I love the ideas of stories and humor to help with connection and learning. I'm grateful I was able to be in an IIT with Marshall back in 2008ish. His humor, songs, and stories kept everyone engaged and have tried to use those things myself when facilitating workshops or sessions. Thanks for sharing. I appreciate all the clips that you have been doing for a while. Inspires me and helps me look at things creatively in ways that I wouldn't have before.
@@owenkinser8079 Wow, that sounds like an incredible learning experience and a treasured memory. I really wish I could have experienced his workshops in person!
I liked the use of questions to tease out what a person is feeling or needing. I recently accidentally discovered questions redirect what NVC calls Jackal judgements into a more in-depth discussion about what’s behind the judgment. Unfortunately, I am new to NVC and I really didn’t know how to uncover the feeling or deeper need, but the questioning did help. I like tips that get me started with a process without having to remember complex steps. Once I get those down, I can build on them as I work to get more comfortable. It’s a bit like training wheels on a bicycle. Does that answer your question?
I would love to see more examples of how to use humor effectively. Especially from you, because I love the clear and nuanced ways you describe approaches and techniques. I’m very sensitive to humor. It puts me on edge, I begin to expect I’ll be invalidated or distanced by it. It was used that way in heavy doses when I was a child. I would love to overcome my fear of humor.
Long-time NVCer here, and this is a really wonderful way to use all of the old Marshall videos! Loved the attention to when/how humor works, or can go wrong. Seems like it will come through to people both that some of these things take time & effort to get to, and that they are understandable / possible. Thanks also for using the example from Palestine.
I also loved how he dared to play guitar and sing his songs, even if, like he said, did'nt know how to play guitar and sing ! Thank you Marianne for this precious video.
Loved this style of video, thanks! Humour has a huge part to play in everyday communication. In fact, Patch Adams says "clowning is a trick to get love close". Humour often relaxes us, opens us up, paving the way for deeper connection. I'd be very interested in exploring how humour might connect with NVC specifically.
I love the fun stories, they help me to remember nuances or details besides the sometimes taken too rigid 4 steps. And it is safer in stories than in interaction to prevent of feeling humiliated or made fun of. I love to lighten the mood and lift the sometimes very serious and focused almost tension in the room to "getting it right" A laugh brings a bit of relief and maybe a touch of lightness. thank you for the inspiration to remember the importance and the possible functions of humor in this context! 😊
I think the humor make people take things less seriously, therefore making these difficult and uncomfortable feelings feel easier to look at and explore. Also signaling people wont be shamed or yelled at in this conversation, his goal becomes clear that he’s trying to make you feel better and inviting you into and helping you through the exploration vs trying to force you into and through it.
I really appreciate your taking the time to put this together! It was so helpful to me to see you pull out and highlight specific things he has doing to establish connection and demonstrate empathy. If you have the capacity, I would LOVE more of these. I know there are a lot of videos of Marshall Rosenberg on TH-cam but I’ve not been able to get through them! It just goes to demonstrate the material is there but it is absorbed differently by different people. I came into contact with this material and read his book many years ago but did not start to really activate in my life until encountering your teaching, Marianne. The way you teach in these short youtube videos and in your online courses is perfect for me. 🙏🌿💚
It's great that you bring up humor! I’ve noticed that people who use NVC can sometimes come across as serious and overly nice, often hesitant to say something in case it might hurt someone's feelings
What an enjoyable, insightful video! I hadn't really though about humor in this way before (mostly considered it a strategy to meet needs for lightness and/or connection)
I was riassured when you highligthened that what Rosenberg did was very skilled empathy and I realized just now that empathy exists on a continuum and it's importanti to have compassion with oneself in the process. This video was just so enjoyable...I remember in my first NVC - workshops we saw in the evening the videos of Rosenberg and we couldnt get enough, it was almost adictive. So greatful you had the idea to analize his super powers. Would love to see more of this kind of ri-elaboration on Marshall skills. I think another super power was his own vulnerability not being afraid to show his struggles and making self-compassion a lot easier: We are all human and we are in this together. Thanks Marianne from my ❤.
Great video! ❤ That’s an interesting connection you made that he uses humor but he doesn’t teach it. I’m guessing it’s a difficult thing to teach, especially across different cultures. It seems like once you have connected with someone emotionally first then the humor comes naturally. It comes from loving feelings, instead of the way most people use sarcasm to belittle the other person.
I have a question about using empathy when someone shares a loved one has passed away. Let's consider in writing a condolence card or email. Most of use use, "I'm sorry for your loss". This common response is not about the person who lost someone but rather about the person who is sending the condolence. How do we flip this around in saying something that is about the person in pain? I can't figure this out. Remember, this is about sending an email or a card where you cannot have a two-way chat. I guess I could say, "This must be hard for you" and leave it at that. Any suggestions?
What's your favorite fragment?
The story about breaking windows 🥹
I love the ideas of stories and humor to help with connection and learning. I'm grateful I was able to be in an IIT with Marshall back in 2008ish. His humor, songs, and stories kept everyone engaged and have tried to use those things myself when facilitating workshops or sessions. Thanks for sharing. I appreciate all the clips that you have been doing for a while. Inspires me and helps me look at things creatively in ways that I wouldn't have before.
@@owenkinser8079 Wow, that sounds like an incredible learning experience and a treasured memory. I really wish I could have experienced his workshops in person!
I liked the use of questions to tease out what a person is feeling or needing. I recently accidentally discovered questions redirect what NVC calls Jackal judgements into a more in-depth discussion about what’s behind the judgment. Unfortunately, I am new to NVC and I really didn’t know how to uncover the feeling or deeper need, but the questioning did help. I like tips that get me started with a process without having to remember complex steps. Once I get those down, I can build on them as I work to get more comfortable. It’s a bit like training wheels on a bicycle. Does that answer your question?
Would love to see more highlights of Marshall! Also about his views on social change
I would love to see more examples of how to use humor effectively. Especially from you, because I love the clear and nuanced ways you describe approaches and techniques. I’m very sensitive to humor. It puts me on edge, I begin to expect I’ll be invalidated or distanced by it. It was used that way in heavy doses when I was a child. I would love to overcome my fear of humor.
thanks for your suggestion, im touched by your story, and yes i might do something on humor, love the idea!
Long-time NVCer here, and this is a really wonderful way to use all of the old Marshall videos! Loved the attention to when/how humor works, or can go wrong. Seems like it will come through to people both that some of these things take time & effort to get to, and that they are understandable / possible.
Thanks also for using the example from Palestine.
I also loved how he dared to play guitar and sing his songs, even if, like he said, did'nt know how to play guitar and sing ! Thank you Marianne for this precious video.
haha yes, that was also in my top 5!
Loved this style of video, thanks! Humour has a huge part to play in everyday communication. In fact, Patch Adams says "clowning is a trick to get love close". Humour often relaxes us, opens us up, paving the way for deeper connection. I'd be very interested in exploring how humour might connect with NVC specifically.
I love his sense of humor - and actually for me it is inseparable part of NVC :)
"NVC is not just a communication model but also a consciousness" ❤
Thank you very much for making this video. Really appreciate because it has helped in my growth and learning NVC
Mr. Rosenberg is such an inspiration, thank you kindly for making this video 🙏🏽❤️🥹
I love the fun stories, they help me to remember nuances or details besides the sometimes taken too rigid 4 steps. And it is safer in stories than in interaction to prevent of feeling humiliated or made fun of. I love to lighten the mood and lift the sometimes very serious and focused almost tension in the room to "getting it right" A laugh brings a bit of relief and maybe a touch of lightness. thank you for the inspiration to remember the importance and the possible functions of humor in this context! 😊
I think the humor make people take things less seriously, therefore making these difficult and uncomfortable feelings feel easier to look at and explore. Also signaling people wont be shamed or yelled at in this conversation, his goal becomes clear that he’s trying to make you feel better and inviting you into and helping you through the exploration vs trying to force you into and through it.
I really appreciate your taking the time to put this together! It was so helpful to me to see you pull out and highlight specific things he has doing to establish connection and demonstrate empathy. If you have the capacity, I would LOVE more of these. I know there are a lot of videos of Marshall Rosenberg on TH-cam but I’ve not been able to get through them! It just goes to demonstrate the material is there but it is absorbed differently by different people. I came into contact with this material and read his book many years ago but did not start to really activate in my life until encountering your teaching, Marianne. The way you teach in these short youtube videos and in your online courses is perfect for me. 🙏🌿💚
Marianne that's a brilliant analysis. Thank you so much for your work and sharing!
It's great that you bring up humor! I’ve noticed that people who use NVC can sometimes come across as serious and overly nice, often hesitant to say something in case it might hurt someone's feelings
Yes! I was like that early on!
What an enjoyable, insightful video! I hadn't really though about humor in this way before (mostly considered it a strategy to meet needs for lightness and/or connection)
I was riassured when you highligthened that what Rosenberg did was very skilled empathy and I realized just now that empathy exists on a continuum and it's importanti to have compassion with oneself in the process. This video was just so enjoyable...I remember in my first NVC - workshops we saw in the evening the videos of Rosenberg and we couldnt get enough, it was almost adictive. So greatful you had the idea to analize his super powers.
Would love to see more of this kind of ri-elaboration on Marshall skills. I think another super power was his own vulnerability not being afraid to show his struggles and making self-compassion a lot easier: We are all human and we are in this together. Thanks Marianne from my ❤.
Good to see you pop up on youtube. Glad you are still teaching NVC.
Great point about using humor
I really enjoyed you breaking down his skills! Not only was this informative, but also such a joy to watch! Thank you :)
Thank you for your videos 🙏🏼
thx for video and puncticing how to connect more:) ,and Marshal and you are superb!
thanks so much!!
Great video! ❤ That’s an interesting connection you made that he uses humor but he doesn’t teach it. I’m guessing it’s a difficult thing to teach, especially across different cultures. It seems like once you have connected with someone emotionally first then the humor comes naturally. It comes from loving feelings, instead of the way most people use sarcasm to belittle the other person.
yes, i like the point you are making!
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I have a question about using empathy when someone shares a loved one has passed away. Let's consider in writing a condolence card or email. Most of use use, "I'm sorry for your loss".
This common response is not about the person who lost someone but rather about the person who is sending the condolence. How do we flip this around in saying something that is about the person in pain? I can't figure this out. Remember, this is about sending an email or a card where you cannot have a two-way chat. I guess I could say, "This must be hard for you" and leave it at that. Any suggestions?
Yes, I like 'I imagine this is hard for you' or 'I imagine this is a deep loss for you'
Such a transformative body of work. Such a shame what has become of CNVC.
What has become of it?
@@wildeevolution Imagine all that you have heard can happen in a cult. Short of mass suicide pretty much everything else...allegedly.