@@trinaewatkins2804 I don’t think we harbour more today. Seems like the same amount. It’s endemic and not looking like being eradicated any time soon. When the world can no longer deny the children of The Most High are blk people and originally dark skinned, only then will people start wanting to be as blk as they can.
Yeah, it is. I get VIP treatment when I have my whyt mother with me. I see why my cousins and uncles wanted their children to have light skin and light eyes. I am a hidden hand in my department. Cannot let anyone know that a dark one is running the show. The only thing i inherited from the European side is a different hair texture. I was just in Aruba 🇦🇼 and I could see this happening.
Spike Lee's movie, "School Daze" really depicted this issue.... Even in Black college fraternities and sororities. Color was the determination of who was invited to join.
It has given a pass for people to abuse indiscriminately and without fear .This adds yet another subgroup for the enjoyment of the harm to people of various shades,l. Particularly, of the richer Brown hues.
Is it colorism or the fact that some ethnicities were shoved into the black community who weren’t black as in black African? Is it colorism when darkskin women marry light or white? Or is it only colorism when wealthy darkskin men marry out?
I’m from a lighter skin Creole family in New Orleans on my mother’s side. I have the privilege to be darker skin. Having the experience of colorism within my own family has made me the woman I am today. No one, not one human being on this planet can affect my self worth or self esteem. I actually feel sorry for anyone who thinks their skin color gives them an upper hand on me. I’m guided by GOD and the entire universe is available. Anything or anyone that goes against me shall perish! I pray for everyone’s peace of mind.❤
Sorry to hear that. My family is colorist but also featurist and texturist (if those are words). I was treated as if my hair wasn’t straight enough or long enough by my father’s side. My mother is barely brown skin but can’t stand light skin women, I happen to be light skin and so are her sisters. My mother’s sisters are all in an unspoken rivalry of who’s the prettiest lighter skin sister. They all treat me like sh!t for having so called good hair from my father’s family. My family is mentally jacked up on both sides. My children and I live three hours away from them. I’ve been afraid they would verbally or emotionally abuse my children for being dark skin so I stay away.
I'm light-skinned, but most of my maternal family is even lighter, with different colored eyes, hair textures, and colors. As a family, we were always united. We never held skin color, or Euro features aloft on high. The conversation never, ever came up. But I did notice when hanging with my cousins in the 90s, OTHER Af. Am people, outside our family, would be very quick to compliment their lighter eyes and lighter and straighter hair. Because I had dark brown hair and medium brown eyes, I received no attention. It became clear that the way my family saw color was not the same as the rest of the world.
It's up to the brown and dark skin blacks to love and praise themselves. They could literally do the same thing every other group is doing like stick together and love themselves but they don't want to so they blame everyone else for it.
Colorism is 1 main reason why some BW are single today. Also, colorism affects women more than men in today's society. Let's talk about it. To add insult to injury, body featurism has been added to further seperate BW when it comes to BM. Society stigmatizes a culture to 1 specific body type as if ALL women in that culture possess the same characteristics, therefore causing another heinous, seperatist rating system.
I disagree when it comes to body featurism. A lot of men arent given a chance by women because they are not tall enough,they are skinny,etc. I agree that colourism most likely affects women more but when it comes to everything else pertaining to the human body it is equal discrimination.
@@w9906….Many Black Americans have lightskin and mixed parents and grandparents. So while folks playing colorism politics they’re overlooking the real history of mixed race in America. Case in point - growing up both my grandmothers had long waist length white hair. As my mother aged she allowed her hair to turn white and she grew it to waist length. Now that l’m a new grandmama l’m doing the same thing with my hair. It’s tradition in my family ⚜️
As a child, my city had 2 AME churches ( African Methodist Episcopal). My family went to one, the rest, my cousins, Aunts, Uncles went to the other. I asked my Mama why we didn't all just go together. We couldn't get past the door. My grandmother was chocolate, my grandfather was cream. Their 3 boys were light, their 2 girls were dark. Fortunately within our family we were united. But our black community wasn't. I married a white guy. I was too black to get a date with a black man. Too bad, I loved black men. My Daddy was a beautiful example of one.
I'm dark and black men don't like me either. I love black men too. However, I'll have to get with who like me. Still going on today and I'm in the Caribbean.
I found out about colorism at the age of 14. I noticed black guys favored my light friend over me, making me question my attractiveness. Society, the entertainment industry, and some black families encourage this type of behavior with favoritism of light over dark skin.
Blacks are treated as blacks despite color ask the white supremacy groups. Blacks think they skin color is important as not all lighter skinned slaves were HOUSE Blacks were treated well as Blacks perpetually foster. Blacks with severe inferiority complexes continue until this day. BUT remember ALL, ALL life came from DARKNESS
It's quite similar to many Latin American countries, mostly Cuba, Colombia, Brazil, Venezuela, Argentina, Uruguay and Chile. Only in those countries there's a different kind of colorism and internalized racism. I mean, while in the USA it's openly talked about, in Latin America it's more "hidden", for example if one tries tò talk about it, almost everybody (of any color and shade) will say it doesn't exist and that it happens only in the USA (and while saying that, they most likely have a bleaching cream in their bag or purse, unless they are already white). But they will try their best to convince you that LatAm doesn't have racism nor colorism, which is not true at all.
Those same Latin American countries have complex beliefs about race and color, so I wouldn't generalize. And African culture and identification with Africa is stronger there also, so it's a complex situation. In the meantime many blacks in the US are pushing FBA and ADOS to separate themselves and promoting so called diaspora wars.
@@Ayinde65 Yes, it's very sad. Btw I wasn't exaggerating about Latin Americans, it's just that I know quite much about it since my biological father was Brazilian of very mixed heritage and he always talked to me about this and I saw it with my own eyes when I went to Brazil (I live in Europe) to meet my biological father's family. Apparently they all loved each other without any difference but the white and light skinned ones spoke badly of the black and darker skinned ones. And when I confronted them, they were all in denial. I guess it's a worldwide thing and it's actually sad
Lived in Louisiana for 10 years. It was so colorist. Oh my god. People kept reminding me that I am not as light as them. Why? It was 2010. It was mostly brown skinned and dark-skinned black women telling me this. So glad I left. The backwards mindset is just as depressing as the poor economic conditions.
There were allegations back in the day at Howard University, to be accepted in Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. you had to pass a brown paper bag test. Many black athletes marry white women so that their children will come out light skin with good hair. I remember walking down Columbia Road, NW in Washington, D.C. back in the 80's. I remember hearing 2 black teenage girls saying to one another, girl I am going to have me a baby by one of these Puerto Ricans so my baby can come out light skin with good hair. The saddest part, the Hispanic men they were referring to were not Puerto Rican, but Salvadorian or from other Central American countries. 😕
It's funny. You become what you hate! Now on lots of campuses, it's reversed! The Deltas are lighter and the Alphas are darker! 😅 The self hate is real......
@@Laurita-ev8me It's been dead a long time. This world we live in is challenging for some of us! I don't think the MAGA people will get on board. Those people are full of hate! I could never understand it, if I remember my history correctly. They came and took us from our motherland. And raped our women and that's the birth of colorism's. I once read that Hitler and Trump are the most powerful people in the world, there's one more I can't think of his name. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿💙💙💙💙.
"the difference in treatment between light and dark between the slaves created a sense of fierce competition between the slaves....and, I've found out the hard way" that fierce sense of competition still exists today.
This might be a bit of a nitpick, but one of the ways colorism persists is that the language we use associates darkness with negativity. So a title like “Unmasking the *Dark* World of Colorism” doesn’t really help. With that being said, this video is very informative and well researched as always! ✌🏽
I get what you mean, but it’s far deeper than that. It’s the self-hay-te that facilitates the persistence. The English language, which is of the devil is the language that has anything to do with blkness as negative, bad and evil. I think the only time blk is good in English, is in financial affairs “in the blk” which I wouldn’t be surprised if this referred to the amount of enslaved people they had.
Its true that colorism still exists, even in my country the philippines. In the service industry, those with fairer skin get better employment, or are put in positions where they are seen or interact with customers and clients. As if the dark, native, poor-looking people need to be hidden away to keep clients from feeling awkward, being higher-status-looking than the servers.
I wonder where did the "fair skin" term come from when referring to light skinned people. I really have a problem with that term, and I'm not dark skinned at all.
@@Pjsixty60This term (“fair”) goes back centuries. My guess would be, that the “usual suspects”(Caucasians…COLONIALISTS, to be exact) are responsible for coining this term when describing light skin. Phrases like, “My fair maiden” has been written by authors to describe so-called beautiful, or attractive women in poetry and stories for well over a century. I had a client from Afghanistan who used the word, “fair” to describe light-skinned Afghanis. This colorism CANCER is the scourge of this planet. This is a GLOBAL problem, that has been created by design to keep deep divisions among citizens of every nation…all while the Elite who created this evil concept in the first place…continued to thrive, flourish, and most importantly GENERATE WEALTH…while we “peasants” continue bickering and being divisive with each other over “SURFACE” differences (complexion/hair texture, etc.,). Colorism is nothing more than a skin-deep version of classism. Unfortunately, it’s been a very effective and demonic tool to keep the masses preoccupied with idiotic prejudices…while the Elite ruling class take every liberty, human right, and currency (MONEY) AWAY from said citizens.
I noticed the same in Mexico. The more traditional looking Mexicans ie dark skin, short, jet black hair were working in the kitchen. The fairer skin Mexican employees were out front, dancing, “bottle girls”
@@KtotheG Enslaved refers to their forced labour but doesn't make slavery their entire identity. Slaves robs them of their identity and minimises our ancestors identity to the misery of being forced to work without pay.
I too don’t use the word slave when talking about the atrocities inflicted on my ancestors. They were enslaved, and we are still in captivity, albeit with a few trinkets! My son describes our situation as being “prisoners of war”, and he is correct. Just because we have disposable income, nice houses and cars, we’re still in captivity.
It has torn my Family apart, I learned at an early age my mother favored my Lite skin sister more than Me because my mother was a very Lite skin woman and I came out very dark Chocolate and Beautiful, it's so sad when you know your Not favored more because of the complexion of your skin tone, but that Lite skin sister that my favored is Not aging well because her Evil inside is showing on the outside All those names she used to call me as a child she looking just like them.Peace
Well in my family, it was the complete opposite. My older, darker skin sister was favored over my younger, lighter skinned self which is kinda odd because mom was very dark but dad was light in color. Unfortunately, my sister never developed the social skills needed to get along with others due to Mom's controlling ways so she is alone and miserable as a result!! 😢😮
Colorism in Latin America is insane. People only like the lighter skinned, racially ambiguous mixed kids (especially the girls). They won't talk about it, but the treatment is totally different. Interracial families praise the lighter skinned and white ones. Whose usually get along because everyone says it's just a "preference". Black women are most likely to stay unmarried for their whole lives. Here in Brazil, there's this thing going on where light skin people are trying to redefine what colorism stands for; because darkskins are finally realizing that they are treated differently over here. So they want to be in the spotlight (again), and say it's colorism when some don't consider them like black. It's annoying and dentrimental.
It definitely is true I have both ethnic backgrounds Black and Latino but because I look more Latino than Black I tend 2 get treated differently than Darkskin Latinos
I'm dark skin, I have never bleach my skin have always been told I was beautiful by lots of different cultures. But it did not matter because my family built my self esteem when I was young. So I thought I was all that, never paid attention to anyone opinion of me.
My Mom's side, sadly, used colorist. They said my Dad's side was too dark, fat, loud, & ghetto. I am light like my Mom and her side as are 5 of my 7 kids. Plus my Mom's side is grossed out by fat people (particularly with huge butts, hips, & thighs. My maternal aunt caused me to have anorexia & bulimia as my hips & butt started expanding as a teenager. By God's Grace I'm 15 years healed of these demons.
it's still going on my dad's side of the family are Creoles from Louisiana my mother was dark skin and I am too but even though my dad was light skinned he never made a difference in me his only child that shit needs to be stopped it's a slave mentality
@stephaniephillips565 True. That & discriminating against larger people. One of my 7 kids is chubby, but that doesn't make her less than myself, her Dad, or her 6 thin siblings. My Mom's side has a HUGE fat phobia as well. I was thin but did all I could to stay emaciated (I was a size 2 until age 28 even after having 5 kids. I was a size 6 after 7 kids until I was in my late 30s. I'm a size 10 now & happy & healthy)...
Don't be used as a tool for destruction. All of us has the trauma from being confused and abused. The goal is to not have animosity towards anyone unless they come to you with that energy. That's the start to healing. Sad to say, but some will continue to perpetuate the abuse without knowing or caring about the history of this sickness. Some are still trying to divide in this comment section. Avoid the temptation and stay on the road to healing. No one has control over how they get here. They do have control over how they act once they know.
Not the "forces of darkness" LOL! I know what you meant, but we need to change the language we use around things we consider negative. This is literally the forces of whiteness, but we're conditioned to see dark as negative. Like, "dark times", or "dark days". I seems like a little thing, but constantly referring to negative things as dark and positive things as light or white definitely affects our unconscious perception.
@@hotchocolategirl1der My post wasn’t meant to personally offend anyone or to be taken in a literal sense. The “dark forces” is a metaphor that describes the spirit in which people can operate. We must not internalize metaphors as something that’s obvious because skin tone isn’t the issue here, it’s morality that goes far beyond the pigment of the skin. Spiritual warfare is real and it’s caused by those who are spiritually dark.
Okay, I’m from the deep south (Louisiana) and grew up in the the early 2000’s. I'm being completely honest Black people were the only people to call me ugly because of my skin color. Specifically other dark skin people were the most aggressive and I was always shocked as to why. I had a dark skin girl tell me we couldn't date because we were the same color. Ironically white girls loved my complexion, light skin and caramel girls loved my complexion. I dated white, mixed girls, black and Hispanic girls etc but til this day and I am 30 now I have never had a dark skin black woman as a girlfriend and I have come to the conclusion that most dark skin women prefer light skin men and no one can change my mind. Now as a traveler I seek out black countries to visit to change this because I don't want this to be true. And overseas I have experienced a better experience with dark skin women. And Dark skin women in particular usually have the best bodies, age better, and usually are very intoxicating with their energy but like I said most seek out men that don't look like them. My best experiences with dark skin black women ironically have been with Afro Latina women in countries like Colombia and Cuba. And I graduated from an HBCU and even then it was the same the lighter complexion women gave me the most play. I am not shy, I make good money in my career, I have exposure to different parts of the country and my experiences as mostly been the same. And every dark skin woman I know except a select few partners are lighter than them. This is my experience and black people definitely hate 😡 black people who are of a dark complexion and I find it very ironic when black people scream racism about whites when most blacks will hate on blacks that look like them. And yes racism is real. But y'all get me.
There's a lot of truth to what you're saying. However, my brother is dark skinned and he has a beautiful dark skin wife. They look regal together! I love it, it's not something often seen being two darks. My grandmother is light bright practically white and my grandfather was dark. The same is true for all of my grandmother's sisters. They all married DARK, dark is beautiful and mysterious to me.🖤♠️
@@j.y.8 I appreciate that. Personally, I've never had any problems with dating in general. However, I've noticed that dark-skinned women don't usually show interest in me, and that's okay. They're looking for someone who fits their preferences. On the other hand, I've found that lighter-skinned women often show interest in me, although some people may not believe it. Recently, my 17-year-old niece asked me why I've never dated any dark-skinned women, as she's seen me with different women. I explained to her that I can't date someone who isn't looking for me. I remember they had this really fly Nigerian girl back in college body banging, slim but with a body like a model. I tried to get with this girl and she straight up told me she thought I was cool but she couldn't date me cause I was an American. At some point I just stopped trying to get at dark skin black girls to be honest because its always something off.
@briandawsonii4451 I understand, but I would say don't let that stop you. The next one could be your wife🤷🏽♀️ I think dark women are gorgeous!! Their skin is like black pearl! For the most part, I think dark women are afraid to recreate themselves in a child form. Meaning they simply don't want a dark child. Which is ridiculous to me. But, it's happening in America SMH. My ex husband is the darkest person I know, I loved that about him!😊 don't give up on dark women, yours is out there. And when you get her, love and appreciate her.
While I dislike the title of this One Mic History piece, I have acknowledge the accuracy of research. In my own family history this internal obsession with light skin tone existed. My Grandma had five Sisters and a brother, all who were light skin. Also many of her cousins (my Great Aunts) treated her differently because her Dark skin tone. She even told me her Mother, (my Great Grandmother) noticed this and made point address issue directly with her Sisters.
@@PaulHFleming From observing colorist people and their behaviors, it's not shocking to me at all that they are all married to DSBM. That is a whole' other conversation on its own but basically, colorist women are most likely to date men who they believe will be obsessed with their color like they are. They prefer to date and marry men who they perceive to be inferior to them to guarantee that obsession; hence, preferring to date and marry dark skinned men (the men they end up with will almost always be a colorist as well). It's flawed logic, but I've overheard enough conversations and witnessed these flawed unions enough to know why they're most likely to do this.
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682….this is interesting. Usually colorists marry their own kind. These women must’ve been poor or shuffled onto the black side. That’s what l’ve studied. The indoctrination of white passing blacks onto darker blacks societies by films such as Imitation of Life and Pinkie. In reality this indoctrination didn’t always work as some mixed people were culturally and socially invested in certain groups. However, darker blacks try to use the one drop rule whenever they can to shame, mock, or bully mixed people into accepting them.
Interesting that much of this colorism, texturism, etc. has to do with subliminal indoctrination of Eurocentric ideology beauty standards throughout many centuries via magazines, signs, billboards, radio, television, commercials, beauty supplies, school, society and now social media. Many black people (both bm and bw) still have attraction and prefer European facial features on their own people even though they say they don't. That's why many times you'll hear both bm and bw say that attractive White and European, non-black Latinos, and biracials are "fine" or "drop dead gorgeous", etc. even more than they would think or say about their own.
@HeartBreakHigh A lot of truth said. However, I believe black men PERPETUATE this (as do all ethnicities currently) but are not responsible for its implementation. Additionally, black men (and black women) don't have the social, economic, and political power to use this to divide, dehumanize, oppress, and ultimately control the livelihood of other ethnicities. Colorism is the little brother of racism.
That may be true for the majority….. possibly…… but not all. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Just sayin…. not everyone likes pasty, colorless, less melanated skin. I love me some brown, melanated skin. Nice thick curly hair and dark thick eyebrows….. Wyte doesn’t do it for me …..
The root of the problem is that people are addicted to power since the beginning of time, and they will do anything to maintain it and that includes keeping our immediate families and fellowman divided against each other. The powers know that people are prone to sinful tendencies, they actually study genetics, people's backgrounds, behavior patterns and emotions in order to use as a weapon of defeat. Racism is just one of many strategies used to keep people divided. Not every dark-skinned individual has been traumatized by the effects of racism nor do they internalize racism but that doesn't mean they don't have other weaknesses or sinful tendencies that can be conquered. No doubt institutional racism historically has had a negative impact on society but to further victimize the victims that's oblivious to their condition by using contempt and humiliation is even more wicked and vile!
I highly recommend listening to Diane Collins Ted talk about being the scapegoat of the family. She touches on her own family history with colorism. It’s probably the best Ted talk I have ever watched. As always, thank you for the insightful content.
What’s so interesting is that colorism is actually even worse in Asia. Darker skinned people in China, India and other Asian countries face the same issues. Even in countries where white Europeans were not a major force. I wonder why. 😊
Fair skin implies not having to work outside in the sun at menial tasks . This was always the case even before these countries ever saw a white person.
@@leavemeal0ne378 I didn’t say it was. Just that it’s interesting that we tend to think of this as a Western thing but it exists even in places where the west wasn’t a major influence or long before the western influence. I’m just curious why. I’m not a cultural anthropologist but I do find cultures fascinating. How they evolved and what they value is very interesting. If you’ve ever read Joseph Campbell’s work on myths, it’s amazing how cultures replicate ideas even when they have no contact.
I was a youngster in the 70's, and remember the SERIOUS hangups BFS STILL had about skin tone back then! I went to a predominantly Black school, and 90% or more of the guys wanted a light-skinned GF! When I look at the pictures of light-skinned girls in my yearbooks, I just can't figure out for the life of me, the things LS girls got AWAY with back then, many of them really WEREN'T that good looking at all, but back then, BEIGE was all the RAGE, and you couldn't tell them NOTHING! Women THREW themselves at LS guys back then ALSO, they needed NO game, and many didn't have any! Years later, I saw one I went to school with in a record store, looking across the aisle from me, she walked up to me and asked if I went to X school, I said yes, then she asked me, why didn't you SAY something, and I told her, CHIT, why didn't YOU, we're NOT in school anymore, and I wasn't CRAZY about you back THEN! She wound up giving me her number, and I NEVER called her! Nobody talks about the high rates of suicide BW women had back then either, but I remember the HANGUPS DS BW had back then, and when they copped an attitude with you, the FIRST thing they'd attack was your skintone, and many were DARKER than you, but I knew back then, that was self hatred! When I got a chance to leave that city, I RAN from it, rarely came back, and now whenever they announce class reunions, I don't get excited at ALL because I knew many people, but were TIGHT with FEW! How I got EVEN was to live a DAMN GOOD CLEAN life! What's INTERESTING today is that we STILL have young BFS, with that SAME GOTDAMN self-hating problem! The more things CHANGE, the more they remain the SAME!🤔
Same story. The worst is your own family looking for help when they know that they were shtty towards you. I never believed that I was less than. I just didn't associate with pl who believed it. My tractive is to avoid animosity towards lighter ppl, but I'm still cautious. No one has control over how they get here. That's all I can do at this point.
@@C_theesiren They didn't get bullied, they just got IGNORED! Suicide among them was briefly spoken on, but by the late 70's, there was little talk of it! I knew quite a few, and as I interacted with them, I checked out how their persona changed with either LS guys or WFS showed up, and when discussing it with them later, they SWORE what I saw in them just wasn't true, they were in DENIAL back then, and it's interesting how FREELY they speak on it now!🤔
I use to mention and try to talk about this topic when I was in my 20’s but most of my friends and family would kind of shut me down, change the subject…tell me we are all black and the same… and I was obsessing, I knew that was BS. I even still have my own preferences but mostly attracted to slim in shape women who are glassy well kept without a lot of bling, gailkyn jeweley, huge fake eye lashes, bear claw Freddie Koolger fake nails-overly tight form fitting overly sexualized clothes…etc. those type of women are rare these days. No matter what there complexion.
We have to end this in our community. I am grateful that my light skinned mother programmed me that “black is beautiful.” I love all of our colors. Being in the middle of sucks that both darker complexion and lighter complexion have a hard time with acceptance in our community. I loved that you said the bottom line is colorism is directly connected to racism and colonization. We gotta fix ourselves when it comes to colorism. It’s the only way.
This is such an interesting video! I just finished my Master’s in racial discrimination in Brazil and I briefly studied some of the topics you discussed I am interested in researching more and educating more people on the subject. Thank you for sharing your video
@@truthtelling1195 so as I said Africa was colonized for years and these same test and treatment was implemented. As an anthropologist, historian, and African I am a hundred percent certain of what I’m saying. This problem persists in the Caribbean, Americas, and Africa
Man! I thought I was the only one. I’m from Ga. And I would have darker tone blacks mentioning I was softer than them cause of my color texture. I had to fight alot and prove other wise, and when I did respond with violence I was looked at as emotional 😂. I’m to the point where if you crack a light skin joke I’m ready to fight.
Thank you for tackling this...and so thoroughly - the origins and the continued effects. The more we normalize discussing this toxic system of thought, the better chance we have of healing.
I am a bi-racial 46 years young male. My Mother Is Native American (Ojibway Tribe) & my Father Is Black (American male) ....... I was raised to be equal with my fellow African-Americans. However the notion of colorism never came up until I stepped outside my Family Circle. It was my fellow African-Americans that had the "colourist attitude" Not me. It was completely foreign to me. It was the darker skin complexions In my community that had & still do a Issue with us (my family).
As a light skin black mix individual, one issue I have always had is the one-sided conversation about colorism. Yes, dark-skinned black people have been heavily discriminated against. However, conversely, so have a lot of us light-skinned Black people. A lot of us have been rejected from blackness itself. We've been told we're not Black enough, we've been told to go start our own race, we've had our skin complexions compared to piss, we've been called to humanizing names like half breed, and have you been targeted for acts of violence and sexual assault for being light-skinned. All of this, while still being rejected by other races and called Black-oriented racial slurs.
I agree some ppl act like that it doesn't happen I'm also a Light-skin mix as well Black mom Latin father with loose curly hair in terms of texture it's similar to Wwe wrestler Roman reigns but I have experienced the same issues u have mentioned til this day I have insecurities I find My light-skin Ugly and wished to be Darker so that I can feel more Accepted
@@jonathanjones4440…sweetheart, you need to find places like California or northern Louisiana where other lightskin mixed people exist beautifully. ❤❤❤😘
@Mimi-ht6xr if u had a Facebook you'll see what I mean about myself 😔😔 but California or Louisiana I've never been 2 only heard of so I don't know what it's like out there
In my opinion people who focus on skin color has low self-esteem. A person character is much more important...So go heal before trying to connect with someone.
So ironic, considering colorism empowers racism. If you practice colorism, you should accept racism. How strange and silly it is for a people to discriminate against themselves on the basis of color while complaining about discrimination on the basis of race and color. Colonialism helped to create some very strange and foolish people.
This was a great video! The history behind colorism! This topic is very important to me. Because I didn’t know when I was younger why was I made fun of now that I’m older I understand it has nothing to do with me it’s bigger than me🤷🏾♀️
My beautiful mother,( who's Black/ American Indian) was treated unfairly in the church that we attended ( AME ZION),by the darker skinned women who attended the same church,to the point that whenever there was a church fashion show,or pictures taken of the church,they would give her the wrong time,date,etc.. but she prospered and they didn't,but I wanted to give an example of how colorism can become senseless.
Being a lighter skinned black woman, I absolutely hate when people call out my skin tone! Like I should be ashamed for having lighter skin. My skin tone comes from generations of family ranging from dark brown to beige ...it is all so damn ridiculous. We as black people have been put in this position by our oppressors, period.
Yes, it extends beyond the United States, with bride kidnapping, women are chosen from Nepal as they are lighter skinned and this is considered more feminine. In Saudi Arabia there is a feeling that darker, African American featured people are less intelligent. I personally know of this, there is a culture of true discrimination. 😢
My mother was a Dark brown skinned woman who gravitated towards lighter men, my dad being Puerto Rican plus high yellow swooned her over and here comes me a brown boy refer to as light skinned by someone darker than me‼️🤔👀🧑🏾🦲😒🤬😂🤷🏽♂️
Beyonce released a video of her hair and products. All of the comments were about her skin tone and hair. Most of them said she was bleaching her skin and wearing a wig.
- That's invalid. - Tina Knowles is multiracial woman. - Which she have always been outspoken about her roots. - Earlier in Beyonce's career Tina made her daughter get suntans. - Those are facts. - It was a scheme to get the Black consumers to embrace her daughter. - Tina also made Destiny's Child (group) get suntans too. - Since their skin tone couldn't outshine Beyonce (star). - Beyonce is like Kamala. - Yet, the misinformed Black Population allow them to take up Black Spaces.
I met this fair older lady on a cruise. She was super sweet. She had a very light complexion. She was showing me her grandchildren. One of the grand children was caramel complexion but the others were lighter. She kept harping in how cute he was for being so dark. I was like why are you damaging this child. I was in shock how she elevated her lightness.
Thank you for taking the time to explain that colorism has existed well before white colonialism and has roots beyond white supremacy depending on the culture. East Asian culture specifically.
When i was in school the darker skinned girls hated me, i wasnt black enough even though i am black just lighter skinned.They would taunt and call me nasty names. Never had this problem with the lighter skinned blk ,mixraced/biracial or white girls Im older now and til this day i still get dirty looks, screw faces, kmt or its you think your too nice cos your lighter skinned from darker skinned women. It wasnt known as colourism then now all of sudden its known a colourism when say something like your not into darkskin ppl🙄
I witnessed this in Miami,I was aghast at how many times I saw this sort of mentality and thought it was rather unfortunate that some people treat each other this way. I would imagine it has manifested itself to other parts of the world as well.
Sadly, we (black people) are the only ones who make this an issue. My dad is creole and my mom is biracial. And guess what??? We are treated the SAME as any darker complexion black when it comes to work especially in corporate America, banking, shopping, police/traffic stop, etc. Whites, Asians and white presenting Latinos/Hispanics do NOT treat us any better or different. I know this as a 100 percent fact from personal experience (btw I am in my early 40s, raised in south Florida and have traveled extensively as a flight attendant so I’m not under a rock)
Yea and your saying this coming from a place of privilege you don’t have to worry about your skin tone so don’t speak for darker skin individuals, how ignorant
I was born into a family with a beautiful LS mother and a beautiful chocolate dad. I am one of six children. As a child I was chocolate and then became lighter as I aged. I love who I loved which allowed a sincere heart to love all parts of my people. I do remember hearing things like "she's pretty, but she's brown skinned often from outsiders. What a ridiculous thing to say to someone's child who loves blindly, I am now lighter in complexion, but still realize how much I am ostracized now when I still see myself as just me. It's the strangest existence to not be accepted anywhere. So there is also another element of others trying to make you feel uncomfortable in your skin. I love who I love, and I was taught to love me or anyone else just as the beautiful person they are. Peace to the world. It's very sad and still very strange & lonely lifestyle .❤ Love to all.
When people talk about colorism I think they at times are reverse discriminating against mixed people as well as other races that are lighter. It’s normal for people to prefer their own skin color, features and characteristics. The black community is one of the groups that has a lot of inner discrimination that frankly at this point makes no sense as to why it’s still going on. You can’t blame mixed people and other races that are lighter because making someone else the enemy only just creates more problems in a multicultural society which doesn’t work in your favor. It’s okay for black people to promote black love amongst black people yet many get triggered when they see two mixed race or lighter skin black people together. If it’s okay to promote togetherness amongst yourselves then why get so threatened by other races that do the same? Whenever there is a movie they always get upset and say why isn’t the love interest black or a different race? Colorism can only change how it affects black people until black people start valuing themselves and stop thinking they have to attack others, feel threatened as well as demonizing others and involving others just to be able appreciate themselves.
The issue is that it wasn't racism or colorism. It was the fact that the light skinned child was created by the slave owner by raping the female slaves. The slave owner didn't want his child in the field.
Yeah I believe colorism is an extension of racism - colorism not only affected African American communities but also very much worse in Indian Asian communities and some Latin communities (e.g. we stereotypically know about the dominicans)....smh colorism needs to end.....
I'm tired of the structural racism in the "dark metaphor"... Does dark mean bad in your language? That is racist! Tired of the dark metaphor! Dark does not equal bad. Stop the racist language!
I’d love to hear how Colorism impacted and/or shaped Black greek lettered orgs (Fraternities and Sororities) and other social orgs (Jack and Jill, Masons, OES, Links…).
During the golden age in England, pale-skinned women were proud of their porcelain skin. They avoided the sun, which also led to suffering from vitamin D deficiency.
Race is a social construct so there is no white or black race. As a descendant of French Creoles we are a culture just as African American is a culture. Each culture is distinct and beautiful in its own right but we aren’t the same. FC trace our lineages to Europe while AA are able to trace theirs to Africa. 🎉🎉
And it's still going on today.
We tend to harbor colorism more today ourselves especially in dating and marriage. Seems like the video missed that.
@@trinaewatkins2804 I don’t think we harbour more today. Seems like the same amount. It’s endemic and not looking like being eradicated any time soon. When the world can no longer deny the children of The Most High are blk people and originally dark skinned, only then will people start wanting to be as blk as they can.
@@trinaewatkins2804same amount folks just notice
Yeah, it is. I get VIP treatment when I have my whyt mother with me. I see why my cousins and uncles wanted their children to have light skin and light eyes. I am a hidden hand in my department. Cannot let anyone know that a dark one is running the show. The only thing i inherited from the European side is a different hair texture.
I was just in Aruba 🇦🇼 and I could see this happening.
Yup
The worst treatment I’ve experienced has come from people similar to me 😅😂 those people are crazy
Colorism has damaged the black community heavily
It's a form of a caste system.
The APA gave BLACKS an apology for lying about this.
Spike Lee's movie, "School Daze" really depicted this issue.... Even in Black college fraternities and sororities. Color was the determination of who was invited to join.
It has given a pass for people to abuse indiscriminately and without fear .This adds yet another subgroup for the enjoyment of the harm to people of various shades,l. Particularly, of the richer Brown hues.
Is it colorism or the fact that some ethnicities were shoved into the black community who weren’t black as in black African?
Is it colorism when darkskin women marry light or white?
Or is it only colorism when wealthy darkskin men marry out?
I’m from a lighter skin Creole family in New Orleans on my mother’s side. I have the privilege to be darker skin. Having the experience of colorism within my own family has made me the woman I am today. No one, not one human being on this planet can affect my self worth or self esteem. I actually feel sorry for anyone who thinks their skin color gives them an upper hand on me. I’m guided by GOD and the entire universe is available. Anything or anyone that goes against me shall perish! I pray for everyone’s peace of mind.❤
IN some third world countries they do have the upper hand and you have no recourse
Sorry to hear that. My family is colorist but also featurist and texturist (if those are words). I was treated as if my hair wasn’t straight enough or long enough by my father’s side. My mother is barely brown skin but can’t stand light skin women, I happen to be light skin and so are her sisters. My mother’s sisters are all in an unspoken rivalry of who’s the prettiest lighter skin sister. They all treat me like sh!t for having so called good hair from my father’s family. My family is mentally jacked up on both sides. My children and I live three hours away from them. I’ve been afraid they would verbally or emotionally abuse my children for being dark skin so I stay away.
I'm light-skinned, but most of my maternal family is even lighter, with different colored eyes, hair textures, and colors. As a family, we were always united. We never held skin color, or Euro features aloft on high. The conversation never, ever came up. But I did notice when hanging with my cousins in the 90s, OTHER Af. Am people, outside our family, would be very quick to compliment their lighter eyes and lighter and straighter hair. Because I had dark brown hair and medium brown eyes, I received no attention. It became clear that the way my family saw color was not the same as the rest of the world.
##LOVEIT
@@beverlyfrancis8433we do not care. And we ALWAYS have recourse.
Nothing has changed, my friend
Sad but true.
At all.
Absolutely!
It's up to the brown and dark skin blacks to love and praise themselves. They could literally do the same thing every other group is doing like stick together and love themselves but they don't want to so they blame everyone else for it.
@@blast4me754 this is the most ignorance comment I’ve ever seen on colorism.
Colorism is 1 main reason why some BW are single today. Also, colorism affects women more than men in today's society. Let's talk about it. To add insult to injury, body featurism has been added to further seperate BW when it comes to BM. Society stigmatizes a culture to 1 specific body type as if ALL women in that culture possess the same characteristics, therefore causing another heinous, seperatist rating system.
What “ some of us are single today “ what does that mean?
@@lacecocoa6272 Colorism. Keyword: some
@@lacecocoa6272 I understood actually what the comment meant check out the NBA and NFL wives once they get money what they do
I disagree when it comes to body featurism. A lot of men arent given a chance by women because they are not tall enough,they are skinny,etc. I agree that colourism most likely affects women more but when it comes to everything else pertaining to the human body it is equal discrimination.
@@w9906….Many Black Americans have lightskin and mixed parents and grandparents. So while folks playing colorism politics they’re overlooking the real history of mixed race in America.
Case in point - growing up both my grandmothers had long waist length white hair. As my mother aged she allowed her hair to turn white and she grew it to waist length. Now that l’m a new grandmama l’m doing the same thing with my hair. It’s tradition in my family ⚜️
Even using the word “dark” negatively is some form of colorism
It's not, stop.
@@rondas7772 it is ! Everything negative is black or dark
@@rondas7772it is! When people say something is dark in a negative way many times it’s very much rooted in colorism! Don’t play stupid!
@@jayrober4834that’s even worse, diminishing so called black people to food.
@@jayrober4834 i actually don’t. and chocolate isn’t colorism but it’s comparing black skin tones to food which is kind of weird and dehumanizing
As a child, my city had 2 AME churches ( African Methodist Episcopal). My family went to one, the rest, my cousins, Aunts, Uncles went to the other.
I asked my Mama why we didn't all just go together. We couldn't get past the door. My grandmother was chocolate, my grandfather was cream. Their 3 boys were light, their 2 girls were dark.
Fortunately within our family we were united. But our black community wasn't.
I married a white guy.
I was too black to get a date with a black man.
Too bad, I loved black men. My Daddy was a beautiful example of one.
Damn
I'm dark and black men don't like me either. I love black men too. However, I'll have to get with who like me. Still going on today and I'm in the Caribbean.
I found out about colorism at the age of 14. I noticed black guys favored my light friend over me, making me question my attractiveness. Society, the entertainment industry, and some black families encourage this type of behavior with favoritism of light over dark skin.
Blacks are treated as blacks despite color ask the white supremacy groups. Blacks think they skin color is important as not all lighter skinned slaves were HOUSE Blacks were treated well as Blacks perpetually foster. Blacks with severe inferiority complexes continue until this day. BUT remember ALL, ALL life came from DARKNESS
You probably married a white guy cos deep down you hate your black dark skin
It's quite similar to many Latin American countries, mostly Cuba, Colombia, Brazil, Venezuela, Argentina, Uruguay and Chile. Only in those countries there's a different kind of colorism and internalized racism. I mean, while in the USA it's openly talked about, in Latin America it's more "hidden", for example if one tries tò talk about it, almost everybody (of any color and shade) will say it doesn't exist and that it happens only in the USA (and while saying that, they most likely have a bleaching cream in their bag or purse, unless they are already white). But they will try their best to convince you that LatAm doesn't have racism nor colorism, which is not true at all.
Those same Latin American countries have complex beliefs about race and color, so I wouldn't generalize. And African culture and identification with Africa is stronger there also, so it's a complex situation. In the meantime many blacks in the US are pushing FBA and ADOS to separate themselves and promoting so called diaspora wars.
@@Ayinde65 Yes, it's very sad. Btw I wasn't exaggerating about Latin Americans, it's just that I know quite much about it since my biological father was Brazilian of very mixed heritage and he always talked to me about this and I saw it with my own eyes when I went to Brazil (I live in Europe) to meet my biological father's family. Apparently they all loved each other without any difference but the white and light skinned ones spoke badly of the black and darker skinned ones. And when I confronted them, they were all in denial. I guess it's a worldwide thing and it's actually sad
India Too. 😞
@@Nicole-kx9vg Yeah, it's even worse because of the caste system 😒😢
The Caribbean as well.
Heck, it's worldwide.
Lived in Louisiana for 10 years. It was so colorist. Oh my god. People kept reminding me that I am not as light as them. Why? It was 2010. It was mostly brown skinned and dark-skinned black women telling me this. So glad I left. The backwards mindset is just as depressing as the poor economic conditions.
South Carolina is the same way only they reverse it & the dark skin men only like light skinned women.
Y DOES THE WORLD HATE DARK SKIN SO BAD.?
The world follows the direction of white supremacy. Mostly dark folks.
THEY NOT LIKE US !!! MELANIN RICH
It glows
Jealousy is the root of the problem.
Because dark skin is gifted
There were allegations back in the day at Howard University, to be accepted in Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. you had to pass a brown paper bag test. Many black athletes marry white women so that their children will come out light skin with good hair. I remember walking down Columbia Road, NW in Washington, D.C. back in the 80's. I remember hearing 2 black teenage girls saying to one another, girl I am going to have me a baby by one of these Puerto Ricans so my baby can come out light skin with good hair. The saddest part, the Hispanic men they were referring to were not Puerto Rican, but Salvadorian or from other Central American countries. 😕
Oh those aren't allegations.. they're definitely true
It seems like that’s how it is everywhere.
@@cadillacdeville5828 You're right but I had to say allegations to keep from being sued.🤣
It's funny. You become what you hate! Now on lots of campuses, it's reversed! The Deltas are lighter and the Alphas are darker! 😅 The self hate is real......
@@misslady5029…yes, as an AKA, most of us in my old chapter moved silently away to privately fund our own affairs. Money talks while bs balks 😏
The movie and broadcast industry (even though I don't watch TV) as an whole pushes these pratices and are still being used to this day.
Social media too
You don't even watch TV
It will never end.
I concur!
It could end if only everyone, and I mean all human beings followed Dr M.L.K.'s thinking. But from what I see, his dream is long dead.
@@Laurita-ev8me It's been dead a long time. This world we live in is challenging for some of us! I don't think the MAGA people will get on board. Those people are full of hate! I could never understand it, if I remember my history correctly. They came and took us from our motherland. And raped our women and that's the birth of colorism's. I once read that Hitler and Trump are the most powerful people in the world, there's one more I can't think of his name. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿💙💙💙💙.
Even if we're all the same, we will find something to discriminate against.
@@bluejay9968 How can this change since ingrained in our phycology unknown passed through generations. It's aftereffects of Slavery
"the difference in treatment between light and dark between the slaves created a sense of fierce competition between the slaves....and, I've found out the hard way" that fierce sense of competition still exists today.
Humans are peculiar.
And stupid
Weird values
Sho nuff!
🎯
This is why I stay to myself. Bizarro world. I feel like an alien
And evil.
This might be a bit of a nitpick, but one of the ways colorism persists is that the language we use associates darkness with negativity. So a title like “Unmasking the *Dark* World of Colorism” doesn’t really help. With that being said, this video is very informative and well researched as always! ✌🏽
I get what you mean, but it’s far deeper than that. It’s the self-hay-te that facilitates the persistence. The English language, which is of the devil is the language that has anything to do with blkness as negative, bad and evil. I think the only time blk is good in English, is in financial affairs “in the blk” which I wouldn’t be surprised if this referred to the amount of enslaved people they had.
What 😂
Like getting "blacklisted", calling things un-"fair", or linking righteousness with tones in phrases like "it ain't right if it ain't wyt"
I get what you're saying. But I think that's the point of the title. The irony of it
Yeah, I say "melanin-rich" instead of dark-skinned.
Love the skin you're in!
Its true that colorism still exists, even in my country the philippines. In the service industry, those with fairer skin get better employment, or are put in positions where they are seen or interact with customers and clients. As if the dark, native, poor-looking people need to be hidden away to keep clients from feeling awkward, being higher-status-looking than the servers.
I wonder where did the "fair skin" term come from when referring to light skinned people. I really have a problem with that term, and I'm not dark skinned at all.
@@Pjsixty60This term (“fair”) goes back centuries. My guess would be, that the “usual suspects”(Caucasians…COLONIALISTS, to be exact) are responsible for coining this term when describing light skin. Phrases like, “My fair maiden” has been written by authors to describe so-called beautiful, or attractive women in poetry and stories for well over a century. I had a client from Afghanistan who used the word, “fair” to describe light-skinned Afghanis. This colorism CANCER is the scourge of this planet. This is a GLOBAL problem, that has been created by design to keep deep divisions among citizens of every nation…all while the Elite who created this evil concept in the first place…continued to thrive, flourish, and most importantly GENERATE WEALTH…while we “peasants” continue bickering and being divisive with each other over “SURFACE” differences (complexion/hair texture, etc.,). Colorism is nothing more than a skin-deep version of classism. Unfortunately, it’s been a very effective and demonic tool to keep the masses preoccupied with idiotic prejudices…while the Elite ruling class take every liberty, human right, and currency (MONEY) AWAY from said citizens.
I noticed the same in Mexico. The more traditional looking Mexicans ie dark skin, short, jet black hair were working in the kitchen. The fairer skin Mexican employees were out front, dancing, “bottle girls”
@@ebishrimpy9366
Sounds like certain Caribbean countries.
Happens in America as well
Thank you very much for using the word, "enslaved" as opposed to "slaves."
What's the difference?
@@KtotheGEnslaved implies that they were made to be slaves and slaves means that they are slaves
@@KtotheGslaves is dehumanizing. it makes it the center of their whole identity, as if they weren’t people first
@@KtotheG Enslaved refers to their forced labour but doesn't make slavery their entire identity. Slaves robs them of their identity and minimises our ancestors identity to the misery of being forced to work without pay.
I too don’t use the word slave when talking about the atrocities inflicted on my ancestors. They were enslaved, and we are still in captivity, albeit with a few trinkets! My son describes our situation as being “prisoners of war”, and he is correct. Just because we have disposable income, nice houses and cars, we’re still in captivity.
It has torn my Family apart, I learned at an early age my mother favored my Lite skin sister more than Me because my mother was a very Lite skin woman and I came out very dark Chocolate and Beautiful, it's so sad when you know your Not favored more because of the complexion of your skin tone, but that Lite skin sister that my favored is Not aging well because her Evil inside is showing on the outside All those names she used to call me as a child she looking just like them.Peace
She’s also not aging very well because she has less melanin.
Well in my family, it was the complete opposite. My older, darker skin sister was favored over my younger, lighter skinned self which is kinda odd because mom was very dark but dad was light in color. Unfortunately, my sister never developed the social skills needed to get along with others due to Mom's controlling ways so she is alone and miserable as a result!! 😢😮
@@dannettejackson202 I understand.Peace
Its karma hunnie
Reminds me of my only wife. I'm ginger and and she was very dark skinned. I miss her so much.
I’ll bet she was gorgeous! 😢
I'm a ginger and prefer dark skinned men, myself.
😢
Mes condoléances
@@KingofgraceSARAwhy do you prefer dark skinned males?
Colorism in Latin America is insane. People only like the lighter skinned, racially ambiguous mixed kids (especially the girls). They won't talk about it, but the treatment is totally different. Interracial families praise the lighter skinned and white ones. Whose usually get along because everyone says it's just a "preference". Black women are most likely to stay unmarried for their whole lives. Here in Brazil, there's this thing going on where light skin people are trying to redefine what colorism stands for; because darkskins are finally realizing that they are treated differently over here. So they want to be in the spotlight (again), and say it's colorism when some don't consider them like black. It's annoying and dentrimental.
It definitely is true I have both ethnic backgrounds Black and Latino but because I look more Latino than Black I tend 2 get treated differently than Darkskin Latinos
I'm dark skin, I have never bleach my skin have always been told I was beautiful by lots of different cultures. But it did not matter because my family built my self esteem when I was young. So I thought I was all that, never paid attention to anyone opinion of me.
Good for you sis! I'm dark skinned as well and live a beautiful life. I can't relate to all this "woe is me" stuff about my complexion.
Refreshing to hear.
Same! I definitely was bullied for my skin tone when I was younger but the love I use to receive outweighed that!
My Mom's side, sadly, used colorist. They said my Dad's side was too dark, fat, loud, & ghetto. I am light like my Mom and her side as are 5 of my 7 kids. Plus my Mom's side is grossed out by fat people (particularly with huge butts, hips, & thighs. My maternal aunt caused me to have anorexia & bulimia as my hips & butt started expanding as a teenager. By God's Grace I'm 15 years healed of these demons.
it's still going on my dad's side of the family are Creoles from Louisiana my mother was dark skin and I am too but even though my dad was light skinned he never made a difference in me his only child that shit needs to be stopped it's a slave mentality
@stephaniephillips565 True. That & discriminating against larger people. One of my 7 kids is chubby, but that doesn't make her less than myself, her Dad, or her 6 thin siblings. My Mom's side has a HUGE fat phobia as well. I was thin but did all I could to stay emaciated (I was a size 2 until age 28 even after having 5 kids. I was a size 6 after 7 kids until I was in my late 30s. I'm a size 10 now & happy & healthy)...
You should seek out the mulattos
After the way they treated Drake I don't trust them dark skin
@@the_mulattos Really?? I'm cool with dark skinned people though.
Don't be used as a tool for destruction. All of us has the trauma from being confused and abused. The goal is to not have animosity towards anyone unless they come to you with that energy. That's the start to healing. Sad to say, but some will continue to perpetuate the abuse without knowing or caring about the history of this sickness. Some are still trying to divide in this comment section. Avoid the temptation and stay on the road to healing. No one has control over how they get here. They do have control over how they act once they know.
I have suffered my whole life
The moral of the story is that external forces of darkness thrived off the emotions of people in general and then weaponized it against them.
Yup. Just another tool to destroy folks and keep the rich thriving. They can sit back and watch their work. Disgusting.
Not the "forces of darkness" LOL! I know what you meant, but we need to change the language we use around things we consider negative. This is literally the forces of whiteness, but we're conditioned to see dark as negative. Like, "dark times", or "dark days". I seems like a little thing, but constantly referring to negative things as dark and positive things as light or white definitely affects our unconscious perception.
Colonizers poisoning
@@hotchocolategirl1der My post wasn’t meant to personally offend anyone or to be taken in a literal sense. The “dark forces” is a metaphor that describes the spirit in which people can operate. We must not internalize metaphors as something that’s obvious because skin tone isn’t the issue here, it’s morality that goes far beyond the pigment of the skin. Spiritual warfare is real and it’s caused by those who are spiritually dark.
@@hotchocolategirl1dertrue. We need to describe it as spiritual wickedness in high and low places.
As long as there's an 'us vs them' mentality, colorism will always exist.
Thank you for this information. It’s still going on now and will never stop😢
Okay, I’m from the deep south (Louisiana) and grew up in the the early 2000’s. I'm being completely honest Black people were the only people to call me ugly because of my skin color. Specifically other dark skin people were the most aggressive and I was always shocked as to why. I had a dark skin girl tell me we couldn't date because we were the same color. Ironically white girls loved my complexion, light skin and caramel girls loved my complexion. I dated white, mixed girls, black and Hispanic girls etc but til this day and I am 30 now I have never had a dark skin black woman as a girlfriend and I have come to the conclusion that most dark skin women prefer light skin men and no one can change my mind.
Now as a traveler I seek out black countries to visit to change this because I don't want this to be true. And overseas I have experienced a better experience with dark skin women. And Dark skin women in particular usually have the best bodies, age better, and usually are very intoxicating with their energy but like I said most seek out men that don't look like them. My best experiences with dark skin black women ironically have been with Afro Latina women in countries like Colombia and Cuba. And I graduated from an HBCU and even then it was the same the lighter complexion women gave me the most play. I am not shy, I make good money in my career, I have exposure to different parts of the country and my experiences as mostly been the same. And every dark skin woman I know except a select few partners are lighter than them. This is my experience and black people definitely hate 😡 black people who are of a dark complexion and I find it very ironic when black people scream racism about whites when most blacks will hate on blacks that look like them. And yes racism is real. But y'all get me.
I definitely get you 👍🏾
There's a lot of truth to what you're saying. However, my brother is dark skinned and he has a beautiful dark skin wife. They look regal together! I love it, it's not something often seen being two darks. My grandmother is light bright practically white and my grandfather was dark. The same is true for all of my grandmother's sisters. They all married DARK, dark is beautiful and mysterious to me.🖤♠️
@@j.y.8 I appreciate that. Personally, I've never had any problems with dating in general. However, I've noticed that dark-skinned women don't usually show interest in me, and that's okay. They're looking for someone who fits their preferences. On the other hand, I've found that lighter-skinned women often show interest in me, although some people may not believe it. Recently, my 17-year-old niece asked me why I've never dated any dark-skinned women, as she's seen me with different women. I explained to her that I can't date someone who isn't looking for me. I remember they had this really fly Nigerian girl back in college body banging, slim but with a body like a model. I tried to get with this girl and she straight up told me she thought I was cool but she couldn't date me cause I was an American. At some point I just stopped trying to get at dark skin black girls to be honest because its always something off.
@briandawsonii4451 I understand, but I would say don't let that stop you. The next one could be your wife🤷🏽♀️ I think dark women are gorgeous!! Their skin is like black pearl! For the most part, I think dark women are afraid to recreate themselves in a child form. Meaning they simply don't want a dark child. Which is ridiculous to me. But, it's happening in America SMH. My ex husband is the darkest person I know, I loved that about him!😊 don't give up on dark women, yours is out there. And when you get her, love and appreciate her.
@@j.y.8 that's heavy love I never looked at it like that. Afraid to recreate themselves that's hella deep
While I dislike the title of this One Mic History piece, I have acknowledge the accuracy of research. In my own family history this internal obsession with light skin tone existed. My Grandma had five Sisters and a brother, all who were light skin. Also many of her cousins (my Great Aunts) treated her differently because her Dark skin tone. She even told me her Mother, (my Great Grandmother) noticed this and made point address issue directly with her Sisters.
Yet, oddly enough All of her Sisters and few cousins married Dark skin men. Go figure that out😅
@@PaulHFleming From observing colorist people and their behaviors, it's not shocking to me at all that they are all married to DSBM. That is a whole' other conversation on its own but basically, colorist women are most likely to date men who they believe will be obsessed with their color like they are. They prefer to date and marry men who they perceive to be inferior to them to guarantee that obsession; hence, preferring to date and marry dark skinned men (the men they end up with will almost always be a colorist as well). It's flawed logic, but I've overheard enough conversations and witnessed these flawed unions enough to know why they're most likely to do this.
*What's wrong with the title in your opinion?*
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682….this is interesting. Usually colorists marry their own kind. These women must’ve been poor or shuffled onto the black side. That’s what l’ve studied. The indoctrination of white passing blacks onto darker blacks societies by films such as Imitation of Life and Pinkie. In reality this indoctrination didn’t always work as some mixed people were culturally and socially invested in certain groups. However, darker blacks try to use the one drop rule whenever they can to shame, mock, or bully mixed people into accepting them.
FACTS 💯💯💯💯
It still goes on today my man
Interesting that much of this colorism, texturism, etc. has to do with subliminal indoctrination of Eurocentric ideology beauty standards throughout many centuries via magazines, signs, billboards, radio, television, commercials, beauty supplies, school, society and now social media. Many black people (both bm and bw) still have attraction and prefer European facial features on their own people even though they say they don't. That's why many times you'll hear both bm and bw say that attractive White and European, non-black Latinos, and biracials are "fine" or "drop dead gorgeous", etc. even more than they would think or say about their own.
I think you’ll find BM are the boss of this.
@HeartBreakHigh A lot of truth said. However, I believe black men PERPETUATE this (as do all ethnicities currently) but are not responsible for its implementation. Additionally, black men (and black women) don't have the social, economic, and political power to use this to divide, dehumanize, oppress, and ultimately control the livelihood of other ethnicities. Colorism is the little brother of racism.
That may be true for the majority….. possibly…… but not all. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Just sayin…. not everyone likes pasty, colorless, less melanated skin. I love me some brown, melanated skin. Nice thick curly hair and dark thick eyebrows…..
Wyte doesn’t do it for me …..
Nahh. Not me. I know my DSBW are beautiful and I say it!
The root of the problem is that people are addicted to power since the beginning of time, and they will do anything to maintain it and that includes keeping our immediate families and fellowman divided against each other. The powers know that people are prone to sinful tendencies, they actually study genetics, people's backgrounds, behavior patterns and emotions in order to use as a weapon of defeat. Racism is just one of many strategies used to keep people divided. Not every dark-skinned individual has been traumatized by the effects of racism nor do they internalize racism but that doesn't mean they don't have other weaknesses or sinful tendencies that can be conquered. No doubt institutional racism historically has had a negative impact on society but to further victimize the victims that's oblivious to their condition by using contempt and humiliation is even more wicked and vile!
Some call it “blanqueamiento.”
Because that’s exactly what it is.
I highly recommend listening to Diane Collins Ted talk about being the scapegoat of the family.
She touches on her own family history with colorism.
It’s probably the best Ted talk I have ever watched.
As always, thank you for the insightful content.
What’s so interesting is that colorism is actually even worse in Asia. Darker skinned people in China, India and other Asian countries face the same issues. Even in countries where white Europeans were not a major force. I wonder why. 😊
Asia had a caste system, and the whole world isn't asia or China or india
Fair skin implies not having to work outside in the sun at menial tasks . This was always the case even before these countries ever saw a white person.
@@Katya-zj7ni that it's necessarily what fair skinned mean since it's a european term.
@@leavemeal0ne378 I didn’t say it was. Just that it’s interesting that we tend to think of this as a Western thing but it exists even in places where the west wasn’t a major influence or long before the western influence. I’m just curious why. I’m not a cultural anthropologist but I do find cultures fascinating. How they evolved and what they value is very interesting. If you’ve ever read Joseph Campbell’s work on myths, it’s amazing how cultures replicate ideas even when they have no contact.
@nikkil764 I agree that's why they are myths and cultures tend to be abandoned dont you think humans will have more morals
I was a youngster in the 70's, and remember the SERIOUS hangups BFS STILL had about skin tone back then! I went to a predominantly Black school, and 90% or more of the guys wanted a light-skinned GF! When I look at the pictures of light-skinned girls in my yearbooks, I just can't figure out for the life of me, the things LS girls got AWAY with back then, many of them really WEREN'T that good looking at all, but back then, BEIGE was all the RAGE, and you couldn't tell them NOTHING! Women THREW themselves at LS guys back then ALSO, they needed NO game, and many didn't have any!
Years later, I saw one I went to school with in a record store, looking across the aisle from me, she walked up to me and asked if I went to X school, I said yes, then she asked me, why didn't you SAY something, and I told her, CHIT, why didn't YOU, we're NOT in school anymore, and I wasn't CRAZY about you back THEN! She wound up giving me her number, and I NEVER called her!
Nobody talks about the high rates of suicide BW women had back then either, but I remember the HANGUPS DS BW had back then, and when they copped an attitude with you, the FIRST thing they'd attack was your skintone, and many were DARKER than you, but I knew back then, that was self hatred!
When I got a chance to leave that city, I RAN from it, rarely came back, and now whenever they announce class reunions, I don't get excited at ALL because I knew many people, but were TIGHT with FEW! How I got EVEN was to live a DAMN GOOD CLEAN life! What's INTERESTING today is that we STILL have young BFS, with that SAME GOTDAMN self-hating problem! The more things CHANGE, the more they remain the SAME!🤔
Same story. The worst is your own family looking for help when they know that they were shtty towards you. I never believed that I was less than. I just didn't associate with pl who believed it. My tractive is to avoid animosity towards lighter ppl, but I'm still cautious. No one has control over how they get here. That's all I can do at this point.
@@Auntkekebaby AGREED!😳👍🏿
Are you sing the ds girls in your school got bullied and they commited suicide?
@@C_theesiren They didn't get bullied, they just got IGNORED! Suicide among them was briefly spoken on, but by the late 70's, there was little talk of it! I knew quite a few, and as I interacted with them, I checked out how their persona changed with either LS guys or WFS showed up, and when discussing it with them later, they SWORE what I saw in them just wasn't true, they were in DENIAL back then, and it's interesting how FREELY they speak on it now!🤔
I use to mention and try to talk about this topic when I was in my 20’s but most of my friends and family would kind of shut me down, change the subject…tell me we are all black and the same… and I was obsessing, I knew that was BS. I even still have my own preferences but mostly attracted to slim in shape women who are glassy well kept without a lot of bling, gailkyn jeweley, huge fake eye lashes, bear claw Freddie Koolger fake nails-overly tight form fitting overly sexualized clothes…etc. those type of women are rare these days. No matter what there complexion.
We have to end this in our community. I am grateful that my light skinned mother programmed me that “black is beautiful.” I love all of our colors. Being in the middle of sucks that both darker complexion and lighter complexion have a hard time with acceptance in our community. I loved that you said the bottom line is colorism is directly connected to racism and colonization. We gotta fix ourselves when it comes to colorism. It’s the only way.
It’s still goes on in the entertainment industry as well
God bless you for bringing this hidden reality to the forefront I have dealt with this in my own family all of my life!
Good video cousin!
This is such an interesting video! I just finished my Master’s in racial discrimination in Brazil and I briefly studied some of the topics you discussed I am interested in researching more and educating more people on the subject. Thank you for sharing your video
Ddaammnn good video. I love your work. Keep spreading the truth, never compromise.
This is a problem even in Africa. Africa was split up by Europe and colonized
The problem is not Africa because the paper bag test was in America, not Africa
@@truthtelling1195 so as I said Africa was colonized for years and these same test and treatment was implemented. As an anthropologist, historian, and African I am a hundred percent certain of what I’m saying. This problem persists in the Caribbean, Americas, and Africa
@preciousjackson1197 Yes, you are correct...... Also things like the hair texture pencil test.....
As a Light skin guy I would get roasted all the time but once I start making the crispy jokes people want to cry foul.
Man! I thought I was the only one. I’m from Ga. And I would have darker tone blacks mentioning I was softer than them cause of my color texture. I had to fight alot and prove other wise, and when I did respond with violence I was looked at as emotional 😂. I’m to the point where if you crack a light skin joke I’m ready to fight.
@@qdadude2723 we need to divide. We’re not the same race.
Yup it happens both way
@@LadyOOtuh😂go ahead and see how others treat you
They were jealous of you
Thank you for tackling this...and so thoroughly - the origins and the continued effects. The more we normalize discussing this toxic system of thought, the better chance we have of healing.
I get what the tone of the video is supposed to convey, but to me it just further proves we are not the same.
I am a bi-racial 46 years young male. My Mother Is Native American (Ojibway Tribe) & my Father Is Black (American male) ....... I was raised to be equal with my fellow African-Americans. However the notion of colorism never came up until I stepped outside my Family Circle. It was my fellow African-Americans that had the "colourist attitude" Not me. It was completely foreign to me. It was the darker skin complexions In my community that had & still do a Issue with us (my family).
Sooo blessed to come from a family like mine. I'm 44 and up until social media I never even knew this was a real thing amongst family 😔
The lies we tell ourselves 😂
@@NegritaBrujitathe OP can’t be from a so called black family if they’ve never heard of colourism, featurism or texturism.
As a light skin black mix individual, one issue I have always had is the one-sided conversation about colorism. Yes, dark-skinned black people have been heavily discriminated against. However, conversely, so have a lot of us light-skinned Black people. A lot of us have been rejected from blackness itself. We've been told we're not Black enough, we've been told to go start our own race, we've had our skin complexions compared to piss, we've been called to humanizing names like half breed, and have you been targeted for acts of violence and sexual assault for being light-skinned. All of this, while still being rejected by other races and called Black-oriented racial slurs.
I agree some ppl act like that it doesn't happen I'm also a Light-skin mix as well Black mom Latin father with loose curly hair in terms of texture it's similar to Wwe wrestler Roman reigns but I have experienced the same issues u have mentioned til this day I have insecurities I find My light-skin Ugly and wished to be Darker so that I can feel more Accepted
@@jonathanjones4440…sweetheart, you need to find places like California or northern Louisiana where other lightskin mixed people exist beautifully. ❤❤❤😘
@Mimi-ht6xr if u had a Facebook you'll see what I mean about myself 😔😔 but California or Louisiana I've never been 2 only heard of so I don't know what it's like out there
Colorism is still very prevalent today... Especially in our own community as well as others with a caste system.
It’s bad enough we have to deal with racism. Dealing with colourism from within our own communities is the toughest.
In my opinion people who focus on skin color has low self-esteem. A person character is much more important...So go heal before trying to connect with someone.
Thank you for this very interesting commentary! 😀
It’s a shame because we’re all beautiful no matter what shade
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So ironic, considering colorism empowers racism. If you practice colorism, you should accept racism. How strange and silly it is for a people to discriminate against themselves on the basis of color while complaining about discrimination on the basis of race and color. Colonialism helped to create some very strange and foolish people.
This was a great video! The history behind colorism! This topic is very important to me. Because I didn’t know when I was younger why was I made fun of now that I’m older I understand it has nothing to do with me it’s bigger than me🤷🏾♀️
We’re blinded by sight.
My beautiful mother,( who's Black/ American Indian) was treated unfairly in the church that we attended ( AME ZION),by the darker skinned women who attended the same church,to the point that whenever there was a church fashion show,or pictures taken of the church,they would give her the wrong time,date,etc.. but she prospered and they didn't,but I wanted to give an example of how colorism can become senseless.
Even within families 😮😢.
Being a lighter skinned black woman, I absolutely hate when people call out my skin tone! Like I should be ashamed for having lighter skin. My skin tone comes from generations of family ranging from dark brown to beige ...it is all so damn ridiculous. We as black people have been put in this position by our oppressors, period.
Yes, it extends beyond the United States, with bride kidnapping, women are chosen from Nepal as they are lighter skinned and this is considered more feminine. In Saudi Arabia there is a feeling that darker, African American featured people are less intelligent. I personally know of this, there is a culture of true discrimination. 😢
Thank you for this video! Very good indepth explanation
My mother was a Dark brown skinned woman who gravitated towards lighter men, my dad being Puerto Rican plus high yellow swooned her over and here comes me a brown boy refer to as light skinned by someone darker than me‼️🤔👀🧑🏾🦲😒🤬😂🤷🏽♂️
It’s so sad but it’s never going to end!
Beyonce released a video of her hair and products. All of the comments were about her skin tone and hair. Most of them said she was bleaching her skin and wearing a wig.
- That's invalid.
- Tina Knowles is multiracial woman.
- Which she have always been outspoken about her roots.
- Earlier in Beyonce's career Tina made her daughter get suntans.
- Those are facts.
- It was a scheme to get the Black consumers to embrace her daughter.
- Tina also made Destiny's Child (group) get suntans too.
- Since their skin tone couldn't outshine Beyonce (star).
- Beyonce is like Kamala.
- Yet, the misinformed Black Population allow them to take up Black Spaces.
It will never end the ongoing ignorance. Colorism is worldwide now. Thanks to America and Europe
I met this fair older lady on a cruise. She was super sweet. She had a very light complexion. She was showing me her grandchildren. One of the grand children was caramel complexion but the others were lighter. She kept harping in how cute he was for being so dark. I was like why are you damaging this child. I was in shock how she elevated her lightness.
It's still like this today
Thanks again for the great history lesson. 💜
The definition of colorism definitely requires an update for these contemporary times.
In what way? 🤔 It seems like the same ‘ole shizzle to me.
Thank you for taking the time to explain that colorism has existed well before white colonialism and has roots beyond white supremacy depending on the culture. East Asian culture specifically.
I’m Creole from New Orleans and it was definitely a thing back in the day.
Is it different now for creole ppl ?
slarvadain 188 : A thing for Creoles in Louisiana? Try Cajuns in the same state.
This needed to be talked about!!!!!
Divide and conquer.
Thank for featuring my cousin.
Michelle Obama vs Kamala Harris...no monkey names for Kamala...and Michele is extremely beautiful
It’s so bad that trolls on the internet pushed the idea that Michelle is a man.
They don’t respect dark skin women whatsoever
The music is so distracting your voice is enough for me ❤
In my community, all African-descended people were thrown together so a lot of colorism activities weren’t practiced.
Were they all mostly the same shade?
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682
No, we varied from chalk to chocolate.
Good for you. Now go away.
Not everyone is just black and white ,with all the mixed relationships
When i was in school the darker skinned girls hated me, i wasnt black enough even though i am black just lighter skinned.They would taunt and call me nasty names. Never had this problem with the lighter skinned blk ,mixraced/biracial or white girls Im older now and til this day i still get dirty looks, screw faces, kmt or its you think your too nice cos your lighter skinned from darker skinned women. It wasnt known as colourism then now all of sudden its known a colourism when say something like your not into darkskin ppl🙄
I witnessed this in Miami,I was aghast at how many times I saw this sort of mentality and thought it was rather unfortunate that some people treat each other this way. I would imagine it has manifested itself to other parts of the world as well.
Sadly, we (black people) are the only ones who make this an issue. My dad is creole and my mom is biracial. And guess what???
We are treated the SAME as any darker complexion black when it comes to work especially in corporate America, banking, shopping, police/traffic stop, etc.
Whites, Asians and white presenting Latinos/Hispanics do NOT treat us any better or different. I know this as a 100 percent fact from personal experience (btw I am in my early 40s, raised in south Florida and have traveled extensively as a flight attendant so I’m not under a rock)
This is your experience.
@@isa_virtualYou are replying to every comment. Did a light skin person hurt you?
You are not treated the same as darker skinned people. Stop the lies.
Yea and your saying this coming from a place of privilege you don’t have to worry about your skin tone so don’t speak for darker skin individuals, how ignorant
@@ryanortiz2648 well I can comment on whatever I want tho. are you pressured?
I was born into a family with a beautiful LS mother and a beautiful chocolate dad. I am one of six children. As a child I was chocolate and then became lighter as I aged. I love who I loved which allowed a sincere heart to love all parts of my people. I do remember hearing things like "she's pretty, but she's brown skinned often from outsiders. What a ridiculous thing to say to someone's child who loves blindly, I am now lighter in complexion, but still realize how much I am ostracized now when I still see myself as just me. It's the strangest existence to not be accepted anywhere. So there is also another element of others trying to make you feel uncomfortable in your skin. I love who I love, and I was taught to love me or anyone else just as the beautiful person they are. Peace to the world.
It's very sad and still very strange & lonely lifestyle .❤ Love to all.
I’m sick of it
When people talk about colorism I think they at times are reverse discriminating against mixed people as well as other races that are lighter. It’s normal for people to prefer their own skin color, features and characteristics. The black community is one of the groups that has a lot of inner discrimination that frankly at this point makes no sense as to why it’s still going on. You can’t blame mixed people and other races that are lighter because making someone else the enemy only just creates more problems in a multicultural society which doesn’t work in your favor. It’s okay for black people to promote black love amongst black people yet many get triggered when they see two mixed race or lighter skin black people together. If it’s okay to promote togetherness amongst yourselves then why get so threatened by other races that do the same? Whenever there is a movie they always get upset and say why isn’t the love interest black or a different race? Colorism can only change how it affects black people until black people start valuing themselves and stop thinking they have to attack others, feel threatened as well as demonizing others and involving others just to be able appreciate themselves.
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Great video
Trained to hate ourselves
Colorism is also deep in the Asian , Latino, and Indian community too, however it was affected the Black community very largely.
The issue is that it wasn't racism or colorism. It was the fact that the light skinned child was created by the slave owner by raping the female slaves. The slave owner didn't want his child in the field.
Except mixed kids were still his own kids 😂
Yeah I believe colorism is an extension of racism - colorism not only affected African American communities but also very much worse in Indian Asian communities and some Latin communities (e.g. we stereotypically know about the dominicans)....smh colorism needs to end.....
There's colorism in this title... The "Dark" world of colorism... Not very subtle.
I'm tired of the structural racism in the "dark metaphor"... Does dark mean bad in your language? That is racist! Tired of the dark metaphor! Dark does not equal bad. Stop the racist language!
@@kusheranso calling out colorists language makes that individual racist? Lmao
I’d love to hear how Colorism impacted and/or shaped Black greek lettered orgs (Fraternities and Sororities) and other social orgs (Jack and Jill, Masons, OES, Links…).
During the golden age in England, pale-skinned women were proud of their porcelain skin. They avoided the sun, which also led to suffering from vitamin D deficiency.
Try-knees people do the same. They walk around on even a cloudy day with a parasol. Some if then have yter skin, than actual yte people.
@@HeartBreakHigh The unhealthy things people subject themselves to meet man's beauty standard!
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@HeartBreakHigh I still see parasols and umbrellas......in Spanish Harlem present day!!!
@@Auntkekebaby 😁
Nothing has changed.😢
Protecting and preserving dark orginal peoples needs to be of paramount importance to all people especially Black. period.
This is true today! GREAT commentary!,,😉👊🏾👍🏾👏🏾✊🏾🙌🏾💪🏾 There is NO SUCH RACE as Creole, creole is a culture, not a race!
FACTS
French Creoles derived from a French father who was from France. Combine that with Acadians and you are a race… you are white. 😂😂😂
Race is a social construct so there is no white or black race. As a descendant of French Creoles we are a culture just as African American is a culture. Each culture is distinct and beautiful in its own right but we aren’t the same. FC trace our lineages to Europe while AA are able to trace theirs to Africa. 🎉🎉
Yes, it is still Going on to this very day!
I honestly feel like it’s just as bad today thanks to integration s social media. It’s never going away