So true and I like that Dr. Burnett brings this up early on in the video. It doesn’t matter how simple the task is. If the brain says “I don’t want to do this today”, then it doesn’t get done. Or it gets done but with tantrums and alot of frustration. IMO, part of this comes from time blindness. There’s just little to no distinction between the tasks that can be done right now (which are usually urgent and repetitive, especially at work) and the ones that can be done at a later time (which are usually easy to do, time-consuming, and completely random and unrelated).
I discovered this video 2,5 years ago. This is the best explanation I have ever encountered. It is unbelievable what a clear understanding this man has of ADHD, and how clearly he can explain it. Thank you so much. Please share this video with all the persons you know are in involved.
Comic books taught me to read, (The Hiding Place), and reading lots of novels taught me to fake-it and talk to people, and talking to people and a time management seminar and daytimers got me through college, and immediate consequences of having my own business got me moving and success and work I love. We don't have to live in defeat: there are answers. Thanks Dr. Barkley.
I can relate myself with almost everything which he's saying. I always thought I am just a lazy mtf who don't like to do hard work and I know myself that my IQ is more than above average. Had I found him earlier in life, I would have been living a much better life. Nothing is more depressing than even most psychiatrists in my country are not well aware of the disease. I once had a counselling with one of them and he said if I were to have ADHD I wouldn't be able to sit for 10 minutes to talk.
I've never been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult but even as I approach 40 years old I still find myself talking to myself. I've always called it brainstorming out loud.
The end of the video where it says the solutions is what I already do, not knowing that I probably have this problem. Notes all over the place, 15 minute pomodoros (25 is really long for me) with a 5 minute break, Alexa reminding me of things... things like that. And I like to plan, but when I have everything planned it's like I've already done it, and I go back to planning something else. Thank you for sharing the video.
I just made a dr's appointment, thanks to this video. No matter how hard i try, I need to understand that I can't do it by myself. I have health issues, and i keep putting them off.
This is what I take to my family when I need to share facts about ADHD. I can't put to words what he can to help explain to my family a sense of what I'm experiencing or feeling. After 20 some years before I was diagnosed, I thought I was broken and never knew why I couldn't get things right. He goes over everything pretty much what I've ever felt or wanted to convey to others about how I was struggling but I never had the words to do it so thank you so much for the work you guys do. I will forever be in debt to Chadd
The first 33 min are true but very depressing. I am very glad he gave such good , distinct advice to overcome each of the 5 executive function defects at the end. If course he is brilliant and dedicated and articulate and informed..my suggestion would be to include the advice, the how to cope , for each executive defect, at the end of each defect explained in his lecture, as well as his summary at the end... It would keep ones moral up while listening to the first 33 minutes. I was not able to listen to all of the first 33 min, too depressing, and making fun of the defects didn't help either . However I am eternally grateful for his summary which will change my life now for the better . Huge thanks and will share the success steps and summary from 33 min onwards listed
The "you could change if you want to" is what really hurts. Because to everyone else you seem like a child or someone who's arrogant and just doesn't care about the world around them
I was talking to myself in car seat age as reported by babysitters(riding alone in the backseat with strangers they said i was telling myself "i okay, i okay, i okay" bc it was dark and i was afraid i guess. i spent most of my childhood self-coaching through hard experiences but that was young i guess) and I actually remember my stream of thought at high chair age but idk must be 3 year old? My high chair memory is of bobbing my head back and forth repetetively speaking a word (gamma for grandma) and just enjoying the feeling of euphoria, then suddenly becoming aware for the first time that others at the table (adults, seemed like a holiday gathering or family get together bc strangers were there) appeared kind of embarrassed or shifty eyed at my behavior so I remember thinking that I shouldnt let it get to me and not being sure if I was misunderstanding their feelings or not knowing why they would feel that way and putting two and two together that maybe it was me and I just hesitated and decided in a split second between pretending id never noticed(sensing that if i let it stop me now it could be the last time i do the thing i enjoyed) and just decided to stop doing it. i was pretty small and still find it strange to remember this thought process. not in these exact words but the knowledge was in my mind. i could have been older
I make notes. I am a Radiology Technology student and my instructor makes a point of it and belittles me for it. It hurts my feelings and she knows I have ADHD. Why are no allowances made? When I am allowed to put what I need in place to succeed it brings my anxiety way down and I perform better.
I like the anecdotes about the history reading conversation going off track (~24m), and the 29:00 time management sheet, that's brilliant :D I was already doing some of this with todos and daily alarms and writing stuff all over the house on notices to myself (next to the door, on switches, etc), so it's good to know a little more about the theory behind them!
I think I was weird bc I thought about the next several years in middle school and made decisions with that in mind. I remember planning on paper my whole 4 years of high school based on the curriculum i wanted
Super normal actually. In effect, you were probably not making working plans but thinking of the sort of ideal future without thinking of the consequences. Think of it as intensely daydreaming about the future without because it is more intersting/distracting than the petty immediate things along the way to get to tha5 end point.
This talk is bang on. My problem is not that I don't give attention; it's that I can't give attention at will. ADHD should be renamed to EDD (Executive Deficiency Disorder).
Which is exactly what Dr. Russell Barkley has said many, many times through the years. And it's absolutely correct. 🙄 It is SO ME, that I want to cry, but there's no use in that, it won't make me leave this video, which is VERY interesting, and do what I'm supposed to do right now 😩😂😩🥴
@@annabackman3028 Have you noticed, that you commented in a Russell voice? Found out that you mimic the people that you have been talking with or been listening to if you have ADHD. Or did I just read your comment in his voice?
@@aqqaluolsvig1564Sorry, English isn't my native language, so I don't know if got you right here...🤔 I have an ADHD diagnosis since a couple of years. I am nearly 60 years old, so I have had some time to question my reactions, how I respond to things and environments, my thoughts, my mental processes, everything. And, no, I'm not like "everybody else". What Dr. Barkley says, how he describes the situations, everything, is spot on. And he is 100% correct, it's not attention and focus that is the problem, it's WHAT and WHEN I can stay focused on what I should right at that moment. Sometimes it's like having two brains arguing with eachother about if I should do this thing that I have to do, which is very importent, is quickly done, but at THAT moment not a bit interesting. Or couldn't I do this other thing that, right then, is much more fun? Somehow the latter side convinces the first that the fun thing is of equally great importance and I could benefit from it. It's like having a stupid preast on one shoulder and a devil on the other. It doesn't matter if it's cleaning the house vs looking in old photobooks I haven't seen in years or listening to important information vs planning the next day. 🙄 I can sit for hours and plan how I want to refurnish, having a great plan... But I can't make myself start with it. That he said about the paper with good advice, about how to manage life better 😂😂😂😭. Exactly, "Yeah, great ideas, but not now.". And right now I have a choice, stay on internet and later clean up puppy-pee or take the puppy on a walk. We'll walk, the puppy and I. If you didn't have an answer, get back and rephrase, please!!! 🥰
@@annabackman3028 I didn't quite get the context there, what you wrote. But I agree with Barkley too. I too have ADHD and I'm 25 years old. What I meant was that I often find myself speaking in an accent that I have been recently watching, for example a TH-camr Jack Septiceye makes me unknowingly speak in an Irish accent. And I read your comment in Russells voice because I have been watching those so much. I just also really hate the thing with knowing what to do but not doing it at all, even if it is important to do. Struggles are real 😭
@@aqqaluolsvig1564Aha, that's how you meant, no, that was me expressing myself. But accents (dialects) tend to stick in my head. Also when speaking to someone with an accent I have to whatch my tongue, I easily start speaking in that dialect, which sometimes can be awkward. Like I intendently try to mimic. IF I have been watching a lot of English on YT or TV, been reading in English etc I have difficult to stay in my native language Swedish, I slip over to English. I can't find Swedish words (like a mild type of aphasia), only English words. Really annoying. When I think about it, I know a couple of other people with the same issue (oh yes, it can be an issue!), all either have an ADHD diagnosis or have that type of personality, but no diagnosis. 🤔🤔🤔Strange... 🤔 Is this an ADHD related thing or just coincidences??🤔 Anyway, I hope that you will have better support and understanding through life than I have had. IF I had been in school today, I had probably had my diagnosis much earlier than I did now, at 56-57 (The discussion started when I was 56, or a short time before I turned 56, it took a while until I had done the tests, so I was 57 when I had the diagnosis, black on white, on paper. As I wrote, I am a little different 😂😂, the psychologist that led the tests was a little confused, at a few tests I didn't solve the problems as neither being typical ADHD nor "normal" person, my ways of thinking was totally new to him, who had worked with ADHD for 14 years, was one in the team who wrote and made these tests. I don't THINK as a mix of some kind, a completely, third (or fourth, if you include autism spectrum disorder). But, believe it or not 🤣🤣🤣, I did higher points than average all over the tests, significant over at some, which means higher intelligence. I can't say that's something that I noticed (or somebody else for that matter 😂), but it's most likely how I developed my own ways of figuring out problems. My Father had a temper, NEVER ABUSIVE, don't misinterpret me, and I already as a small kid was left with finding out how to do things, and somehow I managed to. It was "do or be without" from start. "Normal" kids in that same age had made things differently, at that age some ADHD kids failed because of "help" to do it in a way their brains didn't understand (parents thinking "normally"), other had ADHD parents and made it (showing in a way their kid's brains got it). I had to find a solution myself, in a way my brain could. As I see it, that is something that have benefited me during my life, not that I, supposingly 🤣, been smarter. But the psychologist thought that had helped me originally. Thanks dad! 😁 DON'T BELIEVE that I am an Einstein, or EVER seen myself as one, rather the opposite. I know that I think differently than other people in many ways, I realized that in school already, and that has made me think that I am a bit stupid once in a while. For instance in school, math. When we had to calculate a problem a certain way, and write down how we did. I could do the easy ones in the head, but not explain. And when it started to be difficult, in 8-9 grades , I was out of the game 😞. Stupid and lazy. That's what I felt, though teachers kept telling "You are so clever, you can become ANYTHING, you just must do this and that", mostly meaning homework. 🙄. Well, I became SOMETHING, but not my dreams.
Ps I should say that of course the details given in the first 33 minutes are helpful to have a deeper understanding and appreciation for his 5 coping suggestions at the end. I just found having to listen first to the 5 deficits, one after another , very daunting and overwhelming, and why putting the coping suggestion for each deficit, immediately after each explained deficit, would be more encouraging and respectful to those with ADHD who are listening or sharing the talk with others.... This feedback may help others who want to relay this info....
The mother (nurterer) needs to teach some of these things very early to her children. But, if the mother has ADHD, she can't teach many necessary behaviors to her children, because she can't do them herself. This was the case in my ADHD husband's family. His mother couldn't actually "teach" them much of anything, because she was so crippled mentally herself. Her kids were all ADHD and worse, and self control was severely impaired in all of them. Time control was almost non existent also.They all stayed in denial of how severe their impairments were/are. And they all had addictions of different kinds to try to deal with their inabilities.
Setting up the appointment, going to the appointment, getting your meds, going for follow up appointments, getting your dosage right and dealing with those around you that will inevitably tell you medication is bad for you.
Idk if you’re someone in need of medication for ADHD or not, but as an adult with ADHD who did get a diagnosis and prescription meds it doesn’t have to be very tedious! I got a referral to a psychologist through my primary care doctor, set up an appt, took a couple hours being evaluated by the psychologist, and went back about a week later for my diagnosis. The hard part is honestly just taking the necessary steps to get that referral 😂 once you can manage to do that everything else pretty much falls into place.
I can't help but wonder if sacrificing the present for the future can go too far. It seems like it has for many people. This expectation that we should be doing this is kind of fishy. I have ADD (diagnosed). I have many good habits resulting from great effort. But I spend time around a lot of aging people now. And I am not going to repeat their ambitious behavior. It just doesn't look that attractive. This Doc even mentions College. I make more $ than some people with 2phds, multiple fulbrights, and 3 fluent languages. I am a Carpenter. I do have trouble keeping to a schedule. But who cares? I understand what he is saying. But I just can't get 'all in' with this Executive Function Religiosity. Even Willliam James whom he mentions might have something to say about this very narrow focus on what individuals with ADD have problems with. Constantly analyzing yourself, and trying to correct yourself, has a very limited range of effect in your life. And it can ruin a person more than it can help them.
I had throat clearing tics as a young child and compulsive things like bedwetting/nail biting which i guess are lower inhibition but also seemed anxiety-ish. Experienced massive stress with unstable home environment. Wondered if OCD or trauma but the inhibition thing makes sense
So no hope in developing non verbal working memory without the ability to visualize? Need to revise in the light of new recognition of aphantasia Thankfully I know I have total aphantasia and don’t feel like crap hearing that I don’t have any of the abilities to recall dinner last night with images, senses, or recall of the conversation with the waiter. Which came first the chicken or the egg. Does aphantasia contribute to ADHD or ADHD contribute to Aphantasia? Because it’s one of the first abilities in the scaffold, it must be Aphantasia or some injury to that area of the brain that contributes to ADHD. Perhaps that’s why we don’t all present with ADHD in the same way. And I suppose let’s consider brain and emotional and prenatal trauma. I have no answers only questions. All that said I appreciate dr Russel’s lectures very much.
Self-regulation is self-directed action to yourself for changing self/action. Self-Control 5 layer hierarchy Vigotsky: how language develops from public act ro internal self-referncing and private internal life. Visual-imagery system: Mind's Eye, theater, dvd player of the past (hindsight) and projection to future (foresight). All senses can be imaged and described. Words require the images. Re-image the relevant past: hindsight Speech to oneself Emote to oneself - create emotions in oneself Internalize your manual play, simulating mytiple possible responses. Manipulate what you are holding in mind. Manual play moves to symbolic and imaginary play. Soeech 0-3 years of age, emit language to others. 3-5 years start to talk to themselves, self-directed outward parallel speech with others and alone. 5-7 start to see face and utterances supressed.. Speech gets quieter and telegraphic, from description to self-instruction. Language captures motor system (integration). 9-12 yrs the speech is entirely in the mind. All verbal thinking is speech to self with suppressed motor action. Inhibitoon system starts at 3 months of age. By 12-14 years of age, visual imagery and inhibition should be fully developed. Images and words control. Emotions to self. Actions and goal to self.
Dr Russell A. Barkley is a clinical psychologist who is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the VCU Medical Center and an author of books on attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Involved in research since 1973 and a licensed psychologist since 1977, he is an expert on ADHD and has devoted much of his scientific career to studying ADHD and related fields like childhood defiance.
Why is Canada a more humane country? It really seems that the medical community there really primarily care about their patients. I work in healthcare in the US and where the focus is on money. Watch: DescriptionFilmmaker Michael Moore examines America's health-care crisis and why millions of citizens are without coverage. This is an insightful movie of his like “The Corporations” a great movie.
Mostly because they have a free healthcare system. America and many other contries lack that because of politics and greed. Some things that are beyond the control of common people.
I would say our healthcare system is definitely not better than the US. There are areas where we are lacking. There are Canadians that spend big money (that they don’t necessarily have) and go to the US for - believe it or not - *life saving* healthcare because they have to wait months to a year for crucial scans or tests or even just a consultation with a specialist (and there’s no clear reason on why that is). I believe our system is so overburdened with bureaucracy and inefficiencies that the people it’s supposed to look after, suffer. A person can almost end up feeling like live-stock when having to deal with the healthcare system in a “you’re-just-a-number-and-you-should-be-grateful!” kind of way. There are some good things of course, like being able to go to a walk-in clinic and not worry about paying out of pocket for a visit with the GP. Although, the GP (not all, there are MANY good doctors… I’m sure) might _seem_ like he doesn’t care - a perception further fuelled by the fact that GP’s work with pharmaceutical brands and benefit from, I guess, “selling” their brand of pharmaceuticals. So a person sometimes wonders if his/her best interest is really being looked after. I’ll add that it’s not all terrible and there truly are some very good healthcare professionals that are really passionate about people and their health. But that’s just my opinion based on my personal experience with the Canadian healthcare system.
I lived in the USA until I was 45 and then moved to Vancouver. I've been here 30 years this coming October and it is not utopia here. By any stretch of the imagination but overall it is less cut throat and more humane place to live. My kids won't ever go back and my Grandkids won't.
Also I hate my medication ( speed). I get bad headaches after 6 months of medication. So I stop. Then I mess up a lot of stuff then will get my meds again. I have to just isolate or I say things that trigger people. Not intentionally. Just impulsive TRUTH. Man people hate the truth. Why. 😢❤
Anyone who cuts me down for my actions due to adhd. No matter who it is. I tell them how sad I am for their willful ignorance and failure to understand that some people have adhd and didn’t have a choice. Do cut me down. Just be patient and we will reach our goal. Don’t rush I will disappear ❤😂
I stopped trying to get my Family to look at videos or explain to them. So when they ask me what are you doing why are you saying that why are you acting like that. And I say. ADHD. DO YOU MIND. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
At 52 I have never made any future plans ever. I never had urge to or feeling yo do so. I don’t use a calendar. I just know what day of the month to pay my bills and I do t buy stuff that is extra even if I have enough to do so with. I hate this shit. I can’t do anything about it though. I just exist and do things I Love and do it with who I love ❤️. I don’t need anything really. JUST JESUS AND MY WIFE AND KIDS.
Not only do I not do what you tell me to do, I don't do what I tell me to do either.
Nailed it.
So true and I like that Dr. Burnett brings this up early on in the video. It doesn’t matter how simple the task is. If the brain says “I don’t want to do this today”, then it doesn’t get done. Or it gets done but with tantrums and alot of frustration. IMO, part of this comes from time blindness. There’s just little to no distinction between the tasks that can be done right now (which are usually urgent and repetitive, especially at work) and the ones that can be done at a later time (which are usually easy to do, time-consuming, and completely random and unrelated).
I discovered this video 2,5 years ago. This is the best explanation I have ever encountered. It is unbelievable what a clear understanding this man has of ADHD, and how clearly he can explain it. Thank you so much.
Please share this video with all the persons you know are in involved.
Yeah almost like he was a shrink or something.
@@Big-guy1981 you know he is a PHD and a practicing psychiatrist, right?
@@gaaneshmujumdar, I think that @Michel GASTON was being sarcastic...
Honestly, don't you think he has had a lot of help learning about ADHD first hand, through his twin brother? 🤔
@@gaaneshmujumdar there are many with PHD with very ambiguous way of explaining these issues
Comic books taught me to read, (The Hiding Place), and reading lots of novels taught me to fake-it and talk to people, and talking to people and a time management seminar and daytimers got me through college, and immediate consequences of having my own business got me moving and success and work I love.
We don't have to live in defeat: there are answers. Thanks Dr. Barkley.
Please share some novels which helped...
I can relate myself with almost everything which he's saying. I always thought I am just a lazy mtf who don't like to do hard work and I know myself that my IQ is more than above average. Had I found him earlier in life, I would have been living a much better life. Nothing is more depressing than even most psychiatrists in my country are not well aware of the disease. I once had a counselling with one of them and he said if I were to have ADHD I wouldn't be able to sit for 10 minutes to talk.
I've never been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult but even as I approach 40 years old I still find myself talking to myself. I've always called it brainstorming out loud.
I'm really thankful that the audio quality is very good because a lot of lections of yt often sound like some form of asmr.
Behavior of ADHD Kids, It's not willful disobedience, it the failure of language to control the motor system.
The end of the video where it says the solutions is what I already do, not knowing that I probably have this problem. Notes all over the place, 15 minute pomodoros (25 is really long for me) with a 5 minute break, Alexa reminding me of things... things like that. And I like to plan, but when I have everything planned it's like I've already done it, and I go back to planning something else. Thank you for sharing the video.
I just made a dr's appointment, thanks to this video. No matter how hard i try, I need to understand that I can't do it by myself. I have health issues, and i keep putting them off.
All this other stuff aside this is so me. I really feel lucky that you posted these, thank you
Can’t help but cry anytime i watch him speak about this.
These videos have helped me understand what is going on with my children. Thank you.
Ya i gotta restart this video again in a few days 😭
This is what I take to my family when I need to share facts about ADHD. I can't put to words what he can to help explain to my family a sense of what I'm experiencing or feeling.
After 20 some years before I was diagnosed, I thought I was broken and never knew why I couldn't get things right.
He goes over everything pretty much what I've ever felt or wanted to convey to others about how I was struggling but I never had the words to do it so thank you so much for the work you guys do. I will forever be in debt to Chadd
The first 33 min are true but very depressing. I am very glad he gave such good , distinct advice to overcome each of the 5 executive function defects at the end. If course he is brilliant and dedicated and articulate and informed..my suggestion would be to include the advice, the how to cope , for each executive defect, at the end of each defect explained in his lecture, as well as his summary at the end... It would keep ones moral up while listening to the first 33 minutes. I was not able to listen to all of the first 33 min, too depressing, and making fun of the defects didn't help either . However I am eternally grateful for his summary which will change my life now for the better . Huge thanks and will share the success steps and summary from 33 min onwards listed
I am newly severe ADHD due to NHS negligence and these videos are proving invaluable
Willi Ehlert, I second that!
The "you could change if you want to" is what really hurts. Because to everyone else you seem like a child or someone who's arrogant and just doesn't care about the world around them
This
I was talking to myself in car seat age as reported by babysitters(riding alone in the backseat with strangers they said i was telling myself "i okay, i okay, i okay" bc it was dark and i was afraid i guess. i spent most of my childhood self-coaching through hard experiences but that was young i guess) and I actually remember my stream of thought at high chair age but idk must be 3 year old? My high chair memory is of bobbing my head back and forth repetetively speaking a word (gamma for grandma) and just enjoying the feeling of euphoria, then suddenly becoming aware for the first time that others at the table (adults, seemed like a holiday gathering or family get together bc strangers were there) appeared kind of embarrassed or shifty eyed at my behavior so I remember thinking that I shouldnt let it get to me and not being sure if I was misunderstanding their feelings or not knowing why they would feel that way and putting two and two together that maybe it was me and I just hesitated and decided in a split second between pretending id never noticed(sensing that if i let it stop me now it could be the last time i do the thing i enjoyed) and just decided to stop doing it. i was pretty small and still find it strange to remember this thought process. not in these exact words but the knowledge was in my mind. i could have been older
That seems like HSP to me (highly sensitive person)you might wanna look into that. Just a thought😊
El primero después de muchos años de búsqueda de explicaciones, que dice lo preciso. Gracias Dr.
I make notes. I am a Radiology Technology student and my instructor makes a point of it and belittles me for it. It hurts my feelings and she knows I have ADHD. Why are no allowances made? When I am allowed to put what I need in place to succeed it brings my anxiety way down and I perform better.
All deferred gratifications require self regulation.
Takeshi Kovacs N and ALL success comes from that ability.......hello depression
Such a pleasure to listen to dr Barkley
I like the anecdotes about the history reading conversation going off track (~24m), and the 29:00 time management sheet, that's brilliant :D
I was already doing some of this with todos and daily alarms and writing stuff all over the house on notices to myself (next to the door, on switches, etc), so it's good to know a little more about the theory behind them!
Excellent. Thank you Doctor!
I have so many things I'm still not doing , I don't have time to watch this video for the 10 time yet ...here I am
I remember having internal thoughts at 6 months of age. So there is that.
I think I was weird bc I thought about the next several years in middle school and made decisions with that in mind. I remember planning on paper my whole 4 years of high school based on the curriculum i wanted
Super normal actually. In effect, you were probably not making working plans but thinking of the sort of ideal future without thinking of the consequences. Think of it as intensely daydreaming about the future without because it is more intersting/distracting than the petty immediate things along the way to get to tha5 end point.
Perfect. So much info.
This talk is bang on. My problem is not that I don't give attention; it's that I can't give attention at will.
ADHD should be renamed to EDD (Executive Deficiency Disorder).
Which is exactly what Dr. Russell Barkley has said many, many times through the years.
And it's absolutely correct.
🙄 It is SO ME, that I want to cry, but there's no use in that, it won't make me leave this video, which is VERY interesting, and do what I'm supposed to do right now 😩😂😩🥴
@@annabackman3028 Have you noticed, that you commented in a Russell voice? Found out that you mimic the people that you have been talking with or been listening to if you have ADHD. Or did I just read your comment in his voice?
@@aqqaluolsvig1564Sorry, English isn't my native language, so I don't know if got you right here...🤔
I have an ADHD diagnosis since a couple of years. I am nearly 60 years old, so I have had some time to question my reactions, how I respond to things and environments, my thoughts, my mental processes, everything. And, no, I'm not like "everybody else".
What Dr. Barkley says, how he describes the situations, everything, is spot on. And he is 100% correct, it's not attention and focus that is the problem, it's WHAT and WHEN I can stay focused on what I should right at that moment. Sometimes it's like having two brains arguing with eachother about if I should do this thing that I have to do, which is very importent, is quickly done, but at THAT moment not a bit interesting. Or couldn't I do this other thing that, right then, is much more fun? Somehow the latter side convinces the first that the fun thing is of equally great importance and I could benefit from it.
It's like having a stupid preast on one shoulder and a devil on the other.
It doesn't matter if it's cleaning the house vs looking in old photobooks I haven't seen in years or listening to important information vs planning the next day. 🙄
I can sit for hours and plan how I want to refurnish, having a great plan... But I can't make myself start with it.
That he said about the paper with good advice, about how to manage life better 😂😂😂😭. Exactly, "Yeah, great ideas, but not now.".
And right now I have a choice, stay on internet and later clean up puppy-pee or take the puppy on a walk.
We'll walk, the puppy and I.
If you didn't have an answer, get back and rephrase, please!!! 🥰
@@annabackman3028 I didn't quite get the context there, what you wrote. But I agree with Barkley too.
I too have ADHD and I'm 25 years old.
What I meant was that I often find myself speaking in an accent that I have been recently watching, for example a TH-camr Jack Septiceye makes me unknowingly speak in an Irish accent. And I read your comment in Russells voice because I have been watching those so much.
I just also really hate the thing with knowing what to do but not doing it at all, even if it is important to do. Struggles are real 😭
@@aqqaluolsvig1564Aha, that's how you meant, no, that was me expressing myself.
But accents (dialects) tend to stick in my head. Also when speaking to someone with an accent I have to whatch my tongue, I easily start speaking in that dialect, which sometimes can be awkward. Like I intendently try to mimic.
IF I have been watching a lot of English on YT or TV, been reading in English etc I have difficult to stay in my native language Swedish, I slip over to English. I can't find Swedish words (like a mild type of aphasia), only English words. Really annoying.
When I think about it, I know a couple of other people with the same issue (oh yes, it can be an issue!), all either have an ADHD diagnosis or have that type of personality, but no diagnosis. 🤔🤔🤔Strange... 🤔 Is this an ADHD related thing or just coincidences??🤔
Anyway, I hope that you will have better support and understanding through life than I have had.
IF I had been in school today, I had probably had my diagnosis much earlier than I did now, at 56-57 (The discussion started when I was 56, or a short time before I turned 56, it took a while until I had done the tests, so I was 57 when I had the diagnosis, black on white, on paper.
As I wrote, I am a little different 😂😂, the psychologist that led the tests was a little confused, at a few tests I didn't solve the problems as neither being typical ADHD nor "normal" person, my ways of thinking was totally new to him, who had worked with ADHD for 14 years, was one in the team who wrote and made these tests. I don't THINK as a mix of some kind, a completely, third (or fourth, if you include autism spectrum disorder). But, believe it or not 🤣🤣🤣, I did higher points than average all over the tests, significant over at some, which means higher intelligence. I can't say that's something that I noticed (or somebody else for that matter 😂), but it's most likely how I developed my own ways of figuring out problems.
My Father had a temper, NEVER ABUSIVE, don't misinterpret me, and I already as a small kid was left with finding out how to do things, and somehow I managed to. It was "do or be without" from start. "Normal" kids in that same age had made things differently, at that age some ADHD kids failed because of "help" to do it in a way their brains didn't understand (parents thinking "normally"), other had ADHD parents and made it (showing in a way their kid's brains got it). I had to find a solution myself, in a way my brain could. As I see it, that is something that have benefited me during my life, not that I, supposingly 🤣, been smarter. But the psychologist thought that had helped me originally. Thanks dad! 😁
DON'T BELIEVE that I am an Einstein, or EVER seen myself as one, rather the opposite. I know that I think differently than other people in many ways, I realized that in school already, and that has made me think that I am a bit stupid once in a while. For instance in school, math. When we had to calculate a problem a certain way, and write down how we did. I could do the easy ones in the head, but not explain. And when it started to be difficult, in 8-9 grades , I was out of the game 😞. Stupid and lazy. That's what I felt, though teachers kept telling "You are so clever, you can become ANYTHING, you just must do this and that", mostly meaning homework. 🙄. Well, I became SOMETHING, but not my dreams.
Ps I should say that of course the details given in the first 33 minutes are helpful to have a deeper understanding and appreciation for his 5 coping suggestions at the end. I just found having to listen first to the 5 deficits, one after another , very daunting and overwhelming, and why putting the coping suggestion for each deficit, immediately after each explained deficit, would be more encouraging and respectful to those with ADHD who are listening or sharing the talk with others.... This feedback may help others who want to relay this info....
24:38
real headturner of a moment "hey what the heck"
The mother (nurterer) needs to teach some of these things very early to her children. But, if the mother has ADHD, she can't teach many necessary behaviors to her children, because she can't do them herself. This was the case in my ADHD husband's family. His mother couldn't actually "teach" them much of anything, because she was so crippled mentally herself. Her kids were all ADHD and worse, and self control was severely impaired in all of them. Time control was almost non existent also.They all stayed in denial of how severe their impairments were/are. And they all had addictions of different kinds to try to deal with their inabilities.
It must be almost impossible for an adult suffering from add to go through the tedious evaluation for meds.... ?
Setting up the appointment, going to the appointment, getting your meds, going for follow up appointments, getting your dosage right and dealing with those around you that will inevitably tell you medication is bad for you.
Idk if you’re someone in need of medication for ADHD or not, but as an adult with ADHD who did get a diagnosis and prescription meds it doesn’t have to be very tedious! I got a referral to a psychologist through my primary care doctor, set up an appt, took a couple hours being evaluated by the psychologist, and went back about a week later for my diagnosis.
The hard part is honestly just taking the necessary steps to get that referral 😂 once you can manage to do that everything else pretty much falls into place.
I can't help but wonder if sacrificing the present for the future can go too far. It seems like it has for many people.
This expectation that we should be doing this is kind of fishy. I have ADD (diagnosed). I have many good habits resulting from great effort. But I spend time around a lot of aging people now. And I am not going to repeat their ambitious behavior. It just doesn't look that attractive.
This Doc even mentions College. I make more $ than some people with 2phds, multiple fulbrights, and 3 fluent languages. I am a Carpenter. I do have trouble keeping to a schedule. But who cares?
I understand what he is saying. But I just can't get 'all in' with this Executive Function Religiosity. Even Willliam James whom he mentions might have something to say about this very narrow focus on what individuals with ADD have problems with.
Constantly analyzing yourself, and trying to correct yourself, has a very limited range of effect in your life. And it can ruin a person more than it can help them.
I had throat clearing tics as a young child and compulsive things like bedwetting/nail biting which i guess are lower inhibition but also seemed anxiety-ish. Experienced massive stress with unstable home environment. Wondered if OCD or trauma but the inhibition thing makes sense
1:09 what’s the difference between his first point and his third ? They both sound pretty similar to me
Lol! Nailed it on recount of history.
pls give me some immediate consequences now
What is his next lecture please??
where is the next conference he is refering to?
Sheldon timetravels!?
So no hope in developing non verbal working memory without the ability to visualize? Need to revise in the light of new recognition of aphantasia Thankfully I know I have total aphantasia and don’t feel like crap hearing that I don’t have any of the abilities to recall dinner last night with images, senses, or recall of the conversation with the waiter. Which came first the chicken or the egg. Does aphantasia contribute to ADHD or ADHD contribute to Aphantasia? Because it’s one of the first abilities in the scaffold, it must be Aphantasia or some injury to that area of the brain that contributes to ADHD. Perhaps that’s why we don’t all present with ADHD in the same way. And I suppose let’s consider brain and emotional and prenatal trauma. I have no answers only questions. All that said I appreciate dr Russel’s lectures very much.
Wow
Who's this man
5:42 A fruit fly passing by. In the centre right going down.
Fruit? I can see something, but no idea what!? Looks very small 🤔
Self-regulation is self-directed action to yourself for changing self/action.
Self-Control 5 layer hierarchy
Vigotsky: how language develops from public act ro internal self-referncing and private internal life.
Visual-imagery system: Mind's Eye, theater, dvd player of the past (hindsight) and projection to future (foresight).
All senses can be imaged and described.
Words require the images.
Re-image the relevant past: hindsight
Speech to oneself
Emote to oneself - create emotions in oneself
Internalize your manual play, simulating mytiple possible responses. Manipulate what you are holding in mind.
Manual play moves to symbolic and imaginary play.
Soeech 0-3 years of age, emit language to others. 3-5 years start to talk to themselves, self-directed outward parallel speech with others and alone. 5-7 start to see face and utterances supressed.. Speech gets quieter and telegraphic, from description to self-instruction. Language captures motor system (integration). 9-12 yrs the speech is entirely in the mind. All verbal thinking is speech to self with suppressed motor action.
Inhibitoon system starts at 3 months of age.
By 12-14 years of age, visual imagery and inhibition should be fully developed. Images and words control.
Emotions to self.
Actions and goal to self.
24:20 OMG that's me LMAO ;D
Me too 😂😭😂
Mood
Amazing 🙏
Can anyone please help me and tell me what his name is
Dr Russell A. Barkley is a clinical psychologist who is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the VCU Medical Center and an author of books on attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Involved in research since 1973 and a licensed psychologist since 1977, he is an expert on ADHD and has devoted much of his scientific career to studying ADHD and related fields like childhood defiance.
He’s brilliant, he’s a very clever kind man.
Why is Canada a more humane country? It really seems that the medical community there really primarily care about their patients. I work in healthcare in the US and where the focus is on money. Watch: DescriptionFilmmaker Michael Moore examines America's health-care crisis and why millions of citizens are without coverage. This is an insightful movie of his like “The Corporations” a great movie.
Mostly because they have a free healthcare system. America and many other contries lack that because of politics and greed. Some things that are beyond the control of common people.
I would say our healthcare system is definitely not better than the US. There are areas where we are lacking. There are Canadians that spend big money (that they don’t necessarily have) and go to the US for - believe it or not - *life saving* healthcare because they have to wait months to a year for crucial scans or tests or even just a consultation with a specialist (and there’s no clear reason on why that is).
I believe our system is so overburdened with bureaucracy and inefficiencies that the people it’s supposed to look after, suffer. A person can almost end up feeling like live-stock when having to deal with the healthcare system in a “you’re-just-a-number-and-you-should-be-grateful!” kind of way. There are some good things of course, like being able to go to a walk-in clinic and not worry about paying out of pocket for a visit with the GP. Although, the GP (not all, there are MANY good doctors… I’m sure) might _seem_ like he doesn’t care - a perception further fuelled by the fact that GP’s work with pharmaceutical brands and benefit from, I guess, “selling” their brand of pharmaceuticals. So a person sometimes wonders if his/her best interest is really being looked after.
I’ll add that it’s not all terrible and there truly are some very good healthcare professionals that are really passionate about people and their health.
But that’s just my opinion based on my personal experience with the Canadian healthcare system.
I lived in the USA until I was 45 and then moved to Vancouver. I've been here 30 years this coming October and it is not utopia here. By any stretch of the imagination but overall it is less cut throat and more humane place to live. My kids won't ever go back and my Grandkids won't.
Also I hate my medication ( speed). I get bad headaches after 6 months of medication. So I stop. Then I mess up a lot of stuff then will get my meds again. I have to just isolate or I say things that trigger people. Not intentionally. Just impulsive TRUTH. Man people hate the truth. Why. 😢❤
Anyone who cuts me down for my actions due to adhd. No matter who it is. I tell them how sad I am for their willful ignorance and failure to understand that some people have adhd and didn’t have a choice. Do cut me down. Just be patient and we will reach our goal. Don’t rush I will disappear ❤😂
I stopped trying to get my Family to look at videos or explain to them. So when they ask me what are you doing why are you saying that why are you acting like that. And I say. ADHD. DO YOU MIND. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
At 52 I have never made any future plans ever. I never had urge to or feeling yo do so. I don’t use a calendar. I just know what day of the month to pay my bills and I do t buy stuff that is extra even if I have enough to do so with. I hate this shit. I can’t do anything about it though. I just exist and do things I Love and do it with who I love ❤️. I don’t need anything really. JUST JESUS AND MY WIFE AND KIDS.
I’m not diagnosed, but this puts so much of the puzzle together.
Don't diagnose yourself. There are many other things that can look like ADHD. You need a professional to do it.