the media as ghetto and ratchet, being taunted by your own people, never seeing skin like your on a tv screen, and being compared to burnt things is what lots of dark skinned people face. If you really are proud of being black then you don’t need anyone’s validation and that’s the tea ☕️ sis warm and hot for you.💅🏽Be proud and support dark skinned woman because we as a whole and the media put them down.
did you have to say that you're not hating on lightskinned people?, own your shit, stop being a dark skinned apologist, you're speaking the truth and its beautiful.
Decia -NB these girls didn’t have to apologize because they said nothing wrong about light skin people. Darkskin women can speak on their issues but there’s no need to drag light skin people while speaking on the issues you face having darker skin.
I'm brown but like it or not light skinned ppl need to be involved in the conversation... The definition of colorism includes Anyone shamed by their own race because of their skintone. We've all seen light skinned girls rejected or scrutinized by the black community. Ppl questioning their 'blackness' or hate on them just because they're light. It's colorist. It's wrong. And they deserve to be sympathized with. Whether the ppl in the video are responsible for it or not.
exactly, they didn't drag light skin people so they there was no need to apologize.
i understand what you're saying and they do need to be included, they should admit their privilege and understand how they perpetuate colorism as for their blackness or race being questioned that is not right and it should stop, i always tell me friends and family to stop assuming a person is mixed because of their light complexion, however their "struggle" does not compare to the institutionalised structure that is colorism that SOLELY affects dark-skinned people because colorism is the oppression of darker skinned people to benefit lighter skinned people the same way racism is the oppression of minority to uplift white people and therefore the same way no minority can be racist to a white person no dark-skinned person can be colorist to a light-skinned person.
you don't listen and that will be your demise.
There's a "famous" singer that I used to go to school with. Mixed race, black and white. And she had light skin. She would go out of her way to bully me every single day.
Bully me about my appearance, especially because I have dark skin. She'd call me names relating to my skin colour.
And now she's "famous", she's now surrounded by people of my skin colour and suddenly wants to be associated with it because she knows that with the kind of music she makes, the audience most of the time are people that look like me.
But everyone loves her, so I know that if I said anything about her, that stupid narrative of "jealous mean dark skin girl" would be put upon me.
I just wish everyone knew about her disgusting attitudes towards people with dark skin.
I hate it (colourism) so much, it's so pathetic.
Especially because people like her get away with it all the time.
Mavis Username Who is she
Who?
who is she?
Who?☕
Mavis Username lol if it was me I’d ruin her
As a mixed women, I see colorism a whole lot. I refuse to date or even talk to any man that disrespects dark skinned women. My mother is dark skinned, so by disrespecting black women, your are disrespecting my mother and my black side of the family. And my ex boyfriend even told my best friend, who is really dark skinned, that she’s beautiful for a black woman. So he’s implying that black women are normally ugly? Mixed people do face discrimination too, but can I say i’ve faced more discrimination than my dark skinned siblings? No, I can’t. I don’t understand their struggle and I don’t know what they go through on a daily basis. I know it’s horrible, but black men aren’t making it any better, especially if they put down dark skinned women as if it’s gonna impress light skinned women. Colorism is real. You can deny it all you want, but mixed people in general benefit in society for having lighter skin.
Youre a whole whiye lady who you tryna fool ?? Lmao
@enigmaticstatic 7 lmao im 18 but ok u could've just said she is white based also thanks ❤
@enigmaticstatic 7 Why you gotta be so rude?
@enigmaticstatic 7 This is life. personnally, only light skin people prejudice against me cuz im black, and Im okay with that. Im used to it.
Anais She’s biracial is that so hard to understand some biracial people look more black others look more white/ whatever other mix. Stop acting like you ain’t ever seen more that two mixed people.
Come to Sri Lanka and see
Men women both wanna have lighter skin
I hate this
I love my brown skin
erm.... isn't it because of through history lighter skin in asian region meant that person doesn't work outside aka rich enough to stay indoors during daytime?
CreatureHeroin have to say yes. If you have lighter skin they think you have money or class.
Here they are taking injections to get lighter skin.
Talk about it. My aunt constantly tells me I'm dark and whenever I stand next to my mom or my cousins they think I'm adopted even though I'm brown.
centigradz that pisses me of so much. Why can't people love their skin and let other love their own skin.
hmmm I think it's slightly different from western concept, also I'm not sure if western concept has to be applied to asia
When I was in China my tutors used to favour my light skinned friend and didn't want anything to do with me. My aunt always verbalizes her disappointment when she sees me. My grandpa didn't like holding dark skin babies. When I'm around my cousins ppl think I'm adopted. And guys in Sri Lanka only want to marry very light skinned guys. My cousins are like pale and they get asked out alot. I had a school mate who was very beautiful and very nice but dark skinned. She married a guy but he left her even though he was dark skinned too. Beauty should not have a set form. Beauty should come in all shapes and sizes. I'm light brown and guys still complain over my skin colour. They like everything else about me but the main issue with me is the skin colour.
centigradz those Guys that complaining about your skin colour have issues of their own, don't even waste your time on them, their billions of men on this planet, they will come your way
centigradz those Guys that complaining about your skin colour have issues of their own, don't even waste your time on them, their billions of men on this planet, a good sensible man will come your way
I am sorry to hear that. Anyone who makes you feel lesser because of you're skin should be ashamed. Be who and what you are and not what others want you to be.
Your granddad sounds spiritually dead! Nothing cuter than a dark-skinned baby.
I relate to this in many ways especially when it comes to dating. Even some of black boys still treat dark skin girls like we are nothing. I just wish parents would spend their time telling their children how beautiful their skin colour is so that when they get older they would love theirselves even more.
Annah Lewanika when I’m around black boys I switch off. I never acknowledge their existence because I know they will chat negative shit.
I feel like the music secretly influences there hate. That's why I don't listen to certian songs. Evil
forever young true I do that as well when I meet a certain type of black guys. My ex had these friends who would seat there and make fun of dark skin women whilst letting me know how much they were obsessed with lighter skin and Caucasian girls. It used to annoy me because I could see how they were influencing my ex and he would end up treating me badly or hide me. The guy eventually ended up cheating on me with several white girls and actually left for one. It's messed up.
Elizabeth Salmon true even how they behave on social media has an influence on these regular black guys. They end up mimicking that culture by treating dark skin women badly 🙄
Annah Lewanika I’m so sorry
LOVED THIS VIDEO!
AbsolutelyRuwaydah you love this but your husband is white lol . Okay 👌🏽
Kacey Klos and you mad lol. Okay 😂😂✌
Kacey Klos what that got to do with anything ?? I'm just confused👀😂😂. How you know her hubsand white ?? Are you mad ??? Or Are you mad ?? 👀☕🐸
I AGREE
Kacey Klos I'm surprised someone like you knows what a husband is.
As a white girl, I never understood racism or colourism! I think extremely darkskinned people Look so brautiful! And it's a shame how they're treated!! WE should all stand up, united, and finally be human! Albinos, Vitiligos, White/Brown/Dark skinned. We are all part of the rainbow :) and If one. Color would be missing, the rainbow would never be as beautiful !
Bisasam1995 someone with some sense.
Thank you
I took a picture on my cousins phone then when I got home she sent me the same picture but she photoshopped it to make my skin lighter and she literally said “ here’s a prettier picture “
Try not to take it too hard they may not understand that that was very disrespectful and we’re not trying to hurt you.
Society...
she sounds brainwashed by the white washed system/media
That's fucked up
Whoa. 😐
Whenever my aunt sees a beautiful dark skin or brown skin girl she calls them ugly. Even though she is light skinned and unattractive. I often argue with her but she says the proof is in the pudding.
centigradz black people come in all different shades, that's what makes us unique. Unless she's just an ignorant person..
She probably jelouse you will be surprised how many light skin women hate dark skinned women especially those old women.
jasmine bats but is that not Europeans did? Force thier beauty standards on literally every race it can be proven that the more a certain race of woman is uplifted or seen as beautiful the more others will want to date that particular woman or someone that looks similar to her thus because we see white on the media 24/7 we want to look like them not all of us but a lot of people do.
jasmine bats you don't get the lighter Africans exsist in the first place because of Europeans mating with the Africans again the original black were dark skinned.
jasmine bats how do you think lighter skinned Africans were created?out of thin air? Especially with the hotclimate that would be impossible.
I think this this details a small amount of information on how deep and discriminating colorisim really is or how far such attitudes go...
It's not about dark skin women complaining about people's preferences to lighter skinned women ..its more about people's ideals of beautiful !
They are young women trying to expose an ugly uninformed mind set that thinks only light skinned women are beautiful in Asian, Arab and black community's we have 100% all heard and seen that mindset ...most older generations pride themselves on being lighter skinned a colonial mindset !!
As a make up artist I feel all shades are beautiful in general..and as a black women I feel all shades of brown that represent my ethnicity are gorgeous ..darker skinned women are some of the most beautiful women on the planet ..there is nothing ugly about dark skin ..
Oh and also let's be more honest in our conversations ! Cut threw the bs! Most music artists etc choose light skinned women or white women not because they are beautiful but they are used to sell a more acceptable image of Blackness!! If more artists put dark skinned women in their videos it would help to dispel this image and mindset! Kmt
We need to see more black ppl full stop and more darker skinned women of all nationalities on our tv screens so that women of colour are seen in their beautiful shades of skin tone!
And any darker skinned woman who acts like she don't agree like colorisim don't exist is lying to herself!
Rosemarie farmer Yawn
Someone commented that these issues are always highlighted about men , I fully agree we need more honest discussions about men of colour...dark skinned men of colour are treated differently and seen as more of a threat than lighter skinned men ..
And people please remember in this country we have a thing called freedom of speech !!
If people don't agree with my input to this conversation that's fine but
Keep your rudeness to yourself ! Simple .
Chicot The Jester ... .Rudeness kmt.
Rosemarie farmer Sorry, could you give me an abridged version. I have a really short attention span.
Chicot The Jester look it's fine..no negative vibes from me to you , basically this issue is a very real and deep issue for women of colour .
If you don't like dark skin girls that's fine. I don't want any man who doesn't want me. But don't get mad if a woman prefers a 6ft man with a six pack body, because a lot of guys get mad at women's preferences when women reject them.
G B a woman wanting a tall man is completely different to him wanting a light skin woman because he's been told all his life that they look "better" even when their own mother is dark. Women want to feel protected so a man being taller gives that illusion and sense of security. It's not the "tallness" per say that they prefer but more so the feeling of protection. So there's no similarity.
Your commentary is appreciated but I agree with the logical direction of Winna Ag.
Colorism is rooted in White Supremacist conceptions of attractivess while male height is rooted in patriarchal conceptions of attractiveness. Both are problematic and need be dismantled. However, I do follow your confusion towards the sentiments of men towards height, especially men who protect patriarchy yet concurrenlty complain about patriarchal evaluations of manliness (big, tall, & strong).
There's a difference between a preference and between saying all people who don't look like this are ugly. Colorism connotates the outright rejection of anything dark.
The Emmasculator I think the height issue is a fair comparison to colorism in that a lot of women do immediately write off shorter guys. They cringe and turn their nose up if a short man tries to talk to them, so they are outright rejecting anyone short. For the taller women who do this, they feel that a guy shorter than them can't protect them; and for the shorter women, they don't want a short guy because they don't want short children, which is similar to how dark skinned males don't want dark children so they say they don't date dark girls. Both are fucked up and based on what society deems good and standard.
digthewarmth I wasn't talking about the height comparison. Was referring to the original commenter.
I love dark skin Women. One of the most beautiful, mimicked & assimilated features but then those same hypocrites have the nerve to call Black/dark skin women ugly or unattractive even though many are attracted to, dating, and marrying those very same features on non Black Women.
They’re so beautiful😍🤤
TæTæ Is My BæBæ hope you’re being sarcastic
TaxiFire 3 yaaaaas army ganggggggg
True. I envy the skin😍
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I'm White and Welsh, my girlfriend is a dark skinned black girl, we live in London, I'd literally never heard of colorism before I moved here. Her brothers always date mixed/light skin girls and have multiple baby mamas but they resent her for going out with a White guy. We've together 4 years and there's still a wall whenever we meet. Still though, I have the love of a beautiful girl and we have a great life together, every race has beautiful people.
black people.... we could own the world right now if we only came together and supported on another...but........
yup exactly weather were dark skin,brown skin or dark skin
the world is not a shit hole right now?????????? becky hush!!
True
Lol, what a pointless and strange thing to say
This is what my dissertation is about! I'm so glad more people are talking about it, it definitely needs more attention, as it ends up affecting job prospects, income, and even likelyhood of conviction in the event of crime.
Pooja M You’re writing a dissertation about this nonsense? The university system is even more screwed than I thought.
Pooja M that sounds very interesting !!! Good luck girl
Yes these are the real issues, and its frustrating when people only want to talk about who men choose to date 🙄
couturegalx3 Dating is a huge part of it as humans we naturally want to mate, have sex etc and if someone is saying your an undesirable, it will affect your self esteem.. How do you think these media companies make billions selling beauty standards to both men and women
Chicot The Jester Its not nonsense long ago people of darker skinned in the black community could not get into college. That's just one example. Colorism is more than just certain people being deemed as undesirable, it can affect men and women's livelihoods.
It's sad that whenever we bring this issue to light people would rather stay ignorant instead of actually thinking. Nobody is trying to change your preferences or force you to love us, we would hope that you're asking yourself questions and be a little self-aware.
a_loki_miracle I love y’all anyway I hear and see the struggle 💖💋😘 have a blessed day🙏🏼💖
Bruh idk what color I am anymore. But i love dark girllssss I stay fighting for y'all.
If you're not trying to change my preferences, what are you trying to do then exactly?
passerell She’s not trying to change your preference but just trying to say there’s no need to degrade dark skin girls in order to have a preference. My brother is black and his preferences are latinas but he doesn’t go round saying that dark skins are ugly, look like shadows, are loud etc
Who goes around saying that dark skin is ugly?
I certainly don't do that, so if the message is "don't insult black people" I find that very insulting that you think you have to tell me that.
Very well made video, wayyyy better than what buzzfeed could ever do. It is important to make the distinction between racism and colourism. Though colourism comes from racism since it was more desired to look like the colonialists. Im glad this is more talked about because it never was when I was a child.
Fintan That’s BS
I’m dark skin and I loooooooovvvvvvvveeee my skin and I would never trade it for anything my friend keeps pressuring me to lighten my knuckles and she gets so stressed about it. She doesn’t know that racism and colorism is embedded in her brain
Can’t no dark skinned man ever tell me to My change the way I look cause I love the way I look plus my father always Treated me like the black Queen that I am
@Onyeka Onyebuchukwu true its just a reflection and deflection tatic used by darkskin women who where never even into darkskin men. Deep insight they always desired to be with a white or lightskin male. They know darkskin men dont face the same problem like them because alot of the ''lightskin females'' or white, latina, asian females are into dark choclate males and always speak highly of them. No one ask why there are so many lightskin, latina,asian white girls are with darkskin males ......they always ask why so many darkskin males are with lightskin, latina, white and asian females.
Lui Chen : Hmmm...that's one way to look at it.
Queen with her weave, and cant compare with women of other races
Black girls need to find confidence in themselves and not allow the society they live in tell them they are beautiful! ALL COLOURS ARE BEAUTIFUL 💗
Mimsxo ummm we are the most confident. Speak for yourself.
All My Sisters some black girls are not confident due to people society putting them down! It’s only now we are looked on as different and beautiful
Speak for your self
We’re actually the most confident sis but ok
I appreciate your comment igonore the ignorant people
I am a dark brown woman engaged to a dark brown man. Can't wait for us to marry and bring more beauty and blackness into the world ✊🏿
Lots of love 💓
I never really had to face this issue myself, but recently my 6 year old Indian cousin who is dark skinned told me that she wished she could have skin/eyes like mine. And then I began to pick up other little things. She'd always colour in girls in her colouring book with light skin and blue/green eyes, telling me that that was pretty. She told me her mum told her to stay out of the sun in fear of becoming darker. What kind of self-esteem can a CHILD have believing their ethnic features are not "pretty"? This is an issue which is internal to our own communities. No matter what the root of this issue is (perhaps colonialism), it is up to ourselves to empower our children and teach them to love themselves.
Was she thought by someone to think that light skin and blue eyes are beautiful, or she think that by herself? Because, lets be honest, when you ask a kid which is not influenced by any racial things, which color is most beautiful, 99% will say: blue, red, yellow, pink, green, purple, or something like that. In almost all the cases it will be a color in rainbow spectrum. So, is it just possible that those traits that almost all consider beautiful, are considered as such because of its intrinsic beauty? Or, should we teach children that they can't consider blue or red as their favorite color because it is insult to grey or brown?
You make a good point! That challenges my point on the colouring at least; maybe she was just choosing her favourite colour. Although, regardless, colourism is still an issue in the Indian community and many others; the idea that light skin is beautiful and dark skin is ugly is still perpetuated, and it's no secret. For a group of people who don't naturally have those traits, it's a harmful idea.
I'm not expert on Indian beauty standards, or any other as a mater fact. I learned through internet that light skin and eye color are preferred as beauty standard in most parts of the world. When I got into this subject, I looked a lot of different videos by all races. One interesting video is about this dark skin black beauty which is unanimously recognized as such by all of her own black race (man and woman):
th-cam.com/video/GtcVAfLFPYA/w-d-xo.html
And I agree with comments that this girl is extraordinarily beautiful (as seen in 1:15). However, facial characteristics and eye color of this girl are not typical black race girl, but they belong to light skinned white or Latino group. Long narrow nose, light eyes, overall shape of the face. Yes, she have dark skin and black curly hair (although, as they say in comments, a soft hair, not a typical afro-textured hair), but that do not harm her beauty.
From all of that I conclude next:
1. Primary condition of beauty standard worldwide is related to facial characteristics.
2. Those facial characteristics that are recognized as beautiful (by all, as we see in upper video) are typically related to light skinned population.
3. So, by association, it is presumed that beauty is in light color, although it is only secondary source, not a primary.
So, when we combine a facial characteristics of light skinned people with natural color of their eyes (which belong to rainbow spectrum) you have what you have. This, of course, do not belong to all light skinned so it is true that that dark skinned black lady if prettier than great majority of light skinned girls, but that don't change the fact that facial characteristic of even that black lady generally belong to light skinned population.
So, as I concluded, light peoples characteristics are not considered beautiful because of media influence, but rather, mass media only shows what everyone already inherently recognize as beautiful.
Davor M in india we prefer Light skinned but people really like dark eyes ex black eyes in india .
And that is perfectly ok.
I am a dark skinned pakistani , people near me insist me to use fairness creams , as fairness is big dream in pakistan , every girl and women wants to be whiter unfortunately they forget that we are brown , I was in depression for a while due to colourism in my own community .
I suffered the same thing but in the black community. However I believe it was my confidence strengthening that I guess got me through it? I sincerely hope you achieved the same thing for yourself! Love you stranger it’ll be alright
I'm gonna be completely honest, as a white guy I hadn't really thought about this subject till recently. I'm glad I stumbled on this video, I'll definitely be trying to learn more about this in the future.
This is good to hear cuz it's a real problem that affects tons of dark skinned women... especially in the media
We appreciate people like you, thank you 🙏🏿
(You know not hating us for absolutely no reason)
@@amariahfarmer5921 no thanks needed, just trying to go through life as an informed and decent person.
@@fangsabre its crazy right! this world has got some real awfull stuff.
As a light skinned woman i am so sorry to all dark skinned people for what you all have had to endure. Your skin is absolutely beautiful, it literally shines in the sunlight and glows LIKE I MEAN GLOWS, you’ll age WAYYY slower because of your melanin and honestly you guys are just down right beautiful. My aunt is a dark skinned woman who was bullied for having dark skin, i remember she would come home from school crying because of the things people would say to her. Parents should start raising their children to see the beauty in EVERY shade than just one. ❤️
Im darker than all of these girls. I love their skin and im still learning to love mine
Hey pretty thing, I'm sorry you have to learn to love something that's so beautiful. :D I know is this world that makes us like that, but we can change and become better people. YAHUSHA said "Love each other as I have loved you" but the world says " hate one another as much as you can" quite sad. Think of your skin like a celebrity who some hate and some love, but in the end of the day everybody wants to know who they are and what they are doing. Be strong and pray so the hate will go away, be happy with what you have, 'cause some people don't" Bless you so much my love, my pretty, beautiful human. And be the hero the one who spreads love and let them other ones be the villains, in the end of the day heroes need villains, but heroes always win. You'll win!
You're beautiful.
I knew a black girl who openly said she hated me because I too am black she was darker than me but she said she wished she could be white. I felt so bad for her. The thing is she was actually really pretty she had model features but she just couldn’t see it.
I'm pale and I truly don't understand these prejudices, I have always thought dark skin is the most beautiful skin colour there is. It covers marks in your skin and looks so shiny and silky. And because the colour is so strong it pops out. It is BEAUTIFUL!!
there is no such thing is the 'most beautiful' color. all colors are beautiful
black man with White, Latina, and Asian women Calm down okay? We get it you like non black women that’s fine no one cares but it’s not necessary to bring down others to uplift another. I hope one day you will stop being hateful.
Will Smith's aunt Vivian
The original Claire from my wife and kids
Tapor E tika sumpter.
Claire from MWAK was made to leave by her mum because the friend character played by Raven Symone had a pregnancy story line that the mummy-dearest didn't agree with. Pretty sure that wasn't an appearance issue with the actress
so why replace her with someone lighter
Love that name
Dark skinned are gorgeous. I always preferred my women dark like me!😍🍫
Racist.
Thank you, love...
colorist
Dark skin is very beautiful!
That sounds colorist too you know. You can't fight an evil by adopting it.
ive never experienced colorsim because im light skin but ive had people say colorist things around me and to me because they thought I wouldnt say anything... ive heard people say “i wouldnt date u if u were darker” “your skin tone is perfect not too dark” and ive seen girls disgusted at the thought of dating my friend because they said he has really dark skin its sad and disgusting
Colourism doesn't just effect women, so it would of been good to hear from men and their experiences, for example how women's ideals have effected them, or even how their family and friends treat them differently based on their colour. Like if you agree. I would want to talk about my experiences, BBC invite me down!👍
Anthxny
Because, in the black community at least, dark skinned men are praised. When there is a black character, most of the time he’s they typical black dude (dark, Afro hair). And black female celebrities never really seem to project that same colorism that the black male ones do. Around the globe, most of the marketing for skin lightening is projected at women.That why I feel they chose women.
However, I would like to see men talk about it to.
Exactly. This whole video is extremely biased towards women. I’ve had to hear girls constantly talk about wanting a light skin and praise light men. Women are always acting like they are the biggest victims in every situation
OmniSaint actually I hear more people loving chocolate men then females
Yeah I agree. I always see more women fawning over the likes of Chris Brown, Michael Ealy, Jesse Williams or others before they decided they were canceled for other reasons....however with women being traditionally valued and pursued for their beauty as opposed to their other qualities (intelligence, empathy, job security, etc), women are more likely to attach their self-esteem to their looks, which will plummet if they feel undesirable. Especially since most of the beauty industry is geared/marketed towards women. So I understand why they emphasize the struggles of colourism for women more than men, but it doesn't mean men are not affected also. It's not a competition lol...facts are facts.
Mostly all women will not turn down a guy because he is dark chocolate....that's what people look for in a guy... But not so much for a woman, i would know.
Did Jay Z literally say "Excuse me Ms. Fufu" 😂😒
Yup indeed he did
Haha lol so funny omg 😐
🌸D~ they don’t care ABOUT OUR FEELINGS, ESPECIALLY THE DARK SKINS
So ignorant
lmao JZ , hes so rude, dont all those rappers use N words in their songs, shocking
I remember staying inside in summers because I was too afraid to come back to school and hear “GIRL YOU GOT DARK!”. I actually used a skin lightening sunscreen from the beauty store at summer camps so I wouldn’t get dark. I didn’t realize how traumatizing that was until I got older. I’m in love with my skin now. I think it’s the most gorgeous color but I had to learn to love it.
I don't see why anyone would think lighter skin is prettier. Its rather how clear or soft your skin is.
Are you white?
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@@mywoodis6ft140 what if she is white what she can't talk
@@idioyjohnathon2054 anyone can talk, it just doesn't always hold a lot of weight in conversation . It's like a fully abled person telling a person with no legs how to feel about their situation. Stop trying to feel so oppressed .
@@Jacob-wz7pm you right
The worse thing you can say to someone who has emotional scars is "Oh, just get over it". You never know that person's mindset, how deep those scars go, and what they are thinking of doing, to themselves or others. Just know that she has not gotten away with anything.
GOD SEES ALL, and He knows your pain, love. It hurts me to know you suffered through this...I had a similar situation growing up, and it made me believe, for years, that I was ugly and unworthy. That lie held me captive for a long time. The truth? You are beautiful, inside and out, and she knew she couldn't hold a candle to you. Blessings, you Beautiful Brown Lady...
#beautifullymelanated
Self Hate runs deep in a lot of races. When I hear the term "Preference" that word is a Dog Whistle to me from the person saying it. Preference shows the Self Hate that people have, what they are actually saying is "I hate my dark skin and I want to marry/date a light skin or white person so I can dilute my DNA so my children won't be dark. As soon as I hear that word, I get the hell away from that person. Their Self Hate may be contagious!!! My skincare channel teaches Melanin people the blessing of having dark skin, it is ageless, it has a natural sunscreen protection. I show how to be proud of and care for our skin.
I'm biracial, black and white. And my skin was bad when I was a teen, so I would wear natural beige makeup. There wasn't a lot of makeup for darker skin and that's sad, but all my darker friends always had the prettier clearer skin. A lot of them didn't need the face makeup. I'm glad my skin is better now and I don't need makeup. I think all shades of women are beautiful.
Hi, what does your username mean
They're all so pretty wtfff
THIS HAPPENED TO ME TODAY!! As a dark young female, I am put under lights kind and they are praised for being light on the skin all the time. He was a black male and his friends, we were talking about girls and how they will only like a girl if they are light skinned I asked him what's wrong with dark skins?, he tells me "their always winning, no offence" I mean I wasn't shocked, I always see my fellow dark skins on the side, but still people tell me " your so pretty/bad for a dark skin" or if I was light skin "I would be better" for their circumstances but yet never had a boy that really appreciated my skin tone/ or have dated honestly. I don't hate on light skins ,its not their fault. Its social media and men that hyped it up.
SUGACAKEZZ I know this is very late but I appreciate you for your dark skin, black is beautiful 😉.
All my black friends prefer light skins or white as well because of the same reasons
This seems in the same category as short guys complaining that women don’t date short guys.
True or not, life isn’t fair and the dating game is double unfair. If being short/dark is a negative in the dating game, you have to bring something else to the table to offset it.
But that sounds like work, easier to just complain about it right?
There’s a difference between colorism and preference, many people prefer light skin girls, others prefer dark skin girls. Nothing wrong with having a preference
The Punjabi girl has such beautiful cheekbones!!
I am a Dark Skinned Eritrean woman, I never understood the obsession with being dark/light skin? I love my color so much, it's hard for me to relate with what they are saying, pleas black girls love your skin color, you are beautiful.....
eritreans are pretty my gosh
Dream Matte Mousse foundation is so relatable😩when I tell you I would touch my face onceee and my books would all be brown
“You’re beautiful for a dark skin” 😑
But .... have y’all seen darkskin in the sunnn their skin is sooo chocolate and golds 🤤🤤
It’s crazy how much American media is consumed in the Uk. I was honestly shocked to see the proud family.
Monaedeezy and Martin
The Indian girl who voiced her opinions on Bollywood..I completely agree with her. To further elaborate, an Indian director had said that most directors are inclined.to caste a light skin actress as the lead role as that gives a more girl next door look and sense of innocence...where ass dark skinned actress gives a more erotic look and is used for affair scenes etc. Bollywood has a long way to go. But they are giving young girls the wrong impression, which is why many of them start turning to extremes like bleaching their skins etc etc it's sad. Bollywood needs to be realistic.
June Bug shut up , Hollywood also cast tan girls
random stuff errr she is talking about Bollywood
@@ayshas288 hahahahaha lmao
i never seen any bollywood movie ever having a person of colour, black ect in it, i see many caucasians.
@@optimist-warmheart8291 They love hiring Europeans /White actors. In-fact some are even hiring actual white actresses as the lead role. And just makeup to and wardrobe to give her a slight portrayal as being Indian.
I didn’t know how “privileged” a lighter skin human is to my face till I grew up then realised that guys have this underlying thing for “lighter skin” females, just because of their skin tone
get off your high horse. You are not priviledged, just attractive
lmao. Your existence and esteem should not be based on what men prefer.
Not really just said she is attractive. Not dark and I don´t see how that is relevant. There are people attracted to darker shades and ones attracted to lighter ones. The media makes it a bigger problem than it should be. Stop showing your insecurities. Attractive people are privileged, not all biracial are given attention.
Never said you were jealous, just stated insecurities but it does not seem to be the case. I hate when people think they are privileged because of the color of their skin. It is annoying to think one´s skin tone grants them advantages or makes them more attractive than another. Which was why I told her to get off her high horse.
I've heard both white and black guys say they like light skinned or specifically black mixed race, females. It's problematic.
Come on guys. A preference of lighter colour has always been a thing. It's something very deeply rooted into all kinds of cultures.
Don't say it is not real. When it obviously is..
Joshualacruz you can't just have a preference out of thin air. Most light skinned black women are mixed with other races. THEREFORE they tend to have different features than full blooded ones, most of which men have more attraction to. The thing dark skinned girls dodge is they do feel lighter skinned girls are better looking. The colorism I take issue with is not allowing a person to get a job because they are too dark.
Also you don't see any heavy set women in music videos or women in their fifties whatsoever.
Thats white supremacy you donut so that you ethnics can fight over crumbs amongst yourselves
There's also been a preference for darker skin, but lighter skin people took them over and forced them to change their views.
Foxxy18 I don't think it has to do with forse. Just culture. Think about it, white, or light is always better then black or dark.
If something is white you can easily determine if it's clean or not. Anything associated with heavens is with heavens. Anything holy or good (in tales) is white.
Darkness is associated with unclear, unsafe, dirty, evil.
For the longest time this is why the rich people put on white products as make up. Not only in the west. The Asians still do it.
If you're not super white, you must be a poor worker in the field, always under the sun. Dirty and poor and probably sick and disgusting and less of a human being than us, the rich and good looking... Well, that's how they thought a couple decades ago anyway. The darker-skinned believed it too. I mean how can you not?
No wonder we still have similar thoughts. Not as intense, thankfully, but it is there, somewhere in the back of our culture.
mrblackalchemist I am not sure what point you're trying to make..
But yeah, of course you can have a preference out of mere air. Actually most of your preferences are out of mere air.
The culture you live in + the way you react on that culture = most of your preferences. Not because you carefully tried everything and objectively researched every possible option you prefer the taste of vanilla ice cream over mint ice cream or vica versa.
Look at dogs for example. They definitely know something is tasty and what is not. Also they eat literally shit. And enjoy it.
Why don't we? Because we learned from our culture it's disgusting and unhygienic. We don't need a taste test. Or a "you'll learn to enjoy it." Hell no.
So basically preference out of tin air. 😁
Kemi is right. Nigerian guys always make fun of us dark girls. We were the ones that had problems because of our appearance. They also mocked Ghanaian women because they are typically even darker. I once saw a meme that showed that the foundation Ghanaian women used for makeup was black shoe polish. That was really cold.
This is so interesting to first me because I've been jealous of dark skinned girls all my life. I'm mixed so there were times when I felt like darker skinned black women were much more beautiful. Now, I'm happy with my skin color.
So because these women are taught to us that they are less pretty and take more racism in a white washed society, you are proud of your white-given privilege for being lighter? Vile.
You should be never let anyone make you feel less than. All skin tones are beautiful and should be treated as such.
Becky Boo I don’t think that’s what she’s saying at all. She’s saying because she thought darker skin equals beauty she saw her lighter skin as the opposite.
@@eka455 hummmmm
The people that are disliking this are probably those who have never had to suffer these issues. Just because you have not experienced it does not mean it is not real.
Indians need to be more vocal about colorism in India. If I were in India, Id be protesting and boycotting. Black women women need to do more of that as well. We have to make not a big deal but a huge deal out of it to see some change.
Cinnamon Starr well i am light skinned indian girl and i belong to india
and the dark skin races dont
@@randomstuff8027 Nobody said you don't, piss off you vindaloo
As a tall dark skinned girl,i live a proud life. I'm always happy and strong. People say "you are ugly,because you arent light skin and light skin girls are prettier than the dark ones" i always was sad after some stud said that. Now i see the hot chocolate boiling on my skin,my hair flying,im proud that my skin is dark,extremely dark.
I remember the first time I became aware of colourism (being white im not exposed to this) was when i was like 14 I think and J-pop was really popular and a bunch of japanese popstars and rockers were talking about the methods they use to lighten their skin and mocked stars who didnt have pale skin. i was so shocked by it at the time and assumed it was just a japanese issue until people started pointing out that black celebs often are whitewashed to some degree in magazines. within white communities the aim is to not look pale and to have a very 'sun-kissed' tan skintone.... but maybe thats because it's dark for white people and not actually dark
ohhhhh now your eyes are fully open, no you get the undertone of colourism, bad isnt it, not obvious
The most stunning women I’ve seen are dark skinned - I don’t get the world we live in!!
bro shut up honestly well, I’m white so..... lol
Mixed race guy here. Dark skin black women, there's nothing wrong with you. Yall beautiful! Fuck the haters!
tbh whenever i meet a darkskin woman im attracted too i feel bare relaxed around them, like woe, its like that relaxation i get when im in the sun. bare warm, no joke
When will we ever OVERCOME and love for the inner person? I notice even while my daughter was in DAYCARE she was clearly doted on more ... Because of her brightness. As a teacher myself , I draw in ALL my students no matter their complexion. All of you young ladies are absolutely beautiful.
I think that because of colourism in general, it come to bite lightskin/mixed girls back. If everyone was treated as equally beautiful there wouldn't be a problem.
Little_Brown how does it “bite them back” if they’re the ones who benefit from it?
Coin Ru that's kinda the piont. Darskin girls hate me and I'm not even pretty or anything, I don't actually look like your average mixed/lightskin. So In the end white and darskin hate me, the only time I think lightskin girls are idolized if they are extremely pale and have curly hair, so basically are a stereotype. I just honestly think that nobody should be put in categories.
Little_Brown you are so me... you dont even know
Family Elleh 😂
Little_Brown I feel like they hate lighter people because they are constantly told they aren't "pretty" or "too dark". And just like you said you are not your average lightskin/mixed girl those same darkskins would love to be those average lightskins. I'm a darkskin girl and I agree with you because I have seen it before. I feel like I get a pass sometimes because I have medium curly hair. My moms dad is Indian and black(and came out darkskin so did my mom and her brother) and my dad is lightskin and a redhead with long curly dreads and his mom is half Chinese. So I get constantly told I'm very pretty for a "darkskin girl" or my "hair is so pretty I wish I had that type of hair" it's crazy. But back to you, they feel that you and other lightskins will always be the first pick. I'm truly sorry you have been bullied, oh and I saw your TH-cam channel I'll be subscribing:)
Isn’t it funny how these guys that want a light skin girl are dark themselves? 😂
I used to be so insecure about my skin. And i was so jealous of my sister for being lighter skinned than me. And I’m not even that dark. But i was convinced that i was ugly because my skin is a deeper brown than most of my family. And i know of so many people who use skin whitening creams. And it absolutely crushes me.
White men love dark skinned women.
and people are out here saying she's the queen of equality when she's married to the biggest colonist, i remember jay z's colorist lyrics to this day
F A C T S
This is all new to me. As an African woman, I never knew that such discrimination existed among blacks. Let alone the term”colorism”. I discovered it last year on the internet. In Africa our biggest problem is Tribalism. It doesn’t matter what shade you are, tribalism determines how u are treated in society, what job you get, promotion in the work place, who you marry and who becomes president in each African country. Yes! People vote along tribal lines. It’s worse than colorism.
why are you lying looool Africans abuse skin whitening creams, I'm African and many females use Diana Cream/Fair and Lovely cream to whiten themselves lol Africans are the biggest self haters in terms of culture and skin! Tribalism is the biggest issue for sure and i don't like the term colourism cause it creates some false victimhood but africa does have an issue with shade of skin!
Its weird because im medium brown and a mix between light brown skin and dark skin so I don't relate to neither sides haha but I was light skin (by black people standards) as a child so I guess I can see more from that perspective. Ive gotten some black people who think im light skin and other ones who see me as brown skin but never dark skin. Colorism is real though and Ive had men treat me better over a darker skinned black girl just because they think I don't look as black. Its messed up but no one would admit that they do this until you point it out to them or they might ask me what my background is to determine my mixture. Dark skin black is beautiful. I always thought Lupita was so gorgeous!
Chéri
Omg same with me. I’m like a caramel color lol so I can’t relate to anything.
And Lupita is beautiful 😍
I'm white so obviously I dont understand a lot of these struggles but as a non visible disabled person i feel like i can empathize a least a little with the feeling of being pushed out of your own community. You are beautiful no matter what and if anyone tries to convince you otherwise it's on them. ❤
Lmao I can totally relate. I’m Somali and because I have a ‘lighter’ skin tone my family and other Somalis call me ‘Caday’ which means light or white. Also boys are always asking me what are u mixed with and whenever I say I’m 100% Somali and not mixed, everyone looks at me like I’m crazy. AND when I’m with my dad people ask him if I’m his child cuz he’s much darker than me which is rude. Also when we are filling forms and they ask for your race, we always tick ‘black african’ because that’s who I am, and once the office lady at my primary school said to my mum, ‘Are u sure you don’t want it put down Asian African’ and that goes to show that anyone can be colourist and it’s soooooooo annoyingggggggg
I know all your saying is true. I'm valuable as I am with my dark chocolate skin. But It’s so disturbing at work when I find most people want to avoid being seen with me, even on breaks. I thought it was my character but it's not because if I was a bad person I'd have lost my job etc. I know I'm a good person because I'm very giving and friendly. my so called friends only want to talk to me in private like in toilets it's sad but true. If she's feeling guilty she will ask me out to lunch on a different floor where we'll sit secluded and not be seen. It's so strange for me because coming from Africa and having been in a private school for six years with white, African and Asian descent students I never experienced what I'm seeing now in the heart of England where's there's equality and diversity laws etc. I had a mixed race friend who treated me the same. And then a friend from India is like that too. In my work place there aren't many black people, you can count them on one hand and I have tried making friends with them, they seem afraid to hangout together. All the blacks either sit by themselves or are close with white people another you talk to them they treat you like you're so different. I'm not criticising the attitude of white people here. I'm just saying I am shocked at other races like Asian people who think my dark skin is dirty. I just don't get it- the high and mighty of it. It's really sad. It makes me want to leave the job. But I love my color, I'm chocolatey like Galaxy :-), so I'll just keep calm and carry on being me.
Amani Ta I'm shocked and saddened to hear that you've been treated that way!! Those people don't deserve your time or friendship, I hope you're surrounded by good people without these horrible attitudes who'll love you for who u are regardless of skin colour, as they should 💖💕
Acceptance is the key of all things in life we all beautiful ... Love the color your in love yourself....and stand out thank your for the comments all of it god bless us to love.
So true I don't like it when people try to tell my friends or any girls that they're 'pretty for a black girl' they're pretty because they're pretty. Growing up as a light skinned mixed race girl I never got any hate from men/boys because obliviously colourism although I did grow up with a lot of rejection from the black community with the girls such as bullying or exclusion loool from primary all the way to secondary. Never understood how people could be rude to someone because of their skin colour. Although im ready glad of the wonderful changes black men and women are doing in the community to stop colourism
Thank you, I too am mixed race light skinned and have also experienced this and can totally relate to what you wrote here.
I am a black man, and I have been witnessing the same willie Lynch syndrome that black men suffered from, black women suffered from. I witnessed growing up in the black community and all the different aspects of black Social Societies, Religions, Educators Black wealth built off the colorism. This game is being played throughout the history of HBCUS, Masons, Eastern Stars and Boule' organization's. My organization Renaissance action National Network is organizing our 1st Annual Asiactic black Diaspora Economic Summit and Movement.
On the black Economic agenda is a serious black sisterhood conference and town Hall to address these issues concerning black women across Diaspora. We have to rebuild the black woman and all black women have value and we come in all different shades, sizes and economics backgrounds. There are black women Organizations that practices White supremacy and elitism, and we need a black men and women Organizations to address the willie Lynch syndrome , White supremacy and the self inflicted wounds and violence against each other. Stay tuned for more information concerning African Diaspora Economic Summit. We need to address all the challenges and needs of everyday black women and men.
This is the type of comments I thought I was going to see under a video like this (I appreciate it!) but 👎🏿 NOPE! Lol I’m seeing a bunch of people denying a CLEAR struggle and I’m just like why are you even here?!
The majority of black guys prefer light skin or brown skin women. Is what mostly think is beautiful, I don’t see this as a problem. I personally prefer dating light skin black girls. When girls date only tall guys no one goes to TH-cam to complain why they don’t date short guys .
I can’t believe you’re comparing colorism to Heightism. Colorism is actually a caste system since there is no such thing as ‘light skin black’, those women are mixed but identifying as fully black. There is no ‘height system’ in the world.
@@beast9125 who cares tho
I'm in the minority. I think dark, smooth skin is so beautiful.
The movement among dark-skinned girls to be proud of who they are inspired me, a white lady, because within the white community there is prejudice against girls who don't get dark tans. You are repeatedly told you look unhealthy, even as a child by adults. You are mocked and bullied and told you look like a ghost (something a guy I dated said to me). I was inspired by dark skinned girls to stop trying to look different, stop getting burned so I'd get a bit of a tan (the only way I can tan) and say "yes I have pale skin, no I don't tan, and I can still be pretty." So I want to thank dark skinned girls for inspiring me. I know I'm not the person you were trying to inspire but you did anyway.
Himaryous thank you for sharing this, very insightful. You have inspired me, a dark-skinned unambiguous black young woman, even further. Yes I have dark skin, no I don’t bleach my skin, and of course I can still be pretty! x.
@@quirkyangelxoxo :-)
I’m like a lightish brown (caramel skin tone) because I’m mexican but I love dark skins they are so beautiful ❤️
I’ve notice people get offended by preference when it’s not in their favor
Halle R omm can’t even like yellow bones without it being considered self hate
Halle R nobody is offended by a preference. People are rightfully offended when everyday by everybody they’re bullied and pressured to bleach their skin to fit an unattainable media beauty standard. Why can’t you guys just say you love light skin without mentioning and making fun of dark skin? Then there wouldn’t be an issue.
byron k.o.d Nobody said that. You can prefer light skin without bullying and bashing and being rude to dark skin girls it’s not hard.
My grandma used to be very proud of how light she was. One day my mum schooled her for the first time ever. Love my mum
The dark-skin best friend thing is so true
They’re all so beautiful and so is anyone of any shade 😩😩😍 #stopcolourism
JustTadiwa : Oh please. If it's not colorism, it would he something. Don't be naive. Humans would always find ways to polarize and class people. It's our nature. If it's not skin color, it would be something else.
Onyeka Onyebuchukwu Did I say that colourism is the only thing ? Oh nope I didn’t :) 👍🏾
You fine as hell tho.